Speaker 1: Looking cubile in the morning. Second date update. The guy
Speaker 1: on the phone for a second date update today seems
Speaker 1: to know why his date went wrong. He says it's
Speaker 1: because he sort of kind of cat fished her. It's
Speaker 1: not really, but he kind of cat fished her. I'll
Speaker 1: let him explain. Daniel's up, how are you? Yeah? You
Speaker 1: doing not too bad? So you sort of cat fished
Speaker 1: your date. I guess you could say that I'm never
Speaker 1: on the dating app and we end up going out
Speaker 1: to lunch. I guess the background real quick, is just
Speaker 1: that I am about sixty pounds heavier than like my
Speaker 1: photo on there. Okay, so you've gained some weight since
Speaker 1: posting your photo or you chose a skinny photo of
Speaker 1: a post. Well, I actually gained a bunch of weight
Speaker 1: because I had to move back home with my mom.
Speaker 1: I mean, let's play alongs her. But she's just like
Speaker 1: heavy butter cooker, like just right, I feel right. Yeah,
Speaker 1: but you didn't update your picture with the weight gain. Well,
Speaker 1: the thing is, I didn't want to post a picture
Speaker 1: of me like heavy, just that would not be getting
Speaker 1: me very many swipes. So I you know, I just
Speaker 1: figured that I would be getting rid of that weight,
Speaker 1: which is what I told her when I met her.
Speaker 1: And it's true, like I've been on a diet like
Speaker 1: no carbs, just like you know, trying to get rid
Speaker 1: of this weight, and you know that I'm not gonna
Speaker 1: look like this in a two months. I get that.
Speaker 1: It's like the same reason I keep my skinny jeans
Speaker 1: even though I can't fit into him eventually, don't still
Speaker 1: work exactly. All right. What's her name, by the way,
Speaker 1: her name's Kristen. Kristen. Okay, and you said that you
Speaker 1: explained that to her, so obviously you felt self conscious
Speaker 1: when you shot up. You're like, I know I'm gonna
Speaker 1: look different than my picture. Yes, so I was pretty
Speaker 1: upfront about that, and that seemed to be okay. What
Speaker 1: was her reaction? It was chill, like she wasn't like mad,
Speaker 1: and she didn't seem genuinely upset. Maybe a little prize,
Speaker 1: but you know, it seemed okay. She didn't like body
Speaker 1: shame you and walk out her. No, she's a really
Speaker 1: nice person and I don't think particularly like shallow, so
Speaker 1: I think that was really cool. Okay, So tell us
Speaker 1: about the date then, how was it? Well, since I
Speaker 1: just told her about how moms diet. I felt like
Speaker 1: I had to order a salad, you know. So what
Speaker 1: ended up happening was that she had ordered like this
Speaker 1: chicken parm sandwich, and when the food came, she went
Speaker 1: to the bathroom and I just, I don't know, I
Speaker 1: hadn't had like a card in like three days or something.
Speaker 1: The chicken parm just looks so good, So I was
Speaker 1: just thinking I could just take like a nibble or something.
Speaker 1: You ate her sandwich. I just took a bite and
Speaker 1: then that was just the best thing I'd ever tasted
Speaker 1: in my life. So I like, I had like another
Speaker 1: bite or three. Anyway, you couldn't started what I know.
Speaker 1: When she came back to the table and half her
Speaker 1: food was gone, well I realized before she got back.
Speaker 1: So I flagged down the waiter and they had a
Speaker 1: soup and half a sandwich special for lunch. I was like,
Speaker 1: can you bring super real quick? So, thinking maybe that
Speaker 1: she would think that they brought that special and it
Speaker 1: was just half a sandwich, would I say that's an
Speaker 1: actually genius cover on. Yeah, it was a pretty good idea.
Speaker 1: So he brought the soup and she came back and
Speaker 1: she didn't seem to notice anything. I didn't think that
Speaker 1: was the conversation good and everything else. Honestly, after like
Speaker 1: I had that half a sandwich, I felt like better
Speaker 1: than I felt in day. Oh my god, the conversation
Speaker 1: was great and we had a great time. And I
Speaker 1: mean the only thing like later there might have been
Speaker 1: a time when I would have normally tried to kiss her,
Speaker 1: but I didn't want to. I didn't want her to
Speaker 1: smell the chicken parm sandwich. O. God, that sandwich. You'd
Speaker 1: be busted. Yeah, I will say, if you're meeting for lunch,
Speaker 1: it would be a weird thing to do. I'll kiss
Speaker 1: I think at the end of a lunch date. I
Speaker 1: just didn't want to risk it. You know, you just
Speaker 1: feel guilty the whole time, Like, how's the sandwich? You've
Speaker 1: never had that before? God? Yeah, did she seem into
Speaker 1: you at the end of everything, it just seemed like
Speaker 1: a nice time. I mean, that's why I'm trying to see,
Speaker 1: like what might have happened, Like, yeah, I thought she
Speaker 1: would definitely be responding to me, like I said, like
Speaker 1: a nice person, but she's just totally ghosted me. And
Speaker 1: I'm I'm trying to figure out which maybe what part
Speaker 1: of it? Maybe she figured out that you ate her sandwich.
