WEBVTT - Secrets: Confess or Conceal? | Golden Hour 

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks for

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely can Okay, So time to get into the episode, Kathy.

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<v Speaker 2>We've got to start with this week's episode of Paradise,

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<v Speaker 2>the Treasure Chest Challenge. Do tell I mean?

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<v Speaker 1>So here was the thing. We had to decide who

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<v Speaker 1>was going to be the hunter and who was going

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<v Speaker 1>to be trapped in the and you trapped in the chest.

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<v Speaker 1>And you know, Susan, I have claustrophobia. I don't like

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<v Speaker 1>it how and not to mention being locked in the

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<v Speaker 1>chest when it's one hundred and eight degrees.

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<v Speaker 2>I would have never gotten in never.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, let me just say I wanted Keith to change

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<v Speaker 1>his will and he wasn't willing, but he did. Keith

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<v Speaker 1>is more claustrophobic than I am, so I agreed to

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<v Speaker 1>do it. And you did see I had a little

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<v Speaker 1>alcohol help in there.

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<v Speaker 2>So that's soll well sneaky, a little something. I said, Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>that's why she's there. But you said, why send a

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<v Speaker 2>man to do a woman's job? Kathy, I think you

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<v Speaker 2>got would have actually won had you been out there.

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<v Speaker 2>He wasn't. First of all, walkie talkie sucked and he

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<v Speaker 2>was I'm just watching him.

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<v Speaker 1>He was struggling and I I love Keith. The truth

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<v Speaker 1>is and I said it on the show. You have

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<v Speaker 1>to be a good you have to enunciate and speak slowly,

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<v Speaker 1>and I did. It was so hot in there, I

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<v Speaker 1>cannot tell you.

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<v Speaker 2>He couldn't hear you. I mean he was going I

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<v Speaker 2>was like, oh my god, Oh my god, You're not

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<v Speaker 2>going to make it.

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<v Speaker 1>I know. And when I watched it back and saw

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<v Speaker 1>Jess and Spencer, it was like, oh, well, where's the key?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh put the key in? Okay, next job. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>it was ridiculous.

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<v Speaker 2>Johonathan speaks up right when you're about to start the

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<v Speaker 2>challenge and he said, I have to pee. I'm like, what,

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<v Speaker 2>You're never gonna make it.

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<v Speaker 1>You're never could. It was a really fun challenge, but

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<v Speaker 1>I will tell you it was at least for Keith

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<v Speaker 1>and me. It was a tough challenge. But again, all

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<v Speaker 1>the challenges were so much fun. Yes, okay, So.

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<v Speaker 2>Whisha and Sean did really well.

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<v Speaker 1>They did good.

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<v Speaker 2>Of course Jess and her Man. I just love those two.

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<v Speaker 2>How about their yoga day and they're so in love.

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<v Speaker 1>So here's the thing, Alicia, I thought they did really well.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, it was fun. It was a fun activity.

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<v Speaker 1>I never thought for a minute that I was going

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<v Speaker 1>to be buried alive. You know. I had to get

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<v Speaker 1>back to you.

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<v Speaker 2>How about when Leah was crying, Like, when I see

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<v Speaker 2>Jonathan again, I'm going to teach him. You hold the

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<v Speaker 2>girl that's crying. He was so cold I think that's

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<v Speaker 2>why you don't have a girlfriend.

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<v Speaker 1>No, no, no, I'm gonna I love Leah and Jonathan,

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<v Speaker 1>but I have to defend Jonathan here. Okay, he did

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<v Speaker 1>not in my opinion, he did not want to send

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<v Speaker 1>out the wrong message.

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<v Speaker 2>She was crying, and when a woman cries, you hold her.

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<v Speaker 1>Her. But well he did that rose ceremony. But that's

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<v Speaker 1>another story. I just think that he they have a friendship,

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<v Speaker 1>and I just think he felt weird about it, But

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<v Speaker 1>you do.

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<v Speaker 2>I think he was uncomfortable and he should have just

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<v Speaker 2>held her and said, it's okay, babe, it's okay.

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<v Speaker 1>Look out, Susan's coming for you. I'm going to teach

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<v Speaker 1>you something.

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<v Speaker 2>Jonathan, Kathy, when Sean told you to just I thought

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<v Speaker 2>he was going to say, zip it. I would have

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<v Speaker 2>lost my mind.

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<v Speaker 1>He's like, got it. I mean he's entitled. He's entitled.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, let's talk about politician Shaan, Like what was done.

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<v Speaker 1>About the Parliament of Paradise? I know, Wait, what can

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<v Speaker 1>I have some cred here? Did you notice your girl

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<v Speaker 1>was not in the middle of this drama? I mean, honestly,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm watching this going I'm going oh no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>stay away. Stay away, but I thought where you were

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<v Speaker 1>going I could I didn't understand on the show, and

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't understand it watching it back. The guy was

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<v Speaker 1>politicking like crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>He should run, he should run for.

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<v Speaker 1>His father is a politician. So I'm watching this going

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<v Speaker 1>on and I'm like, I'm like, are you kidding me?

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<v Speaker 1>But here's the thing I have to say. When did

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<v Speaker 1>you hear me say two things? Because Kathy is honest.

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<v Speaker 1>When I said that Brian and Parison needed to leave,

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<v Speaker 1>I really thought Keith and I were going home. I

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<v Speaker 1>really did. That's why I wore the beautiful white dress.

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<v Speaker 1>I said. I bought that in case I got engaged. Right,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not getting engaged. I'm going home to wear the

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<v Speaker 1>white dress. But here's the thing. Parisa was so unhappy,

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<v Speaker 1>like you know, you remember when she goes to his

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<v Speaker 1>room in a prior episode and she was so worried

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<v Speaker 1>about the relationship and then so you know, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>think they were struggling, and I wanted them to go

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<v Speaker 1>home and find see if they had love at home

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<v Speaker 1>without about us.

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<v Speaker 2>Alicia talking with the girls, and she really had her

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<v Speaker 2>feelings hurt and she opened up. I think that was

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<v Speaker 2>the wisest thing she could have done, and she could

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<v Speaker 2>feel better afterwards, right yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>And then and then the other thing that I said,

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<v Speaker 1>I you know, when Sean came to talk to Keith

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<v Speaker 1>and me and he said, well, we have one of

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<v Speaker 1>the strongest relationship with me. I looked him right now,

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<v Speaker 1>I said, no, you don't. We'll wait.

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<v Speaker 2>Sean and Cat whoa cat showed me a different side

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<v Speaker 2>of Cat this week. I help me say, tell me,

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<v Speaker 2>First of all, I thought they were friends prior to

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<v Speaker 2>as well. She didn't act like she gave two hoots

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<v Speaker 2>about his friendship, let me tell you.

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<v Speaker 1>And I didn't think it was good at all.

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<v Speaker 2>And because the money's involved, it's a whole new game.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, So let me just say my feelings on that. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>I have said from the beginning when they introduced the

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<v Speaker 1>money factor, I said, oh boy, here we go. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>love for money, which one's gonna win out? And my

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<v Speaker 1>my thought on this episode, if I had to, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>if I had to give the summation, it would be

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<v Speaker 1>it's it's starting to get real, it's and so some

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<v Speaker 1>people are there for love, and like Jonathan and Land.

