WEBVTT - New Year’s Resolutions with Kelley Flanagan 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:04.640 Hell I Suck at Dating with Dengler and Jared Haven 0:00:04.920 --> 0:00:11.600 and I heard radio podcast Hey Suck Army. Welcome to 0:00:11.800 --> 0:00:16.439 a brand new year of Help I Suck at Dating 0:00:16.520 --> 0:00:22.000 twenty twenty two versions of De Suck Suck Suck. I 0:00:22.000 --> 0:00:23.560 don't know how we made it. I gotta be honest, 0:00:23.640 --> 0:00:25.360 I don't know how the hell we're still doing this podcast. 0:00:25.400 --> 0:00:28.520 It's great. I love it. You know, it's funny. I've 0:00:28.520 --> 0:00:30.720 had two people coming too the coffee shop within the 0:00:30.760 --> 0:00:33.720 past few days who have both said that they are 0:00:33.840 --> 0:00:35.839 part of Suck Army, not even like they listen to 0:00:35.840 --> 0:00:38.760 the podcast or oh yeah, I know, you know you 0:00:38.800 --> 0:00:41.239 do the podcast with Dan. They were like, no, we 0:00:41.320 --> 0:00:45.040 are Suck Army. I gotta start selling like Suck Army 0:00:45.080 --> 0:00:47.800 merch or something in the coffee shop. Oh yeah, I mean, 0:00:47.840 --> 0:00:49.280 as long as you don't mind if I make money 0:00:49.280 --> 0:00:52.000 off your likeness, I'm I'm doing it. Also, I gotta 0:00:52.040 --> 0:00:53.680 I gotta point it out every time there's a new 0:00:53.760 --> 0:00:55.560 year and we're still doing this podcast. This is the 0:00:55.560 --> 0:00:59.040 fifth calendar year that we've been doing Help I Suck 0:00:59.080 --> 0:01:01.560 at Dating. We haven't been doing it for five years technically, 0:01:01.560 --> 0:01:07.960 but it started in we're still going strong in where 0:01:08.000 --> 0:01:11.240 the Bothered Day Howard starts. That's you know, there have 0:01:11.280 --> 0:01:13.240 been a lot of podcasts that have started and did 0:01:13.520 --> 0:01:16.000 just in our life span alone. So um, I just 0:01:16.160 --> 0:01:18.280 I'm always proud to to to say that, but I'm 0:01:18.280 --> 0:01:20.920 even more proud to announce No, we're changing it up 0:01:20.959 --> 0:01:23.320 this year in two. Each week will be joined by 0:01:23.319 --> 0:01:25.760 a female guest co host to help us navigate some 0:01:25.840 --> 0:01:28.520 interesting dating topics and provide more insight and give us 0:01:28.520 --> 0:01:32.039 a female's perspective. To kick it off, We've got the 0:01:32.080 --> 0:01:34.280 best of the best. You know or you love her. 0:01:34.319 --> 0:01:37.319 She's from Peter Weber season of The Bachelor. It's Kelly 0:01:37.319 --> 0:01:41.440 Flann again. Hi Dot, how are you guys. I'm excited 0:01:41.440 --> 0:01:45.960 to be here. We're excited to have you, Kelly, and Kelly, 0:01:46.000 --> 0:01:49.800 you are the first guest on Help I Such a 0:01:49.880 --> 0:01:52.680 Dating and we're kind of like revamping the whole format. 0:01:52.720 --> 0:01:57.440 We're bringing in more personalities, more dynamics, more entertainment because 0:01:57.440 --> 0:01:59.200 we all know that Dean and I we get a 0:01:59.200 --> 0:02:01.600 little boring, actually get a lot boring a lot of times, 0:02:01.640 --> 0:02:04.200 so we need people to like really carry our ass 0:02:04.200 --> 0:02:06.960 throughout this entire podcast. So that's what we're hoping. We're 0:02:06.960 --> 0:02:11.320 bringing in fresh blood to carry us through. So help 0:02:11.360 --> 0:02:14.800 I suck at dating is still around, Hopefully I can 0:02:14.880 --> 0:02:18.520 help out a little bit. Still single over here, guys, 0:02:19.040 --> 0:02:22.320 which is mind boggling. So Kelly, obviously everybody knows you 0:02:22.480 --> 0:02:26.120 from the Bachelor franchise. You're very known for dating Peter Weber. 0:02:26.680 --> 0:02:30.040 After his season ended, you guys broke up, and now 0:02:30.360 --> 0:02:32.680 you say you're still single. So how is the dating 0:02:32.720 --> 0:02:37.280 world going right now? Um? I mean I've been going. 