Speaker 1: Hey, gals, what's up. So I'm sitting here on It's
Speaker 1: a Thursday, and the podcast I just released today, I
Speaker 1: was like in a flow experience. I don't know if
Speaker 1: you guys even understood it, but I'm trying to just
Speaker 1: be more conversational and just tell y'all. Actually I've always
Speaker 1: been more conversational and told y'all wakes up, but instead
Speaker 1: of making it so topic based, I just want to chat.
Speaker 1: And I don't know, I guess this is like y'all
Speaker 1: really are like my friends, because I am just pouring
Speaker 1: out my heart to you guys in a super honest way,
Speaker 1: and I am so grateful and I received the love
Speaker 1: and the camaraderie from y'all. Because something that's really been
Speaker 1: cool over these past few months since Sunny has been
Speaker 1: here and since I've really focused my podcast on just
Speaker 1: women and talking about women's issues, is I feel like
Speaker 1: we're all in this thing together more than I ever
Speaker 1: have in my whole life. Because I always knew it
Speaker 1: was awesome to be a woman, and I, like always,
Speaker 1: I've just enjoyed being a woman, even though I've had
Speaker 1: a lot of insecurities and um a long road to
Speaker 1: figure out what I wanted to do, and you know,
Speaker 1: a lot of self doubt, like we all do. I mean,
Speaker 1: I've had all that stuff and I have not thought
Speaker 1: I was like as capable as maybe a man would
Speaker 1: think of himself or I don't know, but I always
Speaker 1: love being a woman through all my mental struggles that
Speaker 1: I've had to work through, and more than ever though,
Speaker 1: since I focused my podcast on women, and I've, like
Speaker 1: I said, I'm telling you the same thing again. But
Speaker 1: in my becoming mom to Sonny, I just feel like
Speaker 1: we have a gang and I'm really grateful to be
Speaker 1: in the gang with y'all. And please keep staying in
Speaker 1: the gang. Spread the word to your friends. Tell everybody
Speaker 1: about this awesome girl gang that we have on this podcast,
Speaker 1: because and some guys make your presence to they do
Speaker 1: they pop in if it makes sense. I love the guys.
Speaker 1: They're awesome. Um, But I want to talk about women's
Speaker 1: stuff because I have so many questions. Becoming a new
Speaker 1: mom has really opened my life up to just a
Speaker 1: new world like of love, like love that hurts, like
Speaker 1: I've never felt this kind of love before my life.
Speaker 1: I like him in pain because the love hurts so much.
Speaker 1: But I'm also just over the moon, like joyful, and
Speaker 1: then the fear matches the love, So you have this
Speaker 1: great fear that you've never had before. Because I always
Speaker 1: thought to myself, like, Okay, you'll just figured it out.
Speaker 1: Like even in my darker days where I was lost
Speaker 1: and all that, I always knew I could figure it
Speaker 1: out and like get to wherever I needed to go. Eventually.
Speaker 1: I wasn't gonna give up. I've never ever thought I
Speaker 1: was gonna give up or like that something bad was
Speaker 1: gonna happen to me. I always knew I just keep
Speaker 1: moving on. But now that I have Sunny, I'm just
Speaker 1: like the world got scary to me all of a sudden.
Speaker 1: I wasn't scared of the world before, and now I'm like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, there's so much out there that can
Speaker 1: hurt her, and like all these things that she has
Speaker 1: to go through in life, it's overwhelming and I don't know.
Speaker 1: But that's why I love all you guys as friends,
Speaker 1: because I get so much advice from you all, Like
Speaker 1: I'll throw a question out into the ether world on
Speaker 1: the internet, on Instagram and I will get the best
Speaker 1: comments from you all and advice that I actually use,
Speaker 1: Like I really really use the advice shall give me.
Speaker 1: So thank you, and let's just keep this thing going
Speaker 1: and you'll let me know how I can grow better
Speaker 1: for y'all, like what topics you want to hear about.
Speaker 1: I love it when you have suggestions of people you
Speaker 1: want me to get on the podcast. I keep a
Speaker 1: running list of those, and then I want it makes
Speaker 1: sense to ask them. I will ask them because I
Speaker 1: want to have just all these awesome, fluid conversations with
Speaker 1: women who are talking about the stuff that we're talking about,
Speaker 1: which is all of us. We're all in this thing together.
Speaker 1: Another really big goal of this podcast. You know what,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna clarify some goals. I'm gonna clarify some goals
Speaker 1: of this podcast right now, and then I'm gonna get
Speaker 1: into some of the questions that you guys asked about
Speaker 1: not feeling alone. But this podcast is to make you
Speaker 1: not feel alone. That is the point of it. That
Speaker 1: is my sole intention. That is why I am doing this.
Speaker 1: That is why it's important to me, and that is
Speaker 1: why I'm so grateful that y'all are here, because you
Speaker 1: make me not feel alone and you make me feel like,
Speaker 1: oh my god, I'm not crazy. Like, I have recently
Speaker 1: discovered cat Andat on Instagram at c A T A
Speaker 1: N D N A T. I was so grateful to
Speaker 1: discover their Instagram because sorry, Michael ordered pizza and had
Speaker 1: Cajun craw and like, the crust is so spicy to me,
Speaker 1: my mouth is still on fire. Don't drinking water and
Speaker 1: the pepper doesn't nothing wrong too. Anyway, I just recently
Speaker 1: discovered cat and Net on Instagram, and I am so
Speaker 1: thankful to have found them because I'm like, you are
Speaker 1: talking right to me, and they have this way. Y'all
Speaker 1: got to follow them at cat and Net. They have
Speaker 1: this way of really talking about the stuff that we
Speaker 1: are all kind of afraid to talk about. His mom's
Speaker 1: like because you don't want to go you're the bad mom.
Speaker 1: But they're talking about real topics and they're being funny
Speaker 1: about it. They're letting us know that we're human, and
Speaker 1: then they're telling us we're doing a good job, because
Speaker 1: we're all doing a really good job. And it's a
Speaker 1: huge responsibility to raise little lives and it's a huge
Speaker 1: privilege and it's a huge honor and blessing and all
Speaker 1: of it. So we need each other to tell each other,
Speaker 1: we're doing a good job, and that we're not alone
Speaker 1: and all these struggles that we're in because gosh, there's
Speaker 1: a lot of struggles out there. And it is a choice.
Speaker 1: It is a daily choice to stay in the joy
Speaker 1: and to stay in the positive and to stay motivated,
Speaker 1: and to stay believing that the world is a good place.
Speaker 1: Like it is a daily choice, and I want to
Speaker 1: choose that every day because I want to be happy.
Speaker 1: I want to see the best in people. I want
Speaker 1: to believe that this world is a great place for
Speaker 1: Sunday to grow up. And I want to have fun.
Speaker 1: And I don't want to have a pit in my
Speaker 1: stomach when I'm having fun because I'm here telling is
Speaker 1: looming or it's not gonna last. Like, I just want
Speaker 1: to enjoy the moment. I have so much to be
Speaker 1: thankful for, and I know you guys do too. I
Speaker 1: am so thankful for Michael. We truly love each other,
Speaker 1: and he is such a good husband and he is
Speaker 1: such a good father, and I love that he's followed
Speaker 1: his dreams through ups and downs and thick, thick and thin.