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<v Speaker 1>Jonathan comes right out and says it. He's there for

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<v Speaker 1>the money, Keith and I had said on and it

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<v Speaker 1>was shown. I think last week we're not taking money

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<v Speaker 1>out of kid's hands. But you've got this thing now

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<v Speaker 1>where the people who are in love? I mean, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>sure you heard it when Jess and Spencer told each

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<v Speaker 1>other they're falling in love and Jess says, whoaa he's

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<v Speaker 1>and Spencer says, oh, it's about you know, there's a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of money involved. And what does Jess say? Whoa

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<v Speaker 1>whoa whoa. We came here to find love, and that

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<v Speaker 1>to me, sunded up the whole episode. You can have

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<v Speaker 1>love and you can have my but if you don't

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<v Speaker 1>have love with the money, you're in trouble.

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<v Speaker 2>And it just said this would be a great start

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<v Speaker 2>for our future with the money, but if they don't,

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<v Speaker 2>they were fine. Now let's get down to the Rose ceremony.

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<v Speaker 2>First of all, Dale farting. I lost it.

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<v Speaker 1>Listen. I love Dale. He can do anything he wants

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm still going to support him, don't care love.

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<v Speaker 2>Him, and I was quite surprised. More so, not only

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<v Speaker 2>did Alicia and Sean they left on their own, but

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<v Speaker 2>the girl's reaction.

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<v Speaker 1>I have to interrupt, Okay, you did. I don't think

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<v Speaker 1>people picked up on this after they left with integrity

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<v Speaker 1>and we can talk about that. Did they really Jesse

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<v Speaker 1>Palmer says, well, they were going home anyway. Yes, they

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<v Speaker 1>were voted off. They dits. We all okay, well no,

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<v Speaker 1>some other people said to me, do you think a

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<v Speaker 1>third couple would have gone? It's like, no, they were

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<v Speaker 1>the couple.

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<v Speaker 2>Go we're going home. But they did that before they

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<v Speaker 2>knew that.

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<v Speaker 1>They didn't know. The feeling I got was we know

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<v Speaker 1>we're going home, so we're gonna get out of here first.

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<v Speaker 1>But when Sean, when when Alicia says, let's leave with it,

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<v Speaker 1>we're you know, we're leaving with integrity, and then he

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<v Speaker 1>pops off. Sean pops off and says, don't call me

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<v Speaker 1>when this one goes sideways.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't have to be cocky.

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<v Speaker 1>Well that's not right.

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<v Speaker 2>And person and Bresa and Brian they left with no ruse,

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<v Speaker 2>and then they showed the previews for next week. I

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<v Speaker 2>was dying. First of all. When Keith starts, I was like, what,

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<v Speaker 2>you're homesick, you want to go home. You're there for

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<v Speaker 2>a reason. Now it's a game. Now, okay, it's not

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<v Speaker 2>about love. You know, you have a friendship, and to

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<v Speaker 2>be perfectly honest with you, because you guys had such

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<v Speaker 2>a great friendship, I would have I assume he went

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<v Speaker 2>out last week as.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, present tenth we have a great friendship.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, well sorry, you have a good friendship. But I

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<v Speaker 2>would have thought because of that, yous weren't a real

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<v Speaker 2>threat to them. Get it, but you guys are very smart.

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<v Speaker 2>They don't know if you're going to try to steal

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<v Speaker 2>the money or not. I assume that they would have

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<v Speaker 2>let you go instead. The Brian and the Parisa like

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<v Speaker 2>that was coming for a while, Well, that's it, Susan.

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<v Speaker 1>I think they had all the fun with Brian telling

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<v Speaker 1>Bailey that whole thing, right, I think that was I

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<v Speaker 1>think Brian was going.

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<v Speaker 2>How about just saying, oh my gosh when he said

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<v Speaker 2>something about their future and she goes, I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>that I'm going to be ready to move right in

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<v Speaker 2>with you, and she went the whole.

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<v Speaker 1>Night, she was so in love.

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<v Speaker 2>They were falling in lego. What did you tell say.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait a minute, Wait a minute, remember it's a show,

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<v Speaker 1>and it's it's a truncated version. You know you don't

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<v Speaker 1>have months here to fall in love. So they say,

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<v Speaker 1>they're saying they're falling in love. Are you going to

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<v Speaker 1>move in with a guy you've known for whatever, a month,

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<v Speaker 1>six weeks. I don't think so.

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<v Speaker 2>No, no, So I think it was just going. I

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<v Speaker 2>respect you, that's all it is, Kathy, I do.

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<v Speaker 1>I hope that's all. Yeah. I'm just saying that's a

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<v Speaker 1>lot of pressure as a mom or moths. Would you

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<v Speaker 1>want your daughter to move in with the guys she

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<v Speaker 1>met six weeks ago? I don't think so.

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<v Speaker 2>No, No, of course not. But no, I don't think

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<v Speaker 2>you're talking about the future. They're saying they've fallen in

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<v Speaker 2>love with each other. I think they are the sweetest

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<v Speaker 2>couple on the whole show.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry, excuse me.

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<v Speaker 2>You're not a couple.

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<v Speaker 1>We're a friend couple.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, but that's not a couple. You're friends and good friends.

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<v Speaker 2>But the show, to me, is about falling in love

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<v Speaker 2>right finding your partner.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry. This show is about finding love and maybe

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<v Speaker 1>finding five hundred thousands.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, twist in there, didn't they so I'd be really

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<v Speaker 2>interesting to see next week.

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<v Speaker 1>I think, well, you saw it next week. They hinted

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<v Speaker 1>they gave a teaser about camping.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes, I boy, I can't wait.

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<v Speaker 1>You know my.

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<v Speaker 2>Idea camping, Kathy is no phone in the room.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm just going to tell you I love to camp.

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<v Speaker 1>I love I love tent camping. And I think people

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<v Speaker 1>would be surprised to hear that. Now you saw the

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<v Speaker 1>previous I'm camping in a very expensive silk dress.

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<v Speaker 2>But still, whit's the last time you camped.

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<v Speaker 1>Caitlin, my daughter, her husband and I camped right before.

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<v Speaker 1>It's been like two years. Because sleeping bags I have, Susan,

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<v Speaker 1>I have a tent. I have a sleeping bag. I

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<v Speaker 1>have a pad for the sleeping bag. I have cooking utensils.

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<v Speaker 2>I love it.

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<v Speaker 1>I bug spray, I love it. I'm telling you it's

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<v Speaker 1>like when I come home I need to delouse myself. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>but I love camping.

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<v Speaker 2>You're not afraid. I just creatures out there.

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<v Speaker 1>You don't like it.

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<v Speaker 2>I told you my idea of camping is no phone

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<v Speaker 2>in the room.

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<v Speaker 1>You mean the hotel room.

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<v Speaker 2>In the room, period of time you want to put me.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait, I thought when you said that, I heard tent.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm thinking, all right, you can leave your phone outside

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<v Speaker 1>the tent. There is nothing as great as unzipping your

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<v Speaker 1>tent and looking up at the sky and the.

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<v Speaker 2>Stars, walk out the cabin door in the morning and

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<v Speaker 2>look at that same sky and be perfectly happy and

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<v Speaker 2>poop on a toilet cut out in the woods.

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<v Speaker 1>Business Why you and I love each other like people

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<v Speaker 1>would not think. They probably would think you would camp

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<v Speaker 1>and not me. It's exactly the opposite vaccination, exactly.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, this was really good. Now I think we're

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<v Speaker 2>going to have to get into our advice portion of

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<v Speaker 2>this episode. I'll start us off.

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<v Speaker 1>With the question of the day.

