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Speaker 1: that's another episode of horrible decisions. This your girl, Mandy

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Speaker 1: your patrons, everyone who's subscribed to Horrible Decisions. We appreciate y'all,

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Speaker 1: and you know we're dropping another one for y'all. Um,

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Speaker 1: so the first ones I'm actually gonna go for YouTube ladies.

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Speaker 1: Have y'all ever sucked in a small space ship? I

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Speaker 1: and we never never, never touched. Never. Why let me

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Speaker 1: right now, No, you don't. I think I live with

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Speaker 1: eating your plassy? Hold on, you got the wrong one,

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Speaker 1: ware you? So you don't deal with girls. I have

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Speaker 1: been with it, but it's not my thing like I have, Solex,

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna stop texting you which we got first? Noble,

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Speaker 1: right now, that's the one to me. Let me start.

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Speaker 1: And so you're a man, I would love your perspective

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Speaker 1: How do I feel like y'all should feel how you

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Speaker 1: feel like if I'm looking at you and I'm like, yeah,

423
00:22:43,200 --> 00:22:46,480
Speaker 1: you going on my grand I know that's right. I'm

424
00:22:46,520 --> 00:22:49,359
Speaker 1: not about to be over when I know I'm working

425
00:22:49,400 --> 00:22:51,080
Speaker 1: with you, And see what he just said, I think

426
00:22:51,119 --> 00:22:53,119
Speaker 1: that's what a lot of us girls do. We overthink

427
00:22:53,480 --> 00:22:56,560
Speaker 1: febory thing. So let me ask y'all. I y'all are

428
00:22:56,640 --> 00:22:59,200
Speaker 1: talking to a guy and y'all are dating, and it's

429
00:22:59,200 --> 00:23:00,800
Speaker 1: to the point where it may he got a nickname,

430
00:23:01,040 --> 00:23:03,520
Speaker 1: all the friends know about him. When do you guys

431
00:23:03,640 --> 00:23:06,520
Speaker 1: maybe start being like, Okay, why am I not his

432
00:23:06,600 --> 00:23:09,720
Speaker 1: girlfriend yet? Look, y'all, and you know what me and

433
00:23:09,840 --> 00:23:12,160
Speaker 1: Lex had a conversation about, because like a few months

434
00:23:12,200 --> 00:23:15,320
Speaker 1: ago and we're stal totally opposite like me, I'm kind

435
00:23:15,359 --> 00:23:16,879
Speaker 1: of I just kind of go with the flow when

436
00:23:16,920 --> 00:23:18,199
Speaker 1: it comes to day and the guy like, I'll let

437
00:23:18,240 --> 00:23:20,320
Speaker 1: you do what you wanna do, like whenever you're ready,

438
00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:24,880
Speaker 1: then let me tell you something about me. The next week,

439
00:23:24,880 --> 00:23:28,679
Speaker 1: I had a boyfriend. I was in a relationship. If

440
00:23:28,960 --> 00:23:32,040
Speaker 1: they is let you are my man and we love Yeah,

441
00:23:32,160 --> 00:23:34,280
Speaker 1: that's how so are you? Are you as soon as

442
00:23:34,320 --> 00:23:36,920
Speaker 1: y'all have sex? I mean, he your boyfriend like that,

443
00:23:37,040 --> 00:23:39,800
Speaker 1: But like sometimes I get vibes, Like he said, I

444
00:23:39,840 --> 00:23:42,320
Speaker 1: get a vibe. So here's my thing, though, do you

445
00:23:42,440 --> 00:23:45,439
Speaker 1: not seek a mutual vibe? Because even though you may

446
00:23:45,520 --> 00:23:50,399
Speaker 1: be vibing with him. But Drian knows this. Every nigga

447
00:23:50,400 --> 00:23:53,000
Speaker 1: I funk with, they'd be pressuring me for my friends

448
00:23:53,600 --> 00:23:59,159
Speaker 1: and be me. But to everybody, I'd be like no,

449
00:23:59,400 --> 00:24:03,160
Speaker 1: I'd like, sure, yeah, I want you to be my girl.

450
00:24:05,520 --> 00:24:07,639
Speaker 1: Wait wait wait, you said it doesn't mean anything when

451
00:24:07,640 --> 00:24:10,399
Speaker 1: a guy does that. Why because as a knee, I

452
00:24:10,480 --> 00:24:12,760
Speaker 1: could say, bro, nigga would just say she just to

453
00:24:12,840 --> 00:24:15,240
Speaker 1: get a girl head where you need to be true

454
00:24:15,240 --> 00:24:17,480
Speaker 1: because I'm doing that ship Wait wait wait, wait, wait,

455
00:24:17,560 --> 00:24:20,119
Speaker 1: now we're gonna wait, We're gonna post because I got

456
00:24:20,240 --> 00:24:23,760
Speaker 1: to hear this, do you We could be chilling. Everything

457
00:24:23,800 --> 00:24:26,040
Speaker 1: would be good, we would be sucking you went, we

458
00:24:26,119 --> 00:24:29,119
Speaker 1: were rocking, and I just got the nigga gotta just

459
00:24:29,359 --> 00:24:35,120
Speaker 1: do the bro let's even, let's stop playing and could

460
00:24:35,119 --> 00:24:38,000
Speaker 1: be like what you mean like we're good? Like he's

461
00:24:38,040 --> 00:24:40,360
Speaker 1: like nah for real, Like you don't want to lock

462
00:24:40,480 --> 00:24:42,840
Speaker 1: that in so bad? Just to make sure mentally you

463
00:24:42,960 --> 00:24:47,639
Speaker 1: know that doing so. Men will say that, just to

464
00:24:47,720 --> 00:24:52,160
Speaker 1: make sure she's not. Yeah, you lying, y'all be lying.

465
00:24:52,640 --> 00:24:54,560
Speaker 1: I don't do it no more, but I've done it.

466
00:24:54,640 --> 00:24:55,800
Speaker 1: But this is what I'm saying. We will do that

467
00:24:56,080 --> 00:24:57,680
Speaker 1: to get y'all where we need to be. And then

468
00:24:57,760 --> 00:25:00,000
Speaker 1: when y'all are there, that's when we arguing with y'all

469
00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:02,760
Speaker 1: about your tripping and ship. I hate when they be

470
00:25:02,880 --> 00:25:10,800
Speaker 1: like you trip so why yeah? Why? Like I feel

471
00:25:10,840 --> 00:25:14,399
Speaker 1: like that. I feel like it's out of it's out

472
00:25:14,440 --> 00:25:18,240
Speaker 1: of selfishness and it's other ship. I feel like we're

473
00:25:18,560 --> 00:25:22,520
Speaker 1: mentally with niggas like it's ship. How we honestly believe

474
00:25:22,680 --> 00:25:24,720
Speaker 1: just going to see my therapists and things I talked

475
00:25:24,760 --> 00:25:27,000
Speaker 1: to him about mental health, that's how we was right.

476
00:25:27,080 --> 00:25:30,120
Speaker 1: Yeah I did all this? What what what did your

477
00:25:31,440 --> 00:25:33,560
Speaker 1: That's just how we how we view, how we view

478
00:25:33,640 --> 00:25:36,879
Speaker 1: certain things, how we were raised. A lot of niggas

479
00:25:36,920 --> 00:25:40,320
Speaker 1: got just insecurities on their own and almost have nothing

480
00:25:40,359 --> 00:25:45,080
Speaker 1: to do with relationships period, just as a man, and

481
00:25:45,240 --> 00:25:47,240
Speaker 1: just things they haven't been through that they just need

482
00:25:47,359 --> 00:25:52,040
Speaker 1: to have control over certain things or feel secure about

483
00:25:52,119 --> 00:25:53,760
Speaker 1: certain So let me ask you, because we do have

484
00:25:53,840 --> 00:25:56,520
Speaker 1: a lot of parents that listen to us, we have couples,

485
00:25:56,600 --> 00:25:58,840
Speaker 1: we have a lot of people who may want children

486
00:25:58,960 --> 00:26:01,360
Speaker 1: in the future. Is there anything that your therapist said

487
00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:03,480
Speaker 1: or to you, Is there anything that could change that

488
00:26:03,600 --> 00:26:05,679
Speaker 1: upbringing to where y'all don't grow up to be these

489
00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:10,800
Speaker 1: that y'all are like like you. It's it's not necessarily

490
00:26:11,240 --> 00:26:13,040
Speaker 1: it wasn't like how he was raised. It's just not

491
00:26:13,240 --> 00:26:16,200
Speaker 1: being able, especially black men. I can't speak for any

492
00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:20,400
Speaker 1: other that we don't. We don't express ourselves. So anything

493
00:26:20,480 --> 00:26:22,760
Speaker 1: we've ever been through, no matter what it's been. I'm

494
00:26:22,760 --> 00:26:25,280
Speaker 1: twenty eight, so it's been twenty eight years of I'm

495
00:26:25,359 --> 00:26:28,720
Speaker 1: good or that ship. Let's right. I think it's it's

496
00:26:28,760 --> 00:26:31,720
Speaker 1: like it's soft black man say, it's how he feels.

497
00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:39,200
Speaker 1: It's like, oh, you saw you're supposed to care. It's

498
00:26:39,240 --> 00:26:42,120
Speaker 1: cool to not carrying. You want to talk to nobody.

499
00:26:42,200 --> 00:26:44,639
Speaker 1: Your mom could have been the best parent ever, did everything,

500
00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:48,680
Speaker 1: But it's just how like ship be so who but

501
00:26:48,840 --> 00:26:51,560
Speaker 1: who raises like? Is it more so society that's raising

502
00:26:51,600 --> 00:26:53,760
Speaker 1: black men to be like? I think a mental health

503
00:26:53,840 --> 00:26:57,760
Speaker 1: issue wasn't something It's not even our parents fault. It's

504
00:26:57,840 --> 00:27:02,680
Speaker 1: something that was never thought about. I'm nine, like anything,

505
00:27:02,800 --> 00:27:06,359
Speaker 1: it's just coming up now. Kids now are like early

506
00:27:06,480 --> 00:27:09,800
Speaker 1: we were able to be able to care about that,

507
00:27:10,680 --> 00:27:12,479
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So it wasn't like our

508
00:27:12,520 --> 00:27:15,040
Speaker 1: parents like, yeah, you know, we can't. How are they

509
00:27:15,119 --> 00:27:16,480
Speaker 1: gonna talk to us about It's not even a thought

510
00:27:16,520 --> 00:27:21,400
Speaker 1: in their mind? Okay, speak on it. Listen like your

511
00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:23,479
Speaker 1: tweets because your tweets be coming for bitches. But now

512
00:27:23,520 --> 00:27:26,239
Speaker 1: I feel like, see, I got my views on that too,

513
00:27:26,320 --> 00:27:29,800
Speaker 1: But it's I got logic. I don't never say nothing

514
00:27:29,880 --> 00:27:33,040
Speaker 1: without both sides. I get that. But but at least

515
00:27:33,080 --> 00:27:37,880
Speaker 1: that you're able to even own up to your ignorant something.

