1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:02,440 Speaker 1: Do the bride's wishes matter more than anyone else? We're 2 00:00:02,480 --> 00:00:04,760 Speaker 1: going to answer that today, starting with this first story. 3 00:00:04,840 --> 00:00:09,880 Speaker 2: Empower the bridezillas, Oh, give them more fuel to rain 4 00:00:10,160 --> 00:00:13,120 Speaker 2: their terror upon all these peasant guests. 5 00:00:13,320 --> 00:00:16,479 Speaker 1: Don't know, don't do that? Am I a whole for 6 00:00:16,640 --> 00:00:19,520 Speaker 1: not letting my fiance's best friend be in our wedding? 7 00:00:19,840 --> 00:00:24,080 Speaker 2: Best friend? We gotta have more context because that seems aggressive. 8 00:00:23,720 --> 00:00:26,640 Speaker 1: Well diligent. Mixed one fifty says I. Twenty six male 9 00:00:26,720 --> 00:00:30,760 Speaker 1: proposed to twenty four female, my girlfriend of six years 10 00:00:30,960 --> 00:00:34,120 Speaker 1: last month, ingrats. She obviously said yes, and we've been 11 00:00:34,159 --> 00:00:38,919 Speaker 1: working on the wedding details like save the dates, invitations, venues, caterers, 12 00:00:39,080 --> 00:00:42,120 Speaker 1: et cetera, et cetera ever since. We got to talking 13 00:00:42,159 --> 00:00:44,159 Speaker 1: about who we would want in our wedding because she 14 00:00:44,240 --> 00:00:47,479 Speaker 1: wanted to do a special proposal to her side of 15 00:00:47,520 --> 00:00:50,159 Speaker 1: the wedding court, and she said she wanted to have 16 00:00:50,240 --> 00:00:53,960 Speaker 1: her best friend since childhood be her maid of honor. 17 00:00:54,280 --> 00:00:59,400 Speaker 1: Made in quotes. Okay, interestingly, the thing is her childhood 18 00:00:59,440 --> 00:01:05,759 Speaker 1: best friend and is a guy. Oh, a man, a man? 19 00:01:06,200 --> 00:01:08,960 Speaker 1: How can a man be a maid of honor? Women 20 00:01:09,120 --> 00:01:14,600 Speaker 1: can't be friends with man? My pearls. I'm clutching him. 21 00:01:15,080 --> 00:01:17,120 Speaker 1: They lived on the same street when they were kids 22 00:01:17,319 --> 00:01:20,880 Speaker 1: and have been friends since my fiance and my fiance 23 00:01:21,000 --> 00:01:23,039 Speaker 1: and I met in college and her friend was there too, 24 00:01:23,319 --> 00:01:26,040 Speaker 1: so I've known him for as long as I've known her. 25 00:01:26,400 --> 00:01:28,640 Speaker 1: At first, I didn't really like him because he was 26 00:01:28,680 --> 00:01:31,800 Speaker 1: always hanging around her, But after she and I started 27 00:01:31,880 --> 00:01:33,960 Speaker 1: dating and I was forced to be around him more, 28 00:01:34,120 --> 00:01:36,520 Speaker 1: I kind of started to tolerate him. 29 00:01:36,840 --> 00:01:41,120 Speaker 2: Opie is jealous, Yeah, I also like, there a reason 30 00:01:41,160 --> 00:01:43,039 Speaker 2: to be is there? You know? Is a friend over 31 00:01:43,040 --> 00:01:45,280 Speaker 2: stepping boundaries? I guess we'll see it could be. 32 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:47,560 Speaker 1: I also like hope he was like, but you know, 33 00:01:47,800 --> 00:01:50,000 Speaker 1: after I got to spend some time with him, I 34 00:01:50,080 --> 00:01:50,800 Speaker 1: tolerated him. 35 00:01:50,920 --> 00:01:53,760 Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, Opie's not not pulling any bunches. 36 00:01:53,960 --> 00:01:57,800 Speaker 1: Yeah. So uh. He and my fiance saw each other 37 00:01:57,920 --> 00:02:00,480 Speaker 1: a lot, but he and I have never ever really 38 00:02:00,560 --> 00:02:03,080 Speaker 1: hung out one on one before One time when we 39 00:02:03,080 --> 00:02:05,440 Speaker 1: were left alone together, he tried to get all tough 40 00:02:05,440 --> 00:02:07,800 Speaker 1: and did the if you ever break her heart I 41 00:02:07,960 --> 00:02:10,040 Speaker 1: swear borny threat kind of talk. 42 00:02:10,400 --> 00:02:11,040 Speaker 2: That's cringing. 43 00:02:11,400 --> 00:02:12,640 Speaker 3: Any of you guys do that? 44 00:02:13,760 --> 00:02:15,760 Speaker 2: Oh okay, what do you mean, I've done it? To 45 00:02:15,800 --> 00:02:19,000 Speaker 2: every boy that's asked you out, what yeah, if you 46 00:02:19,120 --> 00:02:19,680 Speaker 2: were my. 47 00:02:19,880 --> 00:02:25,240 Speaker 1: Sister and now I'm here as the backup, like yeah, yeah, yeah. 48 00:02:26,040 --> 00:02:28,120 Speaker 1: He is a small dude, so it made me laugh 49 00:02:28,200 --> 00:02:31,200 Speaker 1: more than intimidate me. After that, I got the feeling 50 00:02:31,520 --> 00:02:34,520 Speaker 1: this was a situation where he liked her but she 51 00:02:34,919 --> 00:02:38,520 Speaker 1: didn't know with zero context, everyone watching right now, do 52 00:02:38,560 --> 00:02:39,400 Speaker 1: you think that's the case. 53 00:02:39,800 --> 00:02:42,320 Speaker 2: I think it could be, but I think I need 54 00:02:42,360 --> 00:02:45,799 Speaker 2: more context. Although that whole if you ever hurt her 55 00:02:46,080 --> 00:02:49,720 Speaker 2: is definitely a vote towards that being the conclusion. 56 00:02:50,000 --> 00:02:51,840 Speaker 1: I have a suspicion that that. 57 00:02:52,000 --> 00:02:55,840 Speaker 2: My suspicions are raised, but I think that's not conclusive evidence. 58 00:02:56,280 --> 00:02:58,680 Speaker 1: Pro says my best friend since the childhood wasn't a 59 00:02:58,720 --> 00:03:01,160 Speaker 1: man when we start our friend So does that count? 60 00:03:01,320 --> 00:03:03,320 Speaker 1: Can be my it? Can it be my man of honor? 61 00:03:03,800 --> 00:03:05,080 Speaker 1: I mean, I guess it is your wedding, so you 62 00:03:05,080 --> 00:03:06,839 Speaker 1: can kind of choose whatever the frick you want. 63 00:03:07,000 --> 00:03:09,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, let me says. I feel like that talk is 64 00:03:09,440 --> 00:03:13,799 Speaker 2: normal for friends to say. I think it's whack. Yeah, 65 00:03:14,320 --> 00:03:16,959 Speaker 2: unless it's like child Jokingly, I don't think it's. 66 00:03:16,840 --> 00:03:19,400 Speaker 3: A red flag, but I think it's just like, oh, 67 00:03:19,440 --> 00:03:20,840 Speaker 3: like I don't think I would say that. 68 00:03:21,360 --> 00:03:23,680 Speaker 1: I asked my fiance if she and him have ever 69 00:03:23,720 --> 00:03:26,720 Speaker 1: had feelings for each other, and she said no, no, 70 00:03:27,080 --> 00:03:30,480 Speaker 1: all it's good. Uh, then let me know that he 71 00:03:30,600 --> 00:03:34,000 Speaker 1: was gay. Oh oh, so what's the what's the issue here? 72 00:03:34,080 --> 00:03:37,520 Speaker 1: We should be good, right, I'm not homophobic or anything. 73 00:03:37,600 --> 00:03:44,760 Speaker 1: Oh God cla famous last words. So it's not like 74 00:03:44,880 --> 00:03:46,760 Speaker 1: that I don't want him in the wedding because of that. 75 00:03:47,120 --> 00:03:49,280 Speaker 1: It's just that I think it would be better if 76 00:03:49,320 --> 00:03:52,640 Speaker 1: her side of the party was all girls. Who cares? 77 00:03:53,000 --> 00:03:53,680 Speaker 2: Who cares? 78 00:03:53,880 --> 00:03:56,360 Speaker 1: Who literally cares? 79 00:03:56,800 --> 00:03:59,960 Speaker 2: Your wedding can be literally anything you want. 80 00:04:00,240 --> 00:04:03,800 Speaker 1: If you want to bob slid down the aisle wearing 81 00:04:03,920 --> 00:04:10,680 Speaker 1: a red dress of flames flying into a cake, who cares. 82 00:04:10,960 --> 00:04:13,360 Speaker 2: My friend went to a wedding that was a burning 83 00:04:13,400 --> 00:04:17,799 Speaker 2: man wedding and there was a thunderdome where everyone attacked 84 00:04:17,839 --> 00:04:21,560 Speaker 2: each other with swords and the wedding cake was cut 85 00:04:21,680 --> 00:04:27,200 Speaker 2: with a authentic samurai sword from like the sixteen hundreds. 86 00:04:27,279 --> 00:04:29,359 Speaker 3: I want a Lord of the Rings sword for my wedding. 87 00:04:30,000 --> 00:04:33,440 Speaker 1: Everyone should be allowed to do what they want for 88 00:04:33,480 --> 00:04:37,080 Speaker 1: the wedding. That doesn't mean the people will necessarily enjoy 89 00:04:37,120 --> 00:04:41,320 Speaker 1: it or like be down with it necessarily, but you there, 90 00:04:41,600 --> 00:04:44,200 Speaker 1: you love them. You love them, So you go and 91 00:04:44,360 --> 00:04:48,200 Speaker 1: you you put on your your elf ears and you 92 00:04:48,240 --> 00:04:50,960 Speaker 1: put on your your bad bag. Off the flow, and 93 00:04:51,000 --> 00:04:51,960 Speaker 1: you go in the thunderdome. 94 00:04:52,080 --> 00:04:55,520 Speaker 2: I think, I think, I think we're getting a little stink, 95 00:04:56,200 --> 00:04:59,119 Speaker 2: smelling a little stink. I'm smelling it. I'm smelling stink. 96 00:04:59,600 --> 00:05:03,200 Speaker 1: She and already did everything together. Not including him in 97 00:05:03,279 --> 00:05:06,440 Speaker 1: our wedding wouldn't hurt their friendship. It's getting work. 98 00:05:06,520 --> 00:05:09,159 Speaker 2: It's her best friend, you ding bat. 99 00:05:09,240 --> 00:05:10,360 Speaker 1: He's literally gay. 100 00:05:10,600 --> 00:05:13,240 Speaker 2: It's like I would understand if like he was straight 101 00:05:13,360 --> 00:05:18,560 Speaker 2: and he was insecure and had feelings and was acting 102 00:05:18,600 --> 00:05:21,560 Speaker 2: on them. Yes, if that was true, then I would 103 00:05:21,640 --> 00:05:24,760 Speaker 2: be like, oh, I feel a little uncomfortable, or at 104 00:05:24,839 --> 00:05:28,800 Speaker 2: least I could understand that. But this there, you were 105 00:05:28,800 --> 00:05:32,840 Speaker 2: not walking on any concrete evidence here, literally what are 106 00:05:32,880 --> 00:05:35,720 Speaker 2: we doing and doing dumb things? That he's a big, 107 00:05:35,920 --> 00:05:36,680 Speaker 2: big old dummy. 