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Speaker 1: Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours, Golden Hour. Thanks for

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Speaker 1: joining us. We're so excited to be back today. How

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Speaker 1: are you doing, Susan.

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Speaker 2: I'm very excited to be back and chat with everybody,

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Speaker 2: and boy, do we have somebody special today. But make

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Speaker 2: sure you guys are still checking out our latest episode.

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Speaker 2: We've been having a ton of fun answer and the questions,

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Speaker 2: chatting with our Bachelor Nation fans and giving out the

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Speaker 2: dish and our advice.

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Speaker 1: We're never short of that, okay, But today the Goldens

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Speaker 1: have arrived in Paradise. We got to talk about it. Wow,

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Speaker 1: what did you think?

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Speaker 3: So exciting coming in? So good to see everybody.

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Speaker 1: I'm telling you riding in on that boat. Yes, it

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Speaker 1: was great, but oh my god, we got to talk

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Speaker 1: about what happened.

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Speaker 2: I mean, everybody looked fabulous coming in there. Can I

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Speaker 2: just say everybody looked their best and the surprised look

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Speaker 2: on all the youngers.

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Speaker 1: I think they were surprised.

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Speaker 3: It was a great moment. It was a great moment.

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Speaker 3: Can we go right to the bat, Kathy? Seriously? What

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Speaker 3: the hell?

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Speaker 1: Okay, let me just say, Susan, you know cockroad, just mosquitoes, flies, snakes.

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Speaker 1: I'm good with that. You put a bat anywhere near

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Speaker 1: me in the little room, I know, I mean, and

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Speaker 1: there it was. It just oh, I was, I was.

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Speaker 1: I was so scared. Thank you, Parisa.

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Speaker 3: You were fucking like it was coming. There it did,

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Speaker 3: it was coming.

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Speaker 2: After a min and god bless Jackie stayed in there

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Speaker 2: and he's walking around in circles. I'm like, jack really,

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Speaker 2: you think you're gonna catch it? Open the door and

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Speaker 2: then somebody fuck it was Paris.

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Speaker 1: She was, yeah, okay, but we got to talk about

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Speaker 1: the drama. Susie.

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Speaker 3: Oh, oh my god, like I was crying. I mean,

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Speaker 3: he loves her.

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Speaker 1: He loves her, It's so clear to I mean, I

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Speaker 1: don't know. They didn't tell me, but it appears from

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Speaker 1: watching that he loves her. And the shock on her face.

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Speaker 1: I just and she didn't want it. I mean, no,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. Yeah, I'm not sure it was a

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Speaker 1: great idea to put those two together so close after

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Speaker 1: their breakup, but you know, I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I wasn't there yet.

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Speaker 1: So I'm watching it with the rest of you guys, right,

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Speaker 1: you know, the Goldens hadn't arrived when all that mess

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Speaker 1: was going on. But I've got to talk about Jeremy

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Speaker 1: and Bailey. I mean, listen, when, first of all, did

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Speaker 1: throwing the bus.

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Speaker 2: Her eyes, boy, she's looking right through him, like yeah, right, But.

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Speaker 1: He says she goes the night before, or according to

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Speaker 1: her on the show, she says she committed to him.

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Speaker 1: I love you, We're together. This is after he's had

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Speaker 1: his date with Susie. The next day, twenty four hours later, Sure,

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Speaker 1: I loved out with you, Andrew. I don't blame Jeremy

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Speaker 1: for being pissed off. I don't. And what does a

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Speaker 3: Calls the next one? Is that not typical?

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Speaker 1: Oh? It typical? But I mean he said I gave

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Speaker 1: the rose to I wish I'd given it to Susie. No,

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Speaker 1: he was just mad, and in my opinion, rightfully. So

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Speaker 1: Bailey's committed to him. And within twenty four hours, Sure, Andrew,

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Speaker 1: I'd love to go on a date. And as they

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Speaker 1: say in upstate New York, not for nothing. She looked

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Speaker 1: like she had a great time with him, almost more

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Speaker 1: fun than she was having with Jeremy. With Andrew, she

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Speaker 3: What about Jonathan, Oh, I don't know.

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Speaker 1: And Jill my heart Wait, who's your heart for Jill

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Speaker 1: or Jonathan?

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Speaker 2: Well, Jonathan had given Alex the rose, yeah, the second

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Speaker 2: one right, yeah, but when she was sharing with him,

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Speaker 2: like let's be friends.

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Speaker 1: I mean, but Jill what. I felt sorry for Jill.

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Speaker 1: He said to Jill something like you're giving me pause.

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Speaker 1: I would think, hey, maybe he does feel something for me,

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Speaker 1: and then he's like, yeah, your friend zone, your friend zone.

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Speaker 1: I felt sorry for Jill. That poor girl could not

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Speaker 3: And Ali Joe just got there and she's so darn pretty. No,

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Speaker 2: I just love her, love her off. She goes like,

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Speaker 1: It's Susie gone, Lexi gone. What about Lexi with Justin

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Speaker 1: Oh my god. I mean I felt sorry for her too.

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Speaker 1: She knew, like you could just see it. She was

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Speaker 1: she gets it as well.

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Speaker 2: I mean, we know her, right, we love her. I mean,

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Speaker 2: she's doing great. We had her on the podcast. We've

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Speaker 2: also talked to her. When I saw her in the

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Speaker 2: way she was looking and talking about people. It almost

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Speaker 2: felt like, where's really you? Just open up and be authentic,

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Speaker 2: be you that she was faking anything, nothing like that.

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Speaker 2: She just like, yeah, she wasn't comfortable.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think she's more reserved. Okay, I just have

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Speaker 1: to ask a general I know we don't have a

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Speaker 1: lot of time to go over this, but I have

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Speaker 1: to say, as a Golden, as a Golden who was

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Speaker 1: on the show, and as a golden who is your friend,

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Speaker 1: and just as an English major, what the hell is

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Speaker 1: with the word vibing? I mean, if I had a

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Speaker 1: nickel for every time they said vibing last night, the

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Speaker 1: vibe I'm vibing, Well, we're vibing, vibing, vibing, Like, what

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Speaker 1: the hell? It's a noun, it's an adjective, it's a verb.

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Speaker 1: I mean, Susan, what does it mean? What is it?

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Speaker 3: Vibe? You're like connecting, Yes, you're connecting, but that's like

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Speaker 3: hooking up.

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Speaker 1: Oh god, I mean the vibe the vibe here is

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Speaker 1: really hot. We're vibing. I mean I sat there going.

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Speaker 3: The vibe here is really hot and steamy, like the

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Speaker 3: golden snow. I know what it means. I'm just saying, yeah, Okay,

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Speaker 3: I know what the word means.

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Speaker 1: I'm saying it's it's like using the word like vibe

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Speaker 3: That's a new word.

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Speaker 2: Now we cannot end this today before we get into

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Speaker 2: our episode without the secret?

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Speaker 3: Do you want to share? Okay, Susan, do you think

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Speaker 3: you were going to stand up? I really didn't. I'm waiting.

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Speaker 3: I'm waiting, I'm waiting.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I'm just going to tell you this was Kathy's

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Speaker 1: biggest coup she's ever made in life.

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Speaker 2: When we started that whole no how innocent and pure,

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Speaker 3: We know she needs some experience.

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Speaker 1: That's when we heard that.

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Speaker 3: When America heard this, susand what you.

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Speaker 1: See the faces on the young people, Oh my god,

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Speaker 1: Kathy and Jesse's face. Now, do you want the truth?

