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Speaker 1: Hibb it is Lalakhan. Welcome to the Bonus episode. Welcome Teeter.

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Speaker 2: I'm back.

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Speaker 1: I'm back. I literally I almost wish you would have

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Speaker 1: been here during the Sabrina Zohar episode. So I had

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Speaker 1: Sabrina Zohar on the podcast for Wednesday's episode, regular old episode.

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Speaker 1: She was amazing.

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Speaker 2: Did she put your guard down? Yes?

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Speaker 1: Actually what was wild was I've had conversations with dating experts,

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Speaker 1: and I don't have conversations with them to go out

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Speaker 1: and try to meet somebody, but it's very much about

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Speaker 1: the female and how she attracts a man, right, And

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Speaker 1: to me, it always feels very it feels antiquated, and

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Speaker 1: it feels like a game. And when I said this

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Speaker 1: to Sabrina, she literally said, if you play the game,

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Speaker 1: you're going to attract a player. And I was like,

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Speaker 1: what the f fuck? My mind is bone. It's so true,

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Speaker 1: like all of these rules like don't text back unless

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Speaker 1: it's been this amount of time, don't break eye contact

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Speaker 1: for five seconds from across the bar because that's how

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Speaker 1: they know you're intro like all of these things where

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Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god, this is so much to remember,

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Speaker 1: and you almost feel overwhelmed and defeated if you do

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Speaker 1: all of these steps and then it doesn't work out,

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Speaker 1: because sometimes it just doesn't work out because it just

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Speaker 1: don't work out.

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Speaker 2: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: She not only talked about dating tips and advice, but

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Speaker 1: more so than anything, it was about like, who are

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Speaker 1: you when you go into dating and you feel a

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Speaker 1: certain way? What does that bring you back to?

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Speaker 2: How funny that when everybody says until like, you need

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Speaker 2: to fall in love with yourself to fall in love

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Speaker 2: with someone else, right, And that's what she brought it

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Speaker 2: back to, Is you right? You looking for? What are

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Speaker 2: you really wanting?

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Speaker 1: Right? And she said, I am more scared of losing

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Speaker 1: myself than losing someone else. Like in dating, who cares

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Speaker 1: if you lose them? Because if I lose you while

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Speaker 1: trying to keep myself, then I would you know that's

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Speaker 1: a win. Yeah. So for this episode, God, I wish

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Speaker 1: you would. Well, you can listen to the episode. It

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Speaker 1: was so good.

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Speaker 2: I cried, did you yes? Is that why the eyes puffy?

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Speaker 1: Fuck you?

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Speaker 2: I only said because you said it.

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Speaker 1: What am I gonna do once the pre cancer is gone?

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Speaker 1: I'll have no reason not Right now I can be like,

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Speaker 1: fuck you, it's pre cancer.

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Speaker 2: We'll find something.

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Speaker 1: I actually am feeling great about the eye. The eye

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Speaker 1: is gonna be taken care of and.

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Speaker 2: The drops her here. You're just about your business now,

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Speaker 2: I'm all about my business.

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Speaker 1: So I asked the podcast page all of our friends,

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Speaker 1: what are dating green flags and dating X? What are

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Speaker 1: some of Like, what would you say your green flags are?

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Speaker 2: And what I do you know? I don't even know

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Speaker 2: if I have one because I don't know what I'm

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Speaker 2: looking for. You just fucked me up with like if

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Speaker 2: you play the game, you're like you're going to attract

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Speaker 2: those type of people. I have no idea what like

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Speaker 2: my I mean, a green flag for me is like

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Speaker 2: a woman that is like family oriented and close with

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Speaker 2: her own family. Okay, that's a big green flag for me.

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Speaker 1: Red flags not even like like a red flag, but

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Speaker 1: like if you were on a date with someone, what's like, augh,

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Speaker 1: I don't know my pet because I feel like a

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Speaker 1: red flag is like abrupt. A red flag is like

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Speaker 1: is like.

