WEBVTT - Ep 244 - How Can I Avoid Being The Victim of a Racist Appraiser? 0:00:00.280 --> 0:00:03.400 Mandra, Do you know what I need? I need to 0:00:03.520 --> 0:00:06.120 walk in these streets in my BA swag. You know 0:00:06.160 --> 0:00:08.160 what I'm really looking forward to? First of all, be 0:00:08.240 --> 0:00:12.200 your own Brown Boost. What an awesome phrase. I cannot 0:00:12.200 --> 0:00:14.360 wait to wear that on my chest like Superman. And 0:00:14.400 --> 0:00:16.840 what I'm really excited for, though, is I am a 0:00:17.079 --> 0:00:20.720 sweatshirt and like hoodie girl. So the classic Brown Ambition 0:00:20.840 --> 0:00:23.520 logo sweatshirt has my name all over it. 0:00:23.760 --> 0:00:25.480 But where can I go? Where can I find it? 0:00:25.640 --> 0:00:29.240 I was hoping you would ask Young Tiffany. Tiffany, get 0:00:29.240 --> 0:00:33.480 your Brown Ambition swag at Brown Ambitionstore dot com. 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If I wasn't so lazy, 0:01:55.440 --> 0:01:57.000 I would have had my tree apart ready because I 0:01:57.040 --> 0:01:57.919 just feel like we deserve. 0:01:58.240 --> 0:01:58.920 We deserve. 0:01:59.080 --> 0:02:01.600 We deserve all of fa la la la las and 0:02:01.640 --> 0:02:04.240 the decking the halls. However, you deck your halls if 0:02:04.240 --> 0:02:07.160 you're not into Christmas, if you're a Hanka family, Kwan's 0:02:07.160 --> 0:02:11.640 a family, or just whatever non denominational celebration family, this 0:02:11.800 --> 0:02:15.799 time is always so magical. Yeah, people are figuring out, 0:02:15.840 --> 0:02:18.400 trying to figure out how they're going to celebrate the 0:02:18.440 --> 0:02:22.960 pandemic holiday season, which is sad. But I'm just trying, 0:02:23.040 --> 0:02:25.200 like my mom has been, you know, she's been in 0:02:25.240 --> 0:02:28.120 her feeling she's been having a little pity party. If 0:02:28.120 --> 0:02:31.200 she's listening, Mom, this is fair. She looks, you know, 0:02:31.240 --> 0:02:34.720 because she's missing not only Thanksgiving, but it's Rio's first 0:02:34.760 --> 0:02:38.400 birthday on Thanksgiving this week, and I'm just trying to 0:02:38.440 --> 0:02:40.360 be like, look, we have to like make the most 0:02:40.360 --> 0:02:42.680 of it. I'm trying to figure out how to do 0:02:43.040 --> 0:02:48.320 a virtual birthday extravaganza where there's like activities, and maybe 0:02:48.360 --> 0:02:49.960 I'm like trying to do too much. I just want 0:02:50.040 --> 0:02:52.400 folks to feel to still have an experience and not 0:02:52.520 --> 0:02:54.040 be like so sad. 0:02:54.360 --> 0:02:56.280 I know, and I thought, like for a moment, my 0:02:56.360 --> 0:02:58.440 mom is she's avkia of nurse. I said, Mommy, you 0:02:58.440 --> 0:03:00.000 know you guys are going to come over for Thanksgiving. 0:03:00.200 --> 0:03:03.400 Will keep it really small, just like I couldn't even finish. 0:03:03.520 --> 0:03:04.960 She's like no, I said nope. 0:03:05.200 --> 0:03:05.920 I was like nope. 0:03:07.120 --> 0:03:10.080 She think my dad doesn't listen to podcasts, so I 0:03:10.120 --> 0:03:12.480 can spills a little shade. She's like, why don't you 0:03:12.480 --> 0:03:15.960 ask your dad? He likes gallivanting around when there's a pandemic. 0:03:15.560 --> 0:03:18.640 About it, don't All the older men in our lives 0:03:18.760 --> 0:03:21.359 love love a good grocery store trip in. 0:03:21.320 --> 0:03:24.320 The middle of the day, just the gallivants. 0:03:26.320 --> 0:03:29.919 I was like, well she you know, She's like, honestly, 0:03:29.960 --> 0:03:30.960 it's serious business. 