WEBVTT - Mid-Week Mom Chat: Feeling Alone. 0:00:01.040 --> 0:00:07.000 Hey, gals, what's up. So I'm sitting here on It's 0:00:07.000 --> 0:00:10.959 a Thursday, and the podcast I just released today, I 0:00:11.039 --> 0:00:13.920 was like in a flow experience. I don't know if 0:00:13.920 --> 0:00:16.599 you guys even understood it, but I'm trying to just 0:00:16.680 --> 0:00:20.080 be more conversational and just tell y'all. Actually I've always 0:00:20.079 --> 0:00:22.960 been more conversational and told y'all wakes up, but instead 0:00:22.960 --> 0:00:28.360 of making it so topic based, I just want to chat. 0:00:29.000 --> 0:00:32.240 And I don't know, I guess this is like y'all 0:00:32.280 --> 0:00:34.800 really are like my friends, because I am just pouring 0:00:34.800 --> 0:00:37.600 out my heart to you guys in a super honest way, 0:00:37.920 --> 0:00:46.240 and I am so grateful and I received the love 0:00:46.560 --> 0:00:51.240 and the camaraderie from y'all. Because something that's really been 0:00:51.240 --> 0:00:54.240 cool over these past few months since Sunny has been 0:00:54.280 --> 0:00:57.520 here and since I've really focused my podcast on just 0:00:57.640 --> 0:01:03.360 women and talking about women's issues, is I feel like 0:01:03.360 --> 0:01:05.520 we're all in this thing together more than I ever 0:01:05.600 --> 0:01:09.240 have in my whole life. Because I always knew it 0:01:09.280 --> 0:01:15.040 was awesome to be a woman, and I, like always, 0:01:15.959 --> 0:01:18.520 I've just enjoyed being a woman, even though I've had 0:01:18.560 --> 0:01:23.120 a lot of insecurities and um a long road to 0:01:23.120 --> 0:01:25.680 figure out what I wanted to do, and you know, 0:01:25.760 --> 0:01:28.080 a lot of self doubt, like we all do. I mean, 0:01:28.160 --> 0:01:31.800 I've had all that stuff and I have not thought 0:01:31.840 --> 0:01:35.039 I was like as capable as maybe a man would 0:01:35.040 --> 0:01:39.160 think of himself or I don't know, but I always 0:01:39.200 --> 0:01:41.280 love being a woman through all my mental struggles that 0:01:41.280 --> 0:01:45.880 I've had to work through, and more than ever though, 0:01:45.920 --> 0:01:49.720 since I focused my podcast on women, and I've, like 0:01:49.760 --> 0:01:51.920 I said, I'm telling you the same thing again. But 0:01:52.000 --> 0:01:56.880 in my becoming mom to Sonny, I just feel like 0:01:56.920 --> 0:02:00.480 we have a gang and I'm really grateful to be 0:02:00.480 --> 0:02:03.800 in the gang with y'all. And please keep staying in 0:02:03.840 --> 0:02:08.040 the gang. Spread the word to your friends. Tell everybody 0:02:08.080 --> 0:02:11.680 about this awesome girl gang that we have on this podcast, 0:02:11.800 --> 0:02:14.440 because and some guys make your presence to they do 0:02:14.520 --> 0:02:17.640 they pop in if it makes sense. I love the guys. 0:02:17.680 --> 0:02:20.880 They're awesome. Um, But I want to talk about women's 0:02:20.880 --> 0:02:23.200 stuff because I have so many questions. Becoming a new 0:02:23.240 --> 0:02:28.320 mom has really opened my life up to just a 0:02:28.360 --> 0:02:33.040 new world like of love, like love that hurts, like 0:02:33.120 --> 0:02:35.440 I've never felt this kind of love before my life. 0:02:36.120 --> 0:02:39.360 I like him in pain because the love hurts so much. 0:02:40.040 --> 0:02:45.600 But I'm also just over the moon, like joyful, and 0:02:45.639 --> 0:02:48.720 then the fear matches the love, So you have this 0:02:48.840 --> 0:02:52.760 great fear that you've never had before. Because I always 0:02:53.560 --> 0:02:55.840 thought to myself, like, Okay, you'll just figured it out. 0:02:55.880 --> 0:02:58.080 Like even in my darker days where I was lost 0:02:58.120 --> 0:03:00.560 and all that, I always knew I could figure it 0:03:00.600 --> 0:03:03.440 out and like get to wherever I needed to go. Eventually. 