1 00:00:02,240 --> 00:00:05,600 Speaker 1: When a teenager gets pregnant, it becomes a family affair. 2 00:00:05,760 --> 00:00:09,960 Speaker 1: T LC's new series Unexpected explores the ups and downs 3 00:00:10,039 --> 00:00:13,080 Speaker 1: of three pregnant teens who are all children of teen 4 00:00:13,200 --> 00:00:16,680 Speaker 1: mothers themselves. Parents and grandparents must step in to help 5 00:00:16,720 --> 00:00:20,320 Speaker 1: them through this huge life change. Don't miss the revealing 6 00:00:20,400 --> 00:00:24,880 Speaker 1: new series Unexpected Sunday, November twelve at ten nine Central 7 00:00:25,000 --> 00:00:28,400 Speaker 1: on t l C. Can't wait Watch the early premiere 8 00:00:28,480 --> 00:00:31,840 Speaker 1: now on t LC. Go download the free app now 9 00:00:32,960 --> 00:00:36,240 Speaker 1: It's time would R letter thank you tell me subjects 10 00:00:36,280 --> 00:00:39,200 Speaker 1: moving out? Hey Steve, I'm a twenty one year old 11 00:00:39,200 --> 00:00:41,919 Speaker 1: young man that is in desperate need of advice. My 12 00:00:41,960 --> 00:00:44,200 Speaker 1: father passed when I was twelve, so I have very 13 00:00:44,240 --> 00:00:46,640 Speaker 1: little men to choose from when it comes to advice. 14 00:00:47,000 --> 00:00:49,360 Speaker 1: I am currently in a relationship that at last, that 15 00:00:49,440 --> 00:00:52,000 Speaker 1: has last at two plus years. I've even asked her 16 00:00:52,040 --> 00:00:54,680 Speaker 1: to marry me and she said yes. But I was 17 00:00:54,720 --> 00:00:56,880 Speaker 1: thinking that I would be the one setting the pace 18 00:00:56,920 --> 00:00:59,920 Speaker 1: of the relationship. But she wants to move forward. I'm 19 00:01:00,000 --> 00:01:02,600 Speaker 1: not ready to move out my mother's house yet. I 20 00:01:02,680 --> 00:01:06,000 Speaker 1: always have this vision of me being comfortable in my career, 21 00:01:06,080 --> 00:01:10,440 Speaker 1: job situation. When I decided to step out. I'm scared, Steve. 22 00:01:10,840 --> 00:01:13,240 Speaker 1: She even tries to give me target dates of when 23 00:01:13,280 --> 00:01:15,399 Speaker 1: I need to be ready to fly the coop. I 24 00:01:15,480 --> 00:01:18,360 Speaker 1: even made a career change to pursue being a police 25 00:01:18,360 --> 00:01:22,200 Speaker 1: officer because it won't take long to start and I 26 00:01:22,240 --> 00:01:24,600 Speaker 1: can at least have some comfort when I move out, 27 00:01:24,959 --> 00:01:27,560 Speaker 1: even if it is still too early for my standards. 28 00:01:27,720 --> 00:01:31,240 Speaker 1: I'm still waiting to start the academy. Therefore, I'm unemployed. 29 00:01:31,560 --> 00:01:34,440 Speaker 1: What do I do? Oh? And, by the way, she says, 30 00:01:34,520 --> 00:01:37,119 Speaker 1: I put her second, but tried to explain to her 31 00:01:37,160 --> 00:01:39,360 Speaker 1: that when you stack yourself next to my mom, you 32 00:01:39,440 --> 00:01:42,600 Speaker 1: are second because Mama is all I have left, and 33 00:01:42,640 --> 00:01:44,720 Speaker 1: I know that's the one person that will have my 34 00:01:44,840 --> 00:01:48,120 Speaker 1: back when all else failed. Was I wrong? Just please 35 00:01:48,160 --> 00:01:50,680 Speaker 1: help me? Hurry up. I'm typing this on my iPhone 36 00:01:50,720 --> 00:01:55,400 Speaker 1: while she's in the shower. Gotta take her to work. 37 00:01:55,400 --> 00:01:57,360 Speaker 1: To me, this is a case of too much too soon. 38 00:01:57,640 --> 00:01:59,600 Speaker 1: I think you need to slow down a little bit. 39 00:01:59,600 --> 00:02:02,000 Speaker 1: You're me one with your whole life