00:00:08 Speaker 1: And I invited you here. I thought, I made myself perfectly clear. When you're a guest to my home, you gotta come to me empty. And I said, no, guests, your presences presents enough. I already had too much stuff, So how do you dare to surbey me? 00:00:49 Speaker 2: Welcome to I said, no gifts. I'm richer winegar Ellis is moving around in the studio, and I thought, oh, it's something going on. Everything's fine. Everything's fine, and that's fine. That's how podcasting works. I observe things and then I comment on them, and everybody benefits from me making mistakes. So we're here, we're in the studio. What's going on? 00:01:16 Speaker 3: Trying to find something to clean my glass? 00:01:19 Speaker 2: Our guest has very dirty glasses. Apparently, do you know what I have a I have a lens wipe. I would love you one of those. 00:01:25 Speaker 3: Ye I am a little OCD about dirty glasses. And I probably left my lens wipe in the car. Oh you have a fresh one. Yeah, Oh yeah. 00:01:37 Speaker 2: I'm so prepared. 00:01:39 Speaker 3: Nice you don't even have glasses on you. 00:01:41 Speaker 2: No, but you have to be prepared for everything. 00:01:43 Speaker 3: Your Lord, you should have been my mother. 00:01:47 Speaker 2: There's still time the guest. I'm you know, I'm kind of proving myself to just be very useful today already. 00:01:54 Speaker 3: Yeah, very useful. 00:01:57 Speaker 2: So now we've got the guests, we'll have clean glasses. That's to be very exciting for everybody. What's going on in my life? Ah, you know, I'm just kind of finally admitting to myself that it's time to change the battery on the garage door opener. The rumors have been kind of circulating, will he change the battery on the garage door opener? And I'm going to do it after about ten to eleven months of it barely working, it might be time. So there's that saw a car on fire on the freeway. That was last night. But if somebody wants to get that out to the proper authorities, just in case they haven't taken care of it yet. That car is on fire, it could explode at any moment. Again, this was about fourteen hours ago, so who knows. And so I think we've i mean, think of all the territory we've already covered. I've thought Ellis was doing something. I've offered a lens wipe to the guest and garage door opener. Cars exploding what could happen next? I think we should get into the podcast. I love today's guest. She's absolutely fantastic. It's Amy Landeck Or. Amy. Hi, welcome to the podcast. Your glasses look great now. 00:03:10 Speaker 3: I also have a cop Do you have a lozenge? 00:03:13 Speaker 2: You're pushing it? We have parts and a cigarette. 00:03:19 Speaker 3: Interesting. I wanted to tell you our car blew up? What I had a Chevy Volts in the driveway. This is crazy. So I we are going to a Dodgers game. Okay, Bradley Whitford with Bradley Whitford is my husband, right, you know, look him up. 00:03:42 Speaker 2: Don't look up Bradley. But Bradley reach out. 00:03:46 Speaker 3: So he was at Ralph's getting some last minute something milk or something. I'm at home and I am getting ready. He's just gonna swing by pick me up and we're going to go to the game. 00:03:59 Speaker 2: Sure. 00:04:00 Speaker 3: So I let the dog out to take a pee before we leave, and I noticed that flames are coming out of the child ball and I like, we did not park in the garage. We never do. The garage is just where we put a bunch of junk, and so it's outside and we have all these trees very close that would link right to our house if this keeps going. And I stupidly just first call him like and he's like, well, no, no, that's not true. The stupidest thing I did first was I went and I took I was trying to find water, and I took like a picture of water, and I threw it at the flames, which of course made it worse. You're not supposed to do that. And then I facetimed him and he's in line at the Ralphs and I'm like, the car's on fire, and he sort of froze it, and the people behind him are like, call nine one one, call nine one one. I'm like right, So I called nine one one and they're like, just don't throw water, right, I've already I've already done that, and it's in the engine now and the whole thing's going, and the fire truck came like within less than five minutes. That's it was very efficient. I don't think they're that busy in Pasadena, that's where I lived, right, And it was funny because they said they were wherever they came from. They were sort of laxadaisical as they pulled up and then they saw what was happening, and they jumped out of the car and ran down the driveway. They're like, it's weird. We couldn't see the smoke from when we were driving in, so we didn't think it would be this bad. And then they spent an hour putting it out. But anyway, if I had not taken the dog out back, if I had taken the dog out front, I would not have seen that. We would have gone to the game, and our house would have burned down with our pits inside. It could have been like, really bad. 00:05:50 Speaker 2: You have so many people to think the dog, yes, those nosy shoppers yes. And then lastly the fire always, lastly the fire. Lastly, how do they put it out? 00:06:01 Speaker 3: They literally just well they use water, but they have a power host that is so strong, and they sit there for you know, half an hour till it's out out right right. 00:06:12 Speaker 2: So and then what was there like a giant scorch spot on the driveway. 00:06:17 Speaker 3: Yes, oh, in a car in the car was completely like, you know, not the car, It didn't. The great thing was there was a good firewall in the car, so the front burned, but it never caused the back to burn. The back did not, but the front of the car was like ash on the Oh it was insane. 00:06:33 Speaker 2: What caused the fire? 00:06:35 Speaker 3: These were early early Vaults. Sometimes the battery would catch fire when you were charging. 00:06:42 Speaker 2: That is not great to hear. No, I don't love now I know electric car owner. 00:06:47 Speaker 3: No, I know. Well we were like, we're big electric car owners and Bradley's like, you know, huge on the environment. We still kept the second Vault. We have another VOWS because it's a later, later model. 00:06:59 Speaker 2: Oh okay, and then so you just called uh or I assume the fire department kind of took care of getting rid of the car. 00:07:05 Speaker 3: No, I don't. I don't. You know. It's funny. No, you have to call it toet service. Still you have to make another Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, you got to get towed out. No, they're not going to do anything like that for you. 00:07:14 Speaker 1: Yeah. 00:07:14 Speaker 2: I guess I've never seen a fire trucks towing a car. 00:07:17 Speaker 3: Yeah, they don't got to toe you. They just got to put out the fire. They don't like move, they don't like take down the building after they fire out. 00:07:23 Speaker 2: That's something they should consider. That could be a new element of the business. 00:07:26 Speaker 3: Yeah, it could be something they charged. 00:07:28 Speaker 2: For right, h yeah, this could be a new fund, you know, a new source of funds. 00:07:31 Speaker 3: For the fire we contract your new building. 00:07:35 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's great. I feel like a lot of firefighters kind of like could cross over into that. 00:07:41 Speaker 3: Why are firefighters always cute? 00:07:43 Speaker 2: They're always no, I mean, like unbelievably attract like. 00:07:46 Speaker 3: Legit, Like my husband doesn't even mind when I'm just like, honey, like, what is going on? 00:07:52 Speaker 2: I don't understand. Are they like scouting malls like model agencies? 00:07:56 Speaker 3: You know, maybe they're going to Abercrombie and Fall and they're just getting them people work there, the people and they're a little bit older. Have you ever thought about being a firefighter? 00:08:04 Speaker 2: Right, it's like the military going into high schools to recruit people. The fire department goes to Abercrombie. That kind of makes sense. And then they always had like the uniform is always good looking, even like the blue shirt they wear. 00:08:16 Speaker 3: Oh it's I don't know, it's very strange. 00:08:18 Speaker 2: Yeah, And then of course they're like kind of doing just this wonderful service. 00:08:22 Speaker 3: I know. So then it's like a romanticized hole irresistible worship thing. Yeah, are they. 00:08:27 Speaker 2: Still going down the pole? Do we know if they still have the poles. 00:08:30 Speaker 3: I'm sorry this took a turn. Oh dear, are they going down the poles? I'm just going to leave that. 00:08:40 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think we should. The other thing about the fire department that I find interesting, a little darker or a little uh more dramatic, is that being able to leave a baby there. 00:08:50 Speaker 3: What do you mean? 00:08:51 Speaker 2: Are you familiar with this? 00:08:52 Speaker 3: Leave babies? 00:08:53 Speaker 2: Apparently you can surrender a baby at the fire department. 00:08:56 Speaker 3: You're like that, the fire leaves baby fire like this, you can't trust they save the baby and then they just put the baby on the ground and go. Somebody's got to take care like my car, the car and the baby. The baby surrendered to a fire department. 00:09:10 Speaker 2: Yeah, how did that all come into being? 00:09:12 Speaker 3: Well, when I put that law into place, I have no idea. 00:09:17 Speaker 2: It's a very interesting. 