108 00:05:36,720 --> 00:05:39,040 Speaker 1: And also that last sentence of like, I mean, they're 109 00:05:39,080 --> 00:05:40,920 Speaker 1: already best friends, so if he's not in the wedding, 110 00:05:40,960 --> 00:05:44,160 Speaker 1: that's it's no big deal. It would be like, it 111 00:05:44,279 --> 00:05:46,200 Speaker 1: is a big deal. It's a huge deal. And the 112 00:05:46,200 --> 00:05:50,320 Speaker 1: fact that you can't see that or respect your Beyonce's wishes. 113 00:05:50,080 --> 00:05:54,360 Speaker 2: Is is pre vorse prevorce, pre marse priorse. 114 00:05:54,760 --> 00:05:58,520 Speaker 1: But back to the story. I told her that and 115 00:05:58,600 --> 00:06:01,520 Speaker 1: lo and beholds. She got defensive, would you know? 116 00:06:01,560 --> 00:06:04,080 Speaker 2: It? Says, how dare she? 117 00:06:04,360 --> 00:06:07,440 Speaker 1: Oh wait a second, D get ready for this? Sam? 118 00:06:07,480 --> 00:06:10,600 Speaker 1: Are you are your is your seat belt buckled? Unlike Riley? 119 00:06:10,760 --> 00:06:11,279 Speaker 1: Get ready? 120 00:06:11,400 --> 00:06:13,520 Speaker 2: Yeah? Riley never buckles his seatbelt. It's true. 121 00:06:13,600 --> 00:06:16,800 Speaker 1: It's a problem taking shots. He's back in the room. Uh, 122 00:06:17,000 --> 00:06:19,640 Speaker 1: I told her, and she got defensive, saying that if 123 00:06:19,720 --> 00:06:22,720 Speaker 1: I could have a girl on my side of the party, 124 00:06:22,440 --> 00:06:25,599 Speaker 1: the girl being my older sister who practically raised me, 125 00:06:25,680 --> 00:06:28,320 Speaker 1: she could have a guy. Oh p is literally doing 126 00:06:28,400 --> 00:06:29,240 Speaker 1: the same. 127 00:06:29,040 --> 00:06:32,640 Speaker 2: Thing because his reason is like, I'm not homophobic. I 128 00:06:32,680 --> 00:06:34,320 Speaker 2: don't think he's going to make a move on you. 129 00:06:34,400 --> 00:06:37,360 Speaker 2: I just think it's weird to have a guy on 130 00:06:37,400 --> 00:06:40,159 Speaker 2: the the the girls and the girl the girls bridal party. 131 00:06:40,240 --> 00:06:43,240 Speaker 2: You have a girl in your groom's party. At least 132 00:06:43,400 --> 00:06:46,040 Speaker 2: if you're gonna be an idiot, at least be. 133 00:06:46,120 --> 00:06:47,120 Speaker 1: A consistent inde. 134 00:06:47,240 --> 00:06:50,159 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I you know, I love a consistent idiot. 135 00:06:50,320 --> 00:06:53,840 Speaker 2: Or I'd rather have a consistent idiot than a hypocrite bingo. Yeah, 136 00:06:54,000 --> 00:07:00,080 Speaker 2: stay stained your ground, all right, this is Florida. But 137 00:07:00,320 --> 00:07:01,280 Speaker 2: I said that it. 138 00:07:01,320 --> 00:07:05,920 Speaker 1: Was a different circumstance and that I wouldn't allow I 139 00:07:05,960 --> 00:07:10,480 Speaker 1: wouldn't allow my best friend to be her man of honor. 140 00:07:10,560 --> 00:07:14,600 Speaker 2: This is not good for debate. You are barred. Also 141 00:07:14,960 --> 00:07:17,080 Speaker 2: welcome to a little taste of what being married to 142 00:07:17,120 --> 00:07:20,160 Speaker 2: me will be like what you are just barred from 143 00:07:20,160 --> 00:07:22,720 Speaker 2: doing anything? Like? Oh oh, he's given a little taste. 144 00:07:22,800 --> 00:07:25,240 Speaker 1: I thought you were saying this is like what this 145 00:07:25,280 --> 00:07:28,480 Speaker 1: is when it's like being married to you, Samuel don Wow. 146 00:07:30,880 --> 00:07:35,080 Speaker 1: I was so confused. No, I'm saying, so he's a 147 00:07:35,120 --> 00:07:39,080 Speaker 1: little dice like to be married. Yes, yeah, if you 148 00:07:39,200 --> 00:07:42,000 Speaker 1: want a little teaser trailer to be married to this 149 00:07:42,040 --> 00:07:44,280 Speaker 1: guy right here, just check this story. 150 00:07:44,440 --> 00:07:47,920 Speaker 2: You got one eight hundred my number I'll pick up. 151 00:07:48,200 --> 00:07:50,360 Speaker 1: But getting back to it, she got really mad and 152 00:07:50,400 --> 00:07:51,960 Speaker 1: said it was her wedding tube. 153 00:07:53,120 --> 00:07:56,040 Speaker 2: Dude, honestly, what is she thinking? 154 00:07:57,400 --> 00:07:59,640 Speaker 1: Insane? What a what a control freak? 155 00:07:59,760 --> 00:08:00,280 Speaker 2: What? Yeah? 156 00:08:00,320 --> 00:08:05,640 Speaker 4: Exactly a freaking classic bridezilla over here? Hashtag bridezilla by 157 00:08:05,640 --> 00:08:09,600 Speaker 4: hashtag bridezilla over here. I'm getting married to a bridezilla. 158 00:08:09,760 --> 00:08:12,240 Speaker 4: You guys can believe what I'm dealing with over here. 159 00:08:12,720 --> 00:08:14,480 Speaker 1: She got really mad, said it was her wedding too, 160 00:08:14,520 --> 00:08:16,440 Speaker 1: and then stormed out. I got a text from her 161 00:08:16,440 --> 00:08:18,640 Speaker 1: sister a few hours later saying she had gone to 162 00:08:18,720 --> 00:08:22,840 Speaker 1: her parents and told them what I had said. Good 163 00:08:23,440 --> 00:08:25,720 Speaker 1: h They thought I was being an a hole because 164 00:08:25,760 --> 00:08:28,120 Speaker 1: I never liked her friend and am threatened by him. 165 00:08:28,160 --> 00:08:30,720 Speaker 1: I have tried to talk to my fiance since she left, 166 00:08:30,960 --> 00:08:33,839 Speaker 1: but she hasn't returned my calls or texts. I really 167 00:08:33,880 --> 00:08:36,160 Speaker 1: love her and I don't want to lose her. I 168 00:08:36,280 --> 00:08:38,720 Speaker 1: just don't want her best friend to be part of 169 00:08:38,760 --> 00:08:41,640 Speaker 1: our day. Am I the A hole? And we have 170 00:08:41,840 --> 00:08:46,600 Speaker 1: an edit and other things coming up? But guys, what 171 00:08:46,679 --> 00:08:47,400 Speaker 1: do we think here? 172 00:08:47,880 --> 00:08:53,360 Speaker 2: Okay? My question is did ope reread what he wrote? 173 00:08:54,200 --> 00:08:59,400 Speaker 2: Because like, this is so obvious that he's the A hole? 174 00:08:59,559 --> 00:09:03,280 Speaker 2: And always baffles me when someone writes something like am 175 00:09:03,320 --> 00:09:06,600 Speaker 2: I the A hole? And it's just so clear that 176 00:09:06,640 --> 00:09:08,640 Speaker 2: they are the A hole? And in writing it, they 177 00:09:08,679 --> 00:09:11,000 Speaker 2: didn't figure it out themselves. 178 00:09:10,679 --> 00:09:14,080 Speaker 1: Right, They're like they're like, yeah, yeah, he's gay and 179 00:09:14,120 --> 00:09:18,040 Speaker 1: he's never had any interest and I have, but I just. 180 00:09:17,960 --> 00:09:20,839 Speaker 2: Don't like him. Yeah, I feel like but I just don't. 181 00:09:21,600 --> 00:09:25,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, he wrote that down and he's like, yeah, 182 00:09:25,480 --> 00:09:29,240 Speaker 1: I am I need this, keep doing this, yeah. 183 00:09:28,800 --> 00:09:33,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, going down this train of thought. I feel like 184 00:09:33,360 --> 00:09:35,880 Speaker 2: the fact that he has written this and stood by 185 00:09:35,920 --> 00:09:40,640 Speaker 2: his opinion is enough to prevorce. I think what's air. 186 00:09:40,720 --> 00:09:42,720 Speaker 2: This is what I'm pretty going conference. Right, It's gonna 187 00:09:42,720 --> 00:09:44,440 Speaker 2: tear him apart. He's going to be like, oh, I 188 00:09:44,480 --> 00:09:47,560 Speaker 2: realize I'm an idiot. But all of these things that 189 00:09:47,600 --> 00:09:53,600 Speaker 2: he's saying are reflective of like this ancient misogynist point 190 00:09:53,679 --> 00:09:57,280 Speaker 2: of view where he's in control and things aren't up 191 00:09:57,320 --> 00:10:00,280 Speaker 2: to up for debate. And I think this is a 192 00:10:00,400 --> 00:10:03,280 Speaker 2: glimpse into what being married to him is going to 193 00:10:03,320 --> 00:10:05,440 Speaker 2: be like, is going to be like, not being married 194 00:10:05,440 --> 00:10:08,600 Speaker 2: to me, being married to him. I think this is 195 00:10:08,760 --> 00:10:11,559 Speaker 2: symbolic of what it's going to look like down the line. 196 00:10:11,600 --> 00:10:14,600 Speaker 2: And for that reason, divorce one hundred percent. 197 00:10:14,960 --> 00:10:17,719 Speaker 1: Interestingly, our our members, by the way, are the ones 198 00:10:17,720 --> 00:10:20,840 Speaker 1: who do these poles on these episodes. Eighty only eighty 199 00:10:20,880 --> 00:10:22,920 Speaker 1: four percent on divorce. Yeah, I'm surprised. I thought it 200 00:10:22,920 --> 00:10:23,440 Speaker 1: would be more. 201 00:10:23,679 --> 00:10:27,480 Speaker 2: Yeah, eighty four percent. I think divorce. But question another poll, 202 00:10:27,960 --> 00:10:30,679 Speaker 2: do you think he's going to realize the error of 203 00:10:30,720 --> 00:10:33,400 Speaker 2: his ways. M I think he is. 204 00:10:33,760 --> 00:10:36,280 Speaker 1: I think he is just because it's so crazy. I 205 00:10:36,280 --> 00:10:38,280 Speaker 1: haven't read the edit, but I just kind of he's 206 00:10:38,320 --> 00:10:40,720 Speaker 1: He's listened some points out Bro. It does look like 207 00:10:40,760 --> 00:10:43,200 Speaker 1: bro is fighting for his life. But I have vote. 208 00:10:43,520 --> 00:10:47,880 Speaker 1: I have vote Brozilla Brosilla from skull Emojo School. Honestly, 209 00:10:48,000 --> 00:10:50,440 Speaker 1: we need to make can like. I feel like if 210 00:10:50,440 --> 00:10:53,960 Speaker 1: this show made Brosilla thing, that would be incredible. Brosilla 211 00:10:54,080 --> 00:10:57,800 Speaker 1: is great, Brosilla is fantasticough uh skoll emoji. 