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Speaker 1: Once upon a time there was a good old traditional housewife,

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Speaker 1: and she couldn't. She cleaned and cared for her children

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Speaker 1: and the man of the house, and of course she

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Speaker 1: didn't talk back. She was both obedient and soft by nature.

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Speaker 1: She was a good woman who always made good choices.

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Speaker 2: We're good Mom's bad choices. Two single mom who said

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Speaker 2: fuck the patriarchy, shared all their bad choices and sound

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Speaker 2: out they were so bad. After all, we're experts.

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Speaker 3: Overshares and your new besties.

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Speaker 4: Sit back and enjoy the ride.

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Speaker 2: I can do it.

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Speaker 4: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices.

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Speaker 3: I'm Erica and I'm Mila.

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Speaker 4: Happy hop Day, bitches.

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Speaker 2: Happy Wednesday, y'all? What to do? It's the last Wednesday

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Speaker 2: of August and then we're in our last quarter of

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Speaker 2: the year.

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Speaker 4: How are you feeling? I feel good. I'm looking forward

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Speaker 4: to fall. It's been hot as fuck all summer. Hot

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Speaker 4: here hot in Costa Rica. Got back, there's a heat wave,

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Speaker 4: and yeah, I know, mommy needs a motherfucking break, because

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Speaker 4: mom has been mommy all mother fucking summer. Besides, when

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Speaker 4: Iri went to summer camp and maybe went on a

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Speaker 4: short trip with her dad, I've pretty much had iri

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Speaker 4: all summer and I'm obsessed with my child. I want

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Speaker 4: nothing more than to be with her all the time, truly,

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Speaker 4: But then also I know when I need. I'm getting

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Speaker 4: to the point where it's like I know that I

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Speaker 4: need a little bit of a break just to be

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Speaker 4: Erica for a second. And maybe school year will help

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Speaker 4: with that.

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Speaker 2: I mean, it certainly will, because we have that guaranteed,

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Speaker 2: you know, eight to ten hours, five days a week,

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Speaker 2: which is.

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Speaker 4: A blessing, I know. But you know what, when it

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Speaker 4: is the school year, those eight to ten hours for

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Speaker 4: like four hours maybe like yeah, it's like you drop

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Speaker 4: them off and then you're like back there.

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Speaker 3: It's true. I'm always like it's over already.

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Speaker 2: What the fuck?

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Speaker 4: I don't know. I'm like, whatever that thing is. It's

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Speaker 4: like making summer days shorter or spending on its access

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Speaker 4: at a maximum speed. This year, I needed to do

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Speaker 4: the reverse during the during the fall.

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Speaker 2: It does.

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Speaker 3: I mean, this summer went by really fast.

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Speaker 2: I know, we traveled a lot, and so it was

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Speaker 2: like back to back trips, which kind of sped it

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Speaker 3: But and also like doing.

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Speaker 2: A retreat while the kids are in Costa Rica, it

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Speaker 2: hits different there's a level of like it's like mom

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Speaker 2: times one hundred, because you're caring for people, you're caring

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Speaker 2: for your kid. There's no time off, even the days

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Speaker 2: where we're like on I mean we're on property the

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Speaker 2: whole time, but like the days when we're done with

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Speaker 2: the retreat, the kids are like bride eyed and bushy

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Speaker 2: tailed and like, let's watch a movie, you know, and

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Speaker 2: you're like, yeah, twenty four to nine momming. So yeah,

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Speaker 2: and your mom was on this retreat. So that's even

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Speaker 2: a different level of care. How is that?

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Speaker 4: What are you telling? It was good? It was good,

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Speaker 4: but I am I'm tired. I feel like I feel

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Speaker 4: like between the three retreats we did this summer, because

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Speaker 4: we did three couples retreat, two women's retreat, and I

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Speaker 4: feel like I retreated my mom after the retreat, a

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Speaker 4: bitch is fucking burnt out. My healing powers or need

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Speaker 4: to be recharged. Okay, I need to fucking I need

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Speaker 4: a healing like plug in activator, not plug in. I

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Speaker 4: feel like the magic from my fingertips like it's like

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Speaker 4: it's like they're starting to like sizzles. So all the

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Speaker 4: reiki I did and all the fucking but short.

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Speaker 2: There's a short you need to plug short.

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Speaker 4: It just like, yeah, I really need a healer, starter pack,

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Speaker 4: charging power or something. It was good I realized between well,

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Speaker 4: yesterday is really when I realized this. Well, actually I

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Speaker 4: know this about myself, but it was it was reactivated yesterday.

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Speaker 4: We had a barbecue at my mom's house. But going

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Speaker 4: back to your question about how I was my mom

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Speaker 4: at the retreat, my whole goal was today not have expectations,

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Speaker 4: be not let my mommy pleasing take over. And I

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Speaker 4: did a pretty good job. But obviously it's not about pleasing,

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Speaker 4: because I think we want to take care of our mothers.

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Speaker 4: I want to make we want to make sure our

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Speaker 4: It's like I want to make my mom proud. I

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Speaker 4: this place so much. I want her to like see

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Speaker 4: on this her coming on this experience allowed me to

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Speaker 4: kind of be in that role of caretaker for her,

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Speaker 4: and I knew I was taking on that role and

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Speaker 4: I was happy to do it, and I'm happy to

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Speaker 4: do it, but I'm tired. I'm tired, you know. Like

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Speaker 4: I realized in this retreat space too. With my mom,

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Speaker 4: it's like like our moms are just girls, you know,

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Speaker 4: and like baby girls. Yeah, specific and there were like

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Speaker 4: moments that, you know, I thought that she would be

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Speaker 4: able to engage better. Specifically in one moment moment in

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Speaker 4: our workshop, we have an eye gazing moment, and I

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Speaker 4: was really surprised at how challenging that was for her

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Speaker 4: with me, you know. And then I also realized that

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Speaker 4: I've probably never stared at my mom in her eyes

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Speaker 4: for more than maybe ten seconds. So we're asking, you know,

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Speaker 4: sixty seconds, which is not even that long. But when

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Speaker 4: I was there with her, because I paired myself with her,

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Speaker 4: I was like, I've done this so many times that

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Speaker 4: I like the gazing. I love it, you know, and

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Speaker 4: so I was ready. I was like, oh my god,

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Speaker 4: finally I get to daze in my mom's ass, and

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Speaker 4: you know, it was emotional for me, not like I

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Speaker 4: And I was like, because I love you? What the fuck?

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Speaker 4: And I could just see how challenging it was for

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Speaker 4: her to remain like keep engaged with me, Like she

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Speaker 4: kept kind of looking away, and It's like, wow, Like,

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Speaker 4: not only I do this work with women, but like

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Speaker 4: I realized how much work our parents need need as

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Speaker 4: well from us. And I was thinking about that too. Actually,

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Speaker 4: we had we have follow up calls with our attendees

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Speaker 4: after the retreat to check in, and one of them,

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Speaker 4: she's a therapist, so she was like therapizing me. I'm like, bitch,

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Speaker 4: I'm I'm supposed to check it with you. She was like,

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Speaker 4: how was your mom? How did it feel with having

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Speaker 4: my mom came week two and yeah, I mean I

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Speaker 4: think it was. It was really interesting to see the

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Speaker 4: places where my mom I think has never got the

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Speaker 4: to really even sit in and enjoy. Like I was thinking,

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Speaker 4: like probably the last time I stared at my mom

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Speaker 4: for sixty seconds was like when I was a baby

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Speaker 4: and there's like no nothing, there's it's just a blank slate,

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Speaker 4: you know. And now this is not a blank slate.

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Speaker 4: This is thirty seven years of raising me and all

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Speaker 4: types of shit. And yeah, it was. It was beautiful.

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Speaker 4: What I was going to say is like I realized

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Speaker 4: this work is so important for mother daughters, Like I

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Speaker 4: really I'm excited for you to have your mom come

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Speaker 4: on the retreat one day and so that you under

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Speaker 4: you can like experience this too and see like the

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Speaker 4: like the places where you see your mom is just

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Speaker 4: And it was it was a lot emotionally. I think

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Speaker 4: I'm still processing. I feel like I'm gonna cry right now.

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Speaker 2: It's a lot. And and you know, I realize, I

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Speaker 2: mean just by observing you in the thing, like I

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Speaker 2: know that it was a big deal for her to come.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I can only imagine it's a very intimate

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Speaker 2: space and we do it all the time, but to

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Speaker 2: have your mom there, it's like a level of intimacy

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Speaker 2: that sometimes it's easier to be intimate with people that

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Speaker 2: stagnant and how challenging it is even in this work

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Speaker 2: to do it with people that are close to us.

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Speaker 2: And I mean, like we always say this, and I'm

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Speaker 2: happy that we set the bar this way. Is like, yes,

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Speaker 2: we're facilitating, but I wouldn't say that we are masters

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Speaker 2: at this. You know, we're often experiencing the retreat. We're

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Speaker 2: every time we're experiencing the retreat as we're facilitating it,

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Speaker 2: and we're expanding and we're growing. And you know, even

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Speaker 2: will have issues, not even issues. It's easier to facilitate

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Speaker 2: the medicine than sometimes taking it.

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Speaker 3: And so it's true, there's.

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Speaker 2: Always going to be there's all like, especially when you

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Speaker 2: step into this space, like spirit is always going to

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Speaker 2: invite you to expand more and more and more and more,

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Speaker 2: and it's hard because you're like, fuck, I have an

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Speaker 2: idente enough And I thought about that a lot while

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Speaker 2: you know, I'm really grateful. I think my mom has

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Speaker 2: that you know, I have to acknowledge, you know, and

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Speaker 2: I'm sure there's more work to do, like we're all

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Speaker 2: still growing. So I'm really excited to get her there.

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Speaker 2: But it's also interesting observing your mom in this space

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Speaker 2: because I can also see her, you know, obviously she's

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Speaker 2: they're taking the medicine, if they're like open to it,

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Speaker 2: if they're more closed off. And I saw too, And

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Speaker 2: it's it is. It was interesting to observe her in

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Speaker 2: the space because there's parts of her that I can

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Speaker 2: There's that I can see parts of you more clearly

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Speaker 2: an intimate space. And you know, I was facilitating that

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Speaker 2: that portion when you guys were holding hands and you know,

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Speaker 2: too where she was like a little bit resistant, a

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Speaker 2: think that's normal. You know a lot of people come

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Speaker 2: I understand it. But to see her, I mean, probably

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Speaker 2: but kind of because you're here now and I'm staring

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Speaker 2: personal questions and we're getting deep. And I think that we,

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Speaker 3: Their parents didn't do it with them.

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Speaker 2: There's no like they're like, okay, all right, that's enough

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Speaker 4: about my body, but like no one would ever know that.

433
00:23:45,880 --> 00:23:48,399
Speaker 4: I never like let on like I mean, I've done

434
00:23:48,440 --> 00:23:50,240
Speaker 4: a lot of work now, but like I don't really

435
00:23:50,320 --> 00:23:53,240
Speaker 4: let people into that those insecurities into me. It's like

436
00:23:53,280 --> 00:23:57,160
Speaker 4: all internal. Because I've also watched my mom be very

437
00:23:57,160 --> 00:24:02,040
Speaker 4: critical of herself and still on this trip. The amount

438
00:24:02,080 --> 00:24:05,919
Speaker 4: of negative self talk that I was fighting against with

439
00:24:06,040 --> 00:24:11,080
Speaker 4: her all day was fucking exhausting. I'm not even gonna lie.

440
00:24:11,119 --> 00:24:13,320
Speaker 4: I was like at one point, I was like, you

441
00:24:13,480 --> 00:24:19,040
Speaker 4: gotta stop, Like you have got to fucking stop, Like

442
00:24:19,040 --> 00:24:21,680
Speaker 4: like I don't you know? So I think I think

443
00:24:21,680 --> 00:24:21,960
Speaker 4: it did?

444
00:24:22,119 --> 00:24:23,679
Speaker 2: Did she? Did she hear you? Did she?

445
00:24:23,800 --> 00:24:23,960
Speaker 1: Oh?

446
00:24:24,520 --> 00:24:26,560
Speaker 4: And she's and and I've done this with her too

447
00:24:26,560 --> 00:24:28,440
Speaker 4: as a kid too, Like I remember being a teenager

448
00:24:28,520 --> 00:24:31,320
Speaker 4: like mom, like, stop talking about so bad about your body,

449
00:24:31,520 --> 00:24:33,359
Speaker 4: Like what do you think that does for me? Like

450
00:24:33,440 --> 00:24:36,560
Speaker 4: how do you think that makes me feel? And she

451
00:24:36,600 --> 00:24:38,760
Speaker 4: I'm sorry, But then she'd write back on it like

452
00:24:38,800 --> 00:24:41,239
Speaker 4: it's like a habit. She can't help it, you know,

453
00:24:41,320 --> 00:24:43,840
Speaker 4: And like she's a libra so like her whole like

454
00:24:44,480 --> 00:24:47,840
Speaker 4: her whole world is about making things beautiful, like leaving

455
00:24:47,840 --> 00:24:50,440
Speaker 4: things better than she left them. Like libras just love

456
00:24:50,520 --> 00:24:54,400
Speaker 4: beauty and making things beautiful and pretty, and they can

457
00:24:54,480 --> 00:24:58,000
Speaker 4: like see the but see like you know, the the

458
00:24:58,240 --> 00:25:01,000
Speaker 4: ugly duckling and like how they can make her. You know,

459
00:25:01,040 --> 00:25:02,800
Speaker 4: that's why she's a fucking makeup artist. That's why she's

460
00:25:02,800 --> 00:25:05,480
Speaker 4: a brand founder in beauty. Like I get it, she's

461
00:25:05,920 --> 00:25:09,399
Speaker 4: but like with me, it was like detrimental, and so

462
00:25:10,000 --> 00:25:13,200
Speaker 4: I think, like I've spent a lot of time. It's

463
00:25:13,240 --> 00:25:15,040
Speaker 4: funny though, because I know you said like with your parents,

464
00:25:15,040 --> 00:25:18,360
Speaker 4: like you don't really give a fuck whatever. I give

465
00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:20,719
Speaker 4: a fuck, but I still do what I want, Like

466
00:25:20,760 --> 00:25:23,880
Speaker 4: I still, I still I was the rebellious child. It's

467
00:25:23,880 --> 00:25:25,919
Speaker 4: like I'm a mom pleaser, but I still did what

468
00:25:26,000 --> 00:25:28,840
Speaker 4: I want wanted, but I was like a rebel with anxiety.

469
00:25:28,880 --> 00:25:31,600
Speaker 4: That's what I called myself. Like I would do it,

470
00:25:31,640 --> 00:25:32,200
Speaker 4: but then I'd.

471
00:25:32,080 --> 00:25:36,120
Speaker 2: Be like, I mean, I think I think we all

472
00:25:36,119 --> 00:25:39,280
Speaker 2: crave our parents' validation. We all want to be told

473
00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:41,360
Speaker 2: that they're proud of us, you know, like we come

474
00:25:41,359 --> 00:25:44,280
Speaker 2: from these people. That is inevitable. I think. I yeah,

475
00:25:44,320 --> 00:25:46,880
Speaker 2: I think with my parents. I think my mom. One

476
00:25:46,880 --> 00:25:49,240
Speaker 2: thing she would do to me was like I would

477
00:25:49,280 --> 00:25:51,159
Speaker 2: tell her something and then she's like maybe. She'd be

478
00:25:51,200 --> 00:25:53,240
Speaker 2: telling the story and be like, well, supposedly, da da

479
00:25:53,280 --> 00:25:55,760
Speaker 2: da dah, and I'd be like, why are you saying supposedly.

480
00:25:56,200 --> 00:26:00,040
Speaker 2: She's like what supposedly. I'm like, I just fucking said it.

481
00:26:00,040 --> 00:26:02,879
Speaker 2: It's not supposedly, it's a fact. And it was like

482
00:26:02,920 --> 00:26:07,719
Speaker 2: almost like a doubt. Yeah, yeah, yeah, it was like

483
00:26:07,800 --> 00:26:12,240
Speaker 2: that really bothered me. And uh so, I don't know,

484
00:26:12,280 --> 00:26:15,240
Speaker 2: it's just it's all you know what now specifically right

485
00:26:15,280 --> 00:26:18,760
Speaker 2: now and this like week and this, and like like

486
00:26:18,960 --> 00:26:23,119
Speaker 2: I'm recognizing how like when we decide to do the work,

487
00:26:23,560 --> 00:26:26,159
Speaker 2: you know, they always say like it heals seven generations

488
00:26:26,200 --> 00:26:28,439
Speaker 2: behind you and seven generations ahead of you, and and

489
00:26:28,440 --> 00:26:31,800
Speaker 2: I believe that. And I just see not the stark

490
00:26:31,840 --> 00:26:34,240
Speaker 2: difference between like your mom or my mom or whatever,

491
00:26:34,280 --> 00:26:37,119
Speaker 2: but I see this, like how the shifts happen. And

492
00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:39,960
Speaker 2: because I've only known my grandmother, we can only go

493
00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:42,960
Speaker 2: so far up the family tree. I can see, you know,

494
00:26:43,080 --> 00:26:48,400
Speaker 2: how certain experiences and certain things like you know, register

495
00:26:48,520 --> 00:26:51,440
Speaker 2: with each child. And it's so interesting to me how

496
00:26:52,080 --> 00:26:55,399
Speaker 2: we're you know, how we interpret them and translate them

497
00:26:55,440 --> 00:26:58,320
Speaker 2: and hold on to them and like play they play

498
00:26:58,320 --> 00:26:59,320
Speaker 2: out in our adulthood.

499
00:26:59,520 --> 00:27:01,480
Speaker 3: And it's a big deal.

500
00:27:01,520 --> 00:27:03,600
Speaker 2: And I know, like all the fucking woo woo healer

501
00:27:03,840 --> 00:27:06,760
Speaker 2: light work shit is always like heal the inner child,

502
00:27:06,880 --> 00:27:12,080
Speaker 2: do the shadow work. But that inner child shit is

503
00:27:12,200 --> 00:27:14,920
Speaker 2: so mother fucking real.

504
00:27:15,119 --> 00:27:15,760
Speaker 3: And it's so.

505
00:27:17,359 --> 00:27:19,520
Speaker 2: I think right now, it's like it's just very clear

506
00:27:19,600 --> 00:27:24,159
Speaker 2: if you are not in communication with that version of you.

507
00:27:24,240 --> 00:27:26,560
Speaker 2: And when I say communication, like even just taking the

508
00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:29,080
Speaker 2: moment to sit back and you know, go through the

509
00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:34,880
Speaker 2: files of childhood and to observe and sit with and

510
00:27:36,280 --> 00:27:39,960
Speaker 2: you know, just observe how they've affected you, like you're

511
00:27:40,000 --> 00:27:42,320
Speaker 2: going to miss a lot of shit, and even like

512
00:27:42,440 --> 00:27:44,679
Speaker 2: this week, and it's so interesting that we're having this

513
00:27:44,720 --> 00:27:50,159
Speaker 2: conversation because this week specifically, you know, Orlando started a

514
00:27:50,200 --> 00:27:53,800
Speaker 2: new job and me and him had like two separate,

515
00:27:54,840 --> 00:27:59,760
Speaker 2: like uh disagreements, and I can't even really fucking think

516
00:27:59,760 --> 00:28:01,560
Speaker 2: of it is at this very moment. It was like

517
00:28:01,600 --> 00:28:04,119
Speaker 2: how I was talking to him, and for him it

518
00:28:04,160 --> 00:28:06,480
Speaker 2: was something like some trust thing that came up that

519
00:28:06,560 --> 00:28:09,600
Speaker 2: came up for me and it was like back to

520
00:28:09,680 --> 00:28:14,640
Speaker 2: back on two different days. But in resolving it, there

521
00:28:14,680 --> 00:28:17,800
Speaker 2: was a point where I was crying so hard and

522
00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:20,639
Speaker 2: I was like, this is not about this. This is

523
00:28:20,680 --> 00:28:23,400
Speaker 2: about some shit my dad did. This is like this

524
00:28:23,480 --> 00:28:24,719
Speaker 2: is different than whatever.

525
00:28:24,760 --> 00:28:26,159
Speaker 3: I'm like, this is not that.

526
00:28:26,359 --> 00:28:28,800
Speaker 2: And same he had some issues with me about how

527
00:28:28,800 --> 00:28:30,760
Speaker 2: I was talking to him, and I was just like

528
00:28:30,840 --> 00:28:33,119
Speaker 2: I didn't feel like it was that crazy, and he

529
00:28:33,200 --> 00:28:35,600
Speaker 2: was like you and he started like talking to me

530
00:28:35,640 --> 00:28:38,160
Speaker 2: and saying, like my mom talked to me and like

531
00:28:38,560 --> 00:28:41,000
Speaker 2: said these things things to me, and I didn't deserve it.

532
00:28:41,040 --> 00:28:43,520
Speaker 2: And I could see like this was stemming from something else,

533
00:28:43,680 --> 00:28:46,960
Speaker 2: you know, and I realized that, you know, being in

534
00:28:47,000 --> 00:28:49,959
Speaker 2: a healthy relationship. And when I say healthy, I just

535
00:28:50,000 --> 00:28:53,160
Speaker 2: mean two adults that are choosing to be aware and

536
00:28:53,520 --> 00:28:57,120
Speaker 2: compassionate and empathetic and like. And when you're in a

537
00:28:57,120 --> 00:29:00,600
Speaker 2: healthy relationship, you recognize that every relationship that we have

538
00:29:00,680 --> 00:29:03,920
Speaker 2: in adulthood is going to trigger you, because that is

539
00:29:04,000 --> 00:29:06,960
Speaker 2: the point when you feel safe with someone, when you

540
00:29:07,000 --> 00:29:10,280
Speaker 2: have close relationships with someone, even in friendship, people are

541
00:29:10,320 --> 00:29:12,600
Speaker 2: going to trigger you because there's a lesson there that

542
00:29:12,640 --> 00:29:15,040
Speaker 2: you're supposed to in a wound that you're supposed to heal,

543
00:29:15,360 --> 00:29:16,640
Speaker 2: but you have to be able to look at it

544
00:29:16,680 --> 00:29:19,360
Speaker 2: and you have to be able to follow the string

545
00:29:19,520 --> 00:29:21,640
Speaker 2: all the way back to the root of the wound.

