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Speaker 1: Every text, every moment of silence, every look feels like
Speaker 1: a test of your worth and their love your messaging. Hey, wait, wait, wait,
Speaker 1: what did you mean by that? Hey? Are we on
Speaker 1: the same page? Do you really want to see me?
Speaker 1: I'm not sure If you don't want to see me,
Speaker 1: it's okay, right that desperation is not a state through
Speaker 1: which we manifest and attract love. The number one health
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Speaker 1: I can't wait to see you now. Today's episode is
Speaker 1: all about how twenty twenty five becomes the year we
Speaker 1: manifest love. Whether you're in a relationship, whether you're single,
Speaker 1: whether you're dating, this episode is for you. If you're
Speaker 1: someone who for so long feels like they've tried everything
Speaker 1: and anything to find love, This episode is for you.
Speaker 1: If you're someone who's in a long term relationship but
Speaker 1: you want to infuse it with more love, this episode
Speaker 1: is for you. And if you're someone who's dating right now,
Speaker 1: exhausted with the apps, got so much going on, this
Speaker 1: episode is for you. The first question I want to
Speaker 1: share with you is who would you be today if
Speaker 1: you knew you were going to meet the person you
Speaker 1: will love for the rest of your life. Who would
Speaker 1: you be if you knew you were going to meet
Speaker 1: the person you would love for the rest of your
Speaker 1: life today. Let's say you were going to meet them
Speaker 1: in three hours, in five hours, in six hours. What
Speaker 1: would you do differently? What would be the focus of
Speaker 1: your life? How would it change the way you feel?
Speaker 1: Not just what you would do. How would it change
Speaker 1: the way you feel, the way you feel about love,
Speaker 1: the way you feel about happiness, the way you feel
Speaker 1: about life? Would you have an extra skip in your step?
Speaker 1: Would you be that much more alert? Would you be
Speaker 1: that much more positive? Would you be that much more kind?
Speaker 1: What would it feel like if you knew the person
Speaker 1: of your dreams, the person you would spend the rest
Speaker 1: of your life with, was three hours away from you.
Speaker 1: How would you feel and how would that change the
Speaker 1: way you Behave just feel that in your body for
Speaker 1: a moment. Maybe it makes you smile, Maybe it makes
Speaker 1: you slightly nervous, Maybe you can feel the butterflies. Maybe
Speaker 1: you shed a tear because it's been such a painful journey.
Speaker 1: Think about that for a second. How would it feel
Speaker 1: embody that how would it feel. I want you to
Speaker 1: remember this feeling because I want you to bring yourself
Speaker 1: back to this whenever you feel you're drifting away. It's
Speaker 1: this energy that attracts and manifests the partner that you want,
Speaker 1: because it's this excitement, this enthusiasm that is the magnet
Speaker 1: to attract that. Right when we talk about manifesting, what
Speaker 1: we're trying to do is become a magnet so we
Speaker 1: can attract things in our direction. The energy, the vibrancy,
Speaker 1: the frequency of attraction. Is this the genuine belief, the
Speaker 1: natural feeling, the organic manifestation that it's just around the corner.
Speaker 1: And guess what, whether you do meet the love of
Speaker 1: your life in three hours or not, it's just a
Speaker 1: beautiful place to live. It's a happier mind, it's a
Speaker 1: healthier body, it's a more healed heart. Isn't that where
Speaker 1: we all want to live? Isn't that what would truly
Speaker 1: be a magnet for the right person. This is the
Speaker 1: year you manifest love. If you follow the simple guidelines
Speaker 1: that I'm about to share today, it will change your life. Now.
Speaker 1: I want to start off with what we usually do.
Speaker 1: We don't live in the state that I just talked about.
Speaker 1: We live in one of two states as humans because
Speaker 1: we love extremes. We either live in a state of
Speaker 1: desperation on one end, or we live in a state
Speaker 1: of detachment. So desperation is, oh my gosh, I need
Speaker 1: to find love. I need to go on a date.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm never going to find someone. Oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, everyone's getting married. Oh my god, I'm so behind.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, am I ever going to find someone?
