1 00:00:01,240 --> 00:00:03,960 Speaker 1: It is time now for today's Strawberry Letter, and if 2 00:00:03,960 --> 00:00:07,880 Speaker 1: you need advice on relationship, stating, work, sex, parenting, and more, 3 00:00:08,240 --> 00:00:11,719 Speaker 1: please submit your Strawberry Letter to step RVFM dot com 4 00:00:11,720 --> 00:00:15,200 Speaker 1: and click submit Strawberry Letter. We could be reading your letter. 5 00:00:15,320 --> 00:00:18,320 Speaker 1: This one could be yours. You never know, could be 6 00:00:18,320 --> 00:00:21,320 Speaker 1: reading it live. I'm the air. All right, ladies and gentlemen, 7 00:00:21,320 --> 00:00:23,640 Speaker 1: It's time for the Strawberry Letter with my good friend 8 00:00:24,079 --> 00:00:29,600 Speaker 1: Shirley Strawbary and you're my good friend, Junior. Thank you. Subject. 9 00:00:30,120 --> 00:00:33,680 Speaker 1: Listen to this subject? Is he a good Samaritan or 10 00:00:33,720 --> 00:00:37,479 Speaker 1: a good liar? Dear Stephen, Shirley, My husband and I 11 00:00:37,520 --> 00:00:40,120 Speaker 1: have been married for twelve years, and we've had a 12 00:00:40,120 --> 00:00:43,640 Speaker 1: tough time financially because of the pandemic. I had to 13 00:00:43,640 --> 00:00:47,200 Speaker 1: step up and take care of most of our financial responsibilities. 14 00:00:47,520 --> 00:00:49,720 Speaker 1: My husband was still out of the house a lot, 15 00:00:49,720 --> 00:00:52,960 Speaker 1: even though we were all supposed to be quarantine. He 16 00:00:53,040 --> 00:00:55,920 Speaker 1: said he was checking on his business and tying up 17 00:00:56,000 --> 00:01:00,600 Speaker 1: loose ends. I believe it. I believed it because he 18 00:01:00,720 --> 00:01:04,360 Speaker 1: ended up closing the businesses. At the top of twenty 19 00:01:04,400 --> 00:01:07,280 Speaker 1: twenty two. He started getting a lot of phone calls 20 00:01:07,319 --> 00:01:10,679 Speaker 1: back to back and ignored the calls in my face. 21 00:01:11,040 --> 00:01:13,720 Speaker 1: I was so curious, but I did not ask him 22 00:01:13,760 --> 00:01:17,200 Speaker 1: any questions. I shared this info with my older sister 23 00:01:17,400 --> 00:01:19,400 Speaker 1: because she has been heard by a lot of men. 24 00:01:19,920 --> 00:01:23,880 Speaker 1: She immediately called him a cheater. I wanted to believe 25 00:01:23,959 --> 00:01:25,920 Speaker 1: that my husband was different from the men in my 26 00:01:26,000 --> 00:01:28,840 Speaker 1: sister's life, but he may be a cheater and a 27 00:01:28,959 --> 00:01:33,480 Speaker 1: liar too. Here's why. I finally asked him about the 28 00:01:33,520 --> 00:01:35,880 Speaker 1: phone calls he keeps getting, and he said it was 29 00:01:35,920 --> 00:01:38,560 Speaker 1: a bill collector. I asked him which one so I 30 00:01:38,600 --> 00:01:40,759 Speaker 1: could take care of it, since I was handling most 31 00:01:40,760 --> 00:01:43,080 Speaker 1: of the bills now. He said it was for his 32 00:01:43,200 --> 00:01:46,240 Speaker 1: business and he'd handle it to the best of his ability. 33 00:01:46,760 --> 00:01:50,080 Speaker 1: I assumed he was being proud, so I snooped on 34 00:01:50,120 --> 00:01:53,280 Speaker 1: his phone and found the company that kept calling. When 35 00:01:53,320 --> 00:01:55,560 Speaker 1: I called the number, it was a woman from my 36 00:01:55,640 --> 00:01:59,520 Speaker 1: husband's past that he programmed under a fake company name. 37 00:02:00,080 --> 00:02:02,520 Speaker 1: She told me that my husband had been paying her 38 00:02:02,600 --> 00:02:05,920 Speaker 1: car note and it was about to be repossessed. I 39 00:02:06,000 --> 00:02:08,600 Speaker 1: asked her if they had a romantic connection, and she 40 00:02:08,760 --> 00:02:11,840 Speaker 1: told me to go talk to my husband. He said 41 00:02:11,840 --> 00:02:15,520 Speaker 1: it's nothing more than helping her out financially. Why hide 42 00:02:15,520 --> 00:02:18,840 Speaker 1: her info in his phone. Why is he giving her money? 