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Speaker 1: Is Your Girl Ebine and this week's episode is going

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Speaker 1: to be a rewind of trust your gup my experience

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Speaker 1: with my left driver. UM. There has been so much

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Speaker 1: ship going on with these uber and left drivers, so

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Speaker 1: I thought it was necessary for y'all to understand how

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Speaker 1: important it is for y'all to be alert. UM. This

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Speaker 1: UM episode is very near and there because I had

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Speaker 1: an experience where I didn't pay attention to my surround.

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Speaker 1: This not gonna live for uber driver, but something um

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Speaker 1: with me walking around and I shared it in this

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Speaker 1: week's episode. But it's so good y'all. UM, please make

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Speaker 1: sure y'all share this with your family and friends. There's

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Speaker 1: been so much going on with sex trafficking, so I

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Speaker 1: really do hope that this episode expired. Y'all this day

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Speaker 1: safe to be alert and just be on your piece

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Speaker 1: and ques. If you have any questions or concerns, please

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Speaker 1: email me a hello at the PhD podcast And until

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Speaker 1: next time, guys later, Welcome you are now listening to

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Speaker 1: the professional Hey guys, welcome to this week's episode of

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Speaker 1: the PSC podcast. Is Your Girl Aberne and I'm super

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Speaker 1: excited about this week's episode. Before we begin, please make

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Speaker 1: sure you follow me at the Professional home Girl at

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Speaker 1: the PSD podcast, and last Nollist at Abone Beauty. Um.

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Speaker 1: Please keep in mind that all of my guests are anonymous,

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Speaker 1: so listen again this week's episode. So, I'm super excited

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Speaker 1: about this week's episode because I think this is very

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Speaker 1: important that we it's still an each other, that we

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Speaker 1: need to always be alert and to always trust our gut.

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Speaker 1: So before we begin with my guests, I want to

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Speaker 1: share my story of when I knew that something wasn't

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Speaker 1: right and I shouldn't trust my gut. Um. So, I

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Speaker 1: think it was like my night, a summer night. I

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Speaker 1: then after we walked to their car, my car was

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Speaker 1: about that night from the beginning, what happened? Okay? Sure?

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Speaker 1: So um I drove to me to meet up with friends,

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Speaker 1: Me and my family we drink a lot. That's something

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Speaker 1: I'm looking at him and he I always make them

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Speaker 1: using a nickname. Now, what do you always sit in

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Speaker 1: But that night, my gut told me to sit in

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Speaker 1: he has this like death grip on the steering wheel

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00:24:18,320 --> 00:24:22,520
Speaker 1: with his right hand. With his left hand, he has

428
00:24:22,600 --> 00:24:26,760
Speaker 1: what I would identify as a nervous like I'm in

429
00:24:26,800 --> 00:24:31,280
Speaker 1: the back seat watching this like this is because that's

430
00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:35,760
Speaker 1: because that's how memory and that's how And sometimes I'm

431
00:24:35,800 --> 00:24:38,040
Speaker 1: like when people, because I've had people, you know, my

432
00:24:38,080 --> 00:24:39,639
Speaker 1: Instagram and stuff like that tell me that they think

433
00:24:39,640 --> 00:24:42,320
Speaker 1: I'm lying and all this kind of stuff. No I'm sorry,

434
00:24:42,359 --> 00:24:44,520
Speaker 1: says I'm sorry, bro, this is for real. This is

435
00:24:45,119 --> 00:24:47,320
Speaker 1: remember what killing me about that? Because I was going

436
00:24:47,359 --> 00:24:49,639
Speaker 1: through a comments. I was just like, why would somebody

437
00:24:49,720 --> 00:24:52,280
Speaker 1: make this up? And I know there's a lot of

438
00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:54,639
Speaker 1: bug that people, but like when I was reading it

439
00:24:54,680 --> 00:24:57,240
Speaker 1: and you was like you provided free shots and stuff,

440
00:24:58,040 --> 00:25:01,320
Speaker 1: nothing about that told me that you was lying. No,

441
00:25:02,280 --> 00:25:04,399
Speaker 1: I would. First of all, I would never wish this

442
00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:06,280
Speaker 1: on anybody. Second of all, this would not be a

443
00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:10,800
Speaker 1: lie that I would tell. I mean honestly, like, things

444
00:25:10,960 --> 00:25:14,959
Speaker 1: are going pretty okay for me right, Like I have

445
00:25:15,200 --> 00:25:20,080
Speaker 1: all of my basic necessities. You know, I'm not starving,

446
00:25:20,240 --> 00:25:22,440
Speaker 1: I have friends, like things are Why would why would

447
00:25:22,480 --> 00:25:29,760
Speaker 1: I want this for this? Exactly? So he turned down

448
00:25:29,760 --> 00:25:32,560
Speaker 1: the street. He turned down the street. I look over.

449
00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:35,120
Speaker 1: He's got this death group on the steering wheel. He's

450
00:25:35,200 --> 00:25:39,439
Speaker 1: like rubbing his index finger and his thumb together. Like vigorously,

451
00:25:40,160 --> 00:25:43,720
Speaker 1: and I feel a car speed up, and it happened

452
00:25:43,760 --> 00:25:46,640
Speaker 1: so fast. I don't remember it so also too, I'm

453
00:25:46,800 --> 00:25:49,679
Speaker 1: very type a. Everything that I do has to be

454
00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:52,919
Speaker 1: a plan. Everything that I do, um needs to be

455
00:25:53,040 --> 00:25:55,119
Speaker 1: thought of, thought out. That's just the kind of person

456
00:25:55,200 --> 00:25:58,840
Speaker 1: I am. And it happened so quickly. When I looked

457
00:25:58,840 --> 00:26:01,520
Speaker 1: over and helped the car speed up and looked over

458
00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:04,040
Speaker 1: and saw him doing that, I felt like I was

459
00:26:04,080 --> 00:26:06,159
Speaker 1: gonna vomit. I felt like it was coming up from

460
00:26:06,240 --> 00:26:09,240
Speaker 1: my belly like my chest kind of, um, you know,

461
00:26:09,320 --> 00:26:11,400
Speaker 1: like you would he a little bit like my chest

462
00:26:11,480 --> 00:26:15,160
Speaker 1: kind of. And when vomit happened, my arm extended out

463
00:26:15,160 --> 00:26:19,879
Speaker 1: and opened the car door and I I jumped out, Wow,

464
00:26:20,440 --> 00:26:23,399
Speaker 1: how fast do you think he was lawing? I would

465
00:26:23,400 --> 00:26:26,520
Speaker 1: say that he probably still was not going over twenty

466
00:26:26,600 --> 00:26:30,640
Speaker 1: because he slowed down to make the turn right as

467
00:26:30,680 --> 00:26:33,119
Speaker 1: soon as as soon when I say, we were coming

468
00:26:33,200 --> 00:26:35,040
Speaker 1: up on the turn and I asked him to pull over,

469
00:26:35,440 --> 00:26:37,800
Speaker 1: so it wasn't like the car was had fully turned it.