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Speaker 1: The truth is I want? When Jesse said it was

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Speaker 1: I've got to make up a secret that the young

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Speaker 1: to talk about and think about sex. So Kathy was

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Speaker 1: very careful in her word choice. I didn't say husband

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Speaker 1: didn't say child because you know there's no sex involved

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Speaker 1: in that. So I said I slept with someone when

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Speaker 1: my partner was in the other room. The partner was

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Speaker 1: my husband, Darryl. The other person was my two years

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Speaker 1: care of it. So I was sleeping with a child

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Speaker 2: We're going to have to make a public statement, Kathy,

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Speaker 2: because the world thinks just when I played never have

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Speaker 2: here it was have you had sex with a woman?

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Speaker 2: Not paying attention? I ate my ice cream? It was

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Speaker 2: like I needed a public announcement.

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Speaker 1: Were you shocked? Were you shocked when you heard it?

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Speaker 1: Because you know me, oh?

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Speaker 3: Absolutely? So I was like, are you fucking kidding me?

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Speaker 4: But I'm I.

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Speaker 2: Can't wait to the next one. And watching April hook

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Speaker 2: up with Jack was so fun.

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Speaker 1: Oh my god, can I just tell you before we

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Speaker 1: get into the episode, I have to tell you I

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Speaker 1: missed that. I don't know where I was, Oh, you know,

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Speaker 1: probably creating my story. I don't know where I was.

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Speaker 1: But when I ever saw that last night hooking up

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Speaker 1: rapidly on the phone. Oh yes they did.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god.

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Speaker 4: This is great.

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Speaker 3: Can't wait to the next one.

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Speaker 2: And we better get back to the episode before we

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Speaker 2: devote this.

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Speaker 3: Whole podcast on us.

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Speaker 1: All right, let's go. Please welcome the formal Clayton eckered. Hi, Clayton,

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Speaker 1: Welcome to Golden Hour. And before we get started, can

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Speaker 1: I please have your curly hair and your gorgeous set

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Speaker 3: Please, Hike, Clayton, how are you?

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Speaker 5: I am doing great, artie, and you know what, I'm

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Speaker 5: looking forward to this. I heard that you guys were

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Speaker 5: ready well conversation that I need to to prep for it.

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Speaker 1: So, I mean you are easy on the eyes, Clayton,

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Speaker 1: you are easy.

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Speaker 2: On tell I just want to dance with you, babe,

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Speaker 2: That's all I watched the time.

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Speaker 3: Yes, we're going to make it first.

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Speaker 4: I heard that you guys are both the lives of

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Speaker 1: Yes, and while Susan stands in with you, Clayton, I'm

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Speaker 1: going to be doing the deep knee bends with you

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Speaker 1: to see how my knees are feeling.

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Speaker 4: So yeah, you might beat me. Honestly, my knees are

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Speaker 4: pretty shot.

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Speaker 1: From I know. I watched the whole thing about you

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Speaker 1: injecting your knees. Are you doing better?

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Speaker 4: You know?

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Speaker 5: I feel like it maybe isn't working as well as

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Speaker 5: I thought. So Unfortunately, we're about thirty degree k ne

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Speaker 5: ben be on that point, it's it's the danger zone.

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Speaker 1: Do we want to know? Do we want to ask?

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Speaker 1: What's new? Like what happens if that that's Are we

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Speaker 1: looking at knee replacement because Susan and I have really

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Speaker 1: cute nursing caps and we're available.

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Speaker 4: Okay, you guys a little bit of a discount.

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Speaker 3: Well, I'll have you up and walking.

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Speaker 4: Trust me, my knees won't be fixed. About everything else,

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Speaker 4: that's right.

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Speaker 1: You'll be up to show.

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Speaker 4: Break my heart. I bet to be a heartbreaker. You wouldn't.

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Speaker 4: You wouldn't say my heart.

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Speaker 1: She's taking she's in love.

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Speaker 3: But just tell me one thing about you right now?

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Speaker 3: What's new with you? What's besides the knee besides.

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Speaker 5: Honestly, I mean, I'm just I'm I'm just in a

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Speaker 5: really great place right now.

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Speaker 4: You know, I think I love that.

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Speaker 1: Not only handsome.

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Speaker 3: Is that the dance?

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Speaker 1: He said, the guy's hands and he can dance and

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Speaker 4: Now, I am and people, yeah, I know too much

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Speaker 5: So you're bringing out too because you got I can

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Speaker 5: Yeah, so I would say my closest friends Brandon Jones.

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Speaker 1: So one of the things that when I was reading

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Speaker 4: We want it all, Clay, and I want it all too.

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Speaker 5: I'm going to wait for like this perfect moment. No,

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Speaker 5: I know that I'll always be a work in progress,

443
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Speaker 5: but I just feel like there's a few more things

444
00:19:55,040 --> 00:19:58,239
Speaker 5: still that I'm trying to just really lock in and

445
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Speaker 5: just make sure that I'm like, okay, if it really

446
00:19:59,680 --> 00:20:02,440
Speaker 5: stay with where I'm at, I've got I've got a

447
00:20:02,480 --> 00:20:03,160
Speaker 5: lot of great.

448
00:20:02,920 --> 00:20:05,359
Speaker 4: Things, you know, churning around me. So I'm just like

449
00:20:05,400 --> 00:20:05,840
Speaker 4: waiting for.

450
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Speaker 1: Tell us, what are these great things? I want to

451
00:20:08,000 --> 00:20:12,720
Speaker 1: What do you mean there's that's smart you You can't

452
00:20:12,760 --> 00:20:15,520
Speaker 1: say it. You can't say that not expect us to ask.

453
00:20:15,800 --> 00:20:18,000
Speaker 5: I know, I know, but I'll just say that I

454
00:20:18,040 --> 00:20:22,560
Speaker 5: have some some very fun things swirling around that that

455
00:20:22,720 --> 00:20:23,600
Speaker 5: people will.

456
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Speaker 1: Be to do with dancing, something to do with dancing.

457
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Speaker 4: I don't want to get to too specific.

458
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Speaker 5: I'm honestly I hate to be that guy you like,

459
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Speaker 5: Oh great, Clayon's like saying I have a secret, but

460
00:20:31,840 --> 00:20:32,520
Speaker 5: I can't tell you.

461
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Speaker 1: Wait a second, are you going on? Are you going

462
00:20:36,040 --> 00:20:37,679
Speaker 1: to dance with the stars? We want to break it

463
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Speaker 1: on this podcast.

464
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Speaker 5: If you are that one, I can tell you with

465
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Speaker 5: full certainty not I've not heard a single.

466
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Speaker 1: Would you do with them?

467
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Speaker 4: Of course I would.

468
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Speaker 3: I love to dance too.

469
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Speaker 4: And you're going to pay me to dance to.

470
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Speaker 5: What's your favorite what's your free like if you want

471
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Speaker 5: to throw some money my way?

472
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Speaker 1: What's your best step clayon? What's your best move? What's

473
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Speaker 1: your what's your favorite dance?

474
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Speaker 5: I you know, it's either like the it's called the

475
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Speaker 5: my favorite one was called the Smeeze. It's like it's

476
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Speaker 5: like a jump style. I don't it's kind of hard

477
00:21:10,400 --> 00:21:13,560
Speaker 5: to explain, but it's that or the doggy. You might

478
00:21:13,600 --> 00:21:14,760
Speaker 5: you probably you guys have heard the doggie.

479
00:21:14,800 --> 00:21:15,040
Speaker 4: I'm not.