0:02:37.600 --> 0:02:39.799 I've definitely been going on dates. I'm gonna keep it 0:02:39.840 --> 0:02:48.280 private in terms of who we want names, numbers, security members. Okay, 0:02:48.320 --> 0:02:51.120 I'll give you guys a funny story though. So, um, 0:02:51.160 --> 0:02:54.400 you know, I moved down to Miami and every time 0:02:54.440 --> 0:02:56.360 I come up to Chicago, like I have to stay 0:02:56.440 --> 0:02:59.880 with my family, and my family is very protective, the 0:03:00.240 --> 0:03:05.040 very nosy. They're very much so in my business. So Kelsey, 0:03:05.240 --> 0:03:08.240 we're and I we come up here and um, you know, 0:03:08.280 --> 0:03:11.520 we're seeing these guys or whatever from Chicago and we're 0:03:11.560 --> 0:03:14.560 like going on a double date. So my brother is 0:03:14.600 --> 0:03:17.000 like kind of over here. They're like seeing us get 0:03:17.080 --> 0:03:18.600 ready and they're like, who are you going with and 0:03:18.600 --> 0:03:20.400 I was like, I'm not telling you, like mind your 0:03:20.400 --> 0:03:23.760 own business, stay out of it. And so they're very, 0:03:23.840 --> 0:03:26.640 very nosy. So we're walking out of the apartment or 0:03:26.680 --> 0:03:30.040 the condo and I see like the door guy following 0:03:30.120 --> 0:03:31.880 us out, and I'm like, why is this door guy 0:03:31.960 --> 0:03:34.160 like following us out? Like what's going on? Like this 0:03:34.240 --> 0:03:36.800 is just a creepy start, Like my brothers aren't here. 0:03:36.840 --> 0:03:37.960 They had to go to dinner, so I was like, 0:03:38.000 --> 0:03:39.840 I don't think it has to do with them. So 0:03:39.920 --> 0:03:43.720 we go to dinner. It's great, it's amazing. Um at 0:03:43.720 --> 0:03:45.560 the end, you know, I have lime disease, so I 0:03:45.600 --> 0:03:48.320 like can't eat sugar candy carps. So it's so embarrassing 0:03:48.360 --> 0:03:49.880 to try to go on these dates. And I'm like 0:03:49.960 --> 0:03:53.920 eating a freaking cucumber and they're like you still hungry. 0:03:53.920 --> 0:03:56.280 I'm like, no, don't worry about it, like just can't 0:03:56.280 --> 0:03:59.440 eat anything in this restaurant. But whatever. Um, So it 0:03:59.440 --> 0:04:01.960 gets a little embarrassing there. And then at the end, 0:04:03.040 --> 0:04:06.320 the waitress comes and she's like puts like this cake 0:04:06.360 --> 0:04:09.040 in front of me, and I'm like, we didn't order dessert, 0:04:09.080 --> 0:04:12.480 what's going on? And she was like happy birthday, like 0:04:12.800 --> 0:04:16.560 you know, your brother Tom couldn't make it, and he's 0:04:16.640 --> 0:04:19.640 really sorry, and I was like, are you kidding me? 0:04:19.720 --> 0:04:22.479 So now these guys are like, who's Tom, Like, so, 0:04:22.560 --> 0:04:24.279 did he like pay off the doorman to follow you 0:04:24.360 --> 0:04:27.239 or something? He paid off the doorman to follow Okay, 0:04:27.640 --> 0:04:29.960 So then it gets worse. So then these guys are 0:04:30.000 --> 0:04:31.920 like who's Tom? And it's like creepy, and I'm like, 0:04:31.960 --> 0:04:34.320 I don't want to be Like my brothers are really 0:04:34.360 --> 0:04:37.600 weird and intrusive, and they're sending us desserts and I 0:04:37.680 --> 0:04:40.440 have no idea how they found out what restaurant we're at. 0:04:41.080 --> 0:04:43.800 So I find out that they called my sister to 0:04:43.839 --> 0:04:46.400 see where my location was and then they sent a 0:04:46.440 --> 0:04:49.719 dessert to that dinner place. And then I have to 0:04:49.720 --> 0:04:51.600 explain to these guys. And then I get a text 0:04:51.600 --> 0:04:53.520 from my brother being like knowing what kind of car 0:04:53.560 --> 0:04:55.080 he drives, and he'll be like, hey, I'll tell the 0:04:55.160 --> 0:04:57.760 valet to pull up the car, and I'm sitting there 0:04:57.800 --> 0:04:59.840 being like I am never going to be able to date, 0:05:00.279 --> 0:05:03.120 Like I'm never going to be able to date normally. Like, so, 