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Speaker 1: Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rad and I

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Speaker 1: Heart Radio and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast.

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Speaker 1: Hello everybody, We're scrubbing in. Happy Monday, Happy Monday. I've

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Speaker 1: got some I've got some energy today, some energy. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Why why why do you have? Then? Is it different

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Speaker 1: than normal energy or is it you're just a little different? Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I do have to say because I feel like I've

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Speaker 1: been um, I've been like just kind of going out

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Speaker 1: a plane yet, but I've been trying to venture out

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Speaker 1: a little bit more lately. And this weekend I went

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Speaker 1: to um this place. I went with a couple of

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Speaker 1: girlfriends to this hotel over the weekend, and I just

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Speaker 1: realized that, like I miss community and connecting with people. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I feel like during quarantine and we've all like we're

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Speaker 1: all a little like socially awkward, nobody wants to talk.

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Speaker 1: And like we were out at this pool and obviously

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Speaker 1: socially distance and we're outside of a pool and like

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Speaker 1: nobody was there and this really like cute girl and

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Speaker 1: this her like UM friend get in with us and

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Speaker 1: they start talking. It was so funny. Because my girlfriends

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Speaker 1: that I was with, she like kind of panic because

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Speaker 1: we didn't have our masks. So she turned around, you know,

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Speaker 1: like she like turned around, and it was like, I

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Speaker 1: don't know what to do. But they were so far away.

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Speaker 1: I was like, it's fine, we're you know, we're good.

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Speaker 1: And so we started talking to them and they were

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Speaker 1: just so fun. The girl is a dula and so

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Speaker 1: you know, me and I like, I just love all

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Speaker 1: this stuff. I've never even heard. I didn't know what

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Speaker 1: a dula was. So she's explaining to me like how

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Speaker 1: a baby is born and how it like torpedoes out

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Speaker 1: of you and the benefits of standing up while you're

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Speaker 1: giving birth. And I was just like, oh my gosh,

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Speaker 1: then I decided that I'm not going to get an

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Speaker 1: epidural while I'm okay, but I like fully we got

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Speaker 1: she was just so cute and her friend that was there.

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Speaker 1: We just all were just like talking about our lives

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Speaker 1: and it just felt so Her name was Becca. That

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Speaker 1: was the way that you do and I was like,

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Speaker 1: oh my gosh, like my best friend is named Becca,

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Speaker 1: Like this is so fun. It was just just I

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Speaker 1: don't know, it just gave me this like I don't

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Speaker 1: know how to explain this energy, you know, like I

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Speaker 1: l a m. Her fiance is just like so cool

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Speaker 1: as a businessman from here, and we're all gonna like

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Speaker 1: reconnect again and like have you know, socially distanced drinks

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Speaker 1: at some point because we just got so invest in

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Speaker 1: each other's lives. It was just like playing in your

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Speaker 1: future birth, like that's a good thing, that's all sorted out,

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Speaker 1: and now I crossed that one off the list. Never

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Speaker 1: knew I never. I didn't know anything about childbirth truly, honestly,

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Speaker 1: And I feel like and we bonded over pelvic floor

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Speaker 1: spent so much time with these people outside and it

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Speaker 1: was just so fun. I think, I think, why no epidural?

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Speaker 1: Well so because the baby. So I don't want to

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Speaker 1: there's a lot of benefit to like moving your hips

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Speaker 1: a certain way or something, and when you get the epidural,

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Speaker 1: just like there's benefits to not having it. Um, there's

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Speaker 1: my wife was given an epidural and by a trainee

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Speaker 1: and it didn't take, and so she was feeling everything

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Speaker 1: which it's an unpleasant experience. And when we see how

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Speaker 1: I think everyone's I mean, and I think everyone is

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Speaker 1: you have to be prepared to embrace the Yeah, and

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Speaker 1: that's what this this this Duela that that's kind of

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Speaker 1: And you know, those people just have cool Like she

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Speaker 1: So I have a new friend. I'm just so funny.

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Speaker 1: I mean, just like a lot of people don't talk

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Speaker 1: And like something about that weekend it was just like, um,

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Speaker 1: That's good. Can you seem refreshed? As if the weekend

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Speaker 1: is it weird that she's found the new Becca? Is

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Speaker 1: and so awesome, it would bother Tanya. Oh, it would

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Speaker 1: be like a full blown situation argument. And yeah, well

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Speaker 1: as she as cool as me, Like no, no, no,

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Speaker 1: The last time I felt like jealous over a friendship

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Speaker 1: it's the last time, So I'm happy for you. I'm

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Speaker 1: I'm honored that her name's Becka. And she was so

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Speaker 1: halftime performances, it's been like multiple people that come out,

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Speaker 1: what I'm saying. But like people were saying, he could

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Speaker 1: get the weekend. And I respect it. I was just

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Speaker 1: I'm just like, so, I don't know if there's legal

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Speaker 1: I was googling was did the Weekend get new teeth? See,

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Speaker 1: that's not good if you're googling that. During the performance,

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Speaker 1: very curious. They looked a lot different. No, but I'm

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Speaker 1: it was a snooze. Oh yeah, but I would hate

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Speaker 1: So it's a thankless gig. It's like hosting the Oscars.

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Speaker 1: I got it. Yeah. So we had to adjust a

423
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Speaker 1: few things, a few things. But um, I for those

424
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Speaker 1: who don't know who you are, you're basically just a

425
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Speaker 1: mogul in so many, um different areas. Where do you begin?

426
00:24:23,520 --> 00:24:25,679
Speaker 1: Like when you introduce yourself and someone says, what do

427
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Speaker 1: you do? Where do you start? Well? I start with

428
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Speaker 1: real estate. Um, I'm a real estate broker and I

429
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Speaker 1: run a real estate firm in New York. But most

430
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Speaker 1: people know me from Millionaire Listing New York on Bravo

431
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Speaker 1: or sell likes her ants. Uh. And then we can

432
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Speaker 1: get deeper there if they've read the books or watch

433
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Speaker 1: logs or social and you know, yeah, I like your

434
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Speaker 1: book set up behind you. Behind you. There is that

435
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Speaker 1: the big big money energy. How to rule at work,

436
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Speaker 1: dominate at life and make millions on Amazon? Yes, yes,

437
00:24:58,359 --> 00:24:59,959
Speaker 1: yeah you can. You can get it on Amazon now,

438
00:25:00,000 --> 00:25:07,640
Speaker 1: how to make millions on Amazon? Yeah yeah, um, yes,

439
00:25:07,720 --> 00:25:12,800
Speaker 1: it is stacked up behind me really good. Yeah. Because

440
00:25:13,280 --> 00:25:17,359
Speaker 1: my first book that came out, I was I spent

441
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Speaker 1: two weeks like traveling the country, you know, sales team, salesforces,

442
00:25:22,320 --> 00:25:26,760
Speaker 1: book signings, Bravo stuff right everywhere. It was crazy. This time,

443
00:25:26,960 --> 00:25:30,679
Speaker 1: I'm like stuck in this chair, which is I mean,

444
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Speaker 1: it's fine. I don't know, it's it's it's good in

445
00:25:32,840 --> 00:25:36,240
Speaker 1: some ways. It's but it's not as exciting in every

446
00:25:36,240 --> 00:25:38,399
Speaker 1: other way. But it's kind of cool that I get

447
00:25:38,440 --> 00:25:40,000
Speaker 1: to meet so many different people that otherwise would not

448
00:25:40,000 --> 00:25:42,639
Speaker 1: be able to travel to. Yeah. I I've had that

449
00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:45,240
Speaker 1: same thought of like when we've gotten to interview people,

450
00:25:45,240 --> 00:25:47,440
Speaker 1: it's been cool because some of the people we wouldn't

451
00:25:47,440 --> 00:25:49,480
Speaker 1: actually be able to have the chance to talk to

452
00:25:49,600 --> 00:25:52,520
Speaker 1: just because schedules and being able to come into the studio.

453
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Speaker 1: And so it's been nice having guests that, um, like

454
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Speaker 1: a broader range of guests. I guess because everyone's at

455
00:26:00,359 --> 00:26:05,160
Speaker 1: home or you know, they should be at home. Um.

456
00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:07,920
Speaker 1: So I'm currently in the process of looking to buy

457
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Speaker 1: a home for the first time in l A. Are

458
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Speaker 1: you Yeah? And it is the most um, humbling, competitive,

459
00:26:18,359 --> 00:26:24,600
Speaker 1: intimidating thing that I've done in my life. To be honest, Um,

460
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Speaker 1: I've put in an offer on two homes and it's

461
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Speaker 1: been like, there's been over twenty offers on each of them,

462
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Speaker 1: and it just kind of feels where where are you

463
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Speaker 1: trying to buy? I'm in Los Angeles, so in the

464
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Speaker 1: Los Angeles area. It's crazy. Really, there's over twenty offers.

465
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Speaker 1: That's wild. Uh. You know, I thought that that type

466
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Speaker 1: of market was really only in low tax states. Um,

467
00:26:49,119 --> 00:26:53,720
Speaker 1: but it is. Uh yeah, listen, it's COVID. Right, was

468
00:26:53,760 --> 00:26:56,920
Speaker 1: a flight to land, a flight to homes. Nothing better

469
00:26:56,960 --> 00:26:59,120
Speaker 1: than being stuck in your current house to realize how

470
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Speaker 1: terrible it is if you want to go get a

471
00:27:00,720 --> 00:27:06,040
Speaker 1: better one. That's that's all. That's what Quarantine did. It

472
00:27:06,119 --> 00:27:10,199
Speaker 1: was a multi trillion dollar pr campaign for the value

473
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Speaker 1: of a of a new house, right of a better house,

474
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Speaker 1: especially like because it's oftentimes out of sight, out of mind.

475
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Speaker 1: Right if you're working if you're running around all the time,

476
00:27:20,040 --> 00:27:22,600
Speaker 1: you're like, I should move, but al right, it's such

477
00:27:22,600 --> 00:27:24,000
Speaker 1: a pain in the ass you just don't do it.

478
00:27:24,720 --> 00:27:27,040
Speaker 1: And then when you can't do anything and you're like,

479
00:27:27,920 --> 00:27:31,480
Speaker 1: I should probably move, and then Zillo is so easy.

480
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Speaker 1: I don't know if you saw that Saturday at Live

481
00:27:33,040 --> 00:27:37,680
Speaker 1: skipped this weekend where like, uh, it's like Zilo porn.

482
00:27:40,080 --> 00:27:42,280
Speaker 1: You should check it out. It's funny. I did see.

483
00:27:42,280 --> 00:27:43,879
Speaker 1: I saw a lot of people talking about it, but

484
00:27:43,920 --> 00:27:46,720
Speaker 1: I haven't seen it. Yeah, because everyone's at home, like

485
00:27:46,800 --> 00:27:49,879
Speaker 1: late at night, you know, they're like scrolling through and

486
00:27:49,880 --> 00:27:51,520
Speaker 1: then they quickly go over to Zillo and they start

487
00:27:51,640 --> 00:27:57,200
Speaker 1: checking out houses that they can't afford hern on for people. Um,

488
00:27:57,240 --> 00:27:59,720
Speaker 1: but yeah, that's it's an exciting process. It's awesome. You

489
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Speaker 1: have are paying a mortgage or you're paying someone else's

490
00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:07,560
Speaker 1: mortgage up to you. If you have to down payment,

491
00:28:07,920 --> 00:28:10,480
Speaker 1: that's a decision you really have to make. Like you

492
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Speaker 1: have a down payment, Are you going to pay your

493
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Speaker 1: on mortgage and build equity and build a future or

494
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Speaker 1: do you want to pay someone else's don't do I know?

495
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Speaker 1: And that's what but it is, it's I I guess

496
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Speaker 1: my question is how do you in this type of

497
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Speaker 1: market when it's like this, and you know, a lot

498
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Speaker 1: of people are saying in the next few months, more

499
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Speaker 1: homes are gonna go on sale and there's going to

500
00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:38,000
Speaker 1: be more options apparently, But then it's and then you go,

501
00:28:38,120 --> 00:28:40,480
Speaker 1: like what if the interest rate raises? And there's all

502
00:28:40,520 --> 00:28:43,480
Speaker 1: these questions of do I need to just do my

503
00:28:43,560 --> 00:28:45,160
Speaker 1: best to do it now or do I wait so

504
00:28:45,200 --> 00:28:50,840
Speaker 1: that I'm not over paying for something that? Yeah, you know,

505
00:28:49,800 --> 00:28:54,560
Speaker 1: you you can never time the market. It's impossible. People

506
00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:58,320
Speaker 1: have tried. Can't do it. Um. But if you feel

507
00:28:58,360 --> 00:29:01,320
Speaker 1: the market is too frothy and tot then you shouldn't

508
00:29:01,320 --> 00:29:03,440
Speaker 1: buy it off more than you can chew right, be

509
00:29:03,480 --> 00:29:07,800
Speaker 1: careful about overpaying, um. But oftentimes you're not just overpaying. Right,

510
00:29:07,840 --> 00:29:09,840
Speaker 1: there's a market for it. There's there's people who want

511
00:29:09,840 --> 00:29:12,200
Speaker 1: to buy the houses for a reason. Don't be worried

512
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Speaker 1: about interest rate's. Interest rates are going to be where

513
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Speaker 1: they are, uh plus minus a few points like for

514
00:29:19,160 --> 00:29:23,640
Speaker 1: the next couple of years. So yeah, so do not

515
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Speaker 1: be worried about that. Just try to find an house

516
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Speaker 1: that you love. I mean, that's that's that's the toughest

517
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Speaker 1: thing to do. And if you can get a house

518
00:29:30,920 --> 00:29:32,720
Speaker 1: that you like but you don't love it, you know

519
00:29:32,840 --> 00:29:34,320
Speaker 1: that you can learn to love it. You can make

520
00:29:34,320 --> 00:29:36,560
Speaker 1: it your wrong, you can learn to love it. The

521
00:29:36,640 --> 00:29:41,280
Speaker 1: key to life right there. Yeah, like listen, I know you.

