1 00:00:02,400 --> 00:00:06,480 Speaker 1: Iami, Yamla. I had a baby daddy relationship. I spent 2 00:00:06,600 --> 00:00:09,480 Speaker 1: time in a relationship with a married man. I had 3 00:00:09,520 --> 00:00:13,520 Speaker 1: to learn the skills and tools required to make my 4 00:00:13,680 --> 00:00:18,439 Speaker 1: relationships healthy, fulfilling and loving. Welcome to the r Spot, 5 00:00:18,720 --> 00:00:36,839 Speaker 1: a production of shondaland Audio in partnership with iHeartRadio. Welcome, 6 00:00:36,920 --> 00:00:40,879 Speaker 1: Welcome to the art Spot, the place we come to 7 00:00:41,000 --> 00:00:47,239 Speaker 1: discuss all things relationship and all relationships. I am Miamla, 8 00:00:47,400 --> 00:00:53,000 Speaker 1: your host, your guide, your facilitator, your support system as 9 00:00:53,040 --> 00:00:57,400 Speaker 1: you take a deeper look into the relationships in your life. 10 00:00:57,440 --> 00:01:03,000 Speaker 1: And boy, do we have a top today. Earlier this week, 11 00:01:03,560 --> 00:01:08,440 Speaker 1: one of my former students wrote me a very interesting email, 12 00:01:09,360 --> 00:01:13,360 Speaker 1: and in that email, he asked me, Mama, ear how 13 00:01:13,480 --> 00:01:18,440 Speaker 1: should I be with pain? How should I be with pain? 14 00:01:19,160 --> 00:01:22,920 Speaker 1: You know, with everything that's going on in the world today, 15 00:01:23,680 --> 00:01:26,880 Speaker 1: a lot of people are in pain. Some because they're 16 00:01:26,920 --> 00:01:32,240 Speaker 1: impacted directly, some because of the way they think about 17 00:01:32,280 --> 00:01:36,920 Speaker 1: what's going on, Some because they feel the energy of 18 00:01:36,959 --> 00:01:42,760 Speaker 1: what's going on, Some because they feel hopeless, some feel helpless. 19 00:01:43,440 --> 00:01:47,640 Speaker 1: But a lot of people are in pain. One of 20 00:01:47,640 --> 00:01:51,080 Speaker 1: the things that I said to my students was, what 21 00:01:51,160 --> 00:01:56,320 Speaker 1: is your relationship with disaster. What is your relationship with disaster? 22 00:01:56,520 --> 00:02:01,200 Speaker 1: Even if it's not your disaster. Do not rush in 23 00:02:01,560 --> 00:02:05,960 Speaker 1: to fix it or to run away from the sadness 24 00:02:06,040 --> 00:02:12,480 Speaker 1: of the moment, trying to escape the moment and bypass 25 00:02:12,760 --> 00:02:18,200 Speaker 1: the gift that the pain is offering you. When you're 26 00:02:18,320 --> 00:02:26,280 Speaker 1: in pain pain, pay attention inward. Now. The first thing 27 00:02:26,320 --> 00:02:30,600 Speaker 1: to do is go in and identify what that pain is. 28 00:02:30,600 --> 00:02:32,240 Speaker 1: Is it a pain of fear? Is it a pain 29 00:02:32,280 --> 00:02:35,320 Speaker 1: of sadness? Is it a pain because of what you're thinking, 30 00:02:35,400 --> 00:02:39,880 Speaker 1: what you're feeling? What is the pain? When pain is present, 31 00:02:40,000 --> 00:02:44,560 Speaker 1: it really is a source of deep knowing. What do 32 00:02:44,680 --> 00:02:48,840 Speaker 1: you know? What do you know? Not what do you think? 33 00:02:49,160 --> 00:02:53,040 Speaker 1: But what do you know about what you're experiencing? You see, 34 00:02:53,919 --> 00:02:56,760 Speaker 1: when we're in pain about what's going on in the world, 35 00:02:56,800 --> 00:03:01,640 Speaker 1: it's because we know that we are connected to each other, 36 00:03:02,000 --> 00:03:05,840 Speaker 1: to everyone, to everything. But are we acting like that? 37 00:03:06,639 --> 00:03:09,880 Speaker 1: Are you acting like you're connected to the person you're 38 00:03:09,880 --> 00:03:12,360 Speaker 1: cussing out on the freeway because they cut you off, 39 00:03:12,480 --> 00:03:15,239 Speaker 1: You're connected to that they cut you off. You don't 40 00:03:15,240 --> 00:03:17,040 Speaker 1: know if they're rushing to pick up a sick child 41 00:03:17,200 --> 00:03:19,760 Speaker 1: or if they're on their way to the doctor. Or 42 00:03:20,080 --> 00:03:25,320 Speaker 1: if they're just mindlessly driving, bless them, don't cuss them. No, 43 00:03:25,720 --> 00:03:28,840 Speaker 1: you're connected to that person and the cuss you send 44 00:03:28,880 --> 00:03:30,640 Speaker 1: out to them today is going to come back to 45 00:03:30,680 --> 00:03:35,600 Speaker 1: you tomorrow. Pain is a source of deep knowing. Pain 46 00:03:35,840 --> 00:03:41,280 Speaker 1: offers us critical information about something within us that may 47 00:03:41,360 --> 00:03:44,200 Speaker 1: needs to be balanced, that may needs to be brought 48 00:03:44,240 --> 00:03:49,600 Speaker 1: into alignment, something that we need to be accountable for, 49 00:03:50,240 --> 00:03:54,720 Speaker 1: but also something that we are responsible for. Pay attention 50 00:03:55,200 --> 00:04:01,200 Speaker 1: inward now. Sometimes pain is teelling us that we need 51 00:04:01,240 --> 00:04:05,320 Speaker 1: to do something different. There are so many people upset 52 00:04:05,400 --> 00:04:08,520 Speaker 1: about the political landscape who are saying that they're not 53 00:04:08,600 --> 00:04:14,360 Speaker 1: going to vote. Really, you're upset about what's going on 54 00:04:14,480 --> 00:04:17,840 Speaker 1: and you're not going to participate in it. And I 55 00:04:17,880 --> 00:04:21,640 Speaker 1: heard I think his name was Big Mike. He said 56 00:04:21,680 --> 00:04:26,280 Speaker 1: something very interesting. He said, don't vote personality, vote policy, 57 00:04:27,640 --> 00:04:31,560 Speaker 1: and vote the policies that serve you the best. So 58 00:04:31,600 --> 00:04:36,760 Speaker 1: when you're looking out on the political landscape, don't look 59 00:04:36,800 --> 00:04:41,320 Speaker 1: at personality, don't look at age, don't look at race. 60 00:04:42,160 --> 00:04:44,920 Speaker 1: What is this person saying and how is what they're 61 00:04:44,960 --> 00:04:48,440 Speaker 1: saying gonna serve me? And the minute they start talking 62 00:04:48,440 --> 00:04:52,520 Speaker 1: about againstness, then you need to look inside and say, okay, 63 00:04:52,520 --> 00:04:55,440 Speaker 1: who and what am I against? And why is this 64 00:04:55,560 --> 00:05:04,440 Speaker 1: againstness lining up with me? Pay attention inward. Now, yes, 65 00:05:04,520 --> 00:05:08,960 Speaker 1: there is a lot going on in the world, But 66 00:05:09,080 --> 00:05:11,560 Speaker 1: I lean into a course in miracles, and I say, 67 00:05:11,600 --> 00:05:14,960 Speaker 1: I don't know what anything is for. I don't know 68 00:05:15,000 --> 00:05:19,200 Speaker 1: what anything is for, and I give meaning to everything 69 00:05:19,240 --> 00:05:24,560 Speaker 1: that I see. So if what I see is causing 70 00:05:24,560 --> 00:05:28,680 Speaker 1: me disturbance, distress, upset, frustration, concern, all the words my 71 00:05:28,760 --> 00:05:33,400 Speaker 1: guests used today, if what I see is giving me 72 00:05:34,160 --> 00:05:37,600 Speaker 1: causing me to have those experiences, then let me look 73 00:05:37,640 --> 00:05:40,359 Speaker 1: at the meaning that I'm given