1 00:00:00,920 --> 00:00:04,000 Speaker 1: Time now for today's Strawberry Letter and if you need 2 00:00:04,040 --> 00:00:08,160 Speaker 1: advice on relationships, dating, work, sex, parenting and more. Please 3 00:00:08,200 --> 00:00:11,760 Speaker 1: submit your Strawberry Letter to Steve Harvey FM and click 4 00:00:12,800 --> 00:00:16,200 Speaker 1: Steve HARVEYFM dot com and click submit Strawberry Letter. Okay, 5 00:00:16,200 --> 00:00:18,479 Speaker 1: we could be reading your letter live on the air, 6 00:00:18,880 --> 00:00:21,680 Speaker 1: just like we're gonna read this one right here, right now. 7 00:00:22,320 --> 00:00:24,319 Speaker 1: Buggle up, hold on tight, we got it for you. 8 00:00:24,360 --> 00:00:27,960 Speaker 1: Here it days scroll baby letter. Thank you nephew. Subject 9 00:00:28,520 --> 00:00:32,040 Speaker 1: I may be falling for a liar. Dear Stephen Shirley. 10 00:00:32,080 --> 00:00:34,960 Speaker 1: I'm a thirty year old divorced female and I'm working 11 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:39,920 Speaker 1: on my master's degree in nursing, so I wasn't focused 12 00:00:39,960 --> 00:00:43,080 Speaker 1: on dating after my divorce. But six months ago I 13 00:00:43,159 --> 00:00:46,559 Speaker 1: met an amazing twenty five year old man that was 14 00:00:46,640 --> 00:00:51,880 Speaker 1: heaven sent. He's tall, dark and handsome, with a nice house, car, 15 00:00:51,920 --> 00:00:56,160 Speaker 1: and two jobs. He is my everything and he takes 16 00:00:56,240 --> 00:01:00,520 Speaker 1: good care of me. He pays bills, cooks, cleans everything. 17 00:01:01,520 --> 00:01:04,680 Speaker 1: There is just one big problem that I have with him, 18 00:01:04,760 --> 00:01:07,759 Speaker 1: and I need your advice to see if it's a 19 00:01:07,760 --> 00:01:11,559 Speaker 1: deal breaker. This man is a liar. I have caught 20 00:01:11,600 --> 00:01:14,480 Speaker 1: him in a few big lies and some things he 21 00:01:14,520 --> 00:01:17,920 Speaker 1: has told me don't add up. When we met, he 22 00:01:18,040 --> 00:01:20,399 Speaker 1: told me he was a virgin and we needed to 23 00:01:20,400 --> 00:01:24,280 Speaker 1: get married before we had sex. Well, two months ago, 24 00:01:24,880 --> 00:01:27,800 Speaker 1: we got a little tipsy and I was all over him. 25 00:01:28,080 --> 00:01:31,119 Speaker 1: He gave in and we had sex, and this man 26 00:01:31,240 --> 00:01:34,480 Speaker 1: knew my body better than I did. It was the 27 00:01:34,520 --> 00:01:37,560 Speaker 1: best I ever had, and I was happy and mad 28 00:01:37,680 --> 00:01:40,480 Speaker 1: at the same time because there was no way this 29 00:01:40,520 --> 00:01:44,080 Speaker 1: guy was a virgin. Instead of admitting he lied, he 30 00:01:44,240 --> 00:01:47,480 Speaker 1: claimed that he learned everything about pleasing a woman by 31 00:01:47,520 --> 00:01:52,160 Speaker 1: watching porn. Uncle Steve, is that even possible. I caught 32 00:01:52,200 --> 00:01:55,680 Speaker 1: him lying about being at work when he was really 33 00:01:55,720 --> 00:01:59,360 Speaker 1: playing basketball and napping all day. I caught him in 34 00:01:59,480 --> 00:02:02,559 Speaker 1: so many lies because he forgets what he's lied about. 