WEBVTT - Do You Trust ChatGPT and Artificial Intelligence?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Honey German. My parents are Dominican. I was born

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<v Speaker 1>and raised in New York City. I love sneakers and

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<v Speaker 1>I'm a body positive advoicate. I'm Carolina Bermudez, but I

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<v Speaker 1>was born and raised in Ohio. I'm a wife, a mama,

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<v Speaker 1>and a worker bee. This is life in Spanglish. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to kick things off today and say this, Um,

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<v Speaker 1>this is probably one of the only topics that has

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<v Speaker 1>Honey German and I so completely divided. I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>this is always the case, but this time I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like this one. You're in another country right now, Carolyne, No,

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<v Speaker 1>this one is I mean this one because I am like,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't believe you, of all people are embracing this

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<v Speaker 1>and you are on board. I have never been more

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<v Speaker 1>against something. And by the way, I will tell you, Honey,

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<v Speaker 1>my husband tells me I need to get with the times.

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<v Speaker 1>So thank you. Mark. Listen, we're talking about chat, GPT

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<v Speaker 1>and AI as a whole, and Carolina, this is a big, big,

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<v Speaker 1>big deal. Like I don't know if our listeners are

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<v Speaker 1>you know, hip to what's going on right now, but

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<v Speaker 1>this is this new right now. It's a website that

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<v Speaker 1>you can use, and you go in there and it'll

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<v Speaker 1>answer questions for you, it'll write an essay for you,

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<v Speaker 1>it'll summarize some documents for you. It can even write software.

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<v Speaker 1>But here's the kicker, Carolina. This AI doesn't even know

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<v Speaker 1>what's true, so you can't really rely on it for

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<v Speaker 1>important things. But I feel like it's it's a tool

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<v Speaker 1>that humans can use and can benefit from, but you're

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<v Speaker 1>not here for it at all. I German, have you

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<v Speaker 1>ever seen the terminator Babe Arnold with Arnold? Yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>he was like a killer. He wasn't helping. Now, the

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<v Speaker 1>machines took over, the robots took over. In this is

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<v Speaker 1>where we are headed, ladies and gentlemen. I have never

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<v Speaker 1>been more against artificial intelligence AI, chat GPT. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>care what you call it. It is wrong, wrong, wrong.

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<v Speaker 1>So here's what happened. I had a friend that recommended

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<v Speaker 1>that I sign up for chat GPT, and normally, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what, in our industry, you gotta be on it,

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<v Speaker 1>right because like, of course they were like you, oh

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<v Speaker 1>you don't you don't know about this way you've been.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like a shame not to be on top of

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<v Speaker 1>everything digital or social media savvy well, and you also

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<v Speaker 1>can lose your name. So like with all of these

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<v Speaker 1>things like remember a clubhouse, like any new oh yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>you gotta park your name exactly any new thing. So

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<v Speaker 1>my friend recommended to me. He's like, hey, you know

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<v Speaker 1>you should try this chat GPT because it could really

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<v Speaker 1>help you, like producing your show and doing this and that.

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<v Speaker 1>And I said, okay, I'm open. And I had no

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<v Speaker 1>idea what he was talking about. So I opened it

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<v Speaker 1>up and I said, now, wait a damn minute, this

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<v Speaker 1>is not some I robot stuff. Remember I robot with

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<v Speaker 1>Will Smith. Yeah, okay, this is where we are headed,

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<v Speaker 1>you guys, So Chad GPT and I will tell you

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<v Speaker 1>I did not even explore it. Honey, is going to

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<v Speaker 1>have to tell you more about it. I actually erased

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<v Speaker 1>it from my history. I was like, I want nothing,

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<v Speaker 1>I do not track me. You said, I'm never going back.

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<v Speaker 1>I am never going back because this is what is happening,

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<v Speaker 1>and especially in our industry, honey, which I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>if you have heard, but there are tests right now

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<v Speaker 1>that are happening as we speak, where there are programmers

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<v Speaker 1>for radio companies across the country that are experimenting with

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<v Speaker 1>AI and basically having them do the breaks and be

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<v Speaker 1>the imfort like, so we we are radio disc jockeys

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<v Speaker 1>like back in the now. That's that's different. Okay, Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>now you don't want it? Okay, whoa now, No, now

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<v Speaker 1>I don't want it. It was all good when he

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<v Speaker 1>could write essays from me, but talk to me. What

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<v Speaker 1>are they trying to do? There's so basically chat JBT

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<v Speaker 1>From what I know, it's like you can basically put

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<v Speaker 1>any subject in there. And it's actually becoming a problem

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<v Speaker 1>for universities because the technology and the software is so

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<v Speaker 1>good that you can't tell if a human wrote it. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so that's number one. That's the number one thing. But

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<v Speaker 1>you know, as I was telling you before, these radio companies,

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<v Speaker 1>because radio now, they are trying to trim the fat

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<v Speaker 1>in any way they can, and that means layoffs. That

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<v Speaker 1>means less people save money, jobs to save money. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>And so in anywhere Pocatella, Idaho, if you are in

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<v Speaker 1>any state in this country and you want to listen

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<v Speaker 1>to your local radio station, you'll turn on the local

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<v Speaker 1>radio station and you'll hear your afternoon drive person or

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<v Speaker 1>your morning show person, and they're going to be telling

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<v Speaker 1>you what's going on in the community. The experiments that

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<v Speaker 1>they are doing now, and this is real talk. It

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<v Speaker 1>happened at CES. They are trying to see if artificial elligence,

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<v Speaker 1>this AI, can take the place of a real human

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<v Speaker 1>and give you the news that you need for your area,

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<v Speaker 1>tell you what the next song is that's coming up.