0:03:31.639 --> 0:03:33.400 You know. She's like, I'm in my sixties, your dad 0:03:33.480 --> 0:03:35.160 is in his seventies. It's just not safe. 0:03:35.160 --> 0:03:37.440 And I'm like, you know what, She's right, So we're 0:03:37.480 --> 0:03:41.360 honestly not It's just going to be who's here. My 0:03:41.440 --> 0:03:43.840 sister Carol that lives up the street with the two kids, 0:03:43.840 --> 0:03:47.480 and my sister Lisa Superman family, they all are like, nope, 0:03:47.480 --> 0:03:50.440 We're going to be in our own houses. So yeah, 0:03:50.680 --> 0:03:54.840 it's this will be the smallest Thanksgiving I've ever celebrated. 0:03:54.920 --> 0:03:57.640 And still I'm not cooking already. It's so crazy. I 0:03:57.680 --> 0:04:00.160 call Vonda, who does like all of the because looking 0:04:00.160 --> 0:04:03.320 for my major holidays. I didn't even I just said, hey, banda, 0:04:03.440 --> 0:04:05.600 she said, got you for Thanksgiving? I said, okay, bye girl. 0:04:06.440 --> 0:04:10.880 She already bless her yes, cause my husband asked, he said, 0:04:11.040 --> 0:04:12.720 you gotta cook. I was like, do you want to 0:04:12.760 --> 0:04:14.160 have a good Thanksgiving or not? 0:04:15.640 --> 0:04:19.080 I love Thanksgiving cooking. Oh but that's amazing. Listen, you 0:04:19.160 --> 0:04:21.720 do your thing if that because like I can, that 0:04:21.760 --> 0:04:23.840 also sounds amazing. Just to have the food show up 0:04:23.880 --> 0:04:26.080 and you're like in your cozy socks and out whatever 0:04:26.120 --> 0:04:26.640 you're gonna wear. 0:04:26.680 --> 0:04:28.400 And if I was a good cook, honestly, I would 0:04:28.400 --> 0:04:30.120 be like, you know what, I'm going to spend the time, 0:04:30.600 --> 0:04:32.520 But is that what we're doing? 0:04:32.640 --> 0:04:33.800 You want my cooking for thanks? 0:04:33.839 --> 0:04:35.800 Again, I'm not the worst, but I could give you 0:04:35.839 --> 0:04:40.039 a good salmon you know, pallet sandwich. Meanwhile, just the 0:04:40.080 --> 0:04:42.320 salmon burger that you know you get from Trader Joe's 0:04:42.400 --> 0:04:44.120 that those. 0:04:44.000 --> 0:04:46.840 Are good, Those are good, real talk. If they want 0:04:46.839 --> 0:04:48.720 to respond to the show, I would. I would wax 0:04:48.760 --> 0:04:52.279 poetic about their salmon burgers for a very long time. Yeah, 0:04:52.400 --> 0:04:54.560 I have a whole I took this week off of 0:04:54.600 --> 0:04:58.720 work and in true Mandy fashion, listen, my therapist at 0:04:58.720 --> 0:05:01.520 this point just laughs. I don't know if we're supposed 0:05:01.520 --> 0:05:03.600 to be laughing as much as we do on our calls, 0:05:03.640 --> 0:05:05.800 but anyway, because I was like, yeah, I'm taking the 0:05:05.839 --> 0:05:08.280 week off work. But here's my plan. We are gonna 0:05:08.279 --> 0:05:13.200 surprise Abuela Enrique's mom tomorrow with We're gonna take her 0:05:13.279 --> 0:05:16.440 Christmas tree. Because speaking of grandma's getting in their fields, 0:05:16.480 --> 0:05:20.039 she's all, you know, sad. Because I made the executive 0:05:20.040 --> 0:05:22.400 decision not to do a traditional Christmas tree in my 0:05:22.480 --> 0:05:25.480 house because I'm sorry, God gave me a spider monkey 0:05:25.520 --> 0:05:28.560 for a baby, not an actual human, and I really 0:05:28.600 --> 0:05:30.240 don't want to have to go to the emergency room 0:05:30.279 --> 0:05:32.039 when he pulls that tree down on top of himself. 