35 00:02:02,800 --> 00:02:06,200 Speaker 1: This makes me doubt most things he says, but his 36 00:02:06,840 --> 00:02:10,119 Speaker 1: good does outweigh his bad. Over the weekend, I heard 37 00:02:10,160 --> 00:02:12,480 Speaker 1: him on the phone with his cousin saying that he's 38 00:02:12,480 --> 00:02:16,080 Speaker 1: planning to propose in December after I graduate. I'm not 39 00:02:16,240 --> 00:02:19,359 Speaker 1: sure if I should overlook the lies to stay with him. 40 00:02:19,720 --> 00:02:23,680 Speaker 1: This is a fairly new relationship, so I have to 41 00:02:23,720 --> 00:02:27,160 Speaker 1: trust whatever he tells me for now. Should I investigate 42 00:02:27,240 --> 00:02:29,840 Speaker 1: him before I end up falling in love with a 43 00:02:29,840 --> 00:02:33,880 Speaker 1: big liar. Please help me out. Well, you know, just 44 00:02:33,960 --> 00:02:37,040 Speaker 1: based on the fact that you wrote into us, it 45 00:02:37,160 --> 00:02:40,720 Speaker 1: sounds like you're having some issues, some doubt, some some problems, 46 00:02:41,520 --> 00:02:43,880 Speaker 1: and I just got to ask you, why would you 47 00:02:43,960 --> 00:02:48,800 Speaker 1: do this to yourself? I mean, I'm really trust is 48 00:02:48,840 --> 00:02:53,359 Speaker 1: like a really important thing in a relationship. I mean, 49 00:02:53,440 --> 00:02:55,760 Speaker 1: one of the most important things in a relationship. You 50 00:02:55,840 --> 00:02:58,480 Speaker 1: have to be able to trust your partner. And you 51 00:02:58,560 --> 00:03:01,359 Speaker 1: can't trust this guy. You can't. You said it yourself. 52 00:03:01,360 --> 00:03:05,799 Speaker 1: You haven't even known him that long and he's lying already. 53 00:03:06,960 --> 00:03:10,280 Speaker 1: I hate just lying for no reason, or, like we 54 00:03:10,360 --> 00:03:13,880 Speaker 1: say on this show, lying when the truth will do. 55 00:03:13,880 --> 00:03:16,760 Speaker 1: Don't let his great you know, skills in the bedroom, 56 00:03:16,840 --> 00:03:19,400 Speaker 1: the good sex and all that. Don't let that blind you. 57 00:03:19,480 --> 00:03:22,040 Speaker 1: All these are red flags. I mean, you said he 58 00:03:22,120 --> 00:03:24,680 Speaker 1: knew your body better than you do and all that. 59 00:03:24,680 --> 00:03:28,160 Speaker 1: That means he's not a virgin. Well, okay, so you 60 00:03:28,200 --> 00:03:32,240 Speaker 1: know he's not a virgin. I mean, but I just 61 00:03:32,320 --> 00:03:34,720 Speaker 1: gotta I mean, I guess he could learn some of 62 00:03:34,760 --> 00:03:37,360 Speaker 1: those tricks by watching porn, but I would think he 63 00:03:37,400 --> 00:03:39,480 Speaker 1: would have to practice on someone to get it as 64 00:03:39,560 --> 00:03:42,960 Speaker 1: right as you say it is, so you know that's 65 00:03:43,000 --> 00:03:46,440 Speaker 1: a lie, but that's not it's a lie is a lie, 66 00:03:46,520 --> 00:03:48,600 Speaker 1: it's not just a huge lie. And don't get me wrong, 67 00:03:48,680 --> 00:03:51,320 Speaker 1: everybody lies, don't they. But I just say, if he's 68 00:03:51,440 --> 00:03:55,120 Speaker 1: lying before, if he's lying before the marriage, I heard you, Tommy, 69 00:03:55,320 --> 00:03:57,920 Speaker 1: he's going to lie in the marriage. In the relationship, 70 00:03:58,160 --> 00:04:01,000 Speaker 1: he's just gonna lie. He worked two jobs and all 71 00:04:01,040 --> 00:04:04,040 Speaker 1: of this, but you caught him playing basketball and not 72 00:04:04,120 --> 00:04:06,480 Speaker 1: at work and sleeping all day. Maybe that was just 73 00:04:06,600 --> 00:04:08,960 Speaker 1: one day, but I think you really need to be 74 00:04:09,000 --> 00:04:12,200 Speaker 1: in this relationship longer, long enough to see if this 75 00:04:12,320 --> 00:04:14,920 Speaker 1: is really really really a pattern. You have a few 76 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:17,359 Speaker 1: lies here and a few lines there to base this 77 00:04:17,480 --> 00:04:20,440 Speaker 1: relationship on. I just think it's a lot of lying 78 