0:05:04.120 --> 0:05:07.479 do you have one brother or two brothers? Oh? My gosh, 0:05:07.480 --> 0:05:09.480 four brothers Okay, So have they always been like super 0:05:09.680 --> 0:05:12.720 overprotective of you? Yeah, and they just like don't approve 0:05:12.800 --> 0:05:15.360 of anyone. So I just like don't like them getting 0:05:15.440 --> 0:05:18.440 too much involved because I just know their disapproval it's 0:05:18.480 --> 0:05:20.560 gonna be there, So I just don't like to tell 0:05:20.640 --> 0:05:23.920 him much unless it's something serious. Have you ever had 0:05:23.960 --> 0:05:26.400 a guy come up to you and say, hey, listen, 0:05:26.400 --> 0:05:32.680 you're brothers, like just really uh uh like scared ba 0:05:32.960 --> 0:05:35.600 or like you know, they sat him down, have a conversation. 0:05:35.640 --> 0:05:37.240 What am I thinking of? What's the word I'm thinking of? 0:05:37.279 --> 0:05:40.920 Where like a brother would sit down, Yeah, like I'm 0:05:40.920 --> 0:05:42.600 gonna have a talk with you, you know, kind of 0:05:42.640 --> 0:05:45.240 like you know Michelle had. Michelle's parents had with the 0:05:45.279 --> 0:05:47.400 two guys yesterday. They sit down, they have to talk 0:05:47.440 --> 0:05:50.000 and they're like, hey, what's your intentions? Do you love 0:05:50.040 --> 0:05:54.080 my sister? Have your brothers ever done that? I think 0:05:54.080 --> 0:05:56.039 in a different way, I don't think they would like 0:05:56.040 --> 0:05:58.000 sit down like do you love my sister? They expect 0:05:58.080 --> 0:06:00.720 every guy to be like yeah, like what guy is 0:06:00.760 --> 0:06:02.960 going to be dumb enough to be like no. I 0:06:03.000 --> 0:06:06.560 think they hit them on a more like manipulative route. 0:06:07.240 --> 0:06:12.520 It makes sense, do you mean, they they'll like test them. 0:06:12.600 --> 0:06:16.920 Like for example, I remember, Man, I won't say names, 0:06:16.960 --> 0:06:20.400 but maybe people could assume. I remember my brothers were 0:06:20.600 --> 0:06:24.599 just like one of my exes was so excited to 0:06:24.680 --> 0:06:27.560 like continue to go to Vegas and like continue to 0:06:27.600 --> 0:06:30.680 go to like nightclubs, and my brothers were like, red flag, 0:06:31.160 --> 0:06:35.719 Yeah I heard big nightclub guy. Hey, we weren't naming names, 0:06:38.080 --> 0:06:42.240 no names here, but you know the excitement for that. 0:06:42.480 --> 0:06:44.080 My brothers used to do that when they're younger, but 0:06:44.120 --> 0:06:45.800 now they're at an age where they're like, all right, 0:06:46.000 --> 0:06:48.240 you know, like Vegas, Vegas, whatever, have fun, but at 0:06:48.279 --> 0:06:50.280 the same time, like they're not as amped up for 0:06:50.320 --> 0:06:53.760 that lifestyle anymore. So, UM, I guess when they see 0:06:53.760 --> 0:06:55.680 that stuff. I was sitting there, I was like, oh man, 0:06:55.560 --> 0:07:00.480 this failed, Like this test just failed. Uh. I mean 0:07:00.480 --> 0:07:02.279 I'm the same way too. I've said on this podcast 0:07:02.360 --> 0:07:04.400 many times one of my favorite things about dating Kalin 0:07:04.560 --> 0:07:07.160 is that we share the same sentiment of like never 0:07:07.240 --> 0:07:10.240 wanting to go out and club or go to bars. Well, 0:07:10.280 --> 0:07:11.760 we go like bars every once in a while, I guess, 0:07:11.800 --> 0:07:13.320 but like the nightclub scene is just not part of 0:07:13.320 --> 0:07:15.320 our relationship, and I agree. It's a red flag if 0:07:15.720 --> 0:07:18.240 someone you're dating is like very set in their ways 0:07:18.280 --> 0:07:21.760 on that type of stuff, because it's like mostly mostly 0:07:21.760 --> 0:07:23.440 that stuff just leads to bad decisions in a lot 0:07:23.480 --> 0:07:25.600 of ways, and it's an unhealthy lifestyle too, for sure. 0:07:26.120 --> 0:07:30.160 Exactly exactly, Um, so you know they do it more 0:07:30.160 --> 0:07:32.240 of the minibut way. And then like