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Speaker 1: Hey guys, I'm Ali and welcome to Bachelor Happy Hour.

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Speaker 1: Rachel couldn't be here this week, which I'm so bummed about,

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Speaker 1: sending them so much love. I hope they're basking in

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Speaker 1: the same without you. But thank you to all of

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Speaker 1: you for tuning in today and for tuning in last

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Speaker 1: week to our podcast with Demi and Nicole. It was

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Speaker 1: really interesting to get Nicole's view on everything that went

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Speaker 1: chat with Demi, it just was really special. I'm so

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Speaker 1: proud of her. She's an inspiration to me, and I

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Speaker 1: know so many others out there, so If you guys

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Speaker 1: because she is just an incredible human being. But today

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Speaker 1: we've got a great podcast for you guys. We are

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Speaker 1: talking to Chris and Crystal. You know, we all saw

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Speaker 1: them get together on last season of Bachelor in Paradise

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Speaker 1: on the podcast today from Matt Stell. If you guys

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Speaker 1: don't know who Matt Stella is, he is an amazing

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Speaker 1: So we're going to talk to him about that, and

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Speaker 1: I'm hearing, unfortunately, I don't ever like to hear that

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Speaker 1: So I'm going to be talking to Crystal and Chris

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Speaker 1: all about that. But first, there's this Hey guys, Okay,

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Speaker 1: we are so excited to have a very special guest

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Speaker 1: going to see Crystal walk down the aisle to Chris.

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Speaker 1: I love weddings. I'm so excited to see it. And

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Speaker 1: joined by singer songwriter Matt Stell and he's the one

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Speaker 1: original music at the wedding. Welcome Matt. Oh, so happy

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Speaker 1: to be here. How y'all doing it? Oh my gosh,

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Speaker 1: so great. So I gotta tell you you're you are

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Speaker 1: mean I've watched I've you know, I've heard your music.

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Speaker 1: So I want to talk about your song Pray for You.

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Speaker 1: What inspired that song? Because I, you know, I've listened

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Speaker 1: So what's going on for you next? What's next for you? Next?

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Speaker 1: For me is a lot of touring. I'm lucky enough

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Speaker 1: in a good place for sure. Okay, Matt, I actually

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Speaker 1: something so special and what I'm so grateful for is

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00:22:36,520 --> 00:22:40,720
Speaker 1: that mine and Chris's first kiss, first I Love You's

431
00:22:41,280 --> 00:22:45,360
Speaker 1: first time meeting is all documented, and that, to me,

432
00:22:45,560 --> 00:22:48,520
Speaker 1: is I really cherish that. Yeah. I talked to actually

433
00:22:48,640 --> 00:22:53,160
Speaker 1: Rachel Lindsay about that. Rachel Lindsay like, hey, you say,

434
00:22:53,200 --> 00:22:55,639
Speaker 1: this is her podcast. Everybody knows who she is. But

435
00:22:55,960 --> 00:22:58,359
Speaker 1: Rachel and I have talked about that about how like

436
00:22:58,440 --> 00:23:00,159
Speaker 1: how cool it is that she and Brian, you know,

437
00:23:00,160 --> 00:23:02,560
Speaker 1: they're now married, and they have the very first time

438
00:23:02,560 --> 00:23:05,320
Speaker 1: they laid eyes on each other on film. Um, so

439
00:23:05,359 --> 00:23:07,440
Speaker 1: it's really cool. You guys have that too, will you

440
00:23:07,440 --> 00:23:09,919
Speaker 1: Will you let your kids watch one day like your

441
00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:13,439
Speaker 1: story unfold on Paradise? Yeah, they can't watch Paradise, not

442
00:23:13,520 --> 00:23:18,400
Speaker 1: The Bachelor of the Bachelor. Okay, so let's back check

443
00:23:18,480 --> 00:23:21,080
Speaker 1: it up. Yeah, well, I guess so there are kids

444
00:23:21,080 --> 00:23:25,000
Speaker 1: in your future. You guys want little ones? How soon?

445
00:23:25,480 --> 00:23:29,520
Speaker 1: That's a given? Uh? Probably? I mean she wants to

446
00:23:29,880 --> 00:23:31,960
Speaker 1: buy thirty three years old, so we got a couple

447
00:23:31,960 --> 00:23:34,720
Speaker 1: of years. Okay, all right, so you guys plan this out.

448
00:23:37,320 --> 00:23:43,000
Speaker 1: So so what I want, Ali is I really want

449
00:23:43,000 --> 00:23:46,000
Speaker 1: to spend the rest of the year, um finishing work.

450
00:23:46,080 --> 00:23:48,600
Speaker 1: And honestly, Chris and I have been really working on

451
00:23:48,640 --> 00:23:54,080
Speaker 1: ourselves because you know, with our past and m being together,

452
00:23:54,160 --> 00:23:58,359
Speaker 1: we've really identified just some areas where we can really grow.

453
00:23:58,440 --> 00:24:00,760
Speaker 1: And it's really important for us before where we have children,

454
00:24:00,800 --> 00:24:02,840
Speaker 1: that we really work on ourselves and really build this

455
00:24:03,280 --> 00:24:07,240
Speaker 1: relationship so strong and we can become better people because

456
00:24:07,240 --> 00:24:11,080
Speaker 1: we're together. So we are really working as a team

457
00:24:11,280 --> 00:24:14,520
Speaker 1: to really grow throughout the rest of the year before

458
00:24:14,520 --> 00:24:18,480
Speaker 1: we start trying for a family. I hope in early

459
00:24:18,520 --> 00:24:22,199
Speaker 1: twenty twenty. Good for you. You know that's that's like

460
00:24:22,280 --> 00:24:24,520
Speaker 1: such a smart answer. I don't even know how I

461
00:24:24,560 --> 00:24:25,960
Speaker 1: don't even know how else to say. It is just

462
00:24:26,000 --> 00:24:28,879
Speaker 1: that's like a really level headed, smart answer, and I

463
00:24:28,880 --> 00:24:31,239
Speaker 1: appreciate that. No wonder, you're a life coach. I need

464
00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:33,240
Speaker 1: to call you up at this time. I'm struggling in something.

465
00:24:33,440 --> 00:24:36,680
Speaker 1: Let's backcheck, girl, I will give you my number. Okay, good, good, good,

466
00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:40,000
Speaker 1: Let's backcheck a little bit. So you guys got engaged

467
00:24:40,040 --> 00:24:44,920
Speaker 1: on the show, we all saw it. How how quickly

468
00:24:45,080 --> 00:24:47,879
Speaker 1: after the show and the engagement did you guys actually

469
00:24:47,880 --> 00:24:49,639
Speaker 1: move in together? Was it right away or did you

470
00:24:49,680 --> 00:24:54,320
Speaker 1: take some time? No, we took some time. So we

471
00:24:54,400 --> 00:24:57,159
Speaker 1: got done rapping at the end of June and we

472
00:24:57,240 --> 00:25:00,520
Speaker 1: both went back to our respective places where we lived.

473
00:25:00,560 --> 00:25:03,440
Speaker 1: She lived in San Diego, I lived in Orlando, Florida,

474
00:25:03,480 --> 00:25:07,439
Speaker 1: And it wasn't until September where I came over actually

475
00:25:07,440 --> 00:25:11,680
Speaker 1: the last week that Paradise was airing to come over

476
00:25:11,720 --> 00:25:14,960
Speaker 1: here in her three hundred square foot bungalow and uh

477
00:25:16,080 --> 00:25:18,760
Speaker 1: and uh yeah. We decided to see kind of how

478
00:25:18,760 --> 00:25:21,400
Speaker 1: it was being together and to see what it would

479
00:25:21,440 --> 00:25:23,000
Speaker 1: be like for a little bit if we could take

480
00:25:23,040 --> 00:25:25,040
Speaker 1: that next step and actually move in with one another

481
00:25:25,080 --> 00:25:27,480
Speaker 1: to a new place. And that's kind of where it

482
00:25:27,520 --> 00:25:30,040
Speaker 1: all began, and knowing that we could be together with

483
00:25:30,080 --> 00:25:32,240
Speaker 1: each other in a three hundred square foot place, we

484
00:25:32,320 --> 00:25:34,960
Speaker 1: knew that we could manifest and get into a bigger

485
00:25:34,960 --> 00:25:37,440
Speaker 1: place and live together well. And the thing was Ali

486
00:25:37,520 --> 00:25:41,719
Speaker 1: christ was just visiting and he ended up staying living

487
00:25:41,760 --> 00:25:45,680
Speaker 1: with me, so he never loved he never left, no

488
00:25:46,359 --> 00:25:50,320
Speaker 1: show up. Oh my gosh, I love that. And what

489
00:25:50,320 --> 00:25:52,399
Speaker 1: it kind of was was we weren't really sure what

490
00:25:52,440 --> 00:25:54,440
Speaker 1: was going to happen, but we just knew we needed

491
00:25:54,440 --> 00:25:57,200
Speaker 1: to be together to explore it. And it was It

492
00:25:57,280 --> 00:25:59,919
Speaker 1: was so fun. It's actually almost his one year anniversary

493
00:26:00,000 --> 00:26:02,320
Speaker 1: of moving to San Diego, and this was our thing

494
00:26:02,320 --> 00:26:04,960
Speaker 1: where like we did long distance for three months, We're like, hey,

495
00:26:05,000 --> 00:26:07,240
Speaker 1: if we're going to be in it, we need to

496
00:26:07,240 --> 00:26:09,600
Speaker 1: be together and explore it. And I really admire and

497
00:26:09,640 --> 00:26:13,520
Speaker 1: appreciate Chris because he moved and uprooted his whole life

498
00:26:13,520 --> 00:26:16,040
Speaker 1: to come be with me in San Diego and really

499
00:26:16,080 --> 00:26:19,800
Speaker 1: close with his family and his friends there, very you know,

500
00:26:19,880 --> 00:26:22,520
Speaker 1: rooted in his community. So it was a huge step

501
00:26:22,600 --> 00:26:25,760
Speaker 1: for him to come and be here to explore this relationship.

502
00:26:25,880 --> 00:26:28,040
Speaker 1: And we know, we say all the time, we're like,

503
00:26:28,320 --> 00:26:32,000
Speaker 1: had we not taken that step. I don't you know,

504
00:26:32,080 --> 00:26:34,800
Speaker 1: we may not be together. I feel like that, like

505
00:26:35,240 --> 00:26:37,600
Speaker 1: going on a date or coming over for a visit

506
00:26:37,600 --> 00:26:40,000
Speaker 1: and then never leaving. It's like a true sign of

507
00:26:40,040 --> 00:26:43,560
Speaker 1: a relationship being able to survive long term, because the

508
00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:46,040
Speaker 1: exact same thing happened with me and my husband, Like

509
00:26:46,280 --> 00:26:49,000
Speaker 1: we had a date, he came over, never left, and

510
00:26:49,040 --> 00:26:51,359
Speaker 1: here we are married with kids years later. So I

511
00:26:51,440 --> 00:26:56,200
Speaker 1: love that was it? You know, three hundred score feet

512
00:26:56,240 --> 00:27:01,600
Speaker 1: that is a tiny home. One thing my husband, yeah, well,

513
00:27:01,600 --> 00:27:03,680
Speaker 1: one thing me and my husband have always said, like

514
00:27:03,960 --> 00:27:06,520
Speaker 1: seeing well you know all those shows with tiny holmes,

515
00:27:06,600 --> 00:27:08,640
Speaker 1: is we'd get divorced if we lived in that home.

516
00:27:09,160 --> 00:27:12,199
Speaker 1: So how was it for you guys? Was it smooth

517
00:27:12,240 --> 00:27:16,960
Speaker 1: sailing or you know, were there hard times? Maybe we

518
00:27:17,040 --> 00:27:21,480
Speaker 1: can need one argument, maybe one what Yeah, it was easy.

519
00:27:21,920 --> 00:27:24,720
Speaker 1: It was I don't know what it was, but it

520
00:27:24,840 --> 00:27:27,000
Speaker 1: was the easiest. And this was the first time I

521
00:27:27,040 --> 00:27:30,119
Speaker 1: ever kind of in a relationship was living with someone.