212 00:10:57,920 --> 00:10:58,480 Speaker 2: They are you. 213 00:10:58,480 --> 00:11:05,840 Speaker 1: Because that's you're as Yeah, who are are you? But 214 00:11:07,040 --> 00:11:08,880 Speaker 1: we have an edit. Ladies and gentlemen. It's come to 215 00:11:08,920 --> 00:11:11,040 Speaker 1: my attention. In a previous comment I made, I have 216 00:11:11,200 --> 00:11:15,480 Speaker 1: created the world's thinnest argument. Is op realizing their of 217 00:11:15,480 --> 00:11:17,880 Speaker 1: their ways? Let's find out. I said that my fiance 218 00:11:18,840 --> 00:11:23,800 Speaker 1: was unwilling to compromise on things such as the groomsman's 219 00:11:23,840 --> 00:11:27,720 Speaker 1: neck pieces and blazers, and as such I was in 220 00:11:27,720 --> 00:11:30,679 Speaker 1: the right to be unwilling to compromise about her best friend. 221 00:11:30,840 --> 00:11:32,200 Speaker 2: That's completely different. 222 00:11:32,000 --> 00:11:35,439 Speaker 1: One of these things. It's not like the other my friend. 223 00:11:35,720 --> 00:11:37,760 Speaker 1: I stated in a few other posts that there were 224 00:11:37,800 --> 00:11:40,400 Speaker 1: other things she didn't want to compromise on and someone 225 00:11:40,440 --> 00:11:42,440 Speaker 1: suggested I make a list, So here it is. 226 00:11:43,040 --> 00:11:45,640 Speaker 2: He's just gonna look for this edit. Man, he's not 227 00:11:45,679 --> 00:11:48,040 Speaker 2: getting it yet. He's still not getting it. I'm hopeful 228 00:11:48,080 --> 00:11:50,040 Speaker 2: that there's another update. This is just an edit. This 229 00:11:50,080 --> 00:11:52,680 Speaker 2: is a very sad oh god man. 230 00:11:52,800 --> 00:11:56,040 Speaker 1: Number one, when we were deciding our wedding day and location, 231 00:11:56,200 --> 00:11:59,280 Speaker 1: she wanted to do it in spring, in an open field. 232 00:11:59,600 --> 00:12:02,280 Speaker 1: I was on board with this as I have terrible 233 00:12:02,280 --> 00:12:05,839 Speaker 1: allergies and spring and spring is when it's at its worst. 234 00:12:05,960 --> 00:12:09,720 Speaker 3: Okay, to be fair, that is, yes, to be fair. Yes, 235 00:12:10,679 --> 00:12:12,319 Speaker 3: I feel that I. 236 00:12:12,280 --> 00:12:14,520 Speaker 1: Will give him because because it could have been like, hey, 237 00:12:14,520 --> 00:12:17,599 Speaker 1: could we do it in a different season or like 238 00:12:17,640 --> 00:12:20,559 Speaker 1: a different location. Yeah, isn't as many allergies or something. 239 00:12:20,640 --> 00:12:24,239 Speaker 1: That's fair? She shot down any alternative. I gave alternatives 240 00:12:24,320 --> 00:12:27,560 Speaker 1: being things done closer to summer or in summer, which 241 00:12:27,600 --> 00:12:30,240 Speaker 1: is fair, and said it was spring or nothing. So 242 00:12:30,320 --> 00:12:34,160 Speaker 1: we went spring. Number two. Instead of going with a DJ, 243 00:12:34,400 --> 00:12:37,360 Speaker 1: like I suggested, who could play a mix of her favorite, 244 00:12:37,440 --> 00:12:40,600 Speaker 1: my favorite and general upbeat dance music. She said she 245 00:12:40,679 --> 00:12:43,400 Speaker 1: really wanted a live band that specialized in her favorite genre. 246 00:12:43,679 --> 00:12:45,840 Speaker 1: I asked if we could have a DJ. I asked 247 00:12:45,840 --> 00:12:48,000 Speaker 1: if we could give the DJ a longer list of 248 00:12:48,040 --> 00:12:50,960 Speaker 1: her songs in her favorite genre and tell him to 249 00:12:51,000 --> 00:12:53,439 Speaker 1: pick from the list, but she said no and that 250 00:12:53,559 --> 00:12:55,280 Speaker 1: a live band was going to be better, so we 251 00:12:55,360 --> 00:12:56,240 Speaker 1: went with a live band. 252 00:12:56,280 --> 00:12:58,640 Speaker 2: To be fair, a live band is better than a DJ. 253 00:12:58,840 --> 00:13:00,559 Speaker 2: Live band is pretty free. Can fire? 254 00:13:00,640 --> 00:13:02,160 Speaker 1: I don't know, but I feel like someone in the 255 00:13:02,200 --> 00:13:04,880 Speaker 1: band could like maybe like stay behind and like after 256 00:13:04,960 --> 00:13:07,560 Speaker 1: the performance, like just play other songs. 257 00:13:07,679 --> 00:13:08,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, that seems doable. 258 00:13:08,800 --> 00:13:11,200 Speaker 1: Number three. In my culture, there is a few traditional 259 00:13:11,200 --> 00:13:13,760 Speaker 1: wedding ceremonies that I wanted us to partake in. Some 260 00:13:13,880 --> 00:13:16,480 Speaker 1: included a kind of parade that leads the groom and 261 00:13:16,520 --> 00:13:18,720 Speaker 1: his family to the bride's house where they present her 262 00:13:18,800 --> 00:13:21,800 Speaker 1: and her family with gifts, a hair cutting ceremony I 263 00:13:21,920 --> 00:13:24,520 Speaker 1: made sure to tell her that her actual hair would 264 00:13:24,520 --> 00:13:28,080 Speaker 1: not be cut, and finally, a not tang ceremony where 265 00:13:28,160 --> 00:13:31,240 Speaker 1: the guests wish us a long, happy marriage. Sounds kind 266 00:13:31,240 --> 00:13:33,480 Speaker 1: of fun. She wanted absolutely nothing to do with these 267 00:13:33,520 --> 00:13:35,760 Speaker 1: ceremonies and said that they would be too much time 268 00:13:35,800 --> 00:13:38,760 Speaker 1: and effort since it would be like having two weddings. 269 00:13:38,840 --> 00:13:41,400 Speaker 1: I tried fighting for these more than the others, but 270 00:13:41,520 --> 00:13:45,080 Speaker 1: she was firm on doing things traditionally. Number four, she 271 00:13:45,080 --> 00:13:47,439 Speaker 1: wanted the groomsmen to wear bow ties and blazers, even 272 00:13:47,520 --> 00:13:50,120 Speaker 1: though I wanted the look of the necktie. In no blazer. 273 00:13:50,440 --> 00:13:53,960 Speaker 1: Number five, final one, she changed the color scheme from 274 00:13:54,040 --> 00:13:58,000 Speaker 1: the original agreedaplan black, gold, maroon, and forced green to 275 00:13:58,440 --> 00:14:01,200 Speaker 1: pink or I think it was rose yellow, white, and 276 00:14:01,240 --> 00:14:04,120 Speaker 1: pastel blue because the decorations would look at better in 277 00:14:04,160 --> 00:14:06,760 Speaker 1: the field. When I said we already printed invitations with 278 00:14:06,800 --> 00:14:09,680 Speaker 1: the previous colors on them, she said, we could throw 279 00:14:09,720 --> 00:14:13,520 Speaker 1: these out and get reprints. We have some relevant comments, 280 00:14:13,559 --> 00:14:16,680 Speaker 1: but I want to talk to Sam, Sophia and Riley 281 00:14:16,720 --> 00:14:21,840 Speaker 1: in our relevant comments here with a question. Do we 282 00:14:21,880 --> 00:14:24,240 Speaker 1: think they're both kind of being the a hole but 283 00:14:24,320 --> 00:14:26,560 Speaker 1: maybe op is more heavily. 284 00:14:27,200 --> 00:14:30,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, so I think the one that stuck out to 285 00:14:30,480 --> 00:14:33,520 Speaker 2: me where she was the biggest a hole is not 286 00:14:33,800 --> 00:14:38,280 Speaker 2: letting him have some of his culture's wedding ceremonies. Yeah, 287 00:14:38,360 --> 00:14:41,560 Speaker 2: that feels kind. That feels pretty harsh. 288 00:14:41,560 --> 00:14:43,160 Speaker 1: Shinky to Slayer said that as well. 289 00:14:43,280 --> 00:14:46,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like that that is an a hole move, 290 00:14:47,160 --> 00:14:49,960 Speaker 2: But I think I think everyone's an a hole. 291 00:14:50,200 --> 00:14:52,840 Speaker 1: I think, Yeah, I think everyone's an a hole for 292 00:14:52,880 --> 00:14:57,160 Speaker 1: each other, but to be yeah, right, to add some 293 00:14:57,280 --> 00:15:00,280 Speaker 1: nuance to this, I feel like his stuff is like 294 00:15:01,080 --> 00:15:05,120 Speaker 1: even more egregious, and he's trying to use all of 295 00:15:05,160 --> 00:15:09,400 Speaker 1: this as a like bargaining chip to be like, I 296 00:15:09,440 --> 00:15:13,640 Speaker 1: should be allowed to get some of my crazy asks 297 00:15:13,720 --> 00:15:16,600 Speaker 1: because she's being crazy, not to excuse her at all 298 00:15:17,040 --> 00:15:17,960 Speaker 1: in anyway. 299 00:15:17,880 --> 00:15:21,760 Speaker 2: I feel like not allowing you to participate in your 300 00:15:21,920 --> 00:15:29,080 Speaker 2: culture's wedding ceremonies I feel is near the best friend thing, 301 00:15:29,160 --> 00:15:34,360 Speaker 2: because that's essentially saying you cannot present your culture in 302 00:15:34,400 --> 00:15:37,680 Speaker 2: front of me or your family, which is kind of 303 00:15:37,720 --> 00:15:42,040 Speaker 2: stamping out your identity in the same way banning a 304 00:15:42,080 --> 00:15:45,760 Speaker 2: friend that's very important to you would be you, sir. 305 00:15:45,720 --> 00:15:46,720 Speaker 1: Just made a fire s point. 