this stuff, let me 74 00:05:40,400 --> 00:05:43,320 Speaker 1: look at the judgments I have about it, and then 75 00:05:43,400 --> 00:05:48,279 Speaker 1: forgive myself so that I can be accountable for my 76 00:05:48,440 --> 00:05:52,520 Speaker 1: own thoughts and feelings and become responsible for how I 77 00:05:52,560 --> 00:05:56,920 Speaker 1: respond to them. I think our relationship with the world 78 00:05:57,760 --> 00:06:02,000 Speaker 1: gives us a powerful, powerful starting point for building a 79 00:06:02,040 --> 00:06:07,680 Speaker 1: better and deeper relationship with what we think, why we 80 00:06:07,760 --> 00:06:10,760 Speaker 1: think it, how we think it, what we feel, and 81 00:06:10,760 --> 00:06:14,640 Speaker 1: how we process those feelings. And if you're really having 82 00:06:14,680 --> 00:06:17,360 Speaker 1: a hard time, make a god job, turn it over, 83 00:06:18,000 --> 00:06:21,200 Speaker 1: give it to something higher and greater than you. Get 84 00:06:21,240 --> 00:06:23,599 Speaker 1: a map of the world, get a globe I have 85 00:06:23,640 --> 00:06:26,960 Speaker 1: a globe, and sometimes in my prayer I'll just rub 86 00:06:27,040 --> 00:06:30,279 Speaker 1: my hands all over that globe and let those prayers 87 00:06:30,320 --> 00:06:33,240 Speaker 1: fall where they need to fall. It's not my business 88 00:06:33,279 --> 00:06:36,120 Speaker 1: where they go, but I'm sending it out to the world. 89 00:06:36,200 --> 00:06:39,479 Speaker 1: Get a map of the United States, put your finger 90 00:06:39,920 --> 00:06:43,880 Speaker 1: on a particular state or county or area and pray 91 00:06:43,960 --> 00:06:48,440 Speaker 1: light there, Send love there, send compassion there. May Ohio 92 00:06:48,600 --> 00:06:53,600 Speaker 1: no peace, May everyone in Ohio have what they need. 93 00:06:54,960 --> 00:06:58,680 Speaker 1: And don't listen to the news or social media that 94 00:06:58,760 --> 00:07:02,520 Speaker 1: says this happened, that happen. And just know that your prayers, 95 00:07:02,640 --> 00:07:06,719 Speaker 1: your good thoughts, are like a pebble in the ocean 96 00:07:06,800 --> 00:07:10,200 Speaker 1: of humanity, and it will ripple out and it will 97 00:07:10,240 --> 00:07:13,800 Speaker 1: have an impact. I think I have another caller. Let's 98 00:07:13,840 --> 00:07:18,240 Speaker 1: see where they are in their relationship. Do what you 99 00:07:18,320 --> 00:07:25,320 Speaker 1: can where you are, without expectation of reward or recognition. 100 00:07:26,400 --> 00:07:30,200 Speaker 1: Don't toot your own horn, don't pray on the corner 101 00:07:30,200 --> 00:07:33,720 Speaker 1: for other people to hear you and see you. Pray 102 00:07:33,800 --> 00:07:39,400 Speaker 1: silently and send the light out. Greetings and welcome to 103 00:07:39,600 --> 00:07:44,480 Speaker 1: the art Spot. We're talking today about our relationship with 104 00:07:44,640 --> 00:07:48,680 Speaker 1: the world, our relationship in the world, and how it 105 00:07:48,840 --> 00:07:54,120 Speaker 1: impacts our relationship with ourselves. So, as the beloved Wendy 106 00:07:54,160 --> 00:08:00,000 Speaker 1: Williams would say, how you doing in the world. 107 00:08:00,480 --> 00:08:03,720 Speaker 2: I'm coping and and trying to stay hopeful and doing 108 00:08:03,800 --> 00:08:04,239 Speaker 2: my best. 109 00:08:04,520 --> 00:08:07,320 Speaker 1: Okay, tell more coping. What does that mean? 110 00:08:07,840 --> 00:08:11,920 Speaker 2: I think in life to thrive, you have to be hopeful. 111 00:08:12,280 --> 00:08:15,040 Speaker 2: You have to be you know, in a place where 112 00:08:15,080 --> 00:08:18,520 Speaker 2: you feel like will kind of prevail. In the past 113 00:08:18,520 --> 00:08:22,800 Speaker 2: couple of years have just been very challenging from everything 114 00:08:23,720 --> 00:08:32,560 Speaker 2: with presidential elections and COVID and just seeing social injustice 115 00:08:32,720 --> 00:08:35,719 Speaker 2: be so rampant. I think it's taking its toll on 116 00:08:35,880 --> 00:08:38,280 Speaker 2: my nervouses. I know it's taking its toll on my 117 00:08:38,360 --> 00:08:42,920 Speaker 2: nervous system. And you know, I'm a person who does 118 00:08:43,040 --> 00:08:47,480 Speaker 2: the work, you know. I meditate, I pray, I encourage 119 00:08:47,520 --> 00:08:52,880 Speaker 2: other people. I try to believe and be optimistic. But 120 00:08:52,960 --> 00:08:55,680 Speaker 2: it's been challenging. I just think with the current state 121 00:08:55,720 --> 00:08:58,080 Speaker 2: of affairs and seeing things play out the way they've 122 00:08:58,080 --> 00:09:01,800 Speaker 2: played out, it's taken in such a toll on my 123 00:09:01,880 --> 00:09:07,360 Speaker 2: nervous system. I am an African American woman, so it's 124 00:09:07,400 --> 00:09:11,040 Speaker 2: been very challenging, I must say, and not just from 125 00:09:11,440 --> 00:09:14,440 Speaker 2: on all planes, so not just you know, with where 126 00:09:14,559 --> 00:09:19,520 Speaker 2: we are with the inflation and things costing more and 127 00:09:19,559 --> 00:09:22,520 Speaker 2: making things more challenging on the home front to just 128 00:09:22,640 --> 00:09:24,920 Speaker 2: kind of, you know, be in a place I'm making 129 00:09:25,080 --> 00:09:27,920 Speaker 2: ends meet or feeling like you did good for yourself, 130 00:09:27,960 --> 00:09:30,480 Speaker 2: and then seeing that it's not worth what it once 131 00:09:30,720 --> 00:09:33,720 Speaker 2: was worth, and then dealing with the fact of safety, 132 00:09:33,840 --> 00:09:36,959 Speaker 2: and dealing with the fact of you know, corporate greed 133 00:09:37,160 --> 00:09:40,920 Speaker 2: and all of these things. It has really taken its toll. 134 00:09:41,320 --> 00:09:44,600 Speaker 2: And even when I'm telling myself that hey, right now, 135 00:09:44,679 --> 00:09:48,160 Speaker 2: in and now in the present, you're good, your needs 136 00:09:48,160 --> 00:09:50,959 Speaker 2: are met, you have what you need, my nervous system 137 00:09:51,520 --> 00:09:54,360 Speaker 2: is still rilling from the effects of all of the trauma. 138 00:09:54,880 --> 00:09:59,559 Speaker 1: Wow, that's interesting. Where are you with inflation? Because I 139 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:03,000 Speaker 1: I really didn't know there was no inflation. I really didn't. 140 00:10:03,360 --> 00:10:05,840 Speaker 1: I go to the store with my list, and I 141 00:10:05,920 --> 00:10:08,640 Speaker 1: try very hard to stay till on my list. If 142 00:10:08,640 --> 00:10:10,960 Speaker 1: I get off my list, I've never had to put 143 00:10:11,000 --> 00:10:13,720 Speaker 1: anything back, so I'm good. I didn't know there was 144 00:10:13,720 --> 00:10:15,360 Speaker 1: inflation until they told me. 145 00:10:16,000 --> 00:10:19,440 Speaker 2: Yes. It's very especially for the quote unquote yet, but 146 00:10:19,520 --> 00:10:23,439 Speaker 2: it used to be the middle class. It's very challenging 147 00:10:24,559 --> 00:10:25,520 Speaker 2: our middle class. 