Speaker 1: That's desperation? And you don't have to tell me. We've
Speaker 1: all experienced that. We've all been there, we know what
Speaker 1: it feels like. But then sometimes we do the opposite,
Speaker 1: the detachment. I'm too busy, I'm focused on my career.
Speaker 1: I don't need love. It's not that important. It will
Speaker 1: work itself out. I'm not paying it any attention. And
Speaker 1: whether we mean that, whether we truly believe that, we've
Speaker 1: all been on that side too, And guess what, here
Speaker 1: we still are, whether you're in a relationship or not,
Speaker 1: here we still are without love. If you're in a relationship,
Speaker 1: desperation looks like I wish my partner would give me
Speaker 1: more attention. Why don't they care about my birthday. Oh
Speaker 1: my god, we didn't do anything for Valentine's Day, We
Speaker 1: didn't do anything for Christmas. You know, they just don't
Speaker 1: care about me, right, we know what that feels like.
Speaker 1: And then if you're in a relationship, detachment feels like,
Speaker 1: oh no, we're independent. Now. You know he's got his
Speaker 1: thing going on, I've got my thing going on. We
Speaker 1: do not really need each other. Those are both not
Speaker 1: states of love. They're both not peak human states. But
Speaker 1: you can live in peak human state, and I want
Speaker 1: you to. So let's talk about that. Desperation doesn't work
Speaker 1: because it leads to a lot of challenges. The first
Speaker 1: is desperation can make you ignore red flags. Right when
Speaker 1: you're desperate, you convince yourself that bad behavior is just
Speaker 1: a phase, or that they can fix it. Sometimes you
Speaker 1: don't even notice the bad behavior. You just go, oh, no,
Speaker 1: but they're so wonderful, oh wow, Like, no, but they
Speaker 1: did this thing. You find all the excuses that justify
Speaker 1: how you feel, also known as confirmation bias. You notice
Speaker 1: the things that confirm the feeling you want to have.
Speaker 1: How many times have you done that with someone? You
Speaker 1: confirm the feelings, and you notice the things that confirm
Speaker 1: the feelings that you want to have. It's amazing how
Speaker 1: that works, isn't it. And then when that relationship breaks down,
Speaker 1: all of a sudden, you notice all these other things
Speaker 1: and you go, I knew that was there. I don't
Speaker 1: know how I missed it. I saw it, I don't
Speaker 1: know how I missed it. It almost seems like it's
Speaker 1: hiding in plain sight. So desperation means sometimes we ignore
Speaker 1: red flags. Desperation sometimes means we overgive. We pour all
Speaker 1: our energy into someone, hoping our efforts will be enough
Speaker 1: to make them stay. We overgive, and then when they undergive,
Speaker 1: we make them feel bad that we overgave, when actually
Speaker 1: it was our choice. It was our desperation, it was
Speaker 1: our insecure attachment that was doing it, And that way
Speaker 1: it doesn't work out. Sometimes when we're desperate, I'm sure
Speaker 1: you have friends who've done this. We settle for less,
Speaker 1: We lower our standards to avoid being alone. How many
Speaker 1: friends or family members do you have right now who
Speaker 1: you know have not manifested love because they were desperate,
Speaker 1: because they really believe that being alone was so terrible
Speaker 1: that they ended up settling for less. And I've seen
Speaker 1: people really settle for less, sadly, so much less than
Speaker 1: they deserve because they're desperate. Desperation is not a state
Speaker 1: through which you can attract and manifest the love of
Speaker 1: your life. It isn't a state for that. Another thing
Speaker 1: desperation leads to is overthinking everything. Every text, every moment
Speaker 1: of silence, every look feels like a test of your
Speaker 1: worth and their love. Your messaging go hey, wait, wait, wait,
Speaker 1: what did you mean by that? Hey? Are we on
Speaker 1: the same page? Do you really want to see me?
Speaker 1: I'm not sure If you don't want to see me,
Speaker 1: it's okay, right That desperation means we're overthinking everything. That
Speaker 1: overthinking energy is not a state through which we manifest
Speaker 1: and attract love. We manifest and attract more overthinking, more anxiety,
Speaker 1: more stress, more drama. And we've all been there as well.
