1 00:00:00,640 --> 00:00:21,640 Speaker 1: Hmmmm. Hello everyone, it's your girl, Cheekies, and you've reached 2 00:00:21,680 --> 00:00:23,919 Speaker 1: the voice smail box for Dear Cheekies. I'm here to 3 00:00:23,960 --> 00:00:26,680 Speaker 1: give you advice on anything and everything you need help with. 4 00:00:26,960 --> 00:00:29,240 Speaker 1: Maybe you're going through a breakup, maybe you're having issues 5 00:00:29,240 --> 00:00:31,920 Speaker 1: with your family, or maybe you need help figuring out 6 00:00:32,000 --> 00:00:34,640 Speaker 1: how to balance your checkbook or how to start a business. 7 00:00:34,960 --> 00:00:38,200 Speaker 1: Whatever the cases, I want to hear from you. Remember 8 00:00:38,280 --> 00:00:40,599 Speaker 1: these are my thoughts and opinions, and if you're suffering 9 00:00:40,640 --> 00:00:42,760 Speaker 1: from an issue or hardship, you should seek help from 10 00:00:42,800 --> 00:00:45,760 Speaker 1: a qualified professional. All right, Now go ahead and leave 11 00:00:45,800 --> 00:00:53,400 Speaker 1: your question at the sound of the beach. You have now, Hi, Cheeks. 12 00:00:53,760 --> 00:00:57,560 Speaker 1: I am a big fan of your mom or her legacy, 13 00:00:57,760 --> 00:01:01,160 Speaker 1: which are her children, so thank you for having this 14 00:01:01,240 --> 00:01:05,880 Speaker 1: space for us. Last year, I was diagnosed with stage 15 00:01:05,920 --> 00:01:09,479 Speaker 1: four breast cancer, so it's been a rough year. I've 16 00:01:09,600 --> 00:01:12,800 Speaker 1: taken the year to heal. It was unexpected, so I'm 17 00:01:12,840 --> 00:01:16,480 Speaker 1: still healing. This year, I really want to focus on 18 00:01:16,560 --> 00:01:20,279 Speaker 1: having everything prepared for my children. I have two kids 19 00:01:20,520 --> 00:01:24,160 Speaker 1: under the age of ten, and my question is what 20 00:01:24,400 --> 00:01:30,280 Speaker 1: is something that you were glad your mom left or 21 00:01:30,760 --> 00:01:36,080 Speaker 1: wish you would have left before she left? This earth. Um, 22 00:01:36,360 --> 00:01:39,800 Speaker 1: I want to make sure that I have everything prepared 23 00:01:39,880 --> 00:01:45,240 Speaker 1: for my kids. It's such a scary and emotional thing 24 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:48,440 Speaker 1: to do, but I just want to be prepared. So 25 00:01:49,320 --> 00:01:53,360 Speaker 1: any advice or any direction would be much appreciated. So 26 00:01:53,440 --> 00:01:58,040 Speaker 1: thank you Veronica. First of all, thank you for loving 27 00:01:58,080 --> 00:02:01,160 Speaker 1: my mom, for being a huge and thank you for 28 00:02:01,240 --> 00:02:05,200 Speaker 1: your vulnerability. I know that what you're going through is 29 00:02:05,280 --> 00:02:08,240 Speaker 1: hard for you to come on here and ask me 30 00:02:08,320 --> 00:02:10,880 Speaker 1: this question. It shows your strength. So I just I 31 00:02:10,919 --> 00:02:13,240 Speaker 1: want to say thank you so much for being open 32 00:02:13,280 --> 00:02:16,680 Speaker 1: with me, with us. I'm kind of lost for words 33 00:02:16,720 --> 00:02:20,000 Speaker 1: right now because just to hear your your your voice, 34 00:02:20,040 --> 00:02:21,680 Speaker 1: like I'm just I want to give you a big hug. 35 00:02:21,680 --> 00:02:23,320 Speaker 1: I just want to give you a big hug. I'm 36 00:02:23,360 --> 00:02:27,480 Speaker 1: sending you a big virtual hug full of positive vibes 37 00:02:27,520 --> 00:02:30,800 Speaker 1: and healing energy. Okay, but back to your question. Look, 38 00:02:31,240 --> 00:02:32,800 Speaker 1: I think that the best thing you could do for 39 00:02:32,840 --> 00:02:37,240 Speaker 1: your children is definitely right down all of your wishes, 40 00:02:37,680 --> 00:02:45,639 Speaker 1: how you want things to be handled at your services. 