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Speaker 1: So everyone bought into the Golden Bachelor. I didn't watch it.

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Speaker 1: I had one of the suitors on this podcast. But

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Speaker 1: I've always taken issue with the fact that on the Bachelor,

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Speaker 1: on the Bachelorette, you have people from different socioeconomic backgrounds,

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Speaker 1: you have people from different political beliefs, religion just like

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Speaker 1: the world. Of course, yes, but then you concentrate in

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Speaker 1: this pressure cooker of alcohol and the bubble they call it,

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Speaker 1: and then you give people these extraordinary circumstances, like you

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Speaker 1: put two people together on the top of a mountain

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Speaker 1: on amazing helicopter. They go hang gliding, they go skydiving,

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Speaker 1: whatever it is that they do, but it is not

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Speaker 1: reality and fantasy.

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Speaker 2: They even have a fantasy suite.

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Speaker 1: So people are expected to base a relationship which is

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Speaker 1: all about reality. Like reality hits in life when you

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Speaker 1: have to pay bills, when God forbid, you have a

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Speaker 1: sick child, when someone is sick, when there's a death,

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Speaker 1: when you have a mortgage, when you know, when the

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Speaker 1: shit hits the fan, when you're cleaning up baby vomit,

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Speaker 1: when in laws are coming, things like that, that's real life.

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Speaker 1: When someone loses their job and you have this show

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Speaker 1: that's based all in fantasy and hype, and having been

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Speaker 1: on reality television, I know how much that experience can

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Speaker 1: influence your decisions.

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Speaker 2: You also are aware, acutely aware that.

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Speaker 1: There's an audience watching you can it could be real,

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Speaker 1: but it's only real based on what's going on, which

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Speaker 1: is not real. And I think that the world has

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Speaker 1: to start getting clued into the fact that divorce is

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Speaker 1: at an astronomical rate because no one's living in reality.

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Speaker 2: That's why I talk about prenups.

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Speaker 1: That's why I talk about marriage being a business, divorce

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Speaker 1: being a business, lawyers being for profit, people not discussing

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Speaker 1: things that really matter, People that are very educated and

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Speaker 1: successful being scared to ask a partner for a prenup,

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Speaker 1: as if there's something wrong with it. But everybody's just

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Speaker 1: leaning into the big dress and the ring and the

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Speaker 1: fairy tale and all that, and everybody. We have to

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Speaker 1: start educating our children on what really goes on, like

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Speaker 1: a show should be talking about religious differences. Are you

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Speaker 1: open to therapy? What would happen if you got a divorce,

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Speaker 1: What would happen in custody?

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Speaker 2: Do you want your kids to go to public or

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Speaker 2: private school?

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Speaker 1: Okay, what do you believe about strict religion, What kind

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Speaker 1: of vacations do you like to go on? Where are

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Speaker 1: you on education? Where are you on politics? Like people

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Speaker 1: need to start getting their shit together. And it affects

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Speaker 1: girls watching thinking that that's how our relationship should be

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Speaker 1: and it's going to be a fantasy. They're leaning into

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Speaker 1: the marketing, the neo layne ring, the verau Wang dress,

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Speaker 1: the vacation that's you know, that's amazing and marketed. If

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Speaker 1: anybody spent nearly as much time focusing on what really

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Speaker 1: happens in a marriage, in a divorce, in a prenup,

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Speaker 1: in all of it, in the pressure, in the money

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Speaker 1: that people spend on these weddings, Like, that's what needs

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Speaker 1: to be discussed. And it's not cute and it's not sexy,

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Speaker 1: but it's reality. So next time you see people just

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Speaker 1: getting engaged flipping through the magazines, tell them that they

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Speaker 1: have to be educated on marital law. In the state

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Speaker 1: that you live in, I was in a ten year

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Speaker 1: divorce process millions and millions of dollars. And it doesn't

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Speaker 1: matter whether you're rich or you're poor. You're a victim

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Speaker 1: to the system. So the minute you sign the dotted

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Speaker 1: line and sign a contract. With marriage, think about the

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Speaker 1: fact that it's not all that it's marketed up to be. So,

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Speaker 1: just like with going to college, some people don't go

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Speaker 1: to college anymore because they're thinking about if they want

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Speaker 1: several hundred thousand dollars in debt.

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Speaker 2: It's their decision.

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Speaker 1: You may want to go to college, you may want

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Speaker 1: to be a doctor, you may want to be a lawyer.

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Speaker 1: You may just want to go to college. That's your right,

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Speaker 1: of course it is. It could be a beautiful experience,

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Speaker 1: but think about it. You have to think about it

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Speaker 1: because you may not want to be in debt college debt,

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Speaker 1: student loan debt forever. So think about getting married because

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Speaker 1: you may not want If fifty sixty percent of people

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Speaker 1: end up in divorce, I would not invest in that business.

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Speaker 1: The most ironic and interesting thing is that Kevin O'Leary

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Speaker 1: always refers to relationships in a business way, and I

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Speaker 1: used to think of a callous He'd ask me about

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Speaker 1: something and he'd say, I don't know if i'd take

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Speaker 1: that deal. I wouldn't do that deal about a relationship.

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Speaker 1: He asks questions like, oh, you know, did you sign

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Speaker 1: a prenup? Would you sign a prenup.

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Speaker 2: What is he paying? What are you paying?

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Speaker 1: It's not sexy because you know what he realizes, it's

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Speaker 1: a fucking business.

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Speaker 2: So you know what he's right. Decide whether or not

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Speaker 2: you would take that deal.

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Speaker 1: But on Shark Deech, we would not invest in something

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Speaker 1: that had a sixty percent chance of failing. So you're

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Speaker 1: investing in a romantic business that has a fifty to

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Speaker 1: sixty percent chance in failing. You may as well get

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Speaker 1: educated and stop watching this fantasy television, or just know

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Speaker 1: that it's complete bullshit that two people that are raised

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Speaker 1: a nurse and a landscaper as parents. Living modest means

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Speaker 1: that when you go to a mountaintop in Greece and

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Speaker 1: everything's paid for and you don't have to think about

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Speaker 1: a bill, think about religion, think about therapy, think about

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Speaker 1: anything besides getting late and looking cute. Of course, you're

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Speaker 1: gonna make bad decisions, so get your shit together when

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Speaker 1: it comes to relationships. Life is not a fantasy suite.

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Speaker 1: Life is a reality suite. If someone is a devout

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Speaker 1: spiritual person, they meditate for weeks on end at silent retreats.

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Speaker 2: They are a monk. They have tea with the Dali Lama.

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Speaker 1: They're not hanging out with Ben Affleck, j Loo and

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Speaker 1: Kim Kardashian because I think Kim Kardashian is a lovely person,

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Speaker 1: a hard worker and a beautiful girl, but she's not

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Speaker 1: who I go to if I'm a spiritual being. And

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Speaker 1: Jal is the hardest working woman in entertainment. And I

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Speaker 1: love Jennifer Lopez and Ben Affleck in this amazing era

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Speaker 1: of theirs. But I just would say that I wouldn't

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Speaker 1: look to my spiritual leaders to be hanging out with

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Speaker 1: a list celebrities on the met Gallus steps. I would think, like,

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Speaker 1: why aren't you, you know, in India studying your spiritual craft.

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Speaker 1: So I'm calling bullshit, But what was your first clue