I was going 0:07:32.320 --> 0:07:35.240 on a date here and Kelsey was staying back on 0:07:35.280 --> 0:07:38.920 this one. But like the way how smart my brothers are, 0:07:38.960 --> 0:07:42.160 it's bad. Like they were just interrogating Kelsey to like 0:07:42.240 --> 0:07:45.400 try to get information out, like being like but in 0:07:45.440 --> 0:07:47.360 a way that's not just like straight up like in 0:07:47.360 --> 0:07:51.800 a way that she would almost have to like mess up. So, um, yeah, 0:07:51.840 --> 0:07:56.080 it's hard. Is that one of the reasons you moved 0:07:56.080 --> 0:07:58.120 to Miami because you wanted to have a little bit 0:07:58.160 --> 0:08:01.920 more freedom dating? Yeah. The only problem is they know 0:08:01.920 --> 0:08:03.440 a lot of people down there in Miami to do 0:08:03.680 --> 0:08:06.280 so I just never catch a break. Well, your brothers 0:08:06.280 --> 0:08:10.600 are everywhere, They're everywhere. Yeah, they're like the CIA. Uh, 0:08:10.720 --> 0:08:13.320 they have infour minutes all around the country. You just 0:08:13.440 --> 0:08:16.720 moved to Miami. How long you've been in Miami for? 0:08:18.240 --> 0:08:21.280 So I've been there, um for the past like a year, 0:08:21.360 --> 0:08:23.480 but I just got my place. My parents were up 0:08:23.520 --> 0:08:25.640 in Chicago there snowboard, so I was staying at their 0:08:25.640 --> 0:08:28.120 place until they came down and then I got my 0:08:28.160 --> 0:08:31.400 own place, um in downtown Miami. So have you said, 0:08:32.080 --> 0:08:34.720 have you noticed a difference in the dating pool between 0:08:34.840 --> 0:08:40.560 Chicago and Miami yet? Um? Yeah, I feel like in Chicago, 0:08:40.640 --> 0:08:42.320 I've been here for so many years, you kind of 0:08:42.480 --> 0:08:44.720 know all the people that like like to do the 0:08:44.760 --> 0:08:46.960 same stuff as you. That sounds weird, but it's like 0:08:47.040 --> 0:08:50.800 it's actually a small city. Um. And in Miami, I 0:08:50.840 --> 0:08:53.080 feel like there's so many people coming from all over, 0:08:53.120 --> 0:08:56.520 whether it's like Seattle, California, and New York Chicago, Like 0:08:56.559 --> 0:08:59.079 it's just it's more of a melting pot now from 0:08:59.080 --> 0:09:02.320 people all over. It's not just like Miami Miami. So, 0:09:02.920 --> 0:09:06.600 um yeah, I met some good guys down there. But 0:09:07.120 --> 0:09:09.640 we gotta we gotta because there are a lot of 0:09:09.640 --> 0:09:12.199 men that listen to this podcast, a lot of a single, 0:09:13.559 --> 0:09:16.880 very very you know, successful men listen to this podcast. 0:09:17.320 --> 0:09:19.959 What is your type then? Because you know, let's say 0:09:19.960 --> 0:09:22.120 there's a handsome single man listening to this podcast and 0:09:22.160 --> 0:09:27.199 he's like, how do I get Kelly's attention. Um one, 0:09:27.400 --> 0:09:30.880 I need someone who's like very just like intelligent, you 0:09:30.880 --> 0:09:34.920 know what I mean, Like I I am a nerd 0:09:35.000 --> 0:09:37.920 at heart, and I love someone to just kind of 0:09:38.280 --> 0:09:41.319 teach me new things, you know. I I would say, 0:09:41.320 --> 0:09:43.560 I'm very open minded in a lot of senses, and 0:09:43.640 --> 0:09:46.000 just for someone to come in and be able to 0:09:46.040 --> 0:09:47.840 teach me new things and like kind of trust their 0:09:47.920 --> 0:09:51.880 judgment is something that I really value. Um also just 0:09:52.000 --> 0:09:55.920 like being you know, being kind. But I also like 0:09:56.000 --> 0:09:58.480 witty people because I could be very sassy and I 0:09:58.520 --> 0:10:00.760 need people to like keep up with my wit and 0:10:00.840 --> 0:10:04.600 not necessarily take it so personal when I'm like throwing 0:10:04.640 --> 0:10:09.800 little flirty jabs. Yeah, little jabs. You said something that 0:10:10.040 --> 0:10:12.640 always piques my interest, which is you said you're a 0:10:12.679 --> 0:10:16.760 nerd