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Speaker 1: Thank you, nephew. Subject her hood rat mentality is bad

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Speaker 1: for business. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm a married man, but

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Speaker 1: I have not been happily married in a while. I

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Speaker 1: have no mention, no intention of leaving my wife, and

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Speaker 1: I'm not a cheater. I own a small bar downtown

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Speaker 1: and my best employee is also my worst employee. She's

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Speaker 1: been with me for so long that I've overlooked her

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Speaker 1: raunchy behavior for years. She is a hood rat, and

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Speaker 1: I knew that when I hired her as a bartender.

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Speaker 1: This was supposed to be a part time job, but

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Speaker 1: now it's the only job she has because she is

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Speaker 1: loud and unprofessional. She is fifty three years old, but

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Speaker 1: she has a body like Cardi b and she's gorgeous.

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Speaker 1: She wears her stomach out with short shorts and heels,

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Speaker 1: so my male customers love her. Recently, I had to

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Speaker 1: temporarily lay her off because of the pandemic. I offered

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Speaker 1: to give her a thousand dollars to help her out

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Speaker 1: while she was not working. She asked me what she

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Speaker 1: had to do for the extra money. I was confused

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Speaker 1: at first, and then I figured it out. She told

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Speaker 1: me that nothing is free, and she has been working

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Speaker 1: her side hustle for a while right out of my bar.

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Speaker 1: Several of my married customers give her money and gifts

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Speaker 1: in exchange for a good time. She told me that

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Speaker 1: she knows I'm not happy at home and I haven't

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Speaker 1: had sex in a while, so she could help me out.

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Speaker 1: I wanted to lay her across that bar right then

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Speaker 1: and there and do her. But I have my dignity

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Speaker 1: and a woman like that is nothing but trouble. I

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Speaker 1: told her she can't be tricking out of my bar,

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Speaker 1: and she told me whatever she does in her spare

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Speaker 1: time is her business. She's valuable for my business, but

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Speaker 1: she can't keep tricking with my customers. Should I talk

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Speaker 1: to the guys or fire her. Okay, you're a business

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Speaker 1: owner and she's good for business, So what's the problem.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I really don't think it's so much that

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Speaker 1: she's from the hood that you have a problem with

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Speaker 1: an issue with, because, like you said, you knew that

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Speaker 1: when you hired her. You also said she's valuable for

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Speaker 1: your business. I think, in spite of what you say, well,

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Speaker 1: there's something going on or that you think about when

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Speaker 1: it comes to her. I think you're attracted to her,

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Speaker 1: and I think you really want her there your words,

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Speaker 1: she's gorgeous with a body like Cardi b with her

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Speaker 1: stomach out, her short shorts and her heels, and your

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Speaker 1: mail customers love her. That's business for you. You know

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Speaker 1: they're in there, they come to see her. They're spending money.

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Speaker 1: You know, they spend money when they come, so that

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Speaker 1: helps your business. So when you laid her off and

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Speaker 1: she offered to pay you back for your generous one

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Speaker 1: thousand dollars, you said you wanted to take her. You

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Speaker 1: wanted to take her up on it and throw her across,

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Speaker 1: do her right there on the bar. But you're smart

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Speaker 1: and you didn't. You have dignity, you didn't do it.

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Speaker 1: You said, because a woman like that is nothing but trouble.

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Speaker 1: And I do commend you for that because even though

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Speaker 1: you said you're unhappy at home, you let us know that.

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Speaker 1: In the beginning of the letter, you said you would

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Speaker 1: never cheat on your wife, so you didn't take your

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Speaker 1: bartender up on her offer. Like I said, you didn't

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Speaker 1: take the bait. I do like that about you now,

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Speaker 1: as far as her seeing mail customers, you didn't even

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Speaker 1: know that. That's how good she is. You didn't even

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Speaker 1: know that, Okay, but you know it now. I don't

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Speaker 1: know how you're gonna get her to stop doing that

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Speaker 1: because what she does in her home is her business.

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Speaker 1: I just say, watch her and you know, make sure

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Speaker 1: it doesn't get out of hand and get crazy, because

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Speaker 1: you definitely don't want to lose your business if it does.

