WEBVTT - Flirting On The Green

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to I Do Part two, the podcast for people

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<v Speaker 1>that either didn't get love right the first time around,

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<v Speaker 1>are people that have loved and lost Sondra, I am

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<v Speaker 1>welcoming you tonight to this podcast from Carmel, California. Sandra

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<v Speaker 1>Mason from our season of Golden Bachelor. How are you

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<v Speaker 1>doing this evening, Sondra?

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<v Speaker 2>I am doing great for being midnight when it says

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<v Speaker 2>nine o'clock here.

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<v Speaker 1>Well, I heard Sandra's tired, but that's okay. So I

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<v Speaker 1>am on with Susan Knowles. We have the Golden Bachelor podcast.

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<v Speaker 1>It's under Bachelor Happy Hour and it's Golden Hour, and

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<v Speaker 1>I hope you all will tune in. But tonight this

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<v Speaker 1>is about all things love. So Sandra, I haven't seen

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<v Speaker 1>you in a while, and Part two, you may or

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<v Speaker 1>may not know, is all about finding love again. So

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<v Speaker 1>let's start back at the beginning. Tell me about your

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<v Speaker 1>first love, your family, tell me how we got to

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<v Speaker 1>where we are, because this podcast is all about finding

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<v Speaker 1>love again. And to get that, we need to know

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<v Speaker 1>where you came from.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, first love as in when I was a young

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<v Speaker 2>young gul.

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<v Speaker 1>Well you know, maybe your husband, the father, your kids,

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<v Speaker 1>wherever you want to start. USh.

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<v Speaker 2>God, I got married in nineteen sixty eight. Do the math.

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<v Speaker 2>It's about one hundred years ago. I have two daughters.

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<v Speaker 2>And that was love. We were in college. Boy, that

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<v Speaker 2>takes me back. We were in college and got married

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<v Speaker 2>before I graduated. He had graduated.

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<v Speaker 1>So yeah, and how old are your kids now?

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<v Speaker 2>Fifty two and almost forty?

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<v Speaker 1>Wow?

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<v Speaker 2>How old are you? Seventy six and a half.

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<v Speaker 1>And I count them, So you're going to be soon

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<v Speaker 1>be seventy seven in July. All right, well, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>happy half birthday there, Thank you, ma'am. Okay, so tell

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<v Speaker 1>me you know you've had an amazing week. I'm just

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<v Speaker 1>going to jump in here. Your photograph with c K,

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<v Speaker 1>that is Charles K went viral. Tell me about that, Like,

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<v Speaker 1>did you have any idea that it would go viral?

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<v Speaker 1>What were you thinking?

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<v Speaker 2>No, I didn't. We were just having fun and taking

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<v Speaker 2>pictures and kind of yacking it up. And we were

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<v Speaker 2>at the restaurant and folks were saying, yeah, let us

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<v Speaker 2>take the pictures for you, because in two old people

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<v Speaker 2>trying to figure out how to hold cant the phone

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<v Speaker 2>up high and get the light. And so are you

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<v Speaker 2>talking to him?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you dating? Him. Come on, give us the school

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<v Speaker 1>that's going on.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, we lived three thousand miles apart, so it's not

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<v Speaker 2>exactly dating. We're kind of like phone piles or pin pals.

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<v Speaker 2>So but unfortunately, well unfortunately we do live that far apart.

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<v Speaker 2>And the second unfortunately is that he has an opportunity.

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<v Speaker 2>His company is sending him to Cape Town, South Africa shortly.

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<v Speaker 2>I guess his first trip there will be March.

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<v Speaker 1>So there's that makes flirting long distance in issue.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, that's a brand new talent. I'll have to develop something.

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<v Speaker 1>So wait, are you thinking like you flirting? Are you interested?

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<v Speaker 1>Tell me what you're thinking?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, I'm interested. I don't know if he is or not.

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<v Speaker 2>I can't speak for him, but as a matter of fact,

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<v Speaker 2>I was telling him that when it was Jones Limo night,

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<v Speaker 2>he was the one gentleman that I honed in on

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<v Speaker 2>when he walked out of the limo. Really, yeah, he

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<v Speaker 2>was the one, and just coincidentally, I've met it.

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<v Speaker 1>So wait, let me he lives in right now, He

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<v Speaker 1>lives in California and you live in Atlanta. So was

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<v Speaker 1>he there?

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<v Speaker 2>On? Where were you?