0:05:32.680 --> 0:05:35.400 So I decided no Christmas tree inside, but we're gonna 0:05:35.400 --> 0:05:37.440 get a tree for the front yard anyway, so we're 0:05:37.440 --> 0:05:41.840 gonna surprise her tomorrow. And then I'm listen, I started 0:05:41.839 --> 0:05:44.320 to like hire people for stuff, like for Rio's birthday, 0:05:44.320 --> 0:05:46.960 which is on Thanksgiving, I was like, okay, we can 0:05:47.000 --> 0:05:48.599 go to that same bakery. I got, you know, a 0:05:48.640 --> 0:05:51.240 cake from before for his birthday cake. And then you know, 0:05:51.320 --> 0:05:54.359 I had a really cool balloon arch at my baby 0:05:54.360 --> 0:05:56.159 shower and I was like, let me get their phone number. 0:05:56.600 --> 0:05:58.400 But then the dollar started to add up, and then 0:05:58.440 --> 0:06:01.440 I started to google, like how much is a balloon tape? 0:06:01.520 --> 0:06:04.920 Like how long? What's a helium tank cost? Like can 0:06:04.960 --> 0:06:06.640 I do this myself? And next thing you know, I'm 0:06:06.640 --> 0:06:09.680 making a whole dam's loth cake carved caricature cake, and 0:06:09.720 --> 0:06:12.360 a whole damn balloon arch from scratch, and I'm doing 0:06:12.400 --> 0:06:14.960 a whole damn Thanksgiving lunch and it's gonna be delicious. 0:06:15.000 --> 0:06:18.200 And we're having turkey and sweet potato soufle and dressing 0:06:18.279 --> 0:06:24.159 and all the trimmings and it's gonna be great. So 0:06:24.200 --> 0:06:27.200 this is my week off. Yeah, but I'll know it 0:06:27.480 --> 0:06:30.120 makes me happy though it's not. You know, I enjoyed. 0:06:30.160 --> 0:06:33.240 I enjoy crafts, I always have. I enjoy cooking, So 0:06:33.279 --> 0:06:35.640 this this brings joy. And I had to literally convince 0:06:35.640 --> 0:06:37.200 my therapist to like, get on board. I was like, 0:06:37.240 --> 0:06:39.919 get on board, Lauren, get on board. This is what's happening. 0:06:40.160 --> 0:06:42.320 I'm in a great mood. I'm amazing. She's like, are 0:06:42.360 --> 0:06:45.560 you Yes, It's gonna be fabulous. I just can't wait 0:06:45.560 --> 0:06:48.119 to see Rio's face when he sees his his cake 0:06:48.240 --> 0:06:50.800 and all the balloons. I feel like he's gonna have 0:06:50.800 --> 0:06:51.720 a really fun reaction. 0:06:52.000 --> 0:06:54.719 Yes, balloons and kid. I feel like balloons and bubbles 0:06:54.760 --> 0:06:56.120 are like kids' best friends. 0:06:56.440 --> 0:06:58.360 Yeah, he was never in I remember and got him 0:06:58.360 --> 0:07:00.520 like a balloon a bubble machine over this, and he 0:07:00.560 --> 0:07:02.800 would just stare at it with the deadest of stairs, 0:07:03.080 --> 0:07:04.839 like the digits of stairs doesn't. 0:07:04.560 --> 0:07:05.120 Make that noise. 0:07:05.160 --> 0:07:07.359 Because I have to say that I've seen a lot 0:07:07.400 --> 0:07:09.360 of times kids don't like the bubble machine noise, because 0:07:09.360 --> 0:07:11.680 I definitely got my nephew and he was like, girl, do. 0:07:11.640 --> 0:07:13.160 You want to kill me? Is that what this is? 0:07:13.960 --> 0:07:16.520 But the actual bubbles themselves, he was like, Okay, these 0:07:16.520 --> 0:07:17.000 are cute. 0:07:17.120 --> 0:07:18.679 I can pop these, these are cute. 0:07:20.160 --> 0:07:22.119 My mom My mom was like, look at this viral 0:07:22.200 --> 0:07:24.360 video of this baby sing bubbles for the first time. 0:07:24.440 --> 0:07:26.600 It's adorable. And then it's one of those things where 0:07:26.600 --> 0:07:28.960 you're like, yeah, I recreate that. No. I mean, he 0:07:29.000 --> 0:07:32.120 couldn't have been less interested in the bubbles. But the 0:07:32.200 --> 0:07:33.240 things we do for. 0:07:33.240 --> 0:07:35.160 The cheatment, right, I'm talking about these kids, you just 0:07:35.200 --> 0:07:36.920 be shady out here. The other day, my nephew asked 0:07:36.920 --> 0:07:39.520 my sister. He was like, how old are you? Because 0:07:39.560 --> 0:07:40.960 now he's you know, they get to an age where 0:07:40.960 --> 0:07:42.640 they're like, wait, people are like different ages. 0:07:43.120 --> 0:07:45.080 He's how old are you? And she said, oh, I'm 0:07:45.120 --> 0:07:47.160 thirty nine. He said, oh, so almost. 