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Speaker 1: that's another episode of horrible decisions. This your girl, Mandy
Speaker 1: b a k A Full cor Puns a k A
Speaker 1: de Bitch a k A. The Booty Band aka the
Speaker 1: Booty Wire a k A. The Pegasus. Everything that y'all
Speaker 1: want to say about me getting in these niggas booties.
Speaker 1: But I am here, and I'm in Atlanta, Georgia live,
Speaker 1: and I have some wonderful guests alongside me today. I
Speaker 1: have the lovely ladies of one down Wednesday. I want
Speaker 1: to go ahead and introduce You'll say, y'all, y'all already
Speaker 1: know it's big Mama, so should be doing a k
Speaker 1: A next b A k A Big Mama. I don't
Speaker 1: have no okay, this is dry okay with three. She
Speaker 1: always introduced herself like that. She introduced her. Hey, y'all,
Speaker 1: it's draying the cale with three. You forgot the You
Speaker 1: forgot to add in front of it, though, you go right.
Speaker 1: I forgot to say, that's how. And then I know
Speaker 1: y'all might think this is like a girl's night or whatever,
Speaker 1: but we actually got a penis in the room um
Speaker 1: for this episode, and I'm excited about this episode. Because
Speaker 1: we're gonna kind of do a girl co versus guy
Speaker 1: code and we're gonna get to the bottom of some ship.
Speaker 1: So you want to go ahead and introduce yourselves, like
Speaker 1: people know who you are at Mega Museum, Twitter and Instagram.
Speaker 1: Just a regular guy. You're just a regular guy. He's not, y'all.
Speaker 1: He not he kind of he kind of popping in
Speaker 1: the streets or whatever in Atlanta. So how we like
Speaker 1: to start off the show. And before we start, I
Speaker 1: do want to give a shout out to all of
Speaker 1: your patrons, everyone who's subscribed to Horrible Decisions. We appreciate y'all,
Speaker 1: and you know we're dropping another one for y'all. Um,
Speaker 1: but we like to start off with icebreakers. So this
Speaker 1: is so that y'all are a little comfortable in the
Speaker 1: type of topics that we discussed on this show. Um,
Speaker 1: so the first ones I'm actually gonna go for YouTube ladies.
Speaker 1: You first. So as an icebreaker, you are a buttass,
Speaker 1: naked sucking dick. He starts rubbing your clip with his toes.
Speaker 1: What do you do? I don't know, I don't know
Speaker 1: what I want. You know what I'm going off because
Speaker 1: you know, niggas got that little black. He's got me
Speaker 1: funked up. I don't like that one. You have one
Speaker 1: because y'all athletes, it's only one. It be nice. I
Speaker 1: don't know. I mean, I ain't a girl, but I
Speaker 1: mean like that, that's like, that's a that's a vibe
Speaker 1: you can't do. If it's a vibe, you ain't think
Speaker 1: about it black to if he Okay, let me ask
Speaker 1: if you so, what if what if you laying with
Speaker 1: a girl on the couch and she got her legs
Speaker 1: on you and then she starts rubbing your dick with
Speaker 1: her foot, vie if it's just a random beach like
Speaker 1: just at my house and she started doing and I'm like, hey,
Speaker 1: but if you know, if it's it's gotta be a
Speaker 1: sit like but let's keep it on it, you know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. It's my bitch and she just some
Speaker 1: freaky sh do that ship. I'm like, I feel like
Speaker 1: it's different though they may usually have nice feet and
Speaker 1: not only that, but that's like but not only that,
Speaker 1: I feel like, you know, when you watch movies, they're
Speaker 1: sitting at the dinner table, she's playing with his dick
Speaker 1: on his head, but like that's normal for like women
Speaker 1: to you know what I'm saying, get a little foot.
Speaker 1: So I'm not gonna lie to y'all. So with this podcast,
Speaker 1: and we've been talking about this a lot, so we
Speaker 1: used to have a question all the time. Would you
Speaker 1: rather lick asks or suck toes? That's like the main question.
Speaker 1: I'm like, ass, I'm wouna make ask anyway I like.
Speaker 1: But like, since openly discussing feats so much, I've been like,
Speaker 1: we all eat that because I want to eat that
Speaker 1: boot that you know what I mean. They're not gonna
Speaker 1: admit it today. Guy friends. But guys, oh, they be
Speaker 1: holding their legs up for me. Honey, baby, I had
Speaker 1: a guy he got on all fours. I was eating
Speaker 1: that ass. So it's too far for I got to
Speaker 1: get on all four he was tooting that ass up.
Speaker 1: The problem he's six. But now but now it's easy
Speaker 1: for you. You don't have to spread for you. He
Speaker 1: wanted to, you should have said he looked back at
Speaker 1: it like this, look back since since if you're scared,
Speaker 1: you could give him my number, take it, take him.
Speaker 1: So the next question is when you break up with
Speaker 1: your girlfriend or boyfriend, when is a good time to funk?
Speaker 1: The person you were accused of sucking. I mean I
Speaker 1: was already. Wow, she think I'm sucking somebody? Probably I
Speaker 1: probably was already. Yeah, But if you haven't, if you
Speaker 1: haven't sucked that person yet, and they break, y'all break
Speaker 1: up because of that, I'm hitting the nigga up, like,
Speaker 1: oh yeah, you don't created the bond for my girl tripping,
Speaker 1: Like damn, she think we're around many. I don't want
Speaker 1: nobody to take nobody out on know dates. I don't
Speaker 1: have no time for that, Like, I don't know. So
Speaker 1: this is This leads me into my next question, and
Speaker 1: I guess you can answer it, but I want the
Speaker 1: girl to answer it too. Can a woman be in
Speaker 1: love with her man and be intimate with someone else? Yes,
Speaker 1: that's me every day and looking kind of like what
Speaker 1: do you think you rather have loyalty than love? Well,
Speaker 1: you're gonna get one of love. It's just a feeling.
Speaker 1: You can love somebody still having me in the back. Wait, wait,
Speaker 1: don't so you'd rather have loyalty over love. So love
Speaker 1: me and kill me out of anger. You can hate
Speaker 1: me and you be so loyal you'll never do anything
Speaker 1: to hurt me. That's true. Wait that's kind of deed.
Speaker 1: That's true, you know. I Actually that's because I don't fight, love,
Speaker 1: make you do things out of you, don't think right, loyalty,
Speaker 1: it don't matter. I could hate you. I never want
Speaker 1: to see you again. But if I'm loyal to certain
Speaker 1: certain she will never fly right. I don't love, but
Speaker 1: I'm loyal to that's my family. That's because I don't
Speaker 1: suck a lot of dick out of anger gets out
Speaker 1: of anger. Wait, you do like reaving this? It's not that,
Speaker 1: but I'll just be like, I'm not working with this
Speaker 1: no more. We're done. Girl. Loyalty head anybody you know
Speaker 1: I have morals, Loyalty would no matter how you feel
Speaker 1: about the nigger, Loyalty will how you never his friends.
Speaker 1: Loyalty will love. So it's crazy that you didn't get
Speaker 1: us into our next motherfucking segments. So for Vanilla Ship,
Speaker 1: as I do know, I normally pick a topic, um,
Speaker 1: something that's going on in the news, and we're just gonna,
Speaker 1: you know, talk about it. So I wanted to talk
Speaker 1: about um. So if you guys tune in and I
Speaker 1: don't even think ironically we like ninety episodes in and
Speaker 1: we ain't never really talked about the Kardashians, but Chloe
Speaker 1: came out and said that she stayed with Tristan after
Speaker 1: cheating on her with multiple women for the baby, for
Speaker 1: the family, like and letting it slide. So it's a
Speaker 1: it's very different when women stay with men for cheating.
Speaker 1: So I guess I'll ask you real quick before we
Speaker 1: dive into this. Would you stay with your significant other
Speaker 1: for cheating with you? And if so, what and you
Speaker 1: stay with her? I mean because I had to look
Speaker 1: at what I did prior. Okay, I see now, I've
Speaker 1: never been in a situation where I've been cheated on first,
Speaker 1: so I had to charge my ship to the game, like,
Speaker 1: I had to look at it, like I could be
Speaker 1: mad at her any sheep, But then I'm being hypocritical
Speaker 1: because I didn't did so much. She's the game and
Speaker 1: she funked up once, So I need to take a
Speaker 1: step back. How did it happen? I need to look
Speaker 1: at things and be like, A, you know, we could
Speaker 1: feace the sheets because I popped the ship off in
Speaker 1: the first place. Okay, that's a different I don't even
Speaker 1: don't look that way. So what about you ladies, Like,
Speaker 1: would you stay with your man after finding out he
Speaker 1: cheated on you. Yeah, I'm not gonna cheating break from you. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm just being real. I'm not I'm not so here.
Speaker 1: So here's my question because this is where I think,
Speaker 1: and we talked about this a lot on the show.