0:03:03.520 --> 0:03:05.640 I wasn't gonna give up. I've never ever thought I 0:03:05.680 --> 0:03:07.400 was gonna give up or like that something bad was 0:03:07.440 --> 0:03:09.000 gonna happen to me. I always knew I just keep 0:03:09.000 --> 0:03:11.400 moving on. But now that I have Sunny, I'm just 0:03:11.440 --> 0:03:13.360 like the world got scary to me all of a sudden. 0:03:13.400 --> 0:03:15.680 I wasn't scared of the world before, and now I'm like, 0:03:15.680 --> 0:03:17.840 oh my god, there's so much out there that can 0:03:17.960 --> 0:03:21.560 hurt her, and like all these things that she has 0:03:21.680 --> 0:03:25.079 to go through in life, it's overwhelming and I don't know. 0:03:25.240 --> 0:03:28.040 But that's why I love all you guys as friends, 0:03:28.520 --> 0:03:30.239 because I get so much advice from you all, Like 0:03:30.280 --> 0:03:32.280 I'll throw a question out into the ether world on 0:03:32.320 --> 0:03:35.000 the internet, on Instagram and I will get the best 0:03:35.080 --> 0:03:37.560 comments from you all and advice that I actually use, 0:03:37.800 --> 0:03:40.800 Like I really really use the advice shall give me. 0:03:41.600 --> 0:03:44.480 So thank you, and let's just keep this thing going 0:03:44.680 --> 0:03:47.960 and you'll let me know how I can grow better 0:03:48.000 --> 0:03:50.600 for y'all, like what topics you want to hear about. 0:03:50.640 --> 0:03:52.400 I love it when you have suggestions of people you 0:03:52.400 --> 0:03:54.080 want me to get on the podcast. I keep a 0:03:54.160 --> 0:03:56.839 running list of those, and then I want it makes 0:03:56.880 --> 0:03:59.440 sense to ask them. I will ask them because I 0:03:59.480 --> 0:04:02.520 want to have just all these awesome, fluid conversations with 0:04:02.560 --> 0:04:05.240 women who are talking about the stuff that we're talking about, 0:04:05.560 --> 0:04:08.160 which is all of us. We're all in this thing together. 0:04:09.640 --> 0:04:12.600 Another really big goal of this podcast. You know what, 0:04:12.640 --> 0:04:15.200 I'm gonna clarify some goals. I'm gonna clarify some goals 0:04:15.200 --> 0:04:16.760 of this podcast right now, and then I'm gonna get 0:04:16.760 --> 0:04:18.960 into some of the questions that you guys asked about 0:04:19.000 --> 0:04:23.600 not feeling alone. But this podcast is to make you 0:04:23.640 --> 0:04:26.159 not feel alone. That is the point of it. That 0:04:26.320 --> 0:04:30.760 is my sole intention. That is why I am doing this. 0:04:30.880 --> 0:04:33.520 That is why it's important to me, and that is 0:04:33.600 --> 0:04:37.120 why I'm so grateful that y'all are here, because you 0:04:37.160 --> 0:04:39.520 make me not feel alone and you make me feel like, 0:04:39.560 --> 0:04:42.320 oh my god, I'm not crazy. Like, I have recently 0:04:42.360 --> 0:04:46.359 discovered cat Andat on Instagram at c A T A 0:04:46.560 --> 0:04:51.279 N D N A T. I was so grateful to 0:04:51.320 --> 0:04:59.320 discover their Instagram because sorry, Michael ordered pizza and had 0:04:59.360 --> 0:05:02.760 Cajun craw and like, the crust is so spicy to me, 0:05:02.839 --> 0:05:06.600 my mouth is still on fire. Don't drinking water and 0:05:06.640 --> 0:05:11.279 the pepper doesn't nothing wrong too. Anyway, I just recently 0:05:11.320 --> 0:05:14.000 discovered cat and Net on Instagram, and I am so 0:05:14.160 --> 0:05:16.400 thankful to have found them because I'm like, you are 0:05:16.440 --> 0:05:19.280 talking right to me, and they have this way. Y'all 0:05:19.360 --> 0:05:21.919 got to follow them at cat and Net. They have 0:05:22.080 --> 0:05:29.479 this way of really talking about the stuff that we 0:05:29.560 --> 0:05:31.480 are all kind of afraid to talk about. His mom's 0:05:31.520 --> 0:05:34.200 like because you don't want to go you're the bad mom. 0:05:34.200 --> 0:05:36.960 But they're talking about real topics and they're being funny 0:05:36.960 --> 0:05:40.039 about it. They're letting us know that we're human, and 