Speaker 1: Hibb it is Lalakhan. Welcome to the Bonus episode. Welcome Teeter.
Speaker 2: I'm back.
Speaker 1: I'm back. I literally I almost wish you would have
Speaker 1: been here during the Sabrina Zohar episode. So I had
Speaker 1: Sabrina Zohar on the podcast for Wednesday's episode, regular old episode.
Speaker 1: She was amazing.
Speaker 2: Did she put your guard down? Yes?
Speaker 1: Actually what was wild was I've had conversations with dating experts,
Speaker 1: and I don't have conversations with them to go out
Speaker 1: and try to meet somebody, but it's very much about
Speaker 1: the female and how she attracts a man, right, And
Speaker 1: to me, it always feels very it feels antiquated, and
Speaker 1: it feels like a game. And when I said this
Speaker 1: to Sabrina, she literally said, if you play the game,
Speaker 1: you're going to attract a player. And I was like,
Speaker 1: what the f fuck? My mind is bone. It's so true,
Speaker 1: like all of these rules like don't text back unless
Speaker 1: it's been this amount of time, don't break eye contact
Speaker 1: for five seconds from across the bar because that's how
Speaker 1: they know you're intro like all of these things where
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, this is so much to remember,
Speaker 1: and you almost feel overwhelmed and defeated if you do
Speaker 1: all of these steps and then it doesn't work out,
Speaker 1: because sometimes it just doesn't work out because it just
Speaker 1: don't work out.
Speaker 2: Yeah.
Speaker 1: She not only talked about dating tips and advice, but
Speaker 1: more so than anything, it was about like, who are
Speaker 1: you when you go into dating and you feel a
Speaker 1: certain way? What does that bring you back to?
Speaker 2: How funny that when everybody says until like, you need
Speaker 2: to fall in love with yourself to fall in love
Speaker 2: with someone else, right, And that's what she brought it
Speaker 2: back to, Is you right? You looking for? What are
Speaker 2: you really wanting?
Speaker 1: Right? And she said, I am more scared of losing
Speaker 1: myself than losing someone else. Like in dating, who cares
Speaker 1: if you lose them? Because if I lose you while
Speaker 1: trying to keep myself, then I would you know that's
Speaker 1: a win. Yeah. So for this episode, God, I wish
Speaker 1: you would. Well, you can listen to the episode. It
Speaker 1: was so good.
Speaker 2: I cried, did you yes? Is that why the eyes puffy?
Speaker 1: Fuck you?
Speaker 2: I only said because you said it.
Speaker 1: What am I gonna do once the pre cancer is gone?
Speaker 1: I'll have no reason not Right now I can be like,
Speaker 1: fuck you, it's pre cancer.
Speaker 2: We'll find something.
Speaker 1: I actually am feeling great about the eye. The eye
Speaker 1: is gonna be taken care of and.
Speaker 2: The drops her here. You're just about your business now,
Speaker 2: I'm all about my business.
Speaker 1: So I asked the podcast page all of our friends,
Speaker 1: what are dating green flags and dating X? What are
Speaker 1: some of Like, what would you say your green flags are?
Speaker 2: And what I do you know? I don't even know
Speaker 2: if I have one because I don't know what I'm
Speaker 2: looking for. You just fucked me up with like if
Speaker 2: you play the game, you're like you're going to attract
Speaker 2: those type of people. I have no idea what like
Speaker 2: my I mean, a green flag for me is like
Speaker 2: a woman that is like family oriented and close with
Speaker 2: her own family. Okay, that's a big green flag for me.
Speaker 1: Red flags not even like like a red flag, but
Speaker 1: like if you were on a date with someone, what's like, augh,
Speaker 1: I don't know my pet because I feel like a
Speaker 1: red flag is like abrupt. A red flag is like
Speaker 1: is like.
Speaker 2: When you when your social media is you think define you.
Speaker 2: Oh okay, that's a big it in a red flag
Speaker 2: for me?
Speaker 1: Can you elaborate, like what do you like they care about.
Speaker 2: Followers like they're constantly on like they're trying to be
Speaker 2: somebody like that I have followers or I need my
Speaker 2: page to look a certain that's an for me. Okay,
Speaker 2: I don't know why, but it just is like somebody
Speaker 2: too involved in their social media.
Speaker 1: What if.
Speaker 2: Being paid, If it's a job, then I get it.