470
00:26:37,800 --> 00:26:41,200
Speaker 1: Then I asked, when I saw that media look amiss

471
00:26:41,240 --> 00:26:43,159
Speaker 1: the way it did. Already knew what coming street we

472
00:26:43,160 --> 00:26:45,080
Speaker 1: were turning around, you know, what I mean going on,

473
00:26:45,560 --> 00:26:49,080
Speaker 1: like I'm not new to this, Like I know what

474
00:26:49,240 --> 00:26:52,440
Speaker 1: is around Atlanta, you know what I mean. So as

475
00:26:52,480 --> 00:26:54,679
Speaker 1: soon as we were starting to make the turn, I

476
00:26:54,680 --> 00:26:56,640
Speaker 1: asked him to pull over. I and buckled my seatbelt,

477
00:26:56,640 --> 00:26:59,600
Speaker 1: asked him to pull over. I felt him speeding up.

478
00:26:59,640 --> 00:27:02,840
Speaker 1: I saw over and looked at and I just got out. Wow.

479
00:27:02,920 --> 00:27:07,720
Speaker 1: So then you stop when you jumped out? What happened next? So? Um?

480
00:27:07,760 --> 00:27:12,840
Speaker 1: I had just because this will make sense later. So

481
00:27:12,880 --> 00:27:16,320
Speaker 1: I had on sneakers, socks, jeans. I had on a

482
00:27:16,359 --> 00:27:18,680
Speaker 1: white T shirt and I had on a jean jacket

483
00:27:18,720 --> 00:27:21,600
Speaker 1: on top, and I had a crossbody person. I had

484
00:27:21,640 --> 00:27:23,960
Speaker 1: all my things like on me. I wasn't except for

485
00:27:24,080 --> 00:27:28,720
Speaker 1: my phone. So I don't remember picking up the phone.

486
00:27:29,040 --> 00:27:31,959
Speaker 1: But my friend must have called me back and I

487
00:27:32,040 --> 00:27:34,160
Speaker 1: answered it as soon as I rolled out of the car.

488
00:27:34,320 --> 00:27:42,679
Speaker 1: Because when I excuse me, when I when I stopped rolling,

489
00:27:43,040 --> 00:27:44,560
Speaker 1: So I jumped out of the car and I hit

490
00:27:44,880 --> 00:27:48,040
Speaker 1: I flipped back to belly and then my legs over

491
00:27:48,119 --> 00:27:51,400
Speaker 1: my head. And it's when my legs went over my head,

492
00:27:51,440 --> 00:27:53,280
Speaker 1: the very first thing I did was grabbed my back.

493
00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:55,080
Speaker 1: It had knocked the breath out of me. So I'm

494
00:27:55,119 --> 00:27:58,200
Speaker 1: just like I'm on the ground going like like trying

495
00:27:58,200 --> 00:28:01,280
Speaker 1: to just catch my breath, and one of my shoes

496
00:28:01,320 --> 00:28:04,520
Speaker 1: came off, and my phone, which was in my hand

497
00:28:04,600 --> 00:28:06,240
Speaker 1: during the car because like I said, I sent the

498
00:28:06,240 --> 00:28:09,120
Speaker 1: text message, I was sending my location. I can hear

499
00:28:09,200 --> 00:28:12,760
Speaker 1: my friends screaming on the phone. He doesn't, like I said,

500
00:28:12,760 --> 00:28:14,640
Speaker 1: he was, you know, getting himself together. He was doing

501
00:28:14,640 --> 00:28:16,240
Speaker 1: his whatever he needed to be doing. He was getting

502
00:28:16,240 --> 00:28:18,400
Speaker 1: ready for bed. He thought I was near my car.

503
00:28:18,600 --> 00:28:21,800
Speaker 1: He's screaming like I locked the door, I'm coming, I'm coming,

504
00:28:22,160 --> 00:28:25,400
Speaker 1: talk to me, like just the whole thing. So as

505
00:28:25,400 --> 00:28:28,520
Speaker 1: soon as I flip out of the car, he continues

506
00:28:28,640 --> 00:28:31,480
Speaker 1: driving for a little bit. I would say, probably anywhere

507
00:28:31,520 --> 00:28:34,520
Speaker 1: from like and I don't know, like an eighth to

508
00:28:34,560 --> 00:28:36,639
Speaker 1: a quarter of a mile, like, still drives for a

509
00:28:36,680 --> 00:28:39,240
Speaker 1: little bit. When I flip out of the car, a

510
00:28:39,360 --> 00:28:42,160
Speaker 1: car begins to turn onto the road that I was

511
00:28:42,480 --> 00:28:47,400
Speaker 1: that I flipped out. I firmly believe that these people

512
00:28:47,440 --> 00:28:49,920
Speaker 1: were sent for me, because when I tell you that,

513
00:28:50,000 --> 00:28:53,120
Speaker 1: he was driving so slow and just was really like

514
00:28:53,360 --> 00:28:55,840
Speaker 1: calculating and looking around to make sure that there weren't

515
00:28:55,880 --> 00:28:59,560
Speaker 1: any cars, And this car came out of nowhere and

516
00:28:59,680 --> 00:29:02,000
Speaker 1: turned down to the street and they just stopped and

517
00:29:02,040 --> 00:29:05,520
Speaker 1: their headlights were on me, and um, I had gotten

518
00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:08,320
Speaker 1: I'm very happy that I had on as much close

519
00:29:08,360 --> 00:29:11,080
Speaker 1: as I did, because I had gotten some road rash

520
00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:14,000
Speaker 1: on my back from when I flipped over myself and

521
00:29:14,440 --> 00:29:18,840
Speaker 1: actually hurt yourself. Right, So as far as like topical

522
00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:21,720
Speaker 1: I have, I had like still do some cuts and

523
00:29:21,760 --> 00:29:25,080
Speaker 1: scrapes on my feet, on my hands. I got a

524
00:29:25,160 --> 00:29:29,040
Speaker 1: big patch of road rash on my back. Um. But

525
00:29:29,120 --> 00:29:33,200
Speaker 1: I actually internally like I I really hurt my back.

