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Speaker 1: y'all know I keep it a book. The job market

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Speaker 1: continues to widen. I know all of that sounds dire,

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Speaker 1: welcome back to the show. It's your girl, Mandy Money.

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Speaker 1: I'm really excited to be here with y'all this week.

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Speaker 1: It is late. I'm not I'm not even gonna lie.

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Speaker 1: been going through, like I've discussed with y'all my challenges

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Speaker 1: It's a it's a way for us to show with

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Speaker 1: thank goodness. New York deserved so much better than that

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Speaker 1: things toxic leader. So yeah, to Zo run Mundani, congratulations,

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Speaker 1: Uncompete as a brand ambition book club pick for November December.

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Speaker 1: Uncompete rejecting competition to Unlock success by the brilliant Ratchika

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Speaker 1: Ta Malhotra. If you haven't gotten your copy, BA fan,

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Speaker 1: please please do. I plan on announcing in the Patreon

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Speaker 1: very soon when we're going to have our book club meeting,

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Speaker 1: You know. It's again it's called Uncompete. And if you've

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Speaker 1: almost sounds meditative, but instead of like meditating, you know,

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Speaker 1: listening to a meditation or whatever, they'll write down, you know,

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Speaker 1: just a stream of consciousness about how they're feeling, what

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Speaker 1: the day is bringing, what their intentions are for the day.

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Speaker 1: So that's something to consider as well. But a quiet

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Speaker 1: five minute ritual where you are I think it's most

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Speaker 1: helpful to remind yourself what it is that you have

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Speaker 1: to be grateful for what you do have, whether that's personal,

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Speaker 1: whether it's financial, whether it's as simple as air in

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Speaker 1: my lungs and a roof over my head. But to

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Speaker 1: practice some sort of like five minute ritual of practicing

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Speaker 1: gratitude and quiet and really reflecting on that, I think

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00:27:00,560 --> 00:27:04,360
Speaker 1: can kind of steal you for the day ahead. It's

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Speaker 1: helpful as someone who has lots of anxious, intrusive thoughts

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00:27:09,280 --> 00:27:12,800
Speaker 1: sort of fighting for my attention at any given time.

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Speaker 1: Last night, for some reason, I had so many anxious

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Speaker 1: thoughts that weren't letting me go to sleep, and I

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Speaker 1: wrote them down. I couldn't physically get pen and paper

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Speaker 1: because I got my whole CEPAP equipment on my head

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00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:28,000
Speaker 1: and it's a whole thing. So I grabbed my phone

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00:27:28,000 --> 00:27:30,760
Speaker 1: and just kind of jotted down a few of those thoughts,

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Speaker 1: and then I took it to paper in the morning

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Speaker 1: and wrote down. I put it in three different categories.

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Speaker 1: I put it into podcast worries, book worries, and personal

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00:27:42,520 --> 00:27:45,760
Speaker 1: and financial worries, and sort of just I can flip

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Speaker 1: to it right now. And I think I had like

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Speaker 1: four or five six different items under each category, and

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Speaker 1: I don't know organizing it that way, just getting them

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Speaker 1: out of my head and onto the page, because I

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00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:01,560
Speaker 1: was just feeling you know that, you know that feeling

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Speaker 1: that you get when you have a lot on your

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00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:05,359
Speaker 1: mind and there's not a lot of resolution to it.

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Speaker 1: They're just questions about the future and the past and

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00:28:07,960 --> 00:28:10,119
Speaker 1: the well did I do that? And what if I

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Speaker 1: had done that differently? And what do I have coming up?

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Speaker 1: And did I you know, am I prepared for that?

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Speaker 1: Getting it onto the page sort of helped quiet those

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Speaker 1: voices and the fact that I had to be realistic.