Speaker 1: I think communication is a big thing. And as we're
Speaker 1: talking about cheating, if you feel like you're gonna cheat
Speaker 1: on this nigga and you as a as a guy
Speaker 1: are probably gonna cheat on her, why is there not
Speaker 1: a conversation about possibly doing the open relationship? Probably amory, Like,
Speaker 1: why isn't this just settled in the beginning, like instead
Speaker 1: of this, because the act of betrayal is the thing?
Speaker 1: What do you mean it doesn't work. I'm going through
Speaker 1: it now. I was in a relationship for eight years.
Speaker 1: Damn at a child joke up, So I look at
Speaker 1: all my mistakes I did with that said, moving forward,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna hurt a woman. I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna live by certain rules. I'm gonna be upfront
Speaker 1: with everything. So my little voyage these past eight months
Speaker 1: is being this is is what I'm on. I can't
Speaker 1: do this, but this is what I can do bet
Speaker 1: first couple of weeks, cool didn't get into just what
Speaker 1: we're doing? What you mean what we're doing? So you
Speaker 1: guys were together, was there a clear line as to
Speaker 1: what you like? We're rocking? But we could do what
Speaker 1: we want to do together. But see, why is it?
Speaker 1: Why can't y'all be together and still be active outside
Speaker 1: the women? Don't women act like they wanted to a
Speaker 1: certain point. It don't never work that way, especially with
Speaker 1: what I do. Women intimidated because I'm out and ship
Speaker 1: like that. So it becomes like a what's the attitude for?
Speaker 1: And you don't want to say because now you're not
Speaker 1: really mad at me, you mad at yourself. Con put
Speaker 1: yourself in the situation. So then we have a deep conversation.
Speaker 1: She like, I just don't know why I even fucking
Speaker 1: rag me. It's so weird relationship. It's so crazy because
Speaker 1: I'm like, I'm like to the point now where I
Speaker 1: want a boyfriend, And so when I'm speaking to people,
Speaker 1: I'm like, listen, I don't need dick, I don't need
Speaker 1: pen pals. Like, if I'm speaking with you, we need
Speaker 1: to see what we can be. And this is where
Speaker 1: we haven't had the conversation yet about monogamy. But I
Speaker 1: don't believe in monogamy. I know it doesn't exist. He
Speaker 1: probably gonna cheat, but I would rather know. I don't
Speaker 1: want no girl to question my position with you, which
Speaker 1: is where it is like, so I think with you
Speaker 1: and her, the fact that you're able to say were
Speaker 1: together but we're not together, and the fact that she
Speaker 1: feels like she has to ask you what y'all are
Speaker 1: That's the point to where if I'm in an open
Speaker 1: relationship or I'm gonna let you step out, I should
Speaker 1: never have a female question my position with you, and
Speaker 1: I should never question my position with you. As soon
Speaker 1: as I start questioning my position with you, now it's
Speaker 1: like now it is what then are we doing? Like
Speaker 1: now we have got off because I know where, but
Speaker 1: maybe you're not showing that to her. Yes with me
Speaker 1: all the time every day. If I'm calling you an
Speaker 1: you'll be with a nigga all day. He's taking this girl.
Speaker 1: I love you, girl. I haven't been, but that's what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. Don't be with somebody if you're thinking in
Speaker 1: your head, because if I'm leaving my I mean right,
Speaker 1: I mean, you don't ever go into a situation being like, oh,
Speaker 1: I'm a cheat. I never do. I'm not saying I've
Speaker 1: been faithful. I've been in many times. There's been one
Speaker 1: dude that I funk with where I really when I
Speaker 1: fun with him, I don't do nothing because he gives
Speaker 1: me everything I want to me like, So, let me
Speaker 1: ask you, if you have a guy that gives you
Speaker 1: everything you want and need, what makes you feel the
Speaker 1: need to step out to somebody else? I don't, But
Speaker 1: it's only been one person that's done that, only one
Speaker 1: If I what you mean? Why? Like? Why is why
Speaker 1: is he the only person you feel like you could
Speaker 1: be faithful to? One thing is I will say this
Speaker 1: because I know if he found out, he is not
Speaker 1: working with that ship and I would rather because I'm
Speaker 1: a cheater. I don't do it on perfect. So so
Speaker 1: here's my questions. Horrible answer, that terrible answer for answer,
Speaker 1: he gave the answer. So let me ask you, why
Speaker 1: wouldn't you go into relationships with men or become committed
Speaker 1: or whatever. Why don't you suggest the open relationship package
Speaker 1: or this or you could even offer the swinging package,
Speaker 1: which is something that I'm been doing, like to where
Speaker 1: at least he's present or y'all know exactly what y'all
Speaker 1: are doing to where that betrayal aspect isn't added. You
Speaker 1: know what, I would be open to an open situation.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie I would, but I feel like
Speaker 1: no I would, but you know what the thing is though,
Speaker 1: guys do not like it. But as soon as you'll
Speaker 1: be like girl, you get deek from another nails exactly,
Speaker 1: don't want to wait, but you eat as too, right,
Speaker 1: I would like she really want to back a girl's
Speaker 1: ass that I have like things. Oh girl, you skipping
Speaker 1: step You have to come first, like the fact that
Speaker 1: he letting your finger without licking at first, like you're
Speaker 1: skipping stepsis, I'm about to try your own. I just
Speaker 1: told lead, and I'm mad that we are technically getting
Speaker 1: into our horrible decisions without meaning to, because we're doing
Speaker 1: the whole guy girl versus you know we're gonna get
Speaker 1: into it. Hold on, we're gonna talk about that too.
Speaker 1: And you might think that we ain't gonna sit here
Speaker 1: and ask kink shame. That's what we're not gonna It's
Speaker 1: both ways, though, I don't even not even to a woman.
Speaker 1: You don't you don't Okay, you know if you eat
Speaker 1: put your technically eating as guess what was technical whatever?
Speaker 1: I ain't never just knew I'm not eating like so
Speaker 1: you didn't know you was eating ask, but you did know.
Speaker 1: I ain't never. You ain't never even leaked. Okay, with
Speaker 1: you down by the whole of the pussy, then you
Speaker 1: was down by the whole of the pussy. The ASK
Speaker 1: is like a cinimeter away, That's what I'm saying. But
Speaker 1: I didn't eat the ass. It don't matter if I
Speaker 1: was point to I was have a centimeter away from
Speaker 1: the fish line. I ain't win the race. Anyways, We're
Speaker 1: gonna go ahead and we is going into get into
Speaker 1: the kink of the week, the kink for this week, guys.
Speaker 1: As y'all know, every week we give y'all a king.
Speaker 1: We don't king shame around here, but we like to
Speaker 1: let y'all know that some people listen to some kinky ship.
Speaker 1: Um so this week one and thank god I can
Speaker 1: actually say it. It's claustrophilia. This is when people are
Speaker 1: turned on by and or prefer to have sex in
Speaker 1: tiny places. So this is interesting because I feel like
Speaker 1: this would be like maybe if you've had sex in
Speaker 1: a stall, in a bathroom or car sex, which I
Speaker 1: am so against Carson I hates, first off, anymore. I mean,
Speaker 1: I don't lost some weight when I'm still a thick
Speaker 1: bitch and I like niggas over six three? So where
Speaker 1: are we fitting like? And clearly the word comes from
Speaker 1: claustrophobias with claustrophilias, So it's people who are turned on
Speaker 1: by being in closing me. Have you ever fucked in?
Speaker 1: Have y'all ever sucked in a small space ship? I
Speaker 1: mean in my car, but I always had big cars, though.
Speaker 1: What's a big gass car like a suburban like I
Speaker 1: got like my truck. But the seats come up, so
Speaker 1: it's like big, wait there, like the back seat I
Speaker 1: had my jeep ringers, So I let the back seats down.
Speaker 1: He's down like a whole lot supposed to anywhere, and
Speaker 1: the seats go down. Okay, it don't happen that fast,
Speaker 1: like there's a whole transition like we're playing Transformers before.
Speaker 1: In that case, you can just get your ass up
Speaker 1: and going out. Pull the seats go down. Many in
Speaker 1: the car I used to be. I'm not gonna know
Speaker 1: I've had sex in the car. Before you talking about
Speaker 1: you like Nigga's that six story bitch. I'm six story
Speaker 1: big big, absolutely not. I'm not solid big, I'm too big.
Speaker 1: Like my my leg over here, your leg right here.
Speaker 1: It's no used to make it exciting. Have y'all ever
Speaker 1: had sex in like a bathroom tall ar? Yeah? How
Speaker 1: was that? I mean it was cold, but it's a
Speaker 1: very tiny space. And then I, like, what was kind
Speaker 1: of nervous just because all the germs and she grue
Speaker 1: I'm not a germa foul, but I was trying to
Speaker 1: be like as you or you'll be down by the ass.
Speaker 1: You can't be seen here talking about I'm a gummer folk.