0:05:40.080 --> 0:05:41.960 then they're telling us we're doing a good job, because 0:05:42.000 --> 0:05:43.880 we're all doing a really good job. And it's a 0:05:43.960 --> 0:05:47.520 huge responsibility to raise little lives and it's a huge 0:05:47.560 --> 0:05:51.360 privilege and it's a huge honor and blessing and all 0:05:51.400 --> 0:05:54.800 of it. So we need each other to tell each other, 0:05:54.800 --> 0:05:58.400 we're doing a good job, and that we're not alone 0:05:58.480 --> 0:06:02.440 and all these struggles that we're in because gosh, there's 0:06:02.440 --> 0:06:04.839 a lot of struggles out there. And it is a choice. 0:06:04.920 --> 0:06:09.440 It is a daily choice to stay in the joy 0:06:09.480 --> 0:06:13.200 and to stay in the positive and to stay motivated, 0:06:13.279 --> 0:06:15.880 and to stay believing that the world is a good place. 0:06:15.960 --> 0:06:20.240 Like it is a daily choice, and I want to 0:06:20.320 --> 0:06:23.040 choose that every day because I want to be happy. 0:06:23.279 --> 0:06:26.240 I want to see the best in people. I want 0:06:26.360 --> 0:06:28.400 to believe that this world is a great place for 0:06:28.400 --> 0:06:32.760 Sunday to grow up. And I want to have fun. 0:06:32.920 --> 0:06:34.800 And I don't want to have a pit in my 0:06:34.839 --> 0:06:37.440 stomach when I'm having fun because I'm here telling is 0:06:37.480 --> 0:06:39.479 looming or it's not gonna last. Like, I just want 0:06:39.480 --> 0:06:43.800 to enjoy the moment. I have so much to be 0:06:43.880 --> 0:06:46.200 thankful for, and I know you guys do too. I 0:06:46.240 --> 0:06:48.760 am so thankful for Michael. We truly love each other, 0:06:49.480 --> 0:06:51.400 and he is such a good husband and he is 0:06:51.440 --> 0:06:54.480 such a good father, and I love that he's followed 0:06:54.480 --> 0:06:57.040 his dreams through ups and downs and thick, thick and thin. 0:06:57.120 --> 0:06:58.680 Y'all check out his band if you have, and it's 0:06:58.680 --> 0:07:01.400 a thousand Horses. They have a new single out called 0:07:01.480 --> 0:07:04.919 Drinking Song, and it is so freaking good. They have 0:07:04.920 --> 0:07:07.960 a new album that's coming out, and Man, if anyone 0:07:08.000 --> 0:07:11.120 inspires me, it's my husband, because he has just persevered 0:07:11.440 --> 0:07:19.400 and really continue to chase his dream and keep succeeding 0:07:19.560 --> 0:07:22.400 and getting better and better, which is hard to believe 0:07:22.400 --> 0:07:24.880 because he has always been so great, but like it's 0:07:24.920 --> 0:07:28.240 like every season of his life, he just uses it 0:07:28.240 --> 0:07:32.280 to fuel him to be better. And he's never stopped 0:07:32.280 --> 0:07:35.480 believing that his dream will come true because it will, 0:07:35.520 --> 0:07:37.360 and he knows that he's worth it, and he knows 0:07:37.360 --> 0:07:39.080 that this is his heart, and he knows this his 0:07:39.160 --> 0:07:42.040 calling and through all of it, he's going to fight 0:07:42.040 --> 0:07:44.160 for it. And I am here for that and I 0:07:44.200 --> 0:07:48.800 appreciate that, and I am all about the journey. Like man. 0:07:49.760 --> 0:07:51.840 Check out the podcast Michael Jam with Bobby Bones on 0:07:51.880 --> 0:07:54.000 the Bobby Cast that it's b O B B Y 0:07:54.120 --> 0:07:56.920 C A S T. Bobby Bones has been awesome. He's 0:07:56.960 --> 0:08:00.080 been such a supporter of Michael and Drinking Song, and 0:08:00.160 --> 0:08:02.680 so is Rod Phillips his bosso over at I Heart 0:08:02.760 --> 0:08:05.400 and Jackie T. We love our I Heart family. Of course, 0:08:05.400 --> 0:08:11.560 we love Radio Amy Amy Brown, all of them, Eddie, Lunchbox, Morgan, 0:08:12.080 --> 0:08:14.760 I mean truly, that show has been great to us. 0:08:14.880 --> 0:08:18.520 So we're very thankful for Bobby and I heart and 0:08:19.440 --> 0:08:22.840 that's where my podcast lives on Bobby's Network on the 0:08:22.960 --> 0:08:28.480 Nashville Podcast Network, So we love the Bobby Bones fam. 0:08:28.600 --> 0:08:31.760 Very thankful for them. But Trinking Song has been getting 0:08:31.760 --> 0:08:33.320 some love. Sorry, I'm all over the place. I've been 0:08:33.320 --> 0:08:36.640 getting some love and it's been going great. And y'all 0:08:36.679 --> 0:08:39.120 check it out and check out that podcast, and also, yeah, 0:08:39.160 --> 0:08:41.280 I mean just check it out because it tells Michael story. 