1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,840 Speaker 1: This is Kelly Henderson and you are listening to Act 2 00:00:02,880 --> 00:00:06,280 Speaker 1: Casual on the Velvet Edge podcast. This was our last 3 00:00:06,320 --> 00:00:09,480 Speaker 1: episode recorded via zoom call. We gave it a go 4 00:00:09,760 --> 00:00:12,160 Speaker 1: in isolation, and I'm just not happy with the sound 5 00:00:12,240 --> 00:00:15,080 Speaker 1: quality entirely, so we will be using a different method 6 00:00:15,160 --> 00:00:17,439 Speaker 1: going forward. I just wanted to give you guys the 7 00:00:17,440 --> 00:00:19,920 Speaker 1: heads up that I am completely aware of the tiny 8 00:00:19,960 --> 00:00:22,599 Speaker 1: sound glitches in this episode. This week, Chip and I 9 00:00:22,640 --> 00:00:25,720 Speaker 1: are addressing quarantine, dating and the fact that, amongst all 10 00:00:25,840 --> 00:00:28,000 Speaker 1: the things that are changing in our current world, like 11 00:00:28,080 --> 00:00:30,960 Speaker 1: the fact that I recorded this episode at three fifteen 12 00:00:31,040 --> 00:00:34,120 Speaker 1: and was still in my pajamas, dating is the one 13 00:00:34,360 --> 00:00:37,640 Speaker 1: thing that is not changing. And actually, if it's changing, 14 00:00:37,680 --> 00:00:41,160 Speaker 1: it might just be getting better. See what we're talking about. 15 00:00:41,240 --> 00:00:45,400 Speaker 1: Here's our conversation. The light's kind of nice right now, 16 00:00:45,960 --> 00:00:51,320 Speaker 1: Oh Golden hour, you're feeling like you found your lights? 17 00:00:51,800 --> 00:00:54,840 Speaker 1: I mean maybe, I certainly didn't find my hairstyle though. 18 00:00:55,560 --> 00:00:58,680 Speaker 1: I'm very speaking of hair, like I literally just found 19 00:00:58,720 --> 00:01:02,680 Speaker 1: out that I have a situation a nest growing back here. 20 00:01:03,200 --> 00:01:07,399 Speaker 1: Is that real hair that was rude? Shots fired? Man? Yes, 21 00:01:07,480 --> 00:01:10,880 Speaker 1: it is real hair. Thank you for asking how long 22 00:01:10,920 --> 00:01:13,000 Speaker 1: would your hair be if all your fake hair fell out, 23 00:01:14,400 --> 00:01:16,800 Speaker 1: it's just like you make it like it's like I 24 00:01:16,920 --> 00:01:22,880 Speaker 1: am balding and I only have fake hair happening. This 25 00:01:23,080 --> 00:01:26,600 Speaker 1: volume might know that. But the truth is is I 26 00:01:26,600 --> 00:01:28,840 Speaker 1: had it super long, you know, and then I just 27 00:01:28,880 --> 00:01:31,480 Speaker 1: decided to cut it and it it kind of matches 28 00:01:31,560 --> 00:01:33,640 Speaker 1: my normal hair. Now we had to keep cutting my 29 00:01:33,720 --> 00:01:37,040 Speaker 1: normal hair to match the extensions. I just now, Yeah, 30 00:01:37,120 --> 00:01:38,800 Speaker 1: I just got like it's like this full head of 31 00:01:38,800 --> 00:01:41,360 Speaker 1: hair although it hasn't been washed. I can't. I mean, 32 00:01:41,360 --> 00:01:44,520 Speaker 1: I can't even remember. It's great, I think. Let me 33 00:01:44,600 --> 00:01:46,960 Speaker 1: just tell you, let me just show you what's happening. 34 00:01:47,040 --> 00:01:51,120 Speaker 1: Right now. I'm still in still so because it's three 35 00:01:51,240 --> 00:01:56,000 Speaker 1: fifteen in the afternoon. The only reason I have on 36 00:01:56,000 --> 00:01:59,680 Speaker 1: this little excuse me, this little jacket situation is that 37 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:02,200 Speaker 1: it I went outside for a second, it's chili to day. 38 00:02:02,240 --> 00:02:04,720 Speaker 1: It's a little colder than you think because it's so sunny, 39 00:02:04,800 --> 00:02:08,600 Speaker 1: and I love it. But right, but anyway, the situation is, 40 00:02:09,320 --> 00:02:11,680 Speaker 1: I don't know. This is like life and quarantine, I guess, 41 00:02:11,840 --> 00:02:15,480 Speaker 1: or isolation. I've shoved my dogs into the backyard for this, 42 00:02:15,600 --> 00:02:18,080 Speaker 1: so they're not barking during it, but they're lucky because 43 00:02:18,080 --> 00:02:20,240 Speaker 1: it's nice and sunny, so they're just it's a beautiful 44 00:02:20,320 --> 00:02:22,880 Speaker 1: day in Nashville. So I mean we're kind of touching 45 00:02:22,880 --> 00:02:25,840 Speaker 1: on an interesting topic here that life has changed a 46 00:02:25,919 --> 00:02:28,960 Speaker 1: lot for most of us. But we were talking the 47 00:02:29,000 --> 00:02:34,120 Speaker 1: other day and dating is somehow still happening, which is 48 00:02:34,160 --> 00:02:37,480 Speaker 1: blowing my mind, like how is this still happening? Well, 49 00:02:37,520 --> 00:02:39,480 Speaker 1: I think, um, you know, some of the reading that 50 00:02:39,520 --> 00:02:41,840 Speaker 1: I've been doing about it, like I think a lot 51 00:02:41,880 --> 00:02:43,520 Speaker 1: of it's just out of boredom. Like a lot of 52 00:02:43,520 --> 00:02:48,000 Speaker 1: these dating apps are seeing a spike in usage because 53 00:02:48,040 --> 00:02:50,079 Speaker 1: everyone's got their device in their hand because they don't 54 00:02:50,080 --> 00:02:52,520 Speaker 1: know what else to do. Well, And then I was 55 00:02:52,600 --> 00:02:55,680 Speaker 1: reading on Glamour um that a lot of the research 56 00:02:55,800 --> 00:02:58,320 Speaker 1: is coming back that the need for human connection right 57 00:02:58,360 --> 00:03:01,080 Speaker 1: now is even greater than it's ever been, Like we 58 00:03:01,240 --> 00:03:05,359 Speaker 1: always need that, but right now specifically, especially if you're 59 00:03:05,400 --> 00:03:09,600 Speaker 1: isolated alone all day, think about that, you really really 60 00:03:09,639 --> 00:03:12,600 Speaker 1: need that human connection. So people are seeking it out 61 00:03:12,639 --> 00:03:16,800 Speaker 1: even more than normal. Well, and I think too, it's um, 62 00:03:17,240 --> 00:03:21,240 Speaker 1: there's people have time to actually do vote to that 63 00:03:21,360 --> 00:03:25,600 Speaker 1: connection where it's like you know, it's well, I feel 64 00:03:25,600 --> 00:03:28,440 Speaker 1: like I've done I've done a lot of online dating attempts, 65 00:03:28,600 --> 00:03:32,600 Speaker 1: and um, a lot of it's so surface, and some 66 00:03:32,680 --> 00:03:35,520 Speaker 1: of that comes comes with the fact that, like you know, 67 00:03:35,560 --> 00:03:37,400 Speaker 1: you're busy in your everyday life, you don't have a 68 00:03:37,400 --> 00:03:39,960 Speaker 1: lot of right look to it. And now, because the 69 00:03:40,000 --> 00:03:42,760 Speaker 1: time exists, you're actually able to get like a little 70 00:03:42,760 --> 00:03:44,600 Speaker 1: bit deeper with some of these people that you might 71 00:03:44,600 --> 00:03:47,360 Speaker 1: not have even given the time a day before. That's 72 00:03:47,360 --> 00:03:50,240 Speaker 1: a great point because we actually are seeking out something 73 00:03:50,280 --> 00:03:52,440 Speaker 1: a little more than just let's go grab a drink, 74 00:03:52,480 --> 00:03:54,960 Speaker 1: because you can't go just grab a drink, right and 75 00:03:55,000 --> 00:03:57,240 Speaker 1: you can't just hook it up, So I guess you're 76 00:03:57,280 --> 00:04:00,440 Speaker 1: looking for more than that, maybe even if developing a 77 00:04:00,480 --> 00:04:06,520 Speaker 1: friendship first, which is kind of how dating should be, right. Yeah, well, honestly, 78 00:04:06,560 --> 00:04:09,400 Speaker 1: it's like it's it's funny because I feel like online 79 00:04:09,480 --> 00:04:11,640 Speaker 1: dating or app dating or whatever you wanna call it, 80 00:04:11,720 --> 00:04:15,040 Speaker 1: like has had such a bad rap, like people think, 81 00:04:15,360 --> 00:04:17,600 Speaker 1: you know of it as like the modern version of 82 00:04:18,000 --> 00:04:21,479 Speaker 1: uh like answering the classified in the newspaper or something. 