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<v Speaker 1>Where was the where were those pictures taken?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh? Oh, I came out here years for the Rose

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<v Speaker 2>Bowl Parade, and he and I had been talking, uh

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<v Speaker 2>chatting on the phone. Matter of fact, he had gone

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<v Speaker 2>to Atlanta for business and we were supposed to have

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<v Speaker 2>dinner one evening and I wound up in the hospital. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>this was supposed uh ton selectomy.

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<v Speaker 1>And how are you feeling now?

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<v Speaker 2>I'm a lot better?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, good. We're glad to hear that.

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<v Speaker 2>I haven't had a cold and I haven't had a

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<v Speaker 2>throw you know what.

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<v Speaker 1>I've had your cold, bronchitis, I've had it all. But

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<v Speaker 1>I'm good now. So hold on, So you came out here,

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<v Speaker 1>did you reach out to him to have dinner?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, because I owed him. I thought I owed him

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<v Speaker 2>from when I owed stood him up in Atlanta and intantly.

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<v Speaker 2>But so I told him I was coming up for

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<v Speaker 2>the parade, and we agreed to meet and got to dinner.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, and was it everything? I mean, come on, give.

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<v Speaker 2>We had great conversation. He's he's he's funny. We were

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<v Speaker 2>funny together. We just we had just great conversation, telling

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<v Speaker 2>jokes and and just learning who each other is. Uh,

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<v Speaker 2>learning about his past and shared mine with him, and

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<v Speaker 2>we just yucked it up. It was just a lot

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<v Speaker 2>of fun.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't tell. I can't tell if it's if he's

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<v Speaker 1>the friend zone.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, yeah, he would have to be. Again, we're three

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<v Speaker 2>thousand miles so.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, I'll travel anywhere for love, Saunders say, you know, well.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I won't. I don't think he would either. You

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<v Speaker 2>know he's got Hey, I always look at it this wave.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm interested in the guy. Other people are interested in

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<v Speaker 2>that same guy. So it's not like I can.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't you think you're I mean, come on, aren't you

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<v Speaker 1>first in line?

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. I haven't asked, all right.

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<v Speaker 1>So so for those of you who don't know, we're

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<v Speaker 1>all out here having a fabulous weekend in Carmel, and

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<v Speaker 1>we're here for the Pebble Beach pro am, and I

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<v Speaker 1>do I need to tell you how many available men

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<v Speaker 1>are going to be on that golf course.

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<v Speaker 2>I have no idea.

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<v Speaker 1>Tell me there's gonna be a lot. Okay, So my

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<v Speaker 1>question for you is, what do you think? Are you

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<v Speaker 1>going to be flirting with some other guys you're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be looking? Are you gonna because you know c K

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<v Speaker 1>is here?

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<v Speaker 2>Yes? Yes? Have you seen him?

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<v Speaker 1>Man? I know?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I know we're supposed to have a podcast tomorrow.

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<v Speaker 2>So have I seen him?

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<v Speaker 1>No?

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<v Speaker 2>I just walked in.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait, what give me the school? I want the scoop, Sondra,

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<v Speaker 1>what's the scoop going to be on the podcast?

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<v Speaker 2>I have no idea?

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<v Speaker 1>Nope? Are you going? Are you going to ask him out?

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<v Speaker 1>You're going to try to like be his date while

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<v Speaker 1>you're here?

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<v Speaker 2>Come on, Kathy, you're asking me things I haven't even

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<v Speaker 2>thought about. I don't I don't know what to expect

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<v Speaker 2>to this entire weekend. So I know that some of

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<v Speaker 2>his castmates will be there, so he gets to reunite

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<v Speaker 2>with the guys.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a golden reunion. Okay, Okay, so let me ask

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<v Speaker 1>you something. Are you dating at all? Other guys? Spell

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<v Speaker 1>you know, I'm going to ask.

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<v Speaker 2>A gentleman in my local area that I've been talking with,

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<v Speaker 2>just talking and and and we've we've gone to dinner

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<v Speaker 2>a couple of times, and uh, I met a buddy

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<v Speaker 2>of his. So that's that's dating. That's prelim dating, I think, Sondra.

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<v Speaker 1>Help you know me? Well, you know I'm not letting

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<v Speaker 1>that one go. Are we kissing? Are we holding?

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<v Speaker 2>We have kissed?

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<v Speaker 1>So this is more than just a one time date.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, thus far, we've had two I call call

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<v Speaker 2>it to a half dates.

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<v Speaker 1>So, K, you're out in the cold, buddy.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just gonna Oh no, no, no, don't say that.