0:08:41.320 --> 0:08:42.920 If you all want to know more about me in 0:08:42.960 --> 0:08:45.760 my life, you probably want to know about my husband. 0:08:45.800 --> 0:08:47.520 So check that out because he goes through his whole 0:08:47.559 --> 0:08:50.200 journey and it's really good. There's also an article about 0:08:50.240 --> 0:08:55.440 him in Rolling Stone Online. Um that's really good anyway, though. 0:08:55.480 --> 0:08:58.000 But I'm so grateful for my husband and Michael and 0:08:58.080 --> 0:09:01.160 our true love and our Billy to navigate the ups 0:09:01.200 --> 0:09:04.880 and the downs. Don't get me wrong, Like we've had 0:09:05.559 --> 0:09:08.600 fights and like we disagree, and especially when you bring 0:09:08.600 --> 0:09:10.800 a kid into it, and the careers that are like 0:09:10.880 --> 0:09:14.680 all all over the place and like they're deeply rooted 0:09:14.679 --> 0:09:17.000 in love and passion and what we feel is our 0:09:17.120 --> 0:09:20.560 talent and gift still the world. But gosh, when you 0:09:20.600 --> 0:09:23.119 have a creative dream that you're following, I mean it, 0:09:23.120 --> 0:09:25.040 it takes you on a wild goose chase sometimes and 0:09:25.080 --> 0:09:27.440 you just gotta follow that thing. And we've both been 0:09:27.440 --> 0:09:29.280 trying to follow it, and we support each other following 0:09:29.280 --> 0:09:32.280 our dreams. So I'm super grateful for that. And I'm 0:09:32.360 --> 0:09:36.040 so grateful for Sunny and her light that she brings 0:09:36.040 --> 0:09:38.560 to this world, and her laugh and her positivity and 0:09:38.559 --> 0:09:41.840 her just joyousness and the blessing that she is, Like, 0:09:41.840 --> 0:09:44.480 I'm so grateful for that. I'm so grateful that Michael 0:09:44.480 --> 0:09:47.040 and I both are able to pursue our dreams and 0:09:47.160 --> 0:09:49.400 have them be our jobs that pay the bills. Like, 0:09:49.440 --> 0:09:51.200 I'm so thankful for that. I do not take that 0:09:51.280 --> 0:09:55.120 for granted, not one second. They were my family. I 0:09:55.200 --> 0:09:58.600 love my parents and my sister and my brother in law, 0:09:58.720 --> 0:10:02.679 my niece, and all Michael's brothers and my sister in 0:10:02.760 --> 0:10:06.199 law Betsy and all five of their kids and are 0:10:06.840 --> 0:10:09.520 Michael's parents and my parents. And you know, I've been 0:10:09.679 --> 0:10:12.160 blessed enough to have grandparents that I love, and cousins 0:10:12.160 --> 0:10:17.000 and amazing friends, and we're all healthy and happy and 0:10:17.200 --> 0:10:20.559 getting to live a life that we truly love and 0:10:20.600 --> 0:10:22.720 we support each other. And I'm like, what am I 0:10:22.720 --> 0:10:25.080 complaining about? I was listening to my podcast of Landon 0:10:26.040 --> 0:10:29.560 living with land and she had her podcast out last Monday. Man. 0:10:29.679 --> 0:10:33.040 She's positive, She truly sees the light in this life, 0:10:33.040 --> 0:10:36.240 and she truly counts her blessings. And she didn't start 0:10:36.280 --> 0:10:39.080 out with everything. She didn't start out as living with Landon, 0:10:39.120 --> 0:10:41.320 who has a store and who has a ton of 0:10:41.320 --> 0:10:45.360 Instagram followers and travels around and does live shows that 0:10:45.440 --> 0:10:49.200 are awesome. She didn't start out as this little mogul 0:10:49.240 --> 0:10:53.040 that she is married to NFL Hall of Famer football husband. 