526
00:29:33,600 --> 00:29:39,720
Speaker 1: Um wow. Yeah, So if you want to talk about that, yeah,

527
00:29:39,800 --> 00:29:43,800
Speaker 1: I mean to me, it's just like it's crazy because like, yeah,

528
00:29:43,880 --> 00:29:48,560
Speaker 1: no choice, you know what I'm saying. So it's just like, yeah, no,

529
00:29:48,720 --> 00:29:51,640
Speaker 1: it was what it was. And if I have to

530
00:29:51,720 --> 00:29:55,160
Speaker 1: I told I told everybody this, If I had to

531
00:29:55,160 --> 00:29:57,760
Speaker 1: take that ride fifteen times again, I would jump out

532
00:29:57,800 --> 00:29:59,600
Speaker 1: of the car fifteen times because I know I did

533
00:29:59,640 --> 00:30:04,000
Speaker 1: the right absolutely, because it because have been a lot worse,

534
00:30:04,320 --> 00:30:06,880
Speaker 1: I know for a fact. And I feel like a

535
00:30:06,880 --> 00:30:08,480
Speaker 1: lot of people have been kind of jumping on my

536
00:30:08,520 --> 00:30:11,640
Speaker 1: head because I've been saying this and that you know,

537
00:30:12,120 --> 00:30:14,200
Speaker 1: I can't see the future, and I can't say what

538
00:30:14,280 --> 00:30:17,600
Speaker 1: he wasn't. No, I know for a fact that had

539
00:30:17,640 --> 00:30:21,160
Speaker 1: I stayed in that car for another three minutes or so,

540
00:30:21,400 --> 00:30:23,000
Speaker 1: I would have been hurt and this would have been

541
00:30:23,040 --> 00:30:26,840
Speaker 1: a totally different conversation. But what sign of the feedback

542
00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:30,280
Speaker 1: you've been receiving? So I know it's been pretty mixed,

543
00:30:30,760 --> 00:30:35,680
Speaker 1: so I would actually I would actually say that or

544
00:30:35,720 --> 00:30:42,680
Speaker 1: more have been um love, um, you know, apologies, just

545
00:30:42,920 --> 00:30:46,280
Speaker 1: people standing with me, girls sharing stories that are similar

546
00:30:46,320 --> 00:30:48,840
Speaker 1: to mine. I saw that too. I was like, yes,

547
00:30:49,440 --> 00:30:52,480
Speaker 1: it's so crazy because I was in my research. According

548
00:30:52,520 --> 00:30:56,200
Speaker 1: to a CNN and report, um, a hundred and three

549
00:30:56,320 --> 00:30:59,360
Speaker 1: Uber drivers and eighteen live drivers has been accused of

550
00:30:59,440 --> 00:31:03,920
Speaker 1: sexual When I was going through your comments, it was

551
00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:07,360
Speaker 1: like so many girls, nothing like oh this is crazy. Yes,

552
00:31:07,480 --> 00:31:10,760
Speaker 1: I'm talking about girls who has said that they have

553
00:31:10,920 --> 00:31:13,440
Speaker 1: been raped, beaten, and leftford dead in a field by

554
00:31:13,440 --> 00:31:16,440
Speaker 1: their Uber driver, saying their sister has been killed by

555
00:31:16,440 --> 00:31:19,720
Speaker 1: an Uber driver. I saw something like that. This girl,

556
00:31:19,800 --> 00:31:21,720
Speaker 1: she was thirty, she was killed by this. I want

557
00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:24,240
Speaker 1: to say it was an Uber driver. Yep. Another girl,

558
00:31:24,480 --> 00:31:27,000
Speaker 1: she told me that uber driver did kind of do

559
00:31:27,120 --> 00:31:28,920
Speaker 1: the same thing to her where she wasn't gonna be.

560
00:31:29,240 --> 00:31:32,240
Speaker 1: She got on the phone with the police because of

561
00:31:32,320 --> 00:31:34,840
Speaker 1: her reporting him, They investigated him, found out that he

562
00:31:34,880 --> 00:31:39,680
Speaker 1: had killed two other girls, um earlier that month, and

563
00:31:39,720 --> 00:31:42,800
Speaker 1: they were able to connect him. It's it's just the

564
00:31:42,840 --> 00:31:48,200
Speaker 1: whole thing. Wow. So when when the car funny you stopped,

565
00:31:48,280 --> 00:31:50,719
Speaker 1: wasn't somebody that was like they saw what was going on?

566
00:31:50,920 --> 00:31:54,640
Speaker 1: Or so they were. I really think they were kind

567
00:31:54,640 --> 00:31:56,880
Speaker 1: of just shocked. They saw me fly out of the car.

568
00:31:57,560 --> 00:32:01,400
Speaker 1: So um, the guy he drives like I would say,

569
00:32:01,480 --> 00:32:03,400
Speaker 1: like an eighth of a mile, maybe even like a

570
00:32:03,440 --> 00:32:06,440
Speaker 1: quarter of a mile. I'm pretty sure that he noticed

571
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:09,040
Speaker 1: the car in the rear view, so he stopped. Eventually

572
00:32:09,080 --> 00:32:13,080
Speaker 1: he stopped the car. He opens up the driver side door.

573
00:32:13,120 --> 00:32:16,200
Speaker 1: It's a two lane road, so the driver side doors

574
00:32:16,280 --> 00:32:18,760
Speaker 1: hanging over the left lane. He walks up to me,

575
00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:23,200
Speaker 1: and I am actively using my hand to shoot him

576
00:32:23,200 --> 00:32:25,240
Speaker 1: away from me, because I know the car can't hear me,

577
00:32:25,440 --> 00:32:28,400
Speaker 1: but I want them to see me because they're their

578
00:32:28,440 --> 00:32:30,760
Speaker 1: headlight and they even backed their car up just a

579
00:32:30,760 --> 00:32:33,200
Speaker 1: little bit so that way their lights are fully on me.

580
00:32:34,640 --> 00:32:37,040
Speaker 1: So I'm waving him away with my hand. He comes

581
00:32:37,120 --> 00:32:39,280
Speaker 1: up to me and he goes, oh my god, I'm

582
00:32:39,320 --> 00:32:42,000
Speaker 1: so sorry. Are you okay? Do you want me to

583
00:32:42,040 --> 00:32:44,960
Speaker 1: call the ambulance? And I was like, I'm good. Get

584
00:32:44,960 --> 00:32:50,000
Speaker 1: away from me, I'm good, get away from me. He

585
00:32:50,160 --> 00:32:54,040
Speaker 1: then comes closer to me, reaches down and rubs my

586
00:32:54,080 --> 00:32:56,920
Speaker 1: back like you would like a baby or something like that,

587
00:32:57,520 --> 00:33:02,680
Speaker 1: and goes, you just had too much to drink home. Wow.

