WEBVTT - The ‘90s with Bevy Smith 0:00:03.240 --> 0:00:10.200 Hello, everybody, welcome back to get another splendid iconic episode. 0:00:10.520 --> 0:00:12.840 I think this is gonna be top top three. 0:00:13.039 --> 0:00:16.040 You always do this when you When have you ever 0:00:16.120 --> 0:00:18.799 heard it's like someone that you like you start this 0:00:18.960 --> 0:00:19.680 fangirl stuff? 0:00:19.720 --> 0:00:20.880 Very have you ever heard? 0:00:21.120 --> 0:00:23.239 Get them on your side? 0:00:24.480 --> 0:00:27.800 All right, let's roll the tapes we have, We have footage. 0:00:27.840 --> 0:00:32.000 I never say anything like this before, given top three episode. 0:00:32.159 --> 0:00:34.720 Given Larry Wilmore already like, okay, you do this. 0:00:34.880 --> 0:00:37.239 Okay, people that I'm fond of, that I that I 0:00:37.280 --> 0:00:41.280 respect and I admire, And it's no different today. 0:00:41.520 --> 0:00:44.240 You do this like the iconic. 0:00:44.960 --> 0:00:47.160 Agree, don't don't let her. 0:00:47.600 --> 0:00:50.159 I'm definitely feeling a little shrunken. 0:00:50.680 --> 0:00:53.080 IM feeling a little no. 0:00:52.680 --> 0:00:55.920 No, I agree, no, definitely. 0:00:55.520 --> 0:01:02.120 An icon absolutely. I mean mentor I don't get too many, 0:01:02.360 --> 0:01:03.960 too many, too many. 0:01:04.240 --> 0:01:09.919 Has been a mentor to me at times, the incredible, 0:01:10.560 --> 0:01:11.440 the incomparable. 0:01:11.959 --> 0:01:16.880 Today we are authored talking to podcaster of Bevilations, Lessons 0:01:16.880 --> 0:01:21.040 from a Mother, Auntie, Bestie, and hosts of Serious X 0:01:21.120 --> 0:01:25.240 and radios Beplations. Everybody, please give a whole stuff and 0:01:25.319 --> 0:01:28.080 how stuff have we do? We do? We have another 0:01:28.080 --> 0:01:31.720 thing that we've I saw that new it's new. 0:01:31.800 --> 0:01:33.480 This is new, right, But that's the only thing, that 0:01:33.560 --> 0:01:35.320 really the only thing, because if I don't own it, 0:01:35.560 --> 0:01:36.119 who cares? 0:01:36.160 --> 0:01:40.039 That's right? Please get a loud resounding look back at it. 0:01:40.120 --> 0:01:41.080 Welcome to. 0:01:44.240 --> 0:01:45.880 Where am I looking? This is my camera? 0:01:45.959 --> 0:01:50.000 That's your camera right there here with you're in the room. 0:01:50.360 --> 0:01:56.680 But I got now over there. This is all good. 0:01:57.400 --> 0:01:59.200 We are here, bebby. How are you? 0:01:59.760 --> 0:02:00.680 I'm really good? 0:02:00.880 --> 0:02:01.760 Yes? Do we know? 0:02:01.840 --> 0:02:04.760 That's Friday? 0:02:04.560 --> 0:02:08.400 They they Friday, It'll be a Friday when they watched. 0:02:08.160 --> 0:02:12.359 It, Friday love Friday, because you know that means that 0:02:12.800 --> 0:02:15.360 the weekend is upon us and we get to have 0:02:15.400 --> 0:02:16.600 the agains. 0:02:17.600 --> 0:02:19.160 Them and I had AGAs last night. 0:02:19.480 --> 0:02:20.880 Well, Thursday is a new Friday. 0:02:20.880 --> 0:02:21.799 Thursday is the new. 0:02:23.280 --> 0:02:24.960 Last night we had last night. 0:02:24.960 --> 0:02:29.799 We were legit at the strip club last night, strip club, 0:02:30.520 --> 0:02:31.519 our friend. 0:02:31.360 --> 0:02:34.000 Your tattletale. What do you mean, it's just the way. 0:02:33.880 --> 0:02:38.840 You do it? You're it was game night last night. 0:02:38.880 --> 0:02:42.880 It was love everybody. It was like it was both 0:02:42.880 --> 0:02:45.000 of It was both our clan there. 