1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,320 Speaker 1: This is Kelly Henderson and you're listening to the Velvet's 2 00:00:02,360 --> 00:00:05,280 Speaker 1: Edge podcast. This week, my guest is my very good 3 00:00:05,320 --> 00:00:09,360 Speaker 1: friend Amy from the Bobby Bones Show Radio. Amy. Amy 4 00:00:09,360 --> 00:00:11,600 Speaker 1: has been on this podcast a few times before, and 5 00:00:11,640 --> 00:00:13,800 Speaker 1: if you guys have listened to those episodes, you know 6 00:00:13,880 --> 00:00:16,800 Speaker 1: that two years ago she finalized her adoption of her 7 00:00:16,840 --> 00:00:20,159 Speaker 1: two children from Haiti. So last week we were just 8 00:00:20,280 --> 00:00:22,280 Speaker 1: catching up, and of course she was telling me about 9 00:00:22,280 --> 00:00:26,239 Speaker 1: the kids and what they now just naturally assume is 10 00:00:26,320 --> 00:00:28,840 Speaker 1: life in America. We were getting a good laugh about this. 11 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:34,279 Speaker 1: You know, it's the Amazon Prime, the Postmates, nice houses, airplanes, 12 00:00:34,520 --> 00:00:37,640 Speaker 1: It's a far different place in the country they came from. 13 00:00:37,680 --> 00:00:40,320 Speaker 1: So she then told me how they are now trying 14 00:00:40,360 --> 00:00:42,600 Speaker 1: to educate their kids on all of the other parts 15 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:46,320 Speaker 1: of America, those that are less fortunate, those without houses. 16 00:00:46,800 --> 00:00:49,640 Speaker 1: Truly the part that many of us don't think about, 17 00:00:49,720 --> 00:00:52,000 Speaker 1: which is just all of the people living in poverty 18 00:00:52,080 --> 00:00:55,840 Speaker 1: or who are homeless right nearby. I personally walked away 19 00:00:55,880 --> 00:00:58,640 Speaker 1: from that conversation being reminded of the small reality that 20 00:00:58,760 --> 00:01:01,520 Speaker 1: I live in sometimes just not looking at the bigger 21 00:01:01,560 --> 00:01:04,480 Speaker 1: picture of our culture and those who may be struggling 22 00:01:04,520 --> 00:01:07,640 Speaker 1: or live very different lives from mine. Amy is here 23 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:10,600 Speaker 1: to talk through some simple ways that she has started 24 00:01:10,600 --> 00:01:12,679 Speaker 1: opening her kid's eyes up to the rest of the 25 00:01:12,720 --> 00:01:16,880 Speaker 1: world around us, as well as one specific organization in Nashville, 26 00:01:17,000 --> 00:01:20,560 Speaker 1: Home Street Home, that is helping the homeless rebuild their lives. 27 00:01:20,840 --> 00:01:23,880 Speaker 1: Here's our conversation. Okay, so I feel like, first of all, 28 00:01:23,920 --> 00:01:26,680 Speaker 1: everyone loves updates on your kids, which we've talked a 29 00:01:26,720 --> 00:01:29,760 Speaker 1: lot about. You're adopting two kids from Haiti, and we 30 00:01:29,840 --> 00:01:32,160 Speaker 1: talked about it on the last podcast you did with me. 31 00:01:32,280 --> 00:01:34,440 Speaker 1: Even how is everything going? I mean, I would say 32 00:01:34,480 --> 00:01:38,119 Speaker 1: we've become a long long way, like it's it's amazing 33 00:01:38,160 --> 00:01:40,120 Speaker 1: how far we've come, because I think there was a 34 00:01:40,200 --> 00:01:42,120 Speaker 1: time in the beginning I thought it's just ever going 35 00:01:42,160 --> 00:01:46,600 Speaker 1: to get better, and it does. So if you are 36 00:01:47,640 --> 00:01:52,160 Speaker 1: adopting or a foster parent and it's the beginning, um, 37 00:01:52,480 --> 00:01:55,000 Speaker 1: just know that it does get better and it gets 38 00:01:55,000 --> 00:01:57,360 Speaker 1: amazing and there it's going to be a roller coaster 39 00:01:57,480 --> 00:01:59,800 Speaker 1: for a little bit, especially if you're adopting older children 40 00:02:00,040 --> 00:02:03,760 Speaker 1: like ours were, uh seven and nine when they got here, 41 00:02:03,880 --> 00:02:06,080 Speaker 1: and now or seven and ten, how old are they? 42 00:02:06,280 --> 00:02:09,720 Speaker 1: And then now they're nine and twelve, so I got 43 00:02:09,760 --> 00:02:12,680 Speaker 1: a twelve year old like going on. So we have 44 00:02:12,720 --> 00:02:17,639 Speaker 1: a lot of hormones opening yea. She and my mom 45 00:02:17,680 --> 00:02:21,400 Speaker 1: always told me because I was pretty awful, I was, 46 00:02:21,560 --> 00:02:25,200 Speaker 1: and she especially hormone wise and just around how I 47 00:02:25,240 --> 00:02:28,480 Speaker 1: treated her sometimes. But because I couldn't control it, I 48 00:02:28,560 --> 00:02:30,400 Speaker 1: really feel that. And she was like, oh my gosh, 49 00:02:30,400 --> 00:02:33,160 Speaker 1: payback is going to be awful for you. And so 50 00:02:33,200 --> 00:02:36,760 Speaker 1: I have that. I have payback happening. What's the main 51 00:02:36,840 --> 00:02:39,720 Speaker 1: thing that you would say is different now from a 52 00:02:39,800 --> 00:02:42,120 Speaker 1: year ago? Oh, just that they trust us now and 53 00:02:42,160 --> 00:02:45,080 Speaker 1: they feel secure. I think when they first got here, 54 00:02:45,240 --> 00:02:47,239 Speaker 1: it was especially for my daughter because she was older 55 00:02:47,280 --> 00:02:49,600 Speaker 1: and she was on her third life. She lived with 56 00:02:49,639 --> 00:02:52,160 Speaker 1: her birth mom until she was five and five or 57 00:02:52,200 --> 00:02:53,799 Speaker 1: five and a half and then at the orphanage from 58 00:02:53,840 --> 00:02:57,840 Speaker 1: five to ten and then came here, so you know 59 00:02:58,040 --> 00:03:01,079 Speaker 1: that's her third life. And rightfully so, she had walls up. 60 00:03:01,280 --> 00:03:05,120 Speaker 1: Um there's some attachment disorder happening with both of them, um, 61 00:03:05,160 --> 00:03:08,480 Speaker 1: which I think is something you'll always will always be 62 00:03:08,560 --> 00:03:12,320 Speaker 1: a factor. But the guard the walls have come down. 63 00:03:12,360 --> 00:03:14,480 Speaker 1: They've left their guard down a little bit and they're 64 00:03:14,520 --> 00:03:18,000 Speaker 1: letting us in. It's not so much the heisman all 65 00:03:18,040 --> 00:03:20,240 Speaker 1: the time when we're trying to show them love, because 66 00:03:20,280 --> 00:03:22,680 Speaker 1: there's a lot of testing that happens with that because 67 00:03:22,720 --> 00:03:25,120 Speaker 1: they want to make sure, Okay, are you really gonna 68 00:03:25,240 --> 00:03:28,560 Speaker 1: be around or be here for me, because like nobody 69 00:03:28,560 --> 00:03:30,960 Speaker 1: else has really showed me that in my life. And 70 00:03:31,040 --> 00:03:33,440 Speaker 1: so we're it's about to be two years, so yeah, 71 00:03:33,520 --> 00:03:38,840 Speaker 1: we're we've officially, you know, I think formed that trust 72 00:03:38,960 --> 00:03:42,080 Speaker 1: with them. Um, you know, Stevenson again, when you're younger 73 00:03:42,280 --> 00:03:45,280 Speaker 1: just part of it too. Maybe it doesn't really fully 74 00:03:45,360 --> 00:03:48,640 Speaker 1: understand like what I love you means, but so he's 75 00:03:48,680 --> 00:03:51,200 Speaker 1: still more accepting that and we'll say it back, and 76 00:03:51,240 --> 00:03:53,680 Speaker 1: of course that's really special and warms my heart. But 77 00:03:53,960 --> 00:03:56,240 Speaker 1: I really feel like he knows that we care about 78 00:03:56,280 --> 00:03:59,520 Speaker 1: him and we're there for him and Stashira, I feel 79 00:03:59,520 --> 00:04:02,320 Speaker 1: like now she knows it too. She still doesn't say 80 00:04:02,440 --> 00:04:04,880 Speaker 1: I love you back. Really. There's one time where she's 81 00:04:04,880 --> 00:04:07,360 Speaker 1: written it on a card and maybe just kind of 82 00:04:07,400 --> 00:04:11,800 Speaker 1: said it accidentally. I don't think she knew that she 83 00:04:11,960 --> 00:04:14,200 Speaker 1: was saying it, but it's still made my day and 84 00:04:14,240 --> 00:04:17,280 Speaker 1: I tried to not flip out over it, but um, 85 00:04:17,400 --> 00:04:19,560 Speaker 1: she's still you know, every night I tell her I 86 00:04:19,600 --> 00:04:21,760 Speaker 1: love you before bed, and she just says good night, 87 00:04:22,040 --> 00:04:23,880 Speaker 1: but she says it in the sweetest way, like I'll 88 00:04:23,920 --> 00:04:25,240 Speaker 1: take a good night like that, because it used to 89 00:04:25,240 --> 00:04:27,760 Speaker 1: she used to say nothing like good night, sleep tight 90 00:04:27,800 --> 00:04:31,720 Speaker 1: and she'd be like by um. So I feel like 91 00:04:32,360 --> 00:04:36,680 Speaker 1: that them welcoming our love and accepting it has been 92 00:04:36,720 --> 00:04:40,120 Speaker 1: the biggest change, and us just being a family and 93 00:04:40,160 --> 00:04:42,560 Speaker 1: figuring that. We're still figuring that out because I feel 94 00:04:42,600 --> 00:04:45,159 Speaker 1: like the first year was so my dad got cancered 95 00:04:45,200 --> 00:04:47,039 Speaker 1: the first year they were here, and I feel like 96 00:04:47,080 --> 00:04:49,680 Speaker 1: I left them for like months, like we only had 97 00:04:49,720 --> 00:04:51,320 Speaker 1: them six months, and then I left them for like 98 00:04:51,360 --> 00:04:54,200 Speaker 1: three months to six months, like back and forth. Three 99 00:04:54,240 --> 00:04:56,159 Speaker 1: of those months I was gone a lot, and so 100 00:04:56,200 --> 00:04:57,800 Speaker 1: then I'm sure they were like what the heck? So 101 00:04:57,800 --> 00:04:59,839 Speaker 1: I felt like that first year is a big that blurb. 