306 00:15:46,840 --> 00:15:50,120 Speaker 2: I still think the OP is a little bit worse, 307 00:15:50,400 --> 00:15:53,920 Speaker 2: but I think like they're more equal a holes. Still, 308 00:15:54,080 --> 00:15:59,680 Speaker 2: My thing stands prevorce or hear me out here. 309 00:16:00,320 --> 00:16:03,480 Speaker 1: Take a seat, ladies and gentlemen. Are they so crazy 310 00:16:03,600 --> 00:16:07,480 Speaker 1: that they're perfect for each other? Meaning they yet you 311 00:16:07,640 --> 00:16:11,840 Speaker 1: find someone who you know matches is a match for you. 312 00:16:12,040 --> 00:16:14,359 Speaker 2: They are a match in a wholeness for sure. 313 00:16:14,280 --> 00:16:16,880 Speaker 1: And like if they go out, are they just gonna 314 00:16:17,440 --> 00:16:19,440 Speaker 1: and who are we to stop love? Who are we 315 00:16:19,480 --> 00:16:21,800 Speaker 1: to stop love? Are they just gonna go make the 316 00:16:21,920 --> 00:16:25,040 Speaker 1: rounds date partner after partner after partner, only to every 317 00:16:25,080 --> 00:16:27,479 Speaker 1: single time be like, oh, you know they're an age, 318 00:16:27,640 --> 00:16:28,240 Speaker 1: don't get together. 319 00:16:28,520 --> 00:16:31,040 Speaker 2: They should marry because then they're both taking off the 320 00:16:31,080 --> 00:16:35,600 Speaker 2: market exactly. They amuse the damage. And also they're kind 321 00:16:35,600 --> 00:16:38,840 Speaker 2: of on the same level. So I actually think, get married. 322 00:16:38,920 --> 00:16:39,680 Speaker 1: Can we pull this? 323 00:16:40,080 --> 00:16:40,280 Speaker 2: Yeah? 324 00:16:41,840 --> 00:16:44,680 Speaker 1: Yeah, married? And it's like get married to basically like, 325 00:16:44,760 --> 00:16:48,280 Speaker 1: you know, to contain to contained, to contain themselves, and 326 00:16:48,400 --> 00:16:52,240 Speaker 1: also like maybe low key, there really is no one 327 00:16:52,320 --> 00:16:55,680 Speaker 1: else other than that, like tolerate, that would tolerate them. 328 00:16:55,760 --> 00:16:58,560 Speaker 2: This is this is a this is a pull with 329 00:16:59,720 --> 00:17:00,320 Speaker 2: a wist. 330 00:17:00,480 --> 00:17:03,400 Speaker 1: I feel like this is a pretty interesting curve ball here, 331 00:17:03,400 --> 00:17:04,960 Speaker 1: the curve ball one that we don't use. 332 00:17:05,119 --> 00:17:08,480 Speaker 2: Usually they're pretty cutting the drive. But this, okay, I 333 00:17:08,520 --> 00:17:11,639 Speaker 2: don't know, a divorce. It is starting. 334 00:17:11,920 --> 00:17:14,359 Speaker 1: We'll see the results the results are coming in. 335 00:17:14,680 --> 00:17:16,040 Speaker 2: Is there more to the story? 336 00:17:16,119 --> 00:17:19,000 Speaker 1: Oh there is there is more, my friends, Okay, there 337 00:17:19,080 --> 00:17:19,400 Speaker 1: is more. 338 00:17:19,480 --> 00:17:20,320 Speaker 2: Let's go after it. 339 00:17:20,359 --> 00:17:23,960 Speaker 1: So relevant comments Panic Bread says, you're the ahole. It's 340 00:17:24,000 --> 00:17:25,720 Speaker 1: obvious that you have a huge tip on your shoulder 341 00:17:25,720 --> 00:17:28,080 Speaker 1: about your fiance's best friend just because he's a guy, 342 00:17:28,240 --> 00:17:30,880 Speaker 1: so you're now using the girls only thing to get 343 00:17:30,920 --> 00:17:33,480 Speaker 1: him out of the way. Also, girls, you're not in 344 00:17:33,560 --> 00:17:36,119 Speaker 1: high school going to prom. You're getting married. They're women. 345 00:17:36,400 --> 00:17:38,600 Speaker 1: You're sexist and jealous and seem way too immature to 346 00:17:38,600 --> 00:17:40,639 Speaker 1: be getting married. I hope she sees you for what 347 00:17:40,680 --> 00:17:42,920 Speaker 1: you are and gets away from you, which kind of 348 00:17:42,960 --> 00:17:47,640 Speaker 1: excuses the bride. Well, it could be that he didn't 349 00:17:47,640 --> 00:17:49,919 Speaker 1: see the edit. The edit we have came later. It's 350 00:17:50,240 --> 00:17:52,960 Speaker 1: that's possible. Yeah, Obie says. The difference is I'd be 351 00:17:53,040 --> 00:17:56,720 Speaker 1: having legitimate family in my party, someone who, like I said, 352 00:17:56,840 --> 00:17:59,480 Speaker 1: has practically raised me and has been there since birth, 353 00:17:59,520 --> 00:18:01,679 Speaker 1: who I want to be by my side. This is 354 00:18:01,760 --> 00:18:04,600 Speaker 1: literally her childhood best friend. So this is your argument. 355 00:18:04,640 --> 00:18:08,040 Speaker 1: Is no Oldinloyd. I know you can argue that her 356 00:18:08,040 --> 00:18:11,560 Speaker 1: and her best friend are technically family with how long 357 00:18:11,600 --> 00:18:15,119 Speaker 1: they've known each other, but that doesn't actually make them family. 358 00:18:15,240 --> 00:18:17,960 Speaker 1: Cheerly Terrified says, I really love her and I don't 359 00:18:18,000 --> 00:18:20,720 Speaker 1: want to lose her. I just don't want her best 360 00:18:20,760 --> 00:18:21,920 Speaker 1: friend to be part of our day. 361 00:18:22,040 --> 00:18:23,359 Speaker 2: He's really buckling down. 362 00:18:23,560 --> 00:18:27,359 Speaker 1: Yeah, that was quoting what he said earlier, so cheerly 363 00:18:27,440 --> 00:18:30,720 Speaker 1: terrified response to that quote, you only get to say 364 00:18:30,720 --> 00:18:33,080 Speaker 1: that if her best friend has done something bad like 365 00:18:33,080 --> 00:18:34,879 Speaker 1: stole money from you or took a crap in the 366 00:18:34,920 --> 00:18:37,840 Speaker 1: middle of the floor the engagment party. Your only reason 367 00:18:37,880 --> 00:18:39,480 Speaker 1: for not wanting him there is that he's a guy 368 00:18:39,520 --> 00:18:42,280 Speaker 1: and you are jealous. That's not enough of a good reason, 369 00:18:42,400 --> 00:18:45,600 Speaker 1: especially when you're having a woman in your wedding party. 370 00:18:45,880 --> 00:18:47,720 Speaker 1: You're going to lose her because you want to be 371 00:18:47,840 --> 00:18:52,000 Speaker 1: unhappy and have someone she loves excluding you from her 372 00:18:52,000 --> 00:18:55,639 Speaker 1: wedding for selfish reasons. You're the a hole and I'm thinking. 373 00:18:55,359 --> 00:18:55,760 Speaker 2: More and more. 374 00:18:55,880 --> 00:18:57,919 Speaker 1: This was before the edit, But yeah, I think so too, 375 00:18:58,200 --> 00:19:01,680 Speaker 1: OPI responds, Why would I be jealous of him? I'm 376 00:19:01,720 --> 00:19:04,119 Speaker 1: the one she came home to every night and the 377 00:19:04,119 --> 00:19:08,879 Speaker 1: one she read to marry giving more in would I 378 00:19:08,960 --> 00:19:11,840 Speaker 1: be jealous? Yes, who she comes home to? 379 00:19:12,080 --> 00:19:16,919 Speaker 2: Bell of this thirty seconds of greatness, buddy, that's right. 380 00:19:17,240 --> 00:19:19,840 Speaker 1: The woman I'm having in my party is my biological sister, 381 00:19:20,000 --> 00:19:23,360 Speaker 1: someone who I share a natural, deep bond with. It's 382 00:19:23,400 --> 00:19:26,439 Speaker 1: not like I said, he can't come to the wedding period, 383 00:19:26,720 --> 00:19:30,159 Speaker 1: which you like. Basically did earlier, like, what are we 384 00:19:30,200 --> 00:19:32,880 Speaker 1: talking about? Songs of insanity? Says I wanted to give 385 00:19:32,920 --> 00:19:34,920 Speaker 1: you the benefit of the doubt, But the more I read, 386 00:19:34,960 --> 00:19:37,760 Speaker 1: the more confident I became of my opinion. You're the 387 00:19:37,800 --> 00:19:39,680 Speaker 1: a whole No matter how I read this, you came 388 00:19:39,680 --> 00:19:41,840 Speaker 1: off as someone threatened by the fact that your fiance 389 00:19:42,200 --> 00:19:44,960 Speaker 1: has a close, lifelong relationship with a man who has 390 00:19:45,000 --> 00:19:48,159 Speaker 1: never had romantic feelings for her, gay or not, who, 391 00:19:48,280 --> 00:19:51,520 Speaker 1: by your own admission, you don't even find physically threatening. 392 00:19:51,640 --> 00:19:54,560 Speaker 1: So what is there to be threatened by? Simple status? 393 00:19:54,600 --> 00:19:57,680 Speaker 1: Fifteen says he gets worse with every response, A whole 394 00:19:58,040 --> 00:20:02,159 Speaker 1: OPI response to that, I'm not threatened by him? Once again. 395 00:20:02,280 --> 00:20:06,720 Speaker 1: Just this guy's an idiot. Welcome to brook Landya, says sure, Jan, 396 00:20:07,119 --> 00:20:08,520 Speaker 1: Is that from the office or something. 397 00:20:08,640 --> 00:20:10,720 Speaker 3: No, it's a I think it's a Brady Bunch rip. 398 00:20:10,960 --> 00:20:13,600 Speaker 1: That could be wrong with that. And the overall judgment 399 00:20:13,640 --> 00:20:15,920 Speaker 1: was your ale on this post, and the overall judgment 400 00:20:16,000 --> 00:20:18,520 Speaker 1: on our poll right now is about seventy five to 401 00:20:18,560 --> 00:20:19,439 Speaker 1: seventy six percent. 402 00:20:20,040 --> 00:20:22,800 Speaker 2: Course, all right, So you want this dirt bag to 403 00:20:22,840 --> 00:20:27,080 Speaker 2: be released into wild West again, wreaking havoc amongst the 404 00:20:27,760 --> 00:20:28,919 Speaker 2: poor single folks. 405 00:20:29,000 --> 00:20:31,320 Speaker 1: Yeah, out there just trying to find their love. What 406 00:20:32,040 --> 00:20:34,679 Speaker 1: ladies and gentlemen. That's the end of his poll, but 407 00:20:34,720 --> 00:20:35,560 Speaker 1: not the end of a story. 408 00:20:35,640 --> 00:20:37,480 Speaker 2: Oh right, oh oh okay. 409 00:20:37,680 --> 00:20:41,800 Speaker 5: A question for Sam when it comes to terrible question 410 00:20:41,920 --> 00:20:45,800 Speaker 5: when it comes to new rules in relationships. If a 411 00:20:45,840 --> 00:20:48,560 Speaker 5: couple is about to get married and they write Reddit post, 412 00:20:48,800 --> 00:20:52,320 Speaker 5: should they read it like being on, Hey, I made 413 00:20:52,400 --> 00:20:54,679 Speaker 5: Reddit post about this. You need to read this so 414 00:20:54,680 --> 00:20:56,520 Speaker 5: they kind of get a good vibe of the person. 