WEBVTT - Ep93: Straight Men Can Make Sense Feat Lex, Drea and Meezy

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<v Speaker 1>Hey, ho hi, I'm super excited to announce that we

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<v Speaker 1>are going on tour. If you haven't yet, we will

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<v Speaker 1>be in d C on January the nineteenth. We went

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<v Speaker 1>ahead and added the second show everyone, So for all

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<v Speaker 1>So from four to six we will have the first

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<v Speaker 1>show followed by an eight to ten show. We are

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<v Speaker 1>also almost sold out for Chicago, so we will be

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<v Speaker 1>going ahead and adding a second show in Chicago as well.

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<v Speaker 1>That is going to be on March the thirty. Also

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<v Speaker 1>be sure to check us out in upcoming cities. We

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<v Speaker 1>went ahead and also drop tickets for Toronto, so we

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<v Speaker 1>are coming to the six I don't know Droke gonna

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<v Speaker 1>So get your tickets. We will see you in twenty

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<v Speaker 1>nineteen and enjoy the show you're what's going on, y'all,

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<v Speaker 1>that's another episode of horrible decisions. This your girl, Mandy

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<v Speaker 1>b a k A Full cor Puns a k A

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<v Speaker 1>de Bitch a k A. The Booty Band aka the

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<v Speaker 1>Booty Wire a k A. The Pegasus. Everything that y'all

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<v Speaker 1>want to say about me getting in these niggas booties.

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<v Speaker 1>But I am here, and I'm in Atlanta, Georgia live,

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<v Speaker 1>and I have some wonderful guests alongside me today. I

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<v Speaker 1>have the lovely ladies of one down Wednesday. I want

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<v Speaker 1>to go ahead and introduce You'll say, y'all, y'all already

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<v Speaker 1>know it's big Mama, so should be doing a k

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<v Speaker 1>A next b A k A Big Mama. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>have no okay, this is dry okay with three. She

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<v Speaker 1>always introduced herself like that. She introduced her. Hey, y'all,

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<v Speaker 1>it's draying the cale with three. You forgot the You

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<v Speaker 1>forgot to add in front of it, though, you go right.

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<v Speaker 1>I forgot to say, that's how. And then I know

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<v Speaker 1>y'all might think this is like a girl's night or whatever,

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<v Speaker 1>but we actually got a penis in the room um

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<v Speaker 1>for this episode, and I'm excited about this episode. Because

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<v Speaker 1>we're gonna kind of do a girl co versus guy

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<v Speaker 1>code and we're gonna get to the bottom of some ship.

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<v Speaker 1>So you want to go ahead and introduce yourselves, like

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<v Speaker 1>people know who you are at Mega Museum, Twitter and Instagram.

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<v Speaker 1>Just a regular guy. You're just a regular guy. He's not, y'all.

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<v Speaker 1>He not he kind of he kind of popping in

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<v Speaker 1>the streets or whatever in Atlanta. So how we like

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<v Speaker 1>to start off the show. And before we start, I

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<v Speaker 1>do want to give a shout out to all of

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<v Speaker 1>your patrons, everyone who's subscribed to Horrible Decisions. We appreciate y'all,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know we're dropping another one for y'all. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>but we like to start off with icebreakers. So this

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<v Speaker 1>is so that y'all are a little comfortable in the

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<v Speaker 1>type of topics that we discussed on this show. Um,

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<v Speaker 1>so the first ones I'm actually gonna go for YouTube ladies.

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<v Speaker 1>You first. So as an icebreaker, you are a buttass,

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<v Speaker 1>naked sucking dick. He starts rubbing your clip with his toes.

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<v Speaker 1>What do you do? I don't know, I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>what I want. You know what I'm going off because

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<v Speaker 1>you know, niggas got that little black. He's got me

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<v Speaker 1>funked up. I don't like that one. You have one

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<v Speaker 1>because y'all athletes, it's only one. It be nice. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know. I mean, I ain't a girl, but I

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<v Speaker 1>mean like that, that's like, that's a that's a vibe

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<v Speaker 1>you can't do. If it's a vibe, you ain't think

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<v Speaker 1>about it black to if he Okay, let me ask

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<v Speaker 1>if you so, what if what if you laying with

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<v Speaker 1>a girl on the couch and she got her legs

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<v Speaker 1>on you and then she starts rubbing your dick with

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<v Speaker 1>her foot, vie if it's just a random beach like

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<v Speaker 1>just at my house and she started doing and I'm like, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>but if you know, if it's it's gotta be a

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<v Speaker 1>sit like but let's keep it on it, you know

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying. It's my bitch and she just some

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<v Speaker 1>freaky sh do that ship. I'm like, I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>it's different though they may usually have nice feet and

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<v Speaker 1>not only that, but that's like but not only that,

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like, you know, when you watch movies, they're

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<v Speaker 1>sitting at the dinner table, she's playing with his dick

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<v Speaker 1>on his head, but like that's normal for like women

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<v Speaker 1>to you know what I'm saying, get a little foot.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm not gonna lie to y'all. So with this podcast,

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<v Speaker 1>and we've been talking about this a lot, so we

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<v Speaker 1>used to have a question all the time. Would you

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<v Speaker 1>rather lick asks or suck toes? That's like the main question.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, ass, I'm wouna make ask anyway I like.

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<v Speaker 1>But like, since openly discussing feats so much, I've been like,

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<v Speaker 1>we all eat that because I want to eat that

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<v Speaker 1>boot that you know what I mean. They're not gonna

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<v Speaker 1>admit it today. Guy friends. But guys, oh, they be

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<v Speaker 1>holding their legs up for me. Honey, baby, I had

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<v Speaker 1>a guy he got on all fours. I was eating

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<v Speaker 1>that ass. So it's too far for I got to

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<v Speaker 1>get on all four he was tooting that ass up.

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<v Speaker 1>The problem he's six. But now but now it's easy

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<v Speaker 1>for you. You don't have to spread for you. He

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<v Speaker 1>wanted to, you should have said he looked back at

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<v Speaker 1>it like this, look back since since if you're scared,

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<v Speaker 1>you could give him my number, take it, take him.

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<v Speaker 1>So the next question is when you break up with

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<v Speaker 1>your girlfriend or boyfriend, when is a good time to funk?

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<v Speaker 1>The person you were accused of sucking. I mean I

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<v Speaker 1>was already. Wow, she think I'm sucking somebody? Probably I

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<v Speaker 1>probably was already. Yeah, But if you haven't, if you

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<v Speaker 1>haven't sucked that person yet, and they break, y'all break

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<v Speaker 1>up because of that, I'm hitting the nigga up, like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh yeah, you don't created the bond for my girl tripping,

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<v Speaker 1>Like damn, she think we're around many. I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>nobody to take nobody out on know dates. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>have no time for that, Like, I don't know. So

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<v Speaker 1>this is This leads me into my next question, and

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<v Speaker 1>I guess you can answer it, but I want the

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<v Speaker 1>girl to answer it too. Can a woman be in

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<v Speaker 1>love with her man and be intimate with someone else? Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>that's me every day and looking kind of like what

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<v Speaker 1>do you think you rather have loyalty than love? Well,

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<v Speaker 1>you're gonna get one of love. It's just a feeling.

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<v Speaker 1>You can love somebody still having me in the back. Wait, wait,

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<v Speaker 1>don't so you'd rather have loyalty over love. So love

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<v Speaker 1>me and kill me out of anger. You can hate

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<v Speaker 1>me and you be so loyal you'll never do anything

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<v Speaker 1>to hurt me. That's true. Wait that's kind of deed.

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<v Speaker 1>That's true, you know. I Actually that's because I don't fight, love,

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<v Speaker 1>make you do things out of you, don't think right, loyalty,

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<v Speaker 1>it don't matter. I could hate you. I never want

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<v Speaker 1>to see you again. But if I'm loyal to certain

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<v Speaker 1>certain she will never fly right. I don't love, but

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<v Speaker 1>I'm loyal to that's my family. That's because I don't

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<v Speaker 1>suck a lot of dick out of anger gets out

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<v Speaker 1>of anger. Wait, you do like reaving this? It's not that,

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<v Speaker 1>but I'll just be like, I'm not working with this

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<v Speaker 1>no more. We're done. Girl. Loyalty head anybody you know

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<v Speaker 1>I have morals, Loyalty would no matter how you feel

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<v Speaker 1>about the nigger, Loyalty will how you never his friends.

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<v Speaker 1>Loyalty will love. So it's crazy that you didn't get

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<v Speaker 1>us into our next motherfucking segments. So for Vanilla Ship,

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<v Speaker 1>as I do know, I normally pick a topic, um,

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<v Speaker 1>something that's going on in the news, and we're just gonna,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, talk about it. So I wanted to talk

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<v Speaker 1>about um. So if you guys tune in and I

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<v Speaker 1>don't even think ironically we like ninety episodes in and

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<v Speaker 1>we ain't never really talked about the Kardashians, but Chloe

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<v Speaker 1>came out and said that she stayed with Tristan after

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<v Speaker 1>cheating on her with multiple women for the baby, for

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<v Speaker 1>the family, like and letting it slide. So it's a

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<v Speaker 1>it's very different when women stay with men for cheating.

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<v Speaker 1>So I guess I'll ask you real quick before we

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<v Speaker 1>dive into this. Would you stay with your significant other

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<v Speaker 1>for cheating with you? And if so, what and you

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<v Speaker 1>stay with her? I mean because I had to look

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<v Speaker 1>at what I did prior. Okay, I see now, I've

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<v Speaker 1>never been in a situation where I've been cheated on first,

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<v Speaker 1>so I had to charge my ship to the game, like,

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<v Speaker 1>I had to look at it, like I could be

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<v Speaker 1>mad at her any sheep, But then I'm being hypocritical

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<v Speaker 1>because I didn't did so much. She's the game and

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<v Speaker 1>she funked up once, So I need to take a

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<v Speaker 1>step back. How did it happen? I need to look

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<v Speaker 1>at things and be like, A, you know, we could

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<v Speaker 1>feace the sheets because I popped the ship off in

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<v Speaker 1>the first place. Okay, that's a different I don't even

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<v Speaker 1>don't look that way. So what about you ladies, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>would you stay with your man after finding out he

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<v Speaker 1>cheated on you. Yeah, I'm not gonna cheating break from you. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm just being real. I'm not I'm not so here.

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<v Speaker 1>So here's my question because this is where I think,

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<v Speaker 1>and we talked about this a lot on the show.

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<v Speaker 1>I think communication is a big thing. And as we're

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<v Speaker 1>talking about cheating, if you feel like you're gonna cheat

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<v Speaker 1>on this nigga and you as a as a guy

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<v Speaker 1>are probably gonna cheat on her, why is there not

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<v Speaker 1>a conversation about possibly doing the open relationship? Probably amory, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>why isn't this just settled in the beginning, like instead

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<v Speaker 1>of this, because the act of betrayal is the thing?

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<v Speaker 1>What do you mean it doesn't work. I'm going through

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<v Speaker 1>it now. I was in a relationship for eight years.

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<v Speaker 1>Damn at a child joke up, So I look at

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<v Speaker 1>all my mistakes I did with that said, moving forward,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna hurt a woman. I'm not gonna lie.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna live by certain rules. I'm gonna be upfront

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<v Speaker 1>with everything. So my little voyage these past eight months

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<v Speaker 1>is being this is is what I'm on. I can't

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<v Speaker 1>do this, but this is what I can do bet

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<v Speaker 1>first couple of weeks, cool didn't get into just what

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<v Speaker 1>we're doing? What you mean what we're doing? So you

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<v Speaker 1>guys were together, was there a clear line as to

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<v Speaker 1>what you like? We're rocking? But we could do what

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<v Speaker 1>we want to do together. But see, why is it?

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<v Speaker 1>Why can't y'all be together and still be active outside

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<v Speaker 1>the women? Don't women act like they wanted to a

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<v Speaker 1>certain point. It don't never work that way, especially with

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<v Speaker 1>what I do. Women intimidated because I'm out and ship

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<v Speaker 1>like that. So it becomes like a what's the attitude for?

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<v Speaker 1>And you don't want to say because now you're not

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<v Speaker 1>really mad at me, you mad at yourself. Con put

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<v Speaker 1>yourself in the situation. So then we have a deep conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>She like, I just don't know why I even fucking

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<v Speaker 1>rag me. It's so weird relationship. It's so crazy because

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I'm like to the point now where I

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<v Speaker 1>want a boyfriend, And so when I'm speaking to people,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, listen, I don't need dick, I don't need

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<v Speaker 1>pen pals. Like, if I'm speaking with you, we need

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<v Speaker 1>to see what we can be. And this is where

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<v Speaker 1>we haven't had the conversation yet about monogamy. But I

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<v Speaker 1>don't believe in monogamy. I know it doesn't exist. He

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<v Speaker 1>probably gonna cheat, but I would rather know. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>want no girl to question my position with you, which

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<v Speaker 1>is where it is like, so I think with you

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<v Speaker 1>and her, the fact that you're able to say were

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<v Speaker 1>together but we're not together, and the fact that she

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<v Speaker 1>feels like she has to ask you what y'all are

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<v Speaker 1>That's the point to where if I'm in an open

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<v Speaker 1>relationship or I'm gonna let you step out, I should

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<v Speaker 1>never have a female question my position with you, and

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<v Speaker 1>I should never question my position with you. As soon

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<v Speaker 1>as I start questioning my position with you, now it's

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<v Speaker 1>like now it is what then are we doing? Like

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<v Speaker 1>now we have got off because I know where, but

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<v Speaker 1>maybe you're not showing that to her. Yes with me

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<v Speaker 1>all the time every day. If I'm calling you an

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<v Speaker 1>you'll be with a nigga all day. He's taking this girl.