Speaker 1: When we're desperate, we often lose ourselves. We change our hobbies,
Speaker 1: change our opinions, We change our personality to match whatever
Speaker 1: that person wants. And we've seen where that leads. That
Speaker 1: person eventually decides to choose their own way, and we
Speaker 1: feel hard done by because we changed who we were
Speaker 1: to keep them in our life. Don't change who you
Speaker 1: are to keep someone in your life. Don't become who
Speaker 1: they are to hope they will stay. Be who you are,
Speaker 1: and see who stays to grow with you. It's so
Speaker 1: fascinating to me how so many of us trade and
Speaker 1: lose our identity in the desperate desire to have love
Speaker 1: in our lives, only to realize that that energetic state
Speaker 1: doesn't create love. It creates loss, loss of ourselves, and
Speaker 1: loss of that person because that person won't stick around
Speaker 1: because they'll also get a sense that you're not yourself.
Speaker 1: Or when you get a sense that you're not yourself
Speaker 1: anymore and you finally share who you are with them,
Speaker 1: they'll be hewt broken about that. A lot of us,
Speaker 1: when we're desperate, we rush things, We skip steps. We
Speaker 1: imagine a future before there's a solid foundation. Think about
Speaker 1: that for a second. How many times have you ever
Speaker 1: imagined future before there was a solid foundation. A lot
Speaker 1: of us, when we're desperate, we seek validation constantly. We
Speaker 1: crave assurance. We read too much into small gestures. We're
Speaker 1: desperately searching for proof that we're loved right. We want
Speaker 1: to see that, We want to feel that at every
Speaker 1: moment we need it. That desperate act doesn't create love.
Speaker 1: It creates neediness, it creates dependency, it creates stress for
Speaker 1: the other person. And if we're desperate, we avoid boundaries.
Speaker 1: We're too scared to say no, to stand up for ourselves.
Speaker 1: We're scared we're going to push someone away, so we
Speaker 1: pull them closer by pushing ourselves away. Right, think about
Speaker 1: that for a second. You're so scared you're going to
Speaker 1: push someone away that you pull them closer. But the
Speaker 1: way you do that is you push yourself away from yourself.
Speaker 1: You get so far away from yourself, so you can
Speaker 1: be so close to someone else, only to push them
Speaker 1: further away because they never really got to know you.
Speaker 1: And finally, when we're desperate, we stay in toxic situations. Sadly,
Speaker 1: I know too many friends, too many people who will
Speaker 1: accept physical, verbal, emotional abuse, staying in a toxic situation
Speaker 1: without love because we're too scared of being alone. So
Speaker 1: that's what desperation does. And as you can see, what
Speaker 1: I'm trying to paint is a picture of the state
Speaker 1: that is created as opposed to the state that we
Speaker 1: live in when love is just around the corner. Notice
Speaker 1: how like light and hopefully happy and filled or fulfilled
Speaker 1: you felt when I started talking at the beginning of
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Speaker 1: use the code on purpose now. Detachment often looks like
Speaker 1: you're too cool for school. Detachment means we push people away,
Speaker 1: We act overly independent, We reject genuine connection out of
Speaker 1: fear of vulnerability. Maybe you've been hurt before and now
Speaker 1: you're acting too cool for school, but you're pushing other
Speaker 1: people away. When we're acting detached or we are detached,
Speaker 1: we sometimes miss opportunities. We brush off someone who truly cares.
Speaker 1: We convince ourselves that it's not a big deal. And
Speaker 1: I've seen that happen too often. People just say, oh, yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, I'm I'm doing my own thing right now,
Speaker 1: and you miss out on a really beautiful possible connection.
Speaker 1: The third is you overcompensate. You act like you're too busy,
Speaker 1: you're too focused on other things than love. And while
Speaker 1: that's not a bad thing, I think it's amazing when
Speaker 1: people get focused on their careers, when they go deep,
Speaker 1: I think it's beautiful. But if in the back of
Speaker 1: your mind, you're like, I just really want to be
Speaker 1: in a relationship, I wish I could find that person.