102 00:05:00,120 --> 00:05:03,839 Speaker 1: This year, it's been our year. Yeah. I just now 103 00:05:03,920 --> 00:05:08,000 Speaker 1: my dad. My dad lives in Nashville now, So that's 104 00:05:08,360 --> 00:05:11,159 Speaker 1: that's that's another big change. It's just family, us feeling 105 00:05:11,240 --> 00:05:13,640 Speaker 1: like a family. Yeah. So yeah, Well you and I 106 00:05:13,680 --> 00:05:16,279 Speaker 1: were talking the other day because there is an event 107 00:05:16,440 --> 00:05:19,640 Speaker 1: that Pimp and Joy is sponsoring tonight called Miracle and fourth, 108 00:05:19,680 --> 00:05:23,480 Speaker 1: which is for a homeless shelter here now or it's 109 00:05:23,360 --> 00:05:26,919 Speaker 1: it's for it's not a shelter, but it's an organizations 110 00:05:27,560 --> 00:05:29,960 Speaker 1: the homeless, and it's called Home Street Home And we 111 00:05:30,000 --> 00:05:34,000 Speaker 1: have a mutual friend April that she just saw Stephen, 112 00:05:34,040 --> 00:05:36,440 Speaker 1: the guy that founded it, a former homeless man, like 113 00:05:36,760 --> 00:05:38,799 Speaker 1: she was I think watching the c m as last 114 00:05:38,839 --> 00:05:41,839 Speaker 1: year on TV and the news or somebody had done 115 00:05:41,839 --> 00:05:44,040 Speaker 1: something on him and it just stuck with her. So 116 00:05:44,080 --> 00:05:45,720 Speaker 1: then she kind of called up some of her friends 117 00:05:45,760 --> 00:05:47,839 Speaker 1: and they decided to have an event last year and 118 00:05:47,839 --> 00:05:50,320 Speaker 1: this year they decided to do it again. And he 119 00:05:50,520 --> 00:05:53,200 Speaker 1: legit knows the needs of the homeless and he's friends 120 00:05:53,200 --> 00:05:56,760 Speaker 1: with them because he was homeless in Nashville for many years, 121 00:05:57,320 --> 00:05:59,400 Speaker 1: and so he even serves the one The reason why 122 00:05:59,400 --> 00:06:01,960 Speaker 1: it's not a shelter or is like it's he's serving 123 00:06:02,000 --> 00:06:03,560 Speaker 1: the ones that are. They don't even go to a 124 00:06:03,600 --> 00:06:06,679 Speaker 1: shelter like there not even like some of them aren't 125 00:06:06,680 --> 00:06:08,560 Speaker 1: even out and about like you. He knows where to 126 00:06:08,560 --> 00:06:12,360 Speaker 1: find them and reach them and give them what they need. 127 00:06:12,960 --> 00:06:17,039 Speaker 1: And UM, yeah, I just felt like I wanted to 128 00:06:17,040 --> 00:06:20,560 Speaker 1: get my family involved with something local and serving others 129 00:06:20,680 --> 00:06:23,200 Speaker 1: because we do a lot of work in Haiti through 130 00:06:23,440 --> 00:06:26,320 Speaker 1: ESPOA and then even Pimp and Joy supports Haiti, but 131 00:06:26,360 --> 00:06:30,760 Speaker 1: we support variety, I mean Pimp and Joy. Like just 132 00:06:30,839 --> 00:06:32,800 Speaker 1: for a quick backstory of people are listening, they don't 133 00:06:32,800 --> 00:06:34,120 Speaker 1: know what that is. It started with my mom and 134 00:06:34,160 --> 00:06:36,919 Speaker 1: she had cancer and her decision to choose joy, and 135 00:06:36,960 --> 00:06:39,320 Speaker 1: then shortly after she passed away, it sort of blew 136 00:06:39,400 --> 00:06:42,880 Speaker 1: up to where we had merch items and hats and 137 00:06:42,880 --> 00:06:44,640 Speaker 1: clothes where we sell it in a dent of the 138 00:06:44,640 --> 00:06:48,279 Speaker 1: proceeds go towards spreading joy to others. So story in 139 00:06:48,279 --> 00:06:51,000 Speaker 1: a nutshell, and it started with her like when times 140 00:06:51,000 --> 00:06:52,880 Speaker 1: are hard, you choose joy for yourself, you spread joy 141 00:06:52,920 --> 00:06:56,400 Speaker 1: to others, because that's what my mom did. So um, 142 00:06:56,440 --> 00:06:57,680 Speaker 1: that's what we like to do with Pimp and Joy. 143 00:06:57,760 --> 00:07:00,480 Speaker 1: Just spread joy all over. And we hadn't really anything 144 00:07:00,600 --> 00:07:04,919 Speaker 1: locally like in Nashville in a little bit, so I 145 00:07:04,960 --> 00:07:07,760 Speaker 1: could Home Street Home just kept it was all my 146 00:07:07,839 --> 00:07:12,360 Speaker 1: heart and then uh, I think last Christmas we had 147 00:07:12,400 --> 00:07:14,640 Speaker 1: some extra Pim and Joy funds like leftover and we 148 00:07:14,680 --> 00:07:16,640 Speaker 1: made like a little donation and it's still on my 149 00:07:16,680 --> 00:07:18,680 Speaker 1: heart again this year. And when I found out they 150 00:07:18,680 --> 00:07:21,240 Speaker 1: were having the event again. Yeah, Pimp and Joy became 151 00:07:21,280 --> 00:07:24,400 Speaker 1: the title sponsor, and I'm just excited to get my 152 00:07:24,520 --> 00:07:30,920 Speaker 1: family involved in helping um with locally and with needs 153 00:07:30,960 --> 00:07:33,800 Speaker 1: and not everybody has everything like my kids. Coming from 154 00:07:33,800 --> 00:07:36,800 Speaker 1: an orphanage in Haiti, you would think they would realize 155 00:07:37,640 --> 00:07:40,520 Speaker 1: that people don't have everything. They don't always have a 156 00:07:40,600 --> 00:07:43,600 Speaker 1: roof over their head, they don't always have um food 157 00:07:43,640 --> 00:07:47,800 Speaker 1: to eat. But I think they thought, especially what they 158 00:07:47,800 --> 00:07:50,560 Speaker 1: hear at the orphanage about America, that everybody you come 159 00:07:50,600 --> 00:07:53,120 Speaker 1: to America, that's where people come and they take you 160 00:07:53,160 --> 00:07:56,080 Speaker 1: from the orphane They bring you to America where everything's fine, 161 00:07:56,400 --> 00:07:59,680 Speaker 1: like you have everything that you need. And so I 162 00:07:59,720 --> 00:08:02,360 Speaker 1: remember were the first day we brought them home, they 163 00:08:02,360 --> 00:08:04,920 Speaker 1: went to our back door and like looked out the 164 00:08:04,920 --> 00:08:07,600 Speaker 1: window and they were like, where's the pool. They just 165 00:08:07,640 --> 00:08:09,040 Speaker 1: thought that's what it was because I think at the 166 00:08:09,080 --> 00:08:12,120 Speaker 1: orphanage they heard like everybody in America is rich, and 167 00:08:12,240 --> 00:08:13,680 Speaker 1: I think in their mind, if you're rich, you have 168 00:08:13,720 --> 00:08:15,920 Speaker 1: a pool. And I was like, oh, we don't have 169 00:08:15,960 --> 00:08:19,080 Speaker 1: a pool. But you know, it's just stuff that you 170 00:08:19,080 --> 00:08:21,400 Speaker 1: you hear. But and then you know, they do get 171 00:08:21,400 --> 00:08:24,000 Speaker 1: to they've been on airplanes. Since they come back, they 172 00:08:24,040 --> 00:08:27,600 Speaker 1: travel to see family, um, which not a lot of 173 00:08:27,760 --> 00:08:30,320 Speaker 1: kids get to do that, And so I felt like 174 00:08:30,600 --> 00:08:32,000 Speaker 1: we need to do something as a family to get 175 00:08:32,040 --> 00:08:35,160 Speaker 1: involved locally, to show them that, like, the life they 176 00:08:35,200 --> 00:08:38,440 Speaker 1: live isn't everybody's. That's how you and I had initially 177 00:08:38,440 --> 00:08:40,240 Speaker 1: started talking about this because you were when you were 178 00:08:40,240 --> 00:08:41,960 Speaker 1: telling me about the event, you were like, I really 179 00:08:42,040 --> 00:08:45,640 Speaker 1: want the kids to see that it's not everyone in 180 00:08:45,640 --> 00:08:48,440 Speaker 1: America that's just so lucky and blessed to have all 181 00:08:48,440 --> 00:08:50,640 Speaker 1: the stuff that we have. And it's so isn't it 182 00:08:50,679 --> 00:08:53,680 Speaker 1: so interesting, like what we were saying, that they grew 183 00:08:53,760 --> 00:09:00,920 Speaker 1: up in poverty, then they just associate America with rich, Yes, 184 00:09:01,200 --> 00:09:05,480 Speaker 1: and they don't know. I don't. I wonder it's also 185 00:09:05,559 --> 00:09:07,560 Speaker 1: too when you're poor a lot of times as a kid, 186 00:09:07,640 --> 00:09:10,719 Speaker 1: you are impoverty. Poverty, that's what's around you, so you 187 00:09:10,800 --> 00:09:14,000 Speaker 1: don't even notice it. Like Bobby, it wasn't until he 188 00:09:14,040 --> 00:09:16,040 Speaker 1: got a little bit older that he started to realize that. 189 00:09:16,120 --> 00:09:18,560 Speaker 1: And he'll share this pretty candidly. I mean he grew 190 00:09:18,640 --> 00:09:21,440 Speaker 1: up very poor. Bobby from the Bobby Bone Show, which 191 00:09:21,440 --> 00:09:25,520 Speaker 1: is the morning show him on. He uh, he started 192 00:09:25,559 --> 00:09:27,959 Speaker 1: to notice once he was a little bit older, that 193 00:09:28,080 --> 00:09:31,680 Speaker 1: he was different than than some of the kids in 194 00:09:31,720 --> 00:09:34,640 Speaker 1: his class. Um, like he didn't have new clothes to 195 00:09:34,679 --> 00:09:37,520 Speaker 1: wear every day, he didn't shower every day, he didn't 196 00:09:37,840 --> 00:09:40,920 Speaker 1: sometimes his family wasn't even around. He didn't have a bedroom, 197 00:09:41,000 --> 00:09:44,240 Speaker 1: like he slept on a couch. But you know, it's 198 00:09:44,240 --> 00:09:47,520 Speaker 1: all relative. He still had a place to sleep every night. 199 00:09:47,840 --> 00:09:51,560 Speaker 1: And then so some kids might see his upbringing and 200 00:09:51,600 --> 00:09:53,800 Speaker 1: be like, oh, wow, like you actually had it made. 201 00:09:53,840 --> 00:09:55,679 Speaker 1: You had a mom that took care of you. And 202 00:09:55,679 --> 00:09:57,600 Speaker 1: when his mom was around, he had a grandmother stepped 203 00:09:57,640 --> 00:09:59,959 Speaker 1: in to take care of him. So you had people. 204 00:10:00,120 --> 00:10:02,880 Speaker 1: Some people and kids they don't they don't even have that. 205 00:10:03,040 --> 00:10:06,280 Speaker 1: And it's right here in America, Like there's adults and 206 00:10:06,440 --> 00:10:10,280 Speaker 1: children that are homeless. I was reading a stat that 207 00:10:10,400 --> 00:10:15,880 Speaker 1: said it's total of five and thirty people were experiencing 208 00:10:15,920 --> 00:10:19,200 Speaker 1: homelessness homelessness on a single night in two thousand eighteen. 