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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becka Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio

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Speaker 1: and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast Hello everyone.

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Speaker 2: We are scrubbing in. No, it was like living living.

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Speaker 1: How you doing doing great? How are you doing doing great?

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Speaker 2: Thank you so much? So Okay, do you remember how

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Speaker 2: on the podcast you asked me my favorite Taylor Swift

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Speaker 2: song to describe where I'm at right now or like

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Speaker 2: our relationship, my relationship with Haley. It was after that.

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Speaker 3: It was the yeah, yeah, yeah, I think it was

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Speaker 3: a Facebook question.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, oh and I said daylight.

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Speaker 1: M So there's this said we are in love? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you are in love?

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Speaker 2: And so there's this trend on TikTok where you just

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Speaker 2: pick a picture and then TikTok chooses the sound, so

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Speaker 2: you don't it just automatically chooses it. And I did

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Speaker 2: a picture of me and Haley to choose daylight.

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Speaker 1: No way, can you do me?

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Speaker 3: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: You let me see what it is. Yeah, do you

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Speaker 2: have a picture you want me to choose?

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Speaker 1: Sure? Maybe our wedding or the one from from me

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Speaker 1: and Robbie.

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Speaker 3: I was thinking one of the two of you might

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Speaker 3: be interesting to see what comes up.

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Speaker 2: That would be Mark, you're a real thinker. One from

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Speaker 2: the podcast.

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Speaker 1: Use this one, Becca, use this one, and then which

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Speaker 1: one I'm sending you to you right now? And then

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Speaker 1: use wait this one.

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Speaker 2: I literally was going to use that I have three

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Speaker 2: times in my phone because you sent it Robbie sent

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Speaker 2: it the photo's birthday Whoopsie.

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Speaker 1: And then use that picture I sent you me and Robbie,

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Speaker 1: the one.

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Speaker 2: Where you're licking him.

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Speaker 1: Yes, okay, I think it's gonna be a nice little

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Speaker 1: Oh I'm sorry, I didn't really just sent the other one,

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Speaker 1: meant the licking one this, Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I was like, okay, come on, okay, so this is

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Speaker 2: I'm going to do the one of me and you first,

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Speaker 2: and then so you pick as you just pick it,

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Speaker 2: and then it looks like.

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Speaker 3: You're trying to get something out from in between his

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Speaker 3: teeth with your tongue.

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Speaker 1: You know what, I would help anybody out.

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Speaker 2: Okay, So here's let's see what it picks.

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Speaker 3: Okay, Oh my gosh. Some people are just good people

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Speaker 3: and you can just feel it.

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Speaker 1: And I don't know how to explain that, but there's

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Speaker 1: like this little sark they have in their monologue with

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Speaker 1: everyone just you feel safe and happy.

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Speaker 3: Some people.

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Speaker 1: Wow, that's really cute it is.

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Speaker 3: Do we know what that's from or anything?

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Speaker 2: I think it's an Emma Chamberlain podcast. Oh sure, and

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Speaker 2: they've added some music over it.

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Speaker 1: Perfect. I feel like we lost our People's Choice Award

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Speaker 1: to her in twenty twenty. So that's really opera po popo.

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Speaker 3: But you guys are giving off podcast vibes, which is interesting. Yeah, uh, okay,

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Speaker 3: here's licking him, yeah, Robbie. This is Robbie Tanya licking

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Speaker 4: Time.

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Speaker 1: I thought it was butterflies. Way you down in my head?

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Speaker 3: What do you think daisies Daisy's beaver?

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Speaker 1: I mean it's very viral right now, so I'll take it.

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Speaker 3: Okay, good.

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Speaker 1: I figured it would be something a little more like

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Speaker 1: the reason I picked that photo because raunchy. Yeah you

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Speaker 1: don't keeping it classy?

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Speaker 2: Yeah yeah, they're classy that way.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, that was exciting.

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Speaker 1: see it. Do you know what trend I want to try?

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Speaker 1: And I've been wanting to try for a week now.

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Speaker 2: Oh yes, my name is Pink, and I'm really nice

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Speaker 1: I don't understand that one I woke up into a

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I've intel done it, just like not a

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Speaker 2: lot of time. Oh, it should be pretty fast.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. Just make sure you don't do it on carpet.