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Speaker 2: When you when your social media is you think define you.

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Speaker 2: Oh okay, that's a big it in a red flag

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Speaker 2: for me?

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Speaker 1: Can you elaborate, like what do you like they care about.

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Speaker 2: Followers like they're constantly on like they're trying to be

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Speaker 2: somebody like that I have followers or I need my

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Speaker 2: page to look a certain that's an for me. Okay,

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Speaker 2: I don't know why, but it just is like somebody

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Speaker 2: too involved in their social media.

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Speaker 1: What if.

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Speaker 2: Being paid, If it's a job, then I get it.

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Speaker 2: But like if I'm just dating this girl and she's

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Speaker 2: wanting to be, you know, an influencer and things like that,

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Speaker 2: like they're depending on how they go about it, there

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Speaker 2: can be an ick.

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Speaker 1: Okay, I would. I could definitely, you know.

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Speaker 2: Rock at a hard spot for sure, because you can

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Speaker 2: want to do that and hold yourself well. But I've

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Speaker 2: seen other girls want to be that and crumble at

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Speaker 2: crumble everything.

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Speaker 1: To be that okay, you know right, and like if

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Speaker 1: they don't get enough likes, it's a let down.

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Speaker 2: It wasn't yeah like I need a better like I

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Speaker 2: need better photos, I need this. It's like, no, you

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Speaker 2: just need to be authentic and you'll get them.

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Speaker 1: Can I tell you what an ick for me for

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Speaker 1: you is.

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Speaker 2: What the hair the girl?

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Speaker 1: I don't mean you, but I'm saying when I watched

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Speaker 1: like date certain girls, a certain girl where I got

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Speaker 1: an ick on your behalf was when someone came out

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Speaker 2: Skeptical, Oh this is new ish.

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Speaker 1: Yes, I was not into her at all. I don't

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Speaker 1: and I'm protective of you, but like I want you

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Speaker 1: to find somebody. But I'm like, there was a plethora

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Speaker 1: of things that drove me crazy. Okay, But then I

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Speaker 1: got a little worried because your bff Landing came out

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Speaker 1: and he was like, Yo, did you see this girl's

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Speaker 1: social media? And I was like no, And there were

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Speaker 1: a plethora of photos that she had posted of the

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Speaker 2: And she goes, can I post these? I was in

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Speaker 2: a meeting and I didn't even like look at the text,

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Speaker 2: like it was one photo and it was like me

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Speaker 2: and she was like can I post this? And I

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Speaker 2: was like, yeah, like I thought it was one photo?

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Speaker 1: No, it was pretty much a fucked seven to be exact,

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Speaker 1: seven photos. I was like, this is so weird because

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Speaker 1: we're such a tight knit family and I've met this

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Speaker 1: girl one time. She like didn't talk a lot. She

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Speaker 1: was very kind, very kind and for someone else, great

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Speaker 1: for us, nah, And yes I may be a little

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Speaker 1: bit intense, but.

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Speaker 2: It was It's gonna be really fun, guys for me

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Speaker 2: to find a wife.

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Speaker 1: That's not true. Can I tell you this girl? All

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Speaker 1: the producers are laughing, But this girl had like we

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Speaker 1: had so much in common.

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Speaker 2: No, you did. I That is one thing.

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Speaker 1: The way she did she fulfilled the Eastern but she

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Speaker 2: But that right there, And see, you're bringing up a

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Speaker 2: red flag for me. Like that was a red flag

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Speaker 2: when I was like, you did have like you're a

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Speaker 2: mom to two kids, mom of two kids. It's how

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Speaker 2: are you not talking? You know, like there was not with.