480
00:21:15,040 --> 00:21:15,800
Speaker 3: I watch you.

481
00:21:16,040 --> 00:21:19,760
Speaker 2: I'm telling you don't see my comments my heart.

482
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Speaker 1: No, I follow your stuff, but I just want you

483
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Speaker 1: to I'm working on the box step. I've got for

484
00:21:23,359 --> 00:21:26,159
Speaker 1: half the waltz down. You know, I'm looking at the

485
00:21:26,240 --> 00:21:28,359
Speaker 1: chot chob. I don't know the dog What are you

486
00:21:28,440 --> 00:21:29,159
Speaker 1: talking about?

487
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Speaker 4: No? I mean look, I think, I mean, I mean,

488
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Speaker 4: how can you not have fun? We were dancing? I mean,

489
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Speaker 4: even when you're practicing, you know, obviously the field it's

490
00:21:35,359 --> 00:21:36,760
Speaker 4: just so fun, like it's gets you going.

491
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Speaker 2: And to me, it doesn't even matter what I do.

492
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Speaker 2: I'm just out there. I feel the beat. I just

493
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Speaker 2: dance and if you.

494
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Speaker 3: Don't like it, they'll watch.

495
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Speaker 1: I don't care that season to motto, No I know.

496
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Speaker 5: And that's why I'm saying, Susan, I've heard I'm like

497
00:21:48,680 --> 00:21:50,399
Speaker 5: that you're you're pretty lively when you go out to

498
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Speaker 5: these events, you know, the dance floor.

499
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Speaker 2: That I'm one that tell me something you're excited about.

500
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Speaker 4: You know. I think I've just been excited about everything.

501
00:22:02,760 --> 00:22:05,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, real life, right, I mean, and I know it's

502
00:22:05,160 --> 00:22:06,840
Speaker 5: just kind of a cliche answer, but I but it's

503
00:22:06,840 --> 00:22:09,320
Speaker 5: something that I probably wasn't able to say, you know,

504
00:22:09,400 --> 00:22:11,440
Speaker 5: for most of my life. So I think, like, right now,

505
00:22:11,480 --> 00:22:13,720
Speaker 5: I'm just in a really awesome spot and you know,

506
00:22:13,760 --> 00:22:15,760
Speaker 5: excited to see like what comes you know.

507
00:22:15,880 --> 00:22:17,000
Speaker 4: Next, let me next.

508
00:22:17,119 --> 00:22:19,399
Speaker 5: Yeah, Like there's there's just a lot of you know,

509
00:22:19,720 --> 00:22:22,120
Speaker 5: I feel like I have all this, you know, these

510
00:22:22,119 --> 00:22:24,360
Speaker 5: good vibes that that I'm just carrying with me right now,

511
00:22:24,400 --> 00:22:26,480
Speaker 5: and as long as I stay positive, it seems like

512
00:22:26,480 --> 00:22:27,800
Speaker 5: everything around me falls into place.

513
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Speaker 1: So that is that is beautiful. But let me say, Clinton,

514
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Speaker 1: I think that what you're saying is so important A

515
00:22:34,560 --> 00:22:37,439
Speaker 1: lot of life is your attitude towards it, and you

516
00:22:37,480 --> 00:22:41,520
Speaker 1: have such a positive attitude that your life can't help

517
00:22:41,600 --> 00:22:44,800
Speaker 1: but go great because you have that positive attitude.

518
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Speaker 2: And do you feel like being on the show and

519
00:22:47,480 --> 00:22:50,239
Speaker 2: going through everything that you went through has brought you

520
00:22:50,280 --> 00:22:53,439
Speaker 2: to where you are today? Like with if you weren't

521
00:22:53,480 --> 00:22:56,840
Speaker 2: ever on Bachelor a Bachelorette, do you think anything would

522
00:22:56,880 --> 00:22:59,160
Speaker 2: be different than how you feel about yourself right now?

523
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Speaker 5: That was saying, Yeah, I really do believe that the

524
00:23:02,400 --> 00:23:07,040
Speaker 5: show is a major catalyst self love, which is which

525
00:23:07,080 --> 00:23:09,160
Speaker 5: is crazy, you know, even crazy for me to say,

526
00:23:09,200 --> 00:23:11,480
Speaker 5: because like depended on what point in you know, my

527
00:23:11,560 --> 00:23:13,560
Speaker 5: life after the show that you asked me how I

528
00:23:13,560 --> 00:23:17,520
Speaker 5: felt about it. I, you know, really hated my experience

529
00:23:17,760 --> 00:23:20,119
Speaker 5: for probably a year and a half after the show,

530
00:23:20,960 --> 00:23:22,639
Speaker 5: where I was like, man, I wish I could just

531
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Speaker 5: go back and redo it over it. Yeah, But then

532
00:23:25,000 --> 00:23:27,000
Speaker 5: I found, you know, like I hit that point they

533
00:23:27,080 --> 00:23:29,800
Speaker 5: found the silver lining. I started to be able to

534
00:23:29,840 --> 00:23:32,840
Speaker 5: forgive myself and just like give myself grace and and

535
00:23:32,840 --> 00:23:34,520
Speaker 5: then started to build back up.

536
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Speaker 4: Like I realized at the end of the show.

537
00:23:36,200 --> 00:23:40,520
Speaker 5: Again, I didn't anticipate being a polarizing individual, but I was,

538
00:23:40,680 --> 00:23:43,399
Speaker 5: so I ultimately had to go, Okay, why am I polarizing?

539
00:23:43,440 --> 00:23:44,280
Speaker 4: What upset people?

540
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Speaker 5: And I found some places in my life areas of

541
00:23:46,760 --> 00:23:50,120
Speaker 5: improvement Once I worked on those things, I really I'm like, wait,

542
00:23:50,160 --> 00:23:51,720
Speaker 5: I'm actually liking what I'm becoming.

543
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Speaker 1: I think you're you think like this, Yeah, I mean

544
00:23:55,040 --> 00:23:57,680
Speaker 1: what you're saying, at least what I'm hearing is that

545
00:23:58,760 --> 00:24:01,360
Speaker 1: if you hadn't been the bad, you wouldn't have had

546
00:24:01,359 --> 00:24:04,080
Speaker 1: the opportunities for growth that you've had to bring you

547
00:24:04,119 --> 00:24:05,880
Speaker 1: to the point where you are today. Yeah.

548
00:24:05,920 --> 00:24:06,840
Speaker 4: Absolutely, we have.

549
00:24:06,800 --> 00:24:09,040
Speaker 1: The curly hair and the beautiful teeth.

550
00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:11,000
Speaker 3: Smile.

551
00:24:12,280 --> 00:24:15,440
Speaker 5: The Bachelor gave me the the white teeth. They hit

552
00:24:15,560 --> 00:24:17,440
Speaker 5: a couple of teeth fighting treats.

553
00:24:18,119 --> 00:24:20,080
Speaker 3: They talked for that.

554
00:24:20,119 --> 00:24:22,320
Speaker 5: The curly hair, I just I always had curlier, I

555
00:24:22,320 --> 00:24:23,399
Speaker 5: just didn't put product in it.

556
00:24:23,880 --> 00:24:28,879
Speaker 4: So yeah, so I started like switching things up, Dane.

557
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Speaker 1: You know what's gonna happen. We're going to start getting

558
00:24:32,200 --> 00:24:34,480
Speaker 1: DM Susan not for us. They're going to say, hey,

559
00:24:34,520 --> 00:24:37,200
Speaker 1: can you hook us up with Clayton. We're gonna we're

560
00:24:37,200 --> 00:24:37,919
Speaker 1: on it.