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Speaker 2: do have a dear Bonia episode today, so we should

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Speaker 3: Let's jump right in. Anonymous says, do I want to

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Speaker 3: date a friend that I friend zoned? No. I have

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Speaker 3: a guy friend of ten plus years, let's call him Brad,

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Speaker 3: who has always had a crush on me, and I've

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Speaker 3: He's cute, he's tall, he's the kindest person ever. He's funny,

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Speaker 3: I usually say, well, why would I date this random

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Speaker 3: and doesn't have the most swag, which is what I

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Speaker 3: think is missing, and maybe the tingles. But if we

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Speaker 3: have the best husband ever. I tend to want what

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Speaker 3: entertainment sometimes even though legitimately want a husband and family.

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Speaker 3: Do I give Brad a chance? Can he break out

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Speaker 3: of the friend zone? And if so, how or is

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Speaker 2: You have Brad a chance?

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Speaker 1: I think so, I say, no, why why the tingles?

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Speaker 2: I think the the tingles can come?

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Speaker 3: Can you earn the tingles?

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Speaker 1: You can't earn the tingles? The tingles either tingle or

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Speaker 1: they don't.

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Speaker 2: No, because you might see someone as a friend. For

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Speaker 2: I have someone who just had a friend for a

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Speaker 2: long time and then they started dating and she got

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Speaker 2: the dingles?

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Speaker 1: Are you sure?

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Speaker 3: Arry?

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Speaker 1: Let's text her.

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Speaker 2: And ask I don't need to text.

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Speaker 1: Because I think sometimes some people just settle. They're like, oh,

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Speaker 2: But I'm like, my thing is give Brad a chance,

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Speaker 2: go on dates, open up a romantic relationship, and if

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Speaker 2: the next She's.

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Speaker 3: Lost her friend Brad and also probably tortured him in

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Speaker 2: You'll say, I have I know we've only seen each

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Speaker 2: other as a friend, but I think you're amazing and

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Speaker 2: and I want to see if we can get out

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Speaker 2: of a friendship. And I don't. I don't want it

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Speaker 2: to forever. Here's the thing, Brad is gonna be around.

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Speaker 2: It sounds like Brad's gonna be in her life. So

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Speaker 2: maybe they have a chance. Maybe it's awkward for a

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Speaker 2: little bit, but they'll get back to it.

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Speaker 3: How about just kiss him, kiss him and see what happens.

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Speaker 3: Like you go out, you hang out, you go to

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Speaker 3: a movie, whatever you do, You go get dinner, and

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Speaker 3: some wine or whatever. Just kiss him and see what happens.

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Speaker 3: Because maybe the tingles are just they're just being a

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Speaker 3: little bit. They're hiding right now. The tingles are there.

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Speaker 1: The tingles come with kissing.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, how do you have tingles if you're not kissing

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Speaker 2: or like doing something physical.

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Speaker 1: Leg Grays can do it, I know.

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Speaker 2: But it sounds like they're strictly friends, so I don't

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Speaker 2: think they've done anything very What does that mean to

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Speaker 2: the tingles? It's very little. For compare yourself on.

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Speaker 1: The upper thigh. I can bring them, but they're not

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Speaker 1: doing that tight hug.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, they're not. My god, I think you kiss Brad

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Speaker 2: and I think you tight hug.

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Speaker 1: And you can steal things. I don't know.

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Speaker 3: Well, okay, yes, but you do see more sensitive to

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Speaker 3: tingles than most people. They're a little bit repressed her tingles.

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Speaker 2: Yes, yes, and especially around Brad because Brad has just

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Speaker 2: been a friend for tener, so she's there's no newness

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Speaker 2: out with him, but kissing him will bring newness.

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Speaker 3: And maybe he's a great kisser. And then maybe he

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Speaker 3: and maybe he's got what.

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Speaker 1: Do you think he's good at?

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Speaker 2: Maybe he's got swag in the.

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Speaker 3: She's hiding, sir, She's hiding her tingles, he's hiding his

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Speaker 3: swag and they're going to come together in beautiful way.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I give him a chance. See where what if

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Speaker 2: not you? Who? Honestly, if not you, it's going to

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Speaker 2: be someone else and you're always going.

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Speaker 1: To go, oh, he's such a friend.

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Speaker 3: She's got the best husband ever?

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Speaker 2: Yes, and then you might do it? What if Brad's

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Speaker 2: like I thought I liked you, but I don't get

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Speaker 2: to give it a chance.