0:02:45.120 --> 0:02:47.560 That was why why do you feel you felt like 0:02:47.600 --> 0:02:48.639 there was a lot of gay men in there? 0:02:48.680 --> 0:02:51.160 There were I literally was welcomed through to the door by, 0:02:51.200 --> 0:02:56.080 like a dude that's on Broadway doing a local ball. 0:02:56.600 --> 0:02:59.960 I saw Punky so I was our friends, our friends 0:03:00.080 --> 0:03:02.560 Matt Richards. He every once in a while he'll like 0:03:02.680 --> 0:03:06.600 host a uh competition, strippers competition. Is it ate Knight 0:03:06.639 --> 0:03:09.320 for them or something? No, no, no it's not, but 0:03:09.400 --> 0:03:13.560 it's at it didn't look it's a competition. So usually 0:03:13.560 --> 0:03:15.600 they all usually just get tens across the boy. I've 0:03:15.639 --> 0:03:17.880 never known how much money do you get for this competition. 0:03:18.080 --> 0:03:20.639 I'm not sure what you do. But they were making 0:03:20.639 --> 0:03:22.880 it rained last night. There's money involved. We were making 0:03:22.880 --> 0:03:24.200 it making it rain last night. 0:03:24.240 --> 0:03:25.119 I don't remember how much. 0:03:25.240 --> 0:03:27.760 I don't remember how much either, but we have important. 0:03:27.840 --> 0:03:30.320 It was odd. It was oddly queer. It was oddly 0:03:30.400 --> 0:03:31.760 queer in a way that I've only been to that 0:03:31.800 --> 0:03:35.080 competition twice now, I don't require I don't recall being 0:03:35.080 --> 0:03:37.840 there as many queer people in it felt So. 0:03:37.960 --> 0:03:39.680 Is it a straight place that has a lot of 0:03:39.800 --> 0:03:41.080 quer No, it was. 0:03:41.360 --> 0:03:44.000 It's a straight place. But I just like. 0:03:45.480 --> 0:03:48.720 A gentleman's club. Yeah, so it's nice. You get wings 0:03:48.760 --> 0:03:53.320 and steak, Yeah, yeah, about mistake. 0:03:53.680 --> 0:03:55.320 I don't know about the steak. I don't I don't 0:03:55.320 --> 0:03:57.680 really order like heavy meals at strip clubs. 0:03:57.520 --> 0:03:58.840 Really, even in Atlanta. 0:03:58.880 --> 0:04:00.640 I was saying, let's the magic city. You're like, yeah, 0:04:00.800 --> 0:04:03.160 because you have to know Cheetah. 0:04:03.200 --> 0:04:04.720 I'll eat a good mail like cheetah. Is that the 0:04:04.720 --> 0:04:07.080 one you took me to in Atlanta? It's off the 0:04:07.120 --> 0:04:09.240 highway or something like, No, no, no, I took you 0:04:09.280 --> 0:04:11.880 to the Flame I took it was a few years 0:04:12.240 --> 0:04:15.440 the Dirty Dirty She took me to the We were 0:04:15.440 --> 0:04:17.680 watching tanks versus some guys. 0:04:18.160 --> 0:04:20.680 She she flew me out. 0:04:22.040 --> 0:04:22.760 I didn't just fight you. 0:04:22.800 --> 0:04:28.159 I put you on a private a little little, little 0:04:28.200 --> 0:04:28.719 little play. 0:04:28.760 --> 0:04:33.640 I was playing a little fun. Let you be a 0:04:33.640 --> 0:04:35.719 boy for the weekend. But we got to that strip club, 0:04:35.800 --> 0:04:38.200 but you saw the boy kind of went away. Yeah, 0:04:38.200 --> 0:04:41.120 you got gay. I got game the strip club because 0:04:41.360 --> 0:04:43.800 Trina came on and started. 0:04:45.440 --> 0:04:49.080 The girls. I was just like, yeah, I got a 0:04:49.120 --> 0:04:52.720 little well, you know what, back in the day that 0:04:52.880 --> 0:04:56.080 was accepted. And but as long as you think you're 0:04:56.120 --> 0:04:59.080 on the stage, absolutely, I wouldn't dare. 0:04:59.320 --> 0:05:06.960 Yeah, on this particular strip club girls, I had never been. 0:05:07.240 --> 0:05:09.480 I'd been to strip clubs and destrouble before. Whatever been 0:05:09.520 --> 0:05:13.159 a couple here Atlanta strip club. Though, that's just a 0:05:13.240 --> 0:05:14.599 different experience. 