0:07:46.920 --> 0:07:52.400 Forty yo, Mandy the way, And at first I thought 0:07:52.440 --> 0:07:53.240 he's not wrong. 0:07:55.840 --> 0:07:58.280 How can you not congratulate him on being so smart? 0:07:59.120 --> 0:08:00.960 And at first I thought he knew the shade because 0:08:01.000 --> 0:08:03.320 he's fine. I was like, how does he know the shade? 0:08:03.880 --> 0:08:06.160 I'm like, girl, you get old, right, But and then 0:08:06.320 --> 0:08:11.040 I realized, oh, like he's just rounding, because then he 0:08:11.200 --> 0:08:13.360 was like, I'm almost six because I'm five. 0:08:13.480 --> 0:08:15.760 Amelia is almost four because she's three. 0:08:15.800 --> 0:08:20.040 And I realized, oh, he doesn't understand the social dynamic 0:08:20.120 --> 0:08:22.600 of being forty, and like, you know, I'm all. 0:08:22.480 --> 0:08:24.400 That comes along. I really could for a minute. Then 0:08:24.440 --> 0:08:26.720 I was like, oh, Robin is wait. Oh we don't know. 0:08:26.800 --> 0:08:30.160 The shame the way he looks. She looked like, oh, 0:08:30.160 --> 0:08:31.800 that's what we're doing, hen't he don't know? 0:08:33.800 --> 0:08:35.880 Because a baby, you know your numbers. 0:08:37.240 --> 0:08:39.200 Oh but yeah, these babies out here, no, oh, definitely 0:08:39.200 --> 0:08:40.880 postpics because you know, I love picks. 0:08:40.600 --> 0:08:43.760 Of real I'm so excited. I'm dreaming of cakes now. 0:08:44.080 --> 0:08:46.840 I'm just I have all the accessories. Listen, you ever 0:08:46.840 --> 0:08:49.920 been to a Wegman's, Tiffany, I feel. 0:08:49.720 --> 0:08:52.080 Like maybe once before. They're pretty fancy, aren't. 0:08:51.880 --> 0:08:54.320 They They're I mean, they're fancy, but they're just like 0:08:54.360 --> 0:08:56.680 I guess, down south, we have publics and like in 0:08:56.720 --> 0:08:59.839 North Carolina there's Harris Heaters. Up here, there's something called 0:09:00.360 --> 0:09:02.520 and we finally have one. And listen when I tell 0:09:02.520 --> 0:09:06.000 you their bakery section, they're like bake, not their bakery section, 0:09:06.040 --> 0:09:09.160 which is amazing, but they're actual like accessories where you 0:09:09.200 --> 0:09:12.719 have like piping bags and all the sprinkles. Girl, I 0:09:12.800 --> 0:09:14.760 probably spend like two hundred dollars in that section, just 0:09:14.800 --> 0:09:18.680 like getting I'm very, very excited. Ultimately, it will indeed 0:09:18.760 --> 0:09:21.000 cost far more to make the cake myself than it 0:09:21.040 --> 0:09:24.079 would have to outsource it. But I'm calling it in 0:09:24.080 --> 0:09:26.720 an investment, you know, like, who know, this won't be 0:09:26.720 --> 0:09:27.680 the last cake I make. 0:09:28.520 --> 0:09:30.560 No. I love it, especially with all that's been going on. 0:09:30.720 --> 0:09:33.760 It's pretty crazy. This is a random side. 0:09:33.880 --> 0:09:38.880 Now, what are you thinking about the the ugh. 0:09:39.640 --> 0:09:40.800 Not the pandemic, darn it? 0:09:41.040 --> 0:09:44.680 The vaccine? How comfortable do you feel about being in 0:09:44.720 --> 0:09:45.839 line for a vaccine? 