415 00:20:56,880 --> 00:21:01,439 Speaker 2: So do I think that all Reddit posts someone makes 416 00:21:01,840 --> 00:21:07,480 Speaker 2: should be put into evidence before getting married? So like 417 00:21:07,560 --> 00:21:10,359 Speaker 2: you propose and they're like, hey, excited to get married? 418 00:21:10,400 --> 00:21:12,080 Speaker 2: For you, you have to read all my Reddit posts first. 419 00:21:12,119 --> 00:21:13,800 Speaker 5: Now, well maybe not all read a post, but like 420 00:21:13,840 --> 00:21:16,760 Speaker 5: something this big, like read this post. 421 00:21:16,560 --> 00:21:21,200 Speaker 1: Like scandalous almost almost like like like a company might 422 00:21:21,320 --> 00:21:22,240 Speaker 1: go read through. 423 00:21:22,119 --> 00:21:23,360 Speaker 2: All your background check. 424 00:21:23,440 --> 00:21:25,040 Speaker 1: Yeah, background check. There, we got's a better. 425 00:21:26,520 --> 00:21:27,800 Speaker 2: I think it would be helpful. 426 00:21:27,960 --> 00:21:30,000 Speaker 1: That would be it would be a very interesting insight 427 00:21:30,119 --> 00:21:32,440 Speaker 1: to my future wife. 428 00:21:32,520 --> 00:21:35,280 Speaker 2: If you want to marry me, you have to watch 429 00:21:35,320 --> 00:21:38,280 Speaker 2: every episode of Okay story times. 430 00:21:38,240 --> 00:21:41,640 Speaker 1: Ten thousand hours of content. You have to sit there 431 00:21:41,760 --> 00:21:45,560 Speaker 1: listen to it straight for however long ten thousand hours. 432 00:21:45,680 --> 00:21:47,160 Speaker 1: Is you have to do that? 433 00:21:47,720 --> 00:21:50,280 Speaker 2: Maybe my future wife is watching right now. 434 00:21:50,440 --> 00:21:54,119 Speaker 1: It is highly possible. But guys, we have more of 435 00:21:54,119 --> 00:21:57,280 Speaker 1: a story. We got an update, we got yeah, I 436 00:21:57,280 --> 00:21:59,920 Speaker 1: think that's where we were at. So I twenty four fee, 437 00:22:00,520 --> 00:22:03,680 Speaker 1: Oh wait a second, Oh you know what time it is. 438 00:22:03,960 --> 00:22:07,720 Speaker 1: This is reverse time, the other side of the coin. 439 00:22:07,800 --> 00:22:10,560 Speaker 1: So we are now going to read from the perspective 440 00:22:10,680 --> 00:22:13,400 Speaker 1: of the bride. 441 00:22:13,560 --> 00:22:18,840 Speaker 2: These are literally my favorite. This feels like a Christmas mirror. 442 00:22:18,960 --> 00:22:20,880 Speaker 1: Sophia has outdone herself yet again. 443 00:22:20,920 --> 00:22:25,159 Speaker 2: Shout out Sophia for finding this story. W worm queen. 444 00:22:25,640 --> 00:22:29,720 Speaker 1: That's right, all right. So from the bride's perspective, I 445 00:22:29,880 --> 00:22:32,680 Speaker 1: twenty four female, was recently engaged to my twenty six 446 00:22:32,720 --> 00:22:34,359 Speaker 1: male fiance after six years together. 447 00:22:34,760 --> 00:22:35,720 Speaker 2: Recently engaged. 448 00:22:36,720 --> 00:22:38,560 Speaker 1: We got into a fight a couple of days ago 449 00:22:38,680 --> 00:22:41,200 Speaker 1: because he wouldn't let me ask my guy best friend, 450 00:22:41,280 --> 00:22:43,679 Speaker 1: twenty four male, who I've known since we were kids, 451 00:22:43,840 --> 00:22:46,480 Speaker 1: to be my man of honor. I ended up walking 452 00:22:46,520 --> 00:22:48,480 Speaker 1: out and went to stay with my parents for a 453 00:22:48,520 --> 00:22:51,280 Speaker 1: few days. I told them what happened, and they agreed 454 00:22:51,320 --> 00:22:54,520 Speaker 1: that he was way out of line. I went back 455 00:22:54,600 --> 00:22:57,000 Speaker 1: earlier today after I thought he had enough time to 456 00:22:57,000 --> 00:22:59,199 Speaker 1: calm down, and when I came home, he looks like 457 00:22:59,240 --> 00:23:01,919 Speaker 1: he was glad to see me. He apologized for stepping 458 00:23:01,920 --> 00:23:04,560 Speaker 1: out of line, and I said it was fine and 459 00:23:04,560 --> 00:23:06,840 Speaker 1: that we still had time to ask my friend to 460 00:23:06,880 --> 00:23:10,120 Speaker 1: be in the wedding. He kind of looked down and 461 00:23:10,200 --> 00:23:13,680 Speaker 1: said that we should just call everything off, the whole wedding, 462 00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:14,359 Speaker 1: call it off. 463 00:23:14,440 --> 00:23:16,320 Speaker 2: Oh my goodness. 464 00:23:16,480 --> 00:23:20,919 Speaker 1: I wasn't expecting that. Oh my god, this really surprised me. 465 00:23:20,960 --> 00:23:22,600 Speaker 1: And I immediately said. 466 00:23:23,200 --> 00:23:25,600 Speaker 2: No, no, like, we're not calling it off. No, I 467 00:23:25,640 --> 00:23:28,680 Speaker 2: am forcing you to marry me. Why are you grabbing 468 00:23:28,760 --> 00:23:31,800 Speaker 2: on to this prolapsed anus of a man? 469 00:23:32,080 --> 00:23:35,200 Speaker 1: I think I hate everyone in this story. Yeah, that's 470 00:23:35,200 --> 00:23:37,280 Speaker 1: what I'm beginning to feel. That's what I'm beginning to feel. 471 00:23:37,760 --> 00:23:40,320 Speaker 1: He then admitted while I was gone that he had 472 00:23:40,359 --> 00:23:43,760 Speaker 1: posted to am I the a hole about what had happened, 473 00:23:43,800 --> 00:23:47,200 Speaker 1: and that even though he was deemed the controlling a hole, 474 00:23:47,320 --> 00:23:50,879 Speaker 1: he also realized I was one because basically I was 475 00:23:51,000 --> 00:23:54,520 Speaker 1: hijacking the wedding planning. I asked how he could think that, 476 00:23:54,560 --> 00:23:56,560 Speaker 1: and he pointed out how I chose to have the 477 00:23:56,600 --> 00:23:58,960 Speaker 1: wedding in spring, even though that's a bad time. For him, 478 00:23:59,240 --> 00:24:01,680 Speaker 1: and that I changed up the wedding color scheme and 479 00:24:01,840 --> 00:24:05,200 Speaker 1: what his groomsmen would be wearing without talking to him first. 480 00:24:05,880 --> 00:24:09,040 Speaker 1: I said that those were practically minor things, and that 481 00:24:09,080 --> 00:24:11,880 Speaker 1: we didn't call off the wedding and we didn't have 482 00:24:11,960 --> 00:24:13,280 Speaker 1: to call off the wedding for it. 483 00:24:13,320 --> 00:24:15,800 Speaker 2: That's true, those are the minor things, but it's the 484 00:24:15,800 --> 00:24:16,400 Speaker 2: cultural thing. 485 00:24:16,440 --> 00:24:18,320 Speaker 1: That the cultural thing is a big thing that hasn't 486 00:24:18,359 --> 00:24:21,320 Speaker 1: been mentioned yet, which it kind of feels like the 487 00:24:21,440 --> 00:24:22,720 Speaker 1: bride is omitting. 488 00:24:22,920 --> 00:24:24,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, Beth, and he says he doesn't respect his culture. 489 00:24:24,920 --> 00:24:25,800 Speaker 2: I would call it off. 490 00:24:25,680 --> 00:24:28,159 Speaker 1: To then he said I was insensitive for rejecting his 491 00:24:28,200 --> 00:24:31,960 Speaker 1: culture's traditions. There it goes traditional wedding ceremonies and didn't 492 00:24:31,960 --> 00:24:34,560 Speaker 1: even consider doing them. He had brought to my attention 493 00:24:34,640 --> 00:24:37,360 Speaker 1: some traditional ceremonies people do at weddings in his culture, 494 00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:39,679 Speaker 1: and while I appreciate him bringing it up to me, 495 00:24:40,080 --> 00:24:42,639 Speaker 1: I decided against doing it because it wouldn't fit the 496 00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:45,159 Speaker 1: vibe of the traditional wedding I wanted. 497 00:24:45,320 --> 00:24:48,480 Speaker 2: So, in other words, you were hijacking the wedding planning. 498 00:24:49,640 --> 00:24:53,959 Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't like that. I do not like that 499 00:24:54,000 --> 00:24:58,280 Speaker 1: perfect wedding. They're perfect I told him I only wanted 500 00:24:58,280 --> 00:25:02,040 Speaker 1: to do a traditional American weddings and that he had 501 00:25:02,080 --> 00:25:04,480 Speaker 1: already agreed with me that that's what we were doing. 502 00:25:04,840 --> 00:25:08,040 Speaker 2: This is not a democracy. This is my way or 503 00:25:08,080 --> 00:25:12,040 Speaker 2: the highway. We're doing that, right, babe, all right, consent 504 00:25:12,119 --> 00:25:14,440 Speaker 2: to get married. Right. If she just says you're getting 505 00:25:14,480 --> 00:25:15,560 Speaker 2: married to me, it just happens. 506 00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:17,480 Speaker 1: Right, I love an American wedding. 507 00:25:17,520 --> 00:25:18,280 Speaker 3: We're going to do that. 508 00:25:18,520 --> 00:25:19,840 Speaker 1: I'd be a great thank you. 509 00:25:20,200 --> 00:25:23,800 Speaker 2: This scares me, John is scaring me. 510 00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:27,320 Speaker 1: But then he said that me having my guy best 511 00:25:27,359 --> 00:25:30,400 Speaker 1: friend be my best man was untraditional. 512 00:25:30,520 --> 00:25:30,920 Speaker 2: He gotta. 513 00:25:31,240 --> 00:25:33,600 Speaker 1: I will give that to him, he got. If she's 514 00:25:33,640 --> 00:25:36,159 Speaker 1: gonna make that argument, I will give him that that 515 00:25:36,280 --> 00:25:39,400 Speaker 1: round that jab, that jab, Thank you to the assist there. 516 00:25:39,720 --> 00:25:41,879 Speaker 1: I pointed out, I let him have his sister be 517 00:25:41,920 --> 00:25:44,119 Speaker 1: a part of the wedding party because he wanted to 518 00:25:44,200 --> 00:25:46,840 Speaker 1: have some of his family included, and that sense he 519 00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:48,480 Speaker 1: was I wanted his family. 