546
00:29:22,000 --> 00:29:24,240
Speaker 2: And if you're unable to do that, if you're unable

547
00:29:24,320 --> 00:29:26,200
Speaker 2: to sit in the discomfort of that, then you're never

548
00:29:26,240 --> 00:29:28,080
Speaker 2: going to get to it. And like, being in this

549
00:29:28,160 --> 00:29:31,360
Speaker 2: relationship that's healthy, that's safe. Not to say we don't argue,

550
00:29:31,480 --> 00:29:34,480
Speaker 2: obviously we do, we're human, but to be able to

551
00:29:34,520 --> 00:29:38,080
Speaker 2: be clear enough to be like, oh, in this moment,

552
00:29:38,720 --> 00:29:41,760
Speaker 2: I was not being empathetic to his experience or to

553
00:29:41,800 --> 00:29:44,520
Speaker 2: your experience, your childhood experience, knowing that you had an

554
00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:47,080
Speaker 2: abusive mom, knowing that you had a neglectfule mom, knowing

555
00:29:47,080 --> 00:29:49,600
Speaker 2: that you had a highly critical mom, or whatever. The

556
00:29:49,680 --> 00:29:53,440
Speaker 2: thing is, Like, you know, in close relationships, you have

557
00:29:53,560 --> 00:29:56,600
Speaker 2: to go in when you love someone, even understanding that

558
00:29:56,760 --> 00:29:59,680
Speaker 2: lens and also understanding that about yourself. And like the

559
00:29:59,720 --> 00:30:06,600
Speaker 2: thing we got into it about was trust. And I realize, like,

560
00:30:06,840 --> 00:30:09,040
Speaker 2: I don't trust men because I don't really trust my

561
00:30:09,120 --> 00:30:11,000
Speaker 2: dad and he's always been in my life. My parents

562
00:30:11,040 --> 00:30:12,960
Speaker 2: have been married my whole life, but my dad has

563
00:30:13,000 --> 00:30:17,960
Speaker 2: always been like a chronic cheater and would ask me

564
00:30:18,120 --> 00:30:20,200
Speaker 2: lie about it, and like since I was a kid,

565
00:30:20,240 --> 00:30:22,160
Speaker 2: this is the conversation that I heard. But my mom

566
00:30:22,240 --> 00:30:26,760
Speaker 2: is fairly extremely insecure and extremely violent about it instead

567
00:30:26,800 --> 00:30:29,680
Speaker 2: of just leaving. But it came up with me in Orlando,

568
00:30:29,760 --> 00:30:32,880
Speaker 2: and I was just completely totally offended and like thinking

569
00:30:32,920 --> 00:30:35,400
Speaker 2: the worst, and he's like, well, why don't you trust me?

570
00:30:35,560 --> 00:30:37,200
Speaker 2: And it was just like a back and forth. But

571
00:30:37,240 --> 00:30:41,400
Speaker 2: I realized, like in close relationships, a part of our

572
00:30:41,400 --> 00:30:45,640
Speaker 2: responsibility is to soothe. I'm sorry, this is not what

573
00:30:45,680 --> 00:30:48,600
Speaker 2: I meant by that, Like we're going to ask our

574
00:30:48,640 --> 00:30:53,200
Speaker 2: partners or our friends to in ways soothe wounds.

575
00:30:52,840 --> 00:30:54,120
Speaker 3: That they did not even create.

576
00:30:54,840 --> 00:30:58,200
Speaker 2: And it's interesting, Like I was like wondering this week,

577
00:30:58,240 --> 00:31:00,200
Speaker 2: I'm like, what the fuck is in the stars that

578
00:31:00,240 --> 00:31:03,760
Speaker 2: this is like all of these childhood things are erupting.

579
00:31:03,920 --> 00:31:05,920
Speaker 3: But I just realized that, like, a lot of the

580
00:31:05,960 --> 00:31:06,960
Speaker 3: things that we find.

581
00:31:06,840 --> 00:31:10,840
Speaker 2: Take issue with in adulthood are generally things that started

582
00:31:11,080 --> 00:31:13,920
Speaker 2: deeply a long time ago, and that now we have

583
00:31:14,000 --> 00:31:15,600
Speaker 2: the you know, we have the time and the space

584
00:31:15,640 --> 00:31:18,680
Speaker 2: and the tools hopefully to address them. But if we're

585
00:31:18,680 --> 00:31:21,120
Speaker 2: not thinking that way, then it's very hard to do that.

586
00:31:22,400 --> 00:31:27,200
Speaker 4: Yeah. No, it's true. It's true. And I you know,

587
00:31:27,280 --> 00:31:30,360
Speaker 4: it's like I have this unique opportunity because I do

588
00:31:30,440 --> 00:31:32,160
Speaker 4: I have a relationship with my mom, because I do

589
00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:34,520
Speaker 4: think like when you're healing your inner child, like wouldn't

590
00:31:34,520 --> 00:31:36,000
Speaker 4: it be great if you could hear your inner child

591
00:31:36,080 --> 00:31:39,400
Speaker 4: alongside your parent who was there for your childhood. And

592
00:31:39,440 --> 00:31:43,400
Speaker 4: obviously that's not like the circumstances for a lot of people,

593
00:31:43,560 --> 00:31:46,479
Speaker 4: like you have to do the work alone. And and

594
00:31:46,560 --> 00:31:49,000
Speaker 4: even if you have a parent like you still have

595
00:31:49,040 --> 00:31:50,360
Speaker 4: to You probably still have to do a lot of

596
00:31:50,360 --> 00:31:52,920
Speaker 4: the work alone because your parent is probably not going

597
00:31:52,920 --> 00:31:56,200
Speaker 4: to acknowledge certain things that happen because that wasn't their

598
00:31:56,280 --> 00:31:59,880
Speaker 4: experience of the situation. And I had that. I had

599
00:31:59,880 --> 00:32:02,080
Speaker 4: that come up for me actually at the retreat when

600
00:32:02,080 --> 00:32:05,600
Speaker 4: we were in workshop and we asked the question, like,

601
00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:09,760
Speaker 4: what about you feels hardest to love? And I said

602
00:32:09,800 --> 00:32:16,680
Speaker 4: my sensitivity and she said, yeah, you were really you

603
00:32:16,720 --> 00:32:19,680
Speaker 4: were really sensitive as a kid, super sensitive. I didn't, like,

604
00:32:19,720 --> 00:32:22,360
Speaker 4: I didn't understand like why you would get upset about

605
00:32:22,360 --> 00:32:26,400
Speaker 4: certain things, and it felt dismissive again, and I was like,

606
00:32:26,480 --> 00:32:29,640
Speaker 4: what the fuck, Like I'm here telling you what you

607
00:32:29,680 --> 00:32:31,600
Speaker 4: know and I but again I'm like, okay, well, like

608
00:32:31,800 --> 00:32:34,280
Speaker 4: you know, that's her experience. Her experience is she didn't

609
00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:39,960
Speaker 4: understand at age whatever, thirty years old, why her seven

610
00:32:40,040 --> 00:32:42,760
Speaker 4: year old was offended or like why my feelings were

611
00:32:42,840 --> 00:32:46,320
Speaker 4: hurt because she's dealing with trying to fucking pay the rent,

612
00:32:46,560 --> 00:32:48,560
Speaker 4: trying to get this done, trying to da da da,

613
00:32:48,720 --> 00:32:51,160
Speaker 4: you're crying about what, Like, I don't got time for that.

614
00:32:51,240 --> 00:32:52,960
Speaker 4: But for me, it was like the end of the world,

615
00:32:53,040 --> 00:32:54,720
Speaker 4: you know, And for me, it was like the deep

616
00:32:54,760 --> 00:32:59,040
Speaker 4: and it probably still is in my body now. But

617
00:32:59,520 --> 00:33:02,440
Speaker 4: it's like you kind of have to just accept certain

618
00:33:02,480 --> 00:33:05,479
Speaker 4: things that like your parents are, you know, they're not

619
00:33:05,560 --> 00:33:07,880
Speaker 4: going to relate to certain experiences that you've had as

620
00:33:07,880 --> 00:33:10,880
Speaker 4: a child. They're not like even like I realized my

621
00:33:10,920 --> 00:33:13,120
Speaker 4: mom has a hard time with affection, which I didn't

622
00:33:13,160 --> 00:33:17,360
Speaker 4: even realize until the retreat, because I really when I

623
00:33:17,400 --> 00:33:19,120
Speaker 4: was young, I think I got a lot of affection

624
00:33:19,200 --> 00:33:21,240
Speaker 4: from her. But then at some point in my teenage

625
00:33:21,280 --> 00:33:23,760
Speaker 4: years when I started rebelling against her and I didn't

626
00:33:23,760 --> 00:33:27,560
Speaker 4: want anything to do with her, especially touched me. We

627
00:33:27,720 --> 00:33:30,320
Speaker 4: never reverted back. We never got back to that. And

628
00:33:30,360 --> 00:33:33,400
Speaker 4: I thought I was thinking, like, how many people have

629
00:33:33,520 --> 00:33:37,080
Speaker 4: that shared experience, Like there's this break in your relationship

630
00:33:37,120 --> 00:33:40,200
Speaker 4: with your parent, usually around your teens, and then you

631
00:33:40,280 --> 00:33:42,600
Speaker 4: never recover from that, You never go back to the

632
00:33:42,640 --> 00:33:48,440
Speaker 4: loving like mother, daughter, father, da whatever dynamic because how.

633
00:33:48,920 --> 00:33:51,520
Speaker 2: Well, well then you chop it up to like pubescence

634
00:33:51,560 --> 00:33:54,320
Speaker 2: and prebretty and like that's weird and and you know,

635
00:33:54,360 --> 00:33:56,320
Speaker 2: and like on the mom shit too.

636
00:33:56,360 --> 00:33:58,120
Speaker 3: It's like your mom.

637
00:33:58,000 --> 00:34:02,000
Speaker 2: Probably had to develop pretty things skin pretty young, so

638
00:34:02,400 --> 00:34:05,200
Speaker 2: she's thinking about Tani and how she probably talked to

639
00:34:05,240 --> 00:34:08,800
Speaker 2: her and then thinking when you're like thirteen or thirty,

640
00:34:08,840 --> 00:34:09,680
Speaker 2: you're acting soft.

641
00:34:09,680 --> 00:34:11,120
Speaker 3: She's like, what the fuck are you talking about?

642
00:34:11,320 --> 00:34:14,440
Speaker 2: You know, like there's there's there's no association to it,

643
00:34:14,480 --> 00:34:17,600
Speaker 2: because she's probably built that skin up really young as

644
00:34:17,640 --> 00:34:19,799
Speaker 2: a form of defense, you know what I mean, And

645
00:34:19,880 --> 00:34:22,200
Speaker 2: so it's hard for her to see that in you

646
00:34:22,360 --> 00:34:25,160
Speaker 2: and hard to connect to that part because she's in

647
00:34:25,200 --> 00:34:29,080
Speaker 2: ways protected herself from words, and so she's like, why

648
00:34:29,120 --> 00:34:30,839
Speaker 2: are you being so sensitive? You know what I mean?

649
00:34:30,920 --> 00:34:33,279
Speaker 2: And so like, yeah, it is your it's fucked up.

650
00:34:33,360 --> 00:34:35,239
Speaker 2: But a part of this work is like it's your

651
00:34:35,360 --> 00:34:38,920
Speaker 2: job to revert that and be like, it's okay to

652
00:34:39,000 --> 00:34:41,200
Speaker 2: have feelings. It's okay mom to feel you know, it's

653
00:34:41,239 --> 00:34:45,719
Speaker 2: okay to touch, and it's it feels heavy because it's like,

654
00:34:45,719 --> 00:34:48,120
Speaker 2: why the fuck is this my responsibility as the child?

655
00:34:48,280 --> 00:34:50,279
Speaker 2: But this is about this is a part of the

656
00:34:50,320 --> 00:34:52,360
Speaker 2: reason we choose our parents and like they you know,

657
00:34:52,440 --> 00:34:55,080
Speaker 2: and like we, like the universe, chooses each other because

658
00:34:55,080 --> 00:34:57,640
Speaker 2: there are lessons for each other that we're here to learn.

659
00:34:58,280 --> 00:35:01,200
Speaker 2: And like I remember being in high school and like

660
00:35:01,400 --> 00:35:04,440
Speaker 2: fucking not wanting my mom to touch me like I

661
00:35:04,480 --> 00:35:06,680
Speaker 2: don't want to want to slide past you in the

662
00:35:06,800 --> 00:35:10,120
Speaker 2: like the hallway and like that's crazy.

663
00:35:10,239 --> 00:35:13,640
Speaker 3: But now even as us in a.

664
00:35:13,600 --> 00:35:16,200
Speaker 2: Good place, like it does feel difficult for me to

665
00:35:17,320 --> 00:35:20,920
Speaker 2: feel like super affectionate, and I feel ashamed to say that,

666
00:35:21,040 --> 00:35:24,399
Speaker 2: you know, like maybe it didn't like I didn't make

667
00:35:24,440 --> 00:35:27,479
Speaker 2: an effort to ever go back to that place after

668
00:35:27,520 --> 00:35:30,839
Speaker 2: I wrote it off in high school. And now I'm

669
00:35:30,880 --> 00:35:35,280
Speaker 2: having to be an adult and except that she's human

670
00:35:35,440 --> 00:35:38,160
Speaker 2: and that she is capable of change, even if it

671
00:35:38,239 --> 00:35:40,839
Speaker 2: is at fifty eight or fifty nine years old, and

672
00:35:41,080 --> 00:35:43,680
Speaker 2: I have to also commit to changing the way I

673
00:35:43,719 --> 00:35:45,840
Speaker 2: see her and the way I interact with her, just

674
00:35:45,880 --> 00:35:49,000
Speaker 2: for the like love, you know, Like there's times I've.

675
00:35:48,840 --> 00:35:49,560
Speaker 3: Slept over her house.

676
00:35:49,560 --> 00:35:52,440
Speaker 2: She's like, sleep in the bed with me, and I'm like, nah,

677
00:35:52,520 --> 00:35:54,400
Speaker 2: you know what I mean, Like it doesn't feel comfortable

678
00:35:54,400 --> 00:35:57,280
Speaker 2: for me. And that's that I think now as a mom,

679
00:35:57,840 --> 00:36:00,560
Speaker 2: it hurts to admit that because I would hate I

680
00:36:00,600 --> 00:36:03,799
Speaker 2: don't care how old Luna is for her to you know,

681
00:36:03,880 --> 00:36:07,800
Speaker 2: to even to to reject me in that way.

682
00:36:07,920 --> 00:36:09,759
Speaker 3: And it is important that we have.

683
00:36:09,800 --> 00:36:15,000
Speaker 2: This conversation now, right before this teenage time that we're

684
00:36:15,040 --> 00:36:17,760
Speaker 2: about to get into with them as they are approaching eleven,

685
00:36:18,520 --> 00:36:22,600
Speaker 2: that I'm really conscious of like keeping the affection up

686
00:36:22,680 --> 00:36:26,120
Speaker 2: even through those changes, because you're right, like we don't

687
00:36:26,160 --> 00:36:32,040
Speaker 2: discuss the water under the bridge of parental relationships because

688
00:36:32,120 --> 00:36:35,960
Speaker 2: in like romantic relationships, when there's water, too much water

689
00:36:36,280 --> 00:36:38,160
Speaker 2: under the bridge, yea, you break up.

690
00:36:38,440 --> 00:36:39,000
Speaker 3: I'm over it.

691
00:36:39,560 --> 00:36:41,560
Speaker 4: Yeah you're dead, You're done.

692
00:36:41,560 --> 00:36:43,600
Speaker 2: But but you know you can't break up.

693
00:36:44,280 --> 00:36:46,440
Speaker 4: I mean you can, people do it, but you know,

694
00:36:47,080 --> 00:36:50,280
Speaker 4: usually it's if it's not severe enough, you're not usually

695
00:36:50,320 --> 00:36:52,239
Speaker 4: not going to do that. And like you know, in

696
00:36:52,280 --> 00:36:55,160
Speaker 4: my case, it's it's never been It's never been like that,

697
00:36:55,239 --> 00:36:57,520
Speaker 4: you know. I mean, my mom have had a good relationship,

698
00:36:57,560 --> 00:37:00,200
Speaker 4: but is it the closest has it always been the closest? Know,

699
00:37:00,280 --> 00:37:02,359
Speaker 4: I think over the last few years we've gotten really close.

700
00:37:02,440 --> 00:37:07,160
Speaker 4: I definitely feel like the roles shifting, and I'm I

701
00:37:07,200 --> 00:37:09,239
Speaker 4: think it's my I think it's age because I feel

702
00:37:09,280 --> 00:37:11,959
Speaker 4: like I've talked to other women and not even women,

703
00:37:12,040 --> 00:37:14,520
Speaker 4: men too around this age where like there's this shift

704
00:37:14,680 --> 00:37:19,560
Speaker 4: like your parents are realizing like they're nearing the endish,

705
00:37:19,640 --> 00:37:23,239
Speaker 4: not end, but the endish of their lives and you

706
00:37:23,320 --> 00:37:25,719
Speaker 4: are realizing, oh shit, I'm gonna have to take care

707
00:37:25,800 --> 00:37:30,640
Speaker 4: of you. And also like you're starting to really humanize

708
00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:34,080
Speaker 4: your parent because you're because of your own personal life experiences,

709
00:37:34,120 --> 00:37:36,960
Speaker 4: whether you're being a mother, whatever, workforce, whatever the fuck,

710
00:37:37,040 --> 00:37:40,320
Speaker 4: Like you're starting to realize, oh, my god, no wonder

711
00:37:40,400 --> 00:37:43,240
Speaker 4: she didn't have the capacity for me at that age

712
00:37:43,280 --> 00:37:46,040
Speaker 4: because blah blah blah, because I'm going through this right now,

713
00:37:46,640 --> 00:37:51,960
Speaker 4: so you know. And then me literally being in the

714
00:37:51,960 --> 00:37:56,040
Speaker 4: caretaker role out of retreat where I'm responsible for helping

715
00:37:56,080 --> 00:37:59,479
Speaker 4: these women, guiding these women, leading these women, including my mother,

716
00:38:00,080 --> 00:38:03,160
Speaker 4: you know, and seeing where she's stuck, seeing the where

717
00:38:03,200 --> 00:38:06,160
Speaker 4: like the work never got done or never even started.

718
00:38:06,719 --> 00:38:09,960
Speaker 4: And you're right, like I do see that the healing

719
00:38:10,520 --> 00:38:13,080
Speaker 4: seven years. I mean, I can only I can't speak

720
00:38:13,120 --> 00:38:15,800
Speaker 4: for seven years behind me. I know it's probably happening,

721
00:38:15,840 --> 00:38:17,799
Speaker 4: but I can't. I mean, but like in the for

722
00:38:17,880 --> 00:38:20,560
Speaker 4: the future, I see it through my daughter. I see

723
00:38:20,560 --> 00:38:24,680
Speaker 4: it even with my mom, like her leaning in, leaning

724
00:38:24,719 --> 00:38:28,920
Speaker 4: into me more, her accepting me more, her flying across

725
00:38:28,960 --> 00:38:32,000
Speaker 4: the count like across out of the United States, taking

726
00:38:32,360 --> 00:38:36,680
Speaker 4: to a plane, staying in a hotel, and I traveling

727
00:38:36,719 --> 00:38:38,719
Speaker 4: into the jungle like, that's a lot of effort for

728
00:38:38,760 --> 00:38:41,399
Speaker 4: a woman her age, like and that I know that

729
00:38:41,400 --> 00:38:46,239
Speaker 4: that that's a big deal because three or four years ago,

730
00:38:46,480 --> 00:38:48,520
Speaker 4: there would have been no fucking way on earth that

731
00:38:48,640 --> 00:38:50,799
Speaker 4: she would have even been interested to know what the

732
00:38:50,800 --> 00:38:53,799
Speaker 4: fuck I'm doing over here. So I know that there's

733
00:38:53,840 --> 00:38:56,640
Speaker 4: healing taking place. I know that there's progress taking place,

734
00:38:56,760 --> 00:39:02,640
Speaker 4: and it is uncomfortable. I am still processing. It was challenging.

735
00:39:03,239 --> 00:39:09,759
Speaker 4: I do think that we does we owe it to

736
00:39:09,840 --> 00:39:14,160
Speaker 4: our mothers to bring this work to them. I will

737
00:39:14,200 --> 00:39:17,279
Speaker 4: say too, yes, it is easier to be in the

738
00:39:17,360 --> 00:39:21,040
Speaker 4: work with strangers because even in our own personal relationship,

739
00:39:21,080 --> 00:39:23,120
Speaker 4: I'm not gonna lie. I'd be like, damn, Mela can

740
00:39:23,160 --> 00:39:26,600
Speaker 4: sit and fucking talk to these women. But we have

741
00:39:26,680 --> 00:39:30,080
Speaker 4: an issue, like I feel like she avoids me, but

742
00:39:30,200 --> 00:39:32,840
Speaker 4: like she don't know this bitch from a grain of salt,

743
00:39:32,960 --> 00:39:36,319
Speaker 4: and she's gonna let her cry with her and ask

744
00:39:36,320 --> 00:39:38,200
Speaker 4: her all these questions. But when we have it but

745
00:39:38,680 --> 00:39:41,160
Speaker 4: with me and you sometimes and that goes vice versa,

746
00:39:41,280 --> 00:39:44,680
Speaker 4: like there's a resistance when you are close with someone,

747
00:39:45,440 --> 00:39:48,120
Speaker 4: not all the time, but specific people when it's extremely

748
00:39:48,239 --> 00:39:51,880
Speaker 4: sensitive where you avoid you know, and like I wanted

749
00:39:51,920 --> 00:39:54,680
Speaker 4: to avoid this trip with my mom's like she was

750
00:39:54,719 --> 00:39:57,399
Speaker 4: coming and I was like, oh my god, like why no,

751
00:39:57,719 --> 00:39:58,319
Speaker 4: like are you sure?