0:05:15.040 --> 0:05:18.400 You know what's a very different experience. It's a New 0:05:18.480 --> 0:05:19.400 Orleans strip club. 0:05:20.080 --> 0:05:24.640 Yes, very what's what's the difference? I think very grunge. 0:05:24.720 --> 0:05:31.600 It's the term Milan strip clubs, very like you'd be like, 0:05:32.000 --> 0:05:33.640 I need to get up there and just show everybody 0:05:33.640 --> 0:05:35.880 what to do. It's more like it's a lot of 0:05:35.960 --> 0:05:40.000 language walking around white and even if it's black girls 0:05:40.000 --> 0:05:41.800 in there, even if it's what I'm. 0:05:41.640 --> 0:05:44.520 Saying, but it's white facing, like even the African girls 0:05:44.560 --> 0:05:46.919 working in a white like a striple, like you're talking 0:05:46.920 --> 0:05:48.839 to overseas, that might be African girl in it, but 0:05:48.880 --> 0:05:52.039 she's there to white men and they're enticed by a 0:05:52.040 --> 0:05:54.040 different type of stripping behavior. 0:05:54.200 --> 0:05:56.200 Yes, exactly. So it's a little. 0:05:56.040 --> 0:05:59.240 State in your experience. May be has there is there 0:05:59.800 --> 0:06:02.360 if you've been to like a strict club recently, has 0:06:02.440 --> 0:06:06.039 there do you see like any comparisons or contrasts in 0:06:06.080 --> 0:06:11.080 strip club culture like in the nineties versus now, Well, 0:06:11.760 --> 0:06:14.200 because we are here to talk about the nineties, about 0:06:14.200 --> 0:06:17.520 the nineties, we are here, you are. 0:06:17.480 --> 0:06:24.680 Killing always comes in handy. I love it the way exactly. 0:06:25.720 --> 0:06:30.240 I think like back in the day, I feel like 0:06:30.560 --> 0:06:34.359 the girls were more earnest house. But it's just like 0:06:34.400 --> 0:06:37.719 with reality TV. Remember like the original Reality TV, people 0:06:37.720 --> 0:06:38.280 didn't know the. 0:06:38.240 --> 0:06:41.240 Plot the first Real World, Yeah, people didn't. 0:06:40.960 --> 0:06:43.520 Know the plot. Now people know the plot, they know 0:06:43.560 --> 0:06:44.320 the assignment. 0:06:44.960 --> 0:06:49.240 In the nineties, girls didn't understand how much money could 0:06:49.320 --> 0:06:52.320 really be made. I feel like people were there, like 0:06:52.480 --> 0:06:55.159 they really were working their way through school. 0:06:55.680 --> 0:06:57.480 You know what I mean, not just a lot of 0:06:58.000 --> 0:06:58.680 Now that's just a. 0:06:58.680 --> 0:07:01.120 Line that they say, right like, and I think that 0:07:01.120 --> 0:07:01.960 that's the difference. 0:07:02.000 --> 0:07:04.560 Like the girls are far more professional. 0:07:04.760 --> 0:07:08.600 Yeah, and they're uh stripping than they were back in 0:07:08.640 --> 0:07:11.120 the day where it was like literally it could really 0:07:11.160 --> 0:07:12.080 be a girl next door. 0:07:12.440 --> 0:07:15.400 Yeah, yeah, yeah, I feel you on that. I feel that. 0:07:15.760 --> 0:07:19.240 I can remember like late nineties going to elect clubs 0:07:19.240 --> 0:07:20.840 in Atlanta when I wasn't supposed to be in there, 0:07:20.880 --> 0:07:24.040 and I will say, like, you know, mitilate, it was 0:07:24.400 --> 0:07:29.080 like just to see like what's And yeah, I would say. 0:07:28.880 --> 0:07:31.120 They were they were a little more innocent. 