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Speaker 1: Welcome to this week's episode of Cheek Ease and Chill.

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Speaker 1: I'm your host, Cheeks, and I hope your week is

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Speaker 1: going great so far. Today marks the last Monday in

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Speaker 1: the month of April. Can you guys believe that? And

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Speaker 1: you know what, April is also financial Literacy Month, So

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Speaker 1: today that's what we're gonna be talking about. Money, finances,

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Speaker 1: another episode of cheek Ease and Chill. Money is such

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Speaker 1: of you know, I didn't come from money. I grew

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Speaker 1: So when my mom had me, she was fifteen, two

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Speaker 1: soon as he found out that she was pregnant, he

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Speaker 1: my grandma's house because my grandma said, well, if you're pregnant,

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Speaker 1: My mom was a hustler. That's one thing that like,

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Speaker 1: so I grew up on Kicks, you guys. I didn't

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Speaker 1: When I remember in fifth grade I would go to school,

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Speaker 1: I think because she would come home, honestly, and she'd

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Speaker 1: ask and I'll help you. And one thing that I

429
00:20:19,040 --> 00:20:21,960
Speaker 1: think I know, because you know, money is sometimes a

430
00:20:22,080 --> 00:20:25,600
Speaker 1: very touchy subject to talk about, especially when it comes

431
00:20:25,680 --> 00:20:30,239
Speaker 1: to money in relationships. And I have always been a

432
00:20:30,320 --> 00:20:33,800
Speaker 1: very fifty fifty type of girl, like I don't expect

433
00:20:33,920 --> 00:20:36,040
Speaker 1: my partner to take care of me, and I don't

434
00:20:36,080 --> 00:20:38,280
Speaker 1: want my partner to expect for me to take care

435
00:20:38,280 --> 00:20:42,520
Speaker 1: of him, because that can definitely cause an imbalanced and

436
00:20:42,680 --> 00:20:46,239
Speaker 1: tension in your love life. I've kind of been on

437
00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:48,479
Speaker 1: both sides of the spectrum, to be honest. I had

438
00:20:48,480 --> 00:20:50,040
Speaker 1: a guy that had a lot of money and took

439
00:20:50,080 --> 00:20:52,639
Speaker 1: care of me and was there for me if I needed,

440
00:20:52,680 --> 00:20:54,520
Speaker 1: if I had a bad day or if I was

441
00:20:54,560 --> 00:20:58,159
Speaker 1: having you know, he would come and he would help me,

442
00:20:58,280 --> 00:20:59,600
Speaker 1: you know, and I wouldn't ask for it to be

443
00:20:59,640 --> 00:21:00,919
Speaker 1: like no, I'm to pay you back. He's like no.

444
00:21:01,000 --> 00:21:03,439
Speaker 1: He always wanted to provide, but I always felt like

445
00:21:03,480 --> 00:21:05,199
Speaker 1: because of what had happened with my mom. There was

446
00:21:05,280 --> 00:21:08,680
Speaker 1: like strings attached to it, so I didn't want to

447
00:21:08,720 --> 00:21:10,160
Speaker 1: take too much of his help, but he was always

448
00:21:10,200 --> 00:21:12,159
Speaker 1: there to help me. And then I was in a

449
00:21:12,200 --> 00:21:14,720
Speaker 1: relationship where I had to be more of the provider,

450
00:21:14,760 --> 00:21:17,919
Speaker 1: which I was fine with because I felt like, I

451
00:21:17,960 --> 00:21:21,120
Speaker 1: love this person and he's going through a bad time

452
00:21:21,400 --> 00:21:23,040
Speaker 1: financially and I want to be there to help him.

