1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,480 Speaker 1: My husband just won a multi million dollar court case. 2 00:00:03,880 --> 00:00:06,520 Speaker 2: I want to leave him. Ah, good, good timing. 3 00:00:06,680 --> 00:00:09,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe you'll get half, so throw away for privacy. 4 00:00:09,920 --> 00:00:12,600 Speaker 1: My thirty two female husband thirty six Mail was in 5 00:00:12,640 --> 00:00:15,080 Speaker 1: a work accident several years ago, and he won a 6 00:00:15,200 --> 00:00:18,959 Speaker 1: court case in which he was awarded a thumb in 7 00:00:19,079 --> 00:00:21,360 Speaker 1: the multi millions of dollars. 8 00:00:21,440 --> 00:00:23,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, congratulation. 9 00:00:23,880 --> 00:00:25,360 Speaker 1: My husband and I live in the US and have 10 00:00:25,440 --> 00:00:29,000 Speaker 1: been struggling for years, especially since his accident, since he 11 00:00:29,120 --> 00:00:31,600 Speaker 1: hasn't been able to work a job in his specialty, 12 00:00:31,640 --> 00:00:34,560 Speaker 1: since he's mainly been working minimum to low weight. 13 00:00:34,840 --> 00:00:38,240 Speaker 2: I was laughing at Dakota. I was trying to even 14 00:00:38,280 --> 00:00:40,320 Speaker 2: when I apologize, I can't do it right. 15 00:00:40,440 --> 00:00:43,479 Speaker 1: Mane says, you literally asked if hitting was worse than 16 00:00:43,479 --> 00:00:44,160 Speaker 1: adult three. 17 00:00:44,320 --> 00:00:45,479 Speaker 2: I'm asking you, guys. 18 00:00:45,680 --> 00:00:48,280 Speaker 3: Yeah, this is a conversation starter, This is a conversation 19 00:00:48,400 --> 00:00:52,320 Speaker 3: start here around the dinner table. Gosh, we know what's worse. 20 00:00:52,400 --> 00:00:54,280 Speaker 3: We know what's worse. We just want to make sure 21 00:00:54,440 --> 00:00:59,680 Speaker 3: everyone knows. Would you rather? Yeah, it took by the tearless. 22 00:01:00,400 --> 00:01:05,319 Speaker 2: I like how that also looked like, oh okay, guys, 23 00:01:05,600 --> 00:01:11,320 Speaker 2: we are trying our best. All of them are bad 24 00:01:11,880 --> 00:01:17,440 Speaker 2: everyone's just telling me to stop talking. What's going on? Okay? 25 00:01:17,640 --> 00:01:20,600 Speaker 2: All right, ugly old bats during adultery. 26 00:01:21,000 --> 00:01:29,240 Speaker 4: Oh no, no, alright, already okay, are you guys ready? 27 00:01:29,360 --> 00:01:29,679 Speaker 2: Alright? 28 00:01:29,760 --> 00:01:34,319 Speaker 1: So he's mainly been working minimum to low wage jobs 29 00:01:34,319 --> 00:01:36,560 Speaker 1: because it's greed and trade experience are in the industry. 30 00:01:36,680 --> 00:01:40,040 Speaker 1: His body can no longer work it. I make pretty 31 00:01:40,120 --> 00:01:43,800 Speaker 1: good money, but again, we live in the economical healthcape 32 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:47,080 Speaker 1: that is America. By the way, this comes from deleted 33 00:01:47,160 --> 00:01:51,120 Speaker 1: on a tah So in last year since the settlement, 34 00:01:51,240 --> 00:01:54,560 Speaker 1: my husband has become the most smug, stuck up, pretentious 35 00:01:54,600 --> 00:01:56,480 Speaker 1: man I've ever known, and I'm sick of it. Our 36 00:01:56,520 --> 00:01:58,960 Speaker 1: friends and family aren't good enough for us anymore because 37 00:01:59,000 --> 00:02:01,080 Speaker 1: now we have money. Our home and cars and clothes 38 00:02:01,080 --> 00:02:03,720 Speaker 1: weren't good enough for us. And anyone with a small house, 39 00:02:03,760 --> 00:02:07,480 Speaker 1: paid off car or mall clothes was sad and depressing. 40 00:02:07,840 --> 00:02:12,680 Speaker 2: I mean yeah, No, he's not wrong, I mean, I 41 00:02:12,720 --> 00:02:13,799 Speaker 2: mean he is wrong. 42 00:02:13,880 --> 00:02:19,280 Speaker 1: Wow, Dakona. No, he judges people hard and he's not 43 00:02:19,400 --> 00:02:21,440 Speaker 1: quiet about it. He's meet and rude to people we 44 00:02:21,480 --> 00:02:24,320 Speaker 1: interact with. Of course, we got nicer things when he 45 00:02:24,440 --> 00:02:27,360 Speaker 1: received his money, but he was adamant on luxury things. 46 00:02:27,480 --> 00:02:29,440 Speaker 1: To him, anyone who doesn't live in a mansion on 47 00:02:29,480 --> 00:02:31,480 Speaker 1: the hills with Lamborghini and Gucci. 48 00:02:31,200 --> 00:02:32,480 Speaker 2: Shoes is embarrassing. 49 00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:34,680 Speaker 1: He gets upset with me for not wanting to spend 50 00:02:34,680 --> 00:02:35,680 Speaker 1: crazy amounts of money. 51 00:02:35,760 --> 00:02:36,880 Speaker 2: Why would I spend two. 52 00:02:36,720 --> 00:02:39,000 Speaker 1: Thousand dollars on a bear of shoes when I could 53 00:02:39,000 --> 00:02:40,760 Speaker 1: get a pair for like sixty bucks. It feels like 54 00:02:40,800 --> 00:02:43,239 Speaker 1: giving a child with no concept of money twenty bucks 55 00:02:43,280 --> 00:02:45,040 Speaker 1: and setting them freeing the dollar tree. 56 00:02:45,200 --> 00:02:46,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, it sounds about right. 57 00:02:46,400 --> 00:02:48,720 Speaker 1: He's bought me a ton of expensive clothes and jewelry, 58 00:02:48,760 --> 00:02:51,519 Speaker 1: new electronics, he pays for high end SPA days, and 59 00:02:51,639 --> 00:02:52,560 Speaker 1: even bought me a new car. 60 00:02:52,720 --> 00:02:54,400 Speaker 2: Kind of sounds lit a little bit. Well, I mean 61 00:02:54,440 --> 00:02:57,160 Speaker 2: it sounds lit, but it also sounds like every story 62 00:02:57,160 --> 00:02:59,480 Speaker 2: you've ever heard of, like how did this person win 63 00:02:59,560 --> 00:03:02,400 Speaker 2: the lottery and then go completeah bros? Like, I mean, 64 00:03:02,440 --> 00:03:04,880 Speaker 2: he's just going insane with the money. 65 00:03:05,080 --> 00:03:07,840 Speaker 1: I feel like an ungrateful bee for saying this, But 66 00:03:07,919 --> 00:03:12,480 Speaker 1: I don't really like the gifts because money's not everything, guy, exactly. 67 00:03:12,720 --> 00:03:14,880 Speaker 1: Nothing is my styl or taste, and he's buying it 68 00:03:14,919 --> 00:03:18,160 Speaker 1: because it's expensive. My husband harasses me daily to quit 69 00:03:18,200 --> 00:03:20,160 Speaker 1: the job I love, and says that I make us 70 00:03:20,160 --> 00:03:23,360 Speaker 1: look bad by working and making us still look poor. 71 00:03:23,600 --> 00:03:25,280 Speaker 1: He gets upset if I want to go to the 72 00:03:25,280 --> 00:03:28,360 Speaker 1: same chain restaurants we've always liked Buffalo Wild Wings, Jack 73 00:03:28,360 --> 00:03:30,760 Speaker 1: in the Box, et cetera, instead of five star Michelin 74 00:03:30,840 --> 00:03:33,320 Speaker 1: steakhouses and sushi places because we could afford it. 75 00:03:33,360 --> 00:03:34,360 Speaker 2: Now not for long. 76 00:03:34,480 --> 00:03:37,520 Speaker 1: Buddy even has gone as far as trying to push 77 00:03:37,600 --> 00:03:40,920 Speaker 1: me towards plastic surgery because we can afford it, so 78 00:03:40,920 --> 00:03:44,720 Speaker 1: why not. He suggested a boob job, a BBL lip filler, 79 00:03:44,720 --> 00:03:47,520 Speaker 1: and at one point that surgery where they remove the 80 00:03:47,560 --> 00:03:49,760 Speaker 1: bottom rib for him or for you? 81 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:54,040 Speaker 2: Yeah? Yeah, what, I think it's probably for him, you 82 00:03:54,080 --> 00:03:56,480 Speaker 2: know what? I think that I think that might be 83 00:03:56,720 --> 00:04:01,120 Speaker 2: also visus that can give me. I think that's a 84 00:04:01,160 --> 00:04:06,040 Speaker 2: myth first and second what the rib removal for self? 85 00:04:06,720 --> 00:04:11,640 Speaker 2: Self haw hawk to self hawk doing? But I think 86 00:04:11,680 --> 00:04:13,640 Speaker 2: maybe if you remove the bottom ribb it makes your 87 00:04:13,760 --> 00:04:17,120 Speaker 2: way like you waist longer or like thinner. Yeah, I 88 00:04:17,120 --> 00:04:23,040 Speaker 2: don't know. I don't know so far. What what are 89 00:04:23,040 --> 00:04:25,479 Speaker 2: you feeling? What are you feeling? I think that in 90 00:04:25,560 --> 00:04:28,360 Speaker 2: terms of like he's up there? Is he up there? Is? 91 00:04:28,400 --> 00:04:31,479 Speaker 2: He think he's right right now, he's in c I'm 92 00:04:31,480 --> 00:04:32,359 Speaker 2: thinking I thought it. 93 00:04:32,520 --> 00:04:36,120 Speaker 1: I honestly was thinking like d and initially and then 94 00:04:36,160 --> 00:04:38,599 Speaker 1: he said this, and so I feel like it's upgraded twist. 95 00:04:39,080 --> 00:04:41,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, he's just so gross. It's like, what a terrible 96 00:04:41,720 --> 00:04:44,920 Speaker 2: way to find out that your husband is super horrible 97 00:04:45,000 --> 00:04:48,880 Speaker 2: by you become millionaires and now he's intolerable, Like. 98 00:04:49,480 --> 00:04:51,080 Speaker 1: I feel like he's starting to think I don't look 99 00:04:51,120 --> 00:04:53,480 Speaker 1: good enough for him in our new lifestyle. We've gone 100 00:04:53,480 --> 00:04:57,159 Speaker 1: to couple's therapy. His attitude isn't improving, it's even getting worse. 