0:10:53.040 --> 0:10:55.280 He just got inducted into NFL Hall of Fame, which 0:10:55.320 --> 0:11:00.160 is amazing, Steve Hutchison. And she didn't start out like up. 0:11:01.480 --> 0:11:03.480 But she's chosen to just see the bright side of 0:11:03.520 --> 0:11:06.560 life and to make pretty choices, as she says, which 0:11:06.640 --> 0:11:09.760 I love. Just choose the choice that makes you feel good, 0:11:09.880 --> 0:11:12.640 makes you feel pretty, makes you light up, Like, really, 0:11:13.360 --> 0:11:15.840 we don't have to choose the worry. I always feel 0:11:15.880 --> 0:11:17.840 like I have to choose the worry. I'm always like, 0:11:17.840 --> 0:11:21.320 oh my gosh, that's the worry. I found the worry, 0:11:21.400 --> 0:11:25.240 like I've located it. Um Now I have to think 0:11:25.280 --> 0:11:27.920 about it all the time because if I don't the worry, 0:11:27.960 --> 0:11:30.560 I'll drop the worry and it'll get me or something 0:11:31.280 --> 0:11:34.520 like me thinking about it and holding up my fears 0:11:34.520 --> 0:11:36.840 and worries like keeps them away from me, or something 0:11:37.640 --> 0:11:40.120 that's just not true. And I've been listening to Gabby 0:11:40.160 --> 0:11:46.280 Bernstein and she had her book Super Attractor on Books 0:11:46.320 --> 0:11:48.280 on tape, and I'm going to play y'all an excerpt 0:11:48.360 --> 0:11:51.160 from it, because she says how important it is to 0:11:51.160 --> 0:11:54.720 start your day off with mantras of who you are 0:11:55.040 --> 0:11:57.679 to the world, instead of waking up and getting on 0:11:57.720 --> 0:12:01.920 your phone and looking at and aagram and or checking 0:12:01.960 --> 0:12:05.719 your emails, or just all of a sudden, rushing as 0:12:05.720 --> 0:12:08.040 fast as you can and you're already behind the eight 0:12:08.080 --> 0:12:10.880 ball and you have no time to be intentional for 0:12:10.880 --> 0:12:13.240 the day because now life is happening to you. You're 0:12:13.360 --> 0:12:17.160 rushing like everything's going on at the same time, and 0:12:17.160 --> 0:12:19.240 you're trying to get a grip and you're just feeling flustered, 0:12:19.280 --> 0:12:21.440 and it just starts to snowball. So you can start 0:12:21.440 --> 0:12:23.080 off like that or you can start off like this 0:12:23.160 --> 0:12:26.960 with her mantra. So I'm really really trying to commit 0:12:27.000 --> 0:12:31.040 to my um what I put on my vision board 0:12:31.080 --> 0:12:36.559 this year, of just being decluttered, of being peaceful, of trusting, 0:12:37.360 --> 0:12:40.320 of letting the flow happen to me instead of me 0:12:40.440 --> 0:12:43.360 rushing around trying to make something happen. I really am 0:12:43.400 --> 0:12:46.680 trying to let the flow happen. And I want to 0:12:46.720 --> 0:12:49.439 see where it takes me because instead of me forcing 0:12:49.480 --> 0:12:53.240 my agenda, I'm interested to see what God has in 0:12:53.320 --> 0:12:55.760 store for me. Like not in some like spiritual hippie 0:12:55.760 --> 0:12:59.360 dibby way, but like I'm really interested to see where 0:12:59.400 --> 0:13:02.760 God wants me to go because he brought me. Well, 0:13:02.960 --> 0:13:05.719 I'm here here, I am on earth. However we got 0:13:05.760 --> 0:13:10.040 here here, I have chosen to live, be exists. This 0:13:10.120 --> 0:13:12.800 is my soul. Um. We're doing this thing. I'm in 0:13:12.800 --> 0:13:16.400 a physical body, and now I have really committed to 0:13:16.440 --> 0:13:19.320 this earth life thirty or six years of it. So 0:13:20.360 --> 0:13:22.560 I know there's a bigger force at play. Like I 0:13:22.600 --> 0:13:25.240 don't super I'm not one of those people that need 0:13:25.320 --> 0:13:27.640 you to claim to be a Christian or need you 0:13:27.679 --> 0:13:30.120 to claim exactly what your faith is, because I don't 0:13:30.160 --> 0:13:32.240 feel like you have to claim it like that. I think, 0:13:32.720 --> 0:13:36.680 get inspired by religion or like people like Gabby Bernstein, 0:13:36.840 --> 0:13:40.720 or just get inspired to be tuned in to the 0:13:40.760 --> 0:13:44.120 bigger force out there. Whatever inspires you and connects you 0:13:44.200 --> 0:13:46.360 to it is the way to go. Because if you're 0:13:46.360 --> 0:13:48.679 going to church and you're feeling you have to be there, 0:13:48.679 --> 0:13:50.679 and you're not getting a message and you're not feeling 0:13:50.720 --> 0:13:52.680 a spiritual connection, then why are you going to church? 