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Speaker 1: It is the stroll Bery letter. Alright, subject situation ship

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Speaker 1: at the office. Steven Shirley, my coworker and I have

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Speaker 1: because he says he feels trapped by this woman. He

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Speaker 1: it will crush her. She knows that he and I

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Speaker 1: he is torn. He um, this is the first time

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Speaker 1: in this dilemma. He has basically told me he is

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Speaker 1: what should I do? Please? Help leave him and let

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Speaker 1: him go. Okay, honey, he's lying to you. He's lying

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Speaker 1: to her. The only one benefiting in this situation ship,

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Speaker 1: both of both worlds, the best of both worlds. He's

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Speaker 1: He's telling you he's not sleeping with her, but listen,

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Speaker 1: So this situation ship you're in with him doesn't mean

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Speaker 1: very last line in the letter. He has basically told

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Speaker 1: That line is the truth right there, and you need

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Speaker 1: to listen to that, but you're not listening. He said,

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Speaker 1: You got to hear what he's sang to you. Okay,

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Speaker 1: you gotta hear that. That's your answer right there, Steve, perfect, Shelly,

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Speaker 1: let it go. That's perfect everything. Yeah, I mean really,

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Speaker 1: we could end this letter right now. But sometimes people

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Speaker 1: need to hear it a little more harsh. See, I'm

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Speaker 1: everything she touched on, all the points, she didn't miss nothing.

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Speaker 1: They've been in a relationship for four years, he he says,

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Speaker 1: they're not sexually involved. What the hell? You know? Been

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Speaker 1: telling you. Oh excuse me, was in a sexist relationship

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Speaker 1: until you came along. Now, what you didn't type in

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Speaker 1: this letter is you just type y'all involved, y'all have

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Speaker 1: don't live with how you're trapped. He ain't trapped. He whipped.

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Speaker 1: Whipped can appear to be trapped at times. She then

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Speaker 1: put something on him. Now he can't leave. Now he's

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Speaker 1: telling you he trapped. He ain't trapped. He whipped, and

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Speaker 1: And he tells you that later on in the damn letter.

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Speaker 1: I think you wrote this letter, not cause you confused,

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Speaker 1: but I think you slow. I think, oh my god,

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Speaker 1: now are really cold close, and she suspects that we

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Speaker 1: two of today's Strawberry Letters Situationship. Yeah, she got this man.

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Speaker 1: She didn't fail forward her job. He build in relationship

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Speaker 1: with another coworker for four years, talking about he ain't

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Speaker 1: She suspects we have feeling for each other. Suspect what

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Speaker 1: he hell? He suspects what you suspect when you're gonna

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Speaker 1: He honestly has a big heart and he is tord Oh,

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Speaker 1: I can get myself because I don't want to hurt it,

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Speaker 1: damn that help our fall in and can't get up.

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Speaker 1: This ass is lying. I would never wish heartbreak on

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Speaker 1: You're just like the woman that was on seeing and

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Speaker 1: so sorry, I'm hurt. Well, you've been in the health

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Speaker 1: the hallway and this help that he's been sleeping with

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Speaker 1: you gotta whole your ground. You're gonna set up here

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Speaker 1: be number two now, Shirley. But baby, she listened to me,

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Speaker 1: I don't even know Stanley. You do know her because

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Speaker 1: I see how you be looking at her when she'd

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Speaker 1: because I'll be looking over there, so a lot of water.

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Speaker 1: Don't get on the floor because I slipped over that

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Speaker 1: one time. Fix it, Stanley, fix it? And did you

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Speaker 1: tell her about us, Stanley, I didn't have to tell her.

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Speaker 1: I know she had asked you about who I was. Yah,

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Speaker 1: she asked me, and I told her that I loved you.

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Speaker 1: Well she suspected anything anything, Stanley, which one is you?

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Speaker 1: I'm the one who wrote the letter. See, I've been

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Speaker 1: from that. Go ahead, let's go. Okay, you're the one

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Speaker 1: Stan Yeah? Yeah, yeah. And I'm trying not to hurt him,

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Speaker 1: and I'm told her how I feel about you. But Stanley,

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Speaker 1: Then that hurts me? Stanley, Well, baby, if I tell

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Speaker 1: her everything, she gonna kill herself. She's already said she'll

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Speaker 1: step out on the fire, came jump her ass home

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Speaker 1: with Stanley. I don't want you want what you want

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Speaker 1: me to do? Kill somebody? No, I don't want that.

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Speaker 1: hurt any other women. Baby. That's why you got to

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Speaker 1: be quiet, because you got to listen to me. Listen

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Speaker 1: to me. Don't say you don't want me to say nothing, Stanley. Hell, no, girl,

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Speaker 1: you trying to She trying to bump you out your spot?

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Speaker 1: What Stanley? Are you? Are you gonna leave her? Leave? Leave?

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Speaker 1: We've been together for years. This woman in her question

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Speaker 1: if I leave Stanley, I don't like hurt any other women.

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Speaker 1: So that's why you got to be quiet. I don't

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Speaker 1: know why, but she you don't want to hurt Listen,

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Speaker 1: you don't want to hurt her. But what about me? Stanley?

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Speaker 1: I love you too? And how many times I told

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Speaker 1: we'll need this man actually gonna do no? But ruin

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Speaker 1: what we got? Well? What do we got, Stanley? What

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Speaker 1: do we got each other? You got your spodker. You

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Speaker 1: I got special time with her because she's CRAZYMB killing herself. Well,

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Speaker 1: I don't like hurt any other women, Stanley, I don't

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Speaker 1: what's happening? Who? She let you introduce yourself? Lady? You

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Speaker 1: know my name? Stanley? Hi? How you doing? I don't

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Speaker 1: want to hurt you for me and Stanley is because

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Speaker 1: I don't like hurting other women. I said that in

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Speaker 1: go see. I mean, you did good. Thank you, Thank you,

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Speaker 1: my acting coach. Don't forget to email us or instagram

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Speaker 1: my girl shortly with your thoughts on today's Strawberry Letters.

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