Speaker 2: But like if I'm just dating this girl and she's
Speaker 2: wanting to be, you know, an influencer and things like that,
Speaker 2: like they're depending on how they go about it, there
Speaker 2: can be an ick.
Speaker 1: Okay, I would. I could definitely, you know.
Speaker 2: Rock at a hard spot for sure, because you can
Speaker 2: want to do that and hold yourself well. But I've
Speaker 2: seen other girls want to be that and crumble at
Speaker 2: crumble everything.
Speaker 1: To be that okay, you know right, and like if
Speaker 1: they don't get enough likes, it's a let down.
Speaker 2: It wasn't yeah like I need a better like I
Speaker 2: need better photos, I need this. It's like, no, you
Speaker 2: just need to be authentic and you'll get them.
Speaker 1: Can I tell you what an ick for me for
Speaker 1: you is.
Speaker 2: What the hair the girl?
Speaker 1: I don't mean you, but I'm saying when I watched
Speaker 1: like date certain girls, a certain girl where I got
Speaker 1: an ick on your behalf was when someone came out
Speaker 1: to visit you, and I was a little.
Speaker 2: Skeptical, Oh this is new ish.
Speaker 1: Yes, I was not into her at all. I don't
Speaker 1: and I'm protective of you, but like I want you
Speaker 1: to find somebody. But I'm like, there was a plethora
Speaker 1: of things that drove me crazy. Okay, But then I
Speaker 1: got a little worried because your bff Landing came out
Speaker 1: and he was like, Yo, did you see this girl's
Speaker 1: social media? And I was like no, And there were
Speaker 1: a plethora of photos that she had posted of the
Speaker 1: two of you.
Speaker 2: And she goes, can I post these? I was in
Speaker 2: a meeting and I didn't even like look at the text,
Speaker 2: like it was one photo and it was like me
Speaker 2: and she was like can I post this? And I
Speaker 2: was like, yeah, like I thought it was one photo?
Speaker 1: No, it was pretty much a fucked seven to be exact,
Speaker 1: seven photos. I was like, this is so weird because
Speaker 1: we're such a tight knit family and I've met this
Speaker 1: girl one time. She like didn't talk a lot. She
Speaker 1: was very kind, very kind and for someone else, great
Speaker 1: for us, nah, And yes I may be a little
Speaker 1: bit intense, but.
Speaker 2: It was It's gonna be really fun, guys for me
Speaker 2: to find a wife.
Speaker 1: That's not true. Can I tell you this girl? All
Speaker 1: the producers are laughing, But this girl had like we
Speaker 1: had so much in common.
Speaker 2: No, you did. I That is one thing.
Speaker 1: The way she did she fulfilled the Eastern but she
Speaker 1: didn't fulfill me.
Speaker 2: But that right there, And see, you're bringing up a
Speaker 2: red flag for me. Like that was a red flag
Speaker 2: when I was like, you did have like you're a
Speaker 2: mom to two kids, mom of two kids. It's how
Speaker 2: are you not talking? You know, like there was not with.
Speaker 1: The baby daddy, so we know co parenting situation.
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like there was a lot of things. And that
Speaker 2: was my red flag of if I bring you around
Speaker 2: my family, you have to make an effort with my family,
Speaker 2: right you know. Yeah, And that's the other thing. And
Speaker 2: I told you it's not going to be easy for
Speaker 2: me to introduce women to you. Most people know who
Speaker 2: you are. It is like, could you imagine me going
Speaker 2: on a date with this girl and her brother was
Speaker 2: Justin Bieber or something crazy.
Speaker 1: It's like, I haven't the equivalent of Justin Bieber.
Speaker 2: I'm just say baby, baby, baby, shout out Justin Bieber.
Speaker 2: Shout out justin people, we stand with you, but we do.
Speaker 2: We do. If you need a friend, okay.
Speaker 1: So someone if they're like their brother or.
Speaker 2: The pub, Like shit, I don't know how to talk
Speaker 2: to them, what to say. They're going to be judging me.
Speaker 2: I'm thinking, even though you're not, because you're in a
Speaker 2: family dynamic, you can take yourself out and you are
Speaker 2: with your brother, just like she was just nervous. Of course, Lauren.
Speaker 2: Everybody I talked to, they're like everybody, They're like, yeah,
Speaker 2: in your sister's la La I'm like yeah, like, ah,
Speaker 2: this one's ruined already. I need someone to not know
Speaker 2: who the fuck you are.