00:04:20,720 --> 00:04:23,600 Speaker 1: to be so early in the game, and he's not 79 00:04:23,680 --> 00:04:27,880 Speaker 1: going to change too many lines. So I don't think 80 00:04:27,920 --> 00:04:30,719 Speaker 1: this is worth it, right, I just don't. I think 81 00:04:31,279 --> 00:04:34,200 Speaker 1: you know you're already worried, so maybe you need to 82 00:04:34,240 --> 00:04:40,200 Speaker 1: move on. Steve, see these men in these letters. I 83 00:04:40,400 --> 00:04:44,320 Speaker 1: feel for women because we are such gamers, but I 84 00:04:44,400 --> 00:04:47,800 Speaker 1: know the game. This letter is entitled I May be 85 00:04:47,960 --> 00:04:51,200 Speaker 1: Falling for a Liar. The title I want to give 86 00:04:51,279 --> 00:04:59,320 Speaker 1: the letter is blessings in lies. Today's sermon is blessings 87 00:05:00,520 --> 00:05:07,400 Speaker 1: in lines. Let's begin with the blessings. After your divorce 88 00:05:07,560 --> 00:05:13,560 Speaker 1: six months you met an amazing man twenty five year 89 00:05:13,880 --> 00:05:18,480 Speaker 1: was heaven sent. That is a blessing. He's tall, dark 90 00:05:18,560 --> 00:05:25,880 Speaker 1: and handsome. Another blessing, nice house called two jabs. Blessings. 91 00:05:26,960 --> 00:05:31,599 Speaker 1: He is my everything. Blessings. He takes care of me. 92 00:05:31,839 --> 00:05:37,040 Speaker 1: Listen to this. He paid bills, Lord Jesus, blessings, he 93 00:05:37,120 --> 00:05:43,560 Speaker 1: cooks and cleans blessings, blessings everything. This is a blessing. 94 00:05:44,960 --> 00:05:49,640 Speaker 1: There's one problem that I had with him, and I 95 00:05:49,760 --> 00:05:53,440 Speaker 1: need your advice. If it's a deal breaker, Come on 96 00:05:53,560 --> 00:06:01,200 Speaker 1: here now. This man is a liar. We've naw gotten 97 00:06:01,240 --> 00:06:05,960 Speaker 1: away from this letter field with so many blessings. Yeah, 98 00:06:06,520 --> 00:06:13,720 Speaker 1: to now only find out he's a damn lock. Caught 99 00:06:13,800 --> 00:06:17,840 Speaker 1: him in some big lies. Told me stuff ain't add up. 100 00:06:19,760 --> 00:06:22,760 Speaker 1: When we met. He told me he was a virgin 101 00:06:23,240 --> 00:06:25,880 Speaker 1: and we needed to get married before we hand said 102 00:06:26,000 --> 00:06:31,159 Speaker 1: where he aked? Why didn't you meet? This man? Got 103 00:06:31,200 --> 00:06:35,679 Speaker 1: two cars, nice job, a house of krill, handsome, tall dog, 104 00:06:35,920 --> 00:06:38,840 Speaker 1: and he a virgin? Where he asked? Hold on, Steve, 105 00:06:38,880 --> 00:06:41,960 Speaker 1: We'll find out. Oh I got it for you. Yeah, 106 00:06:42,000 --> 00:06:43,920 Speaker 1: when we get to part two of your response, coming 107 00:06:43,960 --> 00:06:46,920 Speaker 1: up at twenty three minutes after the hour, Today's Strawberry Letter. 108 00:06:46,960 --> 00:06:50,320 Speaker 1: I may be falling for a liar. We'll find out. 109 00:06:50,400 --> 00:06:53,240 Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening 110 00:06:54,000 --> 00:06:57,320 Speaker 1: Steve Harvey Morning Show. All right, come on, Steve, let's 111 00:06:57,360 --> 00:07:00,839 Speaker 1: recap today's strawberry letter. I may be falling or a liar. 112 00:07:01,360 --> 00:07:03,960 Speaker 1: All right, I'm gonna kill the minister thing and I 113 00:07:04,080 --> 00:07:08,920 Speaker 1: just go to the bank. Thirty year old divorced female 114 00:07:09,720 --> 00:07:12,120 Speaker 1: getting the masters to greed and met the man of 115 00:07:12,160 --> 00:07:16,400 Speaker 1: her dreams. Amazing twenty five year old she said he 116 00:07:16,480 --> 00:07:19,840 Speaker 1: ever said, he tall dog and he Hansel. That's everything 117 00:07:20,000 --> 00:07:24,960 Speaker 1: right there, tall dog and Hansel. He got a nice 118 00:07:25,000 --> 00:07:30,520 Speaker 1: house call, he got two jobs here. Everything takes good 119 00:07:30,600 --> 00:07:33,200 Speaker 1: care of me. All these blessings, like I said, he 120 00:07:33,280 --> 00:07:39,400 Speaker 1: paid bills, blessings, cook blessings, bless his heart, Jesus cleanse everything. 