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<v Speaker 1>They are experimenting with voices like mine. They're literally taking

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<v Speaker 1>people's voices and trying to formulate it so that you

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<v Speaker 1>can't tell that it's an actual robot that is speaking

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<v Speaker 1>to you. But you know what, it's not going to happen, Carolyn.

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<v Speaker 1>It can happen if they want something very cut and dry,

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<v Speaker 1>very robotic, with no emotional intelligence, no human thought process,

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<v Speaker 1>then it can happen. But I doubt very much that

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<v Speaker 1>humans as a whole can be replaced, specially in radio. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>you know the thing is, I am a big, big

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<v Speaker 1>advocate for keeping real, live people on the ARA, but Honey,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm telling you this is the direction that we are

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<v Speaker 1>headed in. Not only that I've done more research on

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<v Speaker 1>this because the AI thing just really truly terrifies me,

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<v Speaker 1>and I have been hearing that now they are going

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<v Speaker 1>to begin experimenting on how to have AI in schools.

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<v Speaker 1>So where are we going to end it? That's the thing.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like, once it gets started, where does it end.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think it's going to end. Carolina. This is

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<v Speaker 1>a big deal and this is actually the way of

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<v Speaker 1>the future. Anyone that even rejects the notion of AI

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<v Speaker 1>being the future or being something that we need to

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<v Speaker 1>be using right now is being looked at as you know,

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<v Speaker 1>you're antiquated, you're not progressing with the times. It's just

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<v Speaker 1>it's big business. Microsoft. They pledged to invest one billion

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<v Speaker 1>dollars into open AI. This tells you pretty much where

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<v Speaker 1>corporations are headed. But I feel like, as humans, we

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<v Speaker 1>still have a voice to fight back. Well, that's what

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<v Speaker 1>Mark was telling me. My husband and I were talking

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<v Speaker 1>about it because I am very anti technology in schools.

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<v Speaker 1>I wish that we could go back to books with

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<v Speaker 1>a pencil and notebooks and things like that. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>my sons have iPads and chromebooks and it is over

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<v Speaker 1>it's but you know what it isn't though, So my

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<v Speaker 1>kids every time they come home, I'm trying to fight

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<v Speaker 1>the good fight to keep them off the screen. So

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<v Speaker 1>what's the first thing that they do mom, I have homework,

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<v Speaker 1>they open up their iPad from school, or they open

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<v Speaker 1>up their Chromebook from school. Everything is on the Google classroom.

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<v Speaker 1>And in my mind, I'm thinking, why can't we just

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<v Speaker 1>get a sheet of paper that says what the requirements

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<v Speaker 1>are for your assignments today? This is the move that

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<v Speaker 1>we're making, right And so my husband and I were

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<v Speaker 1>having a conversation about it, and I said to Mark,

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<v Speaker 1>I said, this is really counterproductive for me because when

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<v Speaker 1>the kids come home, they've been on these screens basically

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<v Speaker 1>all day, and then they come home and I'm trying

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<v Speaker 1>to keep them off the screens, but the first thing

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<v Speaker 1>that they do is they get on the screens. Right.

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<v Speaker 1>I just I feel like there's no balance. I think

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<v Speaker 1>that we are all becoming so tech driven and tech

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<v Speaker 1>addicted that this is not going to be good for

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<v Speaker 1>this next generation of people, or you know, even the

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<v Speaker 1>generation that comes after it. I do understand it's innovative,

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<v Speaker 1>it's exciting, we have to evolve, But then there's a

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<v Speaker 1>certain part to me that thinks I think that we

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<v Speaker 1>are biting off more than we can chew. There was

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<v Speaker 1>an article in the New York Times about a guy

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<v Speaker 1>that was chatting with the AI robot, and the robot

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<v Speaker 1>basically was saying, did you read this article, honey, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>gonna send it to you. This guy was scared after

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<v Speaker 1>he got off of this chat with this um this robot.

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<v Speaker 1>It said, I want to get out of here. I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like I love you. I swear it was having

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<v Speaker 1>to stop Nomento. I'm telling you, that's what I So

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<v Speaker 1>when people think, oh, what's the big deal, We're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>need to have more technology, We're gonna need to do this,

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<v Speaker 1>what we're doing is we are eliminating work. We are.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna I'm gonna bring up one thing, um the

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<v Speaker 1>postal service, right, you know your postal carrier comes every

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<v Speaker 1>single day, they leave something in your mailbox. U. Now

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<v Speaker 1>they are trying to test these robots. Come on. I've

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<v Speaker 1>seen that, like when they'd be like, oh, do you

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<v Speaker 1>want a robot to bring your package from Target? I

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<v Speaker 1>don't think that's ever gonna be a thing care only

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<v Speaker 1>where we're surrounded by robots. I saw this show called

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<v Speaker 1>Better than Us on Netflix and it's like you were

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<v Speaker 1>able to buy a robot to be part of your family.