101 00:04:57,240 --> 00:04:59,800 Speaker 1: And I'm miserable. This is not the man I'm married. 102 00:05:00,040 --> 00:05:01,640 Speaker 1: I don't want to have kids and raise the family 103 00:05:01,680 --> 00:05:04,120 Speaker 1: with him, but I'm afraid that if I leave, everyone 104 00:05:04,240 --> 00:05:06,640 Speaker 1: will cry. Gold Digger. We married when we were young 105 00:05:06,680 --> 00:05:09,839 Speaker 1: and broke and didn't consider a prenup because we had nothing. Dumb, 106 00:05:09,880 --> 00:05:11,920 Speaker 1: I know, but we had kids. Am I the a hole? 107 00:05:12,200 --> 00:05:13,760 Speaker 1: Not the a hole for leaving because this guy kind 108 00:05:13,800 --> 00:05:14,119 Speaker 1: of sucks? 109 00:05:14,160 --> 00:05:16,320 Speaker 2: Wait, but so if you don't have a prenup, then 110 00:05:16,360 --> 00:05:16,920 Speaker 2: if you leave? 111 00:05:17,200 --> 00:05:19,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, But she's like, like, I want to leave him, 112 00:05:19,480 --> 00:05:20,840 Speaker 1: but if I leave, I get half. 113 00:05:20,960 --> 00:05:23,240 Speaker 2: Oh is that not? I think? I just mix that 114 00:05:23,320 --> 00:05:25,120 Speaker 2: up in my head really quick. I need to watch 115 00:05:25,160 --> 00:05:28,200 Speaker 2: the movie Liar Liar again to remember how prenuptial agreements work. 116 00:05:28,520 --> 00:05:30,960 Speaker 2: But like a prenup would mean like he would, then 117 00:05:31,040 --> 00:05:32,440 Speaker 2: just don't take all the money. If that's what you're 118 00:05:32,440 --> 00:05:34,120 Speaker 2: worried about, just don't take all the money. Let him 119 00:05:34,120 --> 00:05:36,640 Speaker 2: have it, and he's gonna be flat broke anyway. So 120 00:05:36,640 --> 00:05:39,719 Speaker 2: maybe honestly take the money, sad the money provide for 121 00:05:39,760 --> 00:05:42,120 Speaker 2: your family after he spends it all. Yeah, because at 122 00:05:42,160 --> 00:05:44,760 Speaker 2: this point it's like he's just gonna spend all of 123 00:05:44,800 --> 00:05:48,320 Speaker 2: that money on nonsense. Yeah, so it's like you might 124 00:05:48,400 --> 00:05:49,720 Speaker 2: as well take as much of it as you can 125 00:05:49,720 --> 00:05:51,440 Speaker 2: because you're gonna spend it better than him. 126 00:05:51,480 --> 00:05:55,200 Speaker 1: Clearly, I think you talk to him about like, hey, 127 00:05:55,240 --> 00:05:57,760 Speaker 1: I really don't like these spending habits. I don't like 128 00:05:57,800 --> 00:06:00,480 Speaker 1: what you're valuing. If like I don't, it's making me 129 00:06:00,600 --> 00:06:02,520 Speaker 1: question if we're we're right for each other. 130 00:06:03,160 --> 00:06:06,720 Speaker 2: Maybe maybe therapy could help this guy, well some kind 131 00:06:06,760 --> 00:06:09,880 Speaker 2: of just like fleet switch up where it's like now 132 00:06:09,960 --> 00:06:12,919 Speaker 2: that I mean, was he always this way? What? He 133 00:06:13,040 --> 00:06:14,640 Speaker 2: just never had the money? I think he didn't have 134 00:06:14,680 --> 00:06:17,680 Speaker 2: the ability to be this way? Mm hmm, yeah, I 135 00:06:17,720 --> 00:06:20,039 Speaker 2: think I think you see I think. 136 00:06:19,880 --> 00:06:23,400 Speaker 1: See firmly, what do you guys think see Tier or 137 00:06:23,480 --> 00:06:26,479 Speaker 1: d Tier, because see Tier was the guy that left 138 00:06:26,520 --> 00:06:29,919 Speaker 1: his wife in the hospital when she was giving birth. 139 00:06:30,279 --> 00:06:33,039 Speaker 2: Is it Is it as bad as that? So hard? 140 00:06:33,080 --> 00:06:37,159 Speaker 2: Is it worse? I think that just just I think 141 00:06:37,160 --> 00:06:40,240 Speaker 2: it's just in terms of how bad, like the switch 142 00:06:40,360 --> 00:06:42,400 Speaker 2: up was where it was like you went from I 143 00:06:42,480 --> 00:06:44,440 Speaker 2: love this guy and we're gonna have kids and we're 144 00:06:44,440 --> 00:06:46,719 Speaker 2: gonna have a family, to like, oh, he's like the 145 00:06:46,760 --> 00:06:51,800 Speaker 2: worst guy I've had, like a cartoonishly just lame persa. 146 00:06:52,080 --> 00:06:54,440 Speaker 2: Now that he has money and it's like, oh, you 147 00:06:54,480 --> 00:06:57,799 Speaker 2: don't want the two thousand dollars shoes? Why because you're poor? 148 00:06:58,279 --> 00:07:03,440 Speaker 1: And it's like what, yeah, pretty, I feel like I 149 00:07:03,440 --> 00:07:06,320 Speaker 1: don't like this guy. People are saying d or even 150 00:07:06,400 --> 00:07:06,880 Speaker 1: eat here. 151 00:07:07,040 --> 00:07:10,920 Speaker 2: They're like, he's trying to change his wife too, yeah, 152 00:07:11,200 --> 00:07:12,960 Speaker 2: which is still why he's on the list. These are 153 00:07:13,360 --> 00:07:16,960 Speaker 2: as a reminder all these people are terrible, Yes, bad 154 00:07:17,080 --> 00:07:18,000 Speaker 2: people all around. 155 00:07:18,680 --> 00:07:22,440 Speaker 3: I guess changing your wife or abandon your wife, which 156 00:07:22,440 --> 00:07:22,960 Speaker 3: one's worse? 157 00:07:23,280 --> 00:07:26,480 Speaker 1: I think offering to pay for I think abandoning your 158 00:07:26,480 --> 00:07:30,840 Speaker 1: wife during childbirth is worse. Than offering to give your 159 00:07:30,840 --> 00:07:33,840 Speaker 1: wife a BBL D or the same. I think D, D, 160 00:07:34,080 --> 00:07:34,520 Speaker 1: I think D. 161 00:07:34,840 --> 00:07:37,840 Speaker 2: I think D. Maybe I think D, but will reassess. 162 00:07:37,920 --> 00:07:42,000 Speaker 2: I think I think D for right now. But he 163 00:07:42,120 --> 00:07:44,160 Speaker 2: just sounds so annoying, like I want him to be 164 00:07:44,200 --> 00:07:44,720 Speaker 2: in C T here. 165 00:07:44,880 --> 00:07:48,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, he's glitter, not saying he's literally telling her to 166 00:07:48,160 --> 00:07:50,000 Speaker 1: get plastic surgery, which is why he's on the list. 167 00:07:50,040 --> 00:07:52,360 Speaker 1: That's like, that's pretty fed up. But I'm feeling it's 168 00:07:52,400 --> 00:07:55,200 Speaker 1: not as bad as it's not. I don't think it's 169 00:07:55,240 --> 00:07:59,160 Speaker 1: the same caliber as leaving your wife during childbirth. 170 00:07:59,200 --> 00:08:01,440 Speaker 2: Guys, go vote in the poll, go vote. And the 171 00:08:01,480 --> 00:08:03,600 Speaker 2: only reason that's in C tears because he was like 172 00:08:03,640 --> 00:08:06,600 Speaker 2: apologetic about it. Yeah, exactly. Thing came back and we 173 00:08:06,640 --> 00:08:08,600 Speaker 2: think there might be some more stuff going on with that, 174 00:08:08,720 --> 00:08:11,960 Speaker 2: so it ended up in C cool. So we're gonna 175 00:08:11,960 --> 00:08:14,239 Speaker 2: take We're gonna take D. Yeah, D. And some people 176 00:08:14,240 --> 00:08:16,800 Speaker 2: are even saying E. So as we get some more 177 00:08:16,840 --> 00:08:20,320 Speaker 2: stories up, we might be able to drop that down again. Yeah, 178 00:08:20,680 --> 00:08:21,800 Speaker 2: as we have more comparatives. 179 00:08:21,840 --> 00:08:23,840 Speaker 3: We couldn't vote everyone for the story. 180 00:08:23,600 --> 00:08:26,320 Speaker 2: But we got a BBL is a Brazilian butt lift. 181 00:08:26,800 --> 00:08:27,400 Speaker 3: So thank you. 182 00:08:27,520 --> 00:08:28,800 Speaker 2: It looks like a booty left. 183 00:08:28,840 --> 00:08:31,000 Speaker 3: It looks like what Keon has, but he doesn't have one. 184 00:08:31,040 --> 00:08:32,120 Speaker 3: That's just all Nat, that's all. 185 00:08:32,160 --> 00:08:34,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, he's just got a couple of Christmas hands in 186 00:08:34,160 --> 00:08:38,720 Speaker 2: his back pocket. Okay, I canceled all our streaming services 187 00:08:38,760 --> 00:08:46,840 Speaker 2: and hired a house cleaner because my husband's lazy. My 188 00:08:47,120 --> 00:08:51,439 Speaker 2: twenty eight female and my husband thirty mail just welcomed 189 00:08:51,720 --> 00:08:55,080 Speaker 2: our first baby almost three months ago. Understandably, it has 190 00:08:55,080 --> 00:08:57,520 Speaker 2: been a huge adjustment for both of us. She's still 191 00:08:57,559 --> 00:09:00,360 Speaker 2: not sleeping through the night, and we're both back to 192 00:09:00,520 --> 00:09:04,040 Speaker 2: work full time. We have always split the household responsibilities 193 00:09:04,080 --> 00:09:06,959 Speaker 2: fifty to fifty. We just help where needed, and it's 194 00:09:07,000 --> 00:09:11,520 Speaker 2: always worked out well. Okay, everything's running smoothly. Everything's running 195 00:09:11,679 --> 00:09:14,680 Speaker 2: very sale. By the way, this comes from user kk 196 00:09:14,880 --> 00:09:17,800 Speaker 2: ok fifty five five on the r m I the 197 00:09:17,880 --> 00:09:21,000 Speaker 2: a Hole subreddit. So lately my husband has been doing 198 00:09:21,080 --> 00:09:24,000 Speaker 2: the chores terribly and I've had to come behind him 199 00:09:24,040 --> 00:09:28,120 Speaker 2: to fix things or clean them again. A little weaponized incompetent. Yeah, 200 00:09:28,160 --> 00:09:30,160 Speaker 2: perhaps I'm just a little baby. I don't want to 201 00:09:30,200 --> 00:09:36,400 Speaker 2: do I don't know how it is writing were crazy. 