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<v Speaker 2>When you've done something wrong, how can you decipher whether

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<v Speaker 2>coming clean is best for the person you hurt versus

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<v Speaker 2>just trying to clear your own conscious?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh oh, I have the answer for crazy. Yeah, well

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<v Speaker 1>we may disagree on this. Actually, for me, if I've

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<v Speaker 1>done something wrong and I think that apologize and first

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<v Speaker 1>of all is always right. But if I come clean

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<v Speaker 1>and it's going to further hurt you, I'm not coming clean.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna come I'm going.

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<v Speaker 2>As best for the person that you hurt versus.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm I'm always that's right, I said, I'm always going

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<v Speaker 1>to come clean and apologize unless it's right, it's selective

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<v Speaker 1>coming clean if it's best for the person. I'm not

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<v Speaker 1>there to decide what is best for you. So if

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like coming clean is going to further hurt you,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not coming clean. I'm not even but with clear

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<v Speaker 1>my conscience. Well I cud, I said what I had

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<v Speaker 1>to say. I feel better now, uh uh huh huh,

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<v Speaker 1>not me? What about you?

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<v Speaker 2>I would definitely when I admit when I do something wrong,

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<v Speaker 2>when people, if somebody tells me, I.

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<v Speaker 1>Why I do too?

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<v Speaker 2>But what if telling me but it's already said? You

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<v Speaker 2>can't take back what you've said?

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<v Speaker 1>Right? No, but if if if you did something, said

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<v Speaker 1>something to me, and you've done something wrong and now

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<v Speaker 1>now and maybe not to me, maybe you've done something

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<v Speaker 1>wrong and you said some about my family or something,

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<v Speaker 1>and you and in clearing your conscience and in apologizing,

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<v Speaker 1>you dig the hole deeper. Have you ever heard of

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<v Speaker 1>that happening? Like stop quit while you're ahead, Like I

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<v Speaker 1>get it, you're sorry, but now you're making it worse.

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<v Speaker 2>My conscience always feels better when I admit my fault.

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<v Speaker 2>And if I've hurt anybody, I'm sincerely sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>Yes, so am I. But if clearing your conscience makes

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<v Speaker 1>the other person feel worse, like you have to give

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<v Speaker 1>them more information, like, oh my god, Susan, I'm glad

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<v Speaker 1>you feel better now that you've apologized. Now you've also

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<v Speaker 1>just told now you've made me feel worse.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't feel better that I apologized. I feel better

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<v Speaker 2>whether it's accepted and things go back to normal, but

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<v Speaker 2>I would feel bad the entire time. I don't understand

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<v Speaker 2>how whether the question reads when you've done something wrong.

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<v Speaker 2>Can you decipher whether coming clean is best for the

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<v Speaker 2>person you've hurt or just to clear you. You seem

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<v Speaker 2>with always best, the truth will always set you free,

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<v Speaker 2>even if people are upset.

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<v Speaker 1>With We're going to handle that one in Stone. I

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<v Speaker 1>guess what I'm saying is sometimes when you're not you,

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<v Speaker 1>but when one is apologizing and they have to give

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<v Speaker 1>more context to understand. You know, I'm sorry, Susan, but

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<v Speaker 1>here's what was going on. I'm making it up. You're

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<v Speaker 1>going to laugh like I'm sorry I did that, but

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<v Speaker 1>I was sleeping with Frederic at the time, And you

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<v Speaker 1>know what I'm saying, It's like, sometimes you can add

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<v Speaker 1>insult to the injury. So I think sometimes it's a

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<v Speaker 1>simple apology sometimes is better, and it's always You're exactly right,

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<v Speaker 1>it's always better to be honest. But I think sometimes

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<v Speaker 1>you don't need to add. Yeah, all the information could

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<v Speaker 1>agree on that. Okay, how about this. Let me give

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<v Speaker 1>you an example to help you understand where I'm coming from.

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<v Speaker 1>Ok what if someone cheated on someone ten years ago?

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<v Speaker 1>They did it one time and then and now you know,

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<v Speaker 1>they told their partner, Like, is that worth hurting them

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<v Speaker 1>to say that they cheated? You should go to your greed? Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>but you just said the truth is I was the

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<v Speaker 1>best truth? Will say your break I've done.

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<v Speaker 2>But in a situation like you're saying, ten years ago,

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<v Speaker 2>he cheated and you cheated.

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<v Speaker 1>You cheated on your partner. Ten years later, you decide

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<v Speaker 1>to come clean and tell your partner, would it be

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<v Speaker 1>worth hurting them? No? Oh, but the truth set you're afraid.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what I'm saying. Sometimes the context makes it worse,

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<v Speaker 1>so you don't always come but it might make you

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<v Speaker 1>feel better. Your own conscience might feel better.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh it's your own guilt. Yes, yes, yes, it wouldn't

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<v Speaker 2>benefit that, So.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what I'm saying. So sometimes it's better to keep

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<v Speaker 1>your mouth, not your you know what I'm saying. Yes, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I agree. However, if I'm cheating on someone, it's not

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be once in ten years. You're not going to

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<v Speaker 1>cheat you right off, let's start those fan quests. Let's

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<v Speaker 1>we're going to get into these fan of questions. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>going to start us off at the first one. This

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<v Speaker 1>one is from anonymous. Hi, ladies, I'm in a tough

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<v Speaker 1>spot and could really use some help. This past weekend,

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<v Speaker 1>I went out with my friends to a club. The

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<v Speaker 1>next morning, one of the girls sat me down and

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<v Speaker 1>told me I made out with a guy towards the

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<v Speaker 1>end of the night and gave him my phone number.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm currently in a four month relationship and I'm panicking.

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<v Speaker 1>Do I tell him and apologize? My group is split.

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<v Speaker 1>Half think I should, the other half think it'll do

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<v Speaker 1>more harm than good.

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<v Speaker 2>What do I do? Thanks, ladies? First of all, she

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<v Speaker 2>don't remember how you.

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<v Speaker 1>First of all, are you well where I was called?

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<v Speaker 1>First of all, she doesn't remember because I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>go with she was drunk, And what do I always say?

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<v Speaker 1>Being drunk is never an excuse for bad behavior. So girlfriend, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>drank too much? Now you got a problem.

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<v Speaker 2>See now, it's too many people know, because if you

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<v Speaker 2>decide to keep your mouth shut, then somebody else might

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<v Speaker 2>tell him. I would try would you do that? I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know. Maybe just say, babe, I got so drunk.

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<v Speaker 2>I think I kissed somebody. Oh my god, I'm so sorry. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>first of all, a fourth she doesn't remember doing it.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, Well, and like I said, drinking is not

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<v Speaker 1>an excuse for bad behavior. But what would you do?

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<v Speaker 1>What would you do? I know what I would do.

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<v Speaker 1>You would zip it? I wouldn't. I wouldn't.

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<v Speaker 2>I wouldn't I tell him the truth? Yeah, like I said, no.

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<v Speaker 1>You just said zip it? Which is it? You can't

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<v Speaker 1>tell him?

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<v Speaker 2>But if I didn't remember doing it, I'd have to

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<v Speaker 2>tell him. My friends told me I kissed somebody last night,

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<v Speaker 2>and I don't remember doing it.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, listen, whether there are two or more in

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<v Speaker 1>his name, there's gossip, so he's going to find out.

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<v Speaker 1>So you might as well come clean. But I would

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<v Speaker 1>come clean because that's who I am. And I would

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<v Speaker 1>say I remember doing it. I would say John, I

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<v Speaker 1>am so sorry my future guys. John, Is there John

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<v Speaker 1>out there who wants me? I would say, John, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>so sorry, here's the deal.

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<v Speaker 2>This is what happened.