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Speaker 1: And this is another you know, takeaway I think is

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Speaker 1: I have to be realistic on the days when a

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Speaker 1: list of things like that is going to be accomplishable

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Speaker 1: and when it's simply not. And for me today, because

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Speaker 1: my son's school was closed and I didn't remember that,

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Speaker 1: so I didn't have a childcare plan for him. I

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Speaker 1: had a five year old with me all day, and

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Speaker 1: as much as he can entertain himself, he won't do it. Okay,

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Speaker 1: So I had to be realistic and make peace with that. Okay,

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Speaker 1: this list is not going to be managed today, But

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Speaker 1: I'm going to jot everything down, and I'm looking at

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Speaker 1: each of these and none of these is going to

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Speaker 1: make or break my life if it doesn't happen today,

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Speaker 1: and I can afford to wait until the next day

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Speaker 1: to really tackle these. So everything, most of everything on

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Speaker 1: this list. I was only able to tick off four

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Speaker 1: things on this list today, four out of like fifteen

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Speaker 1: worries that I had. But just reminding myself that I

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Speaker 1: can I can do this tomorrow, and that they actually

485
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Speaker 1: they're not life or death. It's not fight or flight.

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Speaker 1: I can really just chill a little bit was absolutely helpful.

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00:29:35,400 --> 00:29:39,960
Speaker 1: So reframing mindset also is important. And therapy has been

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Speaker 1: really helpful for me here because a therapist, especially if

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Speaker 1: it's someone who's practicing cognitive behavioral therapy, you know, you

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00:29:46,840 --> 00:29:49,720
Speaker 1: really get you get a coach to sort of help

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00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:52,520
Speaker 1: you reframe your own thoughts and help you pick apart

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00:29:53,040 --> 00:29:56,320
Speaker 1: thoughts that are causing you harm and causing you distress.

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00:29:56,880 --> 00:29:59,760
Speaker 1: And a lot of our relationship to uncertainty this day

494
00:29:59,800 --> 00:30:03,920
Speaker 1: is is kind of catastrophizing what the worst possible outcome

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Speaker 1: might be. And I think it can be helpful to

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Speaker 1: have a thought partner there. Maybe it's a therapist. Maybe

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Speaker 1: it's a parent, a sibling, a trusted friend. But having

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Speaker 1: someone who you can sort of unburden yourself to and

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Speaker 1: say the scary things out loud and then kind of

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Speaker 1: work with them to take a look at that feeling

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Speaker 1: or that thought and try to flip it in a

502
00:30:29,320 --> 00:30:33,720
Speaker 1: way that becomes more manageable for you and less destructive

503
00:30:35,080 --> 00:30:40,200
Speaker 1: can be really helpful. Now, financially, financially, let's be real.

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Speaker 1: If you're looking toward this economy, I mean with I

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Speaker 1: think we're heading toward the second quarter in a row

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Speaker 1: of negative GDP growth, and y'all know what that means.

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Speaker 1: A recession. That's all we need to be necessarily technically

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Speaker 1: in a recession. But I feel like we're already in

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Speaker 1: a recession as it is, but a recession is on

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Speaker 1: the horizon. I was on the Win with Black Women

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Speaker 1: Call on Monday or Sorry on Sunday, and they had

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Speaker 1: this incredible black female economist. Her name is Julianne Malveaux,

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Speaker 1: and she was basically saying, recession is coming two to

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Speaker 1: three months out, will officially be in a recession? And

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Speaker 1: I think we've been questioning is it a recession? Will

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Speaker 1: it be a recession for so long. But in terms

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Speaker 1: of like how we can actually prepare for that level

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Speaker 1: of uncertainty, what does that actually mean. We're already seeing

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00:31:38,080 --> 00:31:40,520
Speaker 1: these you know, mass layoffs and job loss and a

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00:31:40,600 --> 00:31:43,640
Speaker 1: challenging job market. So what can we actually do to

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Speaker 1: hedge ourselves and try to protect against that and cushion

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Speaker 1: against that. There's a couple of strategies I would be

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Speaker 1: thinking about, and honestly, my first strategy is as much

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Speaker 1: about creating like personal financial resilience as it is is

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00:31:59,400 --> 00:32:03,120
Speaker 1: also just like chucking up a middle finger to big

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Speaker 1: business in corporate America, who is putting profits over people

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00:32:06,920 --> 00:32:10,600
Speaker 1: at every stage of the game, and like helping you know,

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00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:14,840
Speaker 1: finance this three hundred million dollar ballroom while we're not

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Speaker 1: giving Bennett Snap benefits to working families who can't afford

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Speaker 1: to keep food on the table. It's just nonsense. So

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Speaker 1: my first, you know, strategy financially is to spend less.