522
00:27:30,200 --> 00:27:32,680
Speaker 1: I guess you could say, and um, yeah, I mean

523
00:27:32,720 --> 00:27:34,679
Speaker 1: it turned out to be amazing. I mean, besides the

524
00:27:34,680 --> 00:27:35,879
Speaker 1: fact that I can get off the bed and be

525
00:27:35,920 --> 00:27:38,240
Speaker 1: in the kitchen, I mean, other than that, it was fine.

526
00:27:39,240 --> 00:27:41,720
Speaker 1: I would say like I felt the beginning of that

527
00:27:41,800 --> 00:27:44,200
Speaker 1: relationship when Chris and I were really when he was

528
00:27:44,240 --> 00:27:48,199
Speaker 1: staying with me, I really felt very like divinely supported

529
00:27:48,600 --> 00:27:51,600
Speaker 1: in both of us pursuing this relationship. I just felt

530
00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:54,520
Speaker 1: everything was falling into place. We really surrendered into everything,

531
00:27:55,080 --> 00:27:59,640
Speaker 1: and we just surrendered and it and it worked out,

532
00:27:59,640 --> 00:28:01,720
Speaker 1: and I think it just really became effortless for us,

533
00:28:02,480 --> 00:28:05,320
Speaker 1: right maybe, yeah. I mean, at the end of the day,

534
00:28:05,960 --> 00:28:09,000
Speaker 1: nothing was forced, and it came so natural to us

535
00:28:09,000 --> 00:28:10,600
Speaker 1: that I think that's why we were able to kind

536
00:28:10,600 --> 00:28:13,840
Speaker 1: of even grow closer together. Okay, I'm convinced you guys

537
00:28:13,840 --> 00:28:15,960
Speaker 1: are going to be married for all of time. The

538
00:28:16,000 --> 00:28:17,680
Speaker 1: fact that you were able to live in a three

539
00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:20,479
Speaker 1: hundred square bo blaze and not to fight is like

540
00:28:20,760 --> 00:28:25,160
Speaker 1: insanity to me and Ali. I have like a closet

541
00:28:25,240 --> 00:28:27,679
Speaker 1: full of clothes, not just a closet full of clothes,

542
00:28:27,680 --> 00:28:30,639
Speaker 1: but like a dresser and in the storage wheel that

543
00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:33,560
Speaker 1: goes under the bed stuffed with clothing. And I was

544
00:28:33,600 --> 00:28:37,919
Speaker 1: able and willfully cleaned out part of my closet just

545
00:28:38,160 --> 00:28:42,000
Speaker 1: for Chris. I was like, Wow, I must like this guy.

546
00:28:42,240 --> 00:28:45,400
Speaker 1: You must um. You guys are adorable. So I have

547
00:28:45,480 --> 00:28:47,080
Speaker 1: so much more I want to talk to you guys about,

548
00:28:47,200 --> 00:28:49,920
Speaker 1: especially the wedding, but we need to take a break

549
00:28:50,320 --> 00:28:52,600
Speaker 1: real quick. But you guys, don't go anywhere, because when

550
00:28:52,600 --> 00:28:54,880
Speaker 1: we get back, we're going to hear all about Crystalline

551
00:28:54,920 --> 00:28:59,760
Speaker 1: Chris and their big wedding day. Welcome back, you guys

552
00:28:59,760 --> 00:29:03,240
Speaker 1: to Bachelor Happy Hour. We are talking to the adorable

553
00:29:03,360 --> 00:29:06,360
Speaker 1: Crystal and Chris, and we are so excited to hear

554
00:29:06,400 --> 00:29:09,000
Speaker 1: all about your guys wedding. I just love you guys.

555
00:29:09,040 --> 00:29:11,640
Speaker 1: I mean listening to you talk right now. You know,

556
00:29:11,680 --> 00:29:13,760
Speaker 1: I haven't had the pleasure of meeting you in person.

557
00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:17,160
Speaker 1: You guys are calling in, but it just it's love

558
00:29:17,440 --> 00:29:20,000
Speaker 1: and it's so obvious. Well, I appreciate that, to be

559
00:29:20,040 --> 00:29:22,880
Speaker 1: honest with you, that I'm actually I don't know what

560
00:29:23,000 --> 00:29:24,800
Speaker 1: to say of how I feel that you're saying that,

561
00:29:24,840 --> 00:29:27,880
Speaker 1: because I mean, you're definitely one of the upper epchelon

562
00:29:28,120 --> 00:29:31,160
Speaker 1: bachelorettes of our time, so, oh my gosh, that is

563
00:29:31,160 --> 00:29:36,360
Speaker 1: seriously the nicest thing. You're like the royalty. So it

564
00:29:36,400 --> 00:29:38,640
Speaker 1: kind of feels good to hear from that. Okay, if

565
00:29:38,680 --> 00:29:40,680
Speaker 1: you could see my face right now, it's bright red

566
00:29:40,680 --> 00:29:43,840
Speaker 1: because I literally feel like the old school bachelortte that

567
00:29:43,920 --> 00:29:47,440
Speaker 1: nobody has any idea who I am. So I appreciate

568
00:29:47,440 --> 00:29:50,560
Speaker 1: you saying that. All right, let's get back into you guys.

569
00:29:51,640 --> 00:29:53,840
Speaker 1: Crystal first, you know this is your wedding, I mean,

570
00:29:53,880 --> 00:29:55,600
Speaker 1: both of you guys. I'm you know, Chris, maybe you've

571
00:29:55,680 --> 00:29:57,640
Speaker 1: dreamed about your wedding day your whole life too. I shouldn't.

572
00:29:57,640 --> 00:30:00,680
Speaker 1: I shouldn't put that on Crystal, but you know it

573
00:30:00,760 --> 00:30:04,920
Speaker 1: was it everything you dreamed of, you know, it actually was.

574
00:30:05,240 --> 00:30:08,680
Speaker 1: It actually was because I said, if I were to

575
00:30:08,840 --> 00:30:11,280
Speaker 1: ever get married, I would not want to plan a thing,

576
00:30:12,120 --> 00:30:17,160
Speaker 1: and then it would be in Mexico and that was it.

577
00:30:17,200 --> 00:30:18,880
Speaker 1: I just wanted to do the dress and the cake,

578
00:30:18,960 --> 00:30:22,720
Speaker 1: and that was exactly what we got. It was perfect.

579
00:30:23,040 --> 00:30:25,600
Speaker 1: That's amazing. So you didn't want to plan anything. You

580
00:30:25,640 --> 00:30:27,680
Speaker 1: just said, you guys, take over, do what you gotta do.

581
00:30:27,760 --> 00:30:30,400
Speaker 1: I'm going to show up. Yeah. We had an incredible

582
00:30:30,680 --> 00:30:34,320
Speaker 1: wedding planner, Megan Croft, who deserves the world, and she

583
00:30:34,800 --> 00:30:37,040
Speaker 1: just I made a pinter sport. We made it together

584
00:30:37,560 --> 00:30:40,400
Speaker 1: and she ran with it and they delivered. It was

585
00:30:40,480 --> 00:30:45,240
Speaker 1: so beautiful and we're so grateful to have that experience.

586
00:30:45,280 --> 00:30:48,240
Speaker 1: I would say, the best part for us was being

587
00:30:48,240 --> 00:30:52,080
Speaker 1: able to bring our friends and family, and because it

588
00:30:52,160 --> 00:30:56,280
Speaker 1: was filmed for Bachelor in Paradise, it was so cool

589
00:30:56,400 --> 00:30:59,360
Speaker 1: for them to see behind the scenes of how the

590
00:30:59,400 --> 00:31:03,320
Speaker 1: show is made, because, as I'm sure you know, ali

591
00:31:04,560 --> 00:31:08,360
Speaker 1: people outside of the show, it's hard to comprehend what

592
00:31:08,600 --> 00:31:12,800
Speaker 1: goes on. So yeah, my friends definitely shared with me

593
00:31:12,880 --> 00:31:16,160
Speaker 1: that they felt like they understood a lot more about

594
00:31:16,200 --> 00:31:20,960
Speaker 1: this huge now part of my life, part of the

595
00:31:21,000 --> 00:31:23,840
Speaker 1: Bachelor franchise. This interests either of you. You You guys didn't

596
00:31:23,880 --> 00:31:28,640
Speaker 1: have hometowns, right, No, no, oh see, because that's really

597
00:31:28,720 --> 00:31:31,240
Speaker 1: where a lot of times, like families get to see

598
00:31:31,240 --> 00:31:33,360
Speaker 1: sort of the behind the scenes, but this your wedding

599
00:31:33,440 --> 00:31:37,479
Speaker 1: day was really the first time your families are seeing it. Yeah,

600
00:31:37,520 --> 00:31:41,959
Speaker 1: it was wild, and I'm really thankful because now they

601
00:31:41,960 --> 00:31:44,680
Speaker 1: can relate, and I think before there were some things

602
00:31:44,760 --> 00:31:47,760
Speaker 1: where they couldn't relate, they couldn't comprehend, like Crystal said,

603
00:31:48,080 --> 00:31:50,960
Speaker 1: And I mean that also brought kind of me being

604
00:31:50,960 --> 00:31:53,440
Speaker 1: able to open up and speak to them about previous

605
00:31:53,440 --> 00:31:56,680
Speaker 1: experiences and them actually being able to comprehend kind of

606
00:31:56,680 --> 00:31:59,240
Speaker 1: what I've been through now rather than before because they

607
00:31:59,280 --> 00:32:02,200
Speaker 1: just understand it a surface level, but now it's like

608
00:32:02,240 --> 00:32:04,520
Speaker 1: they can go in depth and actually talk about it

609
00:32:04,720 --> 00:32:07,080
Speaker 1: in a way where we can connect. And so that's

610
00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:08,880
Speaker 1: that's probably one of the biggest things that I love

611
00:32:08,920 --> 00:32:11,920
Speaker 1: about having everyone there. So what kind of crap did

612
00:32:11,920 --> 00:32:15,040
Speaker 1: they talk afterwards where they're like, oh, this show, they

613
00:32:15,040 --> 00:32:18,480
Speaker 1: shouldn't do that. Really, what did they think? I think

614
00:32:18,840 --> 00:32:21,520
Speaker 1: my boys, because I had five of my best friends there,

615
00:32:21,560 --> 00:32:23,640
Speaker 1: they were my groomsmen, they were like, man, I don't

616
00:32:23,640 --> 00:32:25,840
Speaker 1: know how you do this. They were like, that is

617
00:32:26,240 --> 00:32:29,440
Speaker 1: unreal what we experienced. And I think one of my

618
00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:31,480
Speaker 1: friends though, was just wanting to go on the show.

619
00:32:31,600 --> 00:32:34,080
Speaker 1: He was pressing for interviews. He was I mean, he

620
00:32:34,240 --> 00:32:38,320
Speaker 1: was just doing whatever on the next bachelorrette. It was.

621
00:32:38,360 --> 00:32:41,720
Speaker 1: It was pretty hilarious. Oh my goodness. I hope we

622
00:32:41,880 --> 00:32:46,880
Speaker 1: see him when this hairs. Oh my gosh. Um. So,

623
00:32:47,320 --> 00:32:48,640
Speaker 1: you know, Chris Lee, you said you didn't want to

624
00:32:48,680 --> 00:32:51,080
Speaker 1: have to think about much planning wise, But what about you, Chris?

625
00:32:51,200 --> 00:32:53,240
Speaker 1: Was there anything that you were like, I need this

626
00:32:53,320 --> 00:32:55,160
Speaker 1: at the wedding or this needs to happen, or will

627
00:32:55,240 --> 00:32:57,680
Speaker 1: you just go with the flow? Um? I pretty much

628
00:32:57,680 --> 00:33:00,600
Speaker 1: wont with the flow. I did just want a really

629
00:33:00,680 --> 00:33:04,120
Speaker 1: nice custom suit, and other than that, I wanted it

630
00:33:04,120 --> 00:33:07,280
Speaker 1: to just be beautiful inside, which we got an inside

631
00:33:07,320 --> 00:33:10,440
Speaker 1: beautiful wedding in Mexico, because, let me tell you, definitely

632
00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:12,320
Speaker 1: would have had a heat stroke if we did it outside.