Speaker 1: That's easy, Sid, there's seven billion, actually I think there's
Speaker 1: eight now billion people on the planet.
Speaker 2: I gotta do fly in. I gotta fly into a
Speaker 2: different country.
Speaker 1: By the way, though, Sabrina Zohar said, lot of luck
Speaker 1: out of the country, lots of luck. America hard.
Speaker 2: Yes, I'm glad that she said that, because now I
Speaker 2: always thought I was like, they're just hard in this country,
Speaker 2: not even in La Utah. It's hard in Salt Lake City, Utah.
Speaker 2: Like I'm it is just hard.
Speaker 1: She said that dating in general is hard, but being
Speaker 1: in LA, she said, LA and New York both add
Speaker 1: like a more intense layer.
Speaker 2: Well for sure, because they're you're the people that you're
Speaker 2: wanting to be with or everybody wants to be somebody,
Speaker 2: so it's not their first.
Speaker 1: Right thing, and they come to a big city for
Speaker 1: opportunity and like.
Speaker 2: And if I'm going to date you and you're affecting
Speaker 2: my opportunity, I can't be with you.
Speaker 1: Well, your friend Calvin Cobb mm hmm, he's out in
Speaker 1: these streets dating.
Speaker 2: He is a day term.
Speaker 1: He's a dater, but I really respect his boundaries he's got.
Speaker 2: But that's the thing, like he doesn't just date, like
Speaker 2: he won't even like just go out on a date
Speaker 2: with a like a girl. He has to build, yeah,
Speaker 2: something that he is going to go out. He's intentional.
Speaker 2: And that's something I'm trying to take from him, is
Speaker 2: like he'll like a girl and he'll be like, yeah,
Speaker 2: I want to take her on a date this and that,
Speaker 2: but I need to build more on it. So when
Speaker 2: we do do that, it's there's a foundation, right and
Speaker 2: I can respect that. But he's a dater.
Speaker 1: You want to know what my green flags are A dater. No,
Speaker 1: my green flags are pretty much everything I'm not actually.
Speaker 2: But then you want them.
Speaker 1: I'm like, I need you to be consistent. I need
Speaker 1: you to honor commitment. Don't cancel all you embed at
Speaker 1: six thirty, all of the green flags and at least
Speaker 1: one face tattoo.
Speaker 2: Really, I was just gonna say, girls with like a
Speaker 2: little tattoo right here, I showed you very cute. Yes,
Speaker 2: I'm not when you're fully tattooed and stuff and then
Speaker 2: you throw a face it is a look, and I
Speaker 2: love like a girl with no tattoos or they just
Speaker 2: like one and then there's one on the face.
Speaker 1: It's like a tiny cit one. Yeah, there's a green
Speaker 1: flag for easton my My green flag is I would
Speaker 1: say calm energy. Yes, the moment that I.
Speaker 2: Have chaos, you need to bring me peace.
Speaker 1: I break down because I'm high strung. Yes, I'm high strong.
Speaker 1: When the wind blows a certain way, I get flustered
Speaker 1: by things, and I think someone who can come in
Speaker 1: and kind of calm the waters for me would be
Speaker 1: which I think that that's just more of.
Speaker 2: I know what you need. I think I know you
Speaker 2: need a I think you need your first boyfriend ever
Speaker 2: he calm, protect and not even like the age, like
Speaker 2: that's the thing, Like, I just know that that's who
Speaker 2: he was, no matter if he was eighteen or thirty eight.
Speaker 2: He was just a calm human being totally. That is
Speaker 2: what you needed. And he also what he did that
Speaker 2: was so great and he's the only one that could
Speaker 2: do it. And I'm not kidding you. When you were
Speaker 2: fucking pissed and I'm using the effort, yes, to the
Speaker 2: point where like your head was about to pop off
Speaker 2: with steam blowing out of it, everyone's moving, and your
Speaker 2: first boyfriend would poke the bear to the point where
Speaker 2: your anger would turn into laughter and it would's gone. Yeah,
Speaker 2: and then you would come and apologize to the family.
Speaker 2: That doesn't happen anymore. But your first boyfriend ever, still
Speaker 2: in love with him till this day. And the way
Speaker 2: you like he treated you, but the way you acted
Speaker 2: with him, you were so fun. Yeah, no, no experience,
Speaker 2: but that's who you need.