561
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Speaker 3: It sounds to me like you're really really maturing.

562
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Speaker 2: Okay, you've hit that spot where your confidence is back,

563
00:24:44,320 --> 00:24:48,560
Speaker 2: and it's about you tell me what you think about aging.

564
00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:51,680
Speaker 2: How do you feel about that? Because you know that's inevitable.

565
00:24:51,840 --> 00:24:53,440
Speaker 2: It does happen to all of us.

566
00:24:54,400 --> 00:24:55,560
Speaker 4: My best years are ahead of me.

567
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Speaker 3: That's the way I love his attitude.

568
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Speaker 4: I mean, how do you'll feel?

569
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Speaker 5: I mean again, like you guys have your live life

570
00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:03,280
Speaker 5: and like look at you with what you're doing right now.

571
00:25:03,320 --> 00:25:05,359
Speaker 4: I mean, it just gets gets better and better, doesn't it.

572
00:25:05,280 --> 00:25:07,800
Speaker 3: It keeps getting better. It's I mean the possibility.

573
00:25:07,880 --> 00:25:12,520
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think Susan and I are are poster children,

574
00:25:12,760 --> 00:25:18,239
Speaker 1: poster adults, poster seniors whatever. For life is never over. Uh,

575
00:25:18,640 --> 00:25:22,119
Speaker 1: you know, get on enjoy, enjoy who you are.

576
00:25:22,160 --> 00:25:23,879
Speaker 5: You know you guys, you know what you guys really are.

577
00:25:23,920 --> 00:25:26,040
Speaker 5: I mean you're, like you said, a poster child. For like,

578
00:25:26,080 --> 00:25:28,680
Speaker 5: it's never too late to try something, right. That's that's

579
00:25:28,760 --> 00:25:30,240
Speaker 5: let me not you guys to a tea. I mean

580
00:25:30,240 --> 00:25:32,200
Speaker 5: that is exactly what you all show people go oh

581
00:25:32,320 --> 00:25:35,320
Speaker 5: reality television, You guys are way past that prime point.

582
00:25:35,359 --> 00:25:37,080
Speaker 4: No, you're like, screw that. I'm gonna go do it

583
00:25:37,119 --> 00:25:39,280
Speaker 4: because like, get this an opportunity.

584
00:25:39,320 --> 00:25:40,919
Speaker 5: I'm jumping on it and now I think, I mean,

585
00:25:40,960 --> 00:25:43,360
Speaker 5: I guarantee you if you guys, I'm sure you've inspired people.

586
00:25:43,359 --> 00:25:45,960
Speaker 5: I'm sure you get d ms from people saying like you,

587
00:25:45,960 --> 00:25:47,679
Speaker 5: you know, inspired me to.

588
00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:48,640
Speaker 4: To try a new hobby. Right.

589
00:25:48,720 --> 00:25:50,920
Speaker 5: Yeah, not going on reality television because that you know,

590
00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:53,400
Speaker 5: it's bold to throw yourself out there. But I mean,

591
00:25:53,440 --> 00:25:56,240
Speaker 5: you guys have to be truly inspiring multiple people, which

592
00:25:56,240 --> 00:25:57,000
Speaker 5: is awesome.

593
00:25:57,080 --> 00:25:59,480
Speaker 2: And the best message to Kathy and I both have

594
00:25:59,640 --> 00:26:03,720
Speaker 2: coming off that show was telling women it's not over

595
00:26:03,840 --> 00:26:07,440
Speaker 2: at sixty you still have, Like we've both cliver at

596
00:26:07,440 --> 00:26:11,600
Speaker 2: seventy season, the last chapter the longest chapter, but the

597
00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:15,959
Speaker 2: best chapter because we've done all the work, We've raised kids,

598
00:26:16,040 --> 00:26:19,480
Speaker 2: grandkids and so on, and we're true to ourselves at

599
00:26:19,520 --> 00:26:23,480
Speaker 2: this point and anything anything as possible. I'm all about

600
00:26:23,480 --> 00:26:29,200
Speaker 2: the universe putting positive and I attract more positive sharing that.

601
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Speaker 1: Do you think though, that Clayton from where you are,

602
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Speaker 1: Like when I was your age, I looked at my

603
00:26:36,320 --> 00:26:39,600
Speaker 1: parents and I thought they were old. I think aging,

604
00:26:39,960 --> 00:26:42,679
Speaker 1: not just Susan and I, but I think aging, the

605
00:26:42,720 --> 00:26:45,320
Speaker 1: definition of aging is really changed.

606
00:26:45,960 --> 00:26:48,800
Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, well I think nowadays I mean again from

607
00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:51,040
Speaker 5: back when my parents were at my age. I mean

608
00:26:51,080 --> 00:26:55,320
Speaker 5: there's been all these you know, lifestyle improvements and new

609
00:26:55,359 --> 00:26:57,760
Speaker 5: wellness routines that you're able to turn back the clock,

610
00:26:58,760 --> 00:27:01,520
Speaker 5: so you know, again like from what my parents back then.

611
00:27:01,600 --> 00:27:03,560
Speaker 5: I mean, I always looked at my parents as I

612
00:27:03,600 --> 00:27:05,399
Speaker 5: don't even know if I ever attributed an age to them.

613
00:27:05,440 --> 00:27:07,520
Speaker 5: They were when I was young, they were just my parents,

614
00:27:08,400 --> 00:27:10,200
Speaker 5: you know, and then I just felt like they stayed

615
00:27:10,240 --> 00:27:11,880
Speaker 5: the same age for so many years of my life

616
00:27:11,960 --> 00:27:13,399
Speaker 5: until I put a couple of gray hairs on their

617
00:27:13,400 --> 00:27:15,679
Speaker 5: head after the whole show myself.

618
00:27:16,640 --> 00:27:18,000
Speaker 3: Did they handle everything?

619
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Speaker 5: I mean, my mom is, you know, it tore her

620
00:27:21,320 --> 00:27:24,240
Speaker 5: to shreds. I mean, she's she's she's i mean just

621
00:27:24,480 --> 00:27:27,440
Speaker 5: very emotional in the best possible way. But she gets

622
00:27:27,480 --> 00:27:29,960
Speaker 5: really attached, you know, especially which is awesome to me

623
00:27:30,000 --> 00:27:31,800
Speaker 5: and my brothers. Like my mom loves us to death.

624
00:27:32,240 --> 00:27:36,160
Speaker 5: Unfortunately whenever like somebody says something poor about us, yeah,

625
00:27:36,400 --> 00:27:39,120
Speaker 5: her more than it hurts us. So that was hard

626
00:27:39,160 --> 00:27:41,720
Speaker 5: for her, you know. And but she's, you know, as

627
00:27:41,720 --> 00:27:43,880
Speaker 5: long as I'm happy, and she sees that, then she's

628
00:27:44,000 --> 00:27:47,600
Speaker 5: now happy again, right, So she's she's seeing me, you

629
00:27:47,600 --> 00:27:50,000
Speaker 5: know progress, and she's like, Okay, he's in a good spot,

630
00:27:50,800 --> 00:27:51,680
Speaker 5: so she's fine.

631
00:27:51,960 --> 00:27:54,960
Speaker 4: My dad, my dad was just like he'll figure what

632
00:27:55,080 --> 00:27:55,480
Speaker 4: the hell.

633
00:27:55,760 --> 00:27:57,879
Speaker 5: Yeah, my dad was like whatever man doing and he

634
00:27:57,920 --> 00:28:00,199
Speaker 5: at first like didn't think it was He acted like

635
00:28:00,240 --> 00:28:01,280
Speaker 5: it was wasn't all that.