00:09:19 Speaker 3: No idea, but it's a really well maybe also because you know the other thing fire departments always do is they go grocery shopping and they cook. 00:09:27 Speaker 2: Did you Oh, that's a big. 00:09:30 Speaker 3: Part of it, because they stay for a couple of days and they make their own meals. So there's always like really cute fire guys in the grocery store too, so they they're nurturing, they can cook and take care of the baby. 00:09:40 Speaker 2: I guess, how is this not like a dating app? This would be like the rye like ry about they're exclusively just people at the fire department. 00:09:47 Speaker 3: I agree, you could call it like you know, hot stuff poles. 00:09:56 Speaker 2: Every every person on this would be a catch, yes, or at least like as a like a matchmaker that could charge a lot of money and then just kind of go over the. 00:10:05 Speaker 3: Plus, he sleeps at the place a couple of nights weeks, so you'd always get a little downtime, right, you know, this is like an ideal man, it is an ideal situation. 00:10:14 Speaker 2: Wow, every fire person should uh, I think that there. That should be the first thing on you were dating app profile. At least it's like I work for the fire department. Absolutely, I can cook. 00:10:24 Speaker 3: I can cook, and people give me their babies. They trust me with their babies. 00:10:29 Speaker 2: Ready to be a parent? 00:10:30 Speaker 3: Yes? Ready, ready, Wow, that's really I'm left handed. So I'm kind of like debating. He goes, and this mic is sort of like a little bit in my. 00:10:40 Speaker 2: We kind of set these traps for the guests, just keep them on. 00:10:43 Speaker 3: Their fisting so I'm like, spend drift on the right, coffee on. 00:10:48 Speaker 2: The Have you struggled as a left handed person your whole life? 00:10:52 Speaker 3: I mean, have I struggled? Are a real pain? Seemed like the biggest people swear on this Oh yeah, okay. 00:10:59 Speaker 2: This is the the crasses podcast in the Oh. 00:11:02 Speaker 3: Scissors are a real pain in the ass. That's my big swing. 00:11:06 Speaker 2: Curse word X rating. 00:11:08 Speaker 3: Yeah, that's why X rated. They always were like, that's the one place where I really knew the world was not like that. I And then when, of course, when I found out at some point in my life that like they used to like, you know, think we were crazy people. Right, it was kind of like burn us at the stake or something, right, and then they would like tie your hand so you couldn't use it, so you would be forced to learn how to use your right hand. 00:11:31 Speaker 2: Creasy. 00:11:31 Speaker 3: But then I kind of felt like it was something kind of cool and I don't know, like I'm different, of course, It's like it's different than all you regular right handed people. I have special qualities. 00:11:41 Speaker 2: I wonder how many, uh like a percentage of people in the world is who are that's not. 00:11:46 Speaker 3: That much Like it's actually like a pretty rare variant. 00:11:50 Speaker 2: Yeah, it must be very small. I mean, my mom's left handed. I don't think anyone else in our family or her family is left handed, and your mother, yes, Just. 00:11:57 Speaker 3: So that's why I feel so maternal towards it. Left handed. 00:12:01 Speaker 2: You've been nurturing this entire episode. So it's really scissors. But why because they they make left handed scissors. 00:12:09 Speaker 3: Yeah, but you have to go by Yeah, it's almost like a gag no, right. 00:12:14 Speaker 2: Like a break. 00:12:14 Speaker 3: You have to go get that. But in school, there weren't left handed scissors. 00:12:17 Speaker 2: And so do you just have to ask? 00:12:18 Speaker 3: You're literally like no, it hurts your You're literally like shoving your hand and it hurts to cut. 00:12:23 Speaker 2: And how is it that differently shaped? 00:12:26 Speaker 3: I don't even because there's like the little the little oh. 00:12:29 Speaker 2: You're kind of almost have to flip it over exactly. 00:12:31 Speaker 3: And you know what, I don't know if I ever tried that. Oh. 00:12:34 Speaker 2: Interesting, So this is kind of your fault. 00:12:37 Speaker 3: Yeah, if i'd only given it a little bit more mcguiver effort, I could have figured it out all those years ago. Other than that, it's like, although it's still a thing when people go are you left handed? Like my husband. Every time I say it, it's like, are you left handed? I'm like, honey, you know I'm left handed, but he's like wow, like and my uncle's left hand. Like left handed people know left handed people right, But it's like yeah, and what does it mean? 00:13:03 Speaker 2: And I'm trying to there aren't that many other I guess, like if you were shifting a. 00:13:06 Speaker 3: Car, there's ambidextress, right, So I do there is some What often happens with left handed people is they adapt and some things they do well with their right hand right. So, like I can't remember because I haven't really been very athletic lately, but I do like yoga, you can use both hands. But like I remember, like baseball softball, I could kind of hit on either side right. So there's some people too that are like hardcore left And I think I have a little bit of ambidextress commit well, or I just naturally have more flexibility. 00:13:45 Speaker 2: Now I'm trying to like imagine things I do all the time only with my right hand hold the. 00:13:50 Speaker 3: Whole world's made. Well, that's not true because if you're in Europe, you're going to have the stick on the other side. 00:13:56 Speaker 2: Oh right, that is a nightmare. 00:13:57 Speaker 3: I have a funny story about this. Okay, So I was I was asked to do this movie called Hunter's Prayer that shot in England many I don't know, maybe ten years ago. And I they always ask you, you know, like on your special skills, like do you drive a car? 00:14:15 Speaker 2: Right? 00:14:15 Speaker 3: Of course I do drive a car. And I was playing this like very badass corrupt police FBI. I think I was FBI. And I'm supposed to be, you know, very fascile with a stick. 00:14:32 Speaker 2: Theme today. 00:14:38 Speaker 3: So I don't even know how to drive stick, let alone being fascial with it, right, And they so they shoot a scene before I get there with my stunt double and it establishes this particular type of car that only comes in a stick. So they're like, I'm like, I won't be you know, I can't. I can't. I can't drive it on camera. And they want this character to be able to get in the car, slam the door and pull away, right, So like we're going to get you driving lessons. 00:15:11 Speaker 2: Oh wow. 00:15:12 Speaker 3: So and I had to drive on the wrong other side of the streets. I'm trying to learn stick and be on the other side, and I was. It was so really cute though it was really fun. I was staying in Harrogate, which is very like very northern in this cute sweet you know older like you know, driving teacher came. Then we would you know, toodle around the town and I felt somewhat able. But anyone who drives a stick knows that like the actual like the smoothness takes a lot of it. 00:15:45 Speaker 2: It takes a lot. 00:15:46 Speaker 3: You can't like, you can't like fake that. 00:15:48 Speaker 2: No shift, and it takes a long time just to like get into like a even being bumpy at. 00:15:52 Speaker 3: Driving exactly like you know I mean, And so we wasted all this money and time and then you know, we get on camera and every time I shift, the car jerks, which does not look like a badass FBI woman in you know, in front of a big castle. And so they had to like use the I'm like, they had to redo the thing and use the stunt double. I'm like, oh, we should have just done it, We should have just done that anyway, Yeah, that. 00:16:19 Speaker 2: Feels like something that's just change the shot. Right. You can't count on somebody to be able to drive stick, like most movies don't count on the actor to drive the car at all. 00:16:27 Speaker 3: Exactly. 00:16:27 Speaker 2: So what are we doing? 00:16:28 Speaker 3: I don't know. And I was like very happy that this is also making me think of another stunt double story that will blow your mind. But I was on a show that shall remain unnamed, and they did not tell me until I got there on the day that they wanted me to ride a horse in the scene to a mark holding a antique rifle that costs like fifty pounds. And I was like, I got into kind of an argument with the director, and when the show runner found out, he was like horrified and it was apologizing to me, but I'm like, this is after I mean, this is oh my god, this is like are you kidding? 00:17:03 Speaker 2: And these are two things that separately are dangerous horse and holding a gun exactly. 00:17:08 Speaker 3: And I hadn't been shown properly how to shoot the gun, and I hadn't been asked if I knew how to ride a horse, and she goes, well, it was in the scene. And it wasn't in the scene. By the way, is that it didn't say anything about me shooting the shotgun that was twenty you know, really old and heavy. You really also want to look like you know what you're doing, yes, And then The other was that we were by raging river and in the scene it says you just get on the horse, Like at the end of the scene, I can get on a horse. Yeah, I love horses, But that is not the same as asking me. And they should have even checked if I knew how to do that. 00:17:42 Speaker 2: Of course, I think that that helps everybody. 