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<v Speaker 1>I got drunk and there's no excuse for that. I

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<v Speaker 1>got drunk and I didn't know. Told this morning when

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<v Speaker 1>Susan told me that I made out with a guy,

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<v Speaker 1>it's bad favor. And you know what, John, I think

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<v Speaker 1>I need to stop drinking because I have no memory

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<v Speaker 1>of it. I want to go forward with you. I

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<v Speaker 1>hope you will forgive me. And if he says I'm

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<v Speaker 1>out of here, you know what you learned really quickly.

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<v Speaker 1>There you go.

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<v Speaker 2>I wouldn't drink anymore. I've never been black out drunk.

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<v Speaker 1>Have you wait? Have I ever been black eyed drunk?

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe once you didn't remember anything? No, but I mean

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<v Speaker 1>I don't remember, so maybe you know. I don't drink

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<v Speaker 1>to the point of getting drunk because I subscribe. I

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<v Speaker 1>take my own advice. You get drunk. There is no excuse.

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<v Speaker 1>You cannot say. I cannot say to you, Susan, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>so sorry. I got really drunk. What did I h

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<v Speaker 1>That's not an excuse. So I don't know if I've

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<v Speaker 1>been black eyed drunk. I don't think so. A lot

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<v Speaker 1>of people use it. Yeah, well stop using it. That's

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<v Speaker 1>my advice.

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<v Speaker 2>We got a second question, Susan, I need to know

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<v Speaker 2>if you think I'm overreacting. I just found out that

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<v Speaker 2>my boyfriend of three years completely lied to me about

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<v Speaker 2>how we met. Oh boy, and I feel so weird. Basically,

0:23:00.760 --> 0:23:03.919
<v Speaker 2>his best friend slipped up while we were at this

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<v Speaker 2>weekend and said, I'm so glad you two are together.

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<v Speaker 2>Seeing him be so into you for so long and

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<v Speaker 2>not go for it for over a year was agonizing, like,

0:23:16.760 --> 0:23:19.520
<v Speaker 2>look at what he would have missed out on. I

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<v Speaker 2>was confused because when my boyfriend and I met, we

0:23:22.520 --> 0:23:26.040
<v Speaker 2>struck up conversation in the library at our college, and

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<v Speaker 2>I have always believed he met me or knew of

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<v Speaker 2>me for the first time. That day, after pressing his

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<v Speaker 2>best friend for more details, he told me that he

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<v Speaker 2>met me at a party freshman year and was crushing

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<v Speaker 2>on me from Afar for an entire year before we met.

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<v Speaker 2>His best friend apologized profusely and said he assumed I

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<v Speaker 2>knew that was the deal. Now I feel really icky

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<v Speaker 2>that he lied and was crushing on me from Afar.

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. It makes me feel weird and I

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<v Speaker 2>haven't mentioned it to my boyfriend yet. Any ideas and

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<v Speaker 2>what to do next? Thanks? Lady, Yes that I have

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<v Speaker 2>an idea. Stop that is like a compliment, you idiot.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I'm thinking. I'm reading this going this

0:24:13.920 --> 0:24:16.840
<v Speaker 1>girl is under the age of twenty five. I'm like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>the blankety blank over it?

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<v Speaker 2>Whois like me for that long?

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<v Speaker 1>And you finally asked me where can I find a guy?

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<v Speaker 2>God? I mean seriously, this is youth at its best.

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<v Speaker 2>All right here, you obviously listen to our podcast. Listen

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<v Speaker 2>to me now, thank the guy the best friend for

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<v Speaker 2>telling you that, and your heart should just be panning

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<v Speaker 2>right now. Who cares?

0:24:44.680 --> 0:24:47.000
<v Speaker 1>Wait, I'm sorry, I'm going to a whole different level

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<v Speaker 1>where if he told you I didn't care. You're with

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<v Speaker 1>the guy for three years, you're happy? What is wrong

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<v Speaker 1>with you? What is wrong with youth of today? I'm

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<v Speaker 1>sorry for thinking.

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<v Speaker 2>It's not thinking at all. That's a problem, sweetheart. It's

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<v Speaker 2>a blessing. It's a blessing. Just think about it. He

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<v Speaker 2>has been admiring you for a year and he didn't

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<v Speaker 2>have the courage to come up to you for a

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<v Speaker 2>whole year.

0:25:10.960 --> 0:25:15.119
<v Speaker 1>Blessing, and you're thinking it's weird. What is weird about that? She?

0:25:15.240 --> 0:25:16.800
<v Speaker 1>You know what this girl probably thinks it's weird of

0:25:17.119 --> 0:25:19.960
<v Speaker 1>if he sends her flowers. Honey, whoever you are, you

0:25:20.040 --> 0:25:23.760
<v Speaker 1>need to get over this. You met him makes her

0:25:25.200 --> 0:25:26.080
<v Speaker 1>get over it.

0:25:27.840 --> 0:25:30.080
<v Speaker 2>That is a compliment above all.

0:25:31.160 --> 0:25:33.800
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I've seen him into you for so wait

0:25:34.760 --> 0:25:39.320
<v Speaker 1>and agonizing. I was confused because when my boyfriend I met,

0:25:39.320 --> 0:25:43.480
<v Speaker 1>we struck up a car. You know what was incredible?

0:25:44.359 --> 0:25:49.440
<v Speaker 1>He in a backup, sweetheart, not you, sweetheart, sweetheart Anonymous.

0:25:49.920 --> 0:25:53.439
<v Speaker 1>I am so sorry that you met this guy in

0:25:53.480 --> 0:25:59.119
<v Speaker 1>the library at college, had this great conversation. You were

0:25:59.119 --> 0:26:04.600
<v Speaker 1>attracted to each other. You met that day, stars in

0:26:04.720 --> 0:26:08.800
<v Speaker 1>the sky. It was like love at first sight. Sucks

0:26:08.840 --> 0:26:10.360
<v Speaker 1>to be you get.

0:26:10.200 --> 0:26:13.800
<v Speaker 2>What if that's your biggest problem? You are blessed, young lady.

0:26:14.880 --> 0:26:17.680
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I'm sorry that may be out't know where

0:26:17.680 --> 0:26:20.480
<v Speaker 1>it came from. This is the strangest question we have

0:26:20.640 --> 0:26:23.600
<v Speaker 1>ever had. I love you, and I'm so glad that

0:26:23.760 --> 0:26:25.760
<v Speaker 1>you are in love with this guy and have a

0:26:25.760 --> 0:26:27.119
<v Speaker 1>boyfriend of three years.

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<v Speaker 2>Don't worry how you met brace him for this, embrace.

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<v Speaker 1>Think how lucky you are, Kathy.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean, we both feel the same way. But what

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<v Speaker 2>if what if he studied her in a way and

0:26:41.840 --> 0:26:45.119
<v Speaker 2>he knew things about her, and he was trying to

0:26:45.280 --> 0:26:47.400
<v Speaker 2>impress her, but he already knew.

0:26:47.400 --> 0:26:49.760
<v Speaker 1>It was almost like a stalk kind of Okay, now

0:26:49.800 --> 0:26:54.960
<v Speaker 1>you've just gone from Anonymous enjoy it to creep. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>with you, Anonymous.

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<v Speaker 2>If that's the case, that's weird. That And again here

0:26:59.520 --> 0:27:02.280
<v Speaker 2>I am and this positive thinker. I would think, Oh,

0:27:02.280 --> 0:27:04.119
<v Speaker 2>how sweet he wanted to get to know what I

0:27:04.280 --> 0:27:05.400
<v Speaker 2>like so he could Yeah.