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<v Speaker 1>I love you, girl. I haven't been, but that's what

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<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. Don't be with somebody if you're thinking in

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<v Speaker 1>your head, because if I'm leaving my I mean right,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, you don't ever go into a situation being like, oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a cheat. I never do. I'm not saying I've

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<v Speaker 1>been faithful. I've been in many times. There's been one

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<v Speaker 1>dude that I funk with where I really when I

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<v Speaker 1>fun with him, I don't do nothing because he gives

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<v Speaker 1>me everything I want to me like, So, let me

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<v Speaker 1>ask you, if you have a guy that gives you

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<v Speaker 1>everything you want and need, what makes you feel the

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<v Speaker 1>need to step out to somebody else? I don't, But

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<v Speaker 1>it's only been one person that's done that, only one

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<v Speaker 1>If I what you mean? Why? Like? Why is why

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<v Speaker 1>is he the only person you feel like you could

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<v Speaker 1>be faithful to? One thing is I will say this

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<v Speaker 1>because I know if he found out, he is not

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<v Speaker 1>working with that ship and I would rather because I'm

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<v Speaker 1>a cheater. I don't do it on perfect. So so

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<v Speaker 1>here's my questions. Horrible answer, that terrible answer for answer,

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<v Speaker 1>he gave the answer. So let me ask you, why

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<v Speaker 1>wouldn't you go into relationships with men or become committed

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<v Speaker 1>or whatever. Why don't you suggest the open relationship package

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<v Speaker 1>or this or you could even offer the swinging package,

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<v Speaker 1>which is something that I'm been doing, like to where

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<v Speaker 1>at least he's present or y'all know exactly what y'all

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<v Speaker 1>are doing to where that betrayal aspect isn't added. You

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<v Speaker 1>know what, I would be open to an open situation.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna lie I would, but I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>no I would, but you know what the thing is though,

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<v Speaker 1>guys do not like it. But as soon as you'll

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<v Speaker 1>be like girl, you get deek from another nails exactly,

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<v Speaker 1>don't want to wait, but you eat as too, right,

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<v Speaker 1>I would like she really want to back a girl's

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<v Speaker 1>ass that I have like things. Oh girl, you skipping

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<v Speaker 1>step You have to come first, like the fact that

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<v Speaker 1>he letting your finger without licking at first, like you're

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<v Speaker 1>skipping stepsis, I'm about to try your own. I just

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<v Speaker 1>told lead, and I'm mad that we are technically getting

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<v Speaker 1>into our horrible decisions without meaning to, because we're doing

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<v Speaker 1>the whole guy girl versus you know we're gonna get

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<v Speaker 1>into it. Hold on, we're gonna talk about that too.

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<v Speaker 1>And you might think that we ain't gonna sit here

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<v Speaker 1>and ask kink shame. That's what we're not gonna It's

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<v Speaker 1>both ways, though, I don't even not even to a woman.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't you don't Okay, you know if you eat

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<v Speaker 1>put your technically eating as guess what was technical whatever?

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<v Speaker 1>I ain't never just knew I'm not eating like so

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<v Speaker 1>you didn't know you was eating ask, but you did know.

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<v Speaker 1>I ain't never. You ain't never even leaked. Okay, with

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<v Speaker 1>you down by the whole of the pussy, then you

0:14:50.400 --> 0:14:51.680
<v Speaker 1>was down by the whole of the pussy. The ASK

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<v Speaker 1>is like a cinimeter away, That's what I'm saying. But

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't eat the ass. It don't matter if I

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<v Speaker 1>was point to I was have a centimeter away from

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<v Speaker 1>the fish line. I ain't win the race. Anyways, We're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna go ahead and we is going into get into

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<v Speaker 1>the kink of the week, the kink for this week, guys.

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<v Speaker 1>As y'all know, every week we give y'all a king.

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<v Speaker 1>We don't king shame around here, but we like to

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<v Speaker 1>let y'all know that some people listen to some kinky ship.

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<v Speaker 1>Um so this week one and thank god I can

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<v Speaker 1>actually say it. It's claustrophilia. This is when people are

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<v Speaker 1>turned on by and or prefer to have sex in

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<v Speaker 1>tiny places. So this is interesting because I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>this would be like maybe if you've had sex in

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<v Speaker 1>a stall, in a bathroom or car sex, which I

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<v Speaker 1>am so against Carson I hates, first off, anymore. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't lost some weight when I'm still a thick

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<v Speaker 1>bitch and I like niggas over six three? So where

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<v Speaker 1>are we fitting like? And clearly the word comes from

0:15:55.920 --> 0:16:00.320
<v Speaker 1>claustrophobias with claustrophilias, So it's people who are turned on

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<v Speaker 1>by being in closing me. Have you ever fucked in?

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<v Speaker 1>Have y'all ever sucked in a small space ship? I

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<v Speaker 1>mean in my car, but I always had big cars, though.

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<v Speaker 1>What's a big gass car like a suburban like I

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<v Speaker 1>got like my truck. But the seats come up, so

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<v Speaker 1>it's like big, wait there, like the back seat I

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<v Speaker 1>had my jeep ringers, So I let the back seats down.

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<v Speaker 1>He's down like a whole lot supposed to anywhere, and

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<v Speaker 1>the seats go down. Okay, it don't happen that fast,

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<v Speaker 1>like there's a whole transition like we're playing Transformers before.

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<v Speaker 1>In that case, you can just get your ass up

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<v Speaker 1>and going out. Pull the seats go down. Many in

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<v Speaker 1>the car I used to be. I'm not gonna know

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<v Speaker 1>I've had sex in the car. Before you talking about

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<v Speaker 1>you like Nigga's that six story bitch. I'm six story

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<v Speaker 1>big big, absolutely not. I'm not solid big, I'm too big.

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<v Speaker 1>Like my my leg over here, your leg right here.

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<v Speaker 1>It's no used to make it exciting. Have y'all ever

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<v Speaker 1>had sex in like a bathroom tall ar? Yeah? How

0:17:09.080 --> 0:17:12.520
<v Speaker 1>was that? I mean it was cold, but it's a

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<v Speaker 1>very tiny space. And then I, like, what was kind

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<v Speaker 1>of nervous just because all the germs and she grue

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not a germa foul, but I was trying to

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<v Speaker 1>be like as you or you'll be down by the ass.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't be seen here talking about I'm a gummer folk.

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<v Speaker 1>You know ship come out of the person who asked

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<v Speaker 1>I'm leaking. I know who asked I'm leaking? You know

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<v Speaker 1>what coming out here? It's crazy because I was talking

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<v Speaker 1>with my friend shout at DeAndre. I was talking to

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<v Speaker 1>her before and when I found this, I was like, okay,

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<v Speaker 1>So I was thinking, I was like, I don't like

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<v Speaker 1>car sex. Then I was thinking of maybe like a

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<v Speaker 1>fitting room in a in a store, and I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like the only thing that would be exciting about that

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<v Speaker 1>to me would be possibly getting caught people I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think I would enjoy it because it's small,

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<v Speaker 1>but I would enjoy it because I know we're not

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<v Speaker 1>supposed to be. That's how it was. When I was

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<v Speaker 1>working in the bathroom, I just it was a woman's bathroom,

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<v Speaker 1>by the way, and he when he gave me to

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<v Speaker 1>the woman's bathroom, I was, yeah, I s what you mean.

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<v Speaker 1>We wasn't at the bowling nelle y'all, and I was

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<v Speaker 1>with my dude at the time, and this was a

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<v Speaker 1>couple's day. It was a couple of days they was friends.

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<v Speaker 1>So she was like, hold on, I got to go

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<v Speaker 1>to the bathroom. He could already win. Yeah, So she

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<v Speaker 1>just ran to the bathroom. She was like, I'd be

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<v Speaker 1>right back late, and she gave me that look, I'm drunk.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like a ship nigga. They was gone, this makes

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<v Speaker 1>me feel And it was people walking in the bathroom.

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<v Speaker 1>I remember that I had to like basically kind of

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<v Speaker 1>like try to get on top of like the toils

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<v Speaker 1>on my legs only his feet. But wait, why wouldn't

0:18:49.320 --> 0:18:51.280
<v Speaker 1>you want your legs to show instead of his? Because

0:18:51.320 --> 0:18:55.240
<v Speaker 1>this is the girl's back. I wasn't she always be

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<v Speaker 1>I got caught in the bathroom at her apartment because

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<v Speaker 1>they was sucking in the living room and I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>who want to go out, fir. I was like, please help.

0:19:02.960 --> 0:19:05.520
<v Speaker 1>I'm like that time I was working on a balcony.

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<v Speaker 1>He was in my room and then see me through

0:19:08.040 --> 0:19:11.360
<v Speaker 1>the window. I was like this, y'all have a y'all

0:19:11.440 --> 0:19:15.560
<v Speaker 1>have a real friend show. Oh it's crazy, It's crazy.

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<v Speaker 1>This is literally a lot of compromising positions. My apartment

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<v Speaker 1>is a loss, right right, that's what I come in

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<v Speaker 1>here and pass out my niggy coming through, Like I'd

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<v Speaker 1>be so respectful for my friend DeAndre. You don't even

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<v Speaker 1>know that night we was playing, Oh we had the

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<v Speaker 1>card game and you know who came through, which we

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<v Speaker 1>was working in the staircase because I was trying to

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<v Speaker 1>be respectful of you and I we went to the

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<v Speaker 1>staircase that you're building at the Atlantic, bitch, and we

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<v Speaker 1>was working in the staircase. Oh, we didn't do the no,

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<v Speaker 1>we just went straight to the staircase because I wasn't

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<v Speaker 1>in your house. Like, I was like, I ain't gonna

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<v Speaker 1>do DeAndre like that. So I'm jealous right now, me

0:19:55.400 --> 0:19:58.800
<v Speaker 1>get this man. I'd have been And I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>because when I first lived here, I was staying with

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<v Speaker 1>her before my apartment was ready. I would have been

0:20:02.880 --> 0:20:10.399
<v Speaker 1>in a bed with this girl, somebody rubbing on me.

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<v Speaker 1>It was another chick that was in her pussy. I'm like,

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<v Speaker 1>what the fuck? Bet See this is DeAndre, you listening

0:20:19.080 --> 0:20:20.720
<v Speaker 1>to this. I just wanted to cuddle last night in

0:20:20.760 --> 0:20:23.080
<v Speaker 1>this bitch was like cuddle a who bit anything. I'm

0:20:23.080 --> 0:20:26.440
<v Speaker 1>gonna turn her out, and I'm not gonna like when

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sleep Like sometimes I'll stay at her house, she'll

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<v Speaker 1>come home, she'll be sucked up. She'll be like right

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<v Speaker 1>under my back. But that's what people think that me Andre,

0:20:34.040 --> 0:20:38.159
<v Speaker 1>and we never never, never touched. Never. Why let me

0:20:38.240 --> 0:20:40.480
<v Speaker 1>ask you, why do all men think that friends fun?

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<v Speaker 1>Because I get asked that all the time with Marko

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<v Speaker 1>right now, No, you don't. I think I live with

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<v Speaker 1>a woman for like seven eight years, Okay, I kind

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<v Speaker 1>of seen how she moved her, seeing certain things where

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<v Speaker 1>I got a better understand It is just using the

0:20:55.160 --> 0:20:59.800
<v Speaker 1>imagine she got to be. It's gotta be. I think

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<v Speaker 1>people like see us on the outside, like they see

0:21:01.880 --> 0:21:05.240
<v Speaker 1>us on instagram'll be like, oh, I know they when

0:21:05.240 --> 0:21:07.320
<v Speaker 1>they actually hang out with us and see how fucking

0:21:07.400 --> 0:21:10.560
<v Speaker 1>dumb we are, how they're like, oh fun, they are

0:21:10.600 --> 0:21:14.120
<v Speaker 1>not y'all childish? And remember that girl tried to start

0:21:14.119 --> 0:21:17.920
<v Speaker 1>eating your plassy? Hold on, you got the wrong one,

0:21:18.720 --> 0:21:20.440
<v Speaker 1>ware you? So you don't deal with girls. I have

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<v Speaker 1>been with it, but it's not my thing like I have, Solex,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna stop texting you which we got first? Noble,

0:21:27.800 --> 0:21:31.800
<v Speaker 1>I thought you got the wrong one. That's that one

0:21:31.920 --> 0:21:34.760
<v Speaker 1>right now, that's the one to me. Let me start.

0:21:34.840 --> 0:21:37.520
<v Speaker 1>I always be trying to punch my trains. So we're

0:21:37.560 --> 0:21:39.720
<v Speaker 1>gonna go in two guys now the horrible decision, and

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<v Speaker 1>we've kind of touched on it already. In this episode,

0:21:42.400 --> 0:21:44.360
<v Speaker 1>we're gonna do kind of a girl code versus guy

0:21:44.480 --> 0:21:47.800
<v Speaker 1>code as far as like what's acceptable on our end

0:21:47.840 --> 0:21:50.240
<v Speaker 1>as women and kind of how men view it and

0:21:50.400 --> 0:21:53.680
<v Speaker 1>vice versa. I kind of wanted to start off with

0:21:53.800 --> 0:21:56.480
<v Speaker 1>something simple more so like dating, just to get kind

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<v Speaker 1>of a grasp between what we think in the room.

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<v Speaker 1>So I want to say, how long should a girl

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<v Speaker 1>wait to be claimed by a dude that she's dating?

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<v Speaker 1>And so you're a man, I would love your perspective

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<v Speaker 1>on this, but how long as women do we feel

0:22:11.000 --> 0:22:13.359
<v Speaker 1>like we should wait before a guy starts to claim us?

