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Speaker 1: Thank you for you subject. Don't threaten me with a

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Speaker 1: good time. Dear Stephen Shirley, my husband is driving me

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Speaker 1: batty with his occasional drinking and mood swings that come

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Speaker 1: with it. He has embarrassed me for the last time,

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Speaker 1: and I hate that he can never remember what he

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Speaker 1: did or said when he was drunk. On the flip side,

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Speaker 1: he's the sweetest man in the world when he doesn't drink. Saturday,

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Speaker 1: we had an engagement party to go to and my

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Speaker 1: husband started drinking around noon. I could tell that he

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Speaker 1: was going to be a problem because he made a

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Speaker 1: few rude comments about my outfit. I told him we

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Speaker 1: said he had to go to tell the groom to

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Speaker 1: be that marriage is terrible. He says anything to irritate

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Speaker 1: me when he's drunk, so I didn't react. We got

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Speaker 1: to the party and his eyes were so heavy that

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Speaker 1: he dozed off during the musical selection. I asked him

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Speaker 1: to go to the car if he was sleepy. He refused.

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Speaker 1: The bride to be saw him sleeping and asked if

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Speaker 1: he wanted to go upstairs and get into bed. He said,

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Speaker 1: don't threaten me with a good time. The groom to

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Speaker 1: be herded and told my husband to watch his mouth.

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Speaker 1: My husband said he was joking, but then he said, man,

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Speaker 1: you know your girl is fine. Af That was my

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Speaker 1: cue to exit. I heard my husband almost got beat up.

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Speaker 1: He got a ride home and he slept on the

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Speaker 1: living room floor. The next morning, he made me breakfast

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Speaker 1: in bed, and then we made love. My sweet sexy

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Speaker 1: husband was back and he didn't remember anything him when

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Speaker 1: he's sweet. My friends think I should leave him. Should

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Speaker 1: I stick with him until he gets help or do

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Speaker 1: I let him figure it out alone. Well, you're married

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Speaker 1: to him, so you probably right now should stick it out.

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Speaker 1: Help him get some help. Whether you stay with him

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Speaker 1: or not, He does need the help, that's a fact,

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Speaker 1: but he's got to want it, you know what they say.

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Speaker 1: He seems to be in denial right now because he

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Speaker 1: doesn't remember anything. I'm surprised you haven't taken videos of

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Speaker 1: him on your camera phone or something. That's what you

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Speaker 1: need to do. Maybe then after he sees what a

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Speaker 1: fool he's making of himself at these parties and stuff,

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Speaker 1: he'll get some help. The saying goes that the things

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Speaker 1: that people say or do when they're drunk is what

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Speaker 1: they really truly mean. But then you know they have

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Speaker 1: the alcohol to blame it on, which is an easy out.

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Speaker 1: And the other thing you can do is get the

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Speaker 1: alcohol out of the house so he won't start drinking

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Speaker 1: so early and all of that. His problem can be

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Speaker 1: solved if he gets the help he needs and does work.

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Speaker 1: But if he continues to drink recklessly like this, he's

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Speaker 1: only it's only going to get worse. Sweet things that

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Speaker 1: he does for you mean nothing when he's drunk. Nothing.

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Speaker 1: Alcoholic episodes erase all of that. So if you love him,

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Speaker 1: try to get him to stop first. If he doesn't

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Speaker 1: want to and he won't go to get some help,

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Speaker 1: then you're gonna have to make that hard decision about

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Speaker 1: leaving him, Steve.

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Speaker 2: This letter is why two of my pardners had to

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Speaker 2: quit drinking. Right, This letter, right here is why two

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Speaker 2: of my homeboys had to quit drinking because of these

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Speaker 2: near well, well, let me retract that the dude in

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Speaker 2: this letter has to quit drinking because my two homeboys

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Speaker 2: that stop drinking, they quit drinking because what happened in

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Speaker 2: this letter, this near ass whipping, actually happened to these

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Speaker 2: two dudes. What so you know? I mean, man, you

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Speaker 2: can get warmed up now running your mouth. I don't

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Speaker 2: really know. This is exactly the first letter where there's

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Speaker 2: not an abnormal. This is a real life situation that

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Speaker 2: can happen. Yeah, when he drinks, he gets the mood swings.

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Speaker 2: He has got to stop drinking. He can't occasionally sip.