633
00:33:15,600 --> 00:33:18,160
Speaker 1: So I got what I wanted in that and they

634
00:33:18,160 --> 00:33:21,000
Speaker 1: made it beautiful. And hats off to Megan. She did

635
00:33:21,080 --> 00:33:24,280
Speaker 1: an absolute incredible job and I was blown away kind

636
00:33:24,280 --> 00:33:28,080
Speaker 1: of when everything began, So thank you guys. And I

637
00:33:28,120 --> 00:33:30,920
Speaker 1: would say there were some really special moments where during

638
00:33:30,920 --> 00:33:33,680
Speaker 1: the ceremony we got to really bring in elements of

639
00:33:33,760 --> 00:33:36,800
Speaker 1: who we are and you know, parts of our relationship,

640
00:33:37,040 --> 00:33:40,600
Speaker 1: and we got to show that there were crystals everywhere

641
00:33:40,760 --> 00:33:44,280
Speaker 1: and incense was burning, and we even had a smudging

642
00:33:44,520 --> 00:33:50,040
Speaker 1: ceremony by the producer that really brought us together. What

643
00:33:50,280 --> 00:33:54,840
Speaker 1: is that really special? It's a sage burning of sage,

644
00:33:55,080 --> 00:33:58,880
Speaker 1: which is a cleansing herb that you burn and you

645
00:34:00,120 --> 00:34:04,959
Speaker 1: waft and wave over to to cleanse your aura, your

646
00:34:05,080 --> 00:34:08,960
Speaker 1: energy filled. And for us it was symbolic because we

647
00:34:09,000 --> 00:34:13,560
Speaker 1: wanted to shed who we were, the old selves, and

648
00:34:13,600 --> 00:34:18,319
Speaker 1: we wanted to come into this marriage clean that's been

649
00:34:18,960 --> 00:34:23,279
Speaker 1: united together with a clean slate. So it was really

650
00:34:23,320 --> 00:34:26,680
Speaker 1: special to incorporate those little hearts of us that like

651
00:34:26,719 --> 00:34:30,520
Speaker 1: make our relationship us for sure. Yeah, and you guys,

652
00:34:30,600 --> 00:34:33,040
Speaker 1: even before the wedding, we saw on Instagram. You know,

653
00:34:33,040 --> 00:34:36,520
Speaker 1: I was stalking you both. You had a fabulous engagement party.

654
00:34:36,680 --> 00:34:41,839
Speaker 1: Tell us about it. Yeah, you know. The thing was

655
00:34:41,920 --> 00:34:43,200
Speaker 1: is that we knew that there were going to be

656
00:34:43,239 --> 00:34:45,720
Speaker 1: some people that couldn't make it to the wedding, and

657
00:34:46,000 --> 00:34:49,239
Speaker 1: we also kind of wanted to celebrate our engagement with

658
00:34:49,320 --> 00:34:52,000
Speaker 1: a few people where they couldn't celebrate it because they

659
00:34:52,040 --> 00:34:54,399
Speaker 1: weren't down there in Mexico when it took place. And

660
00:34:54,480 --> 00:34:57,640
Speaker 1: so yeah, I mean it was just this beautiful area

661
00:34:57,800 --> 00:35:00,680
Speaker 1: here in San Diego, and it was kind of like

662
00:35:00,719 --> 00:35:02,840
Speaker 1: a Bachelor style the kind of way that it looked

663
00:35:02,840 --> 00:35:04,360
Speaker 1: and it was set up. It was like in this

664
00:35:04,520 --> 00:35:08,440
Speaker 1: the screet part of the mountain and Encinitas or I

665
00:35:08,480 --> 00:35:12,759
Speaker 1: forgot actually where it was it Escondido, Escondido, and uh yeah,

666
00:35:12,760 --> 00:35:15,000
Speaker 1: we just wanted to have a great time and uh yeah,

667
00:35:15,040 --> 00:35:17,640
Speaker 1: it was beautiful. I mean, once again, Crystal, she knows

668
00:35:17,680 --> 00:35:19,480
Speaker 1: she knows how to kick off and throw a party

669
00:35:19,480 --> 00:35:22,440
Speaker 1: in beautiful places, so she nailed that one. So it

670
00:35:22,480 --> 00:35:26,560
Speaker 1: was it was crazy because we were in talks with

671
00:35:26,640 --> 00:35:31,080
Speaker 1: ABC about potentially having a wedding and we were like, well,

672
00:35:31,080 --> 00:35:34,359
Speaker 1: we really want to throw an engagement party before, but

673
00:35:34,400 --> 00:35:36,560
Speaker 1: we're not sure if we will have a televised wedding.

674
00:35:36,640 --> 00:35:39,080
Speaker 1: So what that was for us was it was like

675
00:35:39,520 --> 00:35:42,840
Speaker 1: our mini wedding where we planned it, we were in control.

676
00:35:42,920 --> 00:35:45,319
Speaker 1: We did food, we did flowers, we did decorations, and

677
00:35:45,360 --> 00:35:47,520
Speaker 1: we got to invite everyone that we wanted to be

678
00:35:47,640 --> 00:35:52,200
Speaker 1: there in case we did have a televised wedding and

679
00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:54,719
Speaker 1: we're going to be a little limited on how much

680
00:35:55,160 --> 00:35:58,040
Speaker 1: input we could put in there. Well, let's talk about

681
00:35:58,040 --> 00:36:00,359
Speaker 1: that for a minute, a TV wedding, because that's here

682
00:36:00,640 --> 00:36:02,520
Speaker 1: you know, people come off the show all the time

683
00:36:02,560 --> 00:36:04,640
Speaker 1: and sort of talk about that, Like will you remember

684
00:36:04,680 --> 00:36:06,759
Speaker 1: after The Bachelor had the number one question I got

685
00:36:06,760 --> 00:36:09,520
Speaker 1: in interviews was will you have a televised wedding? Was

686
00:36:09,560 --> 00:36:13,040
Speaker 1: that a difficult decision for you guys to make? Yes?

687
00:36:15,040 --> 00:36:18,759
Speaker 1: For me, I mean for me, it was because it's

688
00:36:18,920 --> 00:36:21,399
Speaker 1: another fight. No, your first fight, I should say, their

689
00:36:21,480 --> 00:36:25,839
Speaker 1: first married fight. No, No, you're right, go ahead take it. Yeah,

690
00:36:25,880 --> 00:36:28,960
Speaker 1: No it was. I mean, this was months of talks

691
00:36:28,960 --> 00:36:31,839
Speaker 1: and negotiations, but I think the biggest thing for me

692
00:36:32,200 --> 00:36:37,600
Speaker 1: was the past experiences and being in that environment again, um,

693
00:36:37,960 --> 00:36:41,319
Speaker 1: you know, and and opening up those wounds that I

694
00:36:41,440 --> 00:36:44,440
Speaker 1: previously had. And so it was a big hesitation on

695
00:36:44,480 --> 00:36:46,759
Speaker 1: my part because yes, I wanted to do it, but

696
00:36:46,840 --> 00:36:49,399
Speaker 1: I was also scared of the fact that how would

697
00:36:49,400 --> 00:36:52,440
Speaker 1: I look this time around, how would everything be? Um?

698
00:36:52,719 --> 00:36:54,359
Speaker 1: But I mean I have grown in the last year,

699
00:36:54,360 --> 00:36:56,920
Speaker 1: and I've learned so many things over the course of time,

700
00:36:56,960 --> 00:37:01,760
Speaker 1: and and so once I was excited of the past

701
00:37:01,840 --> 00:37:03,879
Speaker 1: and I kind of knew kind of what I needed

702
00:37:03,880 --> 00:37:06,680
Speaker 1: to do this time around, I felt more comfortable with

703
00:37:06,719 --> 00:37:10,040
Speaker 1: the decision making. Okay, well, you say past experiences like

704
00:37:10,360 --> 00:37:13,560
Speaker 1: because you maybe had some negative past experiences, because I

705
00:37:13,560 --> 00:37:15,560
Speaker 1: did when I was the Bachelor again I don't know

706
00:37:15,680 --> 00:37:18,840
Speaker 1: Bachelor in Paradise, but when I was considering getting married

707
00:37:18,880 --> 00:37:21,080
Speaker 1: on TV to the guy I ended up with on

708
00:37:21,120 --> 00:37:23,359
Speaker 1: the show, I remember being like really mad at some

709
00:37:23,400 --> 00:37:25,080
Speaker 1: of the things that happened to me on the show

710
00:37:26,120 --> 00:37:29,480
Speaker 1: or things I situations I put myself in. Did you

711
00:37:29,680 --> 00:37:33,439
Speaker 1: have those feelings too when you say past experiences? Yeah, yeah,

712
00:37:34,080 --> 00:37:36,399
Speaker 1: you know, I mean from the Bachelorette, I didn't have

713
00:37:36,440 --> 00:37:39,640
Speaker 1: a good experience, and then the first part of Paradise

714
00:37:39,800 --> 00:37:44,800
Speaker 1: wasn't the best either. So those two combined really affected

715
00:37:44,800 --> 00:37:47,440
Speaker 1: me emotionally, and I mean sometimes affects me still to

716
00:37:47,480 --> 00:37:50,120
Speaker 1: this day. But I have a beautiful, supportive life that

717
00:37:50,560 --> 00:37:52,359
Speaker 1: is there by my side and helps me get through

718
00:37:52,400 --> 00:37:54,440
Speaker 1: those those times of where your mind kind of likes

719
00:37:54,440 --> 00:37:56,759
Speaker 1: to wander off. But but yeah, I mean, at the

720
00:37:56,840 --> 00:37:58,839
Speaker 1: end of the day, I definitely wanted to get married

721
00:37:58,840 --> 00:38:01,839
Speaker 1: in Paradise. I definitely wanted my family to experience that.

722
00:38:02,400 --> 00:38:05,640
Speaker 1: I wanted to see Crystal walk down the aisle in

723
00:38:05,640 --> 00:38:08,120
Speaker 1: a beautiful wedding dress, So there was no doubt in that.

724
00:38:08,160 --> 00:38:11,480
Speaker 1: It was just making sure that I was emotionally stable

725
00:38:11,520 --> 00:38:14,000
Speaker 1: and emotionally intelligent enough to go ahead with the process.

726
00:38:14,480 --> 00:38:16,439
Speaker 1: So what can you tell us about the ceremony? We're

727
00:38:16,480 --> 00:38:18,560
Speaker 1: so excited to see it, Chris. I can't wait to

728
00:38:18,560 --> 00:38:20,520
Speaker 1: see your dress and see you walk down the aisle.

729
00:38:20,560 --> 00:38:23,719
Speaker 1: I'm sure. I mean, you're stunning, and you know, we

730
00:38:23,800 --> 00:38:25,839
Speaker 1: know you're gonna look stunning. But what can you tell us?

731
00:38:26,040 --> 00:38:28,279
Speaker 1: What can we expect? Well, I can say this, I

732
00:38:28,360 --> 00:38:32,960
Speaker 1: tried on twenty six dresses. Twenty six dresses I tried

733
00:38:33,040 --> 00:38:38,520
Speaker 1: on over fourteen hours twenty six dresses, and I will

734
00:38:38,520 --> 00:38:41,799
Speaker 1: say every dress I tried on was absolutely stunning, and

735
00:38:41,880 --> 00:38:44,720
Speaker 1: I felt that it brought out all these different sides

736
00:38:44,719 --> 00:38:48,439
Speaker 1: of me, different personalities, and ultimately I kind of sat

737
00:38:48,520 --> 00:38:51,920
Speaker 1: there and I realized that I had been I was

738
00:38:51,960 --> 00:38:56,719
Speaker 1: wearing magnificent gowns, like fifty thousand dollars dresses. What Yes,

739
00:38:57,040 --> 00:39:00,239
Speaker 1: like designers who had designed Kate Middleton's dress and tell

740
00:39:00,280 --> 00:39:08,319
Speaker 1: me ABC picked up this tab. Yeah, but I was

741
00:39:08,360 --> 00:39:11,160
Speaker 1: wearing these dresses. And I remember I was with carry

742
00:39:11,239 --> 00:39:13,440
Speaker 1: my Styles and He's like, Wow, they're bringing out different

743
00:39:13,440 --> 00:39:15,080
Speaker 1: sides of you than I go. I know, I'm feeling

744
00:39:15,120 --> 00:39:18,560
Speaker 1: like royal, I'm feeling glamorous, I'm feeling flirty, I'm feeling fun.