520 00:25:49,040 --> 00:25:52,119 Speaker 3: Why to let him have his family and the party. 521 00:25:52,240 --> 00:25:57,679 Speaker 1: Great, and that since he was breaking the tradition, so 522 00:25:57,840 --> 00:26:00,399 Speaker 1: could I. He got really sad and looked he was 523 00:26:00,400 --> 00:26:03,320 Speaker 1: about to cry, and said that me breaking the tradition 524 00:26:03,560 --> 00:26:06,120 Speaker 1: was like a slap in the face after I rejected 525 00:26:06,160 --> 00:26:09,119 Speaker 1: his traditions and that I just didn't respect his culture 526 00:26:09,160 --> 00:26:11,399 Speaker 1: at all. That is not the case at all. I 527 00:26:11,440 --> 00:26:12,879 Speaker 1: greatly respect his culture. 528 00:26:13,040 --> 00:26:14,439 Speaker 2: Great, then have it in your wedding. 529 00:26:14,600 --> 00:26:17,320 Speaker 1: I told him, I understood how mean it sounded, but 530 00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:20,359 Speaker 1: it's my wedding too, so I get a say in 531 00:26:20,400 --> 00:26:23,399 Speaker 1: what we do, and by asay, I mean the say. 532 00:26:23,560 --> 00:26:26,000 Speaker 1: He kind of laughed and got up and said he 533 00:26:26,200 --> 00:26:29,280 Speaker 1: wanted to take a break and left. I don't know 534 00:26:29,280 --> 00:26:31,560 Speaker 1: what to do. I don't want to call off the 535 00:26:31,560 --> 00:26:33,720 Speaker 1: wedding at all. I tried to find his Reddit post, 536 00:26:33,800 --> 00:26:37,120 Speaker 1: but I think he was using a throwaway though. Granted 537 00:26:37,200 --> 00:26:39,560 Speaker 1: I am too. I love him so much and I 538 00:26:39,600 --> 00:26:41,640 Speaker 1: want to be with him for the rest of our lives. 539 00:26:41,920 --> 00:26:44,600 Speaker 1: I don't know how we'll get through this. I don't 540 00:26:44,640 --> 00:26:47,560 Speaker 1: think you should. Yeah, you know what, I'm gonna go 541 00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:49,919 Speaker 1: back with chat on this one. It was it was 542 00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:52,440 Speaker 1: fun to play a little hypothetical of keeping them out 543 00:26:52,440 --> 00:26:56,879 Speaker 1: of harassing single people looking for love. 544 00:26:57,119 --> 00:26:59,360 Speaker 2: But I think they I think they need a break. 545 00:26:59,480 --> 00:27:02,760 Speaker 1: This is too nuclear bombs joining into one megabomb. 546 00:27:02,800 --> 00:27:06,159 Speaker 2: That's maybe they would cause more habit having being together. 547 00:27:06,320 --> 00:27:08,720 Speaker 1: That's true. I also think of the children, so we 548 00:27:08,800 --> 00:27:11,560 Speaker 1: got some relevant comments. Just the seven says, sounds like 549 00:27:11,680 --> 00:27:14,239 Speaker 1: you are controlling and you brushed off his complaints as 550 00:27:14,359 --> 00:27:18,159 Speaker 1: no big deal. If the date, groom's been outfit and 551 00:27:18,280 --> 00:27:22,640 Speaker 1: color scheme are minor details, then they shouldn't have been changed. 552 00:27:22,840 --> 00:27:25,800 Speaker 1: Disregarding his family's traditions is a major detail. And if 553 00:27:25,840 --> 00:27:28,240 Speaker 1: you are willing to disregard them for a wedding, how 554 00:27:28,280 --> 00:27:30,600 Speaker 1: does he know you won't do it for other events. 555 00:27:31,119 --> 00:27:33,320 Speaker 1: The wedding is one day. If you don't let him 556 00:27:33,359 --> 00:27:35,199 Speaker 1: have a say in it, he's right to take a 557 00:27:35,240 --> 00:27:39,040 Speaker 1: break and reconsider mysterious permit, says I guess he thinks 558 00:27:39,080 --> 00:27:41,719 Speaker 1: now that it's his wedding too, so he should get 559 00:27:41,760 --> 00:27:44,200 Speaker 1: a say in what they do. How delulu of them. 560 00:27:44,359 --> 00:27:45,639 Speaker 1: I don't remember that. 561 00:27:46,200 --> 00:27:47,560 Speaker 2: No, he's a joke. 562 00:27:47,760 --> 00:27:48,480 Speaker 1: Oh oh okay. 563 00:27:48,520 --> 00:27:51,280 Speaker 2: I thought it's like, oh my god, he's saying it's 564 00:27:51,320 --> 00:27:54,160 Speaker 2: his wedding too. How delulu of him. 565 00:27:54,280 --> 00:27:57,280 Speaker 1: They've formatted it confusingly. I thought it was the quote, 566 00:27:57,480 --> 00:28:01,320 Speaker 1: but Opie the Bride responds, I understan where you're coming from. 567 00:28:01,600 --> 00:28:04,200 Speaker 1: I'll be honest and tell you that I haven't celebrated 568 00:28:04,240 --> 00:28:07,000 Speaker 1: a lot of his cultural events besides New Year's. He's 569 00:28:07,000 --> 00:28:09,520 Speaker 1: Cambodian and they celebrate their New Year's in April. I 570 00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:11,920 Speaker 1: believe he and his family had a falling out after 571 00:28:11,960 --> 00:28:14,880 Speaker 1: he started dating me. His family didn't approve of a foreigner, 572 00:28:15,080 --> 00:28:18,680 Speaker 1: and only recently have they reconnected. His sister, though, was different. 573 00:28:18,800 --> 00:28:21,000 Speaker 1: She didn't care that I was American, and she's stuck 574 00:28:21,040 --> 00:28:24,120 Speaker 1: by his side as his only family member. I guess 575 00:28:24,200 --> 00:28:27,040 Speaker 1: I disregarded the traditions in the first place because he 576 00:28:27,119 --> 00:28:29,480 Speaker 1: never immersed me in his culture enough, because he kind 577 00:28:29,520 --> 00:28:31,320 Speaker 1: of cut ties with that side of himself. 578 00:28:31,440 --> 00:28:33,320 Speaker 3: I feel like you should be taking up some of 579 00:28:33,320 --> 00:28:36,960 Speaker 3: that literally, should be like actively trying to immerse yourself. 580 00:28:37,000 --> 00:28:37,800 Speaker 3: You shouldn't have to do it. 581 00:28:38,040 --> 00:28:41,080 Speaker 2: And also I think it's like, so I've had a 582 00:28:41,080 --> 00:28:45,640 Speaker 2: couple friends that felt like they were culturally repressed and 583 00:28:45,760 --> 00:28:49,320 Speaker 2: then they want to dive back into it when they're 584 00:28:49,360 --> 00:28:53,000 Speaker 2: a little bit older and really embrace it. And maybe 585 00:28:53,000 --> 00:28:55,760 Speaker 2: that's what OP is trying to do now exactly, And 586 00:28:56,000 --> 00:28:59,240 Speaker 2: that's like a really cool thing, and your partner should 587 00:28:59,320 --> 00:29:02,040 Speaker 2: be supportive of that. And if they are not, they 588 00:29:02,040 --> 00:29:04,040 Speaker 2: are the a hole, which it seems like eighty percent 589 00:29:04,080 --> 00:29:06,640 Speaker 2: of you agree that the fiance is more of the 590 00:29:06,680 --> 00:29:10,600 Speaker 2: A hole than the op which is the groom. 591 00:29:10,720 --> 00:29:11,120 Speaker 1: The groom. 592 00:29:11,320 --> 00:29:12,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, the bride is worse than the groom. 593 00:29:12,720 --> 00:29:13,840 Speaker 1: That's what this is what's saying. 594 00:29:13,840 --> 00:29:18,440 Speaker 3: But it's it's quite the feat to make yourself seem 595 00:29:18,520 --> 00:29:22,240 Speaker 3: like the a hole after hearing the first o P story. 596 00:29:22,520 --> 00:29:25,160 Speaker 1: Really it is. This is the a whole Olympics. We 597 00:29:25,200 --> 00:29:28,800 Speaker 1: are literally going for the gold Medal of a holes 598 00:29:28,840 --> 00:29:29,920 Speaker 1: right now, ladies and gentlemen. 599 00:29:30,000 --> 00:29:30,800 Speaker 2: I just don't get it. 600 00:29:30,800 --> 00:29:32,560 Speaker 6: I just don't want him to have his own wedding. 601 00:29:33,400 --> 00:29:35,520 Speaker 6: I just don't get it. I just I just I 602 00:29:35,600 --> 00:29:36,200 Speaker 6: just want. 603 00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:36,520 Speaker 2: It my way. 604 00:29:36,760 --> 00:29:39,360 Speaker 1: I was uncomfortable with the idea of being surrounded by 605 00:29:39,360 --> 00:29:42,920 Speaker 1: his family that doesn't particularly like me during the ceremonies. 606 00:29:43,080 --> 00:29:45,000 Speaker 6: I don't get Awa doesn't want to be with me. 607 00:29:45,040 --> 00:29:47,880 Speaker 6: I just don't want to be around his family, or 608 00:29:48,000 --> 00:29:49,920 Speaker 6: his traditions or him. 609 00:29:50,400 --> 00:29:53,960 Speaker 1: I could say, just as a general thing, being surrounded 610 00:29:54,000 --> 00:29:57,400 Speaker 1: by your partner's family that hates you not a vibe 611 00:29:57,760 --> 00:30:01,440 Speaker 1: in general in general, as both his parents and my 612 00:30:01,520 --> 00:30:03,600 Speaker 1: parents would be involved, I didn't want to feel like 613 00:30:03,640 --> 00:30:06,560 Speaker 1: an outsider on our wedding day. So maybe that goes 614 00:30:06,600 --> 00:30:08,360 Speaker 1: back to the comment before she's like, oh, I let 615 00:30:08,360 --> 00:30:10,680 Speaker 1: you have you know you like your sister as a 616 00:30:10,720 --> 00:30:13,400 Speaker 1: family member in it. Yeah, thirty Ninjas in my Bag 617 00:30:13,480 --> 00:30:16,160 Speaker 1: says he doesn't want to feel like an outsider at 618 00:30:16,200 --> 00:30:20,240 Speaker 1: his wedding either. You're pretty selfish to disregard what he wants, 619 00:30:20,240 --> 00:30:22,560 Speaker 1: as it's his wedding too. You don't get to make 620 00:30:22,600 --> 00:30:25,680 Speaker 1: all the decisions, then say it's minor. If it's so minor, 621 00:30:25,800 --> 00:30:28,920 Speaker 1: then what's the problem with having them his way for 622 00:30:29,160 --> 00:30:32,080 Speaker 1: his side of the wedding party. The wedding and marriage 623 00:30:32,120 --> 00:30:34,320 Speaker 1: is for two people, not just the bride who has 624 00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:37,920 Speaker 1: main character syndrome. Have you made the effort with his 625 00:30:38,000 --> 00:30:40,160 Speaker 1: parents to get to know them, et cetera. This could 626 00:30:40,200 --> 00:30:42,680 Speaker 1: have been your chance to find out about his culture 627 00:30:42,720 --> 00:30:45,400 Speaker 1: and family, but you chose not to. Is there such 628 00:30:45,400 --> 00:30:48,200 Speaker 1: a thing as a traditional American wedding? When a white 629 00:30:48,280 --> 00:30:51,720 Speaker 1: dress was made popular by Queen Victoria as an English queen, 630 00:30:52,040 --> 00:30:57,880 Speaker 1: bars I like that bars fit that you sound controlling 631 00:30:57,960 --> 00:30:59,880 Speaker 1: and petty, and now you get to live with a 632 00:31:00,000 --> 00:31:02,880 Speaker 1: consequences of being demanding and brushing off his once for 633 00:31:03,000 --> 00:31:06,520 Speaker 1: the wedding elephants, Gerald says, use her name. 634 00:31:06,560 --> 00:31:07,120 Speaker 2: That's good. 635 00:31:07,120 --> 00:31:07,680 Speaker 3: That's funny. 