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<v Speaker 2>I'd be willing to bet mister has had since I've

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<v Speaker 2>met him, he's had several dates. He's a working guy too,

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<v Speaker 2>so his time maybe someone limited. I'm retired, so I

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<v Speaker 2>can I'm a little more flexible.

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<v Speaker 1>So are you dating more than one guy?

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<v Speaker 2>No?

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<v Speaker 1>Not right now? Are you a one guy girl? Not necessarily,

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<v Speaker 1>but there's only one guy right now, right now, and

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<v Speaker 1>he lives in Atlanta.

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<v Speaker 2>He lives in the Atlanta area.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, So you know you and I are both in

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<v Speaker 1>the dating world now. And it's a different world, right,

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<v Speaker 1>I mean tell me, I can't remember. Are you divorced, right? Yes, divorced? Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>and you know my husband passed away, so it's a

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<v Speaker 1>little bit different. How do your kids feel about you dating?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, they're excited for me, just like I've said before.

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<v Speaker 2>They are my cheerleaders. When I was on the Golden Batch,

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<v Speaker 2>they were my cheerleaders, and finding a guy is something

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<v Speaker 2>they want for me, just like I want that for them.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah. Yeah, Well are your kids with Do they have partners?

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<v Speaker 2>Actually? Yes, you know one got married, Yeah, I remember that.

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<v Speaker 2>The other one is dating a gentleman. So yeah, they're

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<v Speaker 2>doing great.

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<v Speaker 1>So how do they feel like my kids? I'll be

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<v Speaker 1>honest with you. My kids don't like it when they

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<v Speaker 1>see me with the guy kissing them, holding hands PDA.

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<v Speaker 1>Uh uh kids that you'd have to ask them.

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<v Speaker 2>But they want you to be a virgin till you die.

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<v Speaker 1>I think the virgin things sailed three children ago. Well, no,

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<v Speaker 1>you know what I mean, But no, I just think

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<v Speaker 1>it makes them uncomfortable. Your kids, how do you feel

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<v Speaker 1>about PDA? Like, are you going to hold hands in public?

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<v Speaker 1>Kids in public?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, if it comes to that, absolutely, I don't. I

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<v Speaker 2>don't have a problem with that at all. And I

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<v Speaker 2>don't think they would either. Yeah, they might. They might

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<v Speaker 2>kid my daughters.

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<v Speaker 1>So are you looking for serious the serious next guy?

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<v Speaker 2>I would think?

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<v Speaker 1>So?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 1>Really, are you ready to get like commit?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh? If it's the right man, I will commit. Now.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not signing papers, that's what you're asking.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh wait, what does that mean?

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<v Speaker 2>It means I'm not getting married?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh? Well, I mean unless you want more children at

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<v Speaker 1>seventy six what.

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<v Speaker 2>We could practice?

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, So okay, so you're out here, you're gonna go?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you gonna be looking for guys out here?

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<v Speaker 2>I I hadn't thought about it. So what I hadn't

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't know what to expect.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not okay, let me let me break the down.

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<v Speaker 2>You break it down, girlfriend.

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<v Speaker 1>There is going to be a pebblebeat pro am golf tournament.

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<v Speaker 1>There's gonna be a lot of golfers. There's gonna be

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people watching the golfers. Men love golf. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>I know, there's can be a lot of men out there. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>are you gonna be searching? Do I have to fight you?

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<v Speaker 1>Do I have to fight you? No?

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<v Speaker 2>Of course not. You know, here's the thing. I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>a flirter. I'm really not.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't believe that for one minute.

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<v Speaker 2>I think the most effective way to approach men or

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<v Speaker 2>is just to talk, just to talk and be myself.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm the whole flirting thing. My god, I'm seventy six

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<v Speaker 2>years old at the I'm not flirting.

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<v Speaker 1>So how do you meet guys? I mean, what do

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<v Speaker 1>you do? You go up and talk to him? Talk?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, talk, about.

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<v Speaker 1>But here's the thing I do Part two. Right, We've

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<v Speaker 1>we've both been married before. We're looking for part two.

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<v Speaker 1>We're looking for our second happiness, right, second partner, second

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<v Speaker 1>person to spend our life with.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, well, could have been more than that. But okay,

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I've dated since right divorce. But no.

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<v Speaker 1>But I'm saying we're looking for that that person.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, are you?

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<v Speaker 1>I mean I am.