522
00:29:41,280 --> 00:29:43,960
Speaker 1: You know, yes, I could go into there's you. You

523
00:29:44,000 --> 00:29:47,240
Speaker 1: get what I'm talking about. So yeah, yeah, you could

524
00:29:47,320 --> 00:29:52,560
Speaker 1: learn to love them. Uh. But buying a home is terrifying,

525
00:29:52,640 --> 00:29:56,200
Speaker 1: totally scary, and insane amount of commitment. But it's also

526
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Speaker 1: it's fun and it's that kind of important next step,

527
00:29:59,240 --> 00:30:01,880
Speaker 1: right most people will like My life sort of changed

528
00:30:01,880 --> 00:30:04,000
Speaker 1: mentally when I bought my first place because and it

529
00:30:04,160 --> 00:30:07,080
Speaker 1: was like, damn, now I'm an adult. There's a lot

530
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Speaker 1: of things that that make you feel like you're an adult,

531
00:30:10,040 --> 00:30:15,360
Speaker 1: but nothing more than getting a mortgage. It feels very

532
00:30:15,400 --> 00:30:20,920
Speaker 1: significant in my adulthood, this this step. And I'm you know,

533
00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:24,120
Speaker 1: I'm in my head, I'm I'm looking at other markets

534
00:30:24,120 --> 00:30:27,760
Speaker 1: in different cities, wondering if I should you know, move

535
00:30:27,800 --> 00:30:30,840
Speaker 1: out of l A or where the value is. And

536
00:30:32,040 --> 00:30:35,320
Speaker 1: I get overwhelmed because I start looking at what's available

537
00:30:35,360 --> 00:30:38,160
Speaker 1: in other areas for you know, my budget, and it's

538
00:30:39,240 --> 00:30:42,760
Speaker 1: a little discouraging seeing what what we pay for in

539
00:30:43,320 --> 00:30:46,640
Speaker 1: the Los Angeles area versus elsewhere except for New York.

540
00:30:46,680 --> 00:30:50,040
Speaker 1: Of course. I was about to say, like, I'm in

541
00:30:50,040 --> 00:30:54,000
Speaker 1: a townhouse right now that's probably worth ten million dollars

542
00:30:54,040 --> 00:30:58,520
Speaker 1: that has no bedrooms. Um uh. And the views are

543
00:30:58,560 --> 00:31:04,920
Speaker 1: of brick. So right, it's all relative, right, But there

544
00:31:05,040 --> 00:31:09,680
Speaker 1: is uh intellectual curiosity and excitement and energy and buzz

545
00:31:10,240 --> 00:31:14,040
Speaker 1: and even now post COVID incredible networking opportunities in l

546
00:31:14,080 --> 00:31:16,680
Speaker 1: A and New York that you just can't do by

547
00:31:16,800 --> 00:31:21,800
Speaker 1: zoom anywhere else in the world, right, um uh so,

548
00:31:21,960 --> 00:31:24,880
Speaker 1: and so you pay for it, right, Yeah, No, you're right.

549
00:31:24,920 --> 00:31:27,600
Speaker 1: I mean I have these moments, and I've talked to

550
00:31:27,600 --> 00:31:30,520
Speaker 1: Tony about it. Where I go. You know, I could

551
00:31:30,520 --> 00:31:32,680
Speaker 1: get this if I moved to Nashville, or I could

552
00:31:32,720 --> 00:31:35,680
Speaker 1: get this if I moved to Texas. And then I

553
00:31:35,720 --> 00:31:38,400
Speaker 1: go somewhere, I go to the beach, here, go do something.

554
00:31:38,680 --> 00:31:45,280
Speaker 1: I know. I know you is great, and you'd be like, yeah,

555
00:31:45,320 --> 00:31:47,280
Speaker 1: all my friends are, all my friends are in l A.

556
00:31:47,480 --> 00:31:49,680
Speaker 1: Like cool, I'll let me go like walk my dog

557
00:31:49,880 --> 00:31:53,840
Speaker 1: for twenty four hours, I know. But then I have

558
00:31:53,880 --> 00:31:58,600
Speaker 1: a beautiful home to sit in my misery in yeah,

559
00:31:59,160 --> 00:32:03,600
Speaker 1: I don't know about that location. Location location, That's why

560
00:32:03,600 --> 00:32:06,000
Speaker 1: they say that, right, you live in the neighborhood. That's

561
00:32:06,240 --> 00:32:09,080
Speaker 1: that's honestly what's stopping me. I I was started starting

562
00:32:09,120 --> 00:32:11,040
Speaker 1: the process of buying a home last year right before

563
00:32:11,040 --> 00:32:14,520
Speaker 1: COVID hit, and then I was starting to like look

564
00:32:14,600 --> 00:32:16,120
Speaker 1: around because this is I know, I wanted to live

565
00:32:16,160 --> 00:32:18,120
Speaker 1: around here because I'm close to the studio, this is

566
00:32:18,160 --> 00:32:20,320
Speaker 1: like where all my work is. And then and now

567
00:32:20,360 --> 00:32:22,640
Speaker 1: I'm working from home, and I just was like, maybe

568
00:32:22,720 --> 00:32:24,600
Speaker 1: I just table it for a minute because I don't

569
00:32:24,600 --> 00:32:26,680
Speaker 1: know if necessarily this is where I want to buy

570
00:32:26,680 --> 00:32:29,480
Speaker 1: my home, you know, So I just completely stopped the

571
00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:33,160
Speaker 1: process because I just was like overwhelmed. Yeah, which is

572
00:32:33,160 --> 00:32:37,640
Speaker 1: totally fine. I mean we when quarantine happened last year,

573
00:32:38,520 --> 00:32:42,880
Speaker 1: every buyer dropped out in New York. Everyone waited because

574
00:32:43,040 --> 00:32:44,840
Speaker 1: people just didn't know, why am I spending this amount

575
00:32:44,840 --> 00:32:46,320
Speaker 1: of money to be an apartment if I don't have

576
00:32:46,320 --> 00:32:48,360
Speaker 1: to go back to work for two years? Is that

577
00:32:48,440 --> 00:32:50,520
Speaker 1: why you started? Is that when you started writing this

578
00:32:50,560 --> 00:32:52,479
Speaker 1: new book? Because I feel like it's all about kind

579
00:32:52,520 --> 00:32:54,600
Speaker 1: of shift, because all of our routines got shifted, and

580
00:32:54,640 --> 00:32:56,640
Speaker 1: so it's kind of like starting to make new goals

581
00:32:56,680 --> 00:32:58,200
Speaker 1: and how to figure out that is that when you

582
00:32:58,200 --> 00:33:03,000
Speaker 1: started writing this book. Yeah, actually, um, I was speaking

583
00:33:03,000 --> 00:33:06,480
Speaker 1: to so many people because we do a large online

584
00:33:06,800 --> 00:33:09,360
Speaker 1: uh sales. We have a large online sales platform. We

585
00:33:09,360 --> 00:33:11,760
Speaker 1: have a course that's got over We've been doing it

586
00:33:11,760 --> 00:33:14,960
Speaker 1: for about a year. We have six one hundred agents

587
00:33:15,000 --> 00:33:17,880
Speaker 1: and a hundred and ten countries, and they and everyone

588
00:33:17,960 --> 00:33:19,920
Speaker 1: was going through the same thing. Right at first started

589
00:33:19,920 --> 00:33:22,240
Speaker 1: in Italy and then it wrapped through Europe and then

590
00:33:22,240 --> 00:33:24,360
Speaker 1: slowly it hit us. And I was talking to so

591
00:33:24,400 --> 00:33:27,440
Speaker 1: many people that were having a hard time, who who

592
00:33:27,480 --> 00:33:31,320
Speaker 1: are connecting their self worth to their income right and

593
00:33:31,560 --> 00:33:34,600
Speaker 1: social media has a big role in that, Okay, Um,

594
00:33:34,640 --> 00:33:37,400
Speaker 1: but people get so self conscious and so down on

595
00:33:37,440 --> 00:33:40,000
Speaker 1: themselves if they're they think they're they're not making enough

596
00:33:40,000 --> 00:33:41,360
Speaker 1: money and they're supposed to be doing this and they're

597
00:33:41,360 --> 00:33:44,360
Speaker 1: supposed to be living this way. Um. When you cannot

598
00:33:44,480 --> 00:33:50,520
Speaker 1: connect success to money, right, money is is energy. Right.

599
00:33:50,640 --> 00:33:54,240
Speaker 1: Success is a state of mind. Um. And if you

600
00:33:54,280 --> 00:33:58,960
Speaker 1: can and if you can project yourself to be the

601
00:33:59,000 --> 00:34:01,720
Speaker 1: future you that you want to be, you can start

602
00:34:01,760 --> 00:34:04,400
Speaker 1: being that person tomorrow. You do not have to wait

603
00:34:05,120 --> 00:34:07,240
Speaker 1: um And as I was just talking to more and

604
00:34:07,240 --> 00:34:10,279
Speaker 1: more people about that and the ways to do that,

605
00:34:10,600 --> 00:34:13,319
Speaker 1: and how to start taking a note of kind of

606
00:34:13,360 --> 00:34:15,680
Speaker 1: who you are today, what the perception people have of

607
00:34:15,719 --> 00:34:17,840
Speaker 1: you is today, and how you can start leading a

608
00:34:17,920 --> 00:34:21,840
Speaker 1: more confident, fulfilling life so that when you take control

609
00:34:22,000 --> 00:34:23,920
Speaker 1: of the energy that you put out into the world,

610
00:34:23,960 --> 00:34:27,719
Speaker 1: you can really change your life. The book just sort

611
00:34:27,719 --> 00:34:29,480
Speaker 1: of came out that way and wrote it in like

612
00:34:29,560 --> 00:34:33,560
Speaker 1: two months. That's wild. That's actually, that's one of the

613
00:34:33,600 --> 00:34:35,800
Speaker 1: things that my mentor taught me from the very beginning.

614
00:34:35,800 --> 00:34:37,520
Speaker 1: I met him when I was eighteen, and he always

615
00:34:37,520 --> 00:34:40,719
Speaker 1: told me, he said, chase, chase your passion, not the paycheck.

616
00:34:40,880 --> 00:34:43,200
Speaker 1: He's like, trust me, the paycheck will come if you

617
00:34:43,400 --> 00:34:48,120
Speaker 1: are chasing your passion. And he was right, crazy, yeah,

618
00:34:48,200 --> 00:34:51,440
Speaker 1: And you just have to put the work into the passion. Right.

619
00:34:51,719 --> 00:34:55,120
Speaker 1: What we say around here is pretty similar. But it's like,

620
00:34:55,680 --> 00:34:58,680
Speaker 1: you know, because there's so much that we can't control

621
00:34:58,680 --> 00:35:00,680
Speaker 1: in life. There's so much that you know you can't.

622
00:35:00,840 --> 00:35:03,480
Speaker 1: You think you're gonna book this and then you don't. God,

623
00:35:03,600 --> 00:35:05,319
Speaker 1: and so much is up and so much is down.

624
00:35:05,760 --> 00:35:09,080
Speaker 1: But if you just if you have a routine and

625
00:35:09,120 --> 00:35:12,400
Speaker 1: you stick to it right, and you take care of

626
00:35:12,440 --> 00:35:15,600
Speaker 1: the work every single day, the work will take care

627
00:35:15,680 --> 00:35:18,520
Speaker 1: of you. So just take care of the work. The

628
00:35:18,560 --> 00:35:21,040
Speaker 1: work will take care of you, and it removes a

629
00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:25,239
Speaker 1: lot of the pressure that you put on yourselves. You

630
00:35:25,400 --> 00:35:27,279
Speaker 1: go out and make something happen every day. And I

631
00:35:27,320 --> 00:35:29,120
Speaker 1: got to do this and I got these goals. It's

632
00:35:29,160 --> 00:35:31,040
Speaker 1: great to have goals. It's great to have visions. I

633
00:35:31,040 --> 00:35:34,880
Speaker 1: think they're really really important. Um But at the same time,

634
00:35:35,320 --> 00:35:38,239
Speaker 1: you just know that by default, like we live in

635
00:35:38,239 --> 00:35:40,000
Speaker 1: a time where if you put the work in, the

636
00:35:40,040 --> 00:35:42,080
Speaker 1: work will take care of you and you will make money.