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Speaker 1: We're heading into the holiday season, like introducing a no

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Speaker 1: spend policy around now, not around groceries and necessities and

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00:32:38,400 --> 00:32:41,920
Speaker 1: things like that, but into the holiday season, like don't

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Speaker 1: go spending and using your dollars and pouring them back

536
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Speaker 1: in to the coffers of the very same people who

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00:32:48,640 --> 00:32:52,840
Speaker 1: are trying to actively oppress us, trying to actively replace

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00:32:52,960 --> 00:32:55,840
Speaker 1: us with bots just to further their own bottom line.

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00:32:55,880 --> 00:33:03,080
Speaker 1: Like I'm talking about canceling that Amazon subscription, Amazon membership. Hell, yes,

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Speaker 1: I've actually been Amazon free, I want to say, probably

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00:33:07,640 --> 00:33:11,520
Speaker 1: since the spring, not long after we started the target boycott.

542
00:33:11,560 --> 00:33:13,880
Speaker 1: I was like, this feels good. Now let me try Amazon.

543
00:33:14,440 --> 00:33:17,480
Speaker 1: And you know what, life is great. Life's actually great

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00:33:17,480 --> 00:33:21,000
Speaker 1: without Amazon. I don't actually need all those things that

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00:33:21,040 --> 00:33:23,360
Speaker 1: I thought I needed as quickly as I needed them.

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Speaker 1: And if I absolutely do need something, Amazon can still

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Speaker 1: get it to me in one or two day shipping,

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00:33:30,160 --> 00:33:34,520
Speaker 1: you know, even without a membership often. So yes, I

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Speaker 1: would say spending less in general, just looking at how

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Speaker 1: can we how can we be a lot more thoughtful

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Speaker 1: with where we are putting our dollars and as you're

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00:33:44,280 --> 00:33:49,680
Speaker 1: spending less, automatically setting up some additional savings contributions throughout

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Speaker 1: the month. I mean, even making it a weekly habit,

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Speaker 1: Like on Friday, how much did I save by you know,

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Speaker 1: by not purchasing this, like eating out that day, by

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Speaker 1: you know, not buying a more expensive gift for the

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Speaker 1: kid's birthday that take my child to or you know,

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00:34:10,600 --> 00:34:12,680
Speaker 1: whatever it is that you're doing to cut that cost,

559
00:34:12,760 --> 00:34:15,000
Speaker 1: how can you pour that money back into your own

560
00:34:15,640 --> 00:34:21,239
Speaker 1: savings and investment goals to shore yourself up financially. I

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00:34:21,360 --> 00:34:25,279
Speaker 1: made a pretty big decision, well, my husband and I

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Speaker 1: made recently that we're actually not going to be traveling

563
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Speaker 1: back to Atlanta for the holidays because it's going to

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Speaker 1: be like two thousand, five hundred dollars for the four

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Speaker 1: of us to fly to Atlanta for the holidays, and

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Speaker 1: like two thousand dollars. I just I just it just

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Speaker 1: blew my mind and I'm not interested in paying a

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Speaker 1: big airline that much money right now. I would much

569
00:34:50,640 --> 00:34:52,839
Speaker 1: rather I mean shit, I'd rather put a thousand dollars

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Speaker 1: into each of my kids college funds and just the

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Speaker 1: idea of the holidays too. I mean, these kids get

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Speaker 1: so much off. My son's birthday is coming up to

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Speaker 1: before Thanksgiving, and I just know the stuff train is

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00:35:05,880 --> 00:35:08,799
Speaker 1: coming and I just don't want to be adding to that.