41 00:02:45,680 --> 00:02:50,880 Speaker 1: I mean, I also I think that it's important and 42 00:02:50,919 --> 00:02:52,320 Speaker 1: I think it would be really nice. And what I 43 00:02:52,360 --> 00:02:54,760 Speaker 1: wish my mom would have left me was a letter 44 00:02:56,200 --> 00:02:59,360 Speaker 1: for my future self, you know what I mean. I 45 00:02:59,400 --> 00:03:02,399 Speaker 1: think that would be beautiful for your kids because they're 46 00:03:02,440 --> 00:03:04,960 Speaker 1: so young, and I have faith that you're gonna be Okay, 47 00:03:04,960 --> 00:03:07,080 Speaker 1: You're going to be with us for many, many more years. 48 00:03:07,560 --> 00:03:10,560 Speaker 1: But I think it would be nice to leave them letters, 49 00:03:10,639 --> 00:03:13,920 Speaker 1: like just little notes, kind of like in egg Hunt, 50 00:03:14,000 --> 00:03:16,079 Speaker 1: sort of where it it's a clue after a clue. 51 00:03:16,120 --> 00:03:18,200 Speaker 1: I think it would be super cute. I saw this 52 00:03:18,240 --> 00:03:20,120 Speaker 1: in a movie once, and I don't know what movie 53 00:03:20,160 --> 00:03:23,560 Speaker 1: it was. I want to say, p S, I love you. 54 00:03:23,600 --> 00:03:26,800 Speaker 1: I think it is the movie. And I think that's 55 00:03:27,160 --> 00:03:29,079 Speaker 1: would be a beautiful gift for your kids. And that's 56 00:03:29,080 --> 00:03:31,000 Speaker 1: what I wish my mom would have left. Um she 57 00:03:31,080 --> 00:03:33,400 Speaker 1: did leave her will and her trust, but if it 58 00:03:33,440 --> 00:03:35,520 Speaker 1: would have been a little bit more personal, I think 59 00:03:35,560 --> 00:03:37,840 Speaker 1: that that would have just been a lot better. So 60 00:03:37,920 --> 00:03:41,000 Speaker 1: I think that your children would really appreciate that. Bab 61 00:03:41,280 --> 00:03:44,160 Speaker 1: I'm praying for you. Don't lose hope. Do not lose 62 00:03:44,200 --> 00:03:47,840 Speaker 1: hope Veronic. I'm sending you a big hug, and again, 63 00:03:47,880 --> 00:03:51,200 Speaker 1: thank you and to you and your children. Okay, thank 64 00:03:51,200 --> 00:03:53,120 Speaker 1: you so much for your question, and I hope it 65 00:03:53,160 --> 00:04:00,680 Speaker 1: helps you. Our next question comes from any hill of 66 00:04:00,680 --> 00:04:09,280 Speaker 1: horses coach system and recorded on a conference Va Masia 67 00:04:11,440 --> 00:04:22,920 Speaker 1: spirac Latinas to the change of careers, a plamented travel 68 00:04:23,480 --> 00:04:29,919 Speaker 1: Compania la finanzas in passica mente. Accountington says, no massive lists. 69 00:04:29,960 --> 00:04:45,839 Speaker 1: The travel is mere, Sermistra, Sermistra, I've been looking into 70 00:04:45,960 --> 00:04:53,840 Speaker 1: programs to pernico problematres. Mess's their own internship milo esca 71 00:04:53,920 --> 00:05:04,320 Speaker 1: if I do. The teaching serve has the advice for 72 00:05:04,480 --> 00:05:21,960 Speaker 1: change of careerscho by Any Gillin Bueno is so Any's 73 00:05:22,000 --> 00:05:25,400 Speaker 1: question is about the pros and the cons of changing careers. 74 00:05:25,600 --> 00:05:28,479 Speaker 1: She's in accounting right now and is thinking about taking 75 00:05:28,520 --> 00:05:30,840 Speaker 1: a risk and becoming a teacher. But if she does that, 76 00:05:31,040 --> 00:05:34,520 Speaker 1: she has to take on a three month unpaid internships. 