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Speaker 1: Well, Steve, this is from Sylvester in Lexington. Sylvester says, I.

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Speaker 2: First of all, let me say this what what? I

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Speaker 2: don't know? How old Sylvester is? Whatever? He finna ask me?

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Speaker 2: He ought to know by now what.

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Speaker 1: Life experience?

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Speaker 2: Come on, Sylvester, don't come on all right?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Out of Lexington, Kentucky. He says, I'm in a

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Speaker 1: long distance relationship, and my side piece knows it. She

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Speaker 1: got too comfortable with pump popping up at my house,

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Speaker 1: so I have stopped her from coming over. I go

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Speaker 1: to her house whenever we're together. She thinks I'm messing

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Speaker 1: with someone else, but she knows when I am not

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Speaker 1: with her, I'm visiting my girlfriend. It's starting to feel

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Speaker 1: like a relationship. She's special to me. So how do

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Speaker 1: I stop the nagging?

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Speaker 2: I can't stop see you sleeping with her? He got

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Speaker 2: a girlfriend?

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Speaker 3: Oh okay, but now you sleeping with a woman and

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Speaker 3: she can't say nothing to you.

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Speaker 1: I'm well, I heard got a girl friend though.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, he got a girlfriend. But she long distance? Yeah

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Speaker 2: she is.

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Speaker 3: What the side piece is trying to do is replace her.

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Speaker 3: She trying to move her out. She she got a

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Speaker 3: competition going on and now you peeling back talking about

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Speaker 3: you can't come over here no more. I'm just gonna

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Speaker 3: come over there. Now she's see the difference. Now she nagging?

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Speaker 3: How do I stop her from nagging? Stop seeing her?

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Speaker 2: That didn't work at it. Yeah, he can't bring down

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Speaker 2: a lesson. All right? So, like I said, Sylvester, according

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Speaker 2: to the name, he.

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Speaker 1: Finished life experience.

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Speaker 2: Come on, Sylvester.

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Speaker 3: Last person you knew name Sylvester was that cat on

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Speaker 3: that car too?

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Speaker 1: All right, we have for another one, Steve. This one

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Speaker 1: is from Katina and Dayton. Katina says, I've been with

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Speaker 1: my boyfriend for two years and we have a newborn son.

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Speaker 1: I started the marriage conversation and I found out that

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Speaker 1: we don't have the same values. He does not believe

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Speaker 1: in having joint bank accounts. If we got married, and

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Speaker 1: he said I'd be responsible for the housework and taking

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Speaker 1: care of the baby. He told me that I can

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Speaker 1: hire somebody to help, but I would have to pay

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Speaker 1: for that. I told him, he sounds crazy. He said,

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Speaker 1: I have a choice, and if I can't get with

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Speaker 1: his conditions, then we don't need to think about getting married.

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Speaker 1: Do you think I could ever convince him to change

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Speaker 1: the way he thinks.

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Speaker 3: No.

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Speaker 2: See, first of all, listen to me.

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Speaker 3: I guess you already realized, young sister, that you've done

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Speaker 3: this thing a little bit out of order because now

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Speaker 3: you've created a family. But now he don't want a family,

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Speaker 3: and so now he knows he got the upper hand.

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Speaker 3: So he's laying down some preconditions and you need to

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Speaker 3: accept this or rejected. And now he got you thinking

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Speaker 3: this up to you. It's his way or the highway. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: but see, that's what happens when you when you when you,

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Speaker 3: when you get it out of order. And I'm not

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Speaker 3: judging you, because the life happens to the best of us,

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Speaker 3: you know, so I'm not judging you for getting it

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Speaker 3: out of order. But this is the problem that happens

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Speaker 3: when it goes out of order, and it's kind of

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Speaker 3: hard to get it adjusted back.

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Speaker 2: Around ever get him to change.

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Speaker 3: You're dealing with a man that don't understand manhood, and

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Speaker 3: so how are you going to teach it to him

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Speaker 3: when you're not a man? See what didn't happen to

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Speaker 3: these young cats now is I don't know where they

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Speaker 3: got off the bandwagon at, but they are off the wagon,

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Speaker 3: are taking care of a.

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Speaker 2: Woman when that is your job.

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Speaker 3: See, look, man, this woman did something that he does

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Speaker 3: not have the ability to do. She made another hilp.

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Speaker 3: Now that is a major item to bring to the table.

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Speaker 3: So now she she's made another youth. You don't have

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Speaker 3: enough gumption, gall in manhood in you to take care

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Speaker 3: of her and the other youth when that is your obligation.

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Speaker 3: You know where was you at with all these pre

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Speaker 3: rules when you was up there doing your thing with it.

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Speaker 2: Right? Correct?

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Speaker 3: I feel sorry for women who get themselves in this position.

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Speaker 3: Many just an inadequate dude coming in here with that.

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Speaker 3: You got to pay for all. If we ain't gonna

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Speaker 3: have no joint bank accounting, man, why would you go

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Speaker 3: to marry this fool?

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Speaker 2: Anyway?

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Speaker 1: Anyway, Yeah, all right, you're listening to the Steve Harvey

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Speaker 1: Morning Show.