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Speaker 3: To give it a chance, and I really want to

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Speaker 2: Yeah, please update us with Brad and good luck.

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Speaker 3: Give Brad.

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Speaker 2: Brad deserves it all right.

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Speaker 3: Here's another anonymous Hi Mark, Tanya Easton and Becca ooh Becca, sorry, last,

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Speaker 3: it's not last. Where. I've been friends with someone for

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Speaker 3: six years and she started dating her current boyfriend about

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Speaker 3: six months ago. A mutual friend told me that not

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Speaker 3: only does her boyfriend use hard drugs, but she started

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Speaker 3: using them to Before this relationship. The most she ever

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Speaker 3: did was occasionally smoke weed. Alcoholism runs in her family,

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Speaker 3: especially around her which she needs to be encouraging her

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Speaker 3: or drink more often. Now she drinks almost every day,

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Speaker 3: about the drug use because she's been hiding it. I

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Speaker 3: the relationship, the drinking, the family history. Any advice on

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Speaker 3: how to approach the conversation. We mean a lot. I

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Speaker 3: love the podcast. Everything you post brings me happiness.

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Speaker 2: This is hard because you have to approach this in

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Speaker 2: a way that's not going to make her distance herself

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Speaker 2: you still have a friendship with her. But I think

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Speaker 2: I can't tell if I don't know if something's going on,

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Speaker 2: but I'm here for you if you ever want to talk.

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Speaker 1: I know. Stuff like this is really hard because it's

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Speaker 1: like you can't tell someone what to do. You can't

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Speaker 2: Right, Well, I think I think that's the thing. I

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Speaker 2: Updates, and we love Updates. Next, we have someone who

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Speaker 3: I like a princess on that day. You're like the

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Speaker 2: I hope that you have people around you who make

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Speaker 1: But also it's like do what you want? Do you

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Speaker 3: at the wedding are going to be judging her, Like,

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Speaker 3: oh here comes to yeah.

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Speaker 2: Hello thirty three year old.

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Speaker 3: Yeah I know, but but don't you can't worry about

443
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Speaker 3: what other people think. But also, like you said, I

444
00:20:48,440 --> 00:20:50,399
Speaker 3: like the advice don't do anything you're not comfortable with.

445
00:20:50,480 --> 00:20:52,560
Speaker 3: All you have to do is show up on that day,

446
00:20:52,760 --> 00:20:55,439
Speaker 3: walk down the aisle, kiss your husband, dance with your

447
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Speaker 3: dad at the reception.

448
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Speaker 1: Yeah, Like fun.

449
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Speaker 3: It's not you. You're not over the top with anything thing.

450
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Speaker 3: You're just doing it. Yeah, and you're gonna love it.

451
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Speaker 2: Think of it as a big party with all your

452
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Speaker 2: favorite people that are coming to celebrate your.

453
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Speaker 3: Love and they're ready to do that. They're not going

454
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Speaker 3: to be judging you. They love you.

455
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Speaker 2: And get some new friend alert.

456
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Speaker 3: Caitlin, this is relatable. How do I find motivation to

457
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Speaker 3: do anything? Dear Easton, Mark, Becca, and Tanya. This is

458
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Speaker 3: alphabetical by last name.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, oh.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, welcome to do then yeah ouch. I work

461
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Speaker 3: at a high school as a counselor, so I'm currently

462
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Speaker 3: on summer break.

463
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Speaker 2: Yay.

464
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Speaker 3: However, I am struggling to find motivation to do literally

465
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Speaker 3: almost anything on these long days at home. I've watched

466
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Speaker 3: two whole seasons of Below Deck in the last two weeks.

467
00:21:49,040 --> 00:21:51,320
Speaker 3: I've finished a couple of audio books just sitting in

468
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Speaker 3: my house. I should be doing dishes or cleaning, or

469
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Speaker 3: going on walks or something, but I'm just not motivated.

470
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Speaker 3: I know that you all work kind of non traditional

471
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Speaker 3: hour jobs, but especially beca, so I'm wondering, if you

472
00:22:02,480 --> 00:22:04,600
Speaker 3: don't have something scheduled, how do you find the motivation

473
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Speaker 3: to do the menial tasks around your house.

474
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Speaker 1: The gram on Beca's face right now is A speaking

475
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Speaker 1: their language?