Speaker 1: I'd be pissed. Do you know how pissed i'd be. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I can imagine. I just hope that that's not it. Okay,
Speaker 1: Well we'll play a song and then come back and
Speaker 1: call and get your second date update. All right, oct Okay,
Speaker 1: looking jubil in the morning. Second date update if you're
Speaker 1: just tuning in today's second date update. Daniel is on
Speaker 1: the phone and he thinks he might not be getting
Speaker 1: a call back from a girl named Kristen because he
Speaker 1: met her and he was actually sixty pounds heavier than
Speaker 1: his profile picture because apparently he lived with his mom
Speaker 1: for a little while and gained a bunch of weight
Speaker 1: because his mom likes to cook with butter. That was
Speaker 1: his excuse. So but also he ate half her sandwich
Speaker 1: too on the date. So we're about to find out
Speaker 1: if either one of those is the issue. All right, Daniel,
Speaker 1: you're ready to give her a call? Yeah, I'm just
Speaker 1: gonna say, if it's really because you ate half of
Speaker 1: her sandwich, she's got to see the humor in it.
Speaker 1: I don't think that there's a woman alive that hasn't
Speaker 1: been super hungry. At some point, it felt like she
Speaker 1: couldn't eat what she wanted to. She should understand, I
Speaker 1: really hope. So I still feel like, wow, I shouldn't
Speaker 1: have done that. All right, Well, I'm gonna dollar phone
Speaker 1: of her right now. Here we go. Okay, Okay, Hello, Hey,
Speaker 1: may I speak to Kristin? Yes? Is this Kristen? Kristen,
Speaker 1: how are you? This is Jewel from the radio show
Speaker 1: Brook and Jewel in the Morning. Um, for real, Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm on the radio right now and say that. I
Speaker 1: just said, this is Jewil calling from Brook and Jewl
Speaker 1: in the Morning. What's going on? Not much? What's going
Speaker 1: on with you? The usual? I don't know you, so
Speaker 1: I have no idea what the usual is. I'm actually,
Speaker 1: you know, just taking a break from work and stuff
Speaker 1: and I got this call im a number. Okay, I
Speaker 1: guess I'll answer it. So nervous, you're like, giggle, nervous,
Speaker 1: I am. I'm calling you today because we do a
Speaker 1: segment on our show it's called a second date update.
Speaker 1: That's where if you go out on a date with
Speaker 1: somebody and then don't call them back after, they can
Speaker 1: email us to get you on the phone and find
Speaker 1: out what happened. And we got an email about you
Speaker 1: from a dude named Daniel. From Daniel, yep, okay, you
Speaker 1: remember going out with Daniel. Yeah, I went on a
Speaker 1: date with Daniel, right, and Daniel emailed us and told
Speaker 1: us about your date. He also said that you ghosted
Speaker 1: him after and you guys aren't even talking anymore, and
Speaker 1: he wants us to know if he did something wrong.
Speaker 1: He really liked you. He said that you guys had
Speaker 1: really good chemistry and lots of great conversation. What exactly
Speaker 1: do you guys know about the situation. Well, you know
Speaker 1: that you guys met online and that you met up
Speaker 1: for lunch. He said everything seemed to be great between
Speaker 1: you two. He did say that he's a little heavier
Speaker 1: in person than his profile picture, and he thought maybe
Speaker 1: that was the reason. Yes, that is part of it.
Speaker 1: For sure, there were a lot of red flags. I'll
Speaker 1: tell you that he said that you were super kind
Speaker 1: about it, and that he explained that he had moved
Speaker 1: back into his mom's house for a while. He gave
Speaker 1: way and you were way understanding. I mean, look, I'm
Speaker 1: not judgmental, you know, and it just didn't seem like
Speaker 1: if that's his issue, he's not mine, you know, so
Speaker 1: I'll just kind of listen. Okay, But you said red flags?
Speaker 1: So what red flags? Yeah, there were a lot of
Speaker 1: red flags. He started out with it he's living with
Speaker 1: his arrant with no explanation, and he ordered a salad
Speaker 1: and I ordered what was it, like a sandwich, but
Speaker 1: you know, not worrying about my weight or anything. But
Speaker 1: he kept insisting that I would eat a salad. So
Speaker 1: he just like ketling trying to falad job my salad.
