WEBVTT - HOW-TO MINISODE WITH JEN HATMAKER: How to find your guide.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, So when you're looking, when you're saying, like you

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<v Speaker 1>found lanterns, held lanterns for you, if someone's in a

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<v Speaker 1>spot right now and they're here in this conversation, they're like, man,

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<v Speaker 1>I am resonating with this. How does someone start looking

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<v Speaker 1>for lanterns in their life? Like, you found these people

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<v Speaker 1>to help guide you, and you kind of connected the

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<v Speaker 1>dots and now you're sharing that information. Obviously you are

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<v Speaker 1>a lantern, but like, how does someone look around their

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<v Speaker 1>own life and realize who are the people to reach

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<v Speaker 1>out to and who should you ask for help and guidance?

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<v Speaker 1>How do you know if someone's meant to be a

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<v Speaker 1>mentor and a guide for you? Like, how did you

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<v Speaker 1>find that? There's just so many different categories for this,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean there it just depends on what it is

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<v Speaker 1>you need. I mean, in every community, whether it is

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<v Speaker 1>in person or it's virtual, there is the possibility of

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<v Speaker 1>therapy of a therapist, of a counselor. That was a

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<v Speaker 1>key lantern for me. My all of my therapy was virtual,

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<v Speaker 1>so my therapist it was during COVID and so there's

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<v Speaker 1>always the possibility of therapy and finding somebody who can

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<v Speaker 1>guide you through your own emotional sort of landscape. It

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<v Speaker 1>can be way more like nerdy and practical than that.

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<v Speaker 1>Like for me, I was in a space where I

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<v Speaker 1>needed so much financial mentorship. I had never run my

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<v Speaker 1>own traps. I don't know how much money I made.

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<v Speaker 1>I did not know if we had a retirement plan.

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<v Speaker 1>I do not know how many bank accounts. We had nothing,

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<v Speaker 1>no swords, no clue. I mean I was in the

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<v Speaker 1>red on knowledge. And so I had these nerdy helpers

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<v Speaker 1>called my local banker, my like CPA, my little bookkeeper,

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<v Speaker 1>like nothing fancy here. These are just like Victoria at

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<v Speaker 1>Chase Bank a half a mile away from my house,

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<v Speaker 1>who I office, I said, in so many hours and

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<v Speaker 1>just went, can you help me work this out? And

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<v Speaker 1>so it depends on what you're looking for. But there's

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people in our communities who know what

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<v Speaker 1>we don't know. They're good at what we're not good at.

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<v Speaker 1>They have experience and information in the places that to

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<v Speaker 1>us just feel like a quagmire, like this is so confusing.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not confusing to someone someone. And what I discovered

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<v Speaker 1>is most of those people are so willing to help.

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<v Speaker 1>It's what they're good at. It's what they're good at

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<v Speaker 1>and so I think the bigger thing is not where

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<v Speaker 1>do I find them? Because helpers are everywhere. It's more

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<v Speaker 1>are you willing to? Are you willing to raise your

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<v Speaker 1>hand and say I am confused. I do not understand

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<v Speaker 1>interest rates. I do not know how to deal. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know how to sleep. I can't sleep anymore. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't know how to handle this high blood pressure in

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<v Speaker 1>my body like my doctors were winters, And so are

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<v Speaker 1>you willing to? Are you willing to say? I do

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<v Speaker 1>not have this altogether. I do not understand this space.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know what to do next. I need help.

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<v Speaker 1>I need guidance. I need a teacher, I need instructors.

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<v Speaker 1>I had no pride. Absolutely then there was nobody that

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<v Speaker 1>I would pretend to know something too. I was just like, no,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know, Please teach me, like, please teach me

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<v Speaker 1>what this means. And they did, and it changed my life.

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<v Speaker 1>That is so huge because I feel like I've hit

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<v Speaker 1>this place in my life where it's like I have tried.

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<v Speaker 1>I've done so many things in my life, but I'm

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<v Speaker 1>hitting an area where I have not It's uncharted, and

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<v Speaker 1>it's like getting to a place where I actually don't

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<v Speaker 1>have a clue, and like people have been asking me

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<v Speaker 1>this lately, like what are your goals? What are your dreams?

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, I don't actually have any goals and

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<v Speaker 1>dreams right now, which is so bananas because I have

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<v Speaker 1>been someone who has been so fueled and motivated by

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<v Speaker 1>my goals and dreams my whole life that I've been

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<v Speaker 1>on like a hamster will with them chasing them down.

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<v Speaker 1>But like my whole mentality has been switching about, like

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<v Speaker 1>what is actual happiness and success and what of my God?

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<v Speaker 1>And so but I'm just like I'm just so confused

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<v Speaker 1>on like next steps and what to do? Is That's why,

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<v Speaker 1>like I literally, women like yourself are such incredible guides

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<v Speaker 1>because you have created a life and a business out

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<v Speaker 1>of who you are, but you've been able to share

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<v Speaker 1>that so effectively, and it's so inspiring to see people

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<v Speaker 1>use their life as their message, as their career as

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<v Speaker 1>But it's just it's it's but it's such a personal

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<v Speaker 1>journey navigating this when you don't know the way and

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<v Speaker 1>only your inner guidance can tell you that, and so

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<v Speaker 1>you have to go find it. It's like a treasure hunt,

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<v Speaker 1>you know. Like learning all this information, piecing it together,

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<v Speaker 1>taking this from that person, but not all of this,

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<v Speaker 1>and some of that, and you piece it together and

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<v Speaker 1>then it's like you make a mean course, which is

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<v Speaker 1>so awesome because you've conglomerated all this knowledge out there.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just just just wild how it takes so long

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<v Speaker 1>to find it and put it together and make a picture.