83 00:04:22,040 --> 00:04:24,720 Speaker 1: But for me, the experience of doing it, like I 84 00:04:24,760 --> 00:04:28,280 Speaker 1: loved it because there were so many like red flags 85 00:04:28,279 --> 00:04:30,640 Speaker 1: that you could point out or like what's the opposite 86 00:04:30,640 --> 00:04:34,600 Speaker 1: of a red flag a white flag, that a green flag, 87 00:04:34,680 --> 00:04:39,920 Speaker 1: green flag, that's trademark that um. But like if someone 88 00:04:40,400 --> 00:04:44,480 Speaker 1: can't spell, like or you know you have this thing 89 00:04:44,640 --> 00:04:48,039 Speaker 1: was spelling, you have read this upon, you have a 90 00:04:48,120 --> 00:04:53,640 Speaker 1: real problem if you missed the words. My grandmother was 91 00:04:53,680 --> 00:04:56,000 Speaker 1: a proof reader, so that maybe there's something it seems 92 00:04:56,080 --> 00:04:58,280 Speaker 1: like something, you know, the apple might not have fallen 93 00:04:58,320 --> 00:05:01,039 Speaker 1: that far from the tree here though, I'm really about 94 00:05:01,120 --> 00:05:04,840 Speaker 1: editing my own emails and stuff, so which is just 95 00:05:06,080 --> 00:05:10,000 Speaker 1: critical of you, but right exactly, But no, I think 96 00:05:10,000 --> 00:05:12,400 Speaker 1: that like it gives you the opportunity to like sort 97 00:05:12,440 --> 00:05:16,800 Speaker 1: of um, notice things about people that aren't just physical 98 00:05:17,120 --> 00:05:21,040 Speaker 1: and um, and you can give yourself the opportunity to 99 00:05:21,800 --> 00:05:23,680 Speaker 1: m are the time to sort of like get to 100 00:05:23,680 --> 00:05:27,799 Speaker 1: know somebody before committing in any sort of way. Whereas 101 00:05:27,800 --> 00:05:29,320 Speaker 1: like if you just meet someone at a bar, it's 102 00:05:29,320 --> 00:05:31,640 Speaker 1: generally a physical reaction and you're like, let's go get 103 00:05:31,640 --> 00:05:33,640 Speaker 1: a drink. The next thing you know, you're at drinks 104 00:05:33,800 --> 00:05:36,360 Speaker 1: with like someone who's super lame and you have zero 105 00:05:36,440 --> 00:05:40,760 Speaker 1: connection with. Right. See, I've never done online dating because 106 00:05:40,920 --> 00:05:43,240 Speaker 1: of exactly what you're talking about. I need that I 107 00:05:43,279 --> 00:05:46,000 Speaker 1: need to know if there's that chemistry first, like the 108 00:05:46,080 --> 00:05:49,280 Speaker 1: in person feeling that you get when you see someone 109 00:05:49,279 --> 00:05:51,680 Speaker 1: and maybe you're interested in You'll have that, right. I 110 00:05:51,760 --> 00:05:54,400 Speaker 1: always say that banter or that you just have that connection, 111 00:05:54,480 --> 00:05:57,640 Speaker 1: you know, you can tell right away with somebody totally. Yeah. 112 00:05:58,920 --> 00:06:02,279 Speaker 1: So have you been dating at all in this isolation period? 113 00:06:02,800 --> 00:06:07,400 Speaker 1: I haven't. Um, yeah, no, I just haven't. Like, in fact, 114 00:06:07,440 --> 00:06:10,560 Speaker 1: I haven't really been doing much of it prior you know, 115 00:06:10,640 --> 00:06:13,360 Speaker 1: this year at all, prior to the whole coronavirus thing. 116 00:06:13,480 --> 00:06:18,919 Speaker 1: So for me, um yeah, I kind of feel like 117 00:06:18,920 --> 00:06:22,080 Speaker 1: it's a little pointless. Um So I'm like, I'm not 118 00:06:22,080 --> 00:06:25,080 Speaker 1: going to get sucked into like some conversations with people 119 00:06:25,080 --> 00:06:26,839 Speaker 1: that I'm just like sort of forcing it because I 120 00:06:26,839 --> 00:06:29,480 Speaker 1: feel like if I got online right now and started 121 00:06:29,839 --> 00:06:31,600 Speaker 1: to try and meet somebody, it would be more out 122 00:06:31,640 --> 00:06:34,040 Speaker 1: of just boredom and like forcing myself to do it 123 00:06:34,160 --> 00:06:36,960 Speaker 1: versus act like you're not actually really yeah, you're not 124 00:06:37,000 --> 00:06:40,920 Speaker 1: actually interested in dating? Interesting, well, if you do decide 125 00:06:40,960 --> 00:06:44,760 Speaker 1: a date. Glamour also gave some tips on which which 126 00:06:44,800 --> 00:06:48,080 Speaker 1: actual apps are the best for certain things, which I 127 00:06:48,120 --> 00:06:51,359 Speaker 1: thought was interesting. They say that Okay, Cupid is the 128 00:06:51,400 --> 00:06:55,599 Speaker 1: best for long term relationships interesting, which I've never heard. 129 00:06:55,680 --> 00:06:58,360 Speaker 1: Have you heard that? No? I mean I didn't even 130 00:06:58,360 --> 00:07:00,480 Speaker 1: know they were still in business to be on Okay. 131 00:07:00,560 --> 00:07:03,080 Speaker 1: Well clearly they are. I mean, honestly, I don't know 132 00:07:03,160 --> 00:07:05,479 Speaker 1: anyone on Okay keep it. But they say it's because 133 00:07:05,520 --> 00:07:07,720 Speaker 1: the woman reaches out first, which isn't that the way 134 00:07:07,720 --> 00:07:10,920 Speaker 1: bumble is. That's how Bumble is too. I think so 135 00:07:11,160 --> 00:07:13,680 Speaker 1: anytime the woman is messaging first. I don't really know 136 00:07:13,720 --> 00:07:16,920 Speaker 1: why that is more of a long term situation, but 137 00:07:17,360 --> 00:07:19,400 Speaker 1: maybe because most of the girls on there are looking 138 00:07:19,400 --> 00:07:24,240 Speaker 1: for that, Yeah, I think that's probably it. Um you know, 139 00:07:24,320 --> 00:07:26,720 Speaker 1: it's I think that a lot of them, you know, 140 00:07:26,800 --> 00:07:30,840 Speaker 1: Tinder was the hook up app, you know, right at 141 00:07:30,920 --> 00:07:33,000 Speaker 1: the gate, so's I think each of them have their 142 00:07:33,040 --> 00:07:38,120 Speaker 1: own sort of underground like personality. Um yeah, barking it's 143 00:07:38,160 --> 00:07:41,040 Speaker 1: kind of driving me crazy, but um yeah, I think 144 00:07:41,040 --> 00:07:43,680 Speaker 1: they all have like sort of a known even in 145 00:07:43,680 --> 00:07:46,600 Speaker 1: the gay world. Um, you know, I think the Grinder 146 00:07:46,680 --> 00:07:51,400 Speaker 1: is looked at as like the Tinder version of of dating. 147 00:07:51,440 --> 00:07:54,520 Speaker 1: It's just all about hooking up. And there are some 148 00:07:54,600 --> 00:07:56,680 Speaker 1: that are a little bit more that are like sort 149 00:07:56,680 --> 00:08:03,320 Speaker 1: of dating bent right. Well, they say for over forty 150 00:08:03,560 --> 00:08:08,120 Speaker 1: the best one is match, which actually, you know what, 151 00:08:08,160 --> 00:08:11,000 Speaker 1: that makes sense to me, And honestly, the only success 152 00:08:11,040 --> 00:08:13,600 Speaker 1: stories that I've ever heard from dating apps like long 153 00:08:13,720 --> 00:08:16,640 Speaker 1: term that lead to marriage are on match dot com. 154 00:08:16,720 --> 00:08:19,560 Speaker 1: M My sister actually met her husband on an app 155 00:08:19,600 --> 00:08:23,400 Speaker 1: called plenty Plenty of Fish dot com. Oh yeah, plenty 156 00:08:23,440 --> 00:08:26,720 Speaker 1: of Fish. Yeah, yeah, that's an interesting one. She met 157 00:08:26,720 --> 00:08:28,880 Speaker 1: some dude on e Harmony that and it didn't work out. 158 00:08:29,200 --> 00:08:30,440 Speaker 1: She thought she was going to marry him, but it 159 00:08:30,440 --> 00:08:34,720 Speaker 1: didn't work out. That's a shame. Well, and it happens 160 00:08:34,760 --> 00:08:38,440 Speaker 1: a lot of these dating sites. Yeah they Have you 161 00:08:38,480 --> 00:08:41,640 Speaker 1: heard of this site called Love is Quarantine? It's a 162 00:08:41,720 --> 