0:09:46.080 --> 0:09:48.040 Listen? I would just go back to what Kamala Harris 0:09:48.040 --> 0:09:50.600 said during the vice presidential debate when she was like, listen, 0:09:50.800 --> 0:09:53.200 if doctor Fauci and the scientists tell me to take 0:09:53.240 --> 0:09:55.600 the vaccine, I'll be first in line. And I feel 0:09:55.600 --> 0:09:58.800 the same way. I trust science and I'm super excited that. 0:09:59.360 --> 0:09:59.560 You know. 0:09:59.559 --> 0:10:02.719 I think the third of the pharmaceutical companies that were 0:10:02.720 --> 0:10:05.720 working on a vaccine released preliminary results and it was 0:10:05.800 --> 0:10:07.760 it wasn't like the ninety percent the first two got, 0:10:07.800 --> 0:10:09.960 but it was still really high for the success rate. 0:10:10.360 --> 0:10:14.679 That's freaking exciting. I don't think even the general public 0:10:14.720 --> 0:10:16.480 will have a chance to get it till like the spring, 0:10:16.520 --> 0:10:20.240 though maybe the summer. So but you know, when when 0:10:20.240 --> 0:10:23.560 it's out here, I'll definitely be really listening to what 0:10:23.600 --> 0:10:27.839 the researchers say. I did, though, you know, in terms 0:10:27.880 --> 0:10:30.360 of how you know black households, black people tend to 0:10:30.360 --> 0:10:33.160 feel about vaccines. It ain't great. We can't forget the 0:10:33.200 --> 0:10:37.800 early Testigee, like the Testigee experiment where they use black men. 0:10:37.880 --> 0:10:39.559 I think it was it was just black men, right, 0:10:40.080 --> 0:10:42.040 We're told they were going to get you know, could 0:10:42.040 --> 0:10:44.320 be getting given treatment for syphilis, but we're just left 0:10:44.320 --> 0:10:47.240 to suffer. So and I was reading about this that 0:10:47.640 --> 0:10:50.600 there's actually it's really difficult to get Black Americans to 0:10:50.679 --> 0:10:54.320 participate in these types of trials. And it's important for 0:10:54.360 --> 0:10:57.199 people to participate from all voices and genders and stuff, 0:10:57.440 --> 0:10:59.200 just on the off chance that there may be something 0:10:59.600 --> 0:11:03.040 that causes one to react differently. But yeah, they had 0:11:03.040 --> 0:11:07.520 a hard time getting a large sample size for black Americans. 0:11:07.520 --> 0:11:11.360 But I totally I get oh, thousand percent. I get it, 0:11:11.400 --> 0:11:13.520 and there's like, it's this. I mean, there's just this 0:11:13.640 --> 0:11:18.480 level of suspicion for government, for you know, especially big pharma, 0:11:18.679 --> 0:11:22.120 Like listen, they're gonna make boku boku money off of this. 0:11:22.200 --> 0:11:26.680 We all know this. But I'll definitely be letting science 0:11:26.920 --> 0:11:30.280 and whatever I read, like, really looking at the sources 0:11:30.280 --> 0:11:32.559 of what I read to before we line up to 0:11:32.600 --> 0:11:33.400 get the vaccine. 0:11:34.080 --> 0:11:37.040 What about you, Yeah, I mean, well, I think the 0:11:37.040 --> 0:11:39.120 good thing is that I've got a lot of medical 0:11:39.200 --> 0:11:41.640 folks in my family, So definitely reaching out to her 0:11:41.640 --> 0:11:44.840 mom and her friends, Definitely reaching out my my sister's 0:11:44.880 --> 0:11:46.120 husband actually works with the Navy. 0:11:46.240 --> 0:11:48.960 He's a he's a doctor, a medical doctor. 