148 00:10:25,960 --> 00:10:29,400 Speaker 1: Don't don't get a twisted baby, I am middle class. 149 00:10:31,840 --> 00:10:34,920 Speaker 2: I've been a relatory for twenty years. Housing prices at 150 00:10:34,960 --> 00:10:38,080 Speaker 2: an all time high. We basically had four hundred years 151 00:10:38,120 --> 00:10:42,800 Speaker 2: of inflation in four years. You know in my area 152 00:10:42,920 --> 00:10:45,000 Speaker 2: where you used to could buy a beautiful home for 153 00:10:45,080 --> 00:10:48,640 Speaker 2: a bedroom, too, too bath home for your family that 154 00:10:48,800 --> 00:10:52,040 Speaker 2: used to run one sixty eight two hundred thousand. Those 155 00:10:52,080 --> 00:10:56,200 Speaker 2: are now six hundred thousand. But the salaries have gone up. 156 00:10:56,400 --> 00:10:59,160 Speaker 2: Even rent rates are now. You know where you used 157 00:10:59,200 --> 00:11:02,120 Speaker 2: to corn a three room apartment for twelve hundred dollars, 158 00:11:02,120 --> 00:11:05,240 Speaker 2: That apartment is now twenty eight hundred dollars in four 159 00:11:05,320 --> 00:11:05,960 Speaker 2: years time. 160 00:11:06,360 --> 00:11:08,360 Speaker 1: When I was little, my mom would send me to 161 00:11:08,400 --> 00:11:11,200 Speaker 1: the store with a dollar. With a dollar, I could 162 00:11:11,240 --> 00:11:14,200 Speaker 1: get bread, milk, and fifty cent worth of bologne, and 163 00:11:14,320 --> 00:11:17,080 Speaker 1: sometimes have three or four cents left over to buy 164 00:11:17,120 --> 00:11:20,239 Speaker 1: some bazooka bubblegum. Things have really changed, having. 165 00:11:20,000 --> 00:11:21,360 Speaker 2: It it really changed. 166 00:11:21,440 --> 00:11:24,040 Speaker 1: Do you remember when you could get can you you 167 00:11:24,080 --> 00:11:26,840 Speaker 1: could get three pounds of chicken wings for five Oh no, 168 00:11:26,960 --> 00:11:29,320 Speaker 1: it's five pounds of chicken wings for three dollars? Do 169 00:11:29,360 --> 00:11:30,440 Speaker 1: you remember that? 170 00:11:30,440 --> 00:11:31,880 Speaker 2: That might have been before my time? 171 00:11:33,840 --> 00:11:39,080 Speaker 1: On what you try to say, I'm old. Prices are rising, 172 00:11:39,440 --> 00:11:41,600 Speaker 1: But I bet you what, do you have an iPhone 173 00:11:41,679 --> 00:11:42,520 Speaker 1: or an Android? 174 00:11:43,520 --> 00:11:46,360 Speaker 2: I have a very very old iPhone. I'm not one 175 00:11:46,440 --> 00:11:47,959 Speaker 2: of those people that try to keep it. As a 176 00:11:47,960 --> 00:11:49,760 Speaker 2: matter of fact, I'm still in the single digits with 177 00:11:49,840 --> 00:11:52,480 Speaker 2: my iPhone, So I'm not one of those people that 178 00:11:52,559 --> 00:11:54,000 Speaker 2: try to keep up with transit. 179 00:11:55,240 --> 00:11:58,040 Speaker 1: No, maybe not to keep up with it, but I'm 180 00:11:58,080 --> 00:12:01,040 Speaker 1: going to. I just want to offer people are screaming 181 00:12:01,080 --> 00:12:04,320 Speaker 1: about the price of eggs that they're looking at on 182 00:12:04,360 --> 00:12:08,760 Speaker 1: their thousand dollars iPhone. Yes, things have increased, but we 183 00:12:08,920 --> 00:12:14,080 Speaker 1: have different means of transportation, the supply chain where we're 184 00:12:14,080 --> 00:12:18,120 Speaker 1: getting it from, manufacturing costs, all of those things have changed. 185 00:12:18,800 --> 00:12:23,560 Speaker 1: They've changed, They've changed with the times, and that's just 186 00:12:23,679 --> 00:12:24,720 Speaker 1: what happens. 187 00:12:24,840 --> 00:12:27,520 Speaker 2: They should have changed to go down, though, Ayana. I 188 00:12:27,520 --> 00:12:30,480 Speaker 2: mean with all of the technology and all of the improvements, 189 00:12:31,000 --> 00:12:33,320 Speaker 2: you know, you can now you don't have to have 190 00:12:33,640 --> 00:12:37,040 Speaker 2: as much movement in it because they have things like 191 00:12:37,080 --> 00:12:40,200 Speaker 2: three D printing and such. There's no reason for inflation 192 00:12:40,280 --> 00:12:43,000 Speaker 2: to be at this all time high. That and it's 193 00:12:43,360 --> 00:12:47,319 Speaker 2: really taking its toll on people's mental it's really taking 194 00:12:47,360 --> 00:12:51,160 Speaker 2: its toll on people's physical and you know, and it's 195 00:12:51,200 --> 00:12:53,880 Speaker 2: a lot to process, and so you really don't know. 196 00:12:54,360 --> 00:12:56,200 Speaker 2: People want to be aware, and they want to be 197 00:12:56,240 --> 00:12:57,640 Speaker 2: in and now, and they want to be a part 198 00:12:57,679 --> 00:13:01,120 Speaker 2: of the process, but they're also have to protect their 199 00:13:01,280 --> 00:13:05,319 Speaker 2: own peace and their own you know, mental and physical 200 00:13:05,400 --> 00:13:07,960 Speaker 2: well being, and so it's hard to know when you 201 00:13:08,000 --> 00:13:10,760 Speaker 2: should be clocked in and when and when you have 202 00:13:10,880 --> 00:13:13,000 Speaker 2: to clock out, and when you have to clock out, 203 00:13:13,000 --> 00:13:15,199 Speaker 2: how long can you be clocked out because you still 204 00:13:15,240 --> 00:13:17,520 Speaker 2: have to be a part of this machine, and the 205 00:13:17,600 --> 00:13:19,840 Speaker 2: bills still have to get paid, and you still have 206 00:13:19,960 --> 00:13:22,760 Speaker 2: to show up for work, and the cycle still has 207 00:13:22,760 --> 00:13:26,520 Speaker 2: to continue on. So being in the world right now 208 00:13:26,760 --> 00:13:31,200 Speaker 2: is an odd place to be. And you know, with 209 00:13:31,400 --> 00:13:34,000 Speaker 2: all of the decades that I've seen, I've just never 210 00:13:34,040 --> 00:13:36,960 Speaker 2: seen a time where it was just taking such a 211 00:13:37,040 --> 00:13:42,080 Speaker 2: toll on people's mental and physical well being. You know, 212 00:13:42,280 --> 00:13:46,000 Speaker 2: when a couple of years back in the nineties, in 213 00:13:46,080 --> 00:13:49,080 Speaker 2: the early two thousands, you didn't hear a lot of 214 00:13:49,120 --> 00:13:52,360 Speaker 2: the terminology that you hear now around you know, people 215 00:13:52,640 --> 00:13:56,880 Speaker 2: really being mentally broken, you know, about their emotional well 216 00:13:56,920 --> 00:13:58,600 Speaker 2: being and all of this. And not to say that 217 00:13:59,120 --> 00:14:02,120 Speaker 2: they didn't have their own struggles then, but this is 218 00:14:02,200 --> 00:14:06,439 Speaker 2: just it's been a lot to mentally process covid alone. 