516
00:27:38,359 --> 00:27:40,520
Speaker 1: I say something about women. But niggas is fucked up,

517
00:27:40,600 --> 00:27:43,480
Speaker 1: Like I don't need a lot of fun up ship

518
00:27:43,720 --> 00:27:46,560
Speaker 1: and I'm running with niggas to do fund up ship,

519
00:27:46,880 --> 00:27:48,800
Speaker 1: and I don't have the conversations, and niggas gonna be

520
00:27:48,800 --> 00:27:50,479
Speaker 1: trying to hear that ship. Hey, bro, you don't ever

521
00:27:50,560 --> 00:27:52,520
Speaker 1: think you'd be doing that ship because it is NI

522
00:27:52,760 --> 00:27:54,400
Speaker 1: put their hair down, like man, I don't talk about

523
00:27:54,640 --> 00:27:57,680
Speaker 1: man I talked right, So as women, what do we

524
00:27:57,840 --> 00:28:00,359
Speaker 1: do if we like meeting you? Because we're all in

525
00:28:00,480 --> 00:28:07,720
Speaker 1: our late twenties. The woman, the woman that I the woman,

526
00:28:07,960 --> 00:28:10,680
Speaker 1: the two women that I talked to, right, one of

527
00:28:10,800 --> 00:28:12,760
Speaker 1: them the one who told me to go see a therapy.

528
00:28:14,240 --> 00:28:16,639
Speaker 1: You got this going on, you need to do this,

529
00:28:16,840 --> 00:28:18,600
Speaker 1: because I went, I'm going through this and I go

530
00:28:18,720 --> 00:28:21,080
Speaker 1: see my therapist for this, and that happened. The other

531
00:28:21,160 --> 00:28:23,359
Speaker 1: girl kind of just read me so good. She knows

532
00:28:23,400 --> 00:28:24,920
Speaker 1: what that she is. She like, how fun with you?

533
00:28:25,000 --> 00:28:27,640
Speaker 1: But hey, no, nig, but let's go out to this movie.

534
00:28:28,920 --> 00:28:31,560
Speaker 1: I'm gonna know when you ready. I know you ain't ready, nig.

535
00:28:32,560 --> 00:28:34,080
Speaker 1: So she's just read me and I just laugh at

536
00:28:34,080 --> 00:28:36,679
Speaker 1: off sometimes and I have to check myself, like let

537
00:28:36,720 --> 00:28:38,800
Speaker 1: me stop playing with the girl. But she know me

538
00:28:38,960 --> 00:28:41,480
Speaker 1: good enough, so I'm not rushing nothing. And she's smart

539
00:28:41,600 --> 00:28:44,120
Speaker 1: enough mentally and strong enough mentally to peat my bullshit.

540
00:28:44,320 --> 00:28:50,800
Speaker 1: But no, no, no, no, no, no no no, these women,

541
00:28:51,080 --> 00:28:53,480
Speaker 1: these women will see that she, oh, this nigga full

542
00:28:53,480 --> 00:28:55,400
Speaker 1: of games, fuck them and not try to help them

543
00:28:55,720 --> 00:28:57,720
Speaker 1: or see something in them. But is it our drive?

544
00:28:58,920 --> 00:29:05,200
Speaker 1: That's only it's only right right? I feel like in

545
00:29:05,280 --> 00:29:07,400
Speaker 1: the beginning, I don't know if I see something. We

546
00:29:07,480 --> 00:29:09,400
Speaker 1: two So can I bring this? Can I bring this

547
00:29:09,560 --> 00:29:13,080
Speaker 1: back to the wonderful I'm saying if we just had

548
00:29:13,120 --> 00:29:16,040
Speaker 1: a quote from the wonderful um first lady of the

549
00:29:16,080 --> 00:29:20,320
Speaker 1: motherfucker us of a UM, Michelle Obama, And she came through,

550
00:29:20,600 --> 00:29:23,440
Speaker 1: which I appreciated most recently. She came through and said

551
00:29:23,520 --> 00:29:26,560
Speaker 1: that she knew that Obama was for her because he

552
00:29:26,760 --> 00:29:28,920
Speaker 1: was already a full ass, complete human being when he

553
00:29:29,000 --> 00:29:32,160
Speaker 1: met her. And so I feel like, unfortunately for black

554
00:29:32,240 --> 00:29:34,800
Speaker 1: men and not speaking for all, but they expect us

555
00:29:34,880 --> 00:29:37,800
Speaker 1: as women to take them broken and to help build

556
00:29:37,840 --> 00:29:40,320
Speaker 1: them or to help fix them. And there's so there's

557
00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:42,720
Speaker 1: so much things already on our plate as black women

558
00:29:43,160 --> 00:29:45,640
Speaker 1: wanting black kings. We hate that we have to feel

559
00:29:45,680 --> 00:29:48,000
Speaker 1: like we have to help you get a job, help

560
00:29:48,080 --> 00:29:49,800
Speaker 1: with your resume, build you up, and be the men

561
00:29:49,880 --> 00:29:52,080
Speaker 1: that we want you to be. Instead of y'all coming

562
00:29:52,200 --> 00:29:57,280
Speaker 1: as the men that we want than that though, it's

563
00:29:57,320 --> 00:29:59,600
Speaker 1: like go back to slavery with that sheep, Like how

564
00:29:59,680 --> 00:30:02,920
Speaker 1: are where we are so embarrassed about certain things to

565
00:30:03,080 --> 00:30:06,080
Speaker 1: express ourselves and it's weighing on us. Bro, That Willie

566
00:30:06,120 --> 00:30:08,880
Speaker 1: Litch ship is real? Is fun? Like do you know

567
00:30:09,040 --> 00:30:12,720
Speaker 1: like how they they they made they made out, they

568
00:30:12,840 --> 00:30:15,960
Speaker 1: made black men just they humiliated black men in front

569
00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:19,240
Speaker 1: of their kids and they women, and that ship trickles,

570
00:30:19,640 --> 00:30:23,320
Speaker 1: and it's like an insecurity, a generational insecurity with black men.

571
00:30:23,400 --> 00:30:25,600
Speaker 1: We keep shit in We want to be the manliest

572
00:30:25,680 --> 00:30:28,560
Speaker 1: man ever, but we need something, but at the same time,

573
00:30:28,600 --> 00:30:30,760
Speaker 1: we don't want to express what we need. So y'all

574
00:30:30,760 --> 00:30:32,400
Speaker 1: don't know what the fund is wrong with us? And

575
00:30:32,480 --> 00:30:34,680
Speaker 1: you can't tell y'all what's wrong with us because it's

576
00:30:34,760 --> 00:30:37,040
Speaker 1: like so deeper than just saying one thing. It's like

577
00:30:37,200 --> 00:30:39,560
Speaker 1: it's a lot, but I can't say so. But it's like,

578
00:30:39,680 --> 00:30:42,400
Speaker 1: at what point do y'all realize that and start to

579
00:30:42,440 --> 00:30:45,560
Speaker 1: be like, you know what, let me heal myself because

580
00:30:45,640 --> 00:30:49,440
Speaker 1: I don't. You can't depend on nobody else. It's a process.

581
00:30:49,800 --> 00:30:52,480
Speaker 1: I didn't I heard a woman so bad to figure out.

582
00:30:53,000 --> 00:30:55,440
Speaker 1: I'm a fun nigga and I need to figure it out.

583
00:30:55,480 --> 00:30:57,840
Speaker 1: And it took another girl after that to be like, nigga,

584
00:30:57,920 --> 00:31:01,240
Speaker 1: you is a nigga, You're a good nigga. But and

585
00:31:01,640 --> 00:31:03,040
Speaker 1: this is what I see. I feel like, you need

586
00:31:03,120 --> 00:31:05,560
Speaker 1: to talk to somebody, but it takes it's up to

587
00:31:05,640 --> 00:31:07,520
Speaker 1: you to make them Still. I think it takes a

588
00:31:07,560 --> 00:31:10,040
Speaker 1: strong man to to realize that, Okay, I need to

589
00:31:10,120 --> 00:31:13,080
Speaker 1: go see it or I need to find someone that

590
00:31:13,120 --> 00:31:16,440
Speaker 1: I can, because some things don't even know how. I

591
00:31:16,520 --> 00:31:18,400
Speaker 1: didn't even know how to be by myself when I

592
00:31:18,520 --> 00:31:20,840
Speaker 1: broke up with the mother of my child and I

593
00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:23,680
Speaker 1: was single. I didn't spend the night alone. And it

594
00:31:23,840 --> 00:31:26,600
Speaker 1: wasn't even because I'm fucking bitches just for cool. It's

595
00:31:26,640 --> 00:31:28,600
Speaker 1: got to a point I just needed somebody that I

596
00:31:28,680 --> 00:31:36,400
Speaker 1: needed it, like, like I just want to even I

597
00:31:36,480 --> 00:31:38,480
Speaker 1: guess even a man admitting that, Like I just didn't

598
00:31:38,520 --> 00:31:41,120
Speaker 1: want to be alone, Like you don't hear men expressions.

599
00:31:43,320 --> 00:31:45,480
Speaker 1: But I just hurt somebody so bad I don't want

600
00:31:45,480 --> 00:31:46,960
Speaker 1: to do it again out of my fear. I just

601
00:31:47,080 --> 00:31:50,320
Speaker 1: had to be real myself, Like I just want to

602
00:31:50,440 --> 00:31:53,680
Speaker 1: be fully transparent with anybody. I'm working with. So I

603
00:31:53,840 --> 00:31:56,520
Speaker 1: just know I got baggage and I'm still fixing that ship.

604
00:31:56,880 --> 00:31:58,800
Speaker 1: So don't come over here if you're not you know,

605
00:31:59,320 --> 00:32:01,440
Speaker 1: so what you would you accept that with a woman?

606
00:32:01,560 --> 00:32:04,560
Speaker 1: Like if a woman was broken and to be built up.

607
00:32:04,600 --> 00:32:06,840
Speaker 1: Because the woman who told me that I need to

608
00:32:06,880 --> 00:32:08,760
Speaker 1: see a therapist, it's a lot going on with her

609
00:32:09,040 --> 00:32:10,680
Speaker 1: and she got a pass and she doesn't did a

610
00:32:10,720 --> 00:32:12,800
Speaker 1: lot of crazy ships and we could talk about that

611
00:32:12,880 --> 00:32:15,320
Speaker 1: and it doesn't bother me. Okay, it doesn't bother you,

612
00:32:15,400 --> 00:32:17,360
Speaker 1: but I do want to bring that into and you

613
00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:20,720
Speaker 1: y'all can change my whole outline. But um, when it

614
00:32:20,800 --> 00:32:23,840
Speaker 1: comes to a woman opening up about their past, if

615
00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:26,200
Speaker 1: we're supposed to sit here and you know, accept you

616
00:32:26,360 --> 00:32:29,640
Speaker 1: for you, your upbringing, being a man, you being vulnerable,

617
00:32:29,680 --> 00:32:31,960
Speaker 1: but not so vulnerable as a woman. When we do

618
00:32:32,120 --> 00:32:34,600
Speaker 1: express our past and what we've been through or how

619
00:32:34,680 --> 00:32:38,200
Speaker 1: many sexual partners we've had, how how is it that

620
00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:41,600
Speaker 1: we can express that to a man without that judgment

621
00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:44,960
Speaker 1: being like I told you to grow fun. She tells

622
00:32:45,000 --> 00:32:46,960
Speaker 1: me everything and it doesn't bother me. It kind of

623
00:32:47,080 --> 00:32:49,560
Speaker 1: was like a weight off my shoulders to be able

624
00:32:49,600 --> 00:32:55,000
Speaker 1: to had that conversation and you just a whole out here.