ahead of you. 40 00:02:02,800 --> 00:02:05,000 Speaker 1: But but you're not going about it the right way. 41 00:02:05,040 --> 00:02:08,200 Speaker 1: I'll say that you have great ideas, uh, but but 42 00:02:08,280 --> 00:02:11,840 Speaker 1: you're moving fast with no direction. I say, get yourself 43 00:02:11,840 --> 00:02:15,200 Speaker 1: a plan like some long term short term goals like 44 00:02:15,280 --> 00:02:17,680 Speaker 1: you know, get your job, get that in place, make 45 00:02:17,760 --> 00:02:20,200 Speaker 1: some money first, then get yourself an apartment and move 46 00:02:20,240 --> 00:02:22,840 Speaker 1: out of your mom's house. Uh. Then later on, if 47 00:02:22,840 --> 00:02:25,360 Speaker 1: you want to propose and get engaged to your girlfriend, 48 00:02:25,400 --> 00:02:28,040 Speaker 1: then you can do it. But you sound like, um, 49 00:02:28,080 --> 00:02:31,480 Speaker 1: you are scared of her, and you said you're scared. Uh, 50 00:02:31,760 --> 00:02:34,200 Speaker 1: trust me, you know when and if you want to 51 00:02:34,240 --> 00:02:38,400 Speaker 1: marry this girl or or whoever, you will have to 52 00:02:38,440 --> 00:02:42,959 Speaker 1: put her not your mother first though. Okay, I don't 53 00:02:43,000 --> 00:02:45,520 Speaker 1: know when you asked her to marry her, she somehow 54 00:02:45,520 --> 00:02:47,360 Speaker 1: in her mind got the impression that you wanted to 55 00:02:47,400 --> 00:02:49,120 Speaker 1: do it right now, and then you need to sit 56 00:02:49,160 --> 00:02:51,480 Speaker 1: down and have a conversation with her and tell her 57 00:02:51,520 --> 00:02:58,560 Speaker 1: not now, when you get yourself together. Steve, Well, uh, 58 00:02:58,639 --> 00:03:01,519 Speaker 1: just because of the last statement you Shirley, because of 59 00:03:01,520 --> 00:03:03,639 Speaker 1: the last statement you just said, I'm gonna start here. 60 00:03:04,800 --> 00:03:09,680 Speaker 1: This whole letter seems to be a letter of I 61 00:03:09,720 --> 00:03:11,600 Speaker 1: think the only reason you asked this girl to marry 62 00:03:11,639 --> 00:03:13,800 Speaker 1: her is because she wanted you to ask her to 63 00:03:13,880 --> 00:03:16,760 Speaker 1: marry her, or she told you to ask her to 64 00:03:16,840 --> 00:03:20,160 Speaker 1: marry her. That's all I see in this letter a 65 00:03:20,400 --> 00:03:23,120 Speaker 1: young man. Um, I'm gonna say this up top and 66 00:03:23,200 --> 00:03:26,560 Speaker 1: case I run out of time. You are not ready, 67 00:03:26,680 --> 00:03:30,400 Speaker 1: by any stretch of the imagination, to be anybody's husband. 68 00:03:31,560 --> 00:03:34,120 Speaker 1: I could speak from experience, because the first time I 69 00:03:34,160 --> 00:03:37,080 Speaker 1: got married, I was I was this kind of guy 70 00:03:37,800 --> 00:03:40,680 Speaker 1: and I shouldn't have done it. And all you're going 71 00:03:40,800 --> 00:03:45,640 Speaker 1: to do is, um, not be able to fulfill this 72 00:03:45,680 --> 00:03:47,760 Speaker 1: woman and not be able to hold up your end 73 00:03:47,800 --> 00:03:50,320 Speaker 1: of the bargain. And I just don't think you're ready 74 00:03:50,880 --> 00:03:54,200 Speaker 1: for marriage. You've been in relationship two plus years. You're 75 00:03:54,240 --> 00:03:57,000 Speaker 1: only twenty one, so you got this radio relationship when 76 00:03:57,000 --> 00:03:59,920 Speaker 1: you were eighteen and a half years old or nineteen 77 00:04:00,000 --> 00:04:03,160 Speaker 1: and whatever the man fears. Uh, you've asked her to 78 00:04:03,240 --> 00:04:06,040 Speaker 1: marry you. She said yes, But I was thinking that 79 00:04:06,960 --> 00:04:09,440 Speaker 1: you would be the one setting the pace for the relationship. 