1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:02,759 Speaker 1: My sister broke my hand, so I cut her off. 2 00:00:02,960 --> 00:00:06,040 Speaker 1: Now my family is insisting I forgive her. And this 3 00:00:06,120 --> 00:00:08,400 Speaker 1: is to answer the question of what behavior should you 4 00:00:08,520 --> 00:00:12,160 Speaker 1: let slide from siblings if they break your hand, don't 5 00:00:12,200 --> 00:00:12,959 Speaker 1: let that slide. 6 00:00:13,320 --> 00:00:16,000 Speaker 2: I'll just poke Sophia's hand once. Yeah, actually she didn't 7 00:00:16,000 --> 00:00:16,720 Speaker 2: talk to me for a week. 8 00:00:16,800 --> 00:00:20,880 Speaker 1: That's not true. Riley accidentally slammed the door into my hand. 9 00:00:21,280 --> 00:00:25,160 Speaker 1: We're all good, though it hurt so heavy. Bet nine 10 00:00:25,239 --> 00:00:28,640 Speaker 1: four eight nine says. To best explain the story, I 11 00:00:28,720 --> 00:00:31,760 Speaker 1: need to give a little background, so please bear with me. 12 00:00:32,840 --> 00:00:34,479 Speaker 1: This is going to be a long one, but I 13 00:00:34,520 --> 00:00:37,440 Speaker 1: really don't know how to shorten it without missing valid details. 14 00:00:38,080 --> 00:00:42,240 Speaker 1: My twenty four female sister, Maggie thirty female, was horrible 15 00:00:42,280 --> 00:00:44,840 Speaker 1: to me the first twelve or thirteen years of my life. 16 00:00:45,000 --> 00:00:49,839 Speaker 1: Aw it's not nice, straight up abusive if you ask me, 17 00:00:50,080 --> 00:00:52,760 Speaker 1: But my mom always chalked it up to sister's fighting. 18 00:00:53,159 --> 00:00:57,000 Speaker 1: She'd lock me in the dark basement, punch bite, scratch me, 19 00:00:57,200 --> 00:00:59,760 Speaker 1: push me down the stairs, pull chunks of my hair, 20 00:01:00,160 --> 00:01:02,840 Speaker 1: my head, Oh my god, and there were times where 21 00:01:02,880 --> 00:01:05,160 Speaker 1: she'd even have her friends join in on beating me up. 22 00:01:05,880 --> 00:01:10,399 Speaker 1: This mom is crazy. This mom is crazy if she 23 00:01:10,480 --> 00:01:13,199 Speaker 1: thinks this is normal child behavior. 24 00:01:13,280 --> 00:01:15,640 Speaker 2: Like like I could like maybe do half of these 25 00:01:15,680 --> 00:01:18,440 Speaker 2: things before, yeah, in five minutes, then we're gonna call 26 00:01:18,480 --> 00:01:19,039 Speaker 2: me out like. 27 00:01:19,080 --> 00:01:23,120 Speaker 1: Punching maybe, But my parents would be like, stop stop it. 28 00:01:24,080 --> 00:01:28,280 Speaker 1: This is absolutely ridiculous if you're not, you know, punishing 29 00:01:28,520 --> 00:01:33,080 Speaker 1: or parenting your children when they do these things. When 30 00:01:33,080 --> 00:01:35,640 Speaker 1: she was nineteen, she had her first baby, and for 31 00:01:35,720 --> 00:01:40,520 Speaker 1: the first time things between us were okay. We worked 32 00:01:40,520 --> 00:01:42,880 Speaker 1: at a restaurant together. I'd come over and help with 33 00:01:42,920 --> 00:01:45,920 Speaker 1: her baby. For a while, we became sort of friends, 34 00:01:46,280 --> 00:01:48,640 Speaker 1: until I started to realize that maybe I didn't want 35 00:01:48,640 --> 00:01:51,920 Speaker 1: to be your friend. I came to the realization that 36 00:01:51,960 --> 00:01:54,120 Speaker 1: she really was only nice to me when I was 37 00:01:54,120 --> 00:01:56,640 Speaker 1: doing things for her. So if I said no to 38 00:01:56,680 --> 00:01:59,400 Speaker 1: babysitting so I could hang out with friends, or if 39 00:01:59,440 --> 00:02:01,800 Speaker 1: I didn't want to borrow her money or whatever else 40 00:02:01,840 --> 00:02:05,080 Speaker 1: she needed, she'd start a fight with me. And then 41 00:02:05,200 --> 00:02:07,960 Speaker 1: anytime something happened in my life that I got excited about, 42 00:02:08,320 --> 00:02:10,720 Speaker 1: she'd make some sort of comment to make me feel 43 00:02:10,720 --> 00:02:14,519 Speaker 1: bad or second guess myself. I financed a brand new 44 00:02:14,560 --> 00:02:17,560 Speaker 1: car without a co signer at twenty, I'd never get 45 00:02:17,560 --> 00:02:20,359 Speaker 1: that kind of car. Oh. The sister then goes, I 46 00:02:20,480 --> 00:02:23,400 Speaker 1: never get that kind of car. I got a promotion 47 00:02:23,520 --> 00:02:26,200 Speaker 1: at work. Why would you even want that job? My 48 00:02:26,240 --> 00:02:29,600 Speaker 1: boyfriend got me flowers. He won't do that once you're married. Oh, 49 00:02:30,080 --> 00:02:32,480 Speaker 1: I went to college and finished my degree. I could 50 00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:34,040 Speaker 1: have done that if I didn't have kids to take 51 00:02:34,280 --> 00:02:36,720 Speaker 1: care of. I'm going on a girls trip with my 52 00:02:36,800 --> 00:02:39,240 Speaker 1: friends soon enough to get sick of you and won't 53 00:02:39,240 --> 00:02:42,520 Speaker 1: be your friends anymore. She sounds like a. 54 00:02:44,120 --> 00:02:48,840 Speaker 2: Joy sapper, isn't it kind of wild? It starts physically 55 00:02:48,840 --> 00:02:52,200 Speaker 2: whenever you're younger, and then it goes into emotional and mental. 56 00:02:52,880 --> 00:02:54,919 Speaker 2: I would much rather have the physical because I could 57 00:02:54,960 --> 00:02:56,240 Speaker 2: convince myself at that. 58 00:02:56,320 --> 00:02:58,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, and you could point it out and be like, hey, 59 00:02:58,240 --> 00:02:59,760 Speaker 1: my sister is doing this. 60 00:03:00,040 --> 00:03:01,679 Speaker 2: And you could defend yourself emotionally. 61 00:03:03,120 --> 00:03:06,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, you need to cut this person off because this 62 00:03:06,320 --> 00:03:07,639 Speaker 1: behavior is ridiculous. 63 00:03:07,680 --> 00:03:11,200 Speaker 2: The best way to defend this would be what do 64 00:03:11,240 --> 00:03:11,840 Speaker 2: you mean by that? 65 00:03:12,440 --> 00:03:15,960 Speaker 1: Yeah? Or just be like, well, my friends actually like me. 66 00:03:16,000 --> 00:03:18,480 Speaker 2: So getting sassy with it. 67 00:03:18,520 --> 00:03:20,600 Speaker 1: Get a little sassy with her because she's a freaking 68 00:03:20,680 --> 00:03:24,320 Speaker 1: joy mosquito, just trying to suck all that Mosquito from you. 69 00:03:24,720 --> 00:03:27,000 Speaker 2: Oh they said you drained energy vampire. 