Speaker 1: I think so too. And now my ick is something
Speaker 1: that I just realized from the podcast with Sabrina. When
Speaker 1: a dude comes on too heavy like we yes, which
Speaker 1: I know a love bomber, but for some reason, what
Speaker 1: it has to do with me. I'm like, it's love
Speaker 1: bombing for you, but we're getting married. Like she said,
Speaker 1: I don't know you. Why are you talking to me
Speaker 1: this way? I think that's gonna be the new it.
Speaker 2: I wish I was. You don't know me.
Speaker 1: Why would you say you want to spend so much
Speaker 1: time with me? You don't know me at all.
Speaker 2: I wish I was there. And I'm coming from like
Speaker 2: a point of maybe, like for me and maybe other guys,
Speaker 2: sometimes when you get a girl's attention that you actually like,
Speaker 2: you don't know if you'll lose it, so you do
Speaker 2: want to try to spend a lot of time. And
Speaker 2: that is a huge thing, that is it?
Speaker 1: Okay, Yes, they're toxic, toxic individuals.
Speaker 2: Oh right, maybe I'm toxic too.
Speaker 1: You're not toxic. I don't think you're toxic.
Speaker 2: I don't either, But I don't love bomb. I've worked
Speaker 2: on that.
Speaker 1: Oh did you used to be a love bomber?
Speaker 2: I did my ex? Yeah, it worked out well. But
Speaker 2: I love bombed her for sure.
Speaker 1: I mean, I don't think you love bombed her. I
Speaker 1: think you actually loved her.
Speaker 2: No, I did love her, Yeah, I loved her.
Speaker 1: I don't talk about her, right, now that's not love bombing.
Speaker 2: You actually loved her.
Speaker 1: These men I meet one time and they're texting every day,
Speaker 1: and I'm like, oh my godness.
Speaker 2: It's so bad. I haven't done that. You're right, I
Speaker 2: know you Okay? When they text me back, I'm like,
Speaker 2: oh my gosh, too much.
Speaker 1: We also have toxic traits. Jessica Underscore Jane Underscore Baker say,
Speaker 1: wouldn't want a relationship with a girl who f's on
Speaker 1: the first date but then proceed to try it on you.
Speaker 2: That is a fucking dick. I really don't like the.
Speaker 1: Girl who like gives it up on the first date. Hey,
Speaker 1: you want to come back and watch a movie? What
Speaker 1: are these?
Speaker 2: I can squeeze your ass? It's like, that is it?
Speaker 1: Girl?
Speaker 2: I don't want. I am forming into what I don't want,
Speaker 2: like you're I don't want to sleep with you. And
Speaker 2: then I'm like, oh my god.
Speaker 1: It's the land of mirror, honey. We're all just mirrors
Speaker 1: walking around looking at each other, projecting the fuck out
Speaker 1: of life. Jessica Jane Baker's funny Jen Hurley, Rice Green
Speaker 1: Flag Loves Animals, Red Flag entitled in any way, Get
Speaker 1: I get entitled A little bit.
Speaker 2: I know somebody very entitled. Can you say their name
Speaker 2: or no, we'll keep it under wraps.
Speaker 1: Boom, No, that was so funny. Ava Agallo says, Green
Speaker 1: Flag loves animals.
Speaker 2: Did you read some.
Speaker 1: People who love to different Green flag loves animals.
Speaker 2: That is a big green flag for me. If you
Speaker 2: don't treat animals, well, I know you don't.
Speaker 1: Yeah, okay, can I tell you a story?
Speaker 2: I want to hear it.
Speaker 1: I was intimate on a few occasions with this guy
Speaker 1: who was is the son of a very very famous singer.
Speaker 1: He was fun, he was cool, he was hot, came
Speaker 1: over to the apartment. It was like maybe a sixth
Speaker 1: date time hanging out. We always drank. That was super fun.
Speaker 1: My dog Lily was outside barking. I lived on Olympics,
Speaker 1: still outside barking.
Speaker 2: Oh.
Speaker 1: He kept telling her to come in, Yes, he kept
Speaker 1: telling her to come in. She was having a heyday,
Speaker 1: highlight of her day and night. When she came in,
Speaker 1: he smacked her on the ass. When I tell you,
Speaker 1: I was so livid. I almost caught a case. Kicked
Speaker 1: him out of the apartment, never spoke to him again,
Speaker 1: and I was like, wow, I literally could go to prison.