at heart. And I feel like in my experience 0:10:16.880 --> 0:10:19.800 before Ashley and I got married, when I was doing 0:10:19.880 --> 0:10:22.040 when you know, in the single world, a lot of 0:10:22.040 --> 0:10:24.560 women would be like, oh, I'm a nerd at heart, 0:10:24.840 --> 0:10:27.560 and then I, thinking like, oh she's a nerd she 0:10:27.600 --> 0:10:30.679 can relate, would go on and talk about you know, 0:10:31.280 --> 0:10:33.880 Batman begins for like a good hour and a half, 0:10:34.080 --> 0:10:36.960 and she was like oh no, no, no, no, no, no, no, 0:10:37.360 --> 0:10:39.959 and it's like, oh, I misinterpreted. I think a lot 0:10:39.960 --> 0:10:43.680 of guys go through this because guys are real nerds 0:10:43.720 --> 0:10:47.560 at heart. Like I know, I'm an extreme Like you know, 0:10:47.559 --> 0:10:49.240 I can talk about Spider Man No Way Home for 0:10:49.240 --> 0:10:52.360 about seven weeks. But when you say you're a nerd 0:10:52.400 --> 0:10:53.800 at heart, what does that mean? Because I think a 0:10:53.800 --> 0:10:56.600 lot of guys want to know. Okay, when a girl says, oh, 0:10:56.640 --> 0:10:59.160 I'm a nerd, what are you a nerd of? I 0:10:59.200 --> 0:11:02.080 think just like, for example, you know right now, with 0:11:02.320 --> 0:11:08.520 like I've always been really into um, just health in general, 0:11:08.679 --> 0:11:10.679 like just knowing how our body works. So I can 0:11:10.720 --> 0:11:15.040 go on for hours about that and just just like 0:11:15.120 --> 0:11:18.440 staying healthy. Like me and my my best friend his 0:11:18.559 --> 0:11:20.840 name is Chase, Like we go at it because he's 0:11:20.920 --> 0:11:23.160 just like the McDonald's kind of guy. And I'm like, 0:11:23.440 --> 0:11:25.680 you're not helping yourself, and like I can go on 0:11:25.880 --> 0:11:28.240 for you know, I could research that kind of stuff 0:11:28.240 --> 0:11:30.440 and just how our body works a lot. That's like 0:11:30.520 --> 0:11:34.400 one thing. Another thing is like travel, Um, I love 0:11:34.520 --> 0:11:37.680 to see how other cultures live. And I learned so 0:11:37.760 --> 0:11:41.280 much about myself by doing that. Um, you know, I've 0:11:41.320 --> 0:11:43.880 been like all over the world and some of the 0:11:43.920 --> 0:11:46.160 coolest places I've been where more of the Third world 0:11:46.160 --> 0:11:48.679 countries and just being able to see like a Ghana 0:11:48.840 --> 0:11:50.680 and how they live and how happy they are and 0:11:50.720 --> 0:11:53.439 how they have like nothing in their life. Um, it 0:11:53.480 --> 0:11:57.040 just makes me really grateful to step back and being like, 0:11:57.160 --> 0:11:59.640 holy crap, like my life. You know, I need to 0:11:59.640 --> 0:12:03.439 be great for everything I have in my life. But um, 0:12:03.480 --> 0:12:06.360 what else? I think? Like health is one traveling. I'd 0:12:06.400 --> 0:12:09.960 like to point out that this is a distinct difference 0:12:10.000 --> 0:12:13.520 between the male brain and the female brain, because when 0:12:13.559 --> 0:12:19.520 you say nerd, you're talking about philanthropy, travel, health, and wellness. 0:12:19.800 --> 0:12:23.280 When a guy thinks of a NERD, I immediately go 0:12:23.400 --> 0:12:30.280 to comic books, superheroes and different you know, yeah, because 0:12:30.520 --> 0:12:32.120 you're a big anime guy. Right, I'm not. I'm not 0:12:32.160 --> 0:12:33.640 a big anime fan, but when I think of nerd, 0:12:33.679 --> 0:12:35.280 I just think of anime for some reason. I don't 0:12:35.280 --> 0:12:37.920 know why. Yeah, I think it's just I think when 0:12:37.920 --> 0:12:40.480 I say nerd, like I understand your perspective, and it's 0:12:40.520 --> 0:12:43.200 definitely different subjects. I think I like to just learn, 0:12:43.320 --> 0:12:45.800 like whether you have a different profession than me, Like Jared, 0:12:45.880 --> 0:12:48.000 I can get very nosy, like I'll sit you down 0:12:48.000 --> 0:12:49.760 