752
00:39:58,440 --> 00:39:58,720
Speaker 2: Fuck?

753
00:39:58,800 --> 00:40:00,680
Speaker 4: Like I know she needs it, but like I know

754
00:40:00,719 --> 00:40:04,920
Speaker 4: I invited you, but you know, and it's like, why

755
00:40:04,960 --> 00:40:08,120
Speaker 4: would I be giving this medicine to everyone else except

756
00:40:08,120 --> 00:40:11,799
Speaker 4: the woman who fucking birthed me? Like why because you know,

757
00:40:12,000 --> 00:40:14,319
Speaker 4: and and out of fear of judgment, out of fear

758
00:40:14,360 --> 00:40:17,640
Speaker 4: of it not working, out of fear of it being like,

759
00:40:17,719 --> 00:40:19,440
Speaker 4: oh well it works on everyone else but didn't work

760
00:40:19,440 --> 00:40:20,839
Speaker 4: on you, book, Like is it real?

761
00:40:21,280 --> 00:40:21,759
Speaker 2: Is it real?

762
00:40:22,320 --> 00:40:26,440
Speaker 4: You know, like the judgment of myself. And I think

763
00:40:26,440 --> 00:40:30,400
Speaker 4: it's like pushing past We have to push past those

764
00:40:30,640 --> 00:40:34,400
Speaker 4: those fears because A that's the calling on our lives,

765
00:40:34,480 --> 00:40:39,960
Speaker 4: or at least mine, and B because like our fucking future,

766
00:40:40,719 --> 00:40:44,279
Speaker 4: our descendants deserve this shit. They deserve it, and in

767
00:40:44,320 --> 00:40:48,120
Speaker 4: this world that's crazy and acting so strange, like at

768
00:40:48,200 --> 00:40:51,279
Speaker 4: least we can we can like know that, like our

769
00:40:51,400 --> 00:40:57,920
Speaker 4: families are straight, like mentally and emotionally and physically and

770
00:40:57,960 --> 00:40:59,960
Speaker 4: basically and spiritually.

771
00:40:59,480 --> 00:41:02,240
Speaker 2: Spiritually, And I mean, I think obviously it's a calling

772
00:41:02,280 --> 00:41:05,000
Speaker 2: on our lives because we're here doing it, so like

773
00:41:05,080 --> 00:41:08,600
Speaker 2: there would be no reason for our purpose to be

774
00:41:08,880 --> 00:41:11,960
Speaker 2: you know, like so clear, but for every for everybody

775
00:41:11,960 --> 00:41:15,960
Speaker 2: else outside of the people directly related to us, you know,

776
00:41:16,080 --> 00:41:19,200
Speaker 2: and it is it's gonna it's going to require that

777
00:41:19,320 --> 00:41:21,359
Speaker 2: you do things that are on like more and more

778
00:41:21,400 --> 00:41:22,840
Speaker 2: and more, Like I would say, like I said, like

779
00:41:22,880 --> 00:41:27,480
Speaker 2: the work's never done. And it also like luckily we

780
00:41:27,520 --> 00:41:33,320
Speaker 2: are people that have the insight to like obviously we're human,

781
00:41:33,400 --> 00:41:36,400
Speaker 2: but like to self respect, I mean self analyze and

782
00:41:36,440 --> 00:41:40,759
Speaker 2: self reflect and say, like what is my avoidance with conflict?

783
00:41:40,840 --> 00:41:41,840
Speaker 3: What does this mean to me?

784
00:41:42,000 --> 00:41:43,560
Speaker 2: You know? And like for me, like I grew up

785
00:41:43,600 --> 00:41:47,400
Speaker 2: in a household where like conflicts were fights were the

786
00:41:47,560 --> 00:41:50,400
Speaker 2: like it was this big blow up and like I

787
00:41:50,440 --> 00:41:53,400
Speaker 2: didn't see a lot of healthy arguments. I saw fucking

788
00:41:53,520 --> 00:41:57,400
Speaker 2: chaos and violence. And so I think maybe as an adult,

789
00:41:57,480 --> 00:41:59,719
Speaker 2: I avoid it because I'm like this is going to

790
00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:02,520
Speaker 2: lead to this and I and I don't want this

791
00:42:02,640 --> 00:42:07,200
Speaker 2: to lead to this huge violent like like explosion and

792
00:42:07,239 --> 00:42:12,680
Speaker 2: like having to reprogram and rewire like what what conflict means?

793
00:42:12,719 --> 00:42:16,480
Speaker 2: And like truly the conflict is like if you have

794
00:42:16,520 --> 00:42:18,479
Speaker 2: a conflict and you can talk past it, you're gonna

795
00:42:18,520 --> 00:42:22,200
Speaker 2: always be closer to the person versus assuming that conflict

796
00:42:22,280 --> 00:42:25,680
Speaker 2: automatically means fucking chaos, you know what I mean. Like,

797
00:42:25,760 --> 00:42:30,440
Speaker 2: there's there's so much of like adulthood that is based

798
00:42:30,560 --> 00:42:35,680
Speaker 2: in observing why why the fuck do I act this way?

799
00:42:35,719 --> 00:42:37,400
Speaker 2: Why do I feel this way? Why did I just

800
00:42:37,440 --> 00:42:40,040
Speaker 2: tell myself this? Why am I so highly critical of

801
00:42:40,080 --> 00:42:41,960
Speaker 2: this this and that? You know? Why am I judging

802
00:42:42,000 --> 00:42:43,400
Speaker 2: this person? Or whatever?

803
00:42:43,480 --> 00:42:43,799
Speaker 3: The fuck?

804
00:42:43,840 --> 00:42:46,359
Speaker 2: It is? A lot of it is like these are

805
00:42:46,480 --> 00:42:49,360
Speaker 2: these are decisions and that we've made, or like a

806
00:42:49,440 --> 00:42:53,120
Speaker 2: filter that has like covered our lens in childhood or

807
00:42:53,120 --> 00:42:56,600
Speaker 2: in early development that now it's lived with us. But

808
00:42:56,920 --> 00:43:01,440
Speaker 2: most a lot of people aren't committed to questioning the

809
00:43:01,480 --> 00:43:03,839
Speaker 2: why of why you are. Some people are like, well,

810
00:43:03,880 --> 00:43:06,759
Speaker 2: that's just how I am. And it's like is it

811
00:43:06,800 --> 00:43:08,440
Speaker 2: just how you are? Or is there a room for

812
00:43:08,520 --> 00:43:10,840
Speaker 2: you to expand and try harder and do it again

813
00:43:10,960 --> 00:43:11,640
Speaker 2: and be better?

814
00:43:12,160 --> 00:43:17,400
Speaker 3: You know, And it's like it's not easy, but life

815
00:43:17,600 --> 00:43:18,840
Speaker 3: is a fucking.

816
00:43:20,000 --> 00:43:24,239
Speaker 2: Lesson, Like our souls have a contract and some shit

817
00:43:24,320 --> 00:43:27,319
Speaker 2: is supposed to get done this this iteration, and like

818
00:43:28,520 --> 00:43:30,000
Speaker 2: if you don't do it, we're gonna be back in

819
00:43:30,080 --> 00:43:32,799
Speaker 2: this bitch trying again in a different body, and you

820
00:43:32,880 --> 00:43:35,319
Speaker 2: might be a male and maybe it'll be white, maybe

821
00:43:35,320 --> 00:43:37,080
Speaker 2: you'll have different circumstances.

822
00:43:37,719 --> 00:43:44,240
Speaker 3: But that's life, you know. So yeah, this.

823
00:43:44,120 --> 00:43:49,759
Speaker 2: Is yeah, I'm grateful that we have. I'm just I'm

824
00:43:49,760 --> 00:43:52,880
Speaker 2: grateful that this is the work that we're in because

825
00:43:53,239 --> 00:43:57,719
Speaker 2: even if it's Wu wou or whatever, we're always at

826
00:43:57,840 --> 00:44:03,200
Speaker 2: least trying to dig a little deeper, go a little further,

827
00:44:03,400 --> 00:44:04,400
Speaker 2: try a little harder.

828
00:44:05,040 --> 00:44:07,280
Speaker 4: I mean, and I can't help it because I'm always

829
00:44:07,640 --> 00:44:12,560
Speaker 4: I'm like, I'm such a like whenever I'm going as

830
00:44:12,560 --> 00:44:14,360
Speaker 4: I'm going through this work with my mother, I'm thinking,

831
00:44:14,360 --> 00:44:17,640
Speaker 4: oh my god, like we need to do a mom

832
00:44:17,680 --> 00:44:19,879
Speaker 4: and mom retreat, Like we need to do a mom

833
00:44:19,920 --> 00:44:22,840
Speaker 4: and mom retreat, and my mom must come back. We

834
00:44:22,920 --> 00:44:24,919
Speaker 4: talked about doing a mom you know, mom and daughter

835
00:44:24,960 --> 00:44:27,360
Speaker 4: retreat like a kid retreat, which, like, you know, we

836
00:44:27,400 --> 00:44:31,280
Speaker 4: got a lot of people interested in and I'm excited

837
00:44:31,320 --> 00:44:34,239
Speaker 4: to do something like that, But I'm also like that

838
00:44:34,280 --> 00:44:37,040
Speaker 4: other aspect of like my mom coming on this retreat

839
00:44:37,160 --> 00:44:40,560
Speaker 4: made me realize, like, if your mom is still here

840
00:44:40,600 --> 00:44:43,000
Speaker 4: on this earth and is willing to come into a

841
00:44:43,040 --> 00:44:46,520
Speaker 4: space like that with you, why the fuck not, you know,

842
00:44:46,760 --> 00:44:50,720
Speaker 4: and like you're talking about generational healing like that shit,

843
00:44:51,160 --> 00:44:53,520
Speaker 4: Like I already know whatever we did in there out

844
00:44:53,520 --> 00:44:56,120
Speaker 4: in the jungle, like it's still the healing is still

845
00:44:56,160 --> 00:44:58,239
Speaker 4: working right now in this very moment, you know.

846
00:44:58,440 --> 00:45:00,239
Speaker 2: Like that is so.

847
00:45:00,320 --> 00:45:05,120
Speaker 4: Powerful, like being able to sit in your mother's arms

848
00:45:06,320 --> 00:45:10,160
Speaker 4: like a baby or vice versa, you know, and being

849
00:45:10,200 --> 00:45:12,520
Speaker 4: able to care for one another in that way where

850
00:45:12,520 --> 00:45:16,560
Speaker 4: it's just about you, there's no distractions, Like I have

851
00:45:16,640 --> 00:45:18,360
Speaker 4: to do some healing with my mom first before I

852
00:45:18,360 --> 00:45:20,240
Speaker 4: can probably facilitate something like that.

853
00:45:20,520 --> 00:45:22,799
Speaker 3: I mean, you are, but you did, but you did it.

854
00:45:22,840 --> 00:45:24,520
Speaker 3: I'm like I'm doing it, but yeah, but.

855
00:45:24,800 --> 00:45:27,759
Speaker 4: I'm still working through the discomfort, you know, Like I'm

856
00:45:27,760 --> 00:45:28,960
Speaker 4: not on the other side. I don't know, Like I

857
00:45:29,000 --> 00:45:30,080
Speaker 4: don't I don't want to say I'm not on the

858
00:45:30,080 --> 00:45:31,799
Speaker 4: other side of it. I'm not on the other side

859
00:45:31,840 --> 00:45:34,200
Speaker 4: of it, and I know that there's maybe no perfect

860
00:45:34,239 --> 00:45:37,120
Speaker 4: other side of it, but I do feel like there's

861
00:45:37,160 --> 00:45:40,080
Speaker 4: a level of like initiation in that space that I

862
00:45:40,120 --> 00:45:44,160
Speaker 4: need to go walk a little bit through before facilitating

863
00:45:44,200 --> 00:45:48,440
Speaker 4: experience like that. But I realize how important it is

864
00:45:48,719 --> 00:45:51,960
Speaker 4: and how like necessary it the fuck is.

865
00:45:52,239 --> 00:45:56,760
Speaker 2: Okay, I mean that the mom wounds, the parental wounds

866
00:45:56,760 --> 00:45:59,480
Speaker 2: in general, are deep seated, and you're right, like, if

867
00:45:59,480 --> 00:46:04,000
Speaker 2: we are here in life, while you can do it

868
00:46:04,040 --> 00:46:06,319
Speaker 2: out loud, why not. And it's not to say that

869
00:46:06,400 --> 00:46:08,880
Speaker 2: everyone's gonna you know, it's gonna be easier.

870
00:46:09,040 --> 00:46:11,160
Speaker 3: Your mom's gonna just take it. It's gonna be like that.

871
00:46:11,320 --> 00:46:13,120
Speaker 2: You know. I got into it with my mom the

872
00:46:13,120 --> 00:46:16,000
Speaker 2: other day because she was like telling me she worked

873
00:46:16,040 --> 00:46:17,560
Speaker 2: my whole life, and I was like, you did it.

874
00:46:17,640 --> 00:46:19,719
Speaker 2: You stopped working when I was nine, and she's like, no,

875
00:46:19,840 --> 00:46:22,040
Speaker 2: I did it, No I did it. I was like, no,

876
00:46:22,160 --> 00:46:24,319
Speaker 2: you did and she's like, no, I did it. I

877
00:46:24,360 --> 00:46:27,000
Speaker 2: worked your whole life. And I was like, mom, why

878
00:46:27,000 --> 00:46:30,000
Speaker 2: would I have this very specific number, not like I

879
00:46:30,080 --> 00:46:33,080
Speaker 2: know exactly when you stopped working. And then she was

880
00:46:33,120 --> 00:46:35,120
Speaker 2: just getting like nasty a little bit with me, and

881
00:46:35,200 --> 00:46:37,640
Speaker 2: I was just like, never mind, girl, I'm not about

882
00:46:37,640 --> 00:46:40,000
Speaker 2: to keep going arguing back and forth. But what I

883
00:46:40,120 --> 00:46:43,200
Speaker 2: noticed in that moment, it was like she was me

884
00:46:43,280 --> 00:46:46,280
Speaker 2: saying she stopped working at nine, which was a fucking fact,

885
00:46:47,080 --> 00:46:51,160
Speaker 2: was me saying you didn't do shit. That's what fed

886
00:46:51,200 --> 00:46:54,000
Speaker 2: HER's that's what she was hearing. And you know, a

887
00:46:54,000 --> 00:46:56,040
Speaker 2: couple of hours later, she called me and she was like,

888
00:46:57,080 --> 00:47:00,479
Speaker 2: I talked to your dad. You're right, I did stop

889
00:47:00,520 --> 00:47:03,200
Speaker 2: working when you ran in the fourth grade, but I

890
00:47:03,280 --> 00:47:05,640
Speaker 2: was taking you to doctor's appointments. I was like, yeah,

891
00:47:05,680 --> 00:47:06,640
Speaker 2: of course.

892
00:47:06,520 --> 00:47:09,200
Speaker 4: Well, because she's still working. She was raising you, which

893
00:47:09,239 --> 00:47:11,160
Speaker 4: is a whole other job. I mean, I know that's

894
00:47:11,200 --> 00:47:13,600
Speaker 4: not what she was thinking when you've said that, but

895
00:47:14,040 --> 00:47:16,600
Speaker 4: I probably in her in her mind, in her body,

896
00:47:17,280 --> 00:47:19,399
Speaker 4: she didn't get a break, you know what I mean, yeah,

897
00:47:19,560 --> 00:47:22,440
Speaker 4: kind of not physically checked into the She might have

898
00:47:22,520 --> 00:47:27,040
Speaker 4: not physically checked into the job, you know, but in

899
00:47:27,080 --> 00:47:30,000
Speaker 4: her muscle memory, bitch, I was working the fuck.

900
00:47:30,719 --> 00:47:33,160
Speaker 2: And it just it was just like a really clear

901
00:47:33,200 --> 00:47:37,799
Speaker 2: indication of like what I'm saying versus what you're hearing, right,

902
00:47:38,000 --> 00:47:40,600
Speaker 2: And also like I wasn't about to argue and go

903
00:47:40,680 --> 00:47:42,360
Speaker 2: back and forth, and I was kind of getting frustrated,

904
00:47:42,360 --> 00:47:44,000
Speaker 2: and then I was just like, never mind, Like why

905
00:47:44,000 --> 00:47:45,960
Speaker 2: am I arguing about this? And then she called me

906
00:47:46,000 --> 00:47:48,040
Speaker 2: back later and agreed with what I was saying, and

907
00:47:48,080 --> 00:47:49,920
Speaker 2: I was just like, it's very interesting, Like I know,

908
00:47:50,000 --> 00:47:52,799
Speaker 2: as a mom, we are sensitive beings because we do

909
00:47:52,800 --> 00:47:55,080
Speaker 2: do so much for our children and we sacrifice and

910
00:47:55,120 --> 00:47:57,680
Speaker 2: we pour into and like a lot of times it

911
00:47:57,719 --> 00:48:01,120
Speaker 2: feels like a thankless job. And I at that, and

912
00:48:01,200 --> 00:48:04,160
Speaker 2: so I just like I obviously need to like affirm

913
00:48:03,920 --> 00:48:07,560
Speaker 2: her more. But like even the fact that she called

914
00:48:07,560 --> 00:48:09,720
Speaker 2: me back and was like, actually, you're right, yeah, I know, thanks,

915
00:48:10,120 --> 00:48:13,360
Speaker 2: But it's just it's interesting that, you know, like we

916
00:48:13,520 --> 00:48:16,680
Speaker 2: have to kind of learn the language of our parents,

917
00:48:16,840 --> 00:48:19,200
Speaker 2: and like a lot of it is they want to

918
00:48:19,239 --> 00:48:22,120
Speaker 2: be thanked and recognized for feeding you and keeping you

919
00:48:22,280 --> 00:48:24,759
Speaker 2: live for your whole life, which I gain, and.

920
00:48:25,280 --> 00:48:29,600
Speaker 4: We want to be recognized, and you know, we want

921
00:48:29,640 --> 00:48:31,440
Speaker 4: our parents to be proud of us, you know, so

922
00:48:31,480 --> 00:48:34,640
Speaker 4: it's kind of the same shit. I'm trying to bring

923
00:48:34,680 --> 00:48:37,400
Speaker 4: this backwood back to life, okay, because bitch, if you

924
00:48:37,480 --> 00:48:43,200
Speaker 4: saw the backwood cemetery that's happening before my fucking eyes here, Bitch,

925
00:48:43,520 --> 00:48:48,160
Speaker 4: these dry backwards that I have. So I'm literally putting

926
00:48:48,200 --> 00:48:54,799
Speaker 4: this whole cigar in water, hoping to reignite the moisture

927
00:48:55,000 --> 00:48:57,360
Speaker 4: so that I don't rip this open and it just

928
00:48:57,440 --> 00:49:00,319
Speaker 4: falls to pieces, because what in the backwood is going

929
00:49:00,360 --> 00:49:00,799
Speaker 4: on here?

930
00:49:01,640 --> 00:49:04,759
Speaker 2: I have this grape backwood from Costa Rica, and you

931
00:49:04,800 --> 00:49:07,839
Speaker 2: know what I said, one episode that I was going

932
00:49:07,920 --> 00:49:14,600
Speaker 2: to try it without your babe. Oh no, I'm going

933
00:49:14,680 --> 00:49:16,920
Speaker 2: to hear GEP you know what to do?

934
00:49:18,320 --> 00:49:20,560
Speaker 4: Oh my god, I think I fixed it. Wait let

935
00:49:20,600 --> 00:49:24,759
Speaker 4: me Yeah, Oh my god, I re wait. I think

936
00:49:24,760 --> 00:49:25,520
Speaker 4: I need more water.

937
00:49:26,920 --> 00:49:29,680
Speaker 3: You rehydrated it rehydrated the backwoods.

938
00:49:29,719 --> 00:49:34,440
Speaker 2: See, I'm a backwood CPR, CPR D I CPR this bitch.

939
00:49:35,640 --> 00:49:37,040
Speaker 2: I have a grape one and I want to try

940
00:49:37,080 --> 00:49:38,920
Speaker 2: it without putting weed in it like you did like

941
00:49:38,960 --> 00:49:39,400
Speaker 2: a cigar.

942
00:49:40,040 --> 00:49:43,719
Speaker 4: Oh yeah, come on girl. Oh no, my mom is

943
00:49:43,760 --> 00:49:45,120
Speaker 4: not talking about her. She's calling me.

944
00:49:45,160 --> 00:49:48,440
Speaker 3: Now, were you talking about me on that podcast?

945
00:49:48,480 --> 00:49:51,319
Speaker 4: If you always, she'll be mortified. Everyone, do not tell

946
00:49:51,320 --> 00:49:53,239
Speaker 4: her I talked about her on this episode, don't you.

947
00:49:53,239 --> 00:49:55,759
Speaker 3: Dare you know what? She'll be so mortified that she

948
00:49:55,800 --> 00:49:58,239
Speaker 3: won't listen. You know my mom.

949
00:49:58,400 --> 00:50:02,200
Speaker 2: My mom has still read our book. And one day

950
00:50:02,239 --> 00:50:04,120
Speaker 2: she was like, I was gonna say I was gonna

951
00:50:04,160 --> 00:50:06,880
Speaker 2: send it to my friend. And then I realized I

952
00:50:06,880 --> 00:50:12,440
Speaker 2: don't know what she said about me. I said, yeah,

953
00:50:12,719 --> 00:50:15,280
Speaker 2: maybe you should read it before you go passing along

954
00:50:15,320 --> 00:50:16,160
Speaker 2: to your new friend.

955
00:50:17,760 --> 00:50:22,920
Speaker 3: Like so interesting, my mom hasn't read them, But like,

956
00:50:22,960 --> 00:50:23,799
Speaker 3: what does your mom say?