745
00:39:19,080 --> 00:39:21,760
Speaker 1: And so I just wanted to go with a really

746
00:39:22,800 --> 00:39:25,879
Speaker 1: a simple dress that made me really feel like I

747
00:39:25,960 --> 00:39:29,720
Speaker 1: was being seen and I wasn't being overshattered with a dress.

748
00:39:30,120 --> 00:39:33,600
Speaker 1: And so I loved my Martina Leana gown. It was

749
00:39:34,920 --> 00:39:39,400
Speaker 1: absolutely just perfect, perfect for me, and my bridesmaid looked

750
00:39:39,440 --> 00:39:43,239
Speaker 1: so beautiful because they all have these McDougal gowns that

751
00:39:43,320 --> 00:39:47,320
Speaker 1: were just elegant. And I would say, though, the best

752
00:39:47,360 --> 00:39:50,800
Speaker 1: part of my wedding prep was getting my makeup done

753
00:39:50,840 --> 00:39:55,359
Speaker 1: by Anastasia Beverly Hills because their team just they made

754
00:39:55,360 --> 00:39:58,279
Speaker 1: me feel so glam so beautiful all weekend long. And

755
00:39:58,760 --> 00:40:01,680
Speaker 1: you know every girl wants to sh from the inside out,

756
00:40:01,840 --> 00:40:04,239
Speaker 1: so I can't wait to see how it's gonna look.

757
00:40:04,320 --> 00:40:06,279
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, you're making me so excited. I love

758
00:40:06,320 --> 00:40:09,839
Speaker 1: weddings I so much, and you're making me very very

759
00:40:09,840 --> 00:40:12,759
Speaker 1: excited to see your guys. And Chris looked really handsome too.

760
00:40:13,040 --> 00:40:15,360
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Chris, who are you wearing? Yeah? So I

761
00:40:15,440 --> 00:40:18,400
Speaker 1: was wearing a custom Hugo Boss suit and thank you

762
00:40:18,440 --> 00:40:21,359
Speaker 1: to Carry for making it easy and quick. The suit

763
00:40:21,400 --> 00:40:24,359
Speaker 1: was absolutely beautiful. And then all my boys, actually all

764
00:40:24,360 --> 00:40:28,759
Speaker 1: my groomsmen got black Tucks set up from the Black

765
00:40:28,800 --> 00:40:32,400
Speaker 1: Tucks so they looked amazing. Thank you Black Tucks for

766
00:40:32,520 --> 00:40:36,000
Speaker 1: helping them out. And also the brides men's because Chrystal

767
00:40:36,080 --> 00:40:39,200
Speaker 1: had some bridesmen, they had the Black Tucks as well. Yeah.

768
00:40:39,760 --> 00:40:42,480
Speaker 1: I love that. Were they just like best friends of

769
00:40:42,520 --> 00:40:45,040
Speaker 1: yours or who is your bridesmen? All best my little

770
00:40:45,040 --> 00:40:48,759
Speaker 1: black pack, all my little besties plus the Angela from

771
00:40:48,760 --> 00:40:52,720
Speaker 1: the Showy that was my bridal party. Amazing I cannot

772
00:40:52,719 --> 00:40:55,640
Speaker 1: wait to see it all. So how was Let's talk

773
00:40:55,680 --> 00:40:58,000
Speaker 1: about that first kiss that you guys have as husband

774
00:40:58,040 --> 00:41:00,680
Speaker 1: and wife. Did you practice beforehand? Was it a peck

775
00:41:00,800 --> 00:41:03,359
Speaker 1: or do you go all out? So I always play

776
00:41:03,400 --> 00:41:06,680
Speaker 1: all out? I went all out, and I thought I

777
00:41:06,719 --> 00:41:08,719
Speaker 1: went all out, but I think Chris wanted me. Chris

778
00:41:08,719 --> 00:41:11,319
Speaker 1: Harrison wanted me to go in for it again, and

779
00:41:11,320 --> 00:41:12,800
Speaker 1: I had already picked up and stuff, so I was like,

780
00:41:12,800 --> 00:41:14,399
Speaker 1: you know what, all right? So I went in again

781
00:41:14,480 --> 00:41:16,920
Speaker 1: for even a bigger one. So I guess I tried to.

782
00:41:16,920 --> 00:41:19,920
Speaker 1: I'll do myself the second time. Yeah, we had two kisses. Oh,

783
00:41:20,000 --> 00:41:24,120
Speaker 1: because because he didn't say you may kiss the bride

784
00:41:24,520 --> 00:41:26,520
Speaker 1: as soon as he just announced us as man, and

785
00:41:26,560 --> 00:41:31,360
Speaker 1: why we immediately kiss and then he goes, wait, you

786
00:41:31,400 --> 00:41:36,560
Speaker 1: may now give the bride again. I forgot about you guys.

787
00:41:36,560 --> 00:41:38,960
Speaker 1: Couldn't wait. You couldn't wait to seal him with a kiss.

788
00:41:39,000 --> 00:41:43,279
Speaker 1: That's so sweet. Yeah, we couldn't wait. So Chris officiated

789
00:41:43,400 --> 00:41:45,319
Speaker 1: when you asked him? When you guys nervous to ask him?

790
00:41:45,400 --> 00:41:48,080
Speaker 1: Or was it like Papa Chris or brother Chris. I

791
00:41:48,080 --> 00:41:50,320
Speaker 1: think he gets mad when I call him dad. Sometimes

792
00:41:50,320 --> 00:41:52,160
Speaker 1: I'm like yeah, like my dad, you know, Chris Harrison

793
00:41:52,239 --> 00:41:54,319
Speaker 1: of the Bachelor franchise. He's like, I'm not that old

794
00:41:54,360 --> 00:41:56,960
Speaker 1: stuff calling me dad. What was it like asking him?

795
00:41:57,719 --> 00:41:59,120
Speaker 1: I mean it was easy. I mean it was kind

796
00:41:59,120 --> 00:42:02,040
Speaker 1: of like effortless. And I mean you're in paradise. Who

797
00:42:02,040 --> 00:42:05,360
Speaker 1: else would you rather have officiating than the legend himself?

798
00:42:05,760 --> 00:42:09,239
Speaker 1: And I mean he was really nice and heartwarming that

799
00:42:09,320 --> 00:42:11,560
Speaker 1: whole week that we were down there. I mean, we

800
00:42:11,560 --> 00:42:13,960
Speaker 1: got to hang out with him before the wedding. You know,

801
00:42:14,000 --> 00:42:16,120
Speaker 1: he gave us a little pep talk. So I mean

802
00:42:16,320 --> 00:42:18,480
Speaker 1: it's like you said, he's like that father figure in

803
00:42:18,600 --> 00:42:24,080
Speaker 1: Bachelor Nations. So great man, very compassionate towards everyone in

804
00:42:24,120 --> 00:42:27,120
Speaker 1: Bachelor Nations. So great guy to officiate. Couldn't couldn't have

805
00:42:27,120 --> 00:42:29,960
Speaker 1: wanted anyone else. Yeah, he was really awesome, and he

806
00:42:30,040 --> 00:42:32,440
Speaker 1: spent a lot of time with us that weekend prior

807
00:42:32,520 --> 00:42:36,920
Speaker 1: to the wedding, just getting to know us and giving

808
00:42:37,000 --> 00:42:39,800
Speaker 1: us advice, and it was really special. I feel like

809
00:42:39,840 --> 00:42:42,160
Speaker 1: we really bonded with Chris Harrison and I was in

810
00:42:42,200 --> 00:42:48,359
Speaker 1: my little Chris sandwich. Yeah. It was great. But one

811
00:42:48,400 --> 00:42:51,920
Speaker 1: thing I do want to say that we love so

812
00:42:52,040 --> 00:42:55,000
Speaker 1: much about the wedding. Not only was it really special

813
00:42:55,040 --> 00:42:57,839
Speaker 1: to have it at Vedanta, which is where we you know,

814
00:42:58,200 --> 00:43:00,880
Speaker 1: had our first date and ceter for I love yous.

815
00:43:02,400 --> 00:43:08,080
Speaker 1: We designed beautiful Neil Lane customer rings that I am

816
00:43:08,280 --> 00:43:11,359
Speaker 1: so excited to finally show off because I haven't been

817
00:43:11,360 --> 00:43:14,600
Speaker 1: able to post pictures. So is this not a traditional

818
00:43:14,640 --> 00:43:17,440
Speaker 1: type ring to tease tea something about this ring? No,

819
00:43:17,840 --> 00:43:20,560
Speaker 1: So well we went in there and we were so

820
00:43:20,640 --> 00:43:23,719
Speaker 1: happy because Neil Lane was actually there when we went

821
00:43:23,760 --> 00:43:26,880
Speaker 1: to go try on our rings, and I sat there

822
00:43:27,000 --> 00:43:29,720
Speaker 1: trying on all these ones, and I go, honestly, here's

823
00:43:29,760 --> 00:43:31,960
Speaker 1: what I want in my dream ring. And I was like,

824
00:43:32,000 --> 00:43:34,319
Speaker 1: I wanted to fit. I have a pear shape, so

825
00:43:34,360 --> 00:43:36,560
Speaker 1: when you work with a regular band, you get a

826
00:43:36,560 --> 00:43:39,799
Speaker 1: little gap because of the base of the pair. And

827
00:43:39,840 --> 00:43:41,759
Speaker 1: I go, I just want to create this customer ring

828
00:43:41,760 --> 00:43:45,279
Speaker 1: that conforms to my ring with bigger diamonds to act

829
00:43:45,320 --> 00:43:49,319
Speaker 1: as a crown carriage underneath to accentuate the beautiful ring.

830
00:43:49,800 --> 00:43:52,120
Speaker 1: And he goes, okay, I got I got it. I

831
00:43:52,160 --> 00:43:53,920
Speaker 1: got it. And I was like, wait, do you got it?

832
00:43:53,960 --> 00:43:58,480
Speaker 1: I'm not sure? And he got it. It's beautiful, and baby,

833
00:43:58,520 --> 00:44:01,120
Speaker 1: tell her about your ring. Yeah, I mean, I have

834
00:44:01,160 --> 00:44:07,279
Speaker 1: a one of a kind, uh Hando crafted rain himself where, um,

835
00:44:07,440 --> 00:44:09,799
Speaker 1: no one's ever had this rain. I don't think he's

836
00:44:09,800 --> 00:44:13,239
Speaker 1: ever made it for anyone, and I'm the first. Um

837
00:44:13,400 --> 00:44:16,799
Speaker 1: it's a Game of Throne style type rain where it's

838
00:44:17,120 --> 00:44:20,480
Speaker 1: very rustic but also with a hint of modern touch.

839
00:44:20,840 --> 00:44:26,640
Speaker 1: And also I got a fat rock. So it's a

840
00:44:26,680 --> 00:44:32,440
Speaker 1: hammered gold with a raw diamond. Oh, he's sounds fabulous.