637
00:35:42,560 --> 00:35:45,359
Speaker 1: Um Uh, you know, if if you want it right.

638
00:35:45,440 --> 00:35:47,880
Speaker 1: That's the hardest thing to teach us want do you

639
00:35:48,080 --> 00:35:51,320
Speaker 1: do you think it's this year and the like? After

640
00:35:51,600 --> 00:35:53,840
Speaker 1: what we've been through with the pandemic and people losing

641
00:35:53,880 --> 00:35:56,360
Speaker 1: their jobs and people kind of spending so much time

642
00:35:57,000 --> 00:36:00,480
Speaker 1: with themselves in their own homes. Like do you think

643
00:36:00,560 --> 00:36:05,680
Speaker 1: starting up a business during this time? Is is financially smart?

644
00:36:06,000 --> 00:36:09,520
Speaker 1: Or should people wait? Like? What would you advise that

645
00:36:10,280 --> 00:36:12,360
Speaker 1: if someone is looking to start up their own business.

646
00:36:13,080 --> 00:36:18,160
Speaker 1: The greatest businesses and inventions have come when people's backs

647
00:36:18,160 --> 00:36:22,360
Speaker 1: were up against a wall. It's what produces the most creativity,

648
00:36:22,400 --> 00:36:26,520
Speaker 1: the most ingenuity. Um. And if you just look like

649
00:36:28,239 --> 00:36:31,279
Speaker 1: Isaac Newton discovered gravity during a pandemic because he was

650
00:36:31,360 --> 00:36:33,960
Speaker 1: quarantined in his house. That's the whole reason he was

651
00:36:34,000 --> 00:36:39,280
Speaker 1: sitting under that tree, right, Like the guitars. Electric guitar

652
00:36:39,520 --> 00:36:44,640
Speaker 1: was created in a recession. Basketball was created during a quarantine.

653
00:36:44,719 --> 00:36:47,520
Speaker 1: Like it's you know, um uh? And so I think.

654
00:36:47,760 --> 00:36:50,000
Speaker 1: So I started my own real estate company. I've been

655
00:36:50,000 --> 00:36:52,759
Speaker 1: a broker at another firm for twelve years and I

656
00:36:52,880 --> 00:36:57,360
Speaker 1: left on July one and my own company and built

657
00:36:57,400 --> 00:37:00,319
Speaker 1: it over the summer and announced it in November, sorry,

658
00:37:00,360 --> 00:37:03,680
Speaker 1: in September, because I knew. As scary as this is,

659
00:37:04,640 --> 00:37:08,399
Speaker 1: and as many people are leaving New York as they are, uh,

660
00:37:08,480 --> 00:37:11,440
Speaker 1: everything is going to get better. The future is always

661
00:37:11,480 --> 00:37:15,560
Speaker 1: brighter than the past, right, and no one else is

662
00:37:15,600 --> 00:37:19,080
Speaker 1: going to do it, so might as well be me. Right,

663
00:37:21,160 --> 00:37:23,200
Speaker 1: it's at the bar, and I said, love, you know,

664
00:37:24,360 --> 00:37:26,120
Speaker 1: if you start a new business when everyone else is

665
00:37:26,120 --> 00:37:29,560
Speaker 1: starting businesses and everyone's like, okay, cool man, good job, nice.

666
00:37:29,800 --> 00:37:32,120
Speaker 1: But if you start a new business when everyone else

667
00:37:32,200 --> 00:37:36,880
Speaker 1: is fleeing, scared, terrified, stuck inside, everyone was like, whoa,

668
00:37:38,200 --> 00:37:44,120
Speaker 1: are you okay? That's awesome? Really wow? Like you sure,

669
00:37:46,120 --> 00:37:50,560
Speaker 1: totally different reactions. Um, it's been great, you know, it's

670
00:37:50,560 --> 00:37:53,440
Speaker 1: been great. So I think anyone with that entrepreneurial bug

671
00:37:53,600 --> 00:37:57,680
Speaker 1: or or spirit probably I think gets gets gets a

672
00:37:57,719 --> 00:38:02,439
Speaker 1: lot of adrenaline from times like these. It's uh, there's

673
00:38:02,520 --> 00:38:05,080
Speaker 1: no better time than now. And like you, just like

674
00:38:05,120 --> 00:38:08,960
Speaker 1: you just said, like why not me? When you when

675
00:38:09,000 --> 00:38:12,160
Speaker 1: you first started in this industry? Did you? I mean,

676
00:38:13,160 --> 00:38:16,239
Speaker 1: did you have instant success? Was there that you know?

677
00:38:18,640 --> 00:38:23,680
Speaker 1: You didn't you weren't someone who was like an overnight sensation. No,

678
00:38:23,680 --> 00:38:29,720
Speaker 1: no, no no, no, I uh it was slowly, but surely. Um.

679
00:38:29,760 --> 00:38:34,839
Speaker 1: I mean I am incredibly persistent. I will follow up

680
00:38:34,880 --> 00:38:37,440
Speaker 1: with you until you die, and then I'll come to

681
00:38:37,480 --> 00:38:40,680
Speaker 1: your funeral and I'll sell your estate and I'll follow

682
00:38:40,760 --> 00:38:44,319
Speaker 1: up with your kids, right like I am in this

683
00:38:44,360 --> 00:38:49,040
Speaker 1: business until I die. Um, but I'm very persistent. Um,

684
00:38:49,200 --> 00:38:53,200
Speaker 1: And I just knew that I don't know, like I listen,

685
00:38:53,239 --> 00:38:57,080
Speaker 1: I grew up very nicely, like a good upbringing, great parents.

686
00:38:57,560 --> 00:39:02,080
Speaker 1: You know, they were uh really not too excited that

687
00:39:02,120 --> 00:39:03,759
Speaker 1: I decided to go to New York City without a

688
00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:07,200
Speaker 1: job to be an actor. And then make no money

689
00:39:07,440 --> 00:39:09,200
Speaker 1: and then get into real estate to pay the bills.

690
00:39:09,480 --> 00:39:11,040
Speaker 1: They just sort of assumed I would go get a

691
00:39:11,080 --> 00:39:14,120
Speaker 1: real job eventually. Um, and being a realtor they did

692
00:39:14,160 --> 00:39:19,240
Speaker 1: not consider a real job. Uh you know thirteen years ago, um,

693
00:39:19,280 --> 00:39:22,279
Speaker 1: and the world's different now. And uh you know. I

694
00:39:22,280 --> 00:39:24,239
Speaker 1: started by just doing little rentals. I was just trying

695
00:39:24,280 --> 00:39:25,840
Speaker 1: to pay rent. I didn't want to move home. That

696
00:39:25,960 --> 00:39:28,440
Speaker 1: was it. Like the biggest fear of my life was

697
00:39:28,480 --> 00:39:31,640
Speaker 1: moving home. It's like, if I move home, I will

698
00:39:32,640 --> 00:39:35,560
Speaker 1: like it's that is failure to me. I can't come

699
00:39:35,600 --> 00:39:37,480
Speaker 1: to New York and then move home, so I'll never

700
00:39:37,480 --> 00:39:40,600
Speaker 1: come back. I'd have to go do something else. So

701
00:39:40,640 --> 00:39:43,040
Speaker 1: I need to just make it work. Um, I just

702
00:39:43,080 --> 00:39:44,719
Speaker 1: need to stick it out and make it work, and

703
00:39:44,760 --> 00:39:46,919
Speaker 1: I'll figure it out. And so kind of I would

704
00:39:46,920 --> 00:39:48,920
Speaker 1: just go month to month trying to figure out how

705
00:39:48,960 --> 00:39:52,680
Speaker 1: to pay rent, rent departments for college kids, make some money,

706
00:39:53,000 --> 00:39:55,240
Speaker 1: put a little bit of money away, make some rent,

707
00:39:55,560 --> 00:39:58,120
Speaker 1: and keep going and going going. But I knew that

708
00:39:58,400 --> 00:40:00,640
Speaker 1: with every deal that I did, as long as I

709
00:40:00,719 --> 00:40:05,439
Speaker 1: talked about the next best deal, those are the types

710
00:40:05,480 --> 00:40:09,600
Speaker 1: of clients I would get. Right. So, if I was

711
00:40:09,640 --> 00:40:13,040
Speaker 1: doing a thousand to three thousand dollar a month leases.

712
00:40:13,640 --> 00:40:17,200
Speaker 1: I would only ever talk about and promote the three

713
00:40:17,239 --> 00:40:20,040
Speaker 1: thousand dollar a month deals because those people would get

714
00:40:20,080 --> 00:40:23,520
Speaker 1: me the thirty a month referrals and friends because no

715
00:40:23,520 --> 00:40:26,640
Speaker 1: matter how rich you are, you have problems, and rich

716
00:40:26,680 --> 00:40:30,960
Speaker 1: misery loves company more than anything, so those people want

717
00:40:30,960 --> 00:40:33,920
Speaker 1: to hang out with people who understand their problems, you know.

718
00:40:35,160 --> 00:40:39,440
Speaker 1: So uh yeah, So I would just I kept kind

719
00:40:39,440 --> 00:40:42,080
Speaker 1: of pushing myself up in the price category that way,

720
00:40:42,239 --> 00:40:44,480
Speaker 1: and then I got my first building to sell, and

721
00:40:44,520 --> 00:40:47,160
Speaker 1: then from that I got my next building. And then

722
00:40:47,200 --> 00:40:50,319
Speaker 1: I randomly walked into a casting call for Millionaire Listing

723
00:40:50,360 --> 00:40:53,799
Speaker 1: New York for Brava with three thousand agents, um, and

724
00:40:53,840 --> 00:40:55,719
Speaker 1: they asked me why I was there, and I told

725
00:40:55,760 --> 00:40:58,440
Speaker 1: him because I was the greatest in real estate broker

726
00:40:58,440 --> 00:41:00,440
Speaker 1: in the history of the world. And they were from

727
00:41:00,560 --> 00:41:05,400
Speaker 1: l A so they didn't know, so I uh and

728
00:41:05,480 --> 00:41:08,719
Speaker 1: so they were like, really take it till you make it.

729
00:41:08,680 --> 00:41:10,960
Speaker 1: It's sort of But I also if they asked me

730
00:41:10,960 --> 00:41:12,640
Speaker 1: how many listenings I had, I would have said one.

731
00:41:12,880 --> 00:41:14,480
Speaker 1: Like if they asked me how many deals, I doubt

732
00:41:14,520 --> 00:41:17,160
Speaker 1: I would have said like four, Right, I think A

733
00:41:17,160 --> 00:41:18,920
Speaker 1: lot of people fake it till they make it and

734
00:41:18,960 --> 00:41:24,880
Speaker 1: they lie or they're disingenuous, and that's I don't I

735
00:41:24,920 --> 00:41:29,680
Speaker 1: don't preach that. Um, I believe that. At that time

736
00:41:30,520 --> 00:41:33,000
Speaker 1: on I looked around at this crew of three thousand

737
00:41:33,040 --> 00:41:35,440
Speaker 1: agents that were trying to get onto the show, and

738
00:41:35,480 --> 00:41:39,759
Speaker 1: I was like, dude, I I am way better than

739
00:41:39,760 --> 00:41:42,960
Speaker 1: all these people, whether they know it or not. Eventually,

740
00:41:43,000 --> 00:41:45,279
Speaker 1: one day I'm going to sell more than all of

741
00:41:45,320 --> 00:41:47,640
Speaker 1: these people. That they're going to cast the best real

742
00:41:47,760 --> 00:41:49,480
Speaker 1: estate agent under the age of thirty and I was

743
00:41:49,520 --> 00:41:54,080
Speaker 1: twenty six at the time. Um, Uh, they should cast me.

744
00:41:54,280 --> 00:41:56,840
Speaker 1: So when they asked me why I was there, I believed,

745
00:41:57,480 --> 00:42:01,720
Speaker 1: even if I wasn't it today, I will be it shortly, Uh,

746
00:42:01,800 --> 00:42:03,880
Speaker 1: that I was the best and you should have you

747
00:42:03,880 --> 00:42:07,439
Speaker 1: should you should cast me. Um. And then I took

748
00:42:07,480 --> 00:42:09,160
Speaker 1: them around and showed them what my life was like

749
00:42:09,239 --> 00:42:12,560
Speaker 1: for six hours, which was just mass craziness. And I

750
00:42:12,600 --> 00:42:16,480
Speaker 1: think they were just so confused, uh rolling around New

751
00:42:16,560 --> 00:42:19,719
Speaker 1: York um getting car sickness in the back of the car.

