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Speaker 2: Okay, I'm gonna talk fast because you ain't here to

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Speaker 2: see me. You here to see these two gentlemen I'm

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Speaker 2: just say, it's an honor to have you here again

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Speaker 2: on behalf of Charlemagne and God I Heeart Radio, the

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Speaker 2: Mental Health Alliance, and my Nonproperty a Coma project, all

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Speaker 2: our sponsors. We're so happy to have you. I'm just

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Speaker 2: gonna tell you what's on my heart. I feel like

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Speaker 2: this next thirty minutes is gonna be like some healing's

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Speaker 2: gonna happen. And so let me bring out my first guest,

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Speaker 2: this brother. You know him, you love him. He has

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Speaker 2: three books. After this session because he cares about the

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Speaker 2: people so much, he had to cut his book signing

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Speaker 2: session short. So he's going to be back out there

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Speaker 2: for a little bit of time to sign his book.

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Speaker 1: Now.

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Speaker 2: The books that you all know are Battle Cry and

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Speaker 2: the book we're going to talk a little bit about today,

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Speaker 2: Cry Like a Man. There's another book coming out in January.

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Speaker 2: The Man the Moment demands this brother. Every time I

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Speaker 2: watch him, I cry. We met about I don't know

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Speaker 2: ten years ago at an event for Sam said the

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Speaker 2: Substance Abuse Mental Health Services Administration, and he was fascinating.

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Speaker 2: Then he's captivating now, so please help me. Welcome mister

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Speaker 2: Jason Wilson. All right, I can't say enough words about

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Speaker 2: this other brother. I will say, I'm gen X. I'

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Speaker 2: gonna date myself. I hope you don't get mad at me.

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Speaker 2: I remember him from Cold Cold commercial. That's how I

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Speaker 1: Make some noise? That's right, yeah, gen X.

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Speaker 2: All right, So this brother, what can I say? My

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Speaker 2: family is a huge transform Oh there, ain't go but

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Speaker 1: There, it is there, It is all right, thank you

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Speaker 1: for me.

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Speaker 2: Appreciate you. So he was like, I ain't doing all.

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Speaker 2: Let I'm just gonna come out. I'm not mad, all right,

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Speaker 2: let me start this conversation.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I didn't want to hear my wikip pitia page.

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Speaker 1: It's all good, so let me just start. Hell.

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Speaker 2: So, I'm just gonna start by asking each of you, gentlemen,

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Speaker 2: what was it, if there's any one thing that encouraged

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Speaker 2: you to start having a conversation about black men and

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Speaker 2: their mental health.

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Speaker 3: For me, it was I think when I was about

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Speaker 3: to lose my marriage. My wife and I remember vividly,

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Speaker 3: were in a heated argument in the kitchen and she

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Speaker 3: simply I said, I wish I could spend more time

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Speaker 3: and she didn't say it in a way that was combative,

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Speaker 3: but I took it as something else I wasn't doing right,

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Speaker 3: And in that moment, before I knew it, I hit

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Speaker 3: just doing do down. And at that moment the most

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Speaker 3: I said, you need some work. You haven't released all

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Speaker 3: that you've been through and as a result, it's affecting

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Speaker 3: were about to get separated, and I chose to say,

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Speaker 3: And so that was the pivotal point where I started

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Speaker 1: Thank you, thank you. How about you, sir? How about you.

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Speaker 4: I'm still trying to recover from what my brother just

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Speaker 4: saying right here. Thank you for having me. Of course,

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Speaker 4: I like to start things off. I'm old school. I

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Speaker 4: like to be formed. Thank you for having me on

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Speaker 4: your stage and your platform. Thank you to Charlemagne man. Yes, brother,

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Speaker 4: Charlemagne the God for doing this. Thank you, you should

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Speaker 4: do this like for real in real life, because you, yeah.

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Speaker 1: Some of the ship you're doing your show.

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Speaker 4: Oh my God compromises the mental health. And then he'd like, well, hey,

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Speaker 4: I'm a compromise your mental health. Didn't put a band

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Speaker 1: We'll talk about that later.