202 00:09:36,640 --> 00:09:40,400 Speaker 2: For example, he cleaned the bottles the other night, the 203 00:09:40,480 --> 00:09:45,600 Speaker 2: baby bottles, and they were cleaned. They were clean. Yeah, 204 00:09:45,640 --> 00:09:53,480 Speaker 2: I was like, polished off of the vodka. Yeah, he was. Yeah, 205 00:09:53,640 --> 00:09:57,040 Speaker 2: he's putting that. They don't put that in a baby bottle. Okay, well, 206 00:09:57,160 --> 00:09:59,680 Speaker 2: you know what, the baby baby night night quila. They 207 00:09:59,720 --> 00:10:04,640 Speaker 2: rub tequila and baby teeth, baby teeth like when their teething. Apparently, Okay, 208 00:10:05,520 --> 00:10:07,960 Speaker 2: that'll get him to be quiet. He cleaned the baby 209 00:10:07,960 --> 00:10:11,200 Speaker 2: bottles so poorly, I had to do them again. Shout 210 00:10:11,200 --> 00:10:12,680 Speaker 2: out to my mom, by the way, for coming up 211 00:10:12,720 --> 00:10:15,679 Speaker 2: with that joke. That's not even my joke. Giving babies 212 00:10:15,720 --> 00:10:18,880 Speaker 2: like Jack Daniels to make them sleep just a joke. 213 00:10:19,200 --> 00:10:19,640 Speaker 2: But it's not. 214 00:10:20,040 --> 00:10:22,280 Speaker 1: They used to give alcohol to babies. It's a joke, 215 00:10:22,600 --> 00:10:24,240 Speaker 1: not a joke. Today it's a joke. 216 00:10:24,520 --> 00:10:27,160 Speaker 2: People still do it. I don't condone it. I don't 217 00:10:27,160 --> 00:10:30,120 Speaker 2: think it's good. Not good. I don't know. 218 00:10:30,160 --> 00:10:33,840 Speaker 1: I haven't the doctor probably giving alcohol to babies. 219 00:10:33,960 --> 00:10:38,720 Speaker 2: The bats. Stop giving alcohol the baby, Sam anyway, Stop, 220 00:10:40,000 --> 00:10:50,960 Speaker 2: that's not okay. He dropped pump parts down the disposal 221 00:10:51,040 --> 00:10:55,439 Speaker 2: and then ran it, ruining them. Not the breast pump. 222 00:10:55,280 --> 00:10:57,000 Speaker 3: That's automatic, guess too, right there. 223 00:10:57,240 --> 00:10:59,160 Speaker 2: No, have you ever had a pump in your life. 224 00:10:59,320 --> 00:11:01,560 Speaker 2: Do you like to pump it up? Riley? I know 225 00:11:01,600 --> 00:11:05,520 Speaker 2: that you've got the milk. Anyways, going, Yeah, there have 226 00:11:05,600 --> 00:11:08,679 Speaker 2: been several clothes that he didn't clean after a blowout 227 00:11:08,760 --> 00:11:11,560 Speaker 2: that are now ruined. And I do we all know 228 00:11:11,600 --> 00:11:16,320 Speaker 2: what a blowout is. A Brazilian blowout. Okay, the diaper 229 00:11:17,200 --> 00:11:21,760 Speaker 2: does not contain alloy and it goes up the back, 230 00:11:22,280 --> 00:11:23,480 Speaker 2: thus ruining the clothing. 231 00:11:23,840 --> 00:11:24,240 Speaker 4: oOoOO. 232 00:11:24,840 --> 00:11:29,120 Speaker 3: It happened in the office whenever Pam and Jim were 233 00:11:29,400 --> 00:11:31,560 Speaker 3: doing the baptism for their baby and they had to 234 00:11:31,600 --> 00:11:33,640 Speaker 3: give it a T shirt because it ruined their outfit. 235 00:11:34,000 --> 00:11:39,880 Speaker 2: A nice nice that's right, Sam. There are many more 236 00:11:39,920 --> 00:11:42,920 Speaker 2: instances like this. I've confronted him a few times, letting 237 00:11:42,960 --> 00:11:44,679 Speaker 2: him know we all make mistakes, and I know we're 238 00:11:44,679 --> 00:11:46,880 Speaker 2: both tired, but it feels like he's not even trying 239 00:11:46,920 --> 00:11:49,320 Speaker 2: to do things well. He just keeps saying he's so 240 00:11:49,559 --> 00:11:51,959 Speaker 2: tired and is having a hard time working and taking 241 00:11:52,000 --> 00:11:54,600 Speaker 2: care of the house and the baby. I do sympathize 242 00:11:54,640 --> 00:11:58,000 Speaker 2: with this, as I'm also working, pumping, recovering, and taking 243 00:11:58,040 --> 00:11:59,800 Speaker 2: care of the house and the baby. The final s 244 00:12:00,040 --> 00:12:01,360 Speaker 2: off for me was when he told me to go 245 00:12:01,440 --> 00:12:04,160 Speaker 2: to sleep, and he'd put up the milk. I just 246 00:12:04,280 --> 00:12:07,600 Speaker 2: pumped and finished the dishes. I was so grateful until 247 00:12:07,600 --> 00:12:09,400 Speaker 2: I got up and realized the milk had been sitting 248 00:12:09,440 --> 00:12:13,640 Speaker 2: on the counter, and at this point good anymore. And 249 00:12:13,679 --> 00:12:17,800 Speaker 2: then he he drank all the milk that was sitting 250 00:12:17,800 --> 00:12:21,600 Speaker 2: on the counter. Would be sweet, right, He's just he 251 00:12:21,679 --> 00:12:23,840 Speaker 2: loves you so much. He said he was sorry, and 252 00:12:23,840 --> 00:12:26,400 Speaker 2: he put on a show to uh to relax for 253 00:12:26,440 --> 00:12:30,720 Speaker 2: a bit before doing the dishes, and fell asleep. The 254 00:12:30,800 --> 00:12:34,280 Speaker 2: next day, I decided to cancel all of our streaming services, 255 00:12:34,320 --> 00:12:37,160 Speaker 2: PlayStation Plus, and our theme park passes in order to 256 00:12:37,240 --> 00:12:39,920 Speaker 2: hire a housekeeper. I figured, if he's too tired to 257 00:12:39,960 --> 00:12:43,840 Speaker 2: do basic household chores, then a housekeeper is necessary. If 258 00:12:43,840 --> 00:12:45,600 Speaker 2: he's too tired to put milk up, then he's too 259 00:12:45,640 --> 00:12:47,440 Speaker 2: tired to play video games or for us to go 260 00:12:47,480 --> 00:12:48,760 Speaker 2: to a theme park. Agreed. 261 00:12:48,920 --> 00:12:51,520 Speaker 1: Agree, I guess that's fair consequences for your actions. But 262 00:12:51,559 --> 00:12:54,160 Speaker 1: it does feel like she's punishing a child. But he 263 00:12:54,320 --> 00:12:55,400 Speaker 1: is acting a little bit like a. 264 00:12:55,920 --> 00:12:57,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, he's like he's one of the kids kind of husband. 265 00:12:58,480 --> 00:13:01,120 Speaker 2: He's like, oh, but babe, I'm just trd from work, 266 00:13:01,200 --> 00:13:04,680 Speaker 2: and you're like Oh, you're tired from all the stuff 267 00:13:04,720 --> 00:13:07,400 Speaker 2: that I do? Then, also all the stuff you don't 268 00:13:07,400 --> 00:13:11,120 Speaker 2: do that I do. That's crazy. Also, how you have 269 00:13:11,280 --> 00:13:12,839 Speaker 2: passes to a theme park when you just had a 270 00:13:12,920 --> 00:13:15,120 Speaker 2: kid for three months ago. I don't know. Anyway, we 271 00:13:15,200 --> 00:13:18,440 Speaker 2: still have a cable and the PlayStation games and can 272 00:13:18,480 --> 00:13:21,640 Speaker 2: do other activities outside of the local theme park. He 273 00:13:21,720 --> 00:13:23,520 Speaker 2: blew up at me and said I had no right 274 00:13:23,640 --> 00:13:26,320 Speaker 2: doing that, and was furious. I thought I was doing 275 00:13:26,400 --> 00:13:28,400 Speaker 2: us a favor so we can get more sleep and 276 00:13:28,440 --> 00:13:31,760 Speaker 2: not worry as much about household tasks. So am I 277 00:13:31,800 --> 00:13:35,520 Speaker 2: the a hole for hiring a housekeeper without asking? There 278 00:13:35,559 --> 00:13:38,160 Speaker 2: isn't at it. I see a lot of comments about communication. 279 00:13:38,360 --> 00:13:41,680 Speaker 2: I've been communicating NonStop about my needs and my expectations. 280 00:13:42,000 --> 00:13:43,839 Speaker 2: I've let a lot of mistakes slide because I know 281 00:13:43,920 --> 00:13:45,680 Speaker 2: this is hard for both of us, But when it 282 00:13:45,679 --> 00:13:48,000 Speaker 2: becomes a daily thing, I let him know if he's 283 00:13:48,080 --> 00:13:50,559 Speaker 2: unable to do his part, then I need additional help. 284 00:13:50,880 --> 00:13:52,839 Speaker 2: I mentioned hiring some help, and he laughed and said, 285 00:13:52,920 --> 00:13:55,000 Speaker 2: what a ridiculous waste of money. And I knew if 286 00:13:55,000 --> 00:13:56,920 Speaker 2: I asked again the answer would be no. So I 287 00:13:57,040 --> 00:13:58,679 Speaker 2: made the decision for both of us. 288 00:13:58,840 --> 00:14:01,600 Speaker 1: Honey be eighty five says she's single, mom of two kids, 289 00:14:01,800 --> 00:14:03,040 Speaker 1: which feels true. 290 00:14:03,360 --> 00:14:06,359 Speaker 2: Is she the a hole for hiring a housekeeper? 291 00:14:06,480 --> 00:14:09,800 Speaker 1: Like I gues You could say like, oh, she's not communicating, 292 00:14:10,040 --> 00:14:11,720 Speaker 1: but she did, and like it's. 293 00:14:11,559 --> 00:14:14,560 Speaker 2: Just mad that she canceled the PlayStation plus man, Yeah, 294 00:14:14,600 --> 00:14:16,480 Speaker 2: it's like I, No, I can't play my games online 295 00:14:16,559 --> 00:14:17,760 Speaker 2: with my friend. I'm not. 296 00:14:18,080 --> 00:14:20,480 Speaker 1: I feel like it's I feel like she's not the 297 00:14:20,880 --> 00:14:23,200 Speaker 1: A hole because she's try trying to solve a problem 298 00:14:23,240 --> 00:14:24,560 Speaker 1: that he's not helping with. 299 00:14:24,760 --> 00:14:26,200 Speaker 2: No, she's not the ale. 300 00:14:26,200 --> 00:14:27,600 Speaker 1: I don't think the A hole. I don't think the 301 00:14:27,600 --> 00:14:28,520 Speaker 1: A hole. But I would love to know what you 302 00:14:28,560 --> 00:14:30,840 Speaker 1: guys think. Put your answers than the Is there more 303 00:14:30,840 --> 00:14:31,280 Speaker 1: to the story? 