1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:12,399 Speaker 1: M from grandmothers who whispered and their baby girl ill. 2 00:00:13,400 --> 00:00:16,920 Speaker 1: Two fathers on dimly lit street corners, instructing young soldiers 3 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:20,959 Speaker 1: to always keep their eyes open. You be queen, you 4 00:00:21,040 --> 00:00:24,239 Speaker 1: were fired. You will pass through centuries on the hands 5 00:00:24,280 --> 00:00:28,720 Speaker 1: of your daughters. They called you wisdom. Proverbs on the 6 00:00:28,760 --> 00:00:32,320 Speaker 1: backs of diamond eyed school children who grew into hymnals 7 00:00:32,320 --> 00:00:37,200 Speaker 1: recited by amethyst holding urban philosophers who recited neighborhood commandments 8 00:00:37,200 --> 00:00:40,680 Speaker 1: out of the windows of restored Alchemedo chariots to keep 9 00:00:40,680 --> 00:00:46,040 Speaker 1: the warmth of their blood. Be wise, be smart, being black, 10 00:00:46,080 --> 00:00:50,720 Speaker 1: Opal Brown courts bloodstone and prayer. Be every form of 11 00:00:50,880 --> 00:00:57,080 Speaker 1: jim see. King told, scribe, scribe, told son, son, told wife, 12 00:00:57,440 --> 00:01:00,360 Speaker 1: wife told her daughter, and daughter told the as this is, 13 00:01:00,640 --> 00:01:04,120 Speaker 1: And the ancess told me that you would come to 14 00:01:04,200 --> 00:01:08,639 Speaker 1: give you wisdom. Thousands they said you would come, Dropping 15 00:01:09,160 --> 00:01:13,720 Speaker 1: Dropping the gim Hey, Welcome back to another episode of 16 00:01:13,720 --> 00:01:17,160 Speaker 1: the Dropping Gems podcast. I am your host, Debbie Brown. 17 00:01:17,880 --> 00:01:23,080 Speaker 1: As always, thank you for walking into the rooms, settling down, 18 00:01:25,120 --> 00:01:30,440 Speaker 1: getting rooted, getting connected. This is a soft place to land. 19 00:01:30,520 --> 00:01:33,800 Speaker 1: We explore higher consciousness on this show and ways to 20 00:01:33,920 --> 00:01:41,559 Speaker 1: make it applicable, tangible, and transformative in our everyday lives. AH. 21 00:01:41,720 --> 00:01:45,120 Speaker 1: At the time of this recording, Wow, it is the 22 00:01:45,160 --> 00:01:48,600 Speaker 1: holiday season, so we are in the thick of a 23 00:01:48,720 --> 00:01:52,440 Speaker 1: lot of different kinds of energy. And something I've been 24 00:01:52,480 --> 00:01:57,400 Speaker 1: thinking about a lot is grace. I've been thinking about 25 00:01:57,440 --> 00:02:02,320 Speaker 1: all the definitions of grace, all ways that we may 26 00:02:02,440 --> 00:02:05,920 Speaker 1: personally define it, may personally apply it to our lives. 27 00:02:06,280 --> 00:02:11,840 Speaker 1: And I've also been thinking about what we sometimes consider 28 00:02:11,919 --> 00:02:15,639 Speaker 1: worthy of grace and what we don't. So I wanted 29 00:02:15,680 --> 00:02:20,200 Speaker 1: to take time this episode and just explore and impact 30 00:02:20,320 --> 00:02:24,560 Speaker 1: some thoughts that I have around cultivating more grace for 31 00:02:24,639 --> 00:02:28,880 Speaker 1: the challenging people in our lives and why ultimately that 32 00:02:29,040 --> 00:02:31,720 Speaker 1: is such a gift to us and such a benefit 33 00:02:31,800 --> 00:02:36,720 Speaker 1: to our day to day. So when we think about grace, right, 34 00:02:36,960 --> 00:02:43,600 Speaker 1: I that word uh. When I was younger, I didn't 35 00:02:43,600 --> 00:02:48,519 Speaker 1: really understand what that word meant uh in application right 36 00:02:48,720 --> 00:02:55,440 Speaker 1: like grace uh, having grace over my life or moving 37 00:02:55,520 --> 00:02:59,440 Speaker 1: with grace or you know, it seems like this very 38 00:02:59,480 --> 00:03:07,360 Speaker 1: regal but ethereal quality that didn't quite have directions on 39 00:03:07,440 --> 00:03:10,880 Speaker 1: how to embody or how to apply it, especially as 40 00:03:10,880 --> 00:03:15,120 Speaker 1: it relates if you've had a life with complex experiences, 41 00:03:15,639 --> 00:03:18,240 Speaker 1: you know, people talk about words like forgiveness, they talk 42 00:03:18,280 --> 00:03:21,560 Speaker 1: about words like grace, but when you think about how 43 00:03:21,600 --> 00:03:23,760 Speaker 1: to apply it to some of the things you may 44 00:03:23,800 --> 00:03:26,840 Speaker 1: have experienced or some of the ways that you feel 45 00:03:26,840 --> 00:03:33,040 Speaker 1: about yourself, it can feel so elusive. It can feel 46 00:03:33,280 --> 00:03:37,800 Speaker 1: so confusing and so strange. So I think about grace 47 00:03:37,880 --> 00:03:41,200 Speaker 1: a lot, you know, I'm into all the things, and 48 00:03:41,280 --> 00:03:44,680 Speaker 1: so many many years ago, one of the books that 49 00:03:44,720 --> 00:03:47,160 Speaker 1: I was reading that you kind of plug in your 50 00:03:47,160 --> 00:03:51,680 Speaker 1: birth information or you use your numerology, and I remember, I, 51 00:03:51,800 --> 00:03:53,600 Speaker 1: you know, I did do do do? Did all the 52 00:03:53,600 --> 00:03:58,080 Speaker 1: confution of what mine was, and the page that I 53 00:03:58,160 --> 00:04:01,120 Speaker 1: landed on in this book it said that my path 54 00:04:01,600 --> 00:04:05,880 Speaker 1: is called the Way of Grace, and that the lessons 55 00:04:05,960 --> 00:04:08,760 Speaker 1: that I was meant to learn in this life was 56 00:04:08,880 --> 00:04:15,000 Speaker 1: really all about, no matter what I experience, working to 57 00:04:15,160 --> 00:04:20,240 Speaker 1: keep my heart open and working to really exist and 58 00:04:20,279 --> 00:04:24,359 Speaker 1: walk on and extend a path of grace. And I 59 00:04:24,360 --> 00:04:30,040 Speaker 1: remember reading that and really resonating with it. It felt 60 00:04:30,240 --> 00:04:33,680 Speaker 1: very aligned with what the flow and the history of 61 00:04:33,720 --> 00:04:37,599 Speaker 1: my life had been um the ways I naturally felt 62 00:04:37,600 --> 00:04:45,640 Speaker 1: in my heart. But also it felt um confusing, you know, 63 00:04:45,760 --> 00:04:49,400 Speaker 1: it felt like, well, what does that fully mean and damn, 64 00:04:49,480 --> 00:04:52,200 Speaker 1: why do I have to be on this path of forgiveness? 