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Speaker 1: The baby daddy, so we know co parenting situation.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, Like there was a lot of things. And that

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Speaker 2: was my red flag of if I bring you around

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Speaker 2: my family, you have to make an effort with my family,

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Speaker 2: right you know. Yeah, And that's the other thing. And

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Speaker 2: I told you it's not going to be easy for

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Speaker 2: me to introduce women to you. Most people know who

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Speaker 2: you are. It is like, could you imagine me going

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Speaker 2: on a date with this girl and her brother was

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Speaker 2: Justin Bieber or something crazy.

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Speaker 1: It's like, I haven't the equivalent of Justin Bieber.

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Speaker 2: I'm just say baby, baby, baby, shout out Justin Bieber.

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Speaker 2: Shout out justin people, we stand with you, but we do.

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Speaker 2: We do. If you need a friend, okay.

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Speaker 1: So someone if they're like their brother or.

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Speaker 2: The pub, Like shit, I don't know how to talk

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Speaker 2: to them, what to say. They're going to be judging me.

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Speaker 2: I'm thinking, even though you're not, because you're in a

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Speaker 2: family dynamic, you can take yourself out and you are

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Speaker 2: with your brother, just like she was just nervous. Of course, Lauren.

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Speaker 2: Everybody I talked to, they're like everybody, They're like, yeah,

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Speaker 2: in your sister's la La I'm like yeah, like, ah,

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Speaker 2: this one's ruined already. I need someone to not know

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Speaker 2: who the fuck you are.

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Speaker 1: That's easy, Sid, there's seven billion, actually I think there's

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Speaker 1: eight now billion people on the planet.

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Speaker 2: I gotta do fly in. I gotta fly into a

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Speaker 2: different country.

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Speaker 1: By the way, though, Sabrina Zohar said, lot of luck

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Speaker 1: out of the country, lots of luck. America hard.

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Speaker 2: Yes, I'm glad that she said that, because now I

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Speaker 2: always thought I was like, they're just hard in this country,

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Speaker 2: not even in La Utah. It's hard in Salt Lake City, Utah.

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Speaker 2: Like I'm it is just hard.

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Speaker 1: She said that dating in general is hard, but being

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Speaker 1: in LA, she said, LA and New York both add

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Speaker 1: like a more intense layer.

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Speaker 2: Well for sure, because they're you're the people that you're

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Speaker 2: wanting to be with or everybody wants to be somebody,

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Speaker 2: so it's not their first.

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Speaker 1: Right thing, and they come to a big city for

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Speaker 2: And if I'm going to date you and you're affecting

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Speaker 2: my opportunity, I can't be with you.

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Speaker 1: Well, your friend Calvin Cobb mm hmm, he's out in

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Speaker 1: these streets dating.

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Speaker 2: He is a day term.

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Speaker 1: He's a dater, but I really respect his boundaries he's got.

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Speaker 2: But that's the thing, like he doesn't just date, like

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Speaker 2: he won't even like just go out on a date

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Speaker 2: with a like a girl. He has to build, yeah,

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Speaker 2: something that he is going to go out. He's intentional.

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Speaker 2: And that's something I'm trying to take from him, is

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Speaker 2: I want to take her on a date this and that,

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Speaker 2: but I need to build more on it. So when

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Speaker 2: we do do that, it's there's a foundation, right and

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Speaker 2: I can respect that. But he's a dater.

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Speaker 1: You want to know what my green flags are A dater. No,

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Speaker 1: my green flags are pretty much everything I'm not actually.

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Speaker 2: But then you want them.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, I need you to be consistent. I need

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Speaker 1: you to honor commitment. Don't cancel all you embed at

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Speaker 1: six thirty, all of the green flags and at least

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Speaker 1: one face tattoo.

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Speaker 2: Really, I was just gonna say, girls with like a

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Speaker 2: little tattoo right here, I showed you very cute. Yes,

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Speaker 2: I'm not when you're fully tattooed and stuff and then

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Speaker 2: you throw a face it is a look, and I

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Speaker 2: love like a girl with no tattoos or they just

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Speaker 2: like one and then there's one on the face.