453
00:21:23,080 --> 00:21:24,840
Speaker 1: And I did help him, and I don't regret that,

454
00:21:24,920 --> 00:21:28,119
Speaker 1: and I feel like as a partner, we have to

455
00:21:28,160 --> 00:21:33,919
Speaker 1: have each other's back and say, okay, guendo. You know,

456
00:21:34,640 --> 00:21:37,399
Speaker 1: I don't think that there's anything wrong with even if

457
00:21:37,400 --> 00:21:39,960
Speaker 1: it's the woman, let's say, going out and being the

458
00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:42,600
Speaker 1: bread winner of the home. You know, as long as

459
00:21:42,720 --> 00:21:46,480
Speaker 1: the man is comfortable with that and secure enough to know, okay,

460
00:21:46,480 --> 00:21:49,959
Speaker 1: that's fine. But sometimes men, especially in our culture, can

461
00:21:49,960 --> 00:21:54,600
Speaker 1: be a little muchis then it's like no, or they'll

462
00:21:54,600 --> 00:21:58,080
Speaker 1: start feeling inferior, in inadequate if their woman makes more

463
00:21:58,080 --> 00:21:59,880
Speaker 1: money than they do, And I don't think that should

464
00:21:59,880 --> 00:22:01,760
Speaker 1: be an issue. I just feel like, if your woman

465
00:22:01,800 --> 00:22:03,600
Speaker 1: makes more money, that's cool, as long as you're bringing

466
00:22:03,600 --> 00:22:05,159
Speaker 1: in what you can and not just sitting there and

467
00:22:05,200 --> 00:22:08,760
Speaker 1: being lazy, sitting there and being lazy and expecting, you know,

468
00:22:08,800 --> 00:22:10,480
Speaker 1: your partner to take care of you. That's a whole

469
00:22:10,520 --> 00:22:12,439
Speaker 1: other thing. Like you have to help out. Like I

470
00:22:12,440 --> 00:22:14,440
Speaker 1: feel like if you're the woman that stays at home

471
00:22:14,840 --> 00:22:17,560
Speaker 1: and the man is the one that's out being the breadwinner,

472
00:22:18,920 --> 00:22:21,480
Speaker 1: like you have to be okay with cleaning and cooking

473
00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:23,400
Speaker 1: and making sure that the house is taken care of.

474
00:22:23,440 --> 00:22:25,320
Speaker 1: Like I just feel like you have to help each

475
00:22:25,359 --> 00:22:28,200
Speaker 1: other out. That's my personal opinion. I would always say

476
00:22:28,200 --> 00:22:29,639
Speaker 1: my mom was a husband for a long time. She

477
00:22:29,760 --> 00:22:31,720
Speaker 1: was the husband that would go out and make the money,

478
00:22:31,720 --> 00:22:34,600
Speaker 1: and I was the wife that would stay home with

479
00:22:34,640 --> 00:22:36,520
Speaker 1: the kids. But I made sure the house is clean,

480
00:22:36,600 --> 00:22:39,160
Speaker 1: the kids were fed, the homework was done, clothes was washed.

481
00:22:39,480 --> 00:22:41,320
Speaker 1: I felt like a very good housewife to my mother.

482
00:22:41,600 --> 00:22:42,879
Speaker 1: And I would take care of the bills and I

483
00:22:42,920 --> 00:22:46,800
Speaker 1: made sure everything got paid on time, and and I

484
00:22:46,800 --> 00:22:50,800
Speaker 1: would buy stuff that were unnecessary, like two dollar shoes.

485
00:22:50,880 --> 00:22:53,920
Speaker 1: Are you freaking kidding me? With my mom's money. That's

486
00:22:53,920 --> 00:22:55,560
Speaker 1: something if you guys watch the reality show, you guys

487
00:22:55,600 --> 00:22:58,359
Speaker 1: saw that. But I've learned, you guys, I learned. I learned.

488
00:22:58,440 --> 00:23:01,000
Speaker 1: But the house is always take care of so in relationships,

489
00:23:01,080 --> 00:23:03,480
Speaker 1: I think it is important to have that conversation early

490
00:23:03,560 --> 00:23:07,840
Speaker 1: on in the relationship and be honest and just say, hey,

491
00:23:07,880 --> 00:23:10,000
Speaker 1: this is my financial situation. I can help you with

492
00:23:10,040 --> 00:23:12,879
Speaker 1: this amount, or I'll pay for the food and you

493
00:23:12,960 --> 00:23:15,119
Speaker 1: pay for this. I just think it's a conversation that

494
00:23:15,200 --> 00:23:18,719
Speaker 1: needs to happen very early on, you guys, and no

495
00:23:18,760 --> 00:23:22,880
Speaker 1: one should feel bad if they can't or don't make

