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Speaker 2: A y'all ready to have a good time.

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Speaker 3: How y'all feeling tony? Guys?

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Speaker 2: We have so many surprises in store for you. I

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Speaker 3: I love y'all. I love it. I see the T shirts.

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Speaker 3: So guys, there's so many different sizes to me. You

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Speaker 2: I love my girls. I love good girl talk, hey

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Speaker 2: cause you know I love I love talking about Jesus.

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Speaker 2: I also love some deep conversation. I'm gonna say, be

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Speaker 3: If y'all didn't know that, you gotta get me here.

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Speaker 2: And then also, I love connecting with y'all. That's the

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Speaker 2: most important part, all right. So tonight we're doing everything.

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Speaker 4: Are y'all ready.

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Speaker 3: All right?

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Speaker 2: So we're gonna go and get this show started. So

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Speaker 2: first up, I have some real, wraw, unfiltered girl talk

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Speaker 2: with some of my favorite girlfriends. Are you all ready

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Speaker 2: welcome to the stage? My sisters, pretty.

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Speaker 5: Thee what Jessy, Hey, Hey, hey, hey.

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Speaker 6: And lost this to mea mo day. Hey.

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Speaker 7: Let' that's my best friend.

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Speaker 8: She a rope back.

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Speaker 2: I forgot how long this pony fail was then I

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Speaker 4: Help me? Lord, who got a fan she can borrow?

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Speaker 3: I know that's right.

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Speaker 4: Look, they all got fans. They don't give it to y'all.

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Speaker 3: Better had him fans. Thank you, though, that take mine,

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Speaker 4: What is all right?

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Speaker 3: Ladies? Hi, thank y'all so much for joining me today.

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Speaker 3: I really appreciate it.

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Speaker 2: I know y'all are all busy, and speaking of being busy,

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Speaker 3: Show on sale. My sweeties, cannat test. The Devil has

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Speaker 2: But I would be lying if I said I have

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Speaker 2: not been stressed out lately, trying to balance everything from

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Speaker 4: Because I need some tips as we start to help

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Speaker 9: Oh, my gosh, how am I balancing being busy?

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Speaker 4: Well?

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Speaker 3: First of all, I'm a new.

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Speaker 2: Yes, how many kids you guys? Sais two?

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Speaker 10: So I just had my first child a year ago.

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Speaker 3: It was her birthday last week.

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Speaker 4: Right, that's a blessing.

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Speaker 3: Yes, no, you got a whole devotional out.

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Speaker 2: You're on a cover of Upscale magazine.

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Speaker 3: God is good. Come, God is good. He's worthy to

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I love that. Be You just launched an app.

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Speaker 3: You have a podcast as well.

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Speaker 2: It's coming.

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Speaker 3: One country of life?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, that's all that's right, So I'm doing it.

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Speaker 8: I had Church today, I went to two services.

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Speaker 8: But all of it matters.

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Speaker 1: You can't just focus on one area of your life

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Speaker 4: You got. It's all the.

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Speaker 4: That's so good.

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Speaker 3: I love that to me. The mother of all trades.

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Speaker 4: Y'all make me feel so cool. Smile anyway.

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Speaker 9: No, I'm just honestly, I told myself, you just have

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Speaker 9: I mean, honestly, I think when you're you're a mom

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Speaker 4: Five hundred jobs like us. That's good.

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Speaker 3: And if we're able to be above the ground and.

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Speaker 3: I love that. I love that.

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Speaker 11: To you do that.

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Speaker 3: Justin was there.

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Speaker 2: Justin you were there, he said, they really haven't. But yeah,

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Speaker 4: Do so much. I was looking for somebody to check

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Speaker 10: Postpartum is not talked about enough and we.

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Speaker 9: So sometimes just because I might look nice and pretty

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Speaker 4: I'm that girl.

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Speaker 1: But you have to be God fearing. I'm not telling

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Speaker 1: I'm braik and I won't lest you've had in my life.