625
00:32:55,000 --> 00:32:58,680
Speaker 1: You know. I listen to all that she did and

626
00:32:58,720 --> 00:33:01,240
Speaker 1: I'm like, damn, you know, we grew up like we

627
00:33:01,600 --> 00:33:05,520
Speaker 1: was doing ship in between eighteen and twenty before I

628
00:33:05,640 --> 00:33:07,320
Speaker 1: met you. I don't give a funk what you did

629
00:33:07,600 --> 00:33:10,160
Speaker 1: as long as you can express it to me. The

630
00:33:10,280 --> 00:33:12,800
Speaker 1: nigga worst fear is this all we care about walking

631
00:33:12,840 --> 00:33:16,960
Speaker 1: into a room and but that's very But that's it is.

632
00:33:17,240 --> 00:33:19,440
Speaker 1: But that you not take care though, But that's like

633
00:33:19,600 --> 00:33:23,000
Speaker 1: very reckles. Niggas be caring. They do they do. Let

634
00:33:23,040 --> 00:33:24,280
Speaker 1: me ask you, let me let me ask you this.

635
00:33:24,520 --> 00:33:27,440
Speaker 1: So you're in the industry, you meet a girl and

636
00:33:27,560 --> 00:33:32,200
Speaker 1: you vibe with her. She is nervous because she's no

637
00:33:32,440 --> 00:33:34,440
Speaker 1: she knows that she doesn't suck Some niggas in the industry.

638
00:33:34,960 --> 00:33:37,160
Speaker 1: You would you would preferred to You would prefer for

639
00:33:37,320 --> 00:33:40,360
Speaker 1: her to tell you, listen, I fucked x y Z,

640
00:33:40,520 --> 00:33:42,840
Speaker 1: even if you're close to them, that she sucked them

641
00:33:42,880 --> 00:33:45,800
Speaker 1: before knowing you. Yeah, because I hadn't been in that

642
00:33:45,920 --> 00:33:49,440
Speaker 1: situation and I could, I could have that conversation with

643
00:33:49,680 --> 00:33:51,719
Speaker 1: nigga before he feels like he got one up. Nigga's

644
00:33:51,720 --> 00:33:54,200
Speaker 1: got one up, That's what it is like you understand

645
00:33:54,520 --> 00:33:57,560
Speaker 1: if you walk in and I sucked you or fucking you,

646
00:33:58,120 --> 00:34:00,800
Speaker 1: I'm smiling like god damn, and I'm at my nigga like,

647
00:34:01,680 --> 00:34:03,520
Speaker 1: but guess what he could kick? This is how I

648
00:34:03,680 --> 00:34:06,120
Speaker 1: kick it if I know you know my bitch. First

649
00:34:06,160 --> 00:34:08,279
Speaker 1: I'm walking, I'm like, yeah, yeah, but she told me.

650
00:34:08,360 --> 00:34:11,080
Speaker 1: She know you know around back in the day that

651
00:34:11,160 --> 00:34:16,799
Speaker 1: you can clear that she's said nothing bad. She said

652
00:34:16,800 --> 00:34:18,680
Speaker 1: you coolest, she told me. And you know what that

653
00:34:18,800 --> 00:34:22,560
Speaker 1: dude that takes shoulders down and then make the room comfortable. Yeah, buddy, no,

654
00:34:22,800 --> 00:34:25,200
Speaker 1: it's all good. I need to know that so I

655
00:34:25,280 --> 00:34:27,920
Speaker 1: can make Let me ask y'all how comfortable are y'all

656
00:34:27,920 --> 00:34:32,879
Speaker 1: because I hadn't had teammates before, like, yeah, I've been there.

657
00:34:32,960 --> 00:34:35,239
Speaker 1: That just actually happened to me like a year ago.

658
00:34:35,600 --> 00:34:38,719
Speaker 1: And how did you go about telling like because we

659
00:34:38,920 --> 00:34:40,600
Speaker 1: so we have a lot of listeners, I'm sure everyone

660
00:34:40,600 --> 00:34:44,120
Speaker 1: has been in these uncomfortable, awkward as situations. So now

661
00:34:44,200 --> 00:34:46,680
Speaker 1: that we see that from a man, and not all

662
00:34:46,719 --> 00:34:49,760
Speaker 1: men are like, but he would prefer to know as women,

663
00:34:49,840 --> 00:34:51,759
Speaker 1: did y'all come forward and say it? And if so,

664
00:34:51,960 --> 00:34:54,600
Speaker 1: how did you say it? Um? I did? I told

665
00:34:54,719 --> 00:34:57,279
Speaker 1: him that I used to miss with somebody that he knew.

666
00:34:57,560 --> 00:34:59,239
Speaker 1: But when I told him that I used to miss

667
00:34:59,280 --> 00:35:00,960
Speaker 1: with the guy, get he didn't know that. They meant

668
00:35:01,000 --> 00:35:05,239
Speaker 1: that I fucked the god exactly. But that's the same.

669
00:35:05,920 --> 00:35:09,759
Speaker 1: That's how but right, that's how I felt about it.

670
00:35:09,840 --> 00:35:13,120
Speaker 1: Saw two, three or four months into the situation, I'm thinking,

671
00:35:13,160 --> 00:35:17,440
Speaker 1: he already understands that I used to be fucking right.

672
00:35:18,200 --> 00:35:20,640
Speaker 1: So he comes to me. I guess the dude said

673
00:35:20,680 --> 00:35:22,080
Speaker 1: something to him. That was at the party, and the

674
00:35:22,160 --> 00:35:23,880
Speaker 1: dude said something to him and he comes to me

675
00:35:23,960 --> 00:35:25,880
Speaker 1: and he's like, oh, boy walked up to me and

676
00:35:26,120 --> 00:35:27,919
Speaker 1: he's like I can't believe. He was like, I feel

677
00:35:27,920 --> 00:35:29,520
Speaker 1: like you hiding something from me, and I'm like, I

678
00:35:29,560 --> 00:35:32,000
Speaker 1: already told you. He was like, um, no, you did,

679
00:35:32,080 --> 00:35:33,920
Speaker 1: and I was like, yes, I did. And then he

680
00:35:34,040 --> 00:35:36,040
Speaker 1: was like, UM, well no. Then I told him. I

681
00:35:36,160 --> 00:35:38,520
Speaker 1: was like, well, I did suck him one time. He

682
00:35:38,640 --> 00:35:45,000
Speaker 1: was like, what you fuck that? Nigga? Man also have

683
00:35:45,160 --> 00:35:49,560
Speaker 1: selective hearing, though definitely, y'all will sit here and even

684
00:35:49,600 --> 00:35:52,000
Speaker 1: though we tell you something, if you interpret it one way,

685
00:35:54,360 --> 00:35:56,759
Speaker 1: I hear that you ain't me to say I fucked him.

686
00:35:56,800 --> 00:36:00,440
Speaker 1: I said, I fucked. You know, I represent for the feelings.

687
00:36:00,480 --> 00:36:03,400
Speaker 1: I'm not judging, but he was tripping in that scenario.

688
00:36:03,600 --> 00:36:06,680
Speaker 1: He was You do think he was stripping, right, because

689
00:36:06,800 --> 00:36:11,879
Speaker 1: I think even if you didn't, that's how I feel.

690
00:36:12,200 --> 00:36:16,440
Speaker 1: I feel point to bring it up, all right, So

691
00:36:16,560 --> 00:36:18,319
Speaker 1: let me ask you how did how did you go about?

692
00:36:18,400 --> 00:36:22,640
Speaker 1: Have you done it before? This is the thing with me.

693
00:36:23,400 --> 00:36:25,520
Speaker 1: If I meet somebody and I know, like I funk

694
00:36:25,560 --> 00:36:27,239
Speaker 1: with your friend, I need to know how far we

695
00:36:27,400 --> 00:36:30,200
Speaker 1: going first before I have that conversation, because I had

696
00:36:30,280 --> 00:36:34,239
Speaker 1: met I was in a situation the beginning. How do

697
00:36:34,320 --> 00:36:36,560
Speaker 1: you know that in the beginning what like, he can't

698
00:36:36,600 --> 00:36:39,560
Speaker 1: necessarily tell you how far y'all are gonna go, like exactly,

699
00:36:39,719 --> 00:36:41,480
Speaker 1: So if we get to that point, then I'll be like, oh,

700
00:36:41,719 --> 00:36:45,840
Speaker 1: by the way out bad? Yeah, I mean they can't.

701
00:36:45,920 --> 00:36:47,360
Speaker 1: But at the end of the day, why would I

702
00:36:47,440 --> 00:36:49,800
Speaker 1: tell you my business if we because then this last situation.

703
00:36:51,200 --> 00:36:53,800
Speaker 1: But no, but they don't. They didn't end up finding

704
00:36:53,800 --> 00:36:56,160
Speaker 1: out because it was funny because I was talking to

705
00:36:56,280 --> 00:36:58,520
Speaker 1: one dude. Me and him had fell off, so I

706
00:36:58,560 --> 00:37:00,359
Speaker 1: started talking to the other dude and they owe each

707
00:37:00,400 --> 00:37:02,680
Speaker 1: other and I was like, damn, dras should I tell him,

708
00:37:02,680 --> 00:37:04,680
Speaker 1: she was like, I don't know, like you just wait

709
00:37:04,760 --> 00:37:06,719
Speaker 1: and see, and I never said anything and we ended

710
00:37:06,800 --> 00:37:08,320
Speaker 1: up falling out and I ended up going back to

711
00:37:08,360 --> 00:37:11,960
Speaker 1: the other dude. Yeah, and I know they still don't know,

712
00:37:12,200 --> 00:37:15,680
Speaker 1: but we're not lucky. But I didn't. I didn't like

713
00:37:15,840 --> 00:37:20,120
Speaker 1: the second dude. I didn't the second dude because that's

714
00:37:20,160 --> 00:37:22,279
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, because I don't why would I say, Hey,

715
00:37:22,440 --> 00:37:25,359
Speaker 1: I fucked X y Z and we're not even fucking yet,

716
00:37:25,400 --> 00:37:26,880
Speaker 1: but we like each other. But it's like if we

717
00:37:27,000 --> 00:37:28,839
Speaker 1: never reached that point. So when it comes, so when

718
00:37:28,840 --> 00:37:31,120
Speaker 1: it comes to when you're finally sucking, that's when you should. Yeah,

719
00:37:31,200 --> 00:37:34,960
Speaker 1: I mean had already because it's like talking to my

720
00:37:35,160 --> 00:37:38,480
Speaker 1: partner a year ago, my best friend and y'all, he

721
00:37:38,560 --> 00:37:40,120
Speaker 1: took you out to eat a show. I don't give

722
00:37:40,120 --> 00:37:42,439
Speaker 1: a funk about that. Y'all went out a couple of times.

723
00:37:42,440 --> 00:37:44,359
Speaker 1: He took you to the movie. If you tell me cool,

724
00:37:44,640 --> 00:37:46,200
Speaker 1: if he tell me, I'm like, damn for real, you

725
00:37:46,880 --> 00:37:51,760
Speaker 1: like no, I'm like, all right, what I'm saying exactly

726
00:37:51,840 --> 00:37:55,520
Speaker 1: real comfortable with how you speak on you know, males

727
00:37:55,640 --> 00:37:57,839
Speaker 1: dealing with maybe the same woman. I want to take

728
00:37:57,920 --> 00:38:00,799
Speaker 1: this to maybe our female listeners a little bit. Would

729
00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:03,320
Speaker 1: you be okay with Dria going on a date with

730
00:38:03,520 --> 00:38:05,400
Speaker 1: somebody that you used to talk to, even if you

731
00:38:05,440 --> 00:38:07,839
Speaker 1: didn't suck him, or if you did him like way

732
00:38:07,920 --> 00:38:10,640
Speaker 1: both of those options, because this is your friend, would

733
00:38:10,719 --> 00:38:12,840
Speaker 1: that be okay? And when is when is it crossing

734
00:38:12,920 --> 00:38:15,799
Speaker 1: the line for girl code? Something I taught her right now.