0:07:31.360 --> 0:07:33.280 Yeah, yeah, they were a little more. 0:07:33.200 --> 0:07:35.160 So you would say that how to be a player 0:07:35.520 --> 0:07:44.080 was like a period piece. Yeah, I'm getting my black 0:07:44.120 --> 0:07:44.880 movies mixed up. 0:07:44.920 --> 0:07:50.800 Yeah, I mean that's so iconic for everything there was, there. 0:07:50.720 --> 0:07:51.680 Was more diamonds. 0:07:52.000 --> 0:07:53.440 There's more diamonds out there in the world. 0:07:54.920 --> 0:08:00.840 Everybody's uh, Ronnie, everybody, everybody's n. 0:08:02.160 --> 0:08:05.040 I really don't believe, I truly believed that that film 0:08:05.080 --> 0:08:07.560 did not get It's just dude, when it comes to 0:08:07.600 --> 0:08:08.960 like how it was received, I. 0:08:08.960 --> 0:08:10.840 Just feel like it needs to be a part of 0:08:10.880 --> 0:08:12.000 the Criterion collection. 0:08:12.240 --> 0:08:14.280 Really, players go for sure? For sure? 0:08:14.360 --> 0:08:14.800 For sure? 0:08:14.960 --> 0:08:15.760 Yeah, I don't know. 0:08:16.080 --> 0:08:20.080 Fantastic performances all around, all around, fantastic performance ever got 0:08:20.200 --> 0:08:21.000 back at his. 0:08:21.080 --> 0:08:24.400 Oh my god, truly we got introduced to Terrence Howard, 0:08:24.480 --> 0:08:31.640 Jamie going crazy, going crazy, Ice Ice going crazy. 0:08:31.920 --> 0:08:35.000 Yeah, yeah, we be clubbing, I remember. 0:08:34.720 --> 0:08:39.280 And the best we've ever gotten out Lisa Ray shame 0:08:39.360 --> 0:08:39.720 and better. 0:08:40.480 --> 0:08:42.720 I know she might cuss me out for saying that's 0:08:42.720 --> 0:08:46.120 her to other fource, but yeah, I also would really 0:08:46.960 --> 0:08:50.600 ready you come to New York, I sa I would 0:08:50.640 --> 0:08:51.600 love for her to cust me out. 0:08:51.480 --> 0:08:54.760 To cuss you out. Yeah, that was that you. Yeah, 0:08:54.920 --> 0:08:57.240 I feel like this, that's a kink for you in 0:08:57.280 --> 0:08:59.920 this way, in this context, my. 0:09:02.760 --> 0:09:03.360 Curse me out. 0:09:03.559 --> 0:09:06.360 And that's just what that lovely gentleman who is all white. 0:09:07.040 --> 0:09:08.719 Oh she got she got her man wearing white too. 0:09:10.600 --> 0:09:14.079 I think he always wore white. 0:09:14.880 --> 0:09:19.079 Okay, two lovers and white. 0:09:21.920 --> 0:09:27.240 And white. So you are you show up fabulous. I 0:09:27.280 --> 0:09:29.840 just feel like that's always been your vibe. I've seen you, 0:09:30.160 --> 0:09:31.960 I've seen you. I've seen all right, I've seen you 0:09:32.000 --> 0:09:35.240 around town. So I'm sure. The question that we usually 0:09:35.240 --> 0:09:38.000 ask people when they bring to us the moment in 0:09:38.040 --> 0:09:40.920 time that they want to bring up, we asked, who 0:09:41.800 --> 0:09:44.520 were you what did you have going on. 0:09:46.240 --> 0:09:49.440 During the grand fashion and grand baby fashion? We said, 0:09:49.559 --> 0:09:53.679 pick a year, and Bety picked a decade. So here 0:09:53.720 --> 0:09:59.640 we are, give. 0:09:59.520 --> 0:10:00.000 Me the whole. 0:10:00.520 --> 0:10:03.240 It was a year for you, right, it was a 0:10:03.360 --> 0:10:05.160 year for me. Like you have to remember, like you 0:10:05.200 --> 0:10:08.120 guys understand that. Think about all the songs and be 0:10:08.160 --> 0:10:10.960 like nine to five, you know the you know, it's 0:10:11.000 --> 0:10:13.239 just like nineties, weren't it. 0:10:13.240 --> 0:10:14.720 It was the golden age of hip hop. 0:10:15.240 --> 0:10:15.640 It was. 0:10:15.800 --> 0:10:19.280 It was. So I'm from Harlem. I'm fifty nine years old. 0:10:19.360 --> 0:10:23.720 So hip hop is literally my first music. It is 0:10:23.880 --> 0:10:27.120 my music, not my mom's music, not my big brother's music. 