636
00:28:01,440 --> 00:28:03,400
Speaker 1: Was he the guy that need to work on his EQ.

637
00:28:04,720 --> 00:28:07,440
Speaker 5: Well you know, he's he surprisingly has a higher Q

638
00:28:07,600 --> 00:28:09,679
Speaker 5: than what I gave him credit for. He he just

639
00:28:09,720 --> 00:28:13,159
Speaker 5: doesn't express it like he He internally can can vocal

640
00:28:13,400 --> 00:28:16,520
Speaker 5: or he can vocalize a very intellectual you know, or

641
00:28:16,680 --> 00:28:19,960
Speaker 5: discussion around emotions, but he doesn't. He never he never

642
00:28:20,040 --> 00:28:22,200
Speaker 5: speaks up unless like you bring it up to him.

643
00:28:22,240 --> 00:28:24,600
Speaker 5: So I found that I'm like, oh, he doesn't talk

644
00:28:24,640 --> 00:28:26,680
Speaker 5: about it, but he actually has quite a bit of

645
00:28:26,760 --> 00:28:28,000
Speaker 5: intelligence in that realm.

646
00:28:28,640 --> 00:28:31,080
Speaker 4: He just decides not to have to say anything about it.

647
00:28:31,119 --> 00:28:34,560
Speaker 3: So yeah, I wish I was more like that.

648
00:28:37,240 --> 00:28:40,440
Speaker 1: I was just going to say, wait, you're supposed to

649
00:28:40,480 --> 00:28:42,160
Speaker 1: be asked for your opinion? Wait what?

650
00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:42,720
Speaker 4: Well?

651
00:28:42,760 --> 00:28:44,440
Speaker 5: I know, yeah right, I'm like, maybe that's why they

652
00:28:44,440 --> 00:28:47,320
Speaker 5: put us on these shows, because you're like, person won't stop.

653
00:28:47,200 --> 00:28:51,160
Speaker 1: Pathy opinion Susann opinion, Now Clayton opinion. Oh no, it's

654
00:28:51,200 --> 00:28:51,960
Speaker 1: all coming your way.

655
00:28:54,240 --> 00:28:56,160
Speaker 5: You have a lot in common, as I find out,

656
00:28:56,240 --> 00:28:58,320
Speaker 5: like a lot of people that come go on reality television,

657
00:28:58,320 --> 00:29:01,160
Speaker 5: you have a lot of commonalities, right, Yeah, your risk takers.

658
00:29:01,200 --> 00:29:03,080
Speaker 4: You're just that's when you try it.

659
00:29:03,600 --> 00:29:05,280
Speaker 5: Yeah, you're willing to give it a shot, and you

660
00:29:05,360 --> 00:29:09,320
Speaker 5: also likely have some type of very unique personality trade.

661
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Speaker 4: I mean, that's what sells on TV.

662
00:29:10,800 --> 00:29:11,960
Speaker 5: I mean if you have a bunch of people that

663
00:29:12,040 --> 00:29:13,600
Speaker 5: sit in a room and they're all just proper and

664
00:29:13,640 --> 00:29:14,360
Speaker 5: they're all.

665
00:29:14,320 --> 00:29:15,840
Speaker 4: Right, we'll just wait and see. No, like they want

666
00:29:15,880 --> 00:29:19,080
Speaker 4: to ring right, like entertaining TV cells.

667
00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:21,560
Speaker 5: And that's why it's extremes, whether it's like a bunch

668
00:29:21,560 --> 00:29:24,239
Speaker 5: of happiness or whether it's anger. So I realized them,

669
00:29:24,240 --> 00:29:25,880
Speaker 5: like with a TV show again, things seem to be

670
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Speaker 5: more dramatic than what they are. They might be dramatic

671
00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:29,680
Speaker 5: at that moment, but then afterwards you're like, look, I

672
00:29:29,680 --> 00:29:32,280
Speaker 5: can't be that mad at this person. Yeah, there's points

673
00:29:32,280 --> 00:29:34,440
Speaker 5: in the past I'm mad at some of the contestants

674
00:29:34,840 --> 00:29:36,400
Speaker 5: and they blew that out of a portion.

675
00:29:36,480 --> 00:29:38,360
Speaker 4: But I'm like, no, they're just doing it because it's TV, right,

676
00:29:38,880 --> 00:29:39,560
Speaker 4: They're doing their.

677
00:29:39,520 --> 00:29:40,840
Speaker 1: Job, right, their job.

678
00:29:40,920 --> 00:29:43,040
Speaker 3: Yeah, But the first time on we don't know anything,

679
00:29:43,120 --> 00:29:43,959
Speaker 3: we're just being there.

680
00:29:44,040 --> 00:29:46,160
Speaker 4: We are, Yeah, no, but I had I had an

681
00:29:46,200 --> 00:29:47,320
Speaker 4: experience with them there.

682
00:29:47,320 --> 00:29:48,840
Speaker 5: I won't say her name, but there was someone that

683
00:29:48,880 --> 00:29:50,880
Speaker 5: I ended up like going out on a boat with

684
00:29:50,880 --> 00:29:52,280
Speaker 5: with a bunch of other people from the show.

685
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Speaker 4: And this was like before the women tell all for

686
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Speaker 4: my season.

687
00:29:55,640 --> 00:29:58,080
Speaker 5: So I'm like talking to her and everything's going great

688
00:29:58,120 --> 00:30:00,400
Speaker 5: and we're you know, we're being friendly. And there was

689
00:30:00,440 --> 00:30:02,080
Speaker 5: like a week later we got to the Women's tell all,

690
00:30:02,160 --> 00:30:04,040
Speaker 5: or it was a couple of weeks later, and she.

691
00:30:04,040 --> 00:30:07,719
Speaker 4: Goes at me like full fledged, like you met, you met,

692
00:30:07,760 --> 00:30:09,480
Speaker 4: were messing up, Like you could have been so much

693
00:30:09,520 --> 00:30:11,680
Speaker 4: better than what you were. And then afterwards, like she

694
00:30:11,760 --> 00:30:13,560
Speaker 4: comes out to me and she's like, so, how have

695
00:30:13,600 --> 00:30:15,120
Speaker 4: you been? And I was like, what the hell was that?

696
00:30:15,640 --> 00:30:17,239
Speaker 3: Really mean?

697
00:30:17,280 --> 00:30:19,040
Speaker 4: That's just TV. She's like, it's not a big deal,

698
00:30:19,080 --> 00:30:21,560
Speaker 4: and I'm like, what.

699
00:30:20,520 --> 00:30:23,320
Speaker 1: I mean, let me just say claik. When I said

700
00:30:23,520 --> 00:30:24,840
Speaker 1: zip it, I meant it.

701
00:30:25,400 --> 00:30:25,600
Speaker 4: Yeah.

702
00:30:25,760 --> 00:30:28,080
Speaker 1: It got me into so much trouble, I mean so

703
00:30:28,160 --> 00:30:29,840
Speaker 1: much was like really zip it?

704
00:30:30,320 --> 00:30:32,800
Speaker 4: Yeah exactly. I know. I know. People will take something

705
00:30:32,840 --> 00:30:34,280
Speaker 4: and make a mountain out of molehill.

706
00:30:34,680 --> 00:30:37,440
Speaker 1: But you're right. But you know what, I didn't zip

707
00:30:37,440 --> 00:30:39,680
Speaker 1: it and I have a podcast, so does it worked

708
00:30:39,680 --> 00:30:39,960
Speaker 1: for me?