Speaker 1: You're kind of detached and desperate at the same time,
Speaker 1: which is the worst situation to be in. The reason
Speaker 1: I'm painting these states is because I want us to
Speaker 1: realize the difference. When we get into the optimal state,
Speaker 1: then I'm going to share with you in a moment.
Speaker 1: I want to share with you that optimal state of
Speaker 1: attraction and manifestation, and I want you to realize that
Speaker 1: the states of desperation and detachment don't create that dynamic
Speaker 1: energy that we need in order to be a magnet.
Speaker 1: The fourth thing we do is we build walls, not boundaries.
Speaker 1: Instead of healthy limits, we shut up entirely. We think
Speaker 1: it's safer that way. It's almost like, instead of getting
Speaker 1: blinds for the sun pouring into your house, which is
Speaker 1: a healthy way to manage it, you end up putting
Speaker 1: up walls around your house. That's what we all do.
Speaker 1: We put up walls, not boundaries, right, and we think
Speaker 1: it's safer that way, but it's not safer. We need
Speaker 1: that light, We need that connection. We need to expose
Speaker 1: ourselves to a tiny bit of pain, a tiny bit
Speaker 1: of stress, a tiny bit of discomfort and struggle. Another
Speaker 1: thing we do when we're detached is we seek distractions.
Speaker 1: We pretend we don't need anyone we party to fill
Speaker 1: the void. We take up loads of new hobbies. By
Speaker 1: the way, these are all great things, but not if
Speaker 1: they're coming from a place of trying to avoid that
Speaker 1: which we're looking for. We project this sort of indifference.
Speaker 1: We claim we don't care, but our actions often reveal
Speaker 1: that we're scared to admit we do. Right, You pretend
Speaker 1: you don't care, but really you're scared to admit that
Speaker 1: you actually do. And that means we end up sabotaging
Speaker 1: potential relationships. Right, We find reasons to end things early.
Speaker 1: We convince people that it wasn't meant to be. We
Speaker 1: convince ourselves that it wasn't meant to be. So when
Speaker 1: you're desperate, you're pulling something close when it doesn't make sense,
Speaker 1: and when you're in detachment, you're pushing something away when
Speaker 1: it doesn't make sense. Listen to that again. When you're desperate,
Speaker 1: you're trying to pull things closer than they're meant to be,
Speaker 1: and when you're detached, you're trying to push things further
Speaker 1: away than they're meant to be. You're not allowing what
Speaker 1: is meant to be to be in your life, and
Speaker 1: what does that do? It means we often feel lonely
Speaker 1: in private, behind closed doors, behind the bravado. When it fades,
Speaker 1: loneliness starts to creep in, and we're there on our
Speaker 1: own on a Friday night, saying we're okay, saying we're strong,
Speaker 1: saying we're not in need, but we are feeling desperate.
Speaker 1: And a lot of us oscillate between this desperation and detachment.
Speaker 1: We think, Oh, everyone says you find someone when you're
Speaker 1: not looking for them. Right, let me pretend to be detached.
Speaker 1: Oh wait, that didn't work. Or I need to be
Speaker 1: desperate again, or I really need to tell all my
Speaker 1: friends I'm desperate again, I'm really seeking. Oh wait, that
Speaker 1: didn't work. All right, let me just be detached again.
Speaker 1: Maybe that will work. I am sure you've met people.