636 00:31:08,280 --> 00:31:10,920 Speaker 1: When I first started reading this, I was on your side, 637 00:31:11,000 --> 00:31:13,320 Speaker 1: and by the end not at all. It seems to 638 00:31:13,320 --> 00:31:15,560 Speaker 1: me like he tried to veto your ideas the same 639 00:31:15,600 --> 00:31:19,880 Speaker 1: way you vetoed his honest question, why should he compromise 640 00:31:20,040 --> 00:31:24,520 Speaker 1: his traditional values if you won't compromise your non traditional ones? 641 00:31:25,360 --> 00:31:28,880 Speaker 1: And Chicago k E Says, I think your ex is right. 642 00:31:29,240 --> 00:31:32,200 Speaker 1: You haven't considered his preferences, and in fact, you minimize 643 00:31:32,200 --> 00:31:35,880 Speaker 1: his requests by calling them practically minor and aren't respecting 644 00:31:35,920 --> 00:31:39,000 Speaker 1: his cultural traditions. It sounds like you're more interested in 645 00:31:39,040 --> 00:31:42,440 Speaker 1: a wedding than an actual relationship in a marriage. Facts 646 00:31:42,520 --> 00:31:45,240 Speaker 1: your you just want a wedding, and I. 647 00:31:45,600 --> 00:31:47,840 Speaker 2: You She's gonna be like, but it was my dream 648 00:31:47,920 --> 00:31:51,000 Speaker 2: wedding since it was a kid. Yeah, I want to 649 00:31:51,040 --> 00:31:52,600 Speaker 2: make my fairy tale wedding. 650 00:31:52,680 --> 00:31:53,400 Speaker 1: It's when I. 651 00:31:55,240 --> 00:31:55,720 Speaker 6: Want it. 652 00:31:55,920 --> 00:32:02,280 Speaker 1: I like it, right, yea opie. Of course I'm interested 653 00:32:02,320 --> 00:32:05,720 Speaker 1: in the wedding. I've been dreaming of my own since 654 00:32:05,760 --> 00:32:09,760 Speaker 1: I was a child. Honestly, the Reddit whisper strikes again. 655 00:32:09,920 --> 00:32:12,840 Speaker 1: I'm not gonna lie. I'm not gonna lie, dude. This 656 00:32:13,760 --> 00:32:16,440 Speaker 1: guy is on fire today. Ladies and gentlemen, did he 657 00:32:16,520 --> 00:32:19,600 Speaker 1: read ahead? The world may never know. You can roll 658 00:32:19,600 --> 00:32:21,880 Speaker 1: it back and try to find for yourself. But I 659 00:32:21,960 --> 00:32:24,680 Speaker 1: don't value it more than I value my relationship with him. 660 00:32:24,920 --> 00:32:27,400 Speaker 1: We didn't get that far into the planning, but for 661 00:32:27,480 --> 00:32:30,200 Speaker 1: our honeymoon, I was going to suggest going somewhere he 662 00:32:30,400 --> 00:32:33,000 Speaker 1: and I have always talked about going to. 663 00:32:33,360 --> 00:32:35,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, but more emphasis on the eye. 664 00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:38,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, like we always talked about it because I was 665 00:32:38,240 --> 00:32:40,880 Speaker 1: always bringing it up. He was like so great we 666 00:32:40,880 --> 00:32:43,800 Speaker 1: were talking about all the time. We would have eventually 667 00:32:43,840 --> 00:32:46,680 Speaker 1: gotten to a place where more of his ideas would 668 00:32:46,680 --> 00:32:47,680 Speaker 1: be accepted. 669 00:32:47,760 --> 00:32:53,480 Speaker 3: Eventually, Yeah, relationship, I would have like let him do something. 670 00:32:53,800 --> 00:32:56,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, like when he's on his deathbed, he can choose 671 00:32:56,440 --> 00:32:58,920 Speaker 2: the song he dies to. Yeah, wow, only if it's 672 00:32:58,960 --> 00:32:59,680 Speaker 2: in my playlist. 673 00:33:00,520 --> 00:33:02,320 Speaker 3: I don't if it's a live band, of course. 674 00:33:02,840 --> 00:33:06,320 Speaker 1: Yeah yeah yeah no DJ please, Oh my god. Just 675 00:33:06,360 --> 00:33:09,160 Speaker 1: a bored lurker said, Babes, you literally chose your wedding 676 00:33:09,240 --> 00:33:12,040 Speaker 1: over your fiance. You broke up because of plans for 677 00:33:12,120 --> 00:33:15,160 Speaker 1: the wedding. You broke up because you couldn't compromise on 678 00:33:15,360 --> 00:33:18,640 Speaker 1: anything you wanted for anything he wanted. You chose the 679 00:33:18,640 --> 00:33:21,880 Speaker 1: wedding over the marriage always struck. Rock and Roll says, 680 00:33:22,320 --> 00:33:26,040 Speaker 1: I read his post yesterday and yours today. You both suck. 681 00:33:26,680 --> 00:33:27,080 Speaker 2: Amen. 682 00:33:27,280 --> 00:33:28,920 Speaker 1: I think you would have put up with the stink 683 00:33:28,960 --> 00:33:31,160 Speaker 1: about your male best friend being in your party if 684 00:33:31,200 --> 00:33:34,479 Speaker 1: you hadn't have been so controlling. But that's mute because 685 00:33:34,520 --> 00:33:38,120 Speaker 1: you're incredibly controlling and don't understand or care. You are 686 00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:40,840 Speaker 1: selfish and self centered. You seem to think only your 687 00:33:40,840 --> 00:33:43,200 Speaker 1: taste and desires matter for the wedding, forgetting that your 688 00:33:43,240 --> 00:33:45,760 Speaker 1: groom is a person and not just a prop at 689 00:33:45,760 --> 00:33:48,760 Speaker 1: your wedding. The fact that you even say let him 690 00:33:48,760 --> 00:33:51,600 Speaker 1: include his sister is grounds to break up with you. 691 00:33:51,800 --> 00:33:55,800 Speaker 1: In my opinion, Beautiful, neither of you are mature enough 692 00:33:55,840 --> 00:33:58,600 Speaker 1: to marry. From the little bit you have each written 693 00:33:58,880 --> 00:34:01,520 Speaker 1: in both of your posts, you both sound fairly unpleasant 694 00:34:01,520 --> 00:34:04,040 Speaker 1: to be around, but you are definitely the harsher of 695 00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:06,520 Speaker 1: the two. He's a whiner and you are a till 696 00:34:06,560 --> 00:34:09,200 Speaker 1: of the hunt. Both of you need to grow Just 697 00:34:09,480 --> 00:34:11,839 Speaker 1: blain it into him right now. Both of you need 698 00:34:11,880 --> 00:34:14,480 Speaker 1: to grow up and learn what's actually important in life, 699 00:34:14,920 --> 00:34:19,240 Speaker 1: how to grow together. Don't get married, but sure first, 700 00:34:19,640 --> 00:34:20,040 Speaker 1: Mike d. 701 00:34:20,280 --> 00:34:24,279 Speaker 2: Oh, that is something heat coming from that last comment there, 702 00:34:24,719 --> 00:34:27,200 Speaker 2: and honestly he't I agree with, But I have a question. 703 00:34:27,400 --> 00:34:29,279 Speaker 2: I mean, I think we can both agree that they 704 00:34:29,320 --> 00:34:33,040 Speaker 2: are all the a holes, But if it comes down 705 00:34:33,360 --> 00:34:38,000 Speaker 2: to u a decision between a bride or a groom, 706 00:34:38,520 --> 00:34:40,680 Speaker 2: does the bride's opinion. 707 00:34:40,320 --> 00:34:44,000 Speaker 1: Matter more in general like a in a wedding in general? 708 00:34:44,160 --> 00:34:46,480 Speaker 2: In general? Carrol Castle says, I think Western weddings are 709 00:34:46,520 --> 00:34:50,240 Speaker 2: too bride centric, which I think they are very bride centric. 710 00:34:51,200 --> 00:34:54,400 Speaker 2: But I want to hear from y'all, So if you 711 00:34:54,440 --> 00:34:57,920 Speaker 2: want to come on stage and give your opinion on 712 00:34:58,320 --> 00:35:01,799 Speaker 2: what you think and also how was if anyone has 713 00:35:01,840 --> 00:35:05,560 Speaker 2: any horror stories about wedding planning too, I would love 714 00:35:05,600 --> 00:35:10,440 Speaker 2: to hear those. So put your little tendrils into Riley's 715 00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:13,480 Speaker 2: discord and we'll bring you up on stage. But Riley 716 00:35:13,760 --> 00:35:17,960 Speaker 2: question for you. If your wife was like, I want 717 00:35:18,000 --> 00:35:21,479 Speaker 2: you to wear these tuxedos because I think they will 718 00:35:21,520 --> 00:35:24,640 Speaker 2: be most fashionable. 719 00:35:24,320 --> 00:35:26,560 Speaker 1: That'ds hey that that one that one doesn't really work, 720 00:35:26,600 --> 00:35:30,080 Speaker 1: but one of the other. List out the other options anyways. 721 00:35:29,560 --> 00:35:33,239 Speaker 2: And basically wants to plan like like she wants to 722 00:35:33,360 --> 00:35:37,760 Speaker 2: take over planning of your wedding. Would you let her? 723 00:35:38,080 --> 00:35:41,279 Speaker 5: Well, traditionally from what I know, I could be very wrong. 