957
00:50:23,880 --> 00:50:26,760
Speaker 4: See but that's what I'm saying, Like it's like whatever,

958
00:50:26,800 --> 00:50:28,120
Speaker 4: you don't have to read the book, but like it's

959
00:50:28,160 --> 00:50:31,440
Speaker 4: always like this little thing that's not quite you.

960
00:50:31,520 --> 00:50:34,239
Speaker 2: No, she's afraid to read the book. My mom told

961
00:50:34,280 --> 00:50:35,560
Speaker 2: me she's afraid to read the book to see what

962
00:50:35,560 --> 00:50:36,160
Speaker 2: I wrote about her.

963
00:50:36,160 --> 00:50:37,120
Speaker 3: Your mom's also afraid.

964
00:50:37,200 --> 00:50:39,840
Speaker 2: I can only imagine that's the only reason they're not.

965
00:50:39,239 --> 00:50:43,680
Speaker 4: Okay, Yes, the book I get. Okay, the podcast I get, yes, yes, yes,

966
00:50:43,719 --> 00:50:46,880
Speaker 4: But I think throughout my life, like there were moments

967
00:50:46,920 --> 00:50:49,440
Speaker 4: where I wanted her to cheer for me harder, you know,

968
00:50:49,680 --> 00:50:52,680
Speaker 4: like I needed her to like really go there, you know,

969
00:50:52,960 --> 00:50:57,080
Speaker 4: like really celebrate me in a way that felt, and

970
00:50:57,160 --> 00:51:00,120
Speaker 4: not give me any critiques afterwards. Well next time, oh

971
00:51:00,160 --> 00:51:01,000
Speaker 4: shut the fuck up.

972
00:51:00,920 --> 00:51:01,960
Speaker 3: There, just let it be.

973
00:51:02,600 --> 00:51:05,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, And there was always like the critique because she

974
00:51:05,480 --> 00:51:08,160
Speaker 4: wanted me to be the best, and you know, thankfully,

975
00:51:08,680 --> 00:51:11,880
Speaker 4: you know, I am because of that, but not but

976
00:51:12,040 --> 00:51:19,799
Speaker 4: not without some fucking anxiety. Yeah. Yeah, So wait, I

977
00:51:19,800 --> 00:51:20,760
Speaker 4: need to get a napkin.

978
00:51:29,320 --> 00:51:31,759
Speaker 2: Okay, this is a great backwood. I'm gonna smoke it,

979
00:51:31,840 --> 00:51:34,719
Speaker 2: just regular like a cigar, like a big papa.

980
00:51:35,040 --> 00:51:39,120
Speaker 4: Okay. So I told Mila that the trick to tasting

981
00:51:39,400 --> 00:51:41,720
Speaker 4: the flavors of the backwoods, and you have to actually

982
00:51:41,800 --> 00:51:44,959
Speaker 4: smoke it like a real cigar. The flavor, the great

983
00:51:45,040 --> 00:51:49,400
Speaker 4: flavor is keep moving. My mic I told Jamila that

984
00:51:49,400 --> 00:51:51,760
Speaker 4: the trick smoking backwood is you have to actually smoke

985
00:51:51,960 --> 00:51:55,600
Speaker 4: the whole backwood with the shit inside, because the flavoring

986
00:51:55,719 --> 00:51:58,440
Speaker 4: is in the stuffing. We take the stuffing out to

987
00:51:58,440 --> 00:52:01,120
Speaker 4: put the weed in, like I'm about to do, because

988
00:52:01,160 --> 00:52:06,080
Speaker 4: I think I've doctored up my backwood the way I'm.

989
00:52:05,960 --> 00:52:08,160
Speaker 2: Gonna get cursed out for smoking a full cigar in

990
00:52:08,200 --> 00:52:08,760
Speaker 2: my bed.

991
00:52:09,520 --> 00:52:11,359
Speaker 4: Well, I'm yeah, I'm smoking in my house too, because

992
00:52:11,360 --> 00:52:14,239
Speaker 4: I'm not going outside. But see, this is the this

993
00:52:14,280 --> 00:52:17,000
Speaker 4: is why, this is what I've waited for. This is

994
00:52:17,000 --> 00:52:18,000
Speaker 4: what adulthood is about.

995
00:52:18,360 --> 00:52:20,120
Speaker 3: Do whatever the fuck you want smoke.

996
00:52:19,880 --> 00:52:21,480
Speaker 4: In my house. Shut the fuck up, leave me alone,

997
00:52:21,560 --> 00:52:23,000
Speaker 4: I read, Go upstairs, go close the door.

998
00:52:26,920 --> 00:52:29,040
Speaker 2: Okay, it's actually not as bad, like as bad as

999
00:52:29,040 --> 00:52:29,719
Speaker 2: I thought it'd be.

1000
00:52:29,800 --> 00:52:35,920
Speaker 4: It's not so bad. And do you taste the grape?

1001
00:52:36,760 --> 00:52:37,160
Speaker 2: I do.

1002
00:52:38,040 --> 00:52:39,759
Speaker 3: It is more grapy than if I would have put

1003
00:52:39,760 --> 00:52:40,319
Speaker 3: the weed in here.

1004
00:52:40,920 --> 00:52:44,759
Speaker 4: Mm, I'm not mad at this, doesn't he don't you

1005
00:52:44,760 --> 00:52:46,799
Speaker 4: feel like a like a sophisticated and.

1006
00:52:46,800 --> 00:52:48,480
Speaker 2: I got my collared shirt on. I feel like like

1007
00:52:48,520 --> 00:52:50,760
Speaker 2: a Cuban mommy. You're not gonna be poppy.

1008
00:52:51,400 --> 00:52:54,239
Speaker 4: Don't inhale too much. Just like you know, let the

1009
00:52:56,920 --> 00:52:58,600
Speaker 4: just like you know, like the Cubans do. They just

1010
00:52:58,640 --> 00:53:00,840
Speaker 4: like let it sit in their mad Give me a

1011
00:53:00,880 --> 00:53:04,560
Speaker 4: Bobby gimme. Yeah, it's not even the shirt, it's the

1012
00:53:04,640 --> 00:53:05,799
Speaker 4: it's the head wrap for me.

1013
00:53:06,000 --> 00:53:15,799
Speaker 5: Baby, I've had four inches of hair out for three

1014
00:53:15,880 --> 00:53:16,520
Speaker 5: days and I'm.

1015
00:53:16,400 --> 00:53:17,120
Speaker 2: Already over it.

1016
00:53:18,880 --> 00:53:19,759
Speaker 4: You want to cut it again.

1017
00:53:19,880 --> 00:53:22,000
Speaker 2: I'm either gonna get braids, so I'm gonna get braids

1018
00:53:22,000 --> 00:53:24,560
Speaker 2: to go to Bali. But yeah, I don't know how

1019
00:53:24,560 --> 00:53:27,320
Speaker 2: long this is gonna last. Baby, that's not total November bitch.

1020
00:53:27,520 --> 00:53:31,240
Speaker 2: Like I'm gonna get braids. I'm gonna get braids.

1021
00:53:32,160 --> 00:53:33,400
Speaker 3: Maybe I need to get it. Maybe I need to

1022
00:53:33,440 --> 00:53:34,080
Speaker 3: get my hair done.

1023
00:53:34,120 --> 00:53:35,719
Speaker 2: I need something to do it for me. I'm not

1024
00:53:35,840 --> 00:53:38,160
Speaker 2: like well versed on more than three inches of hair yet.

1025
00:53:40,640 --> 00:53:42,520
Speaker 2: I haven't had hair since like all I was pregnant

1026
00:53:42,560 --> 00:53:43,279
Speaker 2: with Linda.

1027
00:53:44,480 --> 00:53:46,000
Speaker 4: I was gonna take these braids. I think I put

1028
00:53:46,000 --> 00:53:48,080
Speaker 4: my weave back in. I think it's I think it's

1029
00:53:48,520 --> 00:53:49,560
Speaker 4: falls for weaves.

1030
00:53:49,760 --> 00:53:51,800
Speaker 2: Oh you know what, Actually, I have I have some clippings.

1031
00:53:51,840 --> 00:53:53,600
Speaker 2: Remember that time I clippins that time I burnt my

1032
00:53:53,640 --> 00:53:58,400
Speaker 2: hair out with herm Yeah, I still have them, I remember.

1033
00:53:58,800 --> 00:54:00,760
Speaker 2: Oh my god. I don't know if you guys remember

1034
00:54:00,840 --> 00:54:02,719
Speaker 2: I told this story. It was like three years ago.

1035
00:54:02,960 --> 00:54:05,600
Speaker 2: I over processed. I was doing my own hair all

1036
00:54:05,600 --> 00:54:07,080
Speaker 2: the time for like a decade, and I thought I

1037
00:54:07,120 --> 00:54:10,880
Speaker 2: was a professional. And I left the perman while I

1038
00:54:10,920 --> 00:54:12,520
Speaker 2: was cleaning my room because I just did it so

1039
00:54:12,560 --> 00:54:14,439
Speaker 2: many times. I just knew, I knew what I was doing,

1040
00:54:14,520 --> 00:54:17,520
Speaker 2: and baby about I had a cute little hairstyle. And

1041
00:54:17,600 --> 00:54:20,560
Speaker 2: about three days later I moved the bang baby, and

1042
00:54:20,719 --> 00:54:25,680
Speaker 2: all of this was gone. That okay gone And blessed

1043
00:54:25,719 --> 00:54:27,680
Speaker 2: Orlando's heart because that was right around the time we

1044
00:54:27,719 --> 00:54:30,120
Speaker 2: went out of town together for thirty days and I

1045
00:54:30,160 --> 00:54:32,919
Speaker 2: had to like no braids could go right here because

1046
00:54:32,960 --> 00:54:35,960
Speaker 2: it was too short. And he still loved me, but

1047
00:54:36,200 --> 00:54:38,720
Speaker 2: that shit was bald for like at least two months.

1048
00:54:40,239 --> 00:54:41,440
Speaker 3: So now I go to the hairdresser.

1049
00:54:42,600 --> 00:54:44,920
Speaker 4: I'm so happy that you finally started doing going to

1050
00:54:44,960 --> 00:54:47,560
Speaker 4: the hairdresser, because for a good part of our first

1051
00:54:47,600 --> 00:54:50,640
Speaker 4: four years of friendship, you were like I do my

1052
00:54:50,640 --> 00:54:52,000
Speaker 4: own hair. I cut my own hair. I do my

1053
00:54:52,040 --> 00:54:52,439
Speaker 4: own hair.

1054
00:54:52,520 --> 00:54:54,200
Speaker 2: I did it all. I did it all.

1055
00:54:54,640 --> 00:54:58,799
Speaker 4: Go get your hair done.

1056
00:55:00,200 --> 00:55:02,640
Speaker 3: Tell me I wasn't a professional hairstylist. Why was I

1057
00:55:02,719 --> 00:55:03,800
Speaker 3: cutting my own hair.

1058
00:55:04,080 --> 00:55:07,160
Speaker 4: I mean, you were doing okay, but like, you know,

1059
00:55:07,320 --> 00:55:09,319
Speaker 4: it looks better now that you actually went and got

1060
00:55:09,360 --> 00:55:12,480
Speaker 4: it professionally done. You know, it's like a little there

1061
00:55:12,520 --> 00:55:15,320
Speaker 4: was a little helmet action sometimes looking a little helmety

1062
00:55:15,360 --> 00:55:16,000
Speaker 4: at times.

1063
00:55:16,080 --> 00:55:21,719
Speaker 2: Hey hey, hey, you gonna you're gonna You're gonna be

1064
00:55:21,760 --> 00:55:22,719
Speaker 2: easy on my hairstyle.

1065
00:55:22,840 --> 00:55:26,400
Speaker 4: The helmet daser over because you stopped going to super Cuts.

1066
00:55:26,440 --> 00:55:27,040
Speaker 4: And I'm just kidding.

1067
00:55:27,360 --> 00:55:29,000
Speaker 3: I did go to Supercuts a couple of times.

1068
00:55:30,360 --> 00:55:32,120
Speaker 2: I was like, just cut it. I can do the rest.

1069
00:55:32,760 --> 00:55:33,719
Speaker 2: I know you're dead.

1070
00:55:33,760 --> 00:55:35,880
Speaker 4: I was like, bitch, if you go to Fantastic Sam's.

1071
00:55:35,880 --> 00:55:39,440
Speaker 2: When we're having short hair is a commitment. You have

1072
00:55:39,520 --> 00:55:41,279
Speaker 2: to either keep it cut, you have to keep it done.

1073
00:55:41,320 --> 00:55:44,080
Speaker 2: Like there's no ponytails. If I could have a pony tail,

1074
00:55:44,080 --> 00:55:46,360
Speaker 2: i'd be fine. It's just it doesn't exist.

1075
00:55:48,400 --> 00:55:50,520
Speaker 4: Okay, Now I'm slight.

1076
00:55:51,440 --> 00:55:53,719
Speaker 2: I'm not mad at this at all. Actually, I told

1077
00:55:53,719 --> 00:55:56,120
Speaker 2: you nice, you're going for it.

1078
00:55:56,239 --> 00:55:58,000
Speaker 4: I see you over there, you keep smoking it.

1079
00:55:59,680 --> 00:56:02,840
Speaker 2: Okay, backwoods I want to go to I want to

1080
00:56:02,880 --> 00:56:07,680
Speaker 2: go to the Dominican Republic and go on a backwoods tour. Okay, backwards. Hello,

1081
00:56:07,800 --> 00:56:11,040
Speaker 2: it's me Mila Mapp. If you hear this, I'm trying

1082
00:56:11,080 --> 00:56:13,280
Speaker 2: to get to the dr and go to the farm

1083
00:56:13,320 --> 00:56:15,200
Speaker 2: and see what's going on there. I've never been to

1084
00:56:15,200 --> 00:56:17,560
Speaker 2: a tobacco farm. So send the.

1085
00:56:17,600 --> 00:56:23,400
Speaker 4: Invite, ignore that, ignore her. She's fine, she's going upstairs.

1086
00:56:23,560 --> 00:56:27,880
Speaker 2: Got this?

1087
00:56:28,040 --> 00:56:30,200
Speaker 4: Okay, So this backward? What am I smoking? Because it

1088
00:56:30,200 --> 00:56:32,319
Speaker 4: was a backwood cemetery. I don't even know which one

1089
00:56:32,360 --> 00:56:33,319
Speaker 4: it came from at this point.

1090
00:56:33,360 --> 00:56:35,120
Speaker 3: I think it looks like Aromatic or something.

1091
00:56:35,200 --> 00:56:40,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, this is the la Aromatic, which is my favorite

1092
00:56:40,880 --> 00:56:42,080
Speaker 4: backwood Actually this one.

1093
00:56:42,320 --> 00:56:44,360
Speaker 2: You know, I think that we need to spend more time.

1094
00:56:44,680 --> 00:56:46,840
Speaker 2: Do we need to have like a cigar bar meetup?

1095
00:56:47,520 --> 00:56:50,640
Speaker 2: I feel like that'd be sexy. Also, if anybody's listening

1096
00:56:50,640 --> 00:56:53,720
Speaker 2: in their single, the cigar bars is where those older,

1097
00:56:54,040 --> 00:56:57,600
Speaker 2: more distinguished sugar daddies are at the One time I

1098
00:56:57,640 --> 00:57:01,160
Speaker 2: went to a cigar bar with Ashley a La, the

1099
00:57:01,200 --> 00:57:02,440
Speaker 2: old niggas were on me.

1100
00:57:02,719 --> 00:57:04,799
Speaker 3: I mean, that's just my m O. In general, older

1101
00:57:04,880 --> 00:57:05,520
Speaker 3: niggas love me.

1102
00:57:05,600 --> 00:57:08,920
Speaker 2: But ladies, this cigar bar is where it's at if

1103
00:57:08,960 --> 00:57:11,800
Speaker 2: you like a little salt and pepper, silver fox and

1104
00:57:11,840 --> 00:57:14,440
Speaker 2: they usually have jobs. Hm hm.

1105
00:57:18,720 --> 00:57:25,400
Speaker 4: Anyway, now that I've smoked, I've cried, I've smoke, I'm smoking.

1106
00:57:26,520 --> 00:57:27,800
Speaker 4: What a day you.

1107
00:57:27,840 --> 00:57:30,840
Speaker 2: Came at my? My helmet hair from two thousand and

1108
00:57:31,120 --> 00:57:33,120
Speaker 2: fucking fifteen? What else?

1109
00:57:33,200 --> 00:57:36,200
Speaker 3: What else is on the agenda?

1110
00:57:37,720 --> 00:57:44,440
Speaker 4: I was on the internet perusing through the podcasting scoope

1111
00:57:44,840 --> 00:57:48,520
Speaker 4: and I happened to fall upon this clip. It's with

1112
00:57:48,600 --> 00:57:52,880
Speaker 4: the podcast with Paul Pierce and Azar. Shout out to Azar,

1113
00:57:53,000 --> 00:57:58,720
Speaker 4: she's been at good Good Media before. Why is this

1114
00:57:58,800 --> 00:58:04,040
Speaker 4: not staying? Let I actually know it's our sister, and

1115
00:58:05,360 --> 00:58:09,200
Speaker 4: they're so different. Actually they're not that different. They're kind

1116
00:58:09,200 --> 00:58:10,520
Speaker 4: of the same. They just they look different.

1117
00:58:15,760 --> 00:58:18,480
Speaker 3: But the clip, I fucking hate Paul Pierce.

1118
00:58:20,640 --> 00:58:22,440
Speaker 2: I don't hate him because I don't know him personally,

1119
00:58:22,600 --> 00:58:25,160
Speaker 2: but the five clips that I've seen and his opinions

1120
00:58:26,480 --> 00:58:30,160
Speaker 2: are never hitting.

1121
00:58:30,240 --> 00:58:32,640
Speaker 4: So let's just play the clip. Let's play the clip

1122
00:58:33,560 --> 00:58:36,200
Speaker 4: so people can know what we're talking about.

1123
00:58:36,960 --> 00:58:39,080
Speaker 3: Did you want I'm about to revisit it right the

1124
00:58:39,120 --> 00:58:39,560
Speaker 3: funck now?

1125
00:58:40,000 --> 00:58:41,280
Speaker 4: Yeah? Go ahead and rewatch it?

1126
00:58:49,040 --> 00:58:49,840
Speaker 2: Wait? Where did it go?

1127
00:58:50,680 --> 00:58:55,080
Speaker 3: Instagram?

1128
00:58:55,320 --> 00:58:56,080
Speaker 2: A right here it is.

1129
00:59:00,920 --> 00:59:05,080
Speaker 6: Are you men who stand up? Men who go out

1130
00:59:05,120 --> 00:59:08,880
Speaker 6: there and put your elbow into making a woman make

1131
00:59:08,920 --> 00:59:13,920
Speaker 6: sure she's straight and hard working and respectable, chest up,

1132
00:59:14,000 --> 00:59:19,520
Speaker 6: checking out men? And you really on the grind and

1133
00:59:19,560 --> 00:59:26,920
Speaker 6: you really got ambition. M leave these little pretty girls alone, bro,

1134
00:59:27,600 --> 00:59:30,000
Speaker 6: they don't put their elbow in there. I'm gonna keep

1135
00:59:30,000 --> 00:59:33,280
Speaker 6: it one hundred over there looking at Oh she bad,

1136
00:59:33,440 --> 00:59:36,400
Speaker 6: Oh look at her Instagram? Oh she an shell. I'll

1137
00:59:36,440 --> 00:59:38,880
Speaker 6: get you a five or six. Who's gonna put some

1138
00:59:39,000 --> 00:59:42,520
Speaker 6: elbow into it? Ain't gonna be down for you on

1139
00:59:42,640 --> 00:59:43,400
Speaker 6: some one hundred.

1140
00:59:43,920 --> 00:59:44,520
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.

1141
00:59:44,560 --> 00:59:46,200
Speaker 6: They gonna look at you like, why are you with her?

1142
00:59:46,240 --> 00:59:48,600
Speaker 6: Don't worry about while with her, because she's gonna do

1143
00:59:48,680 --> 00:59:55,160
Speaker 6: everything you ain't doing. Fellas like, man, forget all that

1144
00:59:55,280 --> 00:59:57,000
Speaker 6: how you around her?

1145
00:59:57,080 --> 00:59:57,200
Speaker 2: Now?

1146
00:59:57,280 --> 00:59:57,600
Speaker 5: She ain't.

1147
00:59:57,680 --> 00:59:59,640
Speaker 3: She ain't got no substance to her now, she got

1148
00:59:59,680 --> 01:00:00,960
Speaker 3: no s sence because she's pretty.

1149
01:00:06,400 --> 01:00:10,920
Speaker 2: So basically, he's alluding to the fact that pretty girls

1150
01:00:11,000 --> 01:00:13,120
Speaker 2: don't think they have to work hard in a relationship.

1151
01:00:13,400 --> 01:00:14,680
Speaker 4: What pretty goala hurt you, Paul?

1152
01:00:15,440 --> 01:00:20,640
Speaker 2: What that's my next Google Paul Pierce's ex wife, because

1153
01:00:20,680 --> 01:00:22,560
Speaker 2: I'm sure she's a baddie and she probably took a

1154
01:00:22,560 --> 01:00:25,760
Speaker 2: lot of his money, as she should have. You know,

1155
01:00:27,880 --> 01:00:31,080
Speaker 2: first of all, this is disrespectful to all women.

1156
01:00:31,680 --> 01:00:38,120
Speaker 4: And I think when he's re Landrum. They divorced in

1157
01:00:38,200 --> 01:00:40,880
Speaker 4: twenty twenty three. This may only been single four seconds.

1158
01:00:42,880 --> 01:00:44,800
Speaker 4: Julie is cute, Of course she is. That's why he

1159
01:00:44,840 --> 01:00:50,200
Speaker 4: feels that way now, Julie, Julie looked like she was

1160
01:00:50,280 --> 01:00:52,560
Speaker 4: She wasn't even outside like that. Okay, she was probably

1161
01:00:52,720 --> 01:00:55,080
Speaker 4: probably a lawyer or some shit. Look at Julie.