219 00:14:06,480 --> 00:14:10,880 Speaker 2: Covid alone did a number on people, you know, the isolation, 220 00:14:11,400 --> 00:14:13,880 Speaker 2: the uncertainty, the not knowing if you're ever going to 221 00:14:13,920 --> 00:14:15,959 Speaker 2: be in the presence of people that you love again, 222 00:14:16,520 --> 00:14:20,600 Speaker 2: the loved one's lost. Covid alone did a whole mental 223 00:14:20,680 --> 00:14:23,720 Speaker 2: number on people. And then coming out of that and 224 00:14:24,040 --> 00:14:27,800 Speaker 2: things just jumping right back in into warp speed because 225 00:14:27,800 --> 00:14:30,880 Speaker 2: of those two years that were lost, the supply chain 226 00:14:30,920 --> 00:14:33,040 Speaker 2: that's messed up, and now, like I said, with the 227 00:14:33,080 --> 00:14:37,400 Speaker 2: inflation toppled, with the social injustice you know, I mean, 228 00:14:37,600 --> 00:14:40,000 Speaker 2: no one ever thought in your lifetime that you would 229 00:14:40,040 --> 00:14:42,960 Speaker 2: see what happened on Capitol to Hell, you know, and 230 00:14:43,680 --> 00:14:46,960 Speaker 2: things of that nature in our country, Like no one thought, hey, 231 00:14:47,040 --> 00:14:50,320 Speaker 2: you know, our own democracy would see an attack on 232 00:14:50,960 --> 00:14:54,560 Speaker 2: this land. And so it's a lot to process emotionally, 233 00:14:55,440 --> 00:14:59,520 Speaker 2: and that emotional trauma will take its toll on your 234 00:14:59,560 --> 00:15:02,440 Speaker 2: nervous system. And your nervous. 235 00:15:02,120 --> 00:15:05,920 Speaker 1: System is nervous system, not mine, not my nervous system. 236 00:15:06,280 --> 00:15:10,080 Speaker 2: My question for you when your nervous system where you're 237 00:15:10,120 --> 00:15:13,240 Speaker 2: a fight a flight, it is saying danger, danger, danger, 238 00:15:14,160 --> 00:15:16,480 Speaker 2: you know, and you're trying to talk yourself off that 239 00:15:16,600 --> 00:15:19,960 Speaker 2: ledge and saying, hey, it's not that bad. It doesn't 240 00:15:20,000 --> 00:15:24,640 Speaker 2: have to be in that space. Because of this state 241 00:15:24,800 --> 00:15:27,360 Speaker 2: of all these things and how people are processing these things, 242 00:15:27,400 --> 00:15:30,040 Speaker 2: whether people are paying attention to it, we're paying too 243 00:15:30,160 --> 00:15:32,800 Speaker 2: much attention to it. And another thing I want to 244 00:15:32,840 --> 00:15:36,160 Speaker 2: hold in on that, I think why a lot of 245 00:15:36,200 --> 00:15:39,480 Speaker 2: people are struggling so much is because they're so tuned 246 00:15:39,520 --> 00:15:43,160 Speaker 2: into social media. And social media can be very polarizing 247 00:15:43,720 --> 00:15:47,720 Speaker 2: with painting the very one sided picture of you know, 248 00:15:47,760 --> 00:15:51,160 Speaker 2: the state of affairs. But most people aren't really so 249 00:15:51,320 --> 00:15:56,400 Speaker 2: reliant on television or newscasting as much as they are 250 00:15:56,440 --> 00:16:00,320 Speaker 2: about getting that delivered to them via social media. And 251 00:16:00,920 --> 00:16:03,840 Speaker 2: we do know that those algorithms and everything are programmed 252 00:16:03,840 --> 00:16:08,920 Speaker 2: to overstimulate and so in that even though you know, 253 00:16:09,120 --> 00:16:14,560 Speaker 2: like you can say, hey, in my personal space, within myself, 254 00:16:14,960 --> 00:16:18,600 Speaker 2: everything is okay, calm down, but d're in your fight 255 00:16:18,640 --> 00:16:21,480 Speaker 2: a flight of saying no, it's not okay, it's not okay. 256 00:16:21,880 --> 00:16:23,840 Speaker 2: How do you deal with that battle? 257 00:16:24,400 --> 00:16:26,160 Speaker 1: How do I deal with it? Or how should you 258 00:16:26,200 --> 00:16:28,640 Speaker 1: deal with it? Because I don't have that battle. 259 00:16:29,160 --> 00:16:32,240 Speaker 2: How should I do then? Or people who do have 260 00:16:32,280 --> 00:16:35,520 Speaker 2: that battle? How should they deal with it. People's emotional 261 00:16:35,560 --> 00:16:39,360 Speaker 2: and mental states and will being all functioned on a 262 00:16:39,400 --> 00:16:42,720 Speaker 2: different accord. So people process trauma differently. 263 00:16:42,960 --> 00:16:48,239 Speaker 1: We're all traumatized. We are all traumatized. We're all traumatized. 264 00:16:48,320 --> 00:16:50,320 Speaker 1: You got your trauma, I got my trauma. We are 265 00:16:50,400 --> 00:16:54,840 Speaker 1: all traumatized. I am a trauma specialist. Trust me in 266 00:16:54,960 --> 00:16:59,440 Speaker 1: both experiencing it and working through it. First of all, 267 00:16:59,440 --> 00:17:02,680 Speaker 1: thank you for sharing, because I think that you have 268 00:17:03,480 --> 00:17:09,040 Speaker 1: demonstrated a very common problem, a very common issue that 269 00:17:09,119 --> 00:17:13,760 Speaker 1: many people care front. We'll talk about that when we 270 00:17:13,800 --> 00:17:22,120 Speaker 1: come back. Welcome back to the R spot. Let's pick 271 00:17:22,200 --> 00:17:27,399 Speaker 1: up where we left. Are you speak externally? You speak 272 00:17:27,400 --> 00:17:33,600 Speaker 1: about how do you? And most people and people and 273 00:17:33,640 --> 00:17:37,679 Speaker 1: that has nothing to do with you, You nosy, You 274 00:17:37,800 --> 00:17:45,840 Speaker 1: all up in other people's business. How about you? How 275 00:17:45,880 --> 00:17:49,320 Speaker 1: do you experience it? Because I heard you say you pray, 276 00:17:49,760 --> 00:17:52,960 Speaker 1: you meditate, and what do you get out of that? 277 00:17:54,240 --> 00:17:56,720 Speaker 1: Because see when I go in and I pray and 278 00:17:56,800 --> 00:17:59,560 Speaker 1: I meditate, you know what I hear, I got you. 279 00:18:00,280 --> 00:18:04,360 Speaker 1: That's what I hear. I got you. And so when 280 00:18:04,359 --> 00:18:08,679 Speaker 1: somebody comes to me like you do, saying and what 281 00:18:08,720 --> 00:18:11,119 Speaker 1: do you tell most people? I say, no, that God's 282 00:18:11,160 --> 00:18:15,480 Speaker 1: got you, and it don't matter what's going on, You're 283 00:18:15,480 --> 00:18:18,640 Speaker 1: gonna have what you need and what you can do 284 00:18:19,480 --> 00:18:23,680 Speaker 1: to support others. If that's a concern to you, pray 285 00:18:23,760 --> 00:18:28,800 Speaker 1: for constantly, send prayers out, send light out. You be 286 00:18:28,840 --> 00:18:32,040 Speaker 1: as joyful and peaceful as you can. You call in 287 00:18:32,160 --> 00:18:35,720 Speaker 1: what you need, you know for yourself, so that you 288 00:18:35,920 --> 00:18:40,680 Speaker 1: can be a demonstration to others of what's possible. We're 289 00:18:40,720 --> 00:18:43,359 Speaker 1: looking at the world and all of the wahala and 290 00:18:43,440 --> 00:18:47,600 Speaker 1: the against us and the upset and upheaval, and we're saying, 291 00:18:47,720 --> 00:18:52,600 Speaker 1: we're judging it. We're saying it should not be, but 292 00:18:52,680 --> 00:18:58,200 Speaker 1: it is. So what do you think, in the highest 293 00:18:58,280 --> 00:19:04,560 Speaker 1: realm could possibly be the reason, could be the purpose 294 00:19:05,200 --> 00:19:08,320 Speaker 1: of everything that's going on in the world. What could 295 00:19:08,320 --> 00:19:10,760 Speaker 1: it possibly be? Have you ever thought about that? 296 00:19:11,400 --> 00:19:15,199 Speaker 2: I have I tried to, you know, identify and be 297 00:19:15,320 --> 00:19:19,240 Speaker 2: okay with circumstances and and things that are out of 298 00:19:19,280 --> 00:19:22,280 Speaker 2: my control. I have no control over those things, so 299 00:19:22,840 --> 00:19:26,919 Speaker 2: they're out of my hands generally, and that and on 300 00:19:26,960 --> 00:19:31,359 Speaker 2: a very personal level, you know, when I am praying, 301 00:19:31,840 --> 00:19:35,080 Speaker 2: I'm only me. I only know my space, I only 302 00:19:35,119 --> 00:19:39,760 Speaker 2: know my emotions and my feelings regarding you. Know that circumstance. 