735
00:38:15,880 --> 00:38:18,600
Speaker 1: She got somebody on her roster that nigga's prime real estate.

736
00:38:19,560 --> 00:38:21,480
Speaker 1: I said, if I come across that nig I'll just

737
00:38:21,640 --> 00:38:24,399
Speaker 1: let you know. She did, and I already sucked him before,

738
00:38:24,440 --> 00:38:26,560
Speaker 1: but she was like, did she prime real estate? If

739
00:38:26,560 --> 00:38:28,360
Speaker 1: I ever run across? If I ever run across the

740
00:38:28,400 --> 00:38:31,279
Speaker 1: trying of fun with me, I'm sorry, but I let

741
00:38:31,360 --> 00:38:34,360
Speaker 1: her know. I was like, but you know, but we

742
00:38:34,560 --> 00:38:39,680
Speaker 1: had Honestly, we're not a time. But I'm not talking

743
00:38:39,680 --> 00:38:45,239
Speaker 1: about community dick right now. I'm talking about like she

744
00:38:45,360 --> 00:38:49,520
Speaker 1: probably talking about rappid athlete them niggas for everybody. We

745
00:38:49,760 --> 00:38:52,440
Speaker 1: don't were in a situation like that before, like I was.

746
00:38:53,000 --> 00:38:55,160
Speaker 1: She don't like to talk about it, but it was

747
00:38:55,239 --> 00:38:57,239
Speaker 1: like I had talked to a dude a long time ago,

748
00:38:57,320 --> 00:38:59,160
Speaker 1: like I was young, and then like some years later,

749
00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:01,360
Speaker 1: like hearing him and they were like really really talking,

750
00:39:01,440 --> 00:39:03,800
Speaker 1: but I didn't. I mean, I didn't care because it

751
00:39:03,920 --> 00:39:05,600
Speaker 1: was just like I had moved on. I was like

752
00:39:05,880 --> 00:39:09,480
Speaker 1: six dicks. That was like six nicks, So it didn't matter.

753
00:39:10,239 --> 00:39:12,520
Speaker 1: I got lucky just like that. I don't know, that's

754
00:39:12,560 --> 00:39:16,680
Speaker 1: never happened to me. I feel like, so I have

755
00:39:17,040 --> 00:39:20,759
Speaker 1: like a clear do not cross list, Like yeah, I

756
00:39:20,800 --> 00:39:23,160
Speaker 1: think we all had a whole Yeah, I have a

757
00:39:23,400 --> 00:39:27,680
Speaker 1: few niggas really all that. It's that I feel even

758
00:39:27,719 --> 00:39:32,680
Speaker 1: if we don't, we ain't for seven years. Yeah you know, yeah,

759
00:39:33,120 --> 00:39:36,919
Speaker 1: I think that for for and I think honestly we're

760
00:39:36,960 --> 00:39:39,120
Speaker 1: real friends with a bit. We know which niggas is awful.

761
00:39:39,239 --> 00:39:42,719
Speaker 1: Yea you are already no, but this is don't care

762
00:39:43,360 --> 00:39:46,080
Speaker 1: niggers gonna cross that, gonna cross that line. They will

763
00:39:46,120 --> 00:39:48,680
Speaker 1: all the time. Yeah, I had niggas that I was

764
00:39:49,000 --> 00:39:51,520
Speaker 1: fucking with. We was in damn there in love and

765
00:39:51,560 --> 00:39:55,080
Speaker 1: the homeboy was like, yeah, what I'm saying, it's only

766
00:39:55,120 --> 00:39:59,680
Speaker 1: a few real niggas period. We talk about like I'm

767
00:39:59,760 --> 00:40:02,279
Speaker 1: really like, I know me, bro a man, a bitch

768
00:40:02,320 --> 00:40:04,920
Speaker 1: could be so bad till my part and going and

769
00:40:05,000 --> 00:40:07,320
Speaker 1: it's like a switch in my brain is like, it

770
00:40:07,360 --> 00:40:11,239
Speaker 1: don't matter what she got on or not. And you

771
00:40:11,320 --> 00:40:18,520
Speaker 1: are very very rare because not because back to that story,

772
00:40:18,600 --> 00:40:22,040
Speaker 1: the dude found out any he's still with me, he

773
00:40:22,160 --> 00:40:23,719
Speaker 1: was trying to ask. He was so mad, and we

774
00:40:23,800 --> 00:40:25,600
Speaker 1: still was working with each other for like another saving

775
00:40:25,640 --> 00:40:28,000
Speaker 1: month after that, and then's the old boy that had

776
00:40:28,080 --> 00:40:32,680
Speaker 1: ran to him about it. He said again, I think

777
00:40:32,760 --> 00:40:34,759
Speaker 1: I think it still has all to do with the

778
00:40:35,000 --> 00:40:39,000
Speaker 1: level of security that man has because um, and I

779
00:40:39,120 --> 00:40:41,239
Speaker 1: mentioned this on the show before, like there was a

780
00:40:41,320 --> 00:40:43,680
Speaker 1: dude that I was really, really really vibing with and

781
00:40:43,760 --> 00:40:46,080
Speaker 1: I had sucked his friend first before I had even

782
00:40:46,120 --> 00:40:50,400
Speaker 1: known him. But the friend was prime real estate and

783
00:40:50,520 --> 00:40:53,040
Speaker 1: this nigga wasn't so much. So he used to always

784
00:40:53,120 --> 00:40:56,279
Speaker 1: say like, man, no, like I'll funk with you, but man,

785
00:40:56,480 --> 00:40:58,720
Speaker 1: if we ever got married, I couldn't have that nigga

786
00:40:58,719 --> 00:41:00,160
Speaker 1: would have to be at my wedding and I out

787
00:41:00,160 --> 00:41:03,160
Speaker 1: to know he sucked my wife. Like, So that's another

788
00:41:03,280 --> 00:41:06,319
Speaker 1: type of conversation that's had that when a man really

789
00:41:06,400 --> 00:41:08,400
Speaker 1: vies with you, there's certain thiggs that he can't look

790
00:41:08,440 --> 00:41:10,800
Speaker 1: past even if he does, because he's like, listen that

791
00:41:10,960 --> 00:41:12,719
Speaker 1: nigga will be at my wedding, and I gotta know

792
00:41:12,840 --> 00:41:14,800
Speaker 1: he knows what your pussy feel like. And me and

793
00:41:14,840 --> 00:41:16,719
Speaker 1: this nigga vibe so hard. So you're talking about a

794
00:41:16,800 --> 00:41:19,359
Speaker 1: vibe we boben and he's like, man, I really fun

795
00:41:19,480 --> 00:41:23,520
Speaker 1: with you, but it will be my wedding. Like if

796
00:41:23,560 --> 00:41:26,560
Speaker 1: a girl sucked your homeboy that he knows to be

797
00:41:26,680 --> 00:41:28,880
Speaker 1: in the wedding type of ship. It's like, yeah, this

798
00:41:29,040 --> 00:41:30,400
Speaker 1: is the woman. I'm walking down the aisle and I

799
00:41:30,440 --> 00:41:32,319
Speaker 1: gotta look at my homeboy and know that that nigga

800
00:41:32,400 --> 00:41:34,600
Speaker 1: was that grown sakes are like teenage six No, we

801
00:41:34,760 --> 00:41:42,160
Speaker 1: was like get over all, right, get over to you, y'all.

802
00:41:42,200 --> 00:41:46,000
Speaker 1: Eighteen nineteen, I get over that. But grown fucking you know.

803
00:41:49,280 --> 00:41:58,520
Speaker 1: I'm but what if you didn't suck? Se told but

804
00:41:58,600 --> 00:42:03,279
Speaker 1: I didn't suck the first dude? Remember what I'm saying?

805
00:42:03,600 --> 00:42:05,480
Speaker 1: Like that got to be discussed because it's some niggas

806
00:42:05,520 --> 00:42:09,759
Speaker 1: that overlook it, but the whole marriage, right, But it's like,

807
00:42:10,000 --> 00:42:12,600
Speaker 1: why do I feel like if you don't care about

808
00:42:12,640 --> 00:42:14,600
Speaker 1: something that was before you, whether it's your patna or not,

809
00:42:14,719 --> 00:42:16,560
Speaker 1: you either care? Are you don't? Like? I don't know

810
00:42:17,000 --> 00:42:25,879
Speaker 1: because we are you don't realize how we think it's down.

811
00:42:26,400 --> 00:42:28,359
Speaker 1: I say this ship to er God talked to when

812
00:42:28,400 --> 00:42:31,400
Speaker 1: it comes to niggas and when it comes to bitches

813
00:42:31,480 --> 00:42:35,400
Speaker 1: fucking niggas that we know it don't matter. Pause. We

814
00:42:35,520 --> 00:42:41,719
Speaker 1: had a last guest that used bitches. Okay, but let's

815
00:42:41,719 --> 00:42:43,160
Speaker 1: see now. I don't want you to feel in the way,

816
00:42:43,200 --> 00:42:45,520
Speaker 1: but look, it is a business sample. I could be

817
00:42:45,640 --> 00:42:49,680
Speaker 1: the most serial killer. Street is nigga, billionaire everything, the

818
00:42:49,800 --> 00:42:57,120
Speaker 1: really gangster, richest, helicopter having big right. Guess what it's

819
00:42:57,160 --> 00:42:59,640
Speaker 1: a j on the street. If I walked past and

820
00:42:59,719 --> 00:43:02,000
Speaker 1: I say, if he say anything to me and I

821
00:43:02,080 --> 00:43:05,439
Speaker 1: say something back, it's nothing I could do after he says,

822
00:43:06,320 --> 00:43:09,239
Speaker 1: I FU your bitch. And that's how he was like this.

823
00:43:09,440 --> 00:43:11,960
Speaker 1: And guess what. Guess what. I could pull a gun out.

824
00:43:12,040 --> 00:43:14,320
Speaker 1: I could kill him right there. And guess what. I

825
00:43:14,400 --> 00:43:16,160
Speaker 1: could go to jail. I'm saying I could go to jail.

826
00:43:16,360 --> 00:43:23,480
Speaker 1: Guess what. I'm bit it's nothing worse than the nigga

827
00:43:24,120 --> 00:43:26,800
Speaker 1: because it's nothing you can do. There's nothing you can do.

828
00:43:27,040 --> 00:43:28,759
Speaker 1: You can be richer than the nigga. You could have

829
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:32,320
Speaker 1: everything more than the Nigga's no one. I still what

830
00:43:32,400 --> 00:43:34,120
Speaker 1: you're saying, But let me say this. It has been

831
00:43:34,200 --> 00:43:36,520
Speaker 1: some situations before where you was like, I funk with

832
00:43:36,560 --> 00:43:38,799
Speaker 1: people who knew each other and then he was like, man,

833
00:43:38,840 --> 00:43:40,200
Speaker 1: I know you used to funk with that nigga. But

834
00:43:40,239 --> 00:43:42,480
Speaker 1: it's like I but when the niggas will try to

835
00:43:42,560 --> 00:43:45,040
Speaker 1: hit me up being on some sneaky ship, like I

836
00:43:45,480 --> 00:43:46,960
Speaker 1: if I'm suking with you when I used to funk

837
00:43:47,000 --> 00:43:49,360
Speaker 1: with your homeboy, I'm gonna make that nigga try to

838
00:43:50,680 --> 00:43:52,600
Speaker 1: try to pull me now, because you're not gonna disrespect

839
00:43:52,640 --> 00:43:55,000
Speaker 1: my niggas. But this is my nigga. Now, this is

840
00:43:55,080 --> 00:43:57,440
Speaker 1: the thing too, And I'll bring this to what you're saying.