80 00:04:09,520 --> 00:04:12,000 Speaker 1: Well be she wants again. That's why I think she 81 00:04:12,320 --> 00:04:14,840 Speaker 1: forced you. Well, not forced you, but she made it 82 00:04:14,880 --> 00:04:17,360 Speaker 1: a requirement to asked her to marry to you, and 83 00:04:17,440 --> 00:04:20,440 Speaker 1: you did it and not even ready. You're not setting 84 00:04:20,480 --> 00:04:22,680 Speaker 1: the pace. But she wants to move forward. But I'm 85 00:04:22,720 --> 00:04:26,040 Speaker 1: not ready to move out of my mother's house yet. 86 00:04:26,920 --> 00:04:30,719 Speaker 1: I hope this girl is listening to this show this morning, 87 00:04:31,240 --> 00:04:34,680 Speaker 1: because that's the line right there. I'm not ready to 88 00:04:34,760 --> 00:04:39,560 Speaker 1: move out of my mother's house yet. Young ladies, if 89 00:04:39,600 --> 00:04:43,119 Speaker 1: a man says to you, excuse me, if a boy 90 00:04:43,200 --> 00:04:46,400 Speaker 1: says to you he's not ready to move out of 91 00:04:46,480 --> 00:04:49,680 Speaker 1: his mama's house yet, I can't tell you what else 92 00:04:49,720 --> 00:04:53,000 Speaker 1: he ain't ready for. Because most twenty one year old 93 00:04:53,040 --> 00:04:55,920 Speaker 1: young men that I know, that's all they're trying to 94 00:04:56,000 --> 00:05:00,640 Speaker 1: do is get themselves on their own. He says clearly, 95 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:05,000 Speaker 1: he's not ready to move out of my mama's house yet. 96 00:05:05,279 --> 00:05:08,400 Speaker 1: When we come back, we will get into this line 97 00:05:08,520 --> 00:05:11,960 Speaker 1: right here. You're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show. 98 00:05:12,920 --> 00:05:16,240 Speaker 1: When a teenager gets pregnant, it becomes a family affair. 99 00:05:16,440 --> 00:05:20,640 Speaker 1: T LC's new series Unexpected explores the ups and downs 100 00:05:20,680 --> 00:05:23,760 Speaker 1: of three pregnant teens who are all children of teen 101 00:05:23,839 --> 00:05:27,360 Speaker 1: mothers themselves, parents and grandparents must step in to help 102 00:05:27,400 --> 00:05:31,000 Speaker 1: them through this huge life change. Don't miss the revealing 103 00:05:31,040 --> 00:05:35,520 Speaker 1: new series Unexpected Sunday, November twelve at ten nine Central 104 00:05:35,680 --> 00:05:39,440 Speaker 1: on t LC. Can't wait Watch the early premiere now 105 00:05:39,600 --> 00:05:45,960 Speaker 1: on t LC Go download the free app now. She 106 00:05:46,120 --> 00:05:49,440 Speaker 1: says that I put her second, but try to explain 107 00:05:49,480 --> 00:05:51,880 Speaker 1: to her that when you stack yourself up next to 108 00:05:51,960 --> 00:06:01,000 Speaker 1: my mom, you are second. Okay, what, lady, I hope 109 00:06:01,000 --> 00:06:04,520 Speaker 1: you're listening, but this is this is a disaster in 110 00:06:04,560 --> 00:06:08,080 Speaker 1: the making, and young man, I'll have more advice for 111 00:06:08,120 --> 00:06:10,839 Speaker 1: you when we come back. Right now, Come on, Steve, 112 00:06:11,120 --> 00:06:14,479 Speaker 1: Part two, your response to today's strawberry letter. Let's go 113 00:06:14,839 --> 00:06:16,680 Speaker 1: This a letter from this twenty one year old man 114 00:06:16,760 --> 00:06:21,159 Speaker 1: who's currently relationship for two and a half years. Obviously, 115 00:06:21,240 --> 00:06:23,919 Speaker 1: his woman has set some target dates and he says 116 00:06:23,920 --> 00:06:25,920 Speaker 1: he's