1162
01:00:58,480 --> 01:01:01,040
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, she is cute. He looks too smart to

1163
01:01:01,160 --> 01:01:04,640
Speaker 2: be with the fuckery, is what the problem is. They

1164
01:01:04,680 --> 01:01:07,120
Speaker 2: don't want smart bitches. They don't want bitches who have

1165
01:01:07,200 --> 01:01:09,080
Speaker 2: a clue, because as soon as I have a clue,

1166
01:01:09,120 --> 01:01:11,040
Speaker 2: I'm gonna know you're on some bullshit and you're gonna

1167
01:01:11,080 --> 01:01:13,440
Speaker 2: have to be accountable, and that would just be too

1168
01:01:14,040 --> 01:01:15,080
Speaker 2: motherfucking hard.

1169
01:01:15,600 --> 01:01:17,520
Speaker 3: And I think that's really what he's saying.

1170
01:01:17,760 --> 01:01:22,960
Speaker 4: And you know, I honestly he's been married for thirteen years.

1171
01:01:23,040 --> 01:01:25,400
Speaker 4: This man got divorced in twenty twenty three. Granted I

1172
01:01:25,440 --> 01:01:27,200
Speaker 4: don't know when they broke up. Maybe they broke up

1173
01:01:27,240 --> 01:01:30,360
Speaker 4: in two that the twenty twenties. I don't know, but

1174
01:01:31,680 --> 01:01:35,040
Speaker 4: obviously you probably want on your whole face. Okay, let's

1175
01:01:35,080 --> 01:01:37,800
Speaker 4: just be honest, Paul. You broke up with Julie Gott

1176
01:01:37,840 --> 01:01:38,800
Speaker 4: with Forrest.

1177
01:01:39,200 --> 01:01:41,400
Speaker 2: What on another clip? I just when you said that

1178
01:01:41,440 --> 01:01:44,480
Speaker 2: just reminded me. On another clip that I saw, this

1179
01:01:44,600 --> 01:01:46,440
Speaker 2: is the one that pissed me off. He said that

1180
01:01:46,680 --> 01:01:50,800
Speaker 2: his homeboy said that his side bitch is the one

1181
01:01:50,840 --> 01:01:53,080
Speaker 2: who told him to say with his wife. He said,

1182
01:01:53,080 --> 01:01:54,680
Speaker 2: his side bitch is the one who kept him married

1183
01:01:55,040 --> 01:01:58,360
Speaker 2: for ten years because the side bitch was rooting for

1184
01:01:58,600 --> 01:02:01,480
Speaker 2: the wife. And I'm so basically that it's good to

1185
01:02:01,560 --> 01:02:02,960
Speaker 2: have a side bitch because he comes home.

1186
01:02:03,480 --> 01:02:06,200
Speaker 4: Don't how about fellas, don't take any advice from this man.

1187
01:02:06,720 --> 01:02:09,120
Speaker 4: That should tell you enough. Okay, Like, what are you

1188
01:02:09,160 --> 01:02:12,280
Speaker 4: talking about? First of all, you got divorced, probably started

1189
01:02:12,360 --> 01:02:16,280
Speaker 4: dating a bunch of girls that probably aren't very smart,

1190
01:02:16,560 --> 01:02:18,880
Speaker 4: because by design, I think a lot of men prefer

1191
01:02:19,000 --> 01:02:21,080
Speaker 4: men women that are not very smart because then they

1192
01:02:21,120 --> 01:02:22,960
Speaker 4: can control them and they just get what they want.

1193
01:02:23,400 --> 01:02:25,560
Speaker 4: So you're it's like, it's like what men always say

1194
01:02:25,720 --> 01:02:28,800
Speaker 4: to women, like it's who you chose, You chose them,

1195
01:02:29,240 --> 01:02:31,160
Speaker 4: You chose them, nigga, you chose her.

1196
01:02:32,560 --> 01:02:33,200
Speaker 3: Do you know what I mean?

1197
01:02:33,280 --> 01:02:35,880
Speaker 2: Because there's niggas love to tell us we chose our

1198
01:02:35,920 --> 01:02:39,520
Speaker 2: baby daddy, we chose them, and then but you chose,

1199
01:02:39,600 --> 01:02:41,120
Speaker 2: you choose women and then cheat on him.

1200
01:02:41,240 --> 01:02:43,920
Speaker 4: So what in the man is that just like a

1201
01:02:44,040 --> 01:02:46,200
Speaker 4: five nigga will break your heart, A five bitch will

1202
01:02:46,240 --> 01:02:48,200
Speaker 4: still break your heart. Nigga, I can't wait for you

1203
01:02:48,320 --> 01:02:50,520
Speaker 4: to find out. Go ahead, go get you a five

1204
01:02:50,640 --> 01:02:51,080
Speaker 4: or six?

1205
01:02:51,920 --> 01:02:54,560
Speaker 2: Go ahead, baby, He's but he's basically saying that, in

1206
01:02:54,720 --> 01:02:59,560
Speaker 2: his opinion, whoever he thinks which beauty is relative, whoever

1207
01:02:59,640 --> 01:03:01,280
Speaker 2: he thinks is a five or six, is going to

1208
01:03:01,360 --> 01:03:04,200
Speaker 2: be so happy to have his ass that they are

1209
01:03:04,240 --> 01:03:07,640
Speaker 2: going to just polish shoes, cook dinner, white ass. I

1210
01:03:07,640 --> 01:03:09,520
Speaker 2: don't know what, you know, what I really want to know.

1211
01:03:09,640 --> 01:03:12,000
Speaker 2: This is like a this is a public question. I

1212
01:03:12,120 --> 01:03:15,360
Speaker 2: want to know in today's society, what is it that

1213
01:03:16,080 --> 01:03:21,360
Speaker 2: men like outside of submitting, because that's a very general thing.

1214
01:03:21,840 --> 01:03:24,200
Speaker 2: What do men think that women like? What is he

1215
01:03:24,320 --> 01:03:25,880
Speaker 2: what does he want us to put elbow like? How

1216
01:03:25,920 --> 01:03:27,880
Speaker 2: do we put elbow grease like? What does that mean

1217
01:03:27,960 --> 01:03:28,240
Speaker 2: to him?

1218
01:03:28,880 --> 01:03:28,920
Speaker 4: Like?

1219
01:03:29,040 --> 01:03:32,040
Speaker 2: Suck extra dick, like full all the clothes, Like is

1220
01:03:32,080 --> 01:03:33,160
Speaker 2: it the domestic role?

1221
01:03:33,480 --> 01:03:34,600
Speaker 3: Like not going out?

1222
01:03:34,800 --> 01:03:36,800
Speaker 4: It sounds like hard labor.

1223
01:03:37,240 --> 01:03:38,600
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like so that's what I want to know, Like

1224
01:03:38,640 --> 01:03:40,920
Speaker 2: do they expect us to like is it like is

1225
01:03:41,000 --> 01:03:43,600
Speaker 2: it like the domestic thing? They don't think like these

1226
01:03:43,680 --> 01:03:46,760
Speaker 2: new modern numbers domestic. We don't cook, win unclean, we're

1227
01:03:46,800 --> 01:03:48,240
Speaker 2: not taking care of the children. We just want to

1228
01:03:48,240 --> 01:03:50,560
Speaker 2: be in the streets. Like I'm really wondering what this

1229
01:03:50,760 --> 01:03:54,240
Speaker 2: means because there's so many like gender wars. I'm really

1230
01:03:54,400 --> 01:03:56,960
Speaker 2: so fucking sick of hearing about the shit Like we

1231
01:03:57,080 --> 01:03:59,000
Speaker 2: need each other, we love each other, we'd be fucking

1232
01:03:59,080 --> 01:04:01,360
Speaker 2: on each other. Remind us I see, Like I feel

1233
01:04:01,360 --> 01:04:04,080
Speaker 2: like men like this are men who have this mentality

1234
01:04:05,920 --> 01:04:07,200
Speaker 2: we're gonna get replaced with AI.

1235
01:04:08,440 --> 01:04:11,960
Speaker 4: But also like we're putting our value on how you, Paul,

1236
01:04:12,040 --> 01:04:15,440
Speaker 4: are all still putting value on like how a woman looks?

1237
01:04:15,480 --> 01:04:17,440
Speaker 4: Do you know what I mean? Like there's no like

1238
01:04:17,520 --> 01:04:19,120
Speaker 4: what is a five or six? A five or six

1239
01:04:19,200 --> 01:04:21,920
Speaker 4: and looks a five or six in her career? A

1240
01:04:22,040 --> 01:04:24,600
Speaker 4: five or six? What what scope of five or six?

1241
01:04:24,640 --> 01:04:26,920
Speaker 4: We're just talking about pretty bitches. I guess he did

1242
01:04:27,000 --> 01:04:30,280
Speaker 4: say pretty bitches. So we think that if we get

1243
01:04:30,320 --> 01:04:33,800
Speaker 4: a less attractive person, she's going to be smarter because

1244
01:04:33,920 --> 01:04:36,120
Speaker 4: pretty people are not intelligent.

1245
01:04:36,320 --> 01:04:37,240
Speaker 3: No, not smarter.

1246
01:04:37,880 --> 01:04:41,120
Speaker 2: She said they're gonna put elbow grease. He didn't say, Hey,

1247
01:04:41,160 --> 01:04:43,840
Speaker 2: they don't want smart women. That is the problem. Men

1248
01:04:43,920 --> 01:04:46,320
Speaker 2: don't want partners. If you pick a partner, when you

1249
01:04:46,360 --> 01:04:48,280
Speaker 2: pick a business partner, you want someone let's smart.

1250
01:04:48,360 --> 01:04:50,400
Speaker 4: Let's not let's not generalize men. We just said, we

1251
01:04:50,440 --> 01:04:51,320
Speaker 4: said we're not going to drive.

1252
01:04:51,400 --> 01:04:55,280
Speaker 3: I said, men with this, men with this mentality, this mentality. Yeah, yeah, sure,

1253
01:04:55,640 --> 01:04:56,120
Speaker 3: Men with this.

1254
01:04:56,240 --> 01:05:01,400
Speaker 2: Mentality prefer women who or not thinking because then they

1255
01:05:01,400 --> 01:05:03,280
Speaker 2: can get away with doing over the fuck. They want

1256
01:05:03,600 --> 01:05:06,760
Speaker 2: men who with this mentality that are in or on

1257
01:05:07,200 --> 01:05:12,200
Speaker 2: the social media fucking going hard about the submission. And

1258
01:05:12,640 --> 01:05:15,240
Speaker 2: even that one very cringey clip about that guy on

1259
01:05:15,360 --> 01:05:18,560
Speaker 2: that God podcast saying he prefers to date younger women

1260
01:05:19,080 --> 01:05:22,520
Speaker 2: because older women don't listen, baby, you want someone with

1261
01:05:22,640 --> 01:05:24,440
Speaker 2: less experience that you can get over on.

1262
01:05:25,080 --> 01:05:27,760
Speaker 3: And to me, that is questionable, like why would one

1263
01:05:28,160 --> 01:05:28,840
Speaker 3: pick a partner.

1264
01:05:28,960 --> 01:05:31,360
Speaker 2: It's like if we're playing fucking volleyball and I get

1265
01:05:31,400 --> 01:05:34,640
Speaker 2: to pick my team and I pick the fucking dumbest ones.

1266
01:05:34,760 --> 01:05:37,000
Speaker 2: Or if I'm in the science bawl and I'm gonna

1267
01:05:37,000 --> 01:05:39,720
Speaker 2: pick my team for the fucking end of the year project,

1268
01:05:39,880 --> 01:05:41,880
Speaker 2: I'm gonna pick the dumb like the people who don't study,

1269
01:05:41,920 --> 01:05:43,000
Speaker 2: who don't show up to class.

1270
01:05:43,760 --> 01:05:46,480
Speaker 3: That doesn't make any sense. If you want to build a.

1271
01:05:46,520 --> 01:05:49,800
Speaker 2: Strong family aka team, you're gonna pick the strongest players,

1272
01:05:50,000 --> 01:05:52,560
Speaker 2: the smartest players, with the most strategy, with the most

1273
01:05:52,800 --> 01:05:54,439
Speaker 2: power forward. I don't know if you're trying to speak

1274
01:05:54,440 --> 01:05:55,840
Speaker 2: in your language. I don't really know this language, but

1275
01:05:55,880 --> 01:05:58,720
Speaker 2: I'm trying here. You're gonna pick the d one picks

1276
01:05:58,760 --> 01:06:03,160
Speaker 2: at the top schools, right the best athletic abilities. If

1277
01:06:03,200 --> 01:06:05,400
Speaker 2: you're gonna go to the checker fucking tournament, you're gonna

1278
01:06:05,400 --> 01:06:07,600
Speaker 2: pick the best strategy, the best checker players.

1279
01:06:07,880 --> 01:06:10,800
Speaker 3: Why in the fuck do men go on these podcasts

1280
01:06:10,960 --> 01:06:11,360
Speaker 3: a lot of.

1281
01:06:11,360 --> 01:06:14,960
Speaker 2: Men, not all of them, and then rally behind wanting

1282
01:06:15,040 --> 01:06:20,040
Speaker 2: women that are just submissive or are basically not smart.

1283
01:06:20,080 --> 01:06:21,920
Speaker 2: You're asking for women to not have an opinion and

1284
01:06:22,000 --> 01:06:24,320
Speaker 2: to not say shit and to follow you blindly because

1285
01:06:24,320 --> 01:06:27,240
Speaker 2: you don't value our input, and so you would prefer

1286
01:06:27,960 --> 01:06:30,920
Speaker 2: to be with women who don't ask any questions. But

1287
01:06:31,040 --> 01:06:33,440
Speaker 2: if nobody's asking questions, you don't want someone to question you.

1288
01:06:33,760 --> 01:06:36,920
Speaker 2: And like you don't want a strong family, you want

1289
01:06:36,960 --> 01:06:41,000
Speaker 2: a weak ass bitch because you don't want to be questioned.

1290
01:06:41,040 --> 01:06:45,600
Speaker 2: And any good democracy, any strong kingdom, is going to

1291
01:06:45,720 --> 01:06:53,040
Speaker 2: have a board to collectively discuss the issues at hand,

1292
01:06:53,160 --> 01:06:57,480
Speaker 2: because every king, every kingdom needs what is the right

1293
01:06:57,520 --> 01:07:01,360
Speaker 2: hand man in fucking King of Thrones? No, no, the squad,

1294
01:07:02,640 --> 01:07:07,600
Speaker 2: the nigga, you know, the right or the queen or

1295
01:07:07,680 --> 01:07:11,000
Speaker 2: the council. This is just a relative thing to say, Hey,

1296
01:07:11,520 --> 01:07:13,480
Speaker 2: I am the king and I am the queen, but

1297
01:07:13,640 --> 01:07:16,040
Speaker 2: I might I need input from the smartest motherfucker's up

1298
01:07:16,040 --> 01:07:17,320
Speaker 2: in this village? What's up?

1299
01:07:17,440 --> 01:07:19,000
Speaker 3: So I'm gonna pick the smartest partner.

1300
01:07:19,400 --> 01:07:23,760
Speaker 2: If men don't want strong if you want to a

1301
01:07:23,840 --> 01:07:26,880
Speaker 2: strong family, a strong lineage with the best players, you're

1302
01:07:26,880 --> 01:07:29,160
Speaker 2: going to pick the best leads. And if you keep

1303
01:07:29,240 --> 01:07:32,680
Speaker 2: saying publicly, I'm going to assume you want you you

1304
01:07:32,800 --> 01:07:36,360
Speaker 2: want a weak ass family. Doesn't make any sense.

1305
01:07:37,160 --> 01:07:39,400
Speaker 4: It's just like I think there's a level. I think

1306
01:07:39,880 --> 01:07:43,280
Speaker 4: most men say they believe that they're kings, but most

1307
01:07:43,360 --> 01:07:46,000
Speaker 4: men don't even know what they would define a king.

1308
01:07:46,080 --> 01:07:46,240
Speaker 1: To be.

1309
01:07:47,000 --> 01:07:50,400
Speaker 4: So it's just something that people embody through the alpha male,

1310
01:07:51,080 --> 01:07:53,480
Speaker 4: or they think they're embodying through this title of being

1311
01:07:53,480 --> 01:07:55,440
Speaker 4: an alpha male, which is a lot of which is

1312
01:07:55,480 --> 01:07:59,880
Speaker 4: an associated so much a topic whatever fucking words around

1313
01:08:00,520 --> 01:08:03,760
Speaker 4: that we've made up. You know, it's just do you

1314
01:08:04,000 --> 01:08:06,080
Speaker 4: want the Kingdom?

1315
01:08:06,160 --> 01:08:06,720
Speaker 3: Do you even know?

1316
01:08:07,160 --> 01:08:09,040
Speaker 4: Do you even believe that you come from the kingdom?

1317
01:08:09,120 --> 01:08:13,440
Speaker 4: Do you even believe? Do you understand? Like no, the

1318
01:08:13,880 --> 01:08:14,400
Speaker 4: answer is no.

1319
01:08:16,200 --> 01:08:20,000
Speaker 2: And it's it's true because when you talk about leading,

1320
01:08:20,080 --> 01:08:23,040
Speaker 2: and you talk about submission and you talk about these things,

1321
01:08:23,120 --> 01:08:25,320
Speaker 2: they like, what is your plan for your family?

1322
01:08:25,800 --> 01:08:26,840
Speaker 3: What is it that you want?

1323
01:08:27,160 --> 01:08:27,920
Speaker 2: Because I know.

1324
01:08:28,000 --> 01:08:30,400
Speaker 4: Because they're rarely worried about what we bring to the table,

1325
01:08:30,760 --> 01:08:34,360
Speaker 4: very much worried about what's happening over here in our kitchen.

1326
01:08:35,080 --> 01:08:39,519
Speaker 2: Meanwhile, meanwhile, their version of kingdom is dropping a bunch

1327
01:08:39,560 --> 01:08:42,559
Speaker 2: of sperm off into different bitches without having to commit

1328
01:08:42,640 --> 01:08:45,160
Speaker 2: to any of them and setting that example for their

1329
01:08:45,400 --> 01:08:48,080
Speaker 2: the princes and the princesses of the kingdom.

1330
01:08:48,200 --> 01:08:49,559
Speaker 3: So what does that say?

1331
01:08:50,360 --> 01:08:52,519
Speaker 2: And like, this brings me to our other clip that

1332
01:08:52,640 --> 01:08:55,479
Speaker 2: I saw this week on the fucking internet, which was

1333
01:08:56,520 --> 01:08:58,519
Speaker 2: I thought it was interesting because we it was on

1334
01:08:58,800 --> 01:09:03,639
Speaker 2: Breakfast Club and they ask Sierra how does she feel

1335
01:09:03,680 --> 01:09:10,120
Speaker 2: about people on social media calling Russell Wilson a simp

1336
01:09:10,400 --> 01:09:14,600
Speaker 2: or a lame or corny, and she was like, I

1337
01:09:14,680 --> 01:09:15,160
Speaker 2: don't think.

1338
01:09:15,080 --> 01:09:18,479
Speaker 3: Should have it because who's saying it, and it's true.

1339
01:09:18,520 --> 01:09:21,800
Speaker 2: I don't think people realize what a loser you have

1340
01:09:22,000 --> 01:09:24,800
Speaker 2: to be to criticize a man taking care of.

1341
01:09:24,880 --> 01:09:29,639
Speaker 3: His family and being a great dad, He's a simp.

1342
01:09:30,439 --> 01:09:33,839
Speaker 2: You don't want another niggas showing other niggas the example

1343
01:09:33,960 --> 01:09:37,960
Speaker 2: of what a good father and husband look like, because

1344
01:09:38,000 --> 01:09:40,040
Speaker 2: you want the bar to be in hell still because

1345
01:09:40,080 --> 01:09:40,960
Speaker 2: that's where you thrive.

1346
01:09:41,479 --> 01:09:44,040
Speaker 3: And so you don't even know what the fuck.

1347
01:09:43,880 --> 01:09:45,920
Speaker 2: It means to lead and to be a king and

1348
01:09:46,000 --> 01:09:48,880
Speaker 2: to have a lineage that is strong because you're over

1349
01:09:48,920 --> 01:09:50,560
Speaker 2: here criticizing the man that's doing it.

1350
01:09:51,880 --> 01:09:55,120
Speaker 4: No, No, I loved her answer. I loved her answer.

1351
01:09:55,439 --> 01:09:59,400
Speaker 4: She's I love Sierra. I'm like, I've always liked Sierra,

1352
01:09:59,479 --> 01:10:01,200
Speaker 4: but I think I'm a a season of loving Sierra.

1353
01:10:01,320 --> 01:10:04,680
Speaker 4: I just think that she has like she's been. She's like,

1354
01:10:04,840 --> 01:10:08,120
Speaker 4: first of all, she is stuck around. Okay, should you

1355
01:10:08,160 --> 01:10:10,599
Speaker 4: say what you want about Sierra? That bitch got hits okay,

1356
01:10:11,320 --> 01:10:14,360
Speaker 4: and she just leads with so much integrity.

1357
01:10:14,960 --> 01:10:17,280
Speaker 2: Yeah, she's always you know what she does the Michelle

1358
01:10:17,280 --> 01:10:20,479
Speaker 2: Obama thing. She doesn't go low, she goes hi. She's

1359
01:10:20,560 --> 01:10:21,160
Speaker 2: just class.

1360
01:10:21,560 --> 01:10:25,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, and it feels very genuine, you know. And it's like,

1361
01:10:25,520 --> 01:10:27,479
Speaker 4: I think that's why she's had the career that she's had,

1362
01:10:27,800 --> 01:10:29,640
Speaker 4: Like whether or not she's had the hit or not

1363
01:10:29,960 --> 01:10:31,800
Speaker 4: or didn't have to hit, like, she's always been able

1364
01:10:31,880 --> 01:10:35,600
Speaker 4: to be invited, you know, she's always been there, and

1365
01:10:36,800 --> 01:10:40,400
Speaker 4: I think it's been so vulnerable about her journey. You know,

1366
01:10:40,560 --> 01:10:44,640
Speaker 4: she's made bad mistake Sierra and fucking Future well, I

1367
01:10:44,680 --> 01:10:47,160
Speaker 4: can't even I don't like that that who is that Sierra?