Speaker 1: When I finally said no, he just said okay, fine
Speaker 1: and slammed his fork down on the table. Who I
Speaker 1: was like, whoa, whoa okay, red flag? Yeah. Then after that,
Speaker 1: the work pard does. He kept for rating me about
Speaker 1: my food that I ordered, how well I ordered? And
Speaker 1: I think it was an eggplant parmesan believe, and it's
Speaker 1: just not as healthy as his salad, I guess. So
Speaker 1: he just kept going, that's unhealthy. Do you know how
Speaker 1: many carbs are in that? Do you how much calories
Speaker 1: are in that? I'm like, just let me enjoy my
Speaker 1: half a sandwich. You know what? The heck the guy
Speaker 1: whom shows up sixty pounds heavier than his picture is
Speaker 1: food shaping you over what you should and should not
Speaker 1: be eating. I don't know. Maybe he was trying to
Speaker 1: make himself feel better because he wasn't allowed to have it,
Speaker 1: but it didn't come off well to me. Yeah, I
Speaker 1: didn't even get dessert because I already knew what was
Speaker 1: going on, and I said no, and he pressured me
Speaker 1: to get the cheesecake. What he pressured you to get
Speaker 1: cheesecake after all that, I don't know if he was
Speaker 1: upset because he started to cry and walk away. No, wait,
Speaker 1: cry because you wait, cry because you wouldn't order the cheesecake,
Speaker 1: or because it was coming and he didn't eat any
Speaker 1: because I wouldn't order the cheesecake. At this point, I
Speaker 1: was like, oh, he's just gonna shame. I would to
Speaker 1: try to eat my cheesecake. I want to enjoy it,
Speaker 1: you know. But when he started to cry and walk away,
Speaker 1: I was like very confused, like is he coming back?
Speaker 1: Is he's skipping out on the bill? But he came
Speaker 1: back and he paid the bill, and you know, we
Speaker 1: said goodbye. And I didn't think i'd hear from him,
Speaker 1: because I'd be embarrassed if I did that, you know.
Speaker 1: But since then I received a bunch of texts, and
Speaker 1: one of them would just put me over the edge.
Speaker 1: It was asking for money for the bill because he
Speaker 1: said he only ordered salad, And I'm like, what's with
Speaker 1: this guy? I mean, no matter what, if you're going
Speaker 1: a day was one and you pay, it's pretty bad
Speaker 1: form to venmom after and be like, hey, you owe
Speaker 1: me for that? Yeah, I mean Red Flag City And look,
Speaker 1: I have only so many heartbeats in my life, and
Speaker 1: why waste them on someone that would It wouldn't benefit
Speaker 1: either of us, Like I'm not interesting. Yeah, I can
Speaker 1: see why you actually ghosted him. Like I wouldn't give
Speaker 1: him any explanation either. I wouldn't give him any more
Speaker 1: of my time, makes sense, Christen, But can you give
Speaker 1: him a few more minutes because he's actually on the
Speaker 1: other line listening. I wants to talk to you. What Sorry, yeah,
Speaker 1: if unless you hung up? Daniel, are you still there?
Speaker 1: I'm still here, Daniel? Oh, Christen, Hey, Wow, I can't
Speaker 1: believe I'm sharing what I'm hearing. Like, no, I'm on
Speaker 1: a diet, and it's just like, I don't know if
Speaker 1: you've ever bound on one, It's like it really messes
Speaker 1: with your head, So like I thought you would understand
Speaker 1: what I'm going through. I can't empathize who what's you're
Speaker 1: going through the other factors or the reasons, not the
Speaker 1: fact that you want a diet or you look differently.
Speaker 1: You know, you obviously are. You've got your own issues
Speaker 1: and you could deal with that, aren't on me? Yeah? Okay, look, look, look,
Speaker 1: look I'll explain the salad thing and what really happened. Okay, okay,
Speaker 1: Well what happened, Well, basically, you went to the bathroom
Speaker 1: and you had your chicken parm sandwich there, and I
Speaker 1: tried it and then it was I basically ate half
Speaker 1: of the sandwich. Oh my god, are you kidding me?
Speaker 1: You ate my food? Well, I was weak with hunger.
Speaker 1: I guess I didn't realize, and you could have told me, Well,
Speaker 1: I guess I could have. I just felt really bad.