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Speaker 4: I came in and had some fun because I got

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Speaker 4: and the other thing that's very confusing about us. See,

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Speaker 4: can I be okay?

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Speaker 4: Because you know you know I'm crazy and I'm gonna

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Speaker 4: say exactly what I feel. See, when we in the hood,

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Speaker 4: like boogie niggas. So if y'all know what I'm talking about,

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Speaker 4: The problem with most of us is that we work

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Speaker 4: it worse because you can actually cut and pace your relationship,

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Speaker 1: The way we actually feel.

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Speaker 4: I often say, you would not be relationship goals if

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Speaker 4: you upload how often you and your girl is actually arguing,

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Speaker 4: back to my first book. It's called how To Get

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Speaker 4: Out of Your Own Way, and it's a hit in

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Speaker 4: all of the prisons. Whatever I shit got rave reviews

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Speaker 4: on Amazon too, But how.

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Speaker 1: To Get out of your Own Way.

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Speaker 4: At first it was supposed to be called get Out

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Speaker 1: That you're on your own way, then you'll see it.

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Speaker 4: Go get out of your own way, and that's a

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Speaker 4: own way, so I'm not gonna read it. How too,

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Speaker 1: I go into everything.

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Speaker 4: Childhood traumas, alcoholism, you know, mental emotional, psychological, spirit abuse,

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Speaker 4: physical abuse, everything that I've seen and was exposed to

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Speaker 4: that's been me this entire time. I forgot what year

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Speaker 4: came out. It's at least thirteen years ago. But before

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Speaker 4: we normalize the dialogue around mental health, I was already

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Speaker 4: on that journey to be transparent because.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, it's cool to get screamed for. It's cool

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Speaker 4: Its handsome and sexy and songs and movie star and muscles.

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Speaker 4: That's all great, But I really want you all to

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Speaker 4: other things that I just mentioned. So that's where my

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Speaker 1: I love that. Thank you for that.

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Speaker 2: So yeah, yeah, please please, So Jason, could you t

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Speaker 2: There are different pressures for people. Any marginalized identity you

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Speaker 2: And so I wonder if you could talk a little

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Speaker 2: there's anything in there that both you and Tyrese could

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Speaker 3: That's a great question. I've been working with boys specifically

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Speaker 1: That's not a universal principle.

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Speaker 3: If my brother Tyrese and I ever owned an NFL

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Speaker 3: But for me, and we've adopted these misleading mantras as

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Speaker 1: You've taught him his entire life.

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Speaker 1: That has on the brain when you can't release it.

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Speaker 3: My mother and her siblings it was think as five siblings,

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Speaker 3: forward passed there. My mother's first marriage was very abusive.

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Speaker 1: I share all that.

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Speaker 3: To say is that growing up as young black boys

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Speaker 3: They're taught to be fearless when no, man, I know

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Speaker 3: can't be courage courageous, and if you have children, that's

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Speaker 3: know one good father here who doesn't fear anything happening

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Speaker 1: So as a result, thank you.

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Speaker 3: Lastly, as a result, I teach young boys it's okay

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Speaker 1: Ay man, oh my god, thank you for that.

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Speaker 1: I hear you can. I say something.

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Speaker 3: First and foremost, you know, I got love for you

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Speaker 3: man and you This brother reached out to me when

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Speaker 1: Brother recognize talent This man got talent.

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Speaker 3: So something happened to me, my brother, where he courageously

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Speaker 1: And so I'm real big on like talking. That's that's

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Speaker 3: So I would like to ask everyone in here, because

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Speaker 1: I've talked to him.

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Speaker 3: I won't share some of the things he's told me

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Speaker 1: I said, brother, you're not angry, You're hurt.

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Speaker 3: You're sad, you're depressed, you're frustrated, you're disheartened.

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Speaker 1: Anger is a surface emotion. We express that easily.

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Speaker 3: But when I teach boys to dig deep and men

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Speaker 1: So if everyone with me, I want to say it together.

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Speaker 3: Brother, I'm sorry for not even standing up for you

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Speaker 3: I should have dog checked anybody I saw who tried

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Speaker 3: doing youth work since two thousand and three.