43 00:02:19,280 --> 00:02:24,760 Speaker 1: Is he a good samaritan or a liar? What? Okay, 44 00:02:25,440 --> 00:02:28,640 Speaker 1: he's both, He's both. He's both a good samaritan and 45 00:02:28,760 --> 00:02:33,600 Speaker 1: an liar. Actually, a good samaritan to this woman. He's 46 00:02:33,639 --> 00:02:36,280 Speaker 1: a good samaritan because he's been paying her car note, 47 00:02:36,440 --> 00:02:40,000 Speaker 1: and a liar to you, his wife. He's also one 48 00:02:40,040 --> 00:02:43,560 Speaker 1: more thing. He's a very bad husband. I mean, how 49 00:02:43,720 --> 00:02:46,560 Speaker 1: is he okay with taking money out of your household 50 00:02:46,800 --> 00:02:49,120 Speaker 1: to give it to another woman for her car note? 51 00:02:49,360 --> 00:02:52,520 Speaker 1: And please don't think he's just giving her money. He's 52 00:02:52,600 --> 00:02:55,320 Speaker 1: cheating with her too. I mean that explains a back, 53 00:02:55,800 --> 00:02:58,280 Speaker 1: back to back phone calls. I know she said her 54 00:02:58,280 --> 00:03:02,200 Speaker 1: car was being repossessed, and ask your husband about anything 55 00:03:02,320 --> 00:03:05,160 Speaker 1: romantic going on. But come on, he's giving her money, 56 00:03:05,880 --> 00:03:08,760 Speaker 1: the filing of her name under a fake company, and 57 00:03:08,800 --> 00:03:11,079 Speaker 1: all the other lies he told. He told a lot 58 00:03:11,080 --> 00:03:14,160 Speaker 1: of lies. He seemed to be quite all right with 59 00:03:14,280 --> 00:03:16,520 Speaker 1: you taking over the bills. That way he can have 60 00:03:16,600 --> 00:03:19,840 Speaker 1: money to give to give to a side piece. He says, 61 00:03:19,880 --> 00:03:23,760 Speaker 1: it's nothing more than helping her out financially. But this 62 00:03:23,880 --> 00:03:26,880 Speaker 1: is wrong because you're the one who needs help. Your wife, 63 00:03:27,760 --> 00:03:30,360 Speaker 1: His wife needs the help. You're the one that's paying 64 00:03:30,400 --> 00:03:33,560 Speaker 1: all the bills. What about helping you out financially? Did 65 00:03:33,600 --> 00:03:36,360 Speaker 1: you bother to ask him why is he helping her 66 00:03:36,680 --> 00:03:39,200 Speaker 1: or what is he getting from her? Well, you know what, 67 00:03:39,400 --> 00:03:44,280 Speaker 1: don't bother because he's just gonna lie. But in case 68 00:03:44,320 --> 00:03:47,880 Speaker 1: you're not sure, yes, he's getting sex in return. No 69 00:03:47,920 --> 00:03:51,280 Speaker 1: one is that good. No one is that good except Jesus. 70 00:03:51,600 --> 00:03:54,640 Speaker 1: So your situation has nothing to do with him being 71 00:03:54,720 --> 00:03:59,680 Speaker 1: a good samaritan. Again, he is a good samaritan to her. 72 00:04:00,120 --> 00:04:02,880 Speaker 1: The problem is your husband has another woman that he's 73 00:04:02,920 --> 00:04:05,720 Speaker 1: giving money to, leaving you his wife having to pay 74 00:04:05,760 --> 00:04:08,800 Speaker 1: all the bills at home. Is this making sense? You're 75 00:04:08,840 --> 00:04:11,880 Speaker 1: making it way too easy for him to cheat. You 76 00:04:12,000 --> 00:04:14,800 Speaker 1: really left a lot out of this letter, I think 77 00:04:14,840 --> 00:04:17,039 Speaker 1: because I can't believe you were that calm when he 78 00:04:17,120 --> 00:04:19,960 Speaker 1: told you he was helping her out financially. I mean, 79 00:04:20,000 --> 00:04:22,599 Speaker 1: this should have been a deal breaker for you after 80 00:04:22,680 --> 00:04:27,000 Speaker 1: twelve years. You deserve much better than this, much better 81 00:04:27,200 --> 00:04:34,240 Speaker 1: than his lies. Steve Shirley's response covered all the bases period. 