588
00:33:05,840 --> 00:33:08,800
Speaker 1: So the whole time that he's doing this, oh, I know,

589
00:33:09,560 --> 00:33:12,400
Speaker 1: that keeps me. That keeps me up at night. And

590
00:33:12,520 --> 00:33:16,760
Speaker 1: the reason why it really like blows my fucking mind because, um,

591
00:33:16,800 --> 00:33:20,440
Speaker 1: a previous episode, I interviewed this girl she was raped

592
00:33:20,480 --> 00:33:24,960
Speaker 1: on campus and she was raped by a college h

593
00:33:25,400 --> 00:33:28,080
Speaker 1: And it's just so crazy to me how victim shame

594
00:33:28,440 --> 00:33:32,600
Speaker 1: is like a really big thing. Oh for sure, I

595
00:33:32,640 --> 00:33:35,200
Speaker 1: think at that point, I think it was less about

596
00:33:35,280 --> 00:33:37,800
Speaker 1: him shaming me or anything else, and just more but

597
00:33:37,920 --> 00:33:41,160
Speaker 1: the fact that he wanted to cover himself both by

598
00:33:41,160 --> 00:33:44,080
Speaker 1: the car that was seeing me, and just when if

599
00:33:44,120 --> 00:33:47,600
Speaker 1: and when I reported it that he came over and

600
00:33:47,720 --> 00:33:50,239
Speaker 1: made that guest. You know, he said that, you know,

601
00:33:50,280 --> 00:33:52,240
Speaker 1: so it's out, it's on the record. He offered to

602
00:33:52,280 --> 00:33:55,040
Speaker 1: call me an ambulance, and he said that, you know,

603
00:33:55,080 --> 00:33:56,440
Speaker 1: what I mean. So I mostly I think he was

604
00:33:56,480 --> 00:33:58,120
Speaker 1: just covering himself. I don't think I had anything to

605
00:33:58,120 --> 00:34:01,760
Speaker 1: do with me, honestly. Hey, I'm confused. The cab driver,

606
00:34:01,880 --> 00:34:05,440
Speaker 1: the lift driver came back. Yeah, that's what I'm talking about.

607
00:34:05,440 --> 00:34:08,040
Speaker 1: None of the other people, the people who saw me,

608
00:34:08,560 --> 00:34:10,560
Speaker 1: were in the car the whole time. They never got

609
00:34:10,600 --> 00:34:13,680
Speaker 1: out the car. Oh, so of course he don't cover

610
00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:16,640
Speaker 1: his ass. No, this is the lift driver who stops

611
00:34:16,640 --> 00:34:19,279
Speaker 1: the car, gets out and test the nerves. Wow. So

612
00:34:19,400 --> 00:34:21,279
Speaker 1: when you go to the policeman, asked, what did he

613
00:34:21,320 --> 00:34:28,040
Speaker 1: say to you? Exactly exactly for him to even for

614
00:34:28,120 --> 00:34:33,560
Speaker 1: him to even think that in that moment, wow, because

615
00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:35,800
Speaker 1: he knew that he knew what your name. Oh, he

616
00:34:35,880 --> 00:34:37,720
Speaker 1: knew when I jumped out of that car. He already

617
00:34:37,800 --> 00:34:41,560
Speaker 1: knew that. I knew what time it was. Wow. And

618
00:34:41,640 --> 00:34:45,960
Speaker 1: you had too much to drink, like getting out of here. Wow.

619
00:34:46,680 --> 00:34:48,799
Speaker 1: And then so the people, the other person that was

620
00:34:48,800 --> 00:34:50,879
Speaker 1: in a different car, they never came out. No, they

621
00:34:50,920 --> 00:34:52,480
Speaker 1: never got out of the car. So I get my

622
00:34:52,600 --> 00:34:54,840
Speaker 1: stuff and I'll tell you what they told me in

623
00:34:54,840 --> 00:34:56,600
Speaker 1: a second. So I'm getting my stuff up, right. I

624
00:34:56,600 --> 00:34:58,960
Speaker 1: told you my ship came off my phone was out

625
00:34:58,960 --> 00:35:01,080
Speaker 1: of my hand. He walks over to me. I grabbed

626
00:35:01,080 --> 00:35:02,919
Speaker 1: my phone, so I'm talking on the phone. That's also

627
00:35:02,960 --> 00:35:05,840
Speaker 1: why he said that I get myself up. I have

628
00:35:05,920 --> 00:35:08,320
Speaker 1: one shoe on, everything else is still on my body,

629
00:35:08,760 --> 00:35:11,120
Speaker 1: and I just start walking. I started walking away from

630
00:35:11,200 --> 00:35:16,400
Speaker 1: him and the car. Eventually they roll like they just

631
00:35:16,440 --> 00:35:18,399
Speaker 1: didn't know what was going on. So eventually they rolled

632
00:35:18,400 --> 00:35:21,000
Speaker 1: the windows down. They say, we called the cops. Are

633
00:35:21,040 --> 00:35:24,560
Speaker 1: you okay? And it was a man and two women,

634
00:35:25,120 --> 00:35:27,719
Speaker 1: and I was like, no, I'm not okay. Please do

635
00:35:27,760 --> 00:35:30,759
Speaker 1: not leave. I'm like, no, I'm not okay. So I

636
00:35:30,800 --> 00:35:34,600
Speaker 1: start walking away, and um, I ended up in that

637
00:35:34,719 --> 00:35:36,520
Speaker 1: building that I was kind of not in the building,

638
00:35:36,520 --> 00:35:38,040
Speaker 1: but like in the perking life. Remember I was telling

639
00:35:38,080 --> 00:35:41,040
Speaker 1: he had this beautiful like landscaping that kind of thing.