841
00:44:32,480 --> 00:44:35,000
Speaker 1: I cannot wait, disease. We're actually gonna have a bunch

842
00:44:35,000 --> 00:44:38,560
Speaker 1: of picks um from your guys wedding up on Bachelor

843
00:44:38,680 --> 00:44:40,640
Speaker 1: Nation dot com. So for all of you guys listening,

844
00:44:40,719 --> 00:44:43,680
Speaker 1: make sure to go check that out on Bachelor Nation

845
00:44:43,920 --> 00:44:46,239
Speaker 1: dot com. So, you guys, let's talk about the we

846
00:44:46,239 --> 00:44:48,919
Speaker 1: talked about Chris Harrison. You know, Chris, you talked about

847
00:44:48,960 --> 00:44:51,640
Speaker 1: some of your guy friends being there. What about past

848
00:44:51,880 --> 00:44:55,520
Speaker 1: Bachelor and Paradise contestants who from your season of Bachelor

849
00:44:55,520 --> 00:44:58,799
Speaker 1: in Paradise? Can we say expect to say? Ooh, um,

850
00:44:58,840 --> 00:45:03,640
Speaker 1: so be was there? Becca? And yeah, yeah, we had

851
00:45:03,760 --> 00:45:07,880
Speaker 1: Raven and Adam who had just gotten engaged, Ben Higgins

852
00:45:07,960 --> 00:45:13,600
Speaker 1: and his girlfriend, h and Kevin were there, Ashley and

853
00:45:13,680 --> 00:45:18,000
Speaker 1: Jared Ashley and Jared. Yeah, so we had it's a party. Yeah,

854
00:45:18,040 --> 00:45:20,400
Speaker 1: we had some of the greats. It was nice because

855
00:45:20,640 --> 00:45:23,080
Speaker 1: definitely wanted them there. Definitely close with a few of

856
00:45:23,080 --> 00:45:25,640
Speaker 1: those people. So it was nice to just kind of

857
00:45:25,680 --> 00:45:28,760
Speaker 1: have people who are kind of like not only iconic

858
00:45:28,840 --> 00:45:32,879
Speaker 1: in vachination, but inspirational not just by the relationships but

859
00:45:32,920 --> 00:45:36,440
Speaker 1: what they're doing with their lives and and their careers, um,

860
00:45:37,000 --> 00:45:38,839
Speaker 1: and the good for the people. So it was nice

861
00:45:38,880 --> 00:45:41,800
Speaker 1: to just kind of have that type of environment, um,

862
00:45:41,840 --> 00:45:46,360
Speaker 1: you know, drama free. It was a beautiful ceremony, beautiful reception,

863
00:45:46,520 --> 00:45:49,760
Speaker 1: beautiful night. Um can't say that for like the Bachelor

864
00:45:49,840 --> 00:45:52,160
Speaker 1: Paradise side because you'll probably see that. I don't really

865
00:45:52,160 --> 00:45:55,640
Speaker 1: know what wanted that. That's a whole for the current cast, right, Yeah,

866
00:45:56,320 --> 00:45:58,320
Speaker 1: because I actually heard there was there is going to

867
00:45:58,400 --> 00:46:01,400
Speaker 1: be some drama. Yeah internally, and that's that's kind of

868
00:46:01,400 --> 00:46:04,280
Speaker 1: what scares me. But um, yeah, I mean like drama free.

869
00:46:04,360 --> 00:46:07,280
Speaker 1: There was a lot of drama. Well I meant drama

870
00:46:07,320 --> 00:46:10,000
Speaker 1: free from like our our side, you know, with our

871
00:46:10,040 --> 00:46:12,920
Speaker 1: friends and family and the cast, but I mean as

872
00:46:12,920 --> 00:46:16,040
Speaker 1: far as the Bachelor Paradise side, there definitely was some

873
00:46:16,120 --> 00:46:19,759
Speaker 1: tears there were some people stressed out. Um, but I mean,

874
00:46:19,800 --> 00:46:23,800
Speaker 1: I will say, I will say, I'm I'm a little

875
00:46:23,840 --> 00:46:27,080
Speaker 1: nervous to actually watch the wedding because of how much

876
00:46:27,160 --> 00:46:31,000
Speaker 1: drama I heard had gone on. Oh no, what did

877
00:46:31,000 --> 00:46:35,840
Speaker 1: you hear it? Well, my buddy, Yeah, we Crystal and

878
00:46:35,880 --> 00:46:38,840
Speaker 1: I left um at a certain time. Um, you know,

879
00:46:38,880 --> 00:46:40,960
Speaker 1: it was probably about twelve twelve thirty at night, and

880
00:46:41,200 --> 00:46:44,560
Speaker 1: they were still filming, and so my boys actually stayed

881
00:46:44,560 --> 00:46:47,000
Speaker 1: because of course they wanted to live in the moment

882
00:46:47,040 --> 00:46:50,200
Speaker 1: as long as they could. They were loving it, and um,

883
00:46:50,239 --> 00:46:52,719
Speaker 1: they stayed till like the end of filming, and so

884
00:46:52,760 --> 00:46:55,160
Speaker 1: they were just hands on with their eyes. But I mean,

885
00:46:55,160 --> 00:46:58,080
Speaker 1: from what they said, there were definitely some conversations with

886
00:46:58,200 --> 00:47:03,520
Speaker 1: people that left not good endings between people. There were tears.

887
00:47:03,560 --> 00:47:07,000
Speaker 1: There were people crying in corners and bathrooms, and so

888
00:47:07,040 --> 00:47:09,720
Speaker 1: I mean, yeah, oh my goodness, I hear there's Kaylin

889
00:47:09,800 --> 00:47:13,399
Speaker 1: and Dean have something go down. Yeah, Kaylin and Dean.

890
00:47:13,560 --> 00:47:17,920
Speaker 1: I don't know that, Yeah, I know. So yeah, I

891
00:47:17,920 --> 00:47:20,959
Speaker 1: guess Dean had broken up with her the day before

892
00:47:20,960 --> 00:47:27,680
Speaker 1: the wedding, and then it was her birthday, the wedding birthday,

893
00:47:28,080 --> 00:47:32,560
Speaker 1: just so heartbroken and so that was really tough for her.

894
00:47:33,040 --> 00:47:35,120
Speaker 1: And of course, I mean, your boyfriend breaks up with

895
00:47:35,160 --> 00:47:37,480
Speaker 1: you on your birthday and you're at a wedding, like,

896
00:47:37,480 --> 00:47:39,440
Speaker 1: how would you not have tears? And I didn't know

897
00:47:39,560 --> 00:47:42,480
Speaker 1: that until later and Kaylin and I got it connected

898
00:47:43,000 --> 00:47:46,680
Speaker 1: and chat about it. But yeah, I hate that for her.

899
00:47:46,960 --> 00:47:49,680
Speaker 1: I know, so sad. It's so sad. So I'm really

900
00:47:49,680 --> 00:47:54,799
Speaker 1: hoping that it doesn't take away from the wedding. M Yeah,

901
00:47:54,880 --> 00:47:56,479
Speaker 1: I don't think it will. I don't think it will.

902
00:47:56,520 --> 00:47:58,440
Speaker 1: I think we'll see some drama for sure. But if

903
00:47:58,440 --> 00:48:00,600
Speaker 1: there's one thing that I will say, you know, the

904
00:48:00,640 --> 00:48:04,279
Speaker 1: Bachelor Nation franchise is known for some drama, but when

905
00:48:04,280 --> 00:48:08,120
Speaker 1: it comes to the love stories, the true love stories,

906
00:48:08,200 --> 00:48:11,279
Speaker 1: like you guys, I feel like they're very respectful of

907
00:48:11,520 --> 00:48:15,200
Speaker 1: keeping that sort of sacred. I mean, if there's drama,

908
00:48:15,600 --> 00:48:20,080
Speaker 1: I'm just happy that I'm not involved. So if I

909
00:48:20,280 --> 00:48:21,880
Speaker 1: have to risk having a wedding and there'll be a

910
00:48:21,880 --> 00:48:23,880
Speaker 1: little bit of drama, I'm not included. Hey, I'm all

911
00:48:23,920 --> 00:48:27,520
Speaker 1: on board for that. Also, there's a conversation between JPJ

912
00:48:27,640 --> 00:48:30,759
Speaker 1: and Derek. Do you guys know anything about that? I

913
00:48:31,080 --> 00:48:34,040
Speaker 1: heard about it everyone, My mom told me about it.

914
00:48:34,520 --> 00:48:39,240
Speaker 1: Oh gosh, what my mom said. You know, she thought

915
00:48:39,800 --> 00:48:42,040
Speaker 1: she didn't know John Paul Jones was actually like a

916
00:48:42,080 --> 00:48:43,600
Speaker 1: really good guy. She thought that he was just like

917
00:48:43,640 --> 00:48:45,920
Speaker 1: a surfer bro, like he kind of claims on the show.

918
00:48:46,280 --> 00:48:48,080
Speaker 1: And so she really liked John Paul Jones. But then

919
00:48:48,120 --> 00:48:50,840
Speaker 1: she also really liked Derek and I guess a situation

920
00:48:50,920 --> 00:48:55,480
Speaker 1: happened with Tasha and they got into it regarding Tasha.

921
00:48:55,600 --> 00:48:59,080
Speaker 1: I don't know the extent of the actual conversation, but

922
00:48:59,480 --> 00:49:02,640
Speaker 1: my mom said that, um, you know, John Paul Jones

923
00:49:02,680 --> 00:49:05,680
Speaker 1: got in Derek's face and then it was loud, and

924
00:49:06,040 --> 00:49:07,759
Speaker 1: my mom's like, I got nervous. I had to get

925
00:49:07,800 --> 00:49:09,480
Speaker 1: up and leave and go to the other bench, and

926
00:49:09,520 --> 00:49:11,359
Speaker 1: I'm like, oh my god. And then she was just

927
00:49:11,400 --> 00:49:14,560
Speaker 1: like saying, how he storms off? And you know, that's

928
00:49:14,640 --> 00:49:16,680
Speaker 1: kind of how it went down. Yeah, there's a lot

929
00:49:16,719 --> 00:49:21,880
Speaker 1: of finger pointing, a lot of hair flipping, Anna drama

930
00:49:22,040 --> 00:49:25,840
Speaker 1: we can expect. Oh my gosh, poor mama goose. She

931
00:49:26,040 --> 00:49:27,799
Speaker 1: was like, what's going on? Get me out of here.

932
00:49:27,840 --> 00:49:33,920
Speaker 1: I gotta move bench me. Oh my gosh. So what

933
00:49:34,040 --> 00:49:38,359
Speaker 1: are your actually what are your bridesmaids crystals? Angela? Right, um,

934
00:49:38,960 --> 00:49:42,360
Speaker 1: were you worried about Angela and Clay given their past

935
00:49:42,400 --> 00:49:46,760
Speaker 1: seeing each other. Oh, definitely they used today. Yeah, yeah,

936
00:49:46,800 --> 00:49:51,120
Speaker 1: I was definitely had some concerns about that because again,

937
00:49:51,320 --> 00:49:54,719
Speaker 1: I didn't want it to be my wedding to be

938
00:49:54,760 --> 00:50:01,120
Speaker 1: about someone else, definitely one of my groomsmen. And then

939
00:50:01,160 --> 00:50:03,680
Speaker 1: I changed it last minute. Wait, who is going to

940
00:50:03,719 --> 00:50:05,480
Speaker 1: be your grooms I wanted Clay to be one of

941
00:50:05,520 --> 00:50:08,320
Speaker 1: my groomsmen, because I mean, Clay and I are really close,

942
00:50:08,440 --> 00:50:11,560
Speaker 1: you know, that's that's one of my close guys. So um.