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Speaker 1: And to see a father cry with.

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Speaker 3: Your stature, your popularity and just want to release it,

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Speaker 1: That and really give it up a tybree straight up.

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Speaker 4: You do this other just.

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Speaker 1: Take it in, take it in. It's for youth.

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Speaker 4: So Charlemagne Johnna set me up to cry again. This

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Speaker 4: I got enough crying videos out here.

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Speaker 1: Charloa Mane. But real talk, brother, you know I receive it.

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Speaker 4: And because this clock, this clock is stressing me out

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Speaker 4: Somebody's got to go ahead and rewind this thing. Man,

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Speaker 4: this is this is not right. Yeah, I'm serious, man,

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Speaker 4: I got some stuff to say.

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Speaker 1: My god, my god, my god. So yeah, yeah, I'm ballheaded. Ballheaded.

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Speaker 1: That happened. This brother has been having my beard now

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Speaker 4: So I want you to know that I receive the

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Speaker 4: That means the world to me that you would pour

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Speaker 1: How do you inspire the uninspired? How do you motivate

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Speaker 4: You have to use your voice, your stage, and your

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Speaker 4: tell me what was doctor Martin Luther King Junior's net

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Speaker 4: Can anybody raise their hand and say to me, this

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Speaker 4: is what doctor Martin Luther King's net worth was when

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Speaker 1: Okay?

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Speaker 4: Can anybody tell me the size of his rims on

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Speaker 1: Anything? How about the square footage of his house? Okay?

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Speaker 1: The point I'm making is none of that shit matters. Okay.

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Speaker 4: So the calculated distraction that I want to speak to

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Speaker 4: Y'all spent more time getting dressed this morning than reading

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Speaker 4: Understand that it does not take a thousand people to

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Speaker 4: then things changed. The reason I'm pointing out doctor King.

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Speaker 4: The first time he became a senior pastor was in Montgomery, Alabama.

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Speaker 4: the comments, you writing your captions, you vocal and outspoken,

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Speaker 4: currently assembling not just fathers, mothers as well, because a

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Speaker 4: lot of women in this audience. You make way more

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Speaker 4: video games and delivering hot penis, and as soon as

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Speaker 4: y'all break up, he gonna try and come get half

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Speaker 1: Just the way I'm dealing with it.

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Speaker 4: So y'all gotta understand that the reality of what happens

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Speaker 4: you have a problem with? What do you have a

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Speaker 4: If you don't have a problem, shut up. But if

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Speaker 4: being in jail and every time you are an alpha

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Speaker 4: they're telling women what to do with their bodies? Do

438
00:27:13,160 --> 00:27:15,760
Speaker 4: you have a problem. I'm not here to tell you

439
00:27:15,880 --> 00:27:19,320
Speaker 4: to vote Republican or Democrat. That ain't my job. I'm

440
00:27:19,359 --> 00:27:28,480
Speaker 4: going for Kamala, Kamala. I did that on purpose, don't don't.

441
00:27:28,880 --> 00:27:31,560
Speaker 4: I did that on purpose. Anyway, y'all know what I'm

442
00:27:31,560 --> 00:27:38,400
Speaker 4: talking about. I did that on purpose. Shut up, Kamala.

443
00:27:38,560 --> 00:27:41,359
Speaker 4: That's right, that's right, that's right, Get it right, get

444
00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:45,560
Speaker 4: it right. Uh So, I'm just saying, like we have

445
00:27:45,760 --> 00:27:49,040
Speaker 4: a problem, But how much of a problem do you

446
00:27:49,240 --> 00:27:52,280
Speaker 4: have see this brother right here had a problem with

447
00:27:53,240 --> 00:27:58,359
Speaker 4: what's happening with black boys, and he went above and beyond,

448
00:27:58,400 --> 00:28:00,719
Speaker 4: and he does it every single day, whether the cameras

449
00:28:00,800 --> 00:28:01,440
Speaker 4: is rolling or not.