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Speaker 1: Should you fire her? Why would you fire someone that's

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Speaker 1: good for business? I mean, you know you're the business

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Speaker 1: owner and it's about business, So why would you do that.

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Speaker 1: Should you talk to the guys, I don't know what

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Speaker 1: that's gonna do. They're gonna leave probably if you talk

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Speaker 1: to them, So you do have a dilemma on your hands.

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Speaker 1: But firing her and talking to him talking to guys.

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Speaker 1: I don't think that's the way, Steve. I am completely

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Speaker 1: stunned at your answer. That's this is something's going on

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Speaker 1: with you, Shirley. This is not the Shirley Strawberry I've

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Speaker 1: known for twenty years. I don't know where this damn

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Speaker 1: answer came from. I don't know who helped you with

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Speaker 1: your Strawberry letter, but this don't sound like low down

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Speaker 1: Shirley Strawberry talking right here. I don't know who got

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Speaker 1: hold of this letter and change your answer. I don't

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Speaker 1: understand why you even wrote, Bro, I really don't. I

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Speaker 1: have no idea how old you are, but you've got

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Speaker 1: to be a fully grown ass man. So because the

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Speaker 1: girl is fifty three years old, so you couldn't grown.

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Speaker 1: So now let's talk about what this didn't grown man.

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Speaker 1: He opens up the letter saying talking about how he married,

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Speaker 1: but he ain't been happily married for a while. That's

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Speaker 1: how the letter opened. But the letter ain't even about

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Speaker 1: his marriage though, So why did you feel compelled to

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Speaker 1: tell us this information right here? See? Bro, when you're

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Speaker 1: talking to me, I just I know the male psyche

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Speaker 1: so well. Everything Shirley said ain't perfect sense I just

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Speaker 1: couldn't leave her. Ass say, I was gonna ask you

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Speaker 1: that after you gave your answer. What's wrong with my answer? Well? No,

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Speaker 1: it made perfect sense. But it sounds like something I

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Speaker 1: would say, Oh does it? Yeah, because it sounds like

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Speaker 1: a man answer. But doll, this ain't a man letter though,

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Speaker 1: I'm on her. Do you see your problem is dog?

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Speaker 1: You told us at the top of the letter you

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Speaker 1: ain't think about leaving your wife. You're not a cheetah.

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Speaker 1: I'm unhappily man for a while, No intention, I got

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Speaker 1: a small My best employee is also my worst employee.

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Speaker 1: What it sounds like you got one person work? All right, listen,

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Speaker 1: we'll have her two response right coming up at twenty

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Speaker 1: three minutes after the hour. Today's subject her hood rat

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Speaker 1: mentality is bad for business. We'll get back into it

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Speaker 1: right after this. You're listening show, all right, Steve, come on,

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Speaker 1: let's recap today's strawberry letter. Her hood ratman mentality is

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Speaker 1: bad for business. Yeah, this married dude that's been telling

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Speaker 1: telling us he unhappy he had grown man, you know,

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Speaker 1: so I know he couldn't grown, but he's married. He

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Speaker 1: ain't been happy for a while. No intention, to leaving

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Speaker 1: my wife. I'm not a cheetah. If the letter isn't

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Speaker 1: about you being happy or a cheetah, why did you

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Speaker 1: have to mention that at the beginning? Bro, something's a

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Speaker 1: miss hill, and I think I'm gonna find out what

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Speaker 1: it is. You're on a small bar. Your best employee

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Speaker 1: is also your worst employee. Now, before we left, I

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Speaker 1: said it would sound to me like you got one employee. Now.

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Speaker 1: She has been with me so long, so long, which

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Speaker 1: ages him too, that I've overlooked her raunchy behavior for years.

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Speaker 1: So she's a hood rat and I knew that when

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Speaker 1: I hired her as a bartend. Excuse me, I'm not

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Speaker 1: following you hire. I've overlooked her raunchy behavior for years.