709
00:30:48,320 --> 00:30:50,440
Speaker 2: I do have a personal question though, do you have

710
00:30:50,560 --> 00:30:52,920
Speaker 2: a type like a woman?

711
00:30:53,120 --> 00:30:53,880
Speaker 3: Do you think you have?

712
00:30:54,120 --> 00:30:56,920
Speaker 1: It's about sixty eight years old, dark brown hair, spring

713
00:30:57,080 --> 00:31:01,440
Speaker 1: back and sayings, and I can dance.

714
00:31:03,520 --> 00:31:05,280
Speaker 4: That's what's gonna come down too. Who can Who can

715
00:31:05,360 --> 00:31:07,520
Speaker 4: dance a little? Who's actually not even? Who can dance better?

716
00:31:08,040 --> 00:31:11,680
Speaker 1: Just have a Oh wait, wait did you hear that, Susan?

717
00:31:11,960 --> 00:31:15,000
Speaker 1: You lose who brings more energy? I have the most energy.

718
00:31:15,120 --> 00:31:18,040
Speaker 1: You totally got you dance.

719
00:31:20,640 --> 00:31:23,080
Speaker 4: Practicing. All I need is the efforts.

720
00:31:23,160 --> 00:31:25,520
Speaker 1: Oh Clayton, I'm telling you this is I've been looking

721
00:31:25,520 --> 00:31:27,040
Speaker 1: for him here he is right in my screen.

722
00:31:27,440 --> 00:31:27,560
Speaker 4: Right.

723
00:31:27,600 --> 00:31:29,360
Speaker 1: Well A, we're gonna move on. We're gonna move on

724
00:31:29,400 --> 00:31:32,160
Speaker 1: to our fan questions.

725
00:31:32,720 --> 00:31:34,800
Speaker 3: I need to give some advice, so.

726
00:31:34,760 --> 00:31:37,720
Speaker 1: We give some advice. All right, go ahead, Susan, give

727
00:31:37,760 --> 00:31:38,360
Speaker 1: the go ahead.

728
00:31:38,640 --> 00:31:41,000
Speaker 3: Okay, this is from anonymous.

729
00:31:41,600 --> 00:31:44,280
Speaker 2: My husband and I have been married for twelve years

730
00:31:44,320 --> 00:31:47,440
Speaker 2: with three young children, ages eight to thirteen.

731
00:31:48,200 --> 00:31:49,680
Speaker 3: We are forty five years old.

732
00:31:50,200 --> 00:31:54,880
Speaker 2: He constantly has a podcast playing in one ear through

733
00:31:54,920 --> 00:31:57,640
Speaker 2: an AirPod. He does it at home in the car.

734
00:31:57,760 --> 00:32:00,400
Speaker 2: It really bothers me because it makes I am not

735
00:32:00,720 --> 00:32:04,960
Speaker 2: present in the moment. I've mentioned it over and over again,

736
00:32:05,240 --> 00:32:08,040
Speaker 2: and he always has an excuse. For example, he says,

737
00:32:08,600 --> 00:32:11,680
Speaker 2: no one was around, so I'm listening to it. He

738
00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:15,520
Speaker 2: says that being I'm on my phone, so he's like,

739
00:32:15,640 --> 00:32:18,640
Speaker 2: I can listen since you're on your phone. He doesn't

740
00:32:18,640 --> 00:32:24,040
Speaker 2: initiate conversation ever, it's usually me, help, this is affecting

741
00:32:24,080 --> 00:32:26,320
Speaker 2: our marriage, and I don't know what to do or

742
00:32:26,400 --> 00:32:30,680
Speaker 2: say to him that I have already I think she

743
00:32:30,760 --> 00:32:32,480
Speaker 2: meant have I haven't already.

744
00:32:32,440 --> 00:32:33,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, wait before.

745
00:32:33,640 --> 00:32:37,400
Speaker 1: Before you answer, Clayton, as long as he's listening to

746
00:32:37,480 --> 00:32:38,760
Speaker 1: Golden Hour, we.

747
00:32:38,680 --> 00:32:42,120
Speaker 4: Say, is it you guys that are the one that's

748
00:32:42,160 --> 00:32:44,880
Speaker 4: putting yea, I give her.

749
00:32:44,800 --> 00:32:49,120
Speaker 2: The other earpieces they check this out off.

750
00:32:49,480 --> 00:32:50,239
Speaker 4: What's turning it up?

751
00:32:50,280 --> 00:32:52,080
Speaker 1: That's what I like it.

752
00:32:53,800 --> 00:32:54,440
Speaker 4: Say that.

753
00:32:54,880 --> 00:33:00,520
Speaker 5: I was not anticipating that kind of question either. Okay, look,

754
00:33:00,560 --> 00:33:03,280
Speaker 5: I mean communication is key, so I feel that, you know,

755
00:33:03,320 --> 00:33:07,040
Speaker 5: she's obviously stated to him that you know, it's something

756
00:33:07,040 --> 00:33:08,760
Speaker 5: that she would like for him to do less of.

757
00:33:08,840 --> 00:33:12,080
Speaker 5: But I it's it's not really getting across, So she's

758
00:33:12,120 --> 00:33:14,040
Speaker 5: gonna have to be a bit more stern in my opinion,

759
00:33:14,080 --> 00:33:16,840
Speaker 5: like you're gonna have to really state this is bothering me,

760
00:33:16,920 --> 00:33:19,000
Speaker 5: it's really upsetting me. It's you know, it's it's it's

761
00:33:19,040 --> 00:33:22,040
Speaker 5: it's separating us to some degree or you know, and

762
00:33:22,080 --> 00:33:23,840
Speaker 5: I feel like we're not able to connect as deeply

763
00:33:23,880 --> 00:33:26,240
Speaker 5: as we should be able to. And you know, if

764
00:33:26,280 --> 00:33:29,680
Speaker 5: this continues, maybe I kind of lead into like an

765
00:33:29,720 --> 00:33:31,920
Speaker 5: outcome based like if this continues, this is what I

766
00:33:31,920 --> 00:33:35,200
Speaker 5: can see happening. I don't want that, so raising the stakes.

767
00:33:36,080 --> 00:33:37,920
Speaker 5: You know, men are at the end of the day.

768
00:33:37,920 --> 00:33:40,600
Speaker 5: It's like, here's what like directness, like this is what

769
00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:43,040
Speaker 5: can happen if this doesn't work out this way, and

770
00:33:43,080 --> 00:33:45,719
Speaker 5: then like showing and raising the stakes, making it severe

771
00:33:45,840 --> 00:33:47,640
Speaker 5: enough to say, like this is bothering me, right, it.

772
00:33:47,600 --> 00:33:48,400
Speaker 4: Sounds like real.

773
00:33:48,640 --> 00:33:50,320
Speaker 5: Yeah, I don't think she's brought it up, but she

774
00:33:50,400 --> 00:33:52,840
Speaker 5: has like it's not serious enough for him to change

775
00:33:52,840 --> 00:33:56,360
Speaker 5: his behavior, so she needs to increase the pain is

776
00:33:56,360 --> 00:33:58,360
Speaker 5: not really the right word, but yeah.