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Speaker 1: And so instead of doing that big trip, I'm thinking about, well,

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Speaker 1: what are some experiences I can plan for us as

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Speaker 1: a family that we can, you know, do together, whether

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Speaker 1: it's a family trip or an activity or more than

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Speaker 1: one activities, you know that we can invest in as

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Speaker 1: a family for our own good. You know, as much

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Speaker 1: as I love seeing my siblings, my mom and I

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00:35:31,320 --> 00:35:34,480
Speaker 1: will see them outside of the holidays. I will. And

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Speaker 1: I'm realizing that we haven't really done like a nice

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Speaker 1: you know, just us, just the four of us family

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00:35:40,800 --> 00:35:44,840
Speaker 1: trip in a very long time. So trying to rethink

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Speaker 1: the way that I'm spending my money and spending a

587
00:35:48,200 --> 00:35:51,759
Speaker 1: lot less boycotting or we need to boycott. But when

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Speaker 1: we are spending money, doing a gut check on are

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00:35:55,800 --> 00:35:58,600
Speaker 1: we actually spending in alignment with our what our values

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00:35:58,640 --> 00:36:02,880
Speaker 1: are and what our goals are, and asking yourself those questions,

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00:36:02,960 --> 00:36:06,480
Speaker 1: even like through journaling or chatting with it through with

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00:36:06,520 --> 00:36:10,240
Speaker 1: a friend can be helpful and I think can also

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00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:13,560
Speaker 1: help you remove any sting of guilt or shame from

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00:36:13,680 --> 00:36:15,600
Speaker 1: making a different decision of how you're going to spend

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00:36:15,640 --> 00:36:18,160
Speaker 1: your money by like just reminding yourself that, Okay, this

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00:36:18,239 --> 00:36:21,240
Speaker 1: is actually in alignment with what I say my values

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00:36:21,239 --> 00:36:24,719
Speaker 1: are and getting me further toward a certain goal that

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Speaker 1: I may have. And during times of economic uncertainty, it's

599
00:36:29,320 --> 00:36:33,160
Speaker 1: all about the money in your account Like that's the

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00:36:33,160 --> 00:36:36,520
Speaker 1: buffer that you're going to have between you and being

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00:36:36,560 --> 00:36:42,960
Speaker 1: in a really tough situation. Now for my solopreneur entrepreneur girlies,

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00:36:42,960 --> 00:36:45,600
Speaker 1: if you have an LLC or you're a full time

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00:36:45,640 --> 00:36:48,960
Speaker 1: business owner, I think planning an end of year call

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Speaker 1: with your accountant to well early December, I have an

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Speaker 1: accountant call where I'm going to hopefully talk about just

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00:36:56,440 --> 00:36:58,719
Speaker 1: end of year tax strategies and seeing what else we

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00:36:58,719 --> 00:37:02,480
Speaker 1: can do to limit our texts burden for twenty twenty

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00:37:02,480 --> 00:37:05,280
Speaker 1: five heading into the new year is a pretty good

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00:37:06,440 --> 00:37:10,440
Speaker 1: habit to or a good goal to make for yourself. Also,

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Speaker 1: my accountant. As scary as taxes can be for me,

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00:37:14,080 --> 00:37:16,279
Speaker 1: actually knowing that I have an accountant I can turn

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00:37:16,320 --> 00:37:18,399
Speaker 1: to and ask those questions too, and damn I pay

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00:37:18,440 --> 00:37:22,880
Speaker 1: her enough, she'd better be taking my calls actually helps

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00:37:22,920 --> 00:37:27,000
Speaker 1: me be able to tolerate a lot better the anxiety

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00:37:27,040 --> 00:37:31,360
Speaker 1: that I can get from just that piece of business ownership.