65 00:04:53,080 --> 00:04:56,560 Speaker 1: You know? I think sometimes that can come into our awareness. UM, 66 00:04:56,600 --> 00:05:00,400 Speaker 1: as you're on the journey, and as you are really 67 00:05:00,440 --> 00:05:04,520 Speaker 1: being called to embody qualities and characteristics that are not 68 00:05:04,760 --> 00:05:08,120 Speaker 1: always role modeled for you, and that are not always 69 00:05:08,560 --> 00:05:11,520 Speaker 1: shared with you by other people, it can feel very 70 00:05:11,560 --> 00:05:16,320 Speaker 1: confusing to be called to embody ways of being and 71 00:05:16,400 --> 00:05:21,239 Speaker 1: practices that are not also being extended to you. And 72 00:05:21,920 --> 00:05:24,520 Speaker 1: we've explored this in a few different ways on this show. 73 00:05:24,800 --> 00:05:28,400 Speaker 1: It is it's the piece that I think many of 74 00:05:28,480 --> 00:05:32,919 Speaker 1: us who choose to make this journey one that is 75 00:05:33,040 --> 00:05:38,560 Speaker 1: lasting throughout your life. I think exploring the challenges of 76 00:05:38,600 --> 00:05:43,080 Speaker 1: being in an in an unconscious world with millions to 77 00:05:43,880 --> 00:05:48,800 Speaker 1: billions and billions of unconscious people who just this is 78 00:05:48,839 --> 00:05:51,280 Speaker 1: not their lifetime to do the work it just may 79 00:05:51,279 --> 00:05:55,560 Speaker 1: not happen, you know, finding ways to be okay with that, 80 00:05:56,320 --> 00:06:01,280 Speaker 1: to also accept it fully and not be really moved 81 00:06:01,279 --> 00:06:04,360 Speaker 1: by it. Um. I think that's lifelong work for everyone 82 00:06:04,440 --> 00:06:06,599 Speaker 1: who's on an awakened path, or on a path of 83 00:06:06,640 --> 00:06:10,960 Speaker 1: healing and wholeness, or on a path of just wanting 84 00:06:11,320 --> 00:06:16,240 Speaker 1: to be more and live differently. It's something that will 85 00:06:16,320 --> 00:06:19,479 Speaker 1: always be exploring with ourselves and others that to a 86 00:06:19,520 --> 00:06:22,920 Speaker 1: certain degree will always be negotiating and kind of checking 87 00:06:22,920 --> 00:06:28,600 Speaker 1: in with self. But the thing that really helps that 88 00:06:28,720 --> 00:06:31,880 Speaker 1: process as we find ourselves in the thick of it, 89 00:06:31,880 --> 00:06:36,279 Speaker 1: it is extending grace to ourselves for the frustration that 90 00:06:36,320 --> 00:06:44,760 Speaker 1: will naturally and surely arise. And it's important that we're 91 00:06:44,880 --> 00:06:51,800 Speaker 1: in constant observation and negotiation around how to really embody 92 00:06:51,880 --> 00:06:55,360 Speaker 1: and extended to other people. That's what closes the circle. 93 00:06:55,720 --> 00:06:59,400 Speaker 1: You know, you can come into a higher awareness, you 94 00:07:00,040 --> 00:07:06,320 Speaker 1: slay your dragons, much like the alchemist says, you come 95 00:07:06,320 --> 00:07:10,679 Speaker 1: into new ways, and then to complete that circle and cycle, 96 00:07:11,320 --> 00:07:14,080 Speaker 1: we are each in our own unique ways called to 97 00:07:14,240 --> 00:07:16,680 Speaker 1: teach it to others, to share it with others, to 98 00:07:16,840 --> 00:07:21,080 Speaker 1: help other people get free. To do that, it also 99 00:07:21,200 --> 00:07:27,680 Speaker 1: means that very often we have to submerge ourselves in 100 00:07:28,520 --> 00:07:34,480 Speaker 1: even the environments that can feel most triggering um in 101 00:07:34,520 --> 00:07:36,680 Speaker 1: a safe way, not in a way that dishonors you, 102 00:07:36,800 --> 00:07:38,800 Speaker 1: not in a way that causes you harm, not in 103 00:07:38,840 --> 00:07:45,320 Speaker 1: a way that causes you mental, emotional, or physical english, 104 00:07:45,480 --> 00:07:48,480 Speaker 1: but in the ways that say, okay, this person may 105 00:07:48,520 --> 00:07:53,200 Speaker 1: never change It's not at the level that I want 106 00:07:53,280 --> 00:07:55,560 Speaker 1: to completely cut them out of my life. So how 107 00:07:55,600 --> 00:07:59,000 Speaker 1: do I come into grace and see the unique experience 108 00:07:59,080 --> 00:08:02,560 Speaker 1: they're having and also really come into a space of 109 00:08:02,680 --> 00:08:08,960 Speaker 1: understanding that I'm sure that hurts you, know, um understanding 110 00:08:09,000 --> 00:08:11,360 Speaker 1: that for people that love you watching you grow and 111 00:08:11,440 --> 00:08:15,520 Speaker 1: transform in ways that maybe they are not able to, 112 00:08:15,960 --> 00:08:18,160 Speaker 1: or at least at this moment, are not able to, 113 00:08:18,920 --> 00:08:24,000 Speaker 1: it does hurt. You know, someone is feeling outpaced, and 114 00:08:24,520 --> 00:08:30,360 Speaker 1: I've just found that in fighting the initial natural response 115 00:08:30,440 --> 00:08:33,920 Speaker 1: of feeling offended by that or feeling like someone doesn't 116 00:08:34,040 --> 00:08:38,000 Speaker 1: want you to do well, and switching it to the 117 00:08:38,080 --> 00:08:42,160 Speaker 1: lens of understanding how confusing that can be for people 118 00:08:42,200 --> 00:08:45,800 Speaker 1: that cannot do the same thing as you're doing. It 119 00:08:45,920 --> 00:08:49,160 Speaker 1: shifts it for everyone. It shifts it for you. It 120 00:08:49,240 --> 00:08:52,040 Speaker 1: brings you into peace, It takes the edge off, it 121 00:08:52,080 --> 00:08:57,160 Speaker 1: stops making everything so personal, and it extends a grace 122 00:08:57,240 --> 00:09:00,720 Speaker 1: to another person and extends to them a dignity of 123 00:09:00,760 --> 00:09:05,160 Speaker 1: their own process without judgment. Now, even within that, we 124 00:09:05,240 --> 00:09:09,120 Speaker 1: can still make the choice of do I want to 125 00:09:09,160 --> 00:09:13,280 Speaker 1: deal with this. That's a preferential choice that we each 126 00:09:13,400 --> 00:09:16,840 Speaker 1: have the right to make. Just because someone is struggling 127 00:09:16,920 --> 00:09:20,120 Speaker 1: just because we can identify with what may or may 128 00:09:20,160 --> 00:09:25,439 Speaker 1: not be hurting, or just because we can say, well, 129 00:09:25,480 --> 00:09:30,079 Speaker 1: because this happened to them or that happened, we can 130 00:09:30,120 --> 00:09:32,080 Speaker 1: still have a choice of if we want to deal 131 00:09:32,120 --> 00:09:34,120 Speaker 1: with it or not. And it doesn't have to make 132 00:09:34,200 --> 00:09:38,000 Speaker 1: up anyone quote unquote bad person. It doesn't have to 133 00:09:38,040 --> 00:09:43,160 Speaker 1: make anyone um not empathetic. You know, as long as 134 00:09:43,200 --> 00:09:45,640 