Speaker 1: You know ship come out of the person who asked
Speaker 1: I'm leaking. I know who asked I'm leaking? You know
Speaker 1: what coming out here? It's crazy because I was talking
Speaker 1: with my friend shout at DeAndre. I was talking to
Speaker 1: her before and when I found this, I was like, okay,
Speaker 1: So I was thinking, I was like, I don't like
Speaker 1: car sex. Then I was thinking of maybe like a
Speaker 1: fitting room in a in a store, and I feel
Speaker 1: like the only thing that would be exciting about that
Speaker 1: to me would be possibly getting caught people I was like,
Speaker 1: I don't think I would enjoy it because it's small,
Speaker 1: but I would enjoy it because I know we're not
Speaker 1: supposed to be. That's how it was. When I was
Speaker 1: working in the bathroom, I just it was a woman's bathroom,
Speaker 1: by the way, and he when he gave me to
Speaker 1: the woman's bathroom, I was, yeah, I s what you mean.
Speaker 1: We wasn't at the bowling nelle y'all, and I was
Speaker 1: with my dude at the time, and this was a
Speaker 1: couple's day. It was a couple of days they was friends.
Speaker 1: So she was like, hold on, I got to go
Speaker 1: to the bathroom. He could already win. Yeah, So she
Speaker 1: just ran to the bathroom. She was like, I'd be
Speaker 1: right back late, and she gave me that look, I'm drunk.
Speaker 1: I'm like a ship nigga. They was gone, this makes
Speaker 1: me feel And it was people walking in the bathroom.
Speaker 1: I remember that I had to like basically kind of
Speaker 1: like try to get on top of like the toils
Speaker 1: on my legs only his feet. But wait, why wouldn't
Speaker 1: you want your legs to show instead of his? Because
Speaker 1: this is the girl's back. I wasn't she always be
Speaker 1: I got caught in the bathroom at her apartment because
Speaker 1: they was sucking in the living room and I was like,
Speaker 1: who want to go out, fir. I was like, please help.
Speaker 1: I'm like that time I was working on a balcony.
Speaker 1: He was in my room and then see me through
Speaker 1: the window. I was like this, y'all have a y'all
Speaker 1: have a real friend show. Oh it's crazy, It's crazy.
Speaker 1: This is literally a lot of compromising positions. My apartment
Speaker 1: is a loss, right right, that's what I come in
Speaker 1: here and pass out my niggy coming through, Like I'd
Speaker 1: be so respectful for my friend DeAndre. You don't even
Speaker 1: know that night we was playing, Oh we had the
Speaker 1: card game and you know who came through, which we
Speaker 1: was working in the staircase because I was trying to
Speaker 1: be respectful of you and I we went to the
Speaker 1: staircase that you're building at the Atlantic, bitch, and we
Speaker 1: was working in the staircase. Oh, we didn't do the no,
Speaker 1: we just went straight to the staircase because I wasn't
Speaker 1: in your house. Like, I was like, I ain't gonna
Speaker 1: do DeAndre like that. So I'm jealous right now, me
Speaker 1: get this man. I'd have been And I was like,
Speaker 1: because when I first lived here, I was staying with
Speaker 1: her before my apartment was ready. I would have been
Speaker 1: in a bed with this girl, somebody rubbing on me.
Speaker 1: It was another chick that was in her pussy. I'm like,
Speaker 1: what the fuck? Bet See this is DeAndre, you listening
Speaker 1: to this. I just wanted to cuddle last night in
Speaker 1: this bitch was like cuddle a who bit anything. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna turn her out, and I'm not gonna like when
Speaker 1: I'm sleep Like sometimes I'll stay at her house, she'll
Speaker 1: come home, she'll be sucked up. She'll be like right
Speaker 1: under my back. But that's what people think that me Andre,
Speaker 1: and we never never, never touched. Never. Why let me
Speaker 1: ask you, why do all men think that friends fun?
Speaker 1: Because I get asked that all the time with Marko
Speaker 1: right now, No, you don't. I think I live with
Speaker 1: a woman for like seven eight years, Okay, I kind
Speaker 1: of seen how she moved her, seeing certain things where
Speaker 1: I got a better understand It is just using the
Speaker 1: imagine she got to be. It's gotta be. I think
Speaker 1: people like see us on the outside, like they see
Speaker 1: us on instagram'll be like, oh, I know they when
Speaker 1: they actually hang out with us and see how fucking
Speaker 1: dumb we are, how they're like, oh fun, they are
Speaker 1: not y'all childish? And remember that girl tried to start
Speaker 1: eating your plassy? Hold on, you got the wrong one,
Speaker 1: ware you? So you don't deal with girls. I have
Speaker 1: been with it, but it's not my thing like I have, Solex,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna stop texting you which we got first? Noble,
Speaker 1: I thought you got the wrong one. That's that one
Speaker 1: right now, that's the one to me. Let me start.
Speaker 1: I always be trying to punch my trains. So we're
Speaker 1: gonna go in two guys now the horrible decision, and
Speaker 1: we've kind of touched on it already. In this episode,
Speaker 1: we're gonna do kind of a girl code versus guy
Speaker 1: code as far as like what's acceptable on our end
Speaker 1: as women and kind of how men view it and
Speaker 1: vice versa. I kind of wanted to start off with
Speaker 1: something simple more so like dating, just to get kind
Speaker 1: of a grasp between what we think in the room.
Speaker 1: So I want to say, how long should a girl
Speaker 1: wait to be claimed by a dude that she's dating?
Speaker 1: And so you're a man, I would love your perspective
Speaker 1: on this, but how long as women do we feel
Speaker 1: like we should wait before a guy starts to claim us?
Speaker 1: How do I feel like y'all should feel how you
Speaker 1: feel like if you're dating a girl? How long does
Speaker 1: do men normally wait before they know like, damn, I
Speaker 1: like her? Let me it ain't no time. Everything a
Speaker 1: vibe with you, because I swear, But for my first experience,
Speaker 1: I learned that certain things I just let happen instead
Speaker 1: of trying to make it happen. Or fortunately, if I
Speaker 1: feel like if I'm looking at you and I'm like, yeah,
Speaker 1: you going on my grand I know that's right. I'm
Speaker 1: not about to be over when I know I'm working
Speaker 1: with you, And see what he just said, I think
Speaker 1: that's what a lot of us girls do. We overthink
Speaker 1: febory thing. So let me ask y'all. I y'all are
Speaker 1: talking to a guy and y'all are dating, and it's
Speaker 1: to the point where it may he got a nickname,
Speaker 1: all the friends know about him. When do you guys
Speaker 1: maybe start being like, Okay, why am I not his
Speaker 1: girlfriend yet? Look, y'all, and you know what me and
Speaker 1: Lex had a conversation about, because like a few months
Speaker 1: ago and we're stal totally opposite like me, I'm kind
Speaker 1: of I just kind of go with the flow when
Speaker 1: it comes to day and the guy like, I'll let
Speaker 1: you do what you wanna do, like whenever you're ready,
Speaker 1: then let me tell you something about me. The next week,
Speaker 1: I had a boyfriend. I was in a relationship. If
Speaker 1: they is let you are my man and we love Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's how so are you? Are you as soon as
Speaker 1: y'all have sex? I mean, he your boyfriend like that,
Speaker 1: But like sometimes I get vibes, Like he said, I
Speaker 1: get a vibe. So here's my thing, though, do you
Speaker 1: not seek a mutual vibe? Because even though you may
Speaker 1: be vibing with him. But Drian knows this. Every nigga
Speaker 1: I funk with, they'd be pressuring me for my friends
Speaker 1: and be me. But to everybody, I'd be like no,
Speaker 1: I'd like, sure, yeah, I want you to be my girl.
Speaker 1: Wait wait wait, you said it doesn't mean anything when
Speaker 1: a guy does that. Why because as a knee, I
Speaker 1: could say, bro, nigga would just say she just to
Speaker 1: get a girl head where you need to be true
Speaker 1: because I'm doing that ship Wait wait wait, wait, wait,
Speaker 1: now we're gonna wait, We're gonna post because I got
Speaker 1: to hear this, do you We could be chilling. Everything
Speaker 1: would be good, we would be sucking you went, we
Speaker 1: were rocking, and I just got the nigga gotta just
Speaker 1: do the bro let's even, let's stop playing and could
Speaker 1: be like what you mean like we're good? Like he's
Speaker 1: like nah for real, Like you don't want to lock
Speaker 1: that in so bad? Just to make sure mentally you
Speaker 1: know that doing so. Men will say that, just to
Speaker 1: make sure she's not. Yeah, you lying, y'all be lying.
Speaker 1: I don't do it no more, but I've done it.
Speaker 1: But this is what I'm saying. We will do that
Speaker 1: to get y'all where we need to be. And then
Speaker 1: when y'all are there, that's when we arguing with y'all
Speaker 1: about your tripping and ship. I hate when they be
Speaker 1: like you trip so why yeah? Why? Like I feel
Speaker 1: like that. I feel like it's out of it's out
Speaker 1: of selfishness and it's other ship. I feel like we're
Speaker 1: mentally with niggas like it's ship. How we honestly believe
Speaker 1: just going to see my therapists and things I talked
Speaker 1: to him about mental health, that's how we was right.