0:27:05.440 --> 0:27:09.480
<v Speaker 1>But no, no, no, no, no, whoa no. If I'm

0:27:09.480 --> 0:27:14.639
<v Speaker 1>going down to your example, if in fact he knew

0:27:15.200 --> 0:27:18.760
<v Speaker 1>her favorite flowers and he knew where she went to

0:27:18.800 --> 0:27:22.000
<v Speaker 1>a bar, and so all of a sudden he's showing up,

0:27:22.480 --> 0:27:25.000
<v Speaker 1>you know, she starts thinking back on the last I

0:27:25.040 --> 0:27:28.800
<v Speaker 1>saw or whatever this one. Yeah, now it's stalker ish.

0:27:28.920 --> 0:27:31.879
<v Speaker 1>Now it's weird. Now I don't like it. So Anonymous,

0:27:31.920 --> 0:27:35.600
<v Speaker 1>if that's the case, I apologize. Maybe it's weird. I

0:27:35.640 --> 0:27:39.400
<v Speaker 1>think what you have to do, Anonymous, is reevaluate how

0:27:39.440 --> 0:27:43.359
<v Speaker 1>he's treated you, are the things he knew or is

0:27:43.400 --> 0:27:46.880
<v Speaker 1>it just it wasn't the happenstance meeting that you thought

0:27:46.880 --> 0:27:48.320
<v Speaker 1>it was. The Other thing I will say is if

0:27:48.320 --> 0:27:51.359
<v Speaker 1>you met him in freshman year and you don't remember it,

0:27:51.920 --> 0:27:54.040
<v Speaker 1>you clearly have too many guys chasing after you, so

0:27:54.080 --> 0:27:55.160
<v Speaker 1>you might think about that.

0:27:56.480 --> 0:27:58.399
<v Speaker 2>I still think it was a compliment. But if it

0:27:58.480 --> 0:27:59.680
<v Speaker 2>were the other case.

0:27:59.840 --> 0:28:00.720
<v Speaker 1>I can understand that.

0:28:00.760 --> 0:28:04.920
<v Speaker 2>But then so she you know, obviously cluing something.

0:28:05.200 --> 0:28:08.920
<v Speaker 1>Get over it. Three years. I'm sorry, it's three years.

0:28:09.440 --> 0:28:13.159
<v Speaker 2>Something's working. Don't let look at a gift horse in

0:28:13.200 --> 0:28:13.600
<v Speaker 2>the map.

0:28:13.680 --> 0:28:17.960
<v Speaker 1>Okay, all right, you know what if he if he's

0:28:18.000 --> 0:28:20.919
<v Speaker 1>sending you flowers and and he's you know, he watched

0:28:20.920 --> 0:28:23.080
<v Speaker 1>you shop for flowers and you bunch of the same

0:28:23.119 --> 0:28:27.680
<v Speaker 1>ones ten times, say thank you, Oh thanks for writing

0:28:27.720 --> 0:28:29.000
<v Speaker 1>in that. We enjoyed that one.

0:28:29.119 --> 0:28:34.680
<v Speaker 2>Alrighty Kat. Today we're gonna play never.

0:28:37.320 --> 0:28:39.800
<v Speaker 1>Since his favorite, Never My Ever.

0:28:40.040 --> 0:28:42.160
<v Speaker 2>Kathy and I are going to switch off saying things

0:28:42.200 --> 0:28:45.280
<v Speaker 2>we've never done. I think I'm finally getting this game.

0:28:45.320 --> 0:28:49.240
<v Speaker 2>I swear if the other person has done it, they

0:28:49.600 --> 0:28:54.600
<v Speaker 2>put a finger down or drink wine. Right, the first

0:28:54.640 --> 0:28:57.200
<v Speaker 2>person with five fingers loses.

0:28:57.680 --> 0:28:58.560
<v Speaker 1>I'll start us off.

0:28:58.720 --> 0:28:59.920
<v Speaker 2>Oh this is different.

0:29:00.040 --> 0:29:02.800
<v Speaker 1>Okay, I'm just drinking, Susan, you put your fingers down.

0:29:02.800 --> 0:29:05.400
<v Speaker 1>I'm just going to be drinking. It's easier, all right,

0:29:05.440 --> 0:29:07.160
<v Speaker 1>go ahead, start all right.

0:29:08.160 --> 0:29:12.760
<v Speaker 2>First thing I've never slipped with my boss to get ahead.

0:29:15.440 --> 0:29:20.320
<v Speaker 1>I'm not drinking. I have never so no or lied

0:29:20.440 --> 0:29:24.440
<v Speaker 1>to get ahead. No, we're not. Okay, we're gonna be

0:29:24.480 --> 0:29:26.160
<v Speaker 1>boring at this cat. We're gonna be boring. It's all

0:29:26.200 --> 0:29:29.560
<v Speaker 1>get up, all right, here's my first one. Never have

0:29:29.680 --> 0:29:34.160
<v Speaker 1>I ever dated a man that one of my friends

0:29:34.280 --> 0:29:35.120
<v Speaker 1>dated first?

0:29:35.840 --> 0:29:37.000
<v Speaker 2>Oh, I had that one too.

0:29:37.760 --> 0:29:38.400
<v Speaker 1>Have you done that?

0:29:39.320 --> 0:29:39.400
<v Speaker 3>No?

0:29:39.640 --> 0:29:43.400
<v Speaker 1>Have you done it? Hell Susan, we gotta get some drinking.

0:29:44.960 --> 0:29:45.440
<v Speaker 1>Your turn.

0:29:46.160 --> 0:29:49.200
<v Speaker 2>Never have I ever been on Dancing with the Stars,

0:29:49.200 --> 0:29:50.640
<v Speaker 2>but I hope it happens this year.

0:29:51.400 --> 0:29:53.479
<v Speaker 1>We can't drink to that one either, because you haven't.

0:29:54.120 --> 0:29:54.440
<v Speaker 1>All right.

0:29:55.760 --> 0:30:01.600
<v Speaker 2>Never have I ever disrespected and older or in Catholic

0:30:01.600 --> 0:30:02.960
<v Speaker 2>school and none or a priest.

0:30:03.080 --> 0:30:07.520
<v Speaker 4>I was scared to death. I've never disrespected well. First

0:30:07.560 --> 0:30:10.480
<v Speaker 4>of all, I never went to Catholic school. So I'm

0:30:10.480 --> 0:30:13.800
<v Speaker 4>just gonna have a drink because you know, cheers to confession.

0:30:14.240 --> 0:30:19.880
<v Speaker 1>I'm drinking. Didn't go to Catholic school. Okay, I can't

0:30:19.920 --> 0:30:22.560
<v Speaker 1>say this one because I did. It's my turn, it's

0:30:22.600 --> 0:30:26.040
<v Speaker 1>my drink. You can't do the ball. Never have I

0:30:26.120 --> 0:30:32.080
<v Speaker 1>ever sent to a spicy selfie? Don't license and drink up?

0:30:32.320 --> 0:30:39.080
<v Speaker 1>Uh huh. There she is drinking up. I have. Why

0:30:39.080 --> 0:30:45.160
<v Speaker 1>am I not surprised with your boyfriend? I mean I haven't.

0:30:45.400 --> 0:30:47.280
<v Speaker 1>I never do with my husband ever.

0:30:47.480 --> 0:30:50.480
<v Speaker 2>Okay, never have I ever?

0:30:51.200 --> 0:30:56.720
<v Speaker 1>Oh yes I have. Okay, I'll give an easy one.