0:11:49.360 --> 0:11:52.040 So even I remember when Corona first first first came out, 0:11:52.040 --> 0:11:54.240 of course we all ran to ask him, and he 0:11:54.400 --> 0:11:56.240 what's happening now is exactly what he said was going 0:11:56.320 --> 0:11:58.880 to happen. He's like, honestly, the vast majority of people 0:11:58.880 --> 0:12:01.720 at some point are going to get COVID. Most people 0:12:01.760 --> 0:12:04.920 will be fine, some people will actually get sick, and 0:12:05.040 --> 0:12:08.880 you know, and some people will get sick and in past, 0:12:08.960 --> 0:12:12.400 but you know, not the majority of people. But I 0:12:12.440 --> 0:12:14.880 just remember thinking, like, no, most people can't get it. 0:12:14.880 --> 0:12:17.679 He's like, no, most people at some point are going 0:12:17.720 --> 0:12:20.000 to get COVID, and maybe we won't even know they 0:12:20.000 --> 0:12:23.120 have it. Like for example, in Newark where I live. 0:12:23.240 --> 0:12:26.520 So New Jersey is ten percent of the population currently 0:12:26.559 --> 0:12:29.040 has COVID, this is what they're estimating. And Newark is 0:12:29.120 --> 0:12:32.280 up to twenty. But that's because of one particular area 0:12:32.280 --> 0:12:36.680 in Newark. It's the Ironbound section. It's largely Portuguese and 0:12:36.760 --> 0:12:40.400 it's a community that is super community oriented, like lots 0:12:40.440 --> 0:12:43.880 of families live together. It's also really tight enit. They're 0:12:44.200 --> 0:12:46.560 not that many parking spots, so people walk a lot. 0:12:46.840 --> 0:12:48.400 I mean, you can go into like it's one of 0:12:48.440 --> 0:12:50.240 my favorite places to eat because the food is amazing. 0:12:50.760 --> 0:12:53.240 You can go you could walk from spot to spot 0:12:53.280 --> 0:12:56.360 to spot. So I'm not surprised they're up to forty percent. 0:12:56.880 --> 0:13:00.520 Oh, because of the close quarters and so you know 0:13:00.559 --> 0:13:03.360 when he said, you know, most people at some point 0:13:03.520 --> 0:13:04.920 are going to give COVID, and this is what he 0:13:05.000 --> 0:13:06.760 told me in the very very beginning when it broke, 0:13:07.200 --> 0:13:09.240 I didn't really see how that was possible, and now 0:13:09.280 --> 0:13:11.240 I see how it could run the population. 0:13:11.960 --> 0:13:13.360 So I'm just hoping. 0:13:14.559 --> 0:13:16.880 That these vaccines work because honestly, it's like, how do 0:13:16.920 --> 0:13:18.840 we get back to normal life if there's not a vaccine? 0:13:18.880 --> 0:13:21.480 You know, Well, there's also you know, I think there 0:13:21.559 --> 0:13:25.240 are some treatments and some what are they called some 0:13:25.240 --> 0:13:27.880 some therapies, some types of therapies that have proven to 0:13:27.920 --> 0:13:31.040 be effective against COVID, Like when you're when you're being 0:13:31.080 --> 0:13:33.920 treated for it in the hospital, you know, maybe they'll 0:13:33.920 --> 0:13:36.400 come up with something and continue to advance, you know, 0:13:36.640 --> 0:13:39.440 the types of medical care you can receive if you 0:13:39.480 --> 0:13:41.680 get it. It's just a big unknown, and you know, 0:13:41.720 --> 0:13:44.040 I think people are also afraid of potential long term 0:13:44.080 --> 0:13:47.400 impacts of COVID. You know, we don't necessarily know what 0:13:47.480 --> 0:13:49.400 the long term implications can be. You know, will you 0:13:49.480 --> 0:13:52.800 have like long issues in the future. I do feel 0:13:52.840 --> 0:13:54.680 like shit, I mean, I don't know that I haven't 0:13:54.720 --> 0:13:56.839 had it. I don't know that I've not had it 0:13:56.920 --> 0:13:59.240 because I obviously don't get tested every day. When I 0:13:59.240 --> 0:14:01.920 have been tested, it's negative. But part of me is 0:14:01.960 --> 0:14:04.120 just like, Okay, we just got to hang in there, y'all, listen. 0:14:04.200 --> 0:14:07.280 Like I have had some family, close family who's who's 0:14:07.320 --> 0:14:09.839 gotten it in other states. But I'm just like let's 0:14:09.920 --> 0:14:12.280 just keep it together. Can we just not get COVID? 