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00:37:31,400 --> 00:37:34,440
Speaker 1: It's always been just for me, like the most anxiety

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Speaker 1: inducing things. So a really solid accountant is worth their

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00:37:38,560 --> 00:37:42,239
Speaker 1: weight in gold. And if you're someone who's who've owned

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Speaker 1: a business, maybe you've been doing it yourself and things

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00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:49,439
Speaker 1: are gonna get a bit more complicated, like don't put

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Speaker 1: it off, you know, find that support that you need

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00:37:51,880 --> 00:37:54,279
Speaker 1: and invest in it because good Like I said, a

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Speaker 1: good accountant can really make things so much better for

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00:37:59,520 --> 00:38:02,040
Speaker 1: yourself and honestly save you a lot of money because

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00:38:02,080 --> 00:38:05,360
Speaker 1: of the strategies they can help you implement, may be

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Speaker 1: able to help you implement, you know, with your business,

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00:38:08,080 --> 00:38:12,160
Speaker 1: and it's super It's important to find one who's who

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00:38:12,200 --> 00:38:14,480
Speaker 1: can actually practice in your state. They're kind of like

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Speaker 1: therapists as an accountant like you are capable of working

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Speaker 1: in certain states. So make sure that you're looking for

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Speaker 1: ones who are licensed in your state and you know,

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00:38:26,480 --> 00:38:30,879
Speaker 1: get that support for yourself. Now, ba fam, I want

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Speaker 1: to hear from y'all as we are in this extremely

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00:38:34,800 --> 00:38:38,200
Speaker 1: heightened level of uncertainty these days, are there any strategies

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00:38:38,239 --> 00:38:41,840
Speaker 1: that are helping you cope with the uncertainty of the moment,

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00:38:43,040 --> 00:38:45,680
Speaker 1: Anything that is helping it feel a little bit less

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00:38:45,920 --> 00:38:48,400
Speaker 1: anxiety inducing, that helps you feel like we're shining a

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00:38:48,480 --> 00:38:50,600
Speaker 1: light under the bed. We're going to face those monster's

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00:38:50,680 --> 00:38:53,080
Speaker 1: head on. I'd really love to hear from y'all. You

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Speaker 1: can email me Brand Ambition Podcast at gmail dot com,

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Speaker 1: or you can hit me up on IG. I'm at

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Speaker 1: brand Ambition. I would so love to hear from y'all.

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Speaker 1: Matter of fact, I would love to just share a

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Speaker 1: know you are not alone. You are loved, appreciated, and

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Speaker 1: highly favored. Thank you, Taj. And listener Asia said from

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Speaker 1: that all those companies were funding that White House project.

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Speaker 1: It makes me feel ickier than if it were tax dollars.

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Speaker 1: Seems we need to use that same target boycott energy

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Speaker 1: and apply it to those corporations on AI. I'm mixed

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Speaker 1: totally understand its convenience and capabilities regarding the daunting task

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Speaker 1: That's right, I was talking about using AI for your

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Speaker 1: performance reviews. You're right, Asia, I mean you have to.

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Speaker 1: You can't. You can't use AI and not understand that

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Speaker 1: water it needs to cool down those computers. So that

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Speaker 1: we can you know that it can fund our searches

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Speaker 1: on on the different AI tools that we're using. So yes,

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Speaker 1: very fair point, madam, very fair point. Shout out to

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Speaker 1: fifty two subscribers on YouTube. I'm so proud and honestly

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Speaker 1: I'm happy with like the I felt like YouTube is

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Speaker 1: kind of kind of be scary when it comes to

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Speaker 1: commenters in general, but bea fam. We all are just

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Speaker 1: incredible and I really feel like the qual of comments

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Speaker 1: that we get are so thoughtful. So I'm honestly always

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Speaker 1: checking for our YouTube commenters. One of my favorites to

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Speaker 1: read her comments is Regina. You know you're my girl, Regina,

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Speaker 1: says Hi Mandy. I love all the positive things you're

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Speaker 1: doing for yourself. I will work on slowing down as well.