70 00:03:27,200 --> 00:03:30,120 Speaker 1: Energy vampire exactly. 71 00:03:30,639 --> 00:03:33,200 Speaker 2: Do you have an energy vampire in your life? 72 00:03:33,360 --> 00:03:33,960 Speaker 1: I don't think so. 73 00:03:34,160 --> 00:03:34,680 Speaker 2: I used to. 74 00:03:35,480 --> 00:03:36,440 Speaker 1: I probably used to have that. 75 00:03:36,600 --> 00:03:39,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, some people that I hang out with. I'm like, 76 00:03:40,760 --> 00:03:44,240 Speaker 2: I got to get out of here. Yeah, daylight out 77 00:03:44,240 --> 00:03:47,440 Speaker 2: of Mayak a lot, all right. 78 00:03:47,880 --> 00:03:51,080 Speaker 1: And then it was the animals. In the last decade, 79 00:03:51,240 --> 00:03:53,800 Speaker 1: she has bought and gotten rid of close to twenty 80 00:03:53,960 --> 00:03:57,360 Speaker 1: cats and dogs. Oh my god, that's unacceptable. Why are 81 00:03:57,360 --> 00:03:58,240 Speaker 1: you getting rid of them? 82 00:03:58,800 --> 00:04:01,280 Speaker 2: Can't least out pat Yeah, that's not how they work. 83 00:04:01,320 --> 00:04:05,160 Speaker 1: Those are a commitment. Now, anyone that loves animals will 84 00:04:05,240 --> 00:04:08,160 Speaker 1: understand why this pisses me off so much. To go 85 00:04:08,240 --> 00:04:11,520 Speaker 1: to a breeder, spend thousands on a purebred puppy or 86 00:04:11,600 --> 00:04:14,280 Speaker 1: kitten just to drop it off at the shelter or 87 00:04:14,400 --> 00:04:17,960 Speaker 1: leave it in the street. I wish I was kidding. 88 00:04:18,040 --> 00:04:20,279 Speaker 1: And trust me, if I had known about this before 89 00:04:20,320 --> 00:04:22,680 Speaker 1: it happened, I would have done something to stop it. 90 00:04:24,560 --> 00:04:31,040 Speaker 1: She's dropping off these puppies, She's dumping them. This is awful. 91 00:04:31,720 --> 00:04:37,280 Speaker 1: This is awful. Anyone who has ever dumped an animal 92 00:04:37,400 --> 00:04:41,680 Speaker 1: that you bought or just regardless dumped an animal. You're 93 00:04:41,720 --> 00:04:47,000 Speaker 1: a horrible person that, like what the puppy come on 94 00:04:48,160 --> 00:04:50,400 Speaker 1: as soon as it became a hassle just to go 95 00:04:50,440 --> 00:04:53,240 Speaker 1: buy a new one a few months later is absolutely 96 00:04:53,279 --> 00:04:57,440 Speaker 1: mind boggling and furiating and just sad. Then she cheated 97 00:04:57,480 --> 00:05:00,240 Speaker 1: on her husband and use me as an alibi, ye 98 00:05:01,240 --> 00:05:03,719 Speaker 1: without my knowledge, and then would brag about it to 99 00:05:03,800 --> 00:05:06,680 Speaker 1: my family. Her husband would literally be literally be in 100 00:05:06,720 --> 00:05:10,160 Speaker 1: the other room and she'd be facetiming her boyfriend and 101 00:05:10,200 --> 00:05:15,920 Speaker 1: nobody said a thing. Everyone is just like allowing her 102 00:05:15,960 --> 00:05:18,760 Speaker 1: to get away with this behavior and have been allowing 103 00:05:18,760 --> 00:05:21,800 Speaker 1: her to get away with this behavior for her whole life, 104 00:05:22,000 --> 00:05:27,640 Speaker 1: Like the mom has been letting this happen and truly 105 00:05:27,720 --> 00:05:31,679 Speaker 1: just unacceptable. And this really just sent me over the edge, 106 00:05:31,720 --> 00:05:33,800 Speaker 1: because how are you going to do the exact same 107 00:05:33,800 --> 00:05:37,240 Speaker 1: thing that your father did to our mom potentially break 108 00:05:37,320 --> 00:05:40,560 Speaker 1: up your family and she also and put your children 109 00:05:40,640 --> 00:05:44,279 Speaker 1: through what you went through as a kid. Finally, I 110 00:05:44,360 --> 00:05:46,360 Speaker 1: told her I was going to tell her husband unless 111 00:05:46,360 --> 00:05:50,120 Speaker 1: she confessed she did things blew up with them. She 112 00:05:50,279 --> 00:05:53,080 Speaker 1: swore she wouldn't do it again, and they decided to 113 00:05:53,160 --> 00:05:56,600 Speaker 1: work things out. Uh, oh, she's gonna do it, Oh, 114 00:05:56,680 --> 00:05:59,719 Speaker 1: anyone who brags about cheating in front of people. I mean, one, 115 00:05:59,760 --> 00:06:02,159 Speaker 1: if someone cheats on you, but also if they're bragging 116 00:06:02,160 --> 00:06:04,480 Speaker 1: about it, they're going to do it again. On top 117 00:06:04,560 --> 00:06:08,599 Speaker 1: of everything, my sister has a really bad problem with alcohol. Ope, 118 00:06:08,680 --> 00:06:11,719 Speaker 1: that in and of itself could be an entire other story, 119 00:06:11,839 --> 00:06:15,240 Speaker 1: but just no, it's bad. There was a lawsuit with 120 00:06:15,279 --> 00:06:18,280 Speaker 1: the county she lived in drunk driving with her children 121 00:06:18,320 --> 00:06:22,679 Speaker 1: in the car, oh getting the shakes when she wasn't drinking, 122 00:06:22,800 --> 00:06:25,720 Speaker 1: et cetera. It was hard to stand by and watch, 123 00:06:25,839 --> 00:06:29,400 Speaker 1: but if anyone said anything, she'd turn violent, so we 124 00:06:29,440 --> 00:06:31,640 Speaker 1: all just kept our mouths shut. And she was like 125 00:06:31,720 --> 00:06:37,240 Speaker 1: that with everyone. Our entire family, our parents, siblings, aunts, uncles, 126 00:06:37,680 --> 00:06:40,560 Speaker 1: her husband, and even her children are all sensitive to 127 00:06:40,600 --> 00:06:42,360 Speaker 1: what they say to her because they know she'll turn 128 00:06:42,400 --> 00:06:45,520 Speaker 1: it into a fight. Divorce this woman and take your 129 00:06:45,600 --> 00:06:48,640 Speaker 1: kids away from her and the puppies. Fast forward to 130 00:06:48,680 --> 00:06:52,440 Speaker 1: my little brother's seventeenth birthday party. At this point, I 131 00:06:52,480 --> 00:06:55,840 Speaker 1: had really distanced myself from her because I just couldn't 132 00:06:55,880 --> 00:06:59,479 Speaker 1: tolerate any more of the things she was doing. Maggie 133 00:06:59,480 --> 00:07:02,479 Speaker 1: noticed that I'd been distancing myself, and she confronted me 134 00:07:02,520 --> 00:07:05,080 Speaker 1: about it at the party. I denied it because this 135 00:07:05,240 --> 00:07:07,320 Speaker 1: was not the time and place to have this conversation 136 00:07:07,400 --> 00:07:10,200 Speaker 1: with so many people around us. I thought that would 137 00:07:10,240 --> 00:07:12,960 Speaker 1: be the end of it, But then we went into 138 00:07:12,960 --> 00:07:16,760 Speaker 