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Speaker 1: It's like a tiny cit one. Yeah, there's a green

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Speaker 1: flag for easton my My green flag is I would

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Speaker 1: say calm energy. Yes, the moment that I.

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Speaker 2: Have chaos, you need to bring me peace.

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Speaker 1: I break down because I'm high strung. Yes, I'm high strong.

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Speaker 1: When the wind blows a certain way, I get flustered

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Speaker 1: by things, and I think someone who can come in

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Speaker 1: which I think that that's just more of.

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Speaker 2: I know what you need. I think I know you

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Speaker 2: need a I think you need your first boyfriend ever

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Speaker 2: he calm, protect and not even like the age, like

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Speaker 1: of life. Jessica Jane Baker's funny Jen Hurley, Rice Green

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Speaker 1: I was intimate on a few occasions with this guy

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Speaker 1: He kept telling her to come in, Yes, he kept

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Speaker 2: Well, I mean, it's I'm going very far down a hole.

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Speaker 1: The biggest like, I just want to be around someone.

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Speaker 1: Here's the thing, like sex, goes away, looks go away.

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Speaker 1: this is not changing. Like I like to be weird.

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Speaker 1: you know I do. Raymie Keemi also says green Flag

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Speaker 2: That's me, that is you. I get stuck at the

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Speaker 2: Do you like me to take you?

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Speaker 1: No? But you're so nice, You're so nice.

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Speaker 2: The one thing that I've been doing that isn't so nice,

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Speaker 1: Great, so we're gonna I think if you touch someone

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Speaker 2: I've got a red flag. How you treat your waiters,

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Speaker 1: Yes, But a dude who says like I love my

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Speaker 2: That christ do you think do you think people have

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Speaker 2: you know, relationships are different, you know, family wise, even

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Speaker 2: like your mom and you have a very different relationship

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Speaker 2: than me and my mom. Right, So if your mom

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Speaker 2: and you aren't that close and people coming as a

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Speaker 2: red flag because of your relationship, you can't throw that

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Speaker 2: on the meat.

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Speaker 1: But then it could also be the perfect situation because

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Speaker 1: you're like, I love my family, you hate yours. Great,

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Speaker 1: we'll just spend all of the time with mine.

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Speaker 2: I love you.

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Speaker 1: It could be actually a win win situation. I have

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Speaker 1: it the one you thought you were love bombing but

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Speaker 1: actually just loved period. He still loves you. Come back

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Speaker 1: around four underscore. Green respects my space when I need it,

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Speaker 1: Red never gives me space, Flash wants me around twenty

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Speaker 1: four to seven. You know what, it's a red flag

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Speaker 1: when they don't give you your space and want you're

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Speaker 1: around twenty four seven. That that to me becomes like

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Speaker 1: a controlling aspect.

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Speaker 2: But also like it is a red flag, But shouldn't

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Speaker 2: you be with somebody that when you're with them, you

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Speaker 2: are alone? If that makes sense. Like when I was

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Speaker 2: with my ex who I am in love with, still

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Speaker 2: she could be there and I'm here and we were

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Speaker 2: she wasn't there? Makes sense? M Like our space was

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Speaker 2: still there, but we were together. That's the best, the best.

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Speaker 2: I love you, Raymi.

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Speaker 1: Kimi also says ick being on his cell phone while

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Speaker 1: on a date loser, loser, that's a new thing, though,

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Speaker 1: I mean we were on their phones at all, freaking.

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Speaker 2: Looking something up? Or am I on a phone? No?

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Speaker 1: No, no, this is clearly you're on the phone. This

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Speaker 1: isn't like we're googling together to see like how many

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Speaker 1: calories are in the meal we're eating, or whatever the

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Speaker 1: fuck it may be. We said they afford a lot

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Speaker 1: on this.

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Speaker 2: Episode, I know, but it was needed.