Speaker 1: Right now. I cannot chase him out of here.
Speaker 2: No, he will be dead. And that's the for somebody
Speaker 2: to feel like they can treat an animal that isn't
Speaker 2: theirs that way. Yeah.
Speaker 1: And then and then he repleted the next day over
Speaker 1: text to apologize and that he was drinking. Guess what,
Speaker 1: when you're drinking makes you want to abuse an animal?
Speaker 1: Hit my fucking dog. They should probably stop drinking.
Speaker 2: Well, I mean, it's I'm going very far down a hole.
Speaker 2: But it's like, you know, you see all these murder
Speaker 2: cases and it's like you animals. It's like, yeah, no,
Speaker 2: you're weird.
Speaker 1: No, But I love that this person said the red
Speaker 1: flag is doesn't like animals, So the green flag is
Speaker 1: you better love animals and red flag if you don't
Speaker 1: like them, Dawn, Yeah, Raymi Kimi. Green flag makes you laugh,
Speaker 1: the biggest of green flags. That is all I want
Speaker 1: in life is just laugh. I just want to laugh
Speaker 1: all the time. When I was pregnant with Sosa and
Speaker 1: I had belly laughs, Like I think that's why she's
Speaker 1: so fun.
Speaker 2: You really had a lot of belly laughs.
Speaker 1: The biggest like, I just want to be around someone.
Speaker 1: Here's the thing, like sex, goes away, looks go away.
Speaker 1: If you could be with someone who truly makes you
Speaker 1: laugh and you have a good time together where it's
Speaker 1: like just effortless that will carry you through the darkest
Speaker 1: of days.
Speaker 2: Yes, yeah, a good belly laugh.
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean I haven't. The dawn made me laugh.
Speaker 1: And by the way, you also have to laugh at
Speaker 1: what I say, because if you don't laugh at what
Speaker 1: I say, great you don't think I'm funny. But I'm
Speaker 1: this is not changing. Like I like to be weird.
Speaker 1: I like to be a little bit over the top.
Speaker 1: You know. I have passed this point of like I
Speaker 1: just want a man to think I'm sexy. Sexy. No,
Speaker 1: I want you to leave and be like that bitch
Speaker 1: just funny as fuck. I have to see her tomorrow, Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know I do. Raymie Keemi also says green Flag
Speaker 1: not only holds doors open for you, but opens the
Speaker 1: door for others.
Speaker 2: That's me, that is you. I get stuck at the
Speaker 2: fucking door sometimes, and then I'm too nice to say
Speaker 2: fuck you, so I just hold it. I might as
Speaker 2: well put a bell hat on me. Come on in.
Speaker 2: Do you like me to take you?
Speaker 1: No? But you're so nice, You're so nice.
Speaker 2: The one thing that I've been doing that isn't so nice,
Speaker 2: but they deserve it. If they don't say thank you,
Speaker 2: I always go, you're welcome, and then I keep walking.
Speaker 1: I think that that's a boundary.
Speaker 2: It is, and I'm working on those.
Speaker 1: A passive aggressive boundary, it is.
Speaker 2: And no one said anything SI at.
Speaker 1: All instead of being like, hey, like, you're welcome, I
Speaker 1: held the door up for you. It's just as simple,
Speaker 1: you're welcome.
Speaker 2: You're welcome. And if they go I didn't say something, I.
Speaker 1: Could have sworn. I thought I heard you say thank you.
Speaker 2: Well it's either that or I'm gonna knock him on
Speaker 2: the forehead and go, you're welcome.
Speaker 1: Great, so we're gonna I think if you touch someone
Speaker 1: out their consent it is assault.
Speaker 2: Right, I'm going to get four of them. One, two, three, four,
Speaker 2: You're welcome.
Speaker 1: You know what though, that is a huge one. I
Speaker 1: was talking to Brittany on her podcast. This was a
Speaker 1: few months ago, and we both said, like, we're also
Speaker 1: fixated on how someone treats us, and so often we
Speaker 1: forget how people treat other people. And I think that
Speaker 1: that is that should be taken into account as well. Yeah,
Speaker 1: also a huge red flag for me now, just with
Speaker 1: the experience of life. If I'm with a dude who
Speaker 1: treats me in a fantastic way, that tells me his
Speaker 1: ex or his baby mama is crazy. Red flag. Yeah,
Speaker 1: red freaking flag.