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<v Speaker 2>I guess I'm looking. I'm not, see Kathy, I don't.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not sure how to express this. I'm not out

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<v Speaker 2>looking and searching for a guy. It happens organically. I

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<v Speaker 2>bump into men, I meet men, friends, introduced me to guys.

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<v Speaker 2>But to say I'm out there with you know my

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<v Speaker 2>antenna up? No? No?

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<v Speaker 1>So okay, well, I think that's very fair. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>you know me, I always say, guys aren't going to

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<v Speaker 1>come and knock on your door. You have to be

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<v Speaker 1>out there.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me be out there, out and about.

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<v Speaker 1>So are you good? If you're I mean, I have

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<v Speaker 1>to be honest. I would like to find that guy

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<v Speaker 1>to have my part two with, and I think you

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<v Speaker 1>would too. But it takes a lot of work.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, I don't, I wouldn't call it work. I just

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know. Effort, effort, Okay, effort In other words,

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<v Speaker 2>like you said, you can't sit at home and expect

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<v Speaker 2>someone to knock on the door. You have to be

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<v Speaker 2>out and about, you have to be Do you.

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<v Speaker 1>Know what I would do right now to have someone

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<v Speaker 1>knock on the door, just on this podcast here, that

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<v Speaker 1>knock and say, wow, he's here. I don't think it's happening.

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<v Speaker 1>Just it just passed my mind for a moment there.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know, I think I think a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>people thought that, you know, we would have a lot

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<v Speaker 1>of guys from jone season, uh, you know, hooking up

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<v Speaker 1>with us. I think the difference. I actually I was

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<v Speaker 1>going to ask you this. I think that I've talked

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<v Speaker 1>to a lot of the guys from Jones season and

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<v Speaker 1>they've had a lot of women reach out to them.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not surprised at all.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not either. Did you have a lot of guys

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<v Speaker 1>reach out to you on DMS when you came off

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<v Speaker 1>the show.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm not going to I don't think a lot is

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<v Speaker 2>an appropriate word. I've had several, but I don't know

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<v Speaker 2>what that's on.

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<v Speaker 1>Did you date any of them?

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<v Speaker 2>No, I've had converse phone conversations. The problem, Well, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know if it's a problem. The gentlemen who have

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<v Speaker 2>reached out to me again are long distance from where

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<v Speaker 2>I am.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you willing to relocate?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I don't know. It depends on who it is

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<v Speaker 2>and what the other circumstances in life. It's just in

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<v Speaker 2>my mind, it's difficult to date. It's difficult to get

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<v Speaker 2>to know someone. It's difficult to be spontaneous when someone

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<v Speaker 2>lives a plane ride away?

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, but wait, would you pick up? And I think

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<v Speaker 1>the difference between now and part two for me is

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<v Speaker 1>I meet the guy I'm interested in. He says, Hey,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, let me buy a ticket. Let's meet in London.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going, okay, are you?

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<v Speaker 2>It depends on It depends on who he is.

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<v Speaker 1>What I mean, if I have to be interested.

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<v Speaker 2>Right, yeah, if it's the right guy, I might do that.

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<v Speaker 2>And I've had a guy say to me whom I

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<v Speaker 2>really never met, just had half of a conversation with,

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<v Speaker 2>and he says, I want you to come out and

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<v Speaker 2>see you live in Chicago. I want you to come

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<v Speaker 2>see me and I'll pay your way. And how's that?

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<v Speaker 2>And I said, well, first of all, I can pay

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<v Speaker 2>my own way. If I'm going to come see you,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm paying my own way. And two, I gave him

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<v Speaker 2>the daughter test. Do you have a daughter? He said yes.

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<v Speaker 2>I said, if some man she never met said to her,

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<v Speaker 2>I'll pay your way, come see me, what would you

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<v Speaker 2>tell your daughter? And it stopped him and he said,

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<v Speaker 2>I understand. So I said, so look, if you want

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<v Speaker 2>to meet me, you come my way. You make that

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<v Speaker 2>effort first. I'm not gonna hop a plane come see

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<v Speaker 2>you just because you paid for it.

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<v Speaker 1>And folks, therein lies the difference. If c K goes

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<v Speaker 1>to South Africa and asks me to come, I'm on

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<v Speaker 1>the next plane.

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<v Speaker 2>But see, I've already mete K. I've met him. We've

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<v Speaker 2>had we've spent time together. We've on the phone, we've

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<v Speaker 2>had nose to nose.

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<v Speaker 1>So I, I wait, did you kiss him?

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<v Speaker 2>We kissed?