1: the house. I'm instead. I'm inside talking to my little 139 00:07:16,760 --> 00:07:19,080 Speaker 1: brother and a friend, and I hear Maggie talking to 140 00:07:19,120 --> 00:07:22,080 Speaker 1: my mom about me, calling me every name. 141 00:07:21,880 --> 00:07:23,440 Speaker 2: In the book ooh. 142 00:07:23,480 --> 00:07:25,560 Speaker 1: I tried to ignore it, but when she called me 143 00:07:25,640 --> 00:07:29,120 Speaker 1: a sea word, I really couldn't stand anymore. So I 144 00:07:29,240 --> 00:07:33,280 Speaker 1: stood up for myself. Good on your yes. Of course, 145 00:07:33,320 --> 00:07:35,480 Speaker 1: it blew up into a huge fight. There was a 146 00:07:35,520 --> 00:07:39,400 Speaker 1: lot of yelling back and forth. Eventually I sat back 147 00:07:39,400 --> 00:07:41,800 Speaker 1: down at the table with my brother and friend, thinking 148 00:07:41,800 --> 00:07:44,640 Speaker 1: maybe if I sat down and ignored her, she'd go away. 149 00:07:45,680 --> 00:07:49,360 Speaker 1: She then charged after me. I put my hands up 150 00:07:49,400 --> 00:07:53,400 Speaker 1: to stop her. She grabbed my hand and snapped it back, 151 00:07:53,920 --> 00:08:01,840 Speaker 1: breaking my fourth metacarpal. Right, oh, charge charges immediately immediately. 152 00:08:02,200 --> 00:08:05,400 Speaker 1: That is a yeah, you should charge her for that, 153 00:08:05,480 --> 00:08:10,560 Speaker 1: because this is unacceptable behavior that her mother has been 154 00:08:10,600 --> 00:08:15,160 Speaker 1: excusing all of her life. This wasn't the first time 155 00:08:15,280 --> 00:08:17,600 Speaker 1: she started a fight and gotten physical with someone in 156 00:08:17,640 --> 00:08:21,280 Speaker 1: her family, but she's never broken a bone and every 157 00:08:21,360 --> 00:08:24,080 Speaker 1: other time something like this happened, it just got swept 158 00:08:24,160 --> 00:08:26,840 Speaker 1: under the rug. And I was sick of everyone acting 159 00:08:26,880 --> 00:08:29,520 Speaker 1: like this was okay behavior. So I let her know 160 00:08:29,600 --> 00:08:32,319 Speaker 1: that I would no longer be speaking to her, filed 161 00:08:32,320 --> 00:08:35,800 Speaker 1: a police report, and blocked her and her husband. I 162 00:08:35,840 --> 00:08:37,920 Speaker 1: got surgery to set my bone in place with some 163 00:08:38,080 --> 00:08:41,080 Speaker 1: screws and a pin, and even with insurance, I had 164 00:08:41,080 --> 00:08:46,000 Speaker 1: to pay four thousand dollars over the heck file of lawsuit. 165 00:08:46,280 --> 00:08:49,600 Speaker 1: Get her to pay that money because this, yeah, it 166 00:08:49,679 --> 00:08:53,600 Speaker 1: was wild, wild, four thousand dollars. I went a year 167 00:08:53,640 --> 00:08:56,320 Speaker 1: without speaking to her, and my entire family made me 168 00:08:56,360 --> 00:09:00,440 Speaker 1: feel like crap for it. Cut off your family, go 169 00:09:00,520 --> 00:09:03,080 Speaker 1: no contact with your family. If they are saying that 170 00:09:03,160 --> 00:09:06,959 Speaker 1: this is okay or this is excusable behavior, then you 171 00:09:07,000 --> 00:09:10,640 Speaker 1: should not be talking to these people for your own safety. 172 00:09:10,800 --> 00:09:11,400 Speaker 2: Oh yeah. 173 00:09:12,120 --> 00:09:14,280 Speaker 1: She went on and on about how much Maggie loves 174 00:09:14,280 --> 00:09:17,200 Speaker 1: me and how bad she felt, and how I can't 175 00:09:17,200 --> 00:09:19,719 Speaker 1: be mad at her forever. And there were times I 176 00:09:19,760 --> 00:09:22,240 Speaker 1: almost felt like giving in because my mom shamed me 177 00:09:22,320 --> 00:09:24,400 Speaker 1: so much for simply not wanting to talk to her. 178 00:09:24,920 --> 00:09:26,560 Speaker 1: But then my mom would be on the phone with 179 00:09:26,600 --> 00:09:29,920 Speaker 1: Maggie on speaker, and I'd hear her bragging about breaking 180 00:09:29,960 --> 00:09:33,600 Speaker 1: my hand and how tough she was and how I 181 00:09:33,640 --> 00:09:36,840 Speaker 1: deserved it. Okay, cut all of these people off, every 182 00:09:36,880 --> 00:09:39,600 Speaker 1: single one of them, every single one of them. Give 183 00:09:39,679 --> 00:09:41,880 Speaker 1: us the steps of what she has to do right now. 184 00:09:42,559 --> 00:09:46,319 Speaker 1: File a police report, No, sue her for medical costs. 185 00:09:46,400 --> 00:09:47,960 Speaker 2: Get that bag, Get that bag. 186 00:09:48,360 --> 00:09:51,520 Speaker 1: Cut off everyone in your family who took her side 187 00:09:51,640 --> 00:09:53,720 Speaker 1: or didn't take a side, because if they're not taking 188 00:09:53,760 --> 00:09:57,839 Speaker 1: a side, that's the same thing. Uh. And then yeah, wait, 189 00:09:57,880 --> 00:10:01,520 Speaker 1: call CPS. Call CPS, right because the kids, call CPS. 190 00:10:03,080 --> 00:10:04,360 Speaker 2: Call someone for the dogs. 191 00:10:04,960 --> 00:10:08,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, call animal control, I don't know, call someone, call 192 00:10:08,400 --> 00:10:12,839 Speaker 1: the police again. Uh yeah, call her out on all 193 00:10:12,920 --> 00:10:15,920 Speaker 1: of these things, and then leave her life forever. I'd 194 00:10:15,960 --> 00:10:18,240 Speaker 1: also hear from my brothers and my dad and also 195 00:10:18,320 --> 00:10:21,280 Speaker 1: other relatives about all the crappy things she was doing. 196 00:10:21,840 --> 00:10:25,960 Speaker 1: She was still cheating on her husband, gave away another dog, 197 00:10:26,280 --> 00:10:28,560 Speaker 1: bought two more. What do we think she'll do with 198 00:10:28,600 --> 00:10:31,920 Speaker 1: these ones? And apparently casting spells on me to make 199 00:10:32,000 --> 00:10:34,800 Speaker 1: me infertile. This woman is. 200 00:10:36,320 --> 00:10:38,440 Speaker 2: A lot that's wild. 201 00:10:38,280 --> 00:10:40,640 Speaker 1: And it's very clear to me that she has not changed, 202 00:10:40,679 --> 00:10:45,120 Speaker 1: and I don't want to deal with that stuff. My 203 00:10:45,200 --> 00:10:48,720 Speaker 1: boyfriend proposed, wait, sorry, I have the storm. 204 00:10:49,040 --> 00:10:55,520 Speaker 2: Wait wait, she's she's coming after you physically, emotionally and spiritually. Yeah, 205 00:10:55,679 --> 00:10:57,920 Speaker 2: oh my gosh, yeah. 206 00:10:57,600 --> 00:11:01,800 Speaker 1: She's coming for the body, the blood, in the mind, 207 00:11:02,000 --> 00:11:07,679 Speaker 1: and the spirit, the soul, the soul. Then my boyfriend proposed. 