303 00:19:39,800 --> 00:19:42,600 Speaker 2: But when I do pray, I do hear that God's 304 00:19:42,640 --> 00:19:46,160 Speaker 2: got me and it has carried me. And not only that, 305 00:19:46,640 --> 00:19:50,359 Speaker 2: you know, just from personal experiences of me, not fully 306 00:19:50,600 --> 00:19:54,720 Speaker 2: understanding you know, everything that's moving or on around me, 307 00:19:55,000 --> 00:19:58,359 Speaker 2: but you know, seeing when when when all the parts 308 00:19:58,359 --> 00:20:01,080 Speaker 2: and the pieces come together, and see that final outcome, 309 00:20:01,160 --> 00:20:04,240 Speaker 2: seeing that, okay, all was good, this is why things 310 00:20:04,240 --> 00:20:06,720 Speaker 2: were moving around, or this is why things have happened, 311 00:20:07,119 --> 00:20:11,040 Speaker 2: or the calm after the storm, you know, when the 312 00:20:11,080 --> 00:20:14,359 Speaker 2: winds are blowing and you know, and it's storm and 313 00:20:14,400 --> 00:20:18,520 Speaker 2: it's scary and it's uncertain, but that that first sunshine 314 00:20:18,560 --> 00:20:22,239 Speaker 2: that breaks, everything is clean, everything is beautiful, you know, 315 00:20:22,320 --> 00:20:25,480 Speaker 2: So it comes full circle. So I do understand the 316 00:20:25,560 --> 00:20:26,520 Speaker 2: balance of that. 317 00:20:26,880 --> 00:20:30,159 Speaker 1: Have you asked in your prayer and meditation what is 318 00:20:30,200 --> 00:20:34,199 Speaker 1: the purpose of going everything that's going on? Have you 319 00:20:34,240 --> 00:20:38,560 Speaker 1: asked that question in your prayer in your meditation? Do 320 00:20:38,640 --> 00:20:40,720 Speaker 1: you think that Do you think that God is with 321 00:20:40,800 --> 00:20:41,920 Speaker 1: the people in Ukraine? 322 00:20:42,560 --> 00:20:46,639 Speaker 2: I think I think God is with all things. You know, 323 00:20:46,720 --> 00:20:50,159 Speaker 2: in my belief system, I believe that God is in 324 00:20:50,240 --> 00:20:53,520 Speaker 2: the midst of all things. You know, God is all. 325 00:20:53,840 --> 00:20:56,320 Speaker 1: If God is in the midst of Ukraine. Do you 326 00:20:56,320 --> 00:21:01,000 Speaker 1: think God was on the capitol on January sixth, because. 327 00:21:00,880 --> 00:21:03,400 Speaker 2: I think there were some things that needed to be exposed. 328 00:21:03,720 --> 00:21:07,960 Speaker 1: Uhhah. And do you think God is in Israel, Gaza, 329 00:21:08,160 --> 00:21:11,359 Speaker 1: Palestine with the Palestinian people right now? 330 00:21:11,760 --> 00:21:13,119 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's in all places. 331 00:21:13,400 --> 00:21:17,040 Speaker 1: I remember I was in New York when the Twin 332 00:21:17,119 --> 00:21:20,520 Speaker 1: Towers fell, when they were attacked and they fell, and 333 00:21:20,560 --> 00:21:25,399 Speaker 1: I remember just weeping, weeping, weeping, weeping when I saw 334 00:21:25,440 --> 00:21:29,879 Speaker 1: that second plane hit. And immediately after I finished weeping, 335 00:21:29,920 --> 00:21:33,159 Speaker 1: I started praying for those who were in the tower, 336 00:21:33,280 --> 00:21:38,000 Speaker 1: those who were who were affected by it, the family members, 337 00:21:38,359 --> 00:21:41,720 Speaker 1: because that's what I could do, That's what I could do. 338 00:21:42,600 --> 00:21:46,080 Speaker 1: And I don't need to know the result of it. 339 00:21:46,200 --> 00:21:48,439 Speaker 1: I don't need to know, but I know my prayer 340 00:21:48,600 --> 00:21:51,760 Speaker 1: was like a pebble in the pond and it rippled 341 00:21:51,800 --> 00:21:57,080 Speaker 1: out and it had an impact to those closest to me, 342 00:21:58,200 --> 00:22:01,080 Speaker 1: to those in the next rain and the next ring 343 00:22:01,200 --> 00:22:05,080 Speaker 1: and the next ring and the next ring. Okay, so 344 00:22:05,160 --> 00:22:08,400 Speaker 1: then what's going on in your nervous system if you're 345 00:22:08,440 --> 00:22:12,840 Speaker 1: looking at these things and you say you know that God, source, Creator, 346 00:22:13,280 --> 00:22:16,560 Speaker 1: higher mind, infinite intelligence, whatever you want to call it 347 00:22:16,600 --> 00:22:19,959 Speaker 1: is in all of this, why is a nervous system 348 00:22:20,080 --> 00:22:22,560 Speaker 1: destroy upset or imbalance. 349 00:22:23,840 --> 00:22:26,480 Speaker 2: I think that trauma can start self in your body. 350 00:22:26,800 --> 00:22:29,080 Speaker 2: I think you know, a lot of times we pay 351 00:22:29,080 --> 00:22:32,720 Speaker 2: a lot of attention to our spirit selves. We pay 352 00:22:32,760 --> 00:22:35,359 Speaker 2: a lot of attention to our mental, but we don't 353 00:22:35,359 --> 00:22:39,679 Speaker 2: really pay as much attention to the physical. And I 354 00:22:39,720 --> 00:22:43,399 Speaker 2: think the trauma does store itself in your body. And 355 00:22:43,880 --> 00:22:46,960 Speaker 2: I think we have to focus on the tryheart figures 356 00:22:47,080 --> 00:22:51,960 Speaker 2: that in contents are being and where I have done 357 00:22:52,000 --> 00:22:56,119 Speaker 2: well with two, maybe lacked in the third or you know, 358 00:22:56,520 --> 00:23:00,119 Speaker 2: physically big going to work out those type of things 359 00:23:00,160 --> 00:23:04,679 Speaker 2: you know on it, but the component of you know, 360 00:23:04,840 --> 00:23:08,560 Speaker 2: fully engaging and understanding that I have to take the 361 00:23:08,600 --> 00:23:11,560 Speaker 2: time to work on relaxing and healing my nervous system 362 00:23:11,640 --> 00:23:12,040 Speaker 2: as well. 363 00:23:14,359 --> 00:23:17,720 Speaker 1: I think it's in your sense I hear I don't 364 00:23:17,760 --> 00:23:20,560 Speaker 1: even think I hear it in your speaking, because I 365 00:23:20,600 --> 00:23:27,040 Speaker 1: started counting, I'm up to nine times you've said I think, 366 00:23:27,720 --> 00:23:32,679 Speaker 1: I think, I think, I think, and thought is energy 367 00:23:33,000 --> 00:23:36,640 Speaker 1: and energy can never be destroyed. It can be transformed, 368 00:23:37,359 --> 00:23:41,760 Speaker 1: but it can't be destroyed. So for you, for all 369 00:23:42,480 --> 00:23:50,920 Speaker 1: folk who are experiencing the impact of what we could 370 00:23:50,960 --> 00:23:55,720 Speaker 1: call trauma or whatever we want to call it. It's 371 00:23:55,840 --> 00:24:01,919 Speaker 1: lodged in our thoughts. See, because if I know that 372 00:24:02,080 --> 00:24:05,720 Speaker 1: God is in the midst of us, if I know 373 00:24:06,560 --> 00:24:10,320 Speaker 1: all things are working out for the good, if I 374 00:24:10,560 --> 00:24:16,000 Speaker 1: know God's source, Creator is sovereign and present and in everything. 