121 00:07:40,520 --> 00:07:43,320 Speaker 1: But there's a problem I had with him, to see 122 00:07:43,360 --> 00:07:46,040 Speaker 1: if it's a deal break. This man is a liar. 123 00:07:46,280 --> 00:07:49,360 Speaker 1: He telled damn lies all the time. OUTA caught him 124 00:07:49,360 --> 00:07:51,440 Speaker 1: in some big lives and some things he's told me. 125 00:07:51,680 --> 00:07:54,280 Speaker 1: Just didn't add up, she said, now here we go. 126 00:07:54,600 --> 00:07:56,600 Speaker 1: When we met and he told me he was a 127 00:07:56,680 --> 00:07:59,680 Speaker 1: virgin and we needed to get married before we had 128 00:07:59,720 --> 00:08:04,400 Speaker 1: set women. Didn't you just say he was your everything? 129 00:08:05,840 --> 00:08:12,160 Speaker 1: Didn't you say he paid bills, cooks, cleans. Didn't you 130 00:08:12,320 --> 00:08:17,080 Speaker 1: say that he got a nice house, a car, and 131 00:08:17,200 --> 00:08:22,320 Speaker 1: two jobs? Said, what makes you think you're the first 132 00:08:22,400 --> 00:08:25,400 Speaker 1: woman that's been in this nice ass house and this 133 00:08:25,640 --> 00:08:28,520 Speaker 1: nice ass call with this man with these two jobs. 134 00:08:28,520 --> 00:08:32,240 Speaker 1: Why do you think he working two jobs? He working 135 00:08:32,280 --> 00:08:35,760 Speaker 1: two jobs to better himself. He working two jobs to 136 00:08:35,920 --> 00:08:44,880 Speaker 1: getting more women. Now listen to me, well two months ago, 137 00:08:45,920 --> 00:08:48,520 Speaker 1: said she said, he was a virgin. We got a 138 00:08:48,559 --> 00:08:50,760 Speaker 1: little tips and I was all over him. He gave 139 00:08:50,880 --> 00:08:54,000 Speaker 1: in and we had sex, and this man knew my 140 00:08:54,080 --> 00:08:57,040 Speaker 1: body better than I did. It was the best I've 141 00:08:57,120 --> 00:09:05,800 Speaker 1: ever had blessings and I was happy blessing, but I 142 00:09:05,880 --> 00:09:08,360 Speaker 1: was mad at the same time because there was no 143 00:09:08,400 --> 00:09:11,600 Speaker 1: way this guy was a virgin. Instead of admitting it, 144 00:09:11,679 --> 00:09:14,920 Speaker 1: he lied. He claimed that he learned everything about pleasing 145 00:09:14,920 --> 00:09:19,839 Speaker 1: the woman by watching pawn Uncle Stevens that even possible. Hell, no, 146 00:09:20,679 --> 00:09:23,960 Speaker 1: let me stay something to you. Do you know how 147 00:09:23,960 --> 00:09:28,720 Speaker 1: many times out and watch the damn Olympics. Oh love them. 148 00:09:28,760 --> 00:09:32,079 Speaker 1: Since I've been born, I've never missed a summer Olympics. 149 00:09:32,440 --> 00:09:36,880 Speaker 1: Do you know how many times I watched Michael Phelps 150 00:09:36,880 --> 00:09:40,480 Speaker 1: win a gold medal in that swimming pool. And guess what? 151 00:09:40,800 --> 00:09:47,080 Speaker 1: I can't swim work for Damn stand at the tv 152 00:09:48,120 --> 00:09:51,640 Speaker 1: ki just in the wak I'm splashing. I didn't even 153 00:09:51,760 --> 00:09:54,959 Speaker 1: jump in there and try it. Damn near killed myself. 