208 00:11:07,280 --> 00:11:09,760 Speaker 2: Yayo, finally some good. 209 00:11:09,960 --> 00:11:12,640 Speaker 1: The good happens. I moved in with them. As the 210 00:11:12,679 --> 00:11:17,120 Speaker 1: wedding came closer, my mom really doubled down, even threatening 211 00:11:17,160 --> 00:11:19,400 Speaker 1: to not come to my wedding. If I don't invite Maggie, 212 00:11:19,480 --> 00:11:21,720 Speaker 1: don't let her come to your wedding, don't let any 213 00:11:21,720 --> 00:11:24,400 Speaker 1: of them come to your wedding. I was also hearing 214 00:11:24,400 --> 00:11:27,280 Speaker 1: that other family members wanted her there. Why does anyone 215 00:11:27,320 --> 00:11:29,880 Speaker 1: like her? She sounds like she sucks, and I felt 216 00:11:29,920 --> 00:11:34,000 Speaker 1: a lot of pressure to invite her. So when Christmas 217 00:11:34,000 --> 00:11:38,080 Speaker 1: came around last year, I decided to actually go to 218 00:11:38,120 --> 00:11:40,640 Speaker 1: my parents' house for it, and if Maggie wanted to talk, 219 00:11:41,280 --> 00:11:46,160 Speaker 1: we could talk. I was hopeful we'd be able to 220 00:11:46,160 --> 00:11:49,439 Speaker 1: maybe resolve this issue. We didn't talk until I went 221 00:11:49,480 --> 00:11:52,160 Speaker 1: to leave, when she followed me outside and proceeded to 222 00:11:52,200 --> 00:11:56,240 Speaker 1: give me the most insincere apology I've ever heard in 223 00:11:56,280 --> 00:11:59,720 Speaker 1: my life. She pretty much said, I'm sorry for whatever 224 00:11:59,760 --> 00:12:01,800 Speaker 1: I did to make you so mad at me, but 225 00:12:01,880 --> 00:12:03,400 Speaker 1: you should really get over it. 226 00:12:03,640 --> 00:12:05,600 Speaker 2: What cut her off? 227 00:12:06,000 --> 00:12:11,080 Speaker 1: Cut her off? Now cut her off. This woman is 228 00:12:12,000 --> 00:12:16,120 Speaker 1: not apologetic at all. She hurts you, she broke your hand, 229 00:12:16,600 --> 00:12:17,920 Speaker 1: and she freaking sucks. 230 00:12:18,040 --> 00:12:18,800 Speaker 2: That is wild. 231 00:12:19,360 --> 00:12:25,920 Speaker 1: Leave her, leave her in the dust, and also bipor sure. 232 00:12:26,960 --> 00:12:29,040 Speaker 1: I tried to explain to her how the thing she 233 00:12:29,080 --> 00:12:32,000 Speaker 1: does to me and everyone else really makes me reluctant 234 00:12:32,000 --> 00:12:36,040 Speaker 1: to talk to her. Predictably, predictably, she tried to fighting 235 00:12:36,040 --> 00:12:38,000 Speaker 1: with me again, so I just got in my car 236 00:12:38,440 --> 00:12:42,679 Speaker 1: and left. After I left, she apparently went inside and 237 00:12:42,720 --> 00:12:45,960 Speaker 1: started a fight with my mom, then with her husband. 238 00:12:46,320 --> 00:12:48,480 Speaker 1: Then he took her home and apparently gave her some 239 00:12:48,520 --> 00:12:51,800 Speaker 1: sort of ultimatum which made her stop drinking for a while. 240 00:12:53,040 --> 00:12:56,200 Speaker 1: I carried on with wedding planning and really avoided the 241 00:12:56,240 --> 00:12:58,920 Speaker 1: topic of her anytime someone brought her up. But he 242 00:12:59,000 --> 00:13:01,560 Speaker 1: was happy to hear the she gone three months without drinking. 243 00:13:02,120 --> 00:13:04,520 Speaker 1: I thought that maybe she was going to change, because 244 00:13:04,520 --> 00:13:08,479 Speaker 1: in the past she'd only ever stopped drinking for her pregnancies, 245 00:13:09,040 --> 00:13:11,920 Speaker 1: never anything else. But I still just didn't want her 246 00:13:12,000 --> 00:13:14,920 Speaker 1: at my wedding, and I was firm on that good 247 00:13:15,720 --> 00:13:18,480 Speaker 1: and my mom finally started to understand why I was 248 00:13:18,520 --> 00:13:21,240 Speaker 1: still upset with my sister and why I didn't want 249 00:13:21,240 --> 00:13:24,000 Speaker 1: her there. This is ridiculous that the mom is just 250 00:13:24,120 --> 00:13:28,280 Speaker 1: now understanding. On the night of my wedding, Maggie apparently 251 00:13:28,360 --> 00:13:30,640 Speaker 1: went off the deep end because she was so hurt 252 00:13:30,679 --> 00:13:33,200 Speaker 1: that I didn't invite her. I'm told that she has 253 00:13:33,240 --> 00:13:36,440 Speaker 1: been drinking more heavily than ever, treating her children like 254 00:13:36,520 --> 00:13:39,679 Speaker 1: absolute garbage, picking fights with everyone in the family, and 255 00:13:39,720 --> 00:13:42,120 Speaker 1: of course they're all blaming me. 256 00:13:43,000 --> 00:13:43,320 Speaker 2: Now. 257 00:13:43,360 --> 00:13:45,280 Speaker 1: I don't know what to do. It is not oh 258 00:13:45,320 --> 00:13:50,360 Speaker 1: Pie's fault, nor problem how her sister behaves. That is 259 00:13:50,400 --> 00:13:51,920 Speaker 1: her sister's own fault. 260 00:13:51,960 --> 00:13:53,760 Speaker 2: You gonna wake up because you gonna actually see that 261 00:13:53,920 --> 00:13:54,920 Speaker 2: taking wake up. 262 00:13:56,320 --> 00:13:59,080 Speaker 1: It's been almost two years since she broke my hand, 263 00:13:59,200 --> 00:14:02,199 Speaker 1: and aside from Christmas, I haven't talked to her. On 264 00:14:02,200 --> 00:14:05,240 Speaker 1: one hand, these last two years have been so blissfully peaceful, 265 00:14:05,559 --> 00:14:08,319 Speaker 1: which I think is an indicator of if your life 266 00:14:08,400 --> 00:14:14,559 Speaker 1: is better without her, it's better with bet her. Even 267 00:14:14,600 --> 00:14:17,600 Speaker 1: with my family making me feel guilty planning a big 268 00:14:17,640 --> 00:14:21,200 Speaker 1: wedding and working sixty plus hours weeks hour weeks. I 269 00:14:21,240 --> 00:14:23,960 Speaker 1: have seriously never been so stressed begin my higher life. 270 00:14:24,520 --> 00:14:26,520 Speaker 1: It's taken a lot of reflecting over the past two 271 00:14:26,600 --> 00:14:29,840 Speaker 1: years for me to realize how much my sister's actions 272 00:14:30,360 --> 00:14:33,080 Speaker 1: weighed on me, even when they had nothing to do 273 00:14:33,160 --> 00:14:35,680 Speaker 1: with me. And I don't ever want to deal with 274 00:14:35,680 --> 00:14:39,080 Speaker 1: that kind of stress again. And also, the wedding could 275 00:14:39,120 --> 00:14:42,040 Speaker 1: not have gone any smoother. Yay, the day was so 276 00:14:42,160 --> 00:14:44,440 Speaker 1: perfect and I had so much fun. Part of me 277 00:14:44,520 --> 00:14:47,560 Speaker 1: knows this wouldn't have been the case if she'd been there. 