Speaker 1: Y'all check out his band if you have, and it's
Speaker 1: a thousand Horses. They have a new single out called
Speaker 1: Drinking Song, and it is so freaking good. They have
Speaker 1: a new album that's coming out, and Man, if anyone
Speaker 1: inspires me, it's my husband, because he has just persevered
Speaker 1: and really continue to chase his dream and keep succeeding
Speaker 1: and getting better and better, which is hard to believe
Speaker 1: because he has always been so great, but like it's
Speaker 1: like every season of his life, he just uses it
Speaker 1: to fuel him to be better. And he's never stopped
Speaker 1: believing that his dream will come true because it will,
Speaker 1: and he knows that he's worth it, and he knows
Speaker 1: that this is his heart, and he knows this his
Speaker 1: calling and through all of it, he's going to fight
Speaker 1: for it. And I am here for that and I
Speaker 1: appreciate that, and I am all about the journey. Like man.
Speaker 1: Check out the podcast Michael Jam with Bobby Bones on
Speaker 1: the Bobby Cast that it's b O B B Y
Speaker 1: C A S T. Bobby Bones has been awesome. He's
Speaker 1: been such a supporter of Michael and Drinking Song, and
Speaker 1: so is Rod Phillips his bosso over at I Heart
Speaker 1: and Jackie T. We love our I Heart family. Of course,
Speaker 1: we love Radio Amy Amy Brown, all of them, Eddie, Lunchbox, Morgan,
Speaker 1: I mean truly, that show has been great to us.
Speaker 1: So we're very thankful for Bobby and I heart and
Speaker 1: that's where my podcast lives on Bobby's Network on the
Speaker 1: Nashville Podcast Network, So we love the Bobby Bones fam.
Speaker 1: Very thankful for them. But Trinking Song has been getting
Speaker 1: some love. Sorry, I'm all over the place. I've been
Speaker 1: getting some love and it's been going great. And y'all
Speaker 1: check it out and check out that podcast, and also, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean just check it out because it tells Michael story.
Speaker 1: If you all want to know more about me in
Speaker 1: my life, you probably want to know about my husband.
Speaker 1: So check that out because he goes through his whole
Speaker 1: journey and it's really good. There's also an article about
Speaker 1: him in Rolling Stone Online. Um that's really good anyway, though.
Speaker 1: But I'm so grateful for my husband and Michael and
Speaker 1: our true love and our Billy to navigate the ups
Speaker 1: and the downs. Don't get me wrong, Like we've had
Speaker 1: fights and like we disagree, and especially when you bring
Speaker 1: a kid into it, and the careers that are like
Speaker 1: all all over the place and like they're deeply rooted
Speaker 1: in love and passion and what we feel is our
Speaker 1: talent and gift still the world. But gosh, when you
Speaker 1: have a creative dream that you're following, I mean it,
Speaker 1: it takes you on a wild goose chase sometimes and
Speaker 1: you just gotta follow that thing. And we've both been
Speaker 1: trying to follow it, and we support each other following
Speaker 1: our dreams. So I'm super grateful for that. And I'm
Speaker 1: so grateful for Sunny and her light that she brings
Speaker 1: to this world, and her laugh and her positivity and
Speaker 1: her just joyousness and the blessing that she is, Like,
Speaker 1: I'm so grateful for that. I'm so grateful that Michael
Speaker 1: and I both are able to pursue our dreams and
Speaker 1: have them be our jobs that pay the bills. Like,
Speaker 1: I'm so thankful for that. I do not take that
Speaker 1: for granted, not one second. They were my family. I
Speaker 1: love my parents and my sister and my brother in law,
Speaker 1: my niece, and all Michael's brothers and my sister in
Speaker 1: law Betsy and all five of their kids and are
Speaker 1: Michael's parents and my parents. And you know, I've been
Speaker 1: blessed enough to have grandparents that I love, and cousins
Speaker 1: and amazing friends, and we're all healthy and happy and
Speaker 1: getting to live a life that we truly love and
Speaker 1: we support each other. And I'm like, what am I
Speaker 1: complaining about? I was listening to my podcast of Landon
Speaker 1: living with land and she had her podcast out last Monday. Man.
Speaker 1: She's positive, She truly sees the light in this life,
Speaker 1: and she truly counts her blessings. And she didn't start
Speaker 1: out with everything. She didn't start out as living with Landon,
Speaker 1: who has a store and who has a ton of
Speaker 1: Instagram followers and travels around and does live shows that
Speaker 1: are awesome. She didn't start out as this little mogul
Speaker 1: that she is married to NFL Hall of Famer football husband.
Speaker 1: He just got inducted into NFL Hall of Fame, which
Speaker 1: is amazing, Steve Hutchison. And she didn't start out like up.
Speaker 1: But she's chosen to just see the bright side of
Speaker 1: life and to make pretty choices, as she says, which
Speaker 1: I love. Just choose the choice that makes you feel good,
Speaker 1: makes you feel pretty, makes you light up, Like, really,
Speaker 1: we don't have to choose the worry. I always feel
Speaker 1: like I have to choose the worry. I'm always like,
Speaker 1: oh my gosh, that's the worry. I found the worry,
Speaker 1: like I've located it. Um Now I have to think
Speaker 1: about it all the time because if I don't the worry,
Speaker 1: I'll drop the worry and it'll get me or something
Speaker 1: like me thinking about it and holding up my fears
Speaker 1: and worries like keeps them away from me, or something
Speaker 1: that's just not true. And I've been listening to Gabby
Speaker 1: Bernstein and she had her book Super Attractor on Books
Speaker 1: on tape, and I'm going to play y'all an excerpt
Speaker 1: from it, because she says how important it is to
Speaker 1: start your day off with mantras of who you are
Speaker 1: to the world, instead of waking up and getting on
Speaker 1: your phone and looking at and aagram and or checking
Speaker 1: your emails, or just all of a sudden, rushing as
Speaker 1: fast as you can and you're already behind the eight
Speaker 1: ball and you have no time to be intentional for
Speaker 1: the day because now life is happening to you. You're
Speaker 1: rushing like everything's going on at the same time, and
Speaker 1: you're trying to get a grip and you're just feeling flustered,
Speaker 1: and it just starts to snowball. So you can start
Speaker 1: off like that or you can start off like this
Speaker 1: with her mantra. So I'm really really trying to commit
Speaker 1: to my um what I put on my vision board
Speaker 1: this year, of just being decluttered, of being peaceful, of trusting,
Speaker 1: of letting the flow happen to me instead of me
Speaker 1: rushing around trying to make something happen. I really am
Speaker 1: trying to let the flow happen. And I want to
Speaker 1: see where it takes me because instead of me forcing
Speaker 1: my agenda, I'm interested to see what God has in
Speaker 1: store for me. Like not in some like spiritual hippie
Speaker 1: dibby way, but like I'm really interested to see where
Speaker 1: God wants me to go because he brought me. Well,
Speaker 1: I'm here here, I am on earth. However we got
Speaker 1: here here, I have chosen to live, be exists. This
Speaker 1: is my soul. Um. We're doing this thing. I'm in
Speaker 1: a physical body, and now I have really committed to
Speaker 1: this earth life thirty or six years of it. So
Speaker 1: I know there's a bigger force at play. Like I
Speaker 1: don't super I'm not one of those people that need
Speaker 1: you to claim to be a Christian or need you
Speaker 1: to claim exactly what your faith is, because I don't
Speaker 1: feel like you have to claim it like that. I think,
Speaker 1: get inspired by religion or like people like Gabby Bernstein,
Speaker 1: or just get inspired to be tuned in to the
Speaker 1: bigger force out there. Whatever inspires you and connects you
Speaker 1: to it is the way to go. Because if you're
Speaker 1: going to church and you're feeling you have to be there,
Speaker 1: and you're not getting a message and you're not feeling
Speaker 1: a spiritual connection, then why are you going to church?