450
00:28:02,880 --> 00:28:04,600
Speaker 1: What do you have a problem with?

451
00:28:06,240 --> 00:28:10,200
Speaker 4: Nothing changes because you at home complaining and sitting on

452
00:28:10,320 --> 00:28:10,840
Speaker 4: your hands.

453
00:28:11,200 --> 00:28:13,400
Speaker 1: It only changes when you get in motion.

454
00:28:14,840 --> 00:28:18,840
Speaker 4: Come on, y'all, doctor Martin Luther King, Malcolm X, Medgar

455
00:28:18,920 --> 00:28:20,600
Speaker 4: Evers like, we can keep going.

456
00:28:21,720 --> 00:28:28,800
Speaker 1: The movement only happens with movement. What are we doing?

457
00:28:29,359 --> 00:28:31,160
Speaker 1: It does not take a thousand people.

458
00:28:31,760 --> 00:28:35,680
Speaker 4: If only one person in this room decides, you know what, man,

459
00:28:35,880 --> 00:28:37,200
Speaker 4: I do have a problem with?

460
00:28:38,680 --> 00:28:42,000
Speaker 1: It changes everything. Voter suppression.

461
00:28:42,680 --> 00:28:44,400
Speaker 4: What are you gonna do about the fact that they

462
00:28:44,560 --> 00:28:47,880
Speaker 4: manipulating all these machines and people are out here working

463
00:28:48,000 --> 00:28:53,320
Speaker 4: hard to create new crips, new bloods, new gangsters, new murderers.

464
00:28:54,080 --> 00:28:57,760
Speaker 4: Niggas know how to load guns faster than nigga ever,

465
00:28:57,920 --> 00:29:03,120
Speaker 4: learn math and TAC takeaway subtraction. Do you have a

466
00:29:03,280 --> 00:29:05,960
Speaker 4: problem or are you just gonna be like man? They

467
00:29:06,080 --> 00:29:08,720
Speaker 4: over there while in and then everything stays the same.

468
00:29:09,600 --> 00:29:11,840
Speaker 4: So I'm just letting y'all know. And I don't need

469
00:29:11,960 --> 00:29:14,520
Speaker 4: nobody to encourage me to do this. I live this

470
00:29:14,720 --> 00:29:18,400
Speaker 4: family law court system shit every day. I'm at fifteen

471
00:29:18,760 --> 00:29:25,719
Speaker 4: million dollars fighting to see my daughters. Fifteen that's legal fees.

472
00:29:26,520 --> 00:29:30,000
Speaker 4: That's movies, albums, and projects and concerts that have my

473
00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:32,520
Speaker 4: name on it that went away because I woke up

474
00:29:32,560 --> 00:29:34,400
Speaker 4: to the news that I was arrested.

475
00:29:35,920 --> 00:29:37,800
Speaker 1: Or whatever I'm being accused of.

476
00:29:37,960 --> 00:29:40,880
Speaker 4: You think Disney wants to hire me after I get

477
00:29:40,920 --> 00:29:44,320
Speaker 4: accused of some shit that I didn't do. That's money

478
00:29:44,560 --> 00:29:48,080
Speaker 4: that had my name on it that went away. And

479
00:29:48,200 --> 00:29:51,640
Speaker 4: then I gotta go hire lawyers to protect me, and

480
00:29:51,760 --> 00:29:53,480
Speaker 4: then they trying to hit me over the head for

481
00:29:53,640 --> 00:29:56,440
Speaker 4: legal fees to protect her while she's accusing me of

482
00:29:56,520 --> 00:30:01,960
Speaker 4: some shit. And I'm not going at women. I'm going

483
00:30:02,040 --> 00:30:11,400
Speaker 4: at lyon women. That's so we clear. For every baby

484
00:30:11,440 --> 00:30:13,360
Speaker 4: mom in the audience who would never take that man

485
00:30:13,440 --> 00:30:16,560
Speaker 4: to court, raise your hand. See it's that. Let me

486
00:30:16,600 --> 00:30:19,840
Speaker 4: say some me. Oh God, let me sit down. It

487
00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:23,480
Speaker 4: was only like twelve hands up in there. God damn

488
00:30:23,600 --> 00:30:24,920
Speaker 4: they trying to get the bag.