00:08:45,520 Speaker 1: new Instagram account. Oh yeah, I have seen it. I 163 00:08:45,559 --> 00:08:49,120 Speaker 1: didn't um, I haven't like really dug into it. But yeah, 164 00:08:49,120 --> 00:08:51,839 Speaker 1: aren't people like dating on it? They're matching people? Yes, 165 00:08:51,960 --> 00:08:56,280 Speaker 1: So apparently the founders of this site, which oddly enough, 166 00:08:56,320 --> 00:08:59,080 Speaker 1: for my neighbors, I mean the neighbors of my photographer 167 00:08:59,080 --> 00:09:01,320 Speaker 1: for Velvit's edge. She lives in Brooklyn and they live 168 00:09:01,400 --> 00:09:03,120 Speaker 1: next to order her. So this is how I found 169 00:09:03,120 --> 00:09:05,640 Speaker 1: out about it. But they're huge fans of that show 170 00:09:05,679 --> 00:09:07,719 Speaker 1: Love Is Blind, which obviously you and I both are 171 00:09:07,760 --> 00:09:10,120 Speaker 1: as well, and so they loved the concept of the 172 00:09:10,160 --> 00:09:13,000 Speaker 1: pods and they're like, Okay, well now we're all isolated, 173 00:09:13,120 --> 00:09:16,040 Speaker 1: so how do we take that concept and make it 174 00:09:16,080 --> 00:09:18,880 Speaker 1: into something that works during this isolation period. So the 175 00:09:18,920 --> 00:09:20,960 Speaker 1: way they set it up is you do these spread 176 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:23,440 Speaker 1: They have a Google spreadsheet basically, and this is how 177 00:09:23,480 --> 00:09:25,840 Speaker 1: they're matching people. You just get you get it on 178 00:09:25,840 --> 00:09:28,520 Speaker 1: the phone and you talk to somebody. So sometimes the 179 00:09:28,520 --> 00:09:30,920 Speaker 1: conversations are great, just like they were in the Pods. 180 00:09:31,280 --> 00:09:33,600 Speaker 1: Sometimes they're terrible. And they document all this on their 181 00:09:33,640 --> 00:09:36,760 Speaker 1: Instagram account and it's it's rapidly growing. Like in this 182 00:09:36,840 --> 00:09:40,280 Speaker 1: Glamor article that they were talking about it, they were saying, Um, 183 00:09:40,360 --> 00:09:41,880 Speaker 1: the way that you get in is you just d 184 00:09:42,120 --> 00:09:46,320 Speaker 1: M them, And so they are also saying it might 185 00:09:46,360 --> 00:09:50,880 Speaker 1: be difficult to get in right now because it's so popular. Yes, yes, 186 00:09:51,679 --> 00:09:55,000 Speaker 1: I'm looking at Love is Quarantine. Here we go. Yeah, 187 00:09:55,200 --> 00:09:57,960 Speaker 1: I'm gonna have to dig in more. Maybe you should 188 00:09:57,960 --> 00:09:59,839 Speaker 1: do it. It would be entertaining for us. I'll take 189 00:09:59,840 --> 00:10:05,480 Speaker 1: one the team. Maybe maybe I will. I actually saw 190 00:10:05,880 --> 00:10:10,680 Speaker 1: there's a new dating app called UM. It's called Quarantine 191 00:10:10,720 --> 00:10:15,040 Speaker 1: Together UM, and it's actually pretty interesting. UM concept Basically, 192 00:10:15,080 --> 00:10:18,679 Speaker 1: it's a text based app and every night at six pm, 193 00:10:18,720 --> 00:10:22,040 Speaker 1: the registered users get a text asking them if they 194 00:10:22,160 --> 00:10:25,920 Speaker 1: washed their hands, and if they say yes, they are 195 00:10:25,960 --> 00:10:28,680 Speaker 1: then matched with another user by text and they have 196 00:10:28,800 --> 00:10:31,800 Speaker 1: to text for fifteen minutes before they get sent a 197 00:10:31,840 --> 00:10:36,199 Speaker 1: link to where they can video chat. Okay, so the 198 00:10:36,240 --> 00:10:38,520 Speaker 1: only rule for this side is that you have to 199 00:10:38,559 --> 00:10:41,880 Speaker 1: wash your hand? Do agree that you have washed your hands? Yeah? 200 00:10:42,280 --> 00:10:45,640 Speaker 1: How can they prove that? I mean, I guess they 201 00:10:45,640 --> 00:10:47,880 Speaker 1: don't have to. I mean, it's probably just like a 202 00:10:48,360 --> 00:10:51,079 Speaker 1: nice little reminder. It's like, do you know the password? 203 00:10:52,200 --> 00:10:54,160 Speaker 1: The password is washing your hands? I mean, my hands 204 00:10:54,200 --> 00:10:56,680 Speaker 1: are about to fall off? Are yours? Like they're literally 205 00:10:56,679 --> 00:11:00,600 Speaker 1: my knuckles they're so drawn. But I'll so like, if 206 00:11:00,640 --> 00:11:02,600 Speaker 1: you know, if your hands aren't dry right now, and 207 00:11:02,720 --> 00:11:06,160 Speaker 1: I see that you have well moisturized, healthy hands, like, 208 00:11:06,200 --> 00:11:09,720 Speaker 1: don't come near me, but maybe somebody sleeping in gloves 209 00:11:09,720 --> 00:11:12,320 Speaker 1: of vasseline or something, you know, Yeah, I'm about to 210 00:11:12,320 --> 00:11:16,319 Speaker 1: start doing that, even Lingloria Trick. My biggest question about 211 00:11:16,360 --> 00:11:19,280 Speaker 1: all of this dating stuff is what are people doing 212 00:11:19,520 --> 00:11:23,280 Speaker 1: to Like? What are these dates? Is it a phone call? Like? 213 00:11:23,480 --> 00:11:25,720 Speaker 1: How are they occupying their time on these dates. Are 214 00:11:25,760 --> 00:11:29,520 Speaker 1: they just having conversations? It just seems so awkward to me. Yeah, 215 00:11:29,640 --> 00:11:32,640 Speaker 1: I think I think they run the gamut. I saw 216 00:11:32,640 --> 00:11:35,520 Speaker 1: a story the other day about a guy in New 217 00:11:35,600 --> 00:11:40,000 Speaker 1: York who like has started dating the girl across the street. 218 00:11:40,440 --> 00:11:43,520 Speaker 1: Did you say, have you seen this? Name is Jeremy Cohen, 219 00:11:43,720 --> 00:11:45,920 Speaker 1: and I guess he's a TikTok user, and it sort 220 00:11:45,920 --> 00:11:47,800 Speaker 1: of went viral on TikTok. But he saw a girl 221 00:11:47,920 --> 00:11:50,719 Speaker 1: dancing on He was on his balcony and across the 222 00:11:50,760 --> 00:11:53,240 Speaker 1: street there was a girl dancing on her roof and 223 00:11:53,280 --> 00:11:55,199 Speaker 1: he like yelled for her and like waved to her, 224 00:11:55,280 --> 00:11:58,640 Speaker 1: and she waved back. And then he used his drone. 225 00:11:58,720 --> 00:12:00,480 Speaker 1: He wrote his phone member on the she to paper 226 00:12:00,679 --> 00:12:03,760 Speaker 1: uses drone, flew his number to her, and an hour 227 00:12:03,840 --> 00:12:06,760 Speaker 1: later she texted him. So they were going back and forth, 228 00:12:06,880 --> 00:12:10,200 Speaker 1: and then he arranged with her roommate a dinner date 229 00:12:10,440 --> 00:12:13,400 Speaker 1: where she was at a table on her roof and 230 00:12:13,480 --> 00:12:15,319 Speaker 1: he was at a table on his balcony and they 231 00:12:15,480 --> 00:12:19,280 Speaker 1: had wine and like ate dinner and FaceTime. And then 232 00:12:19,320 --> 00:12:21,600 Speaker 1: he got one of those blow up bubbles and went 233 00:12:21,640 --> 00:12:23,920 Speaker 1: out and they walked down the street together where she 234 00:12:24,000 --> 00:12:25,600 Speaker 1: was not in the bubble and he was in the bubble. 235 00:12:26,160 --> 00:12:29,880 Speaker 1: Oh my god, this is extreme there. It's like Mom 236 00:12:29,880 --> 00:12:31,640 Speaker 1: and Dad, tell us your love story. He's like, well, 237 00:12:31,679 --> 00:12:38,560 Speaker 1: I took my room. Casual. Cool. It's just another modern 238 00:12:38,640 --> 00:12:43,800 Speaker 1: day romances involving a grone in a bubble, right the 239 00:12:43,840 --> 00:12:47,400 Speaker 1: world we live in now, it's funny and scary. Didn't 240 00:12:47,440 --> 00:12:49,559 Speaker 1: you say you have a friend? He was? He has 241 00:12:49,679 --> 00:12:54,440 Speaker 1: in an avid dating life right now on UM, so 242 00:12:54,559 --> 00:12:56,880 Speaker 1: what is his own dating apps? Right? Yeah, he's um, 243 00:12:56,880 --> 00:13:01,280 Speaker 1: I think he's using Rya mostly. Okay. Is he a celebrity. 