Speaker 1: I mean, unless you just love the community, that's great
Speaker 1: go I think, and I do think being in a
Speaker 1: house of I don't even know what they say in
Speaker 1: the Bible, but when two or more gathered, God is there.
Speaker 1: I do believe that, And I do believe community is
Speaker 1: super important. And I think that like getting in a
Speaker 1: church family is great for that. And I think you're
Speaker 1: always probably going to pick up some inspiration along the way.
Speaker 1: But for me, like if I am not going to church,
Speaker 1: orf I don't have time to go to church, or
Speaker 1: for whatever reason I'm not doing something like that. I
Speaker 1: can grab my inspiration from YouTube videos, from people like
Speaker 1: online books. So I'm listening to Gabby Bernstein right now.
Speaker 1: She is all about tapping into the universe and like
Speaker 1: manifesting the life that you're dreaming of and all that.
Speaker 1: Such super tractors methods for manifesting a life beyond your dreams.
Speaker 1: Here's what she says, start every day off. I'm playing
Speaker 1: the mantra. My body is rested and my mind is clear.
Speaker 1: I start my day with positive thoughts and energy. I'm relaxed,
Speaker 1: non resistant, and clear. My day unfolds with ease and grace.
Speaker 1: People support me throughout the day. The universe supports my desires.
Speaker 1: Today I am open to receiving greatness. I am energized
Speaker 1: and inspired. Creative possibilities are available to me. Nothing holds
Speaker 1: me back. I take action with faith and clarity. I
Speaker 1: am healthy, well and vibrant. Today is a great day.
Speaker 1: I'm having fun today. I bring joy to others. I
Speaker 1: bring light with me wherever I go. I am a
Speaker 1: positive influence on the world. All is well? Okay, Now
Speaker 1: tell me if you start your day off with that,
Speaker 1: are you not going to have a better day? I mean,
Speaker 1: if you really take five I mean that wasn't even
Speaker 1: five minutes of thirty seconds, like thirty seconds under a minute.
Speaker 1: How about that that was like a minute long exercise
Speaker 1: that all it involved is us waking up, taking a
Speaker 1: deep breath, deciding to not let the day just overtake
Speaker 1: us and start. But instead, we're gonna take five minutes.
Speaker 1: Just give yourself five minutes. We're gonna take five minutes
Speaker 1: to catch our breath, to take a deep breath, to
Speaker 1: remember our blessings, to remember what we love in our life,
Speaker 1: to remember what motivates us, to remember what we love.
Speaker 1: We're going to do that first and then do these mantras,
Speaker 1: or write your own, or do something that calms your
Speaker 1: heart beat down literally like put your hand on your
Speaker 1: heart and watch it calm down. Like let your heart
Speaker 1: beat calm down. Let your brain turn the dial down
Speaker 1: like four. I got a scale of one to ten.
Speaker 1: You if you're waking up on a seven with everything
Speaker 1: you gotta do, let the dial go down to about
Speaker 1: it for calm down, deep breath, dec mandres. That doesn't
Speaker 1: take any time, But yet that feels so slow. It
Speaker 1: feels like such a task because it's like I have
Speaker 1: to like think or slow down or be intentional. I
Speaker 1: have to remember to be intentional instead of just waking
Speaker 1: up and playing up Instagram, which is so easy to
Speaker 1: do in such an addiction, which I love Instagram, like
Speaker 1: I'm a big I am a fan of social media
Speaker 1: because I I think it can be used for inspiration,
Speaker 1: and that's how I've curated my Instagram now, like I
Speaker 1: only follow people that inspire me. I only, um try
Speaker 1: to use my platform for stuff that I love and
Speaker 1: then inspires me. Like I'm only putting stuff out that
Speaker 1: I love, and that what is fueling my fire and desire,
Speaker 1: whether that's pictures of my family, um me having funds somewhere,
Speaker 1: Like I want to remember the times I've had fun
Speaker 1: because that makes me feel good. Didn't like have fun?
Speaker 1: I want to document that Instead of documenting sad things,
Speaker 1: I want to document happy things. And I want to
Speaker 1: document like my podcast. I love putting my share in
Speaker 1: my podcast with you through social media too. So I
Speaker 1: like social media. I don't necessarily like it first thing
Speaker 1: in the morning when it starts to dictating my life,
Speaker 1: because I need to be clear and I need to
Speaker 1: be intentional for my own self. So whether that's like, Okay,
Speaker 1: I want to have a to do list of things
Speaker 1: I want to do for my podcast that I need
Speaker 1: to get done, or for different deals that I'm doing
Speaker 1: that I need to get done so I need to prioritize,
Speaker 1: do something, have a due date, like what needs to
Speaker 1: be done first, and I make a list of that
Speaker 1: I need, then I know what I need to get done.
Speaker 1: But then like just pick the things that have to
Speaker 1: get done and let myself sort of enjoy the rest
Speaker 1: of the day, Like I instead of just something stressed
Speaker 1: and having this burning list all the time, I just
Speaker 1: want to do what I need to do for the
Speaker 1: day that keeps me prepared for the day and moving forward.
Speaker 1: And then kind of just like I keep a running counter.
Speaker 1: I think I talked talked about this last podcast, all
Speaker 1: the things that need to get done so I won't
Speaker 1: forget them. But then like when I don't need to
Speaker 1: be working or doing something, I'm really wanting to just
Speaker 1: enjoy my life, like I want to be in the moment.
Speaker 1: And that is why I I really want to make
Speaker 1: these mantras a part of my morning. I really want
Speaker 1: to be intentional with social media instead of just like
Speaker 1: aimlessly looking at it and letting it fill my life.
Speaker 1: Like I don't ever get on social media when I'm
Speaker 1: around sunny unless like I have to like post something
Speaker 1: from my podcast or I really I mean, I'm not
Speaker 1: saying I haven't gotten on social media in front of Sunny,
Speaker 1: because I have. But for the most part, like I'm
Speaker 1: really really intentional about not being on social media when
Speaker 1: I'm with her because I just want her to like
Speaker 1: see me looking in her eyes. I want to laugh
Speaker 1: with her. I want us to have fun. I want
Speaker 1: to see her little movements with her tongue and hear
Speaker 1: her little cups and chirps and why to roll over.
Speaker 1: And I love watching her like look at toys, and
Speaker 1: I'm like, what is she thinking about this? Like how
Speaker 1: is she what is her brain doing? Because everything is new,
Speaker 1: like all of it, and I really try to just
Speaker 1: like see from her perspective and like I don't know.