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<v Speaker 1>That was kind of scary. And then the main character robot.

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<v Speaker 1>Then she started developing feelings for the family and it

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<v Speaker 1>gets kind of spicy. You gotta watch that's some Jetson's ish.

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<v Speaker 1>Now I'm gonna ask you again, honey, when's the last

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<v Speaker 1>time you were in Vegas? Um? A couple of years ago,

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<v Speaker 1>probably four or five years ago. Yeah, yeah, be pretty pandemic.

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<v Speaker 1>I haven't been in a while. My girlfriend went for

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<v Speaker 1>a conference and she stayed I think, oh my gosh.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't quote me on this, but I think it was

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<v Speaker 1>the Aria Hotel. Oh, she got money, her company, any money.

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<v Speaker 1>She was like, hey, girl, do you want to come

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<v Speaker 1>with me? And you know I'm gonna go to Vegas

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<v Speaker 1>and do this and that and everything. And I said,

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<v Speaker 1>oh no, yeb I can't you know I'm working. She

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<v Speaker 1>was like, girl, when you order room service, it isn't

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<v Speaker 1>even a person anymore. It is a machine that keeps

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<v Speaker 1>your food hot. It is in a little container. The

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<v Speaker 1>machine goes to the elevator on its own, gets on

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<v Speaker 1>that elevator, gets out on your floor and brings you

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<v Speaker 1>your food. Again, don't quote me on the hotel. I'll

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<v Speaker 1>have to ask her again which one it was. But

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<v Speaker 1>I said, you mean to tell me you did not

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<v Speaker 1>interact with a person, She said, no, whoever it is

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<v Speaker 1>that's working, you know in the hospitality, like in the

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<v Speaker 1>food department, they program these machines robo butlers. They are

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<v Speaker 1>robo butlers. I don't know that's different. So she opened

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<v Speaker 1>the door and there was like a robot with food. Yeah. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>And then it comes in. It opens its drawer, the

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<v Speaker 1>food is there, You get your food out, you close

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<v Speaker 1>the drawer, and it goes right back out, like out

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<v Speaker 1>the door and out the door. This out the door.

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<v Speaker 1>It knows where to go. And that's what I'm saying though.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like that's a job that could be filled by

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<v Speaker 1>anyone if you think about it. And now we're eliminating

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<v Speaker 1>that job, and somebody is now out of a job

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<v Speaker 1>because that robot has the ability and the capacity to

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<v Speaker 1>deliver more meals. Do you know that that robot doesn't

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<v Speaker 1>need a break, doesn't need a lunch hour. That is

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<v Speaker 1>something that is very true. It's not if you can

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<v Speaker 1>work this robot to death, that robot doesn't need a union.

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<v Speaker 1>It does, you know what I mean? Like, these are

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<v Speaker 1>all things this robot. I'm not gonna be tired talk

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<v Speaker 1>about hungry talk about I gotta get my bunnians operated

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<v Speaker 1>on tomorrow back in the three months. I know what

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<v Speaker 1>you're saying, absolutely, and you know what, We're going to

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<v Speaker 1>dive into this more right off when we take a break.

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<v Speaker 1>But you know, there are certain jobs Carolina that are

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<v Speaker 1>definitely in danger. At Number one is anything that is

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<v Speaker 1>a repetitive task, anything that you know, doesn't require a

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<v Speaker 1>brain per se, not meaning to be offensive, but data entry.

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<v Speaker 1>Those jobs are going to be gone. Those jobs are

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<v Speaker 1>going to belong to AI. Also, assembly line work. I

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<v Speaker 1>always see video of like robots do an assembly line work.

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<v Speaker 1>Those jobs are definitely in danger. Well, you know, the

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<v Speaker 1>thing that I think that was very concerning to me

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<v Speaker 1>was when I started hearing about the potential for educators

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<v Speaker 1>to begin using these because I just think that we

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<v Speaker 1>are so disconnected as a society already. I think the

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<v Speaker 1>pandemic had a lot to do with it. We talked

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<v Speaker 1>about this before, honey, where it's like, you know, people

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<v Speaker 1>are lonely, they've they've stopped interacting with people. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>there's not that human connection that we had before. And

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<v Speaker 1>I think that it got worse obviously throughout the pandemic,

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<v Speaker 1>and now we're coming out of it, people are like,

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<v Speaker 1>we outside, Yes, we are outside. But now these companies

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<v Speaker 1>who have taken a hit throughout the past four five

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<v Speaker 1>years are not looking a streamline or they're looking for

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<v Speaker 1>ways that they can keep their money but also keep

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<v Speaker 1>delivering whatever it is that you know their company offers.

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<v Speaker 1>And so I understand it from a business perspective, but

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<v Speaker 1>from a human perspective, I think it's really concerning, like

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<v Speaker 1>are you going to have a robot when your kid

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<v Speaker 1>says that they have a you know, a rumbling tummy

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<v Speaker 1>or their throat isn't feeling well, Like how would a

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<v Speaker 1>child or even a young adult be able to express that?