489
00:30:24,760 --> 00:30:25,560
Speaker 1: In New York. Huh.

490
00:30:27,080 --> 00:30:29,560
Speaker 4: I said, raise your hand, raise your hand part to

491
00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:31,760
Speaker 4: put my doctor king would raise your hand if you

492
00:30:32,000 --> 00:30:33,800
Speaker 4: never take your man to court it with seven of

493
00:30:33,880 --> 00:30:34,360
Speaker 4: y'all live in.

494
00:30:34,360 --> 00:30:40,560
Speaker 1: There, thank pretty much, premuch. So we're gonna close out.

495
00:30:40,640 --> 00:30:43,080
Speaker 1: Yet the clock is wrong, but we beg They didn't

496
00:30:43,120 --> 00:30:46,080
Speaker 1: fix this clock yet, but I.

497
00:30:46,120 --> 00:30:48,760
Speaker 2: Will before I give you, two gentlemen, the last word.

498
00:30:48,800 --> 00:30:50,640
Speaker 2: The whole point was really for you all to talk

499
00:30:50,760 --> 00:30:53,480
Speaker 2: and need to just facilitate. One thing I'll say, and

500
00:30:53,520 --> 00:30:55,880
Speaker 2: then I ask you to give us your closing thoughts,

501
00:30:56,480 --> 00:30:58,360
Speaker 2: anything you want to leave the audience with. And the

502
00:30:58,440 --> 00:31:00,520
Speaker 2: one thing I will say is what's really or you said,

503
00:31:00,640 --> 00:31:02,520
Speaker 2: stand up when you believe in something. One thing that's

504
00:31:02,520 --> 00:31:05,320
Speaker 2: really important to me is as black people, we all

505
00:31:05,400 --> 00:31:06,840
Speaker 2: have to rise together.

506
00:31:06,960 --> 00:31:08,000
Speaker 1: And let me say what I mean.

507
00:31:08,640 --> 00:31:11,960
Speaker 2: That means those of us who are black from any

508
00:31:12,040 --> 00:31:14,000
Speaker 2: part of the diaspora. We had a sister of here

509
00:31:14,040 --> 00:31:16,800
Speaker 2: today say she was Caribbean. That includes them. We have

510
00:31:16,960 --> 00:31:20,160
Speaker 2: African immigrant brothers and sisters, that includes them. We have

511
00:31:20,280 --> 00:31:24,480
Speaker 2: those of us who identify as African American from the.

512
00:31:24,640 --> 00:31:25,720
Speaker 1: Legacy of enslavement.

513
00:31:25,800 --> 00:31:29,720
Speaker 2: That includes us. And as my brother said, it includes

514
00:31:30,000 --> 00:31:33,440
Speaker 2: all of us as women along with our brothers, black men,

515
00:31:33,560 --> 00:31:36,560
Speaker 2: our kings and princes, and it includes folks with other

516
00:31:36,640 --> 00:31:42,760
Speaker 2: marginalized identities, Black queer folks as well, black people with

517
00:31:43,000 --> 00:31:44,520
Speaker 2: disabilities as well.

518
00:31:44,600 --> 00:31:45,360
Speaker 1: It's all of us.

519
00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:48,640
Speaker 2: So if we don't all rise, what's the point. So

520
00:31:48,840 --> 00:31:51,000
Speaker 2: with that, what I just want to leave us with?