375 00:24:16,520 --> 00:24:23,960 Speaker 1: While I may not understand what I'm seeing healing experiencing, 376 00:24:24,760 --> 00:24:30,000 Speaker 1: I know that something greater and grander is going on. 377 00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:34,800 Speaker 1: And I'm going to stick with what I know as 378 00:24:34,800 --> 00:24:39,480 Speaker 1: opposed to what I think, because the judgment could be 379 00:24:39,720 --> 00:24:43,040 Speaker 1: I don't know this to be true, that this is wrong, 380 00:24:43,560 --> 00:24:47,280 Speaker 1: this isn't right, This shouldn't be going on. You said it. 381 00:24:47,800 --> 00:24:50,600 Speaker 1: Things shouldn't be as high as they are now, but 382 00:24:50,680 --> 00:24:53,560 Speaker 1: they are. So I have to know God is in that. 383 00:24:54,240 --> 00:24:56,320 Speaker 1: God is in these high prices. God is in the 384 00:24:56,440 --> 00:25:01,560 Speaker 1: rising hole housing prices. God is in corporate greed. Now, 385 00:25:01,880 --> 00:25:06,560 Speaker 1: what the purpose of it is I may not recognize, 386 00:25:06,720 --> 00:25:11,080 Speaker 1: but I know God has a plan. I know that, 387 00:25:11,680 --> 00:25:14,000 Speaker 1: so I don't have to think about it. Do I 388 00:25:14,119 --> 00:25:19,280 Speaker 1: like what I see? I wouldn't prefer it. It's very unpreferred, 389 00:25:20,880 --> 00:25:24,200 Speaker 1: But I'm not going to condemn it either, because there's 390 00:25:24,280 --> 00:25:28,720 Speaker 1: something greater than me going on and all I can 391 00:25:28,760 --> 00:25:35,240 Speaker 1: ask for. God, give me understanding, give me discernments, give 392 00:25:35,320 --> 00:25:39,240 Speaker 1: me discernment, Tell me what it is I must do, 393 00:25:39,840 --> 00:25:42,960 Speaker 1: how I can do, how I can be of greater service, 394 00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:46,560 Speaker 1: And let me take the emphasis off. Because your central 395 00:25:46,640 --> 00:25:50,960 Speaker 1: nervous system is governed by your will. Your will is 396 00:25:51,080 --> 00:25:55,800 Speaker 1: lodged in your solar plexus, in the center of your being. 397 00:25:56,480 --> 00:26:02,560 Speaker 1: So when our will is either the suppressed depressed, when 398 00:26:02,640 --> 00:26:05,879 Speaker 1: our will is not being mad, then we have to 399 00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:10,080 Speaker 1: unite our will with divine will. Does that make sense 400 00:26:10,119 --> 00:26:14,840 Speaker 1: to you, just ma'am? Okay, So how can you get 401 00:26:15,440 --> 00:26:20,720 Speaker 1: in greater alignment with divine will? We'll talk about that 402 00:26:21,320 --> 00:26:28,879 Speaker 1: right after this break. Welcome back to the R spot. 403 00:26:29,040 --> 00:26:33,160 Speaker 1: Let's get back to the conversation. You said you're a realtor. 404 00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:37,040 Speaker 1: Have you affirmed that. I know these are difficult, challenging 405 00:26:37,280 --> 00:26:41,440 Speaker 1: These may look like difficult and challenging times, but every 406 00:26:41,480 --> 00:26:43,720 Speaker 1: single one of my clients is going to find the 407 00:26:43,760 --> 00:26:47,320 Speaker 1: perfect home and the perfect financing for that home. Thank 408 00:26:47,359 --> 00:26:52,119 Speaker 1: you God, just ma'am. As opposed to going into a 409 00:26:52,320 --> 00:26:54,920 Speaker 1: potential sale with oh my god, I know this price 410 00:26:55,000 --> 00:26:57,320 Speaker 1: is high. Ten years ago they could have got this house. 411 00:26:57,760 --> 00:27:01,440 Speaker 1: No No, this is my client. My client is surrounded 412 00:27:01,480 --> 00:27:04,800 Speaker 1: by goodness and they're going to find the home. They're 413 00:27:04,800 --> 00:27:08,920 Speaker 1: going to get the financing because that's God's will. 414 00:27:09,280 --> 00:27:14,080 Speaker 2: Yes, ma'am. And you know, and I am very optimistic 415 00:27:14,160 --> 00:27:17,879 Speaker 2: with my clients, you know. I feel like, you know, 416 00:27:17,920 --> 00:27:21,320 Speaker 2: it's one of those things where it will, it will 417 00:27:21,400 --> 00:27:25,280 Speaker 2: resolve itself. It's not the first time we've faced, you know, inflation. 418 00:27:25,440 --> 00:27:30,200 Speaker 2: It's not the first time we've heard rumors or even experience, 419 00:27:30,600 --> 00:27:36,439 Speaker 2: you know, what people would call a recession. And you know, 420 00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:40,400 Speaker 2: and the years I've been on this planet, things are 421 00:27:40,400 --> 00:27:44,280 Speaker 2: work themselves out. And so yeah, that's really what keeps 422 00:27:44,359 --> 00:27:49,359 Speaker 2: me going is that you know, we're resilient people, you know, 423 00:27:49,480 --> 00:27:53,399 Speaker 2: and that it's a resilient planet and things will work 424 00:27:53,440 --> 00:27:54,240 Speaker 2: itself out. 425 00:27:56,520 --> 00:28:00,440 Speaker 1: I want you to get more into your being because 426 00:28:00,480 --> 00:28:05,439 Speaker 1: you're talking about your central nervous system and your well being, 427 00:28:06,000 --> 00:28:10,560 Speaker 1: and you continue to externalize we are resilient people. We are, 428 00:28:10,840 --> 00:28:13,639 Speaker 1: you know, we we we How about I am a 429 00:28:13,720 --> 00:28:19,199 Speaker 1: resilient being. I am you know, grounded and centered in 430 00:28:19,280 --> 00:28:23,000 Speaker 1: truth and light because if you get it cleared up 431 00:28:23,040 --> 00:28:27,320 Speaker 1: in you, you can be such a powerful demonstration for others. 432 00:28:27,960 --> 00:28:31,679 Speaker 1: But you keep externalizing talking in the third person as 433 00:28:31,720 --> 00:28:34,439 Speaker 1: opposed to the first person. Are you aware of that. 434 00:28:35,880 --> 00:28:39,520 Speaker 2: As you point it out? And I find and I 435 00:28:39,600 --> 00:28:43,760 Speaker 2: gather strength, and you know, and seeing helping other people 436 00:28:43,800 --> 00:28:46,920 Speaker 2: to win, and seeing other people you know do good 437 00:28:46,960 --> 00:28:51,440 Speaker 2: and celebrating other people. So I do I do too, 438 00:28:53,040 --> 00:28:53,560 Speaker 2: I do too. 439 00:28:54,040 --> 00:28:57,600 Speaker 1: But you know what, here's my principle. My cup runneth over. 440 00:28:57,680 --> 00:29:00,600 Speaker 1: But what's in the cup is mind. I've got to 441 00:29:00,640 --> 00:29:04,200 Speaker 1: keep my cup full. So my cup has to be 442 00:29:04,320 --> 00:29:08,920 Speaker 1: full in order for me to be able to clearly 443 00:29:09,120 --> 00:29:13,000 Speaker 1: serve and support and be a benefit to other people. 