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Speaker 4: You have to be. You know, I'm Caribbean, so you

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Speaker 1: Okay, you have to have somebody's yall for walk with

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Speaker 1: There's no offence of us about it. I'm not negotiating

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Speaker 4: He's Christ around me. You know. If a man get

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Speaker 1: I'm not asking for you to be head to told

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Speaker 4: I might still talk to you man.

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Speaker 3: What kind of cheat?

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Speaker 3: My ten kids?

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Speaker 2: Okay, Samiah, you are married, and a wise man once

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Speaker 8: Money.

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Speaker 3: Seriously, I'm gonna keep it one hundred.

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Speaker 9: And I don't want anybody with kids anymore because the

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Speaker 4: I'm better than this step mama. I used to be like, man,

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Speaker 3: And I think that's what you need.

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Speaker 9: You need someone that loves you more than what you

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Speaker 9: And I'm like, well hold on now, No, you don't

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Speaker 3: Because he at home with the Charren No.

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Speaker 9: A lot of times we say, oh money, well then

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Speaker 9: you are God fearing, you have your finances in order,

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Speaker 9: because hello, I like nice stuff, and you have that sex,

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Speaker 4: That's what you said.

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Speaker 3: Come on, I love it. I love that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm with TV. I mean, b I ain't doing

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Speaker 4: Yes?

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Speaker 3: Congratulations? Yeah, so thank y'all.

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Speaker 8: Go until marriage.

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Speaker 4: Yes, it goes into yeah because.

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Speaker 2: So, like I've been really in my Bible, and like

446
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Speaker 2: every time I would read it, it seemed like I have

447
00:22:45,520 --> 00:22:48,159
Speaker 2: on this Bible plan so it gives you like different

448
00:22:48,200 --> 00:22:50,720
Speaker 2: books to read from, and I feel like every morning

449
00:22:50,800 --> 00:22:52,280
Speaker 2: it was like sexual morality.

450
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Speaker 3: I'm like, it was just like jumping out the pair.

451
00:22:54,560 --> 00:22:56,560
Speaker 3: I'm like, look, which, okay, calm down.

452
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Speaker 2: And finally I just got to the point I was like,

453
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Speaker 2: all right, God, and I'm in a relationship and just

454
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Speaker 2: transparently I was having sex. So I was like, this

455
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Speaker 2: man's got to leave me. You know what I'm saying,

456
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Speaker 2: Because like you feel like because we have been conditioned,

457
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Speaker 2: I'm sure we all can have said we've been conditioned

458
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Speaker 2: that what you don't do another woman will, right.

459
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Speaker 8: Yeah.

460
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Speaker 2: So we've been like really groomed to like take care

461
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Speaker 2: of a man and make sure that we know what

462
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Speaker 2: we're doing, you know. And when we had that conversation,

463
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Speaker 2: I literally was in my kitchen like crying as we're

464
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Speaker 2: on the phone, and God was like, you just gotta

465
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Speaker 2: trust me on this.

466
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Speaker 3: And I had done this before and the relationship didn't

467
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Speaker 3: work out.

468
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Speaker 2: So I was like, well, that didn't work, so I'm

469
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Speaker 2: gonna go on back to busting wide open.

470
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Speaker 4: You doing there.

471
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Speaker 2: I'll just being transient, keeping it real, unafieled all. And

472
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Speaker 2: then this relationship came and God was convicting me again.

473
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Speaker 2: I was like, all right, I really have to take

474
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Speaker 2: this serious. So we got through that and he was

475
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Speaker 2: like no, he said, we'll just find other ways to

476
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Speaker 2: be intimate without any sexual Yeah. Yeah, so I we're

477
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Speaker 2: doing that. And that was December that we like stopped that.

478
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Speaker 2: And then I was at home. I was at home

479
00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:20,199
Speaker 2: and God literally said I was sitting in bed and

480
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Speaker 2: he said that too, and I said, what's you talking about?