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<v Speaker 1>Is he a good kisser?

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<v Speaker 2>I think so. I think I think we matched well

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<v Speaker 2>in that department.

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<v Speaker 1>Listen to her. I'm telling you, getting stuff out of you,

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<v Speaker 1>Sundra's like pulling teeth.

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<v Speaker 2>I'm sorry, I'm sorry.

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<v Speaker 1>You know.

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<v Speaker 2>Here's the thing, Kathy, I'm a very pragmatic person, very practical,

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<v Speaker 2>very pragmatic. So I'm not one who can read between

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<v Speaker 2>the lines very well.

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<v Speaker 1>You're not going to jump off a cliff if if

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<v Speaker 1>you think I could be loved, you're not going to

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<v Speaker 1>take the risk.

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<v Speaker 2>Well yeah, well that's what are you asking me.

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<v Speaker 1>I guess what I'm saying is you know, you see

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<v Speaker 1>you're pragmatic. Sometimes love, especially at our age, is just

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<v Speaker 1>jumping off a cliff saying I don't know, let's see

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<v Speaker 1>where it goes.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, So are you talking about once you're in love

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<v Speaker 2>or getting toward love? I'm away? At what point are

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<v Speaker 2>you talking about.

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<v Speaker 1>Saying I meet somebody and I think, well, maybe I'm

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<v Speaker 1>interested just taking the risk. It's you know, it's not

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<v Speaker 1>like you and I are gonna raise a family, have children,

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<v Speaker 1>So why not take a risk? You're retired? Why not?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, I can take a risk, but I've got to

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<v Speaker 2>get to know someone I've got. There's got to be

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<v Speaker 2>some comfort level there that he is age appropriate, that

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<v Speaker 2>he has relationships, the family relationships that he has, that

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<v Speaker 2>he's financially stable. There are things that I that have

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<v Speaker 2>to be in place before I jump off a cliff. Okay,

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<v Speaker 2>So because I'm too practical.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, I was just going to say, that's that's very

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<v Speaker 1>that's not jumping off a cliff. That's getting all the

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<v Speaker 1>data walking step by stepped to the cliff, and which

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<v Speaker 1>is fine too, which is fine to Well, you know what.

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<v Speaker 1>It seems to have worked well for you so far.

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<v Speaker 1>Are you ready for the golf tournament tomorrow?

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<v Speaker 2>I think so. Yeah, it should be fun.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Are you a golfer? I used to golf. I've got

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<v Speaker 2>two sets of clubs in my garage.

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<v Speaker 1>Wait, you know how I talk about used to guys?

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<v Speaker 1>Are you a used to golfer? Mean?

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<v Speaker 2>I used to golf. I stopped about a year and

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<v Speaker 2>a half ago. I stopped just before we filmed on

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<v Speaker 2>the Batch because I had a little bit of a

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<v Speaker 2>car accident and jammed my thumb and it swelled up.

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<v Speaker 2>Went to the doctor and they x rayed both hands

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<v Speaker 2>and said, oh, by the way, you have arthritis and

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<v Speaker 2>both thumbs. Oh joy. Okay, so gripping sometimes is a

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<v Speaker 2>problem for me. So I haven't since the show. I

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<v Speaker 2>haven't really. I've gone out to the range. I haven't

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<v Speaker 2>gone out to the course.

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<v Speaker 1>I can all right, Well, I'm going to be watching

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<v Speaker 1>you at this golf tournament I'm going to be seeing

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<v Speaker 1>who you make eye contact with. I'm going to be

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<v Speaker 1>seeing who floats your boat, who you're willing to walk

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<v Speaker 1>off the cliff for, who you're willing to walk up

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<v Speaker 1>and give a kiss to, who you're willing to walk

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<v Speaker 1>up to and start a conversation with.

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<v Speaker 2>Hey, I can do I can conversation.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah you can do that. Sure, Okay, now I might,

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<v Speaker 1>I might beat you to it.

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<v Speaker 2>Can I get some pointers from you because you seem

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<v Speaker 2>to be you know what?

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<v Speaker 1>I I pointers on what how to meet.

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<v Speaker 2>The guy, how to flirt, how to I mean turn off.