209 00:10:19,960 --> 00:10:22,160 Speaker 1: Isn't that crazy? I mean, I just never think about 210 00:10:22,200 --> 00:10:24,560 Speaker 1: it even when I go. I think I see a 211 00:10:24,559 --> 00:10:27,199 Speaker 1: lot of this on the West Coast because obviously temperatures 212 00:10:27,200 --> 00:10:29,160 Speaker 1: are a lot better out there, and I don't know 213 00:10:29,240 --> 00:10:31,880 Speaker 1: if it's like the price of living is so expensive 214 00:10:31,920 --> 00:10:34,120 Speaker 1: that maybe that's how people have become homeless. I don't know, 215 00:10:34,200 --> 00:10:37,840 Speaker 1: but there's a there's seemingly a lot of homelessness, and 216 00:10:38,240 --> 00:10:42,960 Speaker 1: I think, um, some some stuff too is is uh 217 00:10:43,720 --> 00:10:48,000 Speaker 1: is a mental wellness thing? Um, I think. Uh. You know, 218 00:10:48,400 --> 00:10:49,959 Speaker 1: one of my friends and I we talked about this, 219 00:10:50,120 --> 00:10:53,559 Speaker 1: like loved ones that we know sometimes if they didn't 220 00:10:53,600 --> 00:10:56,600 Speaker 1: have US. I'll use my dad as an example, but 221 00:10:56,640 --> 00:10:58,440 Speaker 1: I know that others are going through it based on 222 00:10:58,480 --> 00:11:01,720 Speaker 1: what my friend and I have talked about. Uh, Like 223 00:11:01,760 --> 00:11:05,200 Speaker 1: when my dad was in the hospital last year and 224 00:11:05,559 --> 00:11:07,840 Speaker 1: was experiencing a lot, I mean, my sister and I 225 00:11:07,920 --> 00:11:09,520 Speaker 1: dropped everything and went and took care of him. But 226 00:11:09,559 --> 00:11:11,840 Speaker 1: I mean he had to quit work. I mean he 227 00:11:11,920 --> 00:11:14,320 Speaker 1: worked every day before he got cancer and then had 228 00:11:14,360 --> 00:11:17,040 Speaker 1: to have surgery and it altered our life and it's 229 00:11:17,200 --> 00:11:20,040 Speaker 1: very different now. It's crazy what a year and a 230 00:11:20,120 --> 00:11:22,720 Speaker 1: surgery can do to somebody, or a surgery and then 231 00:11:22,760 --> 00:11:27,840 Speaker 1: a year. Uh, It's I still baffles me how different 232 00:11:27,880 --> 00:11:31,200 Speaker 1: things are. But if he didn't have US, UM, when 233 00:11:31,240 --> 00:11:34,160 Speaker 1: he was discharged from the hospital, I wonder what would 234 00:11:34,200 --> 00:11:37,720 Speaker 1: have happened to him, Like truly, like he could have 235 00:11:38,120 --> 00:11:40,560 Speaker 1: couldn't take care of himself, and he didn't have a job, 236 00:11:41,000 --> 00:11:43,959 Speaker 1: and he couldn't he no longer he had. He can't 237 00:11:43,960 --> 00:11:45,880 Speaker 1: write with it. He's left handed. He can no longer 238 00:11:45,920 --> 00:11:48,800 Speaker 1: write with his left hand. Certain things that used to 239 00:11:48,840 --> 00:11:52,400 Speaker 1: be easy for him just aren't. And he's single. Um, 240 00:11:52,520 --> 00:11:55,160 Speaker 1: luckily he had loved ones around him, and then my 241 00:11:55,240 --> 00:11:58,640 Speaker 1: sister and I and but but you know, like if 242 00:11:58,679 --> 00:12:02,360 Speaker 1: you don't have certain things in your life like that, 243 00:12:02,360 --> 00:12:06,000 Speaker 1: they all come together to support you. Um, I could 244 00:12:06,040 --> 00:12:09,000 Speaker 1: see where some people just end up on the street 245 00:12:09,600 --> 00:12:12,439 Speaker 1: because they don't know. And then cognitively, I mean, we 246 00:12:12,480 --> 00:12:14,240 Speaker 1: had to get him on some medicine to where he 247 00:12:14,240 --> 00:12:16,640 Speaker 1: could like make sense of things and know where he was. 248 00:12:16,720 --> 00:12:19,280 Speaker 1: I mean, there was times he would wake up and 249 00:12:19,320 --> 00:12:21,600 Speaker 1: he would just be wandering outside, like not knowing where 250 00:12:21,600 --> 00:12:24,400 Speaker 1: he was outside of his place, and like then peeing 251 00:12:24,440 --> 00:12:25,800 Speaker 1: on the wall, and my sister would wake up and 252 00:12:25,800 --> 00:12:28,200 Speaker 1: be like, Dad, what are you doing? And he's like, 253 00:12:28,240 --> 00:12:30,680 Speaker 1: I have no idea, but he was so out of 254 00:12:30,720 --> 00:12:33,360 Speaker 1: it he didn't know. And so I just and I'm 255 00:12:33,400 --> 00:12:38,160 Speaker 1: not saying that's that's um always the case, but that's 256 00:12:38,320 --> 00:12:41,080 Speaker 1: a personal example where I know, like my dad could 257 00:12:41,080 --> 00:12:43,960 Speaker 1: have been if he didn't have loved ones in support, 258 00:12:44,400 --> 00:12:47,960 Speaker 1: he could have ended up just on the streets, because 259 00:12:48,400 --> 00:12:50,640 Speaker 1: I don't know that he could have he wasn't functioning 260 00:12:50,920 --> 00:12:54,600 Speaker 1: right and so um, that's just my personal example when 261 00:12:54,600 --> 00:12:56,440 Speaker 1: it comes to mental wellness. I mean there's all kinds 262 00:12:56,440 --> 00:12:59,520 Speaker 1: of different factors and veterans that come back and PTSD 263 00:12:59,760 --> 00:13:04,120 Speaker 1: and people who are disorder. Yes, if you if you 264 00:13:04,240 --> 00:13:06,800 Speaker 1: don't have a That's what it boils down to, is 265 00:13:06,840 --> 00:13:10,240 Speaker 1: I think if you don't have the support system, which 266 00:13:10,280 --> 00:13:12,280 Speaker 1: not everybody does, and I feel like we take that 267 00:13:12,320 --> 00:13:16,640 Speaker 1: for granted sometimes of loved ones and friends and family 268 00:13:16,679 --> 00:13:18,400 Speaker 1: that can scoop you up and help you out when 269 00:13:18,400 --> 00:13:22,960 Speaker 1: you need it most. Then yeah, then you that you 270 00:13:23,040 --> 00:13:25,320 Speaker 1: end up in that position and then it's hard to 271 00:13:25,360 --> 00:13:28,760 Speaker 1: dig out once you're there, right. I just never think 272 00:13:28,800 --> 00:13:31,960 Speaker 1: about it being just you know, on our back porch. Basically, 273 00:13:32,000 --> 00:13:34,760 Speaker 1: like you said, it's really easy to see in other 274 00:13:34,840 --> 00:13:38,160 Speaker 1: countries where there's so much struggle, but it's like, why 275 00:13:38,200 --> 00:13:41,360 Speaker 1: do we not look in America because there's a ton 276 00:13:41,480 --> 00:13:43,640 Speaker 1: happening here too. I loved what you said that you're 277 00:13:43,640 --> 00:13:46,120 Speaker 1: gonna you want to teach your kids then and they 278 00:13:46,240 --> 00:13:48,480 Speaker 1: still are very privileged to the life they get to 279 00:13:48,520 --> 00:13:50,679 Speaker 1: live here, right. I think one day when we do 280 00:13:50,880 --> 00:13:52,719 Speaker 1: take them back to Haiti, because they do want to 281 00:13:52,760 --> 00:13:55,280 Speaker 1: go back, and I want them to have a relationship 282 00:13:55,320 --> 00:13:58,160 Speaker 1: with both of their moms they have. They're not related biologically, 283 00:13:58,440 --> 00:14:00,319 Speaker 1: so they've got two birth moms. We don't know anything 284 00:14:00,320 --> 00:14:02,560 Speaker 1: about their birth dads, and we probably never will. But 285 00:14:02,960 --> 00:14:04,360 Speaker 1: I want them to know their birth moms, and I 286 00:14:04,360 --> 00:14:05,600 Speaker 1: want them to go back to Haiti, and I want 287 00:14:05,640 --> 00:14:07,760 Speaker 1: them to visit the orphanage, and I think when they do, 288 00:14:08,280 --> 00:14:11,200 Speaker 1: it'll kind of resonate with them like Okay, wow, Okay, 289 00:14:11,200 --> 00:14:13,720 Speaker 1: I get I get this now that's what I was. 290 00:14:14,000 --> 00:14:16,480 Speaker 1: I had a I realized when my A d D 291 00:14:16,600 --> 00:14:18,240 Speaker 1: kicks in and I start talking about different things. But 292 00:14:18,280 --> 00:14:20,240 Speaker 1: I think I brought up Bobby's childhood when I was 293 00:14:20,240 --> 00:14:22,880 Speaker 1: thinking of them at the orphanage, because he didn't Bobby 294 00:14:22,880 --> 00:14:24,600 Speaker 1: didn't realize it when he was a kid until a 295 00:14:24,640 --> 00:14:28,200 Speaker 1: certain point. But my kids left there and then they're 296 00:14:28,240 --> 00:14:30,240 Speaker 1: here and I think they get it, but they they 297 00:14:30,280 --> 00:14:33,720 Speaker 1: need to go back and see it and then realize like, oh, 298 00:14:33,760 --> 00:14:35,880 Speaker 1: I get it, because when they were there, that was 299 00:14:35,920 --> 00:14:38,600 Speaker 1: just their normal everyday life to them and all of 300 00:14:38,640 --> 00:14:42,840 Speaker 1: their friends lived the same life, so uh, I know 301 00:14:42,880 --> 00:14:45,920 Speaker 1: they'll appreciate it then, but to start appreciating it here, 302 00:14:46,040 --> 00:14:48,160 Speaker 1: we're going to adopt some things as a family, like 303 00:14:48,280 --> 00:14:50,600 Speaker 1: ways that we can serve others and love others and 304 00:14:50,640 --> 00:14:54,600 Speaker 1: take the focus off of ourselves, especially this time of year. 305 00:14:54,760 --> 00:14:58,320 Speaker 1: I feel like around Thanksgiving, me Christmas is when like 306 00:14:58,400 --> 00:15:01,640 Speaker 1: as parents we start thinking like, Okay, how do we 307 00:15:01,680 --> 00:15:05,280 Speaker 1: want our kids to handle even Christmas time? And you 308 00:15:05,320 --> 00:15:08,400 Speaker 1: know April when she was, you know, talking about throwing 309 00:15:08,400 --> 00:15:10,920 Speaker 1: this event Home Street Home like or the Miracle on 310 00:15:11,000 --> 00:15:13,760 Speaker 1: Fourth for Home Street Home Like, that's what she just 311 00:15:13,920 --> 00:15:18,560 Speaker 1: knew it for her doing something for others. She knew 312 00:15:18,600 --> 00:15:21,120 Speaker 1: she couldn't go out and help every single homeless person 313 00:15:21,160 --> 00:15:24,040 Speaker 1: that she passes on the street because a lot of 314 00:15:24,040 --> 00:15:26,600 Speaker 1: times you don't know, you can't always roll down your window, 315 00:15:26,640 --> 00:15:28,120 Speaker 1: you don't know this. It's not always safe to go 316 00:15:28,240 --> 00:15:30,520 Speaker 1: up to just anybody and try to help. But this 317 00:15:30,600 --> 00:15:32,480 Speaker 1: was her way of knowing, like she could go through 318 00:15:32,520 --> 00:15:35,160 Speaker 1: the holiday season kind of knowing that she tried to 319 00:15:35,160 --> 00:15:40,160 Speaker 1: do her part by helping somebody, and um, you know 320 00:15:41,760 --> 00:15:44,720 Speaker 1: that that's that's my goal as a parent is that 321 00:15:44,760 --> 00:15:47,080 Speaker 1: we can go through and like not make I mean 322 00:15:47,160 --> 00:15:50,760 Speaker 1: Christmas and Thanksgiving is about yeah, gathering friends and family 323 00:15:50,760 --> 00:15:53,160 Speaker 1: and exchanging gifts and doing all that fun stuff. But like, 324 00:15:53,240 --> 00:15:55,960 Speaker 1: how can we take the focus off of us and 325 00:15:56,360 --> 00:16:00,480 Speaker 1: serve others and remember like the real reason, um, Jesus 326 00:16:00,520 --> 00:16:03,560 Speaker 1: is the reason for the season. Like if that's even uh, 327 00:16:03,800 --> 00:16:06,760 Speaker 1: I think it's important or regardless even if you don't, like, 328 00:16:06,880 --> 00:16:09,160 Speaker 1: just finding a way to serve others I think is 329 00:16:09,200 --> 00:16:11,880 Speaker 1: super important and instilling that in your children. And so 330 00:16:11,920 --> 00:16:14,960 Speaker 1: that's what we're trying to do. Um. And you know, 331 00:16:15,040 --> 00:16:19,600 Speaker 1: now that we've started to talk about homeless uh people 332 00:16:19,640 --> 00:16:22,880 Speaker 1: a little bit more, Stevenson, my son, he notices them 333 00:16:22,920 --> 00:16:24,800 Speaker 1: a lot more, and like if we don't roll down 334 00:16:24,840 --> 00:16:28,200 Speaker 1: the window, like one time there was just the other day, Um, 335 00:16:28,240 --> 00:16:30,520 Speaker 1: there was a donation. This was not a homeless person. 336 00:16:30,560 --> 00:16:32,120 Speaker 1: It was like you know how sometimes on the corner 337 00:16:32,160 --> 00:16:34,160 Speaker 1: there was like people with a bucket that are fundraising 338 00:16:34,200 --> 00:16:38,000 Speaker 1: for like you know, the high school whatever. It's like, 339 00:16:38,040 --> 00:16:40,280 Speaker 1: it wasn't like that, and I didn't. I mean we 340 00:16:40,320 --> 00:16:42,280 Speaker 1: waved and smiled, but I didn't have any money and 341 00:16:42,280 --> 00:16:44,200 Speaker 1: we were going to donate towards that because I don't know, 342 00:16:44,720 --> 00:16:46,320 Speaker 1: so I like to vet a lot of the times, 343 00:16:46,360 --> 00:16:49,160 Speaker 1: like what organization is it? I don't really know a 344 00:16:49,160 --> 00:16:50,640 Speaker 1: lot about it. But if I had a dollar, sure 345 00:16:50,680 --> 00:16:52,040 Speaker 1: would give it. But I didn't, so I just waved, 346 00:16:52,040 --> 00:16:53,520 Speaker 1: I didn't roll in the window. And Stevenson was like, 347 00:16:53,560 --> 00:16:55,160 Speaker 1: why didn't you roll in the window? Do we not 348 00:16:55,280 --> 00:16:57,680 Speaker 1: care about that person? He doesn't have a home. And 349 00:16:57,720 --> 00:17:00,240 Speaker 1: I was like, oh, buddy, yes, I love the you're 350 00:17:00,280 --> 00:17:03,000 Speaker 1: paying more attention now and that we're trying to like 351 00:17:03,120 --> 00:17:06,040 Speaker 1: shift our focus towards noticing people that might need help. 352 00:17:06,320 --> 00:17:08,760 Speaker 1: But that person didn't need help. They were fundraising for 353 00:17:08,840 --> 00:17:13,960 Speaker 1: something at school. Like we're good, um, But so I 354 00:17:14,040 --> 00:17:17,520 Speaker 1: like it. It's getting it's on his radar. It's getting 355 00:17:17,800 --> 00:17:22,000 Speaker 1: the conversation started, and then it's allowed us to yes, 356 00:17:22,119 --> 00:17:24,520 Speaker 1: like show them you don't. It doesn't mean you have 357 00:17:24,560 --> 00:17:26,760 Speaker 1: to just roll on the window and give money. Like 358 00:17:26,840 --> 00:17:30,480 Speaker 1: we've started to keep food in the car and have 359 00:17:30,680 --> 00:17:33,399 Speaker 1: that ready, like some people call them just like a 360 00:17:33,480 --> 00:17:38,040 Speaker 1: little snack bags or lunch boxes or something, and you 361 00:17:38,080 --> 00:17:41,360 Speaker 1: can keep them with non perishable items, but stuff that's 362 00:17:41,400 --> 00:17:43,760 Speaker 1: easy to get into, Like you don't want to give 363 00:17:43,920 --> 00:17:47,119 Speaker 1: a canned good to a person on the it's on 364 00:17:47,160 --> 00:17:48,480 Speaker 1: the side of the road that might want to eat 365 00:17:48,640 --> 00:17:50,560 Speaker 1: because they don't they might not have a can opener. 366 00:17:51,040 --> 00:17:52,800 Speaker 1: So you have to think about that because a lot 367 00:17:52,840 --> 00:17:54,640 Speaker 1: of times I'll be like, oh, nonperishable, I'll just grab 368 00:17:54,640 --> 00:17:56,200 Speaker 1: a few cans of this soup and it'll be good 369 00:17:56,240 --> 00:17:58,280 Speaker 1: to go. So if you give someone soup, make sure 370 00:17:58,280 --> 00:18:00,080 Speaker 1: you give them a can opener, or if it has 371 00:18:00,119 --> 00:18:03,320 Speaker 1: like the pop top that'll just pop right off the 372 00:18:03,400 --> 00:18:08,159 Speaker 1: soup um or granola bars or nuts and or fruit 373 00:18:08,520 --> 00:18:11,600 Speaker 1: like stuff that can be nutritious. Boiled eggs like those 374 00:18:11,640 --> 00:18:15,720 Speaker 1: are good. And socks homeless people, um, a big need 375 00:18:15,760 --> 00:18:18,680 Speaker 1: is socks, especially in the wintertime, like socks and beanies 376 00:18:18,760 --> 00:18:22,080 Speaker 1: and gloves because the limbs like your head, your hands, 377 00:18:22,080 --> 00:18:25,160 Speaker 1: and your feet, like that's where if you can insulate 378 00:18:25,240 --> 00:18:28,399 Speaker 1: those like you'll stay warmer at least. So that's something 379 00:18:28,960 --> 00:18:31,560 Speaker 1: they always really like to have. And did I say 380 00:18:31,560 --> 00:18:34,040 Speaker 1: eggs When I said eggs, I mean hard boiled eggs, 381 00:18:34,040 --> 00:18:36,679 Speaker 1: not like the not not just like not just like 382 00:18:36,720 --> 00:18:40,560 Speaker 1: eggs straight up from the grocery. Not good, but that's 383 00:18:40,600 --> 00:18:44,000 Speaker 1: a way to where you know we're having that stuff 384 00:18:44,040 --> 00:18:45,840 Speaker 1: in the car and then the kids can roll down 385 00:18:45,840 --> 00:18:48,400 Speaker 1: the window and hand that to them and just say, 386 00:18:48,640 --> 00:18:51,600 Speaker 1: you know, have a great day, Happy Thanksgiving, and that 387 00:18:51,760 --> 00:18:53,800 Speaker 1: you don't have to question where the money is going 388 00:18:54,560 --> 00:18:56,840 Speaker 1: or whatever. And I think this came up in one 389 00:18:56,880 --> 00:18:59,480 Speaker 1: of our meetings about Home Street Home and Stephen, the 390 00:18:59,520 --> 00:19:02,359 Speaker 1: guy that found today never did any drugs, doesn't drink, 391 00:19:02,520 --> 00:19:05,560 Speaker 1: do drugs never even when he's on the streets, he didn't. 392 00:19:06,040 --> 00:19:10,040 Speaker 1: But he two people that kind of judge homeless people 393 00:19:10,080 --> 00:19:12,920 Speaker 1: that do. I mean, you kind of have to makes 394 00:19:12,920 --> 00:19:15,040 Speaker 1: you think about it. Like for me, sometimes I come 395 00:19:15,080 --> 00:19:17,800 Speaker 1: home from a long day at work or my kids 396 00:19:17,880 --> 00:19:19,399 Speaker 1: or this, or I'm tired of this of that, and 397 00:19:19,440 --> 00:19:22,919 Speaker 1: I just like I need a tequila or a glass 398 00:19:22,920 --> 00:19:26,800 Speaker 1: of wine, right and my my long hard day. Compared 399 00:19:26,840 --> 00:19:29,639 Speaker 1: to somebody who has no home or loved ones that 400 00:19:29,640 --> 00:19:31,639 Speaker 1: they can turn to that now they live on the street, 401 00:19:31,840 --> 00:19:35,320 Speaker 1: and I'm gonna we're gonna throw judgment their way for 402 00:19:35,359 --> 00:19:37,960 Speaker 1: like wanting to numb the pain. Well, it's just sure 403 00:19:38,000 --> 00:19:40,560 Speaker 1: you never know what someone else is going through exactly. 