Speaker 1: I'm sure your friends and family are just constantly oscillating
Speaker 1: between these two states, and finally we convince ourselves that
Speaker 1: love is a weakness. We're scared of connection, we're scared
Speaker 1: of being hurt. And what I find is that as
Speaker 1: humans were good at oscillating between light and dark, we're
Speaker 1: not good at viewing them at the same time. And
Speaker 1: it's rare. If you think about a solar accla, a
Speaker 1: solar eclipse is when you see the layer of the
Speaker 1: moon and the sun. It's a very rare sight. But
Speaker 1: that's what we need to do, right. We know what
Speaker 1: to do in the darkness, we know what to do
Speaker 1: in the light. We rarely see both together, and so
Speaker 1: that's what we need to do. We need to find
Speaker 1: out that middle path of detachment and desperation. That's that state,
Speaker 1: that dynamic state that we want to be in. There's detachment,
Speaker 1: but there's also desperation, but it's not desperation. In the
Speaker 1: dynamic state, it's now desire and instead of detachment, it's deserving. Right,
Speaker 1: it's desire and deserving instead of desperation and detachment. Desperation
Speaker 1: and detachment will push the right people away and pull
Speaker 1: the wrong people close. Desire and deserving will push the
Speaker 1: wrong people away and pull the right people close. When
Speaker 1: we know what we desire and we believe we deserve it,
Speaker 1: that is that peak human state, as opposed to oscillating
Speaker 1: and operating in the extremes of desperation and detachment. So
Speaker 1: how do we do that? The first thing is looking
Speaker 1: at these blends, these juxtapositions of seemingly opposite ideas. Love
Speaker 1: has to be a big priority, but we have to
Speaker 1: take small steps. This is how we learn to manifest
Speaker 1: that optimal state. We have to accept love is a
Speaker 1: big priority. In twenty twenty five, love is really important
Speaker 1: to me. Love is my number one focus in what
Speaker 1: I want. I'm clear about my desire. I'm clear about
Speaker 1: that desire, and I'm willing to juxtapose it with small steps.
Speaker 1: I'm willing to accept that love is my number one
Speaker 1: priority and I know I need to take small steps
Speaker 1: toward it. The challenge is what we do. Is we go, oh,
Speaker 1: I don't admit loves my number one desire. That's so uncomfortable,
Speaker 1: that's so cringe, that's so awkward, that makes me so lame.
Speaker 1: I'm not going to do that. What have we done?
Speaker 1: We've just we've completely suppressed our desire. So now we're
Speaker 1: faking detachment because we're scared of looking silly. So it's
Speaker 1: not a big priority. We're pretending it's a small priority,
Speaker 1: and we're trying to take big steps. So I'm just
Speaker 1: going to focus on my career. Or we're desperate, so
Speaker 1: we're saying, oh my god, it's not just a desire,
Speaker 1: it's desperation. And so we're saying, Okay, it is a
Speaker 1: big priority, but then we're trying to take these massive,
Speaker 1: big leaps towards it. It's the opposite ideas we need
Speaker 1: a big priority accepting love. I desire love. I desire
Speaker 1: real love. I deserve real love. Repeat that, I desire
Speaker 1: real love and I deserve real love. But I'm going
Speaker 1: to take I'm ready to take the small steps towards it,
Speaker 1: the weekly date routine. I'm willing to take the small
Speaker 1: steps by asking my friends and committing and connecting with people.
Speaker 1: I'm willing to take the small steps of not rushing
Speaker 1: it and seeing where things go with someone. I'm willing
Speaker 1: to take the small steps that even if it didn't
Speaker 1: work out on the first date, I'm okay with taking
Speaker 1: a second. I'm okay with trying it out, even when
Speaker 1: things feel like it's not quite working out. I'm open
Speaker 1: to the small steps. I'm not waiting for that first big,
Speaker 1: miraculous moment of chemistry that makes me feel like this
Speaker 1: person is perfect and everything's perfect. But really I'm just
Speaker 1: lying to myself. Small steps, big priority. The next way
Speaker 1: to become a magnet is to be patient for love
Speaker 1: but impatient for dating. Usually what we are is that
Speaker 1: we're impatient for it all, or we're saying we're patient,
Speaker 1: but we're feeling impatient. How can we be patient for
Speaker 1: the big things and impatient about the small things, patient
Speaker 1: for love to develop, but impatient to connect, build connections,
Speaker 1: meet people, be out there, connect. Often we do the opposite.
Speaker 1: We go, oh yeah, I'll see when a date comes up.
Speaker 1: So we're patient for the dates, but we're impatient about love.
Speaker 1: I really want to be in love. I really want
Speaker 1: to be in love, but I don't want to go
Speaker 1: out on any dates. I don't want to put in
Speaker 1: the work. Impatient about dates, patient about love. Say it
Speaker 1: out loud, I'm patient for real love. I am patient
Speaker 1: for real love. I'm impatient to try and meet more people.