Speaker 1: Yeah I did all this? What what what did your
Speaker 1: That's just how we how we view, how we view
Speaker 1: certain things, how we were raised. A lot of niggas
Speaker 1: got just insecurities on their own and almost have nothing
Speaker 1: to do with relationships period, just as a man, and
Speaker 1: just things they haven't been through that they just need
Speaker 1: to have control over certain things or feel secure about
Speaker 1: certain So let me ask you, because we do have
Speaker 1: a lot of parents that listen to us, we have couples,
Speaker 1: we have a lot of people who may want children
Speaker 1: in the future. Is there anything that your therapist said
Speaker 1: or to you, Is there anything that could change that
Speaker 1: upbringing to where y'all don't grow up to be these
Speaker 1: that y'all are like like you. It's it's not necessarily
Speaker 1: it wasn't like how he was raised. It's just not
Speaker 1: being able, especially black men. I can't speak for any
Speaker 1: other that we don't. We don't express ourselves. So anything
Speaker 1: we've ever been through, no matter what it's been. I'm
Speaker 1: twenty eight, so it's been twenty eight years of I'm
Speaker 1: good or that ship. Let's right. I think it's it's
Speaker 1: like it's soft black man say, it's how he feels.
Speaker 1: It's like, oh, you saw you're supposed to care. It's
Speaker 1: cool to not carrying. You want to talk to nobody.
Speaker 1: Your mom could have been the best parent ever, did everything,
Speaker 1: But it's just how like ship be so who but
Speaker 1: who raises like? Is it more so society that's raising
Speaker 1: black men to be like? I think a mental health
Speaker 1: issue wasn't something It's not even our parents fault. It's
Speaker 1: something that was never thought about. I'm nine, like anything,
Speaker 1: it's just coming up now. Kids now are like early
Speaker 1: we were able to be able to care about that,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So it wasn't like our
Speaker 1: parents like, yeah, you know, we can't. How are they
Speaker 1: gonna talk to us about It's not even a thought
Speaker 1: in their mind? Okay, speak on it. Listen like your
Speaker 1: tweets because your tweets be coming for bitches. But now
Speaker 1: I feel like, see, I got my views on that too,
Speaker 1: But it's I got logic. I don't never say nothing
Speaker 1: without both sides. I get that. But but at least
Speaker 1: that you're able to even own up to your ignorant something.
Speaker 1: I say something about women. But niggas is fucked up,
Speaker 1: Like I don't need a lot of fun up ship
Speaker 1: and I'm running with niggas to do fund up ship,
Speaker 1: and I don't have the conversations, and niggas gonna be
Speaker 1: trying to hear that ship. Hey, bro, you don't ever
Speaker 1: think you'd be doing that ship because it is NI
Speaker 1: put their hair down, like man, I don't talk about
Speaker 1: man I talked right, So as women, what do we
Speaker 1: do if we like meeting you? Because we're all in
Speaker 1: our late twenties. The woman, the woman that I the woman,
Speaker 1: the two women that I talked to, right, one of
Speaker 1: them the one who told me to go see a therapy.
Speaker 1: You got this going on, you need to do this,
Speaker 1: because I went, I'm going through this and I go
Speaker 1: see my therapist for this, and that happened. The other
Speaker 1: girl kind of just read me so good. She knows
Speaker 1: what that she is. She like, how fun with you?
Speaker 1: But hey, no, nig, but let's go out to this movie.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna know when you ready. I know you ain't ready, nig.
Speaker 1: So she's just read me and I just laugh at
Speaker 1: off sometimes and I have to check myself, like let
Speaker 1: me stop playing with the girl. But she know me
Speaker 1: good enough, so I'm not rushing nothing. And she's smart
Speaker 1: enough mentally and strong enough mentally to peat my bullshit.
Speaker 1: But no, no, no, no, no, no no no, these women,
Speaker 1: these women will see that she, oh, this nigga full
Speaker 1: of games, fuck them and not try to help them
Speaker 1: or see something in them. But is it our drive?
Speaker 1: That's only it's only right right? I feel like in
Speaker 1: the beginning, I don't know if I see something. We
Speaker 1: two So can I bring this? Can I bring this
Speaker 1: back to the wonderful I'm saying if we just had
Speaker 1: a quote from the wonderful um first lady of the
Speaker 1: motherfucker us of a UM, Michelle Obama, And she came through,
Speaker 1: which I appreciated most recently. She came through and said
Speaker 1: that she knew that Obama was for her because he
Speaker 1: was already a full ass, complete human being when he
Speaker 1: met her. And so I feel like, unfortunately for black
Speaker 1: men and not speaking for all, but they expect us
Speaker 1: as women to take them broken and to help build
Speaker 1: them or to help fix them. And there's so there's
Speaker 1: so much things already on our plate as black women
Speaker 1: wanting black kings. We hate that we have to feel
Speaker 1: like we have to help you get a job, help
Speaker 1: with your resume, build you up, and be the men
Speaker 1: that we want you to be. Instead of y'all coming
Speaker 1: as the men that we want than that though, it's
Speaker 1: like go back to slavery with that sheep, Like how
Speaker 1: are where we are so embarrassed about certain things to
Speaker 1: express ourselves and it's weighing on us. Bro, That Willie
Speaker 1: Litch ship is real? Is fun? Like do you know
Speaker 1: like how they they they made they made out, they
Speaker 1: made black men just they humiliated black men in front
Speaker 1: of their kids and they women, and that ship trickles,
Speaker 1: and it's like an insecurity, a generational insecurity with black men.
Speaker 1: We keep shit in We want to be the manliest
Speaker 1: man ever, but we need something, but at the same time,
Speaker 1: we don't want to express what we need. So y'all
Speaker 1: don't know what the fund is wrong with us? And
Speaker 1: you can't tell y'all what's wrong with us because it's
Speaker 1: like so deeper than just saying one thing. It's like
Speaker 1: it's a lot, but I can't say so. But it's like,
Speaker 1: at what point do y'all realize that and start to
Speaker 1: be like, you know what, let me heal myself because
Speaker 1: I don't. You can't depend on nobody else. It's a process.
Speaker 1: I didn't I heard a woman so bad to figure out.
Speaker 1: I'm a fun nigga and I need to figure it out.
Speaker 1: And it took another girl after that to be like, nigga,
Speaker 1: you is a nigga, You're a good nigga. But and
Speaker 1: this is what I see. I feel like, you need
Speaker 1: to talk to somebody, but it takes it's up to
Speaker 1: you to make them Still. I think it takes a
Speaker 1: strong man to to realize that, Okay, I need to
Speaker 1: go see it or I need to find someone that
Speaker 1: I can, because some things don't even know how. I
Speaker 1: didn't even know how to be by myself when I
Speaker 1: broke up with the mother of my child and I
Speaker 1: was single. I didn't spend the night alone. And it
Speaker 1: wasn't even because I'm fucking bitches just for cool. It's
Speaker 1: got to a point I just needed somebody that I
Speaker 1: needed it, like, like I just want to even I
Speaker 1: guess even a man admitting that, Like I just didn't
Speaker 1: want to be alone, Like you don't hear men expressions.
Speaker 1: But I just hurt somebody so bad I don't want
Speaker 1: to do it again out of my fear. I just
Speaker 1: had to be real myself, Like I just want to
Speaker 1: be fully transparent with anybody. I'm working with. So I
Speaker 1: just know I got baggage and I'm still fixing that ship.
Speaker 1: So don't come over here if you're not you know,
Speaker 1: so what you would you accept that with a woman?
Speaker 1: Like if a woman was broken and to be built up.
Speaker 1: Because the woman who told me that I need to
Speaker 1: see a therapist, it's a lot going on with her
Speaker 1: and she got a pass and she doesn't did a
Speaker 1: lot of crazy ships and we could talk about that
Speaker 1: and it doesn't bother me. Okay, it doesn't bother you,
Speaker 1: but I do want to bring that into and you
Speaker 1: y'all can change my whole outline. But um, when it
Speaker 1: comes to a woman opening up about their past, if
Speaker 1: we're supposed to sit here and you know, accept you
Speaker 1: for you, your upbringing, being a man, you being vulnerable,
Speaker 1: but not so vulnerable as a woman. When we do
Speaker 1: express our past and what we've been through or how
Speaker 1: many sexual partners we've had, how how is it that
Speaker 1: we can express that to a man without that judgment
Speaker 1: being like I told you to grow fun. She tells
Speaker 1: me everything and it doesn't bother me. It kind of
Speaker 1: was like a weight off my shoulders to be able
Speaker 1: to had that conversation and you just a whole out here.