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<v Speaker 1>You know what I mean? I think that there is

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<v Speaker 1>just there's something here about it that is just not

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<v Speaker 1>right to me. I want you to watch that show

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<v Speaker 1>better than us because the robot, the main character evers,

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<v Speaker 1>she tried to steal the whole family. She used to

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<v Speaker 1>take kid to Kids Carolina like better than the mom,

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<v Speaker 1>Like she was making a mom look crazy out here. What. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>it's a Russian show, but it's it. I loved it.

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<v Speaker 1>I watched it a couple of months ago, but it

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<v Speaker 1>came to mind. But also in that same show, there

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<v Speaker 1>was the anti AI people, which are revolting. They were

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<v Speaker 1>killing the robots. They were letting the government know we

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<v Speaker 1>not here for it. They're taking our jobs. We don't

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<v Speaker 1>want it. So it is a big divide when it

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<v Speaker 1>comes to AI, and I think, well, I think it

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<v Speaker 1>can be helpful. That's the weird part, because I'm here

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<v Speaker 1>for it, you know, answering questions, you know, summarizing a

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<v Speaker 1>document for me. You know, even though it's not always right, Carolyn,

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<v Speaker 1>because I sent you, I asked chat GPT who I was, girl,

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<v Speaker 1>They gave me a whole other job. They said I

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<v Speaker 1>was working in Latin radio for like five years. They

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<v Speaker 1>said I was born in the Bronx. So it's not

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<v Speaker 1>really that reliable because it doesn't know what's true. It

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<v Speaker 1>just picks up little bits and pieces from the Internet.

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<v Speaker 1>So you're still gonna need a human You're still gonna

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<v Speaker 1>be baby. It's in its infancy right now, and Carolyn's

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<v Speaker 1>I guess coming, but just telling girl, no, I'm serious,

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<v Speaker 1>And I don't want to be one of those people

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<v Speaker 1>that because then and I guess after a while, when

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<v Speaker 1>you become used to it, I would be one of

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<v Speaker 1>the naysayers, right but they're perfecting it now chat and

0:14:58.400 --> 0:15:01.600
<v Speaker 1>GPT like they've already done an update for it. I mean,

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<v Speaker 1>there are things that are happening behind the scenes that

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<v Speaker 1>we are unaware of that we really need to wake

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<v Speaker 1>up and think about. Like, for example, I was reading

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<v Speaker 1>something where it said that farmers farmers could actually really

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<v Speaker 1>benefit from AI, and I think that's true. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>if you look at what is going on around the world,

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<v Speaker 1>that's say, Okay, there are a ton of farmers. And

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<v Speaker 1>by the way, the only reason why I know this

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<v Speaker 1>is because there's a show on TV called Farmer Wants

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<v Speaker 1>a Wife and we were talking about it and I

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<v Speaker 1>started to do a deep dive into this. But who

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<v Speaker 1>wants to be a farmer anymore, honey, unless it's something

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<v Speaker 1>that was passed down for generations in your family. And

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<v Speaker 1>even then, a lot of people have been walking away

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<v Speaker 1>from the industry because they just it's not sustainable. They

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<v Speaker 1>don't have the ability to keep it up anymore. So

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<v Speaker 1>that's an instance where people say, wow, a I could

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<v Speaker 1>really help. You know, you could get these machines out

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<v Speaker 1>there and they could do the work where people were

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<v Speaker 1>laboring before, and you just can't get people to do it. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>so that yes, beneficial, wonderful Carolina. We can't have AI

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<v Speaker 1>help the farmers. A lot of Latinos that migrate, that's

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<v Speaker 1>where they start. We need these jobs for our Latinos. Okay,

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<v Speaker 1>Well no, I yell, but that's where where do we

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<v Speaker 1>draw the line. Oh and then you know Disney Plus.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know if you've seen this. My kids watched

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<v Speaker 1>Disney Plus all the time. And there's a kid's movie

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<v Speaker 1>it's called Ron's Gone Wrong and it's about this robot.

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<v Speaker 1>The robot catches feelings, it doesn't follow the algorithm that

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<v Speaker 1>was set up. This is kind of similar to that

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<v Speaker 1>article that I was telling you about where the developer,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry it was, I forget if it was the interviewer. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>the interviewer was chatting with the robot, and even he

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<v Speaker 1>said it started to freak him out a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>because these AI programs and these robots are not supposed

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<v Speaker 1>to catch feelings or develop feelings, or understand sensitivity and

0:17:00.040 --> 0:17:03.320
<v Speaker 1>all of these human emotions. And even he was taken

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<v Speaker 1>aback after it and said, I really think that we

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<v Speaker 1>need to take a step back, and we may be

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<v Speaker 1>playing with fire. We out here getting creepy experiences with ais.

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<v Speaker 1>Imagine we started dating these mother Well, wasn't there that

0:17:16.960 --> 0:17:19.760
<v Speaker 1>movie remember, Like I think it was Ryan Gosling or something.

0:17:19.880 --> 0:17:21.840
<v Speaker 1>Was it Ryan Gosling that fell in love with like

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<v Speaker 1>it was like a doll or something. Oh my gosh,

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<v Speaker 1>why is it escaping me right now? This happens to

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<v Speaker 1>us all the time when we're talking. But that is

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<v Speaker 1>what we are looking at. Where we are going to

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<v Speaker 1>be going in this direction. And now let's be honest here.