777
00:33:57,880 --> 00:34:02,680
Speaker 1: But but did you notice that that she writes that

778
00:34:02,840 --> 00:34:06,200
Speaker 1: he says she's always on her phone. So I'm wondering

779
00:34:06,240 --> 00:34:08,840
Speaker 1: if there's a little bit of that too, where he's like,

780
00:34:08,960 --> 00:34:10,440
Speaker 1: why not, just you know, I've given up. I'm just

781
00:34:10,440 --> 00:34:12,760
Speaker 1: gonna listen to a podcast because she's always on her phone,

782
00:34:13,200 --> 00:34:17,799
Speaker 1: and even if that's not true, perception is truth, right.

783
00:34:17,840 --> 00:34:21,560
Speaker 2: But also, like you just said, Clayton, communication is the key.

784
00:34:21,760 --> 00:34:24,640
Speaker 2: You get to sit it down, talk about it. This

785
00:34:24,719 --> 00:34:27,600
Speaker 2: doesn't work for me when you can't tell him he

786
00:34:27,680 --> 00:34:30,400
Speaker 2: can't listen to it at all. But when we're together

787
00:34:30,600 --> 00:34:32,319
Speaker 2: and we're driving in the car, we want to have

788
00:34:32,320 --> 00:34:35,440
Speaker 2: a conversation. The deal is, I'll put my phone on silent,

789
00:34:35,760 --> 00:34:37,840
Speaker 2: you take the thing out of your ear, and we

790
00:34:38,000 --> 00:34:40,319
Speaker 2: are a couple and we'll talk about whatever we need

791
00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:41,000
Speaker 2: to talk about.

792
00:34:41,160 --> 00:34:45,880
Speaker 4: Right, Yes, boundaries absolutely listen to you, Clayton.

793
00:34:46,840 --> 00:34:51,000
Speaker 1: That was a joint effort set in appropriate bound But

794
00:34:51,080 --> 00:34:51,680
Speaker 1: you don't.

795
00:34:51,440 --> 00:34:54,279
Speaker 3: Want to jump out and give him an ultimatum, you.

796
00:34:54,239 --> 00:34:56,399
Speaker 4: Know, I make it seem that way.

797
00:34:56,800 --> 00:34:59,120
Speaker 5: I think, like though, if it's not registering at some point,

798
00:34:59,160 --> 00:35:00,919
Speaker 5: then you have to mistakes per se.

799
00:35:00,960 --> 00:35:03,120
Speaker 3: But yeah, I'm serious, Yeah, like.

800
00:35:03,120 --> 00:35:05,160
Speaker 5: This is serious. I need you to realize this. But also,

801
00:35:05,239 --> 00:35:06,719
Speaker 5: I mean, I think you know, you guys brought up

802
00:35:06,719 --> 00:35:10,239
Speaker 5: a good point. She may also be doing behavior that

803
00:35:10,280 --> 00:35:13,279
Speaker 5: he that he meant like, so I don't like the whole.

804
00:35:13,360 --> 00:35:15,560
Speaker 5: Like when you bring up something that bothers you, someone goes, well,

805
00:35:15,600 --> 00:35:17,560
Speaker 5: this bothers me that you do this. It's like, hey, no, no, no, no,

806
00:35:17,600 --> 00:35:22,279
Speaker 5: Like I'm bringing up what bothers me? If it bothers you,

807
00:35:23,120 --> 00:35:25,720
Speaker 5: that tip for tats up is dangerous?

808
00:35:25,960 --> 00:35:27,200
Speaker 4: What makes up?

809
00:35:28,640 --> 00:35:33,120
Speaker 1: We're I'm I'm going to hang out all all the

810
00:35:33,160 --> 00:35:36,680
Speaker 1: dirty laundry. Wait, but I have a question. You guys

811
00:35:36,680 --> 00:35:39,480
Speaker 1: are overthinking this. If it were me and my husband,

812
00:35:40,080 --> 00:35:42,400
Speaker 1: it just takes damn I your pods and hide.

813
00:35:43,640 --> 00:35:45,440
Speaker 3: That's going to cause a ruckus.

814
00:35:45,120 --> 00:35:47,960
Speaker 5: To you know, listen, you know how guys get when

815
00:35:47,960 --> 00:35:50,239
Speaker 5: the second they misplaced their keys, they start running around

816
00:35:50,239 --> 00:35:53,800
Speaker 5: that where are damn headphones?

817
00:35:53,880 --> 00:35:56,320
Speaker 4: Yeah?

818
00:35:56,600 --> 00:35:57,200
Speaker 1: See these?

819
00:35:57,239 --> 00:36:00,399
Speaker 3: You gotta please me first before you get these. Yeah,

820
00:36:00,840 --> 00:36:01,839
Speaker 3: make it interesting.

821
00:36:02,640 --> 00:36:04,440
Speaker 1: Jesus said she should try it.

822
00:36:04,440 --> 00:36:06,040
Speaker 4: Exactly to say she should try it. We gave her

823
00:36:06,040 --> 00:36:07,200
Speaker 4: a few options so she can.

824
00:36:07,120 --> 00:36:10,080
Speaker 3: Take Yes, So Anonymous, I hope we have helped you.

825
00:36:10,160 --> 00:36:13,240
Speaker 1: Yeah, let us know, let us know. It's still hard. Okay, Clayton.

826
00:36:13,719 --> 00:36:15,920
Speaker 1: We we've gotten to know you a little bit better

827
00:36:16,040 --> 00:36:17,360
Speaker 1: and we want to open the floor up to you.

828
00:36:17,440 --> 00:36:19,759
Speaker 1: Do you have any questions for us. You must want

829
00:36:19,760 --> 00:36:24,400
Speaker 1: to know something. Yeah, and I'm not busy next Friday.

830
00:36:24,480 --> 00:36:26,839
Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, perfect, I'll be out.

831
00:36:27,400 --> 00:36:31,840
Speaker 1: No, I'm not that damn it. I'm in Austin, Texas.

832
00:36:32,120 --> 00:36:33,320
Speaker 4: Oh, that's an awesome spot.

833
00:36:33,480 --> 00:36:35,520
Speaker 5: Actually is going to Austin if it wasn't if my

834
00:36:35,560 --> 00:36:37,160
Speaker 5: brothers that live in Scotts still Austin was an not

835
00:36:37,239 --> 00:36:37,840
Speaker 5: a spot that I was.

836
00:36:38,200 --> 00:36:39,880
Speaker 3: I love Scotts Stale too, though.

837
00:36:40,960 --> 00:36:43,279
Speaker 5: I mean, I can't be it can't be either. I

838
00:36:43,320 --> 00:36:45,640
Speaker 5: do actually want to know. It's probably been asked, maybe,

839
00:36:45,680 --> 00:36:50,800
Speaker 5: but what do you what? What was the most surprising

840
00:36:51,040 --> 00:36:53,840
Speaker 5: aspect of going on reality TV for the both of you?

841
00:36:55,800 --> 00:36:57,920
Speaker 3: The most surprising.

842
00:36:58,280 --> 00:37:01,160
Speaker 4: Like the thing that's okay, it's a two part question.

843
00:37:01,480 --> 00:37:03,560
Speaker 4: What surprised you the most? And what is like? What

844
00:37:03,680 --> 00:37:09,240
Speaker 4: was your biggest lesson that you learned from it? Wow?

845
00:37:09,800 --> 00:37:12,279
Speaker 1: Well it's easy for me. I don't know. I thought

846
00:37:12,280 --> 00:37:13,160
Speaker 1: I didn't think an answer.

847
00:37:13,200 --> 00:37:17,920
Speaker 2: Go ahead, Susan, I don't think I learned any lessons, okay?

848
00:37:18,040 --> 00:37:19,680
Speaker 3: And why?

849
00:37:19,920 --> 00:37:20,600
Speaker 4: And why? Is that?