00:17:45 Speaker 3: Ultimately, Yes, it's like, do you feel comfortable mounting a horse? Plus, God, we're just really getting into some Plus they did not tell me that when I'm mounting the horse, there's gonna be a girl in front of me holding a baby. 00:18:00 Speaker 2: This is the crazy Machine where just several people are killed. 00:18:05 Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I was like, what are we doing? And anyway, it turns out and I knew we had stunt doubles. No one told the director that we had stunt doubles there to do. 00:18:15 Speaker 2: All are they doing on a smoke break? 00:18:18 Speaker 1: Oh? 00:18:19 Speaker 3: Here's what it was. There was like a group of us. We were all like nuns with guns. 00:18:24 Speaker 2: Okay, well, I love whatever this is. I wish you would know. 00:18:27 Speaker 3: I know, I know it all got cut anyway, so you'll never see it. But the background and the stunt doubles looked exactly the same, so unless someone told her we have these people available for you. But it was a very like chaotic environment and in a chaotic set, and so she never knew, and I think that was and the whole day she never knew. And we ended up just changing the blocking of the thing because I said, there's no way that I'm doing this on a horse, and then the horse person and the gun person thanked me because you know, there were all these young actors on this show that would never say no, right. 00:19:03 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's just like, well, I have to do this. I don't want to. 00:19:05 Speaker 3: Get exactly And I was in a scene with a bunch of like local hires and people who are so like afraid to say they didn't know how to ride a horse either, and so I'm like the old lady who's like, no, good for him, I don't care. I don't want to die today. 00:19:18 Speaker 2: Well for that to be happening post rust, it's especially crazy. 00:19:22 Speaker 3: It was even weird because there was like an article that day about how he Alec Baldwin had like fought to ride the horse on camera and the horse trainers were like, you're not a good enough rider to do that. That's unsafe. So it was actually in the trial that he was pushing. 00:19:36 Speaker 2: That a little bit, right. 00:19:38 Speaker 3: I mean, yeah, it was a very strange experience. I've had more than a few. But but yeah, anyway. 00:19:44 Speaker 2: And nuns with guns, nouns with guns, that feels like it should very at least be a calendar series TV. 00:19:51 Speaker 3: There's something that it would be fun if it was drag. Oh, that's great, I could get like really sexual totally. 00:19:58 Speaker 2: I also, wow, I I just have so many questions about that. That's fascinating. It feels like you're just attracting danger wherever you go. I'd be true, it's just a catastrophe, that's true. 00:20:08 Speaker 3: The cars are blowing up. Yeah, I'm falling off horses. 00:20:11 Speaker 2: I tried to. I actually could drive a stick pretty well about in England. Rented a car and nearly didn't make it out of the parking garage. It was humiliating because why because I was used to driving with my right hand circle right and then. 00:20:25 Speaker 3: You'll be left right, nightmare. There you have it. 00:20:27 Speaker 2: And then I did run into a curb going about fifty miles an hour, So that's not fun. 00:20:32 Speaker 3: No, and right, that was the other problem. It's like it's not just that I'm doing the stick. I'm doing it on the wrong side of the car. 00:20:37 Speaker 2: I can't believe you're alive to be here on the podcast. It's America. It is America so many different ways. 00:20:42 Speaker 3: It's a miracle. 00:20:44 Speaker 2: Well, I feel like there's something else that's not a miracle, something that's a little bit more troublesome. I was excited to have you here on the podcast today, Amy. I thought Amy is going to come by. I'm sure she'll have some story about a car being on fire. We'll get into that and then I'll I'll move on. 00:21:01 Speaker 3: We'll have your absurd request. 00:21:04 Speaker 2: Well, I was a little upset when you showed up to my podcast. I said, no gifts, holding. 00:21:08 Speaker 3: No one means it when they say that. I literally like, you're saying, bring me a gift, let's be honest, how annoyed? No gifts? Please, no gifts. And then they're like, can you believe she showed up and she didn't bring a gift? Well, I didn't bring you anything, so it's fine. 00:21:25 Speaker 2: Okay, good, Well, then we'll just keep talking about cars. I did. 00:21:29 Speaker 3: First of all, it came in a very cute pink Yes, it's very nice hotels and resorts. 00:21:34 Speaker 2: Gorgeous bank. 00:21:35 Speaker 3: My mother stays there during Christmas. 00:21:38 Speaker 2: And the one in Pasadena. Yes, it's a very nice. 00:21:41 Speaker 3: Resort, stunning, and it smells really good. Oh, everything's like pink, which I like. Yeah, and it's like a nice pink. 00:21:46 Speaker 2: A very faint pink, like bright. 00:21:49 Speaker 3: Pink and black is cheap. Faint pink and black is elegant. 00:21:54 Speaker 2: Yeah, like bright pink and black is very victorious. 00:21:56 Speaker 3: Secret or yes, or the the girls in green in those jackets. 00:22:01 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, totally girls, something apples or something that ladies. Yes, wow, good for me. 00:22:11 Speaker 3: For interesting that we couldn't come up with pink. 00:22:15 Speaker 2: Or ladies. Okay, let's let's get in here. Okay, there are two options. 00:22:24 Speaker 3: I've got two guests. Not only did I bring guests, and they're not related to each. 00:22:27 Speaker 2: Okay, it doesn't matter. Uh, would you open first? 00:22:30 Speaker 3: Yeah, let's open the little one first. 00:22:32 Speaker 2: They're pretty dense. 00:22:33 Speaker 3: This is in. I also wanted to point out my special paper, Gorge's Critical Role, which some of your listeners, of course, might be into. We are really into them in our house, and so I bought Critical Role wrapping paper probably four years ago, and I still have it. 00:22:51 Speaker 2: I think that's kind of the rule with wrapping papers. You buy it and then it just goes. 00:22:54 Speaker 3: In a I wrapped what I needed that year, and then I think it's I think it's very cute though. 00:22:58 Speaker 2: So I thought it a great rap. 00:22:59 Speaker 3: It would be good for you. 00:23:00 Speaker 2: All right, let's that's thick wrapping paper. 00:23:04 Speaker 3: I like it. 00:23:05 Speaker 2: Okay, open. I debated bringing you out, but oh what, Okay, this is it says Santa's pipe smoke, big ass brick of soap. 00:23:16 Speaker 3: Yeah, take it out. It is a very nice bar of smells so good. This is a regift from the Uh. Yes, it's a beautiful thing of soap. 00:23:26 Speaker 2: Look at that thing. You could's quality. 00:23:29 Speaker 3: That's quality soap. I know someone gave you. I heard one of your podcasts where oh, Wendy, she brought you like smelly toilet paper. 00:23:37 Speaker 2: Oh yes, the strawberry strawberry yes. 00:23:40 Speaker 3: And I was like, oh, that's so fun. And then I forgot that. You know, Basically, I have like a little cabinet at home where I put little things that we maybe got gifted that we're not going to use, and I try to figure out if someone might want them. And this was a recycled stocking stuffer. 00:23:57 Speaker 2: This is a great stocking. 00:23:59 Speaker 3: I think it says Santa his pipe. 00:24:00 Speaker 2: Yes, this is very Christmas oriented. Duke Canon, I don't know what that is. 00:24:05 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not sure, but you can regift it or use it. 00:24:08 Speaker 2: I will probably use it. 00:24:10 Speaker 3: I mean I thought, honestly, when I took the soap out, I was like, oh, nice soap. 00:24:17 Speaker 2: And I say that's a smell like smoke. 00:24:20 Speaker 3: Yeah, yes, actually you can get go real close. It does have a smoky quality like a smoke. No, but just in a nice I know you really want to wear like a super masculine scent, right, that's right for you. 00:24:34 Speaker 2: Yeah, I've never heard of this brand, the Duke Cannon soap. Any are you a bar soap person or a shower jail. 00:24:40 Speaker 3: Person shower gel? 00:24:42 Speaker 2: Yeah? 00:24:43 Speaker 3: Yeah. Bar soap kind of freaks me out because it always gets down to that like bottom part and you know at that point it's just like disgusting. 00:24:51 Speaker 2: What does this film feel like? 00:24:53 Speaker 3: Is it small enough that I should throw it away like I'm wasting right, and then it just gets caught in your drain and everything gets backed up. Yeah, so I like a good pump. 00:25:01 Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like, uh, you're off the podcast, leave the ship. 00:25:07 Speaker 3: I'm not even trying, you guys, not even try. 00:25:11 Speaker 2: Wow, this is a very I guess I don't mind a bar soap for hands, because frequently it smells pretty good. 00:25:18 Speaker 3: Yeah, but also like as a house thing, you know, Oprah, If you go stay at Oprah's house, of which I've never done, she replaces the guest soap for every guest because you don't want like the stuff that was on the other guests. 00:25:30 Speaker 2: So she's just throwing the rest in the ocean. 00:25:32 Speaker 3: Yeah, she's destroying the earth. I don't even want to talk about Oprah. Get a little disappointed lately, to say the least. But and I'm fifty six, so she was a big part of my sure life. Right, I'm very disappointed, but whatever, not because of soap, but she got me into this thing about like dried up old soap. 00:25:56 Speaker 2: So I guess that was the one that got you into the soap thing. 