Speaker 1: You know. I listen to all that she did and
Speaker 1: I'm like, damn, you know, we grew up like we
Speaker 1: was doing ship in between eighteen and twenty before I
Speaker 1: met you. I don't give a funk what you did
Speaker 1: as long as you can express it to me. The
Speaker 1: nigga worst fear is this all we care about walking
Speaker 1: into a room and but that's very But that's it is.
Speaker 1: But that you not take care though, But that's like
Speaker 1: very reckles. Niggas be caring. They do they do. Let
Speaker 1: me ask you, let me let me ask you this.
Speaker 1: So you're in the industry, you meet a girl and
Speaker 1: you vibe with her. She is nervous because she's no
Speaker 1: she knows that she doesn't suck Some niggas in the industry.
Speaker 1: You would you would preferred to You would prefer for
Speaker 1: her to tell you, listen, I fucked x y Z,
Speaker 1: even if you're close to them, that she sucked them
Speaker 1: before knowing you. Yeah, because I hadn't been in that
Speaker 1: situation and I could, I could have that conversation with
Speaker 1: nigga before he feels like he got one up. Nigga's
Speaker 1: got one up, That's what it is like you understand
Speaker 1: if you walk in and I sucked you or fucking you,
Speaker 1: I'm smiling like god damn, and I'm at my nigga like,
Speaker 1: but guess what he could kick? This is how I
Speaker 1: kick it if I know you know my bitch. First
Speaker 1: I'm walking, I'm like, yeah, yeah, but she told me.
Speaker 1: She know you know around back in the day that
Speaker 1: you can clear that she's said nothing bad. She said
Speaker 1: you coolest, she told me. And you know what that
Speaker 1: dude that takes shoulders down and then make the room comfortable. Yeah, buddy, no,
Speaker 1: it's all good. I need to know that so I
Speaker 1: can make Let me ask y'all how comfortable are y'all
Speaker 1: because I hadn't had teammates before, like, yeah, I've been there.
Speaker 1: That just actually happened to me like a year ago.
Speaker 1: And how did you go about telling like because we
Speaker 1: so we have a lot of listeners, I'm sure everyone
Speaker 1: has been in these uncomfortable, awkward as situations. So now
Speaker 1: that we see that from a man, and not all
Speaker 1: men are like, but he would prefer to know as women,
Speaker 1: did y'all come forward and say it? And if so,
Speaker 1: how did you say it? Um? I did? I told
Speaker 1: him that I used to miss with somebody that he knew.
Speaker 1: But when I told him that I used to miss
Speaker 1: with the guy, get he didn't know that. They meant
Speaker 1: that I fucked the god exactly. But that's the same.
Speaker 1: That's how but right, that's how I felt about it.
Speaker 1: Saw two, three or four months into the situation, I'm thinking,
Speaker 1: he already understands that I used to be fucking right.
Speaker 1: So he comes to me. I guess the dude said
Speaker 1: something to him. That was at the party, and the
Speaker 1: dude said something to him and he comes to me
Speaker 1: and he's like, oh, boy walked up to me and
Speaker 1: he's like I can't believe. He was like, I feel
Speaker 1: like you hiding something from me, and I'm like, I
Speaker 1: already told you. He was like, um, no, you did,
Speaker 1: and I was like, yes, I did. And then he
Speaker 1: was like, UM, well no. Then I told him. I
Speaker 1: was like, well, I did suck him one time. He
Speaker 1: was like, what you fuck that? Nigga? Man also have
Speaker 1: selective hearing, though definitely, y'all will sit here and even
Speaker 1: though we tell you something, if you interpret it one way,
Speaker 1: I hear that you ain't me to say I fucked him.
Speaker 1: I said, I fucked. You know, I represent for the feelings.
Speaker 1: I'm not judging, but he was tripping in that scenario.
Speaker 1: He was You do think he was stripping, right, because
Speaker 1: I think even if you didn't, that's how I feel.
Speaker 1: I feel point to bring it up, all right, So
Speaker 1: let me ask you how did how did you go about?
Speaker 1: Have you done it before? This is the thing with me.
Speaker 1: If I meet somebody and I know, like I funk
Speaker 1: with your friend, I need to know how far we
Speaker 1: going first before I have that conversation, because I had
Speaker 1: met I was in a situation the beginning. How do
Speaker 1: you know that in the beginning what like, he can't
Speaker 1: necessarily tell you how far y'all are gonna go, like exactly,
Speaker 1: So if we get to that point, then I'll be like, oh,
Speaker 1: by the way out bad? Yeah, I mean they can't.
Speaker 1: But at the end of the day, why would I
Speaker 1: tell you my business if we because then this last situation.
Speaker 1: But no, but they don't. They didn't end up finding
Speaker 1: out because it was funny because I was talking to
Speaker 1: one dude. Me and him had fell off, so I
Speaker 1: started talking to the other dude and they owe each
Speaker 1: other and I was like, damn, dras should I tell him,
Speaker 1: she was like, I don't know, like you just wait
Speaker 1: and see, and I never said anything and we ended
Speaker 1: up falling out and I ended up going back to
Speaker 1: the other dude. Yeah, and I know they still don't know,
Speaker 1: but we're not lucky. But I didn't. I didn't like
Speaker 1: the second dude. I didn't the second dude because that's
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, because I don't why would I say, Hey,
Speaker 1: I fucked X y Z and we're not even fucking yet,
Speaker 1: but we like each other. But it's like if we
Speaker 1: never reached that point. So when it comes, so when
Speaker 1: it comes to when you're finally sucking, that's when you should. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean had already because it's like talking to my
Speaker 1: partner a year ago, my best friend and y'all, he
Speaker 1: took you out to eat a show. I don't give
Speaker 1: a funk about that. Y'all went out a couple of times.
Speaker 1: He took you to the movie. If you tell me cool,
Speaker 1: if he tell me, I'm like, damn for real, you
Speaker 1: like no, I'm like, all right, what I'm saying exactly
Speaker 1: real comfortable with how you speak on you know, males
Speaker 1: dealing with maybe the same woman. I want to take
Speaker 1: this to maybe our female listeners a little bit. Would
Speaker 1: you be okay with Dria going on a date with
Speaker 1: somebody that you used to talk to, even if you
Speaker 1: didn't suck him, or if you did him like way
Speaker 1: both of those options, because this is your friend, would
Speaker 1: that be okay? And when is when is it crossing
Speaker 1: the line for girl code? Something I taught her right now.
Speaker 1: She got somebody on her roster that nigga's prime real estate.
Speaker 1: I said, if I come across that nig I'll just
Speaker 1: let you know. She did, and I already sucked him before,
Speaker 1: but she was like, did she prime real estate? If
Speaker 1: I ever run across? If I ever run across the
Speaker 1: trying of fun with me, I'm sorry, but I let
Speaker 1: her know. I was like, but you know, but we
Speaker 1: had Honestly, we're not a time. But I'm not talking
Speaker 1: about community dick right now. I'm talking about like she
Speaker 1: probably talking about rappid athlete them niggas for everybody. We
Speaker 1: don't were in a situation like that before, like I was.
Speaker 1: She don't like to talk about it, but it was
Speaker 1: like I had talked to a dude a long time ago,
Speaker 1: like I was young, and then like some years later,
Speaker 1: like hearing him and they were like really really talking,
Speaker 1: but I didn't. I mean, I didn't care because it
Speaker 1: was just like I had moved on. I was like
Speaker 1: six dicks. That was like six nicks, So it didn't matter.
Speaker 1: I got lucky just like that. I don't know, that's
Speaker 1: never happened to me. I feel like, so I have
Speaker 1: like a clear do not cross list, Like yeah, I
Speaker 1: think we all had a whole Yeah, I have a
Speaker 1: few niggas really all that. It's that I feel even
Speaker 1: if we don't, we ain't for seven years. Yeah you know, yeah,
Speaker 1: I think that for for and I think honestly we're
Speaker 1: real friends with a bit. We know which niggas is awful.
