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Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter. And if you need

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Speaker 1: read this one right here, right now. That's for you, Jack.

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Speaker 1: All right, ladies, and Jimmy's time for the Strawberry Letter. Well,

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Speaker 1: my good friends, Shirley Strawberiod, thank you, my good friend Junior.

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Speaker 1: Subject my sugar daddy set me up. Dear Stephen, Shirley,

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Speaker 1: I'm a thirty four year old woman grieving for the

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Speaker 1: loss of my seventy seven year old best friend and

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Speaker 1: sugar daddy that had been in my life since I

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Speaker 1: was nineteen. He was also my father's closest friend, so

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Speaker 1: we kept our relationship a secret for obvious reasons. When

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Speaker 1: it all started, he was married to a woman that

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Speaker 1: I looked up to. She was beautiful and classy, and

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Speaker 1: he turned me into her with all of the nice

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Speaker 1: about seven years until he got a divorce and he

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Speaker 1: If I was busy and couldn't make time for him,

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Speaker 1: he would get an attitude and threatened to cut me off.

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Speaker 1: Instead of letting me go, he bought me a three

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Speaker 1: By then, he didn't care as much about us getting

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Speaker 1: caught because he was divorced and lived alone. I was

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Speaker 1: still afraid of my father finding out, so I was

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Speaker 1: still living a stressful double life. Well, my sugar Daddy

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Speaker 1: died two months ago, and that's when all of our

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Speaker 1: secrets were revealed. I got a call from his ex

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Speaker 1: a large sum of money, the deed to my house

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Speaker 1: and his two cars. His ex wife called me a

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Speaker 1: whore and said she would be calling my father next.

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Speaker 1: Before I could take all of this in, my father

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Speaker 1: That I prostituted for. I was crushed. I've also been

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Speaker 1: a daddy's girl and he won't speak always. I'm sorry,

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Speaker 1: I've always been a daddy's girl and he won't speak

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Speaker 1: to me. Well, my father ever loved me again? What

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Speaker 1: should I do? Well, there's not really much you can

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Speaker 1: do now it's been done and your sugar daddy is dead.

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Speaker 1: So you know, to the question will your father ever

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Speaker 1: loving you. He's mad right now. He's disappointed in you

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Speaker 1: terribly right now. So trying to talk to him and

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Speaker 1: all that is just going to have to wait until later.

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Speaker 1: Some time needs to pass and he needs time. Your

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Speaker 1: he found out in a crazy way from his friend's

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Speaker 1: He doesn't know that, you know, you guys didn't sleep

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Speaker 1: that you've known him since nineteen and your father's not

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Speaker 1: gonna be good with this. He's just not you know.

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Speaker 1: I'm sure it was embarrassing to hear it from his

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Speaker 1: why his ex wife is upset. I mean, she's hating

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Speaker 1: Daddy really did set you up. He set you up

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Speaker 1: in a good way. I mean, you know, he probably

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Speaker 1: even though they're exes, and she's mad about that. He

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Speaker 1: please be smart, don't lose it all because you feel

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Speaker 1: you know it is what it is now and you

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Speaker 1: can't take that back. You need to concentrate on maybe

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Speaker 1: trying to fix this with your father. I say again,

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Speaker 1: your dad. That's all I got for your Steve. I

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Speaker 1: don't know, I don't really know what to say. It's

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Speaker 1: old age difference. Your daddy's best friend, he was married,

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Speaker 1: I mean, I don't really know what to tell you.

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Speaker 1: He wanted more time and everything. He and care about

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Speaker 1: hiding it no more. You know, he told you he

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Speaker 1: I just is it enough money? Is it enough money

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Speaker 1: got a way to fix this. You know, came here,

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Speaker 1: you know, get your daddy in a new truck out

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Speaker 1: over to something. You know. You know, you know you're

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Speaker 1: I don't I don't know what to tell you know?

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Speaker 1: Is it? You know? Now the whole thing is the

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Speaker 1: reason your daddy so upset. It's caused the call he

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Speaker 1: Then got Clepans's car, Cleveland's, got Clefans's car, got got

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Speaker 1: of the money. You know, it's a it's a wonder

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Speaker 1: why me and Clefan's didn't make it. Yi, all this

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Speaker 1: don't know. I don't know how I'm gonna help you.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna come back and we'll see, But I'm really

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Speaker 1: buy his affection back off. All right, hang on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: we know what. We'll have part two of your response

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Speaker 1: back right after this. You're listening, all right, Come on, Steve,

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Speaker 1: let's let's get back into the Strawberry Letter. We gotta

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Speaker 1: recap it. My sugar Daddy set Me Up is the subject. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: this girl was sleeping with her father's best friend, been

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Speaker 1: in his life since she was nineteen. He recently died.

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Speaker 1: He seventy seven years old. She'd been in this man's life.

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Speaker 1: He's forty three years older than her. And she started

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Speaker 1: for a couple of reason because you probably killed his

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Speaker 1: you just get you dealing with the fact that he left.

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Speaker 1: And when the wheel got rid, the ex wife was

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Speaker 1: go tell your daddy, I would have gotten mold. But

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Speaker 1: and he didn't. So now you're daddy mad at you

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Speaker 1: Maybe you're gonna have to buy buy your way out

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Speaker 1: there situation. My question was simply before we left, is

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Speaker 1: try to think of stuff that old men need. Do

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Speaker 1: he need some teeth? Could that be it? You know

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Speaker 1: you know, the look like he needs some ever clear

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Speaker 1: all old men need a new transmission. Let's look into that.

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Speaker 1: You know, can you can't get his transmission down that amico?

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Speaker 1: You know, get it down there and see what kind

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Speaker 1: it's here's here's a big one for old men, is

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Speaker 1: You got to do something to get your daddy back

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Speaker 1: need a refrigerator in his room? You got to find sucking, Yeah, dode,

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Speaker 1: Jay is down you know, Canadian winds, all that stuff

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Speaker 1: down on the bottom row. You know, you know, you

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Speaker 1: really thought about this. Sweaters. You know, maybe you can't

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Speaker 1: one of them coogies. Yeah, he probably always wanted them.

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Speaker 1: You know, Hey, do he need a new Hey? Hey,

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Speaker 1: get him an Ivory checkerboard. Now there ain't nobody got

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Speaker 1: check the freezer. Fill it up with meat. You know,

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Speaker 1: that's a girl and good by, buddy, gonna can't feeling

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Speaker 1: that a really girl, you can put central land there WHOA,

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Speaker 1: you're winning. You can get your daddy back Central Central Air.

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