Speaker 2: I've got a red flag. How you treat your waiters,
Speaker 2: waitresses and servers.
Speaker 1: Yeah, that is a big one.
Speaker 2: That's a flag for me. If you're rude. Red.
Speaker 1: Oh, if you're rude, goodbye. No tolerance for the rudeness. No,
Speaker 1: because you know, I've been on dates with dudes who
Speaker 1: have baby mamas and I'll ask that question like, oh,
Speaker 1: how is your you know, baby mom? Are you guys
Speaker 1: able to copare it? And the green flags are when
Speaker 1: they're like, you know, we don't always get along. It
Speaker 1: can be tough sometimes, but she's a great mom, and
Speaker 1: that's all I can ask for. It's like, yeah, but
Speaker 1: when you immediately go to she's fucking crazy. She makes
Speaker 1: my life hard. I'm like, I have a feeling you
Speaker 1: make her life hard and she's set the boundary that
Speaker 1: you don't like. Yeah, that's what I'm gathering. I can
Speaker 1: agree on that she doesn't give you everything you want.
Speaker 2: Go to the bar four days out of the week,
Speaker 2: only three. She makes it hard?
Speaker 1: Does Borkowski underscore a mama's boy? They didn't say if
Speaker 1: that was a red flagg or a green flag?
Speaker 2: Is that a rhet or a green Well, because I'm
Speaker 2: a mama's boy. How far would it go for it
Speaker 2: to be a red flag of being a mama's boy?
Speaker 2: Because that is a good question, because think like a
Speaker 2: man at the beginning of it, he takes his day
Speaker 2: like his girlfriend for Valentine's Day, and then it pans
Speaker 2: over and his mom's there. That's that's a red flag.
Speaker 1: Yes, But a dude who says like I love my
Speaker 1: mom a lot, like I'm a MoMA's boy. She raised
Speaker 1: me like I wouldn't I.
Speaker 2: Go over there twice a week, three times.
Speaker 1: A week, multiple times a day, not a green flag
Speaker 1: because I have that same type of relationship. I think
Speaker 1: what would be hard is if we got to a
Speaker 1: place where, like, you love your mom just as much
Speaker 1: as I love my mom, We're going to them now
Speaker 1: this is a daity of the mom's yes, right, yeah,
Speaker 1: because I can't sit here and choose your mom over
Speaker 1: my mom.
Speaker 2: That christ do you think do you think people have
Speaker 2: if somebody says, if you're a mama's boy or a
Speaker 2: daddy's girl, it's a red flag. Do you think it's
Speaker 2: something on their end?
Speaker 1: What do you? Oh? It could be you're you must
Speaker 1: not be that close with your family.
Speaker 2: Yeah and all. Yeah, because that's the thing, like everybody's
Speaker 2: you know, relationships are different, you know, family wise, even
Speaker 2: like your mom and you have a very different relationship
Speaker 2: than me and my mom. Right, So if your mom
Speaker 2: and you aren't that close and people coming as a
Speaker 2: red flag because of your relationship, you can't throw that
Speaker 2: on the meat.
Speaker 1: But then it could also be the perfect situation because
Speaker 1: you're like, I love my family, you hate yours. Great,
Speaker 1: we'll just spend all of the time with mine.
Speaker 2: I love you.
Speaker 1: It could be actually a win win situation. I have
Speaker 1: it the one you thought you were love bombing but
Speaker 1: actually just loved period. He still loves you. Come back
Speaker 1: around four underscore. Green respects my space when I need it,
Speaker 1: Red never gives me space, Flash wants me around twenty
Speaker 1: four to seven. You know what, it's a red flag
Speaker 1: when they don't give you your space and want you're
Speaker 1: around twenty four seven. That that to me becomes like
Speaker 1: a controlling aspect.
Speaker 2: But also like it is a red flag, But shouldn't
Speaker 2: you be with somebody that when you're with them, you
Speaker 2: are alone? If that makes sense. Like when I was
Speaker 2: with my ex who I am in love with, still
Speaker 2: she could be there and I'm here and we were
Speaker 2: she wasn't there? Makes sense? M Like our space was
Speaker 2: still there, but we were together. That's the best, the best.
Speaker 2: I love you, Raymi.