278 00:14:48,280 --> 00:14:52,120 Speaker 1: On the other hand, I'd want to forgive her because 279 00:14:52,160 --> 00:14:54,880 Speaker 1: I don't like this. I don't like avoiding of family 280 00:14:54,920 --> 00:14:57,880 Speaker 1: events just so I don't have to see her. I 281 00:14:57,920 --> 00:14:59,640 Speaker 1: wish I could have just had her at the wedding, 282 00:14:59,680 --> 00:15:01,960 Speaker 1: because then I would have been able to include my nephews, 283 00:15:01,960 --> 00:15:04,960 Speaker 1: who I miss so much. So what should I do? 284 00:15:05,200 --> 00:15:08,200 Speaker 1: Should I forgive her to satisfy my family? Should I 285 00:15:08,240 --> 00:15:10,280 Speaker 1: try to foster a relationship with her in the off 286 00:15:10,400 --> 00:15:13,880 Speaker 1: chance that she'll change? How do I approach a conversation 287 00:15:13,960 --> 00:15:16,360 Speaker 1: with her? And this is to answer the question of 288 00:15:16,400 --> 00:15:22,520 Speaker 1: what behavior should you let slide from soapling not this behavior? 289 00:15:22,680 --> 00:15:26,520 Speaker 1: If anyone ever hurts you to this tent, especially as 290 00:15:26,560 --> 00:15:30,280 Speaker 1: an adult. This is unacceptable and you need to end 291 00:15:30,360 --> 00:15:32,880 Speaker 1: that relationship right now and get her out of her life. 292 00:15:32,960 --> 00:15:34,120 Speaker 2: But she didn't sue. 293 00:15:34,880 --> 00:15:37,480 Speaker 1: I think she should have sued. The family probably would 294 00:15:37,520 --> 00:15:40,440 Speaker 1: have been super against her if she sued, But I 295 00:15:40,480 --> 00:15:41,840 Speaker 1: do think that she should have sued. 296 00:15:42,400 --> 00:15:45,160 Speaker 2: Dude got the money EPs. 297 00:15:45,240 --> 00:15:47,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, ridiculous. 298 00:15:48,040 --> 00:15:48,960 Speaker 2: This is so crazy. 299 00:15:49,080 --> 00:15:52,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, absolutely ridiculous that she is behaving this way and 300 00:15:52,200 --> 00:15:54,320 Speaker 1: no one's calling her out for it except for Opie. 301 00:15:54,680 --> 00:15:57,880 Speaker 1: This is absolutely unacceptable and she should go no contact 302 00:15:57,920 --> 00:16:00,520 Speaker 1: with his sister. My brother tried to bully my daughter 303 00:16:00,560 --> 00:16:04,479 Speaker 1: into giving him money, so I called him out. So suspicious. 304 00:16:04,520 --> 00:16:08,320 Speaker 1: Lab seventy six thirty one says, my fifty one female 305 00:16:08,440 --> 00:16:14,040 Speaker 1: daughter eighteen recently came into a lot of money woo, 306 00:16:15,120 --> 00:16:18,880 Speaker 1: like never have to work again type money woo. My 307 00:16:19,040 --> 00:16:22,600 Speaker 1: daughter's father passed away when she was eleven due to 308 00:16:22,640 --> 00:16:27,720 Speaker 1: a faulty defibrillator he'd had installed that didn't work properly 309 00:16:27,800 --> 00:16:30,240 Speaker 1: the night he passed away. That's really sad. We were 310 00:16:30,280 --> 00:16:33,000 Speaker 1: contacted by an attorney from our area who sued the 311 00:16:33,000 --> 00:16:36,600 Speaker 1: manufacturer as yeah as they should, and already had two 312 00:16:36,640 --> 00:16:40,440 Speaker 1: other families from other from our area on board. I 313 00:16:40,520 --> 00:16:44,200 Speaker 1: decided to go ahead with the lawsuit. The lawsuit settled 314 00:16:44,240 --> 00:16:46,800 Speaker 1: when my daughter was sixteen, and everything was put into 315 00:16:46,840 --> 00:16:50,320 Speaker 1: an account she could get into at eighteen. She also 316 00:16:50,360 --> 00:16:53,880 Speaker 1: inherited all of her father's money, assets, and property. What 317 00:16:54,160 --> 00:16:56,600 Speaker 1: she ended up with is what most people dream of 318 00:16:56,640 --> 00:16:57,880 Speaker 1: winning in a lottery. 319 00:16:58,240 --> 00:16:59,840 Speaker 2: Ah what I. 320 00:16:59,800 --> 00:17:02,920 Speaker 1: Mean, yeah, I'm but the she probably doesn't see it, 321 00:17:03,000 --> 00:17:06,040 Speaker 1: like it's like the cost is so high forgetting this, 322 00:17:06,119 --> 00:17:07,040 Speaker 1: I'm losing your father. 323 00:17:07,440 --> 00:17:09,240 Speaker 2: People dream of getting in a lot of time. 324 00:17:09,400 --> 00:17:12,680 Speaker 1: This is probably a lot of money, probably a lot. 325 00:17:12,760 --> 00:17:16,160 Speaker 1: They probably got a lot of lawsuit money. That is yeah, 326 00:17:16,560 --> 00:17:19,639 Speaker 1: I mean someone someone died because of a manufacturing mistake, 327 00:17:20,720 --> 00:17:25,080 Speaker 1: multiple people. It seems oh oh, this is really sad though. 328 00:17:25,680 --> 00:17:28,440 Speaker 1: On top of all that, her car was totaled by 329 00:17:28,440 --> 00:17:31,320 Speaker 1: a careless driver and she got thirty four k from 330 00:17:31,359 --> 00:17:32,840 Speaker 1: the guilty party and their insurance. 331 00:17:32,880 --> 00:17:34,560 Speaker 2: That's probably nothing to what she got. 332 00:17:34,720 --> 00:17:37,600 Speaker 1: This is I feel so bad for this poor girl. 333 00:17:37,760 --> 00:17:40,640 Speaker 1: She is just horrible, horrible, Like. 334 00:17:41,200 --> 00:17:43,760 Speaker 2: Oh dude, I totally forgot these were people. I was 335 00:17:43,800 --> 00:17:45,520 Speaker 2: just looking at the bag and how much money she. 336 00:17:45,440 --> 00:17:47,800 Speaker 1: Was giving she's getting, Like she lost her father got 337 00:17:47,800 --> 00:17:49,440 Speaker 1: a bunch of money, and then she got her car 338 00:17:49,520 --> 00:17:52,160 Speaker 1: total and got a bunch of money. These are like horrible. 339 00:17:52,720 --> 00:17:54,600 Speaker 2: I was just looking at how much money she's getting. 340 00:17:54,600 --> 00:17:55,720 Speaker 2: I'm like, this is crazy. 341 00:17:55,880 --> 00:17:57,640 Speaker 1: I know what I forgot costs. That's what I'm saying. 342 00:17:57,680 --> 00:18:00,000 Speaker 1: The cost of her getting this money is so high. 343 00:18:00,240 --> 00:18:02,399 Speaker 2: Yeah, that's the bad part. It's like Dad's dead and 344 00:18:02,400 --> 00:18:04,600 Speaker 2: now this I'm like, oh, I forgot, I forgot the 345 00:18:04,600 --> 00:18:07,440 Speaker 2: cons I was too Yahine Bulgo bought the money. 