841
00:43:57,880 --> 00:44:01,680
Speaker 1: It just sucks because as women, I had niggasu my friends,

842
00:44:01,840 --> 00:44:04,960
Speaker 1: I had niggas like trying to pull like my bitches

843
00:44:05,000 --> 00:44:07,360
Speaker 1: I live with, and they still just think it's supposed

844
00:44:07,360 --> 00:44:10,040
Speaker 1: to be okay. So I think that it's very contradicting

845
00:44:10,040 --> 00:44:12,360
Speaker 1: and of course the double standard. Yeah no, but a

846
00:44:12,400 --> 00:44:14,279
Speaker 1: lot of us women have to be just okay with

847
00:44:14,400 --> 00:44:17,800
Speaker 1: who you don't sun in your past yet, but we

848
00:44:17,920 --> 00:44:20,799
Speaker 1: gotta we can't have to like we gotta we gotta

849
00:44:21,080 --> 00:44:23,759
Speaker 1: look man when we fuck off, and the whole got

850
00:44:23,880 --> 00:44:26,040
Speaker 1: a smart at mouth. It's our job to be like, bitch,

851
00:44:26,040 --> 00:44:32,759
Speaker 1: shout the funk up. You know, we gotta chuck to

852
00:44:32,880 --> 00:44:36,280
Speaker 1: niggas be trying to This is where we're ruin everything.

853
00:44:36,440 --> 00:44:38,759
Speaker 1: We'll funk off, y'all. Try to forgive us a whole

854
00:44:38,800 --> 00:44:40,880
Speaker 1: would say something and we're still trying to defuse the

855
00:44:40,960 --> 00:44:47,239
Speaker 1: situation exactly. Excuse my language, but in this situation, that's

856
00:44:47,280 --> 00:44:51,239
Speaker 1: what I have got, baby girl, making this bitch feel

857
00:44:51,280 --> 00:44:53,719
Speaker 1: so small for even trying to come for you. If

858
00:44:53,760 --> 00:44:56,600
Speaker 1: I care about you, what I'm doing like, chill girl,

859
00:44:56,719 --> 00:44:59,440
Speaker 1: this is my girl on the side. Yeah, but for you,

860
00:45:00,000 --> 00:45:01,920
Speaker 1: why we can't check and nigger and do the same

861
00:45:02,000 --> 00:45:03,800
Speaker 1: and be like, no, I'm cool with that. If you

862
00:45:04,080 --> 00:45:10,640
Speaker 1: can do that, but most women don't. You feel like,

863
00:45:10,760 --> 00:45:14,200
Speaker 1: God damn, I bad with this conversation. I feel like

864
00:45:14,360 --> 00:45:17,920
Speaker 1: it's something that we had. I feel like everything has

865
00:45:17,960 --> 00:45:20,800
Speaker 1: to do with egos when come in, but that feeling

866
00:45:20,840 --> 00:45:26,360
Speaker 1: embarrassed ego. You have to work around anybody's ego and

867
00:45:26,400 --> 00:45:30,520
Speaker 1: anything you do at the workplace. It would management, music relationships.

868
00:45:30,800 --> 00:45:36,560
Speaker 1: You have to know people's personality. If I know something

869
00:45:36,640 --> 00:45:39,080
Speaker 1: that gets under your skin and I'm genuinely your friend.

870
00:45:39,280 --> 00:45:41,359
Speaker 1: I know how to work around that. It's like, nothing

871
00:45:41,440 --> 00:45:44,440
Speaker 1: wrong with that, It's me genuinely caring about you as

872
00:45:44,480 --> 00:45:46,959
Speaker 1: a friend. I'm like, why would you know what I'm saying?

873
00:45:47,520 --> 00:45:50,719
Speaker 1: So if something really bothers me, like, okay, you need

874
00:45:50,800 --> 00:45:52,040
Speaker 1: we need to figure out the way. You know, you

875
00:45:52,160 --> 00:45:54,279
Speaker 1: know me, So don't do certain things. You know what

876
00:45:54,320 --> 00:45:55,840
Speaker 1: I'm saying, right, I mean, I'm not gonna lie. I

877
00:45:55,920 --> 00:45:58,000
Speaker 1: have this conversation with the dude I'm talking to last

878
00:45:58,040 --> 00:45:59,640
Speaker 1: night and he was like, I told him that my

879
00:45:59,719 --> 00:46:02,080
Speaker 1: ex called me. He was like, what you're talking to there?

880
00:46:02,880 --> 00:46:04,400
Speaker 1: So what the fun? I was like, why, I'm not

881
00:46:04,440 --> 00:46:06,680
Speaker 1: gonna do it no more. He's like, yeah, you see

882
00:46:06,719 --> 00:46:09,960
Speaker 1: how to handle that because his friends but fun. It's

883
00:46:10,040 --> 00:46:12,960
Speaker 1: like he has ago how to handle. This is the

884
00:46:13,080 --> 00:46:14,799
Speaker 1: last topic that I bring up in this while we're

885
00:46:14,840 --> 00:46:19,000
Speaker 1: talking on both sides of relationships and egos and insecurities.

886
00:46:19,280 --> 00:46:21,360
Speaker 1: So I want to talk about how it is for

887
00:46:22,480 --> 00:46:25,719
Speaker 1: us as women to have guy friends while being in

888
00:46:25,760 --> 00:46:29,920
Speaker 1: a relationship and men allowing women to have guy friends

889
00:46:29,960 --> 00:46:32,359
Speaker 1: while in relationship, or us allowing you as a man

890
00:46:32,440 --> 00:46:36,080
Speaker 1: to have women like female relationships. So you've been in

891
00:46:36,120 --> 00:46:38,359
Speaker 1: a relationship you've been dealing with this woman for eight years,

892
00:46:38,400 --> 00:46:41,239
Speaker 1: you have someone else, whatever your situation is, Is it

893
00:46:41,400 --> 00:46:45,360
Speaker 1: okay for them to have guy friends. I mean, it

894
00:46:45,640 --> 00:46:51,000
Speaker 1: didn't bother me the way you me. What I'm saying.

895
00:46:51,080 --> 00:46:53,560
Speaker 1: Why was rocking while we was good? It didn't bother me?

896
00:46:54,000 --> 00:46:55,960
Speaker 1: Only time to bother me when we're not good. Why

897
00:46:56,040 --> 00:47:00,360
Speaker 1: doesn't bother Because niggas do suckers ship. They want to

898
00:47:00,400 --> 00:47:03,040
Speaker 1: trust them and wait for weaknesses, like a nigga will

899
00:47:03,080 --> 00:47:05,080
Speaker 1: really be a free until you week. Then that's when

900
00:47:05,080 --> 00:47:09,080
Speaker 1: they're trying to So if we do whatever you want

901
00:47:09,120 --> 00:47:11,200
Speaker 1: with Brian, I don't give a fuck because I know

902
00:47:11,600 --> 00:47:13,960
Speaker 1: what's going on. But as soon as you crying and

903
00:47:14,080 --> 00:47:16,479
Speaker 1: you hurt, I don't know what the fun Brian don't

904
00:47:16,520 --> 00:47:24,239
Speaker 1: because I know what nigga's don't eat that. I'll say

905
00:47:24,320 --> 00:47:27,640
Speaker 1: this for me, like, I think it's cool, but you

906
00:47:27,760 --> 00:47:31,040
Speaker 1: have to introduce me. You got, I think, and I

907
00:47:31,160 --> 00:47:33,840
Speaker 1: think that that's where a lot of men may feel

908
00:47:33,920 --> 00:47:36,840
Speaker 1: like it's easier, like to maybe keep it a secret,

909
00:47:36,920 --> 00:47:40,160
Speaker 1: but I'll say I agree to like. So for as women,

910
00:47:40,560 --> 00:47:43,480
Speaker 1: we're clearly I feel like we're a little bit more

911
00:47:43,520 --> 00:47:45,680
Speaker 1: confident than niggas. At this point, we a whole lot

912
00:47:45,719 --> 00:47:47,640
Speaker 1: of ship that y'all really don't but I feel like

913
00:47:47,760 --> 00:47:50,840
Speaker 1: for women it's more so I just need can I

914
00:47:50,960 --> 00:47:53,319
Speaker 1: notice free? Can I introduce her? Because I'm not gonna lie,

915
00:47:53,560 --> 00:47:56,359
Speaker 1: we know real quick. So let short, long story short.

916
00:47:56,600 --> 00:47:59,200
Speaker 1: Me and my friends went out to meet her boyfriend

917
00:47:59,239 --> 00:48:01,160
Speaker 1: at the club and when we got to the table,

918
00:48:01,480 --> 00:48:04,720
Speaker 1: there was two girls there with his cousin. The girls

919
00:48:04,800 --> 00:48:07,360
Speaker 1: didn't speak to us, they didn't introduce themselves to us,

920
00:48:07,600 --> 00:48:09,600
Speaker 1: and it was just very obvious. Oh bit, y'all know,

921
00:48:09,719 --> 00:48:11,200
Speaker 1: y'all are the wrong or y'all been trying to talk

922
00:48:11,239 --> 00:48:13,880
Speaker 1: to him. We catch a vibe with women real quickly

923
00:48:14,000 --> 00:48:16,320
Speaker 1: what their intentions are around me. And so to me,

924
00:48:16,960 --> 00:48:19,160
Speaker 1: if a man or my boyfriend wants to have a

925
00:48:19,280 --> 00:48:22,239
Speaker 1: female friend, we need to meet that bitch and we

926
00:48:22,320 --> 00:48:30,240
Speaker 1: need that's most important. Like I got all my partners,

927
00:48:30,280 --> 00:48:32,200
Speaker 1: but if I know I got female best friend, though,

928
00:48:32,320 --> 00:48:34,560
Speaker 1: that's the beach you need to meet. But it's not

929
00:48:34,640 --> 00:48:38,000
Speaker 1: a bad bitch, but that's the girl you need to meet.