404 00:19:41,000 --> 00:19:43,840 Speaker 1: It's that grace to like not And you know, I 405 00:19:43,880 --> 00:19:48,399 Speaker 1: think serving others like the homeless, it takes a level 406 00:19:48,760 --> 00:19:50,880 Speaker 1: of boldness. And I don't I say this for myself 407 00:19:50,920 --> 00:19:55,080 Speaker 1: to like, we made little Toe four things tote bags 408 00:19:55,119 --> 00:19:57,280 Speaker 1: for the event for some of the v I P sponsors, 409 00:19:57,320 --> 00:20:00,320 Speaker 1: and the four things we put on their the first 410 00:20:00,320 --> 00:20:06,359 Speaker 1: thing was be bold, um, serve others, love neighbors, and 411 00:20:06,400 --> 00:20:09,399 Speaker 1: spread joy. And I feel like those are four things 412 00:20:09,480 --> 00:20:12,760 Speaker 1: that you can keep in mind, you know, through this 413 00:20:13,320 --> 00:20:18,119 Speaker 1: holiday season whenever you know you're kind of just approaching 414 00:20:18,160 --> 00:20:22,200 Speaker 1: life and to for some people to approach or talk 415 00:20:22,240 --> 00:20:24,359 Speaker 1: to someone that's homeless or that they don't even know 416 00:20:24,520 --> 00:20:27,480 Speaker 1: it takes courage. Like I get it. I'm not saying 417 00:20:27,520 --> 00:20:29,600 Speaker 1: that it's easy, it's or it's out of your comfort 418 00:20:29,680 --> 00:20:33,560 Speaker 1: zone because you have these stereotypes or predetermined thought of 419 00:20:33,640 --> 00:20:35,560 Speaker 1: like why this person is homeless and they should just 420 00:20:35,600 --> 00:20:38,199 Speaker 1: go get a job, when really it's so much bigger 421 00:20:38,240 --> 00:20:42,160 Speaker 1: than that. So I would just encourage people, like we're 422 00:20:42,280 --> 00:20:44,480 Speaker 1: trying to do with my family, is to step out 423 00:20:44,520 --> 00:20:47,080 Speaker 1: of your comfort zone and be bold because it's a 424 00:20:47,080 --> 00:20:50,600 Speaker 1: bigger story and there's a lot happening, and there's a 425 00:20:50,640 --> 00:20:53,040 Speaker 1: lot of really amazing people out there. You know, a 426 00:20:53,040 --> 00:20:54,560 Speaker 1: book that I read a long time ago, and I 427 00:20:54,560 --> 00:20:56,000 Speaker 1: need to bust it out and read it now and 428 00:20:56,040 --> 00:20:59,040 Speaker 1: maybe even like read it with my kids. And I 429 00:20:59,080 --> 00:21:01,080 Speaker 1: hadn't thought about it to literally just now when I 430 00:21:01,119 --> 00:21:04,920 Speaker 1: was talking um. And it's a great book if you're 431 00:21:04,920 --> 00:21:07,280 Speaker 1: looking to gift somebody a book or you need something 432 00:21:07,320 --> 00:21:08,960 Speaker 1: to read right now. But it's called same kind of 433 00:21:08,960 --> 00:21:11,520 Speaker 1: different as me. And it's about I don't want to 434 00:21:11,520 --> 00:21:13,680 Speaker 1: give too much away, but it's about a husband and 435 00:21:13,720 --> 00:21:18,919 Speaker 1: a wife and you're for you might cry, but the 436 00:21:19,000 --> 00:21:22,920 Speaker 1: wife is sick and a homeless man enters the picture 437 00:21:23,119 --> 00:21:25,560 Speaker 1: and kind of what they all did for each other. 438 00:21:26,160 --> 00:21:27,720 Speaker 1: I brought this up the reason why the book came 439 00:21:27,760 --> 00:21:30,000 Speaker 1: to my mindus because I'm like, be bold, be courageous, 440 00:21:30,000 --> 00:21:32,040 Speaker 1: talked to somebody, because you never know how you might 441 00:21:32,080 --> 00:21:34,399 Speaker 1: impact them or they might impact you, and they might 442 00:21:34,440 --> 00:21:37,280 Speaker 1: impact you even more than you could ever believe. And 443 00:21:37,280 --> 00:21:39,439 Speaker 1: I got goose bumps thinking back to this story of 444 00:21:39,440 --> 00:21:41,600 Speaker 1: how this homeless man in the book, and it's a 445 00:21:41,600 --> 00:21:46,440 Speaker 1: true story impacted this family, and you know, it's amazing. 446 00:21:46,760 --> 00:21:49,199 Speaker 1: I think it's a lot about awareness too, because like 447 00:21:49,200 --> 00:21:51,000 Speaker 1: you said, I mean, how many homeless people have you 448 00:21:51,080 --> 00:21:53,840 Speaker 1: driven by and just not stopped or not even And 449 00:21:53,840 --> 00:21:55,760 Speaker 1: I'm so guilty of that because you don't want to 450 00:21:55,760 --> 00:21:57,680 Speaker 1: and if especially if you don't have anything, like maybe 451 00:21:57,680 --> 00:21:59,439 Speaker 1: you're just like, Okay, I don't want to make eye 452 00:21:59,440 --> 00:22:00,960 Speaker 1: contact a lot want to feel bad or I don't 453 00:22:01,000 --> 00:22:05,119 Speaker 1: really know what's happening. But I mean just as human 454 00:22:05,119 --> 00:22:09,640 Speaker 1: to human, like we can acknowledge people and make them 455 00:22:09,680 --> 00:22:13,440 Speaker 1: feel special for that moment and you don't know what's 456 00:22:13,440 --> 00:22:21,880 Speaker 1: happening with them. And I think the Home Street Home 457 00:22:21,960 --> 00:22:23,800 Speaker 1: is a great organization because they give a lot of 458 00:22:23,840 --> 00:22:25,560 Speaker 1: different options. Like I think you have to find what 459 00:22:25,680 --> 00:22:27,920 Speaker 1: is the right way to help for you, and maybe 460 00:22:27,920 --> 00:22:30,199 Speaker 1: it is donating money, maybe it's going to volunteer. They 461 00:22:30,240 --> 00:22:32,720 Speaker 1: have a lot of different activities you can go volunteer at. 462 00:22:33,160 --> 00:22:36,119 Speaker 1: This is obviously an organization in Nashville, but they have 463 00:22:36,240 --> 00:22:39,960 Speaker 1: them around the country. Yeah, like I think any um 464 00:22:40,080 --> 00:22:43,280 Speaker 1: or even just if you're trying to get your family involved, 465 00:22:43,320 --> 00:22:46,160 Speaker 1: Like sometimes there's churches that will go like I went 466 00:22:46,240 --> 00:22:49,359 Speaker 1: to a church in Austin for a little bit um 467 00:22:49,440 --> 00:22:53,200 Speaker 1: years ago, but it's one that was founded by Brandon 468 00:22:53,240 --> 00:22:56,280 Speaker 1: and Jin Hatmaker, And if you're familiar with their work, 469 00:22:56,480 --> 00:23:00,879 Speaker 1: you know that they love serving others and they would 470 00:23:00,880 --> 00:23:03,200 Speaker 1: like on Easter instead of doing like a really big 471 00:23:03,280 --> 00:23:06,600 Speaker 1: production at church. And you know, because some churches go 472 00:23:06,680 --> 00:23:08,520 Speaker 1: all out, there's nothing wrong with that. Easter is a 473 00:23:08,520 --> 00:23:11,720 Speaker 1: special time. But they didn't even have service at church. 474 00:23:11,800 --> 00:23:14,639 Speaker 1: They straight up had told everybody to meet downtown and 475 00:23:14,680 --> 00:23:18,119 Speaker 1: they took big rills and they fed the homeless. That 476 00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:20,360 Speaker 1: was their Easter service, and then they had church there. 477 00:23:20,440 --> 00:23:24,320 Speaker 1: So that was church because that's what they wanted to 478 00:23:24,359 --> 00:23:28,160 Speaker 1: invest their time and money into, was giving back to others. 479 00:23:28,840 --> 00:23:32,280 Speaker 1: And so that that time taught me a lot about, 480 00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:36,119 Speaker 1: you know, loving the homeless and that they all have 481 00:23:36,720 --> 00:23:39,800 Speaker 1: a story and you know you can't there. So maybe 482 00:23:39,800 --> 00:23:41,920 Speaker 1: look at churches in your area that might be doing 483 00:23:41,960 --> 00:23:43,760 Speaker 1: something cool like that that will help you get your 484 00:23:43,760 --> 00:23:46,400 Speaker 1: foot in the door because they already have that experience 485 00:23:46,560 --> 00:23:50,760 Speaker 1: of um of working with some of the people and 486 00:23:51,080 --> 00:23:53,359 Speaker 1: know that way you're not like just going downtown blind 487 00:23:53,440 --> 00:23:55,520 Speaker 1: or wherever you live, because I don't know that that 488 00:23:55,520 --> 00:23:58,280 Speaker 1: would necessarily be considered safe. There's some groups that will give, 489 00:23:58,280 --> 00:24:00,840 Speaker 1: like maybe you cut hair, like some people that offer 490 00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:03,240 Speaker 1: to cut hair for the homeless for free. I think 491 00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:06,200 Speaker 1: some people you can donate clothes, especially for when homeless 492 00:24:06,560 --> 00:24:08,399 Speaker 1: are getting back on their feet and needing to go 493 00:24:08,520 --> 00:24:11,720 Speaker 1: to job interviews or things like that that they might 494 00:24:11,920 --> 00:24:13,680 Speaker 1: they might not have a suit or things like that. 495 00:24:13,800 --> 00:24:16,360 Speaker 1: You know. One thing that Stephen with Home Street Home 496 00:24:16,600 --> 00:24:19,320 Speaker 1: is working on in the event was fundraising force. He's 497 00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:22,160 Speaker 1: he's trying to build a house for because he doesn't 498 00:24:22,160 --> 00:24:24,879 Speaker 1: have a shelter. But this would be a house where 499 00:24:25,040 --> 00:24:28,080 Speaker 1: he knows ones that are like doing well and can 500 00:24:28,160 --> 00:24:30,800 Speaker 1: handle it. And I guess they would sort of quote 501 00:24:30,840 --> 00:24:33,720 Speaker 1: unquote to qualify to be in this house. Um, but 502 00:24:33,800 --> 00:24:36,119 Speaker 1: let's say there's gonna be like six I'm just throwing 503 00:24:36,160 --> 00:24:39,960 Speaker 1: this out there, um, and they get a place to live, 504 00:24:40,560 --> 00:24:44,919 Speaker 1: they get like training for job interviews and resume and 505 00:24:44,960 --> 00:24:46,840 Speaker 1: to get a job and get back on their feet, 506 00:24:46,960 --> 00:24:49,000 Speaker 1: and then they can graduate out of that house maybe 507 00:24:49,000 --> 00:24:51,960 Speaker 1: into their own little apartment and then boom, a bed 508 00:24:52,040 --> 00:24:54,800 Speaker 1: opens up and somebody else can come through. So he's 509 00:24:54,800 --> 00:24:56,840 Speaker 1: trying to do it, Yeah, that he doesn't just want 510 00:24:56,880 --> 00:24:58,720 Speaker 1: people to come like have a place to crash for 511 00:24:58,760 --> 00:25:00,479 Speaker 1: the night and then go back out and their own thing. 512 00:25:00,480 --> 00:25:02,800 Speaker 1: Like he really wants to help them, Like he was helped. 513 00:25:03,000 --> 00:25:06,679 Speaker 1: He's now not homeless anymore. So he's like it is possible. Right. 