Speaker 1: you're not causing harm, as long as you're not trying 135 00:09:45,679 --> 00:09:52,040 Speaker 1: to exasperate exacerbate someone else's wound, you have a right 136 00:09:52,440 --> 00:09:56,080 Speaker 1: to remove people from your life for your peace. You 137 00:09:56,160 --> 00:09:59,000 Speaker 1: have a right to remove anyone from your life for 138 00:09:59,240 --> 00:10:03,000 Speaker 1: any reason. It but checking in with self, checking in 139 00:10:03,040 --> 00:10:05,480 Speaker 1: that it's not just your own wound, checking in that 140 00:10:05,520 --> 00:10:09,199 Speaker 1: it's not just ego is really important on the journey. Otherwise, 141 00:10:09,760 --> 00:10:12,040 Speaker 1: if we are making choices that are based out of ego, 142 00:10:12,080 --> 00:10:13,920 Speaker 1: if we are making choices that are based out of 143 00:10:13,920 --> 00:10:19,960 Speaker 1: our wounds, very often we will find ourselves continuing the pattern, 144 00:10:20,400 --> 00:10:25,240 Speaker 1: continuing the cycle, and having more and more opportunities to 145 00:10:25,320 --> 00:10:28,680 Speaker 1: break out of it, And those more and more opportunities 146 00:10:28,840 --> 00:10:32,520 Speaker 1: look like more and more challenge until we decide to 147 00:10:32,559 --> 00:10:39,120 Speaker 1: make another choice. I think it's important that we get 148 00:10:39,200 --> 00:10:43,240 Speaker 1: to the fibers of on our journey, get into a 149 00:10:43,360 --> 00:10:47,959 Speaker 1: practice of extending grace to other people, and practice being 150 00:10:48,000 --> 00:10:50,520 Speaker 1: a safe space for others. Again, and I'm always going 151 00:10:50,559 --> 00:10:52,560 Speaker 1: to frame it this way, not in a way that 152 00:10:52,640 --> 00:10:56,040 Speaker 1: dishonors you, not in a way that you're forced to 153 00:10:56,600 --> 00:11:00,400 Speaker 1: endure something, but in a way that is a position 154 00:11:00,840 --> 00:11:04,880 Speaker 1: of you're not operating out of void, You're not operating 155 00:11:04,920 --> 00:11:08,800 Speaker 1: out of emptiness. And so anything you are extending to 156 00:11:08,960 --> 00:11:13,520 Speaker 1: another person, be it grace, be a joy, be it wisdom. 157 00:11:13,559 --> 00:11:18,400 Speaker 1: It's coming from your excess, it's coming from your overflow. 158 00:11:18,840 --> 00:11:22,600 Speaker 1: It is not coming from the parts of you you 159 00:11:22,679 --> 00:11:26,959 Speaker 1: need to sustain or keep yourself moving. So I want 160 00:11:27,000 --> 00:11:30,680 Speaker 1: to try to talk about a couple ways that I 161 00:11:30,960 --> 00:11:33,880 Speaker 1: look to personally move into grace with people when I 162 00:11:33,920 --> 00:11:37,600 Speaker 1: deal with challenges, because good Lord, I am alive and 163 00:11:37,720 --> 00:11:44,120 Speaker 1: miss wild West. That is Earth as well, and I experience, 164 00:11:44,640 --> 00:11:46,880 Speaker 1: you know, a lot of people in crisis and a 165 00:11:46,880 --> 00:11:49,680 Speaker 1: lot of people in their wounds, a lot of people 166 00:11:49,679 --> 00:11:53,439 Speaker 1: that are projecting, and it is a lot of energy, 167 00:11:53,679 --> 00:11:58,760 Speaker 1: and it is it can be frustrating, irritating, you know, 168 00:11:58,840 --> 00:12:02,160 Speaker 1: all the things for all us but I found that 169 00:12:02,200 --> 00:12:07,240 Speaker 1: with certain practices, one instead of having maybe you know, 170 00:12:07,400 --> 00:12:12,000 Speaker 1: multiple daily experiences of that kind of frustration or that 171 00:12:12,840 --> 00:12:19,280 Speaker 1: feeling that can feel overwhelming, of just not being with 172 00:12:19,520 --> 00:12:21,920 Speaker 1: like minded people that are behaving in the way that 173 00:12:22,000 --> 00:12:24,480 Speaker 1: you are see the world that you see it in 174 00:12:24,480 --> 00:12:27,360 Speaker 1: the way that you do. UM. You know, instead of 175 00:12:27,360 --> 00:12:31,440 Speaker 1: having kind of multiple experiences of that throughout the day, 176 00:12:31,600 --> 00:12:35,400 Speaker 1: or instead of it, you know, having those kind of um, 177 00:12:35,440 --> 00:12:38,720 Speaker 1: maybe more karmic or historic relationships in your life where 178 00:12:39,520 --> 00:12:42,680 Speaker 1: for months, for years, for long stretches of time, you're 179 00:12:42,720 --> 00:12:46,600 Speaker 1: just you know, in kind of deep disease around it. 180 00:12:47,440 --> 00:12:52,240 Speaker 1: What I found is that you know, through through inviting 181 00:12:52,240 --> 00:12:57,480 Speaker 1: in different practices of compassion and you know, really intentionally 182 00:12:57,880 --> 00:13:01,480 Speaker 1: choosing to put on that lens of grace to see 183 00:13:01,559 --> 00:13:04,800 Speaker 1: through UM, it really brings that down quite a bit. 184 00:13:04,880 --> 00:13:07,960 Speaker 1: It makes life so much more enjoyable. UM. It allows 185 00:13:08,040 --> 00:13:12,240 Speaker 1: you to also have more enjoyment with others because you're 186 00:13:12,280 --> 00:13:16,280 Speaker 1: trusting people to be themselves. You're also extending grace for 187 00:13:16,320 --> 00:13:19,840 Speaker 1: the fact that very honestly and truly, if if they 188 00:13:20,000 --> 00:13:26,800 Speaker 1: could do better, they would UM. And it's just seeing 189 00:13:26,880 --> 00:13:35,720 Speaker 1: people kind of for their strengths and really understanding their limitations, 190 00:13:35,760 --> 00:13:38,800 Speaker 1: so you're not having an expectation of people that they 191 00:13:38,840 --> 00:13:42,120 Speaker 1: can't fulfill, and you're not giving them things to do 192 00:13:42,240 --> 00:13:47,319 Speaker 1: that they can't, you know. Um, So what you're requiring, 193 00:13:47,360 --> 00:13:50,960 Speaker 1: what you're looking to receive and return from someone changes 194 00:13:51,120 --> 00:13:54,240 Speaker 1: because you're feeling so many of your own needs yourself, 195 00:13:54,840 --> 00:13:59,479 Speaker 1: and you've opened yourself to new experiences with new connections, 196 00:13:59,520 --> 00:14:07,960 Speaker 1: relations ships, friends, groups. So it's such it's such a benefit. 