481
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Speaker 3: You know what I'm talking about. And I looked to

482
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Speaker 3: the nights saying, I said, now you're taking it too far.

483
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Speaker 2: Lord, he said that too, and so I literally pulled

484
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Speaker 2: it out that my vibrator out the door, put it

485
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Speaker 2: in the trash can. And it was the day that

486
00:24:37,440 --> 00:24:39,800
Speaker 2: my cleaning ladies were coming. And that's when I knew

487
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Speaker 2: I was serious, because I said on the podcast, I

488
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Speaker 2: said if I wouldn't, if they didn't.

489
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Speaker 3: Come that day, I might have pulled that thing back

490
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Speaker 3: out and watched it one more time.

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Speaker 8: Charge I don't want to waste it, right, don'.

492
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Speaker 2: You're going away on a hot as listen ninety nine

493
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Speaker 2: and a half on Dude, that's what they said. I'm

494
00:25:08,480 --> 00:25:11,639
Speaker 2: trying to make a honey okay, but no, I just

495
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Speaker 2: want to know, like, has there been any any moments

496
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Speaker 2: in your life where you, guys, have been tested, your

497
00:25:16,920 --> 00:25:19,639
Speaker 2: faith has been tested, where God has really like pushed you.

498
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Speaker 3: To your limits. Because that was a limit for me.

499
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Speaker 3: I said that flesh is hard to fight. Anybody want

500
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Speaker 3: to time in just like should skip me, skip me,

501
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Speaker 3: skip me? He hates do that.

502
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Speaker 4: She'd be like, oh my god, I want you to

503
00:25:55,040 --> 00:25:57,399
Speaker 4: do that. It's like bullet le sister, don't do that.

504
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Speaker 8: I can't imagine me to Heaven said, She's like, I

505
00:26:01,560 --> 00:26:04,360
Speaker 8: mean she never tells me anything. I'm just saying, I'm

506
00:26:04,440 --> 00:26:06,920
Speaker 8: like me, what do you be doing? She like, girl,

507
00:26:07,160 --> 00:26:08,520
Speaker 8: she be showing me how to dance and stuff.

508
00:26:08,520 --> 00:26:10,280
Speaker 4: I'm like, you do not be doing that.

509
00:26:12,960 --> 00:26:14,520
Speaker 1: You know what's so crazy as me and be be

510
00:26:14,600 --> 00:26:16,840
Speaker 1: talking about like selibacy. It was one year and I

511
00:26:16,920 --> 00:26:19,240
Speaker 1: told her, like, I haven't had I wasn't having sex in.

512
00:26:19,280 --> 00:26:22,280
Speaker 4: For like four years. Wow, four years.

513
00:26:22,560 --> 00:26:25,920
Speaker 1: No, it's amazing, right, But if some dude came around

514
00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:29,280
Speaker 1: and you already know how that go, dredhead tattoos, You're like,

515
00:26:29,400 --> 00:26:35,119
Speaker 1: ooh god, y'all all right? And well, the last time

516
00:26:35,160 --> 00:26:36,639
Speaker 1: I had sex was I could talk about this was

517
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Speaker 1: September sixth, So I didn't walk in the New Year

518
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Speaker 1: with you know, having sex.

519
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Speaker 4: I was and I think, I'm gonna wait, you know,

520
00:26:43,960 --> 00:26:45,840
Speaker 4: I don't know about the marriage Chris Food.

521
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Speaker 1: I might do that.

522
00:26:48,520 --> 00:26:50,320
Speaker 4: I might. I don't know, God hasn't.

523
00:26:50,359 --> 00:26:50,800
Speaker 8: I just don't.

524
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Speaker 1: Right in this season, I'm just not in a space

525
00:26:52,920 --> 00:26:54,760
Speaker 1: of talking to anybody. So I am, like I said,

526
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Speaker 1: I am single. And in this season I.