Speaker 1: I'm really sorry. I didn't care what Daniel. That doesn't
Speaker 1: explain the anger over her not trying your salad, does it. Well,
Speaker 1: I just felt so guilty about the sandwich that I
Speaker 1: just really wanted to eat the salad, and then I
Speaker 1: would just feel like we were even you know, Oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, she didn't make you feel better because she
Speaker 1: didn't eat any of your salad. I didn't get mad
Speaker 1: at her. It was just like the hunger, like the
Speaker 1: low bloodshedar like I was like hungry. You know what
Speaker 1: the hunger got mad at? Or? Did the hunger make
Speaker 1: you cry over? Dessert too had to be I mean,
Speaker 1: like I must have a severe low blood sugar count.
Speaker 1: Did you cannot be in a total a hole on
Speaker 1: your date on just being hungry? I don't think you
Speaker 1: get it though, like three days of no carbs, like
Speaker 1: I don't even know what I was saying, You know
Speaker 1: what I mean? It's pretty if I obviously need some help, Daniel,
Speaker 1: you really do you need to go see a dietician,
Speaker 1: a therapist or something. You need to be honest with yourself.
Speaker 1: Hamburger not a therapist. I needn't, Daniel. What she's tried
Speaker 1: to say is try a different diet. If you can't
Speaker 1: function as a normal person not eating carbs, then maybe
Speaker 1: that's not the right avenue for you to lose weight.
Speaker 1: Maybe you need a lace that Hamburger with some psychotropic
Speaker 1: medication and make you feel better. I don't know. Later
Speaker 1: there's dating sites for this, you know, but I'm not
Speaker 1: on that they're a dating site for people who get
Speaker 1: really angry over food. I'm sure there is something like that. Hey,
Speaker 1: you guys are looking at this the whole wrong way,
Speaker 1: like I'm doing a good thing and you're seeing me
Speaker 1: like struggle through the worst right here. So like it's
Speaker 1: only going to get better from here. I'm gonna get
Speaker 1: like looking and more control of this, so you know
Speaker 1: what I mean. Like, Okay, Well, in that case, Kristen,
Speaker 1: would you like to go out with Daniel on a
Speaker 1: second date. We'll pay for it. He's getting better, you
Speaker 1: know what they say, date an angry chubby guy, marry
Speaker 1: a really stable hot guy. I think I'd wait till
Speaker 1: the chubby guy gets stable and then try to hate him. Well, okay, fine,
Speaker 1: don't have to be about it. I'm sorry. I'm just
Speaker 1: like honestly, like I haven't even eaten anything today yet, Daniel,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, no second day, man, but go get just
Speaker 1: go shove a carrot up you behind and lea me alone.
Speaker 1: Shove a carrot in you're behind and a donut in
Speaker 1: your mouth or something so you get some carves and
Speaker 1: calm down. You guys just aren't like getting that. I
Speaker 1: mean I mean, seriously, don't listening to me. Whoa, oh buddy, Sorry, sorry, yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm just I'm oh my god, I'm just like feeling
Speaker 1: kind of like dizzy and weak because, oh my god,
Speaker 1: like I had like a canned peach earlier. It's like,
Speaker 1: oh had, I'm so sorry. What kind of a diet
Speaker 1: are you on? Broken juwil in the morning text in
Speaker 1: it seven eight five nine two says I'm on a diet,
Speaker 1: So I really understand where this guy's coming from. Talking
Speaker 1: about today's second date update, This dude, Daniel wanted to
Speaker 1: call this girl named Kristen. He's on a strict diet
Speaker 1: and while they were out on their date, he actually
Speaker 1: ate half of a sandwich while she was in the bathroom,
Speaker 1: and he thought that might have been a turn off
Speaker 1: for her. But when we called her, we found out
Speaker 1: the problem was in fact Daniel's diet. She didn't notice
Speaker 1: that half for a sandwich had been gone while she
Speaker 1: was in the bathroom, but Daniel I was constantly telling
Speaker 1: her how unhealthy or chicken parm sandwich was ate half off,
Speaker 1: and then literally started crying when she didn't order the cheesecake.
Speaker 1: Just eat something. Yeah, this is not this is not
Speaker 1: a diet that's going to work for you. On top
Speaker 1: of his will behavior at the dinner table, a few
Speaker 1: days later, he contacted Kristen asking her to venmo him
Speaker 1: half of the bill because he only got a salad.
Speaker 1: He blames his behavior on his diet. Yeah, that's what
Speaker 1: it is, says his mood swings will be worth it
Speaker 1: in the end. If once he's all slimmed down, oh man,
Speaker 1: if he can survive. Yeah. She says, you'd rather date
Speaker 1: a stable, chubby guide than an unstable skinny one. So
Speaker 1: no second date. Remember, if you want to do a
Speaker 1: second at update, just email the show and we will
Speaker 1: call the person who didn't call you back.