496
00:23:22,960 --> 00:23:31,639
Speaker 1: as much money as your partner. I pulled up a

497
00:23:31,680 --> 00:23:33,360
Speaker 1: couple of quotes that I wanted to share with you, guys,

498
00:23:33,400 --> 00:23:35,520
Speaker 1: because I kind of want to dissect these and kind

499
00:23:35,560 --> 00:23:38,040
Speaker 1: of tell you and how my relationship with money has

500
00:23:38,080 --> 00:23:42,320
Speaker 1: evolved and how important it is to look at money

501
00:23:42,359 --> 00:23:45,920
Speaker 1: for what it is. For instance, this one stopped buying

502
00:23:45,960 --> 00:23:49,000
Speaker 1: things you don't need to impress people you don't like.

503
00:23:49,640 --> 00:23:52,480
Speaker 1: Let me read that again. Stop buying things you don't

504
00:23:52,520 --> 00:23:57,919
Speaker 1: need to impress people you don't like. That's crazy, you, guys,

505
00:23:58,200 --> 00:24:01,600
Speaker 1: And I think that happens at now, especially with social

506
00:24:01,600 --> 00:24:04,439
Speaker 1: media and the facade that so many people and the

507
00:24:04,480 --> 00:24:08,840
Speaker 1: front that people put on social media that they basically

508
00:24:08,880 --> 00:24:12,320
Speaker 1: live out of their means and everyone wants to show

509
00:24:12,320 --> 00:24:15,200
Speaker 1: off their Louis Vatan bag their rolegs there this they're

510
00:24:15,240 --> 00:24:18,360
Speaker 1: that like, and people live out of their means. They

511
00:24:18,400 --> 00:24:21,320
Speaker 1: won't pay their rent to purchase something that they can

512
00:24:21,359 --> 00:24:24,480
Speaker 1: just go flex with on social media for people that

513
00:24:24,520 --> 00:24:27,399
Speaker 1: you don't even know, for people that you don't even like,

514
00:24:27,480 --> 00:24:30,200
Speaker 1: and you just want to impress and show them like, look,

515
00:24:30,000 --> 00:24:32,720
Speaker 1: I got this, Like I am that bad bitch, and

516
00:24:32,760 --> 00:24:35,920
Speaker 1: you're really just digging yourself in a deeper hole financially.

517
00:24:36,400 --> 00:24:38,280
Speaker 1: That's the worst thing that we could do. Like I

518
00:24:38,320 --> 00:24:40,800
Speaker 1: have told myself plenty of times, not just because I

519
00:24:40,840 --> 00:24:43,320
Speaker 1: can buy it, does that mean that I need it,

520
00:24:43,480 --> 00:24:46,680
Speaker 1: that I should buy it? And I've had to bring

521
00:24:46,720 --> 00:24:50,040
Speaker 1: myself back, you know, because you just never know what

522
00:24:50,080 --> 00:24:52,600
Speaker 1: will happen. But you also don't have to be afraid

523
00:24:52,760 --> 00:24:54,280
Speaker 1: of saying like, oh my god, no, no, no no, no,

524
00:24:54,320 --> 00:24:55,760
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna have enough. I'm not gonna have enough.

525
00:24:56,040 --> 00:24:58,600
Speaker 1: The more you say that, the less that you will have.

526
00:24:58,960 --> 00:25:01,360
Speaker 1: You always have to say, I'm a abundant, I'm prosperous.

527
00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:04,440
Speaker 1: It could sound cliche, but it's I really believe in

528
00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:06,600
Speaker 1: the law of attraction, you guys, and if you keep

529
00:25:06,600 --> 00:25:08,960
Speaker 1: going out there, I'm broke. How I ain't got no money,

530
00:25:09,280 --> 00:25:11,879
Speaker 1: and this and that, like you are going to be broke,

531
00:25:12,119 --> 00:25:13,880
Speaker 1: like you need to be like, oh you know right now,

532
00:25:13,880 --> 00:25:17,600
Speaker 1: I'm saving. I'm saving. It's just all in how you

533
00:25:18,119 --> 00:25:21,320
Speaker 1: express it and how you say it, especially out loud