752
00:42:19,719 --> 00:42:21,080
Speaker 1: And I didn't really know how to drive in New

753
00:42:21,160 --> 00:42:24,760
Speaker 1: York City. Uh. They were like, Okay, well we'll he'll,

754
00:42:24,760 --> 00:42:28,120
Speaker 1: he'll do. Um. But that's kind of how I how

755
00:42:28,160 --> 00:42:30,239
Speaker 1: I how I got onto the show, and that's how

756
00:42:30,239 --> 00:42:33,640
Speaker 1: I've gotten most of the clients like I, um, you

757
00:42:33,640 --> 00:42:35,680
Speaker 1: know a lot of the big deal I sold a place.

758
00:42:36,360 --> 00:42:39,520
Speaker 1: I don't do deals in Florida. I met a guy client.

759
00:42:39,560 --> 00:42:44,280
Speaker 1: He asked me if I did things in Florida. Said yeah, absolutely, Yeah.

760
00:42:44,480 --> 00:42:45,759
Speaker 1: It's like, all right, well, I'd like to go find

761
00:42:45,760 --> 00:42:48,120
Speaker 1: a place in Miami. No problem, okay. I learned the

762
00:42:48,120 --> 00:42:50,000
Speaker 1: Miami market and one day sold him a place for

763
00:42:50,040 --> 00:42:54,360
Speaker 1: thirty three million dollars two days later. Um. Because he

764
00:42:54,440 --> 00:42:58,640
Speaker 1: believed in the energy right energy energy right. If you

765
00:42:58,840 --> 00:43:02,960
Speaker 1: if you feel like you shouldn't be in the room,

766
00:43:03,080 --> 00:43:04,759
Speaker 1: the people in the room are going to know that

767
00:43:04,760 --> 00:43:07,160
Speaker 1: that's how you feel, and they're gonna treat you that way.

768
00:43:08,280 --> 00:43:11,960
Speaker 1: What's like a like a typical like a typical work

769
00:43:12,000 --> 00:43:14,680
Speaker 1: day for you, like rise, grind, like and I go

770
00:43:14,760 --> 00:43:16,440
Speaker 1: through like I want the details of just like what

771
00:43:16,560 --> 00:43:18,480
Speaker 1: you eat. I just feel like you're kind of one

772
00:43:18,520 --> 00:43:19,680
Speaker 1: of the I don't know, you're one of those people

773
00:43:19,719 --> 00:43:22,359
Speaker 1: that I feel like I can I'm like vibing with

774
00:43:22,920 --> 00:43:24,000
Speaker 1: I just would like to know a little bit of

775
00:43:24,080 --> 00:43:29,680
Speaker 1: your day to day. Um, so Monday, so Sunday through

776
00:43:29,719 --> 00:43:33,120
Speaker 1: Friday when I'm in New York. Um, I wake up

777
00:43:33,120 --> 00:43:35,759
Speaker 1: at four, I do email still for thirty. I go

778
00:43:35,800 --> 00:43:38,799
Speaker 1: to the gym from five to six thirty. I get

779
00:43:38,800 --> 00:43:41,640
Speaker 1: the baby at seven, put the baby to her mom

780
00:43:41,680 --> 00:43:46,040
Speaker 1: with milk. Right around then, Um, a shower, get ready.

781
00:43:46,400 --> 00:43:50,120
Speaker 1: I go to work around seven. Um, My day is

782
00:43:50,480 --> 00:43:53,000
Speaker 1: booked kind of on the fifteen minute mark. From eight

783
00:43:53,080 --> 00:43:56,680
Speaker 1: to eight. I intermitted fast. So I eat starting at

784
00:43:56,680 --> 00:43:59,080
Speaker 1: twelve and I stopped eating at six. I use a

785
00:43:59,080 --> 00:44:01,400
Speaker 1: service called food adders, and they come in little cartons

786
00:44:01,440 --> 00:44:03,640
Speaker 1: this way, so this is my steak. I gotta finish

787
00:44:03,680 --> 00:44:09,640
Speaker 1: eating here. Um uh. And I'm in appointments or calls

788
00:44:10,440 --> 00:44:13,880
Speaker 1: or filming or creating content. My number one focus all

789
00:44:13,960 --> 00:44:16,680
Speaker 1: day long is brand. I gotta push brand in any way,

790
00:44:16,719 --> 00:44:18,920
Speaker 1: shape or form. If it's from a sale, I'm pushing brand.

791
00:44:18,920 --> 00:44:23,200
Speaker 1: If it's from X, whatever, it is, pushing brand, brand, brand.

792
00:44:23,280 --> 00:44:26,680
Speaker 1: Because real estate is my oak tree, right, that's the tree,

793
00:44:26,800 --> 00:44:30,040
Speaker 1: Like that is it nothing I will never do. I

794
00:44:30,080 --> 00:44:33,600
Speaker 1: mean I don't want to say never, but the oh,

795
00:44:33,760 --> 00:44:36,880
Speaker 1: the tree and the roots are real estate sales. Everything

796
00:44:36,920 --> 00:44:40,120
Speaker 1: else is my branch. And so I've always got to

797
00:44:40,160 --> 00:44:41,440
Speaker 1: bring it back to the real estate. And then they

798
00:44:41,440 --> 00:44:43,760
Speaker 1: do other things, have the sales, course of the books,

799
00:44:44,000 --> 00:44:47,200
Speaker 1: of the different TV shows, the content studio. We put

800
00:44:47,239 --> 00:44:49,480
Speaker 1: out tons of content across all platforms, and now I

801
00:44:49,480 --> 00:44:52,520
Speaker 1: have the new brokerage, um uh and everything else that

802
00:44:52,600 --> 00:44:55,480
Speaker 1: kind of comes with that. I'm like, I'm like kind

803
00:44:55,480 --> 00:45:00,959
Speaker 1: of obsessed with you. Your hat has gratitude, Yeah, it does.

804
00:45:01,120 --> 00:45:04,440
Speaker 1: Her own hats, my own hat. Yeah, that's awesome because

805
00:45:04,440 --> 00:45:06,200
Speaker 1: my last name is rad you know, so it's like

806
00:45:06,480 --> 00:45:10,600
Speaker 1: Tanya's gratitude. Get it. But I love when you say

807
00:45:10,600 --> 00:45:13,400
Speaker 1: a routine. I think that was something that really, uh,

808
00:45:13,680 --> 00:45:16,640
Speaker 1: you know, struck people when the pandemic happened, because a

809
00:45:16,640 --> 00:45:18,279
Speaker 1: lot of people are shook from their routine. And I'm

810
00:45:18,360 --> 00:45:21,000
Speaker 1: I'm such a creature of habit and I'm not gonna lie.

811
00:45:21,040 --> 00:45:22,600
Speaker 1: I lost a little bit, even though I still have

812
00:45:22,680 --> 00:45:25,560
Speaker 1: my routine, because you know, it's hard, it's really hard.

813
00:45:25,600 --> 00:45:26,960
Speaker 1: And the fact that you wake up, I mean, you

814
00:45:26,960 --> 00:45:30,120
Speaker 1: don't start your day job, I guess whatever until eight o'clock,

815
00:45:30,120 --> 00:45:35,279
Speaker 1: but you're up at four to em Jim baby, like

816
00:45:35,520 --> 00:45:38,040
Speaker 1: that you have given me. I I needed some of

817
00:45:38,080 --> 00:45:39,759
Speaker 1: that right now, and you just gave it to me,

818
00:45:39,840 --> 00:45:47,920
Speaker 1: so I really appreciate it because I needed that. Well. Thanks, Listen,

819
00:45:48,080 --> 00:45:50,160
Speaker 1: I am the stame way. I have a lot of

820
00:45:50,200 --> 00:45:53,920
Speaker 1: friends and all the clients who are way more successful

821
00:45:53,960 --> 00:45:56,520
Speaker 1: than me, and no way ever what they wake up

822
00:45:56,520 --> 00:45:59,560
Speaker 1: it for. So that doesn't work for them. But I

823
00:45:59,560 --> 00:46:01,279
Speaker 1: know it worked for me. And what works for me

824
00:46:01,360 --> 00:46:03,400
Speaker 1: is is kind of what you just said. Right. I'm

825
00:46:03,440 --> 00:46:06,279
Speaker 1: a creature of habit I need that routine. So even quarantine,

826
00:46:06,680 --> 00:46:09,440
Speaker 1: we left, right, We left New York because all the

827
00:46:09,480 --> 00:46:13,719
Speaker 1: police in the city, Um, We're saying, and they were

828
00:46:13,719 --> 00:46:17,759
Speaker 1: dead serious, We're locking down the bridges and tunnels, right,

829
00:46:17,840 --> 00:46:20,680
Speaker 1: We're going to close down Manhattan, um. And that was

830
00:46:20,719 --> 00:46:22,640
Speaker 1: what the word on the street was. Because if New

831
00:46:22,719 --> 00:46:25,280
Speaker 1: York City is the epicenter, new York City is this big,

832
00:46:26,120 --> 00:46:28,319
Speaker 1: why let it continue to spread and people are going

833
00:46:28,360 --> 00:46:30,520
Speaker 1: to keep leaving, so let's lock it down. They didn't

834
00:46:30,520 --> 00:46:32,920
Speaker 1: do that, right, they just did shelter in place and

835
00:46:33,000 --> 00:46:37,640
Speaker 1: really advise you not to um. So we left that

836
00:46:37,760 --> 00:46:41,680
Speaker 1: Wednesday before the city shut down. On Sunday, went to

837
00:46:41,680 --> 00:46:45,400
Speaker 1: New Hampshire and the first thing that I've realized when

838
00:46:45,400 --> 00:46:47,640
Speaker 1: I got to New Hampshire was weight. That's not vacation,

839
00:46:48,560 --> 00:46:52,200
Speaker 1: uh crazy. I still have to deal with work clients

840
00:46:52,760 --> 00:46:54,759
Speaker 1: like what do I do? I do this, and so

841
00:46:54,800 --> 00:46:57,680
Speaker 1: I just kept with the routine. I did like FaceTime workouts.

842
00:46:58,040 --> 00:47:02,359
Speaker 1: They sucked, like well, right, I ran around the lake

843
00:47:02,400 --> 00:47:06,880
Speaker 1: in the snow. It was terrible. Still did it, um uh.

844
00:47:06,960 --> 00:47:08,879
Speaker 1: And then the day was just the best part about

845
00:47:08,880 --> 00:47:10,440
Speaker 1: it was I just didn't have to do dinner events

846
00:47:10,520 --> 00:47:12,120
Speaker 1: or anything. Right, So my day is just sort of

847
00:47:12,160 --> 00:47:16,040
Speaker 1: quote unquote ended early, which was kind of the nice

848
00:47:16,120 --> 00:47:18,120
Speaker 1: part about it. But I think the routine is really

849
00:47:18,160 --> 00:47:22,560
Speaker 1: important because it keeps you focused in the work. And

850
00:47:23,160 --> 00:47:24,520
Speaker 1: I'm the type of person where if I don't have

851
00:47:24,520 --> 00:47:27,719
Speaker 1: that routine and like, all Hell's gonna break loose. So

852
00:47:27,719 --> 00:47:31,440
Speaker 1: I gotta like, I gotta keep myself in my lane. Yeah,

853
00:47:31,480 --> 00:47:32,920
Speaker 1: That's what happened to me in the beginning of the

854
00:47:32,920 --> 00:47:35,800
Speaker 1: pandemic because we would do so I do a morning

855
00:47:35,800 --> 00:47:37,839
Speaker 1: show in the morning, so I'm up early, and then

856
00:47:37,840 --> 00:47:39,920
Speaker 1: we did the podcast in the afternoon, and I was

857
00:47:40,000 --> 00:47:42,680
Speaker 1: just kind of sitting around the house like doing nothing

858
00:47:42,680 --> 00:47:44,720
Speaker 1: in between, and I would get into do the podcast

859
00:47:44,800 --> 00:47:47,960
Speaker 1: and I would be so just like drained and sad

860
00:47:48,000 --> 00:47:49,680
Speaker 1: and like had no energy, and I was like, I

861
00:47:49,719 --> 00:47:51,720
Speaker 1: need to like shake up my routine because I can

862
00:47:51,880 --> 00:47:53,919
Speaker 1: like this isn't me, Like I need to figure this out.

863
00:47:53,960 --> 00:47:55,840
Speaker 1: So now I like put my runs in the middle

864
00:47:55,920 --> 00:47:57,920
Speaker 1: so that I can go out and get air and energy,

865
00:47:58,080 --> 00:48:01,120
Speaker 1: and like, yeah, it's figuring out what works for you

866
00:48:01,200 --> 00:48:05,600
Speaker 1: for sure. Yeah, I'm I'm not committed to any sort

867
00:48:05,640 --> 00:48:09,480
Speaker 1: of routine. I do best with no routine. I like

868
00:48:09,560 --> 00:48:11,680
Speaker 1: get just like I get bored with routines. So like,

869
00:48:11,719 --> 00:48:14,080
Speaker 1: even if I try to do it consistently, I'm like,

870
00:48:15,520 --> 00:48:18,919
Speaker 1: I don't like it, and I think it's important now.