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<v Speaker 1>Here's here's what I do if I find someone that

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<v Speaker 1>is appealing to me. I think the biggest compliment you

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<v Speaker 1>can pay someone and show you're interested is to ask him,

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<v Speaker 1>in my case, ask him questions about himself. That's what

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<v Speaker 1>I do. I ask, and I use their name, so

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<v Speaker 1>you know, in your case, c K, tell me where

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<v Speaker 1>you know, tell me you're going to South Africa. Whatever

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<v Speaker 1>I ask using their name, look them in the eye,

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<v Speaker 1>ask some questions about themselves, because I think that puts

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<v Speaker 1>people at ease. But then, of course I'm waiting for

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<v Speaker 1>those people ask me questions as well. But I also

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<v Speaker 1>think sometimes just a smile, you know, making an eye contact.

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<v Speaker 1>It's not that hard. I do believe chemistry is you know,

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<v Speaker 1>it's it's at the forefront. Right you meet someone, you

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<v Speaker 1>either have chemistry you don't.

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<v Speaker 2>See and I don't I don't see. I don't like

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<v Speaker 2>to be interviewed. I don't like men to come ask

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<v Speaker 2>me are you married? Or who are you here? With no,

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<v Speaker 2>So by the same token, I don't want to approach anyone. Well,

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<v Speaker 2>I'll talk to a guy and we'll chat about where

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<v Speaker 2>we are, what's going on, how's your game, where your buddy.

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<v Speaker 2>I'll talk about things that are would be common to

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<v Speaker 2>the environment, not necessarily go after him.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, but think about it, Sondra. You have to when

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<v Speaker 1>you meet someone, you have somebody has to say, hey,

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<v Speaker 1>how are you nice to meet you? Or you know,

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<v Speaker 1>oh you're a golfer. Oh you're here watching the golf tournament.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah, that kind of conversation is great.

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<v Speaker 1>Well that's how you start.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, But when you say start asking him questions about

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<v Speaker 2>himself and use his name and that's fine, Well, I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know, I just maybe I've misunderstood what you were saying.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, Well, here's what I think, Sondra. Tomorrow, when you

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<v Speaker 1>and I go to the golf.

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<v Speaker 2>Tournament, are you going to give me some point?

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<v Speaker 1>I want you to follow after me. We're gonna we're

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<v Speaker 1>gonna pick out the guy you're gonna show me, Kathy.

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<v Speaker 1>I like that guy, and I'm gonna I'm gonna I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna make it happen for you.

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<v Speaker 2>You are, You're gonna tell him.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna be a wing woman. I'm gonna be your

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<v Speaker 1>wing woman.

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<v Speaker 2>Lord of Mercy, I'm in trouble now.

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<v Speaker 1>No, it's gonna it's gonna be great. You're gonna have guys,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, like a dance card. Your dance card is

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<v Speaker 1>gonna be full. These guys are all gonna be like,

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<v Speaker 1>I want her number. I want her number.

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<v Speaker 2>But let me ask you this, Kathy. You say there's

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<v Speaker 2>going to be a swarm of men, won't there be

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of women as well?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah? I think I measure up. Do you measure up?

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<v Speaker 2>Well? Yeah? I don't. Then don't trying to measure I'm

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<v Speaker 2>just saying.

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<v Speaker 1>Who cares? My point is who cares? Right, You're at

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<v Speaker 1>the top of the heaps, so am I at the top.

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<v Speaker 1>You're at the top of the You're at the top

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<v Speaker 1>of the heap. It has been great having you. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>so glad you're here with us. We are going to

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<v Speaker 1>have a great time with some of the guys from

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<v Speaker 1>Jones season, some of us the Golden Bachelorettes. We're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>have a great time. I'm so glad you hear. This

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<v Speaker 1>is going to create memories that you are not going

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<v Speaker 1>to forget. You never know, Sondra. Yeah, you're gonna learn

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<v Speaker 1>how to flirt.

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<v Speaker 2>You might find you're not going to get to know

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<v Speaker 2>about that's flirting. Is that flirting?

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<v Speaker 1>Flirting?

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<v Speaker 2>Always thought flirting was throwing your hair, winking, staring. I

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<v Speaker 2>assumed that that was flirting behavior. So maybe that's the words.

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<v Speaker 1>Do as I say, not as I do. Follow me, Sandra,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not flipping your hair. I'm gonna give you. I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna give you a lessons. We're gonnay the next time

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<v Speaker 1>we do a podcast, you're going to be telling the

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<v Speaker 1>world about all the men you met at the Pebble

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<v Speaker 1>Beach program. Thanks for joining me. I really enjoyed it.

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<v Speaker 1>Tune in to I Do Part two. Loved having you

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<v Speaker 1>and see you next time, all right.

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<v Speaker 2>Thanks Kathy,