just not ready to move out of my mother's 117 00:06:25,960 --> 00:06:28,240 Speaker 1: house yet. Uh. He said they always had a vision 118 00:06:28,279 --> 00:06:31,560 Speaker 1: of being comfortable in his career, job situation before he 119 00:06:31,600 --> 00:06:34,800 Speaker 1: decided to step out. He says, I'm scared, Steve, she 120 00:06:34,920 --> 00:06:37,240 Speaker 1: even tries to give me target dates when I need 121 00:06:37,240 --> 00:06:39,800 Speaker 1: to be ready. Well, a woman has a right to 122 00:06:39,839 --> 00:06:42,720 Speaker 1: want what she wants, young Galver. The problem is if 123 00:06:42,800 --> 00:06:46,239 Speaker 1: if you're not ready for marriage, then this isn't gonna 124 00:06:46,279 --> 00:06:50,160 Speaker 1: be good for her or you because you're not ready. Uh. 125 00:06:50,279 --> 00:06:54,000 Speaker 1: Then you said that I even made a career change 126 00:06:54,040 --> 00:06:57,120 Speaker 1: to pursue being a police officer because it won't take 127 00:06:57,160 --> 00:06:58,839 Speaker 1: that long to start and I could at least have 128 00:06:58,960 --> 00:07:01,479 Speaker 1: some comfort when I moved about, even if it's still 129 00:07:01,520 --> 00:07:05,200 Speaker 1: too early for my standards. Son, the last thing you 130 00:07:05,240 --> 00:07:08,800 Speaker 1: need to be is a police officer. You ain't even 131 00:07:08,880 --> 00:07:11,440 Speaker 1: ready to move out your mama's house, but you're ready 132 00:07:11,480 --> 00:07:13,400 Speaker 1: to be a police officer. Do you know the day 133 00:07:13,440 --> 00:07:15,760 Speaker 1: to day sision situations to leave me and or women 134 00:07:15,840 --> 00:07:19,280 Speaker 1: have to face with. Do you understand what they have 135 00:07:19,440 --> 00:07:21,640 Speaker 1: to go through? You ain't ready to move out your 136 00:07:21,680 --> 00:07:25,440 Speaker 1: mama's house. You clearly, clearly should not be a police officer. 137 00:07:25,880 --> 00:07:28,600 Speaker 1: You can't go on one domestic dispute and settle it 138 00:07:28,640 --> 00:07:31,600 Speaker 1: because you can't even settle your own son. Please get 139 00:07:31,640 --> 00:07:35,760 Speaker 1: the academy out your mind, because you ain't ready for that. Um, 140 00:07:35,840 --> 00:07:38,600 Speaker 1: she's but and then he says, oh yeah. By the way, 141 00:07:38,640 --> 00:07:41,040 Speaker 1: she says that I put her second. But I tried 142 00:07:41,080 --> 00:07:43,520 Speaker 1: to explain her that when you stack yourself up next 143 00:07:43,520 --> 00:07:47,120 Speaker 1: to my mom, you are second right there. Brother, you 144 00:07:47,640 --> 00:07:50,080 Speaker 1: that's the wrong thing to say to a woman, regardless 145 00:07:50,080 --> 00:07:52,840 Speaker 1: as to how you feel. Look, you're gonna always love 146 00:07:52,880 --> 00:07:54,800 Speaker 1: and honor your mother. I still on a mind, and 147 00:07:54,920 --> 00:07:57,120 Speaker 1: she's not even hearing them all. I got that. But 148 00:07:57,480 --> 00:08:00,560 Speaker 1: when you take on a wife. Man, you can't have 149 00:08:00,680 --> 00:08:03,760 Speaker 1: your mama in front. You're the danger right here. Really, 150 00:08:03,880 --> 00:08:05,880 Speaker 1: young man, I hate to tell you this is that 151 00:08:05,960 --> 00:08:08,720 Speaker 1: you're the woman that you're with is in love with 152 00:08:08,760 --> 00:08:12,800 Speaker 1: a mama's boy, and you can't be a good husband 153 00:08:12,840 --> 00:08:15,680 Speaker 1: and be a mama's boy at the same time. And 154 00:08:15,720 --> 00:08:18,040 Speaker 1: this is really you, man. You you've got to be 155 