346 00:18:07,560 --> 00:18:12,159 Speaker 1: Yeah. I cannot touch her money, not that I want to. 347 00:18:12,280 --> 00:18:15,480 Speaker 1: I have my own. My older brother has always been 348 00:18:15,520 --> 00:18:19,040 Speaker 1: greedy and thinks if someone around him has money, then 349 00:18:19,160 --> 00:18:21,919 Speaker 1: he must have some of it. His wife is just 350 00:18:21,960 --> 00:18:24,960 Speaker 1: as bad. When it came about that my daughter had 351 00:18:25,000 --> 00:18:27,400 Speaker 1: all of this money, and my brother suddenly started calling 352 00:18:27,480 --> 00:18:30,240 Speaker 1: me daily, trying to be nice, et cetera, I knew 353 00:18:30,320 --> 00:18:32,720 Speaker 1: exactly what he was doing and just at right told 354 00:18:32,760 --> 00:18:36,639 Speaker 1: him I can't give him any money. He demanded to 355 00:18:36,720 --> 00:18:38,760 Speaker 1: know why. I told him that the accounts were in 356 00:18:38,840 --> 00:18:42,120 Speaker 1: my daughter's name, not mine, and under her full control. 357 00:18:42,760 --> 00:18:45,200 Speaker 1: My brother tried to manipulate me into getting money from 358 00:18:45,240 --> 00:18:48,000 Speaker 1: my daughter to give him, and I said, no, you 359 00:18:48,080 --> 00:18:50,880 Speaker 1: are not keep this man away. I go no contact. 360 00:18:50,920 --> 00:18:53,639 Speaker 1: I tell my daughter, I'd say, hey, your uncle is 361 00:18:53,680 --> 00:18:57,280 Speaker 1: a greedy little gold digger, keep away from him, and 362 00:18:57,560 --> 00:18:58,880 Speaker 1: uh cut her off. 363 00:18:59,640 --> 00:19:01,760 Speaker 2: We got it's not a swiper in the family. 364 00:19:02,040 --> 00:19:05,479 Speaker 1: Yeah, well on swiper, keep him away. My brother has 365 00:19:05,560 --> 00:19:08,560 Speaker 1: always felt the lifestyle differences between my daughter and his 366 00:19:08,880 --> 00:19:09,600 Speaker 1: were unfair. 367 00:19:10,680 --> 00:19:11,199 Speaker 2: So what we. 368 00:19:11,280 --> 00:19:15,560 Speaker 1: Lost her father? You horrible person. She would probably give 369 00:19:15,640 --> 00:19:17,879 Speaker 1: up all the money that she got to see her 370 00:19:17,920 --> 00:19:20,399 Speaker 1: father again. And the fact that you are complaining about 371 00:19:20,480 --> 00:19:24,000 Speaker 1: that is is ridiculous. This brother is horrible. 372 00:19:24,280 --> 00:19:28,280 Speaker 2: Maybe you should go find another male manufacturer thing and 373 00:19:28,359 --> 00:19:31,119 Speaker 2: do that. Ye give your money daughter money, because that's 374 00:19:31,160 --> 00:19:33,119 Speaker 2: what the other dad had to do, or didn't have 375 00:19:33,119 --> 00:19:37,200 Speaker 2: to do, but it happened. Horrible. No, I don't even 376 00:19:37,240 --> 00:19:39,600 Speaker 2: I don't even have words. I'm so mad. My words 377 00:19:39,600 --> 00:19:40,280 Speaker 2: aren't even here. 378 00:19:40,680 --> 00:19:42,199 Speaker 1: My words are gone because I'm angry. 379 00:19:42,240 --> 00:19:45,800 Speaker 2: They're mad and ain't wow mad. 380 00:19:47,000 --> 00:19:49,640 Speaker 1: I never married my daughter and I live with my parents. 381 00:19:49,760 --> 00:19:52,399 Speaker 1: My dad passed some years back, and my daughter and 382 00:19:52,440 --> 00:19:55,679 Speaker 1: I take care of my mother. My brother only comes 383 00:19:55,680 --> 00:19:58,800 Speaker 1: around when he wants money. My brother is absolutely convinced 384 00:19:58,840 --> 00:20:01,000 Speaker 1: my mom has a ton of money and is going 385 00:20:01,040 --> 00:20:04,080 Speaker 1: to leave it to my daughter. Soon enough, my brother 386 00:20:04,160 --> 00:20:06,840 Speaker 1: started trying to talk to my daughter. My daughter just 387 00:20:06,920 --> 00:20:09,960 Speaker 1: ignored him. I told her she was no way obligated 388 00:20:09,960 --> 00:20:12,639 Speaker 1: to help her uncle and his family. These people have 389 00:20:12,680 --> 00:20:15,719 Speaker 1: said horrible, cruel things about my kid before when they 390 00:20:15,760 --> 00:20:18,720 Speaker 1: didn't get their way. When my dad passed, my mom 391 00:20:18,760 --> 00:20:21,400 Speaker 1: had roughly six k left from his life insurance left. 392 00:20:21,920 --> 00:20:24,280 Speaker 1: My brother was sure my mom was lying and hounded 393 00:20:24,280 --> 00:20:27,159 Speaker 1: her for months. Then they switched it to mom had 394 00:20:27,200 --> 00:20:29,960 Speaker 1: given all of the money to my daughter. Oh, okay, 395 00:20:30,000 --> 00:20:32,760 Speaker 1: so they thought that there was more than six k, 396 00:20:32,880 --> 00:20:35,680 Speaker 1: and then they switched their argument to oh, you gave 397 00:20:35,720 --> 00:20:39,640 Speaker 1: all the money to his daughter. I thought it was hilarious. 398 00:20:39,760 --> 00:20:41,879 Speaker 1: My mom split was left with all of her children, 399 00:20:42,160 --> 00:20:45,520 Speaker 1: but my brother was greedy and swore there should be more. Oh, 400 00:20:47,480 --> 00:20:50,920 Speaker 1: this is ridiculous. He got incredibly angry when my mom 401 00:20:51,000 --> 00:20:53,240 Speaker 1: gave me and my share, saying I should give it 402 00:20:53,240 --> 00:20:58,440 Speaker 1: to him since I lived with our mom. I it's 403 00:20:58,480 --> 00:21:02,639 Speaker 1: absolutely ridiculous to lose a parent and then be money 404 00:21:02,720 --> 00:21:09,600 Speaker 1: rubby like a little crazy little person trying to insensitive. Yeah, 405 00:21:09,640 --> 00:21:11,679 Speaker 1: I'm very insensitive. 406 00:21:11,040 --> 00:21:14,960 Speaker 2: And just his greed has taken him over. Yeah, he 407 00:21:15,040 --> 00:21:16,879 Speaker 2: sees nothing else but money. 408 00:21:17,359 --> 00:21:23,200 Speaker 1: Agreed, agreed, agreed. My brother showed up unannounced to the house. 409 00:21:23,800 --> 00:21:25,800 Speaker 1: I knew he was waiting to try and bully my 410 00:21:25,880 --> 00:21:30,920 Speaker 1: daughter into giving him money. Oh, frustrating, order out of here. 411 00:21:32,000 --> 00:21:34,560 Speaker 1: He tried again to get me to give him money, 412 00:21:34,600 --> 00:21:37,159 Speaker 1: and I reiterated that I didn't have access to the money. 