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Speaker 1: Regarding the climate we're living in. What you're saying is

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Speaker 1: blatant corruption is happening right in front of her eyes. Yep,

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Speaker 1: I am saying that, Regina. She also says, I'm praying

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Speaker 1: for you and hubby and all else affected by these

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Speaker 1: layoffs and snap benefits. Keep caring and sharing. Thank you, Regina.

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Speaker 1: Let me reply to you right now, because you know

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Speaker 1: you're my girl. I love it. Oh. And then Alyssa

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Speaker 1: Amanda R says I love your honesty and vulnerability. Mandy,

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Speaker 1: this is what attracted me to this show. You and

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Speaker 1: Tiffany have always been so open about the good and bad. Yes,

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Speaker 1: thank you, Amanda are and then all right, one more

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Speaker 1: Alexis really is we're in sweets that Alexis. Oh, this

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Speaker 1: a couple of weeks ago, where we were just checking

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Speaker 1: in about motherhood at a time like this, motherhood, mental health,

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Speaker 1: all the things. Alexis says, I feel you, I feel you.

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Speaker 1: It gets better for us, heart and hugs. Thank you, Alexis. Honestly,

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Speaker 1: it gets better is a mantra that I try to

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Speaker 1: tell myself a lot, because, like one of the lies.

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Speaker 1: I think anxiety and depression can really tell us is

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Speaker 1: it gets better is just I mean, it's one of

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Speaker 1: can tell to someone who's really struggling in a moment

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Speaker 1: of like, you know, anxious thoughts and panic and on

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Speaker 1: all that. So thank you. Also thank you to the

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Speaker 1: BA fan on the Patreon for helping me choose my

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Speaker 1: book cover. There was an overwhelm winner, and I have

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Speaker 1: to say I also want to say that I gave

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Speaker 1: and I love the book cover. So if you voted

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Speaker 1: for option what was it Option B? Or do you

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Speaker 1: let me do him quick check right now and I've

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Speaker 1: forgot Yeah, So if you voted for option B, you're

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Speaker 1: so make sure you're signed up. You can join totally

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Speaker 1: I'm gonna take a little break, ba fam, I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: come back into a brown boost brown break. See you soon,

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Speaker 1: all right, ba fam, I'm back. I want to do

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Speaker 1: a big, big brown boost for the wonderful Kim Lewis

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Speaker 1: the founder of kurl Mix, black owned, female owned natural

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Speaker 1: hair care brand that I have used in the past.

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Speaker 1: And Kim and the you know, we're talking about vulnerability

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Speaker 1: and reaching out, to reaching outward or support even when

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Speaker 1: you are feeling challenged. And Kim really personified that whole mission,

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Speaker 1: that whole message this week when she posted in a

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Speaker 1: now viral clip that curl Mix is on the brink

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Speaker 1: of shutting down. They're based in Chicago. Kim has run

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Speaker 1: this for I think a decade now, and they need

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Speaker 1: twenty thousand orders before December thirty first or they'll have

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Speaker 1: to shut down for good. And she's doing this campaign

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Speaker 1: right now, and honestly, it's a wonderful. Like we talked

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Speaker 1: about no spend, but when I say no spend, I

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Speaker 1: mean no spend on the corporations that are actively oppressing us. Absolutely,

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Speaker 1: let's spend on black owned businesses, especially black women own

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Speaker 1: businesses like curl Mix. So if you go to curl

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Speaker 1: offer that she has right now, this promo. It's one

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Speaker 1: for just one hundred bucks, you can get ten different

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Speaker 1: hair products. I don't even know physically what's all in

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Speaker 1: this bundle, but I bought one myself and I plan

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Speaker 1: to divvy it up as gifts over the holiday season.

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Speaker 1: And already she's gotten over one thousand orders just by

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Speaker 1: now for sure once this year, and she's just incredible,

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Speaker 1: and she's always been open about the challenges of entrepreneurship,

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Speaker 1: and the reality is that you know, these having a

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Speaker 1: good and then selling it, it's incredibly challenging to maintain operations.