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Speaker 2: Y'all was going to this occasion and he started drinking

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Speaker 2: around noon. Now, damn, the event ain't into that night.

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Speaker 2: If you start by noon, Junior, If you start drinking

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Speaker 2: around noon, when when are you toasty? Probb two? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: so right there. If you start drinking at tune and

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Speaker 2: two at noon and you toasted by two, the event

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Speaker 1: I just cannot with you right now.

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Speaker 2: You toasted at two see you toasting, you know, like

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Speaker 2: you toast a cigar. You run the blade crossed the

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Speaker 2: front of the cigar. At foe you lick. Your ass

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Speaker 2: is on fire. By the time you go to the event.

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Speaker 2: The fire been burning so long. You just a hot

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Speaker 2: log with imbers on you. There's no coming back from this.

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Speaker 2: You can't survive this. So they go to the party,

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Speaker 2: and obviously some party to announce the wedding or something

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Speaker 2: like that, or engagement party. I don't know what it was.

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Speaker 2: But they got up there and you told him that

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Speaker 2: you probably ought to stay home because he was already drunk.

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Speaker 2: He said he had to go so he could tell

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Speaker 2: the groom to be that marriage is terrible. Well he

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Speaker 2: did more than that. Now he says anything to irritate

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Speaker 2: me when he's drunk, so I don't react. We got

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Speaker 2: to the parties. His eyes was heavy. He dozed off

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Speaker 2: doing the musical selection. Most musical elections at engagement parties

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Speaker 2: are doze off of bowl. These are those offable groups.

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Speaker 2: They're groups that ain't made it. They they doing a

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Speaker 2: bad cover.

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Speaker 1: Is that a word?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, those offable it's some woman singing Luther's never too Much, Yeah,

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Speaker 2: it's always so, or some guy singing Whitney Houston, I'll

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Speaker 2: always love it. It's just all wrong, just some songs.

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Speaker 1: All right, Hang on, hang on, we'll have part two

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Speaker 1: of your response coming up at twenty three minutes after

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Speaker 1: the hour. Today's Strawberry letter subject don't threaten me with

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Speaker 1: a good time. We'll get back into it right after this.

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Speaker 1: You're listening morning show, All right, Come on, Steve, let's

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Speaker 1: recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is don't threaten me

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Speaker 1: with a good time. Time.

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Speaker 2: This woman is married to a man who cannot drink

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Speaker 2: at all because when he drinks, he has mood sweets. Now,

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Speaker 2: other than that, he's sweet, he's warm, he's a kind man.

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Speaker 2: But as soon as he drank, he is just a

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Speaker 2: game changing for him. So they go into an engagement

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Speaker 2: party that night. He started drinking at noon. According to Junior,

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Speaker 2: who I asked, once you start drinking at noon, you

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Speaker 2: toasty at two. Once you're toasted at too, and you

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Speaker 2: continue to drink at foe, you lit by the time

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Speaker 2: the event get that, your ass is on fire on

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Speaker 2: both ends and you have ambers on you you are

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Speaker 2: red firelog. You ain't lit no more and there's no

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Speaker 2: coming back for that. You can't blow him down, cool

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Speaker 2: him off. He drunk now, I mean slashing, yeah, slash

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Speaker 2: his slurge speech. And you told him you don't need

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Speaker 2: to go because you already drunk. He said, I got

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Speaker 2: to go because I have for Tale. I have for

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Speaker 2: Tale the groom to not to marry because it's terrible. Yo.

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Speaker 2: So you say when he gets drunk, he tells anything

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Speaker 2: just to irritate you.

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Speaker 1: Wait, I love your drunk laughslf up.

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Speaker 2: I can't believe out they had that money anyway. Anyway,

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Speaker 2: you told him he don't need to go. He said

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Speaker 2: he got to go, and tell him that, and then

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Speaker 2: you knew he was drunk. And when he got there,

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Speaker 2: his eyes was heavy, so he fell asleep doing the

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Speaker 2: music selection. Like I said earlier, music selections are easy

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Speaker 2: to fall asleep to an engagement party because these groups

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Speaker 2: that ain't made it. You got a woman singing Luther's

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Speaker 2: Never too Much. Some man sang and I'll Always love

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Speaker 2: you about Whitney Houston. You got some fat ass man

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Speaker 2: over there trying to sing It's rain and Me and

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Speaker 2: knowing good in hell well, his fat ass can't come

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Speaker 2: out the sky, and don't nobody.