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<v Speaker 1>How do I feel like y'all should feel how you

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<v Speaker 1>feel like if you're dating a girl? How long does

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<v Speaker 1>do men normally wait before they know like, damn, I

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<v Speaker 1>like her? Let me it ain't no time. Everything a

0:22:28.359 --> 0:22:34.040
<v Speaker 1>vibe with you, because I swear, But for my first experience,

0:22:34.240 --> 0:22:38.240
<v Speaker 1>I learned that certain things I just let happen instead

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<v Speaker 1>of trying to make it happen. Or fortunately, if I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like if I'm looking at you and I'm like, yeah,

0:22:43.200 --> 0:22:46.480
<v Speaker 1>you going on my grand I know that's right. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not about to be over when I know I'm working

0:22:49.400 --> 0:22:51.080
<v Speaker 1>with you, And see what he just said, I think

0:22:51.119 --> 0:22:53.119
<v Speaker 1>that's what a lot of us girls do. We overthink

0:22:53.480 --> 0:22:56.560
<v Speaker 1>febory thing. So let me ask y'all. I y'all are

0:22:56.640 --> 0:22:59.200
<v Speaker 1>talking to a guy and y'all are dating, and it's

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<v Speaker 1>to the point where it may he got a nickname,

0:23:01.040 --> 0:23:03.520
<v Speaker 1>all the friends know about him. When do you guys

0:23:03.640 --> 0:23:06.520
<v Speaker 1>maybe start being like, Okay, why am I not his

0:23:06.600 --> 0:23:09.720
<v Speaker 1>girlfriend yet? Look, y'all, and you know what me and

0:23:09.840 --> 0:23:12.160
<v Speaker 1>Lex had a conversation about, because like a few months

0:23:12.200 --> 0:23:15.320
<v Speaker 1>ago and we're stal totally opposite like me, I'm kind

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<v Speaker 1>of I just kind of go with the flow when

0:23:16.920 --> 0:23:18.199
<v Speaker 1>it comes to day and the guy like, I'll let

0:23:18.240 --> 0:23:20.320
<v Speaker 1>you do what you wanna do, like whenever you're ready,

0:23:20.560 --> 0:23:24.880
<v Speaker 1>then let me tell you something about me. The next week,

0:23:24.880 --> 0:23:28.679
<v Speaker 1>I had a boyfriend. I was in a relationship. If

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<v Speaker 1>they is let you are my man and we love Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>that's how so are you? Are you as soon as

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<v Speaker 1>y'all have sex? I mean, he your boyfriend like that,

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<v Speaker 1>But like sometimes I get vibes, Like he said, I

0:23:39.840 --> 0:23:42.320
<v Speaker 1>get a vibe. So here's my thing, though, do you

0:23:42.440 --> 0:23:45.439
<v Speaker 1>not seek a mutual vibe? Because even though you may

0:23:45.520 --> 0:23:50.399
<v Speaker 1>be vibing with him. But Drian knows this. Every nigga

0:23:50.400 --> 0:23:53.000
<v Speaker 1>I funk with, they'd be pressuring me for my friends

0:23:53.600 --> 0:23:59.159
<v Speaker 1>and be me. But to everybody, I'd be like no,

0:23:59.400 --> 0:24:03.160
<v Speaker 1>I'd like, sure, yeah, I want you to be my girl.

0:24:05.520 --> 0:24:07.639
<v Speaker 1>Wait wait wait, you said it doesn't mean anything when

0:24:07.640 --> 0:24:10.399
<v Speaker 1>a guy does that. Why because as a knee, I

0:24:10.480 --> 0:24:12.760
<v Speaker 1>could say, bro, nigga would just say she just to

0:24:12.840 --> 0:24:15.240
<v Speaker 1>get a girl head where you need to be true

0:24:15.240 --> 0:24:17.480
<v Speaker 1>because I'm doing that ship Wait wait wait, wait, wait,

0:24:17.560 --> 0:24:20.119
<v Speaker 1>now we're gonna wait, We're gonna post because I got

0:24:20.240 --> 0:24:23.760
<v Speaker 1>to hear this, do you We could be chilling. Everything

0:24:23.800 --> 0:24:26.040
<v Speaker 1>would be good, we would be sucking you went, we

0:24:26.119 --> 0:24:29.119
<v Speaker 1>were rocking, and I just got the nigga gotta just

0:24:29.359 --> 0:24:35.120
<v Speaker 1>do the bro let's even, let's stop playing and could

0:24:35.119 --> 0:24:38.000
<v Speaker 1>be like what you mean like we're good? Like he's

0:24:38.040 --> 0:24:40.360
<v Speaker 1>like nah for real, Like you don't want to lock

0:24:40.480 --> 0:24:42.840
<v Speaker 1>that in so bad? Just to make sure mentally you

0:24:42.960 --> 0:24:47.639
<v Speaker 1>know that doing so. Men will say that, just to

0:24:47.720 --> 0:24:52.160
<v Speaker 1>make sure she's not. Yeah, you lying, y'all be lying.

0:24:52.640 --> 0:24:54.560
<v Speaker 1>I don't do it no more, but I've done it.

0:24:54.640 --> 0:24:55.800
<v Speaker 1>But this is what I'm saying. We will do that

0:24:56.080 --> 0:24:57.680
<v Speaker 1>to get y'all where we need to be. And then

0:24:57.760 --> 0:25:00.000
<v Speaker 1>when y'all are there, that's when we arguing with y'all

0:25:00.000 --> 0:25:02.760
<v Speaker 1>about your tripping and ship. I hate when they be

0:25:02.880 --> 0:25:10.800
<v Speaker 1>like you trip so why yeah? Why? Like I feel

0:25:10.840 --> 0:25:14.399
<v Speaker 1>like that. I feel like it's out of it's out

0:25:14.440 --> 0:25:18.240
<v Speaker 1>of selfishness and it's other ship. I feel like we're

0:25:18.560 --> 0:25:22.520
<v Speaker 1>mentally with niggas like it's ship. How we honestly believe

0:25:22.680 --> 0:25:24.720
<v Speaker 1>just going to see my therapists and things I talked

0:25:24.760 --> 0:25:27.000
<v Speaker 1>to him about mental health, that's how we was right.

0:25:27.080 --> 0:25:30.120
<v Speaker 1>Yeah I did all this? What what what did your

0:25:31.440 --> 0:25:33.560
<v Speaker 1>That's just how we how we view, how we view

0:25:33.640 --> 0:25:36.879
<v Speaker 1>certain things, how we were raised. A lot of niggas

0:25:36.920 --> 0:25:40.320
<v Speaker 1>got just insecurities on their own and almost have nothing

0:25:40.359 --> 0:25:45.080
<v Speaker 1>to do with relationships period, just as a man, and

0:25:45.240 --> 0:25:47.240
<v Speaker 1>just things they haven't been through that they just need

0:25:47.359 --> 0:25:52.040
<v Speaker 1>to have control over certain things or feel secure about

0:25:52.119 --> 0:25:53.760
<v Speaker 1>certain So let me ask you, because we do have

0:25:53.840 --> 0:25:56.520
<v Speaker 1>a lot of parents that listen to us, we have couples,

0:25:56.600 --> 0:25:58.840
<v Speaker 1>we have a lot of people who may want children

0:25:58.960 --> 0:26:01.360
<v Speaker 1>in the future. Is there anything that your therapist said

0:26:01.520 --> 0:26:03.480
<v Speaker 1>or to you, Is there anything that could change that

0:26:03.600 --> 0:26:05.679
<v Speaker 1>upbringing to where y'all don't grow up to be these

0:26:05.680 --> 0:26:10.800
<v Speaker 1>that y'all are like like you. It's it's not necessarily

0:26:11.240 --> 0:26:13.040
<v Speaker 1>it wasn't like how he was raised. It's just not

0:26:13.240 --> 0:26:16.200
<v Speaker 1>being able, especially black men. I can't speak for any

0:26:16.240 --> 0:26:20.400
<v Speaker 1>other that we don't. We don't express ourselves. So anything

0:26:20.480 --> 0:26:22.760
<v Speaker 1>we've ever been through, no matter what it's been. I'm

0:26:22.760 --> 0:26:25.280
<v Speaker 1>twenty eight, so it's been twenty eight years of I'm

0:26:25.359 --> 0:26:28.720
<v Speaker 1>good or that ship. Let's right. I think it's it's

0:26:28.760 --> 0:26:31.720
<v Speaker 1>like it's soft black man say, it's how he feels.

0:26:31.760 --> 0:26:39.200
<v Speaker 1>It's like, oh, you saw you're supposed to care. It's

0:26:39.240 --> 0:26:42.120
<v Speaker 1>cool to not carrying. You want to talk to nobody.

0:26:42.200 --> 0:26:44.639
<v Speaker 1>Your mom could have been the best parent ever, did everything,

0:26:44.800 --> 0:26:48.680
<v Speaker 1>But it's just how like ship be so who but

0:26:48.840 --> 0:26:51.560
<v Speaker 1>who raises like? Is it more so society that's raising

0:26:51.600 --> 0:26:53.760
<v Speaker 1>black men to be like? I think a mental health

0:26:53.840 --> 0:26:57.760
<v Speaker 1>issue wasn't something It's not even our parents fault. It's

0:26:57.840 --> 0:27:02.680
<v Speaker 1>something that was never thought about. I'm nine, like anything,

0:27:02.800 --> 0:27:06.359
<v Speaker 1>it's just coming up now. Kids now are like early

0:27:06.480 --> 0:27:09.800
<v Speaker 1>we were able to be able to care about that,

0:27:10.680 --> 0:27:12.479
<v Speaker 1>you know what I'm saying. So it wasn't like our

0:27:12.520 --> 0:27:15.040
<v Speaker 1>parents like, yeah, you know, we can't. How are they

0:27:15.119 --> 0:27:16.480
<v Speaker 1>gonna talk to us about It's not even a thought

0:27:16.520 --> 0:27:21.400
<v Speaker 1>in their mind? Okay, speak on it. Listen like your

0:27:21.400 --> 0:27:23.479
<v Speaker 1>tweets because your tweets be coming for bitches. But now

0:27:23.520 --> 0:27:26.239
<v Speaker 1>I feel like, see, I got my views on that too,

0:27:26.320 --> 0:27:29.800
<v Speaker 1>But it's I got logic. I don't never say nothing

0:27:29.880 --> 0:27:33.040
<v Speaker 1>without both sides. I get that. But but at least

0:27:33.080 --> 0:27:37.880
<v Speaker 1>that you're able to even own up to your ignorant something.

0:27:38.359 --> 0:27:40.520
<v Speaker 1>I say something about women. But niggas is fucked up,

0:27:40.600 --> 0:27:43.480
<v Speaker 1>Like I don't need a lot of fun up ship

0:27:43.720 --> 0:27:46.560
<v Speaker 1>and I'm running with niggas to do fund up ship,

0:27:46.880 --> 0:27:48.800
<v Speaker 1>and I don't have the conversations, and niggas gonna be

0:27:48.800 --> 0:27:50.479
<v Speaker 1>trying to hear that ship. Hey, bro, you don't ever

0:27:50.560 --> 0:27:52.520
<v Speaker 1>think you'd be doing that ship because it is NI

0:27:52.760 --> 0:27:54.400
<v Speaker 1>put their hair down, like man, I don't talk about

0:27:54.640 --> 0:27:57.680
<v Speaker 1>man I talked right, So as women, what do we

0:27:57.840 --> 0:28:00.359
<v Speaker 1>do if we like meeting you? Because we're all in

0:28:00.480 --> 0:28:07.720
<v Speaker 1>our late twenties. The woman, the woman that I the woman,

0:28:07.960 --> 0:28:10.680
<v Speaker 1>the two women that I talked to, right, one of

0:28:10.800 --> 0:28:12.760
<v Speaker 1>them the one who told me to go see a therapy.

0:28:14.240 --> 0:28:16.639
<v Speaker 1>You got this going on, you need to do this,

0:28:16.840 --> 0:28:18.600
<v Speaker 1>because I went, I'm going through this and I go

0:28:18.720 --> 0:28:21.080
<v Speaker 1>see my therapist for this, and that happened. The other

0:28:21.160 --> 0:28:23.359
<v Speaker 1>girl kind of just read me so good. She knows

0:28:23.400 --> 0:28:24.920
<v Speaker 1>what that she is. She like, how fun with you?

0:28:25.000 --> 0:28:27.640
<v Speaker 1>But hey, no, nig, but let's go out to this movie.

0:28:28.920 --> 0:28:31.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna know when you ready. I know you ain't ready, nig.

0:28:32.560 --> 0:28:34.080
<v Speaker 1>So she's just read me and I just laugh at

0:28:34.080 --> 0:28:36.679
<v Speaker 1>off sometimes and I have to check myself, like let

0:28:36.720 --> 0:28:38.800
<v Speaker 1>me stop playing with the girl. But she know me

0:28:38.960 --> 0:28:41.480
<v Speaker 1>good enough, so I'm not rushing nothing. And she's smart

0:28:41.600 --> 0:28:44.120
<v Speaker 1>enough mentally and strong enough mentally to peat my bullshit.

0:28:44.320 --> 0:28:50.800
<v Speaker 1>But no, no, no, no, no, no no no, these women,

0:28:51.080 --> 0:28:53.480
<v Speaker 1>these women will see that she, oh, this nigga full

0:28:53.480 --> 0:28:55.400
<v Speaker 1>of games, fuck them and not try to help them

0:28:55.720 --> 0:28:57.720
<v Speaker 1>or see something in them. But is it our drive?