00:25:58 Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess that's why I'm giving you that soap. Get it out of my house. 00:26:02 Speaker 2: I don't like a bar soap in a public place. 00:26:04 Speaker 3: Well private, sure, if it's just us privately, sure, just us in our But if you have. 00:26:09 Speaker 2: A bar soap in your place of business? What are you doing? Oh? 00:26:12 Speaker 3: Or yeah, I don't yeah, or a guest bathroom. I think now that's. 00:26:17 Speaker 2: Just it's uh, I think we've all moved on in a way. Yeah, I think it's more just therefore the smell. 00:26:23 Speaker 3: It can be very decorative. Yeah, my mom is really into decorative soaps. Okay, so I actually one of my fun things is to like really go find wherever I am, like the most extraordinarily beautiful soap. 00:26:34 Speaker 2: Where's the best soap you've gotten? 00:26:36 Speaker 3: Oh, that's a good question. Probably like Santa. 00:26:40 Speaker 2: Barbara Barb feels like probably the good soap capital of. 00:26:43 Speaker 3: The like one of those like high end gift stories. Right, it's like super decorated and floral. 00:26:50 Speaker 2: And bar soap is like seventy dollars exactly. 00:26:54 Speaker 3: No, I think that's about right. 00:26:55 Speaker 2: Yeah, I believe that. 00:26:56 Speaker 3: Yes, Yeah, I think I did buy like a very expensive bar soap there. It probably was like maybe fifty maybe seventy. But that's a that's a lot tough so but you don't use that soap. That sop's just there to say, it's like potpourri or something exactly, it's like poopury. 00:27:11 Speaker 2: What is soap made out of? Do we know what soap is made out of? Is it wax? 00:27:15 Speaker 3: Well? When I invented soap again, I brought you I'm just realizing. Yeah, no, that's a good question. 00:27:21 Speaker 2: Yeah, what are we Is it like like large glcerin glacer Now you just say glittering, like you know what glycerin? 00:27:31 Speaker 3: Well, exactly, I don't really know what glcerin is either, but I feel like that's a big ingredient. 00:27:36 Speaker 2: Yeah, Glcerin's got to be at the top of them. 00:27:38 Speaker 3: It's like a liquid thing that can be hard. 00:27:41 Speaker 2: It gets gelatine gelatin maybe, but gelatin feels like it would really fall apart pretty quickly in water. But people are making soap all the time. 00:27:49 Speaker 3: Yeah, and they're all making their gets wet and falls and then a hole. It doesn't make any sense. 00:27:54 Speaker 2: No, I don't. I will only let soap be purchased for me. I'm never going out for a bar of soap for cage. 00:28:00 Speaker 3: Now. You don't have to. At least that giant break, big ass break of soap is how it's described. 00:28:06 Speaker 2: Do you do a big thing for Christmas? 00:28:09 Speaker 3: Yes? Christmas is huge in my house, which is sort of funny. Because my grandfather was a German Jew who escaped during the war, but we always my mom's side was not, but also my grandmother. So incredible story is that my grandmother on my dad's side is you know, a descendant of farmers in Indiana, and her father was in the Ku Klux Klan marching band, but not because marching, not because he was like into the ku Klux Klan, but because it was the only marching band that you could be a part of a Indiana back in the day. So I think this might have been like pre I don't know if there was ever pre hoods, but I can't imagine my great grandfather in a hood. I don't think that was it. But she fell in love with my grandfather, who University of Michigan saved him. There was a time in the early Nazi regime where if you could get sponsored by a like an education institution that would take you away, they would let you because they didn't want any of the smart Jews there. They wanted you taken away. So University of Michigan paid for his passage and he became a professor there. But we never really talked about he became very he was he was a religious you know, I think they went to like a Unitarian church. But like so I always knew I had these like Jewish and I had Jewish aunts and uncles, so there was always a combo going on. We were always kind of doing a little bit of Hanukkah. But Christmas was like the greatest day of my life every year, and both of my parents were extremely over done in their gift giving. It just became hence two gifts, not one, right, of course, gone too far. I may I always brought you three and was brought you something from Japan. But I was like, Okay, it's like a little too much and I might want to give that to somebody. 00:30:04 Speaker 2: But that I know another gift based podcast. 00:30:08 Speaker 3: Yes there might be someone else, but but yeah it was wait, I. 00:30:13 Speaker 2: Totally lost usually talking about Christmas being going all crazy. 00:30:16 Speaker 3: Yeah yeah, so it was like we got like a thousand gifts. So I am I continue that tradition we have, you know, you have the stocking. If there were kids, you would put the cookies out and we would write a letter that goes on until you're about fifteen, and then everyone. 00:30:31 Speaker 2: Just like it's just a dirty dish. 00:30:33 Speaker 3: Yeah, now it's just annoying, right, but you you know, you have the fireplace open with the footprints and oh the whole nine. 00:30:41 Speaker 2: Wow, they're like props. 00:30:43 Speaker 3: And huge stockings and then tons of gifts. It's really fun. 00:30:48 Speaker 2: That's right. 00:30:49 Speaker 3: I love Christmas. 00:30:49 Speaker 2: That sounds lovely. 00:30:50 Speaker 3: Yeah, but it's fun. 00:30:52 Speaker 2: And I'm just still thinking about the KKK marching. 00:30:57 Speaker 3: My dad's been trying to write a movie script about that for the like is really fascinating. 00:31:03 Speaker 2: A tricky line to walk, yes, yeah, I know. 00:31:05 Speaker 3: Although he was perfectly like welcoming and loved my grandfather and had no problem, he wasn't his belief system. 00:31:13 Speaker 2: It literally was. 00:31:18 Speaker 3: Yeah, it was pretty pretty interesting going to their farm. It was very different than you know, my the my grandfather's side of the family. Now, because of the state of the United States, my father is actively seeking his dual citizenship because if you were a descendant of a Jew, you can, and then your descendants can, and so we have looked into getting an attorney to expedite it just in case any of us need to get the hell out of here. 00:31:45 Speaker 2: Oh my god. Yeah, a lot of people in. 00:31:47 Speaker 3: Germany would be the safe place. 00:31:50 Speaker 2: Life surprises life as a way, let's open this next thing here say nice rapping. 00:32:03 Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess I'm not really that good at rapping better than me, but I did wrap. 00:32:07 Speaker 2: It better than me. Oh, it's a book, do you know I'm familiar through TikTok. To be honest, they let them. 00:32:16 Speaker 3: When this came out, I bought six of them for these girlfriends of mine for Christmas. And then I kind of just like, I don't know, A couple have already had it, so I've had like three on my bookshelf. I did inscribe it to you, though you don't want to read the inscription. 00:32:33 Speaker 2: Says Bridger. You need to just let them bring in. 00:32:39 Speaker 3: So let them? Is this I never got to the second part of the book. 00:32:43 Speaker 2: What's that there? 00:32:45 Speaker 3: Let them? And then there's also like not being a total asshole. 00:32:49 Speaker 2: Oh okay. 00:32:50 Speaker 3: Suggestion is not that you just like don't caretake anyone ever. 00:32:54 Speaker 2: Right, But I think that people have only taken the first half. 00:32:58 Speaker 3: They only want the first half. But I am one of those people where when someone's upset, I get extremely uncomfortable and I try to manage the situation right. And that sort of simple phrase was something that I felt around Christmas time could be really helpful, you know, like if someone's upset because this, that or the other thing, you let them. And it was really funny because I probably did the like actively was doing it for a few weeks and it was like some point where Fraley was irritated about something and I didn't respond. He's like, oh, are you just letting me? Is that what we're doing? And I was like, and I was like, he's right, that's what I was doing. I was like, oh, well, let him be upset and. 00:33:36 Speaker 2: Then you have to let him be upset about being let them. 00:33:38 Speaker 3: Yeah, book, Yeah, exactly, but it might I don't know a lot about you. I don't know if you need this. 00:33:44 Speaker 2: This is it? Yeah, I remember this like blew up on various social media for all. 00:33:48 Speaker 3: It's like the one now are you mad at me? It's like, I think, if you have a title, you know, this is like such a great all you don't need to read it. You just have to go, you know, and just let them. It's like a mantra, don't need to read the inside and you're done. 00:34:02 Speaker 2: Do you think mel Robbins is out there freaking out saying, there's the other half of the book. I've now created an army of people who don't care about it. 00:34:08 Speaker 3: By the way, she does bring that up a lot because she gets a lot of shit for this because everyone's like, this is like a theory where it's like, you're mad, I don't give a ship. 00:34:16 Speaker 2: Yeah, like I don't have no responsibility for anybody ever care. 00:34:18 Speaker 3: I don't care. And she's like, that is not but that's not because they've read the first half, not the second half. They just haven't read it at all. 00:34:24 Speaker 2: Right, I'm sure. 00:34:25 Speaker 3: She's happy that people are still buying it just and then they're like, you know what, I got it. I got it. 00:34:31 Speaker 2: I'm sure she's happy people are buying it. 00:34:33 Speaker 3: Let them theory. 