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Speaker 1: You have cash flow shortages all the times. If y'all remember,

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Speaker 1: partner had founded and they had to shut down simply

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Speaker 1: because they ran out of cash and they could not

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Speaker 1: get the financing or the investment that they needed to

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Speaker 1: just keep operations open. That they had a profitable business

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Speaker 1: that was working, but you have these cash flow shortages

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Speaker 1: and you have to get product out. So I just

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Speaker 1: wanted to do a big Brown boost to Kim and

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Speaker 1: to Curl Mix and encourage you, BAFAM to check out

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Speaker 1: chro mix dot com and pick up that one hundred

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Speaker 1: especially y'all know naturalistas. The prices on these these air

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Speaker 1: products are insane, so it's really a great deal. And

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Speaker 1: then just to support Kim, I love you so much

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Speaker 1: and I love chro Mix, and hopefully BAFAM, we can

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Speaker 1: be a part of keeping chro Mix open. We need

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Speaker 1: businesses like Kim's to be thriving for all of us

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Speaker 1: and for everything that she stands for. So that is

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Speaker 1: my boost for the week. I want to hear from y'all.

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Speaker 1: Please hit me up Brown Ambition Podcast at gmail dot

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Speaker 1: com or hit me up on ig Thank y'all so

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Speaker 1: so much for the support. Make sure you check the

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Speaker 1: show notes for links to anything that's been mentioned on

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Speaker 1: the show. And more resources of how you can support

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Speaker 1: Brown Ambition until the BAQA on Friday. It's me Mandy

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Speaker 1: Witch of Santos aka Mandy Money. Thank you so much

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Speaker 1: for tuning in. I'll see you next time. Bye. Hey,

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Speaker 1: ba fam, Let's be real for a second, and y'all

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Speaker 1: know I keep it a book. The job market has

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Speaker 1: been brutal, now not brutal trash, especially for women of color.

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Speaker 1: Over three hundred thousand of us have disappeared from the

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Speaker 1: workforce this year alone, and not by choice, but because

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Speaker 1: of layoffs, disappearing DEI programs, and stagnant wages that keep

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Speaker 1: cutting us out of opportunity. Our unemployment rate has jumped

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Speaker 1: to over seven percent, while our pay gap continues to widen.

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Speaker 1: I know all of that sounds dire, but here's what

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Speaker 1: I want y'all to know. You do not have to

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Speaker 1: wait for the system to save you. That's exactly why

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Speaker 1: I created the Mandy Money Makers Group coaching community. It

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Speaker 1: is a coaching community that is built for us by us.

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Speaker 1: Inside the community, we're not just talking about how to

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Speaker 1: It's about finding purpose in your career. It's about finding

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Speaker 1: communities and others, feeling seen, feeling heard, and also having

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Speaker 1: a sounding board and a mirror to reflect your own magic,

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Speaker 1: your own sparkle right back to yourself. In this community,

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Speaker 1: you'll get group coaching led by me, but you also

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Speaker 1: get peer to peer accountability with proven tools and resources

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Speaker 1: that can help you do what we have always done

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Speaker 1: since rise. Even when the odds are stacked against us,

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Speaker 1: despite all the challenges, we will rise. If you're interested

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Speaker 1: in joining the Mandy money Makers community and having that

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Speaker 1: your magic so that you can lead your career with

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Speaker 1: intention and heart and your own intuition, trusting that again,

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Speaker 1: please join us. You can find information in the show

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Speaker 1: va fam, thank you so much for listening to this

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Speaker 1: week's show. I want to shout out to our production team, Courtney,

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Speaker 1: our editor Carla, our fearless leader for idea to launch

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Speaker 1: productions I want to shout out my assistant Lauda Escalante

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Speaker 1: and Cameron McNair for helping me put the show together.

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Speaker 1: It is not a one person project, as much as

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Speaker 1: I have tried to make it so these past ten years.

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Speaker 1: I need help, y'all, and thank goodness I've been able

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Speaker 1: this journey. And to y'all, ba fam, I love you

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