Speaker 1: I just love talking with her and like mimicking her,
Speaker 1: and I just I just love it. I love it
Speaker 1: all and even feeding her. She makes funny faces and
Speaker 1: all of it is just a joy to me. And
Speaker 1: I don't want to miss that because I'm looking at
Speaker 1: social media. No, that is not the time for social media,
Speaker 1: in my opinion. Be Present actually went to social media
Speaker 1: workshop with some friends and the guy was talking to
Speaker 1: us about just like learning how to have this balance
Speaker 1: of social media and like it also just involves being intentional.
Speaker 1: In my mind, I do not think social media is
Speaker 1: a bad thing all the time. I think you can
Speaker 1: use it for good. But I think you need to
Speaker 1: put parameters on it, like when you're with your family
Speaker 1: or with your children, or at their events or doing
Speaker 1: something that like matters, that is someone themselves out there
Speaker 1: and like, you know, expressing themselves to you in a
Speaker 1: way like be there, show up for that. Don't get
Speaker 1: on your stupid phone. That's not the time to get
Speaker 1: on the phone. Like the time to get on the
Speaker 1: phone is when you are sitting on the toilet, or
Speaker 1: when you're in the bathtub, or when your baby's down
Speaker 1: for a nap, and it's kind of just in the
Speaker 1: middle of the day, you and you kind of you're
Speaker 1: a little lunch break or something. I mean, it's just
Speaker 1: there's time, or at the end of the night when
Speaker 1: you've hung out with your husband and your family and
Speaker 1: everyone's asleeping, you and your husband are winding down or
Speaker 1: something like just for a little bit. I don't know,
Speaker 1: but like there's times for it, but not all the time,
Speaker 1: not when you need to be present for your family.
Speaker 1: So that's one of my goals. The family and friends
Speaker 1: and people in general. And one of my goals to
Speaker 1: be wise with social media. That's just the way I
Speaker 1: want to put it, to be wise with social media, um,
Speaker 1: and to be just to be present Sunday's life. So
Speaker 1: I want to start off intentional and I feel like
Speaker 1: a Montra like that's great. So that's long winded. Now
Speaker 1: let me get to some of these questions because, like
Speaker 1: I said, the reason I am doing this podcast truly
Speaker 1: is to let you know that you're not alone, because
Speaker 1: I don't want to feel alone. Okay, I'm getting to
Speaker 1: these questions. Sorry, I'm still a lot perfectly great at Instagram.
Speaker 1: Where are m hmm? Okay, here we go alone? Mm hmm. Okay.
Speaker 1: So when everything is falling apart and you still have
Speaker 1: to put on a smile, that's what someone wrote in
Speaker 1: When everything is falling apart and you still have to
Speaker 1: put on a smile, that's tough. That's really tough, man.
Speaker 1: I know that feeling when like I always know things
Speaker 1: are going to work out for the best, Like I
Speaker 1: truly know that, and I know that for you who
Speaker 1: wrote this question, like I know that your life is
Speaker 1: going to work out for the best, because I just
Speaker 1: know that this world has a happy ending, like I
Speaker 1: just know it does. I believe in it. I've always
Speaker 1: believed in the happy ending, and I always will believe
Speaker 1: in the happy ending. And I have seen God show
Speaker 1: up for me in my life after some of the
Speaker 1: darker days that I had gone through. And I mean,
Speaker 1: some stuff sucks balls though. I mean that's just there's
Speaker 1: no other way around it. Some stuff sucks, and like
Speaker 1: going through it sucks. And even if you know it's
Speaker 1: going to be for your best and highest good, it
Speaker 1: doesn't make it not suck. So I get it, and
Speaker 1: I like, I really, like I was saying this podcast
Speaker 1: is and make you not feel alone. I can't tell
Speaker 1: you I have an answer for that, because all I
Speaker 1: can tell you is if you keep believing that your
Speaker 1: best is still coming and that this will be towards
Speaker 1: your highest good. If you know that, make yourself believe
Speaker 1: that because that's the truth. Believe that. But then the rest,
Speaker 1: just let yourself feel it. For I don't stay suck forever,
Speaker 1: like you gotta get out of there. You can't stay stuck,
Speaker 1: but feel it. Cry. I mean, let yourself fall apart,
Speaker 1: just fall all the way apart. I always fall all
Speaker 1: the way apart. My friends said this to me. She said,
Speaker 1: I'm always having a little mini meltdowns along the way,
Speaker 1: like whenever something happens to me, or whenever I get
Speaker 1: really anxious or frazzled, or I fear it hits me hard,
Speaker 1: like I'll kind of freak out and I go all
Speaker 1: the way to the bottom with that feeling and all
Speaker 1: you have to cry or I don't just like start
Speaker 1: blocking immediately. I feel it all the way through, which
Speaker 1: I don't know if it's a good thing. But she said,
Speaker 1: and she's like a badass. She's a boss, she's got
Speaker 1: a bunch of kids, she runs lie she runs like
Speaker 1: made tons of lives and it's just I mean, super
Speaker 1: fit and healthy and motivated and all of it. She's
Speaker 1: a true badass. But she was like, you're gonna you
Speaker 1: have all these mini melt down so you're like cleansing
Speaker 1: yourself along the way. She's like, one day you're gonna
Speaker 1: find me laying on the floor like sucking my thumb
Speaker 1: because it all expla loads at once. I just started
Speaker 1: laughing so hard. But I know a bunch of a
Speaker 1: speel that way that like life is, everything has been
Speaker 1: just like you had to build up and like there's
Speaker 1: a huge wall of all this stuff and then it
Speaker 1: all just started falling. And then once it falls, manned
Speaker 1: as it falls, like a domino effect or like a
Speaker 1: crumbling bridge or something like, it all just goes. All
Speaker 1: I can say is I'm gonna have my friend Laney
Speaker 1: on next week, next midweek mom chat, and she's going
Speaker 1: to dive into or podcast one of the two. It
Speaker 1: will be a podcast or mideg the mom chat. Either
Speaker 1: way we'll see it. Cough up. But um, she's going
Speaker 1: to talk about the season, how to get to your
Speaker 1: harvest because we're always an abundant she's saying, but you
Speaker 1: have to go through the rain. If you have to
Speaker 1: go through the plowing, you have to go through more rain,
Speaker 1: and the harvests they're still work to do. It could
Speaker 1: be a bad harvest. You you might have to start
Speaker 1: it all over again. Like it is always a process
Speaker 1: and stuff is going to fall apart. It just is
Speaker 1: and that's just normal. And you're just not alone. I
Speaker 1: want you to know that, Like you're not alone in that.
Speaker 1: But it still sucks, but just believe and keep finding
Speaker 1: little nuggets of things that bring you joy each day
Speaker 1: and just follow that. Just follow the joy where you
Speaker 1: can find it, even if it's just a thought that
Speaker 1: pops in your head. Just hang onto that thought, that joy,
Speaker 1: and just roll with it, just let it lead you,
Speaker 1: because that's really important. Just to follow the joy, because
Speaker 1: I get bombarded with tons of feelings every day, and
Speaker 1: hang on to the joy and just try to let
Speaker 1: that start tipping the scale, you know, just slowly to
Speaker 1: let it tip back over to joy. And then just
Speaker 1: let yourself feel the pain. They'll like, cry, go all
Speaker 1: the way the bottom, feel bad, feel like a victim
Speaker 1: for a second, and then get over it. Cuss some
Speaker 1: mountain or cuss whoever you want out, or cuss the
Speaker 1: world out and punch a pillow and scream and say
Speaker 1: it's unfair and get mad and cry and beat your pillow.