724 00:35:41,640 --> 00:35:43,879 Speaker 5: The person that pays for the majority of the web 725 00:35:43,960 --> 00:35:48,120 Speaker 5: wedding is the u daughter's family, So I would say 726 00:35:48,160 --> 00:35:49,960 Speaker 5: they have more of a say because they're paying for 727 00:35:50,040 --> 00:35:53,000 Speaker 5: more of it. And of course she tells me to 728 00:35:53,000 --> 00:35:56,920 Speaker 5: do something fashion, why isn't gonna wear it? Uh? But yeah, 729 00:35:56,960 --> 00:35:59,640 Speaker 5: I that's what I think. But it is a compromise 730 00:35:59,719 --> 00:36:02,640 Speaker 5: and there should both be you know, both are people, 731 00:36:02,719 --> 00:36:05,920 Speaker 5: you both have similar interest hopefully, and you can have 732 00:36:05,960 --> 00:36:07,760 Speaker 5: that in the wedding. But I do think it leans 733 00:36:07,800 --> 00:36:10,239 Speaker 5: more in the bride's favor when it comes to that day. 734 00:36:10,600 --> 00:36:12,919 Speaker 1: Yeah. I think, like, like we said a second ago, 735 00:36:13,840 --> 00:36:18,880 Speaker 1: like Western American weddings are are traditionally like more bride centric, 736 00:36:18,920 --> 00:36:20,480 Speaker 1: and at the end of the day, it kind of 737 00:36:20,520 --> 00:36:25,200 Speaker 1: depends on the couple. Maybe maybe. I'm sure there's couples 738 00:36:25,239 --> 00:36:27,920 Speaker 1: where the guy is like, oh, I have these like 739 00:36:27,920 --> 00:36:30,080 Speaker 1: specific ideas and the bride is kind of like, I 740 00:36:30,120 --> 00:36:32,000 Speaker 1: just want to have a fun day and get married, 741 00:36:32,000 --> 00:36:33,920 Speaker 1: and I'm sure I'm sure that happens. 742 00:36:34,400 --> 00:36:36,200 Speaker 2: I want to have a lit day. I want to 743 00:36:36,680 --> 00:36:43,520 Speaker 2: paraglide from a plane with my wife onto uh. Burning 744 00:36:44,000 --> 00:36:47,319 Speaker 2: blaming disc I wanted my wedding to be weird. That's 745 00:36:47,360 --> 00:36:49,240 Speaker 2: the goal. Oh yeah, and everyone has to be naked, 746 00:36:49,320 --> 00:36:49,520 Speaker 2: you know. 747 00:36:49,800 --> 00:36:52,440 Speaker 1: I feel like generally speaking, I feel like both people 748 00:36:52,480 --> 00:36:56,280 Speaker 1: probably have like a few like big big picture items. 749 00:36:56,320 --> 00:36:59,000 Speaker 1: For instance, me and my girlfriend, I've always talked about 750 00:36:59,000 --> 00:37:02,719 Speaker 1: doing two weddings, one closer to her home country and 751 00:37:02,760 --> 00:37:06,600 Speaker 1: then one in America, both for convenience of both families, 752 00:37:06,719 --> 00:37:10,560 Speaker 1: for being able to like fully celebrate like both traditions 753 00:37:10,600 --> 00:37:13,200 Speaker 1: and mix them in and and have double the party. 754 00:37:13,520 --> 00:37:15,960 Speaker 2: Like idea, And that's what our parents did. 755 00:37:16,040 --> 00:37:17,560 Speaker 3: Yeah, well, they didn't have two weddings. 756 00:37:17,600 --> 00:37:18,360 Speaker 2: Why am I blurried? 757 00:37:18,400 --> 00:37:21,960 Speaker 3: They didn't have two weddings. They had a wedding, I 758 00:37:22,000 --> 00:37:25,240 Speaker 3: believe in I think they had the wedding in America 759 00:37:25,320 --> 00:37:26,960 Speaker 3: and then they had the reception. 760 00:37:26,920 --> 00:37:28,279 Speaker 2: In Australia or something like that. 761 00:37:28,280 --> 00:37:31,600 Speaker 3: Two parties, two parties for sure, party, but I think 762 00:37:31,640 --> 00:37:35,360 Speaker 3: they got married in America. 763 00:37:35,560 --> 00:37:38,200 Speaker 1: I think generally like a sign of a good couple 764 00:37:38,320 --> 00:37:41,000 Speaker 1: is like both people probably bring things that they want 765 00:37:41,080 --> 00:37:42,720 Speaker 1: to do to the table and they kind of figure 766 00:37:42,719 --> 00:37:45,520 Speaker 1: out a way to incorporate, probably try to incorporate all 767 00:37:45,560 --> 00:37:48,960 Speaker 1: of them as as possible, unless they conflict and figuring 768 00:37:49,000 --> 00:37:49,920 Speaker 1: out a way. 769 00:37:49,680 --> 00:37:52,759 Speaker 2: To yeah it. She wants everyone to be clothed, and 770 00:37:52,800 --> 00:37:55,520 Speaker 2: I want everyone to be naked. We everyone wears underwear, 771 00:37:55,680 --> 00:37:58,920 Speaker 2: but you know what, I want to strip down one 772 00:37:59,280 --> 00:38:04,680 Speaker 2: of you and your stories. So call us on the discords, Sylvia, 773 00:38:04,719 --> 00:38:07,400 Speaker 2: who do we have, Spivvy divvy? We're bringing you up 774 00:38:07,440 --> 00:38:13,200 Speaker 2: all right, let us do the voice call. Can you 775 00:38:13,239 --> 00:38:13,720 Speaker 2: hear us? 776 00:38:13,840 --> 00:38:14,319 Speaker 4: I'm here? 777 00:38:14,360 --> 00:38:15,759 Speaker 1: Now there we go. 778 00:38:16,160 --> 00:38:19,600 Speaker 2: So Spiffy, you send us to the discord that you 779 00:38:19,680 --> 00:38:23,799 Speaker 2: cater a lot of weddings. So question for you, do 780 00:38:23,840 --> 00:38:27,120 Speaker 2: you think it's more of a bride decision or a 781 00:38:27,160 --> 00:38:31,680 Speaker 2: groom decision or is it ideally a mix of both? 782 00:38:31,719 --> 00:38:33,359 Speaker 2: And what have you seen like work and not work 783 00:38:33,360 --> 00:38:33,759 Speaker 2: and all that? 784 00:38:33,880 --> 00:38:37,759 Speaker 7: Well, normally it like Riley was saying, it's normally it 785 00:38:37,800 --> 00:38:40,319 Speaker 7: depends on who's paying for the wedding. Who has kind 786 00:38:40,320 --> 00:38:42,760 Speaker 7: of more of a say, and a lot of times 787 00:38:42,800 --> 00:38:46,120 Speaker 7: that is the bride's family. But I've seen weddings where 788 00:38:46,400 --> 00:38:49,240 Speaker 7: the bride and groom are the ones who are paying 789 00:38:49,239 --> 00:38:51,920 Speaker 7: for the wedding because they don't want their parents to 790 00:38:51,960 --> 00:38:54,160 Speaker 7: have anything to do with the wedding, right. 791 00:38:54,160 --> 00:38:55,600 Speaker 2: Right, don't want them taking control? 792 00:38:56,040 --> 00:38:59,000 Speaker 7: Yeah, because there's mother in law Zilla's as well as 793 00:38:59,040 --> 00:39:00,520 Speaker 7: Bridezilla's room Zilla. 794 00:39:01,040 --> 00:39:03,839 Speaker 2: Have you ever catered a wedding and you're like, these 795 00:39:03,880 --> 00:39:05,520 Speaker 2: two people should just not be together. 796 00:39:06,320 --> 00:39:10,360 Speaker 7: No, but I've seen some interesting looking couples like you 797 00:39:10,400 --> 00:39:13,880 Speaker 7: want to expect to see them together. Like what like 798 00:39:13,920 --> 00:39:16,359 Speaker 7: a really really really tall guy and a really really 799 00:39:16,400 --> 00:39:19,839 Speaker 7: short girl. He had to like kneel down to kiss her. 800 00:39:19,920 --> 00:39:23,120 Speaker 7: That was kind of funny on his hands set. He 801 00:39:24,800 --> 00:39:27,839 Speaker 7: just got down on any one knee and like kissed her. 802 00:39:28,120 --> 00:39:31,000 Speaker 2: I was like, wow, funny distance relationship. 803 00:39:32,360 --> 00:39:36,520 Speaker 7: And so I've seen some gas you're major age gaps? 804 00:39:36,960 --> 00:39:38,880 Speaker 2: Oh, like what's the biggest? 805 00:39:39,320 --> 00:39:41,400 Speaker 7: Like there was this one where there was like a 806 00:39:41,520 --> 00:39:45,120 Speaker 7: really old woman marrying, Like he looked like he was 807 00:39:45,239 --> 00:39:48,400 Speaker 7: nineteen and she looked like she was in her sixties. 808 00:39:48,600 --> 00:39:54,960 Speaker 2: I don't know, that is crazy. So in the story 809 00:39:55,000 --> 00:39:59,160 Speaker 2: that we were reading, do you think these people should 810 00:39:59,200 --> 00:40:00,000 Speaker 2: still get married? 811 00:40:00,360 --> 00:40:00,600 Speaker 3: Well? 812 00:40:00,680 --> 00:40:03,400 Speaker 7: I was kind of with John at first, with yeah, 813 00:40:03,160 --> 00:40:05,960 Speaker 7: take them off the market, like let them go together. 814 00:40:06,880 --> 00:40:10,359 Speaker 7: But I think they both need to work on themselves 815 00:40:10,600 --> 00:40:14,600 Speaker 7: and like figure out what's really important in life and 816 00:40:14,719 --> 00:40:17,640 Speaker 7: that these things that they're fighting over and just for 817 00:40:17,719 --> 00:40:22,520 Speaker 7: the wedding, like that's setting a standard for the relationship 818 00:40:22,560 --> 00:40:23,160 Speaker 7: in the future. 819 00:40:23,440 --> 00:40:25,799 Speaker 2: So yeah, and they're only going to hurt each other 820 00:40:26,040 --> 00:40:31,239 Speaker 2: by forcing a marriage that obviously will not work. Yeah, 821 00:40:31,320 --> 00:40:35,280 Speaker 2: I agree, So the prevorce and mature. 822 00:40:35,680 --> 00:40:37,400 Speaker 1: Yes, I can curse. 823 00:40:37,480 --> 00:40:39,719 Speaker 2: I can curse Bobby. Tiffy, thanks for calling in and 824 00:40:39,760 --> 00:40:44,640 Speaker 2: giving your professional wedding caterer opinion. We appreciate you. 825 00:40:44,960 --> 00:40:47,200 Speaker 7: Yes, thank you. 826 00:40:47,200 --> 00:40:47,800 Speaker 2: You're the best. 827 00:40:47,920 --> 00:40:51,040 Speaker 1: There's big shout out to Spiffy, Tiffy one of our 828 00:40:51,280 --> 00:40:54,000 Speaker 1: most sacred and credible community members. 829 00:40:54,080 --> 00:40:58,200 Speaker 2: Yeah, so shout out Spiffy. Great mod you have seen 830 00:40:58,239 --> 00:41:00,640 Speaker 2: her in the chat and on the discord. That's right, 831 00:41:01,000 --> 00:41:03,400 Speaker 2: But I think that's the end of that story.