0:30:57.840 --> 0:31:02.560
<v Speaker 1>Never have I ever stolen anything from a store.

0:31:05.080 --> 0:31:08.080
<v Speaker 2>I stole pack sears when I was fourteen years old.

0:31:08.160 --> 0:31:12.360
<v Speaker 1>You know what I just remembered. I stole a pack

0:31:12.400 --> 0:31:14.480
<v Speaker 1>of gum once when I was young. Oh god, I

0:31:14.520 --> 0:31:16.840
<v Speaker 1>have to take two SIPs now. I forgot and you

0:31:16.920 --> 0:31:17.560
<v Speaker 1>just said that.

0:31:19.120 --> 0:31:30.040
<v Speaker 2>Okay, I didn't get caught that, Kathy. Never have I

0:31:30.080 --> 0:31:32.240
<v Speaker 2>ever farted and blamed it on someone else.

0:31:32.520 --> 0:31:39.720
<v Speaker 1>You just Susan. You're supposed to be saying one, but

0:31:39.800 --> 0:31:43.520
<v Speaker 1>I never gone. You just want to drink. Here's one

0:31:43.560 --> 0:31:49.240
<v Speaker 1>for you. Never have I ever let a man take

0:31:49.320 --> 0:31:54.720
<v Speaker 1>me shopping and then let him pay the bill? Oh god,

0:31:54.720 --> 0:31:55.840
<v Speaker 1>are you drinking? No?

0:31:55.920 --> 0:31:58.640
<v Speaker 2>But I take men shopping and I pay the bill.

0:31:59.400 --> 0:32:02.560
<v Speaker 2>You no, seriously.

0:32:02.520 --> 0:32:05.000
<v Speaker 1>No, Wait, I want to back up, and then I

0:32:05.000 --> 0:32:07.320
<v Speaker 1>want you to take two SIPs of wine. You have

0:32:07.360 --> 0:32:10.080
<v Speaker 1>taken men shopping and you've paid the bill.

0:32:11.520 --> 0:32:16.000
<v Speaker 2>I've bought stuff for them. Yeah, uh huh, Okay, Colin's

0:32:16.080 --> 0:32:18.360
<v Speaker 2>taking me shopping and paying the bill. They'd be scared.

0:32:20.560 --> 0:32:23.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm just stunned. Why am I not actually stunned? Susan

0:32:24.120 --> 0:32:26.760
<v Speaker 1>likes people to dress a certain way, and apparently Susan's

0:32:26.800 --> 0:32:29.840
<v Speaker 1>now willing to pay the drice she's gonna dress. Oh

0:32:29.880 --> 0:32:31.080
<v Speaker 1>my god. Okay.

0:32:31.760 --> 0:32:34.920
<v Speaker 2>Never have I ever jumped out of an airplane?

0:32:35.160 --> 0:32:38.719
<v Speaker 1>I have not either, but I'd like to. That's how

0:32:38.720 --> 0:32:40.200
<v Speaker 1>I was on my bucket list when I went on

0:32:40.280 --> 0:32:43.400
<v Speaker 1>Golden Bachelor. That was one of things I wanted to do,

0:32:43.480 --> 0:32:46.760
<v Speaker 1>was jump out of the airplane. Yes, bucket, and I

0:32:46.800 --> 0:32:50.320
<v Speaker 1>didn't nor Its solicious for a recap of Golden bats Or.

0:32:50.560 --> 0:32:53.000
<v Speaker 1>Kathy never had a one on one date, she never

0:32:53.080 --> 0:32:55.920
<v Speaker 1>got a gift, and she never jumped out of an airplane. Okay,

0:32:55.960 --> 0:33:02.240
<v Speaker 1>moving on. Never have I ever paid the entire bill

0:33:02.640 --> 0:33:06.000
<v Speaker 1>went on a first date with a guy? Oh god,

0:33:06.040 --> 0:33:09.640
<v Speaker 1>you're drinking again. Go for it, drinking. You have paid

0:33:09.640 --> 0:33:12.400
<v Speaker 1>the entire bill on a first date with a guy,

0:33:12.680 --> 0:33:14.800
<v Speaker 1>A freaking lutely. You know why?

0:33:15.840 --> 0:33:18.600
<v Speaker 2>If I knew I was never going to see them again,

0:33:19.080 --> 0:33:20.120
<v Speaker 2>it helped me not.

0:33:20.080 --> 0:33:23.680
<v Speaker 1>Feel so guilty. So I a bill.

0:33:23.200 --> 0:33:24.640
<v Speaker 2>I paid the whole thing.

0:33:25.240 --> 0:33:27.400
<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, all right, I should.

0:33:27.120 --> 0:33:27.600
<v Speaker 2>Have been a guy.

0:33:27.640 --> 0:33:30.520
<v Speaker 1>I think. I think so, I've got a great guy.

0:33:32.200 --> 0:33:36.360
<v Speaker 2>Can't have you ever text said the text?

0:33:38.120 --> 0:33:40.480
<v Speaker 1>Ever? I did it?

0:33:40.480 --> 0:33:42.520
<v Speaker 2>So I then you can't say it.

0:33:42.760 --> 0:33:45.120
<v Speaker 1>These are things you've never done.

0:33:45.320 --> 0:33:46.960
<v Speaker 2>This is why I hate this game.

0:33:48.200 --> 0:33:52.479
<v Speaker 1>You never have never that's because you've done a lot

0:33:52.560 --> 0:33:55.560
<v Speaker 1>of things. All right, I got another one. Never have

0:33:55.720 --> 0:34:01.760
<v Speaker 1>I ever snuck into a movie? Sorry, snuck into more

0:34:01.800 --> 0:34:04.160
<v Speaker 1>than one movie? Would only pain for one movie.

0:34:04.200 --> 0:34:13.799
<v Speaker 3>In other words, you've done that too, Susan, Go do

0:34:13.880 --> 0:34:14.480
<v Speaker 3>the next one.

0:34:14.840 --> 0:34:16.799
<v Speaker 1>Wait? Can I just say I would just like to

0:34:16.840 --> 0:34:20.520
<v Speaker 1>point out something here. Kathy who gets ripped on the

0:34:20.560 --> 0:34:24.720
<v Speaker 1>internet lives a clean I don't swear at the nuns

0:34:24.760 --> 0:34:28.279
<v Speaker 1>that I don't know. I don't know that. That's what

0:34:28.320 --> 0:34:30.560
<v Speaker 1>I'm saying. I don't do any of this stuff. I

0:34:30.560 --> 0:34:34.680
<v Speaker 1>don't do anything bad. And there's miss Susan.

0:34:34.440 --> 0:34:36.400
<v Speaker 2>Over here, such a rule follower.

0:34:38.440 --> 0:34:42.279
<v Speaker 1>It's working for me. Fun to bend the rules. Bend

0:34:42.320 --> 0:34:44.799
<v Speaker 1>the rules, Susan breaks them in half and then breaks

0:34:44.840 --> 0:34:45.759
<v Speaker 1>them in half.

0:34:45.360 --> 0:34:47.759
<v Speaker 2>Or have I ever got pulled over for speeding and

0:34:47.840 --> 0:34:48.880
<v Speaker 2>actually got a ticket.

0:34:50.320 --> 0:34:52.600
<v Speaker 1>I've never been pulled over for speeding, of course not.

0:34:53.239 --> 0:34:54.120
<v Speaker 1>I've never had a ticket.

0:34:54.239 --> 0:34:56.919
<v Speaker 2>Worry because you don't speed.