871
00:48:18,960 --> 00:48:22,359
Speaker 1: And I did this a lot during UM and talk

872
00:48:22,400 --> 00:48:24,720
Speaker 1: to a lot of people about it. I would spend

873
00:48:24,880 --> 00:48:28,200
Speaker 1: during the day either thirty minutes or an hour, right,

874
00:48:28,600 --> 00:48:30,440
Speaker 1: you call it kind of call it like your future hour,

875
00:48:31,080 --> 00:48:33,040
Speaker 1: right if you have the time, or your future ten

876
00:48:33,040 --> 00:48:35,800
Speaker 1: minutes or your future thirty whatever it is your future

877
00:48:35,840 --> 00:48:40,279
Speaker 1: fifteen where you just sit by yourself and think about

878
00:48:40,280 --> 00:48:43,600
Speaker 1: the future and what you want, right and just imagine it,

879
00:48:43,800 --> 00:48:46,960
Speaker 1: just think about it. And I am telling you there

880
00:48:47,080 --> 00:48:50,040
Speaker 1: is no better way to create your success than thinking

881
00:48:50,080 --> 00:48:53,440
Speaker 1: about it every day, just a little bit, just forcing

882
00:48:53,480 --> 00:48:56,160
Speaker 1: yourself to think about it like if you want that

883
00:48:56,360 --> 00:48:58,640
Speaker 1: island vacation or that thing, and it can be material,

884
00:48:58,680 --> 00:49:00,840
Speaker 1: I don't care, like it can be stuff like you

885
00:49:00,880 --> 00:49:04,160
Speaker 1: want that tesla, you want that thing, you wanna, you

886
00:49:04,200 --> 00:49:06,640
Speaker 1: want a million dollars, you want whatever it is, right,

887
00:49:06,640 --> 00:49:09,640
Speaker 1: if you want your podcast to be talk, whatever it

888
00:49:09,680 --> 00:49:12,960
Speaker 1: could be. Just think about it for ten minutes. However

889
00:49:13,080 --> 00:49:16,880
Speaker 1: much time you have um and write down what comes

890
00:49:16,880 --> 00:49:20,440
Speaker 1: to your head. You'll end up manifesting and brainstorming so

891
00:49:20,480 --> 00:49:24,240
Speaker 1: many things that you hadn't even anticipated because you're actually

892
00:49:24,320 --> 00:49:27,120
Speaker 1: going to ask your brain to wait, stop thinking about

893
00:49:27,120 --> 00:49:30,280
Speaker 1: all the bullets for a second, and just think about

894
00:49:30,280 --> 00:49:33,839
Speaker 1: the future, and it will change your life. I'm telling

895
00:49:33,880 --> 00:49:36,879
Speaker 1: you this is so I'm literally gonna put future five

896
00:49:36,920 --> 00:49:39,320
Speaker 1: I think future five five or fifteen minutes, which I

897
00:49:39,360 --> 00:49:43,520
Speaker 1: give it. It's gonna take you five to get into it,

898
00:49:43,600 --> 00:49:45,680
Speaker 1: and then the last you're gonna be thinking about getting

899
00:49:45,680 --> 00:49:47,040
Speaker 1: out of it, so you'll have a good five in

900
00:49:47,080 --> 00:49:50,000
Speaker 1: the middle. Okay, I'm gonna put future fifteen in my

901
00:49:50,120 --> 00:49:52,759
Speaker 1: calendar every day for the next two weeks to get like,

902
00:49:52,880 --> 00:49:56,040
Speaker 1: to get it in my retraine and then email me, Yeah,

903
00:49:56,120 --> 00:49:57,880
Speaker 1: what's your Well, I guess I can I can figure you.

904
00:49:57,920 --> 00:50:00,680
Speaker 1: I'm like, what's your email. I'll I'll get your email

905
00:50:00,719 --> 00:50:03,759
Speaker 1: from our producer. But yeah, honestly, I'm so grateful. I'm

906
00:50:03,760 --> 00:50:05,560
Speaker 1: sure you have other podcasts and other things to do

907
00:50:05,640 --> 00:50:07,920
Speaker 1: because you have such a routine, but I'm really really

908
00:50:07,960 --> 00:50:12,560
Speaker 1: grateful that you're on on the podcast. I know. I'm yeah,

909
00:50:12,560 --> 00:50:14,560
Speaker 1: I have something to say. I need to say something

910
00:50:14,560 --> 00:50:16,520
Speaker 1: before we let them go. I want to know, like,

911
00:50:16,560 --> 00:50:19,600
Speaker 1: what are three things that someone needs to get the

912
00:50:19,680 --> 00:50:22,680
Speaker 1: big money energy and like get kind of in that

913
00:50:23,200 --> 00:50:31,360
Speaker 1: space of thinking and future thinking and success thinking. Sure, um,

914
00:50:31,480 --> 00:50:37,760
Speaker 1: well so three things. Listen, There's there's a lot to do, Okay, Um,

915
00:50:38,360 --> 00:50:41,520
Speaker 1: but if I had to break it down into three steps, uh,

916
00:50:41,600 --> 00:50:44,640
Speaker 1: you First you have to remember, okay, that we all

917
00:50:44,719 --> 00:50:48,000
Speaker 1: have the raw material needed to be the absolute best

918
00:50:48,080 --> 00:50:52,279
Speaker 1: version of ourselves. We just most often than not, we

919
00:50:52,480 --> 00:50:55,840
Speaker 1: keep it inside, right because rather embarrassed of what we

920
00:50:55,920 --> 00:50:58,480
Speaker 1: think the best version is, we feel like we have

921
00:50:58,520 --> 00:51:01,960
Speaker 1: imposter syndrome. We don't feel ready. I still want to

922
00:51:02,000 --> 00:51:04,719
Speaker 1: wait to know I'm not there yet, whatever it might be.

923
00:51:04,840 --> 00:51:08,440
Speaker 1: And oftentimes, right oftentimes maybe that best version of ourselves

924
00:51:08,640 --> 00:51:11,359
Speaker 1: existed for a moment in time, but then someone took

925
00:51:11,360 --> 00:51:13,759
Speaker 1: it away from you. Maybe it was a past boyfriend

926
00:51:14,000 --> 00:51:16,200
Speaker 1: who was a dick. Maybe it was a teacher professor

927
00:51:16,200 --> 00:51:17,920
Speaker 1: who was an asshole. Maybe it's your parents who told

928
00:51:17,960 --> 00:51:21,080
Speaker 1: you weren't good enough. Whatever it might be, right, but

929
00:51:21,160 --> 00:51:24,239
Speaker 1: there's three things to start doing kind of get that

930
00:51:24,320 --> 00:51:27,080
Speaker 1: back right, because we all had it when we were babies.

931
00:51:27,440 --> 00:51:30,080
Speaker 1: Like I have a two year old she's and she

932
00:51:30,120 --> 00:51:34,120
Speaker 1: doesn't give it about anybody. Only later, once we start

933
00:51:34,200 --> 00:51:38,200
Speaker 1: to understand social pressures and the habits of others, do

934
00:51:38,280 --> 00:51:40,120
Speaker 1: we start to kind of keep that on the inside

935
00:51:40,120 --> 00:51:42,920
Speaker 1: and kill it a little bit? Um So first, right,

936
00:51:42,960 --> 00:51:45,040
Speaker 1: big one the energy is knowing about is knowing what

937
00:51:45,120 --> 00:51:48,640
Speaker 1: you want and actually getting it and devising a plan

938
00:51:48,760 --> 00:51:51,000
Speaker 1: to go and get it. Because nothing is out of reach,

939
00:51:51,080 --> 00:51:55,280
Speaker 1: so why not you? So you write down, like literally

940
00:51:55,760 --> 00:51:59,799
Speaker 1: right down to determine who is the future you and

941
00:52:00,040 --> 00:52:02,000
Speaker 1: can be ten years out for you, It can be

942
00:52:02,040 --> 00:52:03,680
Speaker 1: two years, it can be a year, it could be

943
00:52:03,719 --> 00:52:07,040
Speaker 1: five years, it can be whatever you want for me.

944
00:52:07,520 --> 00:52:09,279
Speaker 1: Right now, when I think about future Ryan, I think

945
00:52:09,280 --> 00:52:13,000
Speaker 1: about that's a that's an easy date for me to

946
00:52:13,040 --> 00:52:16,120
Speaker 1: think of, right that's ten years from last year, and

947
00:52:16,120 --> 00:52:19,200
Speaker 1: ten years goes by like that, So I think about

948
00:52:19,360 --> 00:52:21,640
Speaker 1: who is that guy? And what am I doing today?

949
00:52:21,719 --> 00:52:23,960
Speaker 1: So that when I become him, which is going to

950
00:52:24,040 --> 00:52:26,640
Speaker 1: happen before I know it, he's going to be so

951
00:52:26,760 --> 00:52:29,799
Speaker 1: happy and whatever I went through today that he's gonna

952
00:52:29,800 --> 00:52:32,759
Speaker 1: go back in time and shape my hand, Like what

953
00:52:32,840 --> 00:52:34,960
Speaker 1: can I do for that? So figure out who that

954
00:52:35,000 --> 00:52:37,880
Speaker 1: future you is? Right, then you need to do an

955
00:52:38,000 --> 00:52:40,800
Speaker 1: energy audit. So an energy audit means you got to

956
00:52:40,840 --> 00:52:44,480
Speaker 1: get comfortable with criticism and embrace self awareness, which a

957
00:52:44,480 --> 00:52:46,480
Speaker 1: lot of us also shy away from. Right, we're all

958
00:52:46,520 --> 00:52:48,719
Speaker 1: way too nice to each other because we don't want

959
00:52:48,719 --> 00:52:51,040
Speaker 1: to hurt each other, right, we don't like confrontation, So

960
00:52:51,120 --> 00:52:53,600
Speaker 1: everyone's always great and he's a do you, oh my god,

961
00:52:53,640 --> 00:52:55,680
Speaker 1: you look so beautiful? You don't look beautiful? Right, today's

962
00:52:55,680 --> 00:52:57,680
Speaker 1: an off day, But you don't want to say that

963
00:52:57,719 --> 00:53:01,400
Speaker 1: to everybody, So when you're ready, you ask for it. Okay,

964
00:53:01,480 --> 00:53:03,279
Speaker 1: Like I made one big deal when I was younger,

965
00:53:03,320 --> 00:53:05,080
Speaker 1: when I first started, and I thought I was the man,

966
00:53:05,320 --> 00:53:08,640
Speaker 1: but I absolutely was not. I had to get real

967
00:53:09,080 --> 00:53:13,120
Speaker 1: about how I looked, how I communicated, and how knowledgeable

968
00:53:13,120 --> 00:53:15,440
Speaker 1: I seemed. And so a way that you can do

969
00:53:15,480 --> 00:53:19,600
Speaker 1: This is you can ask a friend who you honestly trust,

970
00:53:20,320 --> 00:53:23,400
Speaker 1: or a family member or anybody and to say, hey,

971
00:53:23,760 --> 00:53:26,040
Speaker 1: if you were to describe me to someone else without

972
00:53:26,160 --> 00:53:30,840
Speaker 1: using my name, what would you say? Am I the

973
00:53:32,120 --> 00:53:36,600
Speaker 1: funny one sentence to humor? Who's lazy? What? What? What?

974
00:53:36,680 --> 00:53:38,319
Speaker 1: I could be honest with me, just be totally just

975
00:53:38,440 --> 00:53:41,920
Speaker 1: let it rip. Be prepared though, because what they're going

976
00:53:41,960 --> 00:53:45,359
Speaker 1: to say is now your definition to the world, how

977
00:53:45,400 --> 00:53:48,000
Speaker 1: the world perceives you. And if what they say to

978
00:53:48,040 --> 00:53:50,600
Speaker 1: you is okay, great, now listen. They might say things

979
00:53:50,600 --> 00:53:52,719
Speaker 1: that you don't agree with. It all okay, ask somebody else.

980
00:53:52,920 --> 00:53:55,759
Speaker 1: That's totally fine, right, but you need to be very

981
00:53:55,760 --> 00:53:59,279
Speaker 1: well aware of how you're perceived to the world, how

982
00:53:59,320 --> 00:54:02,160
Speaker 1: you look, how communicate, and how knowledgeable you've seen. Right,

983
00:54:02,160 --> 00:54:05,680
Speaker 1: So that's a little exercise. And then third is you

984
00:54:05,719 --> 00:54:10,080
Speaker 1: need to stop waiting for opportunity and start becoming an

985
00:54:10,080 --> 00:54:13,760
Speaker 1: opportunist because you have the power to make your own magic.

986
00:54:14,280 --> 00:54:16,360
Speaker 1: I mean, my career really took off and I realized

987
00:54:16,400 --> 00:54:19,400
Speaker 1: I didn't need anyone else to provide me with opportunities

988
00:54:19,520 --> 00:54:25,480
Speaker 1: because opportunities were everywhere. If you're comfortable with being uncomfortable, um,

989
00:54:25,960 --> 00:54:30,000
Speaker 1: which means having that future right, Like, let's go and

990
00:54:30,000 --> 00:54:32,879
Speaker 1: actually create things. You know, how many cold emails did

991
00:54:32,880 --> 00:54:35,200
Speaker 1: you send today? You know you want to do interviews

992
00:54:35,239 --> 00:54:38,800
Speaker 1: with crazy people, ask them, just reach out. What's the

993
00:54:38,840 --> 00:54:41,480
Speaker 1: worst they're gonna do? Say now, okay, follow up in

994
00:54:41,520 --> 00:54:45,120
Speaker 1: a week. In a week the best deal I ever did.