413 00:21:37,480 --> 00:21:40,320 Speaker 1: My brother seemed appalled and said my daughter should be 414 00:21:40,320 --> 00:21:43,439 Speaker 1: giving me money. I didn't tell him she would. My 415 00:21:43,520 --> 00:21:46,200 Speaker 1: brother also tried to go mom into asking my daughter 416 00:21:46,240 --> 00:21:48,960 Speaker 1: for money, and my mom told him no. My brother 417 00:21:49,040 --> 00:21:51,840 Speaker 1: immediately went into asking. When my daughter came home, he 418 00:21:51,880 --> 00:21:54,800 Speaker 1: pretty much talked like she had no choice, stating he 419 00:21:54,840 --> 00:21:57,119 Speaker 1: would pay her back, which we all know isn't true. 420 00:21:57,800 --> 00:22:00,600 Speaker 1: He how he needs a certain amount, blah blah, bah blah. 421 00:22:00,720 --> 00:22:03,560 Speaker 1: My daughter told my brother no, that she wasn't giving 422 00:22:03,600 --> 00:22:06,359 Speaker 1: him any money. My brother got angry and told my 423 00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:09,480 Speaker 1: daughter it wasn't fair that his daughter had college to 424 00:22:09,520 --> 00:22:11,840 Speaker 1: bay for and they needed the money. Then you go 425 00:22:11,880 --> 00:22:17,120 Speaker 1: get some money, go freaking do a job because that's 426 00:22:17,160 --> 00:22:20,399 Speaker 1: her money. Leave her alone, you weirdo. He said some 427 00:22:20,520 --> 00:22:24,240 Speaker 1: incredibly cruel things, and my daughter told him to get out. 428 00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:27,040 Speaker 1: He got even angrier when my daughter told him I 429 00:22:27,119 --> 00:22:28,879 Speaker 1: might be the things you called me, but I am 430 00:22:28,960 --> 00:22:30,800 Speaker 1: a rich one of those things. 431 00:22:31,320 --> 00:22:32,640 Speaker 2: Let's go fat back. 432 00:22:32,920 --> 00:22:35,720 Speaker 1: Things were silent, which worried me even more because I 433 00:22:35,800 --> 00:22:37,840 Speaker 1: know how they are. We were on our way to 434 00:22:37,880 --> 00:22:40,239 Speaker 1: an apartment one day when my phone rang and I 435 00:22:40,359 --> 00:22:42,840 Speaker 1: saw it was my brother, so I let it go 436 00:22:42,840 --> 00:22:46,920 Speaker 1: to voicemail. He called again. I didn't answer until we 437 00:22:46,920 --> 00:22:49,879 Speaker 1: were parked and I listened to the voicemail. My brother 438 00:22:49,920 --> 00:22:52,359 Speaker 1: said my daughter had called her home pretending to be 439 00:22:52,520 --> 00:22:56,560 Speaker 1: their daughter and was saying my brother's daughter had been kidnapped, 440 00:22:57,320 --> 00:23:00,280 Speaker 1: that she was in the woods and didn't know where 441 00:23:00,320 --> 00:23:04,400 Speaker 1: she was. My brother called my daughter more cruel things. 442 00:23:05,800 --> 00:23:08,399 Speaker 1: I asked my mom, what do you think we should do? 443 00:23:08,480 --> 00:23:11,400 Speaker 1: And my mom said she'd try to handle it. When 444 00:23:11,440 --> 00:23:13,840 Speaker 1: my mom called him, my brother launched into how they 445 00:23:13,880 --> 00:23:15,800 Speaker 1: just wanted an apology and that we should and that 446 00:23:15,840 --> 00:23:19,160 Speaker 1: we could negotiate the money my daughter would give them 447 00:23:19,240 --> 00:23:22,480 Speaker 1: because they planned on suing my daughter for emotional stress. 448 00:23:23,480 --> 00:23:27,400 Speaker 1: What how how is he going to prove this? 449 00:23:27,920 --> 00:23:29,880 Speaker 2: Dude? He's doing everything he can right now. 450 00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:35,119 Speaker 1: He's like making up these hair brained schemes, trying trying 451 00:23:35,160 --> 00:23:37,800 Speaker 1: to get money. My mom is old but not stupid. 452 00:23:38,080 --> 00:23:40,399 Speaker 1: My mom asked if they had proof it was my daughter, 453 00:23:40,600 --> 00:23:44,080 Speaker 1: like her number on their phone or recording. My sister 454 00:23:44,119 --> 00:23:46,800 Speaker 1: in law took the phone at that point and proceeded 455 00:23:46,800 --> 00:23:49,679 Speaker 1: to launch a ton of insults towards mom and my daughter. 456 00:23:50,119 --> 00:23:52,679 Speaker 1: My mom told her that nothing would happen without proof. 457 00:23:53,359 --> 00:23:56,280 Speaker 1: I knew my daughter didn't do anything. My mom knew, 458 00:23:56,320 --> 00:23:58,920 Speaker 1: and my daughter let me see her phone the night 459 00:23:58,960 --> 00:24:01,600 Speaker 1: this supposedly happened, and my brother had called my daughter, 460 00:24:01,720 --> 00:24:05,080 Speaker 1: but she didn't answer. My daughter has never done or 461 00:24:05,160 --> 00:24:07,919 Speaker 1: been accused of anything like this in the past. My 462 00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:11,680 Speaker 1: sister in law proceeded to call back to back. Screaming ensued. 463 00:24:12,160 --> 00:24:14,240 Speaker 1: My daughter asked if my mom and I would be 464 00:24:14,280 --> 00:24:17,520 Speaker 1: angry if she called the police. My daughter said she 465 00:24:17,560 --> 00:24:21,280 Speaker 1: didn't feel comfortable being accused of something so serious and 466 00:24:21,359 --> 00:24:23,920 Speaker 1: would like law enforcement to settle it. I said no, 467 00:24:24,160 --> 00:24:27,159 Speaker 1: I wouldn't be mad. Mom agreed, I think that is 468 00:24:27,320 --> 00:24:30,320 Speaker 1: I think that is a good thing, because I think 469 00:24:30,320 --> 00:24:31,760 Speaker 1: it's getting out of hand, and I think if the 470 00:24:31,840 --> 00:24:35,480 Speaker 1: brother is willing to literally accuse her of a crime, 471 00:24:36,600 --> 00:24:39,399 Speaker 1: then you need to get someone else involved. 472 00:24:39,520 --> 00:24:42,359 Speaker 2: Yeah, because this is lawyer up, get everything he's got. 473 00:24:42,400 --> 00:24:47,000 Speaker 1: Kind of restraining order, sue him, get more money. Yeah. 474 00:24:47,080 --> 00:24:49,800 Speaker 1: So the next day, my sister in law called, my 475 00:24:49,920 --> 00:24:52,280 Speaker 1: daughter picked the phone up, saying, I hope to God 476 00:24:52,320 --> 00:24:54,840 Speaker 1: you're right about someone calling, because the police are on 477 00:24:54,880 --> 00:24:58,280 Speaker 1: their way. My sister in law was silent and then 478 00:24:58,320 --> 00:25:02,000 Speaker 1: started crying about how my da controls us. I knew 479 00:25:02,040 --> 00:25:06,200 Speaker 1: then it was true. Bull crap. The police did get called. 