0:28:58.920 --> 0:29:05.200
<v Speaker 1>That's only it's only right right? I feel like in

0:29:05.280 --> 0:29:07.400
<v Speaker 1>the beginning, I don't know if I see something. We

0:29:07.480 --> 0:29:09.400
<v Speaker 1>two So can I bring this? Can I bring this

0:29:09.560 --> 0:29:13.080
<v Speaker 1>back to the wonderful I'm saying if we just had

0:29:13.120 --> 0:29:16.040
<v Speaker 1>a quote from the wonderful um first lady of the

0:29:16.080 --> 0:29:20.320
<v Speaker 1>motherfucker us of a UM, Michelle Obama, And she came through,

0:29:20.600 --> 0:29:23.440
<v Speaker 1>which I appreciated most recently. She came through and said

0:29:23.520 --> 0:29:26.560
<v Speaker 1>that she knew that Obama was for her because he

0:29:26.760 --> 0:29:28.920
<v Speaker 1>was already a full ass, complete human being when he

0:29:29.000 --> 0:29:32.160
<v Speaker 1>met her. And so I feel like, unfortunately for black

0:29:32.240 --> 0:29:34.800
<v Speaker 1>men and not speaking for all, but they expect us

0:29:34.880 --> 0:29:37.800
<v Speaker 1>as women to take them broken and to help build

0:29:37.840 --> 0:29:40.320
<v Speaker 1>them or to help fix them. And there's so there's

0:29:40.360 --> 0:29:42.720
<v Speaker 1>so much things already on our plate as black women

0:29:43.160 --> 0:29:45.640
<v Speaker 1>wanting black kings. We hate that we have to feel

0:29:45.680 --> 0:29:48.000
<v Speaker 1>like we have to help you get a job, help

0:29:48.080 --> 0:29:49.800
<v Speaker 1>with your resume, build you up, and be the men

0:29:49.880 --> 0:29:52.080
<v Speaker 1>that we want you to be. Instead of y'all coming

0:29:52.200 --> 0:29:57.280
<v Speaker 1>as the men that we want than that though, it's

0:29:57.320 --> 0:29:59.600
<v Speaker 1>like go back to slavery with that sheep, Like how

0:29:59.680 --> 0:30:02.920
<v Speaker 1>are where we are so embarrassed about certain things to

0:30:03.080 --> 0:30:06.080
<v Speaker 1>express ourselves and it's weighing on us. Bro, That Willie

0:30:06.120 --> 0:30:08.880
<v Speaker 1>Litch ship is real? Is fun? Like do you know

0:30:09.040 --> 0:30:12.720
<v Speaker 1>like how they they they made they made out, they

0:30:12.840 --> 0:30:15.960
<v Speaker 1>made black men just they humiliated black men in front

0:30:15.960 --> 0:30:19.240
<v Speaker 1>of their kids and they women, and that ship trickles,

0:30:19.640 --> 0:30:23.320
<v Speaker 1>and it's like an insecurity, a generational insecurity with black men.

0:30:23.400 --> 0:30:25.600
<v Speaker 1>We keep shit in We want to be the manliest

0:30:25.680 --> 0:30:28.560
<v Speaker 1>man ever, but we need something, but at the same time,

0:30:28.600 --> 0:30:30.760
<v Speaker 1>we don't want to express what we need. So y'all

0:30:30.760 --> 0:30:32.400
<v Speaker 1>don't know what the fund is wrong with us? And

0:30:32.480 --> 0:30:34.680
<v Speaker 1>you can't tell y'all what's wrong with us because it's

0:30:34.760 --> 0:30:37.040
<v Speaker 1>like so deeper than just saying one thing. It's like

0:30:37.200 --> 0:30:39.560
<v Speaker 1>it's a lot, but I can't say so. But it's like,

0:30:39.680 --> 0:30:42.400
<v Speaker 1>at what point do y'all realize that and start to

0:30:42.440 --> 0:30:45.560
<v Speaker 1>be like, you know what, let me heal myself because

0:30:45.640 --> 0:30:49.440
<v Speaker 1>I don't. You can't depend on nobody else. It's a process.

0:30:49.800 --> 0:30:52.480
<v Speaker 1>I didn't I heard a woman so bad to figure out.

0:30:53.000 --> 0:30:55.440
<v Speaker 1>I'm a fun nigga and I need to figure it out.

0:30:55.480 --> 0:30:57.840
<v Speaker 1>And it took another girl after that to be like, nigga,

0:30:57.920 --> 0:31:01.240
<v Speaker 1>you is a nigga, You're a good nigga. But and

0:31:01.640 --> 0:31:03.040
<v Speaker 1>this is what I see. I feel like, you need

0:31:03.120 --> 0:31:05.560
<v Speaker 1>to talk to somebody, but it takes it's up to

0:31:05.640 --> 0:31:07.520
<v Speaker 1>you to make them Still. I think it takes a

0:31:07.560 --> 0:31:10.040
<v Speaker 1>strong man to to realize that, Okay, I need to

0:31:10.120 --> 0:31:13.080
<v Speaker 1>go see it or I need to find someone that

0:31:13.120 --> 0:31:16.440
<v Speaker 1>I can, because some things don't even know how. I

0:31:16.520 --> 0:31:18.400
<v Speaker 1>didn't even know how to be by myself when I

0:31:18.520 --> 0:31:20.840
<v Speaker 1>broke up with the mother of my child and I

0:31:21.000 --> 0:31:23.680
<v Speaker 1>was single. I didn't spend the night alone. And it

0:31:23.840 --> 0:31:26.600
<v Speaker 1>wasn't even because I'm fucking bitches just for cool. It's

0:31:26.640 --> 0:31:28.600
<v Speaker 1>got to a point I just needed somebody that I

0:31:28.680 --> 0:31:36.400
<v Speaker 1>needed it, like, like I just want to even I

0:31:36.480 --> 0:31:38.480
<v Speaker 1>guess even a man admitting that, Like I just didn't

0:31:38.520 --> 0:31:41.120
<v Speaker 1>want to be alone, Like you don't hear men expressions.

0:31:43.320 --> 0:31:45.480
<v Speaker 1>But I just hurt somebody so bad I don't want

0:31:45.480 --> 0:31:46.960
<v Speaker 1>to do it again out of my fear. I just

0:31:47.080 --> 0:31:50.320
<v Speaker 1>had to be real myself, Like I just want to

0:31:50.440 --> 0:31:53.680
<v Speaker 1>be fully transparent with anybody. I'm working with. So I

0:31:53.840 --> 0:31:56.520
<v Speaker 1>just know I got baggage and I'm still fixing that ship.

0:31:56.880 --> 0:31:58.800
<v Speaker 1>So don't come over here if you're not you know,

0:31:59.320 --> 0:32:01.440
<v Speaker 1>so what you would you accept that with a woman?

0:32:01.560 --> 0:32:04.560
<v Speaker 1>Like if a woman was broken and to be built up.

0:32:04.600 --> 0:32:06.840
<v Speaker 1>Because the woman who told me that I need to

0:32:06.880 --> 0:32:08.760
<v Speaker 1>see a therapist, it's a lot going on with her

0:32:09.040 --> 0:32:10.680
<v Speaker 1>and she got a pass and she doesn't did a

0:32:10.720 --> 0:32:12.800
<v Speaker 1>lot of crazy ships and we could talk about that

0:32:12.880 --> 0:32:15.320
<v Speaker 1>and it doesn't bother me. Okay, it doesn't bother you,

0:32:15.400 --> 0:32:17.360
<v Speaker 1>but I do want to bring that into and you

0:32:18.000 --> 0:32:20.720
<v Speaker 1>y'all can change my whole outline. But um, when it

0:32:20.800 --> 0:32:23.840
<v Speaker 1>comes to a woman opening up about their past, if

0:32:23.880 --> 0:32:26.200
<v Speaker 1>we're supposed to sit here and you know, accept you

0:32:26.360 --> 0:32:29.640
<v Speaker 1>for you, your upbringing, being a man, you being vulnerable,

0:32:29.680 --> 0:32:31.960
<v Speaker 1>but not so vulnerable as a woman. When we do

0:32:32.120 --> 0:32:34.600
<v Speaker 1>express our past and what we've been through or how

0:32:34.680 --> 0:32:38.200
<v Speaker 1>many sexual partners we've had, how how is it that

0:32:38.320 --> 0:32:41.600
<v Speaker 1>we can express that to a man without that judgment

0:32:41.640 --> 0:32:44.960
<v Speaker 1>being like I told you to grow fun. She tells

0:32:45.000 --> 0:32:46.960
<v Speaker 1>me everything and it doesn't bother me. It kind of

0:32:47.080 --> 0:32:49.560
<v Speaker 1>was like a weight off my shoulders to be able

0:32:49.600 --> 0:32:55.000
<v Speaker 1>to had that conversation and you just a whole out here.

0:32:55.000 --> 0:32:58.680
<v Speaker 1>You know. I listen to all that she did and

0:32:58.720 --> 0:33:01.240
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, damn, you know, we grew up like we

0:33:01.600 --> 0:33:05.520
<v Speaker 1>was doing ship in between eighteen and twenty before I

0:33:05.640 --> 0:33:07.320
<v Speaker 1>met you. I don't give a funk what you did

0:33:07.600 --> 0:33:10.160
<v Speaker 1>as long as you can express it to me. The

0:33:10.280 --> 0:33:12.800
<v Speaker 1>nigga worst fear is this all we care about walking

0:33:12.840 --> 0:33:16.960
<v Speaker 1>into a room and but that's very But that's it is.

0:33:17.240 --> 0:33:19.440
<v Speaker 1>But that you not take care though, But that's like

0:33:19.600 --> 0:33:23.000
<v Speaker 1>very reckles. Niggas be caring. They do they do. Let

0:33:23.040 --> 0:33:24.280
<v Speaker 1>me ask you, let me let me ask you this.

0:33:24.520 --> 0:33:27.440
<v Speaker 1>So you're in the industry, you meet a girl and

0:33:27.560 --> 0:33:32.200
<v Speaker 1>you vibe with her. She is nervous because she's no

0:33:32.440 --> 0:33:34.440
<v Speaker 1>she knows that she doesn't suck Some niggas in the industry.

0:33:34.960 --> 0:33:37.160
<v Speaker 1>You would you would preferred to You would prefer for

0:33:37.320 --> 0:33:40.360
<v Speaker 1>her to tell you, listen, I fucked x y Z,

0:33:40.520 --> 0:33:42.840
<v Speaker 1>even if you're close to them, that she sucked them

0:33:42.880 --> 0:33:45.800
<v Speaker 1>before knowing you. Yeah, because I hadn't been in that

0:33:45.920 --> 0:33:49.440
<v Speaker 1>situation and I could, I could have that conversation with

0:33:49.680 --> 0:33:51.719
<v Speaker 1>nigga before he feels like he got one up. Nigga's

0:33:51.720 --> 0:33:54.200
<v Speaker 1>got one up, That's what it is like you understand

0:33:54.520 --> 0:33:57.560
<v Speaker 1>if you walk in and I sucked you or fucking you,

0:33:58.120 --> 0:34:00.800
<v Speaker 1>I'm smiling like god damn, and I'm at my nigga like,

0:34:01.680 --> 0:34:03.520
<v Speaker 1>but guess what he could kick? This is how I

0:34:03.680 --> 0:34:06.120
<v Speaker 1>kick it if I know you know my bitch. First

0:34:06.160 --> 0:34:08.279
<v Speaker 1>I'm walking, I'm like, yeah, yeah, but she told me.

0:34:08.360 --> 0:34:11.080
<v Speaker 1>She know you know around back in the day that

0:34:11.160 --> 0:34:16.799
<v Speaker 1>you can clear that she's said nothing bad. She said

0:34:16.800 --> 0:34:18.680
<v Speaker 1>you coolest, she told me. And you know what that

0:34:18.800 --> 0:34:22.560
<v Speaker 1>dude that takes shoulders down and then make the room comfortable. Yeah, buddy, no,

0:34:22.800 --> 0:34:25.200
<v Speaker 1>it's all good. I need to know that so I

0:34:25.280 --> 0:34:27.920
<v Speaker 1>can make Let me ask y'all how comfortable are y'all

0:34:27.920 --> 0:34:32.879
<v Speaker 1>because I hadn't had teammates before, like, yeah, I've been there.

0:34:32.960 --> 0:34:35.239
<v Speaker 1>That just actually happened to me like a year ago.

0:34:35.600 --> 0:34:38.719
<v Speaker 1>And how did you go about telling like because we

0:34:38.920 --> 0:34:40.600
<v Speaker 1>so we have a lot of listeners, I'm sure everyone

0:34:40.600 --> 0:34:44.120
<v Speaker 1>has been in these uncomfortable, awkward as situations. So now

0:34:44.200 --> 0:34:46.680
<v Speaker 1>that we see that from a man, and not all

0:34:46.719 --> 0:34:49.760
<v Speaker 1>men are like, but he would prefer to know as women,

0:34:49.840 --> 0:34:51.759
<v Speaker 1>did y'all come forward and say it? And if so,

0:34:51.960 --> 0:34:54.600
<v Speaker 1>how did you say it? Um? I did? I told

0:34:54.719 --> 0:34:57.279
<v Speaker 1>him that I used to miss with somebody that he knew.

0:34:57.560 --> 0:34:59.239
<v Speaker 1>But when I told him that I used to miss

0:34:59.280 --> 0:35:00.960
<v Speaker 1>with the guy, get he didn't know that. They meant

0:35:01.000 --> 0:35:05.239
<v Speaker 1>that I fucked the god exactly. But that's the same.

0:35:05.920 --> 0:35:09.759
<v Speaker 1>That's how but right, that's how I felt about it.

0:35:09.840 --> 0:35:13.120
<v Speaker 1>Saw two, three or four months into the situation, I'm thinking,

0:35:13.160 --> 0:35:17.440
<v Speaker 1>he already understands that I used to be fucking right.

0:35:18.200 --> 0:35:20.640
<v Speaker 1>So he comes to me. I guess the dude said

0:35:20.680 --> 0:35:22.080
<v Speaker 1>something to him. That was at the party, and the

0:35:22.160 --> 0:35:23.880
<v Speaker 1>dude said something to him and he comes to me

0:35:23.960 --> 0:35:25.880
<v Speaker 1>and he's like, oh, boy walked up to me and

0:35:26.120 --> 0:35:27.919
<v Speaker 1>he's like I can't believe. He was like, I feel

0:35:27.920 --> 0:35:29.520
<v Speaker 1>like you hiding something from me, and I'm like, I

0:35:29.560 --> 0:35:32.000
<v Speaker 1>already told you. He was like, um, no, you did,

0:35:32.080 --> 0:35:33.920
<v Speaker 1>and I was like, yes, I did. And then he

0:35:34.040 --> 0:35:36.040
<v Speaker 1>was like, UM, well no. Then I told him. I

0:35:36.160 --> 0:35:38.520
<v Speaker 1>was like, well, I did suck him one time. He

0:35:38.640 --> 0:35:45.000
<v Speaker 1>was like, what you fuck that? Nigga? Man also have

0:35:45.160 --> 0:35:49.560
<v Speaker 1>selective hearing, though definitely, y'all will sit here and even

0:35:49.600 --> 0:35:52.000
<v Speaker 1>though we tell you something, if you interpret it one way,

0:35:54.360 --> 0:35:56.759
<v Speaker 1>I hear that you ain't me to say I fucked him.