Speaker 1: Yea you are already no, but this is don't care
Speaker 1: niggers gonna cross that, gonna cross that line. They will
Speaker 1: all the time. Yeah, I had niggas that I was
Speaker 1: fucking with. We was in damn there in love and
Speaker 1: the homeboy was like, yeah, what I'm saying, it's only
Speaker 1: a few real niggas period. We talk about like I'm
Speaker 1: really like, I know me, bro a man, a bitch
Speaker 1: could be so bad till my part and going and
Speaker 1: it's like a switch in my brain is like, it
Speaker 1: don't matter what she got on or not. And you
Speaker 1: are very very rare because not because back to that story,
Speaker 1: the dude found out any he's still with me, he
Speaker 1: was trying to ask. He was so mad, and we
Speaker 1: still was working with each other for like another saving
Speaker 1: month after that, and then's the old boy that had
Speaker 1: ran to him about it. He said again, I think
Speaker 1: I think it still has all to do with the
Speaker 1: level of security that man has because um, and I
Speaker 1: mentioned this on the show before, like there was a
Speaker 1: dude that I was really, really really vibing with and
Speaker 1: I had sucked his friend first before I had even
Speaker 1: known him. But the friend was prime real estate and
Speaker 1: this nigga wasn't so much. So he used to always
Speaker 1: say like, man, no, like I'll funk with you, but man,
Speaker 1: if we ever got married, I couldn't have that nigga
Speaker 1: would have to be at my wedding and I out
Speaker 1: to know he sucked my wife. Like, So that's another
Speaker 1: type of conversation that's had that when a man really
Speaker 1: vies with you, there's certain thiggs that he can't look
Speaker 1: past even if he does, because he's like, listen that
Speaker 1: nigga will be at my wedding, and I gotta know
Speaker 1: he knows what your pussy feel like. And me and
Speaker 1: this nigga vibe so hard. So you're talking about a
Speaker 1: vibe we boben and he's like, man, I really fun
Speaker 1: with you, but it will be my wedding. Like if
Speaker 1: a girl sucked your homeboy that he knows to be
Speaker 1: in the wedding type of ship. It's like, yeah, this
Speaker 1: is the woman. I'm walking down the aisle and I
Speaker 1: gotta look at my homeboy and know that that nigga
Speaker 1: was that grown sakes are like teenage six No, we
Speaker 1: was like get over all, right, get over to you, y'all.
Speaker 1: Eighteen nineteen, I get over that. But grown fucking you know.
Speaker 1: I'm but what if you didn't suck? Se told but
Speaker 1: I didn't suck the first dude? Remember what I'm saying?
Speaker 1: Like that got to be discussed because it's some niggas
Speaker 1: that overlook it, but the whole marriage, right, But it's like,
Speaker 1: why do I feel like if you don't care about
Speaker 1: something that was before you, whether it's your patna or not,
Speaker 1: you either care? Are you don't? Like? I don't know
Speaker 1: because we are you don't realize how we think it's down.
Speaker 1: I say this ship to er God talked to when
Speaker 1: it comes to niggas and when it comes to bitches
Speaker 1: fucking niggas that we know it don't matter. Pause. We
Speaker 1: had a last guest that used bitches. Okay, but let's
Speaker 1: see now. I don't want you to feel in the way,
Speaker 1: but look, it is a business sample. I could be
Speaker 1: the most serial killer. Street is nigga, billionaire everything, the
Speaker 1: really gangster, richest, helicopter having big right. Guess what it's
Speaker 1: a j on the street. If I walked past and
Speaker 1: I say, if he say anything to me and I
Speaker 1: say something back, it's nothing I could do after he says,
Speaker 1: I FU your bitch. And that's how he was like this.
Speaker 1: And guess what. Guess what. I could pull a gun out.
Speaker 1: I could kill him right there. And guess what. I
Speaker 1: could go to jail. I'm saying I could go to jail.
Speaker 1: Guess what. I'm bit it's nothing worse than the nigga
Speaker 1: because it's nothing you can do. There's nothing you can do.
Speaker 1: You can be richer than the nigga. You could have
Speaker 1: everything more than the Nigga's no one. I still what
Speaker 1: you're saying, But let me say this. It has been
Speaker 1: some situations before where you was like, I funk with
Speaker 1: people who knew each other and then he was like, man,
Speaker 1: I know you used to funk with that nigga. But
Speaker 1: it's like I but when the niggas will try to
Speaker 1: hit me up being on some sneaky ship, like I
Speaker 1: if I'm suking with you when I used to funk
Speaker 1: with your homeboy, I'm gonna make that nigga try to
Speaker 1: try to pull me now, because you're not gonna disrespect
Speaker 1: my niggas. But this is my nigga. Now, this is
Speaker 1: the thing too, And I'll bring this to what you're saying.
Speaker 1: It just sucks because as women, I had niggasu my friends,
Speaker 1: I had niggas like trying to pull like my bitches
Speaker 1: I live with, and they still just think it's supposed
Speaker 1: to be okay. So I think that it's very contradicting
Speaker 1: and of course the double standard. Yeah no, but a
Speaker 1: lot of us women have to be just okay with
Speaker 1: who you don't sun in your past yet, but we
Speaker 1: gotta we can't have to like we gotta we gotta
Speaker 1: look man when we fuck off, and the whole got
Speaker 1: a smart at mouth. It's our job to be like, bitch,
Speaker 1: shout the funk up. You know, we gotta chuck to
Speaker 1: niggas be trying to This is where we're ruin everything.
Speaker 1: We'll funk off, y'all. Try to forgive us a whole
Speaker 1: would say something and we're still trying to defuse the
Speaker 1: situation exactly. Excuse my language, but in this situation, that's
Speaker 1: what I have got, baby girl, making this bitch feel
Speaker 1: so small for even trying to come for you. If
Speaker 1: I care about you, what I'm doing like, chill girl,
Speaker 1: this is my girl on the side. Yeah, but for you,
Speaker 1: why we can't check and nigger and do the same
Speaker 1: and be like, no, I'm cool with that. If you
Speaker 1: can do that, but most women don't. You feel like,
Speaker 1: God damn, I bad with this conversation. I feel like
Speaker 1: it's something that we had. I feel like everything has
Speaker 1: to do with egos when come in, but that feeling
Speaker 1: embarrassed ego. You have to work around anybody's ego and
Speaker 1: anything you do at the workplace. It would management, music relationships.
Speaker 1: You have to know people's personality. If I know something
Speaker 1: that gets under your skin and I'm genuinely your friend.
Speaker 1: I know how to work around that. It's like, nothing
Speaker 1: wrong with that, It's me genuinely caring about you as
Speaker 1: a friend. I'm like, why would you know what I'm saying?
Speaker 1: So if something really bothers me, like, okay, you need
Speaker 1: we need to figure out the way. You know, you
Speaker 1: know me, So don't do certain things. You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, right, I mean, I'm not gonna lie. I
Speaker 1: have this conversation with the dude I'm talking to last
Speaker 1: night and he was like, I told him that my
Speaker 1: ex called me. He was like, what you're talking to there?
Speaker 1: So what the fun? I was like, why, I'm not
Speaker 1: gonna do it no more. He's like, yeah, you see
Speaker 1: how to handle that because his friends but fun. It's
Speaker 1: like he has ago how to handle. This is the
Speaker 1: last topic that I bring up in this while we're
Speaker 1: talking on both sides of relationships and egos and insecurities.
Speaker 1: So I want to talk about how it is for
Speaker 1: us as women to have guy friends while being in
Speaker 1: a relationship and men allowing women to have guy friends
Speaker 1: while in relationship, or us allowing you as a man
Speaker 1: to have women like female relationships. So you've been in
Speaker 1: a relationship you've been dealing with this woman for eight years,
Speaker 1: you have someone else, whatever your situation is, Is it
Speaker 1: okay for them to have guy friends. I mean, it
Speaker 1: didn't bother me the way you me. What I'm saying.
Speaker 1: Why was rocking while we was good? It didn't bother me?
Speaker 1: Only time to bother me when we're not good. Why
Speaker 1: doesn't bother Because niggas do suckers ship. They want to
Speaker 1: trust them and wait for weaknesses, like a nigga will
Speaker 1: really be a free until you week. Then that's when
Speaker 1: they're trying to So if we do whatever you want
Speaker 1: with Brian, I don't give a fuck because I know
Speaker 1: what's going on. But as soon as you crying and
Speaker 1: you hurt, I don't know what the fun Brian don't
Speaker 1: because I know what nigga's don't eat that. I'll say
Speaker 1: this for me, like, I think it's cool, but you
Speaker 1: have to introduce me. You got, I think, and I
Speaker 1: think that that's where a lot of men may feel
Speaker 1: like it's easier, like to maybe keep it a secret,
Speaker 1: but I'll say I agree to like. So for as women,
Speaker 1: we're clearly I feel like we're a little bit more
Speaker 1: confident than niggas. At this point, we a whole lot
Speaker 1: of ship that y'all really don't but I feel like
Speaker 1: for women it's more so I just need can I
Speaker 1: notice free? Can I introduce her? Because I'm not gonna lie,
Speaker 1: we know real quick. So let short, long story short.
Speaker 1: Me and my friends went out to meet her boyfriend
Speaker 1: at the club and when we got to the table,
Speaker 1: there was two girls there with his cousin. The girls
Speaker 1: didn't speak to us, they didn't introduce themselves to us,
Speaker 1: and it was just very obvious. Oh bit, y'all know,
Speaker 1: y'all are the wrong or y'all been trying to talk
Speaker 1: to him. We catch a vibe with women real quickly
Speaker 1: what their intentions are around me. And so to me,
Speaker 1: if a man or my boyfriend wants to have a
Speaker 1: female friend, we need to meet that bitch and we
Speaker 1: need that's most important. Like I got all my partners,
Speaker 1: but if I know I got female best friend, though,
Speaker 1: that's the beach you need to meet. But it's not
Speaker 1: a bad bitch, but that's the girl you need to meet.