197 00:14:08,080 --> 00:14:12,600 Speaker 1: And I think so often when we're on the journey 198 00:14:12,960 --> 00:14:18,920 Speaker 1: and you know, you're kind of chewing on understanding forgiveness 199 00:14:18,920 --> 00:14:23,000 Speaker 1: in your life for all of the ways in which 200 00:14:23,040 --> 00:14:29,160 Speaker 1: you may need to apply that or consider it. Um. 201 00:14:29,200 --> 00:14:32,240 Speaker 1: I think one of the most frustrating things is that 202 00:14:32,280 --> 00:14:35,360 Speaker 1: you think, well, I did it, so why can't they? 203 00:14:35,520 --> 00:14:37,680 Speaker 1: Why did I did the hard work I put it in. 204 00:14:38,400 --> 00:14:42,080 Speaker 1: We are fundamentally different, you know, even if we're having 205 00:14:43,640 --> 00:14:49,640 Speaker 1: the same shared experience, we're each experiencing it differently based 206 00:14:49,680 --> 00:14:52,360 Speaker 1: on how we entered the room, you know, based on 207 00:14:52,480 --> 00:14:55,600 Speaker 1: what our life's challenges were. And it's not as simple 208 00:14:55,640 --> 00:14:57,840 Speaker 1: as well, we grew up in the same house, you know, 209 00:14:57,920 --> 00:14:59,560 Speaker 1: we went to the same school, we were in the 210 00:14:59,600 --> 00:15:03,480 Speaker 1: same werehood, we're the same. It's not true. It's not true. 211 00:15:04,680 --> 00:15:06,800 Speaker 1: You don't ever know what was going on behind closed 212 00:15:06,840 --> 00:15:12,280 Speaker 1: doors with another person. You don't know what they were experiencing. Seven. 213 00:15:12,400 --> 00:15:17,720 Speaker 1: We have thousands of thoughts a day, We have thousands 214 00:15:17,720 --> 00:15:23,040 Speaker 1: of experiences a week. You know. It's it's not that simple. 215 00:15:23,920 --> 00:15:28,360 Speaker 1: And most people never talk about half, not even of 216 00:15:28,440 --> 00:15:31,520 Speaker 1: the things they do say or you know otherwise, and 217 00:15:31,600 --> 00:15:34,440 Speaker 1: so we just don't know. And we also don't know 218 00:15:34,680 --> 00:15:38,280 Speaker 1: how is that person emotionally supported? You know, Really think 219 00:15:38,320 --> 00:15:43,080 Speaker 1: back about people, you know, think about think about their parents, 220 00:15:43,120 --> 00:15:46,120 Speaker 1: think about their grandparents, think about the kind of experiences 221 00:15:46,120 --> 00:15:48,960 Speaker 1: they've had. If these people matter to you and you 222 00:15:49,000 --> 00:15:50,760 Speaker 1: want them to be in your life but you're hitting 223 00:15:50,800 --> 00:15:55,040 Speaker 1: a wall with them, really try to see them through 224 00:15:55,080 --> 00:15:58,640 Speaker 1: the lens of what their life has looked like and 225 00:15:58,680 --> 00:16:02,480 Speaker 1: what they're lived. Experience says look like, um, you know 226 00:16:02,680 --> 00:16:05,160 Speaker 1: very often. And this was something I had to come 227 00:16:05,160 --> 00:16:07,520 Speaker 1: into myself because for many years I was one of 228 00:16:07,520 --> 00:16:11,000 Speaker 1: those people who I've always been on this path of 229 00:16:11,120 --> 00:16:16,040 Speaker 1: chest heightened resilience, my god, um, and I've always been, 230 00:16:16,080 --> 00:16:19,640 Speaker 1: you know, on a path of exploration, and so I 231 00:16:19,760 --> 00:16:25,040 Speaker 1: kind of took it for granted, how naturally I was 232 00:16:25,360 --> 00:16:27,560 Speaker 1: drawn to that, and not that any of the work 233 00:16:27,600 --> 00:16:29,880 Speaker 1: that I've done was easy, but it was always something 234 00:16:29,920 --> 00:16:33,440 Speaker 1: I desired to do, and I had to really look 235 00:16:33,480 --> 00:16:35,520 Speaker 1: at the fact that that is not the case for 236 00:16:35,600 --> 00:16:39,320 Speaker 1: most people, and that added level of enthusiasm, that added 237 00:16:39,400 --> 00:16:41,960 Speaker 1: level of endurance, is what made the difference for me 238 00:16:42,040 --> 00:16:46,000 Speaker 1: to keep going. It's also my personal destiny. It's part 239 00:16:46,000 --> 00:16:50,160 Speaker 1: of my individual dharma or purpose, you know, it's it's 240 00:16:50,200 --> 00:16:53,040 Speaker 1: written in the stars for me. I meant to work 241 00:16:53,080 --> 00:16:57,640 Speaker 1: on myself and then share that knowledge with others. Um 242 00:16:57,680 --> 00:17:00,600 Speaker 1: that's my calling. And that's not the same with everyone. 243 00:17:00,760 --> 00:17:04,800 Speaker 1: So I can't judge what they've done or not based 244 00:17:04,840 --> 00:17:08,360 Speaker 1: on how I measure myself in my life. We're just different. 245 00:17:08,920 --> 00:17:12,159 Speaker 1: Even if I have ever had or held the you know, 246 00:17:12,200 --> 00:17:15,040 Speaker 1: the belief or expectation that, well, I've gone through so 247 00:17:15,119 --> 00:17:17,720 Speaker 1: much more than that then they have. And look, I'm 248 00:17:17,840 --> 00:17:22,080 Speaker 1: I'm this way. I just don't know enough. I just 249 00:17:22,280 --> 00:17:27,520 Speaker 1: don't know. I don't know. And also it doesn't matter. 250 00:17:28,400 --> 00:17:31,240 Speaker 1: I have to run my own race, each of us does. 251 00:17:31,520 --> 00:17:33,840 Speaker 1: We each have to lock into what the truth of 252 00:17:33,880 --> 00:17:38,560 Speaker 1: our lives are and being able to turn that energy 253 00:17:39,160 --> 00:17:43,040 Speaker 1: back inward is just so beautiful. It frees you, it 254 00:17:43,119 --> 00:17:46,800 Speaker 1: frees others. It creates the distance to where they don't 255 00:17:46,840 --> 00:17:50,240 Speaker 1: feel like you're trying to overpower them. You're not pitying them, 256 00:17:50,280 --> 00:17:52,840 Speaker 1: you're not trying to force something on them, and they 257 00:17:52,840 --> 00:17:56,160 Speaker 1: can just kind of behold you and see, wow, how 258 00:17:56,480 --> 00:17:59,280 Speaker 1: how are the choices that they're making playing out in 259 00:17:59,280 --> 00:18:03,119 Speaker 1: their lives. Let people observe you over time. You have 260 00:18:03,240 --> 00:18:07,320 Speaker 1: to prove this case study correct too. You know, you 261 00:18:07,400 --> 00:18:11,440 Speaker 1: have to change your life and not just learn something 262 00:18:11,720 --> 00:18:14,760 Speaker 1: and then regurgitate those words to another person and want 263 00:18:14,800 --> 00:18:17,199 Speaker 1: them to know what to do with it. You know, 264 00:18:17,520 --> 00:18:20,280 Speaker 1: be be the change you when you wish to see. 265 00:18:20,320 --> 00:18:24,840 Speaker 1: As Mohamma Gandhi would say, Um, you know it's important. 