0:10:27.120 --> 0:10:30.199 It's my music. And you're in the city where it's found. 0:10:30.240 --> 0:10:32.720 I'm in Harlem, Yeah, which is right across the bridge 0:10:32.760 --> 0:10:35.680 from the Bronx, So I'm at all the jams. I 0:10:35.760 --> 0:10:39.439 remember you hearing rappers the light from down the block, 0:10:39.559 --> 0:10:41.920 and you hear it and you run towards the sound. 0:10:42.600 --> 0:10:45.200 I'm that girl, right yea. So by the time we 0:10:45.240 --> 0:10:49.800 get to the nineties and there's coinage connected to hip hop, 0:10:49.840 --> 0:10:52.520 because you gotta remember, in the eighties, it was all 0:10:52.559 --> 0:10:55.480 the hustlers that were the stars of the community. Like 0:10:55.520 --> 0:10:58.319 so when ELLK who j would come up to the rooftop, 0:10:58.720 --> 0:11:01.760 he would be looking at Poe, which poor the a 0:11:01.920 --> 0:11:04.880 Z that's a uh paying them for. 0:11:07.679 --> 0:11:10.200 So he would come up there. All the hustles were 0:11:10.360 --> 0:11:13.760 the ones that everyone looked up to. But then in 0:11:13.800 --> 0:11:18.880 the nineties, the rappers finally really started making money and 0:11:18.920 --> 0:11:22.200 then the tables turned. But then the hustlers began to 0:11:22.240 --> 0:11:24.560 be their managers and having what they. 0:11:24.880 --> 0:11:30.040 And what does that do for a bevy smith living 0:11:30.080 --> 0:11:33.640 in the nineties, What is tell us who you are. 0:11:35.920 --> 0:11:36.480 With the hustlers. 0:11:37.440 --> 0:11:40.240 I was running with everybody, the hustles and rappers everything. 0:11:40.320 --> 0:11:43.120 So the craziest thing about me in the nineties is 0:11:43.120 --> 0:11:46.960 that I always I was always a smart girl, and 0:11:47.000 --> 0:11:52.040 I was always a corporate girly. So in the nineties, 0:11:52.960 --> 0:11:55.600 I was at all the clubs, all the parties, all 0:11:55.640 --> 0:11:59.600 the shenanigans, but I could never go to the after 0:11:59.720 --> 0:12:01.559 after the party, which is when you would get in 0:12:01.600 --> 0:12:04.839 the caravan and you would go to Merley Beach, you 0:12:04.880 --> 0:12:07.640 would go to Virginia Beach, you go to Atlantic City, 0:12:08.320 --> 0:12:10.680 and the guys would say, I'll pay you for your day. 0:12:11.400 --> 0:12:14.200 Can't pay me for my day because I'm a corporate lady. 0:12:14.400 --> 0:12:16.600 So there's no way that I can miss a meeting 0:12:16.640 --> 0:12:19.800 with like Tina Brown, who's like the event chief of 0:12:19.840 --> 0:12:23.400 Vandy Fair magazine. Do that. But the interesting thing about 0:12:23.440 --> 0:12:26.960 all of that is that nobody outside in the streets 0:12:27.200 --> 0:12:28.480 knew I had a corporate job. 0:12:28.600 --> 0:12:29.640 That's what your job. 0:12:30.440 --> 0:12:33.360 I was a media director at a luxury advertising agency. 0:12:33.400 --> 0:12:35.240 Oh okay, what was that? What was that? 0:12:35.400 --> 0:12:38.440 What was that sort of advertising agency? Didn't know I 0:12:38.520 --> 0:12:40.400 was a hot girl like that? 0:12:40.679 --> 0:12:43.440 How did you naver? Because I know you said you 0:12:43.440 --> 0:12:45.080 were like this Williams. 0:12:44.720 --> 0:12:47.199 And her cocaine, Well until it got out of control, 0:12:47.400 --> 0:12:49.400 you know, Well not quite. 