930
00:48:38,400 --> 00:48:39,920
Speaker 1: I need to make sure. I need to roll the

931
00:48:39,960 --> 00:48:42,440
Speaker 1: red carpet out on making sure y'all cool and you

932
00:48:42,560 --> 00:48:45,840
Speaker 1: know that that's my partner before my boy my partner

933
00:48:45,880 --> 00:48:48,920
Speaker 1: friends because it just like I've had got girlfriends, I

934
00:48:49,040 --> 00:48:51,240
Speaker 1: have a male best friend, and the first thing guys

935
00:48:51,280 --> 00:48:54,279
Speaker 1: always say, they'd be like, you got a male best friend? Yes,

936
00:48:55,000 --> 00:48:58,800
Speaker 1: that sometimes legit. I think it's just tough because like

937
00:48:59,200 --> 00:49:01,720
Speaker 1: I've been the best friend to a lot of guys

938
00:49:01,920 --> 00:49:06,040
Speaker 1: and girlfriends never like me like that ass don't you'd

939
00:49:06,040 --> 00:49:08,839
Speaker 1: be like, yeah, I's like a maid and I lick

940
00:49:08,960 --> 00:49:17,439
Speaker 1: y'all as the young girl. Better know we're friends, nick,

941
00:49:17,520 --> 00:49:20,320
Speaker 1: I know you, I'm saying, would be hard for me

942
00:49:20,480 --> 00:49:26,480
Speaker 1: to argue herd. It's different. It's different from if somebody's

943
00:49:26,480 --> 00:49:28,239
Speaker 1: a home girl, they're like, you know, they dressed like

944
00:49:28,360 --> 00:49:32,840
Speaker 1: you know, they're kind of tomboyish or the book. But

945
00:49:32,920 --> 00:49:35,920
Speaker 1: it is what it is where I have I have

946
00:49:36,080 --> 00:49:40,120
Speaker 1: guy friends, and they'd be like man, bitches be maybe

947
00:49:40,160 --> 00:49:43,759
Speaker 1: not women be tripping they do, I mean, because they'd

948
00:49:43,800 --> 00:49:47,880
Speaker 1: be like your friends. I'm actually really close friends with

949
00:49:48,000 --> 00:49:50,359
Speaker 1: my Sister's acts like me and him to stay cool,

950
00:49:50,480 --> 00:49:52,360
Speaker 1: like we're cool, Like you used to date my sister

951
00:49:52,880 --> 00:49:55,560
Speaker 1: and we're cool. And it was just like he had

952
00:49:55,560 --> 00:49:57,080
Speaker 1: went to the club one night he got a section.

953
00:49:57,200 --> 00:49:58,840
Speaker 1: I went to a section of girls was just like

954
00:49:59,680 --> 00:50:03,520
Speaker 1: they arguing. I could be like, girl, no, and I

955
00:50:03,560 --> 00:50:04,799
Speaker 1: didn't want to be like, oh, he used to beat

956
00:50:04,840 --> 00:50:06,279
Speaker 1: my sister. I was just like, no, this is like

957
00:50:07,120 --> 00:50:10,640
Speaker 1: huh my sister, huh no, no, no, they're not cool

958
00:50:10,680 --> 00:50:12,520
Speaker 1: on where they's both moved on. But it's just that

959
00:50:12,600 --> 00:50:14,480
Speaker 1: you went over there with your little waists and big

960
00:50:14,560 --> 00:50:17,719
Speaker 1: as right. But I had to actually let her know.

961
00:50:17,840 --> 00:50:19,879
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh, baby, girl, like me and him are cool,

962
00:50:19,920 --> 00:50:21,719
Speaker 1: but you know, it's how do you have that conversation?

963
00:50:22,040 --> 00:50:24,239
Speaker 1: Oh girl, don't I want your nigger? Girl? He says,

964
00:50:24,320 --> 00:50:25,919
Speaker 1: that's how you have it. I be like, I don't watch.

965
00:50:26,560 --> 00:50:29,680
Speaker 1: When I was in Orlando, I was I came across

966
00:50:29,680 --> 00:50:31,279
Speaker 1: a lot of guys I either went to school with

967
00:50:31,480 --> 00:50:33,239
Speaker 1: or that I knew from the past, and if there

968
00:50:33,360 --> 00:50:35,360
Speaker 1: was a girl in the section, I made it my

969
00:50:35,480 --> 00:50:38,600
Speaker 1: point to before I even spoke to him. Listen, baby girl,

970
00:50:38,640 --> 00:50:40,440
Speaker 1: I don't want him. We went to school together. I'm

971
00:50:40,440 --> 00:50:44,400
Speaker 1: just gonna yeah, you go to it. Women don't do that.

972
00:50:44,600 --> 00:50:46,520
Speaker 1: Then then it's like, oh, not that you think is

973
00:50:46,960 --> 00:50:50,640
Speaker 1: right right, So we're gonna go ahead and get into home. Male.

974
00:50:50,680 --> 00:50:52,800
Speaker 1: This is the last segment where we can give advice

975
00:50:52,840 --> 00:50:55,640
Speaker 1: to our listeners. So the first one, you're probably not

976
00:50:55,719 --> 00:50:57,239
Speaker 1: gonna be able to give much advice on this one.

977
00:50:57,280 --> 00:50:59,640
Speaker 1: But there's one specifically for a male, so I'm gonna

978
00:50:59,680 --> 00:51:01,960
Speaker 1: go ahead ask you that one. But first one, we're

979
00:51:01,960 --> 00:51:03,560
Speaker 1: gonna say. Hey, girls, I just want to say that

980
00:51:03,600 --> 00:51:05,400
Speaker 1: I love what you guys are doing. I relate to

981
00:51:05,440 --> 00:51:07,000
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982
00:51:07,040 --> 00:51:10,239
Speaker 1: become more comfortable about my sexuality, which is amazing scene

983
00:51:10,320 --> 00:51:14,960
Speaker 1: that I lost my virginity at Anyways, my issue is

984
00:51:15,040 --> 00:51:17,319
Speaker 1: that I recently met this guy and we started talking

985
00:51:17,400 --> 00:51:20,040
Speaker 1: and all that, and he asked me to be his girlfriend. Great,

986
00:51:20,400 --> 00:51:23,480
Speaker 1: I mean, he checks all the boxes, tall, dark and handsome.

987
00:51:23,920 --> 00:51:26,839
Speaker 1: Problem is, we just had sex like twenty minutes ago.

988
00:51:26,920 --> 00:51:28,839
Speaker 1: This bitch wrote us a home meal twenty minutes after

989
00:51:28,880 --> 00:51:31,840
Speaker 1: she has sex um and his dick is small, not

990
00:51:32,000 --> 00:51:35,479
Speaker 1: a micro penis, but small, and the sex was more mad.

991
00:51:36,200 --> 00:51:38,480
Speaker 1: I don't know what to do. Sex is very important

992
00:51:38,520 --> 00:51:40,320
Speaker 1: part of my life now, and the guys I have

993
00:51:40,480 --> 00:51:42,279
Speaker 1: been with, and the guys that I've been with have

994
00:51:42,480 --> 00:51:45,000
Speaker 1: very big dicks seven inches and upwards, and we have

995
00:51:46,000 --> 00:51:48,959
Speaker 1: very rough sex. Should I end it now? Or should

996
00:51:49,000 --> 00:51:50,719
Speaker 1: I wait it out. Maybe I'll get used to a

997
00:51:50,800 --> 00:51:55,920
Speaker 1: smaller size. Thank you, sexually frustrated chicks. I'm Nigerian and

998
00:51:56,000 --> 00:51:58,239
Speaker 1: living Lagos, Nigeria. You have a big audience here and

999
00:51:58,280 --> 00:52:00,759
Speaker 1: we love you guys. Shout out night Jia. Even though

1000
00:52:00,760 --> 00:52:02,080
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, I've been there and I don't want to

1001
00:52:02,080 --> 00:52:05,279
Speaker 1: go back. But no, it was I mean, they got

1002
00:52:05,320 --> 00:52:09,319
Speaker 1: money out there, that's what I heard. Now, they got

1003
00:52:09,400 --> 00:52:11,600
Speaker 1: the coins. I just it's not one of those places

1004
00:52:11,719 --> 00:52:14,319
Speaker 1: that they allowed tourism to me, like going on tours

1005
00:52:14,360 --> 00:52:15,759
Speaker 1: and ships said. I felt like I had to have

1006
00:52:15,840 --> 00:52:18,600
Speaker 1: security the whole time, right right, But the parties are good.

1007
00:52:18,640 --> 00:52:21,040
Speaker 1: They fucking party real quick. Shout out. I don't know

1008
00:52:21,160 --> 00:52:23,040
Speaker 1: your name, but this is the first time I went

1009
00:52:23,080 --> 00:52:25,640
Speaker 1: to a club. I want my friends. This nigga just

1010
00:52:26,040 --> 00:52:30,600
Speaker 1: bought me a bottle. I ain't even a kid, beautiful

1011
00:52:30,640 --> 00:52:34,120
Speaker 1: and this was seventy pounds ago. Bit I felt real good.

1012
00:52:34,880 --> 00:52:38,480
Speaker 1: So I guess what is going to be um our

1013
00:52:38,520 --> 00:52:40,759
Speaker 1: advice for this lady. Have you ever been with a

1014
00:52:40,800 --> 00:52:43,520
Speaker 1: guy where you liked him a lot but the dick

1015
00:52:43,960 --> 00:52:46,640
Speaker 1: wasn't what you want? Yeah? I stopped talking to their

1016
00:52:48,280 --> 00:52:52,400
Speaker 1: goddamn what what about you lex for me? If I

1017
00:52:52,560 --> 00:52:55,240
Speaker 1: really really like you, I'm going to try to explore

1018
00:52:55,560 --> 00:52:57,560
Speaker 1: and things in the bedroom. What else do you like?

1019
00:52:57,760 --> 00:52:59,480
Speaker 1: What else can we do? Like, I'm gonna try to

1020
00:52:59,640 --> 00:53:01,520
Speaker 1: you know what I see if we can. Because sometimes

1021
00:53:01,600 --> 00:53:05,440
Speaker 1: you have sex with somebody once and maybe tray how many.

1022
00:53:08,080 --> 00:53:11,000
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. I'm one time you go out

1023
00:53:11,040 --> 00:53:13,560
Speaker 1: the first time. I mean because I've had situations with

1024
00:53:13,760 --> 00:53:15,759
Speaker 1: like this dude. I've been talking to him going on

1025
00:53:15,880 --> 00:53:18,239
Speaker 1: three years now, and he just now told me he

1026
00:53:18,320 --> 00:53:19,719
Speaker 1: was like, man, the first time we had sex, that

1027
00:53:19,760 --> 00:53:21,960
Speaker 1: ship was so bad. But I liked you and he

1028
00:53:22,040 --> 00:53:24,360
Speaker 1: gave me another chance, and I'll be rocking that nigger world.

1029
00:53:24,920 --> 00:53:27,279
Speaker 1: So it's like sometimes, you know, you gotta figure out

1030
00:53:27,320 --> 00:53:30,760
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1031
00:53:30,920 --> 00:53:33,360
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1032
00:53:33,440 --> 00:53:35,120
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1033
00:53:35,239 --> 00:53:39,040
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1034
00:53:39,120 --> 00:53:41,399
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1037
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1038
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1039
00:53:53,080 --> 00:53:56,279
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1040
00:53:56,520 --> 00:53:58,520
Speaker 1: So there's a lot of toys that can help smaller

1041
00:53:58,600 --> 00:54:02,440
Speaker 1: dicksh Not only that, not only that, I want the

1042
00:54:02,560 --> 00:54:05,160
Speaker 1: real deeds. I mean that's fine, but I mean there's

1043
00:54:05,239 --> 00:54:08,520
Speaker 1: options to me. Um, It's weird because we do have

1044
00:54:08,680 --> 00:54:10,320
Speaker 1: these boxes that we want all of our men to

1045
00:54:10,400 --> 00:54:13,799
Speaker 1: check off, and unfortunately not everyone is gonna check them.

1046
00:54:15,960 --> 00:54:18,120
Speaker 1: So to work around if sex is important to you,

1047
00:54:18,280 --> 00:54:20,920
Speaker 1: I would like LEX said, Um, maybe you can do

1048
00:54:21,040 --> 00:54:25,040
Speaker 1: more vetting and talking, maybe send him porn, incorporate other things. Um,

1049
00:54:25,400 --> 00:54:28,360
Speaker 1: I will say, we say this all guys with little dicks,

1050
00:54:28,880 --> 00:54:31,960
Speaker 1: just have him eat your pussy better or or explore anal.

1051
00:54:32,760 --> 00:54:36,600
Speaker 1: I think that little dick guy that's perfect, perfect I have.