Speaker 1: I mean, do whatever. Get it out of you, get
Speaker 1: it out, feel it, and then accept the fact that
Speaker 1: you're still awesome, You're still blessed. There's still so much
Speaker 1: good coming your way. This is just part of it,
Speaker 1: and you will be stronger because of it. Okay, Um
Speaker 1: having a collique baby that cries all the time. When
Speaker 1: I see moms that seem to have it all together.
Speaker 1: That's from mom. Man, girl, I feel you. We sure
Speaker 1: do you want our babies to perform, don't we? Because
Speaker 1: we feel like it's a reflection of us. Like if
Speaker 1: my baby sleeping through the night and is happy and
Speaker 1: is eating well and everything's going great, then you feel
Speaker 1: good about yourself. Beca's like, oh, I'm doing my job.
Speaker 1: I don't even necessarily think it's like a compared comparison thing.
Speaker 1: It's just like we all want to succeed, and we
Speaker 1: all want to be the best, and we all want
Speaker 1: everyone to think we're great and our family is great
Speaker 1: and all this stuff. But guess what, we all have
Speaker 1: freaking problems. We all are a mess in certain places
Speaker 1: of our lives. We all have a colloquy baby in
Speaker 1: some part of our life, whether it's actually a colloquy
Speaker 1: baby or whether it's just something happening in our life
Speaker 1: that isn't perfect. But guess what, it doesn't mean your
Speaker 1: baby is not perfect. Your baby is perfect just the
Speaker 1: way your baby is. God. That makes me emotional because
Speaker 1: it's true, your baby is freaking perfect, and it's just
Speaker 1: I'm sorry if you're frustrated, because I know that can
Speaker 1: be frustrating because you're tired and it's something else to
Speaker 1: deal with. There's already so much to deal with the
Speaker 1: new baby. But you have a perfect baby. You are
Speaker 1: your baby's perfect mom. And I'm telling you every mom
Speaker 1: i'm struggling with something. I had one friend who told
Speaker 1: me her sweet little girl has hasn't had a cold
Speaker 1: seventeen times and the flu and like eight months of life.
Speaker 1: I mean, that's no fun. But guess what it's happening.
Speaker 1: And it happened, and what are you gonna do about it?
Speaker 1: You're gonna deal with it. And so your baby's colloquy.
Speaker 1: But your baby is perfect, and so it's fine. No
Speaker 1: mom has it together. Any mom that you think has
Speaker 1: it together, you only are seeing pictures on Instagram and
Speaker 1: not seeing the real life real because no mom has
Speaker 1: it together. Nobody has it together. So Phil, let that go. Girl.
Speaker 1: You feel free. You are a great mom, and your
Speaker 1: baby's perfect, and everybody's dealing with something, so you just
Speaker 1: are blessed and don't worry. Um um, let's see special
Speaker 1: needs mom. I feel like you are out on an
Speaker 1: island alone because parenting is different. You know, I can
Speaker 1: I can only imagine, Um, I can only imagine. Truly,
Speaker 1: I think that you are an amazing mom. I know
Speaker 1: that because I know you care, and I know you
Speaker 1: want your baby godmother stuff makes me. I know you
Speaker 1: want your baby to have the best life, and you're
Speaker 1: just trying to navigate like the rest of us. I mean,
Speaker 1: but you just it's harder to find more people to
Speaker 1: relate to because it's not as happening as much, or
Speaker 1: you don't hear about it as much. But people are
Speaker 1: talking about this kind of stuff. By this kind of stuff,
Speaker 1: I mean that we all are on unique special journeys
Speaker 1: in there isn't just one way to do it, and
Speaker 1: we don't have to feel like you only have to
Speaker 1: do it one way. Or if your child has special needs,
Speaker 1: or if your child is call like your if your
Speaker 1: child like whatever is happening, has autism, or I don't
Speaker 1: even know what what it would be, but whatever it's
Speaker 1: happening in your life that we feel like it's out
Speaker 1: of the norm. We used to feel like we had
Speaker 1: to be alone. And I I just think that people
Speaker 1: are talking about it, and I think that you are
Speaker 1: obviously such an amazing mom and a bright light to
Speaker 1: this world, and you love your child so much that
Speaker 1: people need to hear from you, and people need to
Speaker 1: hear about your journey, and whether that's just you sharing
Speaker 1: it openly with your friends or your family um or
Speaker 1: whether you share it on Instagram. And I think it's
Speaker 1: okay to be real and sometimes be frustrated because that's
Speaker 1: just part of it. But I think that there are
Speaker 1: women out there who are talking about every different type
Speaker 1: of parenting that could possibly be happening. And I think
Speaker 1: that I would find at least start by finding people
Speaker 1: on Instagram that are This is where I feel like
Speaker 1: social media is a blessing. Use Instagram and Facebook to
Speaker 1: find other moms who are going through the same thing
Speaker 1: that you are, and message them and become Internet friends.
Speaker 1: Truly become Internet friends and talk about stuff and maybe
Speaker 1: they have suggestions for things that are working for them.
Speaker 1: You don't have to be in person to have these conversations,
Speaker 1: especially mom conversations, because we truly are exchanging information with
Speaker 1: each other, like we truly are trying to parent the
Speaker 1: best we can. And if you can't honestly exchange information
Speaker 1: with people that we're really not going to help each
Speaker 1: other become better parents and better moms. And so there
Speaker 1: are people on the internet on Instagram who are probably
Speaker 1: dealing with something super similar to you. I bet there's
Speaker 1: a lot of people who are dealing with something super
Speaker 1: similar to you. So I would go on the internet
Speaker 1: and find these people and message them and start communicating,
Speaker 1: and that will make you feel not alone, because, like
Speaker 1: I said, the point of this podcast is, I don't
Speaker 1: want anybody to feel alone. And if you have a
Speaker 1: specific conversation that you're needing to have because you need
Speaker 1: someone to understand on the same level, and the only
Speaker 1: way to be on that level is to be in it,
Speaker 1: go find that friend on the internet. People really do
Speaker 1: become cyber friends these days. I mean I have friends
Speaker 1: that message me that I only know through social media
Speaker 1: now because we've messaged back and forth so much on Instagram.
Speaker 1: So I just think that's an opportunity to use Instagram
Speaker 1: for good. Um, And I just want to tell you again,
Speaker 1: you're an amazing mom and I am so just inspired
Speaker 1: by you and you're not the way you're navigating because
Speaker 1: you're just doing it. You're doing it and I'm proud
Speaker 1: of you and you're freaking badass. Um. Husband doesn't show emotions,
Speaker 1: So I feel like I'm the only one affected by
Speaker 1: the tantrums. I guess the kid tantrums. You know what,
Speaker 1: it's probably good sometimes to have both of us not
Speaker 1: to totally get completely emotional. Like Michael's better at that
Speaker 1: than me. It's saying black and white when he knows
Speaker 1: she's safe, when he knows she's fed, when he knows
Speaker 1: she's healthy, when all of her needs have been met.