995
00:54:46,000 --> 00:54:47,600
Speaker 1: And I guess we could we could end it here.

996
00:54:48,000 --> 00:54:53,160
Speaker 1: Um uh. I met a wife who wanted to buy

997
00:54:53,160 --> 00:54:54,600
Speaker 1: a place. She was from New Jersey on the Upper

998
00:54:54,600 --> 00:54:58,200
Speaker 1: East Side, a budget up to around a million bucks yourself, um.

999
00:54:58,239 --> 00:55:01,240
Speaker 1: And she never ended up buying anything, but I followed

1000
00:55:01,320 --> 00:55:04,360
Speaker 1: up with her and her husband. Um. And I followed

1001
00:55:04,400 --> 00:55:08,879
Speaker 1: up every other week for seven years. Seven years later,

1002
00:55:08,920 --> 00:55:12,759
Speaker 1: the husband wrote me back um and asked to reach

1003
00:55:12,800 --> 00:55:15,719
Speaker 1: out and talk. And so we talked and he said

1004
00:55:15,760 --> 00:55:18,320
Speaker 1: he had gotten divorced. He said he remembered when his

1005
00:55:18,360 --> 00:55:21,160
Speaker 1: wife was looking for a place and said that he

1006
00:55:21,920 --> 00:55:24,439
Speaker 1: was kind of looking for his own place. And two

1007
00:55:24,480 --> 00:55:26,879
Speaker 1: days later now I guess it was four days later

1008
00:55:27,280 --> 00:55:30,600
Speaker 1: Monday Thursday. Um, I saw him a place for sixteen

1009
00:55:30,600 --> 00:55:34,040
Speaker 1: million dollars and so um. But it took me seven

1010
00:55:34,239 --> 00:55:40,120
Speaker 1: years sending emails. But emails are free. It's free. Yeah, right,

1011
00:55:40,160 --> 00:55:43,280
Speaker 1: so what's to stop me? So what's to stop anybody else?

1012
00:55:43,800 --> 00:55:49,839
Speaker 1: Be opportunity what you want? Those are free ways to start.

1013
00:55:49,960 --> 00:55:55,120
Speaker 1: Those were really I am re listening to this podcast

1014
00:55:55,120 --> 00:55:59,680
Speaker 1: and taking notes once once we're done for today. So good. Um,

1015
00:55:59,680 --> 00:56:02,000
Speaker 1: Like on you said, I know that your schedule and

1016
00:56:02,040 --> 00:56:04,239
Speaker 1: what you said is booked back to back, but we

1017
00:56:04,719 --> 00:56:09,120
Speaker 1: so appreciate your time, like you were so informative and

1018
00:56:09,160 --> 00:56:12,200
Speaker 1: I feel like everyone listening will take something away. So

1019
00:56:12,320 --> 00:56:15,959
Speaker 1: thank you for your time and um scrubbing in today. Yeah,

1020
00:56:16,000 --> 00:56:17,440
Speaker 1: and I am going to email you, so look for

1021
00:56:17,480 --> 00:56:21,879
Speaker 1: that email. She'll email for seven years, so make sure

1022
00:56:22,440 --> 00:56:24,839
Speaker 1: line subject line gratitude, So I'll make sure to look

1023
00:56:24,880 --> 00:56:27,239
Speaker 1: for it. Okay, make sure your publicist tells our book.

1024
00:56:27,320 --> 00:56:29,719
Speaker 1: I don't even know how it happens, but make sure

1025
00:56:29,840 --> 00:56:36,000
Speaker 1: that they know that I'm cool. All right, Thanks Ryan,

1026
00:56:36,239 --> 00:56:41,080
Speaker 1: thank you so much. Bye bye bye. You're like, I'll

1027
00:56:41,120 --> 00:56:45,160
Speaker 1: find me. I will find you. That's crazy, though, sent

1028
00:56:45,239 --> 00:56:48,920
Speaker 1: an email for seven for seven years, and then he

1029
00:56:49,040 --> 00:56:54,560
Speaker 1: sold a sixteen million dollar home worth the efforts to say, so,

1030
00:56:55,400 --> 00:56:57,000
Speaker 1: I don't know that I have it in me to

1031
00:56:57,040 --> 00:57:01,880
Speaker 1: be that like persistent, Yeah, persistent and um hm confident,

1032
00:57:02,080 --> 00:57:04,440
Speaker 1: I guess because it takes like a certain level of

1033
00:57:04,480 --> 00:57:08,080
Speaker 1: just confidence that you're gonna wear that like you're gonna win.

1034
00:57:08,880 --> 00:57:10,520
Speaker 1: After seven. I was gonna ask him if he was

1035
00:57:10,600 --> 00:57:14,680
Speaker 1: an impatient person, but I feel like I feel like

1036
00:57:14,719 --> 00:57:18,120
Speaker 1: he's not. I think I could see him. Yeah, I

1037
00:57:18,120 --> 00:57:20,240
Speaker 1: was gonna say I could see like with long term

1038
00:57:20,280 --> 00:57:24,040
Speaker 1: goals he's patient, but with like everyday things, maybe he's like,

1039
00:57:24,600 --> 00:57:26,840
Speaker 1: I need it and I need it now. Oh my gosh,

1040
00:57:26,840 --> 00:57:30,240
Speaker 1: that was crazy. Yeah, that's really cool. I I think

1041
00:57:30,640 --> 00:57:33,360
Speaker 1: because I'm in this headspace and wanting to buy, which

1042
00:57:33,400 --> 00:57:34,960
Speaker 1: I had so many more questions for, it's like I

1043
00:57:34,960 --> 00:57:37,240
Speaker 1: could have I need to do, Like I might have

1044
00:57:37,280 --> 00:57:39,480
Speaker 1: to send an email to with a lit some questions.

1045
00:57:39,480 --> 00:57:42,160
Speaker 1: He's like, who gave her the email? But we should

1046
00:57:42,160 --> 00:57:44,400
Speaker 1: get somebody for a million dollar listening l A since

1047
00:57:44,440 --> 00:57:46,680
Speaker 1: they like probably know the l A market, you know. Yeah,

1048
00:57:46,800 --> 00:57:49,560
Speaker 1: I think just talking to someone though who's in the

1049
00:57:49,560 --> 00:57:53,520
Speaker 1: the space. Um, it's just interesting and I like that

1050
00:57:53,560 --> 00:57:56,720
Speaker 1: a lot of what he's done has been focused on

1051
00:57:57,280 --> 00:58:01,880
Speaker 1: your future and what you due to reshift your attitude

1052
00:58:01,880 --> 00:58:04,120
Speaker 1: about you know, or if you're in a mundane spot

1053
00:58:04,160 --> 00:58:06,720
Speaker 1: of just feeling like everything feels repetitive and you're wanting

1054
00:58:06,760 --> 00:58:10,960
Speaker 1: to feel boost of something new. I like that. That's

1055
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Speaker 1: kind of where his where he's spocused. Yeah, there is

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00:58:16,040 --> 00:58:19,400
Speaker 1: something about that because when you you always talk about

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00:58:19,440 --> 00:58:21,560
Speaker 1: imposter syndrome, and I think I have it too. I

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00:58:21,600 --> 00:58:23,520
Speaker 1: just have never identified it or no, but I think

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00:58:23,560 --> 00:58:26,000
Speaker 1: a lot of people have that feeling of like, oh,

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00:58:26,120 --> 00:58:28,000
Speaker 1: I'm not supposed to be here, like why am I

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00:58:28,120 --> 00:58:31,720
Speaker 1: here of other than someone else? And having like him

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00:58:31,760 --> 00:58:34,480
Speaker 1: going into that casting and being like, well, I'm the

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00:58:34,520 --> 00:58:39,080
Speaker 1: best agent there is while he's still very new to it.

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Speaker 1: It's a powerful tool to have that. Wow. Yeah, it

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00:58:44,480 --> 00:58:46,000
Speaker 1: was really cool. He's got a new fan in me.

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Speaker 1: All Right, we are going to take a break and

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00:58:48,480 --> 00:59:06,480
Speaker 1: we'll be right back with some emails. Okay, we are back,

1068
00:59:06,600 --> 00:59:11,000
Speaker 1: and we have some hard hitting emails. Mark. All right,

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Speaker 1: this is from Alicia. She says, I'm thirty two. I

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00:59:13,640 --> 00:59:15,640
Speaker 1: live in Dallas. The last month or so has been

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00:59:15,680 --> 00:59:19,480
Speaker 1: the hardest of the pandemic. I'm feeling overwhelmingly lonely, and

1072
00:59:19,520 --> 00:59:21,800
Speaker 1: I'm finding it harder to be happy. I have great

1073
00:59:21,840 --> 00:59:23,760
Speaker 1: friends and family who I talk to you daily, but

1074
00:59:23,840 --> 00:59:26,919
Speaker 1: that can only replace in person interactions. For so long.

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00:59:27,440 --> 00:59:30,200
Speaker 1: What do you all do to fill your days, specifically

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00:59:30,240 --> 00:59:36,160
Speaker 1: the weekends. I mean, I think this is really good

1077
00:59:36,200 --> 00:59:39,040
Speaker 1: for you to take the lead on answering because you

1078
00:59:39,040 --> 00:59:42,160
Speaker 1: you live alone and I don't. On my sister lives

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00:59:42,200 --> 00:59:45,080
Speaker 1: with me, So I like, I actually constantly a people around.

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00:59:45,360 --> 00:59:47,280
Speaker 1: But it is it is related, believe. I mean, I've

1081
00:59:47,320 --> 00:59:49,320
Speaker 1: got a wife and two daughters. But I gets, you know,

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00:59:49,360 --> 00:59:51,280
Speaker 1: the week with the work week is over and like yeah,

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00:59:51,320 --> 00:59:55,120
Speaker 1: work weeks over in this Saturday afternoon, like so there's

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00:59:55,200 --> 00:59:57,080
Speaker 1: nothing to do, nothing to do? Who wants to play

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00:59:57,080 --> 01:00:01,200
Speaker 1: you for the fiftieth time? You know? Like yeah, you know,

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01:00:01,320 --> 01:00:04,120
Speaker 1: I do think and again it's just like, you know,

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01:00:04,480 --> 01:00:07,440
Speaker 1: very tanya of me. But I started doing festive Fridays

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01:00:08,040 --> 01:00:10,680
Speaker 1: and I would get dressed up. I'd pick a theme

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01:00:10,720 --> 01:00:12,600
Speaker 1: for the Friday and I'd get dressed up and I

1090
01:00:12,600 --> 01:00:16,440
Speaker 1: would order that specific food whatever is UM. And you

1091
01:00:16,480 --> 01:00:18,680
Speaker 1: can zoom with people if you want to FaceTime, do

1092
01:00:18,800 --> 01:00:21,160
Speaker 1: FaceTime with people. If you do have any friends that

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01:00:21,200 --> 01:00:23,760
Speaker 1: you have seen like a part of your quarantine, UM,

1094
01:00:23,840 --> 01:00:25,680
Speaker 1: you can do it with them too. I found that

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01:00:25,720 --> 01:00:28,840
Speaker 1: to be really like fun and something to look forward to.