0:12:49.160 --> 0:12:53.480 But I'd say I even liking it to the way 0:12:53.520 --> 0:12:56.400 we used to run our lives when we first started 0:12:56.440 --> 0:12:58.440 doing stand up. You were working at the you were 0:12:58.440 --> 0:12:59.720 working in the nut industry. 0:13:00.200 --> 0:13:00.480 I was. 0:13:01.800 --> 0:13:05.320 She worked for a I had other jobs, but but 0:13:05.360 --> 0:13:07.439 that was the one you working with. This is the 0:13:07.600 --> 0:13:12.120 this is the career, the career, she introduced our audience episode. 0:13:12.240 --> 0:13:14.880 We discussed how we was one of my jobs. That's 0:13:14.920 --> 0:13:18.520 the only She was working with Funk and I was 0:13:18.520 --> 0:13:22.120 selling business cards from in a sweaty, sweaty cold calling 0:13:22.240 --> 0:13:27.040 job in Midt and East were both moonlighting as standing 0:13:27.120 --> 0:13:30.160 comedians and I was not sharing my comedian journey with 0:13:30.280 --> 0:13:33.880 my co workers. We talked business cards and get out 0:13:33.920 --> 0:13:34.200 of here. 0:13:35.840 --> 0:13:39.520 Business card my business card from from Vine. 0:13:39.880 --> 0:13:42.400 You do you never want people at your like regular 0:13:42.480 --> 0:13:43.960 job to know you have dreams. 0:13:43.720 --> 0:13:46.480 No, because they can take it in your big when 0:13:46.520 --> 0:13:48.719 to come to the show. Now I'm talking about Dick 0:13:48.760 --> 0:13:50.760 and I'm going crazy. Now my coworkers is in there. 0:13:50.760 --> 0:13:51.360 I can't have this. 0:13:51.440 --> 0:13:52.720 It's like there's always somebody. 0:13:52.720 --> 0:13:54.680 Ship was going to be like, oh they late because 0:13:54.679 --> 0:13:58.240 they was doing shows to get messy. 0:13:59.320 --> 0:14:01.360 That LinkedIn count so fast. As soon as I got 0:14:01.360 --> 0:14:22.040 my first TV credit, I was like, Okay, how did 0:14:22.120 --> 0:14:27.080 you like maintain the like the division between your hot 0:14:27.160 --> 0:14:29.360 your hot girl time and corporate time. 0:14:30.000 --> 0:14:35.160 We were young women who were very clear that we 0:14:35.280 --> 0:14:39.840 wanted to have a big light and all regards. So 0:14:40.680 --> 0:14:43.200 we did our good work and when we got off work, 0:14:43.920 --> 0:14:44.440 it was over. 0:14:44.600 --> 0:14:44.960 Yeah. 0:14:45.160 --> 0:14:49.040 See these young girls now they drag around these corporate jobs. Hone, 0:14:49.080 --> 0:14:52.200 even with them everywhere. They don't never rest. They're not 0:14:52.240 --> 0:14:55.160 having that much fun. They're not having that much. 0:14:55.320 --> 0:14:58.480 They like they got their laptops with them on trips. Yeah, 0:14:58.640 --> 0:14:59.920 they're they're working all. 0:14:59.800 --> 0:15:04.360 The what end? And to what end? They're gonna fire you, 0:15:04.400 --> 0:15:06.280 They're gonna lay you off. I need to tell you 0:15:06.360 --> 0:15:12.280 they will eventually always, So we knew to turn it off. 0:15:12.720 --> 0:15:15.200 And once we turned that off, we turned something else on. 0:15:15.720 --> 0:15:24.800 Boom and you love that comes in here that way, no. 0:15:24.920 --> 0:15:28.280 Work, but it was it was like really a thing 0:15:28.320 --> 0:15:33.640 of like I remember my my boyfriend who was in 0:15:33.640 --> 0:15:38.440 independent pharmaceutical sales. He would he was like a king 0:15:38.480 --> 0:15:42.360 at rutca mm hm. And I would get off work 0:15:43.000 --> 0:15:44.960 and I would take off my work clothes. I would 0:15:44.960 --> 0:15:47.120 put on like a Vasachi dress that he had brought me, 0:15:47.960 --> 0:15:50.120 and I would tosi wrote my finance up to that 0:15:50.240 --> 0:15:51.280 rucky game, honey. 