534
00:25:21,359 --> 00:25:24,919
Speaker 1: and even to yourself quietly. I always say myself to myself,

535
00:25:24,960 --> 00:25:26,720
Speaker 1: I have more than enough. I have more than enough,

536
00:25:27,240 --> 00:25:30,280
Speaker 1: you know, And I thank God. Always remember the attitude

537
00:25:30,280 --> 00:25:32,840
Speaker 1: of gratitude you guys, which is thank you God, thank

538
00:25:32,880 --> 00:25:35,520
Speaker 1: you that I have made end meet this month, thank

539
00:25:35,520 --> 00:25:37,919
Speaker 1: you for always giving me more than enough. It's just

540
00:25:38,040 --> 00:25:39,840
Speaker 1: all of that, you know. But that's one big thing

541
00:25:39,840 --> 00:25:41,960
Speaker 1: that I wanted to bring up. Was not just because

542
00:25:41,960 --> 00:25:44,000
Speaker 1: you can afford it, does that mean that you need it?

543
00:25:44,640 --> 00:25:45,800
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? Like I always ask do

544
00:25:45,840 --> 00:25:48,880
Speaker 1: I really need this? Because of course I like nice things.

545
00:25:48,920 --> 00:25:50,680
Speaker 1: Of course I want to buy those shoes, but I'm like, okay,

546
00:25:50,680 --> 00:25:52,240
Speaker 1: I already have a pair of white shoes. I don't

547
00:25:52,240 --> 00:25:56,760
Speaker 1: need five. I was that person before when I like something,

548
00:25:56,760 --> 00:25:59,080
Speaker 1: I would buy it in every freaking color and I'm

549
00:25:59,080 --> 00:26:00,960
Speaker 1: like okay, Like you know, you have to be a

550
00:26:00,960 --> 00:26:03,680
Speaker 1: little reasonable gene like by the black and the white.

551
00:26:03,800 --> 00:26:05,840
Speaker 1: You don't need to pink, the purple, the red. Like

552
00:26:06,520 --> 00:26:09,320
Speaker 1: I've learned to just say, Okay, do I really need this?

553
00:26:09,480 --> 00:26:12,080
Speaker 1: Is this a live with or live without? I always

554
00:26:12,080 --> 00:26:14,560
Speaker 1: ask myself that when I'm shopping too. It's just things

555
00:26:14,600 --> 00:26:17,040
Speaker 1: like that that I feel are important to ask ourselves.

556
00:26:17,280 --> 00:26:19,239
Speaker 1: Am I buying this to impress someone? Or am I

557
00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:23,200
Speaker 1: buying this really because I need it because it's a necessity.

558
00:26:23,840 --> 00:26:27,120
Speaker 1: Here's another one. Success isn't about how much money you make.

559
00:26:27,400 --> 00:26:30,840
Speaker 1: It's about the difference you make in people's lives. Look,

560
00:26:31,600 --> 00:26:35,040
Speaker 1: I feel, yes I get money, Yes I'm bringing in money,

561
00:26:35,080 --> 00:26:37,400
Speaker 1: but I also find ways of how can I give back?

562
00:26:37,480 --> 00:26:40,840
Speaker 1: How can I help? It doesn't have to be a stranger.

563
00:26:41,080 --> 00:26:45,040
Speaker 1: It could be a family member, it could be for me.

564
00:26:45,080 --> 00:26:48,800
Speaker 1: It's like you have to make it rotate how it comes.

565
00:26:48,840 --> 00:26:51,840
Speaker 1: You also have to learn to give back, pay it forward.

566
00:26:52,280 --> 00:26:53,959
Speaker 1: And I'm not saying all of your money, but for

567
00:26:54,000 --> 00:26:56,760
Speaker 1: me it is important, like how can I make a

568
00:26:56,760 --> 00:27:00,480
Speaker 1: difference in people's lives? Can look at or someone has

569
00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:02,719
Speaker 1: Like even when you pass by and you see that

570
00:27:02,760 --> 00:27:05,879
Speaker 1: person in the heat, you know it's super hot outside,

571
00:27:05,880 --> 00:27:09,480
Speaker 1: they're selling flowers always like you know what, I'll buy

572
00:27:09,520 --> 00:27:12,200
Speaker 1: one and then I'll just give him an extra where

573
00:27:12,240 --> 00:27:13,159
Speaker 1: he could just you know what I mean, Like, I

574
00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:15,639
Speaker 1: give him extra money so he can keep that, you

575
00:27:15,640 --> 00:27:18,000
Speaker 1: know what I mean of flowers. But it says like

576
00:27:18,040 --> 00:27:20,480
Speaker 1: I'm always constantly thinking, like how can I give back?