514 00:25:06,880 --> 00:25:10,320 Speaker 1: That sounds like a lot like um Thistle Farms organization 515 00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:13,840 Speaker 1: what they do really great organization and Nashville two. Yeah, 516 00:25:14,000 --> 00:25:17,240 Speaker 1: I was just thinking too, like I have gone through 517 00:25:17,320 --> 00:25:20,560 Speaker 1: tims in my life where you know, when you feel 518 00:25:20,560 --> 00:25:22,360 Speaker 1: really beat down or you feel like maybe you're going 519 00:25:22,359 --> 00:25:25,920 Speaker 1: through a hard time, that you have nothing that you 520 00:25:25,920 --> 00:25:27,680 Speaker 1: you don't you don't feel like you're the person to 521 00:25:27,720 --> 00:25:30,240 Speaker 1: go help someone else. You're like, I've got so much 522 00:25:30,640 --> 00:25:32,679 Speaker 1: bad stuff happening to me, or you know, you can 523 00:25:32,720 --> 00:25:35,879 Speaker 1: just feel so beat down by what's happening in your life. 524 00:25:36,080 --> 00:25:39,320 Speaker 1: And any time I'm in that place, I have a 525 00:25:39,359 --> 00:25:41,119 Speaker 1: mentor who tells me, like, you need to go do 526 00:25:41,240 --> 00:25:43,920 Speaker 1: some service work and go help someone else, And that, 527 00:25:44,240 --> 00:25:46,879 Speaker 1: sure enough, every single time helps me kind of get 528 00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:49,560 Speaker 1: out of my funk. Because as hard as the time 529 00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:52,080 Speaker 1: of like that I might be going through, I have 530 00:25:52,320 --> 00:25:55,280 Speaker 1: so much to be grateful for. And in these moments, 531 00:25:55,320 --> 00:25:57,560 Speaker 1: I just think about, you know, the fact that I 532 00:25:57,640 --> 00:25:59,320 Speaker 1: have a roof over my head. I mean that in 533 00:25:59,359 --> 00:26:02,439 Speaker 1: and of itself, no matter what I'm going through, is 534 00:26:02,800 --> 00:26:06,680 Speaker 1: a great gift, you know. And so if you even 535 00:26:06,720 --> 00:26:08,399 Speaker 1: if you feel like you might not be in the 536 00:26:08,400 --> 00:26:10,800 Speaker 1: best place to help or to give. Maybe this is 537 00:26:10,840 --> 00:26:13,280 Speaker 1: exactly the right time to do something like that. Yeah, 538 00:26:13,320 --> 00:26:16,720 Speaker 1: And I think too is if you're a parent listening 539 00:26:17,000 --> 00:26:18,399 Speaker 1: and you're like, okay, and I want to get my 540 00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:20,960 Speaker 1: kids involved. I know I mentioned like just keeping like 541 00:26:21,040 --> 00:26:23,520 Speaker 1: the food in your car, Well, that's boom one way 542 00:26:23,560 --> 00:26:25,680 Speaker 1: to serve others, But that's sort of like a convenient 543 00:26:25,760 --> 00:26:27,600 Speaker 1: read a red light and we see somebody so rolled 544 00:26:27,600 --> 00:26:29,800 Speaker 1: in the window. But to your point to Kelly, I 545 00:26:29,840 --> 00:26:32,400 Speaker 1: think it is a huge thing. And my mom used 546 00:26:32,400 --> 00:26:34,159 Speaker 1: to tell me that too, Like in college when I 547 00:26:34,160 --> 00:26:36,399 Speaker 1: would call her having the biggest pity party of my 548 00:26:36,440 --> 00:26:40,440 Speaker 1: life because my world was crashing down around me and 549 00:26:41,359 --> 00:26:44,800 Speaker 1: everything in that moment mattered. She would like, I'm sure 550 00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:46,159 Speaker 1: she was rolling her eyes on the end of the 551 00:26:46,200 --> 00:26:48,080 Speaker 1: end the phone in a very loving way, and she 552 00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:49,919 Speaker 1: was like, you need to take the focus off of 553 00:26:49,960 --> 00:26:53,000 Speaker 1: you and go volunteer somewhere, because this is all all 554 00:26:53,040 --> 00:26:55,080 Speaker 1: I hear is Amy, Amy, Amy, right now, and I'm 555 00:26:55,240 --> 00:26:59,720 Speaker 1: over it. So I think, um, as parents, we need 556 00:26:59,760 --> 00:27:02,200 Speaker 1: that as adults for things to go do like that. 557 00:27:02,520 --> 00:27:05,719 Speaker 1: But then as as a parent to I'll show you. 558 00:27:05,760 --> 00:27:08,120 Speaker 1: I'll share with you all some tips that I want 559 00:27:08,119 --> 00:27:09,560 Speaker 1: to do with my kids, so that maybe they have 560 00:27:09,720 --> 00:27:11,720 Speaker 1: these tools in their back pocket and they know how 561 00:27:11,760 --> 00:27:15,120 Speaker 1: to serve others growing up, so that it just becomes 562 00:27:15,160 --> 00:27:20,119 Speaker 1: more natural to them. Yeah, it's yeah, And so I 563 00:27:20,320 --> 00:27:23,560 Speaker 1: have them like anytime we do like closet clean outs, 564 00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:25,960 Speaker 1: where they're very aware that they're collecting clothes that like 565 00:27:26,000 --> 00:27:29,000 Speaker 1: either don't fit them anymore or they don't wear for 566 00:27:29,040 --> 00:27:31,480 Speaker 1: whatever reason, and that they're going to go to somebody else, 567 00:27:31,480 --> 00:27:34,159 Speaker 1: and like we explain, like we're donating these to somebody 568 00:27:34,160 --> 00:27:38,000 Speaker 1: else that needs them. Um. Sometimes um, they get allowance 569 00:27:38,040 --> 00:27:41,200 Speaker 1: for different little things that they do. Like Stevenson yesterday 570 00:27:41,240 --> 00:27:43,879 Speaker 1: he was picking up dog poop in the backyard and 571 00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:46,280 Speaker 1: you know he got paid for it, but it's that's 572 00:27:46,280 --> 00:27:48,399 Speaker 1: like one of his chores. Some stuff is like a 573 00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:50,240 Speaker 1: given that they have to do around the house, and 574 00:27:50,280 --> 00:27:52,960 Speaker 1: they'll ask for money and I'm like, no, no, it's 575 00:27:53,000 --> 00:27:55,159 Speaker 1: just part of that. It's just what you get for 576 00:27:55,240 --> 00:27:58,600 Speaker 1: being my child. Congratulations. But other things, they have an 577 00:27:58,600 --> 00:28:01,760 Speaker 1: opportunity to make money, and um, you know we've talked 578 00:28:01,760 --> 00:28:04,160 Speaker 1: to them about how maybe they could save it up 579 00:28:04,520 --> 00:28:07,359 Speaker 1: a little bit and then you know how fun it 580 00:28:07,400 --> 00:28:09,320 Speaker 1: is sometimes and I think for kids, they'll see how 581 00:28:09,640 --> 00:28:12,240 Speaker 1: needed is to just pay for something for somebody in 582 00:28:12,359 --> 00:28:15,640 Speaker 1: line forward, say it forward, and just that's a way 583 00:28:15,640 --> 00:28:18,359 Speaker 1: to like spread joy and it to be contagious. And 584 00:28:18,680 --> 00:28:21,879 Speaker 1: in our household we call it pimp and joy. But um, 585 00:28:21,920 --> 00:28:24,160 Speaker 1: that's like a small way to just teach your kid 586 00:28:24,280 --> 00:28:29,080 Speaker 1: random acts of kindness. And then um, obviously like finding 587 00:28:29,119 --> 00:28:31,520 Speaker 1: places to volunteer, like as a family and not just 588 00:28:31,600 --> 00:28:34,159 Speaker 1: going with just you, but gathering the kids to like 589 00:28:34,600 --> 00:28:36,280 Speaker 1: go with you. And now that my dad is in 590 00:28:36,560 --> 00:28:41,400 Speaker 1: a retirement home like it was, it's been made aware 591 00:28:41,480 --> 00:28:44,480 Speaker 1: to me, like how older people that maybe don't have 592 00:28:44,680 --> 00:28:47,480 Speaker 1: a lot of people in their life, like they don't 593 00:28:48,560 --> 00:28:52,840 Speaker 1: they don't get like cards and gifts and like whatever 594 00:28:52,920 --> 00:28:55,800 Speaker 1: the holiday is insert if it's Christmas or Valentine's Day 595 00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:59,120 Speaker 1: or candy whatnot. But you can, you know, as a family, 596 00:28:59,160 --> 00:29:01,080 Speaker 1: you can sit around. Doesn't you'll have to like volunteer 597 00:29:01,080 --> 00:29:04,600 Speaker 1: at some official place, but just even you sitting around 598 00:29:04,600 --> 00:29:09,200 Speaker 1: your kitchen table making cards for some elderly people in 599 00:29:09,240 --> 00:29:12,160 Speaker 1: your neighborhood or at the assistant living place. That's like 600 00:29:12,200 --> 00:29:14,239 Speaker 1: you all volunteering your own little family way and then 601 00:29:14,280 --> 00:29:18,320 Speaker 1: dropping it off, and that's definitely a need, like at 602 00:29:18,400 --> 00:29:20,880 Speaker 1: nursing comes and stuff, because on the holidays, I'm sure 603 00:29:21,360 --> 00:29:23,320 Speaker 1: they're living there because they can't live on their own. 604 00:29:23,400 --> 00:29:25,800 Speaker 1: And some people like we visit my dad all the time, 605 00:29:26,160 --> 00:29:27,920 Speaker 1: but my dad told me some people they don't have 606 00:29:27,960 --> 00:29:31,600 Speaker 1: anybody visit them at all. And he's the youngest one there. 607 00:29:31,680 --> 00:29:34,320 Speaker 1: He's only there because of his He could live on 608 00:29:34,400 --> 00:29:37,080 Speaker 1: his own, but he's just there because of his health 609 00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:43,840 Speaker 1: issues that altered who he is. And yeah, he's he's 610 00:29:43,880 --> 00:29:47,800 Speaker 1: probably like he's six seven, he's seventy eight. He used 611 00:29:47,800 --> 00:29:50,160 Speaker 1: to be like six years old, but seven in his seventies. 