850
00:37:20,840 --> 00:37:23,479
Speaker 5: Because you feel that you were already so prepped from

851
00:37:23,520 --> 00:37:25,400
Speaker 5: like just previous.

852
00:37:24,760 --> 00:37:29,680
Speaker 2: I was unapologetically authentically me okay, and people like that

853
00:37:29,840 --> 00:37:32,480
Speaker 2: I mean, I made friends, and that was the best

854
00:37:32,520 --> 00:37:35,000
Speaker 2: thing to come out of the show. That I made good,

855
00:37:35,120 --> 00:37:38,200
Speaker 2: good friends, and I looked at people and watched and

856
00:37:38,320 --> 00:37:42,600
Speaker 2: learned how people react to different things. So it was

857
00:37:42,640 --> 00:37:47,239
Speaker 2: a learning experience. But to bring something out of it,

858
00:37:47,360 --> 00:37:48,920
Speaker 2: I don't know that I could answer that one.

859
00:37:49,280 --> 00:37:49,520
Speaker 4: Can you?

860
00:37:49,640 --> 00:37:50,160
Speaker 3: Kathy?

861
00:37:50,920 --> 00:37:51,200
Speaker 5: For me?

862
00:37:52,600 --> 00:37:54,520
Speaker 1: Susan and I are both who we are, and I

863
00:37:54,520 --> 00:37:57,400
Speaker 1: think that's people that will like it or don't. We

864
00:37:57,480 --> 00:38:01,399
Speaker 1: can somewhat be polarizing to our audiences because they either

865
00:38:01,440 --> 00:38:03,880
Speaker 1: love us or don't. And I'm okay with that. I

866
00:38:03,920 --> 00:38:07,880
Speaker 1: think for me, I've always been a pretty confident person,

867
00:38:08,480 --> 00:38:14,719
Speaker 1: and I think being on Golden I realized that I

868
00:38:14,800 --> 00:38:19,000
Speaker 1: really am okay with myself. You know, my my husband

869
00:38:19,040 --> 00:38:21,440
Speaker 1: had passed away and so I had gone through a

870
00:38:21,440 --> 00:38:22,600
Speaker 1: lot of trauma over that.

871
00:38:22,760 --> 00:38:26,279
Speaker 3: But but going to know that going in that you

872
00:38:26,360 --> 00:38:27,160
Speaker 3: were okay.

873
00:38:26,880 --> 00:38:32,680
Speaker 1: With yourself, Well, I've said many times Golden, I am

874
00:38:32,719 --> 00:38:34,839
Speaker 1: so grateful for being on the show because it really

875
00:38:34,880 --> 00:38:39,239
Speaker 1: helped heal me. It brought me back to who I was,

876
00:38:39,719 --> 00:38:41,600
Speaker 1: and I didn't realize I guess that's what I'm trying

877
00:38:41,640 --> 00:38:43,719
Speaker 1: to say. I didn't realize how far I had strayed

878
00:38:44,280 --> 00:38:47,400
Speaker 1: from uh because because of what I went through. So

879
00:38:47,560 --> 00:38:52,080
Speaker 1: going on that show and feeling alive, feeling alive and

880
00:38:52,239 --> 00:38:54,880
Speaker 1: I'm okay and I'm a good person and life is

881
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Speaker 1: for the living, I think it just underscored the importance

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Speaker 1: of life for me. And I don't know if that's

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Speaker 1: really what you're looking for, but I just I'm just

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Speaker 1: just I am a joyful person and I think i'd

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Speaker 1: lost some of that after my husband died. So I

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00:39:11,840 --> 00:39:14,880
Speaker 1: will always be grateful to the Golden to the Bachelor

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00:39:15,000 --> 00:39:18,200
Speaker 1: franchise for for giving me happiness bringing me back to life.

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Speaker 1: All Right, well, listen, this has been.

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Speaker 2: I don't want to end this up. I'm having a

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Speaker 2: good time.

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Speaker 1: It was you. You are every bit Susan. I've been

892
00:39:31,400 --> 00:39:34,040
Speaker 1: dying to have you on the podcast. You did not disappoint.

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00:39:34,160 --> 00:39:37,719
Speaker 1: You are amazing, amazing, And you're in l A. You're

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Speaker 1: not in Arizona, right and that's your home base. Yes,

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Speaker 1: you're in Scottsdale or where we're coming out.

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Speaker 4: Let me just say, you're going to try to not

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Speaker 4: have fun here, so the three of us and Scott still,

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00:39:54,000 --> 00:39:55,680
Speaker 4: that's just gonna be. They're gonna have to shut the

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Speaker 4: city down, send me your number.

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Speaker 3: I'll text you when we're on our way.

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Speaker 1: Let me just say, Clayton. The other thing is Susan.

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Speaker 1: I can't believe this may be the first podcast that

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Speaker 1: she hasn't said, so let me say it for her.

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Speaker 1: Should you find miss right, Susan would be delighted to

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Speaker 1: officiate your wedding, for she's that capability. Yes she does.

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Speaker 3: And you didn't watch our show, Clayton, really.

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Speaker 4: Listen, I I Clayton. I hardly even watched my own season.

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00:40:25,960 --> 00:40:27,360
Speaker 4: I had to. I had to watch enough of it.

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Speaker 1: She Susan married Gary and Teresa and I got to

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Speaker 1: do the color commentary with Jesse Palmer.

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Speaker 3: Best event of my life so much.

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Speaker 4: You have to hang out with Jesse because that's my

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Speaker 4: That's like my big I love him.

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Speaker 1: Can I tell you I love that guy? He's uh

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Speaker 1: my son just real quickly. My son turned forty uh

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Speaker 1: this year, and for two years my son has been

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Speaker 1: asking me to have Jesse sign an autograph for him.

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Speaker 1: And so my son played college lacrosse, so I had

919
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Speaker 1: this lacrossball and he's got you're not old enough, but

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00:41:00,320 --> 00:41:03,560
Speaker 1: he has Craig Bigio second basement for the Houston Astros

921
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Speaker 1: and Clyde Drexler who played for the Houston Rockets and

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Speaker 1: now he has Jesse Palmer's signature on that and crossball.

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Speaker 1: So that guy, yeah, that guy is golden in my book.

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Speaker 2: You absolutely are the best. Thank you so much for

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Speaker 2: joining us today. We had some fun with him, and

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Speaker 2: ladies and gentlemen out there listening. You have to look

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Speaker 2: at this man. He's so beautiful. Okay, Susan, get over

928
00:41:28,680 --> 00:41:31,760
Speaker 2: inside and out. Yeah, your taking you're taking weekly occurrence.

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Speaker 4: Let's make us a week.

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Speaker 1: I appreciate that. Listen. If you enjoyed this episode with Clayton,

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Speaker 1: you need to check out our episodes because we have

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Speaker 1: them coming out every week. Lots of new guests coming

933
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Speaker 1: up you won't want to miss.

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Speaker 2: And make sure to submit those questions because just like

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Speaker 2: Clayton did, we gave some advice somebody else, we will

936
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Speaker 2: tell what we think you know how to do it.

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Speaker 2: Go to Bachelor Nation dot com, slash Golden Hour, or

938
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Speaker 2: dm us on Instagram at Bachelor Happy Hour.

939
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Speaker 1: Listen to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour on the iHeart

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00:42:04,200 --> 00:42:07,719
Speaker 1: Radio app or wherever you listen to podcasts. Until next time,

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Speaker 1: have a great week.

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Speaker 3: Yeah,