476
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Speaker 3: Or limit yourself on screen time or if you don't,

477
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Speaker 3: how do you give yourself the grace at the end

478
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Speaker 3: of the day to not feel like you've wasted the

479
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Speaker 3: day completely? Love you all so much, Thank you for

480
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Speaker 3: the work you do what really does matter.

481
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Speaker 2: This is just funny because I go through these way,

482
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Speaker 2: like these feelings when I'm lazy of like, oh my gosh,

483
00:22:29,040 --> 00:22:30,359
Speaker 2: I need to be getting up and doing something, And

484
00:22:30,480 --> 00:22:34,520
Speaker 2: I'm like why, why, Like, what do I need to

485
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Speaker 2: do unless it's for myself? Why do I need If

486
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Speaker 2: I'm enjoying sitting here and watch binging a show, why

487
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Speaker 2: do I need to get up? If I feel like

488
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Speaker 2: I've had too much screen time, I'll go on a

489
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Speaker 2: long walk, I'll go on a hike, I'll take Phoebe

490
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Speaker 2: and do something. Or I'll put in my earphones and

491
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Speaker 2: like listen to a pod something that's like keeping me

492
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Speaker 2: distracted while I clean because I can't just do it

493
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Speaker 2: in silence. But I also think you're a school counselor

494
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Speaker 2: and do like some of the hardest work. I think

495
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Speaker 2: there is being like a teacher and working in schools

496
00:23:04,520 --> 00:23:07,080
Speaker 2: right now. So you have summer break for a reason

497
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Speaker 2: to decompress and do the things that you want to do.

498
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Speaker 2: If it's if it's making you feel bad just because

499
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Speaker 2: you want to do more, then try and make a schedule,

500
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Speaker 2: have something where you're like checking off a list.

501
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Speaker 1: But I wish I had a little bit of this

502
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Speaker 1: in me because I feel like, and I think I

503
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Speaker 1: realize it's called sunshine guilt. Yeah, if there's sun shining outside,

504
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Speaker 1: which is a lot in California, Yeah, I don't feel

505
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Speaker 1: like I can be in my home like I feel guilty,

506
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Speaker 1: just like watching TV in my house on like a

507
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Speaker 1: Saturday afternoon, like I have to be outside, whether it's

508
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Speaker 1: like having lunch outside or like running errands outside. I

509
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Speaker 1: just feel like I need to be like doing stuff.

510
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Speaker 1: Like even yesterday, yesterday, whatever day, the day after my

511
00:23:49,520 --> 00:23:55,399
Speaker 1: birthday party, Rob and I were exhausted, and he was like, babe,

512
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Speaker 1: like come put your feet up, just relax, and like

513
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Speaker 1: I was just washing and putting stuff away and he's

514
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Speaker 1: like we'll do this all on Monday, like give yourself

515
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Speaker 1: the day like we've had a long weekend. Just like

516
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Speaker 1: put your feet up. I put my feet up and

517
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Speaker 1: I close my eyes and I was like, wow, this

518
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Speaker 1: feels good.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, no, I don't. I don't have that. I think

520
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Speaker 2: about it and then I quickly shut my thoughts down of.

521
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Speaker 3: Wow, respect, I can't do it. I cannot watch TV.

522
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Speaker 3: If the sun's out, I can't. I don't know what

523
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Speaker 3: that is.

524
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Speaker 2: But the thing is is like if the sun's out

525
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Speaker 2: and you want to be I think that's beautiful. I

526
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Speaker 2: think seizing the day and like doing enjoying it. But

527
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Speaker 2: I also think if you're if you're like I just

528
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Speaker 2: want to stay in and binge a show, I think

529
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Speaker 2: that's okay too. I don't think there. I do think

530
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Speaker 2: screen time can bring you down, Like I think if

531
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Speaker 2: you're constantly looking at your phone or like seeing news

532
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Speaker 2: and stuff, and like especially the rains of emotion, range

533
00:24:48,280 --> 00:24:50,879
Speaker 2: of emotions that social media causes. I think sometimes you

534
00:24:50,920 --> 00:24:53,240
Speaker 2: need to just go out and like be in nature

535
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Speaker 2: and like touch grass. But I've really noticed when we

536
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Speaker 2: were in Spain, nothing opens or starts to because people

537
00:25:00,960 --> 00:25:03,680
Speaker 2: are sleeping and just like resting and have their mornings

538
00:25:03,720 --> 00:25:06,000
Speaker 2: and then they just go do their thing all day.