0:35:56.800 --> 0:36:00.440
<v Speaker 1>I said, I fucked. You know, I represent for the feelings.

0:36:00.480 --> 0:36:03.400
<v Speaker 1>I'm not judging, but he was tripping in that scenario.

0:36:03.600 --> 0:36:06.680
<v Speaker 1>He was You do think he was stripping, right, because

0:36:06.800 --> 0:36:11.879
<v Speaker 1>I think even if you didn't, that's how I feel.

0:36:12.200 --> 0:36:16.440
<v Speaker 1>I feel point to bring it up, all right, So

0:36:16.560 --> 0:36:18.319
<v Speaker 1>let me ask you how did how did you go about?

0:36:18.400 --> 0:36:22.640
<v Speaker 1>Have you done it before? This is the thing with me.

0:36:23.400 --> 0:36:25.520
<v Speaker 1>If I meet somebody and I know, like I funk

0:36:25.560 --> 0:36:27.239
<v Speaker 1>with your friend, I need to know how far we

0:36:27.400 --> 0:36:30.200
<v Speaker 1>going first before I have that conversation, because I had

0:36:30.280 --> 0:36:34.239
<v Speaker 1>met I was in a situation the beginning. How do

0:36:34.320 --> 0:36:36.560
<v Speaker 1>you know that in the beginning what like, he can't

0:36:36.600 --> 0:36:39.560
<v Speaker 1>necessarily tell you how far y'all are gonna go, like exactly,

0:36:39.719 --> 0:36:41.480
<v Speaker 1>So if we get to that point, then I'll be like, oh,

0:36:41.719 --> 0:36:45.840
<v Speaker 1>by the way out bad? Yeah, I mean they can't.

0:36:45.920 --> 0:36:47.360
<v Speaker 1>But at the end of the day, why would I

0:36:47.440 --> 0:36:49.800
<v Speaker 1>tell you my business if we because then this last situation.

0:36:51.200 --> 0:36:53.800
<v Speaker 1>But no, but they don't. They didn't end up finding

0:36:53.800 --> 0:36:56.160
<v Speaker 1>out because it was funny because I was talking to

0:36:56.280 --> 0:36:58.520
<v Speaker 1>one dude. Me and him had fell off, so I

0:36:58.560 --> 0:37:00.359
<v Speaker 1>started talking to the other dude and they owe each

0:37:00.400 --> 0:37:02.680
<v Speaker 1>other and I was like, damn, dras should I tell him,

0:37:02.680 --> 0:37:04.680
<v Speaker 1>she was like, I don't know, like you just wait

0:37:04.760 --> 0:37:06.719
<v Speaker 1>and see, and I never said anything and we ended

0:37:06.800 --> 0:37:08.320
<v Speaker 1>up falling out and I ended up going back to

0:37:08.360 --> 0:37:11.960
<v Speaker 1>the other dude. Yeah, and I know they still don't know,

0:37:12.200 --> 0:37:15.680
<v Speaker 1>but we're not lucky. But I didn't. I didn't like

0:37:15.840 --> 0:37:20.120
<v Speaker 1>the second dude. I didn't the second dude because that's

0:37:20.160 --> 0:37:22.279
<v Speaker 1>what I'm saying, because I don't why would I say, Hey,

0:37:22.440 --> 0:37:25.359
<v Speaker 1>I fucked X y Z and we're not even fucking yet,

0:37:25.400 --> 0:37:26.880
<v Speaker 1>but we like each other. But it's like if we

0:37:27.000 --> 0:37:28.839
<v Speaker 1>never reached that point. So when it comes, so when

0:37:28.840 --> 0:37:31.120
<v Speaker 1>it comes to when you're finally sucking, that's when you should. Yeah,

0:37:31.200 --> 0:37:34.960
<v Speaker 1>I mean had already because it's like talking to my

0:37:35.160 --> 0:37:38.480
<v Speaker 1>partner a year ago, my best friend and y'all, he

0:37:38.560 --> 0:37:40.120
<v Speaker 1>took you out to eat a show. I don't give

0:37:40.120 --> 0:37:42.439
<v Speaker 1>a funk about that. Y'all went out a couple of times.

0:37:42.440 --> 0:37:44.359
<v Speaker 1>He took you to the movie. If you tell me cool,

0:37:44.640 --> 0:37:46.200
<v Speaker 1>if he tell me, I'm like, damn for real, you

0:37:46.880 --> 0:37:51.760
<v Speaker 1>like no, I'm like, all right, what I'm saying exactly

0:37:51.840 --> 0:37:55.520
<v Speaker 1>real comfortable with how you speak on you know, males

0:37:55.640 --> 0:37:57.839
<v Speaker 1>dealing with maybe the same woman. I want to take

0:37:57.920 --> 0:38:00.799
<v Speaker 1>this to maybe our female listeners a little bit. Would

0:38:00.840 --> 0:38:03.320
<v Speaker 1>you be okay with Dria going on a date with

0:38:03.520 --> 0:38:05.400
<v Speaker 1>somebody that you used to talk to, even if you

0:38:05.440 --> 0:38:07.839
<v Speaker 1>didn't suck him, or if you did him like way

0:38:07.920 --> 0:38:10.640
<v Speaker 1>both of those options, because this is your friend, would

0:38:10.719 --> 0:38:12.840
<v Speaker 1>that be okay? And when is when is it crossing

0:38:12.920 --> 0:38:15.799
<v Speaker 1>the line for girl code? Something I taught her right now.

0:38:15.880 --> 0:38:18.600
<v Speaker 1>She got somebody on her roster that nigga's prime real estate.

0:38:19.560 --> 0:38:21.480
<v Speaker 1>I said, if I come across that nig I'll just

0:38:21.640 --> 0:38:24.399
<v Speaker 1>let you know. She did, and I already sucked him before,

0:38:24.440 --> 0:38:26.560
<v Speaker 1>but she was like, did she prime real estate? If

0:38:26.560 --> 0:38:28.360
<v Speaker 1>I ever run across? If I ever run across the

0:38:28.400 --> 0:38:31.279
<v Speaker 1>trying of fun with me, I'm sorry, but I let

0:38:31.360 --> 0:38:34.360
<v Speaker 1>her know. I was like, but you know, but we

0:38:34.560 --> 0:38:39.680
<v Speaker 1>had Honestly, we're not a time. But I'm not talking

0:38:39.680 --> 0:38:45.239
<v Speaker 1>about community dick right now. I'm talking about like she

0:38:45.360 --> 0:38:49.520
<v Speaker 1>probably talking about rappid athlete them niggas for everybody. We

0:38:49.760 --> 0:38:52.440
<v Speaker 1>don't were in a situation like that before, like I was.

0:38:53.000 --> 0:38:55.160
<v Speaker 1>She don't like to talk about it, but it was

0:38:55.239 --> 0:38:57.239
<v Speaker 1>like I had talked to a dude a long time ago,

0:38:57.320 --> 0:38:59.160
<v Speaker 1>like I was young, and then like some years later,

0:38:59.280 --> 0:39:01.360
<v Speaker 1>like hearing him and they were like really really talking,

0:39:01.440 --> 0:39:03.800
<v Speaker 1>but I didn't. I mean, I didn't care because it

0:39:03.920 --> 0:39:05.600
<v Speaker 1>was just like I had moved on. I was like

0:39:05.880 --> 0:39:09.480
<v Speaker 1>six dicks. That was like six nicks, So it didn't matter.

0:39:10.239 --> 0:39:12.520
<v Speaker 1>I got lucky just like that. I don't know, that's

0:39:12.560 --> 0:39:16.680
<v Speaker 1>never happened to me. I feel like, so I have

0:39:17.040 --> 0:39:20.759
<v Speaker 1>like a clear do not cross list, Like yeah, I

0:39:20.800 --> 0:39:23.160
<v Speaker 1>think we all had a whole Yeah, I have a

0:39:23.400 --> 0:39:27.680
<v Speaker 1>few niggas really all that. It's that I feel even

0:39:27.719 --> 0:39:32.680
<v Speaker 1>if we don't, we ain't for seven years. Yeah you know, yeah,

0:39:33.120 --> 0:39:36.919
<v Speaker 1>I think that for for and I think honestly we're

0:39:36.960 --> 0:39:39.120
<v Speaker 1>real friends with a bit. We know which niggas is awful.

0:39:39.239 --> 0:39:42.719
<v Speaker 1>Yea you are already no, but this is don't care

0:39:43.360 --> 0:39:46.080
<v Speaker 1>niggers gonna cross that, gonna cross that line. They will

0:39:46.120 --> 0:39:48.680
<v Speaker 1>all the time. Yeah, I had niggas that I was

0:39:49.000 --> 0:39:51.520
<v Speaker 1>fucking with. We was in damn there in love and

0:39:51.560 --> 0:39:55.080
<v Speaker 1>the homeboy was like, yeah, what I'm saying, it's only

0:39:55.120 --> 0:39:59.680
<v Speaker 1>a few real niggas period. We talk about like I'm

0:39:59.760 --> 0:40:02.279
<v Speaker 1>really like, I know me, bro a man, a bitch

0:40:02.320 --> 0:40:04.920
<v Speaker 1>could be so bad till my part and going and

0:40:05.000 --> 0:40:07.320
<v Speaker 1>it's like a switch in my brain is like, it

0:40:07.360 --> 0:40:11.239
<v Speaker 1>don't matter what she got on or not. And you

0:40:11.320 --> 0:40:18.520
<v Speaker 1>are very very rare because not because back to that story,

0:40:18.600 --> 0:40:22.040
<v Speaker 1>the dude found out any he's still with me, he

0:40:22.160 --> 0:40:23.719
<v Speaker 1>was trying to ask. He was so mad, and we

0:40:23.800 --> 0:40:25.600
<v Speaker 1>still was working with each other for like another saving

0:40:25.640 --> 0:40:28.000
<v Speaker 1>month after that, and then's the old boy that had

0:40:28.080 --> 0:40:32.680
<v Speaker 1>ran to him about it. He said again, I think

0:40:32.760 --> 0:40:34.759
<v Speaker 1>I think it still has all to do with the

0:40:35.000 --> 0:40:39.000
<v Speaker 1>level of security that man has because um, and I

0:40:39.120 --> 0:40:41.239
<v Speaker 1>mentioned this on the show before, like there was a

0:40:41.320 --> 0:40:43.680
<v Speaker 1>dude that I was really, really really vibing with and

0:40:43.760 --> 0:40:46.080
<v Speaker 1>I had sucked his friend first before I had even

0:40:46.120 --> 0:40:50.400
<v Speaker 1>known him. But the friend was prime real estate and

0:40:50.520 --> 0:40:53.040
<v Speaker 1>this nigga wasn't so much. So he used to always

0:40:53.120 --> 0:40:56.279
<v Speaker 1>say like, man, no, like I'll funk with you, but man,

0:40:56.480 --> 0:40:58.720
<v Speaker 1>if we ever got married, I couldn't have that nigga

0:40:58.719 --> 0:41:00.160
<v Speaker 1>would have to be at my wedding and I out

0:41:00.160 --> 0:41:03.160
<v Speaker 1>to know he sucked my wife. Like, So that's another

0:41:03.280 --> 0:41:06.319
<v Speaker 1>type of conversation that's had that when a man really

0:41:06.400 --> 0:41:08.400
<v Speaker 1>vies with you, there's certain thiggs that he can't look

0:41:08.440 --> 0:41:10.800
<v Speaker 1>past even if he does, because he's like, listen that

0:41:10.960 --> 0:41:12.719
<v Speaker 1>nigga will be at my wedding, and I gotta know

0:41:12.840 --> 0:41:14.800
<v Speaker 1>he knows what your pussy feel like. And me and

0:41:14.840 --> 0:41:16.719
<v Speaker 1>this nigga vibe so hard. So you're talking about a

0:41:16.800 --> 0:41:19.359
<v Speaker 1>vibe we boben and he's like, man, I really fun

0:41:19.480 --> 0:41:23.520
<v Speaker 1>with you, but it will be my wedding. Like if

0:41:23.560 --> 0:41:26.560
<v Speaker 1>a girl sucked your homeboy that he knows to be

0:41:26.680 --> 0:41:28.880
<v Speaker 1>in the wedding type of ship. It's like, yeah, this

0:41:29.040 --> 0:41:30.400
<v Speaker 1>is the woman. I'm walking down the aisle and I

0:41:30.440 --> 0:41:32.319
<v Speaker 1>gotta look at my homeboy and know that that nigga

0:41:32.400 --> 0:41:34.600
<v Speaker 1>was that grown sakes are like teenage six No, we

0:41:34.760 --> 0:41:42.160
<v Speaker 1>was like get over all, right, get over to you, y'all.

0:41:42.200 --> 0:41:46.000
<v Speaker 1>Eighteen nineteen, I get over that. But grown fucking you know.

0:41:49.280 --> 0:41:58.520
<v Speaker 1>I'm but what if you didn't suck? Se told but

0:41:58.600 --> 0:42:03.279
<v Speaker 1>I didn't suck the first dude? Remember what I'm saying?

0:42:03.600 --> 0:42:05.480
<v Speaker 1>Like that got to be discussed because it's some niggas

0:42:05.520 --> 0:42:09.759
<v Speaker 1>that overlook it, but the whole marriage, right, But it's like,

0:42:10.000 --> 0:42:12.600
<v Speaker 1>why do I feel like if you don't care about

0:42:12.640 --> 0:42:14.600
<v Speaker 1>something that was before you, whether it's your patna or not,

0:42:14.719 --> 0:42:16.560
<v Speaker 1>you either care? Are you don't? Like? I don't know

0:42:17.000 --> 0:42:25.879
<v Speaker 1>because we are you don't realize how we think it's down.