640
00:35:41,080 --> 00:35:44,080
Speaker 1: Because I was barefoot. So I walked on this little

641
00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:47,000
Speaker 1: trashy road like full of rocks and trash and all that,

642
00:35:47,360 --> 00:35:49,880
Speaker 1: and then I go on this you know, beautifully landscaped

643
00:35:49,960 --> 00:35:52,880
Speaker 1: pine straw and like gorgeous bushes and all that. So

644
00:35:52,920 --> 00:35:56,600
Speaker 1: eventually they they speed the car around and they're like,

645
00:35:56,600 --> 00:35:58,560
Speaker 1: please get in the car with us. We called the cops,

646
00:35:58,640 --> 00:36:01,360
Speaker 1: like getting you know, so I get I feel like

647
00:36:01,360 --> 00:36:04,600
Speaker 1: I can trust them. I getting the car and they

648
00:36:04,640 --> 00:36:06,920
Speaker 1: tell me, they were like, what happened, Like we didn't

649
00:36:06,920 --> 00:36:10,799
Speaker 1: know if you had been shot and you you know

650
00:36:10,800 --> 00:36:12,480
Speaker 1: what I mean, like you fell out the car, or

651
00:36:12,480 --> 00:36:14,040
Speaker 1: if he had hit you and you got out of

652
00:36:14,040 --> 00:36:16,120
Speaker 1: the car. And I just told him, I said, listen,

653
00:36:16,120 --> 00:36:17,719
Speaker 1: he didn't do anything to me. But I know where

654
00:36:17,760 --> 00:36:21,719
Speaker 1: that car ride was going. So I jumped and um

655
00:36:21,800 --> 00:36:24,200
Speaker 1: they told me, they were like, we're all parents, you

656
00:36:24,280 --> 00:36:28,080
Speaker 1: did the right thing. We all had daughters, et cetera.

657
00:36:29,040 --> 00:36:35,919
Speaker 1: So because did the police came? Yeah, the police came. Um,

658
00:36:36,120 --> 00:36:40,320
Speaker 1: what's he still around? No? So he drove. So remember

659
00:36:40,400 --> 00:36:42,239
Speaker 1: I'm like trying to I'm just trying to get out

660
00:36:42,239 --> 00:36:43,960
Speaker 1: of sight. And the jacket I had on was yellow,

661
00:36:46,040 --> 00:36:47,759
Speaker 1: and I remember thinking like I have to get out

662
00:36:47,760 --> 00:36:49,600
Speaker 1: of his sight because I have been yellow jacket on

663
00:36:49,800 --> 00:36:51,520
Speaker 1: and a white shirt, like he can see me for

664
00:36:51,560 --> 00:36:54,600
Speaker 1: a while to go. So that's why I tried to

665
00:36:54,680 --> 00:36:56,880
Speaker 1: hurry up and get away. I started walking through these bushes,

666
00:36:56,920 --> 00:36:59,799
Speaker 1: you know, all this kind of stuff, and I got

667
00:36:59,840 --> 00:37:03,239
Speaker 1: a little like dinning on my phone, like you've just

668
00:37:03,320 --> 00:37:05,680
Speaker 1: been dropped off, right? Your driver tip your driver or whatever.

669
00:37:06,880 --> 00:37:09,480
Speaker 1: So a lot is just going on. And it wasn't

670
00:37:09,600 --> 00:37:13,400
Speaker 1: until the next It was the next day when I

671
00:37:13,440 --> 00:37:17,000
Speaker 1: went back with the detective that I realized that he

672
00:37:17,360 --> 00:37:20,640
Speaker 1: drove away more than a block away, I'm pretty sure,

673
00:37:20,719 --> 00:37:23,239
Speaker 1: pulled in an apartment complex and said that he had

674
00:37:23,320 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 1: dropped me off there. Mm hmm, yeah, so and that

675
00:37:32,600 --> 00:37:38,279
Speaker 1: was that was most definitely not the case. So the

676
00:37:38,320 --> 00:37:45,319
Speaker 1: cops came, um and and when I first, so I

677
00:37:45,400 --> 00:37:49,399
Speaker 1: feel like people have to understand and realize that I'm

678
00:37:49,440 --> 00:37:51,799
Speaker 1: not taking any of this lightly, and by reporting it

679
00:37:51,840 --> 00:37:55,560
Speaker 1: to the police, you know what I mean. And when

680
00:37:57,040 --> 00:37:59,520
Speaker 1: when I was in the car, I was just so

681
00:37:59,640 --> 00:38:02,160
Speaker 1: shaking enough that I just made a decision to jump

682
00:38:02,160 --> 00:38:03,879
Speaker 1: out of the car because I didn't feel right about

683
00:38:03,880 --> 00:38:06,360
Speaker 1: the situation and I didn't think it was going somewhere well,

684
00:38:06,880 --> 00:38:09,640
Speaker 1: but he hadn't touched me or anything like that. So

685
00:38:09,680 --> 00:38:15,000
Speaker 1: when they were no good, like, if nothing's going, if

686
00:38:15,040 --> 00:38:17,239
Speaker 1: you feel like something that's not right, you have to

687
00:38:19,680 --> 00:38:22,759
Speaker 1: So I'm glad that I didn't. But that night when

688
00:38:22,760 --> 00:38:24,480
Speaker 1: the police were kind of talking to me, they were

689
00:38:24,520 --> 00:38:27,160
Speaker 1: kind of like he was driving slow, so you jumped

690
00:38:27,200 --> 00:38:29,960
Speaker 1: out or like he called you pretty so you jumped

691
00:38:29,960 --> 00:38:32,600
Speaker 1: out like they were just kind of handling me like

692
00:38:32,680 --> 00:38:38,520
Speaker 1: they didn't really understand instead of like, okay, she jumped

693
00:38:38,520 --> 00:38:41,360
Speaker 1: out of a car, let's try and get everything that

694
00:38:41,440 --> 00:38:45,839
Speaker 1: we can out of her. Um. So that even the

695
00:38:45,840 --> 00:38:49,320
Speaker 1: E M. T was really rude to me, like fussing

696
00:38:49,360 --> 00:38:52,600
Speaker 1: at me, telling me like, you're not answering me. This

697
00:38:52,640 --> 00:38:55,000
Speaker 1: is a yes or no question, Like I don't. Yeah,

698
00:38:55,000 --> 00:38:59,400
Speaker 1: it was a whole thing. So um. When my friend

699
00:38:59,480 --> 00:39:05,880
Speaker 1: finally arrived, um, you know I told him, I was like,

700
00:39:05,920 --> 00:39:08,200
Speaker 1: you know I and even the empt told me like

701
00:39:08,239 --> 00:39:11,560
Speaker 1: your adrinaline is still up, but listen, tomorrow you're really

702
00:39:11,560 --> 00:39:14,080
Speaker 1: gonna be hurt. And so he was like, do you

703
00:39:14,080 --> 00:39:16,000
Speaker 1: want to just come back to my house and I'll

704
00:39:16,080 --> 00:39:17,640
Speaker 1: drive you back in the morning. I was like, no,

705
00:39:18,080 --> 00:39:19,799
Speaker 1: bring me back to my car, like I'm gonna call

706
00:39:19,840 --> 00:39:22,560
Speaker 1: my mom like have her have her meet up with me,

707
00:39:22,600 --> 00:39:25,359
Speaker 1: like I have to, like I have to go home now.