539
00:25:06,040 --> 00:25:08,919
Speaker 2: But there's no like pressure around like hustle culture like

540
00:25:08,960 --> 00:25:11,520
Speaker 2: there is here in the United States, and I really

541
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Speaker 2: noticed it, and I feel like I should maybe live

542
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Speaker 2: in Spain because it really felt like my pace. But

543
00:25:17,160 --> 00:25:20,439
Speaker 2: it made me realize, like we prioritize like going and

544
00:25:20,480 --> 00:25:23,080
Speaker 2: doing so much here that like we do kind of

545
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Speaker 2: forget to just like it's okay to let your body

546
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Speaker 2: just rest and you're in summer break and that's why

547
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Speaker 2: it's called that, So do what you want. And also

548
00:25:30,880 --> 00:25:33,240
Speaker 2: if you don't feel healthy and your like mental state

549
00:25:33,280 --> 00:25:36,000
Speaker 2: isn't good, then go feel the sunshine. I don't know

550
00:25:36,000 --> 00:25:38,160
Speaker 2: where you live, but go buy some water, Go get

551
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Speaker 2: in the pool somewhere. Go get a resort pass and

552
00:25:40,760 --> 00:25:42,919
Speaker 2: go to the nice hotel and be outside. You know,

553
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Speaker 2: read a book. Sometimes just reading a book is nice.

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Speaker 3: What it helps me is a schedule. And when I

555
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Speaker 3: was there was a stretch when I was unemployed and

556
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Speaker 3: I needed a schedule. Even though I had nothing to

557
00:25:52,000 --> 00:25:54,200
Speaker 3: do all day, I was from this time to this time,

558
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Speaker 3: I'm gonna I get to watch TV in this time

559
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Speaker 3: to this time. Then I'm gonna go for a hike,

560
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Speaker 3: then I get to do this. Then at lunch, then I'm

561
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Speaker 3: gonna do it. Then I'm gonna I'm gonna exercise from

562
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Speaker 3: this time and this time. I'm gonna read from this

563
00:26:04,160 --> 00:26:06,520
Speaker 3: time to this time, and that helps me so much.

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Speaker 3: And yeah, at the end of the day, I still

565
00:26:07,680 --> 00:26:10,040
Speaker 3: sometimes feel like I didn't do anything today, but the

566
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Speaker 3: schedule helps me throughout the day not feel like I'm

567
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Speaker 3: just a blob.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, but here's the thing. When school starts back up,

569
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Speaker 2: you're gonna be going. I have no regrets for resting.

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Speaker 3: And what I've earned this summer. Yeah, sure, we have

571
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Speaker 3: one more, but before that, there are some products and

572
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Speaker 3: services that you need to know.

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Speaker 2: My gosh, please listen. All right, we are back with

574
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Speaker 2: an email from Tara.

575
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Speaker 3: Tara could be Tara, could be Tara, I don't know,

576
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Speaker 3: but we're gonna read it. Hello, Scrubbing and fam Becca, Tanya, Mark,

577
00:27:02,560 --> 00:27:05,000
Speaker 3: and Easton. I'm a long time listener and I really

578
00:27:05,080 --> 00:27:08,000
Speaker 3: enjoy listening to you all banter about everything, like Tanya.

579
00:27:08,240 --> 00:27:10,080
Speaker 3: I'm a super fan of Traders and a bunch of

580
00:27:10,119 --> 00:27:13,280
Speaker 3: reality TV like Beca. It takes me a minute to

581
00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:15,800
Speaker 3: jump on board some of the shows. I enjoy listening

582
00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:18,200
Speaker 3: to the feedback and sometimes join the conversation as I'm

583
00:27:18,240 --> 00:27:21,400
Speaker 3: driving I love that. I love the idea that scrubbers

584
00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:23,480
Speaker 3: are in their car going good one. Tanya, you know

585
00:27:23,520 --> 00:27:25,399
Speaker 3: that sort of thing. I love that because I do

586
00:27:25,480 --> 00:27:29,320
Speaker 3: that sometimes, not with us but other shows. Anyway. I

587
00:27:29,359 --> 00:27:32,560
Speaker 3: have also loved hearing book recommendations in the past, and

588
00:27:32,600 --> 00:27:34,520
Speaker 3: wonder what books you have read this year or are

589
00:27:34,520 --> 00:27:36,720
Speaker 3: planning to read. I am trying to read the summer

590
00:27:36,760 --> 00:27:39,680
Speaker 3: I turn pretty, but oof, I feel as if all

591
00:27:39,720 --> 00:27:42,600
Speaker 3: belly does is wine. Becka, did you feel that way

592
00:27:42,600 --> 00:27:44,920
Speaker 3: when you read the book? For context? I'm forty eight.