00:08:18,120 --> 00:08:20,720 Speaker 1: ready to man up, leave your mama's house. You're not 156 00:08:20,760 --> 00:08:23,440 Speaker 1: even ready to leave your mother's house. That's not a 157 00:08:23,440 --> 00:08:27,400 Speaker 1: good sign about ready to even enter into manhood on 158 00:08:27,480 --> 00:08:31,440 Speaker 1: your own. If you're not ready or willing to take 159 00:08:31,480 --> 00:08:34,839 Speaker 1: care of just yourself, taking care of somebody else is 160 00:08:34,880 --> 00:08:38,319 Speaker 1: a virtual impossibility. Man, I just don't see you getting 161 00:08:38,360 --> 00:08:42,080 Speaker 1: that job done. Um. And then you says, or the 162 00:08:42,120 --> 00:08:44,760 Speaker 1: reason that you told her that she was second because 163 00:08:44,840 --> 00:08:47,800 Speaker 1: Mama's all I have left. I know your father passed, 164 00:08:47,840 --> 00:08:50,120 Speaker 1: you say, and I know that that's the one person 165 00:08:50,160 --> 00:08:52,959 Speaker 1: who will have my back when all else fails. Well, 166 00:08:53,040 --> 00:08:54,960 Speaker 1: I hate to tell you this, but a good woman 167 00:08:55,280 --> 00:08:58,400 Speaker 1: provides that type of security too. Then you say, what 168 00:08:58,520 --> 00:09:01,199 Speaker 1: was I wrong? Yeah, yeah, you it wrong? So just 169 00:09:01,400 --> 00:09:04,040 Speaker 1: please help me hurry up. I'm typing this on my 170 00:09:04,240 --> 00:09:08,560 Speaker 1: iPhone while she's in the shower. Gotta take her to work, sir. 171 00:09:09,200 --> 00:09:12,680 Speaker 1: If you're not only scared of leaving your mama's house, 172 00:09:13,280 --> 00:09:15,760 Speaker 1: you really should be scared of being a police officer. 173 00:09:15,840 --> 00:09:18,480 Speaker 1: And you're scared of this girl and you're hearing up 174 00:09:18,480 --> 00:09:22,320 Speaker 1: typing it on your iPhone before she finds out. Uh, 175 00:09:22,400 --> 00:09:25,240 Speaker 1: young dude, you would be better off just driving off 176 00:09:25,679 --> 00:09:29,520 Speaker 1: into the sunset and never calling a girl again because 177 00:09:29,559 --> 00:09:31,840 Speaker 1: obviously you're not gonna be mad enough to sit down 178 00:09:31,880 --> 00:09:35,239 Speaker 1: and have this conversation with her about you're not ready. 179 00:09:35,280 --> 00:09:37,280 Speaker 1: But and then you said at the end, gotta take 180 00:09:37,280 --> 00:09:39,960 Speaker 1: her to work. You gotta take her to work, and 181 00:09:40,000 --> 00:09:42,840 Speaker 1: you ain't even working. You really need to be up 182 00:09:42,880 --> 00:09:45,400 Speaker 1: trying to find yourself a job, man, and get out 183 00:09:45,480 --> 00:09:47,959 Speaker 1: your mama's house. And really this is just a case 184 00:09:47,960 --> 00:09:50,440 Speaker 1: of man and up. And most men listening to this 185 00:09:50,640 --> 00:09:54,440 Speaker 1: will probably agree with me. Uh, you're not ready for marriage, 186 00:09:54,600 --> 00:09:56,880 Speaker 1: nor do you have to be right now? You're twenty one, 187 00:09:56,920 --> 00:09:59,679 Speaker 1: you're pretty young. Thank you, Steve, but we gotta get 188 00:09:59,679 --> 00:10:02,400 Speaker 1: out of here. Please join me at one thirty today 189 00:10:02,440 --> 00:10:05,800 Speaker 1: on Facebook for the Strawberry Letter Live after show on 190 00:10:05,880 --> 00:10:09,800 Speaker 1: Facebook one thirty pm Eastern Time. I will see you there. 191 00:10:10,200 --> 00:10:13,280 Speaker 1: I will talk more about today's Strawberry letter. You're listening 192 00:10:13,480 --> 00:10:15,320 Speaker 1: to The Stave Harvey Morning Show.