0:13:52.720 --> 0:13:54.720 I mean, unless you just love the community, that's great 0:13:55.640 --> 0:13:58.480 go I think, and I do think being in a 0:13:58.559 --> 0:14:01.120 house of I don't even know what they say in 0:14:01.120 --> 0:14:03.280 the Bible, but when two or more gathered, God is there. 0:14:03.600 --> 0:14:06.200 I do believe that, And I do believe community is 0:14:06.880 --> 0:14:09.880 super important. And I think that like getting in a 0:14:09.960 --> 0:14:11.679 church family is great for that. And I think you're 0:14:11.679 --> 0:14:14.240 always probably going to pick up some inspiration along the way. 0:14:14.320 --> 0:14:16.320 But for me, like if I am not going to church, 0:14:16.360 --> 0:14:17.520 orf I don't have time to go to church, or 0:14:17.520 --> 0:14:20.400 for whatever reason I'm not doing something like that. I 0:14:20.440 --> 0:14:23.520 can grab my inspiration from YouTube videos, from people like 0:14:23.680 --> 0:14:27.280 online books. So I'm listening to Gabby Bernstein right now. 0:14:28.440 --> 0:14:32.240 She is all about tapping into the universe and like 0:14:32.560 --> 0:14:34.880 manifesting the life that you're dreaming of and all that. 0:14:35.200 --> 0:14:39.320 Such super tractors methods for manifesting a life beyond your dreams. 0:14:40.760 --> 0:14:43.000 Here's what she says, start every day off. I'm playing 0:14:43.000 --> 0:14:47.560 the mantra. My body is rested and my mind is clear. 0:14:48.560 --> 0:14:53.080 I start my day with positive thoughts and energy. I'm relaxed, 0:14:53.720 --> 0:14:59.080 non resistant, and clear. My day unfolds with ease and grace. 0:15:00.160 --> 0:15:04.680 People support me throughout the day. The universe supports my desires. 0:15:04.720 --> 0:15:09.600 Today I am open to receiving greatness. I am energized 0:15:09.920 --> 0:15:15.680 and inspired. Creative possibilities are available to me. Nothing holds 0:15:15.720 --> 0:15:20.360 me back. I take action with faith and clarity. I 0:15:20.400 --> 0:15:25.520 am healthy, well and vibrant. Today is a great day. 0:15:26.080 --> 0:15:30.400 I'm having fun today. I bring joy to others. I 0:15:30.520 --> 0:15:33.720 bring light with me wherever I go. I am a 0:15:33.760 --> 0:15:38.280 positive influence on the world. All is well? Okay, Now 0:15:38.400 --> 0:15:41.920 tell me if you start your day off with that, 0:15:42.440 --> 0:15:44.960 are you not going to have a better day? I mean, 0:15:45.000 --> 0:15:47.800 if you really take five I mean that wasn't even 0:15:47.840 --> 0:15:52.240 five minutes of thirty seconds, like thirty seconds under a minute. 0:15:52.240 --> 0:15:55.520 How about that that was like a minute long exercise 0:15:56.480 --> 0:16:00.440 that all it involved is us waking up, taking a 0:16:00.480 --> 0:16:05.080 deep breath, deciding to not let the day just overtake 0:16:05.160 --> 0:16:08.720 us and start. But instead, we're gonna take five minutes. 