244 00:13:01,480 --> 00:13:03,599 Speaker 1: He is not a celebrity, but he works in that 245 00:13:05,160 --> 00:13:07,160 Speaker 1: I think it was. That's what it was originally. Not 246 00:13:07,280 --> 00:13:11,640 Speaker 1: you still have to be like invited. Um, but yeah, 247 00:13:11,679 --> 00:13:14,720 Speaker 1: he's dating like, like he said, five people. There's like 248 00:13:14,800 --> 00:13:17,000 Speaker 1: two girls in l A, one in New York, one 249 00:13:17,040 --> 00:13:23,480 Speaker 1: in Denver, and he's literally killing the isolation game here. Okay, 250 00:13:23,480 --> 00:13:25,120 Speaker 1: I think we should get him on the phone and 251 00:13:25,120 --> 00:13:26,840 Speaker 1: see if he can fill us in on what kind 252 00:13:26,840 --> 00:13:29,000 Speaker 1: of dates this guy you know that's that are happening 253 00:13:29,120 --> 00:13:34,680 Speaker 1: right now. His name is Chris, he's he's also in 254 00:13:34,679 --> 00:13:38,880 Speaker 1: the music business. Um, he's a manager and hopefully he's 255 00:13:38,960 --> 00:13:49,640 Speaker 1: up there he comes a great picture. Hello, y hi, Hello, 256 00:13:49,679 --> 00:13:52,040 Speaker 1: we did it. We did it. You look a lot 257 00:13:52,080 --> 00:13:55,120 Speaker 1: more cleaned up than the rest of us. Did you shower? 258 00:13:55,400 --> 00:13:58,840 Speaker 1: I so, I yeah, I did shower. But it's also 259 00:13:58,920 --> 00:14:02,040 Speaker 1: part of my like daily quarantine routine to just keep 260 00:14:03,120 --> 00:14:05,600 Speaker 1: from falling into like what day is it? What am 261 00:14:05,640 --> 00:14:08,400 Speaker 1: I doing with my life? Right basically in my life 262 00:14:08,480 --> 00:14:11,800 Speaker 1: right now, I'm still. I mean, as long as you 263 00:14:11,880 --> 00:14:14,520 Speaker 1: have like pajamas for morning and pajamas for night and 264 00:14:14,559 --> 00:14:18,760 Speaker 1: you kind of between. It just depends on the day, Chris, 265 00:14:18,840 --> 00:14:25,000 Speaker 1: depends on the day. You know, happy Friday, right is it? What? 266 00:14:24,600 --> 00:14:30,720 Speaker 1: What is it? What's today? Yes? Happy today? Um? So 267 00:14:30,760 --> 00:14:33,000 Speaker 1: we ship and I have been talking and we are 268 00:14:33,080 --> 00:14:36,560 Speaker 1: so fascinated by your dating situation right now. I mean, 269 00:14:36,560 --> 00:14:40,560 Speaker 1: it seriously sounds like you are killing the game. I mean, 270 00:14:40,600 --> 00:14:43,440 Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm it's sad, but thank you 271 00:14:43,560 --> 00:14:47,240 Speaker 1: for a global pandemic. I feel like girls are coming 272 00:14:47,240 --> 00:14:50,360 Speaker 1: out of the woodworks and actually wanted for the first time. 273 00:14:51,160 --> 00:14:54,320 Speaker 1: Whatever it takes. Man, You know, dating is tough out there. 274 00:14:54,320 --> 00:14:56,880 Speaker 1: You gotta do what you gotta do. I know, right, 275 00:14:57,680 --> 00:15:00,640 Speaker 1: so you are are you juggling? I have women at 276 00:15:00,640 --> 00:15:04,600 Speaker 1: this point is that what I was, I mean, over 277 00:15:04,640 --> 00:15:08,360 Speaker 1: the course of the whole I guess quarantine. There's been 278 00:15:08,760 --> 00:15:11,800 Speaker 1: a series of people have fallen in and out. There's 279 00:15:11,840 --> 00:15:14,560 Speaker 1: been a couple of crash and burn situations. There's been 280 00:15:14,560 --> 00:15:17,160 Speaker 1: a couple that have just definitely friend zone kind of 281 00:15:17,160 --> 00:15:20,120 Speaker 1: thing where I've now just become like a cook mentor 282 00:15:20,400 --> 00:15:24,440 Speaker 1: or just like a daily like therapy session. But I 283 00:15:24,520 --> 00:15:28,320 Speaker 1: say there's right now, there's there's consistently i'd say three 284 00:15:28,400 --> 00:15:34,840 Speaker 1: girls that are I'm currently talking to dating. Wow. I 285 00:15:34,840 --> 00:15:37,400 Speaker 1: mean that's a lot to ruggle. You're actually very busy 286 00:15:37,440 --> 00:15:39,720 Speaker 1: in isolation, it sounds have you Have you had any 287 00:15:39,800 --> 00:15:43,280 Speaker 1: like slip ups or you like mentioned something about one girl? No, 288 00:15:43,680 --> 00:15:47,120 Speaker 1: thank no. I actually was like really worried about that, 289 00:15:47,560 --> 00:15:49,600 Speaker 1: and I started kind of like, Okay, do I need 290 00:15:49,640 --> 00:15:52,480 Speaker 1: to keep me remembered. But I think, because this is 291 00:15:52,520 --> 00:15:56,320 Speaker 1: all that's really happening right now, you actually are really 292 00:15:56,360 --> 00:15:59,080 Speaker 1: paying at tension to like when you're with them and 293 00:15:59,160 --> 00:16:02,280 Speaker 1: face timing or do and whatever. So knock on wood, 294 00:16:02,320 --> 00:16:04,720 Speaker 1: that hasn't happened. But I hope to god that's not 295 00:16:04,800 --> 00:16:10,080 Speaker 1: like in my future. Because yeah, so you said you've 296 00:16:10,080 --> 00:16:13,440 Speaker 1: become their cook or their therapists. So what like, what 297 00:16:13,480 --> 00:16:17,040 Speaker 1: are you guys doing on these facetimes? Are you facetiming? 298 00:16:17,120 --> 00:16:21,640 Speaker 1: Is that what's happening? Yeah? So what's funny is it's um, 299 00:16:21,680 --> 00:16:24,760 Speaker 1: it all depends on the person. Like there's one girl 300 00:16:24,880 --> 00:16:30,200 Speaker 1: that it started where very randomly. I was just like, Hey, 301 00:16:30,360 --> 00:16:32,400 Speaker 1: I don't know if you're into this, but I'm gonna 302 00:16:32,400 --> 00:16:34,960 Speaker 1: start a puzzle. I've never been into puzzling, but I'm 303 00:16:34,960 --> 00:16:37,480 Speaker 1: going to get a thousand piece puzzle. Because we have 304 00:16:37,520 --> 00:16:38,960 Speaker 1: a lot of time on our hands. I was like, 305 00:16:39,040 --> 00:16:42,280 Speaker 1: do you maybe want to do a puzzle together? Because 306 00:16:42,320 --> 00:16:44,280 Speaker 1: I was like, how, Like, we don't know how long 307 00:16:44,320 --> 00:16:46,880 Speaker 1: we're in this. So I was like like, how are 308 00:16:46,920 --> 00:16:49,720 Speaker 1: you like I need something to kind of entertain it 309 00:16:49,840 --> 00:16:53,800 Speaker 1: or whatever? Um, And she was like, yeah, let's do it. 310 00:16:53,840 --> 00:16:56,240 Speaker 1: Send me a link. So we got the same puzzle. 311 00:16:56,360 --> 00:16:59,360 Speaker 1: So we FaceTime and work on a puzzle. And I 312 00:16:59,400 --> 00:17:00,960 Speaker 1: was just like, Okay, I don't know how this is 313 00:17:00,960 --> 00:17:05,679 Speaker 1: gonna go. And we probably on average are like facetiming 314 00:17:05,680 --> 00:17:12,000 Speaker 1: for about four hours a night. What it's crazy, It's wild. 315 00:17:12,119 --> 00:17:15,520 Speaker 1: It's crazy. Like the first PiZZ that it happened, what's 316 00:17:15,520 --> 00:17:19,160 Speaker 1: that at the puzzle. Oh, I definitely am Like it's 317 00:17:19,160 --> 00:17:23,840 Speaker 1: definitely sparks like a lot of issues amongst her friends. Um, 318 00:17:23,920 --> 00:17:26,160 Speaker 1: she has like a like a like a friend group, 319 00:17:26,160 --> 00:17:28,119 Speaker 1: and I guess obviously I've been like a topic of 320 00:17:28,240 --> 00:17:30,960 Speaker 1: conversation because they're all married and they're like she's the 321 00:17:31,000 --> 00:17:32,879 Speaker 1: one single one kind of like me, where I'm like 322 00:17:32,920 --> 00:17:35,480 Speaker 1: one of the few single ones where everyone's like living 323 00:17:35,600 --> 00:17:39,639 Speaker 1: vicariously through me, and her friends are are legit. She 324 00:17:39,720 --> 00:17:42,120 Speaker 1: told me, She's like, yeah, I'm I need a couple 325 00:17:42,160 --> 00:17:44,040 Speaker 1: of days off to get the puzzle to like where 326 00:17:44,040 --> 00:17:46,640 Speaker 1: you're because I only have like maybe like ten pieces 327 00:17:46,760 --> 00:17:49,639 Speaker 1: left UMO. But it was huge. She was like, you 328 00:17:49,640 --> 00:17:53,439 Speaker 1: are distracting, Like I you know, I've been really enjoying 329 00:17:53,440 --> 00:17:59,520 Speaker 1: our commerci. She's in Brooklyn, Okay, Okay, so you're in 330 00:17:59,560 --> 00:18:03,800 Speaker 1: Los Angeles, right, San Diego? San Diego? Okay. I new 331 00:18:03,800 --> 00:18:06,639 Speaker 1: it was California. So that's a very long distance relationship. 