Speaker 1: Maybe she's just tired, and maybe she just needs to
Speaker 1: work it out for a little bit, but everything's fine,
Speaker 1: Whereas me, I I get so emotional about stuff. Um,
Speaker 1: maybe it's good sometimes to not have two super emotional
Speaker 1: parents at the same time, like switching off with who's
Speaker 1: more emotional each time. I don't know. I feel like
Speaker 1: that can be a blessing because you don't want to
Speaker 1: stay there. You don't want to stay wrapped up in
Speaker 1: the tantrum. You don't want to stay wrapped up in
Speaker 1: the motion. You don't want to stay wrapped up in
Speaker 1: the What you are feeling like is negativity or what's
Speaker 1: not happening, how your child is reacting like in a
Speaker 1: way that you know you don't love. Like, you don't
Speaker 1: want to stay there, You want to get back to love.
Speaker 1: So maybe once the tantrum is done, talk with your kid.
Speaker 1: And I mean, I'm not trying to get I'm just
Speaker 1: flowing what I would say, but like what I'm thinking.
Speaker 1: But obviously I don't have a toddler yet who can
Speaker 1: throw a tantrum. Um, so you might already be doing this,
Speaker 1: and if you are, kudos to you. But like I
Speaker 1: just what I would suggest is just talk with your
Speaker 1: kid and really try to figure out what they're upset
Speaker 1: about and really try to hear them. I know they're
Speaker 1: just kids, but they really do have feelings, and I
Speaker 1: think if we could just talk with them and really
Speaker 1: try to understand them and where they're coming from and
Speaker 1: why they're upset, maybe maybe that could help. Maybe there's
Speaker 1: a new angle to approach the tantrum from from. I
Speaker 1: don't know, but you're doing a great job and you're
Speaker 1: definitely not alone, because I'm telling you every parent is
Speaker 1: going through this. I mean, I interviewed Alison more Um.
Speaker 1: Y'all check that podcast out if you haven't. She has
Speaker 1: a child with autism and he sometimes sorts tantrums and
Speaker 1: gets on a plane and might have a tantrum. And
Speaker 1: what is she going to do stop her life, and
Speaker 1: she she's not going to, and it's part of it.
Speaker 1: It's acceptance. It's just like loving your particular journey with
Speaker 1: all the colors that it is, because it's just nothing
Speaker 1: needs to be perfect, Like we have this this image
Speaker 1: in our mind that things just need to be perfect.
Speaker 1: But nothing needs to be perfect ever, So let's try
Speaker 1: not even have that on on the table, like perfection.
Speaker 1: Let's just take that off the table because it doesn't
Speaker 1: need to be perfect. It needs to be loved. Everything
Speaker 1: just needs love. If it's if there's love, then it's perfect.
Speaker 1: If there's not love, then it's not perfect. So I
Speaker 1: would just try to show up with a little more
Speaker 1: love for yourself. Give yourself a break. You're doing the
Speaker 1: best you can. Um take any pressure of yourself that
Speaker 1: your child needs to be perfect, take any pressure of
Speaker 1: yourself that your husband needs to be perfect, and take
Speaker 1: any pressure of yourself that you need to be perfect,
Speaker 1: and just try to see the best in everyone and
Speaker 1: find a conversation that you can have that's in love
Speaker 1: with your husband and your child, Because if you can
Speaker 1: see love in the midst of a tantrum, the tantrum
Speaker 1: is not going to be so bad. Okay, Um, when
Speaker 1: my husband has gone every other week for work, we
Speaker 1: have three littles and I have no mom, but mom
Speaker 1: best friends. Yeah, that's hard. I mean, that's really hard
Speaker 1: because you don't even have a second breathe. Um, that's
Speaker 1: really tough. So again, I'm just gonna reiterate this the
Speaker 1: whole time because you are not alone. I have so
Speaker 1: many friends who feel like they're on an island. And
Speaker 1: being in the music industry, you have a lot of
Speaker 1: friends who husbands travel a lot, and it's a lot
Speaker 1: to be at home with the kids by yourself and
Speaker 1: doing everything and staying present for them, getting them ready
Speaker 1: for school or whatever they gotta do, or just taking
Speaker 1: care of them. Like right now, me, I'm just taking
Speaker 1: care of Sunny, just feeding her and getting her to
Speaker 1: sleep and all the basic life stuff. But it's a lot, um,
Speaker 1: and it's hard to do by yourself, and getting anywhere
Speaker 1: and going anywhere is hard with baby. I can't imagine
Speaker 1: with three so doing that all by yourself. Like, kudos
Speaker 1: to you. You are a badass and a rock star,
Speaker 1: and I want to start with that, so congratulations for
Speaker 1: being a badass. But um, once again, I'm gonna go
Speaker 1: to technology because I'm just telling you what I would do.
Speaker 1: I hate feeling alone, like I freaking hate it is.
Speaker 1: It's so worse to me that gut rich and feeling
Speaker 1: of being alone. So I'm gonna do anything I can
Speaker 1: to not feel alone. That's why I started this podcast. Um,
Speaker 1: if you don't have access to friends where you live
Speaker 1: and you're alone with your three kids, you got to
Speaker 1: connect on the phone or on like Instagram or something like.
Speaker 1: You gotta find somebody to talk to or someone that
Speaker 1: even inspires you, Like I felt a lot like I
Speaker 1: watched Cat and At videos on Instagram like three hours,
Speaker 1: and they basically made me feel like I was not
Speaker 1: alone because they go through every single topic that we
Speaker 1: have as new moms. They cover every single topic and
Speaker 1: funny videos they put them on their Instagram. It is
Speaker 1: so funny. Go watch that, like seriously, go watch that
Speaker 1: for thirty minutes. At the end of the day, when
Speaker 1: your kids are asleep, call somebody. Call someone that you
Speaker 1: love that makes you feel good, like when you think
Speaker 1: of them, they put you in a good mood, put
Speaker 1: a smile on your face. Call that person when the
Speaker 1: kids go to bed or when you have a little
Speaker 1: break in the day, or if you're driving and you
Speaker 1: can talk on the phone, find like fifteen minutes to
Speaker 1: call somebody and just connect and like express yourself for
Speaker 1: that day, Like let somebody know how your day was,
Speaker 1: because it's not your kids. And exchange days with someone,
Speaker 1: because if you can exchange days with someone, or at
Speaker 1: least just exchange you know, somebody want you want somebody
Speaker 1: to know what happened in your day, Like I don't know.
Speaker 1: Laie mckennall has a song a witness to your life.
Speaker 1: You want a witness to your life. And your kids
Speaker 1: are amazing witnesses, but they're on a different level of
Speaker 1: their kids, like they're not thinking about all this stuff
Speaker 1: that we're thinking about. And your husband's gone, so if
Speaker 1: he can't talk on the phone, I would at least
Speaker 1: try to talk to him on the phone if he can,
Speaker 1: and just talk about your days and like catch up. Um.
Speaker 1: But then also a girlfriend, a different person beside your husband.
