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Speaker 1: Welcome to I Do Part two, the podcast for people

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Speaker 1: that either didn't get love right the first time around,

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Speaker 1: are people that have loved and lost Sondra, I am

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Speaker 1: welcoming you tonight to this podcast from Carmel, California. Sandra

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Speaker 1: Mason from our season of Golden Bachelor. How are you

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Speaker 1: doing this evening, Sondra?

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Speaker 2: I am doing great for being midnight when it says

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Speaker 2: nine o'clock here.

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Speaker 1: Well, I heard Sandra's tired, but that's okay. So I

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Speaker 1: am on with Susan Knowles. We have the Golden Bachelor podcast.

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Speaker 1: It's under Bachelor Happy Hour and it's Golden Hour, and

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Speaker 1: I hope you all will tune in. But tonight this

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Speaker 1: is about all things love. So Sandra, I haven't seen

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Speaker 1: you in a while, and Part two, you may or

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Speaker 1: may not know, is all about finding love again. So

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Speaker 1: let's start back at the beginning. Tell me about your

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Speaker 1: first love, your family, tell me how we got to

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Speaker 1: where we are, because this podcast is all about finding

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Speaker 1: love again. And to get that, we need to know

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Speaker 1: where you came from.

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Speaker 2: Okay, first love as in when I was a young

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Speaker 2: young gul.

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Speaker 1: Well you know, maybe your husband, the father, your kids,

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Speaker 1: wherever you want to start. USh.

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Speaker 2: God, I got married in nineteen sixty eight. Do the math.

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Speaker 2: It's about one hundred years ago. I have two daughters.

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Speaker 2: And that was love. We were in college. Boy, that

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Speaker 2: takes me back. We were in college and got married

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Speaker 2: before I graduated. He had graduated.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, and how old are your kids now?

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Speaker 2: Fifty two and almost forty?

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Speaker 1: Wow?

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Speaker 2: How old are you? Seventy six and a half.

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Speaker 1: And I count them, So you're going to be soon

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Speaker 1: be seventy seven in July. All right, well, you know,

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Speaker 1: happy half birthday there, Thank you, ma'am. Okay, so tell

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Speaker 1: me you know you've had an amazing week. I'm just

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Speaker 1: going to jump in here. Your photograph with c K,

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Speaker 1: that is Charles K went viral. Tell me about that, Like,

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Speaker 1: did you have any idea that it would go viral?

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Speaker 1: What were you thinking?

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Speaker 2: No, I didn't. We were just having fun and taking

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Speaker 2: at the restaurant and folks were saying, yeah, let us

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Speaker 2: trying to figure out how to hold cant the phone

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Speaker 2: up high and get the light. And so are you

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Speaker 2: talking to him?

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Speaker 1: Are you dating? Him. Come on, give us the school

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Speaker 1: that's going on.

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Speaker 2: Okay, we lived three thousand miles apart, so it's not

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Speaker 2: exactly dating. We're kind of like phone piles or pin pals.

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Speaker 2: So but unfortunately, well unfortunately we do live that far apart.

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Speaker 2: And the second unfortunately is that he has an opportunity.

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Speaker 2: His company is sending him to Cape Town, South Africa shortly.

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Speaker 2: I guess his first trip there will be March.

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Speaker 1: So there's that makes flirting long distance in issue.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's a brand new talent. I'll have to develop something.

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Speaker 1: So wait, are you thinking like you flirting? Are you interested?

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Speaker 1: Tell me what you're thinking?

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Speaker 2: Oh, I'm interested. I don't know if he is or not.

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Speaker 2: I can't speak for him, but as a matter of fact,

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Speaker 2: I was telling him that when it was Jones Limo night,

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Speaker 2: when he walked out of the limo. Really, yeah, he

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Speaker 1: So wait, let me he lives in right now, He

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Speaker 2: On? Where were you?

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Speaker 1: Where was the where were those pictures taken?

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Speaker 2: Oh? Oh, I came out here years for the Rose

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Speaker 2: Bowl Parade, and he and I had been talking, uh

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Speaker 2: this was supposed uh ton selectomy.

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Speaker 1: And how are you feeling now?

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Speaker 2: I'm a lot better?

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Speaker 2: I haven't had a cold and I haven't had a

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Speaker 1: I've had your cold, bronchitis, I've had it all. But

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Speaker 1: I'm good now. So hold on, So you came out here,

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Speaker 2: Well, because I owed him. I thought I owed him

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Speaker 2: But so I told him I was coming up for

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Speaker 1: Okay, and was it everything? I mean, come on, give.

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Speaker 2: We had great conversation. He's he's he's funny. We were

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Speaker 2: learning about his past and shared mine with him, and

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Speaker 2: we just yucked it up. It was just a lot

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Speaker 2: Well, yeah, he would have to be. Again, we're three

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Speaker 1: I mean, I'll travel anywhere for love, Saunders say, you know, well.

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Speaker 2: I'm interested in the guy. Other people are interested in

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Speaker 1: Don't you think you're I mean, come on, aren't you

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Speaker 2: I don't know. I haven't asked, all right.