304 00:14:31,400 --> 00:14:34,600 Speaker 2: There is a little bit more into this edit, let's see. Also, 305 00:14:34,680 --> 00:14:37,040 Speaker 2: I didn't throw away the TV or the PlayStation. I 306 00:14:37,120 --> 00:14:39,560 Speaker 2: just canceled our subscriptions to them. We were paying around 307 00:14:39,560 --> 00:14:42,640 Speaker 2: one hundred dollars between the two. Our internet includes a 308 00:14:42,640 --> 00:14:44,920 Speaker 2: handful of cable channels in peaks, so we have plenty 309 00:14:44,920 --> 00:14:47,320 Speaker 2: of PlayStation games that we can still play. We both 310 00:14:47,320 --> 00:14:50,600 Speaker 2: play video games and watch TV. I probably watch more 311 00:14:50,680 --> 00:14:53,600 Speaker 2: on streaming, so canceling them affects both of us. House 312 00:14:53,680 --> 00:14:56,280 Speaker 2: Keeping is three hundred dollars a month, and everything I canceled, 313 00:14:56,320 --> 00:14:59,080 Speaker 2: including Disney passes, is about two hundred and thirty, so 314 00:14:59,160 --> 00:15:02,320 Speaker 2: it won't be as much of a financial burden. Plus 315 00:15:02,480 --> 00:15:05,480 Speaker 2: it will save more money as well, since I won't 316 00:15:05,520 --> 00:15:11,680 Speaker 2: have to replace destroyed pump parts, clothes, and breast milk. Okay, 317 00:15:12,360 --> 00:15:13,400 Speaker 2: now that is the end. 318 00:15:13,560 --> 00:15:17,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, I would say not the a whole. She's trying 319 00:15:17,040 --> 00:15:19,880 Speaker 1: to solve a problem, you know, And in terms of 320 00:15:20,080 --> 00:15:23,280 Speaker 1: tears happened, I'm thinking, I mean, it's I think it's 321 00:15:23,320 --> 00:15:26,840 Speaker 1: not it's it's but I'm thinking F T here, Like, 322 00:15:27,000 --> 00:15:31,400 Speaker 1: I think it's like he's bad and he's incompetent, but 323 00:15:32,000 --> 00:15:34,240 Speaker 1: he's not as bad as the person that's like you 324 00:15:34,240 --> 00:15:36,440 Speaker 1: should remove a rib and get a Brazilian butt left. 325 00:15:36,880 --> 00:15:37,080 Speaker 5: Yeah. 326 00:15:37,120 --> 00:15:38,800 Speaker 2: Actually, I think I think you're right. I think it 327 00:15:38,880 --> 00:15:44,200 Speaker 2: might be an F. I think this might be any Yeah, 328 00:15:44,240 --> 00:15:45,800 Speaker 2: what do you guys think? Was that for the last 329 00:15:45,840 --> 00:15:47,160 Speaker 2: one or this one? 330 00:15:47,320 --> 00:15:52,920 Speaker 3: See you think C Everyone says C D and L is. 331 00:15:53,840 --> 00:15:55,000 Speaker 2: I'm feeling you're right. 332 00:15:55,080 --> 00:15:57,120 Speaker 1: So if you're saying D, that means you think it's 333 00:15:57,240 --> 00:15:59,440 Speaker 1: as bad as the guy that was like you should 334 00:15:59,440 --> 00:16:02,520 Speaker 1: get a Brazilian butt lift, and he's like basically telling 335 00:16:02,560 --> 00:16:06,840 Speaker 1: you to change how she looks. And then see is 336 00:16:06,880 --> 00:16:11,280 Speaker 1: the guy that left his pregnant wife during freaking labor. 337 00:16:11,480 --> 00:16:15,520 Speaker 1: So I'm I'm feeling it seems like everyone bowling is 338 00:16:15,960 --> 00:16:18,720 Speaker 1: or not everyone, but it seems like most people are 339 00:16:18,760 --> 00:16:20,560 Speaker 1: feeling f I think we got our first F. 340 00:16:20,920 --> 00:16:23,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, that might be, might be because he's really it's 341 00:16:23,480 --> 00:16:25,840 Speaker 2: just like what he's like, he's not helping enough around 342 00:16:25,840 --> 00:16:28,400 Speaker 2: the house. And then you took matters in your own 343 00:16:28,440 --> 00:16:30,720 Speaker 2: hands and hired the housekeeper. And then he was just like, 344 00:16:31,480 --> 00:16:34,520 Speaker 2: that's annoying. You shouldn't have done that. But in like, 345 00:16:34,880 --> 00:16:39,080 Speaker 2: m F all right, half, I thought that we got 346 00:16:39,080 --> 00:16:41,560 Speaker 2: our first F. Yeah, that feels good. I was scared 347 00:16:41,560 --> 00:16:43,640 Speaker 2: that we wouldn't. Look, we've got a hold, We've got 348 00:16:43,640 --> 00:16:46,000 Speaker 2: the whole. We got the whole there right now and 349 00:16:46,040 --> 00:16:47,000 Speaker 2: we don't even have to. 350 00:16:47,680 --> 00:16:49,960 Speaker 1: Yeah, but we're doing it. We were doing we're doing it, 351 00:16:50,160 --> 00:16:51,280 Speaker 1: we're doing it. We're just that good. 352 00:16:51,560 --> 00:16:54,880 Speaker 2: I may have accidentally exited out of where we were. 353 00:16:55,040 --> 00:17:05,760 Speaker 6: And Riley hair Bas, we need hairbash, Riley hair. 354 00:17:05,800 --> 00:17:08,480 Speaker 2: Pass, hair Bass. 355 00:17:08,560 --> 00:17:12,960 Speaker 1: You're such a fragile postpartum being makes says say, I'm 356 00:17:12,960 --> 00:17:16,679 Speaker 1: trying vacuuming your nips. You'd understand the pain of pumping. 357 00:17:18,000 --> 00:17:20,159 Speaker 2: Let's do it. I mean that's just someone grabbed the 358 00:17:20,200 --> 00:17:26,560 Speaker 2: vacuum right now. Yeah, that was already on the agenda, Dakota. 359 00:17:26,640 --> 00:17:29,400 Speaker 2: I heard we may be having the same costume for Halloween. 360 00:17:29,440 --> 00:17:31,399 Speaker 2: Is this true? How is that possible? What? What's your 361 00:17:31,440 --> 00:17:35,960 Speaker 2: hot costume? The Colossal Titan? If you knew how to ball? Okay? Cool? Yeah. 362 00:17:36,000 --> 00:17:38,000 Speaker 2: I was like, there's no way that you have my costume? 363 00:17:38,040 --> 00:17:38,960 Speaker 2: All right, cool, cool, call. 364 00:17:39,320 --> 00:17:41,760 Speaker 1: I'm going to be an astronaut, but I'm gonna I 365 00:17:41,920 --> 00:17:44,080 Speaker 1: ordered some like thick booty cheeks. 366 00:17:44,880 --> 00:17:49,199 Speaker 2: No way, I because I do have astronaut and astronaut outfit, 367 00:17:49,280 --> 00:17:52,240 Speaker 2: but I don't know the astronaut costume would be the 368 00:17:52,280 --> 00:17:54,240 Speaker 2: hot choice. But I'm not trying to be trying to 369 00:17:54,480 --> 00:17:55,720 Speaker 2: I'm not trying to do the hot choice. I'm trying 370 00:17:55,720 --> 00:17:59,040 Speaker 2: to do the weird choice. So it's pretty disturbing. I 371 00:17:59,680 --> 00:18:02,800 Speaker 2: wore it, Uh what Saturday? Yeah, I wore it, and 372 00:18:02,840 --> 00:18:07,160 Speaker 2: it is unsettling. Oh, I'm excited to see it. This 373 00:18:07,240 --> 00:18:11,880 Speaker 2: week We're throwing a Halloween party and we're actually throwing 374 00:18:11,920 --> 00:18:14,160 Speaker 2: it on Halloween because we're about it. 375 00:18:14,240 --> 00:18:17,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, and also now we have that access to the 376 00:18:17,040 --> 00:18:19,280 Speaker 1: garage space, and so we're gonna have a dance floor. 377 00:18:19,800 --> 00:18:20,159 Speaker 2: Oh. 378 00:18:20,520 --> 00:18:21,720 Speaker 3: I was like, hey, you want to move in the 379 00:18:21,760 --> 00:18:24,120 Speaker 3: studio that we've been wanting to do for like two months, 380 00:18:24,160 --> 00:18:28,400 Speaker 3: and he's like, no, we're wait after Halloween, after. 381 00:18:28,480 --> 00:18:32,280 Speaker 2: After the dance floor has been appropriately shredded upon dude. 382 00:18:32,600 --> 00:18:34,320 Speaker 3: So we were so eager to get in there. I 383 00:18:34,359 --> 00:18:35,200 Speaker 3: just thought it was funny. 384 00:18:35,400 --> 00:18:37,879 Speaker 1: I mean, we're still eager, but we got as well 385 00:18:37,920 --> 00:18:40,359 Speaker 1: wait like like two more days. We don't even have 386 00:18:40,400 --> 00:18:43,359 Speaker 1: access to it right now, anyway, Are you ready? My 387 00:18:43,440 --> 00:18:46,200 Speaker 1: husband refuses to help with my pregnancy, so I refuse 388 00:18:46,440 --> 00:18:47,760 Speaker 1: to go to his birthday dinner. 389 00:18:48,040 --> 00:18:50,280 Speaker 2: Yeah, happy birthday to nobody loser. 390 00:18:50,359 --> 00:18:53,280 Speaker 1: For context, I will be thirty eight weeks pregnant on 391 00:18:53,320 --> 00:18:57,919 Speaker 1: my husband's birthday this year. The previous week, I reluctantly 392 00:18:58,359 --> 00:19:01,600 Speaker 1: allowed his sister to pick my daughter up school so 393 00:19:01,640 --> 00:19:03,600 Speaker 1: she could spend the day with her and his parents. 394 00:19:03,640 --> 00:19:06,200 Speaker 1: She does half days still. I say reluctantly because they 395 00:19:06,359 --> 00:19:10,320 Speaker 1: have continuously crossed parental boundaries in the past. But that's 396 00:19:10,320 --> 00:19:12,480 Speaker 1: a different story. It had been a while, and she 397 00:19:12,680 --> 00:19:15,080 Speaker 1: loves them, and I truly want them to have a relationships, 398 00:19:15,160 --> 00:19:17,160 Speaker 1: so I gave it another go. Also, this comes from 399 00:19:17,200 --> 00:19:20,439 Speaker 1: otherwise throat six to six two on the am Iva 400 00:19:20,440 --> 00:19:24,080 Speaker 1: Whole subreddit. So anyway, my husband. 