1368
01:10:47,320 --> 01:10:48,880
Speaker 4: But you know, like that's the other side of her.

1369
01:10:49,320 --> 01:10:51,599
Speaker 2: But but she's from Atlanta, you know, she's from Atlanta.

1370
01:10:51,680 --> 01:10:53,800
Speaker 2: But I think that's also important to look at. Like

1371
01:10:54,200 --> 01:10:59,000
Speaker 2: we niggas praise Future fucking Nevade Nevedas or whatever the fuck.

1372
01:10:58,920 --> 01:10:59,360
Speaker 3: His name is.

1373
01:10:59,439 --> 01:11:03,920
Speaker 2: They love the Tavious. They follow him blindly, everything sip

1374
01:11:04,000 --> 01:11:07,880
Speaker 2: the syrup drop off. He has like nine kids by

1375
01:11:07,960 --> 01:11:10,320
Speaker 2: nine different women, And like, I'm not Jesus, I'm not

1376
01:11:10,400 --> 01:11:14,320
Speaker 2: here to judge. But the point is, you fucking rally

1377
01:11:14,439 --> 01:11:19,560
Speaker 2: behind that shit, sipping syrup, nodding off and having a

1378
01:11:19,600 --> 01:11:21,720
Speaker 2: bunch of kids by different women. But then you see

1379
01:11:21,760 --> 01:11:24,519
Speaker 2: a man who comes and takes care of his children,

1380
01:11:24,640 --> 01:11:27,200
Speaker 2: is president in their children's lives, takes care of his wife,

1381
01:11:27,360 --> 01:11:29,280
Speaker 2: and is taking care of the child of somebody else,

1382
01:11:30,160 --> 01:11:33,000
Speaker 2: And that's who you criticize. That is something we have

1383
01:11:33,120 --> 01:11:36,599
Speaker 2: to collectively look at at as a society because that's wild.

1384
01:11:37,880 --> 01:11:40,439
Speaker 2: Obviously the men have gotten not all men, but a

1385
01:11:40,479 --> 01:11:42,000
Speaker 2: lot of the men, and unfortunately a lot of the

1386
01:11:42,080 --> 01:11:44,840
Speaker 2: young men have gotten this. This ps that got this

1387
01:11:45,200 --> 01:11:50,320
Speaker 2: memo that hating women and like leading a strong household

1388
01:11:50,560 --> 01:11:52,200
Speaker 2: is in some ways negative, and.

1389
01:11:52,280 --> 01:11:53,479
Speaker 3: That's wild as hell.

1390
01:11:55,000 --> 01:11:55,639
Speaker 4: It's corny.

1391
01:11:56,400 --> 01:11:59,360
Speaker 3: That's fucking corny crazy. It's so corny.

1392
01:12:00,160 --> 01:12:02,920
Speaker 2: And also it's like when I think about the gender

1393
01:12:03,000 --> 01:12:05,960
Speaker 2: wars and all these things, you know, like Orlando's very

1394
01:12:06,520 --> 01:12:09,920
Speaker 2: proud to be a husband, Like He's like, I've always

1395
01:12:09,920 --> 01:12:11,519
Speaker 2: wanted to be a husband. This is really important to me.

1396
01:12:11,560 --> 01:12:13,920
Speaker 2: He's like, I really my goal is to like have

1397
01:12:14,240 --> 01:12:16,479
Speaker 2: like watch my grandkids play. I don't think I've never

1398
01:12:16,560 --> 01:12:18,960
Speaker 2: heard a nigga ever say no shit like that, Like

1399
01:12:19,080 --> 01:12:20,760
Speaker 2: I didn't even think about that, you know what I mean?

1400
01:12:21,240 --> 01:12:23,560
Speaker 2: And I think because we don't see a lot of

1401
01:12:23,680 --> 01:12:27,040
Speaker 2: examples of men saying those type of things publicly, like

1402
01:12:27,200 --> 01:12:30,400
Speaker 2: I've really like Orlando is a whore from whore Island.

1403
01:12:30,479 --> 01:12:33,120
Speaker 3: Of course he's been, you know, in the streets, but

1404
01:12:33,479 --> 01:12:34,559
Speaker 3: he's also been very.

1405
01:12:34,479 --> 01:12:36,400
Speaker 2: Clear about wanting to be a husband and wanting to

1406
01:12:36,479 --> 01:12:38,760
Speaker 2: be a father, and like when he came into our

1407
01:12:38,880 --> 01:12:42,360
Speaker 2: lives in a very uncomfortable way, he was like, I'm

1408
01:12:42,680 --> 01:12:45,800
Speaker 2: i'm my daughter, Like I'm taking this role on very

1409
01:12:45,880 --> 01:12:48,720
Speaker 2: seriously as a stepfather and as like I know that

1410
01:12:48,800 --> 01:12:50,000
Speaker 2: we're growing into something.

1411
01:12:50,520 --> 01:12:52,639
Speaker 3: And that made me be like, oh shit.

1412
01:12:53,120 --> 01:12:54,800
Speaker 2: First of all, I was like this nigga's a little crazy,

1413
01:12:55,120 --> 01:12:56,920
Speaker 2: and also maybe be like, okay, what does that mean

1414
01:12:57,000 --> 01:12:59,800
Speaker 2: to me? But so often we don't hear men have

1415
01:13:00,160 --> 01:13:03,160
Speaker 2: pride in these roles that it doesn't trigger us to

1416
01:13:03,240 --> 01:13:04,880
Speaker 2: have to think about what it means to be a wife.

1417
01:13:05,240 --> 01:13:06,679
Speaker 2: And I'm just saying that, And this is as someone

1418
01:13:06,720 --> 01:13:08,599
Speaker 2: who I did want to be married. I did as

1419
01:13:08,600 --> 01:13:10,200
Speaker 2: a little girl, I wanted to be married, and I'd

1420
01:13:10,240 --> 01:13:14,120
Speaker 2: like I had this idea, but I very rarely heard

1421
01:13:14,280 --> 01:13:17,599
Speaker 2: men say that, and so it's taken me until I'm

1422
01:13:17,640 --> 01:13:22,080
Speaker 2: actually like coming into this place to be like, shit, what.

1423
01:13:22,200 --> 01:13:23,439
Speaker 3: Does it mean to be a good wife?

1424
01:13:23,960 --> 01:13:27,160
Speaker 2: Like like how do I pour back into this person

1425
01:13:27,360 --> 01:13:31,679
Speaker 2: that values me and values my our relationships so much

1426
01:13:31,800 --> 01:13:33,840
Speaker 2: and that I mirror it? And to be honest, it's

1427
01:13:33,920 --> 01:13:37,040
Speaker 2: kind of like intimidating sometimes because I'm like, fuck, I

1428
01:13:37,040 --> 01:13:38,760
Speaker 2: didn't study, I didn't read the book because I was

1429
01:13:38,800 --> 01:13:42,519
Speaker 2: so I was banking on niggas nigging because that's what

1430
01:13:42,560 --> 01:13:45,200
Speaker 2: I've seen, even the example of the man in my

1431
01:13:45,280 --> 01:13:47,439
Speaker 2: own household who I love and adored and has always

1432
01:13:47,479 --> 01:13:49,840
Speaker 2: been a present father. My dad's always been in my life,

1433
01:13:49,920 --> 01:13:51,040
Speaker 2: always lived in my household.

1434
01:13:51,400 --> 01:13:52,120
Speaker 4: But did he do some.

1435
01:13:52,160 --> 01:13:55,599
Speaker 3: Functionhit of course, and did they breed trust issues? Obviously?

1436
01:13:55,760 --> 01:13:58,840
Speaker 2: And my dad is someone who values marriage and being

1437
01:13:58,880 --> 01:14:02,960
Speaker 2: a father, but his actions didn't always look that way.

1438
01:14:03,479 --> 01:14:06,360
Speaker 2: So it didn't like I'm not one of those people

1439
01:14:06,400 --> 01:14:12,360
Speaker 2: who's like when I heard Cam Newton's baby Mama go

1440
01:14:12,680 --> 01:14:16,440
Speaker 2: on Shamboo Drim Show and say how much she like spoils,

1441
01:14:16,520 --> 01:14:19,600
Speaker 2: how spoiled her man is, it made me cringe And

1442
01:14:19,680 --> 01:14:21,479
Speaker 2: then you're like, I don't think so, And I was like, damn,

1443
01:14:21,520 --> 01:14:22,040
Speaker 2: am I a bitch?

1444
01:14:22,040 --> 01:14:23,160
Speaker 3: Why does that make me cringe?

1445
01:14:23,200 --> 01:14:27,120
Speaker 2: And I realize I feel resentment, a lot of resentment

1446
01:14:27,200 --> 01:14:29,280
Speaker 2: towards men because they don't show up in a way

1447
01:14:29,360 --> 01:14:33,120
Speaker 2: that has cared for us, and especially black men to

1448
01:14:33,240 --> 01:14:35,640
Speaker 2: black women. And I'm probably looking at the comments too

1449
01:14:35,720 --> 01:14:38,360
Speaker 2: often and seeing all the losers comment. I have to

1450
01:14:38,400 --> 01:14:42,479
Speaker 2: also know that. But I'm realizing, like hearing men say

1451
01:14:42,600 --> 01:14:46,800
Speaker 2: positive things about marriage, about their women, about their families

1452
01:14:47,720 --> 01:14:52,400
Speaker 2: is really important for the leading for us to assume

1453
01:14:52,479 --> 01:14:55,120
Speaker 2: our position. And I'm realizing that now, like I'm thankful

1454
01:14:55,160 --> 01:14:57,799
Speaker 2: for men like Russell. I'm thankful for men like Orlando,

1455
01:14:57,960 --> 01:15:00,439
Speaker 2: you know, so that I know, like, oh, it's okay

1456
01:15:00,520 --> 01:15:02,559
Speaker 2: to take pride in this role when you're being taken

1457
01:15:02,600 --> 01:15:05,200
Speaker 2: care of and this is what it looks like. And

1458
01:15:05,640 --> 01:15:08,000
Speaker 2: so I just, yeah, shout out to Russell for being

1459
01:15:08,080 --> 01:15:10,840
Speaker 2: the best stepdaddy on the internet and making these nigga

1460
01:15:10,840 --> 01:15:12,800
Speaker 2: step out of their game instead of thinking that taking

1461
01:15:12,840 --> 01:15:14,960
Speaker 2: care of somebody else's kids is lame and whack.

1462
01:15:16,080 --> 01:15:19,120
Speaker 4: Yeah, No, I think that I think he's I think

1463
01:15:20,280 --> 01:15:23,400
Speaker 4: men feel very intimidated by It's like it's like a

1464
01:15:23,439 --> 01:15:26,360
Speaker 4: mirror when you see a man, and Russell's so unbothered too.

1465
01:15:26,520 --> 01:15:30,120
Speaker 4: Like he's he's so unbothered, he's just wearing his sunglasses,

1466
01:15:30,640 --> 01:15:33,760
Speaker 4: you know, with his little fine self. So fine are

1467
01:15:33,880 --> 01:15:38,080
Speaker 4: living their fucking life, and I would I understand why

1468
01:15:38,080 --> 01:15:41,960
Speaker 4: they're mad. They're mad, you know, and you do have

1469
01:15:42,080 --> 01:15:46,000
Speaker 4: to be careful who who the messenger is important. That's

1470
01:15:46,000 --> 01:15:48,280
Speaker 4: why she said, like who said it? Who's saying?

1471
01:15:48,479 --> 01:15:50,160
Speaker 3: What household did they grow up in?

1472
01:15:50,280 --> 01:15:50,640
Speaker 1: What? What?

1473
01:15:50,840 --> 01:15:54,920
Speaker 2: What example of love have they received? And so yeah,

1474
01:15:55,040 --> 01:15:56,840
Speaker 2: like if you haven't had a loving household or a

1475
01:15:56,880 --> 01:15:59,200
Speaker 2: loving father, of course you're going to reject the idea

1476
01:15:59,520 --> 01:16:01,760
Speaker 2: of what that looks like and think it's some corn

1477
01:16:01,800 --> 01:16:04,240
Speaker 2: ball shaite because you're following fat you're following fucking the

1478
01:16:04,320 --> 01:16:06,920
Speaker 2: Tavis and the trap boy on the corner or some

1479
01:16:07,160 --> 01:16:10,040
Speaker 2: rapper nigga that it's also been neglected and it is

1480
01:16:10,080 --> 01:16:11,320
Speaker 2: craving love and is wounded.

1481
01:16:11,760 --> 01:16:15,240
Speaker 3: So it's just wounded wounded leaders and wounded soldiers all

1482
01:16:15,360 --> 01:16:17,320
Speaker 3: fucking following each other. And that's problematic.

1483
01:16:17,960 --> 01:16:21,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, you know what else is problematic? Moving on to

1484
01:16:21,439 --> 01:16:26,120
Speaker 4: our our last topic because we gotta go, But I'm

1485
01:16:26,120 --> 01:16:28,280
Speaker 4: here to say, do I need we need like a

1486
01:16:28,320 --> 01:16:30,439
Speaker 4: donkey of the day on fucking good moments?

1487
01:16:31,560 --> 01:16:34,439
Speaker 3: What we can what would they be called?

1488
01:16:36,120 --> 01:16:41,240
Speaker 2: Oh my god, I don't know, the bad, bad for real?

1489
01:16:42,840 --> 01:16:44,639
Speaker 4: Yeah, this is actually bad.

1490
01:16:50,320 --> 01:16:51,960
Speaker 3: So what will our donkey of the day be called?

1491
01:16:53,400 --> 01:16:54,280
Speaker 4: This is actually bad?

1492
01:16:55,280 --> 01:16:58,400
Speaker 2: Okay, bad for real? Okay, bad for real, bad for real.

1493
01:16:58,479 --> 01:17:00,360
Speaker 2: This is bad for real, no for real? Okay, so

1494
01:17:00,479 --> 01:17:03,080
Speaker 2: this is bad, like for real, for real? This is

1495
01:17:03,240 --> 01:17:03,720
Speaker 2: this is bad.

1496
01:17:03,720 --> 01:17:04,480
Speaker 4: I'm disappointed.

1497
01:17:04,600 --> 01:17:05,080
Speaker 2: I really am.

1498
01:17:05,200 --> 01:17:07,840
Speaker 4: I'm not even gonna front I. You know, I kind

1499
01:17:07,880 --> 01:17:10,160
Speaker 4: of thought there was something going on, something a little

1500
01:17:10,240 --> 01:17:13,439
Speaker 4: off when she married the white man. Okay, I was like,

1501
01:17:13,560 --> 01:17:16,040
Speaker 4: but he seemed joyful and jolly, so I you know,

1502
01:17:16,120 --> 01:17:19,799
Speaker 4: I was like, enrich as fuck. So I said, okay,

1503
01:17:20,320 --> 01:17:23,840
Speaker 4: all right, maybe maybe he's like the cool white nerd

1504
01:17:23,960 --> 01:17:26,720
Speaker 4: from you know that you could hang out with at

1505
01:17:26,760 --> 01:17:32,680
Speaker 4: the party at the keegar that the keegar. Then she

1506
01:17:32,720 --> 01:17:34,720
Speaker 4: started playing with her face and I was like, what

1507
01:17:34,880 --> 01:17:38,000
Speaker 4: are you doing? What's happening? Is there an identity thing

1508
01:17:38,120 --> 01:17:38,400
Speaker 4: going on?

1509
01:17:38,720 --> 01:17:40,240
Speaker 2: Like what are you're beautiful?

1510
01:17:40,520 --> 01:17:43,640
Speaker 4: Or I know this woman also has been highly critiqued,

1511
01:17:43,960 --> 01:17:47,519
Speaker 4: highly critiqued. Okay, she is like at the highest level.

1512
01:17:47,560 --> 01:17:50,840
Speaker 4: And this is because this is actually bad. It's not

1513
01:17:50,880 --> 01:17:53,120
Speaker 4: the donkey the day. I'm just saying this is actually bad.

1514
01:17:53,240 --> 01:17:58,440
Speaker 4: I think that nothing could take away the the incredible

1515
01:17:58,479 --> 01:18:02,120
Speaker 4: accomplishments and who she is to black people period. I

1516
01:18:02,240 --> 01:18:08,679
Speaker 4: just want to say that, including myself. But unfortunately Serena

1517
01:18:08,760 --> 01:18:13,880
Speaker 4: Williams is now a spokesperson for a weight loss drug

1518
01:18:14,040 --> 01:18:16,879
Speaker 4: that you inject into your body that's basically like ozembic.

1519
01:18:16,920 --> 01:18:20,280
Speaker 4: It's called a GLP one or some shit and which

1520
01:18:20,320 --> 01:18:22,360
Speaker 4: sounds like the date rape drug just FYI to me,

1521
01:18:22,760 --> 01:18:25,840
Speaker 4: which is why it probably is like feels even more

1522
01:18:25,880 --> 01:18:28,000
Speaker 4: gross in my mind. And I just feel like this

1523
01:18:28,120 --> 01:18:32,200
Speaker 4: is so irresponsible as just someone with so much influence

1524
01:18:33,160 --> 01:18:36,439
Speaker 4: and who has like rose to the ranks, the highest

1525
01:18:36,560 --> 01:18:38,600
Speaker 4: ranks in athleticism in.

1526
01:18:40,160 --> 01:18:42,360
Speaker 2: Just like she's she's like.

1527
01:18:42,720 --> 01:18:48,280
Speaker 4: A fucking gladiator gladiatress. And I just think that like

1528
01:18:48,800 --> 01:18:50,840
Speaker 4: so many people look up to her, young girls look

1529
01:18:50,920 --> 01:18:53,560
Speaker 4: up to her, like I just she has millions of

1530
01:18:53,600 --> 01:18:57,440
Speaker 4: dollars she can take this medicine and like be monitored

1531
01:18:57,560 --> 01:18:59,479
Speaker 4: and make sure everything's going well. People are gonna start

1532
01:18:59,479 --> 01:19:02,679
Speaker 4: injecting themselves this weight loss thing, which they've already started

1533
01:19:02,680 --> 01:19:04,680
Speaker 4: to be get do in general, but we've never had

1534
01:19:04,680 --> 01:19:07,680
Speaker 4: a black woman come out as a spokesperson for this

1535
01:19:08,040 --> 01:19:10,560
Speaker 4: type of weight loss stuff. We've seen Oprah. You know

1536
01:19:10,640 --> 01:19:12,599
Speaker 4: she did weight watch? Was it weight Watchers? Was Oprah

1537
01:19:12,640 --> 01:19:13,200
Speaker 4: weight Watchers?

1538
01:19:14,120 --> 01:19:14,360
Speaker 3: Yeah?

1539
01:19:15,000 --> 01:19:17,920
Speaker 2: For years I'd say, yeah, I forgot about that. Weight

1540
01:19:17,960 --> 01:19:19,560
Speaker 2: Watchers was just like a diet, but that was just

1541
01:19:19,760 --> 01:19:21,080
Speaker 2: shake yeah. Yeah.

1542
01:19:21,240 --> 01:19:25,320
Speaker 4: But this is like we're putting we're putting things into

1543
01:19:25,400 --> 01:19:27,600
Speaker 4: our body that are not even for us, but for

1544
01:19:27,680 --> 01:19:31,080
Speaker 4: people with like other health conditions. I mean that you

1545
01:19:31,160 --> 01:19:34,000
Speaker 4: can repackage it and change up the ingredients here and there,

1546
01:19:34,080 --> 01:19:37,000
Speaker 4: but let's be honest, like this is for something else.

1547
01:19:37,800 --> 01:19:42,040
Speaker 4: And I'm just disappointed. I'm disappointed in Serena. I'm worried

1548
01:19:42,080 --> 01:19:46,360
Speaker 4: about what this is already doing. And the reason why

1549
01:19:46,360 --> 01:19:48,720
Speaker 4: I'm disappointed too is because then I learned that her

1550
01:19:48,880 --> 01:19:52,600
Speaker 4: husband is on the board of this company that she

1551
01:19:53,960 --> 01:19:57,240
Speaker 4: is advertising for that has made has gotten her to

1552
01:19:57,320 --> 01:19:59,599
Speaker 4: lose all this weight that she said she was struggling

1553
01:19:59,640 --> 01:20:02,280
Speaker 4: to lose with of course, after having a baby and

1554
01:20:02,479 --> 01:20:06,880
Speaker 4: still working out like three times a day, training playing

1555
01:20:06,960 --> 01:20:09,080
Speaker 4: in like the US Open, and still not being able

1556
01:20:09,160 --> 01:20:11,080
Speaker 4: to get to the weight that she wanted.

1557
01:20:11,160 --> 01:20:12,840
Speaker 2: But she was never at that weight.

1558
01:20:12,960 --> 01:20:15,280
Speaker 4: That was not her body. We've never seen her at

1559
01:20:15,320 --> 01:20:18,240
Speaker 4: that weight, even in her prime, in her youngest years,

1560
01:20:18,320 --> 01:20:20,080
Speaker 4: Like she's like thin.

1561
01:20:20,880 --> 01:20:23,080
Speaker 2: Now I have to go look. I saw the advertise,

1562
01:20:23,120 --> 01:20:24,479
Speaker 2: I saw her talking about it. I was a little

1563
01:20:24,479 --> 01:20:25,160
Speaker 2: bit surprised too.

1564
01:20:25,800 --> 01:20:27,479
Speaker 4: I was shocked.

1565
01:20:28,120 --> 01:20:33,639
Speaker 2: I think it's very you could be very, very cautious

1566
01:20:33,760 --> 01:20:38,120
Speaker 2: about endorsing medical anything because we all have different bodies

1567
01:20:38,160 --> 01:20:38,920
Speaker 2: and react differently.

1568
01:20:39,040 --> 01:20:41,360
Speaker 3: And we all know that ozempic is getting hit.