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Speaker 1: So so for those of you who don't know, we're

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Speaker 1: all out here having a fabulous weekend in Carmel, and

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Speaker 1: we're here for the Pebble Beach pro am, and I

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Speaker 1: do I need to tell you how many available men

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Speaker 1: Tell me there's gonna be a lot. Okay, So my

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Speaker 2: Yes? Yes? Have you seen him?

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Speaker 2: Well, I know we're supposed to have a podcast tomorrow.

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Speaker 2: So have I seen him?

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Speaker 1: Wait, what give me the school? I want the scoop, Sondra,

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Speaker 1: what's the scoop going to be on the podcast?

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Speaker 1: Nope? Are you going? Are you going to ask him out?

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Speaker 2: Come on, Kathy, you're asking me things I haven't even

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Speaker 1: It's a golden reunion. Okay, Okay, so let me ask

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Speaker 2: A gentleman in my local area that I've been talking with,

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Speaker 2: of his. So that's that's dating. That's prelim dating, I think, Sondra.

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Speaker 1: Help you know me? Well, you know I'm not letting

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Speaker 2: We have kissed?

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Speaker 1: So this is more than just a one time date.

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Speaker 1: So, K, you're out in the cold, buddy.

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Speaker 2: I'm just gonna Oh no, no, no, don't say that.

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Speaker 2: I'd be willing to bet mister has had since I've

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Speaker 1: So are you dating more than one guy?

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Speaker 1: Not right now? Are you a one guy girl? Not necessarily,

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Speaker 1: but there's only one guy right now, right now, and

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Speaker 2: He lives in the Atlanta area.

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Speaker 1: I mean tell me, I can't remember. Are you divorced, right? Yes, divorced? Okay,

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Speaker 2: Oh, they're excited for me, just like I've said before.

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Speaker 2: They are my cheerleaders. When I was on the Golden Batch,

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Speaker 2: they want for me, just like I want that for them.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, Well are your kids with Do they have partners?

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Speaker 1: So are you looking for serious the serious next guy?

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Speaker 1: Really, are you ready to get like commit?

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Speaker 2: Oh? If it's the right man, I will commit. Now.

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Speaker 2: I'm not signing papers, that's what you're asking.

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Speaker 2: It means I'm not getting married?

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Speaker 1: seventy six what.

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Speaker 2: We could practice?

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Speaker 1: But yeah, So okay, so you're out here, you're gonna go?

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Speaker 1: Are you gonna be looking for guys out here?

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Speaker 2: I I hadn't thought about it. So what I hadn't

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Speaker 2: I didn't know what to expect.

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Speaker 1: I'm not okay, let me let me break the down.

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Speaker 2: You break it down, girlfriend.

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Speaker 1: There is going to be a pebblebeat pro am golf tournament.

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Speaker 1: There's gonna be a lot of golfers. There's gonna be

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Speaker 1: a lot of people watching the golfers. Men love golf. Yes,

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Speaker 1: I know, there's can be a lot of men out there. Okay,

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Speaker 1: are you gonna be searching? Do I have to fight you?

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Speaker 1: Do I have to fight you? No?

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Speaker 2: Of course not. You know, here's the thing. I'm not

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Speaker 1: I don't believe that for one minute.

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Speaker 2: I think the most effective way to approach men or

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Speaker 2: I'm the whole flirting thing. My god, I'm seventy six

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Speaker 2: See and I don't I don't see. I don't like

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Speaker 2: Tournament, are you going to give me some point?

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Speaker 1: I want you to follow after me. We're gonna we're

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Speaker 1: I like that guy, and I'm gonna I'm gonna I'm

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Speaker 2: You are, You're gonna tell him.

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna be a wing woman. I'm gonna be your

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Speaker 2: Lord of Mercy, I'm in trouble now.

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Speaker 1: No, it's gonna it's gonna be great. You're gonna have guys,

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Speaker 2: But let me ask you this, Kathy. You say there's

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Speaker 1: Yeah? I think I measure up. Do you measure up?

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Speaker 2: Well? Yeah? I don't. Then don't trying to measure I'm

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Speaker 1: Who cares? My point is who cares? Right, You're at

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Speaker 1: Jones season, some of us the Golden Bachelorettes. We're gonna

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Speaker 1: have a great time. I'm so glad you hear. This

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Speaker 1: is going to create memories that you are not going

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Speaker 1: to forget. You never know, Sondra. Yeah, you're gonna learn

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Speaker 1: how to flirt.

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Speaker 2: You might find you're not going to get to know

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Speaker 2: about that's flirting. Is that flirting?

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Speaker 1: Flirting?

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Speaker 2: Always thought flirting was throwing your hair, winking, staring. I

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Speaker 2: assumed that that was flirting behavior. So maybe that's the words.

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Speaker 1: Do as I say, not as I do. Follow me, Sandra,

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Speaker 1: it's not flipping your hair. I'm gonna give you. I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna give you a lessons. We're gonnay the next time

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Speaker 1: we do a podcast, you're going to be telling the

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Speaker 1: world about all the men you met at the Pebble

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Speaker 1: Beach program. Thanks for joining me. I really enjoyed it.

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Speaker 1: Tune in to I Do Part two. Loved having you

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Speaker 1: and see you next time, all right.

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Speaker 2: Thanks Kathy,