401 00:19:24,880 --> 00:19:27,400 Speaker 2: Just cut to me after I made to get out 402 00:19:27,480 --> 00:19:28,159 Speaker 2: get away from me. 403 00:19:28,400 --> 00:19:30,360 Speaker 1: Anyway, my husband and I went to pick her up 404 00:19:30,520 --> 00:19:33,080 Speaker 1: at his parents, and while there, his sister asked what 405 00:19:33,119 --> 00:19:35,639 Speaker 1: he was doing for his birthday coming up. I had 406 00:19:35,680 --> 00:19:38,320 Speaker 1: asked him a number of times already what he wanted 407 00:19:38,359 --> 00:19:40,320 Speaker 1: to do, and had thrown out some ideas for us 408 00:19:40,359 --> 00:19:42,040 Speaker 1: to do as a family as well, but he never 409 00:19:42,080 --> 00:19:44,760 Speaker 1: decided on anything, so he says he doesn't have plans. 410 00:19:44,800 --> 00:19:47,560 Speaker 1: She asked him if he wanted her to make him 411 00:19:47,760 --> 00:19:50,840 Speaker 1: dinner at her apartments, and he said, yeah, that sounds good. 412 00:19:50,880 --> 00:19:53,160 Speaker 1: It would be a family dinner, his parents, her partner 413 00:19:53,200 --> 00:19:55,720 Speaker 1: in our family. All good tonight. He said we could 414 00:19:55,800 --> 00:19:58,280 Speaker 1: drive separately because he doesn't want to leave early. He 415 00:19:58,320 --> 00:20:00,960 Speaker 1: asked me at dinner if I would leave early with 416 00:20:01,080 --> 00:20:03,280 Speaker 1: her daughter so I could put her to bed. He 417 00:20:03,320 --> 00:20:05,880 Speaker 1: wants to stay and drink and smoke and be up late. 418 00:20:06,280 --> 00:20:08,520 Speaker 2: Oh wow, I'll super fun and original. 419 00:20:08,800 --> 00:20:11,719 Speaker 1: This majorly upset me because this whole pregnancy has not 420 00:20:11,880 --> 00:20:15,400 Speaker 1: felt like a partnership whatsoever. He only made one of 421 00:20:15,440 --> 00:20:18,399 Speaker 1: my several old ultrasounds. I'm over thirty five, so we 422 00:20:18,440 --> 00:20:20,760 Speaker 1: get a good amount of them. Works almost every weekend 423 00:20:20,840 --> 00:20:23,679 Speaker 1: voluntarily versus making plans with my daughter and I and 424 00:20:23,800 --> 00:20:26,920 Speaker 1: put off things I physically cannot do for the nursery 425 00:20:27,040 --> 00:20:29,520 Speaker 1: until the third trimester. I've been asking him to do 426 00:20:29,600 --> 00:20:31,880 Speaker 1: since the first. I've also asked him to look into 427 00:20:31,880 --> 00:20:33,840 Speaker 1: ways he can support me during birth, and not a 428 00:20:33,960 --> 00:20:36,560 Speaker 1: single Google search has been made to that effect. 429 00:20:36,760 --> 00:20:37,480 Speaker 2: I'm not sure if. 430 00:20:37,400 --> 00:20:40,600 Speaker 1: I'm being baby crazy pregnant lady, but it certainly feels 431 00:20:40,640 --> 00:20:43,320 Speaker 1: like he just wants to do whatever he wants without 432 00:20:43,320 --> 00:20:46,399 Speaker 1: any regard to me carrying this child. He told me 433 00:20:46,440 --> 00:20:48,879 Speaker 1: he desperately wanted I was fine with one, so he 434 00:20:48,960 --> 00:20:49,639 Speaker 1: wanted a couple. 435 00:20:49,760 --> 00:20:51,600 Speaker 2: He just wanted one. Our birthdays are close. 436 00:20:51,760 --> 00:20:54,359 Speaker 1: The baby's due date is only two days after mine, 437 00:20:54,560 --> 00:20:56,879 Speaker 1: so I'll be forty weeks for my birthday if she 438 00:20:56,960 --> 00:20:59,639 Speaker 1: doesn't decide to arrive before then. So for my birthday, 439 00:20:59,680 --> 00:21:01,840 Speaker 1: I don't to do anything but be pregnant and wait 440 00:21:01,840 --> 00:21:04,199 Speaker 1: for the baby. It would be nice to feel like 441 00:21:04,280 --> 00:21:07,119 Speaker 1: he wants to spend these special occasions with me slash 442 00:21:07,119 --> 00:21:10,240 Speaker 1: my daughter and I. He clearly is not empathetic to 443 00:21:10,280 --> 00:21:12,320 Speaker 1: the fact that I can't go out and do these 444 00:21:12,359 --> 00:21:14,679 Speaker 1: things for this period of time. To be told to 445 00:21:14,680 --> 00:21:19,040 Speaker 1: go home can be hurtful. So basically it's his birthday. Yeah, 446 00:21:19,040 --> 00:21:21,679 Speaker 1: he's having it with the family, and then he wants 447 00:21:21,760 --> 00:21:23,200 Speaker 1: his wife to go home and take care of the 448 00:21:23,280 --> 00:21:24,639 Speaker 1: kids while he smokes and drinks. 449 00:21:24,720 --> 00:21:28,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, his pregnant, pregnant wife, very pregnant wife, Like thirty 450 00:21:28,960 --> 00:21:30,960 Speaker 2: five weeks is pretty pretty far. 451 00:21:31,359 --> 00:21:34,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, do you think so? Do you think? I think, 452 00:21:34,080 --> 00:21:36,600 Speaker 1: like the problem isn't necessarily this birthday though. It's the 453 00:21:36,640 --> 00:21:40,000 Speaker 1: fact that this is like not a isolated case. Like 454 00:21:40,040 --> 00:21:42,639 Speaker 1: maybe if he was super supportive the whole pregnancy and 455 00:21:42,680 --> 00:21:44,320 Speaker 1: he's like, hey, babe, I need like I just need 456 00:21:44,320 --> 00:21:47,399 Speaker 1: a birthday, maybe she would think it was fine. 457 00:21:47,640 --> 00:21:48,800 Speaker 2: But the fact that it's. 458 00:21:48,680 --> 00:21:52,720 Speaker 1: Like it is the same behavior on and on and on, 459 00:21:53,320 --> 00:21:54,120 Speaker 1: that's what's bad. 460 00:21:54,280 --> 00:21:57,920 Speaker 2: That's what it's like completely dismissive of like he's acting 461 00:21:57,960 --> 00:22:00,919 Speaker 2: like she's not even pregnant. Yeah, yeah, she said she was. 462 00:22:00,960 --> 00:22:03,959 Speaker 2: What she's close to pop it, she's a little bit 463 00:22:04,000 --> 00:22:06,399 Speaker 2: older too, so it's like there's there's a little more 464 00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:07,320 Speaker 2: stuff that can go wrong. 465 00:22:07,400 --> 00:22:09,240 Speaker 1: Also, honey, be eighty five says, are we sure he's 466 00:22:09,280 --> 00:22:10,640 Speaker 1: volunteering for extra work. 467 00:22:10,480 --> 00:22:11,360 Speaker 2: And not cheating? 468 00:22:11,600 --> 00:22:14,320 Speaker 1: Pregnancy is where most men and cheat. Yeah, I hope not. 469 00:22:14,400 --> 00:22:17,600 Speaker 2: I hope not. Could be got a little volunteering at 470 00:22:16,840 --> 00:22:19,160 Speaker 2: the cheating center at the bank. 471 00:22:19,600 --> 00:22:21,600 Speaker 1: I told him that in that case, I don't even 472 00:22:21,720 --> 00:22:23,679 Speaker 1: want to be there, and she my daughter, and I 473 00:22:23,800 --> 00:22:25,919 Speaker 1: aren't going to dinner. Honestly, I would not be in 474 00:22:25,920 --> 00:22:28,000 Speaker 1: the mood to celebrate and just get upset anyway. But 475 00:22:28,040 --> 00:22:30,760 Speaker 1: it does constantly feel like, as much as he claims 476 00:22:30,800 --> 00:22:32,840 Speaker 1: to be a family guy, spending quality time with us 477 00:22:32,880 --> 00:22:35,800 Speaker 1: doesn't matter to him, and that's where it ends. 478 00:22:36,160 --> 00:22:36,480 Speaker 2: Mmmm. 479 00:22:37,359 --> 00:22:40,920 Speaker 1: So, I mean to summarize, he is having a birthday, 480 00:22:41,080 --> 00:22:43,199 Speaker 1: he wants to celebrate it with him and his family 481 00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:46,520 Speaker 1: and his daughter and his wife, But after dinner, he 482 00:22:46,640 --> 00:22:48,480 Speaker 1: wants his wife to go home and take care of 483 00:22:48,480 --> 00:22:50,639 Speaker 1: the baby while he like hangs out with like some 484 00:22:50,760 --> 00:22:51,960 Speaker 1: friends and drinks. 485 00:22:51,920 --> 00:22:55,720 Speaker 2: Yeah and becomes sort of intoxicated. And then it's like that, 486 00:22:56,000 --> 00:22:58,280 Speaker 2: So then what happens if like she goes home is 487 00:22:58,280 --> 00:23:00,800 Speaker 2: taking care of the kids. Something happens, Husband's got to 488 00:23:00,800 --> 00:23:03,040 Speaker 2: be there. Husband can't be there now because husband's too 489 00:23:03,080 --> 00:23:06,919 Speaker 2: busy having like a you know, a birthday, trying to 490 00:23:06,920 --> 00:23:09,040 Speaker 2: act like he's in his early twenties at his birthday party, 491 00:23:09,160 --> 00:23:11,640 Speaker 2: like because he's like and I don't know. Look, people's 492 00:23:11,680 --> 00:23:14,520 Speaker 2: minds are complicated. It's like he's he's gonna have this kid, 493 00:23:14,560 --> 00:23:16,480 Speaker 2: and he's like, oh, this might be I mean, she 494 00:23:16,600 --> 00:23:18,400 Speaker 2: only has a daughter too, but it's like, I guess 495 00:23:18,400 --> 00:23:19,240 Speaker 2: this is his kids. 496 00:23:19,320 --> 00:23:21,880 Speaker 1: I have a question for the women in the chat, 497 00:23:21,960 --> 00:23:24,480 Speaker 1: which we mostly are made up of. Would you let 498 00:23:24,520 --> 00:23:27,560 Speaker 1: your husband celebrate his birthday if you were thirty eight 499 00:23:27,560 --> 00:23:30,680 Speaker 1: weeks pregnant in this way so like like wou would 500 00:23:30,720 --> 00:23:34,000 Speaker 1: you say, like, hey, go and drink and smoke, I'll 501 00:23:34,040 --> 00:23:36,560 Speaker 1: take care of the kids. Or would you see that 502 00:23:36,680 --> 00:23:39,440 Speaker 1: as like what are you doing? You're not taking responsibility 503 00:23:39,680 --> 00:23:40,320 Speaker 1: at this point. 