1569
01:20:41,320 --> 01:20:43,800
Speaker 2: With a lot of lawsuits, like a billion dollars both

1570
01:20:43,840 --> 01:20:46,920
Speaker 2: of lawsuits because of side effects. And I also it's

1571
01:20:47,000 --> 01:20:51,479
Speaker 2: again we have to look at society and like how

1572
01:20:52,000 --> 01:20:54,360
Speaker 2: much pressure we put on women, like for the sake

1573
01:20:54,400 --> 01:20:57,200
Speaker 2: of vanity and like not loving ourselves as is. And

1574
01:20:57,320 --> 01:21:00,680
Speaker 2: I know, blah blah blah. I'm ninety eight pounds, you know,

1575
01:21:00,840 --> 01:21:02,960
Speaker 2: but I could. I want to be thicker. But what

1576
01:21:03,240 --> 01:21:06,400
Speaker 2: I'm not gonna go get ass injected in Colombia because

1577
01:21:06,520 --> 01:21:08,560
Speaker 2: this is the body God gave me. I have a

1578
01:21:08,640 --> 01:21:12,760
Speaker 2: big problem with. Recently, we discovered that somebody that used

1579
01:21:12,760 --> 01:21:14,800
Speaker 2: to be our friend, who's always.

1580
01:21:14,600 --> 01:21:18,800
Speaker 3: Meaning yesterday, No, it's been about five months.

1581
01:21:19,680 --> 01:21:20,880
Speaker 4: You knew for five months.

1582
01:21:21,040 --> 01:21:23,000
Speaker 2: No no, no, no, no no no no oh yeah recently, no,

1583
01:21:23,040 --> 01:21:24,200
Speaker 2: I knew it for a couple of weeks. I thought

1584
01:21:24,200 --> 01:21:26,880
Speaker 2: I told you, I thought we stopped being friends. Wait,

1585
01:21:27,000 --> 01:21:28,880
Speaker 2: this is new, like this is a new thing that

1586
01:21:29,040 --> 01:21:31,160
Speaker 2: just happened. No, this has been happened.

1587
01:21:31,320 --> 01:21:32,840
Speaker 4: Okay, that's what I thought. Okay, I'm sorry.

1588
01:21:32,960 --> 01:21:35,360
Speaker 2: I just I just found out that a friend, an

1589
01:21:35,400 --> 01:21:40,280
Speaker 2: old ex friend of ours, who's always working out in

1590
01:21:40,400 --> 01:21:44,599
Speaker 2: the gym and like promoting working out, has a BBL. Okay,

1591
01:21:44,800 --> 01:21:46,360
Speaker 2: And it's like, I don't give a fuck about you

1592
01:21:46,400 --> 01:21:48,679
Speaker 2: getting a BBL. I live in LA. Everybody has fake

1593
01:21:48,720 --> 01:21:52,280
Speaker 2: boobs and fake shit and does a little Okay. I

1594
01:21:52,400 --> 01:21:55,720
Speaker 2: realized that to each its own. However, when you were

1595
01:21:55,840 --> 01:21:59,240
Speaker 2: promoting health and wellness and talking about you doing squats

1596
01:21:59,280 --> 01:22:01,160
Speaker 2: and you got that ass from squats and I'm over

1597
01:22:01,200 --> 01:22:03,639
Speaker 2: here doing the squats and it's not coming in that way,

1598
01:22:04,120 --> 01:22:05,160
Speaker 2: I'm gonna be confused.

1599
01:22:05,400 --> 01:22:08,400
Speaker 3: So I think that is problematic, and she's being honest

1600
01:22:08,400 --> 01:22:08,720
Speaker 3: about it.

1601
01:22:08,800 --> 01:22:12,400
Speaker 2: But I just yeah, and I honestly, I've I feel

1602
01:22:12,479 --> 01:22:16,720
Speaker 2: really sad because I know how criticized she's been, and

1603
01:22:16,960 --> 01:22:19,639
Speaker 2: you know, just as like a dark skin, brown skin,

1604
01:22:19,800 --> 01:22:24,400
Speaker 2: black woman, just the how difficult it is to be

1605
01:22:24,479 --> 01:22:27,360
Speaker 2: in the spotlight and to be in Hollywood and to

1606
01:22:27,479 --> 01:22:30,280
Speaker 2: be in these spaces, and like they've always criticized her,

1607
01:22:30,400 --> 01:22:32,880
Speaker 2: her body, her ass. They tried to make it seem

1608
01:22:32,920 --> 01:22:34,800
Speaker 2: like she couldn't wear the tennis skirm. Everybody else's worried

1609
01:22:34,840 --> 01:22:37,559
Speaker 2: because baby, this is this is a black woman's body.

1610
01:22:37,920 --> 01:22:40,720
Speaker 2: I mean not mine specifically, but I'm just saying like

1611
01:22:40,880 --> 01:22:43,519
Speaker 2: everybody has a different shape and size and color, and

1612
01:22:43,600 --> 01:22:45,519
Speaker 2: they we're all beautiful on our own right.

1613
01:22:45,640 --> 01:22:48,439
Speaker 3: And like for black women, dark skinned black women.

1614
01:22:48,360 --> 01:22:52,880
Speaker 2: Specifically, hair type, lips, all these things that people run

1615
01:22:52,960 --> 01:22:56,160
Speaker 2: out and go get to fucking mimic us we are

1616
01:22:56,240 --> 01:23:00,519
Speaker 2: criticized for. And this person has been criticized so deeply.

1617
01:23:00,600 --> 01:23:01,559
Speaker 2: Buy it her own people.

1618
01:23:01,960 --> 01:23:04,479
Speaker 4: How people? Yeah, I think it's like I feel like

1619
01:23:04,520 --> 01:23:06,519
Speaker 4: we need to call in a prayer for a serena

1620
01:23:06,720 --> 01:23:10,040
Speaker 4: for real, because I feel like, like so much of

1621
01:23:10,120 --> 01:23:12,479
Speaker 4: this because I'm thinking just about I can't like her

1622
01:23:12,560 --> 01:23:14,160
Speaker 4: blonde hair. I'm like, there's a lot of.

1623
01:23:14,320 --> 01:23:17,360
Speaker 3: Like, well but I understand, I understand it. I understand

1624
01:23:17,479 --> 01:23:18,240
Speaker 3: I have blonde hair.

1625
01:23:18,200 --> 01:23:22,120
Speaker 4: To right, right, but but I just I just mean, like,

1626
01:23:22,800 --> 01:23:24,960
Speaker 4: as I'm looking at her, I don't know, I feel

1627
01:23:25,040 --> 01:23:28,880
Speaker 4: this like energy of like how could you not be insecure,

1628
01:23:29,200 --> 01:23:32,080
Speaker 4: how like I would be insecure. Shit I matter how

1629
01:23:32,120 --> 01:23:33,760
Speaker 4: to god a no's job or did a lot of

1630
01:23:33,840 --> 01:23:36,120
Speaker 4: other shit. Well she did, but like I would probably

1631
01:23:36,280 --> 01:23:39,439
Speaker 4: succumb to the pressure too. You know, yeah, she's human,

1632
01:23:40,360 --> 01:23:41,960
Speaker 4: and you know my only thing is though that. But

1633
01:23:42,120 --> 01:23:44,519
Speaker 4: you don't need to promote this, Just go do it.

1634
01:23:44,640 --> 01:23:46,840
Speaker 4: Then we don't need to know that what you did.

1635
01:23:47,240 --> 01:23:49,439
Speaker 4: No one asked bitch, she lost this weight like one

1636
01:23:49,520 --> 01:23:51,559
Speaker 4: year ago. We were moved on already, Like.

1637
01:23:51,920 --> 01:23:55,200
Speaker 2: But okay, what if your nigga had a business and

1638
01:23:55,280 --> 01:23:57,320
Speaker 2: he was like, yo, if you've been taking.

1639
01:23:57,080 --> 01:23:59,720
Speaker 4: It, I would know this, but I would understand the

1640
01:23:59,760 --> 01:24:03,080
Speaker 4: way of the responsibility that I hold, the power that

1641
01:24:03,200 --> 01:24:06,320
Speaker 4: I yield, the repercussions that this medicine could have on

1642
01:24:06,960 --> 01:24:09,960
Speaker 4: someone who's young, who doesn't have like the doctors that

1643
01:24:10,040 --> 01:24:11,880
Speaker 4: are going to make sure that she doesn't have her

1644
01:24:12,000 --> 01:24:14,400
Speaker 4: any underlying conditions of any sort, like.

1645
01:24:15,439 --> 01:24:16,080
Speaker 2: I just don't.

1646
01:24:16,320 --> 01:24:19,120
Speaker 4: And also the fact that like, as women, we already

1647
01:24:19,160 --> 01:24:21,479
Speaker 4: carry so much shame around the way our body looks,

1648
01:24:21,760 --> 01:24:23,720
Speaker 4: and that we must be smaller, Like why did she

1649
01:24:23,800 --> 01:24:26,519
Speaker 4: need to be smaller? Was she unhealthy? Like why was

1650
01:24:26,560 --> 01:24:28,519
Speaker 4: it that she needed to go down to this weight

1651
01:24:28,600 --> 01:24:30,800
Speaker 4: I understand, Like was it just for her own comfortability

1652
01:24:31,439 --> 01:24:33,639
Speaker 4: because she'd never been at that weight before, Like she'd

1653
01:24:33,640 --> 01:24:35,120
Speaker 4: always this has been her hopes.

1654
01:24:34,920 --> 01:24:37,639
Speaker 2: And dreams to be Some people are not just made

1655
01:24:37,840 --> 01:24:38,759
Speaker 2: or not made skinny.

1656
01:24:39,680 --> 01:24:41,160
Speaker 3: It's just every a lot like.

1657
01:24:41,280 --> 01:24:42,320
Speaker 2: You, no, a lot of people.

1658
01:24:43,800 --> 01:24:46,960
Speaker 4: The reason why she is a superb athlete is because

1659
01:24:47,000 --> 01:24:50,840
Speaker 4: of the strength and body mass that she yields, you

1660
01:24:50,920 --> 01:24:53,960
Speaker 4: know what I mean, Like there's that she's Our bodies

1661
01:24:54,000 --> 01:24:56,400
Speaker 4: are what they are, And I just feel like this

1662
01:24:56,560 --> 01:25:00,560
Speaker 4: is really bad. This is bad for real, because I

1663
01:25:00,760 --> 01:25:03,800
Speaker 4: just I'm worried and I'm concerned. There's already so much

1664
01:25:04,200 --> 01:25:06,400
Speaker 4: that our kids are gonna see on the internet every day, right,

1665
01:25:06,479 --> 01:25:09,080
Speaker 4: that's gonna like beat at them. But like I feel

1666
01:25:09,120 --> 01:25:12,759
Speaker 4: like she is gold. She's like she's the gold standard

1667
01:25:12,840 --> 01:25:17,680
Speaker 4: in so many ways, so inspirational, and I don't know,

1668
01:25:17,800 --> 01:25:20,040
Speaker 4: I just I'm worried. I'm concerned.

1669
01:25:22,560 --> 01:25:25,680
Speaker 3: She must be getting a big kickback from this endorsement.

1670
01:25:25,280 --> 01:25:29,240
Speaker 4: Which of course she is, duh. Her husband's on the board,

1671
01:25:29,400 --> 01:25:31,320
Speaker 4: I just told you, and she's Serena. She doesn't take

1672
01:25:31,320 --> 01:25:34,559
Speaker 4: a fucking endorsement deal under fucking five million dollars. I'm sure,

1673
01:25:34,880 --> 01:25:38,920
Speaker 4: maybe more like that's the that's the level of excellence

1674
01:25:39,000 --> 01:25:41,760
Speaker 4: that she's at, like and demands and people give to

1675
01:25:41,800 --> 01:25:43,479
Speaker 4: her as a black woman. That's why I'm like, why

1676
01:25:43,600 --> 01:25:44,439
Speaker 4: you don't even need this?

1677
01:25:44,640 --> 01:25:45,200
Speaker 2: You're rich.

1678
01:25:45,680 --> 01:25:50,719
Speaker 4: Your husband invented snapchat? Like what do you Oh I did, yes, yes,

1679
01:25:51,720 --> 01:25:55,639
Speaker 4: he's one of the co founders of Snapchat. You didn't

1680
01:25:55,640 --> 01:25:58,120
Speaker 4: need this check Like what the fuck are you doing?

1681
01:25:58,439 --> 01:26:00,800
Speaker 4: Just shut up and take your medicine, get skinny, and

1682
01:26:00,880 --> 01:26:05,920
Speaker 4: don't tell us about it like everybody else, like everyone else,

1683
01:26:06,040 --> 01:26:08,320
Speaker 4: Like what the fuck I'm not telling everyone? Like oh

1684
01:26:08,400 --> 01:26:10,040
Speaker 4: I got botox and I want to be the phrase

1685
01:26:10,120 --> 01:26:12,759
Speaker 4: of bo talks like I barely want to fucking post

1686
01:26:12,840 --> 01:26:15,160
Speaker 4: my doctor if she's gonna give me a discount, like shit,

1687
01:26:15,560 --> 01:26:16,880
Speaker 4: like can we make it something else?

1688
01:26:18,280 --> 01:26:22,240
Speaker 2: It's me getting a facial, yes, facial me. Well, this

1689
01:26:22,400 --> 01:26:25,120
Speaker 2: is the world and much we live in and welcome

1690
01:26:25,200 --> 01:26:27,840
Speaker 2: to it. I'm struggling every day to exist here. But

1691
01:26:29,240 --> 01:26:31,720
Speaker 2: apparently I'm supposed to be in this time and this time.

1692
01:26:32,479 --> 01:26:35,000
Speaker 4: So I thought about that. I was like, wonder why

1693
01:26:35,120 --> 01:26:37,720
Speaker 4: God chose me to be here at this time time,

1694
01:26:38,000 --> 01:26:41,679
Speaker 4: all this shit going on so specific, Like why didn't

1695
01:26:41,680 --> 01:26:43,400
Speaker 4: I get to skip this one, like why not the

1696
01:26:43,479 --> 01:26:43,920
Speaker 4: next one?

1697
01:26:44,200 --> 01:26:47,920
Speaker 2: Well, and you know what it is. They're every single

1698
01:26:48,160 --> 01:26:51,400
Speaker 2: soul who's here at this time. There is a reason

1699
01:26:52,360 --> 01:26:54,479
Speaker 2: we're we're supposed to fight against the machine.

1700
01:26:54,600 --> 01:26:55,639
Speaker 3: We have what it takes.

1701
01:26:56,400 --> 01:26:58,519
Speaker 2: We're here in this time because there is something that

1702
01:26:58,640 --> 01:27:00,800
Speaker 2: we are supposed to birth that is supposed to shift it.

1703
01:27:01,320 --> 01:27:05,200
Speaker 2: And I want you guys to remember that what is

1704
01:27:05,280 --> 01:27:08,000
Speaker 2: inside of you that is supposed to be shifting and

1705
01:27:08,840 --> 01:27:13,400
Speaker 2: you know, pushing this society forward. It's definitely not endorsing

1706
01:27:13,600 --> 01:27:17,200
Speaker 2: GBLK or whatever the fuck, but there's something there and

1707
01:27:17,360 --> 01:27:20,800
Speaker 2: that's how we know we have the strength and the tenacity.

1708
01:27:21,120 --> 01:27:25,400
Speaker 2: I hope that's the right word to exist in this

1709
01:27:25,600 --> 01:27:31,840
Speaker 2: time amongst war and crime, and hate and self hate

1710
01:27:32,040 --> 01:27:35,960
Speaker 2: and highly highly criticized and shallowness and ignorance.

1711
01:27:36,040 --> 01:27:38,240
Speaker 4: That's why we have to it's more important than ever

1712
01:27:38,400 --> 01:27:42,040
Speaker 4: that we take care of ourselves, that we lean into love, help,

1713
01:27:42,360 --> 01:27:46,080
Speaker 4: the healing, the love, the connectedness to one another. We

1714
01:27:46,200 --> 01:27:49,280
Speaker 4: have got to we need to connect like we've got

1715
01:27:49,360 --> 01:27:52,880
Speaker 4: to connect. We've got to stay connected. There trying to disconnect.

1716
01:27:52,400 --> 01:27:58,680
Speaker 2: Us, especially with AI truly, I you know, like.

1717
01:27:58,840 --> 01:28:01,440
Speaker 4: It's it's we have to still go to the functions.

1718
01:28:01,920 --> 01:28:04,000
Speaker 4: We have to call our friends in human and not

1719
01:28:04,200 --> 01:28:06,880
Speaker 4: just fucking text each other. We got to get our

1720
01:28:06,960 --> 01:28:09,560
Speaker 4: kids off this shit because they're the future. They're the

1721
01:28:09,640 --> 01:28:11,680
Speaker 4: ones that are gonna have to be able to be

1722
01:28:11,800 --> 01:28:14,560
Speaker 4: soldiers like we're these Our children have got to be

1723
01:28:14,720 --> 01:28:17,200
Speaker 4: like peaceful soldiers, right, but like no pressure.

1724
01:28:17,240 --> 01:28:20,680
Speaker 2: But also yeah, I mean they have to know the

1725
01:28:20,760 --> 01:28:23,640
Speaker 2: reality of what's actually going on, and like we have

1726
01:28:23,760 --> 01:28:26,280
Speaker 2: to live in the reality. But also yeah, from a

1727
01:28:26,360 --> 01:28:29,400
Speaker 2: loving space and go to the concert, do the art,

1728
01:28:29,960 --> 01:28:31,800
Speaker 2: do the things that they're trying to replace us with,

1729
01:28:32,120 --> 01:28:35,919
Speaker 2: and like you can't replace human connection and genuine creation.

1730
01:28:36,320 --> 01:28:39,200
Speaker 4: And like, yeah, I was gonna say I was having

1731
01:28:39,240 --> 01:28:42,439
Speaker 4: this thought about AI today because I've been used. I

1732
01:28:42,640 --> 01:28:45,400
Speaker 4: was so resistant to it for a really long time,

1733
01:28:46,040 --> 01:28:48,280
Speaker 4: and then I've been using it more and more lately,

1734
01:28:48,439 --> 01:28:50,680
Speaker 4: and then I've also been like staying abreast to like

1735
01:28:50,960 --> 01:28:54,120
Speaker 4: how it's the destruction it's causing to our environment and

1736
01:28:54,760 --> 01:28:59,600
Speaker 4: like real destruction, like bad. And also like how I

1737
01:28:59,640 --> 01:29:01,680
Speaker 4: saw my baby daddy of like of course he like

1738
01:29:01,800 --> 01:29:04,320
Speaker 4: popped up on an article my phone today and he

1739
01:29:04,479 --> 01:29:06,640
Speaker 4: was talking about and I didn't even consider this, like

1740
01:29:07,200 --> 01:29:10,439
Speaker 4: rappers using AI to write their raps, and how like

1741
01:29:10,840 --> 01:29:12,800
Speaker 4: the art of rapping is like its gonna be a

1742
01:29:12,880 --> 01:29:15,719
Speaker 4: dying art form because there's these AI rappers coming.

1743
01:29:15,560 --> 01:29:18,000
Speaker 2: Through shut up AI wraps.

1744
01:29:18,760 --> 01:29:20,400
Speaker 4: Yes, bitch, I mean it makes sense.

1745
01:29:20,680 --> 01:29:24,559
Speaker 2: I mean yeah, I just didn't consider it me neither.

1746
01:29:25,320 --> 01:29:28,880
Speaker 4: But I'm also thinking, like, how how numb our brains

1747
01:29:28,920 --> 01:29:32,040
Speaker 4: are gonna go because we're not doing any critical thinking.

1748
01:29:32,240 --> 01:29:34,479
Speaker 4: We have a thought and that's about it. We have

1749
01:29:34,560 --> 01:29:36,639
Speaker 4: a thought and then we put the thought in chat

1750
01:29:36,720 --> 01:29:40,519
Speaker 4: shept and then it expands the consciousness until we do

1751
01:29:40,680 --> 01:29:44,840
Speaker 4: not have consciousness, until we're fucking just dumb bodies roaming

1752
01:29:44,920 --> 01:29:46,680
Speaker 4: around the earth like fucking robots.

1753
01:29:47,320 --> 01:29:49,800
Speaker 2: And there's gonna be a hybrid. It's it's gonna it's

1754
01:29:49,840 --> 01:29:51,440
Speaker 2: creating a human AI.

1755
01:29:51,280 --> 01:29:55,320
Speaker 4: Hybrid for real, and then they're gonna But that's why

1756
01:29:55,720 --> 01:29:58,360
Speaker 4: I feel like the aliens are waiting to see how

1757
01:29:58,400 --> 01:30:00,560
Speaker 4: stupid we are. We gonna like be able to go

1758
01:30:00,680 --> 01:30:04,479
Speaker 4: into like these other higher intelligence are we gonna get

1759
01:30:04,479 --> 01:30:08,800
Speaker 4: advised to the higher intelligence, party out and burned down

1760
01:30:08,920 --> 01:30:11,760
Speaker 4: and start all over again, do the over and over.

1761
01:30:12,160 --> 01:30:15,000
Speaker 3: If I was the aliens, I wouldn't let us in

1762
01:30:15,360 --> 01:30:16,680
Speaker 3: the laughing at us.

1763
01:30:17,080 --> 01:30:18,080
Speaker 2: I would laugh at us too.

1764
01:30:18,120 --> 01:30:20,760
Speaker 3: I'm laughing us and I'm in this bitch like these

1765
01:30:20,840 --> 01:30:21,360
Speaker 3: niggas are.

1766
01:30:21,520 --> 01:30:25,960
Speaker 2: Damn. Trump the other day said he's changing stuff in

1767
01:30:26,040 --> 01:30:28,680
Speaker 2: the museums at the Smithsonian Simsonian.

1768
01:30:28,800 --> 01:30:31,120
Speaker 4: Wait, but wait, do you know why I'm too racist? No,

1769
01:30:31,680 --> 01:30:33,360
Speaker 4: we said, talking about slavery.

1770
01:30:33,400 --> 01:30:37,320
Speaker 3: No, he said, because the America is the hottest country.