266 00:18:24,960 --> 00:18:28,400 Speaker 1: And the more you just focus on your practices embodying 267 00:18:28,480 --> 00:18:32,320 Speaker 1: your work, the more you begin to live it. And 268 00:18:32,359 --> 00:18:35,960 Speaker 1: then you find that you don't have to convince anyone 269 00:18:36,160 --> 00:18:41,240 Speaker 1: and you don't have to over explain seven people that 270 00:18:41,280 --> 00:18:44,840 Speaker 1: are meant to change in this life, but specifically people 271 00:18:44,880 --> 00:18:50,000 Speaker 1: that are meant to glean wisdom from you that is 272 00:18:50,040 --> 00:18:53,800 Speaker 1: in service to them and their unique needs. They'll do 273 00:18:53,880 --> 00:18:57,040 Speaker 1: it in their times simply by watching you, and if 274 00:18:57,080 --> 00:18:59,760 Speaker 1: they want your help, they will ask when they're ready. 275 00:19:00,000 --> 00:19:03,679 Speaker 1: But we have to kind of stop forcing our healing 276 00:19:03,720 --> 00:19:07,040 Speaker 1: on other people and forcing consciousness on other people. It 277 00:19:07,119 --> 00:19:11,000 Speaker 1: only does you a disservice. That's not how the flow works, 278 00:19:11,040 --> 00:19:13,159 Speaker 1: and none of us are God. And even if it 279 00:19:13,280 --> 00:19:16,080 Speaker 1: is for their highest good, for their best self, even 280 00:19:16,119 --> 00:19:31,200 Speaker 1: if they have to choose it. I want to share 281 00:19:31,200 --> 00:19:37,760 Speaker 1: a couple of things that that aid me from time 282 00:19:37,760 --> 00:19:40,400 Speaker 1: to time. You know, there are times that this doesn't 283 00:19:40,440 --> 00:19:44,320 Speaker 1: sink in with as much ease. There are times that 284 00:19:44,800 --> 00:19:47,680 Speaker 1: you know, you've got to try new things to kind 285 00:19:47,720 --> 00:19:52,440 Speaker 1: of bring yourself back to center when you're in challenging 286 00:19:52,560 --> 00:19:58,919 Speaker 1: environments with other people. UM, but these are a start, 287 00:19:59,280 --> 00:20:01,880 Speaker 1: and so I want to kind of share with you 288 00:20:02,440 --> 00:20:05,280 Speaker 1: some of the ways that I practiced this, but kind 289 00:20:05,280 --> 00:20:13,960 Speaker 1: of an evolutionary viewpoint. So probably seven to eight years ago, 290 00:20:15,200 --> 00:20:18,920 Speaker 1: I was really struggling with feeling frustrated that people made 291 00:20:18,960 --> 00:20:22,640 Speaker 1: poor choices in their lives, and especially when people made 292 00:20:22,680 --> 00:20:27,280 Speaker 1: poor choices and it negatively affected me or painfully affected me. 293 00:20:28,320 --> 00:20:34,840 Speaker 1: And I remember this thought occurred to me of can 294 00:20:34,960 --> 00:20:39,560 Speaker 1: you think of people you dislike the most as children? 295 00:20:40,160 --> 00:20:42,080 Speaker 1: And is there a space in your heart that you 296 00:20:42,119 --> 00:20:44,959 Speaker 1: can find love and compassion for them, or at least 297 00:20:45,080 --> 00:20:49,200 Speaker 1: not look at them through the lens of animosity or anger. 298 00:20:50,200 --> 00:20:53,919 Speaker 1: And you know, I remember once the therapist that I 299 00:20:53,960 --> 00:20:58,800 Speaker 1: had around that time, she had said to me, you know, 300 00:21:00,160 --> 00:21:03,639 Speaker 1: if only everyone spoke to themselves the way you'd speak 301 00:21:03,680 --> 00:21:07,520 Speaker 1: to a three year old. And I thought about that 302 00:21:07,680 --> 00:21:09,720 Speaker 1: so often, and I would kind of be in my 303 00:21:09,880 --> 00:21:12,600 Speaker 1: car driving alone and I'd play with that, like, how 304 00:21:12,680 --> 00:21:15,240 Speaker 1: do I talk to a three year old? Now I 305 00:21:15,280 --> 00:21:18,040 Speaker 1: have a child, so I know, but at the time 306 00:21:18,080 --> 00:21:21,200 Speaker 1: I didn't. And you know what I realized is, well, 307 00:21:21,240 --> 00:21:24,520 Speaker 1: the way we talked to a three year old, it's enthusiastic, 308 00:21:24,760 --> 00:21:29,560 Speaker 1: it's encouraging, it's with a guidance. Um. The way healthy 309 00:21:29,600 --> 00:21:33,560 Speaker 1: adults speak to three year olds, it's with non judgment, 310 00:21:33,840 --> 00:21:39,640 Speaker 1: it's with support, acceptance, wonder, curiosity. You know, if I 311 00:21:39,640 --> 00:21:43,359 Speaker 1: if I saw a three year old child who was 312 00:21:43,440 --> 00:21:46,159 Speaker 1: being down on themselves, you know, you'd want to do 313 00:21:46,240 --> 00:21:49,720 Speaker 1: nothing more but help them to see the truth of 314 00:21:49,760 --> 00:21:54,280 Speaker 1: who they are, their beauty, there value, um, you know. 315 00:21:54,400 --> 00:21:57,399 Speaker 1: And if if a three year old was throwing a tantrum, 316 00:21:57,520 --> 00:21:59,560 Speaker 1: you'd be like, yeah, there are being three is it 317 00:21:59,680 --> 00:22:01,959 Speaker 1: kind of annoying? Yeah, do I want to hear this? 318 00:22:03,520 --> 00:22:06,119 Speaker 1: But also their three and they have to feel what 319 00:22:06,160 --> 00:22:10,680 Speaker 1: they feel and it's not an attack on me, you know. UM. 320 00:22:10,720 --> 00:22:12,440 Speaker 1: And I think with the three year old also, if 321 00:22:12,440 --> 00:22:14,560 Speaker 1: you met a three year old that was scared or 322 00:22:14,560 --> 00:22:18,760 Speaker 1: that was fearful of anything, I know, speaking for myself, 323 00:22:18,960 --> 00:22:22,359 Speaker 1: I darted immediately, whether it was my child or a 324 00:22:22,480 --> 00:22:25,320 Speaker 1: child I saw fearful on the street, and I would 325 00:22:26,359 --> 00:22:28,159 Speaker 1: I would try to comfort them, I would try to 326 00:22:28,160 --> 00:22:31,560 Speaker 1: find them safety. UM, I would try to speak life 327 00:22:31,560 --> 00:22:35,240 Speaker 1: into them. And so when I when I started thinking 328 00:22:35,280 --> 00:22:38,359 Speaker 1: about that after she said that, I said, Okay, let's 329 00:22:38,400 --> 00:22:40,320 Speaker 1: see if you can really put your money where your 330 00:22:40,359 --> 00:22:43,080 Speaker 1: mouth is and if you can apply this to people 331 00:22:43,119 --> 00:22:46,840 Speaker 1: you dislike. So I started a little bit of a 332 00:22:46,880 --> 00:22:51,159 Speaker 1: meditation practice for myself where anytime someone that for me 333 00:22:51,280 --> 00:22:54,160 Speaker 1: felt really harmful would enter my mind and my thoughts, 334 00:22:54,840 --> 00:22:56,960 Speaker 1: especially when it came to some of the smaller stuff 335 00:22:57,000 --> 00:22:59,720 Speaker 1: like this is great to start small with. You may 336 00:22:59,720 --> 00:23:05,639 Speaker 1: not want to revisit right away, you know. UM, maybe 337 00:23:05,680 --> 00:23:09,200 Speaker 1: someone that that was really negatively impactful in your life. 338 00:23:09,240 --> 00:23:11,359 Speaker 1: You may have to work your way up to that. Um. 339 00:23:11,400 --> 00:23:14,000 Speaker 1: You can get there. But maybe it's just starting with 340 00:23:14,040 --> 00:23:16,440 Speaker 1: that coworker that gets on your nerves, you know, maybe 341 00:23:16,520 --> 00:23:21,080 Speaker 1: it's starting with um, the smaller kind of more inconsequential relationships. 