1052
00:54:36,800 --> 00:54:39,360
Speaker 1: I have a size requirement when it comes to the

1053
00:54:39,360 --> 00:54:43,200
Speaker 1: booty hale, you're not getting in there like um, but

1054
00:54:43,320 --> 00:54:46,600
Speaker 1: a small na, you know, orche medium or whatever. Maybe

1055
00:54:46,880 --> 00:54:48,520
Speaker 1: we don't like the small dick shame. I know y'all

1056
00:54:48,560 --> 00:54:50,360
Speaker 1: think we do. But I'm a size queen, so I

1057
00:54:50,440 --> 00:54:53,279
Speaker 1: can't help it. Um, But I feel like there's I

1058
00:54:53,400 --> 00:54:55,279
Speaker 1: say talk to him, don't tell him his dick is small,

1059
00:54:55,320 --> 00:54:58,879
Speaker 1: but maybe try to incorporate other things sexually. Or we've

1060
00:54:58,920 --> 00:55:03,160
Speaker 1: given this advice before, maybe gauge what he's like with

1061
00:55:04,400 --> 00:55:07,160
Speaker 1: maybe adding someone else into the vest. Get you aside

1062
00:55:07,440 --> 00:55:13,080
Speaker 1: that that's a possibility to you ain't going for that

1063
00:55:13,239 --> 00:55:18,240
Speaker 1: ship why like an suggestion was right? And then also

1064
00:55:18,320 --> 00:55:21,239
Speaker 1: I don't want to get an extended openis But a

1065
00:55:21,280 --> 00:55:24,960
Speaker 1: lot of a lot of women don't even have orgasm

1066
00:55:25,280 --> 00:55:27,839
Speaker 1: from penetration. So it's just most of the women, can

1067
00:55:27,960 --> 00:55:30,640
Speaker 1: you know, have an orgasm from you know, click stimulations?

1068
00:55:30,920 --> 00:55:33,000
Speaker 1: Maybe you can, you know, there's there's so many of

1069
00:55:33,360 --> 00:55:35,239
Speaker 1: so many other ways that I think he can please you.

1070
00:55:35,360 --> 00:55:38,600
Speaker 1: So if you're not being pleased like through penetration, I

1071
00:55:38,719 --> 00:55:41,719
Speaker 1: think that that's something maybe you should show him. I

1072
00:55:41,760 --> 00:55:54,320
Speaker 1: think she should definitely talk to and know you know what,

1073
00:55:54,480 --> 00:55:55,759
Speaker 1: you know what's crazy. I'm not gonna lie to you.

1074
00:55:56,080 --> 00:55:57,360
Speaker 1: That's one of And I don't think a lot of

1075
00:55:57,440 --> 00:55:59,319
Speaker 1: guys noticed this, and this is why I stopped having

1076
00:55:59,360 --> 00:56:01,719
Speaker 1: casual sex the way I do. You don't understand the

1077
00:56:02,040 --> 00:56:04,440
Speaker 1: anger a woman has when she finally give a nigga

1078
00:56:04,520 --> 00:56:09,200
Speaker 1: some pussy and then nothing like it's the most frustrating

1079
00:56:09,280 --> 00:56:11,400
Speaker 1: thing to have sex and feel like, damn, let me

1080
00:56:11,480 --> 00:56:15,680
Speaker 1: go masturbate to make like you adding the body reason

1081
00:56:15,800 --> 00:56:18,040
Speaker 1: I want to get like damn, She ran to her phone.

1082
00:56:18,239 --> 00:56:21,399
Speaker 1: But I don't think men understand how fucking upset were

1083
00:56:21,680 --> 00:56:27,279
Speaker 1: because nigga's gonna nut regardless. Y'all gonna le okay, y'all

1084
00:56:27,320 --> 00:56:32,120
Speaker 1: want sometimes you gotta act like yeah, but you got nut. Anyways,

1085
00:56:32,560 --> 00:56:35,839
Speaker 1: I feel like men are gonna number whether be good,

1086
00:56:35,960 --> 00:56:38,759
Speaker 1: whether it's bad, because of that freaktion. Y'all as gonna.

1087
00:56:40,160 --> 00:56:43,560
Speaker 1: I'm not about to orgasm every time. Please, actual male

1088
00:56:43,640 --> 00:56:46,640
Speaker 1: followers a question. Had they ever faith the nut and

1089
00:56:46,800 --> 00:56:49,640
Speaker 1: just win somewhere and they go to bathroom, some beat

1090
00:56:49,680 --> 00:56:53,719
Speaker 1: the meat trash? Really I didn't. I don't want to say,

1091
00:56:53,719 --> 00:56:56,359
Speaker 1: because I got a lot going on. But I've heard

1092
00:56:56,440 --> 00:57:00,640
Speaker 1: this before. A man like this is like a conversation

1093
00:57:01,040 --> 00:57:03,719
Speaker 1: with any man. You get it over with, like you're

1094
00:57:03,760 --> 00:57:06,359
Speaker 1: not by the nut. You don't want to don't feel good.

1095
00:57:15,040 --> 00:57:16,600
Speaker 1: You want to sit here and give our mail listen

1096
00:57:16,640 --> 00:57:18,840
Speaker 1: to some advice. We actually do have homemail from a

1097
00:57:18,960 --> 00:57:22,920
Speaker 1: mail and the topic for this is performance anxiety. So

1098
00:57:23,080 --> 00:57:25,439
Speaker 1: it says what's up my name? I don't know. I'll

1099
00:57:25,440 --> 00:57:27,320
Speaker 1: give you a fake name. My name is the Quine

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00:57:27,640 --> 00:57:29,920
Speaker 1: and I'm a thirty one year old black mail residing

1101
00:57:29,960 --> 00:57:32,160
Speaker 1: in Tampa, Florida. I'm a huge fan of you guys.

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00:57:32,200 --> 00:57:34,600
Speaker 1: You guys give such great insight and perspective from a

1103
00:57:34,640 --> 00:57:37,320
Speaker 1: woman's point of view of sex that I have never considered,

1104
00:57:37,680 --> 00:57:40,880
Speaker 1: and I love learning about that. Listening to episode eighty seven,

1105
00:57:40,960 --> 00:57:43,840
Speaker 1: I was a little bit taken back. However, so episode

1106
00:57:43,840 --> 00:57:46,120
Speaker 1: eighty seven, if y'a don't remember, we were discussing erections.

1107
00:57:47,080 --> 00:57:50,919
Speaker 1: Um so it all spawned in the conversation about guys

1108
00:57:50,960 --> 00:57:55,080
Speaker 1: getting in direction, maintaining interaction, or coming too fast during sex.

1109
00:57:55,440 --> 00:57:58,520
Speaker 1: There's a horrible stigma associated with men to perform at

1110
00:57:58,560 --> 00:58:02,280
Speaker 1: peak sexual performance at all times. This pressure is planted

1111
00:58:02,320 --> 00:58:04,600
Speaker 1: in young men's minds that if they aren't good in

1112
00:58:04,720 --> 00:58:07,560
Speaker 1: bed or aren't satisfying to female counterparts, that they are

1113
00:58:07,680 --> 00:58:10,240
Speaker 1: less of a man and therefore an unsuitable partner. This

1114
00:58:10,360 --> 00:58:13,320
Speaker 1: goes hand in hand. Sex is very much a serebral

1115
00:58:13,440 --> 00:58:16,320
Speaker 1: experience more so than it is physical, and in my

1116
00:58:16,440 --> 00:58:21,000
Speaker 1: experience personally, high have had trouble with getting or maintaining

1117
00:58:21,040 --> 00:58:24,880
Speaker 1: an erection due to nerves associated with performance anxiety. Of course,

1118
00:58:24,960 --> 00:58:29,200
Speaker 1: comfortable comfortability is associated with that, and it can come

1119
00:58:29,240 --> 00:58:32,960
Speaker 1: from a number of self confidence issues. I guess my basic, Um,

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00:58:33,240 --> 00:58:35,600
Speaker 1: I guess my basic the same. I'll be trying. I

1121
00:58:35,640 --> 00:58:38,040
Speaker 1: gotta prove frease some of y'all ship for the perspective

1122
00:58:38,120 --> 00:58:39,959
Speaker 1: that you guys offers was that none of you touched

1123
00:58:40,000 --> 00:58:43,160
Speaker 1: on this very real subject and oftentimes are very unapologetic

1124
00:58:43,560 --> 00:58:46,360
Speaker 1: and realizing that it is an actual thing. We are

1125
00:58:47,280 --> 00:58:50,160
Speaker 1: I know, hell, neither of you. Two beautiful women who

1126
00:58:50,240 --> 00:58:53,280
Speaker 1: are sexually active with tolerate bad sexual performance. Damn, I'm

1127
00:58:53,320 --> 00:58:55,880
Speaker 1: sorry you reading me right now. Imagine the kind of

1128
00:58:55,960 --> 00:58:58,440
Speaker 1: weight when going into a sexual accounter knowing that if

1129
00:58:58,480 --> 00:59:01,160
Speaker 1: they don't perform at p performance and satisfy the woman,

1130
00:59:01,360 --> 00:59:03,560
Speaker 1: that they are not going to be wanted anymore. I

1131
00:59:03,640 --> 00:59:05,640
Speaker 1: know this is a real thing because women experience it

1132
00:59:05,720 --> 00:59:08,080
Speaker 1: often and rightfully, So I just wanted there to be

1133
00:59:08,160 --> 00:59:11,760
Speaker 1: a common knowledge that it is all. It isn't always

1134
00:59:11,840 --> 00:59:14,520
Speaker 1: a rectile dysfunction or something that the women the woman

1135
00:59:14,640 --> 00:59:17,920
Speaker 1: is doing to cause mechanical issues within a male. At

1136
00:59:17,960 --> 00:59:20,880
Speaker 1: one specific instance, I literally lost in erection because I

1137
00:59:21,000 --> 00:59:23,800
Speaker 1: was so overwhelmed at finally getting someone that I had

1138
00:59:23,880 --> 00:59:27,000
Speaker 1: once wanted really really really bad, and literally froze up

1139
00:59:27,040 --> 00:59:29,760
Speaker 1: out of fear that I might not please her? Are

1140
00:59:29,800 --> 00:59:32,560
Speaker 1: there any other males like this? Love you guys? And

1141
00:59:32,600 --> 00:59:34,560
Speaker 1: I would never stop listening, So I guess I wanted

1142
00:59:34,560 --> 00:59:36,600
Speaker 1: to ask you real quick before we sign out, what

1143
00:59:37,360 --> 00:59:39,440
Speaker 1: because we feel like men are just so excited and

1144
00:59:39,480 --> 00:59:42,760
Speaker 1: always have sex more not a lack of confidence in

1145
00:59:42,920 --> 00:59:54,720
Speaker 1: having sex. I was like, you know, like you know, like,

1146
00:59:55,720 --> 00:59:59,120
Speaker 1: but you got the ones who run the people, right,

1147
00:59:59,440 --> 01:00:02,080
Speaker 1: I don't know, all locked up, you know what I'm saying,

1148
01:00:02,160 --> 01:00:04,520
Speaker 1: But god, I wasn't ready for it, Like I didn't

1149
01:00:04,560 --> 01:00:06,600
Speaker 1: know I was gonna get it, but I got it.

1150
01:00:06,800 --> 01:00:08,720
Speaker 1: So I was like, damn, I'm trying. I'm acting like

1151
01:00:08,760 --> 01:00:11,720
Speaker 1: I wanted, but I got all right, But it was

1152
01:00:11,840 --> 01:00:14,080
Speaker 1: just so much. I was just not ready. I could not.