593
00:27:45,000 --> 00:27:46,960
Speaker 3: My two kids are twenty six and twenty five, so

594
00:27:47,040 --> 00:27:50,000
Speaker 3: that could be why. Wow, you guys started early and

595
00:27:50,040 --> 00:27:52,919
Speaker 3: finished early. Anyway, Love you all so much. Thank you

596
00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:56,560
Speaker 3: for entertaining me when I bop around Cincinnati, Ohio running errands.

597
00:27:56,560 --> 00:27:59,359
Speaker 3: You really do bright in my days. Your friend Tara

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Speaker 3: and the Queen the City.

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Speaker 1: Wow, I'm gonna tap out of this one because I

600
00:28:03,920 --> 00:28:07,120
Speaker 1: don't really read much. No so No, the book I'm

601
00:28:07,119 --> 00:28:09,440
Speaker 1: reading I took. I took a book on her honeymoon.

602
00:28:09,520 --> 00:28:10,480
Speaker 1: Maybe read like two pages.

603
00:28:10,600 --> 00:28:13,240
Speaker 3: Well, you're a nonfiction type anyway, you always.

604
00:28:12,920 --> 00:28:15,000
Speaker 1: Read My book was I think it's called like Limitless

605
00:28:15,040 --> 00:28:15,920
Speaker 1: and it was like all about.

606
00:28:16,600 --> 00:28:23,119
Speaker 2: Yeah, the book I'm currently reading is Atmosphere by Taylor Drinkins,

607
00:28:23,240 --> 00:28:28,000
Speaker 2: read because she also wrote Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo,

608
00:28:28,080 --> 00:28:30,919
Speaker 2: which literally changed my life. And so that's what I'm

609
00:28:30,960 --> 00:28:33,480
Speaker 2: currently reading. And everyone who's read it said it competes

610
00:28:33,520 --> 00:28:36,520
Speaker 2: with that book. So I'm just getting into it. But

611
00:28:36,560 --> 00:28:38,959
Speaker 2: I've read really good reviews. I still feel like, if

612
00:28:39,000 --> 00:28:43,720
Speaker 2: you haven't read the Housemaid series, oh yeah, I feel

613
00:28:43,720 --> 00:28:45,720
Speaker 2: like that's a really good one. All her books they

614
00:28:45,760 --> 00:28:49,080
Speaker 2: are because of you. Yeah, the movie is being made.

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00:28:49,120 --> 00:28:51,920
Speaker 3: I think, yes, interesting casting.

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Speaker 2: I thought, well, Amanda Seiffer, it's great.

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Speaker 3: Always great, but she's like the Dowdy Older. Yeah mom,

618
00:28:59,240 --> 00:29:02,840
Speaker 3: which I thought was interesting. Sidney Sweeney, Oh.

619
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Speaker 2: Yeah, really good in my opinion.

620
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Speaker 3: I mean both great. I have a hard time picturing

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Speaker 3: the mom and that I pictured my head is not

622
00:29:09,640 --> 00:29:11,880
Speaker 3: Amanda Cipher. It as much as I love her, same.

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Speaker 1: But give me, give me a we did it?

624
00:29:14,480 --> 00:29:17,040
Speaker 2: Elizabeth what's her name from Handmaid's Tale?

625
00:29:17,160 --> 00:29:17,760
Speaker 3: Oh Moss.

626
00:29:17,960 --> 00:29:24,040
Speaker 2: Yeah, that's literally who I pictured as the wife. But yeah,

627
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Speaker 2: I'm excited for the movie and I I'm trying to

628
00:29:28,240 --> 00:29:30,840
Speaker 2: think if I've read anything before, then I'm kind of

629
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Speaker 2: in a self help I try to do like, if

630
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Speaker 2: I'm going to read, I try to do self help

631
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Speaker 2: books during the day or in the morning, and then

632
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Speaker 2: if I'm going to read it at night, I do

633
00:29:38,880 --> 00:29:40,800
Speaker 2: fiction because it like puts me asleep.