Speaker 1: Kimi also says ick being on his cell phone while
Speaker 1: on a date loser, loser, that's a new thing, though,
Speaker 1: I mean we were on their phones at all, freaking.
Speaker 2: Looking something up? Or am I on a phone? No?
Speaker 1: No, no, this is clearly you're on the phone. This
Speaker 1: isn't like we're googling together to see like how many
Speaker 1: calories are in the meal we're eating, or whatever the
Speaker 1: fuck it may be. We said they afford a lot
Speaker 1: on this.
Speaker 2: Episode, I know, but it was needed.
Speaker 1: It's about like I'm with you and I'm texting, Okay, terrible, horrible.
Speaker 1: If I ever if a girl came up to me
Speaker 1: and said I went on a date with your brother
Speaker 1: and he was on the phone the whole time, I would.
Speaker 2: Just to let you guys know on dates, I don't
Speaker 2: put my phone either it's in my pocket or I
Speaker 2: put it like on the sheet, like not near me,
Speaker 2: Like I don't put it on the I read somewhere
Speaker 2: that if you put your phone on the table at
Speaker 2: dinner or anything like that, Yeah, you're telling everyone around
Speaker 2: that they're not as important as who may come through
Speaker 2: on that phone.
Speaker 1: I love that.
Speaker 2: Yeah, So I don't put my phone on the table ever.
Speaker 2: I keep it on my pocket or put it on
Speaker 2: like the couch er chair under my leg, and if
Speaker 2: it vibrates, I don't care. I just don't want everybody
Speaker 2: to hear it go boop, you know, because then when
Speaker 2: you grab it there and I think.
Speaker 1: Being trans parent, like for me on dates that I've
Speaker 1: gone on, which I haven't been on a date in
Speaker 1: a long time, but I have been on dates where
Speaker 1: I've been a mother, and I will say, like, I
Speaker 1: have to check my phone very quickly. This is you know,
Speaker 1: but my mom or my brother and they're watching my kids, and.
Speaker 2: That just to let you know. If I went on
Speaker 2: a date with a girl and she was like, just
Speaker 2: to let you know, I do have my kid at home,
Speaker 2: Da da da da. If I check my phone, it's
Speaker 2: for that reason, I'd go keep it out just in case.
Speaker 1: Yeah, but the texting. The texting is so rude.
Speaker 2: I'll give them the texting, but if they start picking
Speaker 2: it up constantly, then I'm that's. Let me tell you.
Speaker 1: Something, though. I would almost rather have someone say I
Speaker 1: have to take this call rather than hold on for
Speaker 1: a second.
Speaker 2: No, like, let me tell you something interrupt. I have
Speaker 2: to take this call.
Speaker 1: Yes, if my mom is calling, she has my children,
Speaker 1: I have to pick it up. If my mom's texting,
Speaker 1: it must not be that.
Speaker 2: But already I would be the guy not letting you
Speaker 2: even do that, you know, right, Yes, it would be
Speaker 2: like I would almost say, like, if you don't keep
Speaker 2: your phone on the table, I will be furious at you,
Speaker 2: like you got kitts and stuff? Keep it out?
Speaker 1: Yes, j L C. Menu says X everything. Lol, I'm
Speaker 1: fine alone. Is it so sad that this is.
Speaker 2: Related with you?
Speaker 1: The most?
Speaker 2: I love? I was just talking to Jenna after our
Speaker 2: pod We went over and she we just sat well, oh,
Speaker 2: did she go to Jerry's Deli with your Yeah, she
Speaker 2: didn't get anything, but I did. But we were talking about.
Speaker 1: That about being alone.
Speaker 2: Yeah, and how fucking great it is.
Speaker 1: Did she agree with you.
Speaker 2: Yeah, she was like, I live alone and I love it.
Speaker 2: I know. I mean, yes, we want partners here and there,
Speaker 2: but like here, in there, in there, here and there
Speaker 2: for me if she wants one.
Speaker 1: I just wanted a very untraditional life at all times.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I created an untraditional life. I thrive in
Speaker 1: that environment. So that's what I'm going to do. That's
Speaker 1: what I'm going to do. You guys, thank you for
Speaker 1: setting in your green flags and your X and thank
Speaker 1: you for listening to. ANOTHERUS episode of the Give the
Speaker 1: Molla podcast YouTube is also up now, and I'm gonna
Speaker 1: catch you on Wednesday for a regular old episode and
Speaker 1: again xbox to bye