0:34:56.600 --> 0:34:58.760
<v Speaker 1>Either, right? Wait? Can I tell you a funny story?

0:34:59.400 --> 0:35:03.719
<v Speaker 1>Can I? Oh? I do speed? A funny story. When

0:35:03.840 --> 0:35:07.200
<v Speaker 1>I was doing my global entry, you know, you have

0:35:07.280 --> 0:35:10.640
<v Speaker 1>to go and be interviewed by people before they let

0:35:10.719 --> 0:35:13.560
<v Speaker 1>you get your global untery. The guy comes out to

0:35:13.600 --> 0:35:17.319
<v Speaker 1>interview me and he goes, are you for real? I said, what?

0:35:17.880 --> 0:35:22.600
<v Speaker 1>He goes, you have nothing? He said this, I've never

0:35:22.640 --> 0:35:25.480
<v Speaker 1>he said, I've been doing this, you know, interviewing people.

0:35:26.000 --> 0:35:28.840
<v Speaker 1>You are the first person you've never had a parking ticket.

0:35:29.120 --> 0:35:32.040
<v Speaker 1>I said, I know. He goes, No, we don't get

0:35:32.080 --> 0:35:33.680
<v Speaker 1>people like that. I said, I know. Can I my

0:35:33.719 --> 0:35:35.920
<v Speaker 1>global entry now, Kathy?

0:35:35.960 --> 0:35:38.799
<v Speaker 2>When we were being screened and everything to be on

0:35:38.840 --> 0:35:41.279
<v Speaker 2>the show and the Golden Bacheler, same thing he had

0:35:41.320 --> 0:35:44.640
<v Speaker 2>said to me, Oh, there's two things. I actually paid

0:35:44.760 --> 0:35:48.759
<v Speaker 2>money online to see what my criminal record was and

0:35:48.840 --> 0:35:51.320
<v Speaker 2>it was an outstanding parking ticket.

0:35:52.600 --> 0:35:57.960
<v Speaker 1>You you, I'm sorry it was a dollar you you

0:35:58.040 --> 0:35:58.960
<v Speaker 1>researched your.

0:35:58.880 --> 0:36:02.280
<v Speaker 2>Criminal back because it said I had two things griminal

0:36:02.360 --> 0:36:05.000
<v Speaker 2>and there were both tickets. One I never paid. I

0:36:05.000 --> 0:36:05.879
<v Speaker 2>didn't know I had it.

0:36:06.320 --> 0:36:08.360
<v Speaker 1>I mean, I got to tell you when my husband,

0:36:08.680 --> 0:36:11.160
<v Speaker 1>who did have several speed tickets and in the state

0:36:11.200 --> 0:36:14.279
<v Speaker 1>of Texas, I'm just gonna blow blow everyone's mind here

0:36:14.960 --> 0:36:18.040
<v Speaker 1>you can pay a lawyer who walks into the court

0:36:18.080 --> 0:36:21.320
<v Speaker 1>with a stack of tickets and gets you off the ticket. Yes,

0:36:21.640 --> 0:36:25.920
<v Speaker 1>welcome to Welcome to the rough shot, Texas, where laws

0:36:25.920 --> 0:36:29.560
<v Speaker 1>are just suggestions. But my husband was driving once and

0:36:30.680 --> 0:36:32.879
<v Speaker 1>was speeding and I was panicked because he was going

0:36:32.920 --> 0:36:34.560
<v Speaker 1>so fast because he wanted to get to wherever we

0:36:34.600 --> 0:36:37.359
<v Speaker 1>were going. I said, I hope you get pulled over.

0:36:37.600 --> 0:36:39.280
<v Speaker 1>I'm going to tell the cop to give you a ticket.

0:36:39.400 --> 0:36:43.800
<v Speaker 1>I swear to God, Susan I hear, I hear comes down.

0:36:44.120 --> 0:36:46.080
<v Speaker 1>He looked at me like, I'm like, I.

0:36:46.239 --> 0:36:48.919
<v Speaker 2>You know, And I looked at the cop said would

0:36:48.960 --> 0:36:50.080
<v Speaker 2>I tell you about thoughts?

0:36:51.800 --> 0:36:54.920
<v Speaker 1>And the cop gave him a ticket? But I probably

0:36:55.080 --> 0:36:57.320
<v Speaker 1>got you up. He did, And you know what I

0:36:57.360 --> 0:36:59.920
<v Speaker 1>said to him, Oh big deal, you got that lawyer friendly.

0:37:00.200 --> 0:37:02.040
<v Speaker 1>You're just paying three hundred bucks and it doesn't go

0:37:02.120 --> 0:37:06.000
<v Speaker 1>on your record. Get over yourself, true story, all right?

0:37:06.040 --> 0:37:07.279
<v Speaker 1>When else you got there for me?

0:37:07.480 --> 0:37:07.680
<v Speaker 4>Oh?

0:37:07.800 --> 0:37:09.479
<v Speaker 2>I don't know, did you ever?

0:37:09.600 --> 0:37:09.839
<v Speaker 1>Wait?

0:37:10.600 --> 0:37:15.160
<v Speaker 2>I did do this too, this to the wrong person.

0:37:15.360 --> 0:37:19.239
<v Speaker 1>About that person that I have done, Yes, never have

0:37:19.320 --> 0:37:24.120
<v Speaker 1>I ever left a restaurant without paying? You ever done that? No? Oh? Well,

0:37:24.200 --> 0:37:28.319
<v Speaker 1>good god. Here, I'm just checking your moral moral compass there.

0:37:30.040 --> 0:37:32.400
<v Speaker 1>Never have I ever dated more than one guy at

0:37:32.400 --> 0:37:37.320
<v Speaker 1>a time. Oh my god, she's thinking, I don't.

0:37:37.360 --> 0:37:39.520
<v Speaker 2>Know, well, like in a relationship.

0:37:39.680 --> 0:37:42.560
<v Speaker 1>No, but oh here meeting looking full the Susan's looking

0:37:42.600 --> 0:37:43.360
<v Speaker 1>for the gray aread.

0:37:43.640 --> 0:37:46.640
<v Speaker 2>No, when you're on the dating apps and you see

0:37:46.680 --> 0:37:49.279
<v Speaker 2>one one night and the next week you've met somebody else,

0:37:49.320 --> 0:37:50.440
<v Speaker 2>that's not really dating.

0:37:50.520 --> 0:37:54.040
<v Speaker 1>No. I don't do two times. So if you've had

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<v Speaker 1>more than one date with a guy, you know I have. Hey, Frederic,

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<v Speaker 1>listen up, buddy, she's got a guy.

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<v Speaker 2>Because we were broken up for well over a year

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<v Speaker 2>and we saw each other again. What now When I

0:38:09.360 --> 0:38:11.719
<v Speaker 2>was dating Mark, remember for two years and then we

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<v Speaker 2>broke up over a year, we didn't talk and then yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>we got together again. But I had been No, I

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<v Speaker 2>wasn't really dating anybody else.

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<v Speaker 1>Let me just say, do you hear? I want everyone

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<v Speaker 1>to pay attention. You're hearing Susan going, well, I don't remember,

0:38:26.880 --> 0:38:30.640
<v Speaker 1>never have I ever Susan would never have a drink again,

0:38:30.760 --> 0:38:33.279
<v Speaker 1>because Susan has done most things in life and I

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<v Speaker 1>am proud of you. Girlfriend. You're living the life that

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<v Speaker 1>I have never lived.

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<v Speaker 2>It's called experience. That's what made me who I am today.

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<v Speaker 1>I've had a lot of experiences.