0:15:51.480 --> 0:15:53.560 And because he was like a big thing at Rucca. 0:15:54.120 --> 0:15:56.680 When I would come, they would stop the game so 0:15:56.720 --> 0:16:01.280 I could walk across the course. So you're. 0:16:03.200 --> 0:16:09.880 Living it up, no, because there's so many like in 0:16:09.960 --> 0:16:10.240 the state. 0:16:12.520 --> 0:16:12.760 Yeah. 0:16:13.040 --> 0:16:15.040 No, I never looked up to my peer group. 0:16:15.280 --> 0:16:17.320 But like the women in Harlem that you kind of 0:16:17.360 --> 0:16:19.720 had like outside of like maybe like family members, were 0:16:19.720 --> 0:16:20.640 there any women. 0:16:20.400 --> 0:16:23.160 Like you the bar maids in the bar because they 0:16:23.160 --> 0:16:25.960 were To this day, everything I do in life, I 0:16:26.000 --> 0:16:29.200 am literally channeling the bar maids of Harlem. Wow. Because 0:16:29.320 --> 0:16:33.640 I'm a host, so everything I do is through that prism. 0:16:34.120 --> 0:16:36.440 So I am the consummate hostess because those women that 0:16:36.560 --> 0:16:39.600 worked the bars, they were consummate hostess. When you came in, 0:16:39.640 --> 0:16:42.640 they knew what you drank. They knew if your a 0:16:42.640 --> 0:16:45.000 woman was in there with your the last woman that 0:16:45.080 --> 0:16:47.600 you were dealing with, they would give you the baby. 0:16:47.600 --> 0:16:49.920 Don't come up in here because you know in here 0:16:50.160 --> 0:16:52.400 she in the corner, but roof over there, you. 0:16:52.440 --> 0:16:52.760 Know what I mean. 0:16:52.760 --> 0:16:55.680 They knew everybody, and more importantly, everybody knew them, and 0:16:55.720 --> 0:16:58.040 so that was like for me, I didn't even know 0:16:58.040 --> 0:17:01.200 how much I was digesting that until I got good 0:17:01.240 --> 0:17:01.640 and grown. 0:17:01.720 --> 0:17:07.240 I was like, I'm the damn man, you know corporate Tina. 0:17:07.400 --> 0:17:10.080 So is that? What is that what drew your inspiration 0:17:10.160 --> 0:17:12.359 to starting your dinners? Your dinners with. 0:17:13.760 --> 0:17:17.199 Was started because I was broke and and that, and 0:17:17.240 --> 0:17:20.000 that was because when I would go over to Milan 0:17:20.080 --> 0:17:21.879 in Paris but Vibe, I used to host then the 0:17:21.960 --> 0:17:24.520 parties for all the celebrities that we would bring over there, 0:17:24.800 --> 0:17:27.000 and I would introduce them to the brands. So that 0:17:27.080 --> 0:17:29.679 in was from that and then and then I decided 0:17:29.720 --> 0:17:31.240 to do it for myself. 0:17:30.920 --> 0:17:34.160 Because I remember reading about those dinners like a line 0:17:34.280 --> 0:17:37.080 years ago and I just be like, you. 0:17:37.040 --> 0:17:39.720 Getting out, I've been doing dinner with Bevy? 0:17:39.880 --> 0:17:45.120 Really? Yes, Sam? Sam mentioned, she said she was again, Yeah, 0:17:45.560 --> 0:17:47.879 it was nice. Yeah, it was cool. You feel like 0:17:47.880 --> 0:17:49.040 if you felt like a bad bitch. 0:17:49.640 --> 0:17:52.480 I would like But I did feel like I had 0:17:52.600 --> 0:17:54.639 arrived in the space, you know what I mean. 0:17:54.680 --> 0:17:58.080 I was like, oh, this is like I was like, this. 0:17:58.040 --> 0:18:00.520 Is elevating my fancy people in them. 0:18:00.560 --> 0:18:02.240 There were fancy people in the room. 0:18:02.440 --> 0:18:04.480 It was nice to be invited to something that was 0:18:04.520 --> 0:18:06.440 like sisterhood because I don't get invited. 