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Speaker 1: It's about like I'm with you and I'm texting, Okay, terrible, horrible.

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Speaker 1: If I ever if a girl came up to me

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Speaker 1: and said I went on a date with your brother

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Speaker 1: and he was on the phone the whole time, I would.

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Speaker 2: Just to let you guys know on dates, I don't

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Speaker 2: put my phone either it's in my pocket or I

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Speaker 2: put it like on the sheet, like not near me,

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Speaker 2: Like I don't put it on the I read somewhere

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Speaker 2: that if you put your phone on the table at

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Speaker 2: dinner or anything like that, Yeah, you're telling everyone around

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Speaker 2: that they're not as important as who may come through

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Speaker 2: on that phone.

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Speaker 1: I love that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, So I don't put my phone on the table ever.

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Speaker 2: I keep it on my pocket or put it on

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Speaker 2: like the couch er chair under my leg, and if

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Speaker 2: it vibrates, I don't care. I just don't want everybody

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Speaker 2: to hear it go boop, you know, because then when

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Speaker 2: you grab it there and I think.

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Speaker 1: Being trans parent, like for me on dates that I've

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Speaker 1: gone on, which I haven't been on a date in

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Speaker 1: a long time, but I have been on dates where

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Speaker 1: I've been a mother, and I will say, like, I

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Speaker 1: have to check my phone very quickly. This is you know,

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Speaker 1: but my mom or my brother and they're watching my kids, and.

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Speaker 2: That just to let you know. If I went on

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Speaker 2: a date with a girl and she was like, just

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Speaker 2: to let you know, I do have my kid at home,

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Speaker 2: Da da da da. If I check my phone, it's

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Speaker 2: for that reason, I'd go keep it out just in case.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but the texting. The texting is so rude.

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Speaker 2: I'll give them the texting, but if they start picking

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Speaker 2: it up constantly, then I'm that's. Let me tell you.

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Speaker 1: Something, though. I would almost rather have someone say I

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Speaker 1: have to take this call rather than hold on for

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Speaker 1: a second.

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Speaker 2: No, like, let me tell you something interrupt. I have

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Speaker 2: to take this call.

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Speaker 1: Yes, if my mom is calling, she has my children,

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Speaker 1: I have to pick it up. If my mom's texting,

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Speaker 1: it must not be that.

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Speaker 2: But already I would be the guy not letting you

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Speaker 2: even do that, you know, right, Yes, it would be

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Speaker 2: like I would almost say, like, if you don't keep

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Speaker 2: your phone on the table, I will be furious at you,

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Speaker 2: like you got kitts and stuff? Keep it out?

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Speaker 1: Yes, j L C. Menu says X everything. Lol, I'm

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Speaker 1: fine alone. Is it so sad that this is.

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Speaker 2: Related with you?

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Speaker 1: The most?

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Speaker 2: I love? I was just talking to Jenna after our

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Speaker 2: pod We went over and she we just sat well, oh,

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Speaker 2: did she go to Jerry's Deli with your Yeah, she

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Speaker 2: didn't get anything, but I did. But we were talking about.

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Speaker 1: That about being alone.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, and how fucking great it is.

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Speaker 1: Did she agree with you.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she was like, I live alone and I love it.

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Speaker 2: I know. I mean, yes, we want partners here and there,

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Speaker 2: but like here, in there, in there, here and there

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Speaker 2: for me if she wants one.

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Speaker 1: I just wanted a very untraditional life at all times.

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry. I created an untraditional life. I thrive in

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Speaker 1: that environment. So that's what I'm going to do. That's

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Speaker 1: what I'm going to do. You guys, thank you for

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Speaker 1: setting in your green flags and your X and thank

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Speaker 1: you for listening to. ANOTHERUS episode of the Give the

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Speaker 1: Molla podcast YouTube is also up now, and I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: catch you on Wednesday for a regular old episode and

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Speaker 1: again xbox to bye