Speaker 1: That's the balance, that's that dynamic state that blends desire
Speaker 1: and deserving instead of desperation and detachment. The next step
Speaker 1: is aligne what you think, say, and do. Too many
Speaker 1: people are thinking I'm desperate for love. They're saying I
Speaker 1: don't need it, and doing they're not going out on
Speaker 1: any dates. Too many people are saying in their head,
Speaker 1: I am detached from love. They're saying they really really
Speaker 1: want it, and then they're doing nothing. Again. Align accept
Speaker 1: in your mind this year, love is a big priority.
Speaker 1: Say it when you speak to people. Love is my
Speaker 1: number one priority, and then let it lead to your actions.
Speaker 1: A beautiful old saying says that we experience misalignment or
Speaker 1: we can't be in harmony of what we think, say,
Speaker 1: and do are not aligned. Too many of us are
Speaker 1: saying something to our friends, thinking something on our own,
Speaker 1: and doing something completely different. Align Align Align. I am
Speaker 1: aligned in manifesting love. I'm aligned in attracting love. Whatever
Speaker 1: you think, be clear about it. Repeat that when you're
Speaker 1: with people, no matter how hard or cringe it is.
Speaker 1: If you can't express your desire in your mind and
Speaker 1: out loud to your close friends and take action aligned
Speaker 1: with it, you can't manifest. Manifestation is all about aligning.
Speaker 1: We're aligning with ourselves, we're aligning with the universe. Most
Speaker 1: of us are misaligned because we're saying something completely different
Speaker 1: to what we're doing and thinking. The next step is
Speaker 1: living as if you already have love, Creating love in
Speaker 1: all relationships, infusing love into your work relationships, infusing love
Speaker 1: with your friends and family, Feeling and experiencing love, noticing love,
Speaker 1: notice love, acknowledge love, feel it, see it around you
Speaker 1: wherever you are, when someone compliments you, when someone says something,
Speaker 1: rather than in the back of your head thinking I
Speaker 1: wish I had a partner who said that, I wish
Speaker 1: I had someone who felt that I wish I knew
Speaker 1: someone who felt that way about me. There are people
Speaker 1: who feel that way about you, and yes it's not romantic,
Speaker 1: but that doesn't mean it's not helpful. It's helpful in
Speaker 1: helping you create a state of love and becoming a magnet.
Speaker 1: Remember you're trying to become a magnet where you attract
Speaker 1: love into your life, which means you have to notice it.
Speaker 1: That's the skill of a magnet and notices that this
Speaker 1: is an energy, a feel that I want to bring
Speaker 1: into my life and in order to do that. We
Speaker 1: have to focus on what is important about you, what's
Speaker 1: valuable about you? Can you notice those things? Can you
Speaker 1: highlight those things? Can you value those things in yourself?
Speaker 1: People find it so hard to write down three things
Speaker 1: they value about themselves. But I promise you, if you
Speaker 1: can't do that, you can't manifest love into your life,
Speaker 1: because you'll always feel unworthy of love. Even when someone
Speaker 1: will stand in front of you, stare you in the
Speaker 1: eyes and say I love you, you won't belie leave
Speaker 1: it because you don't feel you're lovable. You haven't accepted
Speaker 1: that there's parts of you that are completely lovable. And finally,
Speaker 1: I'd suggest, what if you not healed from a previous
Speaker 1: relationship that will affect the future. That's the energy to clear.
Speaker 1: That's what you want to work on. You don't want
Speaker 1: to carry that into the next stage. I hope, I
Speaker 1: wish that twenty twenty five becomes your year of manifesting love.
Speaker 1: I know it can. And all you have to do
Speaker 1: is follow these steps. Listen to this episode every week,
Speaker 1: save it, and it will be an incredible year. This
Speaker 1: will be the year you will become a magnet and
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Speaker 1: these simple steps. Thank you so much for listening. Remember
Speaker 1: I'm forever in your corner and I'm always rooting for you.
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Speaker 1: ex and find true love in your relationships. People should
Speaker 1: be compassionate to themselves that extend that compassion to your
Speaker 1: future self, because truly extending your compassion to your future
Speaker 1: self is doing something that gives him or her a
Speaker 1: shot at a happy and a peaceful life.