527
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Speaker 4: Really was just focused.

528
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Speaker 1: Like I said, it took me two years to write

529
00:26:59,200 --> 00:27:01,800
Speaker 1: my devotional so I really and truly didn't walk in

530
00:27:01,840 --> 00:27:03,840
Speaker 1: this season with a group chad of friends and all

531
00:27:03,880 --> 00:27:06,000
Speaker 1: that good stuff. I spoke to like three four people

532
00:27:06,080 --> 00:27:09,200
Speaker 1: in this season. It was Bi Simone, my hairstylist, makeup ours,

533
00:27:09,280 --> 00:27:11,639
Speaker 1: my mother, and I just kept at it because I

534
00:27:11,680 --> 00:27:14,239
Speaker 1: knew I had to sacrifice something and that was one

535
00:27:14,280 --> 00:27:16,920
Speaker 1: of the ones. Like September sixth was that, And again

536
00:27:16,960 --> 00:27:19,639
Speaker 1: I was intimate with this this in particular person, so

537
00:27:19,720 --> 00:27:21,280
Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, we're not even talking to each other,

538
00:27:21,359 --> 00:27:22,720
Speaker 1: the more we're not dealing with each other. But I

539
00:27:22,760 --> 00:27:24,719
Speaker 1: could just stop this whole thing. And I haven't had

540
00:27:24,760 --> 00:27:27,159
Speaker 1: sex since that, So I just was so focused on

541
00:27:27,280 --> 00:27:30,240
Speaker 1: putting this book out, really posturing my heart really and

542
00:27:30,359 --> 00:27:33,680
Speaker 1: truly thank y'all, like literally posturing my heart clear on

543
00:27:33,760 --> 00:27:35,399
Speaker 1: my mind, like I said, I'm not I used to

544
00:27:35,440 --> 00:27:37,520
Speaker 1: stress about the what ifs and maybes. I used to

545
00:27:37,560 --> 00:27:39,480
Speaker 1: be depressed. You know what anxiety looks like. I know

546
00:27:39,560 --> 00:27:41,840
Speaker 1: what nervousness is like, I know what it is to

547
00:27:42,000 --> 00:27:44,000
Speaker 1: really battle the what ifs and maybes. And I just

548
00:27:44,080 --> 00:27:45,679
Speaker 1: told myself, I can't do that in this season. If

549
00:27:45,680 --> 00:27:47,920
Speaker 1: I'm writing day one do one hundred, I have to

550
00:27:48,000 --> 00:27:50,399
Speaker 1: live by something I can't tell my readers or my

551
00:27:50,480 --> 00:27:52,520
Speaker 1: listeners that I'm doing this. I'm here, I'm da da da,

552
00:27:52,640 --> 00:27:54,399
Speaker 1: I'm having like yeah, put it in yeah yeah, like

553
00:27:54,400 --> 00:27:57,399
Speaker 1: what Nigga way Like it don't go like that, like

554
00:27:57,640 --> 00:28:00,720
Speaker 1: it don't go like it just don't make since Like

555
00:28:00,840 --> 00:28:02,760
Speaker 1: of course, I'm a comedian. I'm gonna be funny. I'm

556
00:28:02,760 --> 00:28:04,080
Speaker 1: gonna be on the table, I'm gonna have a little

557
00:28:04,080 --> 00:28:06,040
Speaker 1: g string with Boots song. We're gonna dance, We're gonna

558
00:28:06,040 --> 00:28:08,480
Speaker 1: do all this stuff. But the foundation of what my

559
00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:11,480
Speaker 1: source is God. Because I remember when I remember when

560
00:28:11,520 --> 00:28:14,399
Speaker 1: I sit beside this bod y'all watched Jazzy and she

561
00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:16,520
Speaker 1: was the first one that took me on the road.