82 00:04:35,320 --> 00:04:39,880 Speaker 1: So I'm going to take a different approach with this 83 00:04:40,000 --> 00:04:43,760 Speaker 1: letter because it's so obvious when you read it what 84 00:04:43,960 --> 00:04:47,159 Speaker 1: it is. Let me just sum up what I was 85 00:04:47,240 --> 00:04:53,880 Speaker 1: going to send. You can't close your business and keep 86 00:04:54,120 --> 00:05:01,120 Speaker 1: up her car notes. This is a fact. You can't 87 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:07,799 Speaker 1: close your business but keep up her car note. That's 88 00:05:07,960 --> 00:05:13,440 Speaker 1: number one. The second statement is we make car notes 89 00:05:14,640 --> 00:05:18,920 Speaker 1: in exchange for something. Can't close a business and keep 90 00:05:19,000 --> 00:05:22,599 Speaker 1: up for car notes. Check, doesn't make any sense. Fact 91 00:05:22,680 --> 00:05:29,160 Speaker 1: number two we make car notes in exchange for things 92 00:05:29,360 --> 00:05:34,680 Speaker 1: or something. Check. Here is the last fact. And then 93 00:05:34,680 --> 00:05:36,839 Speaker 1: we're gonna go into the letter. What I want to do? 94 00:05:39,160 --> 00:05:46,240 Speaker 1: You ask the lady are you all have a romantic connection? 95 00:05:47,520 --> 00:05:55,960 Speaker 1: Her response was not know? How dare you? I'm not 96 00:05:56,120 --> 00:06:01,919 Speaker 1: that type of girl. Her response was you should talk 97 00:06:01,960 --> 00:06:07,240 Speaker 1: to your husband. Yeah, that's a woman's way of saying 98 00:06:08,600 --> 00:06:11,680 Speaker 1: you only got the right to check one person in 99 00:06:11,839 --> 00:06:18,240 Speaker 1: here boot and it ain't mem Well, we come back 100 00:06:18,520 --> 00:06:22,560 Speaker 1: now that we've covered the letter, Shirley and Carlo will 101 00:06:22,720 --> 00:06:27,760 Speaker 1: ask me questions as the husband in this letter from 102 00:06:27,760 --> 00:06:31,719 Speaker 1: the female listener standpoint, and I will provide you all 103 00:06:31,760 --> 00:06:35,120 Speaker 1: the information he will be saying. We come back or 104 00:06:35,200 --> 00:06:39,039 Speaker 1: reenactment of how the bus went down and how he 105 00:06:39,200 --> 00:06:42,479 Speaker 1: hand them all. Right, Steve, we'll have part two of 106 00:06:42,480 --> 00:06:46,080 Speaker 1: your response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour. 107 00:06:46,240 --> 00:06:49,880 Speaker 1: Today's Strawberry letter subject is he a good Samaritan or 108 00:06:49,920 --> 00:06:52,839 Speaker 1: a good liar? We'll be back right after this you're 109 00:06:52,880 --> 00:06:57,440 Speaker 1: listening to all right, Come on, Steve, you have something 110 00:06:57,520 --> 00:07:00,680 Speaker 1: special plan for this Strawberry letter today. This subject is 111 00:07:01,360 --> 00:07:04,640 Speaker 1: for your response. The subject is is he a good 112 00:07:04,640 --> 00:07:08,120 Speaker 1: Samaritan or a good liar? We gotta I wouldn't say 113 00:07:08,120 --> 00:07:13,040 Speaker 1: this especial, but because Shirley covered the letter very thoroughly, 114 00:07:13,040 --> 00:07:15,640 Speaker 1: and I happen to agree with everything she said. And 115 00:07:15,760 --> 00:07:18,360 Speaker 1: we talking to a woman who has to just come 116 00:07:18,400 --> 00:07:22,560 Speaker 1: to terms with what's happening. Her husband closed the business 117 00:07:22,800 --> 00:07:25,440 Speaker 1: due to the pandemic, but he was keeping up with 118 00:07:25,480 --> 00:07:29,760 Speaker 1: a woman's car note from his past. And then she 119 00:07:29,880 --> 00:07:32,000 Speaker 1: wanted to know if he's a good samaritan or just 120 00:07:32,160 --> 00:07:37,320 Speaker 1: a liar. Men make car note payments in exchange for something. 121 00:07:38,000 --> 00:07:40,400 Speaker 1: And then the last fact you needed to know was 122 00:07:40,440 --> 00:07:43,920 Speaker 1: when you asked a woman, where are you all romantically involved? 