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Speaker 1: The Jewels Show on demand, Jebils dirty Little Secret, Time

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Speaker 1: for your dirty little secrets. So on the phone right

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Speaker 1: now is somebody. I can't say their name because everybody

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Speaker 1: is anonymous when they tell us a dirty little secret.

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Speaker 1: So what's up somebody? Hi? Are you doing? Are you?

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Speaker 1: I'm I mean, I'm okay. What's your dirty little secret? So?

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Speaker 1: My three little secret is I've been with my boyfriend

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Speaker 1: for about six years now, and this summer I already

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Speaker 1: have a U haul rented and I'm moving seven hundred

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Speaker 1: miles back home. And he has no idea. Oh my, whoa,

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Speaker 1: you're You're just gonna bounce. Yeah, I'm just gonna leave.

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Speaker 1: We have we have four kids together. Oh damn, are

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Speaker 1: you taking the kids into U haul too? Or you're leaving?

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Speaker 1: Oh yeah, me and the kids are leaving and he's staying.

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Speaker 1: Wait is he like? Is he abusive? Well? So he, Um,

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Speaker 1: he's not very helpful. I had him that he'll help

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Speaker 1: me clean up after the kids and stuff, and he

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Speaker 1: says I didn't do it. Wow, So he has no

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Speaker 1: idea that you you already have everything ready to go

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Speaker 1: to move? Yeah? Yeah, I rent into U haul. My

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Speaker 1: parents are the ones that live where I'm going. Yeah, Okay,

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Speaker 1: four kids is a lot, right, that's a lot of

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Speaker 1: work and to not have help. Yeah, I mean I

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Speaker 1: definitely know how that feels, and it's not right for sure. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: I don't think most dudes understand. I definitely didn't and

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Speaker 1: still probably don't a lot of the time because you've

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Speaker 1: never been in the position of being a mom before. Man,

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Speaker 1: that's a lot of responsibility and you have to do everything.

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Speaker 1: And if you have someone who won't help out at all, yeah,

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Speaker 1: that's a lot. Like those people are depending on you

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Speaker 1: for life, you know, full time too. Yeah. I have

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Speaker 1: a full time job, and he thinks that the house

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Speaker 1: is my responsibility. So that's that's crazy. You still have

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Speaker 1: to work full time job, all that on top of it,

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Speaker 1: and then he wants you to just take care of

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Speaker 1: the house. Yeah. And three well, my three older kids

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Speaker 1: aren't his. And the one thing that really makes me

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Speaker 1: most of set as he says, your kids, and I'm like, uh,

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Speaker 1: if we're together, there are kids, each smallest one is his.

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Speaker 1: How old is your youngest She's four? Okay, And forgive

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Speaker 1: me innocent, but you're breaking up with him? Right? Oh yeah,

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Speaker 1: I will. I so what I plan on doing is

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Speaker 1: telling him, like a week before I leave, Hey, I'm leaving. Okay,

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Speaker 1: so what about your guys's daughter? So is he do

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Speaker 1: you think that he's gonna want to fight for some

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Speaker 1: sort of custody? Well, we had split up before and

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Speaker 1: I had come back, and so when we split up,

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Speaker 1: his dad had just gone through a really bad something

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Speaker 1: with his mom. So his dad was like, get a

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Speaker 1: lawyer and get it all set up so you can

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Speaker 1: have visitation, and da da dada. So it was already

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Speaker 1: all set up. So I just plan on going back

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Speaker 1: to that. Already got the template in place for the

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Speaker 1: whole Yeah, yeah, I like it, the weekend, the whole thing.

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Speaker 1: He plays video games about eight to ten hours a day.

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, so yeah, you shouldn't even tell him, Like,

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Speaker 1: I normally not support somebody just leaving like that, but

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Speaker 1: I'm paying attention. I can see what's going on. No,

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Speaker 1: you're now, yeah, you know he doesn't. Dudes to play

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Speaker 1: games like that or gamers like that, they just get

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Speaker 1: totally wrapped in their game. All my parents are going

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Speaker 1: to show up to help me, and he's gonna be like,

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Speaker 1: what's going on? Good? Well, congratulations on getting us sounds

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Speaker 1: like a bad relationship for you, and you're doing the

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Speaker 1: right thing because you'll find one for that is right

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Speaker 1: for you eventually. Yeah. Well, one other thing is I'm

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Speaker 1: scared he's going to try and propose. To say yes.

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Speaker 1: Yes seriously, it actually makes it better because now you

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Speaker 1: can be like, I just have second thoughts. I don't know,

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Speaker 1: it just got too serious. Yeah, yeah, there we go. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm just scared about it. But I'm like, I already

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Speaker 1: got to you horror in it. I'm going I was

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Speaker 1: super scared too. But just remember this in the moments

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Speaker 1: where you're feeling scared to be a single mom or

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Speaker 1: you're fearful of whatever, core all of that, just remember

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Speaker 1: the way that he made you feel when you were

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Speaker 1: at your worst because of the lack of help and

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Speaker 1: all of that. I also have another suggestion that might

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Speaker 1: be very helpful. Okay, so you're planning on leaving him

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Speaker 1: in two weeks ago, you haul set up, you're gonna

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Speaker 1: take the kids, you're gonna just bounce, right, And you

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Speaker 1: said you think he might propose to you before you're

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Speaker 1: able to break up with him and leave, And we're

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Speaker 1: saying you should say no, right, except I kind of

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Speaker 1: think you should say yes just so you can get

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Speaker 1: that ring. I think you deserve it. That is the

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Speaker 1: truest statement you girl. And then don't don't leave it

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Speaker 1: behind to take it with you, himpon it. Yeah, that's

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Take that thing alight right, all right?

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Speaker 1: Thank you for telling. Did Jibbil show on demand