444 00:29:13,480 --> 00:29:16,120 Speaker 1: And if my central nervous system is shot the hell 445 00:29:16,160 --> 00:29:20,160 Speaker 1: because of trauma and upset, I'm my cupping full. Keep 446 00:29:20,200 --> 00:29:24,320 Speaker 1: your cup full? Start with you. How do we clean 447 00:29:24,400 --> 00:29:28,400 Speaker 1: up your central nervous system? What is going on that? 448 00:29:28,960 --> 00:29:32,840 Speaker 1: How can you shift your perspective? What judgments do you 449 00:29:32,960 --> 00:29:36,440 Speaker 1: need to release? What is How do you get deeper 450 00:29:36,480 --> 00:29:40,840 Speaker 1: into your knowing and lessen your thinking? How can we 451 00:29:40,880 --> 00:29:45,320 Speaker 1: do that? I serve other people all day long. I 452 00:29:45,360 --> 00:29:49,640 Speaker 1: was up at six thirty this morning serving people after 453 00:29:49,640 --> 00:29:52,640 Speaker 1: I went to bed at three twenty. How can you 454 00:29:52,680 --> 00:29:53,040 Speaker 1: do that? 455 00:29:53,920 --> 00:29:56,920 Speaker 2: I guess you know I have to continue to just 456 00:29:56,960 --> 00:30:01,840 Speaker 2: do the work and give myself the space to focus 457 00:30:01,880 --> 00:30:02,560 Speaker 2: on myself. 458 00:30:03,360 --> 00:30:08,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, you don't sound too happy about that. Could you 459 00:30:08,520 --> 00:30:09,920 Speaker 1: say that with a little more joy? 460 00:30:10,120 --> 00:30:12,880 Speaker 2: Isolation is not a strong suit for me, you know, 461 00:30:13,400 --> 00:30:16,560 Speaker 2: I think, Yeah, isolation. 462 00:30:16,240 --> 00:30:21,120 Speaker 1: Is not like isolation? Where where are you hearing isolation? 463 00:30:21,280 --> 00:30:24,959 Speaker 1: Where are you hearing that in my communication? Is that 464 00:30:25,040 --> 00:30:26,840 Speaker 1: what you're hearing I'm asking you to do. 465 00:30:27,400 --> 00:30:30,760 Speaker 2: When I'm focusing on myself, I generally do tend to isolate. 466 00:30:32,440 --> 00:30:36,480 Speaker 1: That's interesting, So you mean tell me what that looks 467 00:30:36,560 --> 00:30:39,840 Speaker 1: like when you're focusing on yourself and you're isolating. Tell 468 00:30:39,880 --> 00:30:40,600 Speaker 1: me how that works. 469 00:30:40,800 --> 00:30:44,920 Speaker 2: Well, when I'm focusing on myself, like I really go 470 00:30:45,240 --> 00:30:48,200 Speaker 2: in work and so you know, it's like if I 471 00:30:48,240 --> 00:30:51,480 Speaker 2: feel like, you know, I want to process the feelings. 472 00:30:51,520 --> 00:30:53,840 Speaker 2: I want to know that these are my feelings that 473 00:30:53,920 --> 00:30:57,680 Speaker 2: they're you know, not. I don't like a lot of 474 00:30:57,800 --> 00:31:02,800 Speaker 2: outside chatter or or noise. So yeah, I generally do 475 00:31:02,960 --> 00:31:07,840 Speaker 2: tend to just get still and you know, get to 476 00:31:07,960 --> 00:31:12,880 Speaker 2: myself and isolate. But how long set out a lot 477 00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:16,800 Speaker 2: of outside sometimes for short periods of time, sometimes for 478 00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:20,160 Speaker 2: long periods of time. It just kind of all depends 479 00:31:20,240 --> 00:31:24,280 Speaker 2: on you. Know, once I feel whatever turmoil or conflict 480 00:31:24,360 --> 00:31:27,720 Speaker 2: that's been resolved, then you know, I feel like, okay, 481 00:31:27,800 --> 00:31:30,280 Speaker 2: now I can go back and present myself. But it's 482 00:31:30,360 --> 00:31:34,320 Speaker 2: been long periods of time. Sometimes sometimes it's it may 483 00:31:34,440 --> 00:31:36,440 Speaker 2: just be for a couple of hours. It may just 484 00:31:36,480 --> 00:31:38,760 Speaker 2: be for a day. Sometimes it might be for weeks. 485 00:31:38,840 --> 00:31:42,480 Speaker 2: Sometimes it might be for months. But yeah, I generally 486 00:31:42,520 --> 00:31:43,480 Speaker 2: tend to isolate. 487 00:31:44,000 --> 00:31:46,360 Speaker 1: Do you have a god jar? Do you know what 488 00:31:46,400 --> 00:31:49,800 Speaker 1: a god jar is? I do not? Or god box? 489 00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:52,880 Speaker 1: Do you know what that is? Okay, I used to 490 00:31:53,080 --> 00:31:56,200 Speaker 1: have a god jar. I got an old man aged 491 00:31:56,240 --> 00:31:59,640 Speaker 1: jar and I cleaned it out and I decorated mine. 492 00:31:59,640 --> 00:32:02,000 Speaker 1: Because I'm a vergo, I gotta do some glitter. I 493 00:32:02,080 --> 00:32:06,600 Speaker 1: gotta do it. I have to do some bling on everything. Okay. 494 00:32:07,600 --> 00:32:09,280 Speaker 1: So I got this old man aged jar and I 495 00:32:09,360 --> 00:32:11,280 Speaker 1: blined it out. I mean, I put a little skirt 496 00:32:11,320 --> 00:32:14,160 Speaker 1: on it with a rubber band and put some glitter 497 00:32:14,240 --> 00:32:17,160 Speaker 1: on it, and I put a name on it, Godja. 498 00:32:17,880 --> 00:32:23,920 Speaker 1: Every time, any time anything would come up to disturb 499 00:32:24,120 --> 00:32:27,200 Speaker 1: or disrupt my piece, I would write it down on 500 00:32:27,240 --> 00:32:29,280 Speaker 1: a piece of paper and put it in the god jar. 501 00:32:30,120 --> 00:32:33,479 Speaker 1: And if it came up again, literally on the spot, 502 00:32:33,560 --> 00:32:36,280 Speaker 1: I would say, oh, that's in the godjar. It's not 503 00:32:36,400 --> 00:32:39,520 Speaker 1: my job, that's a god job. And I had to 504 00:32:39,640 --> 00:32:42,920 Speaker 1: literally walk around with a little pad of paper and 505 00:32:42,960 --> 00:32:45,040 Speaker 1: I'd write stuff down and fold it up. When I 506 00:32:45,080 --> 00:32:46,680 Speaker 1: got back home, I'd put it in the god jar. 507 00:32:46,800 --> 00:32:50,320 Speaker 1: I still have it. I still have my godjab. That 508 00:32:50,400 --> 00:32:52,840 Speaker 1: might be something you want to work with. And if 509 00:32:52,880 --> 00:32:54,680 Speaker 1: you don't want to do it at the physical level, 510 00:32:54,760 --> 00:32:57,560 Speaker 1: do it in your mind. Create a box of light 511 00:32:57,840 --> 00:33:02,560 Speaker 1: or a holy what ever in your mind. And when 512 00:33:02,680 --> 00:33:06,520 Speaker 1: things are disturbing you, distressing you, upsetting it, put it 513 00:33:06,520 --> 00:33:08,800 Speaker 1: in the god jar. And the intention of the god 514 00:33:08,920 --> 00:33:11,720 Speaker 1: jar is to take it off your plate and put 515 00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:16,680 Speaker 1: it in God's hands. I don't care inflation, political corruption, 516 00:33:17,200 --> 00:33:20,560 Speaker 1: which you said, social injustice. Put it in the god jar. 517 00:33:21,320 --> 00:33:23,440 Speaker 1: And those are things that you can also include in 518 00:33:23,480 --> 00:33:26,960 Speaker 1: your prayer. You can lift them up. So that's one 519 00:33:27,000 --> 00:33:30,360 Speaker 1: thing that you can do so that you're doing your work, 520 00:33:30,440 --> 00:33:34,560 Speaker 1: taking care of yourself, inviting God into the process, and 521 00:33:34,640 --> 00:33:38,040 Speaker 1: taking some things off your mind. Because like I said, 522 00:33:38,080 --> 00:33:41,560 Speaker 1: you say I think a lot as opposed to I know. 523 00:33:42,200 --> 00:33:44,840 Speaker 1: Does that make sense to you? Yes, you might want 524 00:33:45,200 --> 00:33:50,720 Speaker 1: yeah it does, Okay, Well make you a godjar. 