0:16:08.840 --> 0:16:12.840 Just give yourself five minutes. We're gonna take five minutes 0:16:13.760 --> 0:16:17.920 to catch our breath, to take a deep breath, to 0:16:18.080 --> 0:16:23.960 remember our blessings, to remember what we love in our life, 0:16:25.080 --> 0:16:31.440 to remember what motivates us, to remember what we love. 0:16:32.600 --> 0:16:38.360 We're going to do that first and then do these mantras, 0:16:38.440 --> 0:16:42.000 or write your own, or do something that calms your 0:16:42.040 --> 0:16:46.120 heart beat down literally like put your hand on your 0:16:46.120 --> 0:16:49.240 heart and watch it calm down. Like let your heart 0:16:49.280 --> 0:16:54.280 beat calm down. Let your brain turn the dial down 0:16:54.360 --> 0:16:57.040 like four. I got a scale of one to ten. 0:16:57.120 --> 0:16:59.640 You if you're waking up on a seven with everything 0:16:59.680 --> 0:17:02.920 you gotta do, let the dial go down to about 0:17:02.920 --> 0:17:10.639 it for calm down, deep breath, dec mandres. That doesn't 0:17:10.640 --> 0:17:13.679 take any time, But yet that feels so slow. It 0:17:13.760 --> 0:17:17.840 feels like such a task because it's like I have 0:17:17.920 --> 0:17:24.359 to like think or slow down or be intentional. I 0:17:24.400 --> 0:17:27.960 have to remember to be intentional instead of just waking 0:17:28.040 --> 0:17:30.840 up and playing up Instagram, which is so easy to 0:17:30.920 --> 0:17:33.760 do in such an addiction, which I love Instagram, like 0:17:33.840 --> 0:17:36.000 I'm a big I am a fan of social media 0:17:36.160 --> 0:17:38.840 because I I think it can be used for inspiration, 0:17:38.920 --> 0:17:42.159 and that's how I've curated my Instagram now, like I 0:17:42.200 --> 0:17:46.880 only follow people that inspire me. I only, um try 0:17:46.920 --> 0:17:49.320 to use my platform for stuff that I love and 0:17:49.359 --> 0:17:52.320 then inspires me. Like I'm only putting stuff out that 0:17:52.440 --> 0:17:56.120 I love, and that what is fueling my fire and desire, 0:17:56.160 --> 0:18:00.359 whether that's pictures of my family, um me having funds somewhere, 0:18:00.359 --> 0:18:02.000 Like I want to remember the times I've had fun 0:18:02.080 --> 0:18:05.320 because that makes me feel good. Didn't like have fun? 0:18:05.440 --> 0:18:08.360 I want to document that Instead of documenting sad things, 0:18:08.359 --> 0:18:11.080 I want to document happy things. And I want to 0:18:11.119 --> 0:18:14.159 document like my podcast. I love putting my share in 0:18:14.200 --> 0:18:18.240 my podcast with you through social media too. So I 0:18:18.320 --> 0:18:21.919 like social media. I don't necessarily like it first thing 0:18:21.920 --> 0:18:24.720 in the morning when it starts to dictating my life, 0:18:24.800 --> 0:18:28.320 because I need to be clear and I need to 0:18:28.359 --> 0:18:31.720 be intentional for my own self. So whether that's like, Okay, 0:18:31.720 --> 0:18:33.320 I want to have a to do list of things 0:18:33.359 --> 0:18:35.199 I want to do for my podcast that I need 0:18:35.240 --> 0:18:38.000 to get done, or for different deals that I'm doing 0:18:38.000 --> 0:18:41.480 that I need to get done so I need to prioritize, 0:18:41.520 --> 0:18:43.720 do something, have a due date, like what needs to 0:18:43.720 --> 0:18:45.360 be done first, and I make a list of that 0:18:46.119 --> 0:18:48.320 I need, then I know what I need to get done. 0:18:48.359 --> 0:18:50.000 But then like just pick the things that have to 0:18:50.040 --> 0:18:52.440 get done and let myself sort of enjoy the rest 0:18:52.440 --> 0:18:55.840 of the day, Like I instead of just something stressed 0:18:55.880 --> 0:18:58.600 and having this burning list all the time, I just 0:18:58.640 --> 0:19:00.240 want to do what I need to do for the 0:19:00.320 --> 0:19:02.719 day that keeps me prepared for the day and moving forward. 0:19:03.600 --> 0:19:06.880 And then kind of just like I keep a running counter. 0:19:06.920 --> 0:19:09.080 I think I talked talked about this last podcast, all 0:19:09.080 --> 0:19:10.359 the things that need to get done so I won't 0:19:10.359 --> 0:19:12.760 forget them. But then like when I don't need to 0:19:12.760 --> 0:19:15.840 be working or doing something, I'm really wanting to just 0:19:16.040 --> 0:19:18.560 enjoy my life, like I want to be in the moment. 