0:14:12.320 --> 0:14:14.880 Just hang in there so I and I understand what 0:14:14.920 --> 0:14:17.320 you're saying about you and your brother in law about 0:14:17.679 --> 0:14:20.680 you know, community spread, and eventually people will get it, 0:14:20.760 --> 0:14:23.400 just just because that's that's the nature of these things. 0:14:24.000 --> 0:14:26.200 But I think we can agree that in the US 0:14:26.360 --> 0:14:27.160 it did not have to. 0:14:27.120 --> 0:14:27.680 Be this bad. 0:14:27.920 --> 0:14:29.400 It did not It did not have to be if 0:14:29.480 --> 0:14:32.600 y'all just wore your damn masks, if there wasn't I mean, 0:14:32.640 --> 0:14:35.720 if I mean, honestly, I mean, it should be criminal 0:14:36.000 --> 0:14:39.360 what people like what the Trump administration has put out 0:14:39.400 --> 0:14:42.560 there in terms of trying to break people's trust in 0:14:42.600 --> 0:14:44.800 medicine and in science. It should be criminal because I 0:14:44.840 --> 0:14:47.480 really do think it's caused lives, and you know, I 0:14:47.600 --> 0:14:50.400 just that it's kind of like when you I think 0:14:50.440 --> 0:14:51.880 of it the way that my mom would think about 0:14:51.920 --> 0:14:53.960 me going out and learning to drive. She's like, baby, 0:14:53.960 --> 0:14:55.920 I'm not afraid of you not being a good driver. 0:14:56.160 --> 0:14:58.760 It's everyone else on the road that's the problem. 0:14:59.000 --> 0:15:00.800 I agree, And. 0:15:00.720 --> 0:15:02.960 I think that's the thing with COVID. It's it's maybe 0:15:03.000 --> 0:15:05.200 you're taking all your precautions and wearing your mask and 0:15:05.480 --> 0:15:07.480 limiting where you go. And you go to the one event, 0:15:07.960 --> 0:15:10.160 but how do you trust everyone else at that event 0:15:10.200 --> 0:15:13.360 has been you know, I can't as you have. So yeah, 0:15:14.200 --> 0:15:16.040 here I sit in this that's. 0:15:15.960 --> 0:15:18.160 I'm ordering everything all I'm like, shut and I'm like, 0:15:18.200 --> 0:15:21.440 who's on my list? My saying a list naughty or nice? 0:15:21.520 --> 0:15:23.840 I'm like, everything's coming directly to the house. I'm just 0:15:23.880 --> 0:15:27.120 like I'm not. I have not even like thankfully, I 0:15:27.120 --> 0:15:29.160 see that, you know, the folks have brought up all 0:15:29.160 --> 0:15:30.480 the toilet paper as usual. 0:15:30.680 --> 0:15:32.720 But really I thought we were over this, I know. 0:15:32.920 --> 0:15:34.880 So what I did was last time, when when things 0:15:34.880 --> 0:15:37.560 were decent, I knew it was going to happen again, honestly, 0:15:37.600 --> 0:15:39.680 So when things were decent, had gone to Costco maybe 0:15:39.680 --> 0:15:42.840 like two months ago and got like four months worth 0:15:42.840 --> 0:15:44.400 of stuff because I was just like, I don't like 0:15:44.560 --> 0:15:48.160 going food shopping or anything shopping really, so we are 0:15:48.200 --> 0:15:50.720 still living off of that. We have plenty, So I 0:15:50.800 --> 0:15:52.680 just but I remember that that was going to happen. 0:15:52.880 --> 0:15:55.200 Besidewhile this is random, do you have one of those? 0:15:56.080 --> 0:15:58.640 This is for the audience too, because they're kind of pricey, 0:15:58.720 --> 0:16:00.800 so you know me, I'm not really one for spending 0:16:00.840 --> 0:16:02.480 a ton of money, you know, those like is that 0:16:02.600 --> 0:16:05.480 a temperate tempora pedic bed? What's the beds that go 0:16:05.720 --> 0:16:06.520 that go up and down? 0:16:06.760 --> 0:16:08.160 I think that's gonna be repedic. 