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<v Speaker 1>There are a lot of people who are addicted to

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<v Speaker 1>you know, porn and you know, talking in chat rooms

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<v Speaker 1>and only fans and things like that. Okay, this is

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<v Speaker 1>just it was Lars and the Real Girl. Yes, yes,

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<v Speaker 1>that was it. If you never saw that movie, Oh

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<v Speaker 1>oh wow, what is this? Let me see? Yes, this

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<v Speaker 1>is the type of stuff that I'm talking about. And

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<v Speaker 1>I've already said it is so hard for people to

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<v Speaker 1>connect on a human level right now, and this is

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<v Speaker 1>the wave that is going to be happening if we

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<v Speaker 1>don't all stop and think about what the future can be.

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<v Speaker 1>I know people are probably disagreeing with me right now.

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<v Speaker 1>You guys probably think I'm crazy, but I just I'm

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<v Speaker 1>not here for it. I'm not here for people dating

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<v Speaker 1>anything that's not a human. I'm looking at this movie

0:18:23.440 --> 0:18:25.760
<v Speaker 1>poster for Lars and the Real Girl. This looks creepy

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<v Speaker 1>as hell, Carolina, you know. And sometimes I watch I

0:18:31.240 --> 0:18:33.720
<v Speaker 1>watch something on Netflix where they create like these sex

0:18:33.760 --> 0:18:37.480
<v Speaker 1>dolls for people that cost like fifteen twenty thousand dollars.

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<v Speaker 1>That's not normal, And I'm not here for y'all use

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<v Speaker 1>an AI to replace human interaction or human sex, because

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<v Speaker 1>now I'm just slightly disgusted. Well, I'm telling you, I

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<v Speaker 1>think that this is one of those things where yes, like,

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<v Speaker 1>oh it's great, it helps me because I don't have

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<v Speaker 1>time to do a post on social media right now,

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<v Speaker 1>or yeah, like it'll be come up with a million captions.

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<v Speaker 1>Carolina companies use this. They enter what they're doing when

0:19:00.160 --> 0:19:02.919
<v Speaker 1>we're given away, you know, scarves at three pm, Boom,

0:19:03.080 --> 0:19:05.639
<v Speaker 1>enter it there. It'll give you like twenty different captions.

0:19:06.320 --> 0:19:09.480
<v Speaker 1>And if you're someone that's into let's sake, social media,

0:19:09.560 --> 0:19:12.320
<v Speaker 1>digital marketing or anything like that, it can be a

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<v Speaker 1>tool that you can use. But then again, the people

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<v Speaker 1>that used to write the captions are going to be

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<v Speaker 1>out of a job. So I'm just conflicted. I love

0:19:22.160 --> 0:19:24.520
<v Speaker 1>it for me, but I don't love what it can

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<v Speaker 1>do for others. I don't like it. Carolyn is like, listen,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't like that ship at Ome. Who stop, I'm

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<v Speaker 1>singing for you guys today because I really don't like it.

0:19:34.920 --> 0:19:36.960
<v Speaker 1>But wait, you want to hear how paranoid I was.

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<v Speaker 1>My friend told me, he was like, just put it,

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<v Speaker 1>just give your I didn't even put my information, and

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<v Speaker 1>I did not go past the first thing where it

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<v Speaker 1>says log in, sign in, like sign up, No, don't

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<v Speaker 1>sign up. Nope, not me. I am not trying to

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<v Speaker 1>do this. I don't want them to have my information.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think any of this is gonna be good

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<v Speaker 1>for me. Well, look, you know what I think that

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<v Speaker 1>for You work on the digital side of things, and

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<v Speaker 1>you've always been way more advanced than I am. I

0:20:05.359 --> 0:20:10.320
<v Speaker 1>think that perhaps we're looking at it just from our perspective. Yeah,

0:20:10.320 --> 0:20:13.840
<v Speaker 1>for sure, because I can understand you wanting your kids

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<v Speaker 1>teachers to still use a pen and paper. I can

0:20:16.760 --> 0:20:19.000
<v Speaker 1>understand you're wanting them to write, you know what I'm saying,

0:20:19.320 --> 0:20:21.920
<v Speaker 1>not use an iPad. I brought up this point many

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<v Speaker 1>times before on this podcast, and it's a real fact

0:20:26.440 --> 0:20:30.280
<v Speaker 1>that there are schools in Silicon Valley that do not

0:20:30.760 --> 0:20:34.159
<v Speaker 1>use any type of technology like that, where they have

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<v Speaker 1>gone back because the programmers and the people who are

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<v Speaker 1>creating these things know the damage that it can do

0:20:40.160 --> 0:20:43.080
<v Speaker 1>to a child. They know the damage, but yet they're

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<v Speaker 1>putting it out to the masses. And that's something where

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<v Speaker 1>I feel like, do I want my kid to be

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<v Speaker 1>the only one who doesn't know how to use this stuff? No?

0:20:52.000 --> 0:20:54.960
<v Speaker 1>But do I want there to be a balance? Absolutely?