577
00:27:20,560 --> 00:27:22,880
Speaker 1: Like it's important not just to think, Okay, the money

578
00:27:22,960 --> 00:27:24,480
Speaker 1: is mine, I worked hard for it. I'm not gonna

579
00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:26,720
Speaker 1: share it. Like you can't think that way. Like even

580
00:27:26,760 --> 00:27:28,600
Speaker 1: with that, it's a circle of life, you guys, like,

581
00:27:28,840 --> 00:27:31,600
Speaker 1: pay it forward, it's super important. Oh, this is a

582
00:27:31,640 --> 00:27:36,480
Speaker 1: good one. Money is numbers, and numbers never end. If

583
00:27:36,520 --> 00:27:39,320
Speaker 1: it takes money to be happy, your search for happiness

584
00:27:39,440 --> 00:27:42,639
Speaker 1: will never end. If you got to rewind that rewind

585
00:27:42,760 --> 00:27:45,159
Speaker 1: to listen to it again, you guys, But that is

586
00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:48,840
Speaker 1: the freaking truth. There are so many people that I

587
00:27:48,960 --> 00:27:52,320
Speaker 1: hear that are like, oh, money's happiness. Money says, yes,

588
00:27:52,320 --> 00:27:55,000
Speaker 1: it can make you happy. It's temporary. It's what are

589
00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:58,400
Speaker 1: you gonna do with that money to multiply, to make more,

590
00:27:58,680 --> 00:28:00,960
Speaker 1: to be able to help more people, to do what

591
00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:03,040
Speaker 1: you gotta do, and not be greedy? You guys, don't

592
00:28:03,080 --> 00:28:05,960
Speaker 1: like that's one thing that is just like greediness is

593
00:28:06,000 --> 00:28:08,560
Speaker 1: not cute. You guys, it's not attractive. You'll have it

594
00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:11,320
Speaker 1: one day and then it'll go away. You just have

595
00:28:11,440 --> 00:28:15,360
Speaker 1: to get a good relationship with money and really ask yourself,

596
00:28:15,920 --> 00:28:17,840
Speaker 1: why do I work hard? Yes, to pay my bills.

597
00:28:17,880 --> 00:28:21,520
Speaker 1: I get that, but also, oh yeah, if money makes

598
00:28:21,520 --> 00:28:24,320
Speaker 1: you happy, then I don't know, then your heart is

599
00:28:24,320 --> 00:28:26,920
Speaker 1: not in the right place. Like you have to see

600
00:28:27,160 --> 00:28:30,919
Speaker 1: money as something, yes, that we need. And this is

601
00:28:30,920 --> 00:28:33,720
Speaker 1: one actually talking about that money isn't the goal. Freedom

602
00:28:33,840 --> 00:28:36,760
Speaker 1: is saying Okay, I don't have to worry, you know

603
00:28:36,760 --> 00:28:38,960
Speaker 1: what I mean. Like I just wanted to read those

604
00:28:39,000 --> 00:28:40,600
Speaker 1: quotes because I came across them and I was like,

605
00:28:40,600 --> 00:28:41,840
Speaker 1: you know, this is a topic we're going to talk

606
00:28:41,840 --> 00:28:45,960
Speaker 1: about today, and I just want people to start having

607
00:28:45,960 --> 00:28:48,840
Speaker 1: a better relationship. Even myself. I have to remind myself

608
00:28:48,880 --> 00:28:52,080
Speaker 1: every so often, like Okay, I'm okay, Like maybe I'm

609
00:28:52,120 --> 00:28:54,840
Speaker 1: not doing today as great as I was I don't

610
00:28:54,840 --> 00:28:58,040
Speaker 1: know six months ago, but it's okay. Like money will come,

611
00:28:58,240 --> 00:29:00,760
Speaker 1: it will flow. I love going to House of Intuition.