154 00:09:55,400 --> 00:09:58,200 Speaker 1: I can't watch no pawn and learn how to do 155 00:09:58,400 --> 00:10:01,760 Speaker 1: sex good. You can learn a couple of tricks moves, 156 00:10:01,840 --> 00:10:05,559 Speaker 1: but it don't make you good at it. Sex is 157 00:10:05,640 --> 00:10:07,839 Speaker 1: something you got to if you gifted at it. It's 158 00:10:07,840 --> 00:10:15,080 Speaker 1: caused you is Yeah, yes, it's serious. Now, man didn't 159 00:10:15,080 --> 00:10:17,120 Speaker 1: here know your body were better in yours? That's because 160 00:10:17,120 --> 00:10:23,920 Speaker 1: he's been round before, up and down. Yeah, I love 161 00:10:24,280 --> 00:10:30,000 Speaker 1: it when we're cruising together, that's what he'd been doing. 162 00:10:30,040 --> 00:10:34,400 Speaker 1: He's been cruising on several people. See once, I know 163 00:10:34,480 --> 00:10:36,520 Speaker 1: my way around your body is because I haven't been 164 00:10:36,520 --> 00:10:42,880 Speaker 1: around somebody, yes, other body many times. Okay, all right, 165 00:10:42,920 --> 00:10:46,480 Speaker 1: I hear you. See go on his Facebook page and 166 00:10:46,559 --> 00:10:54,160 Speaker 1: look at his nickname, what freeway fast and furious. He 167 00:10:54,240 --> 00:10:56,160 Speaker 1: got it. He got names, looked like he had been 168 00:10:56,200 --> 00:11:04,760 Speaker 1: all over the highway Transformer show me your teeth, White 169 00:11:04,880 --> 00:11:13,560 Speaker 1: Mark BC, Booty Clincher. I caught him lying about being 170 00:11:13,600 --> 00:11:16,120 Speaker 1: at work when he was really playing basketball and napping 171 00:11:16,240 --> 00:11:19,400 Speaker 1: all day. I've caught him in so many lies because 172 00:11:19,400 --> 00:11:22,240 Speaker 1: he forget what he lied about. This makes me doubt everything. 173 00:11:22,320 --> 00:11:25,200 Speaker 1: He's safe, but he's good. Does out weigh the bad? 174 00:11:25,280 --> 00:11:27,040 Speaker 1: I know what you're talking about. You're looking at that house. 175 00:11:27,040 --> 00:11:29,680 Speaker 1: He paying the bills, he got them, calls for you, 176 00:11:30,000 --> 00:11:34,120 Speaker 1: he cook, he cleaned everything, and not to mention, he 177 00:11:34,160 --> 00:11:37,320 Speaker 1: didn't watch all the Porto tapes. And it's now the 178 00:11:37,360 --> 00:11:40,840 Speaker 1: best you've ever had. So that's the good that you 179 00:11:41,000 --> 00:11:44,640 Speaker 1: say it outweighs the bad. Over the weekend, heard him 180 00:11:44,640 --> 00:11:46,960 Speaker 1: talking home on phone to his cousin, say he was 181 00:11:46,960 --> 00:11:50,240 Speaker 1: gonna propose when you graduate. Now you want to know 182 00:11:50,280 --> 00:11:52,599 Speaker 1: if I should overlook the lies and stay with it. 183 00:11:52,920 --> 00:11:58,040 Speaker 1: This is a fairly new relationship, dude. I trust whatever 184 00:11:58,120 --> 00:12:04,640 Speaker 1: he tells me for now? Why would you? What kind 185 00:12:04,679 --> 00:12:08,160 Speaker 1: of question is that? Do I trust everything he tells? You? 186 00:12:08,240 --> 00:12:12,080 Speaker 1: Caught him in how many lines? Trust? Why would you 187 00:12:12,120 --> 00:12:17,240 Speaker 1: trust what he tells you? Yeah? Should I investigate him? Yes, 188 00:12:18,520 --> 00:12:22,280 Speaker 1: Google told you to go on Facebook. Gone tender. He 189 00:12:22,480 --> 00:12:29,480 Speaker 1: not tasty. He got nicknames tasted That might be my favorite. 190 00:12:29,520 --> 00:12:32,240 Speaker 1: You know one. I heard a girl call him Atlas 191 00:12:32,320 --> 00:12:40,720 Speaker 1: one time because he knows way Ryan little Hamble. 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