332 00:18:06,720 --> 00:18:09,880 Speaker 1: Crazy how isolation can bring us. All of these are 333 00:18:10,000 --> 00:18:16,800 Speaker 1: all all around, Like the closest one is like away 334 00:18:17,160 --> 00:18:20,720 Speaker 1: and you haven't you haven't met any of them prior 335 00:18:20,760 --> 00:18:23,240 Speaker 1: to this. How would he meet them? I didn't know 336 00:18:23,240 --> 00:18:26,080 Speaker 1: if they were like any of it was happening before 337 00:18:26,160 --> 00:18:30,639 Speaker 1: quarantine started. They're there. Actually there was there was one 338 00:18:32,040 --> 00:18:34,800 Speaker 1: two of two of well actually, so there's two girls 339 00:18:34,840 --> 00:18:38,200 Speaker 1: that um live in l A that I was supposed 340 00:18:38,280 --> 00:18:42,080 Speaker 1: to go on a date with, and it was around 341 00:18:42,160 --> 00:18:45,040 Speaker 1: the time of when everybody was kind of getting ready 342 00:18:45,040 --> 00:18:47,080 Speaker 1: at work to like, okay, we're gonna work from home. 343 00:18:47,119 --> 00:18:49,800 Speaker 1: There's like that week where it was like, let's take 344 00:18:49,840 --> 00:18:53,840 Speaker 1: a Tuesday Thursday and see we can kind of withstand this. 345 00:18:53,960 --> 00:18:56,320 Speaker 1: And then basically once the company is realized that everybody 346 00:18:56,359 --> 00:19:00,159 Speaker 1: stayed at home. So around that time I had a 347 00:19:00,280 --> 00:19:05,440 Speaker 1: date planned with UM, a girl that basically it kind 348 00:19:05,440 --> 00:19:08,359 Speaker 1: of went south because of quarantine. So we've done like 349 00:19:08,400 --> 00:19:11,000 Speaker 1: a couple and we had mutual friends. It was kind 350 00:19:11,000 --> 00:19:12,359 Speaker 1: of like we didn't meet on an app. It was 351 00:19:12,359 --> 00:19:14,359 Speaker 1: like we were kind of set up from friends because 352 00:19:14,359 --> 00:19:17,080 Speaker 1: we've done a couple of like group based times that 353 00:19:17,119 --> 00:19:19,440 Speaker 1: have kind of helped. Because we're supposed to have a date, 354 00:19:19,440 --> 00:19:21,960 Speaker 1: it kind of canceled because of like a work obligation. 355 00:19:22,080 --> 00:19:24,600 Speaker 1: So we've kept in touch. So it's one of those 356 00:19:24,680 --> 00:19:27,439 Speaker 1: like there's not so much pressure on it because we 357 00:19:27,520 --> 00:19:29,679 Speaker 1: have mutual friends and there's been this kind of like 358 00:19:29,720 --> 00:19:33,120 Speaker 1: banter um. There is a girl that I did meet 359 00:19:33,160 --> 00:19:36,680 Speaker 1: on a dating app that we were supposed to meet prior, 360 00:19:36,800 --> 00:19:39,480 Speaker 1: and poor thing. I feel it's just completely gone off 361 00:19:39,480 --> 00:19:42,640 Speaker 1: the rails where now it's like every few days, like 362 00:19:43,040 --> 00:19:44,960 Speaker 1: she doesn't want to be that person that like texts 363 00:19:45,000 --> 00:19:48,280 Speaker 1: and communicates, but I'll randomly get a FaceTime from her 364 00:19:48,320 --> 00:19:50,720 Speaker 1: and it's just like we made it to this day, 365 00:19:50,720 --> 00:19:52,359 Speaker 1: and she'll like take a shot and then leave, and 366 00:19:52,400 --> 00:19:59,719 Speaker 1: I'm just like yeah, yeah, no, no, no, there's definitely 367 00:19:59,720 --> 00:20:03,600 Speaker 1: there's into that that I have legit dodged bullets with 368 00:20:03,880 --> 00:20:06,520 Speaker 1: and I I've thought about like what happened if we'd 369 00:20:06,520 --> 00:20:10,080 Speaker 1: actually be quarantined together. That would be a nightmare. Oh yeah, 370 00:20:10,760 --> 00:20:13,600 Speaker 1: so that isn't a risk of this, Like if you 371 00:20:13,680 --> 00:20:15,800 Speaker 1: actually go see someone, what if you guys both get 372 00:20:15,800 --> 00:20:18,200 Speaker 1: it and then you're just like stuck together for fourteen days. 373 00:20:19,400 --> 00:20:22,280 Speaker 1: It's crazy because I feel like this time, I guess 374 00:20:22,320 --> 00:20:25,360 Speaker 1: the good thing with this pandemic if it is like 375 00:20:26,000 --> 00:20:28,640 Speaker 1: you're definitely seeing like their raw side, like it is real. 376 00:20:28,720 --> 00:20:32,480 Speaker 1: The honeymoon phases over, so you're definitely seeing people that 377 00:20:32,520 --> 00:20:35,760 Speaker 1: are like hitting a breaking point where you're kind of 378 00:20:35,800 --> 00:20:37,960 Speaker 1: like normally, it's like when you date, you have like 379 00:20:38,640 --> 00:20:40,719 Speaker 1: the month or two or whatever it is where everyone's 380 00:20:40,760 --> 00:20:43,600 Speaker 1: putting their best foot forward. I mean, there's one girl 381 00:20:43,640 --> 00:20:46,800 Speaker 1: that I'm consistently talking to where straight up it all 382 00:20:46,840 --> 00:20:49,199 Speaker 1: started where she was freaking out because she's like I 383 00:20:49,240 --> 00:20:51,600 Speaker 1: can't get my xanic and I'm losing it, and I'm like, 384 00:20:54,080 --> 00:20:56,760 Speaker 1: this is amazing. Yeah, I know she was. I Mean 385 00:20:56,800 --> 00:20:58,560 Speaker 1: it got to a point where I was like trying 386 00:20:58,560 --> 00:21:00,480 Speaker 1: to be like, do you want to call it into 387 00:21:00,640 --> 00:21:03,640 Speaker 1: my pharmacy and I can like fed exited to you, 388 00:21:03,760 --> 00:21:06,240 Speaker 1: like I'm not. I'm like I was. I didn't know 389 00:21:06,280 --> 00:21:08,199 Speaker 1: what to do. I felt helpless and pore. Thing was 390 00:21:08,280 --> 00:21:11,640 Speaker 1: just spiraling. But she's She's definitely the one where I'll 391 00:21:11,640 --> 00:21:13,400 Speaker 1: get like a FaceTime a like two in the morning 392 00:21:13,400 --> 00:21:16,320 Speaker 1: and she's just like I've slept all day, I'm drinking 393 00:21:16,400 --> 00:21:19,960 Speaker 1: wine in bed, like how are you? And I'm like, okay, 394 00:21:20,080 --> 00:21:22,760 Speaker 1: here we go. Yeah, like you said, you're seeing you're 395 00:21:22,840 --> 00:21:26,040 Speaker 1: seeing everyone kind of going through stuff. I mean, because 396 00:21:26,080 --> 00:21:29,480 Speaker 1: we all are right like, I mean three in the afternoon, 397 00:21:29,600 --> 00:21:33,640 Speaker 1: so it's not like a normal normal time. So it's 398 00:21:33,640 --> 00:21:35,600 Speaker 1: like it would be really easy to sort of like 399 00:21:35,680 --> 00:21:38,560 Speaker 1: slip into I mean, a lot of us don't have 400 00:21:38,800 --> 00:21:40,639 Speaker 1: much going on, so there's not a whole lot to 401 00:21:40,640 --> 00:21:43,000 Speaker 1: talk about. But you mentioned a game that you've been playing. 