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Speaker 1: Everything puts me asleep. Literally, anything puts me to sleep.

635
00:29:45,160 --> 00:29:47,320
Speaker 1: I cannot read a book sitting down or I will

636
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Speaker 1: be asleep.

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00:29:49,440 --> 00:29:52,320
Speaker 2: I started the Summer I Turned Pretty, and I think

638
00:29:52,360 --> 00:29:53,840
Speaker 2: I got through the first half of the book. I

639
00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:57,200
Speaker 2: don't even think I finished it because I couldn't. I

640
00:29:57,280 --> 00:29:59,320
Speaker 2: wasn't like super into it, and maybe that it's like

641
00:29:59,360 --> 00:30:03,760
Speaker 2: a I felt very disconnected from the youth, and I

642
00:30:03,840 --> 00:30:05,520
Speaker 2: was like, oh, this is cute, but like I just

643
00:30:05,600 --> 00:30:09,760
Speaker 2: since this the show made me like want to have

644
00:30:09,800 --> 00:30:14,120
Speaker 2: a summer fling with like the the you know our

645
00:30:14,120 --> 00:30:16,760
Speaker 2: best my mom's best friend's son, you know, like it

646
00:30:17,080 --> 00:30:21,600
Speaker 2: gives us like false sense of utopia as a kid.

647
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Speaker 2: But beyond that, I just don't really resonate with it.

648
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Speaker 2: It's just cute and good music.

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00:30:25,800 --> 00:30:28,720
Speaker 1: Right, I'm gonna suggest the four Agreements.

650
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Speaker 2: That's not quick, that's very deep.

651
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Speaker 3: Don't read that.

652
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Speaker 1: This is Tanya's read for you.

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Speaker 3: Go ahead, you give us a self help books that

654
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Speaker 3: everyone should read.

655
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Speaker 1: The Four Agreements, What's the bridge one that I feel

656
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Speaker 1: like Untethered Soul?

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Speaker 5: Oh?

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Speaker 2: I started that.

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Speaker 1: Hold on, what's the books?

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Speaker 6: Apple's books, Very Body Mark, Come on Girls, Girls Like

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Speaker 6: Girls by One.

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Speaker 2: Actually, my aunt called me yesterday and she was like,

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Speaker 2: I sat down and read Haley's book yesterday and finished

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Speaker 2: it all in a sitting. I was like, there you

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Speaker 2: go a testimonial.

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Speaker 1: I think it's the Untethered Soul. I'm just trying to

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Speaker 1: google it something.

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Speaker 3: While you google. My wife is currently reading Don't Let

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Speaker 3: Him In by Lisa Jewel and she is loving it.

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Speaker 3: So I recommend Don't Let Him In by Lisa Jewel.

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Speaker 3: And I just finished Listen for The Lie. Did we

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Speaker 3: talk about that on this show? I don't remember. Listen

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Speaker 3: for The Lie by Amy Tintera. It's great because, uh,

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Speaker 3: it's about there's it's about a podcast about a murder

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Speaker 3: that takes place, and it alternates in the building kind

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Speaker 3: of one chapter is the podcast, and then the next

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Speaker 3: chapter is the woman who is actually the suspect in

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Speaker 3: the killing and her story, and then it goes back

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Speaker 3: and forth the podcast piecing together the evidence and the

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Speaker 3: woman living her life and going back to her hometown

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Speaker 3: where the actual killing happened and help people react to

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Speaker 3: her and stuff. It's great. The audiobook is even better

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Speaker 3: because the podcast portions really sound like a podcast, and

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Speaker 3: you almost forget it's not a real podcast and it's

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Speaker 3: all fiction. Yeah, it's incredibly well made. And I read

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Speaker 3: the book, my wife listened to the audiobook. We both

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Speaker 3: loved it. So you're you're good either way, you know.

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Speaker 3: And I also loved Hail Mary, which is the new

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Speaker 3: movie coming out with Ryan Gosling about an astronaut. Maybe

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Speaker 3: not everyone's speed about that Hail marytt project. Hill Mary

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Speaker 3: was really really good.

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Speaker 1: Back to you, Tanya, It's called The Untethered Soul.

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Speaker 3: That's it.