943
00:50:11,600 --> 00:50:13,719
Speaker 1: And then at last minute, I just felt in my

944
00:50:13,800 --> 00:50:16,319
Speaker 1: heart this was you know, prior to even the show

945
00:50:16,360 --> 00:50:20,120
Speaker 1: filming and everything, that I made the switch to make

946
00:50:20,120 --> 00:50:22,400
Speaker 1: sure that, you know, he wasn't a part of it,

947
00:50:22,440 --> 00:50:26,040
Speaker 1: just because I didn't want that kind of storyline to

948
00:50:26,080 --> 00:50:28,840
Speaker 1: take place and then be across from each other and

949
00:50:28,880 --> 00:50:31,360
Speaker 1: it'd be like the battle of like the groomsmen versus

950
00:50:31,360 --> 00:50:34,200
Speaker 1: the bridesmaid of like the past relationships. So I didn't

951
00:50:34,200 --> 00:50:36,080
Speaker 1: want that. I didn't want that. Yeah, I didn't want

952
00:50:36,080 --> 00:50:38,719
Speaker 1: that storyline to kind of get involved. It's so it's

953
00:50:38,719 --> 00:50:41,080
Speaker 1: so funny. You think about all the pressures to planning

954
00:50:41,080 --> 00:50:43,239
Speaker 1: a wedding and then here you guys are with these

955
00:50:43,280 --> 00:50:46,799
Speaker 1: additional pressures of having to think about things like that. Right,

956
00:50:48,080 --> 00:50:50,000
Speaker 1: let me tell you it's like and then then you're

957
00:50:50,000 --> 00:50:52,279
Speaker 1: there and you're at the reception, and you know, you're

958
00:50:52,400 --> 00:50:54,319
Speaker 1: cheers in and you're about to do the dinner and

959
00:50:54,320 --> 00:50:56,200
Speaker 1: you're just looking over to the right, and it's all

960
00:50:56,239 --> 00:50:58,160
Speaker 1: bachelor people in your in your mind, you're like, oh

961
00:50:58,200 --> 00:51:00,319
Speaker 1: my god, what kind of relationships are here? Right now?

962
00:51:00,320 --> 00:51:03,239
Speaker 1: That can go down because only a few people stayed

963
00:51:03,520 --> 00:51:06,880
Speaker 1: from Paradise. You know, we announced a few people to

964
00:51:06,960 --> 00:51:08,640
Speaker 1: stay and the rest had to leave and go back

965
00:51:08,680 --> 00:51:13,240
Speaker 1: to the island. So a few so everyone from Paradise

966
00:51:13,320 --> 00:51:16,480
Speaker 1: got to watch the ceremony, but only a few got

967
00:51:16,480 --> 00:51:19,959
Speaker 1: to stay for the reception. That's smart, Like, you guys

968
00:51:20,000 --> 00:51:22,920
Speaker 1: want the people you actually know at your reception, you know,

969
00:51:23,000 --> 00:51:24,920
Speaker 1: like if you don't know somebody, it's like cool, thanks,

970
00:51:25,400 --> 00:51:27,200
Speaker 1: you seem like a nice person, but this is my

971
00:51:27,239 --> 00:51:29,160
Speaker 1: wedding and I don't know who you are. Yeah, there

972
00:51:29,200 --> 00:51:36,200
Speaker 1: was still a large portion of that. Yeah, so did

973
00:51:36,239 --> 00:51:38,279
Speaker 1: Angela and Clay? Sorry to I don't want to harp

974
00:51:38,320 --> 00:51:40,319
Speaker 1: on them, but I'm just curious. Did they meet through

975
00:51:40,360 --> 00:51:43,960
Speaker 1: you guys? Yeah, they met through me. I set them up,

976
00:51:44,040 --> 00:51:47,800
Speaker 1: and you know, we were when we were in Paradise,

977
00:51:47,840 --> 00:51:50,720
Speaker 1: Angela and I were talking and we became really close friends.

978
00:51:51,200 --> 00:51:54,120
Speaker 1: And before we left Paradise, I was like, Angela, I

979
00:51:54,200 --> 00:51:56,399
Speaker 1: have this guy, you know, a good friend of mine

980
00:51:56,400 --> 00:51:58,799
Speaker 1: back home where I feel like everything you've talked about

981
00:51:58,800 --> 00:52:00,919
Speaker 1: of what you look for in a man, this guy

982
00:52:01,000 --> 00:52:03,240
Speaker 1: has and I feel like he would definitely be attracted

983
00:52:03,239 --> 00:52:04,680
Speaker 1: to you, and I think that there would be some

984
00:52:04,680 --> 00:52:06,960
Speaker 1: sort of connection there. And so when we got back,

985
00:52:07,000 --> 00:52:09,520
Speaker 1: I linked them to link them up together, and then

986
00:52:09,520 --> 00:52:11,960
Speaker 1: we went on a family trip, Crystal and I and

987
00:52:12,040 --> 00:52:14,560
Speaker 1: them too to Miami for a weekend, and you know,

988
00:52:14,600 --> 00:52:17,800
Speaker 1: they blossomed and they grew to a couple that we

989
00:52:17,920 --> 00:52:19,920
Speaker 1: thought were going to take it to that next level.

990
00:52:20,520 --> 00:52:24,560
Speaker 1: But unfortunately, it just didn't. It didn't turn out that way.

991
00:52:24,640 --> 00:52:27,400
Speaker 1: And I'm sure on Paradise you'll get to see a

992
00:52:27,400 --> 00:52:33,239
Speaker 1: conversation between Clay and Angela. Oh interesting, because let me

993
00:52:33,280 --> 00:52:35,279
Speaker 1: backtrack here. Sorry, i want to get back to you

994
00:52:35,320 --> 00:52:38,319
Speaker 1: guys wedding, but I've got to dig into this. Annelise

995
00:52:38,760 --> 00:52:40,959
Speaker 1: at the beginning of the season kind of got into

996
00:52:41,000 --> 00:52:43,640
Speaker 1: it with Clay and she was like, Hey, you know,

997
00:52:43,680 --> 00:52:45,879
Speaker 1: Angela is my friend and I'm not cool with how

998
00:52:45,880 --> 00:52:49,239
Speaker 1: you left her. It is the way he left her.

999
00:52:49,280 --> 00:52:53,840
Speaker 1: In your opinions, what Annelie was saying that she was

1000
00:52:53,920 --> 00:52:57,040
Speaker 1: kind of blindsided. Was it to go to Paradise. That's

1001
00:52:57,040 --> 00:52:59,240
Speaker 1: a great question, and to be honest with you, everyone

1002
00:52:59,360 --> 00:53:02,160
Speaker 1: everyone's gonna have their perception and everything can look a

1003
00:53:02,160 --> 00:53:05,200
Speaker 1: certain way to each individual eye. But I think at

1004
00:53:05,200 --> 00:53:07,680
Speaker 1: the reality of the day, I think what we need

1005
00:53:07,719 --> 00:53:10,520
Speaker 1: to stand by is that they were definitely a great couple.

1006
00:53:10,560 --> 00:53:12,719
Speaker 1: There's no doubt about it. They were definitely talking about

1007
00:53:12,800 --> 00:53:17,120
Speaker 1: children and kids, and she loved him. However, there was

1008
00:53:17,160 --> 00:53:20,840
Speaker 1: something missing for him to never be in love with Angela,

1009
00:53:20,960 --> 00:53:24,319
Speaker 1: and I think him not being able to fall in

1010
00:53:24,360 --> 00:53:27,360
Speaker 1: love or be in love with her led him to

1011
00:53:27,800 --> 00:53:29,680
Speaker 1: wanting to get out of that because he didn't want

1012
00:53:29,719 --> 00:53:32,200
Speaker 1: to hurt Angela, which at the end of the day

1013
00:53:32,239 --> 00:53:35,240
Speaker 1: still hurt her. But I know it looks a certain

1014
00:53:35,280 --> 00:53:37,719
Speaker 1: way maybe to some individual's eyes, but at the end

1015
00:53:37,719 --> 00:53:39,480
Speaker 1: of the day, he just had to get out of

1016
00:53:39,520 --> 00:53:41,680
Speaker 1: something that he wasn't fully committed him with his heart.

1017
00:53:42,280 --> 00:53:44,719
Speaker 1: And also to say this is really important to bring up.

1018
00:53:44,960 --> 00:53:48,080
Speaker 1: Clay hasn't playing football for professionally for ninety years. He

1019
00:53:48,120 --> 00:53:52,480
Speaker 1: didn't get drafted again, so he's literally searching for an

1020
00:53:52,480 --> 00:53:55,759
Speaker 1: identity and what's his life going to be. And he

1021
00:53:55,920 --> 00:53:57,640
Speaker 1: provides for his family and takes care of a lot

1022
00:53:57,680 --> 00:53:59,719
Speaker 1: of people, and I think that that's really scary that

1023
00:53:59,760 --> 00:54:03,080
Speaker 1: you when you're not working, you want to have a

1024
00:54:03,239 --> 00:54:06,760
Speaker 1: strong partner that can you know, come in there and support.

1025
00:54:06,840 --> 00:54:09,960
Speaker 1: And I think where he felt was that, you know,

1026
00:54:10,000 --> 00:54:13,480
Speaker 1: Angela really wanted to settle down and you know, raise

1027
00:54:13,560 --> 00:54:16,200
Speaker 1: a family, and that really scared him. He wasn't ready

1028
00:54:16,239 --> 00:54:20,759
Speaker 1: for that. He wasn't ready and he needed to let

1029
00:54:20,800 --> 00:54:24,239
Speaker 1: her go to go find his nut, you know, to

1030
00:54:24,320 --> 00:54:26,680
Speaker 1: go find his nut and find his bone, his new bone,

1031
00:54:26,800 --> 00:54:32,440
Speaker 1: because he's not doing football anymore. But I understand the pressure. Yeah, No,

1032
00:54:32,600 --> 00:54:33,880
Speaker 1: I love that you guys shared that, you know, he

1033
00:54:33,920 --> 00:54:36,120
Speaker 1: takes care of his family and stuff with that income

1034
00:54:36,120 --> 00:54:38,360
Speaker 1: from football. I mean that just proves to me the

1035
00:54:38,400 --> 00:54:41,160
Speaker 1: amazing guy that I thought Clay was all along. I'm

1036
00:54:41,160 --> 00:54:43,160
Speaker 1: obsessed with him, Like if he doesn't end up with

1037
00:54:43,200 --> 00:54:46,040
Speaker 1: the Kole from this show, like I am rooting for

1038
00:54:46,120 --> 00:54:48,080
Speaker 1: him to be the next Bachelor because I just think

1039
00:54:48,120 --> 00:54:52,799
Speaker 1: he is just the full package. So I love hearing

1040
00:54:52,800 --> 00:54:55,200
Speaker 1: your guys inside on that. It's very very interesting because

1041
00:54:55,239 --> 00:54:58,719
Speaker 1: you know, we are seeing Clay and Nicole, you know,

1042
00:54:59,040 --> 00:55:01,760
Speaker 1: have a really serious relationship. What are your guys thoughts

1043
00:55:01,760 --> 00:55:04,560
Speaker 1: on that being so close to Clay. Yeah, I mean,

1044
00:55:05,440 --> 00:55:08,000
Speaker 1: let me tell you, Nicole great, great girl. I think

1045
00:55:08,280 --> 00:55:11,480
Speaker 1: the fight between Christian and Jordan kind of put clarity

1046
00:55:11,480 --> 00:55:14,200
Speaker 1: into her knowing that the aggressive man that she maybe

1047
00:55:14,239 --> 00:55:15,880
Speaker 1: she thought she liked because she's used to that in

1048
00:55:15,920 --> 00:55:19,120
Speaker 1: Miami because I'm from South Florida in my in Orlando

1049
00:55:19,160 --> 00:55:21,000
Speaker 1: and I know how guys are over there, especially the

1050
00:55:21,080 --> 00:55:23,840
Speaker 1: Spanish guys, that that's not what she wanted at the

1051
00:55:23,880 --> 00:55:25,680
Speaker 1: end of the day, and she resorted back to that

1052
00:55:25,719 --> 00:55:28,480
Speaker 1: teddy bear that she knew was the right man for her.