1153
01:00:14,760 --> 01:00:17,480
Speaker 1: My mind wasn't with my dick, so I could not

1154
01:00:17,680 --> 01:00:21,280
Speaker 1: just it's just get hard or you didn't come like

1155
01:00:21,560 --> 01:00:24,640
Speaker 1: I got hard until it was time to just do

1156
01:00:24,800 --> 01:00:26,360
Speaker 1: what I was trying to do. And I'm thinking about

1157
01:00:26,960 --> 01:00:30,280
Speaker 1: how was she wanted so bad that it just so

1158
01:00:30,400 --> 01:00:32,360
Speaker 1: did you? Did she let you get you to give

1159
01:00:32,360 --> 01:00:35,720
Speaker 1: you another chance, and she loved me now. She love

1160
01:00:35,800 --> 01:00:38,280
Speaker 1: me now. But it took like about three years for

1161
01:00:38,400 --> 01:00:40,560
Speaker 1: me to like, I had to figure out the way

1162
01:00:40,880 --> 01:00:42,520
Speaker 1: she let you for three years? What I mean, you

1163
01:00:42,560 --> 01:00:45,680
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying, another three years before I got another. Oh,

1164
01:00:45,920 --> 01:00:49,160
Speaker 1: it took you three years to get another till we

1165
01:00:49,240 --> 01:00:50,840
Speaker 1: had to laugh. It was it had to be time

1166
01:00:50,880 --> 01:00:53,680
Speaker 1: for us to laugh and talk about that, right, gonna

1167
01:00:53,720 --> 01:00:58,840
Speaker 1: lie you? You know that was flattering her for that.

1168
01:00:59,040 --> 01:01:01,440
Speaker 1: I was not ready you was that bach that I

1169
01:01:01,520 --> 01:01:04,600
Speaker 1: told you you know, and I leave would call you

1170
01:01:05,080 --> 01:01:07,160
Speaker 1: and yeah, we're cool now we're real good. But I

1171
01:01:07,240 --> 01:01:10,120
Speaker 1: think that's a good approach to it when I read

1172
01:01:10,200 --> 01:01:13,720
Speaker 1: when I read that that letter, especially just us coming

1173
01:01:13,760 --> 01:01:16,640
Speaker 1: off the conversation came from, I'm like, I'm not gonna lie.

1174
01:01:16,720 --> 01:01:19,280
Speaker 1: I think we do expect, like first off too, I

1175
01:01:19,360 --> 01:01:21,760
Speaker 1: think this maybe needs to stop mental sit here and

1176
01:01:21,800 --> 01:01:25,200
Speaker 1: tell us I'm gonna that ship up. I'm gonna we

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01:01:25,600 --> 01:01:30,000
Speaker 1: do expect. A lot of men come like tear you up,

1178
01:01:30,400 --> 01:01:32,840
Speaker 1: and then when they come there's an issue where it's

1179
01:01:32,880 --> 01:01:35,600
Speaker 1: like this ain't right, just like a girl like I

1180
01:01:35,680 --> 01:01:41,360
Speaker 1: got the best mouth like ice, and it's where where

1181
01:01:41,440 --> 01:01:46,800
Speaker 1: the sloppiness. This isn't so you know what you're canceling.

1182
01:01:48,920 --> 01:01:52,280
Speaker 1: It's never a good idea to hype yourself up. Just

1183
01:01:52,440 --> 01:01:57,400
Speaker 1: let it happen, vibes, I will say, I don't want

1184
01:01:57,400 --> 01:01:59,200
Speaker 1: to go against what I just said another episode. I

1185
01:01:59,320 --> 01:02:01,920
Speaker 1: also believe betting. So to make sure that you're on

1186
01:02:02,040 --> 01:02:04,400
Speaker 1: the same page sexually, like, I want to know what

1187
01:02:04,560 --> 01:02:06,560
Speaker 1: I am allowed to do, what I'm like, what type

1188
01:02:06,560 --> 01:02:09,480
Speaker 1: of sex we're about to have. So maybe not hyping yourself.

1189
01:02:09,800 --> 01:02:14,320
Speaker 1: You talk about it for sex need to be regular.

1190
01:02:14,480 --> 01:02:19,200
Speaker 1: We don't need about be regular. First, I don't know regular. Well,

1191
01:02:19,280 --> 01:02:22,640
Speaker 1: this is my thing now. I don't like no, I

1192
01:02:22,680 --> 01:02:25,640
Speaker 1: don't like old fashioned, and that's the thing you gotta

1193
01:02:25,680 --> 01:02:30,919
Speaker 1: play with. I got who I want to so let me. Yeah,

1194
01:02:30,960 --> 01:02:34,080
Speaker 1: I know that, but not not only that. I'm not

1195
01:02:34,560 --> 01:02:37,640
Speaker 1: having sex anymore, just to go through the motion, so

1196
01:02:37,800 --> 01:02:40,240
Speaker 1: to me at I don't have so many casual partners

1197
01:02:40,280 --> 01:02:42,920
Speaker 1: and had sex so much where it's just like, I'm

1198
01:02:43,000 --> 01:02:45,160
Speaker 1: not going to have sex unless I know you're gonna

1199
01:02:45,240 --> 01:02:48,360
Speaker 1: make me come or be you didn't let me because

1200
01:02:48,360 --> 01:02:49,800
Speaker 1: I don't like to do what I mess with Now

1201
01:02:49,880 --> 01:02:51,560
Speaker 1: he does not like he won't let me eat his

1202
01:02:51,640 --> 01:03:00,320
Speaker 1: ass nothing so makes me not every single time, ship,

1203
01:03:00,480 --> 01:03:03,080
Speaker 1: I'm done with you. I like, what is men's issue

1204
01:03:03,120 --> 01:03:10,040
Speaker 1: with as even about us? It's about ass period for

1205
01:03:10,280 --> 01:03:12,280
Speaker 1: what it's not even don't do it to me. I

1206
01:03:12,320 --> 01:03:14,720
Speaker 1: won't do with you. I won't be nowhere around there

1207
01:03:14,840 --> 01:03:18,320
Speaker 1: on you nothing. We'll see that's understandable that you put

1208
01:03:18,400 --> 01:03:21,480
Speaker 1: your hands inside your asshole to me, Oh I do.

1209
01:03:21,720 --> 01:03:27,040
Speaker 1: I mean, look, I think about this so when you're

1210
01:03:27,080 --> 01:03:28,880
Speaker 1: hitting it from the back, you don't even slyne a thumb.

1211
01:03:28,960 --> 01:03:33,080
Speaker 1: And now I didn't we like the thumb. I didn't

1212
01:03:33,080 --> 01:03:39,680
Speaker 1: trying to be cool because future work. And I didn't

1213
01:03:39,760 --> 01:03:44,240
Speaker 1: like that because I went to why did you don

1214
01:03:44,480 --> 01:03:51,360
Speaker 1: like y'all real quick thumb with me? With me? It

1215
01:03:51,440 --> 01:03:55,520
Speaker 1: is mental, like I think so hard about that ship.

1216
01:03:56,400 --> 01:03:58,400
Speaker 1: I just can't. I just don't want no parts. And

1217
01:03:58,480 --> 01:04:00,200
Speaker 1: you know I can live my life with it. I

1218
01:04:00,240 --> 01:04:03,000
Speaker 1: don't never will be intimidated to ever think about doing it.

1219
01:04:03,120 --> 01:04:04,960
Speaker 1: That's what you're like. We don't need it, you know,

1220
01:04:06,760 --> 01:04:12,600
Speaker 1: we gotta move on just because if that and that's

1221
01:04:12,640 --> 01:04:14,960
Speaker 1: what I do like, if there's if there's a guy

1222
01:04:15,080 --> 01:04:17,760
Speaker 1: that doesn't if we're not on the same page, or like,

1223
01:04:19,080 --> 01:04:21,440
Speaker 1: and I'm like, okay, well, UM, nice talking to you.

1224
01:04:21,800 --> 01:04:23,760
Speaker 1: We just gonna need for us to have sex because

1225
01:04:23,760 --> 01:04:25,680
Speaker 1: there are certain things I may want to do and

1226
01:04:25,760 --> 01:04:27,480
Speaker 1: I want you to be open and comfortable the way

1227
01:04:27,520 --> 01:04:30,440
Speaker 1: I'm open and comfortable. So you know something, because you

1228
01:04:30,480 --> 01:04:35,919
Speaker 1: could get them to eventually on the first day, yeah,

1229
01:04:36,200 --> 01:04:41,320
Speaker 1: and then you could do it right exactly. Well before

1230
01:04:41,400 --> 01:04:44,800
Speaker 1: we sign out, where can our listeners find you, guys?

1231
01:04:44,840 --> 01:04:46,560
Speaker 1: I guess we'll do the ladies first because these are

1232
01:04:46,640 --> 01:04:49,080
Speaker 1: the ladies of Wine Down Wednesday. So if you guys

1233
01:04:49,200 --> 01:04:53,320
Speaker 1: loved um Lexus Injury is like you know, I guess

1234
01:04:53,520 --> 01:04:56,000
Speaker 1: opinion on ship. I do want you all to know

1235
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Speaker 1: they'be going at it. They do a lot of the

1236
01:04:57,560 --> 01:05:01,080
Speaker 1: current events, but from some realized bitch mindsets. So where

1237
01:05:01,120 --> 01:05:03,600
Speaker 1: can they listen to all? Where can they follow y'all? Um?

1238
01:05:03,880 --> 01:05:06,080
Speaker 1: You can find us on YouTube, that's what we shoot

1239
01:05:06,120 --> 01:05:08,560
Speaker 1: our podcast on that as well. You wind Down Wednesday

1240
01:05:08,600 --> 01:05:12,520
Speaker 1: it's on iTunes, SoundCloud. Um, we also have Instagram, so

1241
01:05:12,640 --> 01:05:17,720
Speaker 1: it's wind Down Wednesday, Underscore, um Lex p lex Underscore

1242
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Speaker 1: p Underscore. Y'all probably be seeing me anyway, Code y'all,

1243
01:05:25,960 --> 01:05:27,920
Speaker 1: y'all probably be seeing me tweet Mandy all the time.

1244
01:05:28,000 --> 01:05:31,360
Speaker 1: But that's my Instagram and my Twitter lex Underscore, p Underscore,

1245
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Speaker 1: and um, my Instagram is dra in a Call with

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Speaker 1: three es. Twitter is Nicole Underscore and go ahead. Hey,

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Speaker 1: that's it at Mega musey on everything. I want to

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01:05:45,280 --> 01:05:47,320
Speaker 1: thank you guys for coming through. I hope you guys

1249
01:05:47,400 --> 01:05:49,479
Speaker 1: enjoyed this episode. This was a little bit different because

1250
01:05:49,480 --> 01:05:51,040
Speaker 1: I felt like this was just real real. We were

1251
01:05:51,120 --> 01:05:56,040
Speaker 1: just talking about the therapy session. I really enjoyed this episode.

1252
01:05:56,080 --> 01:05:57,440
Speaker 1: I want to give a huge shout out to all

1253
01:05:57,480 --> 01:06:00,440
Speaker 1: of our YouTube subscribers, everyone who's been leaving and comments

1254
01:06:00,480 --> 01:06:02,040
Speaker 1: and supporting us and more so, I want to give

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Speaker 1: a huge shout out to our patrons. As you guys know,

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