00:34:35 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's it's such an interesting one because it's so appealing to be like, oh, I don't ever have to be responsible again. 00:34:42 Speaker 3: I feel like it should go like right up there, right. 00:34:45 Speaker 2: This is how everybody is. They buy the book, they put on their bookshelf, and they stop caring about other people. 00:34:49 Speaker 3: Yeah, there you have it. 00:34:51 Speaker 2: Let them. 00:34:51 Speaker 3: It'll remind you every time that you're at. 00:34:54 Speaker 2: Work when you started taking this advice, How did it change anything for you? Yeah? 00:35:00 Speaker 3: I kind of actually, I mean, look, you know, I have my father wrote a memoir. He's a very very well known radio disc jockey in the Midwest. Yes, he's in like the Rock And'll Hall of Fame Museum. Yep, Yep. His name's John And this is really his middle name, Records Landecker. So the racist Grandpa. His last name was Records. Oh, so it became my dad's middle name. He was not racist, the great grandpa. He was just in the Kukooks network. But my dad, Yeah, he he became a disc jockey. So I'm only saying that he wrote a memoir that that is public, so I can say, like he was an alcoholic and a drug addict when I was younger, and children of alcoholics and drug addicts tend to really get freaked out when people are like upset or the disorder. So I was always like an alan On type adjacent person my whole life, Like I knew the whole you know, like I didn't cause it, I can't cure it. There's another c there's like I don't know what the other off the one is, but there's three of them. 00:36:11 Speaker 2: Let them, yeah, let them. 00:36:14 Speaker 3: And so that idea of like you know, not feeling like you're gonna die if someone's mad, like not having a panic inside. That was always something that I aspired to. What I really liked about this title was literally it was like an easy thing to remember. 00:36:35 Speaker 2: Oh do you know what I mean? 00:36:36 Speaker 3: It was just like it's like let them like. It doesn't mean don't care about the bop you love and you know, don't take responsibility for this stuff that you do, but for the stuff that you can't control, and you're just overmanaging. 00:36:48 Speaker 2: You know. 00:36:49 Speaker 3: I had a when I was pregnant with my child. My my mom was a Hathai yngar teacher doula. Oh wow, and she was going to be my doula. Now, if you know me, I am not a natural childbirth person. I give me all the drugs, right, give me the drugs. But I was trying to please my mother. Oh boy, so I agreed to have her be my doula. I agreed to do natural childbirth. We get into the hospital and my mom's with me, and I am like vomiting, but I haven't even like opened up enough, so they physically opened me and they go and my doctor's not there yet who has the natural childbirth plan? And they're like, what you know, we're going to admit you to the regular floor, which I knew was the floor where you could get drugs if you wanted to get drugs. And the reason I knew this is I did a tour of the Birthing Center floor. And when I went on the tour, first of all, there's a woman like screaming bloody murder as we're walking by, and I was like, and then the woman looks at all of us, this group, this tour group, and she was like, know who you are? And she said it in this like very she repeated it. 00:37:58 Speaker 2: No who you. 00:38:02 Speaker 3: Up from the shadows, and yeah, if you are a person who might want an epidural, do not come to this floor. 00:38:11 Speaker 2: Oh interesting, and I knew. 00:38:13 Speaker 3: I was like, I'm an epidurl. And I was like ashamed of friends who've like done documentaries around natural childbirth, Like this is a shame issue, right, Like I'm ashamed. You know, Gabby Hoffins, one of my closest friends, Like, she'll have a baby right here on the floor in front of us, if you know, like no problem, although she is not judgmental, but I would think she would judge me. Right, So we get put into this room and my mom puts me in a bathtub and I spend about an hour in the bathtub trying to regulate everything. And I just looked up at her and I was like, mom, I want the epidural and she I thought she was gonna like be really mad, and she was just like okay. And I know it was a huge moment for us with each other, so I didn't even need to at her. But that comes back. What that has to do with it is like that's that simplicity, like know who you are. I've used that like a thousand times in my life, like who am I? What do I want? 00:39:10 Speaker 2: Rather than being defined by everybody else's what your opinion is of me. I feel like you're doing a lot of good work for mel Robbins right now explaining what the. 00:39:18 Speaker 3: Black glasses on. I'm basically doing a mail rob. It's a personage. 00:39:23 Speaker 2: You're like, you're the second half of the book. For now. You're going to be all over TikTok. People be like, oh, that's what was supposed to. 00:39:30 Speaker 3: Say, that's what it was. I got it. I don't just put it on your shelf, read the side. 00:39:36 Speaker 2: I wouldn't be surprised if that book is just blank and they just put that title on the cover and they're like, this is going to sell, it's going to look into this. 00:39:42 Speaker 3: I have like a book someone gave me that was like a pretty hefty book and the cover is like everything that has made me proud of Donald Trump or something and you and it's just an empty. 00:39:52 Speaker 2: That's a great gag. 00:39:54 Speaker 3: It's a great gag. And it's just empty pages that. 00:39:56 Speaker 2: Could be used as a journal. Yes, like a that's a good hidden Yeah. No, one's going to look into it. Yeah, private thoughts, that's true. Interest, that's true. Wow, let them. Yeah. I I feel like that's kind of like part of human behaviors, like just being the reason it blew up in situations like you're just looking for an excuse to do the bare minimum and so. 00:40:17 Speaker 3: Well, I think if you're like you know, yes, if you're a toxic narcissist, that could be used inappropriately. But also I think there's a lot of people who are really trapped in people pleasing. Oh yeah, I mean about depends on which direction you're coming from. But you're right for the for the for the real assholes of the world. It's real like co sign right totally. 00:40:39 Speaker 2: Yeah, But it may, but it also makes perfect sense. I should be letting more people do a lot of things, and I simply can't. Yes, I'm just constantly paranoid about everyone's behavior. 00:40:47 Speaker 3: Clearly. I mean the name of your podcast is like telling people what to do. 00:40:51 Speaker 2: Yeah, okay, yeah, maybe I should give let them a little bit more of a shot. Yeah, it's hard. It's hard to just let didn't. 00:41:01 Speaker 3: You come up with I said, no gifts. 00:41:03 Speaker 2: Deep greed, and just because you knew control issue, it was going to be the opposite. No, it was. It was just a thing that kind of I kind of wanted to do a podcast, but obviously it's hard to come up with an actual idea that I had. I was driving home from a writing job I had, and I just came into my mind. It's like, oh, that is kind. 00:41:23 Speaker 3: Of a podcast already, a great idea. 00:41:25 Speaker 2: And then thank god the network was there to set it up. And because I'm very lazy, I wouldn't have done it on my own. 00:41:32 Speaker 3: Me too, And it's exactly right. 00:41:35 Speaker 2: Exactly right, that's the network. And so now I'm just surrounded by objects that have for I think we have almost three hundred episodes and probably fun I probably have like five hundred objects. 00:41:45 Speaker 3: I brought you the best gift. 00:41:47 Speaker 2: Of course, we finally got to one that I could use. The rest of this will be sent to the dump. 00:41:52 Speaker 3: I really actually want to know, knowing it's not mine, are you allowed to say, like, what has been one of your favorite gifts? 00:41:57 Speaker 2: Oh? Yeah, okay, And I feel like I answered this same thing all the time. So I'm going to try to be a little I'm going to try to branch out here because I usually say a car garbage can was given to me, which is a great time, a beautiful waff liaron. But more recently, a friend painted a picture of my new dog, which was just really lovely, which is like a good gift regardless of pocast, you know, like Paul Rubins was on and so like this cactus candy right here is just like a very that's fun, memorable thing. Yeah. I feel like most of the gifts murder thing. Let's see, Oh this is murder seed wrote Maria Thayer made this for the Iowa State Fair, I want to say, And she kind of does the seed art every year. That's cool, and so she brought this, but I was the photograph of right here. Yeah, that's a picture of Iowa Deborris. 00:42:52 Speaker 3: Oh god, I even recognize her. 00:42:53 Speaker 2: She looks years old. Yes, that is her at that age. 00:42:57 Speaker 3: Oh, I see. 00:42:58 Speaker 2: And she sent a photo of her self dressed as a president to an Etsy person to paint of her. 00:43:03 Speaker 3: Oh that's really cute. 00:43:05 Speaker 2: But I've gotten a lot of This is smelling salts, which is essentially drugs, and most of the things are fun. I feel like like that's weird. Ally gave me his high school trophy. Oh wow, I mean I've kind of gotten a little bit of everything. Yeah, it's a wild one, right. 