77 00:05:34,600 --> 00:05:37,040 Speaker 1: So she's a little worried. Um, so that's why she's 78 00:05:37,040 --> 00:05:50,960 Speaker 1: asking us. Sianto jo felisamente fun you know what I mean? 79 00:05:51,600 --> 00:05:53,760 Speaker 1: But I do think that you need to be happy. 80 00:05:59,279 --> 00:06:10,120 Speaker 1: Is when not a ries goso acounting instead of never 81 00:06:10,279 --> 00:06:13,320 Speaker 1: trying it because you're afraid and then you regret it, 82 00:06:13,400 --> 00:06:15,040 Speaker 1: you know what I mean? So I think that you 83 00:06:15,080 --> 00:06:18,160 Speaker 1: should definitely take the risk and do it. E c C. 84 00:06:27,120 --> 00:06:29,560 Speaker 1: I think you should definitely try it, and you know, 85 00:06:29,960 --> 00:06:32,760 Speaker 1: a teacher would be amazing. I mean, I think you 86 00:06:32,839 --> 00:06:34,680 Speaker 1: know what I mean. It's come. It's like a gift 87 00:06:34,760 --> 00:06:37,400 Speaker 1: to yourself and to also to other people, you know. 88 00:06:37,560 --> 00:06:40,640 Speaker 1: So I'm applauding you, and I think you should. I'm 89 00:06:40,720 --> 00:06:43,920 Speaker 1: cheering you on. So ultimately it's up to you. But 90 00:06:44,440 --> 00:06:48,159 Speaker 1: you're asking me onto your cheeks, and Chick is going 91 00:06:48,240 --> 00:06:50,680 Speaker 1: to tell you, go for a girl, take that risk 92 00:06:50,760 --> 00:07:01,760 Speaker 1: a leap of faith, mama. SOO, okay, it looks like 93 00:07:01,839 --> 00:07:07,040 Speaker 1: we have a question from Gabriella up next. He is 94 00:07:07,160 --> 00:07:09,320 Speaker 1: the first and foremost I want to say. I love, love, 95 00:07:09,400 --> 00:07:12,000 Speaker 1: love all that you've done and continued to do. If 96 00:07:12,040 --> 00:07:15,000 Speaker 1: I was given the opportunity to ask you a question, 97 00:07:15,280 --> 00:07:18,360 Speaker 1: I would ask you what you would say the hardest 98 00:07:19,040 --> 00:07:21,440 Speaker 1: thing that you've encountered so for on your journey and 99 00:07:21,600 --> 00:07:25,480 Speaker 1: how you've dealt with it. And if I could squeeze 100 00:07:25,520 --> 00:07:30,160 Speaker 1: in another question, it would be how do you keep 101 00:07:30,240 --> 00:07:32,360 Speaker 1: up with your mental health and what does that look 102 00:07:32,440 --> 00:07:37,280 Speaker 1: like for you, especially in this kind of industry. Hi, Gabriella, 103 00:07:37,640 --> 00:07:41,960 Speaker 1: thank you so much for your questions. Um Wow, I 104 00:07:42,120 --> 00:07:45,040 Speaker 1: think I have been through quite a bit. Um, but 105 00:07:45,120 --> 00:07:47,720 Speaker 1: I don't regret anything. I wouldn't change anything, to be honest, 106 00:07:47,760 --> 00:07:51,240 Speaker 1: because it has definitely made me a very strong minded 107 00:07:51,320 --> 00:07:54,480 Speaker 1: woman and it's molded me. So I think if I 108 00:07:54,520 --> 00:07:57,600 Speaker 1: had to choose one thing that was the hardest to face, 109 00:07:58,560 --> 00:08:02,320 Speaker 1: was definitely be losing my mom um. That's for sure, 110 00:08:02,400 --> 00:08:05,960 Speaker 1: I think the hardest, and it was hard losing her 111 00:08:06,800 --> 00:08:09,480 Speaker 1: while she was still here. That's a whole story that 112 00:08:09,560 --> 00:08:11,480 Speaker 1: we would get into, but it's like, losing my mom 113 00:08:11,640 --> 00:08:16,360 Speaker 1: definitely broke me like no other. Crazy enough, though, now 114 00:08:16,440 --> 00:08:19,120 Speaker 1: that we're talking about this, one of the things that 115 00:08:19,280 --> 00:08:23,040 Speaker 1: I think dropped me even like more to my knees 