0:20:55.200 --> 0:20:57.560
<v Speaker 1>You know. That's where Mark, my husband, was trying to

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<v Speaker 1>reason with me. He said, Look, this is the way

0:20:59.680 --> 0:21:02.359
<v Speaker 1>of the world. You have to evolve. How do you

0:21:02.400 --> 0:21:05.439
<v Speaker 1>think that people lived in the Industrial Revolution? They were

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<v Speaker 1>like machines. Machines are going to take over. So I

0:21:08.000 --> 0:21:09.920
<v Speaker 1>do get it. I get that I'm a little bit

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<v Speaker 1>old fashioned. I may be stuck in the past, or

0:21:12.960 --> 0:21:15.720
<v Speaker 1>I may be hanging onto the past. But I also

0:21:15.760 --> 0:21:18.040
<v Speaker 1>think that like, once we dive head into these things,

0:21:18.200 --> 0:21:21.400
<v Speaker 1>you truly just don't know where it could end up.

0:21:22.040 --> 0:21:25.160
<v Speaker 1>That's a fact. But I could tell you this much, Carolina,

0:21:25.440 --> 0:21:29.520
<v Speaker 1>AI will never have emotional intelligence. That's something we possess,

0:21:29.800 --> 0:21:33.199
<v Speaker 1>so creativity, critical thinking. I guess we all have to

0:21:33.200 --> 0:21:36.520
<v Speaker 1>bring that to the forefront and always in our employment

0:21:36.800 --> 0:21:39.600
<v Speaker 1>or wherever our bosses are, we have to let them know. Listen,

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<v Speaker 1>AI can't do what I do. You can try, but

0:21:42.400 --> 0:21:45.400
<v Speaker 1>it can't. No, it certainly can't. And I don't think

0:21:45.440 --> 0:21:48.320
<v Speaker 1>AI understands waking up at three thirty in the morning

0:21:48.359 --> 0:21:50.359
<v Speaker 1>to do a show and connecting with people on a

0:21:50.440 --> 0:21:53.440
<v Speaker 1>daily basis. It's just not the same high. I can't

0:21:53.440 --> 0:21:57.760
<v Speaker 1>take no phone calls listeners. I'll tell you that much.

0:21:58.119 --> 0:22:00.200
<v Speaker 1>It can't. No, you know what, We're gonna take a

0:22:00.200 --> 0:22:07.080
<v Speaker 1>breaking up when we come back. Well, honey, you know

0:22:07.320 --> 0:22:10.800
<v Speaker 1>we agreed to disagree, and that's okay. I still love you.

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<v Speaker 1>But now let's go to the salon and I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>let you take this one over because I want to

0:22:16.280 --> 0:22:20.480
<v Speaker 1>hear what you have to say about our Frank Cordelia. Okay,

0:22:20.480 --> 0:22:23.920
<v Speaker 1>here's what Cordelia. I want to call her Cordelia. Cordelia says,

0:22:23.960 --> 0:22:27.080
<v Speaker 1>a long time listener since season one. I hope this

0:22:27.160 --> 0:22:29.320
<v Speaker 1>letter finds you well. I don't know why that makes

0:22:29.359 --> 0:22:33.960
<v Speaker 1>me feel like Cordelia's locked up or something. Says I

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<v Speaker 1>need advice on a matter that has been weighing heavily

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<v Speaker 1>on my mind. I have been wanting to have a

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<v Speaker 1>baby for quite some time now, and I have made

0:22:41.680 --> 0:22:44.880
<v Speaker 1>it clear to my husband, but unfortunately, after some deep

0:22:44.920 --> 0:22:48.679
<v Speaker 1>discussion that started while we were isolated during COVID, he

0:22:48.840 --> 0:22:55.080
<v Speaker 1>does not share the same desire. She continues to say.

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<v Speaker 1>This has created a lot of tension and uncertainty in

0:22:57.760 --> 0:23:01.000
<v Speaker 1>our relationship, and I am not sure what to do next.

0:23:01.480 --> 0:23:03.639
<v Speaker 1>On one hand, I love my husband and want to

0:23:03.680 --> 0:23:05.840
<v Speaker 1>stay with him, but on the other hand, I feel

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<v Speaker 1>like I might not regret having a child in the future.

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<v Speaker 1>Please help. I would really appreciate any advice you can

0:23:11.440 --> 0:23:18.520
<v Speaker 1>offer on how to navigate this situation. Sa. Wow, this

0:23:18.600 --> 0:23:21.440
<v Speaker 1>is a big one. Do you want to go first

0:23:21.560 --> 0:23:24.239
<v Speaker 1>or do you want me to kind of dive into it.

0:23:24.800 --> 0:23:28.120
<v Speaker 1>You've can dive into it. Oh my heart hurts for you.

