1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:03,480 Speaker 1: Am I the ahole for forcing my stupid, pathetic daughter 2 00:00:03,760 --> 00:00:07,160 Speaker 1: to share her presence with my incredible, amazing step daughter. 3 00:00:07,480 --> 00:00:12,000 Speaker 2: Yo, she's so stupid and pathetic. Just deserve presidents. 4 00:00:12,960 --> 00:00:14,120 Speaker 1: She just came out of me. 5 00:00:14,640 --> 00:00:18,360 Speaker 2: She's stupid, She's dude. That's some self hatred if I 6 00:00:18,360 --> 00:00:18,720 Speaker 2: ever heard. 7 00:00:18,760 --> 00:00:22,360 Speaker 1: I always wonder like, why do they favor the stepchildren 8 00:00:22,480 --> 00:00:25,240 Speaker 1: like you would? Logically I would favor my own child 9 00:00:25,280 --> 00:00:28,600 Speaker 1: over someone I didn't birth. Yo, that's why you're gonna 10 00:00:28,600 --> 00:00:31,360 Speaker 1: make a terrible parent, John, Yeah, yeah, there we go. Yeah, 11 00:00:31,440 --> 00:00:31,920 Speaker 1: now we know. 12 00:00:32,200 --> 00:00:34,879 Speaker 2: Now we know the secret to parenting is hating your 13 00:00:34,920 --> 00:00:38,600 Speaker 2: own children. Of course, how could you not? How could 14 00:00:38,600 --> 00:00:40,720 Speaker 2: he not see it? Yes, well we're about to get 15 00:00:40,760 --> 00:00:44,520 Speaker 2: a masterclass here. I forty female, was a single mother 16 00:00:44,640 --> 00:00:47,800 Speaker 2: to my daughter Amy fifteen. I came out three years 17 00:00:47,800 --> 00:00:51,120 Speaker 2: ago and married my wife, Jenna forty two female, last year. 18 00:00:51,200 --> 00:00:54,120 Speaker 2: She has a daughter, Nora thirteen female, and we all 19 00:00:54,160 --> 00:00:56,760 Speaker 2: lived together as I have full custody of my daughter. 20 00:00:56,880 --> 00:00:58,760 Speaker 2: It was kind of hard for her to adjust to 21 00:00:58,800 --> 00:01:01,440 Speaker 2: having a second mom, but they ended up getting along well. 22 00:01:01,480 --> 00:01:05,039 Speaker 2: The girls have their birthdays very close, only two days apart, 23 00:01:05,280 --> 00:01:08,120 Speaker 2: so we decided to do a joint birthday party for them. 24 00:01:08,319 --> 00:01:12,720 Speaker 2: Mistake number one. Joint birthdays are kind of rough d 25 00:01:13,160 --> 00:01:14,480 Speaker 2: the not when it's forced. 26 00:01:14,600 --> 00:01:17,720 Speaker 1: I actually used to do joint birthdays by choice really 27 00:01:17,760 --> 00:01:21,160 Speaker 1: with who Mac Actually oh really we were born literally 28 00:01:21,240 --> 00:01:22,480 Speaker 1: one day apart. 29 00:01:22,200 --> 00:01:25,520 Speaker 2: From each other. No way, that's lit. It was it 30 00:01:25,520 --> 00:01:26,800 Speaker 2: a fun joint birthday. 31 00:01:26,800 --> 00:01:28,760 Speaker 1: It was always fun. Yeah, Like we would just like 32 00:01:28,800 --> 00:01:30,800 Speaker 1: get like a giant group of people together and just 33 00:01:31,080 --> 00:01:32,800 Speaker 1: do crazy rambunctious. 34 00:01:33,000 --> 00:01:35,520 Speaker 2: That sounds that sounds ideal. It was awesome. I feel 35 00:01:35,520 --> 00:01:38,800 Speaker 2: like like a cool aspect of a joint birthday is 36 00:01:39,080 --> 00:01:41,920 Speaker 2: you can go even more wild because it's like, oh 37 00:01:41,959 --> 00:01:44,600 Speaker 2: maybe like you know, double the spending budget or whatever. 38 00:01:44,760 --> 00:01:46,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, and it's it was also cool because like we 39 00:01:46,560 --> 00:01:49,160 Speaker 1: would always bring like people that my friends that she 40 00:01:49,240 --> 00:01:51,360 Speaker 1: didn't know, and then her friends that I didn't know, 41 00:01:51,440 --> 00:01:51,960 Speaker 1: and then. 42 00:01:51,960 --> 00:01:54,040 Speaker 2: Like compare me together like a transformer. 