562
00:28:16,640 --> 00:28:19,280
Speaker 1: You feel me, the first person to take me on

563
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Speaker 1: the road, the first one give it up for Jack,

564
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Speaker 1: the first one.

565
00:28:24,480 --> 00:28:25,879
Speaker 4: That took me on the road.

566
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Speaker 1: I haven't seen this face since twenty seventeen, eighteen, like face,

567
00:28:29,920 --> 00:28:32,040
Speaker 1: the face. I haven't seen her since then, and she

568
00:28:32,240 --> 00:28:35,080
Speaker 1: has been been doing her thing, being a mother, you know,

569
00:28:35,240 --> 00:28:35,639
Speaker 1: killing it.

570
00:28:36,040 --> 00:28:38,840
Speaker 4: But I haven't told you that. I just love you.

571
00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:42,160
Speaker 1: I love you for stretching Like no, seriously, I can

572
00:28:42,240 --> 00:28:44,600
Speaker 1: say that because I haven't we haven't spoken you know

573
00:28:44,760 --> 00:28:48,000
Speaker 1: in a minute. But you were the first one to

574
00:28:48,200 --> 00:28:51,720
Speaker 1: take me on the road when everyone else did not believe.

575
00:28:52,240 --> 00:28:54,239
Speaker 1: And you told me get on the road, like you're

576
00:28:54,280 --> 00:28:56,600
Speaker 1: so funny, you'll be able to do this. And I'm like, Jazz,

577
00:28:56,640 --> 00:28:58,760
Speaker 1: I'm in Charlotte, I gotta figure it all out.

578
00:28:58,840 --> 00:29:01,080
Speaker 4: I don't know what to do. Just go and do it.

579
00:29:01,200 --> 00:29:02,400
Speaker 1: And there was a lot of haters that are on

580
00:29:02,480 --> 00:29:03,960
Speaker 1: that tour that year. There was like, oh, she can't

581
00:29:03,960 --> 00:29:05,840
Speaker 1: do this, she could just host, but you said, nah,

582
00:29:05,880 --> 00:29:07,520
Speaker 1: my friend could do it, you know, at that time.

583
00:29:07,880 --> 00:29:10,480
Speaker 1: So I appreciate you for just stretching me and pulling

584
00:29:10,560 --> 00:29:13,240
Speaker 1: me twenty seventeen to say come on the road.

585
00:29:14,000 --> 00:29:15,240
Speaker 4: And that was my first tour.

586
00:29:15,760 --> 00:29:18,560
Speaker 1: Then wild'n Out came and if you guys know my story,

587
00:29:18,680 --> 00:29:20,800
Speaker 1: and I said every time I always said I lied

588
00:29:20,880 --> 00:29:23,200
Speaker 1: to get on Wildin' Out. And Jazz was the one

589
00:29:23,240 --> 00:29:25,440
Speaker 1: who told me, girl, tell him that DC and Carlos

590
00:29:25,720 --> 00:29:28,760
Speaker 1: your uncle like he has the email, guess even And

591
00:29:28,880 --> 00:29:31,160
Speaker 1: so that was her. So every interview I do, I

592
00:29:31,280 --> 00:29:33,760
Speaker 1: always say, my friend at the time told me to

593
00:29:33,880 --> 00:29:35,640
Speaker 1: lie on it. Just lying in apple case, just lye

594
00:29:35,680 --> 00:29:38,640
Speaker 1: in the email and it's a DC. Your cousin, carl Us,

595
00:29:38,680 --> 00:29:41,000
Speaker 1: your uncle girl, you'll get in and I did you know?

596
00:29:41,200 --> 00:29:43,440
Speaker 4: So I appreciate them. I appreciate that.

597
00:29:43,960 --> 00:29:47,040
Speaker 1: I appreciate that bit bit DoD, like you really helped

598
00:29:47,040 --> 00:29:50,240
Speaker 1: me in that space. So again, I when my faith

599
00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:53,160
Speaker 1: has always been rocky, I used to do all on

600
00:29:53,240 --> 00:29:55,520
Speaker 1: my mother's faith so much because she's such.