504 00:23:40,520 --> 00:23:42,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, chat, let us know if you want to have 505 00:23:42,840 --> 00:23:47,520 Speaker 2: a cool husband or not. I'm curious. I'm curious. I'm curious. 506 00:23:47,640 --> 00:23:50,800 Speaker 2: I mean I would say, as a man and not 507 00:23:50,920 --> 00:23:53,920 Speaker 2: a woman, no, I don't want. I think like you 508 00:23:54,000 --> 00:23:56,000 Speaker 2: gotta be ready to take the responsibility. It's like, oh, yeah, 509 00:23:56,040 --> 00:23:58,600 Speaker 2: your birthday. You can't like turn up on your birthday. 510 00:23:58,720 --> 00:24:01,400 Speaker 2: Get over it. Dude, you're like a grown man. You're 511 00:24:01,440 --> 00:24:04,560 Speaker 2: having a kid in like a matter of weeks. You 512 00:24:04,600 --> 00:24:07,400 Speaker 2: are having a kid. Get over yourself. I think it's 513 00:24:07,400 --> 00:24:09,679 Speaker 2: op there for your wife. So I think if it 514 00:24:09,800 --> 00:24:12,120 Speaker 2: wasn't a pattern, it might be okay. 515 00:24:12,400 --> 00:24:14,760 Speaker 1: So like if this was like a pre negotiated yeah, 516 00:24:14,800 --> 00:24:16,800 Speaker 1: and this just like hey, I want, I want, like 517 00:24:16,840 --> 00:24:18,879 Speaker 1: I want to go out for my birthday. I think 518 00:24:19,280 --> 00:24:23,160 Speaker 1: like maybe that would be fine, But it's because it's 519 00:24:23,200 --> 00:24:26,240 Speaker 1: a pattern of disrespect and we're getting some things from 520 00:24:26,240 --> 00:24:28,960 Speaker 1: a from the chat. So Lena Covenant says no, because 521 00:24:28,960 --> 00:24:32,440 Speaker 1: I'd be pissed. Dutch Casana says, you're you're still an individual. 522 00:24:32,560 --> 00:24:34,879 Speaker 1: I'd let him go. It's his birthday. Actually, can we 523 00:24:34,880 --> 00:24:37,640 Speaker 1: put to a poll, would you let your significant other 524 00:24:37,760 --> 00:24:40,280 Speaker 1: go out on your birthday? I think it's eightier. I 525 00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:43,600 Speaker 1: do think it's a little worse than the one before 526 00:24:43,640 --> 00:24:43,920 Speaker 1: of not. 527 00:24:43,880 --> 00:24:45,760 Speaker 2: Getting I don't think we can put it in see 528 00:24:46,040 --> 00:24:48,639 Speaker 2: don't think. But I think it's just like really lame 529 00:24:48,920 --> 00:24:52,000 Speaker 2: that your husband is sort of taking a back seat 530 00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:54,920 Speaker 2: in all of the like preparation responsibility. 531 00:24:55,040 --> 00:24:57,240 Speaker 1: That's what I think is a big issue. I don't 532 00:24:57,280 --> 00:24:59,600 Speaker 1: think it's necessarily the birth I think the birthday is 533 00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:01,280 Speaker 1: the cl the nation of a bigger issue. 534 00:25:01,359 --> 00:25:04,600 Speaker 2: Yeah. It's like it perfectly like illustrates like what he's 535 00:25:04,640 --> 00:25:06,399 Speaker 2: doing wrong where it's like all the stuff that you 536 00:25:06,400 --> 00:25:08,840 Speaker 2: should have been really enthusiastic about and like doing at 537 00:25:08,880 --> 00:25:11,760 Speaker 2: the beginning, you know, the first trimester. It's like she's 538 00:25:11,800 --> 00:25:15,359 Speaker 2: still asking you to do it, and she's like mondo pregnant. Yeah, 539 00:25:15,359 --> 00:25:17,840 Speaker 2: Like how many weeks is a nine month pregnancy? It 540 00:25:17,920 --> 00:25:20,600 Speaker 2: was fifty two weeks in a year take three. Yeah, 541 00:25:20,640 --> 00:25:23,399 Speaker 2: so she's like two weeks away, which means that you 542 00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:29,119 Speaker 2: could have the like so I think it's it looks like, really, respond, 543 00:25:29,359 --> 00:25:30,479 Speaker 2: what is this? What is this? 544 00:25:30,680 --> 00:25:34,520 Speaker 1: Yes, ninety one percent would let their significant other go 545 00:25:34,560 --> 00:25:36,640 Speaker 1: out on their birthday. I'm like, I think it would 546 00:25:36,680 --> 00:25:41,080 Speaker 1: be okay. The only issue is it's a pattern. It's 547 00:25:41,080 --> 00:25:41,560 Speaker 1: a pattern. 548 00:25:41,760 --> 00:25:43,879 Speaker 2: I don't think it's so much about letting him go 549 00:25:44,000 --> 00:25:46,760 Speaker 2: to his own birthday. I think it's more that he's 550 00:25:46,800 --> 00:25:49,679 Speaker 2: insisting that like he gets a little turned up at 551 00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:53,000 Speaker 2: his birthday. Yeah, and like is leaving the wife and 552 00:25:53,040 --> 00:25:55,760 Speaker 2: the like kind of alone, which I think at a 553 00:25:55,760 --> 00:25:58,480 Speaker 2: point where she could literally just like go into labor 554 00:25:58,520 --> 00:26:00,719 Speaker 2: and now what it's like he's too messed up at 555 00:26:00,720 --> 00:26:02,840 Speaker 2: his birthday party to even take his own wife to 556 00:26:02,880 --> 00:26:04,879 Speaker 2: the hospital or like be there and be present. 557 00:26:05,000 --> 00:26:08,600 Speaker 1: I think because it is a pattern, that's why it's bad. 558 00:26:08,800 --> 00:26:10,600 Speaker 1: I think I'm gonna go eat here. I don't think 559 00:26:10,600 --> 00:26:12,920 Speaker 1: it's as bad as I don't think it's as because 560 00:26:12,920 --> 00:26:14,879 Speaker 1: nothing really as bad as happened. 561 00:26:14,920 --> 00:26:16,960 Speaker 2: It's like E plus D minus. 562 00:26:17,800 --> 00:26:19,679 Speaker 1: But it's not as bad as telling your wife to 563 00:26:19,720 --> 00:26:21,240 Speaker 1: get a BBL. 564 00:26:21,240 --> 00:26:25,359 Speaker 2: No, and it's better than not cleaning the baby bottles. Yeah, 565 00:26:25,400 --> 00:26:28,440 Speaker 2: it's just it's just it's just something I would I 566 00:26:28,480 --> 00:26:30,159 Speaker 2: would have to bring it up and be like, you know, 567 00:26:30,200 --> 00:26:33,919 Speaker 2: I just really don't like how you seem to just 568 00:26:34,080 --> 00:26:38,240 Speaker 2: be really floating through this whole process here where it's 569 00:26:38,280 --> 00:26:39,760 Speaker 2: like everything is just like wait, I will get it 570 00:26:39,800 --> 00:26:42,040 Speaker 2: to it later. It's like, yeah, well later I'm gonna 571 00:26:42,040 --> 00:26:44,439 Speaker 2: be having a baby. Feels he's like we need. 572 00:26:44,359 --> 00:26:48,840 Speaker 1: To engage in the as engaged as she would want 573 00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:51,560 Speaker 1: him to be in the pregnancy. Yeah, and that is 574 00:26:51,800 --> 00:26:53,640 Speaker 1: not where you want to be as a parent. Dutch 575 00:26:53,800 --> 00:26:56,359 Speaker 1: Sana says for the birthday he can choose, but I 576 00:26:56,400 --> 00:26:58,720 Speaker 1: think they need a babysitter so that she can enjoy too, 577 00:26:58,760 --> 00:27:01,920 Speaker 1: instead of sending her home like that. So disrespectful and dismissive. 578 00:27:02,040 --> 00:27:02,320 Speaker 2: SHANEA. 579 00:27:02,359 --> 00:27:04,320 Speaker 1: Holloway says, was he like this in the first pregnancy? 580 00:27:04,440 --> 00:27:06,080 Speaker 1: If so, why have another baby with him? If he 581 00:27:06,160 --> 00:27:08,760 Speaker 1: suddenly changed, something is going on, Lena Covenant. If she 582 00:27:08,800 --> 00:27:10,360 Speaker 1: goes to the labor, she could drive herself. 583 00:27:10,480 --> 00:27:12,800 Speaker 2: Oh wait, that was their kid. I thought that was 584 00:27:12,800 --> 00:27:14,920 Speaker 2: from like a different I think it's their kid. Oh 585 00:27:15,040 --> 00:27:17,720 Speaker 2: if one other kid? Oh well then wait what that's 586 00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:20,000 Speaker 2: extra confusing now, But that's where it is. That's where 587 00:27:20,119 --> 00:27:22,080 Speaker 2: maybe that's what his vibe is. He's like, we already 588 00:27:22,119 --> 00:27:25,159 Speaker 2: did this once, Kay, you already do it right? Come on? 589 00:27:27,320 --> 00:27:32,240 Speaker 2: Tax all right? Good? Next one. I told my husband 590 00:27:32,320 --> 00:27:35,359 Speaker 2: he's too broke to be so sexist, and now he's 591 00:27:35,480 --> 00:27:40,360 Speaker 2: furious with me. Dude, what a comeback? Sounds like a 592 00:27:40,440 --> 00:27:44,320 Speaker 2: not cool guy throwaway. So my husband comes from a 593 00:27:44,359 --> 00:27:47,960 Speaker 2: traditional family. Mom's a stay at home mother, father was 594 00:27:47,960 --> 00:27:50,560 Speaker 2: the sole provider. I come from the opposite. My mom 595 00:27:50,600 --> 00:27:53,760 Speaker 2: pretty much forbade me from ever being financially dependent on 596 00:27:53,800 --> 00:27:56,480 Speaker 2: a man and drilled that into me. Early on. By 597 00:27:56,480 --> 00:27:59,320 Speaker 2: the way, this comes from user okay schedule one one 598 00:27:59,400 --> 00:28:02,800 Speaker 2: three eight, the r m I, the Ahle subreddit. So 599 00:28:03,359 --> 00:28:06,400 Speaker 2: my husband worked hard to unlearn the values he saw 600 00:28:06,480 --> 00:28:10,080 Speaker 2: replicated at home. He often more than pulled his weight 601 00:28:10,119 --> 00:28:13,239 Speaker 2: at home, was an engaged and present father and a 602 00:28:13,359 --> 00:28:16,040 Speaker 2: genuine partner. The one thing that grinds my gears is 603 00:28:16,080 --> 00:28:18,840 Speaker 2: how much weight he puts on the opinions of his family. 