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Speaker 7: In order to recommend, Nope, some of the Shine Mine

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Speaker 7: that's that's a good devotional. Sunshine a nice little daily

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Speaker 7: devotional for your.

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Speaker 2: The courage to be disliked, that's good, a good self

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Speaker 2: help for people pleasers. Yeah, those would be the ones

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Speaker 2: that I'd say. I have a original script of Heley's

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Speaker 2: upcoming book where There's Room for Us, but I can't

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Speaker 2: share that yet. Wow, it's a little bit about that.

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Speaker 3: So impressed. Writing a book is so impressive. Yeah, same, Tanya.

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Speaker 3: I don't mean to take because what you did with

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Speaker 3: your book is very impressive.

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Speaker 1: I know, but even mine was like bite size, right.

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Speaker 3: The idea of a three hundred page narrative with characters

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Speaker 3: and subplots and all that stuff and all the dialogue,

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Speaker 3: I can't even imagine doing that.

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Speaker 2: She let me tell you, she has what did you

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Speaker 2: call it? Sunshine guilt?

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Speaker 1: Sunshine gill.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she doesn't rest, she doesn't sleep, like.

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Speaker 1: Okay, over there by the way, sorry, hand a little

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Speaker 1: too caffeinated over there? That sellsia.

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Speaker 2: No, no, no, my hands are shaking.

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Speaker 3: Yes, well, you're very into her hands lately. What's going on?

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Speaker 2: Because of the kind of weird it's like a maybe

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Speaker 2: you have a hand fetish.

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Speaker 1: Maybe you do only only hands?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, only are you like like someone's biggest only hands.

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Speaker 3: I'm just saying I think Haley might be brilliant.

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Speaker 2: She's she has a different brain than I.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, to write music and to write books, I care

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Speaker 3: either one, and to direct she might be brilliant.

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Speaker 2: But she does fall asleep playing wordle every night. Like

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Speaker 2: we'll get through Wordle and then we'll be on connection.

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Speaker 2: She's like, I'm all, let's at least get to the

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Speaker 2: mini cross words.

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Speaker 3: How about the one the other day at the beginning

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Speaker 3: of the Ninja Turtles, Did you do that one?

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Speaker 2: I was like, oh man, no, I haven't got I'm

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Speaker 2: behind all my connections, but I'll.

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Speaker 3: Be for that one alright.

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Speaker 2: Sometimes I'm like this is crazy.

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Speaker 3: There's crazy topics. Sometimes I know.

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Speaker 2: And I'm like, they're normally the crazy ones are my

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Speaker 2: default for like I've gotten the other three things, and

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Speaker 2: then like the last ones, I'm like, how do these

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Speaker 2: connect You get it?

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Speaker 3: By default? Is not a New York Times.

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Speaker 2: Who that would be fun for you and Robbie to

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Speaker 2: do together.

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Speaker 1: Not about that? Oh yeah, he does wordle by himself.

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Speaker 1: He does oh everything. I make fun of him as well.

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Speaker 2: Does he do connections and many crosswords?

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Speaker 1: I don't know if he knows about that. You should

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Speaker 1: never have seen him do that.

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Speaker 2: Connections is so fun. I love it, Okay, Yeah, so

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Speaker 2: it just stretches your mind to think bigger than.

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Speaker 1: How do I need that one? I love Island on

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Speaker 1: my I know exactly.

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Speaker 2: I always feel better after watching reality TV of going.

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Speaker 1: Something like that. Yeah.

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Speaker 2: Also, we started watching basically like it's called Making the

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Speaker 2: Band or something.

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Speaker 1: Oh the one with the aj Yes and Liam Payne,

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Speaker 1: the late Lam Pain right right right, Yeah, it's really good.

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Speaker 5: It is.

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Speaker 2: It's like Love is Blind a band. Yeah yeah, it's

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Speaker 2: really cool and there's some like amazing singers on there.

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Speaker 2: Oh yeah, so that's a little bit about us. But Tara,

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Speaker 2: I hope that Tara, Tara, I hope that we gave

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Speaker 2: me some good back. I think she probably has read

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Speaker 2: all the ones we listed.

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Speaker 3: Maybe if not, we can only do what we can do.

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Speaker 2: That was a big yawn lost her. You know what

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Speaker 2: you gotta say, it's.

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Speaker 3: Been a long week.

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Speaker 1: Mama's gotta no.

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Speaker 5: Like.

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Speaker 2: We love you so much, love you