and I'll be like, tell me about your life, and 0:12:49.760 --> 0:12:51.960 like I didn't keep asking questions like people are like 0:12:52.320 --> 0:12:53.680 you know, I've kind of been known in the friend 0:12:53.679 --> 0:12:55.880 group that sometimes I can get in trusive because I 0:12:55.880 --> 0:12:57.720 just want to know, Like I don't like the cerface 0:12:57.800 --> 0:13:00.880 level conversations like tell me about your life and tell 0:13:00.880 --> 0:13:04.240 me about your upbringing or whatever, like your cool stories, 0:13:04.280 --> 0:13:07.400 like everyone's got a cool story, why not learn from it? 0:13:07.520 --> 0:13:10.160 Or I don't know. I think I think next time 0:13:10.200 --> 0:13:12.720 you get asked that question, I'm not saying the answer 0:13:12.800 --> 0:13:14.640 was wrong. I think maybe you should replace the word 0:13:14.720 --> 0:13:17.600 nerdy with passionate because that seems like it's more like 0:13:17.640 --> 0:13:21.040 a passionate thing, but that can also be misinterpreted for 0:13:21.120 --> 0:13:27.760 like something sexual, like I'm a passionate girl, Deine. Yeah, 0:13:27.960 --> 0:13:29.520 I guess it really depends on how much you like 0:13:29.600 --> 0:13:31.200 the guy, whether you want to say passionate or not, 0:13:31.240 --> 0:13:33.520 because then, like you said, it could be misinterpreted. So 0:13:33.520 --> 0:13:35.760 it's whether you want it to be misinterpreted it or not. 0:13:36.920 --> 0:13:39.160 I have something, So we're gonna take a quick break. 0:13:39.160 --> 0:13:41.600 But before we take a quick break, I'm sure this 0:13:41.640 --> 0:13:44.960 has already been out there and floated out there and 0:13:45.000 --> 0:13:48.880 written about, but it just popped in my head. So 0:13:48.920 --> 0:13:52.720 we have Michelle's season of the Bachelor, it just ended, 0:13:53.120 --> 0:13:57.400 Clayton's season of The Bachelor is about to air in January, 0:13:57.400 --> 0:13:59.240 and then of course we'll have a new season of 0:13:59.320 --> 0:14:03.360 The Bachelor coming when film March ap or whenever it 0:14:03.400 --> 0:14:12.239 starts filming. Kelly Flanagan, you are an attorney. You're very intelligent, 0:14:13.040 --> 0:14:18.760 very conversationalist. You have incredible hair. Incredible hair. I mean, 0:14:18.800 --> 0:14:21.480 this is this feels like a no brainer, and I 0:14:21.520 --> 0:14:24.040 don't know why hasn't popped in my head. Kelly Flanagan, 0:14:24.400 --> 0:14:26.880 you need as long as you're still single to be 0:14:26.960 --> 0:14:33.000 the next Bachelor. It's like it's almost too obvious. Oh 0:14:33.200 --> 0:14:36.400 my god. Well, Jared, that is like the you know, 0:14:37.080 --> 0:14:41.280 biggest compliment I've received a while. I think you may 0:14:41.560 --> 0:14:43.440 if that's the biggest compliment you've received, you maybe need 0:14:43.440 --> 0:14:47.440 to reconsider who you're going on dates with. Yeah, alright, 0:14:47.480 --> 0:14:52.640 I take that back. He's right. Contextually speaking, I guess 0:14:52.640 --> 0:14:57.360 it's a it's a good one. Yeah, I'm not wrong. 0:14:57.400 --> 0:14:59.520 I feel very passionate about this. I think on help 0:14:59.560 --> 0:15:01.960 I suck it dating first episode, we need to start 0:15:02.000 --> 0:15:04.640 this campaign, which I'm sure has already been started, but 0:15:04.760 --> 0:15:12.560 I'm just oblivious to it. Kelly Flann again, how old you? Kelly? 0:15:13.040 --> 0:15:16.840 Oh my, you're this is perfect. This is as long 0:15:16.840 --> 0:15:19.560 as this is something you'd be interested in doing. Holy shit, 0:15:20.280 --> 0:15:23.120 it's all the stars are aligning. I feel like this 0:15:23.160 --> 0:15:26.440 needs to happen right Maybe we can go online like 0:15:26.480 --> 0:15:28.840 petition dot org and start a petition to get Kelly 0:15:28.840 --> 0:15:34.160 as the next Bachelor at I've Suck Army this podcast. 