00:43:21 Speaker 3: What's it for? 00:43:22 Speaker 2: It's for debate, I believe, expository. I believe that's kind of the amy is now just destroying the That's a beautiful masquerade mask is that's what we call those? Yeah, that's from Chris Fleming. Yeah. I've just gotten a lot of wonderful things, and now I've got let them and so I've finally made it to the end of the rainbow gotten. 00:43:52 Speaker 3: Now wait here shows my my brain fog. Who what was the second gift? You say, let's see, Oh, there was some o the picture. What kind of dog do you have? 00:44:04 Speaker 2: Oh, she's a rotweiler. 00:44:06 Speaker 3: Can I see. Yes, I took I'm obsessed with dogs. 00:44:08 Speaker 2: I last night took a photo of her that I just said. I've had her. We've had her for eight months now. She just turned a year, and she's just the most beautiful creature. 00:44:19 Speaker 3: My god, I have a funny story. Speaking of gifts, let's hear. So I'm friends with Samantha Ronson, who's like this DJ Mark sister and an artist in her very own right. Oh wow, Oh, she's very cute and beautiful. 00:44:36 Speaker 2: She's a beautiful guy. 00:44:37 Speaker 3: She's beautiful. So we lost, you know, our dear pet Izzy. I think it was two summers ago. 00:44:45 Speaker 1: She was a. 00:44:47 Speaker 3: Chihuahua mix. We'd also lost our boxer Otis shortly before. 00:44:52 Speaker 2: It was devastating, the worst feeling. 00:44:54 Speaker 3: I actually had to put my cat down and Izzy down within a week of each other. It was just a terrible time, terrible time. By the way, while I'm shooting that horse. It was horrible. It was horrible. But she wanted to get us a present. And there's this artist who makes these like pretty expensive, like felt renderings of your animal that are three D in a little frame, oh lovely, And she sent me the she sent me some of his work and was like, do you do you have a good picture of Izzy? Do you you know? I want to get this for you and Bradley and I was like, oh my god, that's just so sweet. And I sent her pictures and and the thing showed up and it is literally like the creepiest thing you've ever had in your home, and like we had a text exchange about it and she knows, like she's like, what do you And I like, I couldn't. She was like she thought it was hysterical. Thank god, she was not offended. Thought it was absolutely sterical. But it looks like you killed your dog and you have mounted. 00:45:55 Speaker 2: You know what I mean? 00:45:56 Speaker 3: Yes, it looks like taxa. 00:45:57 Speaker 2: Do you have a picture of it? 00:45:58 Speaker 3: I was just thinking I probably do somewhere on my phone, but it would take me way too long. 00:46:02 Speaker 2: Oh that sounds really unsettling. 00:46:04 Speaker 3: I mean we literally hide it on a bookshelf upstairs where no one can see it, and we sort of pull it out as a gag the fold it's her head. 00:46:11 Speaker 2: Oh no, it really. 00:46:13 Speaker 3: Looks like you mounted your dog. After It's very You could. 00:46:17 Speaker 2: Have possibly thought that was a good idea for a game, but when you look at. 00:46:20 Speaker 3: It, like on the page, it looks kind of cool. You don't realize that the three D quality will then make it look like you killed a deer. 00:46:26 Speaker 2: Right, you know what I mean? Oh no, that's a bad option. 00:46:29 Speaker 3: It's not I mean, it was not good. It's not good. You made me think of that, Yeah, it was, it was. 00:46:35 Speaker 2: That is a nice gift you can give somebody after their pet passes away. Is something a piece of art about the pet. Maybe not a three days. 00:46:43 Speaker 3: And then I got like a rock with this cat she had for twenty seven years, Diamond. 00:46:50 Speaker 2: Oldest cat I've ever heard me too. 00:46:53 Speaker 3: And it was just weird because I ordered this rock with Diamond's name for her garden and it just sort of up like this, like this soap like. It was just this big gray block of nothing. I just said like Diamond and she was like, you know, she's a virile as thete and I was like, sorry, mom, she's not the rock I was. I didn't mean like some rock that looks like a big turn. 00:47:16 Speaker 2: You could have made that up. 00:47:17 Speaker 3: Yeah, it could have been better. It could have been better. 00:47:21 Speaker 2: Oh wow, Uh well, I feel like we should play a game. Oh yeah, we're going to play a game called Gift a Curse. But I need a number between one and ten from you. 00:47:29 Speaker 3: Seven. 00:47:30 Speaker 2: Okay. I have to do some light calculating right now to get our game pieces so you can promote, recommend, do whatever you want. I'll be right back. 00:47:37 Speaker 3: Well, I happened to be here in the week that a feature film that I made, that I wrote and directed and act in that opened at south By Southwest last year is having a theatrical release, which is a very big deal for these little low budget movies. So it'll be at the Lemley Royale in Los Angeles starting the twenty seventh, and it will be at the Quad Cinema, New York starting in the twenty six and then it will reach out nationwide the next week. And the better it does, the better the more screens we get. I think we are on about forty so far and hoping to go to like one hundred or two hundred across the country. 00:48:16 Speaker 2: Did you name the movie? 00:48:17 Speaker 3: It's called for Worse. It's inspired by It's a rom com. It's my attempt at a very traditional rom com. Oh fun, Yeah, it's very trophy, very traditional. I have an insane cast. I have Gabby Hoffman and Ken Marino. 00:48:33 Speaker 2: Oh, and wonderful. 00:48:34 Speaker 3: I mean just Kelsey, Ryan Hart, you know, Bradley Whitford. I don't know if you've heard of him. Nika Haraga, who's a really great young he's a skateboarder and a model, but he also is a wonderful actor and all. If you bring up his name around any young girl under the nage of twenty five, she's like, oh my god, Ni Goo and god. Just so many people I can't even you know, Claudia Saluski. Just an insane group of talented people joined me to make this little funny Oh, Missy Pile, Missy Pile, I'm the lead. 00:49:08 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, amazing. Yeah. 00:49:10 Speaker 3: So I wrote myself a lead part in the movie because no one else is going to give it to me, and I directed it and I thought that was going to be really scary, but it really was, and it was kind of fun. And it's inspired by my absurd behavior after my divorce. 00:49:27 Speaker 2: So fo worse right, Oh, I really like that idea. 00:49:30 Speaker 3: That's fun. 00:49:30 Speaker 2: Everyone go see the movie. 00:49:32 Speaker 3: Four worse four worstmovie dot Com has a great place to It has all the places it's playing and ticket links. 00:49:38 Speaker 2: Beautiful, beautiful, Okay, This is how we play gift or a Curse. I'm going to name three things. You'll tell me if they are a gift or a curse and why, and then I'll tell you if you're right or wrong, Because there are. 00:49:49 Speaker 3: Right or wrong? Is just your opinion, Amy, No, right or wrong. 00:49:55 Speaker 2: It's a universally truth. 00:49:57 Speaker 3: That somehow I disagree with. Yes, all right, I'll just let you have your opinion. 00:50:01 Speaker 2: Getting ahead of the story, Amy Lambdecker. Okay, this first one is from my listener named Denise. Gift to a curse. When you were walking and someone stops in front of you, but the second you catch up to them, they start walking at your exact pace. 00:50:14 Speaker 3: Oh, curse. Why it's so creepy. No one wants to walk side by side with someone they don't know, Like you either want to get ahead or you want to get behind. 00:50:22 Speaker 2: Mmmm. 00:50:23 Speaker 3: That is a very uneasy situation. It's like, am I supposed to talk to you? It's like it's like a car that just wants to drive alongside of you. You're like, are you going to kill me? Oh? 00:50:35 Speaker 2: A car alongside you is a very eerie feeling. 00:50:37 Speaker 3: Yeah. Well, it's even worse when it's just a person standing there. I mean, I don't know what they're going to do to me. Why are they doing that? They're taunting me, They're going to kill me, or they have no spatial relation awareness. No, that is definitely not good. 00:50:54 Speaker 2: Wrong. 00:50:54 Speaker 3: Oh, come on, wrong, Come on, that's a new friend. Oh my god, you have. 00:51:00 Speaker 2: It seems like you're just not open to letting new people into your life. 00:51:05 Speaker 3: Not strangers on the street, which is a satistic stranger. 00:51:08 Speaker 2: As a friend. You haven't walked to the same pace as yet. 00:51:11 Speaker 3: Anyone who would do that is so creepy. I don't want them to be my friend. 00:51:16 Speaker 2: Well, it seems like you're wrong, and I need you to just kind of let you. 00:51:20 Speaker 3: I'll let you be right, and I'm. 00:51:22 Speaker 2: Letting you be wrong. That's very generous. 00:51:27 Speaker 3: Thank you, all right. 00:51:28 Speaker 2: This next one is from a listener named Sarah Jane. Gift you a curse people who put their bare feet up on the dashboard. 