612 00:29:50,240 --> 00:29:53,280 Speaker 1: But now he'd say he's kind of like ninety sometimes 613 00:29:53,320 --> 00:29:55,720 Speaker 1: based on how he is. But all the other people 614 00:29:55,760 --> 00:30:00,040 Speaker 1: there are legit like ninety and above, and so he 615 00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:01,720 Speaker 1: he's just brought to light that that's a need. So 616 00:30:01,760 --> 00:30:04,360 Speaker 1: that's something that we do now we're paying a to do. 617 00:30:04,600 --> 00:30:06,560 Speaker 1: Over Halloween, I was trying to take the kids trick 618 00:30:06,640 --> 00:30:09,040 Speaker 1: or treating there because some of the people, some nursing 619 00:30:09,040 --> 00:30:11,560 Speaker 1: comes will let you do that with kids. They'll because 620 00:30:11,560 --> 00:30:13,720 Speaker 1: the elderly, the people that live there, they don't. They 621 00:30:13,800 --> 00:30:16,200 Speaker 1: used to love having trick or treaters come to their house, 622 00:30:16,640 --> 00:30:18,640 Speaker 1: so why not have them come to their little apartment 623 00:30:18,680 --> 00:30:23,760 Speaker 1: door at the community and um my dad's place. Uh, said, 624 00:30:23,760 --> 00:30:26,080 Speaker 1: we could do it, but then we ended up just 625 00:30:26,120 --> 00:30:28,400 Speaker 1: staying in our neighborhood and my dad came over. But 626 00:30:28,440 --> 00:30:30,400 Speaker 1: if we were going to go visit him, they were 627 00:30:30,400 --> 00:30:32,640 Speaker 1: going to trick or treat there, especially because it's maybe 628 00:30:32,640 --> 00:30:35,280 Speaker 1: going to be really bad weather. Um, and that the 629 00:30:35,320 --> 00:30:38,000 Speaker 1: older people were gonna love that. Um My husband was 630 00:30:38,040 --> 00:30:40,520 Speaker 1: in the Air Force for twelve years and he was 631 00:30:40,560 --> 00:30:43,680 Speaker 1: deployed even some Christmases and we would send him big 632 00:30:43,680 --> 00:30:47,320 Speaker 1: care packages, like between his sister and me and his mom, 633 00:30:47,400 --> 00:30:49,400 Speaker 1: and that's all awesome, but he told me there's legit 634 00:30:49,440 --> 00:30:51,720 Speaker 1: guys that would be over there for like long long 635 00:30:51,760 --> 00:30:55,320 Speaker 1: periods of time and not get one bit of mail. So, um, 636 00:30:55,360 --> 00:30:57,920 Speaker 1: we would always include extra things. And you can just 637 00:30:58,040 --> 00:31:00,160 Speaker 1: find addresses of where people are and you can just 638 00:31:00,200 --> 00:31:02,959 Speaker 1: ship it and it will get there. Maybe talk to 639 00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:05,240 Speaker 1: some other military people that you might know and figure 640 00:31:05,280 --> 00:31:08,040 Speaker 1: out addresses of people that are deployed and maybe single 641 00:31:08,080 --> 00:31:09,960 Speaker 1: people or people that don't have a lot of family 642 00:31:10,320 --> 00:31:14,400 Speaker 1: and send care packages to the military because they're over there. 643 00:31:14,560 --> 00:31:16,920 Speaker 1: And some of them. Like my husband said, sometimes he 644 00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:19,160 Speaker 1: would just put stuff. They have a common area at 645 00:31:19,240 --> 00:31:21,400 Speaker 1: least where he was, and he would just set like 646 00:31:21,520 --> 00:31:24,840 Speaker 1: coffee and snacks and different things. We would mail him 647 00:31:24,960 --> 00:31:27,520 Speaker 1: beef jerky and set it out for some of the 648 00:31:27,520 --> 00:31:31,360 Speaker 1: guys that just didn't have anything. So that's another way 649 00:31:31,400 --> 00:31:33,680 Speaker 1: you can get your family involved, just to thinking about 650 00:31:33,720 --> 00:31:40,240 Speaker 1: others that maybe aren't like living exact life that you are. Yeah, 651 00:31:40,680 --> 00:31:43,160 Speaker 1: I think it's everywhere and it's just it's especially just 652 00:31:43,200 --> 00:31:46,480 Speaker 1: in America. So we need to just think about all 653 00:31:46,480 --> 00:31:48,960 Speaker 1: of that. Is there anything else you want to add about? 654 00:31:49,080 --> 00:31:51,200 Speaker 1: I have one less thing that we do as a family, 655 00:31:51,240 --> 00:31:53,320 Speaker 1: and my husband he gets the credit for this. He 656 00:31:53,360 --> 00:31:56,800 Speaker 1: bought those like trash or picker uppers, Like it's on 657 00:31:56,840 --> 00:31:58,680 Speaker 1: a stick and then it has like the little clip 658 00:31:58,840 --> 00:32:01,080 Speaker 1: that you know, you clamp it and it picks up trash. 659 00:32:01,160 --> 00:32:03,200 Speaker 1: You don't have to touch it. And we carry those 660 00:32:03,200 --> 00:32:05,720 Speaker 1: around the neighborhood and the kids pick up trash. That's 661 00:32:05,720 --> 00:32:08,440 Speaker 1: a good thing though. Neighborhood clean it is, and it's 662 00:32:08,480 --> 00:32:12,120 Speaker 1: just again teaching you like, hey, we're gonna help others 663 00:32:12,160 --> 00:32:15,640 Speaker 1: and keep this. Like in Haiti too, they just throw 664 00:32:15,640 --> 00:32:17,720 Speaker 1: trash everywhere. So it took a while for my kids 665 00:32:17,720 --> 00:32:21,560 Speaker 1: to understand that concept. They were like what because literally 666 00:32:21,560 --> 00:32:23,280 Speaker 1: you just eat something and throw it on the ground. 667 00:32:23,280 --> 00:32:25,920 Speaker 1: They're like, it does not it really doesn't phaze it. 668 00:32:25,920 --> 00:32:29,880 Speaker 1: It's not illegal. It's like literally there's something like into 669 00:32:29,920 --> 00:32:31,920 Speaker 1: I'm from Texas, like don't mess with Texas. So you 670 00:32:32,040 --> 00:32:34,520 Speaker 1: just like litteral campaign, but you're not gonna get fined 671 00:32:34,560 --> 00:32:38,360 Speaker 1: any money and at all. Um. So that was an 672 00:32:38,440 --> 00:32:41,719 Speaker 1: interesting it's still I have to watch them, Like when 673 00:32:41,760 --> 00:32:43,120 Speaker 1: they were first here, they would like just take a 674 00:32:43,120 --> 00:32:44,560 Speaker 1: wrapper and stor on the ground and I was like, no, 675 00:32:45,160 --> 00:32:48,320 Speaker 1: like that's no, that's not allowed in America. That's like 676 00:32:48,360 --> 00:32:51,800 Speaker 1: taking pride in where you live too, exactly. And so 677 00:32:52,040 --> 00:32:53,959 Speaker 1: that's another thing that you can do as a family 678 00:32:54,160 --> 00:32:57,800 Speaker 1: that's thinking about others in your community and you know, 679 00:32:57,880 --> 00:33:01,720 Speaker 1: just loving your neighbors in your area and um, respecting 680 00:33:01,760 --> 00:33:03,960 Speaker 1: your things so you can go have a little you know, 681 00:33:04,000 --> 00:33:06,040 Speaker 1: gone a Saturday morning walk with your coffee and your 682 00:33:06,120 --> 00:33:10,480 Speaker 1: kids and your dog and pick up trash like it's fun. Um. 683 00:33:10,560 --> 00:33:14,360 Speaker 1: And then another thing we did with our neighbors too recently, 684 00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:16,320 Speaker 1: and we still need to get better about getting to 685 00:33:16,400 --> 00:33:18,360 Speaker 1: know some of them more better. And when I had 686 00:33:18,400 --> 00:33:21,080 Speaker 1: Bob Goff on my podcast, he's amazing, by the way, 687 00:33:21,120 --> 00:33:22,720 Speaker 1: if you don't know anything about him, just look him up. 688 00:33:22,760 --> 00:33:26,960 Speaker 1: Bob Goff. Um, he's great at loving others and loving neighbors. 689 00:33:27,000 --> 00:33:30,080 Speaker 1: And he reminded me, like, and we need to be 690 00:33:30,080 --> 00:33:33,800 Speaker 1: better at that. Um, like my Legit neighbors, which really 691 00:33:34,320 --> 00:33:38,080 Speaker 1: loving others, serving others, and loving your neighbors. Uh, there's 692 00:33:38,080 --> 00:33:41,560 Speaker 1: no borders on that at all. Like for me, sometimes 693 00:33:41,560 --> 00:33:44,120 Speaker 1: there's people that question why I adopted from Haiti and 694 00:33:44,120 --> 00:33:48,200 Speaker 1: not America, because there's kids that need homes here and 695 00:33:48,240 --> 00:33:52,720 Speaker 1: we were pursuing a domestic adoption. But because of our 696 00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:55,440 Speaker 1: hearts and a lot what we felt was right for us, 697 00:33:55,680 --> 00:33:58,920 Speaker 1: we landed in Haiti. And so to judge anybody for that, 698 00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:00,720 Speaker 1: to me is a little bit we heard, but I 699 00:34:00,760 --> 00:34:03,680 Speaker 1: still get judged dory, but it's fine. But so I 700 00:34:03,720 --> 00:34:05,760 Speaker 1: will just put that reminder out there that there's no 701 00:34:06,760 --> 00:34:08,839 Speaker 1: like loving your neighbor can be literally your next door 702 00:34:08,840 --> 00:34:11,520 Speaker 1: neighbor or halfway around the world or all the way 703 00:34:11,680 --> 00:34:16,839 Speaker 1: like whatever. Um. But Bob Goff in particular, he just 704 00:34:16,920 --> 00:34:22,160 Speaker 1: like Legit, loves his neighbors next door and beyond, and 705 00:34:22,200 --> 00:34:24,120 Speaker 1: he just reminded me, We've got to be better at that. 706 00:34:24,160 --> 00:34:26,440 Speaker 1: So I've been trying to like talk to my neighbors more, 707 00:34:26,480 --> 00:34:28,719 Speaker 1: do whatever. But my kids, when I was trying to 708 00:34:28,760 --> 00:34:30,960 Speaker 1: teach them what neighbors were when they first got here, 709 00:34:31,000 --> 00:34:34,240 Speaker 1: I had them baked cookies and go door to door 710 00:34:34,280 --> 00:34:36,520 Speaker 1: and drop them off, like knock on the front door. 711 00:34:36,560 --> 00:34:37,920 Speaker 1: We went as a family and we knocked on the 712 00:34:37,960 --> 00:34:40,400 Speaker 1: door and they said, here, we made you cookies. And 713 00:34:40,440 --> 00:34:43,080 Speaker 1: that was a way of like just showing our neighbors 714 00:34:43,120 --> 00:34:45,680 Speaker 1: a little bit of love. And so that's another thing 715 00:34:45,719 --> 00:34:47,200 Speaker 1: you can do just to get out and that way 716 00:34:47,239 --> 00:34:51,000 Speaker 1: you can maybe and again I