0:42:26.400 --> 0:42:28.359
<v Speaker 1>I say this ship to er God talked to when

0:42:28.400 --> 0:42:31.400
<v Speaker 1>it comes to niggas and when it comes to bitches

0:42:31.480 --> 0:42:35.400
<v Speaker 1>fucking niggas that we know it don't matter. Pause. We

0:42:35.520 --> 0:42:41.719
<v Speaker 1>had a last guest that used bitches. Okay, but let's

0:42:41.719 --> 0:42:43.160
<v Speaker 1>see now. I don't want you to feel in the way,

0:42:43.200 --> 0:42:45.520
<v Speaker 1>but look, it is a business sample. I could be

0:42:45.640 --> 0:42:49.680
<v Speaker 1>the most serial killer. Street is nigga, billionaire everything, the

0:42:49.800 --> 0:42:57.120
<v Speaker 1>really gangster, richest, helicopter having big right. Guess what it's

0:42:57.160 --> 0:42:59.640
<v Speaker 1>a j on the street. If I walked past and

0:42:59.719 --> 0:43:02.000
<v Speaker 1>I say, if he say anything to me and I

0:43:02.080 --> 0:43:05.439
<v Speaker 1>say something back, it's nothing I could do after he says,

0:43:06.320 --> 0:43:09.239
<v Speaker 1>I FU your bitch. And that's how he was like this.

0:43:09.440 --> 0:43:11.960
<v Speaker 1>And guess what. Guess what. I could pull a gun out.

0:43:12.040 --> 0:43:14.320
<v Speaker 1>I could kill him right there. And guess what. I

0:43:14.400 --> 0:43:16.160
<v Speaker 1>could go to jail. I'm saying I could go to jail.

0:43:16.360 --> 0:43:23.480
<v Speaker 1>Guess what. I'm bit it's nothing worse than the nigga

0:43:24.120 --> 0:43:26.800
<v Speaker 1>because it's nothing you can do. There's nothing you can do.

0:43:27.040 --> 0:43:28.759
<v Speaker 1>You can be richer than the nigga. You could have

0:43:28.960 --> 0:43:32.320
<v Speaker 1>everything more than the Nigga's no one. I still what

0:43:32.400 --> 0:43:34.120
<v Speaker 1>you're saying, But let me say this. It has been

0:43:34.200 --> 0:43:36.520
<v Speaker 1>some situations before where you was like, I funk with

0:43:36.560 --> 0:43:38.799
<v Speaker 1>people who knew each other and then he was like, man,

0:43:38.840 --> 0:43:40.200
<v Speaker 1>I know you used to funk with that nigga. But

0:43:40.239 --> 0:43:42.480
<v Speaker 1>it's like I but when the niggas will try to

0:43:42.560 --> 0:43:45.040
<v Speaker 1>hit me up being on some sneaky ship, like I

0:43:45.480 --> 0:43:46.960
<v Speaker 1>if I'm suking with you when I used to funk

0:43:47.000 --> 0:43:49.360
<v Speaker 1>with your homeboy, I'm gonna make that nigga try to

0:43:50.680 --> 0:43:52.600
<v Speaker 1>try to pull me now, because you're not gonna disrespect

0:43:52.640 --> 0:43:55.000
<v Speaker 1>my niggas. But this is my nigga. Now, this is

0:43:55.080 --> 0:43:57.440
<v Speaker 1>the thing too, And I'll bring this to what you're saying.

0:43:57.880 --> 0:44:01.680
<v Speaker 1>It just sucks because as women, I had niggasu my friends,

0:44:01.840 --> 0:44:04.960
<v Speaker 1>I had niggas like trying to pull like my bitches

0:44:05.000 --> 0:44:07.360
<v Speaker 1>I live with, and they still just think it's supposed

0:44:07.360 --> 0:44:10.040
<v Speaker 1>to be okay. So I think that it's very contradicting

0:44:10.040 --> 0:44:12.360
<v Speaker 1>and of course the double standard. Yeah no, but a

0:44:12.400 --> 0:44:14.279
<v Speaker 1>lot of us women have to be just okay with

0:44:14.400 --> 0:44:17.800
<v Speaker 1>who you don't sun in your past yet, but we

0:44:17.920 --> 0:44:20.799
<v Speaker 1>gotta we can't have to like we gotta we gotta

0:44:21.080 --> 0:44:23.759
<v Speaker 1>look man when we fuck off, and the whole got

0:44:23.880 --> 0:44:26.040
<v Speaker 1>a smart at mouth. It's our job to be like, bitch,

0:44:26.040 --> 0:44:32.759
<v Speaker 1>shout the funk up. You know, we gotta chuck to

0:44:32.880 --> 0:44:36.280
<v Speaker 1>niggas be trying to This is where we're ruin everything.

0:44:36.440 --> 0:44:38.759
<v Speaker 1>We'll funk off, y'all. Try to forgive us a whole

0:44:38.800 --> 0:44:40.880
<v Speaker 1>would say something and we're still trying to defuse the

0:44:40.960 --> 0:44:47.239
<v Speaker 1>situation exactly. Excuse my language, but in this situation, that's

0:44:47.280 --> 0:44:51.239
<v Speaker 1>what I have got, baby girl, making this bitch feel

0:44:51.280 --> 0:44:53.719
<v Speaker 1>so small for even trying to come for you. If

0:44:53.760 --> 0:44:56.600
<v Speaker 1>I care about you, what I'm doing like, chill girl,

0:44:56.719 --> 0:44:59.440
<v Speaker 1>this is my girl on the side. Yeah, but for you,

0:45:00.000 --> 0:45:01.920
<v Speaker 1>why we can't check and nigger and do the same

0:45:02.000 --> 0:45:03.800
<v Speaker 1>and be like, no, I'm cool with that. If you

0:45:04.080 --> 0:45:10.640
<v Speaker 1>can do that, but most women don't. You feel like,

0:45:10.760 --> 0:45:14.200
<v Speaker 1>God damn, I bad with this conversation. I feel like

0:45:14.360 --> 0:45:17.920
<v Speaker 1>it's something that we had. I feel like everything has

0:45:17.960 --> 0:45:20.800
<v Speaker 1>to do with egos when come in, but that feeling

0:45:20.840 --> 0:45:26.360
<v Speaker 1>embarrassed ego. You have to work around anybody's ego and

0:45:26.400 --> 0:45:30.520
<v Speaker 1>anything you do at the workplace. It would management, music relationships.

0:45:30.800 --> 0:45:36.560
<v Speaker 1>You have to know people's personality. If I know something

0:45:36.640 --> 0:45:39.080
<v Speaker 1>that gets under your skin and I'm genuinely your friend.

0:45:39.280 --> 0:45:41.359
<v Speaker 1>I know how to work around that. It's like, nothing

0:45:41.440 --> 0:45:44.440
<v Speaker 1>wrong with that, It's me genuinely caring about you as

0:45:44.480 --> 0:45:46.959
<v Speaker 1>a friend. I'm like, why would you know what I'm saying?

0:45:47.520 --> 0:45:50.719
<v Speaker 1>So if something really bothers me, like, okay, you need

0:45:50.800 --> 0:45:52.040
<v Speaker 1>we need to figure out the way. You know, you

0:45:52.160 --> 0:45:54.279
<v Speaker 1>know me, So don't do certain things. You know what

0:45:54.320 --> 0:45:55.840
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying, right, I mean, I'm not gonna lie. I

0:45:55.920 --> 0:45:58.000
<v Speaker 1>have this conversation with the dude I'm talking to last

0:45:58.040 --> 0:45:59.640
<v Speaker 1>night and he was like, I told him that my

0:45:59.719 --> 0:46:02.080
<v Speaker 1>ex called me. He was like, what you're talking to there?

0:46:02.880 --> 0:46:04.400
<v Speaker 1>So what the fun? I was like, why, I'm not

0:46:04.440 --> 0:46:06.680
<v Speaker 1>gonna do it no more. He's like, yeah, you see

0:46:06.719 --> 0:46:09.960
<v Speaker 1>how to handle that because his friends but fun. It's

0:46:10.040 --> 0:46:12.960
<v Speaker 1>like he has ago how to handle. This is the

0:46:13.080 --> 0:46:14.799
<v Speaker 1>last topic that I bring up in this while we're

0:46:14.840 --> 0:46:19.000
<v Speaker 1>talking on both sides of relationships and egos and insecurities.

0:46:19.280 --> 0:46:21.360
<v Speaker 1>So I want to talk about how it is for

0:46:22.480 --> 0:46:25.719
<v Speaker 1>us as women to have guy friends while being in

0:46:25.760 --> 0:46:29.920
<v Speaker 1>a relationship and men allowing women to have guy friends

0:46:29.960 --> 0:46:32.359
<v Speaker 1>while in relationship, or us allowing you as a man

0:46:32.440 --> 0:46:36.080
<v Speaker 1>to have women like female relationships. So you've been in

0:46:36.120 --> 0:46:38.359
<v Speaker 1>a relationship you've been dealing with this woman for eight years,

0:46:38.400 --> 0:46:41.239
<v Speaker 1>you have someone else, whatever your situation is, Is it

0:46:41.400 --> 0:46:45.360
<v Speaker 1>okay for them to have guy friends. I mean, it

0:46:45.640 --> 0:46:51.000
<v Speaker 1>didn't bother me the way you me. What I'm saying.

0:46:51.080 --> 0:46:53.560
<v Speaker 1>Why was rocking while we was good? It didn't bother me?

0:46:54.000 --> 0:46:55.960
<v Speaker 1>Only time to bother me when we're not good. Why

0:46:56.040 --> 0:47:00.360
<v Speaker 1>doesn't bother Because niggas do suckers ship. They want to

0:47:00.400 --> 0:47:03.040
<v Speaker 1>trust them and wait for weaknesses, like a nigga will

0:47:03.080 --> 0:47:05.080
<v Speaker 1>really be a free until you week. Then that's when

0:47:05.080 --> 0:47:09.080
<v Speaker 1>they're trying to So if we do whatever you want

0:47:09.120 --> 0:47:11.200
<v Speaker 1>with Brian, I don't give a fuck because I know

0:47:11.600 --> 0:47:13.960
<v Speaker 1>what's going on. But as soon as you crying and

0:47:14.080 --> 0:47:16.479
<v Speaker 1>you hurt, I don't know what the fun Brian don't

0:47:16.520 --> 0:47:24.239
<v Speaker 1>because I know what nigga's don't eat that. I'll say

0:47:24.320 --> 0:47:27.640
<v Speaker 1>this for me, like, I think it's cool, but you

0:47:27.760 --> 0:47:31.040
<v Speaker 1>have to introduce me. You got, I think, and I

0:47:31.160 --> 0:47:33.840
<v Speaker 1>think that that's where a lot of men may feel

0:47:33.920 --> 0:47:36.840
<v Speaker 1>like it's easier, like to maybe keep it a secret,

0:47:36.920 --> 0:47:40.160
<v Speaker 1>but I'll say I agree to like. So for as women,

0:47:40.560 --> 0:47:43.480
<v Speaker 1>we're clearly I feel like we're a little bit more

0:47:43.520 --> 0:47:45.680
<v Speaker 1>confident than niggas. At this point, we a whole lot

0:47:45.719 --> 0:47:47.640
<v Speaker 1>of ship that y'all really don't but I feel like

0:47:47.760 --> 0:47:50.840
<v Speaker 1>for women it's more so I just need can I

0:47:50.960 --> 0:47:53.319
<v Speaker 1>notice free? Can I introduce her? Because I'm not gonna lie,

0:47:53.560 --> 0:47:56.359
<v Speaker 1>we know real quick. So let short, long story short.

0:47:56.600 --> 0:47:59.200
<v Speaker 1>Me and my friends went out to meet her boyfriend

0:47:59.239 --> 0:48:01.160
<v Speaker 1>at the club and when we got to the table,

0:48:01.480 --> 0:48:04.720
<v Speaker 1>there was two girls there with his cousin. The girls

0:48:04.800 --> 0:48:07.360
<v Speaker 1>didn't speak to us, they didn't introduce themselves to us,

0:48:07.600 --> 0:48:09.600
<v Speaker 1>and it was just very obvious. Oh bit, y'all know,

0:48:09.719 --> 0:48:11.200
<v Speaker 1>y'all are the wrong or y'all been trying to talk

0:48:11.239 --> 0:48:13.880
<v Speaker 1>to him. We catch a vibe with women real quickly

0:48:14.000 --> 0:48:16.320
<v Speaker 1>what their intentions are around me. And so to me,

0:48:16.960 --> 0:48:19.160
<v Speaker 1>if a man or my boyfriend wants to have a

0:48:19.280 --> 0:48:22.239
<v Speaker 1>female friend, we need to meet that bitch and we

0:48:22.320 --> 0:48:30.240
<v Speaker 1>need that's most important. Like I got all my partners,

0:48:30.280 --> 0:48:32.200
<v Speaker 1>but if I know I got female best friend, though,

0:48:32.320 --> 0:48:34.560
<v Speaker 1>that's the beach you need to meet. But it's not

0:48:34.640 --> 0:48:38.000
<v Speaker 1>a bad bitch, but that's the girl you need to meet.