Speaker 1: I need to make sure. I need to roll the
Speaker 1: red carpet out on making sure y'all cool and you
Speaker 1: know that that's my partner before my boy my partner
Speaker 1: friends because it just like I've had got girlfriends, I
Speaker 1: have a male best friend, and the first thing guys
Speaker 1: always say, they'd be like, you got a male best friend? Yes,
Speaker 1: that sometimes legit. I think it's just tough because like
Speaker 1: I've been the best friend to a lot of guys
Speaker 1: and girlfriends never like me like that ass don't you'd
Speaker 1: be like, yeah, I's like a maid and I lick
Speaker 1: y'all as the young girl. Better know we're friends, nick,
Speaker 1: I know you, I'm saying, would be hard for me
Speaker 1: to argue herd. It's different. It's different from if somebody's
Speaker 1: a home girl, they're like, you know, they dressed like
Speaker 1: you know, they're kind of tomboyish or the book. But
Speaker 1: it is what it is where I have I have
Speaker 1: guy friends, and they'd be like man, bitches be maybe
Speaker 1: not women be tripping they do, I mean, because they'd
Speaker 1: be like your friends. I'm actually really close friends with
Speaker 1: my Sister's acts like me and him to stay cool,
Speaker 1: like we're cool, Like you used to date my sister
Speaker 1: and we're cool. And it was just like he had
Speaker 1: went to the club one night he got a section.
Speaker 1: I went to a section of girls was just like
Speaker 1: they arguing. I could be like, girl, no, and I
Speaker 1: didn't want to be like, oh, he used to beat
Speaker 1: my sister. I was just like, no, this is like
Speaker 1: huh my sister, huh no, no, no, they're not cool
Speaker 1: on where they's both moved on. But it's just that
Speaker 1: you went over there with your little waists and big
Speaker 1: as right. But I had to actually let her know.
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, baby, girl, like me and him are cool,
Speaker 1: but you know, it's how do you have that conversation?
Speaker 1: Oh girl, don't I want your nigger? Girl? He says,
Speaker 1: that's how you have it. I be like, I don't watch.
Speaker 1: When I was in Orlando, I was I came across
Speaker 1: a lot of guys I either went to school with
Speaker 1: or that I knew from the past, and if there
Speaker 1: was a girl in the section, I made it my
Speaker 1: point to before I even spoke to him. Listen, baby girl,
Speaker 1: I don't want him. We went to school together. I'm
Speaker 1: just gonna yeah, you go to it. Women don't do that.
Speaker 1: Then then it's like, oh, not that you think is
Speaker 1: right right, So we're gonna go ahead and get into home. Male.
Speaker 1: This is the last segment where we can give advice
Speaker 1: to our listeners. So the first one, you're probably not
Speaker 1: gonna be able to give much advice on this one.
Speaker 1: But there's one specifically for a male, so I'm gonna
Speaker 1: go ahead ask you that one. But first one, we're
Speaker 1: gonna say. Hey, girls, I just want to say that
Speaker 1: I love what you guys are doing. I relate to
Speaker 1: you all on so many levels, and you've helped me
Speaker 1: become more comfortable about my sexuality, which is amazing scene
Speaker 1: that I lost my virginity at Anyways, my issue is
Speaker 1: that I recently met this guy and we started talking
Speaker 1: and all that, and he asked me to be his girlfriend. Great,
Speaker 1: I mean, he checks all the boxes, tall, dark and handsome.
Speaker 1: Problem is, we just had sex like twenty minutes ago.
Speaker 1: This bitch wrote us a home meal twenty minutes after
Speaker 1: she has sex um and his dick is small, not
Speaker 1: a micro penis, but small, and the sex was more mad.
Speaker 1: I don't know what to do. Sex is very important
Speaker 1: part of my life now, and the guys I have
Speaker 1: been with, and the guys that I've been with have
Speaker 1: very big dicks seven inches and upwards, and we have
Speaker 1: very rough sex. Should I end it now? Or should
Speaker 1: I wait it out. Maybe I'll get used to a
Speaker 1: smaller size. Thank you, sexually frustrated chicks. I'm Nigerian and
Speaker 1: living Lagos, Nigeria. You have a big audience here and
Speaker 1: we love you guys. Shout out night Jia. Even though
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I've been there and I don't want to
Speaker 1: go back. But no, it was I mean, they got
Speaker 1: money out there, that's what I heard. Now, they got
Speaker 1: the coins. I just it's not one of those places
Speaker 1: that they allowed tourism to me, like going on tours
Speaker 1: and ships said. I felt like I had to have
Speaker 1: security the whole time, right right, But the parties are good.
Speaker 1: They fucking party real quick. Shout out. I don't know
Speaker 1: your name, but this is the first time I went
Speaker 1: to a club. I want my friends. This nigga just
Speaker 1: bought me a bottle. I ain't even a kid, beautiful
Speaker 1: and this was seventy pounds ago. Bit I felt real good.
Speaker 1: So I guess what is going to be um our
Speaker 1: advice for this lady. Have you ever been with a
Speaker 1: guy where you liked him a lot but the dick
Speaker 1: wasn't what you want? Yeah? I stopped talking to their
Speaker 1: goddamn what what about you lex for me? If I
Speaker 1: really really like you, I'm going to try to explore
Speaker 1: and things in the bedroom. What else do you like?
Speaker 1: What else can we do? Like, I'm gonna try to
Speaker 1: you know what I see if we can. Because sometimes
Speaker 1: you have sex with somebody once and maybe tray how many.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. I'm one time you go out
Speaker 1: the first time. I mean because I've had situations with
Speaker 1: like this dude. I've been talking to him going on
Speaker 1: three years now, and he just now told me he
Speaker 1: was like, man, the first time we had sex, that
Speaker 1: ship was so bad. But I liked you and he
Speaker 1: gave me another chance, and I'll be rocking that nigger world.
Speaker 1: So it's like sometimes, you know, you gotta figure out
Speaker 1: what people liking bead seat, Maybe you can incorporate toys,
Speaker 1: like there's other ways for you both to get I
Speaker 1: do want to take you and I don't know. UM
Speaker 1: some guys are uncomfortable with UM with sex toys. But
Speaker 1: I will say we got a toy from Adam and Eve.
Speaker 1: UM shout out to them for sponsoring UM a couple
Speaker 1: of our old shows. But they sent us an extensor.
Speaker 1: So there's a toy where guys can actually put it
Speaker 1: over their penis and it adds girth or like even
Speaker 1: there was like like ridges on it too, like simulation.
Speaker 1: So there's a lot of toys that can help smaller
Speaker 1: dicksh Not only that, not only that, I want the
Speaker 1: real deeds. I mean that's fine, but I mean there's
Speaker 1: options to me. Um, It's weird because we do have
Speaker 1: these boxes that we want all of our men to
Speaker 1: check off, and unfortunately not everyone is gonna check them.
Speaker 1: So to work around if sex is important to you,
Speaker 1: I would like LEX said, Um, maybe you can do
Speaker 1: more vetting and talking, maybe send him porn, incorporate other things. Um,
Speaker 1: I will say, we say this all guys with little dicks,
Speaker 1: just have him eat your pussy better or or explore anal.
Speaker 1: I think that little dick guy that's perfect, perfect I have.
Speaker 1: I have a size requirement when it comes to the
Speaker 1: booty hale, you're not getting in there like um, but
Speaker 1: a small na, you know, orche medium or whatever. Maybe
Speaker 1: we don't like the small dick shame. I know y'all
Speaker 1: think we do. But I'm a size queen, so I
Speaker 1: can't help it. Um, But I feel like there's I
Speaker 1: say talk to him, don't tell him his dick is small,
Speaker 1: but maybe try to incorporate other things sexually. Or we've
Speaker 1: given this advice before, maybe gauge what he's like with
Speaker 1: maybe adding someone else into the vest. Get you aside
Speaker 1: that that's a possibility to you ain't going for that
Speaker 1: ship why like an suggestion was right? And then also
Speaker 1: I don't want to get an extended openis But a
Speaker 1: lot of a lot of women don't even have orgasm
Speaker 1: from penetration. So it's just most of the women, can
Speaker 1: you know, have an orgasm from you know, click stimulations?
Speaker 1: Maybe you can, you know, there's there's so many of
Speaker 1: so many other ways that I think he can please you.
Speaker 1: So if you're not being pleased like through penetration, I
Speaker 1: think that that's something maybe you should show him. I
Speaker 1: think she should definitely talk to and know you know what,
Speaker 1: you know what's crazy. I'm not gonna lie to you.
Speaker 1: That's one of And I don't think a lot of
Speaker 1: guys noticed this, and this is why I stopped having
Speaker 1: casual sex the way I do. You don't understand the
Speaker 1: anger a woman has when she finally give a nigga
Speaker 1: some pussy and then nothing like it's the most frustrating
Speaker 1: thing to have sex and feel like, damn, let me
Speaker 1: go masturbate to make like you adding the body reason
Speaker 1: I want to get like damn, She ran to her phone.