Speaker 1: Find a girlfriend or a friend and talk about your day,
Speaker 1: or find somebody on social media who you really relate to,
Speaker 1: who will respond to you. I mean, some people are
Speaker 1: so big they're not gonna respond to you just because
Speaker 1: they have overwhelming amounts of messages and they can't get
Speaker 1: to them. But I know people like me, like on
Speaker 1: the level that I'm at, Like I really love our
Speaker 1: community and I really do respond to people like there's
Speaker 1: plenty of people out there who you can relate to
Speaker 1: on social media who like or you feel like you're
Speaker 1: helping you or like that's my life, you know, but
Speaker 1: we'll talk to you, or find a great podcast like
Speaker 1: Gabby Bernstein, like I'm listening to hers, or I love
Speaker 1: Oprah Super Soul Sundays. I put those on. They made
Speaker 1: me feel great. I mean, just figure out a way
Speaker 1: to get connected. That's what it is. Get connected to somebody,
Speaker 1: whether it's actually in the physical flesh on the phone
Speaker 1: or through a podcast or a Super Soul Sunday or
Speaker 1: a book or someone who's inspiring on Instagram. Just connect,
Speaker 1: That's what I suggest. Um, when I have anxiety, I
Speaker 1: feel like no one understands and there's something seriously wrong
Speaker 1: with me. No, do not worry. There's nothing wrong with you. Um,
Speaker 1: when you have anxiety, that just happens. I mean, anxiety
Speaker 1: is the worst I have had it, Like I felt
Speaker 1: like crippling anxiety, not like I'm gonna say it, I
Speaker 1: have had it as bad as some people that some
Speaker 1: people truly have like seizures and like a lot of
Speaker 1: panic attacks, and it's like a real thing. I have
Speaker 1: anxiety pretty moderately most of the time, but then sometimes
Speaker 1: it flares up to this like unnatural, unhealthy level that
Speaker 1: like really makes me feel sick in my stomach and
Speaker 1: just so worried, just fear, And I hate that feeling
Speaker 1: so much that that's why I'm really working hard on
Speaker 1: trying to get rid of my fear, because in my opinion,
Speaker 1: anxiety comes from fear. And so I would suggest if
Speaker 1: you have really bad anxiety, you might need medication, I
Speaker 1: mean a lot. Sometimes you just might or you might
Speaker 1: need something like. I am not an advocate of saying
Speaker 1: don't get medication if you need it, because if you
Speaker 1: need it, you need it, and that's only between you
Speaker 1: and your doctor. But beyond that, I do think it's
Speaker 1: worth looking into what is giving you anxiety, like when
Speaker 1: you think about it, like what is actually giving you anxiety,
Speaker 1: Like what thought or what kind of like situation gives
Speaker 1: you anxiety, and really take a little time to get
Speaker 1: to the bottom of that fear and try to confront
Speaker 1: that fear as much as you can, because most of
Speaker 1: our fears are lies, and we can believe a life
Speaker 1: for a really, really long time, and it can just
Speaker 1: gain momentum and get really big to the point where
Speaker 1: it's like engulfs us and swallows us, and so sometimes
Speaker 1: it just becomes tidal wave because we've let it go
Speaker 1: for so long. So I would try to get involved
Speaker 1: with looking at that fear and get on medication if
Speaker 1: you need it too, but that's between you and your doctor.
Speaker 1: That's my advice. Um finding mom friends, I think. I
Speaker 1: just think the Internet is a great resource. I think
Speaker 1: if you're new to town, there's an app called Humble,
Speaker 1: and I don't know what cities it's in, but it's
Speaker 1: like Bumble for girls I don't like. I don't know
Speaker 1: exactly what the bumble part of it is, but if
Speaker 1: you type in bumble bu m b Li, there's like
Speaker 1: a whole networking app where you can, like, instead of
Speaker 1: like tindering people and trying to get dates, you can Tinder.
Speaker 1: You can bumble people and get friends, like people who
Speaker 1: are interested in the same stuff, like I know in
Speaker 1: my neighborhood in Nashville, there's like a mom's group if
Speaker 1: you go to Facebook and you type in where you live,
Speaker 1: like there could be a mom's group that pops up.
Speaker 1: There could be places to volunteer that other mom's volunteer at.
Speaker 1: There could be school stuff like if your kids in school,
Speaker 1: is there something you can get on a board like
Speaker 1: volunteer or help and meet other moms? Like I would
Speaker 1: just start figuring out your look at your life, like
Speaker 1: what you do in your life and what you enjoy,
Speaker 1: and then just try to figure out how you can evolve,
Speaker 1: like some sort of group, like how you could reach
Speaker 1: out to a group, like if you enjoy walking, is
Speaker 1: there a walking groop in your in your town of
Speaker 1: moms or in your neighborhood or is there one on Facebook?
Speaker 1: Or do you know some people around you that have
Speaker 1: kids or that our moms like you could just start
Speaker 1: a walking group. You could just ask them or I
Speaker 1: don't know, there's this. I would just start figuring out
Speaker 1: where you're interested, where your life is going already, and
Speaker 1: find a way to connect with moms who are in
Speaker 1: that same zone. That's what I would do. Um mental health,
Speaker 1: anxiety depression. Man, I know it's tough because we are
Speaker 1: alone in our own minds, you know, and when mental
Speaker 1: health and anxiety and depression gets ahold of us, we
Speaker 1: feel even more alone. And I am I don't have
Speaker 1: um any sort of expertise in this. I just care
Speaker 1: about people, and I think everybody struggles with a lot
Speaker 1: of different stuff, and I think everybody's struggle is so
Speaker 1: valid and it is so real, And so I can't
Speaker 1: say that I relate to you because I don't. I
Speaker 1: do struggle with anxiety, but it's not like debilitating UM.
Speaker 1: But you're not alone. So many people struggle with that,
Speaker 1: So many people feel alone and isolated. My suggestion again
Speaker 1: is to get in community. I always think getting in
Speaker 1: community makes things better. Community where you can talk about
Speaker 1: stuff like finding a discrete group of other people who
Speaker 1: are struggling, like a help group, like I don't know
Speaker 1: whether it's even just online again, I'm talking about technology,
Speaker 1: but like I think finding a resource of people who
Speaker 1: are going through this, Like that's why I love a
Speaker 1: A for alcoholics anonymous, like people who are an alan
Speaker 1: on um, family members who have gone through addiction with
Speaker 1: some a loved one. They are not addicting themselves, but
Speaker 1: a loved one. Is it teaches you how to relate
Speaker 1: and respond and help and be encouraging. UM. It's really
Speaker 1: great to have a support group. So if you're really
Speaker 1: struggling with something serious, I think you've got to find
Speaker 1: a support group. And whether it's an online support group,
Speaker 1: whether it's like an a A or an alanon or UM,
Speaker 1: whatever kind of support group you need, Like I know
Speaker 1: there's like overeaters, anonymous clubs, Like there's all sorts of
Speaker 1: support groups out there. And the reason I love a
Speaker 1: support group is because everybody in that group is really
Speaker 1: struggling with the same thing. And it's so nice to
Speaker 1: be around people that you can relate to and talk
Speaker 1: talk openly and freely with and not feel judge because
Speaker 1: you are all going through it. Even though a lot
Speaker 1: of people won't judge you, we have that fear of
Speaker 1: being judged, Like that's just how we feel, and that's
Speaker 1: why it's more isolating. So finding a support group, and
Speaker 1: then when you're in that group, you're being encouraged and
Speaker 1: led to UM cover and you're being led to helpful
Speaker 1: tools and you're being led to tips. And I just think,
Speaker 1: once again, like I was talking about UM overcoming anxiety
Speaker 1: and stuff fighting like something that lifts you up, whether
Speaker 1: it's like a Super Soul Sunday or like a podcast
Speaker 1: like a Gabby Bernstein, She's great. I love her podcast.