604 00:28:18,880 --> 00:28:20,679 Speaker 2: I get that we all want our parents to be 605 00:28:20,720 --> 00:28:22,560 Speaker 2: proud of us, but this is too much. My in 606 00:28:22,640 --> 00:28:25,040 Speaker 2: laws are staying with us for two weeks. Our usual 607 00:28:25,560 --> 00:28:28,920 Speaker 2: mo is iprep breakfast, we all eat lunch at work 608 00:28:28,960 --> 00:28:31,560 Speaker 2: slash school, and my husband makes dinner. We have a cleaner, 609 00:28:31,600 --> 00:28:33,879 Speaker 2: but she's on holiday. So in the meantime where DI 610 00:28:34,119 --> 00:28:36,600 Speaker 2: wind the cleaning, where it's down to everyone to keep 611 00:28:36,640 --> 00:28:40,400 Speaker 2: their space clean and common spaces, we all clean. This 612 00:28:40,440 --> 00:28:42,960 Speaker 2: is how we've always done it, and it works. My 613 00:28:43,080 --> 00:28:46,280 Speaker 2: in laws hate that I'm one of those modern women. 614 00:28:46,560 --> 00:28:48,760 Speaker 2: They hate that I work, They hate that I don't 615 00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:51,640 Speaker 2: find my purpose in being a wife and mother, and 616 00:28:51,680 --> 00:28:53,880 Speaker 2: they hate that my husband pulls his weight at home. 617 00:28:54,120 --> 00:28:59,800 Speaker 1: What a what's list of terrible things to hate? Equality 618 00:29:00,000 --> 00:29:03,040 Speaker 1: and it's like we don't like independent strong women. Yeah, 619 00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:05,000 Speaker 1: we just hate then you maybe like have a little 620 00:29:05,000 --> 00:29:06,600 Speaker 1: bit of like less self worth. 621 00:29:06,880 --> 00:29:10,960 Speaker 2: Yeah, as your father and mother in law be worse, 622 00:29:11,240 --> 00:29:11,960 Speaker 2: be worse off. 623 00:29:12,120 --> 00:29:15,880 Speaker 1: Please don't be so competent. Actually, yeah, like how are you? 624 00:29:15,920 --> 00:29:16,840 Speaker 1: How are you doing all that? 625 00:29:17,160 --> 00:29:19,720 Speaker 2: Yes, we would prefer you to be completely dependent. Yet, 626 00:29:19,800 --> 00:29:22,160 Speaker 2: baby who cannot help themselves, we would prefer you to 627 00:29:22,200 --> 00:29:25,080 Speaker 2: suckle on your husband's teeth and also do what he says. 628 00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:27,760 Speaker 2: Do what he says, suckle on that teeth. Indeed, we 629 00:29:27,800 --> 00:29:31,160 Speaker 2: spoke pretty frankly early on where I established my boundaries, 630 00:29:31,160 --> 00:29:33,680 Speaker 2: and I told them I won't be chastised about how 631 00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:37,280 Speaker 2: I live my life in my home. When I'm a 632 00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:40,240 Speaker 2: guest in their home, I accommodate their ways and play 633 00:29:40,280 --> 00:29:42,680 Speaker 2: the daughter in law they wish I was. They have 634 00:29:42,800 --> 00:29:45,520 Speaker 2: for the most part, respected this. I got home yesterday 635 00:29:45,560 --> 00:29:50,760 Speaker 2: after work, tired and starving. Typically get home around eight fifteen. Oh, 636 00:29:50,800 --> 00:29:54,080 Speaker 2: this is like five fifteen, five thirty, and we eat 637 00:29:54,240 --> 00:29:56,840 Speaker 2: at six? Are they in the military? Eait? What it 638 00:29:57,000 --> 00:30:00,320 Speaker 2: is all military time? This is maritime nautical time? Is 639 00:30:00,320 --> 00:30:04,400 Speaker 2: that seven? Okay? So it's six fifteen, six thirty. And 640 00:30:04,440 --> 00:30:09,600 Speaker 2: then seven, I said quick hellos and ran up for 641 00:30:09,680 --> 00:30:12,000 Speaker 2: a pre dinner shower. When I came down, I went 642 00:30:12,000 --> 00:30:13,560 Speaker 2: to the kitchen to help set up for dinner and 643 00:30:13,560 --> 00:30:16,440 Speaker 2: found nothing ready. I asked my husband about it, but 644 00:30:16,480 --> 00:30:18,840 Speaker 2: he wouldn't look at me, and his mother answered that 645 00:30:18,920 --> 00:30:21,280 Speaker 2: he hadn't cooked anything. Oh, my son, he doesn't do 646 00:30:21,360 --> 00:30:25,360 Speaker 2: the cooking. Seems like you do. Welcome to your new job. 647 00:30:25,600 --> 00:30:29,360 Speaker 2: I'm sorry, it's not opposite world. My husband doesn't. I mean, 648 00:30:29,440 --> 00:30:32,080 Speaker 2: my son doesn't do the cooking. She told me I 649 00:30:32,120 --> 00:30:34,880 Speaker 2: needed to do my duty as a wife and cook 650 00:30:34,960 --> 00:30:39,520 Speaker 2: for my family. My husband still wasn't looking at me. Dude, 651 00:30:39,600 --> 00:30:42,720 Speaker 2: he knows he's in the dog house. He knows, he 652 00:30:42,840 --> 00:30:43,600 Speaker 2: knows that he's like. 653 00:30:43,640 --> 00:30:49,480 Speaker 1: Man his mom wants and like, can't look his wife off. 654 00:30:49,560 --> 00:30:53,520 Speaker 2: Wow, yeah, back, yeah, I think you just cook. You're like, mom, 655 00:30:53,520 --> 00:30:56,080 Speaker 2: aren't you hungry? I'm gonna pat for us. The mom's 656 00:30:56,160 --> 00:30:57,680 Speaker 2: like waiting till all day. 657 00:30:58,280 --> 00:31:02,880 Speaker 5: Like I will not eat anything made not bye bye 658 00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:07,960 Speaker 5: what not by my husband prepared by a woman the way, God, 659 00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:08,840 Speaker 5: it tastes better. 660 00:31:08,880 --> 00:31:12,600 Speaker 2: It's like, Mom, you're hungry, you just eat it. I 661 00:31:12,920 --> 00:31:16,280 Speaker 2: just walked away and ordered take away. I dished up 662 00:31:16,280 --> 00:31:17,840 Speaker 2: for me and my kids, and we sat at the 663 00:31:17,840 --> 00:31:21,120 Speaker 2: table to eat. My husband and his parents served themselves 664 00:31:21,200 --> 00:31:23,600 Speaker 2: and joined us. My mother in law was still going 665 00:31:23,640 --> 00:31:26,040 Speaker 2: on about what was wrong with me and why I 666 00:31:26,200 --> 00:31:28,720 Speaker 2: was a failure. I asked my husband if he had 667 00:31:28,760 --> 00:31:31,320 Speaker 2: anything to say. He said his mother had a point, 668 00:31:31,680 --> 00:31:34,400 Speaker 2: and it wouldn't hurt if I acted more like a 669 00:31:34,440 --> 00:31:37,920 Speaker 2: proper woman. Dude, I am, but I'm imagining saying. 670 00:31:37,680 --> 00:31:40,120 Speaker 1: Like, you know, it wouldn't would have hurt if you 671 00:31:40,160 --> 00:31:44,880 Speaker 1: acted like a proper woman, like cowreake and fear. 672 00:31:45,200 --> 00:31:46,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, he's just like totally caught. 673 00:31:47,280 --> 00:31:51,880 Speaker 7: Oh I mean, I don't It wouldn't hurt if you 674 00:31:51,920 --> 00:31:54,040 Speaker 7: acted more like a maybe a little bit even more 675 00:31:54,080 --> 00:31:55,800 Speaker 7: like a proper woman, right, Bob. 676 00:31:56,560 --> 00:31:58,320 Speaker 2: Yeah, he's got to he's got the second kind. He's 677 00:31:58,320 --> 00:32:00,480 Speaker 2: got the combo here, because he's about to say, act 678 00:32:00,520 --> 00:32:02,880 Speaker 2: more like a proper woman and took better care of 679 00:32:02,920 --> 00:32:06,000 Speaker 2: my home and children. Oh wow, but get give mean 680 00:32:06,040 --> 00:32:08,000 Speaker 2: a thing she's been doing. I'm about to get it. 681 00:32:08,160 --> 00:32:10,920 Speaker 2: He said. Tradition was tradition for a reason. Yeah, you 682 00:32:10,960 --> 00:32:13,160 Speaker 2: know why, because people that are up in the power 683 00:32:13,200 --> 00:32:14,800 Speaker 2: structures don't want things to change. 684 00:32:14,920 --> 00:32:17,520 Speaker 1: Dude, that's why tradition is waiting for the clapback. 