525 00:33:51,240 --> 00:33:52,440 Speaker 2: I would definitely do that. 526 00:33:53,040 --> 00:33:54,520 Speaker 1: Okay, all right, my love. 527 00:33:54,640 --> 00:33:57,600 Speaker 2: I could sit here and listen to you all day, 528 00:33:58,040 --> 00:34:01,360 Speaker 2: but I have to return to work. Thank you so much. 529 00:34:01,680 --> 00:34:04,360 Speaker 2: Put it in the God jar now you supposed it. 530 00:34:05,000 --> 00:34:11,839 Speaker 1: Okay, Bye bye. I wonder how many of us out 531 00:34:11,880 --> 00:34:17,400 Speaker 1: there need a God jar where we can put our concerns, 532 00:34:17,600 --> 00:34:24,600 Speaker 1: our worries, our troubles, our judgments are against this about 533 00:34:24,600 --> 00:34:27,239 Speaker 1: what we see in the world. We can put it 534 00:34:27,280 --> 00:34:30,799 Speaker 1: in the God jar and understand it's a God job 535 00:34:31,600 --> 00:34:33,680 Speaker 1: and there's nothing we need to do about it. I 536 00:34:33,719 --> 00:34:37,520 Speaker 1: know that may sound silly, but sometimes to have a 537 00:34:37,760 --> 00:34:44,279 Speaker 1: physical representation of it helps us to process through it. 538 00:34:44,680 --> 00:34:47,360 Speaker 1: I can now do it in my mind. I have 539 00:34:47,440 --> 00:34:50,160 Speaker 1: a purse in my brain. This is the Holy Spirit purse, 540 00:34:50,520 --> 00:34:53,080 Speaker 1: and I'm putting this in the Holy Spirits purse. I'm 541 00:34:53,120 --> 00:34:56,640 Speaker 1: filling your purse up, Holy Spirit. I'm hearing this thing, 542 00:34:57,080 --> 00:35:00,919 Speaker 1: you know for me right now. It's about Haiti. Every 543 00:35:01,000 --> 00:35:04,640 Speaker 1: day I've got some you know, traumatic thought about Haiti, 544 00:35:04,680 --> 00:35:06,800 Speaker 1: and every day I put it in the Holy Spirits purse. 545 00:35:07,360 --> 00:35:12,279 Speaker 1: Feed the babies, calm the streets down, make sure the 546 00:35:12,640 --> 00:35:16,319 Speaker 1: pregnant women have food. Today, Holy spirit and I put 547 00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:19,919 Speaker 1: that in the in the holy spirits person, I don't 548 00:35:19,920 --> 00:35:22,399 Speaker 1: think about it, but for years I had a god 549 00:35:22,520 --> 00:35:26,200 Speaker 1: jar where I would write stuff down on my little 550 00:35:26,239 --> 00:35:30,279 Speaker 1: sticky notes and put it in the god jar. Yes, 551 00:35:30,400 --> 00:35:34,239 Speaker 1: there is a lot going on in the world and 552 00:35:34,320 --> 00:35:38,400 Speaker 1: it does impact us, and we owe it to ourselves. 553 00:35:38,560 --> 00:35:41,200 Speaker 1: You owe it to yourself. I owe it to myself 554 00:35:41,840 --> 00:35:45,800 Speaker 1: to take care of me first, because some of what's 555 00:35:45,840 --> 00:35:50,400 Speaker 1: going on with people, it's none of my business. My 556 00:35:50,560 --> 00:35:54,520 Speaker 1: business is to be as strong and it's centered, as 557 00:35:54,640 --> 00:35:59,279 Speaker 1: grounded as I possibly can be, moment by moment, so 558 00:35:59,320 --> 00:36:02,960 Speaker 1: that if some one shows up in my life that 559 00:36:03,080 --> 00:36:07,520 Speaker 1: needs help, support, encouragement, that I can be a great 560 00:36:07,600 --> 00:36:10,759 Speaker 1: Bible for them to read in the moment. And some 561 00:36:10,800 --> 00:36:14,239 Speaker 1: of us don't even have the problems and the concerns, 562 00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:17,920 Speaker 1: but we're worrying about it for other people, not knowing 563 00:36:18,200 --> 00:36:22,000 Speaker 1: that all things are working out toward good. I don't 564 00:36:22,080 --> 00:36:24,440 Speaker 1: understand what good is going to come out of Ukraine 565 00:36:24,480 --> 00:36:29,040 Speaker 1: and Russia or Israel and Gaza. I don't understand who's 566 00:36:29,080 --> 00:36:32,200 Speaker 1: in the Hamas and do they have mothers and did 567 00:36:32,239 --> 00:36:35,960 Speaker 1: their mother teach a manners? You know, I don't understand that. 568 00:36:36,440 --> 00:36:39,280 Speaker 1: But I can put that in the Holy Spirit's purse 569 00:36:39,680 --> 00:36:43,839 Speaker 1: and ask for understanding, Ask how I should be with it. 570 00:36:44,400 --> 00:36:49,440 Speaker 1: Ask here's my prayer about it. And it's because everybody thinks, 571 00:36:49,520 --> 00:36:53,600 Speaker 1: as a lowly human being that they have control, that 572 00:36:53,640 --> 00:36:56,719 Speaker 1: they're in charge, and that the way they see it 573 00:36:56,760 --> 00:36:58,520 Speaker 1: and the way they want it is the way it is. 574 00:37:00,040 --> 00:37:02,839 Speaker 1: So if ten people do it, it's one thing. If 575 00:37:03,320 --> 00:37:06,920 Speaker 1: twenty people do it, it's another thing. But when thousands 576 00:37:06,920 --> 00:37:10,880 Speaker 1: of people are each holding the same idea, if things 577 00:37:10,920 --> 00:37:14,160 Speaker 1: are the way I see them, things have to be 578 00:37:14,280 --> 00:37:16,759 Speaker 1: the way I want them. Things have to be done 579 00:37:16,800 --> 00:37:19,040 Speaker 1: the way I think they should be done. Well, now 580 00:37:19,080 --> 00:37:24,160 Speaker 1: we've got the world that we're in, you know, I 581 00:37:24,200 --> 00:37:28,000 Speaker 1: think what's going on in the world can give us 582 00:37:28,280 --> 00:37:36,600 Speaker 1: the invitation and the opportunity to be more conscious and 583 00:37:36,719 --> 00:37:43,239 Speaker 1: purposeful and selective about what we take on, how we 584 00:37:43,360 --> 00:37:46,320 Speaker 1: take it on, and what we do with it. Yeah. 585 00:37:46,400 --> 00:37:49,239 Speaker 1: So I hope you've heard something today that you can 586 00:37:49,400 --> 00:37:52,439 Speaker 1: use in your own life and that you will put 587 00:37:52,480 --> 00:37:55,880 Speaker 1: it to practice. Because we're in this world together. The 588 00:37:55,880 --> 00:38:00,239 Speaker 1: beloved philosopher Algiau told us that we're in the this 589 00:38:00,280 --> 00:38:03,400 Speaker 1: world together. He said, in this love, we're in this 590 00:38:03,640 --> 00:38:09,520 Speaker 1: love together in a time that will last forever. Know 591 00:38:09,640 --> 00:38:13,040 Speaker 1: that I love you today and I really invite you 592 00:38:13,120 --> 00:38:17,200 Speaker 1: to stay in peace and not pieces. I'll see you 593 00:38:17,239 --> 00:38:26,240 Speaker 1: next time. Bye, favor. The R Spot is a production 594 00:38:26,560 --> 00:38:31,920 Speaker 1: of Shondaland Audio in partnership with iHeartRadio. For more podcasts 595 00:38:31,960 --> 00:38:37,160 Speaker 1: from Shondaland Audio, visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or 596 00:38:37,200 --> 00:38:41,000 Speaker 1: wherever you listen to your favorite shows.