00:51:34 Speaker 3: Oh I do that. It is disgusting, but I do it. I Mean, here's the thing. No one's eating off the dashboard, no one's putting their face on the dashboard. No one's really even touching the dashboard with their hands. So like why is it so bad? I mean, it's kind of bad because you get like your little toeprints on the glass. That's not a great look. But there's something really great about the sun when it like hits your feet, you know, and you got your like toes up there. So I have to say, what's it? What's the opposite of the gift? The gift? 00:52:06 Speaker 2: Correct gift? I don't see any people who have a problem with this. I just don't. What's the problem? Who cares? 00:52:14 Speaker 3: Why does that feel so good? To be right, it's got to be my codependancy. 00:52:18 Speaker 2: It is. 00:52:18 Speaker 3: It's entirely you've got to work on that, work on that off podcast. 00:52:23 Speaker 1: No. 00:52:23 Speaker 2: I think this is people who have an issue with this, they've they've created the problem in their mind. The dashboard is for nothing else. 00:52:30 Speaker 3: Now, I will say Bradley likes to put his shoes on a table at home, and I do think that's not good. 00:52:35 Speaker 2: That's right, that's dirty. 00:52:38 Speaker 3: Yes, I mean it's a very strange habit, Like we'll just come down and they'll be like shoes on the time. 00:52:44 Speaker 2: No, no, no, no no. That's the only place you can put your feet on the table is in the waiting room. Like an oil change place, yes, right. 00:52:50 Speaker 3: Where it's already like fill right dirty. 00:52:52 Speaker 2: But at home, the shoe should be off before you get to a table. You can put your feet on. 00:52:56 Speaker 3: I agree. 00:52:57 Speaker 2: But on the dashboard, go for it. If you're living your life, relaxed, live your life. Yeah, you're hanging loose. 00:53:03 Speaker 3: I got my toes done yesterday. They're silver. 00:53:06 Speaker 2: Oh that's a great color. That's a real aluminum. 00:53:08 Speaker 3: So this this would look kind of kind of good on my desk. Very I couldn't put them here, But I'm not a bad guess. 00:53:14 Speaker 2: Thank you. All right, you've gotten one right so far, so okay, okay, And this is the final one. This is from a listener named Cameron Gift. You're a curse Google search AI Summer Vie Woo. No. 00:53:26 Speaker 3: First of all, do you know that the guy who made Chatchy GBT. I'm sorry, I know it's not a political podcast, but he's the biggest donor to the Trump administration. AI is going to take all of our jobs away. Like no, And I know I've really progressive. Friends were like it's coming and it's a great tool, and I'm like, I mean, okay, I did use it for one thing. 00:53:45 Speaker 2: To write your book. 00:53:46 Speaker 3: Yeah. I was trying to write a card around something difficult, which was that someone had lost someone dear and a baby had been born. A little bit like how do I write that card? 00:53:57 Speaker 1: Right? 00:53:57 Speaker 3: And I actually did ask oh, and it did help. I mean, this is what sucks, is it? It's helpful, but we're all going to die like soon. 00:54:08 Speaker 2: It's a kind of helpful. 00:54:10 Speaker 3: Yeah, it's a good launching pad. I mean it's interesting because I was actually like, I'm working on a script with some people and we were having a little note session Saturday. It was so fun and we're just like going through this thing and coming up with jokes and it was just such a blast. And I thought, is this the kind of thing that like, no one's going to need us soon? It's horrifying, absolutely horrible, And it is. It was a sort of it's a sort of bigger idea. It's not like Indie small. It's like and I feel like those are the most susceptible, right, Oh, absolutely, because some of those are written really bad and people still love them, so studios don't care, like it's a piece of shit, but everybody watches it. But how many Netflix rom coms need to be made that are mediocre, but they make a lot of money and no one cares. So A A I is going to be able to whip out like procedural scream. 00:55:00 Speaker 2: I hate to hear that. 00:55:01 Speaker 3: I don't know what's going to happen kids, But yeah, I guess there's always been these points in history where everyone thinks everything's going to fall apart and it all sort of figures. 00:55:09 Speaker 2: It's this one feels actually keeps saying that. 00:55:13 Speaker 3: It's like, yeah, but if you read like nineteen eighty four, it feels, particularly when you don't have reality anymore and there's no truth, it's a little it's a little challenging. 00:55:24 Speaker 2: Yeah, is it worth all of these things so you can have a card written for you? Yes? 00:55:28 Speaker 3: No, I really deleted it. I'm not. Although it doesn't really matter because if you use Google, it's using AI anyway. So what are we going to adapt? Have you stopped using Amazon? 00:55:40 Speaker 2: No, it's horrible, I know, it's absolutely horrible. I feel like we have to do something where it's almost like you everyone should commit one friend in their life to stop using these things so. 00:55:50 Speaker 3: That we can all just ride on their back of doing it right. 00:55:53 Speaker 2: Well, I feel like almost like a chain letter where it's like I would get you to stop, you would get. 00:55:57 Speaker 3: Another pay it forward. 00:56:00 Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know how we get out. 00:56:02 Speaker 3: I did order it. So I was staying with my friend in New York and she was away at her she has like an upstate home, and she got a notification that Amazon had been dropped off and she was like, I didn't did you order Amazon? And I was like, oh yeah, and she's like Amy, and I was like, oh god, yeah, like I'm not supposed to do that. Good for her, I know, so she really did stop? 00:56:24 Speaker 2: Wow? Yeah, I mean, yeah, it stops. 00:56:28 Speaker 3: And then you know, you come down also to the fact that all those people who work you know, not the company. He needs to pay them more. That's the biggest problem, right, he needs to treat his employees better. But all the like subcontractors that also use Amazon, you're also sort of punishing them. It's like a very tricky thing. 00:56:44 Speaker 2: Oh, I mean we are all truly trapped. 00:56:47 Speaker 3: Yes, we're trap We're very trapped. They got power, Yeah, they got us. There's like five people who own everything and we are I mean, even to speak out right, it's like, oh, well, then you know, you're never going to work again. 00:57:04 Speaker 2: Yeah, there has to be some sort of regulation all this sort of thing. I don't. I just don't. It's both easy to stop using it and almost impossible. 00:57:11 Speaker 3: Almost impossible. So it's like when you get a remote control on your TV and then someone says that remote control is evil. You need to get up and turn the TV dial. 00:57:20 Speaker 2: I'm not going to No one's going to do that. 00:57:22 Speaker 3: And I was born before remote controls, Like it was not a big deal, right, say, it really wasn't a big deal to stand up and change the channel. But God knows, once you get that convenience, you're like, what are you talking about? 00:57:33 Speaker 2: Right? So I guess, uh, it's just this thing where you don't quite entirely give up. 00:57:39 Speaker 3: I think you try to minimize, try. 00:57:40 Speaker 2: To minimize, and maybe make small. 00:57:43 Speaker 3: And then like find small businesses for the things you can't. Yeah, I do do do that. 00:57:47 Speaker 2: I do do that, and then just feel an immense amount of guilt every waking. 00:57:51 Speaker 3: Yeah, well sure always, But. 00:57:54 Speaker 2: You're saying, cursed the Google search AI summer. 00:57:57 Speaker 3: Yes, cursed. Now what's the right answer? 00:58:00 Speaker 2: Of course? 00:58:00 Speaker 3: Oh God, to get up and leave and protest. I'm done with this interview. 00:58:09 Speaker 2: I'm a Google employee. Oh, absolute course. These are those AI summaries are particularly infuriating because they're just forced on you. 00:58:18 Speaker 3: By the way, they're also like wrong, they're wrong. 00:58:21 Speaker 2: Yeah, and they're very confident, so like I've seen, I unfortunately am somewhat aware of how technology works, so I kind of was ahead of the game, knowing that they just send you the wrong things. But I know plenty of people who will just read that and then that's what they're believing, and frequently it's just totally wrong. 00:58:40 Speaker 3: We had a big discussion around whether the Kidd and Bad Bunnies super Bowl halftime was the kid who had been arrested by Ice, because I went on the internet immediately and my stepdaughter is like, that is not that kid and his name was Liam, I believe, and you know, and we were like, is it an you know, we're trying to rewind and look up. And then I go, well, let me ask you know, Google and googlegles, yes, Bad Bunny brought And then we realized how absurd that was of an idea that this poor kid who just got out of deportation, which just show up at the Super Bowl halftime show. Because you know the first thing that him and his family want is a ton of attention. You know, that's exactly what you want when you barely like escape the clause of fascism. I gotta go on the Super Bowl show. And so no, this little boy was him as a younger kid getting his you know, he's an actor. Sure, but Google said it was limp. 00:59:35 Speaker 2: Any piece of information now that you think is true, you should find four different But there. 00:59:40 Speaker 3: Was this whole thing that like Trump called c SPAN yesterday that was going around was this well, you know he used to call he used to call in and. 00:59:47 Speaker 2: Be this other guy. He just think everything has happening. 