0:18:06.119 --> 0:18:08.119 To things like yeah, I don't play those games. 0:18:08.160 --> 0:18:09.920 And that was nice. Yeah, you know, what I mean. 0:18:09.960 --> 0:18:12.119 So that was cool to just be invited to something 0:18:12.160 --> 0:18:14.119 for women, because that doesn't happen to me often. 0:18:14.400 --> 0:18:16.080 I also don't get invited to things for men. 0:18:16.160 --> 0:18:23.000 So like a lot of don't get hav an events. 0:18:23.040 --> 0:18:27.159 I don't want to go to stud dinner, no, because 0:18:27.240 --> 0:18:32.360 all are so territorial and mean spirited. Whoa whoa, whoa, 0:18:34.040 --> 0:18:34.720 whoa whoa. 0:18:35.840 --> 0:18:39.280 I don't know what that means. What you like? 0:18:40.560 --> 0:18:42.200 I don't know you no? 0:18:42.480 --> 0:18:47.399 Okay, So so I have I have black friends. 0:18:47.560 --> 0:18:49.840 I have a couple of stun friends, and they've told 0:18:49.880 --> 0:18:51.919 me that a lot of times there's a lot of 0:18:51.920 --> 0:18:54.560 peacocking that goes on when there's a gathering. 0:18:54.640 --> 0:18:57.239 This is when there's other studs and yeah, a lot 0:18:57.280 --> 0:19:01.080 of people. I feel like it's no different than what 0:19:01.160 --> 0:19:02.840 men do. And there's a bunch of men in the 0:19:02.920 --> 0:19:06.439 room to some degree, but I don't I think the 0:19:06.560 --> 0:19:11.120 territorialness or what people one when you studs get disrespected 0:19:11.160 --> 0:19:15.840 a lot by by masculinity, right, they're not really we're 0:19:15.880 --> 0:19:18.320 not real boys, you know what I'm saying. So a 0:19:18.320 --> 0:19:20.240 lot of times, a lot of that aggression would be 0:19:20.280 --> 0:19:23.360 like these studs be sold. It's because it's like you're 0:19:23.359 --> 0:19:25.119 there's a way you're talking about women or stuff that 0:19:25.119 --> 0:19:25.600 you're doing that. 0:19:25.800 --> 0:19:29.000 I know if I was another man, you wouldn't do this, right. 0:19:29.440 --> 0:19:30.240 I know, if I was. 0:19:30.280 --> 0:19:33.119 Another man, you wouldn't behave the sweat. But you're doing 0:19:33.160 --> 0:19:36.040 it because to you, there's just two bitches. So I 0:19:36.080 --> 0:19:38.560 do have to be a little more like, hey, bro, right, 0:19:38.920 --> 0:19:44.199 what's up? Because you're aggressing me intentionally because of what 0:19:44.280 --> 0:19:46.080 I am. And I think stuffs do carry a little 0:19:46.160 --> 0:19:47.080 chip on their shoulder. 0:19:47.840 --> 0:19:48.119 Find that. 0:19:49.800 --> 0:19:51.520 When it comes to other studs. 0:19:52.400 --> 0:19:55.480 I think it's just the same type of posture and 0:19:55.520 --> 0:19:59.440 that dude posture. And I think when you're comfortable, there's 0:19:59.480 --> 0:20:01.919 no need for posturing. But I do think they're just 0:20:01.960 --> 0:20:04.720 you know, it's just an element of like, bro shit, 0:20:04.920 --> 0:20:05.360 broke shit. 0:20:05.840 --> 0:20:06.919 You know who's got it? 0:20:06.960 --> 0:20:07.400 Who don't? 0:20:07.800 --> 0:20:12.600 Right, Who's who's really running in? Whose? Sensitive? Man? Would 0:20:12.640 --> 0:20:15.040 never work work for me because I like a sensitive, 0:20:15.119 --> 0:20:17.000 nice man. 0:20:18.560 --> 0:20:22.719 Right. The pants suit stood the corporate sto. 0:20:22.960 --> 0:20:26.000 But nobody wants to see it. People in the pants. Okay, 0:20:27.119 --> 0:20:30.720