Speaker 1: But I don't think men understand how fucking upset were
Speaker 1: because nigga's gonna nut regardless. Y'all gonna le okay, y'all
Speaker 1: want sometimes you gotta act like yeah, but you got nut. Anyways,
Speaker 1: I feel like men are gonna number whether be good,
Speaker 1: whether it's bad, because of that freaktion. Y'all as gonna.
Speaker 1: I'm not about to orgasm every time. Please, actual male
Speaker 1: followers a question. Had they ever faith the nut and
Speaker 1: just win somewhere and they go to bathroom, some beat
Speaker 1: the meat trash? Really I didn't. I don't want to say,
Speaker 1: because I got a lot going on. But I've heard
Speaker 1: this before. A man like this is like a conversation
Speaker 1: with any man. You get it over with, like you're
Speaker 1: not by the nut. You don't want to don't feel good.
Speaker 1: You want to sit here and give our mail listen
Speaker 1: to some advice. We actually do have homemail from a
Speaker 1: mail and the topic for this is performance anxiety. So
Speaker 1: it says what's up my name? I don't know. I'll
Speaker 1: give you a fake name. My name is the Quine
Speaker 1: and I'm a thirty one year old black mail residing
Speaker 1: in Tampa, Florida. I'm a huge fan of you guys.
Speaker 1: You guys give such great insight and perspective from a
Speaker 1: woman's point of view of sex that I have never considered,
Speaker 1: and I love learning about that. Listening to episode eighty seven,
Speaker 1: I was a little bit taken back. However, so episode
Speaker 1: eighty seven, if y'a don't remember, we were discussing erections.
Speaker 1: Um so it all spawned in the conversation about guys
Speaker 1: getting in direction, maintaining interaction, or coming too fast during sex.
Speaker 1: There's a horrible stigma associated with men to perform at
Speaker 1: peak sexual performance at all times. This pressure is planted
Speaker 1: in young men's minds that if they aren't good in
Speaker 1: bed or aren't satisfying to female counterparts, that they are
Speaker 1: less of a man and therefore an unsuitable partner. This
Speaker 1: goes hand in hand. Sex is very much a serebral
Speaker 1: experience more so than it is physical, and in my
Speaker 1: experience personally, high have had trouble with getting or maintaining
Speaker 1: an erection due to nerves associated with performance anxiety. Of course,
Speaker 1: comfortable comfortability is associated with that, and it can come
Speaker 1: from a number of self confidence issues. I guess my basic, Um,
Speaker 1: I guess my basic the same. I'll be trying. I
Speaker 1: gotta prove frease some of y'all ship for the perspective
Speaker 1: that you guys offers was that none of you touched
Speaker 1: on this very real subject and oftentimes are very unapologetic
Speaker 1: and realizing that it is an actual thing. We are
Speaker 1: I know, hell, neither of you. Two beautiful women who
Speaker 1: are sexually active with tolerate bad sexual performance. Damn, I'm
Speaker 1: sorry you reading me right now. Imagine the kind of
Speaker 1: weight when going into a sexual accounter knowing that if
Speaker 1: they don't perform at p performance and satisfy the woman,
Speaker 1: that they are not going to be wanted anymore. I
Speaker 1: know this is a real thing because women experience it
Speaker 1: often and rightfully, So I just wanted there to be
Speaker 1: a common knowledge that it is all. It isn't always
Speaker 1: a rectile dysfunction or something that the women the woman
Speaker 1: is doing to cause mechanical issues within a male. At
Speaker 1: one specific instance, I literally lost in erection because I
Speaker 1: was so overwhelmed at finally getting someone that I had
Speaker 1: once wanted really really really bad, and literally froze up
Speaker 1: out of fear that I might not please her? Are
Speaker 1: there any other males like this? Love you guys? And
Speaker 1: I would never stop listening, So I guess I wanted
Speaker 1: to ask you real quick before we sign out, what
Speaker 1: because we feel like men are just so excited and
Speaker 1: always have sex more not a lack of confidence in
Speaker 1: having sex. I was like, you know, like you know, like,
Speaker 1: but you got the ones who run the people, right,
Speaker 1: I don't know, all locked up, you know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: But god, I wasn't ready for it, Like I didn't
Speaker 1: know I was gonna get it, but I got it.
Speaker 1: So I was like, damn, I'm trying. I'm acting like
Speaker 1: I wanted, but I got all right, But it was
Speaker 1: just so much. I was just not ready. I could not.
Speaker 1: My mind wasn't with my dick, so I could not
Speaker 1: just it's just get hard or you didn't come like
Speaker 1: I got hard until it was time to just do
Speaker 1: what I was trying to do. And I'm thinking about
Speaker 1: how was she wanted so bad that it just so
Speaker 1: did you? Did she let you get you to give
Speaker 1: you another chance, and she loved me now. She love
Speaker 1: me now. But it took like about three years for
Speaker 1: me to like, I had to figure out the way
Speaker 1: she let you for three years? What I mean, you
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, another three years before I got another. Oh,
Speaker 1: it took you three years to get another till we
Speaker 1: had to laugh. It was it had to be time
Speaker 1: for us to laugh and talk about that, right, gonna
Speaker 1: lie you? You know that was flattering her for that.
Speaker 1: I was not ready you was that bach that I
Speaker 1: told you you know, and I leave would call you
Speaker 1: and yeah, we're cool now we're real good. But I
Speaker 1: think that's a good approach to it when I read
Speaker 1: when I read that that letter, especially just us coming
Speaker 1: off the conversation came from, I'm like, I'm not gonna lie.
Speaker 1: I think we do expect, like first off too, I
Speaker 1: think this maybe needs to stop mental sit here and
Speaker 1: tell us I'm gonna that ship up. I'm gonna we
Speaker 1: do expect. A lot of men come like tear you up,
Speaker 1: and then when they come there's an issue where it's
Speaker 1: like this ain't right, just like a girl like I
Speaker 1: got the best mouth like ice, and it's where where
Speaker 1: the sloppiness. This isn't so you know what you're canceling.
Speaker 1: It's never a good idea to hype yourself up. Just
Speaker 1: let it happen, vibes, I will say, I don't want
Speaker 1: to go against what I just said another episode. I
Speaker 1: also believe betting. So to make sure that you're on
Speaker 1: the same page sexually, like, I want to know what
Speaker 1: I am allowed to do, what I'm like, what type
Speaker 1: of sex we're about to have. So maybe not hyping yourself.
Speaker 1: You talk about it for sex need to be regular.
Speaker 1: We don't need about be regular. First, I don't know regular. Well,
Speaker 1: this is my thing now. I don't like no, I
Speaker 1: don't like old fashioned, and that's the thing you gotta
Speaker 1: play with. I got who I want to so let me. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I know that, but not not only that. I'm not
Speaker 1: having sex anymore, just to go through the motion, so
Speaker 1: to me at I don't have so many casual partners
Speaker 1: and had sex so much where it's just like, I'm
Speaker 1: not going to have sex unless I know you're gonna
Speaker 1: make me come or be you didn't let me because
Speaker 1: I don't like to do what I mess with Now
Speaker 1: he does not like he won't let me eat his
Speaker 1: ass nothing so makes me not every single time, ship,
Speaker 1: I'm done with you. I like, what is men's issue
Speaker 1: with as even about us? It's about ass period for
Speaker 1: what it's not even don't do it to me. I
Speaker 1: won't do with you. I won't be nowhere around there
Speaker 1: on you nothing. We'll see that's understandable that you put
Speaker 1: your hands inside your asshole to me, Oh I do.
Speaker 1: I mean, look, I think about this so when you're
Speaker 1: hitting it from the back, you don't even slyne a thumb.
Speaker 1: And now I didn't we like the thumb. I didn't
Speaker 1: trying to be cool because future work. And I didn't
Speaker 1: like that because I went to why did you don
Speaker 1: like y'all real quick thumb with me? With me? It
Speaker 1: is mental, like I think so hard about that ship.
Speaker 1: I just can't. I just don't want no parts. And
Speaker 1: you know I can live my life with it. I
Speaker 1: don't never will be intimidated to ever think about doing it.
Speaker 1: That's what you're like. We don't need it, you know,
Speaker 1: we gotta move on just because if that and that's
Speaker 1: what I do like, if there's if there's a guy
Speaker 1: that doesn't if we're not on the same page, or like,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, okay, well, UM, nice talking to you.
Speaker 1: We just gonna need for us to have sex because
Speaker 1: there are certain things I may want to do and
Speaker 1: I want you to be open and comfortable the way
Speaker 1: I'm open and comfortable. So you know something, because you
Speaker 1: could get them to eventually on the first day, yeah,
Speaker 1: and then you could do it right exactly. Well before
Speaker 1: we sign out, where can our listeners find you, guys?
Speaker 1: I guess we'll do the ladies first because these are
Speaker 1: the ladies of Wine Down Wednesday. So if you guys
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