601
00:29:55,400 --> 00:29:56,200
Speaker 4: A prayer warrior.

602
00:29:56,240 --> 00:29:58,240
Speaker 1: And I was like, how how you how the doctor

603
00:29:58,320 --> 00:30:00,360
Speaker 1: just told you that Domini gonna die and sad two

604
00:30:00,400 --> 00:30:02,840
Speaker 1: hours and you're still going on. That's what the doctors

605
00:30:02,920 --> 00:30:05,400
Speaker 1: told my brother he had seventy two hours to live.

606
00:30:05,680 --> 00:30:07,440
Speaker 1: This when I was in Miami, he was not He

607
00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:10,080
Speaker 1: was on breathing tubes. He had to feed through his stomach.

608
00:30:10,120 --> 00:30:13,840
Speaker 1: He fell off his motorcycle. And my mama said, okay, well.

609
00:30:13,840 --> 00:30:14,840
Speaker 8: That's what the doctor say.

610
00:30:15,640 --> 00:30:19,240
Speaker 1: But the guy that I serve, Yeah, the guy that

611
00:30:19,360 --> 00:30:21,400
Speaker 1: I serve said, okay, now I need to go on

612
00:30:21,480 --> 00:30:22,880
Speaker 1: my fast for seventy two hours.

613
00:30:22,920 --> 00:30:24,400
Speaker 4: And I have a brother to this day, I have

614
00:30:24,440 --> 00:30:30,560
Speaker 4: a nephew. I have a nephew, so it's in my bloodline.

615
00:30:30,720 --> 00:30:33,000
Speaker 1: And again I had to shapen my heart and get

616
00:30:33,120 --> 00:30:35,600
Speaker 1: my posture and get my mind right to come into

617
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Speaker 1: this season to be something else, and I don't. I

618
00:30:37,480 --> 00:30:39,320
Speaker 1: always say I don't want someone to know me from

619
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Speaker 1: back then?

620
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Speaker 4: What do I look like now? And I stand tall

621
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Speaker 4: in my victory?

622
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Speaker 11: Y'all?

623
00:30:43,600 --> 00:30:44,640
Speaker 6: Do I love that?

624
00:30:44,920 --> 00:30:45,200
Speaker 4: Ladies?

625
00:30:45,200 --> 00:30:48,920
Speaker 3: This has been beautiful past. Oh my goodness, so good.

626
00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:54,200
Speaker 2: So I am introducing a new girls talk game before

627
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Speaker 2: we close out this segment of the show.

628
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Speaker 4: I want to play it with y'all.

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Speaker 2: Are y'all?

630
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Speaker 9: Damn?

631
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Speaker 4: Okay, that's doing it?

632
00:30:58,760 --> 00:31:01,960
Speaker 3: All right, let's do it. So there's cards next to you.

633
00:31:03,040 --> 00:31:06,840
Speaker 2: These little carns DC your You got your cards, so I'll.

634
00:31:06,760 --> 00:31:07,479
Speaker 3: Go first, all right?

635
00:31:07,680 --> 00:31:08,320
Speaker 11: Oh lord?

636
00:31:08,760 --> 00:31:11,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, well I ain't got my phone on me, but

637
00:31:11,560 --> 00:31:14,360
Speaker 2: it says send a voice note to someone saying I

638
00:31:14,400 --> 00:31:17,120
Speaker 2: had a dream about you last night and let them wonder.

639
00:31:18,240 --> 00:31:28,880
Speaker 11: Yeah, phone, and you got to say you in that voice.

640
00:31:29,040 --> 00:31:29,360
Speaker 3: I had to.

641
00:31:31,760 --> 00:31:36,560
Speaker 4: I'm sorry, Look at people, I'm sorry.