am preaching to myself 717 00:34:51,120 --> 00:34:54,720 Speaker 1: right now, but if we get to know our neighbors 718 00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:57,680 Speaker 1: and those around us, like our literal ones, um, we 719 00:34:57,719 --> 00:34:59,560 Speaker 1: may learn some of their needs and how we can 720 00:34:59,600 --> 00:35:05,760 Speaker 1: better serve them literally. Um. Speaking of the hat makers, 721 00:35:05,800 --> 00:35:07,640 Speaker 1: I guess I just have different memories popping up into 722 00:35:07,640 --> 00:35:10,480 Speaker 1: my head, especially because I just talked about them, Um, 723 00:35:10,520 --> 00:35:13,520 Speaker 1: you know, feeding the homeless over Easter. But I think 724 00:35:13,560 --> 00:35:15,400 Speaker 1: him one of Jen's books, and now I can't remember 725 00:35:15,400 --> 00:35:19,680 Speaker 1: which one, Like her husband Brandon was maybe thinking about 726 00:35:20,360 --> 00:35:21,840 Speaker 1: I shouldn't have said names, because now I don't know 727 00:35:21,840 --> 00:35:23,759 Speaker 1: if I'm even given getting the story right, But either way, 728 00:35:23,760 --> 00:35:26,120 Speaker 1: it's a good story. Just don't make the names. Um, 729 00:35:26,160 --> 00:35:28,279 Speaker 1: it might be right. But but he was trying to 730 00:35:28,320 --> 00:35:33,399 Speaker 1: practice loving others, like literally his serving his neighbor and 731 00:35:33,440 --> 00:35:35,960 Speaker 1: they he had noticed that, um, and I think he 732 00:35:36,120 --> 00:35:38,239 Speaker 1: mean he was a pastor and he's like, I'm a 733 00:35:38,280 --> 00:35:42,160 Speaker 1: dumb dumb like my neighbor's yard was like wildly out 734 00:35:42,160 --> 00:35:45,040 Speaker 1: of control, hadn't been mode, but he just went and 735 00:35:45,080 --> 00:35:48,640 Speaker 1: got his mower one day and went and mode the yard. 736 00:35:49,040 --> 00:35:53,400 Speaker 1: And that was super helpful. I mean, given somebody's circumstances, 737 00:35:53,480 --> 00:35:55,600 Speaker 1: I mean some neighbor might get really offended or like, 738 00:35:55,600 --> 00:35:57,719 Speaker 1: what are you trying to say about my yard? I 739 00:35:57,760 --> 00:35:59,640 Speaker 1: should ask first, But I mean it was a legit 740 00:35:59,719 --> 00:36:01,759 Speaker 1: any where it needed to be done, and I think 741 00:36:01,800 --> 00:36:04,520 Speaker 1: it was a huge blessing to that neighbor. So I'm 742 00:36:04,560 --> 00:36:06,920 Speaker 1: not saying, yeah, just go start chopping down trees or 743 00:36:07,040 --> 00:36:11,160 Speaker 1: like mowing yards, but like look around you, Like that's 744 00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:14,160 Speaker 1: a good reminder to like literally look right next to you, 745 00:36:14,320 --> 00:36:16,959 Speaker 1: and is there a need that maybe you could hop 746 00:36:17,000 --> 00:36:21,560 Speaker 1: in and love someone or bless someone with a simple 747 00:36:21,600 --> 00:36:24,799 Speaker 1: act as pulling out your lawnmower. That's what I keep 748 00:36:24,840 --> 00:36:27,200 Speaker 1: hearing just so much and thinking. The word awareness just 749 00:36:27,280 --> 00:36:29,200 Speaker 1: keeps popping into my head, and I think it is 750 00:36:29,200 --> 00:36:32,760 Speaker 1: just getting outside of yourself, especially in the holiday season 751 00:36:32,920 --> 00:36:35,920 Speaker 1: that can be so difficult for so many people. It's 752 00:36:35,920 --> 00:36:38,520 Speaker 1: a great time to just really try to think about 753 00:36:38,560 --> 00:36:41,680 Speaker 1: someone else other than yourself, and such a good thing 754 00:36:41,680 --> 00:36:43,640 Speaker 1: to teach the kids early. Like you said, so it's 755 00:36:43,680 --> 00:36:47,600 Speaker 1: just instinctual to think that way. I love that you 756 00:36:47,600 --> 00:36:50,040 Speaker 1: guys can go check out the organization we've been talking 757 00:36:50,040 --> 00:36:53,839 Speaker 1: about Home Street Home Tennessee at Home Street Home Tennessee 758 00:36:53,960 --> 00:36:59,279 Speaker 1: dot org um. The Tennessee is just Home stret Home, 759 00:36:59,400 --> 00:37:03,520 Speaker 1: t and org um. There's places to donate, like we said. 760 00:37:03,600 --> 00:37:07,160 Speaker 1: Also if you are in Nashville, there's places to set 761 00:37:07,239 --> 00:37:09,840 Speaker 1: up that you're willing to volunteer and they'll kind of 762 00:37:09,880 --> 00:37:11,440 Speaker 1: reach out to you and figure out what the right 763 00:37:11,480 --> 00:37:13,160 Speaker 1: fit for that would be. Yeah. I think they have 764 00:37:13,200 --> 00:37:15,960 Speaker 1: like a food pantry and the survival supplies because if 765 00:37:16,000 --> 00:37:18,520 Speaker 1: you think about like Mary who runs the shop Forward, 766 00:37:18,880 --> 00:37:20,960 Speaker 1: she has shows all of her Pimp and joy stuff 767 00:37:20,960 --> 00:37:23,360 Speaker 1: and all the stuff with me, but she has like 768 00:37:23,360 --> 00:37:26,120 Speaker 1: a bigger clothing company that makes sweaters and all kinds 769 00:37:26,160 --> 00:37:28,440 Speaker 1: of stuff, and they had some beanies that they had 770 00:37:28,480 --> 00:37:31,680 Speaker 1: made for like, you know, I don't know, a big 771 00:37:32,680 --> 00:37:35,360 Speaker 1: order from a company, and something went wrong with the 772 00:37:35,400 --> 00:37:39,279 Speaker 1: beanie slightly, like they're fine. Beanies are fine, but the 773 00:37:40,000 --> 00:37:42,960 Speaker 1: client rejected them. So she had like two thousand beanies 774 00:37:43,600 --> 00:37:45,200 Speaker 1: and she's like, oh my gosh, like I don't know 775 00:37:45,239 --> 00:37:47,640 Speaker 1: what to do. So she hit me up about Home 776 00:37:47,680 --> 00:37:48,960 Speaker 1: Street Home and she was like, hey, do you think 777 00:37:49,000 --> 00:37:52,759 Speaker 1: they would want these? I mean, and it gets cold here, um, 778 00:37:52,840 --> 00:37:55,480 Speaker 1: and so she's shipping all those beanies, so I mean, 779 00:37:55,520 --> 00:37:58,640 Speaker 1: just even think of that, like just stuff that maybe 780 00:37:59,000 --> 00:38:03,480 Speaker 1: quote unquote not usable for you. But they're still in 781 00:38:03,560 --> 00:38:06,720 Speaker 1: great quality condition because and they still had the tags 782 00:38:06,719 --> 00:38:08,080 Speaker 1: on them, which I think is going to be super 783 00:38:08,080 --> 00:38:10,680 Speaker 1: special because again, they're really nothing wrong with these beanies, 784 00:38:11,120 --> 00:38:13,399 Speaker 1: but um, they're going to get like a brand new 785 00:38:13,440 --> 00:38:16,799 Speaker 1: beanie with a tag, and like for them to get 786 00:38:16,800 --> 00:38:18,600 Speaker 1: something new, because I'm sure they're used to getting like 787 00:38:18,640 --> 00:38:20,960 Speaker 1: hand me down, but I don't know that. When I 788 00:38:21,000 --> 00:38:23,120 Speaker 1: read Survival Supplies and made me think of that because 789 00:38:23,600 --> 00:38:28,520 Speaker 1: like camping gear and thick warm clothing and waterproof stuff, 790 00:38:28,560 --> 00:38:31,640 Speaker 1: Like there's just things you don't like sometimes when it's 791 00:38:31,680 --> 00:38:35,680 Speaker 1: storming here, like storming and you're safe inside your house. 792 00:38:36,400 --> 00:38:38,239 Speaker 1: Like I'm not saying this is my first thought, but 793 00:38:38,280 --> 00:38:40,120 Speaker 1: I do have a thought eventually, I guess now because 794 00:38:40,160 --> 00:38:41,640 Speaker 1: this is kind of on top of mind for me. 795 00:38:41,680 --> 00:38:44,400 Speaker 1: But it was like raining like crazy the other day 796 00:38:44,600 --> 00:38:47,040 Speaker 1: and I thought, oh my gosh, like what if I 797 00:38:47,080 --> 00:38:48,799 Speaker 1: was just outside with nowhere to go and this was 798 00:38:48,840 --> 00:38:52,279 Speaker 1: my current situation, or when's snowing. I always think about 799 00:38:52,280 --> 00:38:56,880 Speaker 1: it with snow. No, it's crazy, Okay, So yeah, survival 800 00:38:56,920 --> 00:39:01,359 Speaker 1: supplies in case you have gear. Amy, thank you for 801 00:39:01,440 --> 00:39:04,240 Speaker 1: being here and telling us about all of this. Um 802 00:39:04,280 --> 00:39:06,800 Speaker 1: these ideas, I think they're really great, especially for the kids. 803 00:39:07,200 --> 00:39:11,400 Speaker 1: You guys can follow Amy at Radio Amy on Instagram 804 00:39:11,520 --> 00:39:14,640 Speaker 1: or you're on every social media as at radio Amy. Right, 805 00:39:15,280 --> 00:39:18,120 Speaker 1: and then what's your website Radio Amy dot com Radio 806 00:39:18,200 --> 00:39:21,920 Speaker 1: Amy dot com. Amy Brown was taken. So but whatever 807 00:39:21,960 --> 00:39:23,960 Speaker 1: people know me as radio Me. I feel like sometimes 808 00:39:23,960 --> 00:39:25,720 Speaker 1: when I say I'm Amy Brown, they were like who 809 00:39:26,160 --> 00:39:28,799 Speaker 1: I'm like Radio Amy, and they're like, oh yeah, well, 810 00:39:28,800 --> 00:39:30,840 Speaker 1: and they can obviously listen to you every morning on 811 00:39:30,880 --> 00:39:34,200 Speaker 1: the Bobby Bone Show. You, guys. Check out Amy, She's 812 00:39:34,239 --> 00:39:36,720 Speaker 1: got lots of stuff going on, and the shop Squat 813 00:39:37,040 --> 00:39:40,680 Speaker 1: and Pimp and Joy all of it, shot Forward. These 814 00:39:40,680 --> 00:39:43,439 Speaker 1: are all really great organizations. They give back, but also 815 00:39:43,480 --> 00:39:45,520 Speaker 1: the products are really cute. I mean I have my 816 00:39:45,560 --> 00:39:48,359 Speaker 1: bag with Kelly Approved. Yeah, Kelly is caring four things. 817 00:39:48,400 --> 00:39:53,719 Speaker 1: So that does Fsta Cista Tequila repeat for me. 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