43 00:01:54,200 --> 00:01:56,800 Speaker 1: Now, since Nora had a hard time making new friends, 44 00:01:56,920 --> 00:01:59,040 Speaker 1: they moved in with us, and she's very very shy. 45 00:01:59,480 --> 00:02:01,840 Speaker 1: Most of my family lives out of the country, so 46 00:02:01,880 --> 00:02:04,800 Speaker 1: the gifts were sent a week early. It was a 47 00:02:04,960 --> 00:02:08,600 Speaker 1: huge bag with at least twenty gifts of gift nice. 48 00:02:09,080 --> 00:02:11,639 Speaker 1: The party was nice and We opened the bag at night. 49 00:02:11,720 --> 00:02:14,480 Speaker 1: Once everybody left, my wife Jenna handed out the presence 50 00:02:14,760 --> 00:02:18,040 Speaker 1: after twelve gifts in a row, now just for Amy. 51 00:02:18,480 --> 00:02:20,960 Speaker 1: I checked the bag and froze to see that there 52 00:02:21,000 --> 00:02:27,280 Speaker 1: was only one gift for Nora. Oh that's rough, dude, 53 00:02:27,280 --> 00:02:28,240 Speaker 1: what are you gonna do? 54 00:02:28,760 --> 00:02:30,760 Speaker 2: And that gift was from my parents. Oh. 55 00:02:31,520 --> 00:02:33,880 Speaker 1: Nora pretended it wasn't a big deal, but as she 56 00:02:33,960 --> 00:02:36,720 Speaker 1: opened up the present, I saw her eyes drop. It 57 00:02:36,760 --> 00:02:42,519 Speaker 1: was a fifteen dollars tumbler from Walmart. Oh oh man. 58 00:02:43,160 --> 00:02:47,040 Speaker 1: Not to sound ungrateful, but Amy's gifts were much more expensive. 59 00:02:47,200 --> 00:02:50,200 Speaker 1: Lots of gift cards for over one hundred dollars, a 60 00:02:50,280 --> 00:02:54,760 Speaker 1: new phone, limited edition Funkos designer clothes, and lots of 61 00:02:54,800 --> 00:02:57,480 Speaker 1: cards wishing her happy birthdays. 62 00:02:57,840 --> 00:02:58,000 Speaker 2: Bro. 63 00:02:58,400 --> 00:03:02,160 Speaker 1: Also, this is a hall, this is this is there's 64 00:03:02,200 --> 00:03:06,120 Speaker 1: some good friends. Bro, dude, what I want those friends? 65 00:03:06,160 --> 00:03:09,400 Speaker 1: Needless to say, I blew up on the family chat. 66 00:03:09,680 --> 00:03:13,040 Speaker 1: I called out her parents, siblings and extended family who 67 00:03:13,080 --> 00:03:16,639 Speaker 1: sent out gifts not considering Nora, and for my parents 68 00:03:16,800 --> 00:03:17,800 Speaker 1: for the cheap gift. 69 00:03:18,360 --> 00:03:21,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's almost worse. Like you get like you see 70 00:03:21,520 --> 00:03:22,120 Speaker 2: you see like. 71 00:03:22,240 --> 00:03:25,440 Speaker 1: Uh oh, Grandma and Grandpa got me like no Gucci pants, thanks, 72 00:03:25,480 --> 00:03:28,520 Speaker 1: and then you get a Walmart Trubbler Like that's not 73 00:03:29,200 --> 00:03:30,919 Speaker 1: so who's getting all of these? 74 00:03:31,240 --> 00:03:31,480 Speaker 2: Uh? 75 00:03:31,520 --> 00:03:34,359 Speaker 1: So her biological daughter Amy is the one getting all 76 00:03:34,440 --> 00:03:35,960 Speaker 1: the okay, and her stepdaughter. 77 00:03:36,080 --> 00:03:38,440 Speaker 2: But why why? Why is it like the mom getting 78 00:03:38,480 --> 00:03:39,760 Speaker 2: something nice for the stepdaughter. 79 00:03:40,120 --> 00:03:43,440 Speaker 1: That's a great question. Should maybe she should have like 80 00:03:43,480 --> 00:03:45,440 Speaker 1: done a little research. Well, I guess maybe you kind 81 00:03:45,440 --> 00:03:48,520 Speaker 1: of just expect like the presents to be somewhat equal. 82 00:03:49,320 --> 00:03:51,920 Speaker 1: But yeah, wait wait, yeah she got one present from 83 00:03:51,960 --> 00:03:55,600 Speaker 1: the grandparents. Yeah, get two from each mom? Yeah, and 84 00:03:55,680 --> 00:03:58,720 Speaker 1: also like maybe one from the step dad too. Why 85 00:03:58,760 --> 00:04:00,440 Speaker 1: is it why is an Ope give? Yeah? 86 00:04:00,480 --> 00:04:03,720 Speaker 2: Yeah, Why isn't op giving any presents to a stepdaughter? 