402 00:21:43,480 --> 00:21:48,280 Speaker 1: The DoD's a little deeper. Um oh yeah, yeah, so 403 00:21:48,520 --> 00:21:53,840 Speaker 1: right before right before Quarantine or whatever, I um kind 404 00:21:53,840 --> 00:21:59,639 Speaker 1: of backstory. I uh that Lady Brennie Brown kind of 405 00:21:59,680 --> 00:22:03,760 Speaker 1: like SHO show. Yeah, And so I watched that and 406 00:22:03,800 --> 00:22:07,440 Speaker 1: I kind of dove deep on her and started reading 407 00:22:07,480 --> 00:22:10,119 Speaker 1: some of her books about vulnerability. And I came across 408 00:22:10,680 --> 00:22:12,679 Speaker 1: an instagram that a friends at me and was like, 409 00:22:13,040 --> 00:22:15,439 Speaker 1: I think that you would love this. It's totally email. 410 00:22:15,520 --> 00:22:17,320 Speaker 1: Most dudes don't like it, but I feel like you 411 00:22:17,320 --> 00:22:20,440 Speaker 1: would like it. And it's called We're Not Really Strangers 412 00:22:21,160 --> 00:22:23,199 Speaker 1: and they have a card game. So I was like, 413 00:22:23,240 --> 00:22:25,879 Speaker 1: you know what, I'm just gonna buy it whatever. Um 414 00:22:25,920 --> 00:22:28,920 Speaker 1: and it's actually a card game about connection. There's like 415 00:22:28,960 --> 00:22:32,880 Speaker 1: all these different levels where you ask a partner these questions, 416 00:22:32,880 --> 00:22:37,040 Speaker 1: and so I uh, starting with the Puzzle Girl and 417 00:22:37,080 --> 00:22:41,639 Speaker 1: then the the Xanex girl. If we have nicknames, I 418 00:22:41,720 --> 00:22:43,480 Speaker 1: kind of I kind of was like, hey, I have 419 00:22:43,600 --> 00:22:46,720 Speaker 1: this game, or if I've never played it, because I 420 00:22:46,720 --> 00:22:48,399 Speaker 1: don't even know if I'm playing it correctly, because you're 421 00:22:48,400 --> 00:22:51,480 Speaker 1: supposed to do it in person, but you basically start 422 00:22:51,520 --> 00:22:56,080 Speaker 1: asking questions and it allows like a deep dive conversation 423 00:22:56,119 --> 00:22:58,879 Speaker 1: about kind of opening up and being vulnerable, and so 424 00:22:58,920 --> 00:23:02,879 Speaker 1: that's actually really helped a lot of these conversations where 425 00:23:02,920 --> 00:23:05,960 Speaker 1: it's not just like we're face timing and playing a puzzle, 426 00:23:06,040 --> 00:23:08,920 Speaker 1: but it's like we're actually asking each other questions. And 427 00:23:08,960 --> 00:23:10,520 Speaker 1: then you kind of get off on like a tangent, 428 00:23:10,600 --> 00:23:14,520 Speaker 1: go down a rabbit hole. And it's actually really hasty 429 00:23:14,600 --> 00:23:17,359 Speaker 1: to see people that are actually leaning into the time 430 00:23:18,240 --> 00:23:21,520 Speaker 1: and just going okay, because I think I think everybody 431 00:23:21,560 --> 00:23:25,040 Speaker 1: does crave attention, but in a normal world, you have 432 00:23:25,080 --> 00:23:29,200 Speaker 1: so many distractions from what I'm experiencing right now. People 433 00:23:29,200 --> 00:23:33,159 Speaker 1: are definitely I think missing that and they're kind of 434 00:23:33,240 --> 00:23:36,320 Speaker 1: leaning in, which is I think kind of helping to 435 00:23:36,440 --> 00:23:39,159 Speaker 1: build like an emotional connection with somebody. Give us some 436 00:23:39,240 --> 00:23:41,320 Speaker 1: examples of the questions of that game, because I think 437 00:23:41,400 --> 00:23:43,639 Speaker 1: Chip was telling me about it and he said, you 438 00:23:43,720 --> 00:23:45,919 Speaker 1: just describe the different levels. So some of them are 439 00:23:46,000 --> 00:23:49,199 Speaker 1: kind of, you know, a little like easier, right, and 440 00:23:49,240 --> 00:23:56,040 Speaker 1: then get yeah. So it's basically from my understanding. It's 441 00:23:56,040 --> 00:23:59,240 Speaker 1: basically broken into three levels, where the first group of 442 00:23:59,320 --> 00:24:02,399 Speaker 1: questions are all about the impression that you have of 443 00:24:02,480 --> 00:24:05,320 Speaker 1: the other and what they give off and how like 444 00:24:05,400 --> 00:24:09,080 Speaker 1: how well you kind of like read someone, um let 445 00:24:09,119 --> 00:24:12,520 Speaker 1: me grab so like some of the questions that says, 446 00:24:13,040 --> 00:24:16,840 Speaker 1: do I remind you of anyone? Um? What does my 447 00:24:16,920 --> 00:24:20,199 Speaker 1: Instagram tell you about me? Uh? Do you think I 448 00:24:20,280 --> 00:24:22,480 Speaker 1: fall in love easily? Why? Or why not? So a 449 00:24:22,480 --> 00:24:28,120 Speaker 1: lot of it is just based on um, like you're however, 450 00:24:28,240 --> 00:24:29,840 Speaker 1: like you you kind of come off to that person 451 00:24:29,920 --> 00:24:33,760 Speaker 1: just on a like a like a one dimensional level, 452 00:24:33,760 --> 00:24:36,000 Speaker 1: whether it's they add you on Instagram or just the 453 00:24:36,040 --> 00:24:39,440 Speaker 1: first impression kind of thing. But if you didn't tell 454 00:24:39,480 --> 00:24:41,560 Speaker 1: them that you were pulling from cards and for the 455 00:24:41,680 --> 00:24:50,439 Speaker 1: questions that I ever met, I know my my my 456 00:24:50,480 --> 00:24:52,480 Speaker 1: best friend's wife said the same thing. She was like, 457 00:24:52,520 --> 00:24:54,359 Speaker 1: why are you telling these girls about the game like 458 00:24:54,400 --> 00:24:57,600 Speaker 1: you would just seeing like the most amazing sweetheart of 459 00:24:57,640 --> 00:24:58,840 Speaker 1: a guy. And I was like, wait, do I not 460 00:24:58,960 --> 00:25:01,600 Speaker 1: come off that way? So I'm like myself, I'm like, 461 00:25:02,320 --> 00:25:05,000 Speaker 1: what is going on? So it's kind of like the 462 00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:07,639 Speaker 1: first the first kind of level, and then the second 463 00:25:07,640 --> 00:25:11,160 Speaker 1: one is just straight like rarely ask questions that really 464 00:25:11,200 --> 00:25:12,919 Speaker 1: allow you to kind of like dive deep. And that 465 00:25:13,000 --> 00:25:15,200 Speaker 1: was the one that ship we played on the Happy 466 00:25:15,240 --> 00:25:20,480 Speaker 1: Hour where you kind of got go around. But um, yeah, 467 00:25:20,520 --> 00:25:23,959 Speaker 1: it's I mean there's there's like are you missing anyone 468 00:25:24,080 --> 00:25:27,560 Speaker 1: right now? Do you think they're missing you? Two? Um 469 00:25:27,880 --> 00:25:31,879 Speaker 1: describe your perfect day? Is there a feeling that you miss? 470 00:25:32,600 --> 00:25:35,640 Speaker 1: How can you become a better person? And it's it's 471 00:25:35,800 --> 00:25:40,000 Speaker 1: interesting to kind of see people actually take it kind 472 00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:42,000 Speaker 1: of seriercely because I think a lot of these questions 473 00:25:42,000 --> 00:25:44,640 Speaker 1: are things that like you want to know about somebody, 474 00:25:44,640 --> 00:25:48,119 Speaker 1: but you always feel a little like weird to like 475 00:25:48,160 --> 00:25:50,080 Speaker 1: you're at dinner and ram or you're just like, so, 476 00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:55,119 Speaker 1: how are you feeling? You know? Well, it's definitely giving 477 00:25:55,160 --> 00:25:57,440 Speaker 1: people the opportunity to think a little bit more. I 478 00:25:57,480 --> 00:25:59,879 Speaker 1: think we all fall into these dating you know, to 479 00:26:00,280 --> 00:26:04,560 Speaker 1: consistent kind of questions or you have this this way 480 00:26:04,600 --> 00:26:06,720 Speaker 1: that you always go about things in life is just 481 00:26:06,760 --> 00:26:09,240 Speaker 1: not that way right now? So what an interesting concept 482 00:26:09,280 --> 00:26:12,479 Speaker 1: to start getting a little deeper, especially so early. If 483 00:26:12,520 --> 00:26:15,080 Speaker 1: what if you I'm so curious, like, if you start 484 00:26:15,119 --> 00:26:18,160 Speaker 1: there with somebody, how is this gonna keep going into 485 00:26:18,160 --> 00:26:21,440 Speaker 1: the future? You know? I mean that it's a it's 486 00:26:21,440 --> 00:26:25,920 Speaker 1: a good question because I think, yeah, it's funny because 487 00:26:25,960 --> 00:26:29,120 Speaker 1: a couple of these conversations we kind of discuss love 488 00:26:29,200 --> 00:26:32,959 Speaker 1: is blind, right, and obviously because we're able to at 489 00:26:33,000 --> 00:26:36,080 Speaker 1: least see each other, I think it also kind of 490 00:26:37,160 --> 00:26:39,520 Speaker 1: is similar in the sense of, like you are kind 491 00:26:39,520 --> 00:26:44,000 Speaker 1: of forming this emotional connection and you're kind of like 492 00:26:44,080 --> 00:26:47,119 Speaker 1: helping this person through this time and they're also helping you. 493 00:26:47,200 --> 00:26:51,080 Speaker 1: But like past all of the like strong emotional connection, 494 00:26:51,960 --> 00:26:54,520 Speaker 1: is there gonna be a physical connection that you can 495 00:26:54,560 --> 00:26:56,800 Speaker 1: kind of rely on? And so that's also a thing 496 00:26:56,880 --> 00:27:00,520 Speaker 1: right now, where you know, there's some conversations with girls 497 00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:03,200 Speaker 1: where I'm like, Okay, I definitely can feel like there 498 00:27:03,200 --> 00:27:08,399 Speaker 1: would be a physical connection post this. Others she was 499 00:27:08,440 --> 00:27:10,200 Speaker 1: just kind of like, I don't know. And it's also 500 00:27:10,280 --> 00:27:11,840 Speaker 1: the hard part too, She's kind of like, I don't 501 00:27:11,880 --> 00:27:13,439 Speaker 1: know how long we're going to be locked up with this. 502 00:27:13,840 --> 00:27:16,200 Speaker 1: So it's also a matter of like, am I gonna 503 00:27:16,240 --> 00:27:18,760 Speaker 1: be like I'm almost done with my puzzle? But I'm like, 504 00:27:18,840 --> 00:27:22,240 Speaker 1: so are we just gonna start ten more puzzles? Like 505 00:27:22,480 --> 00:27:25,160 Speaker 1: where does this go from here? So are you guys? 506 00:27:25,200 --> 00:27:27,800 Speaker 1: You're you said you guys are cooking together sometimes too, 507 00:27:27,840 --> 00:27:30,600 Speaker 1: so it's like puzzles, cooking this game. What are some 508 00:27:30,640 --> 00:27:32,639 Speaker 1: of the other things you do? Like how are you 509 00:27:32,680 --> 00:27:36,399 Speaker 1: passing four hours together? I honest to go, I mean, listen, 510 00:27:36,440 --> 00:27:38,800 Speaker 1: you start to realize, like how much time you actually 511 00:27:38,800 --> 00:27:42,800 Speaker 1: have um cooking one it's merely I think. I think 512 00:27:42,840 --> 00:27:45,159 Speaker 1: I was like friend zoned by that girl, but I 513 00:27:45,200 --> 00:27:48,439 Speaker 1: love cooking and she's like, I'm miserable at it. So 514 00:27:48,480 --> 00:27:52,120 Speaker 1: it's merely just been like I'll help her like cook 515 00:27:52,200 --> 00:27:54,959 Speaker 1: with recipes or talker kind of through things. But I 516 00:27:55,040 --> 00:27:58,920 Speaker 1: do have actual with two the girls and they've actually 517 00:27:58,960 --> 00:28:02,440 Speaker 1: asked me after like doing the puzzle and also another 518 00:28:02,480 --> 00:28:05,200 Speaker 1: girl where we did like a happy hour FaceTime. Two 519 00:28:05,200 --> 00:28:07,080 Speaker 1: of the girls have been like, hey, would you like 520 00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:09,399 Speaker 1: to have dinner on FaceTime this week? And I'm like, 521 00:28:09,680 --> 00:28:13,199 Speaker 1: the girls are leading, girls are leading, which I'm like, 522 00:28:13,600 --> 00:28:18,159 Speaker 1: I love like a strong confident woman. So do you 523 00:28:18,560 --> 00:28:21,000 Speaker 1: plan like on these dinners? Do you all eat the 524 00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:24,480 Speaker 1: same thing? I think? I mean, we haven't really gotten 525 00:28:24,520 --> 00:28:27,480 Speaker 1: into it, but I've literally pulled up cookbooks to be like, Okay, 526 00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:30,200 Speaker 1: what like if we have to do the same kind 527 00:28:30,200 --> 00:28:32,200 Speaker 1: of situation, how are we going to do it, so 528 00:28:32,960 --> 00:28:35,159 Speaker 1: I guess TB D if there, if there could be, 529 00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:37,080 Speaker 1: like I'll follow up with you and let you know 530 00:28:37,119 --> 00:28:42,560 Speaker 1: after Friday and Sunday. Yeah, please keep us posted. I'm 531 00:28:42,560 --> 00:28:44,960 Speaker 1: really yeah, I'm very interested in how this is going 532 00:28:45,000 --> 00:28:48,280 Speaker 1: to continue on. Yeah, I love the idea of that 533 00:28:48,400 --> 00:28:51,160 Speaker 1: the card game, because you know, from personal experience, like 534 00:28:51,160 --> 00:28:54,560 Speaker 1: when you date, like everyone's you know, I feel like 535 00:28:54,800 --> 00:28:56,720 Speaker 1: most people when they when they're at the beginning of 536 00:28:56,720 --> 00:29:00,360 Speaker 1: like a dating cycle, they are always constantly trying to 537 00:29:00,360 --> 00:29:03,200 Speaker 1: put their best foot forward, Like you want to look great, 538 00:29:03,400 --> 00:29:06,920 Speaker 1: you wanna be funny, you want to be as attractive 539 00:29:06,960 --> 00:29:09,800 Speaker 1: as possible to this person. Whereas like if you kind 540 00:29:09,800 --> 00:29:12,240 Speaker 1: of cut through that bullshit right in the beginning and 541 00:29:12,520 --> 00:29:15,760 Speaker 1: go a little bit deeper, I feel like it could 542 00:29:15,800 --> 00:29:19,960 Speaker 1: give it gives the long term relationship a lot more 543 00:29:20,040 --> 00:29:23,600 Speaker 1: hope because, um, you've sort of let your guard down 544 00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:27,440 Speaker 1: very early. Yeah, you're seeing the real stuff, honestly right 545 00:29:27,440 --> 00:29:30,480 Speaker 1: from the get go. It's not right. No one's like 546 00:29:30,520 --> 00:29:33,960 Speaker 1: playing a role. Yeah. Well, and also too, I think 547 00:29:34,000 --> 00:29:37,960 Speaker 1: I think there's no room to kind of which I 548 00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:40,320 Speaker 1: think happens a lot to fall in love with the 549 00:29:40,360 --> 00:29:43,200 Speaker 1: idea of somebody right right you kind of you have 550 00:29:43,360 --> 00:29:46,960 Speaker 1: this whatever idea or perception and do they kind of 551 00:29:46,960 --> 00:29:49,520 Speaker 1: fit in your life? Based on these few little things, 552 00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:51,800 Speaker 1: I think it cuts through and it really gets into 553 00:29:51,880 --> 00:29:55,640 Speaker 1: like you realizing like who you're actually dealing with, and 554 00:29:55,680 --> 00:29:58,080 Speaker 1: also are they emotionally on the same level as you, 555 00:29:58,080 --> 00:30:00,920 Speaker 1: which I think is just that at least I've been 556 00:30:01,000 --> 00:30:05,440 Speaker 1: lacking a lot of times in previous relationships. Um, So 557 00:30:05,480 --> 00:30:07,520 Speaker 1: it's kind of like a sped up but also I 558 00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:12,120 Speaker 1: think helps long term. I'm maybe forecasting. I don't know, 559 00:30:12,240 --> 00:30:15,440 Speaker 1: time will tell. Um, could you see yourself in the 560 00:30:15,600 --> 00:30:19,560 Speaker 1: y of these women long terms? As of right now, 561 00:30:19,600 --> 00:30:26,600 Speaker 1: I'd say that they're definitely. They're definitely moments where I 562 00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:31,520 Speaker 1: find myself throughout a day