642
00:31:37,000 --> 00:31:38,680
Speaker 2: Okay, So let somebody else go so we can keep

643
00:31:38,720 --> 00:31:40,320
Speaker 2: it going and then we'll get busy.

644
00:31:40,760 --> 00:31:43,680
Speaker 4: Mind say, so you're going to be I was talking?

645
00:31:44,280 --> 00:31:45,720
Speaker 8: Okay, okay, okay.

646
00:31:46,640 --> 00:31:50,040
Speaker 4: Have you ever stopped an X or their new boot

647
00:31:50,080 --> 00:32:00,000
Speaker 4: on social media? Be honest? Yes, I did yesterday. Yesterday yesterday.

648
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Speaker 3: That's good. Okay.

649
00:32:01,760 --> 00:32:04,160
Speaker 8: So I'm ready already because I'm really excited about this one.

650
00:32:04,240 --> 00:32:06,280
Speaker 4: So I'm handing my phone. It's already on my DMS.

651
00:32:06,640 --> 00:32:08,840
Speaker 8: This says, let the group pick someone for you to

652
00:32:08,840 --> 00:32:15,120
Speaker 8: send a flirty DM to peak. It's like peak of celebrity.

653
00:32:18,040 --> 00:32:20,440
Speaker 3: Hold on that now, I know did you?

654
00:32:20,600 --> 00:32:22,720
Speaker 4: Who did you say? I'm not gonna tell you. You

655
00:32:22,800 --> 00:32:26,160
Speaker 4: said to the phone, okay, saying no, you no, you

656
00:32:26,240 --> 00:32:27,040
Speaker 4: gotta say that loud?

657
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Speaker 6: Who is it?

658
00:32:33,240 --> 00:32:34,760
Speaker 4: I wanted to be somebody knew it fresh?

659
00:32:35,760 --> 00:32:36,040
Speaker 11: What if?

660
00:32:36,120 --> 00:32:37,920
Speaker 4: What if you go to it in the DM? Already

661
00:32:37,960 --> 00:32:41,080
Speaker 4: lived somebody? I don't they already been talking like somebody.

662
00:32:41,120 --> 00:32:43,840
Speaker 4: I'm trying to bag somebody, do javana excel.

663
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Speaker 3: Wait, they already got a message together. I'm looking at

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Speaker 3: the phone.

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Speaker 11: On my eye.

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Speaker 4: They already got a message in there together.

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Speaker 2: She's saying, and her wait and her bubbles already big

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Speaker 2: that she already said something to him.

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Speaker 3: They had already said something. We all want to know.

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Speaker 4: What's the first stem?

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Speaker 8: The baby talking about hate?

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Speaker 4: Bo I still like you, thank God for I'm like Sandy, okay,

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Speaker 4: ask here what you got?

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Speaker 3: Okay?

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Speaker 2: I don't know which one y'all want me to do,

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Speaker 2: let's tick one cause we run a long time, So

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Speaker 2: go ahead and pick one.

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Speaker 9: Okay, I'll just do the band question Alexia Timothy, Hey,

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Speaker 9: best friend, you in here?

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Speaker 4: Okay, Okay, I see I'm trying to look out for you.

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Speaker 9: Wrot, how do you move past the heartache of what

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Speaker 9: you thought was a genuine friendship but an actuality was jealousy.

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Speaker 4: Rearing his ugly head. Take us there, come on, take

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Speaker 4: us now? What God has.

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Speaker 11: Come on?

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Speaker 4: Come on?

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Speaker 3: What God has.

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Speaker 4: It is for me?

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Speaker 8: I know with that.

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Speaker 3: That he will bring me out.

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Speaker 2: What God.

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Speaker 4: It is for me.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's the perfect answer, babies. That's good, ladies. I

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Speaker 3: love y'all. You got so much guys. You guys, stay

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Speaker 3: till we have so much more in store for y'all.

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Speaker 3: DJ Mars take us away.

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Speaker 4: Hey, let's go, Let's go.