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01:00:29,560 --> 01:00:35,880
Speaker 1: UM during the pandemic. So I suggest festive Fridays and

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01:00:35,880 --> 01:00:37,440
Speaker 1: then I don't I mean, I don't know. I don't

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01:00:37,480 --> 01:00:40,640
Speaker 1: want to encourage people traveling, but honestly, being away for

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01:00:40,680 --> 01:00:45,640
Speaker 1: the weekend, really it just brought me energy. You know, um,

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Speaker 1: even if you can go somewhere where you're outside and

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01:00:48,720 --> 01:00:52,280
Speaker 1: just connecting with people, UM, I don't know necessarily like

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01:00:52,320 --> 01:00:54,720
Speaker 1: what's open around you and you can wear a mask,

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01:00:55,040 --> 01:01:00,040
Speaker 1: but I do think that there's something, um, really energizing

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01:01:00,080 --> 01:01:03,360
Speaker 1: about energy from other people. So whether it's through zoom

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01:01:03,400 --> 01:01:05,400
Speaker 1: and just like making a plan to do that and

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01:01:05,440 --> 01:01:07,680
Speaker 1: like setting a day being intentional about it and making

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01:01:07,680 --> 01:01:11,240
Speaker 1: it fun versus just like rogue face timing and like

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01:01:11,440 --> 01:01:15,360
Speaker 1: you know, doing just talking to people. UM, I found

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Speaker 1: that to be really fun. So festive Fridays were like

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Speaker 1: a big thing for me. I also think I know

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01:01:20,520 --> 01:01:24,160
Speaker 1: a lot of people who have been really really um

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01:01:24,440 --> 01:01:26,960
Speaker 1: like quarantine and not leaving their house or seeing anybody

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01:01:26,960 --> 01:01:29,080
Speaker 1: who live alone. And I think a few of them

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01:01:29,120 --> 01:01:32,800
Speaker 1: I know have done things where they have made plans

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01:01:32,800 --> 01:01:35,840
Speaker 1: with a friend and decided to quarantine for whatever the

1116
01:01:35,920 --> 01:01:39,000
Speaker 1: suggested time frame is, like ten days or whatever. State

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01:01:39,080 --> 01:01:42,200
Speaker 1: quarantine don't see anybody and then meet up and see

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01:01:42,200 --> 01:01:44,480
Speaker 1: each other so that there's like even if it's in

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01:01:44,480 --> 01:01:47,640
Speaker 1: a park or an outdoor location or um, but just

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01:01:47,720 --> 01:01:50,880
Speaker 1: knowing that you've both taken the time to quarantine, because

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01:01:51,080 --> 01:01:54,280
Speaker 1: I do think, like for mental health, I really think

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01:01:54,280 --> 01:01:58,320
Speaker 1: it's very important to see people and like have these

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01:01:58,360 --> 01:02:00,720
Speaker 1: interactions and if you're just alone and all day, like

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01:02:01,120 --> 01:02:03,120
Speaker 1: I think all of us here have at least some

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01:02:03,400 --> 01:02:07,760
Speaker 1: human interaction most days. And I think that getting that

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01:02:07,880 --> 01:02:10,880
Speaker 1: even if it's going socially distance outside, which I don't

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01:02:11,080 --> 01:02:14,120
Speaker 1: it's probably cold in Dallas, but making an effort to

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Speaker 1: see people, even if it's in once a week, one

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01:02:18,880 --> 01:02:22,120
Speaker 1: personal week. It's just like we're not meant to be

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01:02:22,800 --> 01:02:25,720
Speaker 1: isolated like this. And I think there's a way of

1131
01:02:25,800 --> 01:02:30,240
Speaker 1: being careful and respecting you know, the pandemic and COVID

1132
01:02:30,440 --> 01:02:33,600
Speaker 1: restrictions and everything, but also taking care of yourself because

1133
01:02:34,720 --> 01:02:37,480
Speaker 1: you have I mean, this is it like you have

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01:02:37,600 --> 01:02:40,280
Speaker 1: to take care of your mental state and your emotional state.

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01:02:40,280 --> 01:02:42,880
Speaker 1: And it sounds like you're kind of on that decline

1136
01:02:42,960 --> 01:02:45,640
Speaker 1: of kind of at your wits end, which I'm sure

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01:02:45,680 --> 01:02:47,800
Speaker 1: a lot of people feel too. So I would say

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01:02:47,840 --> 01:02:50,439
Speaker 1: make a plan and talk to, you know, see someone

1139
01:02:50,480 --> 01:02:53,640
Speaker 1: outside and make an effort to have some sort of

1140
01:02:53,680 --> 01:02:56,480
Speaker 1: interaction because we're all going to go crazy at some

1141
01:02:56,520 --> 01:02:59,080
Speaker 1: point if we don't do that. It's true. And one

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01:02:59,120 --> 01:03:00,920
Speaker 1: other thing that's good is is getting together with one

1143
01:03:00,920 --> 01:03:03,160
Speaker 1: of those friends and just walk in someplace, just having

1144
01:03:03,160 --> 01:03:06,760
Speaker 1: a destination. You're not facing each other, you're wearing masks.

1145
01:03:07,000 --> 01:03:09,720
Speaker 1: You know, it's safe, you're outside. We've been doing that.

1146
01:03:09,920 --> 01:03:12,200
Speaker 1: Starbucks about two miles from here, and we walk there

1147
01:03:12,200 --> 01:03:14,480
Speaker 1: on a pretty regular basis, just because it's something to do.

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01:03:14,680 --> 01:03:16,840
Speaker 1: You know, it's a quick thing, but you can make

1149
01:03:16,880 --> 01:03:18,960
Speaker 1: it into an all afternoon thing if you want to.

1150
01:03:19,120 --> 01:03:21,640
Speaker 1: And then you're getting exercise and fresh air and it

1151
01:03:21,720 --> 01:03:23,720
Speaker 1: makes the day go by. And it's all about killing

1152
01:03:23,720 --> 01:03:28,200
Speaker 1: time these days. All right, let's see who's next. I'd

1153
01:03:28,200 --> 01:03:30,880
Speaker 1: say it's Dr Rachel. Rachel says, my best guy friend

1154
01:03:30,920 --> 01:03:33,960
Speaker 1: of three years is in a year long relationship with

1155
01:03:34,000 --> 01:03:37,440
Speaker 1: his girlfriend, but he still somehow keeps me as an option.

1156
01:03:38,000 --> 01:03:40,880
Speaker 1: He's flirty just enough to give me the attention I

1157
01:03:40,960 --> 01:03:43,840
Speaker 1: need or want. He tells me I love you often,

1158
01:03:43,880 --> 01:03:46,400
Speaker 1: but I never say it back. He's never crossed any

1159
01:03:46,480 --> 01:03:50,080
Speaker 1: major physical boundaries with me, but just enough that if

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01:03:50,120 --> 01:03:52,840
Speaker 1: I were in a monogamous relationship with him, it would

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01:03:52,920 --> 01:03:55,440
Speaker 1: upset me. I would love to still be his friend,

1162
01:03:55,840 --> 01:03:58,320
Speaker 1: and but I want to stop picturing him as a

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01:03:58,360 --> 01:04:01,800
Speaker 1: potential future partner. Is this possible or do I have

1164
01:04:01,840 --> 01:04:07,280
Speaker 1: to just cut him out of my life? I imagine

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01:04:07,320 --> 01:04:10,200
Speaker 1: we're all kind of on the same page here. I think,

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Speaker 1: I don't know, you don't even want this guy's your

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01:04:14,080 --> 01:04:18,240
Speaker 1: future partners? If he's nah hard pass Like, if he's

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01:04:18,280 --> 01:04:20,120
Speaker 1: doing this to his girlfriend that he's been with for

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01:04:20,200 --> 01:04:21,680
Speaker 1: three years, he's going to do it to you too.

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01:04:23,320 --> 01:04:31,440
Speaker 1: That's just so much better than that, like wolff, Yeah,

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01:04:31,760 --> 01:04:35,880
Speaker 1: that's right, your first choice potential And he is not

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01:04:35,960 --> 01:04:38,560
Speaker 1: respectful of either of you. Really, he's not respectful of

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01:04:38,600 --> 01:04:40,800
Speaker 1: his girlfriend. He's not respectful to you as his friend

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01:04:40,880 --> 01:04:42,959
Speaker 1: or whatever. Y'all are okay? So you know what though,

1175
01:04:43,000 --> 01:04:45,160
Speaker 1: because I think it's a lot again, we say this

1176
01:04:45,240 --> 01:04:47,720
Speaker 1: all the time. It's easier when we're not in this situation,

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01:04:48,000 --> 01:04:51,800
Speaker 1: So I understand. And I think the reason why you're

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01:04:51,800 --> 01:04:56,200
Speaker 1: so attached to this is because he's familiar and you

1179
01:04:56,360 --> 01:04:58,680
Speaker 1: have a friendship, so you know he's not a scumbag.

1180
01:04:58,720 --> 01:05:01,640
Speaker 1: And I think and this is sad, but I think

1181
01:05:01,680 --> 01:05:05,360
Speaker 1: a lot of women just are fear dating or fear

1182
01:05:05,440 --> 01:05:08,040
Speaker 1: getting to know other people because they think that men

1183
01:05:08,080 --> 01:05:12,280
Speaker 1: are just going to be sleazy scumbags. And I'm just generalizing,

1184
01:05:12,280 --> 01:05:15,080
Speaker 1: but I really believe that to be true, and I'm

1185
01:05:15,120 --> 01:05:18,880
Speaker 1: here to tell you that that's not the case. And

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01:05:19,040 --> 01:05:21,880
Speaker 1: there's so fear is such a strong thing. It's like

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01:05:22,040 --> 01:05:25,800
Speaker 1: it's crippling in so many ways. And that is something

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01:05:25,800 --> 01:05:29,760
Speaker 1: that I think cripples relationships because you just don't think

1189
01:05:29,800 --> 01:05:33,360
Speaker 1: you think this is the only man that it's compatible

1190
01:05:33,400 --> 01:05:35,360
Speaker 1: with you, or has a good job or whatever the

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01:05:35,360 --> 01:05:37,160
Speaker 1: things that you like in him as a friend. You

1192
01:05:37,200 --> 01:05:39,960
Speaker 1: think that, like, there's not anybody else out there like that,

1193
01:05:40,320 --> 01:05:42,920
Speaker 1: And I'm here to tell you that's not the case.

1194
01:05:43,320 --> 01:05:46,960
Speaker 1: So step on the other side of fear. Don't you

1195
01:05:47,000 --> 01:05:49,320
Speaker 1: deserve better? You really, really honestly do. And you know

1196
01:05:49,360 --> 01:05:52,240
Speaker 1: it too. I think you're just letting the fear cripple you.

1197
01:05:52,320 --> 01:05:54,760
Speaker 1: And it's not a bad thing because everybody does it.

1198
01:05:55,120 --> 01:05:57,160
Speaker 1: But at the end of the day, what you want

1199
01:05:57,240 --> 01:06:00,040
Speaker 1: is you want to partner that is loyal to you,

1200
01:06:01,240 --> 01:06:03,520
Speaker 1: loyal and that's not asking too much. You want a

1201
01:06:03,520 --> 01:06:06,640
Speaker 1: partner that's a teammate and a partner to you, you

1202
01:06:06,640 --> 01:06:10,800
Speaker 1: don't want to that's playing checkmate with other people. And

1203
01:06:10,880 --> 01:06:12,280
Speaker 1: I think, I mean, I think those are the two

1204
01:06:12,280 --> 01:06:16,880
Speaker 1: biggest things. Loyalty, respect and trust. Yeah, And I also

1205
01:06:17,040 --> 01:06:20,080
Speaker 1: think that if you keep him in your life and

1206
01:06:20,160 --> 01:06:23,360
Speaker 1: don't keep having this friendship or whatever is going on

1207
01:06:23,920 --> 01:06:26,760
Speaker 1: when you if you are able to meet someone in

1208
01:06:26,880 --> 01:06:28,840
Speaker 1: your head, like if you're able to meet someone else

1209
01:06:28,880 --> 01:06:31,200
Speaker 1: and start a relationship, he's not going to want you

1210
01:06:31,240 --> 01:06:34,040
Speaker 1: have in this relationship with this guy who's larring with

1211
01:06:34,120 --> 01:06:38,200
Speaker 1: you and sending texts, So like you're limiting yourself from

1212
01:06:38,360 --> 01:06:41,120
Speaker 1: first of all, meeting someone amazing because you're settling for

1213
01:06:41,160 --> 01:06:43,440
Speaker 1: this guy, and second of all setting yourself up to

1214
01:06:44,080 --> 01:06:47,800
Speaker 1: make your future partner feel insecure with the relationship with

1215
01:06:47,840 --> 01:06:55,120
Speaker 1: this guy who's doesn't have boundaries. Boundaries are very important,

1216
01:06:55,200 --> 01:06:57,200
Speaker 1: and you need to set someone with this guy because

1217
01:06:57,240 --> 01:07:03,960
Speaker 1: you are a bad be and you are first choice

1218
01:07:04,360 --> 01:07:10,480
Speaker 1: and not side whatever fling. Boundaries are like the key

1219
01:07:10,520 --> 01:07:13,160
Speaker 1: to life. They're hard though, it's hard to set, and

1220
01:07:13,240 --> 01:07:15,280
Speaker 1: normally we have to set boundaries with the people that

1221
01:07:15,320 --> 01:07:17,520
Speaker 1: we love, like the people that we care about the most,

1222
01:07:17,520 --> 01:07:19,240
Speaker 1: Like those are the ones that we actually have to

1223
01:07:19,280 --> 01:07:22,440
Speaker 1: set boundaries for a lot of the times, and it's hard,

1224
01:07:22,720 --> 01:07:27,280
Speaker 1: Like I'm really working on learning to set boundaries with,

1225
01:07:27,480 --> 01:07:30,880
Speaker 1: but it's with people that I don't necessary. I don't

1226
01:07:30,880 --> 01:07:34,240
Speaker 1: want to have to set boundaries with. But it's tough

1227
01:07:34,240 --> 01:07:36,280
Speaker 1: because she likes that there's no boundaries here. She likes

1228
01:07:36,280 --> 01:07:38,120
Speaker 1: that he says I love you. She likes that he's

1229
01:07:38,160 --> 01:07:40,640
Speaker 1: a little flirty and a little physically flirty, but not

1230
01:07:40,680 --> 01:07:44,200
Speaker 1: too much. She likes that. So and that's the problem. Well,

1231
01:07:44,240 --> 01:07:46,320
Speaker 1: we all like that, we all like attention in that way,