1053
00:55:28,800 --> 00:55:31,600
Speaker 1: And I think the relationship right now is strong. I

1054
00:55:31,680 --> 00:55:34,560
Speaker 1: think now what we'll see is nothing getting in the

1055
00:55:34,560 --> 00:55:37,040
Speaker 1: way of that and them just continue to blossom and grow,

1056
00:55:37,239 --> 00:55:40,040
Speaker 1: and it'll be interesting because at the end of the day,

1057
00:55:40,200 --> 00:55:42,520
Speaker 1: she does seem to be fitting in very calming and

1058
00:55:42,600 --> 00:55:45,719
Speaker 1: nurturing to Clay, which Clay does like. And she can

1059
00:55:45,760 --> 00:55:49,879
Speaker 1: also sing, so that's a plus. I've seen it with

1060
00:55:50,080 --> 00:55:54,600
Speaker 1: Nicole though, I mean branded clearly her types in the

1061
00:55:54,640 --> 00:55:57,680
Speaker 1: past haven't worked out because she's in Paradise, but there's

1062
00:55:57,680 --> 00:56:00,600
Speaker 1: definitely an element where she really wants a strong man

1063
00:56:00,360 --> 00:56:05,040
Speaker 1: and is really seeking that and being Latina, definitely that

1064
00:56:05,239 --> 00:56:10,279
Speaker 1: strong passion is over culture. And so I'm curious to

1065
00:56:10,280 --> 00:56:14,600
Speaker 1: see if Clay will be strong enough in that attitude.

1066
00:56:14,640 --> 00:56:17,360
Speaker 1: I know physically he is, but he's so sweet and

1067
00:56:17,400 --> 00:56:20,840
Speaker 1: so soft and he's such a nurture that I'm curious

1068
00:56:20,880 --> 00:56:24,000
Speaker 1: to see if that'll be enough for no Coal interesting that.

1069
00:56:24,040 --> 00:56:26,160
Speaker 1: I think that's a very good point. That will be

1070
00:56:26,280 --> 00:56:28,200
Speaker 1: very interesting. See we even see her say to him

1071
00:56:28,239 --> 00:56:31,520
Speaker 1: and then I'm paraphrasing because I don't remember verbatim, but

1072
00:56:31,640 --> 00:56:34,360
Speaker 1: something about him needing to like step up to Christian

1073
00:56:34,560 --> 00:56:37,279
Speaker 1: and you know, and that's not who he is. And

1074
00:56:37,320 --> 00:56:39,000
Speaker 1: he told her that. So we'll have to see long

1075
00:56:39,080 --> 00:56:41,759
Speaker 1: term whether or not they can find that balance. That

1076
00:56:41,800 --> 00:56:44,960
Speaker 1: will definitely be interesting. Real quick, I want to get

1077
00:56:45,080 --> 00:56:46,680
Speaker 1: of your guys thoughts on a few more things with

1078
00:56:46,760 --> 00:56:49,239
Speaker 1: Paradise this season. Have you been keeping up fully, like,

1079
00:56:49,280 --> 00:56:54,000
Speaker 1: have you been watching every episode? Yeah? Are okay? So

1080
00:56:54,040 --> 00:56:56,480
Speaker 1: I have to ask your guys thoughts on Demi and

1081
00:56:56,560 --> 00:57:00,879
Speaker 1: Christian because that is just a huge I don't even

1082
00:57:00,920 --> 00:57:03,640
Speaker 1: want to say storyline, because it's so much more than that,

1083
00:57:03,760 --> 00:57:08,759
Speaker 1: just huge thing for the Bachelor franchise. What did you

1084
00:57:08,800 --> 00:57:11,640
Speaker 1: think watching last week's episode? What did you think? Ali?

1085
00:57:11,960 --> 00:57:15,440
Speaker 1: I want to know, Yes, I thought it was awesome.

1086
00:57:15,640 --> 00:57:18,760
Speaker 1: I mean, I honestly I found myself crying. I found

1087
00:57:18,800 --> 00:57:23,240
Speaker 1: myself just like seeing the love between these two women,

1088
00:57:23,600 --> 00:57:25,880
Speaker 1: love that we have not a type of love that

1089
00:57:25,920 --> 00:57:27,640
Speaker 1: we have not seen on the show before. I feel

1090
00:57:27,640 --> 00:57:29,520
Speaker 1: like on the show, and we've talked about this last

1091
00:57:29,560 --> 00:57:32,480
Speaker 1: week on the podcast with Demi, is that on the show,

1092
00:57:33,120 --> 00:57:36,440
Speaker 1: we you know, we crave different kinds of love, right

1093
00:57:36,520 --> 00:57:39,200
Speaker 1: Like we've seen like a like a white person love

1094
00:57:39,200 --> 00:57:42,040
Speaker 1: a white person. Right like now we're starting to see

1095
00:57:42,360 --> 00:57:45,880
Speaker 1: like different relationships with diversity, whether it's Latina or African

1096
00:57:45,920 --> 00:57:50,520
Speaker 1: American or you know, whoever it may be. And I

1097
00:57:50,520 --> 00:57:52,520
Speaker 1: think we're craving more of that diversity. We hope that

1098
00:57:52,520 --> 00:57:55,120
Speaker 1: there'll be a black bachelor soon. We have our amazing

1099
00:57:55,200 --> 00:57:58,280
Speaker 1: you know, my co host in this podcast, Rachel as

1100
00:57:58,280 --> 00:58:02,760
Speaker 1: a first black bachelorette, and I think it's so refreshing

1101
00:58:03,040 --> 00:58:06,240
Speaker 1: and so amazing to see this new love. That's my

1102
00:58:06,320 --> 00:58:09,840
Speaker 1: thoughts on it. Yeah, I mean, one thing I can

1103
00:58:09,840 --> 00:58:13,000
Speaker 1: say about this is the reason why I admire this

1104
00:58:13,040 --> 00:58:15,440
Speaker 1: and why it's close to my heart, is because my

1105
00:58:15,520 --> 00:58:19,320
Speaker 1: younger sister is lesbian and it took her about a

1106
00:58:19,400 --> 00:58:23,640
Speaker 1: year to like even tell me. So. For someone to

1107
00:58:23,720 --> 00:58:27,760
Speaker 1: go on a platform of this nature and express how

1108
00:58:27,800 --> 00:58:30,880
Speaker 1: they feel knowing that there could be criticism or backlash

1109
00:58:31,040 --> 00:58:35,720
Speaker 1: or negativity, because that's the risk that we face on

1110
00:58:35,760 --> 00:58:40,840
Speaker 1: this platform, very bold and very a very courage move

1111
00:58:40,880 --> 00:58:44,960
Speaker 1: on Demi's part. And it's nice to see because it's

1112
00:58:45,000 --> 00:58:47,360
Speaker 1: not nothing new. I mean, there are a lot of

1113
00:58:47,520 --> 00:58:51,000
Speaker 1: same sex relationships in this world, and we can't control

1114
00:58:51,080 --> 00:58:54,080
Speaker 1: how we feel or how we think about a gender,

1115
00:58:54,120 --> 00:58:56,880
Speaker 1: and it's beautiful to see that someone had the courage

1116
00:58:56,880 --> 00:59:01,240
Speaker 1: to step up face those fears us in and to

1117
00:59:01,320 --> 00:59:05,040
Speaker 1: trust us knowing that you know, we are fully supportive.

1118
00:59:05,080 --> 00:59:08,560
Speaker 1: And so yeah, I commend her for everything that she's

1119
00:59:08,600 --> 00:59:12,320
Speaker 1: done up to this point. And I commend also her

1120
00:59:12,440 --> 00:59:16,480
Speaker 1: girlfriend to never be exposed to the Bachelor Nation environment.

1121
00:59:16,760 --> 00:59:19,600
Speaker 1: To come right in and to share your story like

1122
00:59:19,640 --> 00:59:24,400
Speaker 1: that is something unheard of. Absolutely. I gotta ask you, Chris,

1123
00:59:24,480 --> 00:59:26,600
Speaker 1: you know you said that it took your sister a

1124
00:59:26,720 --> 00:59:31,040
Speaker 1: year to become comfortable coming to you and opening up

1125
00:59:31,040 --> 00:59:33,880
Speaker 1: to you about that. And I think that that again

1126
00:59:33,960 --> 00:59:37,760
Speaker 1: just puts into perspective for people, the gravity of what

1127
00:59:37,880 --> 00:59:41,000
Speaker 1: Demi is doing, like, like you just said, putting it

1128
00:59:41,000 --> 00:59:45,280
Speaker 1: out there for everybody, and not only being brave enough

1129
00:59:45,600 --> 00:59:48,960
Speaker 1: to open up about it on that platform like Bachelor

1130
00:59:48,960 --> 00:59:51,400
Speaker 1: in Paradise, where all three of us know, and if

1131
00:59:51,480 --> 00:59:53,640
Speaker 1: Rachel was here, she'd be saying the same thing. We

1132
00:59:53,720 --> 00:59:56,440
Speaker 1: know the criticism that comes along and how hurtful it

1133
00:59:56,480 --> 01:00:01,400
Speaker 1: can be. And so doing this thing that, you know,

1134
01:00:01,440 --> 01:00:03,680
Speaker 1: being open about your relationship and not everybody's going to

1135
01:00:03,760 --> 01:00:06,680
Speaker 1: agree with because that's the world we live in, unfortunately,

1136
01:00:07,120 --> 01:00:09,760
Speaker 1: doing that, but then on a whole other level, not

1137
01:00:09,880 --> 01:00:13,520
Speaker 1: just talking about it, having Christian, you know, come to Paradise,

1138
01:00:13,560 --> 01:00:17,040
Speaker 1: having them both stay in Paradise and explore their relationship

1139
01:00:17,080 --> 01:00:20,480
Speaker 1: even further, Like this is Demi's first relationship, serious relationship

1140
01:00:20,520 --> 01:00:23,439
Speaker 1: with a woman. I just think it's so you said

1141
01:00:23,440 --> 01:00:25,840
Speaker 1: it perfectly, Chris. It's just so brave of her. And

1142
01:00:25,920 --> 01:00:27,880
Speaker 1: she's not only going to change lives. I said this before,

1143
01:00:27,920 --> 01:00:30,240
Speaker 1: She's going to save lives and I just love her

1144
01:00:30,240 --> 01:00:37,320
Speaker 1: for it. Yeah, She's transcending the imagery of perception when

1145
01:00:37,320 --> 01:00:41,120
Speaker 1: it comes to same sex and so that's huge because

1146
01:00:41,600 --> 01:00:44,960
Speaker 1: there's a lot of hate sometimes behind this topic. But

1147
01:00:45,040 --> 01:00:49,000
Speaker 1: I think what she's doing is transitioning that word hate

1148
01:00:49,040 --> 01:00:52,560
Speaker 1: into love based on what we're seeing so well, said

1149
01:00:52,600 --> 01:00:55,000
Speaker 1: Chris truly, and I feel like whenever we talk about this, like,

1150
01:00:55,040 --> 01:00:57,160
Speaker 1: I just I don't know, there's no words I feel

1151
01:00:57,160 --> 01:01:00,280
Speaker 1: like that I can use to describe just how I

1152
01:01:00,320 --> 01:01:04,160
Speaker 1: feel about it and how happy I am about it,

1153
01:01:04,240 --> 01:01:06,160
Speaker 1: because I think it's so important for our culture, for

1154
01:01:06,200 --> 01:01:08,560
Speaker 1: the Bachelor Nation, for everybody, And I just love Demi

1155
01:01:08,680 --> 01:01:11,520
Speaker 1: so much and I can't wait to see what happens

1156
01:01:11,520 --> 01:01:15,080
Speaker 1: with her and Christian moving forward. So with that said,

1157
01:01:15,400 --> 01:01:17,960
Speaker 1: I'm assuming we're all rooting for Demi and Christian based

1158
01:01:17,960 --> 01:01:19,960
Speaker 1: on this conversation, But what other couples are you guys

1159
01:01:20,080 --> 01:01:22,520
Speaker 1: rooting for. I mean, I'm rooting for Derek for Bachelor.

1160
01:01:23,400 --> 01:01:26,840
Speaker 1: I'm just gonna throw that out there. And the reason

1161
01:01:26,880 --> 01:01:30,360
Speaker 1: why I say this is because not only is he

1162
01:01:30,480 --> 01:01:34,560
Speaker 1: a man, like a mature man, but he is the

1163
01:01:34,600 --> 01:01:39,880
Speaker 1: definition of someone who is an emotionally intelligent human being

1164
01:01:40,280 --> 01:01:45,760
Speaker 1: and someone who shows compassion and knows how to understand

1165
01:01:45,760 --> 01:01:49,040
Speaker 1: a woman and if you want a bachelor who is

1166
01:01:49,040 --> 01:01:52,880
Speaker 1: a man that has his stuff together, that is emotionally stable.