0:23:29.480 --> 0:23:33.240
<v Speaker 1>I think these are conversations, unfortunately, that needed to be

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<v Speaker 1>had at the beginning of your relationship. And I know

0:23:37.400 --> 0:23:40.000
<v Speaker 1>that you guys have been together and you've said that

0:23:40.040 --> 0:23:42.880
<v Speaker 1>you've wanted a baby for some time now, and you've

0:23:42.880 --> 0:23:47.879
<v Speaker 1>been clearly communicating that. But when somebody does not share

0:23:47.960 --> 0:23:52.199
<v Speaker 1>that same desire, I feel like you're really really walking

0:23:52.200 --> 0:23:56.560
<v Speaker 1>a fine line there, and I won't say that you

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<v Speaker 1>should end your relationship because you want to have a baby,

0:23:59.800 --> 0:24:01.840
<v Speaker 1>but I think that you guys need to do some

0:24:02.000 --> 0:24:07.000
<v Speaker 1>really deep, deep digging together in therapy to discuss this,

0:24:07.119 --> 0:24:09.639
<v Speaker 1>because you never want to bring a baby or a

0:24:09.720 --> 0:24:12.160
<v Speaker 1>child into the world when the two people who are

0:24:12.760 --> 0:24:18.960
<v Speaker 1>going to be responsible for caring and nurturing and bringing

0:24:19.040 --> 0:24:23.120
<v Speaker 1>up the baby are not in alignment this whole thing.

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<v Speaker 1>And I understand the yearning and the wanting to have

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<v Speaker 1>a child, and I think it's so special, But if

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<v Speaker 1>your partner doesn't want that same thing, I think you

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<v Speaker 1>really really need to have a serious talk with each

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<v Speaker 1>other and see where the rest of your relationship stands.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to know how old she is. I really

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<v Speaker 1>really wish I knew how she was, because she told

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<v Speaker 1>me she's in her twenties. How about a girl, give

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<v Speaker 1>us some time, enjoy your husband, enjoy your life, be

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<v Speaker 1>a little freaky, have a threesome, travel a little, just

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<v Speaker 1>give us some time, Give some time, just enjoy your

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<v Speaker 1>partner right now. And maybe you know people are still

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<v Speaker 1>having kids and their forty even in their fifties with

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<v Speaker 1>IVF and stuff like that. So if you love your

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<v Speaker 1>husband and it just feels perfect. Don't throw away the

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<v Speaker 1>whole entire marriage because at this moment he does not

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<v Speaker 1>want a child. You never know things might change. When

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<v Speaker 1>I met my husband, he never getting married, he never

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<v Speaker 1>wanted a child, and then later on things changed because

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<v Speaker 1>he changed as a man. So if you really, if

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<v Speaker 1>you feel like this is your soulmate, you have to wait.

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<v Speaker 1>It's my soulmate more important than having a child, Like

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<v Speaker 1>do you want to be a mom? Or are you okay?

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<v Speaker 1>We just live. I love my life. It's me and

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<v Speaker 1>my husband. We don't have kids, and Carolina, I don't

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<v Speaker 1>be like, oh I miss kids. You can't miss what

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<v Speaker 1>you never had. And you know having kids is important

0:25:43.600 --> 0:25:46.240
<v Speaker 1>for some women. It just feels like you're not complete

0:25:46.280 --> 0:25:48.720
<v Speaker 1>if you don't have a child. But I'm here to

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<v Speaker 1>tell you your marriage can feel like a family. If

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<v Speaker 1>that is your soulmate and you love and adore this

0:25:55.520 --> 0:25:58.520
<v Speaker 1>person and he loves and adores you back, don't lose

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<v Speaker 1>that because of your desire to have a kid. It

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<v Speaker 1>should be about I want to have I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>happiness for the rest of my life because I know

0:26:08.200 --> 0:26:11.040
<v Speaker 1>people that have been divorced. Carolina once twice, three times,

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<v Speaker 1>they never find love again. If this your guy, don't

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<v Speaker 1>mess it up, give it a little bit of time,

0:26:16.200 --> 0:26:19.440
<v Speaker 1>he might come around. Well, you know. And there are

0:26:19.560 --> 0:26:23.800
<v Speaker 1>couples who have spoken about being childless, like just I

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<v Speaker 1>feel like it was a couple of months ago where

0:26:25.560 --> 0:26:27.919
<v Speaker 1>Seth Rogan was very vocal about how he and his

0:26:27.960 --> 0:26:30.320
<v Speaker 1>wife decided that they were just never going to have children.

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<v Speaker 1>I so he decided it. He said that he was

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<v Speaker 1>more successful because he didn't have children, something to that effect,

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<v Speaker 1>right right, well, and also just that their lifestyle, the

0:26:39.160 --> 0:26:43.720
<v Speaker 1>way they like to live, and look that girl. I

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<v Speaker 1>want to be. I want to be able to pick

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<v Speaker 1>up and go to Miami for a month. I don't

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<v Speaker 1>got to worry about my kid being in school, talk

0:26:49.760 --> 0:26:51.480
<v Speaker 1>about he in second grade. We can't travel to this

0:26:51.520 --> 0:26:53.879
<v Speaker 1>kid is on vacation. I want to go, Well, I

0:26:54.000 --> 0:26:55.960
<v Speaker 1>want to go when I want to go Carolina And

0:26:56.400 --> 0:26:58.119
<v Speaker 1>I'd be like, thank God, I don't have no kids.