116 00:08:23,480 --> 00:08:26,120 Speaker 1: was when I got divorced. I think it was because 117 00:08:26,760 --> 00:08:28,720 Speaker 1: it was a double whammy, like my mom wasn't here 118 00:08:28,760 --> 00:08:30,920 Speaker 1: to help me through that, and I was just in 119 00:08:31,080 --> 00:08:35,120 Speaker 1: like some excruciating pain, like I literally felt my heart hurt. 120 00:08:35,280 --> 00:08:38,439 Speaker 1: So I think those two things have been like the 121 00:08:38,520 --> 00:08:41,240 Speaker 1: hardest things I've had to face. But I've also learned 122 00:08:41,280 --> 00:08:43,600 Speaker 1: and grown so much from it. So I wouldn't change anything, 123 00:08:43,720 --> 00:08:46,520 Speaker 1: but those definitely are are the hardest things. And as 124 00:08:46,600 --> 00:08:49,760 Speaker 1: far as how do I keep you know, my mental health. 125 00:08:50,280 --> 00:08:52,760 Speaker 1: Mental health is something that I really like to talk 126 00:08:52,800 --> 00:08:55,360 Speaker 1: about you guys, because I've dealt with it. I've dealt 127 00:08:55,400 --> 00:09:00,800 Speaker 1: with depression. I dealt with anxiety, especially in like pandemic quarantine. 128 00:09:01,120 --> 00:09:04,080 Speaker 1: That's when I had first felt like anxiety and depression. 129 00:09:04,360 --> 00:09:06,160 Speaker 1: Then after my divorce and stuff. But I think what 130 00:09:06,280 --> 00:09:10,199 Speaker 1: has helped me a lot is prayer and meditation. And 131 00:09:10,280 --> 00:09:12,400 Speaker 1: it's not trying to fit it into my schedule. It's 132 00:09:12,559 --> 00:09:15,640 Speaker 1: everything else works around that. That doesn't mean, oh, I'm 133 00:09:15,679 --> 00:09:17,360 Speaker 1: going to go to church every Sunday. I mean I 134 00:09:17,520 --> 00:09:19,640 Speaker 1: want to. I'm not saying not to. But for me, 135 00:09:19,840 --> 00:09:23,040 Speaker 1: it's having those first thirty minutes of my day to 136 00:09:23,240 --> 00:09:26,640 Speaker 1: pray and connect and read something a devotional or read 137 00:09:26,760 --> 00:09:29,720 Speaker 1: something that is positive and it just you know, sets 138 00:09:29,760 --> 00:09:31,280 Speaker 1: the tone to the rest of my day. So that's 139 00:09:31,280 --> 00:09:34,040 Speaker 1: helped me a lot with my mental health. Therapy has 140 00:09:34,080 --> 00:09:36,360 Speaker 1: helped me a lot. I am a huge advocate for therapy, 141 00:09:36,440 --> 00:09:39,400 Speaker 1: you guys. I think just letting those feelings and those 142 00:09:39,440 --> 00:09:43,040 Speaker 1: thoughts and those emotions out and getting feedback and tools 143 00:09:43,200 --> 00:09:46,560 Speaker 1: to better yourself helps a lot. So those are definitely 144 00:09:46,679 --> 00:09:49,720 Speaker 1: like you guys, I always say a prayer, meditation, therapy 145 00:09:49,800 --> 00:09:51,920 Speaker 1: has helped me so much, you guys, and working out. 146 00:09:52,120 --> 00:09:54,559 Speaker 1: You got to get rid of those toxins and get 147 00:09:54,640 --> 00:09:58,439 Speaker 1: that body moving and sweating it all out. So yeah, Gabriella, 148 00:09:58,720 --> 00:10:00,559 Speaker 1: I went on and on, but I'm super about this. 149 00:10:00,679 --> 00:10:03,080 Speaker 1: So thank you for your questions and hopefully through your 150 00:10:03,160 --> 00:10:05,520 Speaker 1: questions we're helping so many other people as well. Sending 151 00:10:05,559 --> 00:10:10,960 Speaker 1: you a big hist mama. So now it's here from 152 00:10:11,280 --> 00:10:14,719 Speaker 1: Uti your chickies. I just wanted to tell you what 153 00:10:15,040 --> 00:10:21,520 Speaker 1: an amazing