1232
01:07:46,520 --> 01:07:48,840
Speaker 1: not from not from a guy with the girl, imagine

1233
01:07:49,040 --> 01:07:54,520
Speaker 1: a girlfriend. Yeah, it's just not good. No, I'd be like,

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01:07:55,200 --> 01:07:59,480
Speaker 1: don't touch me. What's your girlfriend's Instagram? Because I'm gonna

1235
01:07:59,520 --> 01:08:03,520
Speaker 1: let her know. Oh, there was this. There was a

1236
01:08:03,560 --> 01:08:06,480
Speaker 1: post in the Facebook group about uh. I don't know

1237
01:08:06,480 --> 01:08:10,320
Speaker 1: if any of y'all saw it, but basically, um one

1238
01:08:10,360 --> 01:08:13,560
Speaker 1: of this a girl that's a scrubber, her friend her

1239
01:08:13,920 --> 01:08:15,960
Speaker 1: the guy and the girl are both like good friends

1240
01:08:15,960 --> 01:08:20,960
Speaker 1: of hers, and she found out that the female is

1241
01:08:21,040 --> 01:08:24,800
Speaker 1: having a cheating on the fiance and they're supposed to

1242
01:08:24,800 --> 01:08:26,439
Speaker 1: get married, and she decided she's just going to go

1243
01:08:26,479 --> 01:08:30,000
Speaker 1: through with the wedding, and so the scrubber was asking, like,

1244
01:08:30,040 --> 01:08:32,360
Speaker 1: I don't know what to do because they're both my friends,

1245
01:08:32,400 --> 01:08:33,760
Speaker 1: Like do I just stay out of it? Do I

1246
01:08:33,840 --> 01:08:35,880
Speaker 1: take myself out of the wedding and hope that she,

1247
01:08:37,000 --> 01:08:39,920
Speaker 1: you know, eventually that forces her to tell him, because

1248
01:08:39,960 --> 01:08:43,960
Speaker 1: he asked, like, why are y'all not friends? You know?

1249
01:08:44,439 --> 01:08:46,320
Speaker 1: I was like, that is tough. There was a lot

1250
01:08:46,360 --> 01:08:49,800
Speaker 1: of mixed reviews on like people saying saying, stay out

1251
01:08:49,840 --> 01:08:52,120
Speaker 1: of it, it's not your relationship, and then people saying

1252
01:08:52,520 --> 01:08:54,719
Speaker 1: you should let him know so that his life isn't

1253
01:08:55,439 --> 01:09:00,760
Speaker 1: you know, ruined by this girl. She's friends with both

1254
01:09:00,760 --> 01:09:04,840
Speaker 1: of them, she's both of them. I would encourage my

1255
01:09:04,920 --> 01:09:08,240
Speaker 1: girlfriend to tell the guy that she's been I think

1256
01:09:08,280 --> 01:09:10,240
Speaker 1: she did. I think she's told her and she said,

1257
01:09:10,240 --> 01:09:12,080
Speaker 1: I don't care. I think she's just kind of she's

1258
01:09:12,120 --> 01:09:15,640
Speaker 1: pretty casual about her from what she said. I was

1259
01:09:15,680 --> 01:09:18,439
Speaker 1: in this very situation a number of years ago, um

1260
01:09:18,439 --> 01:09:21,559
Speaker 1: where the guy was cheating on the girl and they

1261
01:09:21,560 --> 01:09:23,800
Speaker 1: were in a very serious relationship, and I was friends

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Speaker 1: with both of them, and I remember talking to someone else,

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01:09:26,080 --> 01:09:28,080
Speaker 1: come like, God, I feel like I should I should

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01:09:28,080 --> 01:09:31,080
Speaker 1: tell her because she thinks this is this great guy

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01:09:31,120 --> 01:09:33,840
Speaker 1: and he's acting like a piece of garbage and and

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01:09:34,200 --> 01:09:37,799
Speaker 1: I understood It's like this wasn't my place. I figured

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01:09:38,439 --> 01:09:41,360
Speaker 1: it will come out, like it will resolve itself, you know,

1268
01:09:41,439 --> 01:09:44,240
Speaker 1: because these things always do. And that that was almost

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01:09:44,360 --> 01:09:46,760
Speaker 1: a decade ago and they're still married, and it doesn't

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01:09:46,760 --> 01:09:48,560
Speaker 1: seem like it ever came out. And so maybe that

1271
01:09:48,640 --> 01:09:53,040
Speaker 1: secret dies with me. Who knows. God then that was

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01:09:53,040 --> 01:09:55,840
Speaker 1: in the pot. Did you like kind of remove yourself

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01:09:55,880 --> 01:09:58,320
Speaker 1: from the friendship or did everything just stay normal. I

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01:09:58,520 --> 01:10:01,360
Speaker 1: distanced myself definitely from the dude because I was like,

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01:10:01,600 --> 01:10:03,280
Speaker 1: I told him, I was like, this is this is

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01:10:03,320 --> 01:10:08,000
Speaker 1: horrible and uh, and you should tell Monica what you're

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01:10:08,040 --> 01:10:11,000
Speaker 1: doing and uh, but he he didn't want to hear it.

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01:10:11,040 --> 01:10:12,880
Speaker 1: And so I'm not his friend anymore and I don't

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01:10:12,880 --> 01:10:15,280
Speaker 1: talk to her very much. Uh, they seem very happy.

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01:10:15,280 --> 01:10:16,880
Speaker 1: If all him on Instagram. It seems like we're having

1281
01:10:16,880 --> 01:10:21,920
Speaker 1: a nice time. Wow. I know, it's weird. It's like

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01:10:22,040 --> 01:10:24,200
Speaker 1: you and I know we always have a kind of

1283
01:10:24,200 --> 01:10:27,479
Speaker 1: differing opinions on different relationship advice of like when to

1284
01:10:27,560 --> 01:10:30,120
Speaker 1: stay out and when to speak up. But I do

1285
01:10:30,200 --> 01:10:33,360
Speaker 1: think it's it would say a lot without you saying

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01:10:33,360 --> 01:10:35,640
Speaker 1: anything if you backed out of the wedding and said, like,

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01:10:36,000 --> 01:10:37,320
Speaker 1: I'm not going to be a part of it, I

1288
01:10:37,320 --> 01:10:41,360
Speaker 1: don't support it, And it almost would force her to

1289
01:10:41,439 --> 01:10:43,439
Speaker 1: answer the question that he would have of why that

1290
01:10:43,520 --> 01:10:48,160
Speaker 1: happened without you having to be the one to tell

1291
01:10:49,400 --> 01:10:51,680
Speaker 1: I don't know. It's one of those where I go,

1292
01:10:52,840 --> 01:10:58,840
Speaker 1: I'm not a professional, seek professional advice or listen to

1293
01:10:58,880 --> 01:11:07,160
Speaker 1: Easton it's essentially professional advice. Um. Well, on that note,

1294
01:11:07,520 --> 01:11:10,200
Speaker 1: I'm gonna go sit and think for fifteen minutes about

1295
01:11:10,200 --> 01:11:13,519
Speaker 1: what my future looks like. I wait to put that

1296
01:11:13,600 --> 01:11:16,680
Speaker 1: in my calendar every day, my future fifteen And you

1297
01:11:16,680 --> 01:11:18,559
Speaker 1: want to know what's crazy about that? And when he

1298
01:11:18,640 --> 01:11:21,640
Speaker 1: said this, I've actually started to do something with my

1299
01:11:21,720 --> 01:11:24,320
Speaker 1: neighbor Aaron. We both were just kind of talking about

1300
01:11:24,320 --> 01:11:28,519
Speaker 1: how we have a hard time like working in our homes.

1301
01:11:28,560 --> 01:11:30,800
Speaker 1: Now like we can get through the work that we

1302
01:11:30,840 --> 01:11:33,520
Speaker 1: need to do what we can't we're not like inspired

1303
01:11:33,640 --> 01:11:36,599
Speaker 1: to you know what I mean, like push the envelope

1304
01:11:36,640 --> 01:11:39,240
Speaker 1: a little bit. And so we're tag teaming and we're

1305
01:11:39,280 --> 01:11:41,840
Speaker 1: doing we're like like, um, you know, people do like

1306
01:11:41,880 --> 01:11:44,360
Speaker 1: future planning and they have like their like baby classes

1307
01:11:44,400 --> 01:11:48,280
Speaker 1: and stuff where they do lamas class and like future

1308
01:11:48,360 --> 01:11:50,920
Speaker 1: family planning or whatever like that. We're doing future planning

1309
01:11:51,040 --> 01:11:53,320
Speaker 1: and we're keeping each other accountable. We're gonna do it together,

1310
01:11:53,840 --> 01:11:56,040
Speaker 1: um somewhere outside like at like a park or something

1311
01:11:56,080 --> 01:11:59,280
Speaker 1: nearby where we just like carve out like once a

1312
01:11:59,320 --> 01:12:02,680
Speaker 1: week time together holding each other accountable to plan our

1313
01:12:02,680 --> 01:12:07,880
Speaker 1: future for doula classes and stuff. For doula classes and stuff. Rebecca,

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01:12:08,600 --> 01:12:12,920
Speaker 1: Rebecca cool Becca, Yeah, cool Becca, not to be not

1315
01:12:13,040 --> 01:12:19,240
Speaker 1: to be uh confused with me. No, it's very different

1316
01:12:19,280 --> 01:12:30,040
Speaker 1: than you. Yeah, because she's cool, because you're cool. That's great. Yeah, yeah,

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01:12:30,200 --> 01:12:33,360
Speaker 1: very different from you. Becca, you're my best friend. I

1318
01:12:33,360 --> 01:12:36,000
Speaker 1: obviously think you're the coolest person ever. But she has

1319
01:12:36,040 --> 01:12:39,680
Speaker 1: like a different like energy, Like she's very calming and

1320
01:12:39,800 --> 01:12:44,200
Speaker 1: just like cool, and there's like no way for her

1321
01:12:44,240 --> 01:12:46,880
Speaker 1: to dig herself out. So like we could just let

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01:12:46,920 --> 01:12:51,120
Speaker 1: this continue as she tries to explain, but my feelings

1323
01:12:51,200 --> 01:12:57,320
Speaker 1: might get hurt at that point. Um her, when you

1324
01:12:57,360 --> 01:13:01,679
Speaker 1: meet her, you'll understand the energy. Okay, can't wait beca

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01:13:02,000 --> 01:13:06,000
Speaker 1: the dola, the cool cool Beck of the doula. Um. Okay,

1326
01:13:06,000 --> 01:13:08,639
Speaker 1: on that note, we have to go, but I really

1327
01:13:08,640 --> 01:13:12,519
Speaker 1: hope that we see a lot of you this week

1328
01:13:12,840 --> 01:13:16,160
Speaker 1: for the Galantine to Day event. Um, we have some

1329
01:13:16,280 --> 01:13:19,200
Speaker 1: fun guests coming on. We have a best friend competition

1330
01:13:20,160 --> 01:13:24,320
Speaker 1: Tanya and a best friend of hers versus me and

1331
01:13:24,400 --> 01:13:27,720
Speaker 1: a best friend of mine competing for who knows each

1332
01:13:27,720 --> 01:13:30,040
Speaker 1: other best? Oh, that's what we're competing again. I don't

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01:13:30,040 --> 01:13:32,599
Speaker 1: know something I didn't know. I asked like the newly

1334
01:13:32,640 --> 01:13:35,840
Speaker 1: Wed game. I think O type thing I asked for Quel,

1335
01:13:35,960 --> 01:13:38,040
Speaker 1: and I was like, I don't really know what we're

1336
01:13:38,920 --> 01:13:42,680
Speaker 1: gonna be, like the Selina lyrics verse Taylor lyrics. Yeah,

1337
01:13:42,720 --> 01:13:45,960
Speaker 1: I don't know what we're gonna get so great, I'm

1338
01:13:46,000 --> 01:13:49,240
Speaker 1: feeling great about it. Um. Anyways, I hope you all

1339
01:13:49,280 --> 01:13:52,680
Speaker 1: have a wonderful Monday and Tuesday. We'll see you on Wednesday.

1340
01:13:53,040 --> 01:13:55,200
Speaker 1: We love you, guys, Love you. Or maybe I can

1341
01:13:55,280 --> 01:13:58,479
Speaker 1: aske Becca my new best friend, y'all. Probably. I mean,

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01:13:58,560 --> 01:14:00,200
Speaker 1: I don't know how much you told her. You might

1343
01:14:00,240 --> 01:14:03,080
Speaker 1: be able to. I don't know she might know enough

1344
01:14:03,200 --> 01:14:07,599
Speaker 1: to compete if I know you and I know col Becca.

1345
01:14:08,040 --> 01:14:11,320
Speaker 1: She naptily knows the size of my menstrual cup. Okay,

1346
01:14:11,360 --> 01:14:15,280
Speaker 1: well then she okay. On that note, we'll be back

1347
01:14:15,360 --> 01:14:17,599
Speaker 1: next week. Love you all, Love you bye.