480 00:25:06,320 --> 00:25:08,240 Speaker 1: My brother and sister in law pointed the finger at 481 00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:12,760 Speaker 1: my daughter bone. Records were obtained and my daughter's innocence 482 00:25:12,960 --> 00:25:18,360 Speaker 1: was proven. This is so stressful to freaking go through 483 00:25:18,400 --> 00:25:22,160 Speaker 1: all this at eighteen with your family. My brother tried 484 00:25:22,200 --> 00:25:24,680 Speaker 1: to give a week apology, but my kid told him 485 00:25:24,680 --> 00:25:29,040 Speaker 1: to cake rocks nice. Yes. Fast forward a few weeks, 486 00:25:29,200 --> 00:25:31,280 Speaker 1: my daughter gets a call from the bank manager who 487 00:25:31,320 --> 00:25:33,760 Speaker 1: said my brother was in the bank trying to withdraw 488 00:25:33,960 --> 00:25:37,560 Speaker 1: money from my daughter's account and my mom's. How did 489 00:25:37,600 --> 00:25:40,040 Speaker 1: he think that was going to work. My brother even 490 00:25:40,080 --> 00:25:42,960 Speaker 1: told the bank manager he was over our mom's affairs, 491 00:25:43,160 --> 00:25:47,280 Speaker 1: which isn't true, or he was put in charge of 492 00:25:47,320 --> 00:25:50,440 Speaker 1: the mom's affairs. I think my daughter told the bank 493 00:25:50,480 --> 00:25:53,240 Speaker 1: manager to hold my brother there. I went with her 494 00:25:53,280 --> 00:25:56,000 Speaker 1: and My brother was very irate when he saw us 495 00:25:56,000 --> 00:25:59,360 Speaker 1: come in. He launched into how my daughter needed someone 496 00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:02,399 Speaker 1: took control money. I told him my daughter can handle 497 00:26:02,440 --> 00:26:06,040 Speaker 1: her own finances just fine. The bank manager called the 498 00:26:06,080 --> 00:26:09,120 Speaker 1: police and my brother was given a court summons. When 499 00:26:09,119 --> 00:26:11,399 Speaker 1: he went to court, he tried to tell the judge 500 00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:17,119 Speaker 1: my daughter was hard r word oh and needed someone 501 00:26:17,160 --> 00:26:18,240 Speaker 1: to handle her money. 502 00:26:18,480 --> 00:26:18,959 Speaker 2: Oh my god. 503 00:26:19,760 --> 00:26:22,360 Speaker 1: The judge told him that's not what he was there for, 504 00:26:22,480 --> 00:26:24,720 Speaker 1: and even if it was true, my brother wouldn't be 505 00:26:24,760 --> 00:26:26,680 Speaker 1: the one to do that. Yeah, that would be op. 506 00:26:27,119 --> 00:26:30,000 Speaker 1: They tried to wring my daughter out, saying horrible things. 507 00:26:30,160 --> 00:26:32,320 Speaker 1: My sister in law testified and said my daughter was 508 00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:35,480 Speaker 1: a horrible person, had always made their daughter feel less 509 00:26:35,520 --> 00:26:38,679 Speaker 1: than and my kid was obviously my mom's favorite. My 510 00:26:38,720 --> 00:26:40,600 Speaker 1: sister in law said my daughter's dream was to go 511 00:26:40,600 --> 00:26:43,399 Speaker 1: to the college she was in and her scholarship didn't 512 00:26:43,400 --> 00:26:46,439 Speaker 1: cover all four years. The judge told him that their 513 00:26:46,520 --> 00:26:49,919 Speaker 1: daughter's education was on them, not my daughter, not an 514 00:26:49,960 --> 00:26:53,240 Speaker 1: eighteen year old. After this was all said and done, 515 00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:56,800 Speaker 1: my brother still tried to get money. He demanded my 516 00:26:56,880 --> 00:26:59,640 Speaker 1: daughter give him the thirty four k from the car accident. 517 00:26:59,640 --> 00:27:02,720 Speaker 1: Forever things she'd put them through. I told my brother 518 00:27:02,760 --> 00:27:07,480 Speaker 1: he deserved everything he'd gotten, and I would not apologize. 519 00:27:07,560 --> 00:27:09,560 Speaker 1: And this is to answer the question of what behavior 520 00:27:09,560 --> 00:27:11,320 Speaker 1: should you let slide from siblings? 521 00:27:11,920 --> 00:27:16,879 Speaker 2: Not this or shore not crazy. Yeah, this is one 522 00:27:16,920 --> 00:27:18,520 Speaker 2: of the craziest things I've seen today. 523 00:27:19,080 --> 00:27:22,240 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, Oh my gosh, this guy is crazy. 524 00:27:24,720 --> 00:27:27,480 Speaker 1: Oh my god, he's so stupid. I don't understand why 525 00:27:27,520 --> 00:27:31,840 Speaker 1: he think, like, I don't understand what his plan is. Yeah, 526 00:27:31,880 --> 00:27:32,600 Speaker 1: just don't get it. 527 00:27:32,760 --> 00:27:36,399 Speaker 2: The what was that? The kidnapping scheme? 528 00:27:36,560 --> 00:27:36,960 Speaker 1: Yeah? 529 00:27:37,040 --> 00:27:39,000 Speaker 2: What or do you think it was gonna happen out 530 00:27:39,000 --> 00:27:39,520 Speaker 2: of that, buddy? 531 00:27:39,640 --> 00:27:41,560 Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't want understand that one. 532 00:27:41,640 --> 00:27:43,679 Speaker 2: You had a better chance to just kidnapping herself and 533 00:27:43,760 --> 00:27:44,879 Speaker 2: asking for ransom money. 534 00:27:45,040 --> 00:27:46,919 Speaker 1: Literally, I thought they were gonna ask I thought they 535 00:27:46,920 --> 00:27:48,679 Speaker 1: were going to kidnap their daughter and then ask her 536 00:27:48,760 --> 00:27:50,880 Speaker 1: for ransom money. But then instead they did like kind 537 00:27:50,920 --> 00:27:51,840 Speaker 1: of the opposite. 538 00:27:51,520 --> 00:27:53,720 Speaker 2: Did the middle man of that? Yeah, like someone else 539 00:27:53,800 --> 00:27:55,760 Speaker 2: kidnapped her. You give us money, will kid them money. 540 00:27:56,400 --> 00:27:57,840 Speaker 2: I don't get it. I don't even see how that 541 00:27:57,880 --> 00:27:58,360 Speaker 2: would work. 542 00:27:58,560 --> 00:28:04,960 Speaker 1: Of calling them saying that she kidnapped her daughter, which 543 00:28:05,000 --> 00:28:08,200 Speaker 1: doesn't even make sense because that's so easily disproven. 544 00:28:08,440 --> 00:28:10,400 Speaker 2: How would they demand money from that too? 545 00:28:10,520 --> 00:28:14,480 Speaker 1: I don't even understand. I don't even understand. I don't 546 00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:15,840 Speaker 1: get this. I don't get them. 547 00:28:15,880 --> 00:28:18,120 Speaker 2: What was this guy on rugs? 548 00:28:18,720 --> 00:28:23,520 Speaker 1: Yeah, simply had to be, had to be. But there 549 00:28:23,680 --> 00:28:28,040 Speaker 1: is a final story. Okay, there's maybe two more stories.