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Speaker 1: She's a hood rat, and I knew that when I

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Speaker 1: hired as a bartender. If you knew she was a

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Speaker 1: hood rat when you hired as a bartender, when did

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Speaker 1: you start overlooking the raunchy behavior At the interview with

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Speaker 1: the banging CARDI b body, I see is that when

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Speaker 1: you overlooked the raunchy behavior because you knew you wanted

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Speaker 1: huppy standing behind that bar because it would draw your customers.

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Speaker 1: Come on, bro, you're talking to another grown man. Now,

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Speaker 1: this is supposed to be a part time job, but

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Speaker 1: now it's the only job she has because she's loud

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Speaker 1: and unprofessional. Well with reading this letter, it is ain't

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Speaker 1: the only job she got. See, she didn't turn a

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Speaker 1: part time job into a full time job. Partner, she

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Speaker 1: fifty three years old. She got a body like Cardi

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Speaker 1: b And she's gorgeous. Excuse me, that's why you hide

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Speaker 1: the hood rat dog in the beginning. That's why you

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Speaker 1: overlooked the raunchy behavior because of how she looked. You

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Speaker 1: are man. She wear her stark out well, you know,

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Speaker 1: with short shots and heels. Okay, you ain't saying nothing

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Speaker 1: about that. So my male customers love her, and so

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Speaker 1: does the dude that hired her that's been unhappily married

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Speaker 1: for a long time. That you're not a cheating You

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Speaker 1: have no intentions of leaving your wife. Why that's even

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Speaker 1: in the letter you explaining yourself as you go. Recently,

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Speaker 1: male customers love her. Recently, I had to temporary layer

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Speaker 1: off because of the pandemic. I offered to give her

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Speaker 1: not working. She asked me what she had to do

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Speaker 1: I figured it out. She told me ain't nothing free,

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Speaker 1: and she'd been working her side wholesome for a while

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Speaker 1: right out of my bar. Several of my married customers

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Speaker 1: good time. That's why I thought Shirley would be just

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Speaker 1: through it her. But a all of a sudden, she

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Speaker 1: so she can help me out. I wanted to lay

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Speaker 1: her across that ball, right Dan, dude, huh, you know

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying. Now, here's where the next not which

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Speaker 1: was true? But I have my dignity. Okay, we all

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Speaker 1: have that, bro, all of us have that, and a

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Speaker 1: woman like that, it's nothing but trouble. She's been working

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Speaker 1: A matter of fact, she would probably the real reason

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Speaker 1: she can't be tricking out of my bar. She told

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Speaker 1: me whatever she does in her spare time is her business.

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Speaker 1: That's a hood rat comment. That's a business. Comment. I've

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Speaker 1: heard people say that in business meetings before. She's valuable

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Speaker 1: for my business, but she can't keep tricking with my customers.

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Speaker 1: Should I talk to the guys or fire her? Let

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Speaker 1: me ask you a question, bron What exactly will you

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Speaker 1: say to the guys or should I fire her? Fire her?

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Speaker 1: What should you talk to the guys about? What do

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Speaker 1: you say? What are you gonna ask them? Excuse me? Man?

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Speaker 1: Are you are you sleeping with her? Yeah? Yeah, women? Holder? Man?

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Speaker 1: Why are you doing that? She my bartender? She ain't. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm a holder, But but hold of them, man, I'm

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Speaker 1: telling you, she my bartender. And I'm asking y'all, man,

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Speaker 1: could y'all stop hitting on her and giving this extra

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Speaker 1: I got at home? Can I just say this? The

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Speaker 1: only reason I come here is for her because I

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Speaker 1: fix drinks and she fixed everything else. I don't know

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Speaker 1: what you I mean? Why? Why? Why are we not

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Speaker 1: gonna come? So now back to the letter, I'm asking

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Speaker 1: say to these guys? Or fire her? Fire her? Dog?

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Speaker 1: Fire her your bar clothes cause of the pandemic. Now,

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Speaker 1: she thought that the thousand dollars meant she had to

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Speaker 1: other time. Yeah, dude, but the cold part was you

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Speaker 1: thought about it. Now, what your real question is? Should

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