87 00:04:03,840 --> 00:04:06,600 Speaker 2: That's the question. It's two women, by the way, Oh 88 00:04:06,680 --> 00:04:09,800 Speaker 2: two moms. Okay. Also, like, should it like Ope give 89 00:04:10,280 --> 00:04:10,800 Speaker 2: a present? 90 00:04:10,960 --> 00:04:14,120 Speaker 1: Oh, should give a gift the step mom. Shouldn't Opee 91 00:04:14,280 --> 00:04:16,240 Speaker 1: give a present to her stepdaughter? 92 00:04:16,600 --> 00:04:17,799 Speaker 2: Yes? One hundred percent? 93 00:04:17,880 --> 00:04:22,599 Speaker 1: And Nora's mom And where's where's Nora's family? Like their 94 00:04:22,640 --> 00:04:24,719 Speaker 1: side of the family. Op's family is getting all these 95 00:04:24,760 --> 00:04:27,359 Speaker 1: gifts for Amy, but the other family no where to 96 00:04:27,360 --> 00:04:28,000 Speaker 1: be found. 97 00:04:27,960 --> 00:04:30,440 Speaker 2: Damn dude, I feel bad. That's yeah, that's that sucks 98 00:04:30,480 --> 00:04:30,839 Speaker 2: for Nora. 99 00:04:31,080 --> 00:04:34,320 Speaker 1: No one took me seriously, since it's not our duty 100 00:04:34,360 --> 00:04:38,800 Speaker 1: to give gifts to somebody else's freaking whatever kid, and 101 00:04:39,240 --> 00:04:42,200 Speaker 1: Amy deserves them since I didn't even throw her her 102 00:04:42,240 --> 00:04:47,320 Speaker 1: own birthday party. Stupid emphasizing that Jenna and Nora are 103 00:04:47,480 --> 00:04:53,040 Speaker 1: my problems, not theirs, which is kind of fair, kind 104 00:04:53,080 --> 00:04:55,800 Speaker 1: of fair. I don't know, like you could probably say 105 00:04:55,800 --> 00:04:58,800 Speaker 1: it in a nice way, but like, but that is true, 106 00:04:59,440 --> 00:05:01,320 Speaker 1: like honestly, Like this is the person I'm related to, 107 00:05:01,440 --> 00:05:03,080 Speaker 1: I know, I know them, Like I wouldn't even know 108 00:05:03,120 --> 00:05:05,640 Speaker 1: what to gift this other person, like not related to 109 00:05:05,640 --> 00:05:08,240 Speaker 1: blah blah blah. Nora was clearly hurt since it's the 110 00:05:08,240 --> 00:05:11,560 Speaker 1: first time that my family has left her out at night. 111 00:05:11,640 --> 00:05:14,159 Speaker 1: I asked Amy to share some of the gifts with 112 00:05:14,200 --> 00:05:17,200 Speaker 1: her stepsistor now all of them, just a couple of 113 00:05:17,240 --> 00:05:19,320 Speaker 1: gift cards and some of the new clothes. 114 00:05:19,440 --> 00:05:20,719 Speaker 2: Amy refused. 115 00:05:21,040 --> 00:05:24,120 Speaker 1: This surprised me since she never had a problem with sharing, 116 00:05:24,200 --> 00:05:27,000 Speaker 1: and even though she and Nora are not BFFs, they 117 00:05:27,120 --> 00:05:31,040 Speaker 1: usually get along. After asking why, Amy started crying, saying 118 00:05:31,080 --> 00:05:33,720 Speaker 1: that she never wanted a joint birthday party, and then 119 00:05:33,760 --> 00:05:36,440 Speaker 1: I forced her to share everything with Nora. They share 120 00:05:36,480 --> 00:05:39,400 Speaker 1: a room for space, and I make sure they're both 121 00:05:39,400 --> 00:05:42,520 Speaker 1: invited to the same parties and sleepovers. It's getting more 122 00:05:42,560 --> 00:05:46,200 Speaker 1: and more suspicious so that Nora won't be left out. 123 00:05:46,240 --> 00:05:48,359 Speaker 2: I think I think Opie's actually trying to do a 124 00:05:48,400 --> 00:05:51,159 Speaker 2: good thing, like her heart's in the right place. 