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<v Speaker 2>Crochane, experience, Kathy, you were still wet behind the ears.

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<v Speaker 1>You got married and moved to Brazil. I mean, God's

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<v Speaker 1>I moved to Scotland. Scotland not even the same continent,

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<v Speaker 1>may I.

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<v Speaker 2>But probably about to reach on our podcast with Teresa

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<v Speaker 2>and her saying she was a star of the play.

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<v Speaker 1>And where is she coming from?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, just made me think of it. Scotland, Berlin,

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<v Speaker 2>whatever I thought.

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<v Speaker 1>I know. I'm surprised to find out she lived in

0:39:13.840 --> 0:39:15.680
<v Speaker 1>Berlin when she was first married, because I lived in

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<v Speaker 1>Scotland when I was.

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<v Speaker 2>First Have I ever told someone that I loved them

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<v Speaker 2>and didn't mean it?

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<v Speaker 1>I've done that. Does that mean I have to drink

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<v Speaker 1>drink Oka's damn?

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<v Speaker 2>Get me?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, you know what these old Reddit fingers, You've never

0:39:37.080 --> 0:39:40.400
<v Speaker 1>done that? No, No, you know me.

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<v Speaker 2>I fall in love easy.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh oh wait a minute, so let me get this right.

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<v Speaker 1>I've told guys that I loved him once or twice

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<v Speaker 1>when I didn't you tell every guy, you love him

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<v Speaker 1>and mean it. Okay, you'll mean it for ten minutes.

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<v Speaker 1>Is this when I'm married? No, I was not proud

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<v Speaker 1>of my Actually I only did it once and I

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<v Speaker 1>felt terrible about it.

0:40:04.200 --> 0:40:06.600
<v Speaker 2>You know you were uncomfortable. You wanted him to feel better.

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<v Speaker 1>I know, I know, I think you know. I think

0:40:09.840 --> 0:40:12.359
<v Speaker 1>I was nervous in the moment like I was. Yeah,

0:40:12.640 --> 0:40:14.839
<v Speaker 1>we did it for a while and I wasn't ready

0:40:14.880 --> 0:40:17.120
<v Speaker 1>to let him go, but I wasn't.

0:40:17.520 --> 0:40:20.799
<v Speaker 2>Any Have you ever told someone that you are in

0:40:20.840 --> 0:40:26.400
<v Speaker 2>love with them and they didn't say it back? Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>one time that ikey feeling.

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<v Speaker 1>It was and I will say I am still friends

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<v Speaker 1>with that guy today. It was the ickiest feeling on

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<v Speaker 1>the mind.

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<v Speaker 2>Was like a week before Christmas and night it was

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<v Speaker 2>the moment and I said it, and I know he

0:40:40.640 --> 0:40:43.960
<v Speaker 2>loved me. I knew he did. And he said thank you,

0:40:44.040 --> 0:40:48.520
<v Speaker 2>and I was like, what Kathy it? Thank you everything?

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<v Speaker 2>And then New Year's Eve at midnight, he tells me

0:40:53.719 --> 0:40:56.839
<v Speaker 2>he loves me. Little did he know he blew it.

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<v Speaker 2>I hated him for making me feel like that, and

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<v Speaker 2>he said I would have told you that night, but

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<v Speaker 2>I wanted to do it at mean I go, you're

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<v Speaker 2>fucking weird. Okay, is this.

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<v Speaker 1>Story is getting way too convoluted for me? He said

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<v Speaker 1>thank you, but he did love you, but he didn't

0:41:13.719 --> 0:41:16.880
<v Speaker 1>tell you. Yes, yes, this is why? Wait? Can I

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<v Speaker 1>just say to you this is This is the kind

0:41:20.120 --> 0:41:24.200
<v Speaker 1>of experiences that I hope our listeners write in. Has

0:41:24.280 --> 0:41:26.600
<v Speaker 1>this ever happened to you? Did you ever tell someone

0:41:26.640 --> 0:41:28.400
<v Speaker 1>you loved them and not mean it? Did you? Do

0:41:28.440 --> 0:41:31.920
<v Speaker 1>you think it's weird that this guy didn't tell Susan Like,

0:41:32.080 --> 0:41:32.960
<v Speaker 1>I think that's weird.

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<v Speaker 2>Two weeks, two and a half weeks later you counting

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<v Speaker 2>the weeks, Kathy, it changed me inside? You don't know,

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<v Speaker 2>because you didn't love him anymore. No, I still loved him,

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<v Speaker 2>but no, everything was different after that.

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<v Speaker 1>Why it was? I really know? With a ball in

0:41:52.440 --> 0:41:53.320
<v Speaker 1>left field here.

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<v Speaker 2>Can you give me a definition for narcissists?

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<v Speaker 1>Yes? In my opinion, a narcissist is a person who

0:42:03.040 --> 0:42:08.200
<v Speaker 1>only thinks of themselves. Everything there, it's it's ego center.

0:42:08.480 --> 0:42:12.880
<v Speaker 1>Everything revolves around them. Implications are only how they feel,

0:42:12.960 --> 0:42:15.319
<v Speaker 1>how something reacts to them, how they can make it

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<v Speaker 1>best for themselves without any regard to someone else, or

0:42:19.600 --> 0:42:22.240
<v Speaker 1>how it affects someone else. That's that for a definition.

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<v Speaker 2>So I don't know. I wonder you were success at

0:42:26.480 --> 0:42:29.640
<v Speaker 2>this game or we sucked at it?

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I think the conclusion is Susan has done most

0:42:34.600 --> 0:42:38.320
<v Speaker 1>everything and lived an incredible life, and Kathy is still

0:42:38.719 --> 0:42:43.080
<v Speaker 1>nit one pearl one knit one pearl one. But I

0:42:43.160 --> 0:42:46.640
<v Speaker 1>you know what, here's the good news. We are Golden

0:42:47.320 --> 0:42:49.880
<v Speaker 1>age is just number. We got plenty of time for

0:42:49.960 --> 0:42:52.600
<v Speaker 1>me to try all this stuff out right. It's never

0:42:52.640 --> 0:42:55.080
<v Speaker 1>too late, Kathy, It's never too late. Get up off

0:42:55.120 --> 0:42:58.120
<v Speaker 1>the sofa and live, That's what I say. All right,

0:42:58.360 --> 0:42:59.160
<v Speaker 1>here we go.

0:43:00.080 --> 0:43:03.960
<v Speaker 2>A much text my boyfriend, text my friend to be

0:43:04.239 --> 0:43:06.520
<v Speaker 2>rescued mid bad day.

0:43:07.040 --> 0:43:08.560
<v Speaker 1>Oh you're still going to play some more this game.

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<v Speaker 1>I have done that. I have absolutely done. Have you drink?

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<v Speaker 1>And you know what, Susan, Never have I ever had

0:43:18.680 --> 0:43:22.040
<v Speaker 1>a boring conversation with you? Never have I ever, But

0:43:22.120 --> 0:43:25.920
<v Speaker 1>I'm going to drink to it. All right? This was

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<v Speaker 1>really so much fun. Thank you to all of our

0:43:28.160 --> 0:43:30.759
<v Speaker 1>listeners for joining in today. We hope you learned a

0:43:30.760 --> 0:43:33.239
<v Speaker 1>little bit more about us. I certainly learned a little

0:43:33.280 --> 0:43:34.200
<v Speaker 1>bit more about Susan.

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<v Speaker 2>Absolutely make sure to follow us on Bachelor Happy Hour.

0:43:37.760 --> 0:43:40.359
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0:43:40.440 --> 0:43:41.799
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