1167
01:01:53,480 --> 01:01:55,840
Speaker 1: He could have easily had the option of blowing this

1168
01:01:56,000 --> 01:02:00,800
Speaker 1: up and making it about him and being selfish, but instead,

1169
01:02:01,560 --> 01:02:04,160
Speaker 1: because he is a mature man, he went the route

1170
01:02:04,360 --> 01:02:08,680
Speaker 1: of understanding her emotions and putting Demi's emotions first rather

1171
01:02:08,720 --> 01:02:11,280
Speaker 1: than his own agenda, which I think is something that

1172
01:02:11,320 --> 01:02:14,040
Speaker 1: you normally don't see. And the reason why he would

1173
01:02:14,040 --> 01:02:15,920
Speaker 1: be a great bachelor's not only is he heartbroken from this,

1174
01:02:15,960 --> 01:02:18,800
Speaker 1: because he really did like, if not love Demi based

1175
01:02:18,800 --> 01:02:21,680
Speaker 1: on you know what we're seeing, but um, you know

1176
01:02:21,720 --> 01:02:24,560
Speaker 1: you're dating all these women. He is someone who can

1177
01:02:24,560 --> 01:02:28,600
Speaker 1: give you all different facets of personality and emotion with relationships,

1178
01:02:28,600 --> 01:02:31,120
Speaker 1: and I think that would be very compelling for TV.

1179
01:02:32,760 --> 01:02:35,320
Speaker 1: You know, I'm not mad at that answer. I would

1180
01:02:35,320 --> 01:02:38,640
Speaker 1: get on board with the Derek for Bachelor train. There's

1181
01:02:38,640 --> 01:02:41,240
Speaker 1: a good there's a lot of good candidates out there,

1182
01:02:41,280 --> 01:02:42,920
Speaker 1: I feel like for Bachelor of the season, so it's

1183
01:02:42,920 --> 01:02:44,800
Speaker 1: going to be a tough choice for sure. Do you

1184
01:02:44,840 --> 01:02:46,800
Speaker 1: see any of the current couples getting engaged if you

1185
01:02:46,840 --> 01:02:48,840
Speaker 1: had to bet money on it, who do you see

1186
01:02:48,880 --> 01:02:54,600
Speaker 1: getting engaged? I see Canna and Dylan absolutely getting engaged. Yeah,

1187
01:02:54,720 --> 01:02:59,200
Speaker 1: really definitely. Oh my gosh, I feel like that at

1188
01:02:59,240 --> 01:03:01,280
Speaker 1: this point, I am not there yet with them, Like

1189
01:03:01,320 --> 01:03:03,720
Speaker 1: I feel like she just chose him. Does she really

1190
01:03:03,760 --> 01:03:08,720
Speaker 1: want to be with him yet? That's so interesting. He's proposing,

1191
01:03:09,320 --> 01:03:15,840
Speaker 1: Oh yes, when you put it that way. Yet will

1192
01:03:15,920 --> 01:03:19,440
Speaker 1: she say yes? That is the question. But he is

1193
01:03:19,440 --> 01:03:21,920
Speaker 1: definitely proposing. I think that I think they're really I

1194
01:03:21,920 --> 01:03:25,400
Speaker 1: think they're really sweet. My thing with this relationship is, um,

1195
01:03:26,160 --> 01:03:28,320
Speaker 1: I want to know how I really like them as

1196
01:03:28,320 --> 01:03:29,880
Speaker 1: a couple. I want to know how it's going to

1197
01:03:29,960 --> 01:03:33,160
Speaker 1: go after the show, because if they're still together, you know,

1198
01:03:33,280 --> 01:03:36,480
Speaker 1: and if if they are together and they do get engaged,

1199
01:03:36,560 --> 01:03:40,560
Speaker 1: how they'll be Because Hannah is a girl that can

1200
01:03:40,640 --> 01:03:45,560
Speaker 1: have any guys she wants, and definitely I relate elements

1201
01:03:45,600 --> 01:03:48,840
Speaker 1: in my younger years of I like the guys that

1202
01:03:48,880 --> 01:03:50,640
Speaker 1: play hard to get. I like the guys that make

1203
01:03:50,720 --> 01:03:56,120
Speaker 1: me work for it, because when you're smothered, you know,

1204
01:03:56,320 --> 01:03:59,280
Speaker 1: with love and attention, sometimes it's just too much. Um

1205
01:03:59,360 --> 01:04:01,640
Speaker 1: And I feel like Dylan is really, i mean just

1206
01:04:01,800 --> 01:04:05,800
Speaker 1: crazy crazy crazy over her, and it might be a

1207
01:04:05,840 --> 01:04:08,000
Speaker 1: little much. I don't know. I feel like it's too

1208
01:04:08,080 --> 01:04:10,400
Speaker 1: much until it's the right person. Like I think she

1209
01:04:10,520 --> 01:04:12,880
Speaker 1: thinks it's too much because maybe it's not the right person,

1210
01:04:12,920 --> 01:04:14,600
Speaker 1: Like I will say from I don't know how your

1211
01:04:15,160 --> 01:04:17,600
Speaker 1: you know you guys should tell us what your experience was.

1212
01:04:17,640 --> 01:04:19,880
Speaker 1: But when I met my husband, I was like, get

1213
01:04:20,240 --> 01:04:22,560
Speaker 1: smother me, smother me. I'm so into you. I want

1214
01:04:22,560 --> 01:04:26,320
Speaker 1: to smother you back. I'm not that way. I mean,

1215
01:04:26,480 --> 01:04:29,920
Speaker 1: I don't like to text much and I like to

1216
01:04:29,960 --> 01:04:32,240
Speaker 1: give people their space, and so like when we have

1217
01:04:32,320 --> 01:04:34,760
Speaker 1: our moments, we have our moments. But at the end

1218
01:04:34,760 --> 01:04:37,440
Speaker 1: of the day, I think I've learned early in like

1219
01:04:37,480 --> 01:04:41,520
Speaker 1: my twenties that smothering and like wanting to be needy

1220
01:04:41,600 --> 01:04:43,960
Speaker 1: and attention and just be all over the other person

1221
01:04:44,080 --> 01:04:48,680
Speaker 1: just isn't healthy. And so nowadays, like for Crystal and I,

1222
01:04:48,760 --> 01:04:51,080
Speaker 1: like I always knew not to call her before a

1223
01:04:51,120 --> 01:04:53,439
Speaker 1: certain time because she has her morning routine. She likes

1224
01:04:53,440 --> 01:04:56,840
Speaker 1: to walk. So when we left Paradise, like we wouldn't

1225
01:04:56,880 --> 01:05:00,520
Speaker 1: talk till about the afternoon for the first time of

1226
01:05:00,520 --> 01:05:03,040
Speaker 1: the day, and we rarely text it because she doesn't

1227
01:05:03,040 --> 01:05:04,840
Speaker 1: like the text and I don't like the text. So

1228
01:05:04,840 --> 01:05:07,240
Speaker 1: when we did talk, it was FaceTime or a phone conversation.

1229
01:05:07,600 --> 01:05:10,360
Speaker 1: So you know, early on, when you get out of paradise,

1230
01:05:10,480 --> 01:05:13,200
Speaker 1: you learn these things quick because especially if you want

1231
01:05:13,240 --> 01:05:15,720
Speaker 1: the relationship to grow and evolve, you have to kind

1232
01:05:15,720 --> 01:05:19,480
Speaker 1: of understand your partner and understand what to do and

1233
01:05:19,560 --> 01:05:20,960
Speaker 1: what not to do. And so I knew that she

1234
01:05:21,040 --> 01:05:23,080
Speaker 1: was independent. I knew she liked her alone time, and

1235
01:05:23,120 --> 01:05:25,240
Speaker 1: I had to honor that. And so that's and it's

1236
01:05:25,240 --> 01:05:27,800
Speaker 1: still like that to this day. And I will say,

1237
01:05:28,520 --> 01:05:32,120
Speaker 1: Chris allowing me to have that, well it it's not negotiable,

1238
01:05:32,440 --> 01:05:35,080
Speaker 1: but like I haven't had that time to myself, it's

1239
01:05:35,200 --> 01:05:38,400
Speaker 1: not negotiable. But because he honors it, and he's so

1240
01:05:38,840 --> 01:05:43,160
Speaker 1: allowing and respectful of me meeting my time, like my

1241
01:05:43,200 --> 01:05:46,560
Speaker 1: personal space to grow and develop in my ways and

1242
01:05:46,640 --> 01:05:49,000
Speaker 1: just make sure I'm centered for the day, it makes

1243
01:05:49,000 --> 01:05:50,880
Speaker 1: me miss him. You know, he lets me be me

1244
01:05:51,680 --> 01:05:55,560
Speaker 1: and that's really special. And yeah, I miss him. You know,

1245
01:05:55,600 --> 01:05:57,480
Speaker 1: we lived together and we're together all the time. I

1246
01:05:57,520 --> 01:06:00,520
Speaker 1: still miss him throughout the day. We are one step

1247
01:06:00,560 --> 01:06:01,760
Speaker 1: ahead of me. Because I was going to ask what

1248
01:06:01,800 --> 01:06:04,240
Speaker 1: advice you have for couples that get engaged from the show.

1249
01:06:04,240 --> 01:06:06,400
Speaker 1: But there, you just did it right there. I guess

1250
01:06:06,400 --> 01:06:10,120
Speaker 1: I will end with just asking you guys, what you

1251
01:06:10,200 --> 01:06:13,280
Speaker 1: hope everybody sees tomorrow night when they watch your wedding.

1252
01:06:13,480 --> 01:06:16,320
Speaker 1: I hope that people see just because you have a

1253
01:06:16,400 --> 01:06:19,760
Speaker 1: bumpy start to a journey doesn't mean it has to

1254
01:06:19,840 --> 01:06:21,840
Speaker 1: end that way. And you have the power and ability

1255
01:06:21,920 --> 01:06:26,000
Speaker 1: through a lot of work, self examination and opening your

1256
01:06:26,040 --> 01:06:32,360
Speaker 1: heart and forgiving, forgiving yourself, you can transform your life.

1257
01:06:32,400 --> 01:06:34,520
Speaker 1: And when you find the right person because you become

1258
01:06:34,520 --> 01:06:38,000
Speaker 1: open that you know, you become a better version of yourself.

1259
01:06:38,200 --> 01:06:42,320
Speaker 1: So I hope that our journeys throughout the entire Basher

1260
01:06:42,400 --> 01:06:45,280
Speaker 1: franchise that we've done can really give some hope and

1261
01:06:45,480 --> 01:06:48,760
Speaker 1: shine some lights. Well that was beautifully said, and you know,

1262
01:06:48,920 --> 01:06:51,640
Speaker 1: I even would take that a step further to say, like,

1263
01:06:52,120 --> 01:06:55,680
Speaker 1: just for everybody who watches couples get together on Bastination,

1264
01:06:55,720 --> 01:06:57,840
Speaker 1: they're putting their hearts, they're putting their lives out there,

1265
01:06:57,920 --> 01:07:00,840
Speaker 1: and you know, just to have some great for everybody,

1266
01:07:00,840 --> 01:07:03,000
Speaker 1: and you know, sometimes it turns into a beautiful love

1267
01:07:03,040 --> 01:07:05,280
Speaker 1: story in the end. So thank you guys so much.

1268
01:07:05,320 --> 01:07:08,160
Speaker 1: I will say on behalf of Bachelor Nation, We're just

1269
01:07:08,240 --> 01:07:10,480
Speaker 1: so happy for you both. I mean, you are a

1270
01:07:10,480 --> 01:07:13,680
Speaker 1: success story out of the franchise. Did you ever think

1271
01:07:13,720 --> 01:07:16,080
Speaker 1: that back when you were on the Bachelor Crystal where

1272
01:07:16,120 --> 01:07:21,919
Speaker 1: you are the Bachelor atte Well, you are, you are,

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