123 00:07:44,520 --> 00:07:48,760 Speaker 1: She didn't say, how dare you? I'm not that type 124 00:07:48,760 --> 00:07:53,680 Speaker 1: of girl or that's unthinkable. Her response was you should 125 00:07:53,720 --> 00:07:57,320 Speaker 1: talk to your husband, yeah, and let him tell you 126 00:07:57,760 --> 00:08:01,880 Speaker 1: what you asking me Now, what I've decided to do 127 00:08:02,160 --> 00:08:04,920 Speaker 1: was I'm gonna be the guy that they wrote the 128 00:08:05,040 --> 00:08:09,160 Speaker 1: letter about. I'm the husband with the business that could close. 129 00:08:09,240 --> 00:08:11,760 Speaker 1: I was keeping up the Cardinal Shirley and Colin can 130 00:08:11,840 --> 00:08:17,840 Speaker 1: ask me any question. I am committed to holding the 131 00:08:17,920 --> 00:08:21,720 Speaker 1: party line of my innocence. And this is how it's 132 00:08:21,800 --> 00:08:25,600 Speaker 1: done anytime you want to start. Okay, Well, now who 133 00:08:25,680 --> 00:08:28,040 Speaker 1: is this woman again? Baby? Who is who is she? 134 00:08:28,720 --> 00:08:33,160 Speaker 1: What woman? The woman that I called that was under 135 00:08:33,160 --> 00:08:36,760 Speaker 1: the fake company name, the one you know. No, that's 136 00:08:36,840 --> 00:08:40,160 Speaker 1: not a fake company. That's a company. Well what's the 137 00:08:40,240 --> 00:08:43,520 Speaker 1: company about? What kind of products and services? And good? 138 00:08:43,559 --> 00:08:47,040 Speaker 1: You didn't ask her? Now I'm asking you the person 139 00:08:47,080 --> 00:08:50,320 Speaker 1: that's pain. She run a cleaning company? What kind of 140 00:08:50,360 --> 00:08:57,560 Speaker 1: cleaning company? Pipe cleaning? But that business is still going on. 141 00:08:57,720 --> 00:09:00,360 Speaker 1: You had to close your business? Why did you your 142 00:09:00,400 --> 00:09:03,559 Speaker 1: business because of the pandemic? You was going through this 143 00:09:03,640 --> 00:09:06,640 Speaker 1: thing with me. Don't act like you don't know. But 144 00:09:06,760 --> 00:09:09,040 Speaker 1: you still have enough money to pay her car note. 145 00:09:09,040 --> 00:09:11,200 Speaker 1: And here I am paying all the bills that I heard. 146 00:09:11,520 --> 00:09:17,120 Speaker 1: Excuse me, excuse me? Yeah, excuse you? The company car? 147 00:09:17,559 --> 00:09:20,560 Speaker 1: Oh well, I've never seen this car since it's the 148 00:09:20,640 --> 00:09:25,160 Speaker 1: company's car. That's because I had making the payments on 149 00:09:25,240 --> 00:09:29,520 Speaker 1: it before you drove it. Because we closed our business 150 00:09:29,800 --> 00:09:34,400 Speaker 1: cause of COVID. You would have drove it. But except 151 00:09:34,520 --> 00:09:41,760 Speaker 1: for COVID, go ahead. What kind of company is this again? 152 00:09:42,360 --> 00:09:50,760 Speaker 1: A pipe cleaning company? Straight? You got a car payment 153 00:09:50,880 --> 00:09:54,920 Speaker 1: on a car that you didn't drive during the pandemic, 154 00:09:55,040 --> 00:10:00,280 Speaker 1: but you kept the payments up because what a b 155 00:10:00,760 --> 00:10:04,199 Speaker 1: I didn't say I had no car. I said the 156 00:10:04,480 --> 00:10:09,040 Speaker 1: company had a car that I was paying for because 157 00:10:09,160 --> 00:10:12,720 Speaker 1: that was she do pipe cleaning. And instead of paying 158 00:10:12,800 --> 00:10:16,760 Speaker 1: her directly, I paid the company Cardinal for a tax 159 00:10:16,920 --> 00:10:19,680 Speaker 1: right off. We got a tax right off for that. 160 00:10:20,440 --> 00:10:23,640 Speaker 1: What kind of pipe cleaning cleaning company? I'm stuck on 161 00:10:23,679 --> 00:10:26,120 Speaker 1: this pipe cleaning? I don't know. I don't know what 162 00:10:26,280 --> 00:10:27,880 Speaker 1: type of thing. I just thought it would be a 163 00:10:27,920 --> 00:10:30,439 