1771
01:30:37,439 --> 01:30:38,360
Speaker 3: And he won't let that.

1772
01:30:40,400 --> 01:30:45,400
Speaker 2: I'm not kidding. I'm not kidding. America's the hottest, the

1773
01:30:45,560 --> 01:30:48,439
Speaker 2: hottest country. And why would we talk like this, like

1774
01:30:48,560 --> 01:30:50,800
Speaker 2: we need to be more positive because America is the

1775
01:30:50,920 --> 01:30:58,200
Speaker 2: hottest country, the hottest So if you haven't heard, America's

1776
01:30:58,200 --> 01:31:02,320
Speaker 2: the hottest country. Bitches game with the program. So much

1777
01:31:02,400 --> 01:31:04,000
Speaker 2: focus on slavery.

1778
01:31:04,600 --> 01:31:06,400
Speaker 3: So much fogs on favery, Like, come on, we're the

1779
01:31:06,439 --> 01:31:07,120
Speaker 3: hottest country.

1780
01:31:07,280 --> 01:31:07,599
Speaker 2: Stop.

1781
01:31:08,080 --> 01:31:11,360
Speaker 4: We gotta remarket America. We gotta remarket. We're gonna make

1782
01:31:11,360 --> 01:31:13,800
Speaker 4: it great again. And we're gonna remarket this bitch. We're

1783
01:31:13,840 --> 01:31:15,080
Speaker 4: gonna raise slavery.

1784
01:31:15,320 --> 01:31:15,720
Speaker 2: Delay it.

1785
01:31:16,000 --> 01:31:21,120
Speaker 3: It doesn't look good on a reputation. Yeah, people are sealed.

1786
01:31:21,920 --> 01:31:23,639
Speaker 4: It see slavery being sealed.

1787
01:31:25,360 --> 01:31:26,680
Speaker 3: I mean, if he can do it, he's gonna do it.

1788
01:31:26,800 --> 01:31:31,479
Speaker 4: It's high thoughts. They're gonna, they're gonna slavery being sealed

1789
01:31:31,760 --> 01:31:35,000
Speaker 4: a big shield document and anyone knows it seemed.

1790
01:31:34,720 --> 01:31:35,200
Speaker 1: To be a movie.

1791
01:31:35,479 --> 01:31:37,599
Speaker 4: They're burning book even though it ever existed.

1792
01:31:37,840 --> 01:31:39,320
Speaker 3: Oh my god, that's a good movie.

1793
01:31:39,800 --> 01:31:41,280
Speaker 4: And then what I'm saying, where black people don't even

1794
01:31:41,320 --> 01:31:43,320
Speaker 4: know it existed, but they know their bodies are tellent

1795
01:31:43,400 --> 01:31:44,479
Speaker 4: like reacting to think something.

1796
01:31:45,720 --> 01:31:49,519
Speaker 2: I mean, somewhere in the world black people, there's a

1797
01:31:49,560 --> 01:31:51,880
Speaker 2: black person who doesn't really know about it. There's there's

1798
01:31:51,880 --> 01:31:54,360
Speaker 2: black people our age right now who don't Did you

1799
01:31:54,400 --> 01:31:59,680
Speaker 2: watch the Amaza Bitch in small doses? Because I was

1800
01:31:59,680 --> 01:32:02,840
Speaker 2: getting pissed the fuck off and that, and that's what

1801
01:32:02,960 --> 01:32:04,920
Speaker 2: I mean. There are black people that exist right now

1802
01:32:05,000 --> 01:32:10,040
Speaker 2: that do not understand the severity of American history to

1803
01:32:10,280 --> 01:32:13,519
Speaker 2: the African American history, and that is what that's what

1804
01:32:13,600 --> 01:32:16,599
Speaker 2: they're trying to promote so that we think that black

1805
01:32:16,640 --> 01:32:18,599
Speaker 2: people won't shut the fuck up about it, and it's

1806
01:32:18,720 --> 01:32:21,639
Speaker 2: it wasn't that bad, and it advanced us, and everyone

1807
01:32:21,680 --> 01:32:25,759
Speaker 2: had slavery just like it everywhere, cattle slavery, No biggie,

1808
01:32:25,880 --> 01:32:26,839
Speaker 2: everybody relaxed.

1809
01:32:26,920 --> 01:32:28,280
Speaker 3: Keep comes the hottest country.

1810
01:32:30,520 --> 01:32:41,040
Speaker 2: We're fucked. Sorry, never mind being positive positivity. At this point,

1811
01:32:41,120 --> 01:32:43,000
Speaker 2: you might as well just like rock out with your

1812
01:32:43,040 --> 01:32:45,280
Speaker 2: balls out and go hard on the pleasure and like

1813
01:32:45,479 --> 01:32:47,760
Speaker 2: don't go too I mean, like don't kill yourself, but

1814
01:32:47,920 --> 01:32:51,519
Speaker 2: just like have fun, bitches, because America is the hottest

1815
01:32:51,560 --> 01:32:54,479
Speaker 2: country and Slavery's files are getting sealed soon, So.

1816
01:32:57,040 --> 01:33:00,200
Speaker 4: Get out one this one piece of advice. Guy. Guys,

1817
01:33:02,280 --> 01:33:05,920
Speaker 4: if you don't stop buying land in America, stop trying

1818
01:33:05,960 --> 01:33:11,040
Speaker 4: to buy and own here, just start thinking big, bitch.

1819
01:33:11,439 --> 01:33:14,040
Speaker 4: You gotta think big bitch. You know what I think

1820
01:33:14,400 --> 01:33:16,280
Speaker 4: the aliens you're not even gonna be thinking big. You're

1821
01:33:16,280 --> 01:33:20,200
Speaker 4: gonna like actually probably spend less money, get virtual, do

1822
01:33:20,280 --> 01:33:24,320
Speaker 4: what you gotta do whatever, Only fans, TikTok. Just figure

1823
01:33:24,360 --> 01:33:26,280
Speaker 4: it out, figure out how you can.

1824
01:33:26,320 --> 01:33:28,080
Speaker 2: Get the fuck out of here, you know what. I

1825
01:33:28,320 --> 01:33:30,000
Speaker 2: just you know, I hadn't thought about this from an

1826
01:33:30,040 --> 01:33:34,120
Speaker 2: economical standpoint before, but now with the recession on the

1827
01:33:34,320 --> 01:33:39,600
Speaker 2: rise and America being the hottest country, only fans. I mean, like,

1828
01:33:39,680 --> 01:33:42,160
Speaker 2: if you're successful, like the sex industry might be the

1829
01:33:42,240 --> 01:33:45,000
Speaker 2: only thing that's not going to be fucked when everything

1830
01:33:45,040 --> 01:33:45,639
Speaker 2: else goes down.

1831
01:33:45,680 --> 01:33:47,519
Speaker 4: I mean, you know they're gonna they're gonna fuck that too.

1832
01:33:48,200 --> 01:33:50,280
Speaker 2: Okay, Oh, you're right, because there's AI porn. Now there's

1833
01:33:50,320 --> 01:33:52,400
Speaker 2: AI porn, and eventually they're gonna fuck that too.

1834
01:33:52,600 --> 01:33:57,519
Speaker 4: Like no, they're gonna like govere governor, gover, govert andize governor.

1835
01:33:58,160 --> 01:34:00,599
Speaker 2: I'm a high as hell government.

1836
01:34:01,840 --> 01:34:04,519
Speaker 4: The government is going to control only sands, mark my words. Okay,

1837
01:34:05,200 --> 01:34:07,799
Speaker 4: you see that Trump announced that that now the government

1838
01:34:07,840 --> 01:34:10,519
Speaker 4: owns ten percent of Intel, you.

1839
01:34:10,600 --> 01:34:14,679
Speaker 2: Know, like in quick the computer problem. Wow, who does

1840
01:34:14,760 --> 01:34:15,280
Speaker 2: a government?

1841
01:34:15,760 --> 01:34:16,280
Speaker 4: The government?

1842
01:34:16,439 --> 01:34:19,320
Speaker 2: Yeah? Why I don't know.

1843
01:34:19,479 --> 01:34:22,559
Speaker 4: But Trump negotiated the deal, baby, because he's the hot

1844
01:34:22,720 --> 01:34:26,479
Speaker 4: Marketer negotiator. And I'm pretty sure that that means like

1845
01:34:26,920 --> 01:34:30,920
Speaker 4: there's going to be control over a lot more of

1846
01:34:31,080 --> 01:34:34,439
Speaker 4: what we're doing with our money, what we're doing with

1847
01:34:34,600 --> 01:34:38,160
Speaker 4: our habits. Like eventually the government will own Apple. Like

1848
01:34:38,240 --> 01:34:39,800
Speaker 4: if you can do that, then you can own ten

1849
01:34:39,840 --> 01:34:42,240
Speaker 4: percent of Apple, Then you can own ten percent of

1850
01:34:43,000 --> 01:34:45,880
Speaker 4: you know what I mean? Like we have a privacy, Yeah,

1851
01:34:45,920 --> 01:34:48,320
Speaker 4: there's no, there's privacy is done. It's even like why

1852
01:34:48,360 --> 01:34:50,240
Speaker 4: have you put a privacy clause on an app at

1853
01:34:50,240 --> 01:34:53,760
Speaker 4: this point? Like you signed your life away? When I

1854
01:34:53,800 --> 01:34:57,439
Speaker 4: saw that shit about global global entry, global entry or

1855
01:34:57,479 --> 01:35:00,960
Speaker 4: TSA global entry. Then you basically signed away your rights

1856
01:35:03,840 --> 01:35:05,639
Speaker 4: like they can stop you. They have all your information,

1857
01:35:05,760 --> 01:35:10,559
Speaker 4: they're tracking you now me us, Yeah, we are us.

1858
01:35:11,560 --> 01:35:12,960
Speaker 4: The only good thing going for us is that we

1859
01:35:13,080 --> 01:35:15,080
Speaker 4: do have property outside of the country. Now it's just

1860
01:35:15,160 --> 01:35:16,240
Speaker 4: time to build on it, bitch.

1861
01:35:16,439 --> 01:35:18,599
Speaker 2: I'm thinking we'll have a better chance that the aliens

1862
01:35:18,720 --> 01:35:20,880
Speaker 2: take us if we're not even on American soil, they

1863
01:35:20,920 --> 01:35:21,519
Speaker 2: may consider it.

1864
01:35:21,600 --> 01:35:23,519
Speaker 3: I also heard recently that I feel.

1865
01:35:23,360 --> 01:35:25,599
Speaker 4: Like Costa Rica's last on the list at Costa Rica.

1866
01:35:26,080 --> 01:35:30,680
Speaker 4: Maybe Africa, like Africa, has like this protective orb around it.

1867
01:35:31,360 --> 01:35:33,840
Speaker 3: News flash, the aliens are black.

1868
01:35:37,840 --> 01:35:40,840
Speaker 2: Okay, Yeah, just just sot everybody to know.

1869
01:35:43,600 --> 01:35:44,120
Speaker 3: It's true.

1870
01:35:45,000 --> 01:35:47,439
Speaker 4: Okay, I mean, what's what's your theory there?

1871
01:35:48,479 --> 01:35:53,160
Speaker 2: My theory is that Africa is the oldest civilization. The

1872
01:35:53,320 --> 01:35:57,960
Speaker 2: oldest are like the oldest, the oldest first people were black.

1873
01:35:58,360 --> 01:36:00,519
Speaker 2: And if you think about us not knowing, first of all,

1874
01:36:00,560 --> 01:36:05,080
Speaker 2: they shrunk Africa on the map to confuse everybody. Second

1875
01:36:05,120 --> 01:36:06,879
Speaker 2: of all, they still don't know how the fucking pyramids

1876
01:36:06,960 --> 01:36:10,439
Speaker 2: got there. Indigenous and black people came from a different

1877
01:36:10,479 --> 01:36:12,960
Speaker 2: star seed and everything else.

1878
01:36:13,040 --> 01:36:16,400
Speaker 4: Every I feel like there's black people from Earth and

1879
01:36:17,120 --> 01:36:19,400
Speaker 4: from I feel like it was a collaboration.

1880
01:36:19,520 --> 01:36:20,360
Speaker 3: Yeah, it was a collaboration.

1881
01:36:20,479 --> 01:36:22,720
Speaker 4: But the thing because then, because then why would we

1882
01:36:22,840 --> 01:36:24,680
Speaker 4: grow from? Why are we connected to mother nature? There

1883
01:36:24,760 --> 01:36:26,160
Speaker 4: has to be a connection between us.

1884
01:36:26,520 --> 01:36:30,920
Speaker 2: We're a hybrid of this, of this, this extraterrestrial and

1885
01:36:31,040 --> 01:36:34,439
Speaker 2: whatever else was here on We're a hybrid to this atmosphere. Yes,

1886
01:36:34,840 --> 01:36:37,080
Speaker 2: I mean I also heard that there is an ancient

1887
01:36:37,160 --> 01:36:42,120
Speaker 2: civilization of extraterrestrial that looked like white Jesus. So there's

1888
01:36:42,120 --> 01:36:44,400
Speaker 2: probably a couple of looks in the in the galaxies.

1889
01:36:45,080 --> 01:36:48,200
Speaker 2: But we're the oldest and we dominate most of the

1890
01:36:48,280 --> 01:36:52,160
Speaker 2: galaxies internationally, intergalactically. And I just want you guys to know,

1891
01:36:52,800 --> 01:36:56,519
Speaker 2: when they come to get us white people, how you've

1892
01:36:56,520 --> 01:37:01,320
Speaker 2: been acting, it may not fly in the other galaxy. Okay, Trump,

1893
01:37:03,400 --> 01:37:06,679
Speaker 2: Racism does not exist outside of this gully behind.

1894
01:37:07,000 --> 01:37:10,400
Speaker 4: Leave him behind please and all his minions.

1895
01:37:11,280 --> 01:37:13,599
Speaker 3: I think I'm gonna go watch that movie look Up again.

1896
01:37:14,920 --> 01:37:17,160
Speaker 4: No, oh my god, that movie stressed me out. Now

1897
01:37:17,200 --> 01:37:18,679
Speaker 4: I want to go watch Ancient Aliens.

1898
01:37:18,800 --> 01:37:20,479
Speaker 2: Wait, what's the what's the other one where they have

1899
01:37:20,640 --> 01:37:23,080
Speaker 2: like a party because it's the Last Days and channing

1900
01:37:23,120 --> 01:37:23,800
Speaker 2: to get him was in it?

1901
01:37:24,439 --> 01:37:25,960
Speaker 3: Maybe maybe I watched this in it that's a little

1902
01:37:25,960 --> 01:37:26,400
Speaker 3: bit funnier.

1903
01:37:27,000 --> 01:37:30,200
Speaker 2: That one's a little funny look up was that it

1904
01:37:30,280 --> 01:37:32,120
Speaker 2: was too it was it was too real. It was

1905
01:37:32,120 --> 01:37:37,400
Speaker 2: like a satire, but it was true with Leonardo DiCaprio. Yeah, anyway,

1906
01:37:37,439 --> 01:37:40,000
Speaker 2: I hope this didn't give you more anxiety. I hope

1907
01:37:40,040 --> 01:37:43,240
Speaker 2: listening to Good Moms this Wednesday, you know, brought you down.

1908
01:37:43,360 --> 01:37:46,200
Speaker 2: I hope that you say hi to your mom and

1909
01:37:46,320 --> 01:37:49,320
Speaker 2: that you love her, and that everybody in your life

1910
01:37:49,400 --> 01:37:53,160
Speaker 2: that maybe you have resistance too. I hope this episode

1911
01:37:53,280 --> 01:37:56,920
Speaker 2: reminds you just just soften. We're all human, we're all

1912
01:37:57,000 --> 01:38:01,160
Speaker 2: going through shit, we all are having experience, and we're

1913
01:38:01,200 --> 01:38:03,400
Speaker 2: here to be connected in real life, not to get

1914
01:38:03,439 --> 01:38:05,360
Speaker 2: further from each other, to be closer to each other

1915
01:38:05,400 --> 01:38:08,320
Speaker 2: and closer to ourselves. So if there is space to

1916
01:38:08,439 --> 01:38:12,040
Speaker 2: grow and expand, I invite you to do that and

1917
01:38:12,200 --> 01:38:13,760
Speaker 2: lean in. We love you.

1918
01:38:14,000 --> 01:38:14,840
Speaker 3: Do we have affirmation.

1919
01:38:22,760 --> 01:38:25,760
Speaker 4: The aliens are coming rock out with your balls.

1920
01:38:26,000 --> 01:38:26,639
Speaker 3: I like that one.

1921
01:38:27,120 --> 01:38:31,479
Speaker 2: I really support that the aliens are coming rock out

1922
01:38:31,520 --> 01:38:32,280
Speaker 2: with your balls out.

1923
01:38:33,000 --> 01:38:35,639
Speaker 3: Yep, yeah yeah. Do we need to pull a card?

1924
01:38:36,800 --> 01:38:37,400
Speaker 4: I have one?

1925
01:38:37,640 --> 01:38:38,880
Speaker 3: Or do you have them in front of you or

1926
01:38:39,240 --> 01:38:41,840
Speaker 3: they're in the living room, but I have some right here. Okay,

1927
01:38:43,640 --> 01:38:45,280
Speaker 3: hopefully do that for tearot time.

1928
01:38:45,360 --> 01:38:48,200
Speaker 4: Let's just take a deep breath, take a deep cleansing

1929
01:38:48,320 --> 01:38:54,400
Speaker 4: breath to reset the energy.

1930
01:39:07,280 --> 01:39:11,720
Speaker 2: So glad to be here in this lifetime, breathing with

1931
01:39:11,880 --> 01:39:15,280
Speaker 2: my health, with my family. I'm so grateful. We have

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Speaker 2: so much to be grateful for. And let's remember that

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Speaker 2: every day.

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Speaker 4: Lashay mm hmmm, one fell out of the deck. What

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Speaker 4: is it? So full? Five of cups?

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Speaker 2: Let me look it up, baby, Oh, six of cups?

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Speaker 4: Wow? And I wonder I'm going to get my Roman

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Speaker 4: numerals together, right.

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Speaker 3: It's a it's a it's like a a numerology of

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Speaker 3: the past, like is advantage.

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Speaker 4: I mean it makes sense, you know. Want to get

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Speaker 4: confused with the four and the six the V because the.

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Speaker 2: Four is the V before four and after? Yeah? Yeah, okay.

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Speaker 2: Six of cups. Tarot card meanings revisiting the past, childhood memories, innocents,

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Speaker 2: joy with the it fell out of the deck, y'all,

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Speaker 2: Oh my goodness. The six of cups is a card

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Speaker 2: that takes you back to the happy memories from your past,

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Speaker 2: whether as a child, teenager, or young adult. You may

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Speaker 2: simply be revisiting those memories in your mind. Or you

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Speaker 2: may travel back to your childhood home or reconnect with

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Speaker 2: your childhood friends. You could go to a high school

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Speaker 2: reunion or reconnect with an old buddy at chep.

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Speaker 4: My high school reunions in like two weeks, Oh yeah,

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Speaker 4: my twenty year what the fuck?

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Speaker 2: Okay one a teenage sweetheart or past lever may turn

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Speaker 2: up again. These connections bring you a sense of joy

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Speaker 2: and happiness as you reminisce over all the fun times

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Speaker 2: you had together. Take this occasion to explore whether you

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Speaker 2: still have a lot in common and if you wish

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Speaker 2: to continue the relationship now. It shows often the Six

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Speaker 2: of Cups often shows an increased level of harmony and

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Speaker 2: cooperation in your relationships. You're ready to give and receive

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Speaker 2: without expectation. You're also willing to give each other the

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Speaker 2: benefit of the doubt. Having moved on from challenging emotions

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Speaker 2: of the Five of Cups, it's time. It's time to

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Speaker 2: turn over a new leaf and start afresh from a

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Speaker 2: more positive place. It invites you to touch, get in

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Speaker 2: touch with your inner child, and experience the fun, freedom,

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Speaker 2: and innocence that comes with being a young child again.

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Speaker 2: You might like to sit down with an adult coloring book,

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Speaker 2: dance like no one is watching, play your favorite childhood games,

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Speaker 2: or spend more time happy around happy children. When you

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Speaker 2: give yourself permission to be playful, spontaneous, and creative, you

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Speaker 2: connect more with your authentic self and your intuition. Oh wow, wait,

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Speaker 2: hold on one more thing. The six of cups can

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Speaker 2: also refer to child children in your life. It can

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Speaker 2: suggest a pregnancy, perhaps twins, chill a bird.

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Speaker 4: We don't need to read this part.

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Speaker 2: Okay, never mind, never mind.

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Speaker 4: If you want to learn more, okay, Bitty Taro dot com.

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Speaker 2: Okay, well, we've been talking for almost two hours. That

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Speaker 2: wasn't the plan, but apparently we had a lot to say.

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Speaker 2: We missed you, guys, and I love you.

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Speaker 2: Thank you. Bye. Yeah, I'm been so good, can't you.

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Speaker 7: I went through a drought, that's until I found out

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Speaker 7: well may might have been known earth. I used to

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Speaker 7: be broken hell, now got the blues in to like

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Speaker 7: beyoncey just hell throat shot or pop in his cow

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Speaker 7: wearing their voices.

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Speaker 3: Patriarchy kept it in the box.

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Speaker 2: To its flots.

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Speaker 7: Women put the pee and powers so it's pointless. They

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Speaker 7: want me to be good, so I make bad choices.

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Speaker 7: Bad mom, not a bad mom, but a bad mom.

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Speaker 7: It's in on the cannabis in their Bathbone walked in

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Speaker 7: bossls cap and I blew his cat balls. Hot dog.

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Speaker 4: Now I'm immune to the cat called Herbie and no

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Speaker 4: waisted straight to it like a dollar sign.

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Speaker 2: Mother, rent the lover when too.

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Speaker 7: It is like a water sign where you're rent the

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Speaker 7: winter essential will when the summertime. I do what doll

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Speaker 7: ain't No one that needs to run it by