freaking person you are, like your spirit, everything, girl, 154 00:10:21,760 --> 00:10:24,480 Speaker 1: like I love hearing you, I love watching your stories, 155 00:10:24,720 --> 00:10:27,680 Speaker 1: like everything about you. Love your family. I love how 156 00:10:27,760 --> 00:10:30,400 Speaker 1: you always put family first, your brothers, your sisters, you know, 157 00:10:30,520 --> 00:10:33,240 Speaker 1: your siblings. That's like the main thing. I lost my 158 00:10:33,360 --> 00:10:35,800 Speaker 1: sister a couple of years ago, and she was the smallest. 159 00:10:36,120 --> 00:10:38,880 Speaker 1: She was like my daughter, you know, like i'd like 160 00:10:38,960 --> 00:10:40,800 Speaker 1: the oldest of my family. So she was my baby, 161 00:10:40,880 --> 00:10:43,280 Speaker 1: you know. But I just respect everything that you do, 162 00:10:44,120 --> 00:10:48,640 Speaker 1: and girl, fuck the haters, and girl, when you go 163 00:10:48,880 --> 00:10:52,120 Speaker 1: get married Onemlio, I do want to know had y'all 164 00:10:52,200 --> 00:10:56,560 Speaker 1: talked about it? You? I think you made me cry 165 00:10:56,760 --> 00:11:00,280 Speaker 1: and laugh all in the same question. I just I 166 00:11:00,280 --> 00:11:03,079 Speaker 1: don't know, I'm feeling a little emotional. You guys today. 167 00:11:03,240 --> 00:11:05,880 Speaker 1: But talking to you guys and listening to your questions 168 00:11:06,000 --> 00:11:07,720 Speaker 1: and everything you have to say about me, you guys 169 00:11:07,760 --> 00:11:09,920 Speaker 1: just make me feel so good. So I'm like crying 170 00:11:09,960 --> 00:11:13,520 Speaker 1: and laughing. But you they thank you, thank you so much. 171 00:11:13,640 --> 00:11:16,080 Speaker 1: Thank you for those beautiful words. You guys keep me going. 172 00:11:16,240 --> 00:11:20,280 Speaker 1: I swear like you guys keep me going. You guys 173 00:11:20,320 --> 00:11:23,720 Speaker 1: give me that strength to just keep my head up. 174 00:11:24,000 --> 00:11:27,560 Speaker 1: So thank you. Um. I don't know when i'mould get married, girl, 175 00:11:27,880 --> 00:11:31,000 Speaker 1: I don't know. I mean the media wants to. It's 176 00:11:31,000 --> 00:11:32,720 Speaker 1: not that I don't want to. I believe in marriage 177 00:11:32,760 --> 00:11:36,640 Speaker 1: and I think that I would be a wonderful wife 178 00:11:37,080 --> 00:11:40,320 Speaker 1: and a wonderful mother. But I'm just leaving in God's hands. 179 00:11:40,400 --> 00:11:43,040 Speaker 1: And I've learned to just take things day by day 180 00:11:43,120 --> 00:11:45,160 Speaker 1: and not rush and not pressure and not feel like, 181 00:11:45,280 --> 00:11:46,839 Speaker 1: oh my God, like I gotta do it at this 182 00:11:47,000 --> 00:11:49,760 Speaker 1: time or that's too much pressure. Like this year is 183 00:11:49,800 --> 00:11:52,040 Speaker 1: all about not putting so much pressure on myself. So 184 00:11:52,120 --> 00:11:55,280 Speaker 1: I'm just letting it flow. And he's a great guy. 185 00:11:55,400 --> 00:11:57,280 Speaker 1: So if he asks me as you know, I mean, 186 00:11:58,280 --> 00:12:00,400 Speaker 1: I don't know, girl, but thank you for the question. 187 00:12:01,640 --> 00:12:05,040 Speaker 1: But you know, I mean, that's what I always say 188 00:12:05,240 --> 00:12:07,719 Speaker 1: it's all in God tense, but ULEI thank you you 189 00:12:07,800 --> 00:12:11,760 Speaker 1: guys honestly, Veronica, Annie, Gabriella, Juli. You guys are so awesome. 190 00:12:11,800 --> 00:12:15,120 Speaker 1: Thank you for your questions. You'll make me happy for real. 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