342 00:23:22,040 --> 00:23:24,320 Speaker 1: But you would close your eyes and you would bring 343 00:23:24,359 --> 00:23:27,159 Speaker 1: them to the forefront of your mind, and you would 344 00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:30,520 Speaker 1: try as best as you can to think them as 345 00:23:30,560 --> 00:23:33,040 Speaker 1: a child and to see them through the lens of 346 00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:37,640 Speaker 1: their most pure state before the rest of life happened. UM. 347 00:23:37,720 --> 00:23:40,640 Speaker 1: Something I've just come to know so deeply is that 348 00:23:40,680 --> 00:23:46,080 Speaker 1: when we see the most angry, the most embittered, um, 349 00:23:46,119 --> 00:23:50,960 Speaker 1: the most harmful people, I just often think of how 350 00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:55,359 Speaker 1: much I can imagine of the ways that they felt 351 00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:58,240 Speaker 1: alone when they were in the most crucial years of 352 00:23:58,280 --> 00:24:01,360 Speaker 1: their life, as their identity was being formed, as their 353 00:24:01,400 --> 00:24:04,240 Speaker 1: empathy was coming online, as their self love was meant 354 00:24:04,280 --> 00:24:08,440 Speaker 1: to be expanded. UM, And you just think, Wow, what 355 00:24:08,560 --> 00:24:12,560 Speaker 1: didn't they receive? My God? You know, And I know 356 00:24:12,680 --> 00:24:14,800 Speaker 1: that that doesn't always feel like it will work. Some 357 00:24:14,880 --> 00:24:21,359 Speaker 1: people behave really deplorably um irregardless of the reason why 358 00:24:21,400 --> 00:24:26,399 Speaker 1: they do it, it affects us and it's challenging. UM. 359 00:24:26,440 --> 00:24:29,760 Speaker 1: But this practice, though it may not feel like it 360 00:24:29,800 --> 00:24:34,400 Speaker 1: can make sense for everyone it's really about alleviating more 361 00:24:34,560 --> 00:24:37,520 Speaker 1: of your internal suffering. This is less to do with them. 362 00:24:38,240 --> 00:24:43,199 Speaker 1: Extending grace to another extends grace to yourself in some 363 00:24:43,320 --> 00:24:47,720 Speaker 1: of the deepest ways you could ever imagine. So that 364 00:24:47,840 --> 00:24:49,879 Speaker 1: was where I started, and I spent a lot of 365 00:24:49,960 --> 00:24:55,800 Speaker 1: years in that practice, and it brought me a lot 366 00:24:55,840 --> 00:24:59,880 Speaker 1: of peace. It allowed me to at least really rested 367 00:25:00,040 --> 00:25:06,960 Speaker 1: a more expanded, zoomed out view of the greater experiences 368 00:25:07,040 --> 00:25:10,360 Speaker 1: that people are having, and it helped me not take 369 00:25:10,400 --> 00:25:13,960 Speaker 1: everything so personally, even when it felt really personal, even 370 00:25:14,040 --> 00:25:17,560 Speaker 1: when people are projecting on you or actually seeking to 371 00:25:17,640 --> 00:25:21,640 Speaker 1: do things that are hurtful to you. So that's where 372 00:25:21,640 --> 00:25:24,399 Speaker 1: my practice started. And then, you know, the more I 373 00:25:24,440 --> 00:25:27,480 Speaker 1: expanded in my own personal practice of inner child healing, 374 00:25:27,560 --> 00:25:31,360 Speaker 1: my own noticing of my shadows and all the crevices 375 00:25:31,480 --> 00:25:34,119 Speaker 1: that I needed to dive into with my own darkness 376 00:25:34,160 --> 00:25:37,880 Speaker 1: and my own experiences, the more I just really had 377 00:25:37,920 --> 00:25:41,200 Speaker 1: a deep reverence for how much this work really requires 378 00:25:41,200 --> 00:25:46,720 Speaker 1: of someone, and how divinely orchestrated my life was to 379 00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:50,600 Speaker 1: allow me to find this work, and what a privilege 380 00:25:50,600 --> 00:25:54,199 Speaker 1: it is to heal. And that has helped me a 381 00:25:54,200 --> 00:25:57,679 Speaker 1: lot um that mixed with boundaries, because when you stop 382 00:25:57,720 --> 00:26:00,400 Speaker 1: having to take it on the chin so much, when 383 00:26:00,440 --> 00:26:06,120 Speaker 1: you are in your personal life a lot more fulfilled 384 00:26:06,320 --> 00:26:11,400 Speaker 1: and fueled, you're not as movable to the disruptions of others. 385 00:26:11,520 --> 00:26:15,199 Speaker 1: You're not as movable to the toxicity the dysfunction of 386 00:26:15,240 --> 00:26:19,000 Speaker 1: other people. UM, And it makes it so much more tolerable, 387 00:26:19,720 --> 00:26:22,600 Speaker 1: and it allows you to control how much access it 388 00:26:22,640 --> 00:26:25,760 Speaker 1: really has to you. So a big part of being 389 00:26:25,800 --> 00:26:30,439 Speaker 1: able to have grace, Brothers is also creating the life 390 00:26:30,520 --> 00:26:34,000 Speaker 1: that you're actually worthy of. So being in your daily 391 00:26:34,000 --> 00:26:37,960 Speaker 1: practices so you are emotionally regulated. When you're in a 392 00:26:38,000 --> 00:26:42,720 Speaker 1: place of emotional regulation, UM, when you're nervous system is soothed, 393 00:26:43,840 --> 00:26:46,880 Speaker 1: you're not getting rocked all over the place. You're someone 394 00:26:46,960 --> 00:26:51,399 Speaker 1: else's dysfunction is not triggering a wound that already existed 395 00:26:51,440 --> 00:26:54,880 Speaker 1: inside of you before they did. So that's a really 396 00:26:54,920 --> 00:26:58,600 Speaker 1: important place to start your day from in general, and 397 00:26:58,640 --> 00:27:02,119 Speaker 1: that's why having a daily practice, and especially starting your 398 00:27:02,160 --> 00:27:06,240 Speaker 1: day with meditation is one of the most foundationally powerful 399 00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:08,520 Speaker 1: things