125 00:05:51,279 --> 00:05:54,280 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think, But I because because she also mentioned 126 00:05:54,320 --> 00:05:56,200 Speaker 1: earlier that Nora has a hard time like making friends 127 00:05:56,240 --> 00:05:56,599 Speaker 1: and stuff. 128 00:05:56,600 --> 00:05:58,160 Speaker 2: So I was like, oh, well, like I'll get her 129 00:05:58,160 --> 00:05:59,880 Speaker 2: in the mix, like shelude. 130 00:06:00,279 --> 00:06:05,400 Speaker 1: But there's definitely a delicate balance between like forcing her 131 00:06:05,560 --> 00:06:08,239 Speaker 1: on Amy's life, which like isn't really fair to Amy 132 00:06:08,279 --> 00:06:09,000 Speaker 1: at the end of the day. 133 00:06:09,080 --> 00:06:11,480 Speaker 2: I think the actual mom also should be maybe playing 134 00:06:11,480 --> 00:06:12,279 Speaker 2: a more like. 135 00:06:12,200 --> 00:06:15,880 Speaker 1: Literally, Where's Where's Nora's mom? Like just hanging out, just 136 00:06:16,000 --> 00:06:19,240 Speaker 1: twiddling your thumbs. Amy stated that she at least wanted 137 00:06:19,320 --> 00:06:22,240 Speaker 1: her own gifts to be hers alone. I scolded her 138 00:06:22,279 --> 00:06:26,160 Speaker 1: for being selfish with her stepsister. I grounded her, and 139 00:06:26,279 --> 00:06:28,320 Speaker 1: I took a couple of the presents away from her 140 00:06:28,520 --> 00:06:29,479 Speaker 1: to give them to Nora. 141 00:06:29,920 --> 00:06:33,599 Speaker 2: M Yeah, but I feel like, actually, like I mean, 142 00:06:34,080 --> 00:06:37,919 Speaker 2: the reaction from her daughter is is kind of fair. 143 00:06:38,320 --> 00:06:40,719 Speaker 2: I mean, they're not not like like not completely fair, 144 00:06:40,760 --> 00:06:42,760 Speaker 2: but it's like it is her style. She's right to 145 00:06:42,800 --> 00:06:45,200 Speaker 2: be upset. And then she and I think she feels 146 00:06:45,240 --> 00:06:47,200 Speaker 2: like I think she does feel like now she's having 147 00:06:47,240 --> 00:06:51,680 Speaker 2: to share everything, and it's like, dude, I don't necessarily 148 00:06:51,800 --> 00:06:53,400 Speaker 2: even want to hang out with Nora. 149 00:06:53,520 --> 00:06:55,880 Speaker 1: And the joint birthday is a terrible idea, Like that's 150 00:06:55,880 --> 00:06:58,960 Speaker 1: the biggest thing. Is like there's literally no like okay, yeah, 151 00:06:59,000 --> 00:07:01,880 Speaker 1: I get it too close together there, but just plan 152 00:07:02,160 --> 00:07:02,960 Speaker 1: two separate things. 153 00:07:03,040 --> 00:07:05,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, it would do two different weekends. It's simple. 154 00:07:05,120 --> 00:07:07,240 Speaker 1: I went to give them to Nora, but she turned 155 00:07:07,279 --> 00:07:09,960 Speaker 1: them down because she doesn't want any problems with Amy 156 00:07:10,240 --> 00:07:13,440 Speaker 1: and because it felt like pity. I mean, yeah, kind 157 00:07:13,480 --> 00:07:16,280 Speaker 1: of his it is. Since then, Amy has been cold 158 00:07:16,440 --> 00:07:19,120 Speaker 1: to all of us. I just wanted my two girls 159 00:07:19,160 --> 00:07:21,880 Speaker 1: to be closer with the joint party and have the 160 00:07:21,920 --> 00:07:24,160 Speaker 1: same things. Am I the a whole? 161 00:07:24,400 --> 00:07:26,800 Speaker 2: I don't think Op is an a hole. It's just like, 162 00:07:27,320 --> 00:07:29,480 Speaker 2: but you are. I think you are fucking up a 163 00:07:29,480 --> 00:07:29,880 Speaker 2: little bit. 164 00:07:30,000 --> 00:07:31,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, you have to you have to be more aware 165 00:07:31,880 --> 00:07:34,600 Speaker 1: of your own daughter's needs because you are, like, it 166 00:07:34,600 --> 00:07:37,440 Speaker 1: shouldn't be like I want them to have the same things. 