0:19:18.920 --> 0:19:22.160 And that is why I I really want to make 0:19:22.200 --> 0:19:24.640 these mantras a part of my morning. I really want 0:19:24.640 --> 0:19:27.000 to be intentional with social media instead of just like 0:19:27.119 --> 0:19:29.760 aimlessly looking at it and letting it fill my life. 0:19:29.760 --> 0:19:32.000 Like I don't ever get on social media when I'm 0:19:32.000 --> 0:19:34.680 around sunny unless like I have to like post something 0:19:34.680 --> 0:19:37.240 from my podcast or I really I mean, I'm not 0:19:37.240 --> 0:19:39.320 saying I haven't gotten on social media in front of Sunny, 0:19:39.320 --> 0:19:41.440 because I have. But for the most part, like I'm 0:19:41.520 --> 0:19:45.600 really really intentional about not being on social media when 0:19:45.600 --> 0:19:49.479 I'm with her because I just want her to like 0:19:49.560 --> 0:19:51.760 see me looking in her eyes. I want to laugh 0:19:51.800 --> 0:19:53.880 with her. I want us to have fun. I want 0:19:53.880 --> 0:19:56.800 to see her little movements with her tongue and hear 0:19:56.840 --> 0:20:00.640 her little cups and chirps and why to roll over. 0:20:00.720 --> 0:20:03.040 And I love watching her like look at toys, and 0:20:03.080 --> 0:20:05.240 I'm like, what is she thinking about this? Like how 0:20:05.359 --> 0:20:08.760 is she what is her brain doing? Because everything is new, 0:20:08.880 --> 0:20:11.480 like all of it, and I really try to just 0:20:11.640 --> 0:20:15.680 like see from her perspective and like I don't know. 0:20:15.840 --> 0:20:19.080 I just love talking with her and like mimicking her, 0:20:19.080 --> 0:20:22.040 and I just I just love it. I love it 0:20:22.080 --> 0:20:24.560 all and even feeding her. She makes funny faces and 0:20:24.920 --> 0:20:26.439 all of it is just a joy to me. And 0:20:26.480 --> 0:20:28.280 I don't want to miss that because I'm looking at 0:20:28.320 --> 0:20:31.760 social media. No, that is not the time for social media, 0:20:31.880 --> 0:20:35.600 in my opinion. Be Present actually went to social media 0:20:35.640 --> 0:20:38.399 workshop with some friends and the guy was talking to 0:20:38.480 --> 0:20:40.320 us about just like learning how to have this balance 0:20:40.359 --> 0:20:44.200 of social media and like it also just involves being intentional. 0:20:44.240 --> 0:20:46.960 In my mind, I do not think social media is 0:20:46.960 --> 0:20:48.720 a bad thing all the time. I think you can 0:20:48.800 --> 0:20:50.280 use it for good. But I think you need to 0:20:50.280 --> 0:20:52.960 put parameters on it, like when you're with your family 0:20:53.160 --> 0:20:57.520 or with your children, or at their events or doing 0:20:57.560 --> 0:21:00.920 something that like matters, that is someone themselves out there 0:21:00.960 --> 0:21:04.600 and like, you know, expressing themselves to you in a 0:21:04.640 --> 0:21:07.600 way like be there, show up for that. Don't get 0:21:07.640 --> 0:21:10.040 on your stupid phone. That's not the time to get 0:21:10.040 --> 0:21:12.040 on the phone. Like the time to get on the 0:21:12.040 --> 0:21:14.359 phone is when you are sitting on the toilet, or 0:21:14.400 --> 0:21:17.400 when you're in the bathtub, or when your baby's down 0:21:17.400 --> 0:21:19.080 for a nap, and it's kind of just in the 0:21:19.119 --> 0:21:20.960 middle of the day, you and you kind of you're 0:21:20.960 --> 0:21:23.000 a little lunch break or something. I mean, it's just 0:21:23.480 --> 0:21:25.199 there's time, or at the end of the night when 0:21:25.200 --> 0:21:26.680 you've hung out with your husband and your family and 0:21:26.680 --> 0:21:28.879 everyone's asleeping, you and your husband are winding down or 0:21:28.920 --> 0:21:31.160 something like just for a little bit. I don't know, 0:21:31.280 --> 0:21:33.800 but like there's times for it, but not all the time, 0:21:33.920 --> 0:21:35.679 not when you need to be present for your family. 0:21:35.720 --> 0:21:37.919