0:48:38.400 --> 0:48:39.920
<v Speaker 1>I need to make sure. I need to roll the

0:48:39.960 --> 0:48:42.440
<v Speaker 1>red carpet out on making sure y'all cool and you

0:48:42.560 --> 0:48:45.840
<v Speaker 1>know that that's my partner before my boy my partner

0:48:45.880 --> 0:48:48.920
<v Speaker 1>friends because it just like I've had got girlfriends, I

0:48:49.040 --> 0:48:51.240
<v Speaker 1>have a male best friend, and the first thing guys

0:48:51.280 --> 0:48:54.279
<v Speaker 1>always say, they'd be like, you got a male best friend? Yes,

0:48:55.000 --> 0:48:58.800
<v Speaker 1>that sometimes legit. I think it's just tough because like

0:48:59.200 --> 0:49:01.720
<v Speaker 1>I've been the best friend to a lot of guys

0:49:01.920 --> 0:49:06.040
<v Speaker 1>and girlfriends never like me like that ass don't you'd

0:49:06.040 --> 0:49:08.839
<v Speaker 1>be like, yeah, I's like a maid and I lick

0:49:08.960 --> 0:49:17.439
<v Speaker 1>y'all as the young girl. Better know we're friends, nick,

0:49:17.520 --> 0:49:20.320
<v Speaker 1>I know you, I'm saying, would be hard for me

0:49:20.480 --> 0:49:26.480
<v Speaker 1>to argue herd. It's different. It's different from if somebody's

0:49:26.480 --> 0:49:28.239
<v Speaker 1>a home girl, they're like, you know, they dressed like

0:49:28.360 --> 0:49:32.840
<v Speaker 1>you know, they're kind of tomboyish or the book. But

0:49:32.920 --> 0:49:35.920
<v Speaker 1>it is what it is where I have I have

0:49:36.080 --> 0:49:40.120
<v Speaker 1>guy friends, and they'd be like man, bitches be maybe

0:49:40.160 --> 0:49:43.759
<v Speaker 1>not women be tripping they do, I mean, because they'd

0:49:43.800 --> 0:49:47.880
<v Speaker 1>be like your friends. I'm actually really close friends with

0:49:48.000 --> 0:49:50.359
<v Speaker 1>my Sister's acts like me and him to stay cool,

0:49:50.480 --> 0:49:52.360
<v Speaker 1>like we're cool, Like you used to date my sister

0:49:52.880 --> 0:49:55.560
<v Speaker 1>and we're cool. And it was just like he had

0:49:55.560 --> 0:49:57.080
<v Speaker 1>went to the club one night he got a section.

0:49:57.200 --> 0:49:58.840
<v Speaker 1>I went to a section of girls was just like

0:49:59.680 --> 0:50:03.520
<v Speaker 1>they arguing. I could be like, girl, no, and I

0:50:03.560 --> 0:50:04.799
<v Speaker 1>didn't want to be like, oh, he used to beat

0:50:04.840 --> 0:50:06.279
<v Speaker 1>my sister. I was just like, no, this is like

0:50:07.120 --> 0:50:10.640
<v Speaker 1>huh my sister, huh no, no, no, they're not cool

0:50:10.680 --> 0:50:12.520
<v Speaker 1>on where they's both moved on. But it's just that

0:50:12.600 --> 0:50:14.480
<v Speaker 1>you went over there with your little waists and big

0:50:14.560 --> 0:50:17.719
<v Speaker 1>as right. But I had to actually let her know.

0:50:17.840 --> 0:50:19.879
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, oh, baby, girl, like me and him are cool,

0:50:19.920 --> 0:50:21.719
<v Speaker 1>but you know, it's how do you have that conversation?

0:50:22.040 --> 0:50:24.239
<v Speaker 1>Oh girl, don't I want your nigger? Girl? He says,

0:50:24.320 --> 0:50:25.919
<v Speaker 1>that's how you have it. I be like, I don't watch.

0:50:26.560 --> 0:50:29.680
<v Speaker 1>When I was in Orlando, I was I came across

0:50:29.680 --> 0:50:31.279
<v Speaker 1>a lot of guys I either went to school with

0:50:31.480 --> 0:50:33.239
<v Speaker 1>or that I knew from the past, and if there

0:50:33.360 --> 0:50:35.360
<v Speaker 1>was a girl in the section, I made it my

0:50:35.480 --> 0:50:38.600
<v Speaker 1>point to before I even spoke to him. Listen, baby girl,

0:50:38.640 --> 0:50:40.440
<v Speaker 1>I don't want him. We went to school together. I'm

0:50:40.440 --> 0:50:44.400
<v Speaker 1>just gonna yeah, you go to it. Women don't do that.

0:50:44.600 --> 0:50:46.520
<v Speaker 1>Then then it's like, oh, not that you think is

0:50:46.960 --> 0:50:50.640
<v Speaker 1>right right, So we're gonna go ahead and get into home. Male.

0:50:50.680 --> 0:50:52.800
<v Speaker 1>This is the last segment where we can give advice

0:50:52.840 --> 0:50:55.640
<v Speaker 1>to our listeners. So the first one, you're probably not

0:50:55.719 --> 0:50:57.239
<v Speaker 1>gonna be able to give much advice on this one.

0:50:57.280 --> 0:50:59.640
<v Speaker 1>But there's one specifically for a male, so I'm gonna

0:50:59.680 --> 0:51:01.960
<v Speaker 1>go ahead ask you that one. But first one, we're

0:51:01.960 --> 0:51:03.560
<v Speaker 1>gonna say. Hey, girls, I just want to say that

0:51:03.600 --> 0:51:05.400
<v Speaker 1>I love what you guys are doing. I relate to

0:51:05.440 --> 0:51:07.000
<v Speaker 1>you all on so many levels, and you've helped me

0:51:07.040 --> 0:51:10.239
<v Speaker 1>become more comfortable about my sexuality, which is amazing scene

0:51:10.320 --> 0:51:14.960
<v Speaker 1>that I lost my virginity at Anyways, my issue is

0:51:15.040 --> 0:51:17.319
<v Speaker 1>that I recently met this guy and we started talking

0:51:17.400 --> 0:51:20.040
<v Speaker 1>and all that, and he asked me to be his girlfriend. Great,

0:51:20.400 --> 0:51:23.480
<v Speaker 1>I mean, he checks all the boxes, tall, dark and handsome.

0:51:23.920 --> 0:51:26.839
<v Speaker 1>Problem is, we just had sex like twenty minutes ago.

0:51:26.920 --> 0:51:28.839
<v Speaker 1>This bitch wrote us a home meal twenty minutes after

0:51:28.880 --> 0:51:31.840
<v Speaker 1>she has sex um and his dick is small, not

0:51:32.000 --> 0:51:35.479
<v Speaker 1>a micro penis, but small, and the sex was more mad.

0:51:36.200 --> 0:51:38.480
<v Speaker 1>I don't know what to do. Sex is very important

0:51:38.520 --> 0:51:40.320
<v Speaker 1>part of my life now, and the guys I have

0:51:40.480 --> 0:51:42.279
<v Speaker 1>been with, and the guys that I've been with have

0:51:42.480 --> 0:51:45.000
<v Speaker 1>very big dicks seven inches and upwards, and we have

0:51:46.000 --> 0:51:48.959
<v Speaker 1>very rough sex. Should I end it now? Or should

0:51:49.000 --> 0:51:50.719
<v Speaker 1>I wait it out. Maybe I'll get used to a

0:51:50.800 --> 0:51:55.920
<v Speaker 1>smaller size. Thank you, sexually frustrated chicks. I'm Nigerian and

0:51:56.000 --> 0:51:58.239
<v Speaker 1>living Lagos, Nigeria. You have a big audience here and

0:51:58.280 --> 0:52:00.759
<v Speaker 1>we love you guys. Shout out night Jia. Even though

0:52:00.760 --> 0:52:02.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry, I've been there and I don't want to

0:52:02.080 --> 0:52:05.279
<v Speaker 1>go back. But no, it was I mean, they got

0:52:05.320 --> 0:52:09.319
<v Speaker 1>money out there, that's what I heard. Now, they got

0:52:09.400 --> 0:52:11.600
<v Speaker 1>the coins. I just it's not one of those places

0:52:11.719 --> 0:52:14.319
<v Speaker 1>that they allowed tourism to me, like going on tours

0:52:14.360 --> 0:52:15.759
<v Speaker 1>and ships said. I felt like I had to have

0:52:15.840 --> 0:52:18.600
<v Speaker 1>security the whole time, right right, But the parties are good.

0:52:18.640 --> 0:52:21.040
<v Speaker 1>They fucking party real quick. Shout out. I don't know

0:52:21.160 --> 0:52:23.040
<v Speaker 1>your name, but this is the first time I went

0:52:23.080 --> 0:52:25.640
<v Speaker 1>to a club. I want my friends. This nigga just

0:52:26.040 --> 0:52:30.600
<v Speaker 1>bought me a bottle. I ain't even a kid, beautiful

0:52:30.640 --> 0:52:34.120
<v Speaker 1>and this was seventy pounds ago. Bit I felt real good.

0:52:34.880 --> 0:52:38.480
<v Speaker 1>So I guess what is going to be um our

0:52:38.520 --> 0:52:40.759
<v Speaker 1>advice for this lady. Have you ever been with a

0:52:40.800 --> 0:52:43.520
<v Speaker 1>guy where you liked him a lot but the dick

0:52:43.960 --> 0:52:46.640
<v Speaker 1>wasn't what you want? Yeah? I stopped talking to their

0:52:48.280 --> 0:52:52.400
<v Speaker 1>goddamn what what about you lex for me? If I

0:52:52.560 --> 0:52:55.240
<v Speaker 1>really really like you, I'm going to try to explore

0:52:55.560 --> 0:52:57.560
<v Speaker 1>and things in the bedroom. What else do you like?

0:52:57.760 --> 0:52:59.480
<v Speaker 1>What else can we do? Like, I'm gonna try to

0:52:59.640 --> 0:53:01.520
<v Speaker 1>you know what I see if we can. Because sometimes

0:53:01.600 --> 0:53:05.440
<v Speaker 1>you have sex with somebody once and maybe tray how many.

0:53:08.080 --> 0:53:11.000
<v Speaker 1>I'm not gonna lie. I'm one time you go out

0:53:11.040 --> 0:53:13.560
<v Speaker 1>the first time. I mean because I've had situations with

0:53:13.760 --> 0:53:15.759
<v Speaker 1>like this dude. I've been talking to him going on

0:53:15.880 --> 0:53:18.239
<v Speaker 1>three years now, and he just now told me he

0:53:18.320 --> 0:53:19.719
<v Speaker 1>was like, man, the first time we had sex, that

0:53:19.760 --> 0:53:21.960
<v Speaker 1>ship was so bad. But I liked you and he

0:53:22.040 --> 0:53:24.360
<v Speaker 1>gave me another chance, and I'll be rocking that nigger world.

0:53:24.920 --> 0:53:27.279
<v Speaker 1>So it's like sometimes, you know, you gotta figure out

0:53:27.320 --> 0:53:30.760
<v Speaker 1>what people liking bead seat, Maybe you can incorporate toys,

0:53:30.920 --> 0:53:33.360
<v Speaker 1>like there's other ways for you both to get I

0:53:33.440 --> 0:53:35.120
<v Speaker 1>do want to take you and I don't know. UM

0:53:35.239 --> 0:53:39.040
<v Speaker 1>some guys are uncomfortable with UM with sex toys. But

0:53:39.120 --> 0:53:41.399
<v Speaker 1>I will say we got a toy from Adam and Eve.

0:53:41.600 --> 0:53:43.640
<v Speaker 1>UM shout out to them for sponsoring UM a couple

0:53:43.680 --> 0:53:46.960
<v Speaker 1>of our old shows. But they sent us an extensor.

0:53:47.600 --> 0:53:50.080
<v Speaker 1>So there's a toy where guys can actually put it

0:53:50.160 --> 0:53:53.040
<v Speaker 1>over their penis and it adds girth or like even

0:53:53.080 --> 0:53:56.279
<v Speaker 1>there was like like ridges on it too, like simulation.

0:53:56.520 --> 0:53:58.520
<v Speaker 1>So there's a lot of toys that can help smaller

0:53:58.600 --> 0:54:02.440
<v Speaker 1>dicksh Not only that, not only that, I want the

0:54:02.560 --> 0:54:05.160
<v Speaker 1>real deeds. I mean that's fine, but I mean there's

0:54:05.239 --> 0:54:08.520
<v Speaker 1>options to me. Um, It's weird because we do have

0:54:08.680 --> 0:54:10.320
<v Speaker 1>these boxes that we want all of our men to

0:54:10.400 --> 0:54:13.799
<v Speaker 1>check off, and unfortunately not everyone is gonna check them.

0:54:15.960 --> 0:54:18.120
<v Speaker 1>So to work around if sex is important to you,

0:54:18.280 --> 0:54:20.920
<v Speaker 1>I would like LEX said, Um, maybe you can do

0:54:21.040 --> 0:54:25.040
<v Speaker 1>more vetting and talking, maybe send him porn, incorporate other things. Um,

0:54:25.400 --> 0:54:28.360
<v Speaker 1>I will say, we say this all guys with little dicks,

0:54:28.880 --> 0:54:31.960
<v Speaker 1>just have him eat your pussy better or or explore anal.

0:54:32.760 --> 0:54:36.600
<v Speaker 1>I think that little dick guy that's perfect, perfect I have.

0:54:36.800 --> 0:54:39.360
<v Speaker 1>I have a size requirement when it comes to the

0:54:39.360 --> 0:54:43.200
<v Speaker 1>booty hale, you're not getting in there like um, but

0:54:43.320 --> 0:54:46.600
<v Speaker 1>a small na, you know, orche medium or whatever. Maybe

0:54:46.880 --> 0:54:48.520
<v Speaker 1>we don't like the small dick shame. I know y'all

0:54:48.560 --> 0:54:50.360
<v Speaker 1>think we do. But I'm a size queen, so I

0:54:50.440 --> 0:54:53.279
<v Speaker 1>can't help it. Um, But I feel like there's I

0:54:53.400 --> 0:54:55.279
<v Speaker 1>say talk to him, don't tell him his dick is small,

0:54:55.320 --> 0:54:58.879
<v Speaker 1>but maybe try to incorporate other things sexually. Or we've

0:54:58.920 --> 0:55:03.160
<v Speaker 1>given this advice before, maybe gauge what he's like with

0:55:04.400 --> 0:55:07.160
<v Speaker 1>maybe adding someone else into the vest. Get you aside

0:55:07.440 --> 0:55:13.080
<v Speaker 1>that that's a possibility to you ain't going for that

0:55:13.239 --> 0:55:18.240
<v Speaker 1>ship why like an suggestion was right? And then also

0:55:18.320 --> 0:55:21.239
<v Speaker 1>I don't want to get an extended openis But a

0:55:21.280 --> 0:55:24.960
<v Speaker 1>lot of a lot of women don't even have orgasm

0:55:25.280 --> 0:55:27.839
<v Speaker 1>from penetration. So it's just most of the women, can

0:55:27.960 --> 0:55:30.640
<v Speaker 1>you know, have an orgasm from you know, click stimulations?