167 00:07:37,520 --> 00:07:40,040 Speaker 1: That's like the wrong mindset. It should be like I 168 00:07:40,160 --> 00:07:43,320 Speaker 1: want to make sure Nora feels included and like feels 169 00:07:43,360 --> 00:07:45,520 Speaker 1: like she's enjoying things like my own. 170 00:07:45,480 --> 00:07:48,400 Speaker 2: Daughter, And maybe you should have thought about getting Nora 171 00:07:48,520 --> 00:07:49,080 Speaker 2: a present. 172 00:07:49,480 --> 00:07:52,760 Speaker 1: Okay, So there. There's a quick update below that says 173 00:07:52,920 --> 00:07:56,080 Speaker 1: Opie and her wife got gifts for both of the 174 00:07:56,120 --> 00:07:58,960 Speaker 1: girls their own tablets as well as their friends, and 175 00:07:59,040 --> 00:08:02,240 Speaker 1: Norah also received gifts from the extended family, but they 176 00:08:02,280 --> 00:08:04,000 Speaker 1: sent for Amy as well. 177 00:08:04,040 --> 00:08:04,840 Speaker 2: Wait what does that mean? 178 00:08:04,920 --> 00:08:07,920 Speaker 1: So nor receive gifts from extended family, but they sent 179 00:08:08,000 --> 00:08:08,960 Speaker 1: for Amy as what. 180 00:08:09,000 --> 00:08:11,600 Speaker 2: None were sent? Maybe maybe none more centence? Okay, yeah, 181 00:08:11,640 --> 00:08:15,040 Speaker 2: either way, Okay, so that Ope actually did give a present, 182 00:08:15,760 --> 00:08:18,640 Speaker 2: it's not the extended family's job to like make sure 183 00:08:19,480 --> 00:08:20,840 Speaker 2: they're getting the same presence. 184 00:08:20,920 --> 00:08:22,720 Speaker 1: I think. I think what you do in that case 185 00:08:22,800 --> 00:08:25,720 Speaker 1: is like, hey, look, I know, like it wasn't fun 186 00:08:25,840 --> 00:08:28,280 Speaker 1: that you know, you didn't get a bunch of gifts, 187 00:08:28,280 --> 00:08:29,480 Speaker 1: but like let's go out to it. 188 00:08:29,520 --> 00:08:30,240 Speaker 2: Like where do you want to go? 189 00:08:30,320 --> 00:08:31,560 Speaker 1: Like do you want to go to Clayer's? You want 190 00:08:31,560 --> 00:08:31,720 Speaker 1: to go? 191 00:08:31,800 --> 00:08:32,200 Speaker 2: Like maybe we. 192 00:08:32,160 --> 00:08:33,800 Speaker 1: Could go to amusement park, Like let's let's do a 193 00:08:33,840 --> 00:08:35,760 Speaker 1: special day and like just enjoy the two of us 194 00:08:35,840 --> 00:08:38,880 Speaker 1: or something. Yeah, that's like, I feel like a better 195 00:08:39,320 --> 00:08:42,960 Speaker 1: way than like s daughter, give me your stuff. Yeah. 196 00:08:44,240 --> 00:08:47,320 Speaker 2: Yeah. Also, maybe opening up all those presents in front 197 00:08:47,360 --> 00:08:49,480 Speaker 2: of the other kid maybe not the best move. 198 00:08:49,720 --> 00:08:50,880 Speaker 1: Read the labels next time. 199 00:08:50,800 --> 00:08:53,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, read the labels. Maybe look at it beforehand. At 200 00:08:53,440 --> 00:08:55,040 Speaker 2: the end of the day. OPI's not an a hole. 201 00:08:55,120 --> 00:08:57,440 Speaker 2: It's just like just fucking up as a parent. You know, 202 00:08:57,720 --> 00:08:59,760 Speaker 2: it's hard, dude. Yeah, there's no rule book. 203 00:08:59,800 --> 00:09:01,520 Speaker 1: I do feel for her a little bit because it's 204 00:09:01,600 --> 00:09:02,600 Speaker 1: it's a tricky situation. 205 00:09:02,720 --> 00:09:04,200 Speaker 2: It is. It's so tricky. I think the only a 206 00:09:04,280 --> 00:09:06,080 Speaker 2: hoole move is blowing up at the family for not 207 00:09:06,080 --> 00:09:10,040 Speaker 2: giving gifts. It's like it's and grounding the daughter. But 208 00:09:10,480 --> 00:09:13,640 Speaker 2: overall she's like she parts in the right place. It's 209 00:09:13,679 --> 00:09:16,160 Speaker 2: just the execution is not quite there.