685 00:32:17,640 --> 00:32:20,720 Speaker 2: I'm waiting, yeah. He said. Tradition was tradition for a reason, 686 00:32:20,720 --> 00:32:23,120 Speaker 2: and it was kind of insulting that I thought I 687 00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:26,480 Speaker 2: was too good for how he was raised. This is 688 00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:28,800 Speaker 2: where I might be the a hole. I told him. 689 00:32:28,840 --> 00:32:32,280 Speaker 2: Tradition won't allow a man on thirty five thousand dollars 690 00:32:32,280 --> 00:32:35,160 Speaker 2: a year to support the family of five, and he 691 00:32:35,320 --> 00:32:37,920 Speaker 2: was too broke to be so sexy. 692 00:32:39,200 --> 00:32:47,480 Speaker 7: Oh yeah, Sam, get rack, get SmackDown. Boh, it's wwe 693 00:32:48,280 --> 00:32:51,960 Speaker 7: RKO out of nowhere. Your wife is Randy Orton and 694 00:32:52,040 --> 00:32:54,480 Speaker 7: the crowd goes w yay they do. 695 00:32:54,640 --> 00:32:57,680 Speaker 2: The crowd loves a good RKO. He looked hurt, and 696 00:32:57,720 --> 00:33:00,040 Speaker 2: I saw tears welling in his and I'm gonna I 697 00:33:00,160 --> 00:33:03,640 Speaker 2: live here stupid little baby eyes. He excused himself from 698 00:33:03,640 --> 00:33:06,400 Speaker 2: the table. I regret saying this in front of our children, 699 00:33:06,480 --> 00:33:09,040 Speaker 2: but him saying that to me after I'm busting my 700 00:33:09,200 --> 00:33:11,480 Speaker 2: butt to clean up his mess on top of having 701 00:33:11,520 --> 00:33:14,080 Speaker 2: to deal with his parents was too much for me. Also, 702 00:33:14,520 --> 00:33:16,640 Speaker 2: you said that in front of the children. He said 703 00:33:16,640 --> 00:33:19,120 Speaker 2: that in front of your children, Like, where's that? 704 00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:19,440 Speaker 4: No? 705 00:33:19,800 --> 00:33:21,680 Speaker 2: Am I the a hole? No? No, I don't know. 706 00:33:22,000 --> 00:33:24,160 Speaker 1: Well, I mean, it's not the nicest thing to say, 707 00:33:24,280 --> 00:33:27,160 Speaker 1: for sure, and maybe doing it. And the only reason 708 00:33:27,200 --> 00:33:30,680 Speaker 1: I would say maybe like a whole e is only 709 00:33:30,680 --> 00:33:32,440 Speaker 1: because it was said in front of the children. 710 00:33:32,840 --> 00:33:35,240 Speaker 2: But I you know, sometime we gotta know. But but 711 00:33:35,440 --> 00:33:39,440 Speaker 2: something gather around. Well, I'm gonna tell you the story 712 00:33:39,440 --> 00:33:42,400 Speaker 2: about how your dad's are broken. Uh huh. But he 713 00:33:42,480 --> 00:33:44,400 Speaker 2: wants to tell me I have to cook and clean 714 00:33:44,400 --> 00:33:47,240 Speaker 2: and do everything, do you. Hey, let's do some math 715 00:33:47,400 --> 00:33:50,560 Speaker 2: real quick. Children. How much is thirty five thousand dollars 716 00:33:50,560 --> 00:33:52,640 Speaker 2: to a family of five? I'll tell you how much? 717 00:33:52,920 --> 00:33:55,240 Speaker 2: Not enough? And if you didn't want that to happen, 718 00:33:55,480 --> 00:33:58,640 Speaker 2: you shouldn't have flamed me for being just like an 719 00:33:58,680 --> 00:34:01,920 Speaker 2: independent woman who's not like you know, I don't even 720 00:34:01,960 --> 00:34:03,920 Speaker 2: know what the values are like? What are they? 721 00:34:03,960 --> 00:34:09,600 Speaker 1: Could cert like Dutchess. I think I agree with that. Yeah, 722 00:34:10,160 --> 00:34:12,600 Speaker 1: I think I honestly say it. But just as long 723 00:34:12,640 --> 00:34:14,120 Speaker 1: as you say it not in front of the kids, 724 00:34:14,120 --> 00:34:14,960 Speaker 1: I think it would be fine. 725 00:34:15,080 --> 00:34:16,839 Speaker 2: But he already unleashed it in front of the kid. 726 00:34:16,880 --> 00:34:19,160 Speaker 2: He's telling his wife in front of their children. 727 00:34:19,320 --> 00:34:23,719 Speaker 1: You know, do as well. But I think, like I 728 00:34:23,760 --> 00:34:26,200 Speaker 1: don't know. I think fighting in front of kids just never. 729 00:34:26,719 --> 00:34:29,080 Speaker 1: It's the least a whole thing to do to not 730 00:34:29,160 --> 00:34:30,600 Speaker 1: fight in front of the kids. 731 00:34:30,880 --> 00:34:33,080 Speaker 2: Yeah, it is true. You don't want to, don't want. 732 00:34:34,400 --> 00:34:36,399 Speaker 1: You know, you don't want to do it like they 733 00:34:36,400 --> 00:34:39,280 Speaker 1: were pushed, pushed, so just justified. 734 00:34:39,400 --> 00:34:41,880 Speaker 2: He's way more of an ale, to be clear. Wild 735 00:34:42,000 --> 00:34:45,080 Speaker 2: of him to be saying any of that on a 736 00:34:45,520 --> 00:34:49,040 Speaker 2: you know, on a salary that cannot support the family. 737 00:34:49,239 --> 00:34:52,920 Speaker 1: Was so sweet, so sweet, so sweet? What what where 738 00:34:52,960 --> 00:34:56,680 Speaker 1: are we feeling that we rank this MM cause. 739 00:34:56,600 --> 00:35:00,520 Speaker 2: I don't know, B B B because it's empty B no, 740 00:35:00,719 --> 00:35:04,640 Speaker 2: also because it makes sense be I think, well, no, 741 00:35:04,800 --> 00:35:05,880 Speaker 2: I think it's. 742 00:35:05,880 --> 00:35:07,839 Speaker 1: I think it's I think because I think it's like. 743 00:35:08,040 --> 00:35:10,640 Speaker 2: There's a husband who wants you to be a traditional 744 00:35:10,719 --> 00:35:11,760 Speaker 2: valuable loggy. 745 00:35:11,760 --> 00:35:14,520 Speaker 1: He's never been that way built into the relationship. It 746 00:35:14,520 --> 00:35:18,480 Speaker 1: feels I feel like it's c Potentially, I feel like 747 00:35:18,480 --> 00:35:20,640 Speaker 1: it's like a C. Yeah, it's not. It's not as 748 00:35:20,640 --> 00:35:23,279 Speaker 1: bad as leaving your wife in pregnancy. I guess I 749 00:35:23,280 --> 00:35:26,040 Speaker 1: think it's as bad as getting like having a wife 750 00:35:26,080 --> 00:35:27,120 Speaker 1: get a BBL. 751 00:35:27,280 --> 00:35:29,800 Speaker 2: I just can't imagine like my husband, like if I'm 752 00:35:29,840 --> 00:35:33,000 Speaker 2: a theoretical, like I'm putting myself in this woman's shoes, 753 00:35:33,120 --> 00:35:35,680 Speaker 2: and then like we're at I'm like hearing this out 754 00:35:35,719 --> 00:35:37,440 Speaker 2: come out of my husband's mouth being like, you know, 755 00:35:37,480 --> 00:35:39,600 Speaker 2: it would be nice if you were more of a tradition. 756 00:35:39,840 --> 00:35:43,120 Speaker 2: That's really when it's like, that's really that's a terrible husband, 757 00:35:43,440 --> 00:35:45,920 Speaker 2: like because I mean, how do you so if we 758 00:35:45,920 --> 00:35:47,440 Speaker 2: were to rank, how do you go back from that? 759 00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:48,440 Speaker 2: I don't not to rank this. 760 00:35:48,480 --> 00:35:51,640 Speaker 1: When we put the guy leaving his wife in to 761 00:35:51,760 --> 00:35:54,279 Speaker 1: be and then this one up to see. 762 00:35:54,160 --> 00:35:55,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that might be the move. I think 763 00:35:55,719 --> 00:35:57,920 Speaker 2: that guy goes up to see yeah, he goes to be, 764 00:35:58,200 --> 00:35:59,840 Speaker 2: and then this story is in C I. 765 00:36:00,239 --> 00:36:01,759 Speaker 1: Know, I think this one is in se. I think 766 00:36:01,920 --> 00:36:04,319 Speaker 1: rich guys, this guy is yeah, I feel like that 767 00:36:04,320 --> 00:36:06,760 Speaker 1: feels good. Well, I feel it's I feel it's. 768 00:36:06,600 --> 00:36:08,640 Speaker 2: Like with the rich guy was like, yeah, here's a 769 00:36:08,680 --> 00:36:11,080 Speaker 2: whole laundry list I had ready of the plastic surgery 770 00:36:11,120 --> 00:36:12,759 Speaker 2: I want you to get. I think that's bad, but 771 00:36:12,920 --> 00:36:15,200 Speaker 2: like I feel like the misogyny is worse. It's like, 772 00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:18,799 Speaker 2: isn't that kind of also a misogyny? Oh, I guess 773 00:36:18,800 --> 00:36:20,759 Speaker 2: it's in a different for different form. I don't know. 774 00:36:20,800 --> 00:36:21,040 Speaker 2: I don't know. 775 00:36:21,239 --> 00:36:23,600 Speaker 1: It's hard. I would love These people are so terrible. 776 00:36:23,600 --> 00:36:25,319 Speaker 1: I would love to know what you guys think. But 777 00:36:25,600 --> 00:36:28,480 Speaker 1: we now have a husband and every tier. 778 00:36:28,800 --> 00:36:29,359 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's true. 779 00:36:29,400 --> 00:36:31,360 Speaker 1: I would love to know what you guys think. S 780 00:36:31,440 --> 00:36:34,880 Speaker 1: tier being the worst, f being the best of the worst, 781 00:36:34,880 --> 00:36:35,920 Speaker 1: so the least worst. 782 00:36:36,280 --> 00:36:39,040 Speaker 2: I think we really did start with the S tier. 783 00:36:39,080 --> 00:36:42,200 Speaker 4: Yeah that's crazy. Yeah, we got one left, the last one. 784 00:36:42,320 --> 00:36:44,279 Speaker 2: You gotta go. You gotta think how many minutes are we? 785 00:36:44,520 --> 00:36:47,840 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, we should look at that. The tier list 786 00:36:47,880 --> 00:36:52,359 Speaker 2: is perfectly perfectly I think we said. I think that's 787 00:36:52,360 --> 00:36:54,240 Speaker 2: the one. So let us. 788 00:36:54,160 --> 00:36:57,080 Speaker 1: Know if you guys think our tier list is in 789 00:36:57,160 --> 00:37:01,600 Speaker 1: the correct order, or if you disagree with anything, please 790 00:37:01,640 --> 00:37:03,400 Speaker 1: put your answers in the comments below. 791 00:37:03,640 --> 00:37:06,480 Speaker 2: Let us let us know if they should. 792 00:37:06,239 --> 00:37:10,080 Speaker 1: Be reorganized elsewhere. But with that, if you love us, 793 00:37:10,160 --> 00:37:11,160 Speaker 1: make sure to subscribe. 794 00:37:11,320 --> 00:37:14,040 Speaker 2: We love you and see tomorrow.