612
00:29:01,320 --> 00:29:03,120
Speaker 1: House of Intuition is like a spiritual story. You guys.

613
00:29:03,160 --> 00:29:04,200
Speaker 1: I don't know if you guys have heard of it,

614
00:29:04,240 --> 00:29:06,920
Speaker 1: but there are plenty of them in Spanish say I'm

615
00:29:06,920 --> 00:29:11,080
Speaker 1: a botanicas but they have candles, money candles, and it's

616
00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:13,320
Speaker 1: all like you know what, thank you God for what

617
00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:16,240
Speaker 1: I have. And I always say like there is a

618
00:29:16,280 --> 00:29:19,680
Speaker 1: pot of gold in the sky and I'm going to

619
00:29:19,800 --> 00:29:22,320
Speaker 1: have more than I need. I'm going to have more

620
00:29:22,400 --> 00:29:25,680
Speaker 1: than enough to be able to help other people, you know,

621
00:29:25,840 --> 00:29:28,400
Speaker 1: to be able to bless the world. And I light

622
00:29:28,440 --> 00:29:31,320
Speaker 1: my candles and I let it be. I am not

623
00:29:31,440 --> 00:29:33,360
Speaker 1: like constantly oh what am I gonna do? Like it's

624
00:29:33,360 --> 00:29:39,040
Speaker 1: like no, And I am abundance and I am worthy

625
00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:43,600
Speaker 1: and I'm prosperous. And I also have a fountain here

626
00:29:43,640 --> 00:29:46,800
Speaker 1: outside my house. They say that if you have a fountain,

627
00:29:46,840 --> 00:29:49,480
Speaker 1: whether inside your house or outside your house, and it's

628
00:29:49,480 --> 00:29:51,920
Speaker 1: not working, that it's better for you to just remove it.

629
00:29:52,120 --> 00:29:54,160
Speaker 1: These are all spiritual things, okay, guys that I believe in.

630
00:29:54,200 --> 00:29:55,800
Speaker 1: You don't have to believe in it, but I'm sharing it.

631
00:29:56,400 --> 00:29:59,720
Speaker 1: So I always make sure that my fountains have water.

632
00:30:00,040 --> 00:30:02,360
Speaker 1: Have three. I have one in my living room, one outside,

633
00:30:02,360 --> 00:30:04,760
Speaker 1: and one right by my bedroom, because it keeps the

634
00:30:04,840 --> 00:30:08,640
Speaker 1: energy and the functional moving the energy, like so there's

635
00:30:08,680 --> 00:30:11,320
Speaker 1: no stagnant energy in your home. Or around your home.

636
00:30:11,960 --> 00:30:14,200
Speaker 1: So it's like it's important that if you have a fountain,

637
00:30:14,400 --> 00:30:17,400
Speaker 1: make sure it's functioning, make sure it's flowing every single day,

638
00:30:17,480 --> 00:30:20,200
Speaker 1: because that also helps just everything flow in your life.

639
00:30:20,240 --> 00:30:23,960
Speaker 1: It helps bring more money into your home. Some people

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Speaker 1: that you want to just keep were energy. Guys were

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Speaker 1: I promise you, even if it's mental whatever. If some

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Speaker 1: people want to say it's mental. It's just yeah, it's mental.

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Speaker 1: my worries and fears to Heaven and I'm going to

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Speaker 1: be all right. It helps me well, guys, as with

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Speaker 1: all my episodes, I hope you've learned something from this one.

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Speaker 1: And before we go, here is my motivational Monday quote.

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Speaker 1: It goes with what we're talking about, of course, and

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Speaker 1: here it is. It's not your salary that makes you rich,

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Speaker 1: it's your spending habits. Yep. And I'm telling you I've

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Speaker 1: learned that the hard way, guys, So make sure that

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Speaker 1: you keep that in mind. Okay, thank you guys so

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Speaker 1: much for listening to today's episode of Cheeks and Chill

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Speaker 1: and I will see you guys next week. This is

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Speaker 1: a production of I Heart Radio and Michael Tura podcast Network.

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Speaker 1: Follow us on Instagram at Michael Tura Podcasts and follow

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