708
00:39:26,120 --> 00:39:31,919
Speaker 1: And um, for like the next about two three days,

709
00:39:31,960 --> 00:39:40,080
Speaker 1: I couldn't walk mm hmm I find it right, So like, um,

710
00:39:40,320 --> 00:39:43,560
Speaker 1: I mean by the time I had driven myself home,

711
00:39:43,760 --> 00:39:46,719
Speaker 1: I was so stiff and locked up. I couldn't get

712
00:39:46,719 --> 00:39:49,440
Speaker 1: myself out of my car. That's why I was like,

713
00:39:49,480 --> 00:39:51,120
Speaker 1: I have to call my mom, like she's gonna have

714
00:39:51,160 --> 00:39:54,200
Speaker 1: to help me because literally I can't should help me

715
00:39:54,280 --> 00:39:56,520
Speaker 1: up the stairs, let me change my clothes anytime I

716
00:39:56,520 --> 00:39:58,120
Speaker 1: want to get out of bed to go to the bathroom,

717
00:39:58,239 --> 00:40:00,640
Speaker 1: like Mom, help me. Let me think a bad like

718
00:40:00,719 --> 00:40:04,880
Speaker 1: it was? Yeah, So what's going on now with it?

719
00:40:04,920 --> 00:40:09,080
Speaker 1: Like they found there? So there they are conducting and

720
00:40:09,360 --> 00:40:16,799
Speaker 1: investigation and um, lift fired him. Um they claimed that

721
00:40:16,840 --> 00:40:18,880
Speaker 1: they did an investigation, but I also think you just

722
00:40:18,960 --> 00:40:20,520
Speaker 1: kind of have to see it for what it is

723
00:40:21,120 --> 00:40:30,840
Speaker 1: that UM. So yes, I So I called and reported

724
00:40:30,880 --> 00:40:34,000
Speaker 1: it immediately. UM, and they got back to me. But

725
00:40:34,040 --> 00:40:37,280
Speaker 1: you know how they outsourced, like how companies outsourced customer service,

726
00:40:39,239 --> 00:40:42,560
Speaker 1: So they didn't get back to me until that Monday.

727
00:40:42,800 --> 00:40:45,200
Speaker 1: You know, so I made the claim. Claim had to

728
00:40:45,239 --> 00:40:47,680
Speaker 1: come into the United States and then you know, we

729
00:40:47,719 --> 00:40:51,040
Speaker 1: had to get back on regular business work day. So, UM,

730
00:40:51,080 --> 00:40:53,759
Speaker 1: they called me on Monday and the lady was very

731
00:40:53,840 --> 00:40:58,000
Speaker 1: nice and UM, she was telling me, you know, we're

732
00:40:58,000 --> 00:41:00,400
Speaker 1: gonna take this seriously. We're gonna investigate eight da da

733
00:41:00,440 --> 00:41:06,280
Speaker 1: da da da da. And by by that Tuesday or Wednesday,

734
00:41:06,520 --> 00:41:09,719
Speaker 1: it might have been Tuesday end the day Monday. It

735
00:41:09,800 --> 00:41:12,520
Speaker 1: was very quickly before they had decided that they were

736
00:41:12,520 --> 00:41:14,759
Speaker 1: going to fire him and you know, bann him from

737
00:41:14,760 --> 00:41:24,640
Speaker 1: the community. Wow, girl, it's been had anybody found him?

738
00:41:24,680 --> 00:41:28,920
Speaker 1: Have anybody like seeing them or like? So I know

739
00:41:29,040 --> 00:41:31,560
Speaker 1: that people found him on Facebook just because it's really

740
00:41:31,560 --> 00:41:34,320
Speaker 1: not hard. It's really not hard to do a Facebook search,

741
00:41:34,360 --> 00:41:36,520
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Um, And so like a

742
00:41:36,560 --> 00:41:38,239
Speaker 1: bunch of people were sending me his Facebook like I

743
00:41:38,239 --> 00:41:40,080
Speaker 1: found him on Facebook. I found him on Facebook. And

744
00:41:40,080 --> 00:41:42,040
Speaker 1: then one Girul messaged me and was like, I found

745
00:41:42,120 --> 00:41:44,000
Speaker 1: him on Facebook. And I've just been watching his profile

746
00:41:44,040 --> 00:41:45,360
Speaker 1: for the last couple of days and he took his

747
00:41:45,400 --> 00:41:54,719
Speaker 1: Facebook down. But there's nothing until the investigation. UM, okay,

748
00:41:54,800 --> 00:41:56,840
Speaker 1: let you put like this, If and when they find

749
00:41:56,840 --> 00:42:02,160
Speaker 1: probable cause, then charges can be are now m But

750
00:42:02,239 --> 00:42:05,120
Speaker 1: it's based solely on that. So there's a chance and

751
00:42:05,160 --> 00:42:09,200
Speaker 1: a good chance that because I wasn't hurt, that he

752
00:42:09,280 --> 00:42:13,200
Speaker 1: may not be charged with the crime. M hmm. So

753
00:42:13,280 --> 00:42:16,439
Speaker 1: how have you been doing since since this happened? Because

754
00:42:16,440 --> 00:42:20,279
Speaker 1: I can only imagine, Like, well, I can't imagine how

755
00:42:20,280 --> 00:42:22,600
Speaker 1: you feel, but I can't I can just imagine how

756
00:42:22,600 --> 00:42:24,840
Speaker 1: it makes you feel like on a day to day basis,

757
00:42:24,920 --> 00:42:29,680
Speaker 1: like it's it's super up and down. There are so

758
00:42:29,760 --> 00:42:32,480
Speaker 1: I've done a couple other interviews and that kind of thing,

759
00:42:32,520 --> 00:42:34,920
Speaker 1: and on days when I do that, I feel like, wow,

760
00:42:35,040 --> 00:42:37,239
Speaker 1: like you got your story out, like you might have

761
00:42:37,320 --> 00:42:40,360
Speaker 1: helped one other person. And those are really good updates

762
00:42:40,400 --> 00:42:42,640
Speaker 1: for me. And then there are other days when I'm

763
00:42:42,680 --> 00:42:45,160
Speaker 1: you know, I'm really in pain. So I ended up

764
00:42:45,160 --> 00:42:48,400
Speaker 1: having some bone bruising and my neck and back have

765
00:42:48,520 --> 00:42:54,799
Speaker 1: been in spasm for the last week or more. Um,

766
00:42:54,840 --> 00:42:59,440
Speaker 1: So I'm dealing with the pain. Um. The support has

767
00:42:59,520 --> 00:43:04,520
Speaker 1: I would say made a big difference in my healing. Um.