Speaker 1: good business to invest it because who don't like clean 164 00:10:30,559 --> 00:10:44,000 Speaker 1: pipes looking pace? Any more questions right now? Were you 165 00:10:44,120 --> 00:10:47,040 Speaker 1: sleeping with this woman? Let's just be real. Were you 166 00:10:47,120 --> 00:10:57,360 Speaker 1: sleeping with her? I aware sleepware in the company's cause 167 00:11:00,360 --> 00:11:03,679 Speaker 1: she didn't say no to what When I asked her, 168 00:11:03,760 --> 00:11:06,839 Speaker 1: was there anything romantic going on between the two of you? 169 00:11:07,240 --> 00:11:10,640 Speaker 1: Did she say it was something romantic going on. She 170 00:11:10,840 --> 00:11:16,719 Speaker 1: said for me to ask you and asking you so Hell, No, 171 00:11:16,920 --> 00:11:20,560 Speaker 1: I wasn't nothing romantic going on. Okay, I'm will be 172 00:11:20,679 --> 00:11:24,200 Speaker 1: romantic for somebody. I don't have no feelings fault. It's 173 00:11:24,200 --> 00:11:26,600 Speaker 1: a business deal, girl, I'm trying to get us these 174 00:11:26,640 --> 00:11:29,200 Speaker 1: tax write offs. We'll go get the car. I want 175 00:11:29,200 --> 00:11:31,760 Speaker 1: to drive the car. Didn't you hear her say the 176 00:11:31,800 --> 00:11:35,480 Speaker 1: car getting repossessed? Also, now you stop payment on the 177 00:11:35,520 --> 00:11:39,640 Speaker 1: car this morning? You know she didn't say that. She 178 00:11:39,720 --> 00:11:42,320 Speaker 1: said it was going to be repossessed. Well, they got 179 00:11:42,360 --> 00:11:46,880 Speaker 1: it this morning. The car is gone. Well go down 180 00:11:46,880 --> 00:11:49,160 Speaker 1: there and get it out. Since you used to paying 181 00:11:49,160 --> 00:11:52,280 Speaker 1: car notes when repos we don't have the money for 182 00:11:52,360 --> 00:11:55,839 Speaker 1: the car note something. Excuse me. I'll give it to you. 183 00:11:56,160 --> 00:11:58,760 Speaker 1: I'll give you the money. Do we have a repost 184 00:11:58,880 --> 00:12:03,000 Speaker 1: on your credit? Mister, company car? Is it a repossession 185 00:12:03,040 --> 00:12:10,199 Speaker 1: on your credit? Yeah, it probably is. It probably is 186 00:12:10,280 --> 00:12:12,400 Speaker 1: gonna be on there, but I know somebody that worked 187 00:12:12,440 --> 00:12:14,920 Speaker 1: down there. Ample fact. I don't really think it's gonna 188 00:12:14,920 --> 00:12:16,960 Speaker 1: be on that because it was a company car company. 189 00:12:17,720 --> 00:12:21,840 Speaker 1: But she isn't in if you're making a card no payment, No, 190 00:12:21,960 --> 00:12:25,200 Speaker 1: you're paying her card note not the company. That's why 191 00:12:25,280 --> 00:12:31,599 Speaker 1: I got the PCP loan. You're going to jail, yeah, 192 00:12:31,760 --> 00:12:35,800 Speaker 1: because I'm getting ready to call right now. Jail because 193 00:12:35,840 --> 00:12:38,280 Speaker 1: she said you were paying her card note, not the 194 00:12:38,360 --> 00:12:41,520 Speaker 1: company car. Note when the phone rang, What did you 195 00:12:41,559 --> 00:12:46,400 Speaker 1: see come up? Didn't you see the company come up? Liar? Liar? 196 00:12:46,640 --> 00:12:50,720 Speaker 1: That's what it was for, man, Liar, liar. So handled 197 00:12:50,760 --> 00:12:55,880 Speaker 1: that boy, boy, and you're fighting. You're fighting all right? Him? 198 00:12:56,320 --> 00:13:00,200 Speaker 1: Bad credit in a minute. Yeah. Boster comments unto day 199 00:13:00,280 --> 00:13:03,320 Speaker 1: Strawberry Letter at Steve Harvey FM, on Instagram and Facebook. 200 00:13:03,480 --> 00:13:06,960 Speaker 1: Check out the Strawberry Letter podcast on demand now coming 201 00:13:07,000 --> 00:13:09,160 Speaker 1: up at forty six minutes after the hour. We got 202 00:13:09,160 --> 00:13:12,800 Speaker 1: Sports Talk with Junior. 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