0:55:30.920 --> 0:55:33.000
<v Speaker 1>Maybe you can, you know, there's there's so many of

0:55:33.360 --> 0:55:35.239
<v Speaker 1>so many other ways that I think he can please you.

0:55:35.360 --> 0:55:38.600
<v Speaker 1>So if you're not being pleased like through penetration, I

0:55:38.719 --> 0:55:41.719
<v Speaker 1>think that that's something maybe you should show him. I

0:55:41.760 --> 0:55:54.320
<v Speaker 1>think she should definitely talk to and know you know what,

0:55:54.480 --> 0:55:55.759
<v Speaker 1>you know what's crazy. I'm not gonna lie to you.

0:55:56.080 --> 0:55:57.360
<v Speaker 1>That's one of And I don't think a lot of

0:55:57.440 --> 0:55:59.319
<v Speaker 1>guys noticed this, and this is why I stopped having

0:55:59.360 --> 0:56:01.719
<v Speaker 1>casual sex the way I do. You don't understand the

0:56:02.040 --> 0:56:04.440
<v Speaker 1>anger a woman has when she finally give a nigga

0:56:04.520 --> 0:56:09.200
<v Speaker 1>some pussy and then nothing like it's the most frustrating

0:56:09.280 --> 0:56:11.400
<v Speaker 1>thing to have sex and feel like, damn, let me

0:56:11.480 --> 0:56:15.680
<v Speaker 1>go masturbate to make like you adding the body reason

0:56:15.800 --> 0:56:18.040
<v Speaker 1>I want to get like damn, She ran to her phone.

0:56:18.239 --> 0:56:21.399
<v Speaker 1>But I don't think men understand how fucking upset were

0:56:21.680 --> 0:56:27.279
<v Speaker 1>because nigga's gonna nut regardless. Y'all gonna le okay, y'all

0:56:27.320 --> 0:56:32.120
<v Speaker 1>want sometimes you gotta act like yeah, but you got nut. Anyways,

0:56:32.560 --> 0:56:35.839
<v Speaker 1>I feel like men are gonna number whether be good,

0:56:35.960 --> 0:56:38.759
<v Speaker 1>whether it's bad, because of that freaktion. Y'all as gonna.

0:56:40.160 --> 0:56:43.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm not about to orgasm every time. Please, actual male

0:56:43.640 --> 0:56:46.640
<v Speaker 1>followers a question. Had they ever faith the nut and

0:56:46.800 --> 0:56:49.640
<v Speaker 1>just win somewhere and they go to bathroom, some beat

0:56:49.680 --> 0:56:53.719
<v Speaker 1>the meat trash? Really I didn't. I don't want to say,

0:56:53.719 --> 0:56:56.359
<v Speaker 1>because I got a lot going on. But I've heard

0:56:56.440 --> 0:57:00.640
<v Speaker 1>this before. A man like this is like a conversation

0:57:01.040 --> 0:57:03.719
<v Speaker 1>with any man. You get it over with, like you're

0:57:03.760 --> 0:57:06.359
<v Speaker 1>not by the nut. You don't want to don't feel good.

0:57:15.040 --> 0:57:16.600
<v Speaker 1>You want to sit here and give our mail listen

0:57:16.640 --> 0:57:18.840
<v Speaker 1>to some advice. We actually do have homemail from a

0:57:18.960 --> 0:57:22.920
<v Speaker 1>mail and the topic for this is performance anxiety. So

0:57:23.080 --> 0:57:25.439
<v Speaker 1>it says what's up my name? I don't know. I'll

0:57:25.440 --> 0:57:27.320
<v Speaker 1>give you a fake name. My name is the Quine

0:57:27.640 --> 0:57:29.920
<v Speaker 1>and I'm a thirty one year old black mail residing

0:57:29.960 --> 0:57:32.160
<v Speaker 1>in Tampa, Florida. I'm a huge fan of you guys.

0:57:32.200 --> 0:57:34.600
<v Speaker 1>You guys give such great insight and perspective from a

0:57:34.640 --> 0:57:37.320
<v Speaker 1>woman's point of view of sex that I have never considered,

0:57:37.680 --> 0:57:40.880
<v Speaker 1>and I love learning about that. Listening to episode eighty seven,

0:57:40.960 --> 0:57:43.840
<v Speaker 1>I was a little bit taken back. However, so episode

0:57:43.840 --> 0:57:46.120
<v Speaker 1>eighty seven, if y'a don't remember, we were discussing erections.

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<v Speaker 1>Um so it all spawned in the conversation about guys

0:57:50.960 --> 0:57:55.080
<v Speaker 1>getting in direction, maintaining interaction, or coming too fast during sex.

0:57:55.440 --> 0:57:58.520
<v Speaker 1>There's a horrible stigma associated with men to perform at

0:57:58.560 --> 0:58:02.280
<v Speaker 1>peak sexual performance at all times. This pressure is planted

0:58:02.320 --> 0:58:04.600
<v Speaker 1>in young men's minds that if they aren't good in

0:58:04.720 --> 0:58:07.560
<v Speaker 1>bed or aren't satisfying to female counterparts, that they are

0:58:07.680 --> 0:58:10.240
<v Speaker 1>less of a man and therefore an unsuitable partner. This

0:58:10.360 --> 0:58:13.320
<v Speaker 1>goes hand in hand. Sex is very much a serebral

0:58:13.440 --> 0:58:16.320
<v Speaker 1>experience more so than it is physical, and in my

0:58:16.440 --> 0:58:21.000
<v Speaker 1>experience personally, high have had trouble with getting or maintaining

0:58:21.040 --> 0:58:24.880
<v Speaker 1>an erection due to nerves associated with performance anxiety. Of course,

0:58:24.960 --> 0:58:29.200
<v Speaker 1>comfortable comfortability is associated with that, and it can come

0:58:29.240 --> 0:58:32.960
<v Speaker 1>from a number of self confidence issues. I guess my basic, Um,

0:58:33.240 --> 0:58:35.600
<v Speaker 1>I guess my basic the same. I'll be trying. I

0:58:35.640 --> 0:58:38.040
<v Speaker 1>gotta prove frease some of y'all ship for the perspective

0:58:38.120 --> 0:58:39.959
<v Speaker 1>that you guys offers was that none of you touched

0:58:40.000 --> 0:58:43.160
<v Speaker 1>on this very real subject and oftentimes are very unapologetic

0:58:43.560 --> 0:58:46.360
<v Speaker 1>and realizing that it is an actual thing. We are

0:58:47.280 --> 0:58:50.160
<v Speaker 1>I know, hell, neither of you. Two beautiful women who

0:58:50.240 --> 0:58:53.280
<v Speaker 1>are sexually active with tolerate bad sexual performance. Damn, I'm

0:58:53.320 --> 0:58:55.880
<v Speaker 1>sorry you reading me right now. Imagine the kind of

0:58:55.960 --> 0:58:58.440
<v Speaker 1>weight when going into a sexual accounter knowing that if

0:58:58.480 --> 0:59:01.160
<v Speaker 1>they don't perform at p performance and satisfy the woman,

0:59:01.360 --> 0:59:03.560
<v Speaker 1>that they are not going to be wanted anymore. I

0:59:03.640 --> 0:59:05.640
<v Speaker 1>know this is a real thing because women experience it

0:59:05.720 --> 0:59:08.080
<v Speaker 1>often and rightfully, So I just wanted there to be

0:59:08.160 --> 0:59:11.760
<v Speaker 1>a common knowledge that it is all. It isn't always

0:59:11.840 --> 0:59:14.520
<v Speaker 1>a rectile dysfunction or something that the women the woman

0:59:14.640 --> 0:59:17.920
<v Speaker 1>is doing to cause mechanical issues within a male. At

0:59:17.960 --> 0:59:20.880
<v Speaker 1>one specific instance, I literally lost in erection because I

0:59:21.000 --> 0:59:23.800
<v Speaker 1>was so overwhelmed at finally getting someone that I had

0:59:23.880 --> 0:59:27.000
<v Speaker 1>once wanted really really really bad, and literally froze up

0:59:27.040 --> 0:59:29.760
<v Speaker 1>out of fear that I might not please her? Are

0:59:29.800 --> 0:59:32.560
<v Speaker 1>there any other males like this? Love you guys? And

0:59:32.600 --> 0:59:34.560
<v Speaker 1>I would never stop listening, So I guess I wanted

0:59:34.560 --> 0:59:36.600
<v Speaker 1>to ask you real quick before we sign out, what

0:59:37.360 --> 0:59:39.440
<v Speaker 1>because we feel like men are just so excited and

0:59:39.480 --> 0:59:42.760
<v Speaker 1>always have sex more not a lack of confidence in

0:59:42.920 --> 0:59:54.720
<v Speaker 1>having sex. I was like, you know, like you know, like,

0:59:55.720 --> 0:59:59.120
<v Speaker 1>but you got the ones who run the people, right,

0:59:59.440 --> 1:00:02.080
<v Speaker 1>I don't know, all locked up, you know what I'm saying,

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<v Speaker 1>But god, I wasn't ready for it, Like I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>know I was gonna get it, but I got it.

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<v Speaker 1>So I was like, damn, I'm trying. I'm acting like

1:00:08.760 --> 1:00:11.720
<v Speaker 1>I wanted, but I got all right, But it was

1:00:11.840 --> 1:00:14.080
<v Speaker 1>just so much. I was just not ready. I could not.

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<v Speaker 1>My mind wasn't with my dick, so I could not

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<v Speaker 1>just it's just get hard or you didn't come like

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<v Speaker 1>I got hard until it was time to just do

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<v Speaker 1>what I was trying to do. And I'm thinking about

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<v Speaker 1>how was she wanted so bad that it just so

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<v Speaker 1>did you? Did she let you get you to give

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<v Speaker 1>you another chance, and she loved me now. She love

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<v Speaker 1>me now. But it took like about three years for

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<v Speaker 1>me to like, I had to figure out the way

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<v Speaker 1>she let you for three years? What I mean, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying, another three years before I got another. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>it took you three years to get another till we

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<v Speaker 1>had to laugh. It was it had to be time

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<v Speaker 1>for us to laugh and talk about that, right, gonna

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<v Speaker 1>lie you? You know that was flattering her for that.

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<v Speaker 1>I was not ready you was that bach that I

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<v Speaker 1>told you you know, and I leave would call you

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<v Speaker 1>and yeah, we're cool now we're real good. But I

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<v Speaker 1>think that's a good approach to it when I read

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<v Speaker 1>when I read that that letter, especially just us coming

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<v Speaker 1>off the conversation came from, I'm like, I'm not gonna lie.

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<v Speaker 1>I think we do expect, like first off too, I

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<v Speaker 1>think this maybe needs to stop mental sit here and

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<v Speaker 1>tell us I'm gonna that ship up. I'm gonna we

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<v Speaker 1>do expect. A lot of men come like tear you up,

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<v Speaker 1>and then when they come there's an issue where it's

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<v Speaker 1>like this ain't right, just like a girl like I

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<v Speaker 1>got the best mouth like ice, and it's where where

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<v Speaker 1>the sloppiness. This isn't so you know what you're canceling.

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<v Speaker 1>It's never a good idea to hype yourself up. Just

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<v Speaker 1>let it happen, vibes, I will say, I don't want

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<v Speaker 1>to go against what I just said another episode. I

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<v Speaker 1>also believe betting. So to make sure that you're on

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<v Speaker 1>the same page sexually, like, I want to know what

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<v Speaker 1>I am allowed to do, what I'm like, what type

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<v Speaker 1>of sex we're about to have. So maybe not hyping yourself.

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<v Speaker 1>You talk about it for sex need to be regular.

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<v Speaker 1>We don't need about be regular. First, I don't know regular. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>this is my thing now. I don't like no, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't like old fashioned, and that's the thing you gotta

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<v Speaker 1>play with. I got who I want to so let me. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>I know that, but not not only that. I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>having sex anymore, just to go through the motion, so

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<v Speaker 1>to me at I don't have so many casual partners

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<v Speaker 1>and had sex so much where it's just like, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not going to have sex unless I know you're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>make me come or be you didn't let me because

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<v Speaker 1>I don't like to do what I mess with Now

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<v Speaker 1>he does not like he won't let me eat his

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<v Speaker 1>ass nothing so makes me not every single time, ship,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm done with you. I like, what is men's issue

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<v Speaker 1>with as even about us? It's about ass period for

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<v Speaker 1>what it's not even don't do it to me. I

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<v Speaker 1>won't do with you. I won't be nowhere around there

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<v Speaker 1>on you nothing. We'll see that's understandable that you put

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<v Speaker 1>your hands inside your asshole to me, Oh I do.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, look, I think about this so when you're

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<v Speaker 1>hitting it from the back, you don't even slyne a thumb.

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<v Speaker 1>And now I didn't we like the thumb. I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>trying to be cool because future work. And I didn't

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<v Speaker 1>like that because I went to why did you don

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<v Speaker 1>like y'all real quick thumb with me? With me? It

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<v Speaker 1>is mental, like I think so hard about that ship.

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<v Speaker 1>I just can't. I just don't want no parts. And

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<v Speaker 1>you know I can live my life with it. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't never will be intimidated to ever think about doing it.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what you're like. We don't need it, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>we gotta move on just because if that and that's

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<v Speaker 1>what I do like, if there's if there's a guy

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<v Speaker 1>that doesn't if we're not on the same page, or like,

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, okay, well, UM, nice talking to you.

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<v Speaker 1>We just gonna need for us to have sex because

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<v Speaker 1>there are certain things I may want to do and

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<v Speaker 1>I want you to be open and comfortable the way

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<v Speaker 1>I'm open and comfortable. So you know something, because you

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<v Speaker 1>could get them to eventually on the first day, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and then you could do it right exactly. Well before

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