0:15:34.360 --> 0:15:36.560 I would say all twelve of our listeners would go 0:15:36.600 --> 0:15:40.240 and sign it right away. We probably get thirteen people 0:15:40.240 --> 0:15:42.480 who listen to this podcast just because we play on 0:15:42.800 --> 0:15:45.080 the twelve listeners plus me and you, so there's fourteen. 0:15:45.360 --> 0:15:47.960 Maybe convince some producers to go sign it. We might 0:15:47.960 --> 0:15:51.560 get up. Um I would you, Well, let's ask you, 0:15:51.600 --> 0:15:53.280 would you be down for that? Let's say, you know, 0:15:53.320 --> 0:15:55.960 fast forward six months, you're still single, but you're still dating, 0:15:56.000 --> 0:15:57.640 and they come and approach you with the idea, would 0:15:57.680 --> 0:16:02.160 you be interested in it? Um? I think anyone always 0:16:02.200 --> 0:16:05.080 would consider it right now, Like Dean, I'm not gonna lie. 0:16:06.120 --> 0:16:07.880 I just I'm trying to take care of my health. 0:16:07.920 --> 0:16:11.440 I think that like um, I think the stress from 0:16:11.480 --> 0:16:13.120 it all and again it was new. I think the 0:16:13.200 --> 0:16:15.120 stress from it all really took a toll on me 0:16:15.240 --> 0:16:17.520 and like put me in like a deep spot where 0:16:17.520 --> 0:16:19.480 I was like, oh, like, my health isn't good because 0:16:19.480 --> 0:16:22.240 you know the majority of illnesses are like from stress. 0:16:22.440 --> 0:16:24.600 And I never really looked at it. But now looking back, 0:16:24.640 --> 0:16:27.040 I'm like, man, like, just going on the show with 0:16:27.120 --> 0:16:30.600 the breakup, how messy things got. Um it was. It 0:16:30.680 --> 0:16:33.480 definitely took a toll on me. So you know, the 0:16:33.520 --> 0:16:37.040 next like six months, I'm doing this protocol and focusing 0:16:37.080 --> 0:16:40.880 on health, but you never know. I gotta say, though, 0:16:40.920 --> 0:16:43.240 I do think as stressful as that scenarios for anyone 0:16:43.280 --> 0:16:46.400 that goes through it, it's I would say, uh, a 0:16:46.440 --> 0:16:49.480 lot of this stress was placed on everyone that was 0:16:49.680 --> 0:16:52.840 on that season because uh, not that Peter is like 0:16:52.880 --> 0:16:54.240 a bad guy in any sense of the word, but 0:16:54.280 --> 0:16:56.360 I just think that he created a lot of undue 0:16:56.400 --> 0:16:58.320 stress on people. So I do think if you were 0:16:58.360 --> 0:16:59.800 to go on your own season, it would be stressful. 0:16:59.800 --> 0:17:01.280 And it's one right, but I think it would be 0:17:01.360 --> 0:17:02.960 unfair to compare the two. That's just that's just my 0:17:03.040 --> 0:17:05.560 hunch on it. Um. I want to I want to 0:17:05.560 --> 0:17:08.440 ask you, so, what what is lime disease? What is that? 0:17:08.640 --> 0:17:10.760 What is that? I never knew you had that too. 0:17:10.880 --> 0:17:13.480 I didn't know that. It was actually funny like being 0:17:13.520 --> 0:17:14.879 on when I was on the show, there was like 0:17:14.920 --> 0:17:17.480 weird things always happening to me, Like my throat was closing. 0:17:17.480 --> 0:17:19.720 When I was in Costa Rica. I remember getting up 0:17:19.720 --> 0:17:21.159 in the middle of the night and like running to 0:17:21.160 --> 0:17:24.280 the doctor being like, hey, something's not good, like my mute, 0:17:24.280 --> 0:17:27.840 like something in my autoimmune systems like messed up. But essentially, 0:17:27.840 --> 0:17:31.240 what lime is, it's just a virus um and it 0:17:31.280 --> 0:17:33.120 has a shield on it, so it's hard to kill 0:17:33.160 --> 0:17:36.119 because like think about it's called biofilm is the shield, 0:17:36.200 --> 0:17:38.200 so you could kill it off, but you need to 0:17:38.280 --> 0:17:41.199 kill off that biofilm. Now that biofilm is created by sugar, 0:17:41.359 --> 0:17:44.280 so I can't have any sugar carbs to essentially get 0:17:44.320 --> 0:17:46.439 rid of it. But it just kind of messes with 0:17:46.480 --> 0:17:50.160 like my autoimmune system. So like days I'm like exhausted, 