Speaker 1: I love her audio books, like or an audiobook that's inspiring.
Speaker 1: And there's tons of great book book list like Oprah
Speaker 1: now has lots of books on her website or wherever
Speaker 1: it is that she has like a book club, and
Speaker 1: there's tons of great books out there that are a motivational,
Speaker 1: that are inspiring, that will lift you up. And I
Speaker 1: would just put that on and listen to it in
Speaker 1: the background, put it into your headphones, figure out a
Speaker 1: way to get yourself hearing positive stuff like good self talk,
Speaker 1: and I would just start there. But I also want
Speaker 1: to say, um, sometimes it is so bad that you
Speaker 1: need to talk to your doctor and get help. And
Speaker 1: I'm never going to say don't do that, because I
Speaker 1: think you have to just take care of yourself and
Speaker 1: you'll know if you need to seek medical tension. And
Speaker 1: so always always do if you need to, because taking
Speaker 1: care of yourself is super important and just staying aware
Speaker 1: and just knowing if you need help, and um, don't
Speaker 1: stay isolated. Whatever you do, tell somebody, find somebody to
Speaker 1: tell that you're really struggling. Find somebody to talk to
Speaker 1: because you really need to talk this out and get
Speaker 1: some guidance. And people are there to talk to you.
Speaker 1: I promise you. People want to talk to you, and
Speaker 1: people love you. Uh h. I'm not answering all these
Speaker 1: all because I've already in fifteen minutes I feel I
Speaker 1: feel alone, and I feel alone like I don't know
Speaker 1: what I'm doing in my career and where I will go.
Speaker 1: I get it. We all go through that. Do not
Speaker 1: feel alone. I get it. I felt so alone, like
Speaker 1: such a loser. For so long I could not figure
Speaker 1: out what to do. I wasn't able to make much
Speaker 1: of money and anything like I wanted to follow my passion,
Speaker 1: but it was all flying apart and it like I
Speaker 1: was good enough. We all feel that way. Do not worry.
Speaker 1: Just keep following the next open door, keep saying true
Speaker 1: to yourself, keep believing in yourself, keep following the path
Speaker 1: of least resistance. You can do it. Do not worry.
Speaker 1: We all are a big freaking mess. It all, It
Speaker 1: all pans out in the long run. State Try to
Speaker 1: stay positive. My baby's crying. I'm about time to go
Speaker 1: I saw this question earlier, and I really it hit
Speaker 1: me because this is like I don't think about this yet,
Speaker 1: but I'm going to a parent who is in their
Speaker 1: last stages of life. Wow, what a profound place to be.
Speaker 1: You've lived your You've lived a long life, Like to
Speaker 1: make it to the last stages of life, that's such
Speaker 1: an accomplishment, Like that's such an honor. People get wiped
Speaker 1: out all the time in this life. If you think
Speaker 1: about it, you know, like tragic stuff happens a lot.
Speaker 1: And I'm not saying this person hasn't had had to
Speaker 1: deal with tragedy, because I do think we all have
Speaker 1: to deal with stuff. But to make it to the
Speaker 1: last stages of life, like what you have seen, what
Speaker 1: has changed You've lived through like decades and half centuries,
Speaker 1: probably like fifty years, Like what you have seen happen
Speaker 1: like cool, that's so cool. I'm sure you have a
Speaker 1: lot to show for your life. I'm sure you have
Speaker 1: a lot of memories that you love. I'm sure you
Speaker 1: have people that you have collected, whether it be your family,
Speaker 1: whether it be children that you've had or adopted or
Speaker 1: fostered or got to be an aunt or a friend,
Speaker 1: a friend, aunt or like you know, all honorary aunt
Speaker 1: or uncle or whatever. Like I'm sure you have found
Speaker 1: a lot of love along the way, and I'm also
Speaker 1: sure you've probably had some heartache. But I'm also mostly
Speaker 1: sure of that you have lived a full life. So
Speaker 1: I would rejoice and be really really thankful that you've
Speaker 1: been here this long, Like you've been here a long
Speaker 1: time and seen so much and that is so freaking awesome,
Speaker 1: Like we are all so blessed to live a long life,
Speaker 1: you know. But then on the flip side, like whoa,
Speaker 1: it's like wow, like you know it's coming to an
Speaker 1: It's almost like people who tragically die sometimes it's like
Speaker 1: you don't even have time to think think about that
Speaker 1: you're going to die, Like you don't have time to
Speaker 1: think about death because it just happens. But like when
Speaker 1: you're at the end of your life, you know what's
Speaker 1: coming because you can't live forever. There is an expiration date.
Speaker 1: We all have one. Wow. I don't know. I think
Speaker 1: that my advice to you is like I'm I kind
Speaker 1: of have the same advice, like community, be with community,
Speaker 1: don't be alone in the last phases of your life,
Speaker 1: Like whether that's going to a nursing home, being with people.
Speaker 1: Michael and I say we're moving to um Jimmy Buffett's
Speaker 1: retirement home if we make it that long. Like I
Speaker 1: want to have a peanut out in my hand every
Speaker 1: day and play pool and maybe not pool but bridge
Speaker 1: scoot around my wheelchair. Michael probably flirt into the ladies.
Speaker 1: I'm just kidding. He's very charming though. Um. Just talking
Speaker 1: to people, whether it's your child or a friend or neighbor,
Speaker 1: like definitely or someone on the phone. I would try
Speaker 1: to be in community with somebody, and whether that's just
Speaker 1: reminiscing about good old days and enjoying the life that
Speaker 1: you've lived, or just finding a blessing to be thankful for,
Speaker 1: but share it. Make sure you're sharing it with somebody,
Speaker 1: because you've done a good job. You've really you've lived
Speaker 1: along life and you're here and that's a miracle and
Speaker 1: that's amazing and you should be proud and happy and
Speaker 1: enjoy this last season. Try to like stop worrying about
Speaker 1: stuff if you can, try to really live as much
Speaker 1: as you can freely and really soak it in and
Speaker 1: be around the people you love the most. Um, Okay,
Speaker 1: you guys, there's so many more questions. Maybe I'll just
Speaker 1: do a podcast of questions, but I'm gonna go ahead
Speaker 1: and wrap with that one because we're at an hour
Speaker 1: and this is the longest MIDWEK mom chat that I've
Speaker 1: ever done. I love y'all. I appreciate y' all. I'm
Speaker 1: thankful for you guys, thankful for this community, and spread
Speaker 1: the word. Let's keep it growing. Want to take it
Speaker 1: on the road. Eventually, I want to write a book.
Speaker 1: I told all that I started the process. It's gonna
Speaker 1: be a long process probably to get the book done,
Speaker 1: but I'm starting it and I'm committing to it, and
Speaker 1: it's gonna be based off of just kind of inspiration
Speaker 1: that I've learned from this podcast, to be honest with you,
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna just put it in a book form. Um,
Speaker 1: that's gonna be a process to get done. But I
Speaker 1: want to get my show, my podcasts on the road.
Speaker 1: I want to go to cities and do a live tour.
Speaker 1: So spread the word and let's keep ruining this thing.
Speaker 1: And I love y'all, and I appreciate y'all, and God
Speaker 1: bless you, and do your mantras, and let's be intentional