you can do for your life. It's a must, 400 00:27:09,119 --> 00:27:13,360 Speaker 1: it's not a luxury. It really is a requirement for 401 00:27:13,680 --> 00:27:16,560 Speaker 1: being on this path in a way that's sustainable, in 402 00:27:16,600 --> 00:27:18,760 Speaker 1: a way that honors you, in a way that allows 403 00:27:18,800 --> 00:27:22,280 Speaker 1: you to grow into your purpose and to expand the 404 00:27:22,359 --> 00:27:25,359 Speaker 1: love that you have to give and the love that 405 00:27:25,440 --> 00:27:31,880 Speaker 1: you should be receiving. So those practices, that meditation, starting 406 00:27:31,880 --> 00:27:36,239 Speaker 1: an emotional regulation, and then really spending time with what 407 00:27:36,359 --> 00:27:40,639 Speaker 1: irritates you. So stop trying to just necessarily throw it 408 00:27:40,720 --> 00:27:43,840 Speaker 1: back blame the other person, but really sit and say 409 00:27:44,240 --> 00:27:48,359 Speaker 1: what exactly is so frustrating about the way this person 410 00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:51,600 Speaker 1: is choosing to behave? And then you come into choice 411 00:27:51,920 --> 00:27:55,000 Speaker 1: because you either choose to set new boundaries and create 412 00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:58,159 Speaker 1: new pathways in your life that have more people that 413 00:27:58,240 --> 00:28:01,480 Speaker 1: are equally yoked with you, or you get to the 414 00:28:01,520 --> 00:28:04,400 Speaker 1: deeper truth of yourself, which is what is the work 415 00:28:04,480 --> 00:28:06,840 Speaker 1: that still needs to be done inside of you? Because 416 00:28:06,880 --> 00:28:09,720 Speaker 1: why are you being moved in this way? Um, and 417 00:28:09,760 --> 00:28:14,400 Speaker 1: if this person is irritating you in this way, when 418 00:28:14,480 --> 00:28:18,040 Speaker 1: was the first time you were upset about what's coming 419 00:28:18,119 --> 00:28:20,399 Speaker 1: up for you? Now? What age was that at and 420 00:28:20,480 --> 00:28:23,760 Speaker 1: what person was that? You know? Getting it back to 421 00:28:23,960 --> 00:28:28,000 Speaker 1: your origin story is so important. That's where you find 422 00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:30,400 Speaker 1: your power, That's where you harness your power, That's where 423 00:28:30,400 --> 00:28:36,119 Speaker 1: we're able to release, transcend, transform, elevate. It's really powerful work. 424 00:28:37,119 --> 00:28:39,520 Speaker 1: So let's spend some time right now in just a 425 00:28:39,640 --> 00:28:47,480 Speaker 1: very brief, brief, brief practice of tasting compassion for self 426 00:28:47,480 --> 00:28:50,400 Speaker 1: and others. And as we go into this next few minutes, 427 00:28:50,480 --> 00:28:53,560 Speaker 1: I also want to invite you to consider in whatever 428 00:28:53,600 --> 00:28:58,160 Speaker 1: ways this is possible, um, maybe bookmarking this episode and 429 00:28:58,200 --> 00:29:01,440 Speaker 1: coming back to the last few minutes it's and doing 430 00:29:01,480 --> 00:29:04,480 Speaker 1: this every day. If there's a curriculum in your life 431 00:29:04,840 --> 00:29:09,960 Speaker 1: spiritually that you're currently working on, if there are specific 432 00:29:10,040 --> 00:29:13,640 Speaker 1: people that come to mind for you, make it a process. 433 00:29:13,680 --> 00:29:15,800 Speaker 1: It's not just going to happen this first time, But 434 00:29:16,000 --> 00:29:19,920 Speaker 1: consider walking through a meditation like this and journaling and 435 00:29:19,960 --> 00:29:22,680 Speaker 1: doing some of these practices over a length of time, 436 00:29:23,040 --> 00:29:27,040 Speaker 1: and after a month, after a few weeks, after a year, 437 00:29:27,440 --> 00:29:31,080 Speaker 1: then look up and see how am I relating to 438 00:29:31,160 --> 00:29:34,760 Speaker 1: this dynamic now? How am I able to see and 439 00:29:34,880 --> 00:29:39,160 Speaker 1: track a certain amount of growth in myself? You know? 440 00:29:40,040 --> 00:29:43,760 Speaker 1: But what miracles can I notice here? What awarenesses can 441 00:29:43,800 --> 00:29:49,720 Speaker 1: I come into? All right, let's take root wherever you 442 00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:51,880 Speaker 1: happen to be. As long as you are not driving, 443 00:29:52,280 --> 00:29:55,800 Speaker 1: and as long as this is safe, I invite you 444 00:29:55,840 --> 00:29:59,880 Speaker 1: in this moment to gently close your eyes, to come 445 00:30:00,120 --> 00:30:14,680 Speaker 1: into your body, to connect here to your breath and 446 00:30:14,840 --> 00:30:22,520 Speaker 1: notice that flow in and out and in this space, 447 00:30:23,520 --> 00:30:27,840 Speaker 1: I want you to allow your body to become even 448 00:30:28,000 --> 00:30:34,720 Speaker 1: more relaxed. Your spine is straight and supportive and strong, 449 00:30:36,520 --> 00:30:46,520 Speaker 1: your belly is soft, your heart is open, your shoulders 450 00:30:46,920 --> 00:30:54,120 Speaker 1: and your jaw are relaxed. The tension in your hips 451 00:30:54,840 --> 00:31:01,480 Speaker 1: is released and taking nice deep inhal through your nose 452 00:31:01,640 --> 00:31:16,160 Speaker 1: here and release. I want you to bring in this 453 00:31:16,320 --> 00:31:21,959 Speaker 1: moment yourself to mind as a three year old child. 454 00:31:24,760 --> 00:31:27,040 Speaker 1: And I want you to hold that three year old 455 00:31:27,120 --> 00:31:34,040 Speaker 1: close to your body, hugging them like an unconditionally loving, 456 00:31:34,720 --> 00:31:40,040 Speaker 1: nurturing mother. And I want you to slowly bring that 457 00:31:40,120 --> 00:31:43,200 Speaker 1: three year old you right into the center of your heart. 