0:16:08.240 --> 0:16:11.360 Yeah right, But so I lately, like my like, my 0:16:11.480 --> 0:16:13.400 shoulder has been like killing me. I'm a I'm a 0:16:13.480 --> 0:16:15.840 shoulder sleeper, and I don't know if it's just because 0:16:15.840 --> 0:16:16.160 of age. 0:16:16.200 --> 0:16:19.000 And so my husband too, he's like, oh, my shoulder. 0:16:19.000 --> 0:16:21.200 I'm like you too, it's but you know, our bet 0:16:21.280 --> 0:16:22.640 is not that old. It's maybe like a year and 0:16:22.720 --> 0:16:25.360 a half old. And lately our shoulders have been like 0:16:25.440 --> 0:16:28.080 killing us because we're both like shoulders. I'm a I'm 0:16:28.080 --> 0:16:29.720 a stomach sleeper and a shoulder sleeper. 0:16:29.760 --> 0:16:30.240 It depends. 0:16:30.480 --> 0:16:31.800 But I don't know what I'm doing in the middle 0:16:31.800 --> 0:16:34.680 of the night, you know. But I'm like, lately my 0:16:34.680 --> 0:16:37.080 shoulder has been killing me, and I'm like, is that 0:16:37.200 --> 0:16:40.240 I want to bed? I know it's gonna cost because 0:16:40.240 --> 0:16:43.360 beds always cost a bajillion dollars, But for those of 0:16:43.400 --> 0:16:45.720 you are out there with those temper pedic whatever bajillion 0:16:45.720 --> 0:16:48.320 dollar beds, is it worth it now that my body's 0:16:48.320 --> 0:16:49.080 getting all beat. 0:16:49.000 --> 0:16:49.440 Up and old? 0:16:49.480 --> 0:16:52.680 I'm like, oh, I can't even sleep on my shoulder anymore. 0:16:52.880 --> 0:16:57.840 Roman is right, you almost forty, except for I'm not almost. 0:16:57.840 --> 0:17:00.920 I am forty forty one. Yeah, I know it sounds random, 0:17:00.920 --> 0:17:02.560 but I'm like, cause you know, it's one of those 0:17:02.600 --> 0:17:05.480 things where it's like Peloton, it's expensive, but it seems 0:17:05.480 --> 0:17:08.360 to be worth the price because you love yours and honestly, 0:17:08.520 --> 0:17:11.119 most people that I know that paid for Peloton, I 0:17:11.160 --> 0:17:13.760 have to say I haven't. I've heard very few people 0:17:13.800 --> 0:17:15.720 that have said I regret it, but like of my 0:17:15.720 --> 0:17:17.639 friends that I've bought it, but is it one of 0:17:17.680 --> 0:17:20.959 those buys where it's like, girl, I didn't need this tempopedic, 0:17:21.080 --> 0:17:22.920 like it feels the same as my regular bed, or 0:17:22.960 --> 0:17:25.080 you're like, girl, it's expensive, but it's so worth it. 0:17:25.119 --> 0:17:25.800 So I'd love to. 0:17:25.800 --> 0:17:28.119 Now, hold on't get me started on a peloton. I'm 0:17:28.160 --> 0:17:30.320 going to make a hard left from that topic because 0:17:30.320 --> 0:17:32.000 I will go on and on. I'm turning into one 0:17:32.040 --> 0:17:35.680 of those people. Okay, back to mattresses. I would say, 0:17:35.680 --> 0:17:38.119 talk to a chiropractor or talk to like someone on 0:17:38.200 --> 0:17:40.640 there such thing as a yeah chiropractor is a back doctor, right, 0:17:41.119 --> 0:17:42.960 and just see what they think about the temper pedick 0:17:43.000 --> 0:17:45.200 and where you're having pain, because if you're going to 0:17:45.240 --> 0:17:48.680 sleep on your shoulder regardless, maybe it's just you shouldn't 0:17:48.720 --> 0:17:51.280 do that anymore, I know, on your back. 0:17:51.359 --> 0:17:53.639 Like if I wake up in the middle of the 0:17:53.680 --> 0:17:55.840 night and I realize I am, i roll on to 0:17:55.920 --> 0:17:57.280 my back. But you know, you're like you don't know 0:17:57.280 --> 0:17:58.760 when you're sleeping because you know when the sleep gets 0:17:58.800 --> 0:18:00.520 good to you get in your comfort position. 0:18:01.160 --> 0:18:06.280