768
00:43:04,560 --> 00:43:08,319
Speaker 1: And here soon I'm going to be starting some um

769
00:43:09,800 --> 00:43:14,920
Speaker 1: some mental health work with mental health professional. Yeah no,

770
00:43:15,320 --> 00:43:18,160
Speaker 1: I just um that's how I've been looking at it,

771
00:43:18,200 --> 00:43:20,640
Speaker 1: like it is work and I'm going to have to

772
00:43:20,680 --> 00:43:24,480
Speaker 1: put this into kind of get the end results that

773
00:43:24,560 --> 00:43:28,680
Speaker 1: I want. Those end results are kind of just being freedom, um,

774
00:43:28,719 --> 00:43:32,400
Speaker 1: in peace with the situation and not letting this. I

775
00:43:32,440 --> 00:43:39,520
Speaker 1: think I'm walking a fine line between being stuck um

776
00:43:39,560 --> 00:43:42,000
Speaker 1: in this place of when it happened and the and

777
00:43:42,080 --> 00:43:44,839
Speaker 1: the pain and you know, the fear and that kind

778
00:43:44,840 --> 00:43:49,000
Speaker 1: of thing, and then also and moving forward from that,

779
00:43:49,120 --> 00:43:53,080
Speaker 1: but then also realizing that I, because this happened and

780
00:43:53,120 --> 00:43:55,360
Speaker 1: because I wasn't quiet about it, I've got a really

781
00:43:55,360 --> 00:43:59,040
Speaker 1: cool platform for advocacy now, and how do I move

782
00:43:59,120 --> 00:44:03,600
Speaker 1: forward in my healing and use that platform to the

783
00:44:03,640 --> 00:44:06,680
Speaker 1: best of my ability at the same time. Mm hmm.

784
00:44:07,520 --> 00:44:11,239
Speaker 1: So that's where I am now. I'm really happy if

785
00:44:11,440 --> 00:44:13,759
Speaker 1: you was able to share your story on the on

786
00:44:13,800 --> 00:44:16,239
Speaker 1: the PhD podcast because I think it's really important, because

787
00:44:16,239 --> 00:44:18,600
Speaker 1: I mean, I've eve even been times where I went

788
00:44:18,680 --> 00:44:20,839
Speaker 1: to sleep in the back sate car, like you just

789
00:44:20,880 --> 00:44:25,280
Speaker 1: get so comfortable and you'd be non tired. Yeah, exactly. Yeah,

790
00:44:26,200 --> 00:44:28,040
Speaker 1: and then it's like, you know, when people who have

791
00:44:28,160 --> 00:44:31,800
Speaker 1: been in situations, it's just like they get victim blame

792
00:44:32,040 --> 00:44:34,560
Speaker 1: or they even feel they should never went to sleep

793
00:44:34,560 --> 00:44:36,239
Speaker 1: and they feel like it's their fault. It's just like,

794
00:44:36,920 --> 00:44:39,320
Speaker 1: it's not your fault, regardless of what happened, you know

795
00:44:39,360 --> 00:44:41,759
Speaker 1: what I'm saying. So I'm glad you did share your

796
00:44:41,800 --> 00:44:44,319
Speaker 1: story and even though nothing happened to you, you gotta

797
00:44:44,360 --> 00:44:47,239
Speaker 1: trust your gut because I agree if you probably would

798
00:44:47,239 --> 00:44:48,919
Speaker 1: have staying that have a little bit longer, something would

799
00:44:48,960 --> 00:44:54,359
Speaker 1: have happened, I know for man, and I just feel

800
00:44:54,400 --> 00:44:56,600
Speaker 1: like from everything that he said and how he was

801
00:44:56,640 --> 00:44:59,440
Speaker 1: handling me, I was handling the car, what street he

802
00:44:59,520 --> 00:45:02,759
Speaker 1: chose to go. I'm sorry, There's just no way that

803
00:45:02,880 --> 00:45:05,120
Speaker 1: he had me all the way. He had me far

804
00:45:05,200 --> 00:45:07,680
Speaker 1: from my destination. There's no way that he had me

805
00:45:07,760 --> 00:45:12,480
Speaker 1: all the way out in. Um, it's like the neighborhood

806
00:45:12,560 --> 00:45:14,360
Speaker 1: is kind of like a park, So like this park

807
00:45:14,440 --> 00:45:18,759
Speaker 1: area in the middle of the night. No, I'm sorry, No,

808
00:45:19,080 --> 00:45:23,239
Speaker 1: you cannot. You cannot sell me the story on the

809
00:45:23,239 --> 00:45:28,200
Speaker 1: safety in that situation. You just can't. Yeah. Um. Last,

810
00:45:28,239 --> 00:45:32,600
Speaker 1: and not least, So, what is some advice she would

811
00:45:32,600 --> 00:45:35,279
Speaker 1: give to somebody, like the red flags that always look

812
00:45:35,320 --> 00:45:37,040
Speaker 1: out for, Because I think you mentioned a lot of things.

813
00:45:37,080 --> 00:45:38,799
Speaker 1: I just want to reiterate it so we can all

814
00:45:38,840 --> 00:45:44,239
Speaker 1: be aware. Yeah, well, I would say, Um, the biggest thing,

815
00:45:44,680 --> 00:45:49,480
Speaker 1: just period is trusting your good And I feel like

816
00:45:49,600 --> 00:45:52,040
Speaker 1: that has just been a whole that that's been the

817
00:45:52,080 --> 00:45:54,160
Speaker 1: whole thing. And yes, I noticed some red flags and

818
00:45:54,200 --> 00:45:57,000
Speaker 1: that kind of thing, but I needed to have a

819
00:45:57,080 --> 00:46:01,200
Speaker 1: convertation the combination of all of those things, the precaution

820
00:46:01,320 --> 00:46:03,480
Speaker 1: that I took, the red flag that I noticed and

821
00:46:04,000 --> 00:46:06,520
Speaker 1: listening to my gut if one of those things would

822
00:46:06,520 --> 00:46:09,200
Speaker 1: have been off, I have to be honest with myself

823
00:46:09,680 --> 00:46:12,120
Speaker 1: and saying that this could be a totally different conversation.

824
00:46:13,960 --> 00:46:17,200
Speaker 1: So the precautions that I took I kind of described earlier,

825
00:46:17,200 --> 00:46:19,080
Speaker 1: but just kind of bullet point is one that I

826
00:46:19,080 --> 00:46:23,000
Speaker 1: don't use my full name on any of any rides

827
00:46:23,000 --> 00:46:27,320
Speaker 1: share apps UM, and I don't use and a picture

828
00:46:27,360 --> 00:46:31,080
Speaker 1: avatar at all. But some people are like a profile picture.