458 00:31:47,000 --> 00:31:56,960 Speaker 1: Let's take another deep breath here mm hm, and I 459 00:31:57,000 --> 00:31:58,840 Speaker 1: want you to look at that three year old you 460 00:31:59,560 --> 00:32:07,560 Speaker 1: with deep compassion, with a reverence for things that they've 461 00:32:07,600 --> 00:32:14,560 Speaker 1: walked to and who they became. To this moment, I 462 00:32:14,640 --> 00:32:20,400 Speaker 1: want you to bring this three year old into your 463 00:32:20,480 --> 00:32:26,320 Speaker 1: view and imagine yourself cutting their cheeks, holding their face 464 00:32:27,160 --> 00:32:33,240 Speaker 1: so gently, so lovingly, looking closely at them, into their eyes, 465 00:32:37,000 --> 00:32:41,000 Speaker 1: and really sending a feeling of love, sending a feeling 466 00:32:41,040 --> 00:32:50,240 Speaker 1: of compassion, sending a deep intuitive knowing into them about 467 00:32:50,280 --> 00:32:56,680 Speaker 1: who they are, and just let yourself enjoy this here, 468 00:32:57,480 --> 00:33:19,480 Speaker 1: feel whatever comes up. Yeah, and as you connect to 469 00:33:19,520 --> 00:33:30,760 Speaker 1: that feeling mm hmm, allow yourself here. Two. Now, allow 470 00:33:30,920 --> 00:33:33,760 Speaker 1: that three year old you to just rest in your heart, 471 00:33:35,560 --> 00:33:45,360 Speaker 1: just resting and clearing out of your awareness. And now 472 00:33:45,400 --> 00:33:48,920 Speaker 1: I want you to think of someone that is currently 473 00:33:53,040 --> 00:33:58,520 Speaker 1: bringing frustration into your life, or an irritation or an upsetness, 474 00:33:58,880 --> 00:34:07,160 Speaker 1: a disease, someone that feels intolerable to your spirit right 475 00:34:07,200 --> 00:34:11,080 Speaker 1: now for whatever reasons. And you know, for some of 476 00:34:11,160 --> 00:34:14,279 Speaker 1: us that may be some deeper reasons. It may be 477 00:34:14,560 --> 00:34:18,840 Speaker 1: someone in your life over time, and for others it 478 00:34:18,920 --> 00:34:25,000 Speaker 1: could just be a complicated relationship or perhaps someone that 479 00:34:27,400 --> 00:34:30,440 Speaker 1: may not be causing harm, but it's just not sitting 480 00:34:30,480 --> 00:34:34,600 Speaker 1: well with your spirit. I want you to just think 481 00:34:34,640 --> 00:34:39,200 Speaker 1: of now, whoever that person is for you, and I 482 00:34:39,239 --> 00:34:41,440 Speaker 1: want you to see them as they are now, in 483 00:34:41,520 --> 00:34:46,200 Speaker 1: whatever form they currently reside in. And I want you 484 00:34:46,280 --> 00:34:49,680 Speaker 1: to just notice here what you're feeling in your heart, 485 00:34:49,920 --> 00:34:55,960 Speaker 1: what you're feeling in your body, to see them, and 486 00:34:56,040 --> 00:34:59,200 Speaker 1: it's okay, don't judge yourself what other whatever words happen 487 00:34:59,280 --> 00:35:05,680 Speaker 1: to be coming up. That's more than fine, all right. 488 00:35:06,600 --> 00:35:10,960 Speaker 1: And now I want you to see them with some 489 00:35:11,120 --> 00:35:20,279 Speaker 1: of the underlying pain or self hate rejection that they 490 00:35:20,320 --> 00:35:31,360 Speaker 1: may be feeling about themselves and their lives. Inside. I 491 00:35:31,440 --> 00:35:33,680 Speaker 1: want you to see more of the truth of their 492 00:35:33,760 --> 00:35:38,200 Speaker 1: life and their behavior. So hold here, connecting to your 493 00:35:38,239 --> 00:35:40,520 Speaker 1: heart and your intuition as you think of them, and 494 00:35:40,560 --> 00:35:49,160 Speaker 1: just notice what comes up. And now, if you can, 495 00:35:49,360 --> 00:35:54,279 Speaker 1: I want you to try to envision a three year 496 00:35:54,320 --> 00:35:59,480 Speaker 1: old version of them, just really starting to work with 497 00:35:59,560 --> 00:36:10,160 Speaker 1: languid which their most tender self, the vulnerability of year three, 498 00:36:11,320 --> 00:36:14,759 Speaker 1: the amount of need that they have to be supported, 499 00:36:14,800 --> 00:36:18,040 Speaker 1: to be loved, to be guided, to be cared for, 500 00:36:19,680 --> 00:36:22,759 Speaker 1: and imagining that some of those needs weren't met for 501 00:36:22,960 --> 00:36:30,360 Speaker 1: a three year old. Imagine bringing them in now, that 502 00:36:30,600 --> 00:36:33,719 Speaker 1: three year old them, right into the center of your 503 00:36:33,760 --> 00:36:38,360 Speaker 1: heart where you just were. And I want you to 504 00:36:38,440 --> 00:36:41,800 Speaker 1: imagine if you had met them at age three, before 505 00:36:41,880 --> 00:36:47,279 Speaker 1: life had happened, as your current adult self, what would 506 00:36:47,320 --> 00:36:53,560 Speaker 1: you see in them? How would you treat them? What 507 00:36:53,640 --> 00:37:00,960 Speaker 1: would you say? I want you to invoke in your 508 00:37:01,000 --> 00:37:07,319 Speaker 1: body the feeling of compassion, the feeling of empathy, the 509 00:37:07,440 --> 00:37:15,040 Speaker 1: feeling of love. And just notice, notice anything that is 510 00:37:15,040 --> 00:37:19,680 Speaker 1: coming in your heart, notice anything that is coming into 511 00:37:19,680 --> 00:37:31,719 Speaker 1: your mind as you see this person. I want you 512 00:37:31,760 --> 00:37:36,799 Speaker 1: to try to beam to them a feeling of compassion 513 00:37:37,040 --> 00:37:41,920 Speaker 1: or love that maybe they've never known, or maybe they've gotten, 514 00:37:42,239 --> 00:37:46,440 Speaker 1: and for whatever reasons, have never allowed themselves to receive 515 00:37:46,880 --> 00:37:51,919 Speaker 1: from others. And I want you to imagine sending them 516 00:37:51,920 --> 00:38:19,680 Speaker 1: that energy now, yeah, and now, allowing yourself to release 517 00:38:19,840 --> 00:38:24,560 Speaker 1: their image, release them from your heart, send them back 518 00:38:24,600 --> 00:38:30,800 Speaker 1: to where they are with love, cutting that court of connection. 519 00:38:33,160 --> 00:38:41,799 Speaker 1: And I want you to say, silently internally, my intention 520 00:38:42,520 --> 00:38:51,200 Speaker 1: is grace. My intention for myself and others is grace. 521 00:38:56,400 --> 00:39:03,920 Speaker 1: My intention is compassion. M. My intention for myself and 522 00:39:04,160 --> 00:39:20,960 Speaker 1: others is compassion. My intention is to radiate love. My 523 00:39:21,160 --> 00:39:29,200 Speaker 1: intention is to radiate love. Take a deep inhale here, 524 00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:40,280 Speaker 1: nostril breath in through your nose. Mh. We'll do another 525 00:39:40,360 --> 00:39:42,839 Speaker 1: inhale here and through your nose, but it will be 526 00:39:42,960 --> 00:39:47,840 Speaker 1: out of your mouth with a sigh beginning your inhale 527 00:39:49,400 --> 00:40:02,400 Speaker 1: fold it M. Spend time with this if it felt 528 00:40:02,600 --> 00:40:07,719 Speaker 1: like a resource um that can benefit you. Thank you 529 00:40:07,800 --> 00:40:10,600 Speaker 1: for joining me for this episode. Go ahead, and drop 530 00:40:10,600 --> 00:40:13,560 Speaker 1: a five star review. 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