00:59:49 Speaker 3: So someone called into c SPAN and was used the name that he used to use when he would call into a place. But I was like, why would Trump care about c SPAN plus with AI anyone can do that, you know, and I want to get four confirmations. 01:00:02 Speaker 2: Yes. 01:00:03 Speaker 3: And you know what else people do, know is they like to throw something out there before it happens, Like the Dodgers refuse to go to the White No, it wasn't the Dodgers. The Seattle Seahawks refuse to go to the White House. And I'm like, yes, some some guts and that just wasn't true. That's just not true. And then you know it's like somebody threw it out there so that they might feel the pressure or something. 01:00:22 Speaker 2: Right, and everyone's so ready for something, to a piece of good news or whatever. They don't look at the show. Oh that was a tough one. Those they should be a shave. Come on, that's shameful. 01:00:33 Speaker 3: Behave I just want the like lesbians on the other side. 01:00:35 Speaker 2: And this is all post heated rivalry. Hot hockey was riding a real high and now these guys have I had a great time watching. 01:00:43 Speaker 3: I have my husband on episode we just finished episode three less okay, he's like, they're very good actor, they're excellent actors. 01:00:50 Speaker 2: Yes, only six episodes long too. 01:00:55 Speaker 3: Yeah, no, it's five. Five, it's not even six. The cottage is. 01:01:00 Speaker 2: Five Oh wow. Yeah. So next season will probably be four hundred episodes because of that success, and now they have a lot to clean up after this other behavior from the hockey players. 01:01:11 Speaker 3: Yeah, no kidding, Good grief, good grief. What a disappointment. 01:01:15 Speaker 2: Well you got two out of three? Okay, Well that's bad. That's the worst. I think we should answer a listener question Okay. People are writing into I said no gifts at gmail dot com, begging for answers. Will you help me answer something here? Let's see this. One says, oh, they didn't even address me or you. Usually they say dear Bridger or something, but this just gets into it. It says, I hate my sister in law's husband's sister's boyfriend in parentheses husband's sister's boyfriend. Does that make any sense? 01:01:44 Speaker 3: I hate my sister in law's boyfriend. 01:01:48 Speaker 2: Let's just leave it at that, because the relative math I'm not working with right now. I hate my sister in law's boyfriend. My husband thinks I should have a conversation with him about keeping the peace, but I hate him and I don't want him around my baby, who's eighteen months old. He also hates dog's red flag and she has. 01:02:05 Speaker 3: Done I don't even need to read me. 01:02:07 Speaker 2: They almost broke up the day I had my baby, but made up while I was pushing my child into this world. 01:02:12 Speaker 3: I just found all this stuff that not off. 01:02:17 Speaker 2: Leave it alone. You're ruining they did. 01:02:19 Speaker 3: I'm sorry, I keep reading. 01:02:20 Speaker 2: I apologize you were sent by a rival podcast. 01:02:23 Speaker 3: Jesus Christ, I'm so sorry. 01:02:26 Speaker 2: Okay, let's see. Let's see, they almost broke up the day I had my baby, but made up while I was pushing my child into the world. They now have been living together for about a year. How do I coexist with this terrible human in our lives? He also implied one time that my husband was going to kill him after they had a disagreement and never apologize for it. And my husband is acting chummy with him now for the sake of the family. The terrible boyfriend also just bought my husband a two hundred and fifty dollars watch. What is with this guy? Is? 01:02:53 Speaker 3: He is? 01:02:54 Speaker 2: He left bombing my husband? And that's from Mary Anne. I mean the layers of whatever is going on in Mayor ends life. 01:03:00 Speaker 3: I mean, look, once you say he doesn't like dogs, I'm right, We're done. Finished, We're absolutely done. What could And you know you tell your sister in law, I would love to be the husband's sister who's dating this dick? I guess is what? 01:03:16 Speaker 2: Yes? 01:03:17 Speaker 3: And so basically you just go to holiday events. You don't do any special side gatherings. If you want to see you know, if he wants to see his sister, fine, you say, I don't trust people who don't like dogs, and we're done. 01:03:31 Speaker 2: Right, and then the two hundred and fifty dollars. 01:03:34 Speaker 3: You know what you do? You let them, You let them, You let them robins about it. That's what you do. You let them. 01:03:44 Speaker 2: She wanted to be able to demonstrate the philosophy and action. 01:03:48 Speaker 3: That's a good question. 01:03:49 Speaker 2: And let the Let this guy buy your husband as many watches as he. 01:03:52 Speaker 3: Will them have their romance, but you do not get involved. 01:03:55 Speaker 2: The moment an affair happens with love. 01:03:58 Speaker 3: As they say, light and polite. Those are some allan on keywords. Yeah, light and polite. This guy's work gone and light and polite and hardly ever. 01:04:08 Speaker 2: Oh and hardly ever. 01:04:09 Speaker 3: Yeah. Interesting, that's my ad. 01:04:11 Speaker 2: It's a good ad. Yeah, so do you need to write a book? Yes, this guy is going to be gone in no time. Nobody likes him. Yeah, and now he's been exposed on this podcast. 01:04:21 Speaker 3: So like, is that no contact trend? Yeah, it goes on the no contexts. The whole family goes no contact contact guy. Yeah, get rid of him, let him buy a few more watches, take him to a pond shop, et cetera. Take advantage. That's well, I don't think a two hundred fifty dollars watch is that expensive? But is that just me giving away like mine? 01:04:38 Speaker 2: I think I think that's like probably I'm a person who buys a twenty dollars watch. 01:04:42 Speaker 3: I don't buy watches, but I would imagine. 01:04:44 Speaker 2: Like, yeah, I think people buy thousands of. 01:04:46 Speaker 3: Yeah, like a watch is like a thousand dollars. 01:04:49 Speaker 2: Right, two hundred and fifty is like a good watch? 01:04:52 Speaker 3: Yeah, why you get this is a. 01:04:53 Speaker 2: Twenty dollars watch and I love it? Yeah? Because I lose them all the time. 01:04:57 Speaker 3: Why do you wear a watch? 01:04:59 Speaker 2: Because in movies, I don't want to be able to look at my phone. If I'm in a movie theater, I want to be able to look at the time. 01:05:04 Speaker 3: I thought, like when you were acting in movies, I'm like, well, don't they have an opinion about your watch? 01:05:08 Speaker 2: I make one, Demanda. Anytime I book a role, I get to wear the watch. 01:05:12 Speaker 3: I wear this twenty dollars, this seventeenth century No matter what I'm wearing this watch. 01:05:18 Speaker 2: Uh, this guy's gone, Yeah, good luck, Maryanne. Don't write back. 01:05:22 Speaker 3: In Yeah, that's not nice to her. 01:05:26 Speaker 2: Let me, okay, let me do whatever I want whenever I want. Absolutely Amy, I've had a wonderful time with you. 01:05:34 Speaker 3: Me too. 01:05:35 Speaker 2: I felt my new soap, I've got my book. 01:05:37 Speaker 3: You're the best time you've ever had. 01:05:39 Speaker 2: I've had the best time I've ever had. Unfortunately, we're wrapping up the podcast for good, and I mean, how can I have a better time than this? You've ruled this episode, the entire series is over. 01:05:52 Speaker 3: You're for a second. 01:05:54 Speaker 2: What if you just that would be such a fun surprise for a guest to find out that it's the last. 01:05:58 Speaker 3: No, right, No, but I didn't know if like, I don't know you were in some sort of transition period. No, I'm glad that's not true. I know I'm episode three hundred and God knows what we. 01:06:10 Speaker 2: Can care about two probably to eighty eight or something. 01:06:13 Speaker 3: I want to know what my numbers is else, do we know what the number? 01:06:17 Speaker 2: One know? 01:06:17 Speaker 3: My number is. 01:06:18 Speaker 2: Ninety ninety Wow number, start the countdown. That's a good number, solid number. 01:06:24 Speaker 3: That's a good I like it's round. 01:06:26 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's not like ninety two two. 01:06:30 Speaker 3: I will always go down. It's the greatest episode of this podcast ever. 01:06:34 Speaker 2: Mark it down, write it down. Well, thank you for being here, thank you for having me. Listener the podcast is over. I don't know what else to tell you. 01:06:41 Speaker 3: I can go to the bathroom. 01:06:42 Speaker 2: Amy. That's the one thing that's not going to be allowed for the rest of the day is for Amy to use the restroom. But listener, you can use the restroom because the podcast is over. I love you, goodbye. I said, No Gifts is an exactly right production. Our Your producer is Ellis Nelson, and our episodes are beautifully mixed by Ben Holliday. The theme song is by miracle worker Amy Mann, and we couldn't do it without our booker, Patrick Cottner. You must follow the show on Instagram at I said No Gifts, that's where you're going to see pictures of all these wonderful gifts I'm getting. And don't you want to see the gifts? 01:07:22 Speaker 1: He lie in? 01:07:23 Speaker 3: Why did you hear? 01:07:26 Speaker 1: Gonta man? Myself perfectly clear, But you're a guest to me. You gotta come to me empty, And I said, no guests. Your presences presence enough. I'm already had too much stuff, So how do your dance survey me