829
00:46:31,440 --> 00:46:34,680
Speaker 1: But some people have suggested, like I will post a

830
00:46:34,680 --> 00:46:38,120
Speaker 1: picture UM with my entire family, I will post a

831
00:46:38,160 --> 00:46:41,240
Speaker 1: picture with mixed groups. One girl was like, I posted

832
00:46:41,239 --> 00:46:43,239
Speaker 1: a picture of my boyfriend and that's just what it is,

833
00:46:43,640 --> 00:46:45,520
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. So that's something to think about.

834
00:46:48,120 --> 00:46:51,560
Speaker 1: Always checking the license plate of the car, because, like

835
00:46:51,680 --> 00:46:53,759
Speaker 1: we talked about the scanners, you just want to make

836
00:46:53,800 --> 00:46:56,759
Speaker 1: sure that that car matches with the ride share app

837
00:46:57,040 --> 00:46:59,640
Speaker 1: so that God forbid something like this happened to you,

838
00:47:00,040 --> 00:47:06,040
Speaker 1: they can find that person. UM not I sat in

839
00:47:06,040 --> 00:47:08,399
Speaker 1: the front seat. If you don't feel comfortable with that,

840
00:47:08,520 --> 00:47:10,719
Speaker 1: you know, you need to trust your good on that.

841
00:47:10,800 --> 00:47:12,360
Speaker 1: You need to make your own decision on that. But

842
00:47:12,440 --> 00:47:16,120
Speaker 1: never letting your driver handle your back doors, um, because

843
00:47:16,120 --> 00:47:20,560
Speaker 1: I can activate the child law. And then um, finally,

844
00:47:21,320 --> 00:47:23,840
Speaker 1: the last thing was just kind of like it's the

845
00:47:23,920 --> 00:47:27,400
Speaker 1: last two things. Is never like oblige any driver's requests

846
00:47:27,640 --> 00:47:31,600
Speaker 1: if they ask you to do something, unless it's stop

847
00:47:31,680 --> 00:47:34,439
Speaker 1: kicking the back of my feet, you know what I mean,

848
00:47:35,120 --> 00:47:38,040
Speaker 1: Then then you don't need to do it. Um. And

849
00:47:38,200 --> 00:47:40,120
Speaker 1: just anything else that you feel like it's a red

850
00:47:40,160 --> 00:47:44,040
Speaker 1: flagger that makes you uncomfortable, then you need to make

851
00:47:44,160 --> 00:47:49,120
Speaker 1: note of that and just pay attention, you know, writing alert,

852
00:47:49,320 --> 00:47:50,920
Speaker 1: not being on your phone that kind of thing, and

853
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Speaker 1: just pay attention to where the ride is progressing. And

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Speaker 1: share your right with your family and friends. Yep, yep,

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Speaker 1: that is something that I do, just sharing your occation. Um.

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Speaker 1: Ever since this happened, Um, I just like everybody else

857
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Speaker 1: in the world, have a thousand group messages on my phone,

858
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Speaker 1: and one of my friends is a flight attendant and

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Speaker 1: she'll send it in a big group where one of

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Speaker 1: us is up at the time. And she was like

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Speaker 1: the last time she did, Hey, guys, I'm writing this

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Speaker 1: night shuttle by myself. I'd like to share my location

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Speaker 1: with you. Okay, we're watching you. Let us know when

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Speaker 1: you make it Okay, I made it cool, you know

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Speaker 1: what I mean? Mm hmm. So that little, that little

866
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Speaker 1: precaution alone could cut down on the time it notices,

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Speaker 1: down on the time that it takes for someone to

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Speaker 1: notice that something has happened to her if she can't

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Speaker 1: speak for herself. Right, all right, I'm like, really, I'm

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Speaker 1: not gonna say excited, but I'm really like, I really

871
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Speaker 1: think it's a good word. Well, I'm no, I'm really

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Speaker 1: more so thankful because it's just like, you know, I

873
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Speaker 1: don't know ever since I started doing this platform, and

874
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Speaker 1: I'm just learning so much and mean so many different

875
00:49:03,760 --> 00:49:07,960
Speaker 1: people and learning hearing about their experiences and like it's

876
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Speaker 1: really like it really like GRIBs make my blood boiled

877
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Speaker 1: because men or not men, the big people just take

878
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Speaker 1: advantage of women. Man, I'm paying, yeah, and I'm paying

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Speaker 1: for a service, and it's like I shouldn't know when

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Speaker 1: I feel uncomfortable and it's like why are you? Why

881
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Speaker 1: are you doing this at two or three o'clock in

882
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Speaker 1: the morning, like and it could have been something so worse.

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Speaker 1: I'm really thankful that you're sharing your experience and you know,

884
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Speaker 1: I know you would get through this, So I want

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Speaker 1: to keep in contact with you and then from my

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Speaker 1: gifts from my listeners. If you have any questions for

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Speaker 1: my guests, please make sure you email me hello at

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Speaker 1: the Professional Homegirl dot com because I think we need

889
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Speaker 1: to all share these stories and share your experience that

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Speaker 1: we can know what's looked for because some people don't know. Yes,

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Speaker 1: all right, and some people are trusting. Oh yeah, we

892
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Speaker 1: all have that friend who's just really nice for you

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Speaker 1: know whatever, UM, and I totally agree with you that

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Speaker 1: getting the word out is and one of the few

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Speaker 1: things that I can do, and I appreciate you having

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Speaker 1: me on. I would like to say, if you don't mind, UM,

897
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Speaker 1: that since it's been happening, I've been seriously considering, you know,

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Speaker 1: talking to LIFT about some things that they can do

899
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Speaker 1: to make the app safer. And if anyone would like

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Speaker 1: to share with me any um you know, it's power

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Speaker 1: in numbers, and if anyone would like to be a

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Speaker 1: part of that, I would like to share a negative

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Speaker 1: experience they've had with left UM, I'd love to hear it. Yes,

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Speaker 1: please email me. I would gladly connect y'all because we

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Speaker 1: need to hige Rack can help you, because we need

906
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Speaker 1: to gotta get better. A hundred and three Uber drivers

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Speaker 1: and eighteen Love drivers. That's that's to me, that's been

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Speaker 1: accused of as all It should be none at all.

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Speaker 1: If anything, you trus should good and be able at y'all.

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Speaker 1: Until next time later