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Speaker 1: Really you know.

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Speaker 2: Then you have some little real soft ass dude over

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Speaker 2: there singing killing me softly. But he doing Roberta and

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Speaker 2: the Fuji's version. Lord, so he falls asleep. The bride

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Speaker 2: to be saw him and asked him if he wanted

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Speaker 2: to go upstairs and get into bed. He said, don't

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Speaker 2: threaten me with no good time, baby. The groom to

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Speaker 2: be hurted, don't threaten me with no good time, baby. Laugh.

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Speaker 2: The groom to be hurded told my husband, watch your mouth, man.

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Speaker 2: My husband said, I'm just joking. Then he said, man,

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Speaker 2: you know your girl find his alf What you talking

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Speaker 2: about that? I watched my mother. Man. You know, boy,

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Speaker 2: you know he finding hell.

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Speaker 1: Come on, now you look at.

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Speaker 2: It, Look at it, look at it, Look at the

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Speaker 2: thing away a thing waker over there. Baby, shake your monkey.

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Speaker 2: She got that monkey shaken over the here boy, so

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Speaker 2: that was all you needed. You left him at the party.

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Speaker 2: You heard your husband almost got his ass whooped, which

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Speaker 2: is what I think needs to occur at this point.

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Speaker 2: That usually stops me from drinking heavily. Ass whooping. I

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Speaker 2: wish the groom to be in the groomsman had a

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Speaker 2: whooped his ass. But then when he came home, he

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Speaker 2: slept on the living room floor. You know that's when

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Speaker 2: you do come through the door, Junior. You ever come

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Speaker 2: through the dough and you just you just can't because

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Speaker 2: Tommy ain't on here. So I got you ever come

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Speaker 2: through the oh and being so toe down, you just

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Speaker 2: you can't make it. It just got on your knees

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Speaker 2: and curl down in the floor. Nothing. Oh, you remember

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Speaker 2: that morning? You remember that morning?

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Speaker 1: This is not about JR.

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Speaker 2: Talk about him. Good morning when you fell asleep behind

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Speaker 2: the couch. No, I don't feel see behind the couch.

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Speaker 1: Any attention to him, or.

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Speaker 2: I'm bad Anyway. He woke up next morning, made me

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Speaker 2: breakfast in bed. My sexy husband was back and we

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Speaker 2: made love and he didn't remember anything. I love him

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Speaker 2: when he's sweet. My friends think I should leave him.

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Speaker 2: Shall I stick with him until he gets help? Or

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Speaker 2: do I need to figure that he need to figure

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Speaker 2: this out alone. You need to help him. You need

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Speaker 2: to get your man some help, because you got a

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Speaker 2: good man that he just got to stop drinking. You

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Speaker 2: got to get your man some help. You have to

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Speaker 2: You have to let him know that the insults hurt

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Speaker 2: unhappy and you're thinking of leaving, and you don't want

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Speaker 2: to leave him because he can be a great guy

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Speaker 2: at times. But if this continues, I'm sorry, I'm gonna

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Speaker 2: have to leave you. Now. We've all been left before,

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Speaker 2: all of us, Junior, You ever been left before? Oh? Absolutely?

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Speaker 2: Girl left me. Yeah. I got called cheating. Yeah, she gone.

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Speaker 2: You got caught cheating? Yeah, out in public in the car,

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Speaker 2: in the car, she didn't see you. Yeah you Oh

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Speaker 2: you stupid? Okay, really now asking Junior, that wasn't stupid

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Speaker 2: to you? Yes, sir? Yeah? And where was y'all out

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Speaker 2: in the car kissing that? Because she was we was

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Speaker 2: where was y'all at in the car? Where was the

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Speaker 2: car park? Oh, in the front of the club, in

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Speaker 2: the front of the club. And you didn't didn't you

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Speaker 2: meet your girl at that club? Uh?

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Speaker 1: Huh?

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Speaker 2: I sure did? Uh huh. Yeah, see, I know all

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Speaker 2: these type things. You ain't think she never come back

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Speaker 2: to the club.

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Speaker 1: Listen, leave your comments on today's Strawberry Letter on into that.

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Speaker 2: Very stupid to you.

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Speaker 1: Sean Harvey FM bling me out of this and check

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Speaker 1: us out of the Strawberry Letter podcast on the free

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