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<v Speaker 1>Well now, And I think it's a beautiful thing for you,

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<v Speaker 1>you know, but for me, it sounds like I think

0:27:04.200 --> 0:27:07.240
<v Speaker 1>that there is that deep desire for her to have

0:27:07.359 --> 0:27:11.280
<v Speaker 1>a child. Wants a child for sure, So I'm not

0:27:11.359 --> 0:27:14.800
<v Speaker 1>saying and the relationship trash it like whatever, No, not

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<v Speaker 1>at all. What I'm saying is try to get to

0:27:17.680 --> 0:27:19.680
<v Speaker 1>a place where because she said, there's a lot of tension,

0:27:19.840 --> 0:27:21.880
<v Speaker 1>and you know what, it's just so uncomfortable when you

0:27:21.960 --> 0:27:24.600
<v Speaker 1>and your partner aren't aligned like where things are. You know,

0:27:24.680 --> 0:27:27.480
<v Speaker 1>you're rocky. It seems like everything is just setting you

0:27:27.520 --> 0:27:30.040
<v Speaker 1>both off when you guys aren't in sync. And so

0:27:30.119 --> 0:27:31.840
<v Speaker 1>I think that you guys need to strip all of

0:27:31.840 --> 0:27:34.560
<v Speaker 1>it away and say, hey, let's not talk about the

0:27:34.640 --> 0:27:38.000
<v Speaker 1>baby or wanting to have babies at all. Let's talk

0:27:38.000 --> 0:27:41.160
<v Speaker 1>about our relationship and our future and where we see

0:27:41.200 --> 0:27:45.680
<v Speaker 1>ourselves in ten, twenty thirty years, you know, and if

0:27:45.680 --> 0:27:48.040
<v Speaker 1>a child or having a family isn't a part of

0:27:48.040 --> 0:27:50.680
<v Speaker 1>that vision and it's something that you truly do want

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<v Speaker 1>and you're going to fight for. You guys are going

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<v Speaker 1>to have to discuss your deal breakers because a husband

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<v Speaker 1>you've already been you're married, you know, obviously, yeah, exactly

0:28:00.440 --> 0:28:04.359
<v Speaker 1>like this potentially should have been discussed prior to being married,

0:28:04.400 --> 0:28:06.439
<v Speaker 1>but now you're in it. So now you guys have

0:28:06.520 --> 0:28:09.800
<v Speaker 1>to do the work. Unfortunately, you know. So I wish

0:28:09.880 --> 0:28:11.840
<v Speaker 1>you guys nothing but the best, and listen, to what

0:28:11.880 --> 0:28:14.520
<v Speaker 1>Honey said. For some couples, it really is, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>a great thing when you guys can be on the

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<v Speaker 1>same page about having a family or not having a family.

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<v Speaker 1>There are benefits to having children, and there are benefits

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<v Speaker 1>to not having children, you know, but you guys are

0:28:25.200 --> 0:28:28.680
<v Speaker 1>going to have to explore that together. Carolina. You know

0:28:28.720 --> 0:28:32.320
<v Speaker 1>what my mom told me. What she said, you want

0:28:32.320 --> 0:28:34.399
<v Speaker 1>to know what my deepest regret in life is? And

0:28:34.400 --> 0:28:38.160
<v Speaker 1>I said what, And she said, having children? Stop it?

0:28:38.200 --> 0:28:42.600
<v Speaker 1>No she did not. Oh my gosh, Honey German Carolina. Yes,

0:28:43.560 --> 0:28:46.800
<v Speaker 1>she told me. He said, I didn't pursue my dreams.

0:28:47.240 --> 0:28:49.440
<v Speaker 1>I was never able to do what I wanted to do.

0:28:49.480 --> 0:28:51.840
<v Speaker 1>I was not able to travel the world. She said,

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<v Speaker 1>you made a good decision by not having kids, because

0:28:54.600 --> 0:28:57.280
<v Speaker 1>that's my biggest regret in life. I was a interesting

0:28:57.440 --> 0:29:02.880
<v Speaker 1>SIPs coffee. This lady is ruthless motherfuck wait no, and Honey,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't. And she had five of us and she

0:29:05.000 --> 0:29:08.240
<v Speaker 1>regrets all five. I guess she needs to stop. No,

0:29:08.280 --> 0:29:12.760
<v Speaker 1>you having this one. We gotta bring. I want to

0:29:12.760 --> 0:29:14.600
<v Speaker 1>bring my mom on one day so we can ask

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<v Speaker 1>us some questions. Carol. I want to take her on

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<v Speaker 1>Ayana I want to I want to get deep in,

0:29:18.960 --> 0:29:21.520
<v Speaker 1>I want to under First of all, did you see

0:29:21.560 --> 0:29:24.920
<v Speaker 1>ayanaa talking about she could live a polyamorous life a girl.

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<v Speaker 1>This could go a whole nother direction. Don't go a hole.

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<v Speaker 1>We could wrap Let's just wrap this up. We gotta

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<v Speaker 1>wrap it up. No, after that, that was a micdrop.

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<v Speaker 1>I can't even I have nothing. I got nothing after that,

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<v Speaker 1>But listen, we were see nothing but the best. And

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<v Speaker 1>hopefully if you guys, um you know, can write into

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<v Speaker 1>the salon and let us know. If you guys are

0:29:43.360 --> 0:29:45.440
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