0:17:50.280 --> 0:17:52.720 or other days I just have like my throat closing up, 0:17:52.840 --> 0:17:55.200 or it's just like triggering a bunch of different things 0:17:55.240 --> 0:17:59.439 in me um. And so it all depends on what 0:17:59.480 --> 0:18:01.719 you eat. You're saying no cards, no sugar. That's basically 0:18:01.720 --> 0:18:04.400 like everything I feel like, yeah, it's not healthy. I'm 0:18:04.400 --> 0:18:06.560 doing that for three months, um, and then I could 0:18:06.560 --> 0:18:08.199 start incorporating it. But I need to get rid of 0:18:08.200 --> 0:18:10.640 that like shield. So this is like a new thing. 0:18:10.760 --> 0:18:13.399 This isn't like something you were born with. Um. I 0:18:13.440 --> 0:18:15.440 don't know how long I've had it. I think that 0:18:15.520 --> 0:18:17.080 a lot of people have in their system and then 0:18:17.080 --> 0:18:19.199 it get triggered. It gets triggered. I like stressed, So 0:18:19.320 --> 0:18:21.639 that's why I was kind of insinuating. Maybe it was 0:18:21.680 --> 0:18:23.520 from the show where I was like super stressed and 0:18:23.560 --> 0:18:26.280 it just like can't make me hard, right, And so 0:18:26.440 --> 0:18:28.840 hopefully you're living more of a stress free life nowadays. 0:18:29.359 --> 0:18:31.400 That's what I'm trying to do. I'm not I'm trying 0:18:31.440 --> 0:18:34.240 to take a seat on the back burner. Actually, it's funny, Dean. 0:18:34.280 --> 0:18:37.600 A lot of people who have fine, um, you're you 0:18:37.640 --> 0:18:41.360 get really sensitive to mold too, and their number one 0:18:41.400 --> 0:18:45.520 recommendation is to live the van life. Why I just 0:18:45.640 --> 0:18:47.600 like go to an air climate and drive around or 0:18:47.640 --> 0:18:51.080 what just so you're away from like mold. Because like 0:18:51.080 --> 0:18:53.720 when your immune systems down, you're super sensitive and mold 0:18:53.720 --> 0:18:56.199 and I'll trigger you. So the best way is to 0:18:56.240 --> 0:18:58.200 go live out of a van and nature and you're 0:18:58.200 --> 0:19:00.639 good to go. And you decided to move to a 0:19:00.680 --> 0:19:03.600 city where it's eighty degrees and a humidity twelve months 0:19:03.600 --> 0:19:07.000 out of the year, I know I did move into 0:19:07.040 --> 0:19:12.920 a new building, though I made sure of that. Nice nice, Well, um, well, okay, Well, 0:19:12.920 --> 0:19:15.520 hopefully you figure out lime disease. That sounds pretty brutal. 0:19:15.560 --> 0:19:18.840 I like, you can't imagine being restricted dietarily, like just 0:19:18.920 --> 0:19:20.639 having to go to a restaurant, like picking and choosing 0:19:20.680 --> 0:19:22.399 things on the menu. So I feel for you. I 0:19:22.440 --> 0:19:24.840 hope everything gets better. We are gonna take one quick 0:19:24.880 --> 0:19:26.840 break and we're gonna jump into some headlines real quick, 0:19:26.880 --> 0:19:29.760 because obviously it's nice to get Kelly's perspective on a 0:19:29.760 --> 0:19:31.760 lot of these things instead of just minding Jared's them opinion. 0:19:31.840 --> 0:19:45.919 So stick through the break, we'll be right back. We 0:19:46.000 --> 0:19:47.320 have a couple of headlines that I do want to 0:19:47.320 --> 0:19:51.200 talk about in depth with Kelly and yourself. The first 0:19:51.200 --> 0:19:54.600 one I'm going to talk about because it's about Spider Man, 0:19:54.720 --> 0:19:56.560 and seeing how I talked about it in the first segment, 0:19:56.600 --> 0:19:58.960 why not go right into it. So Syndia and Tom 0:19:59.000 --> 0:20:01.840 Holland were told that they shouldn't date, and they were 0:20:01.880 --> 0:20:04.680 told this by a Spiderman producer. So Spiderman No Way 0:20:04.680 --> 0:20:08.840 Home producer Amy Pascual Pascal p A. S C A. L. 0:20:08.960 --> 0:20:13.040 Pascal Pascal admitted I think. Pascal admitted that she once 0:20:13.080 --> 0:20:16.320 told Tom Holland and Zendia that dating one another would 0:20:16.320 --> 0:20:18.399