kind of thinking about the person, 563 00:30:31,600 --> 00:30:33,760 Speaker 1: kind of missing them. It was funny. I was this 564 00:30:33,800 --> 00:30:36,800 Speaker 1: one girl was talking to Uh. We're just talking about 565 00:30:36,840 --> 00:30:38,920 Speaker 1: like music because we both kind of work in the 566 00:30:38,960 --> 00:30:42,000 Speaker 1: same industry, and she mentioned some of her favorite artists 567 00:30:42,000 --> 00:30:46,200 Speaker 1: and randomly, um Spotify playlists came on in a song 568 00:30:46,280 --> 00:30:47,920 Speaker 1: and I was like, wait a minute, and I sent 569 00:30:48,000 --> 00:30:49,920 Speaker 1: it to her and I said, hey, just you know 570 00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:52,360 Speaker 1: this just popped on. Was thinking about you and she 571 00:30:52,520 --> 00:30:55,800 Speaker 1: was like, oh my god, you actually listen to me 572 00:30:55,880 --> 00:30:58,400 Speaker 1: and like wow, like and it was the and then 573 00:30:58,440 --> 00:31:00,920 Speaker 1: it's kind of sparked this whole kind of conversation where 574 00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:04,920 Speaker 1: she was just like wow, like no one's ever kind 575 00:31:04,920 --> 00:31:06,840 Speaker 1: of like come to me before, where it was like 576 00:31:06,880 --> 00:31:10,040 Speaker 1: I said, just something, so like what you think is 577 00:31:10,080 --> 00:31:13,280 Speaker 1: like minimal, but I guess like in right now, it 578 00:31:13,360 --> 00:31:16,760 Speaker 1: kind of holds a lot of gravity. So you find you're, 579 00:31:16,760 --> 00:31:19,760 Speaker 1: at least for myself, I'm finding times where you know, 580 00:31:20,200 --> 00:31:21,960 Speaker 1: and I think on top of it too, you're also 581 00:31:22,040 --> 00:31:25,400 Speaker 1: just like there for somebody while all of this is 582 00:31:25,400 --> 00:31:29,840 Speaker 1: going on. Sure, I'm just curious if this will change dating, Like, 583 00:31:29,880 --> 00:31:31,960 Speaker 1: if this lasts long enough, I wonder if this is 584 00:31:32,000 --> 00:31:33,920 Speaker 1: going to have a real flootprint on how dating is 585 00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:36,640 Speaker 1: done in the future. It's a very interesting thought, So 586 00:31:38,120 --> 00:31:41,640 Speaker 1: I hope. So, I mean, I really do think that, 587 00:31:41,720 --> 00:31:45,280 Speaker 1: Like I guess the takeaway from is we kind of 588 00:31:45,320 --> 00:31:50,840 Speaker 1: needed this to happen to kind of realize maybe what 589 00:31:50,920 --> 00:31:53,200 Speaker 1: we took for granted, but also how much we actually 590 00:31:53,280 --> 00:31:58,920 Speaker 1: genuinely crave human connection, you know. Um, And I think 591 00:31:58,960 --> 00:32:01,280 Speaker 1: at least for me, you know, I think for so 592 00:32:01,320 --> 00:32:02,880 Speaker 1: long I used to hate, Like I have a love 593 00:32:02,920 --> 00:32:06,520 Speaker 1: hate with dating apps just because no one wants to communicate, 594 00:32:06,640 --> 00:32:08,800 Speaker 1: nobody wants to dive deep, nobody wants to take it 595 00:32:08,800 --> 00:32:12,560 Speaker 1: off the app, and there's always this constant like, Yo, 596 00:32:12,720 --> 00:32:16,320 Speaker 1: we matched you like my profile, I liked yours. Trying 597 00:32:16,320 --> 00:32:18,800 Speaker 1: to put the best foot forward. I'm trying to like engage, 598 00:32:18,880 --> 00:32:22,480 Speaker 1: like we're on a dating app. That's the concept here, um, 599 00:32:22,520 --> 00:32:25,560 Speaker 1: And I think, you know, people get so distracted with 600 00:32:25,600 --> 00:32:28,480 Speaker 1: like daily lives and they're also just thinking about the 601 00:32:28,520 --> 00:32:35,800 Speaker 1: next best possibility of the person they haven't met. And 602 00:32:35,840 --> 00:32:39,200 Speaker 1: I think right now people are realizing at least in 603 00:32:39,240 --> 00:32:42,800 Speaker 1: my situation. Granted, I could be completely different than other 604 00:32:42,880 --> 00:32:47,160 Speaker 1: guys that are dating during quarantine right now, but I'm 605 00:32:47,200 --> 00:32:50,160 Speaker 1: more so I'm just also like I just even if 606 00:32:50,360 --> 00:32:52,360 Speaker 1: I get nothing out of it, like than a friend, 607 00:32:52,360 --> 00:32:54,680 Speaker 1: but at least, like, can I be there for somebody 608 00:32:54,680 --> 00:32:59,360 Speaker 1: and like learn about myself in the process. Yeah, I 609 00:32:59,400 --> 00:33:02,280 Speaker 1: hope this kind of changes dating in the sense that 610 00:33:02,400 --> 00:33:08,800 Speaker 1: like it forces people to be vulnerable moving forward, like 611 00:33:08,840 --> 00:33:12,920 Speaker 1: love is blind and now that's like who knows what 612 00:33:12,960 --> 00:33:15,760 Speaker 1: the world's coming to? You know, Well, I think it 613 00:33:15,800 --> 00:33:18,240 Speaker 1: would be it's safe to say that everything in the 614 00:33:18,240 --> 00:33:20,480 Speaker 1: world is shifting right now, so I wouldn't be surprised 615 00:33:20,480 --> 00:33:23,040 Speaker 1: if dating is another thing that does as well. Thank 616 00:33:23,080 --> 00:33:26,000 Speaker 1: you for sharing with us. I'm very fascinated by the 617 00:33:26,040 --> 00:33:28,480 Speaker 1: fact that this is still happening. I thought dating would 618 00:33:28,520 --> 00:33:31,800 Speaker 1: just be done right now, so very very intol part 619 00:33:31,880 --> 00:33:35,240 Speaker 1: is definitely done right now. But yeah, yeah, you keep 620 00:33:35,280 --> 00:33:37,520 Speaker 1: us posted on that. Have you gotten any pictures? How's 621 00:33:37,560 --> 00:33:40,560 Speaker 1: that working right now? No, it's funny. A lot of 622 00:33:40,640 --> 00:33:42,640 Speaker 1: my friends were like, Yo, when are the photos happen now? 623 00:33:43,480 --> 00:33:46,440 Speaker 1: To be honest, it's funny. I haven't even thought about 624 00:33:47,360 --> 00:33:49,960 Speaker 1: going there. Uh there's just been the like random like 625 00:33:50,040 --> 00:33:53,680 Speaker 1: cheers kind of selfies, but definitely no. Um, well, I 626 00:33:53,720 --> 00:33:56,680 Speaker 1: think the point of like sending sexy pics at this point, 627 00:33:56,760 --> 00:34:00,840 Speaker 1: like is a bit pointless because it's leading nowhere now right. 628 00:34:01,560 --> 00:34:05,040 Speaker 1: I mean, if somebody wants to really like torture you, 629 00:34:05,120 --> 00:34:08,839 Speaker 1: I guess like you're yeah, okay, you're the devil. I'm 630 00:34:08,840 --> 00:34:11,279 Speaker 1: going to meet you right now, because that's not gonna help, 631 00:34:11,400 --> 00:34:15,560 Speaker 1: or maybe like quarantine stuff I don't I don't know, 632 00:34:17,560 --> 00:34:20,960 Speaker 1: then you're gonna be quarantine tickets to New York here 633 00:34:21,000 --> 00:34:24,520 Speaker 1: I come. I mean right, travel is so cheap. Well, 634 00:34:24,600 --> 00:34:27,240 Speaker 1: I think this is the perfect example of acting casual 635 00:34:27,280 --> 00:34:29,680 Speaker 1: and figuring out a better solutions. So thank you so 636 00:34:29,760 --> 00:34:34,120 Speaker 1: much for sharing with us. Please keep us updated, especially 637 00:34:34,160 --> 00:34:40,080 Speaker 1: if you get okay. And I mean I think this 638 00:34:40,200 --> 00:34:42,560 Speaker 1: is the great point of all of this for all 639 00:34:42,600 --> 00:34:47,719 Speaker 1: of us, and that's just to always remain what else 640 00:34:48,239 --> 00:34:51,560 Speaker 1: I totally set you up wrong. Always to remain at casual. 641 00:34:51,560 --> 00:34:55,880 Speaker 1: I can't even speak in isolation anymore. This is everybody 642 00:34:55,960 --> 00:35:01,200 Speaker 1: just always casual. Five