521
00:31:51,720 --> 00:31:53,320
Speaker 2: You know, I don't want to be a talking Everybody

522
00:31:53,360 --> 00:31:55,280
Speaker 2: who knows me knows I love to talk with these

523
00:31:55,320 --> 00:31:58,000
Speaker 2: two here. That's not my role today. My role is

524
00:31:58,080 --> 00:32:01,280
Speaker 2: just facilitation. So I will ask you to, gentlemen, in

525
00:32:01,400 --> 00:32:04,040
Speaker 2: these closing the clock is wrong two minutes and forty

526
00:32:04,080 --> 00:32:07,000
Speaker 2: five seconds? What would you like today? What would you

527
00:32:07,200 --> 00:32:10,280
Speaker 2: like to leave the audience with any parting words? And

528
00:32:10,320 --> 00:32:11,800
Speaker 2: I didn't get to ask my question, but I'm just

529
00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:13,240
Speaker 2: gonna put it in something I want you all to

530
00:32:13,280 --> 00:32:16,640
Speaker 2: take with you. Do we as black people, men, women

531
00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:20,840
Speaker 2: and other do we know how to receive love? I

532
00:32:20,960 --> 00:32:22,480
Speaker 2: just want you to hold on to that. We didn't

533
00:32:22,520 --> 00:32:25,880
Speaker 2: get to that today. But you're closing words, gentlemen.

534
00:32:29,800 --> 00:32:35,600
Speaker 3: Since that's really a negative at the clock, your I

535
00:32:35,680 --> 00:32:43,040
Speaker 3: guess question about do we really love ourselves? If I'm

536
00:32:43,120 --> 00:32:45,520
Speaker 3: just recalling every conversation I had today with all the

537
00:32:45,600 --> 00:32:48,520
Speaker 3: men who came up to me, and I would have

538
00:32:48,640 --> 00:32:49,960
Speaker 3: to say that's the common theme.

539
00:32:50,800 --> 00:32:51,920
Speaker 1: We're so quick to.

540
00:32:54,440 --> 00:32:58,360
Speaker 3: Basically surrender the blessings that we have over one moment,

541
00:32:59,520 --> 00:33:01,880
Speaker 3: and it's all centered around because we don't see the

542
00:33:01,960 --> 00:33:02,720
Speaker 3: real value in.

543
00:33:02,720 --> 00:33:03,200
Speaker 1: Who we are.

544
00:33:05,400 --> 00:33:08,280
Speaker 3: For me to break free from emotional incarceration and have

545
00:33:08,480 --> 00:33:10,440
Speaker 3: the marriage that I have, the life that I have,

546
00:33:12,280 --> 00:33:15,080
Speaker 3: I don't work for any of this. I work from

547
00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:18,840
Speaker 3: my home. Everything that I have. My affirmation comes from

548
00:33:18,880 --> 00:33:21,800
Speaker 3: my wife, my daughter, and my son. But none of

549
00:33:21,880 --> 00:33:23,560
Speaker 3: that and of course the most high, but none of

550
00:33:23,640 --> 00:33:26,960
Speaker 3: that could have happened if I didn't start loving myself.

551
00:33:27,800 --> 00:33:33,480
Speaker 3: My brothers, I'm gonna be transparent with you. The reason

552
00:33:33,480 --> 00:33:37,040
Speaker 3: it's hard for you to say vulnerable or vulnerability is

553
00:33:37,080 --> 00:33:40,760
Speaker 3: because the word itself doesn't really convey what we're asking

554
00:33:40,920 --> 00:33:43,360
Speaker 3: of what we need to do. If I had an

555
00:33:43,400 --> 00:33:45,880
Speaker 3: AK forty seven and I was shooting a gun in here,

556
00:33:46,520 --> 00:33:49,840
Speaker 3: the news would say he shot his gun at vulnerable citizens,

557
00:33:50,440 --> 00:33:53,880
Speaker 3: people who are endangered of getting hurt or wounded or killed.

558
00:33:54,760 --> 00:33:58,040
Speaker 3: We're trying to tell you to have emotional openness, to

559
00:33:58,160 --> 00:34:01,640
Speaker 3: be transparent with your emotions, what you're dealing with. My

560
00:34:01,800 --> 00:34:05,120
Speaker 3: wife would touch me, brothers, and I would cringe because

561
00:34:05,120 --> 00:34:06,560
Speaker 3: I didn't understand.

562
00:34:06,080 --> 00:34:09,480
Speaker 1: Why she was caressing me. How do you love me

563
00:34:09,600 --> 00:34:11,320
Speaker 1: that you rubbing my scalp?

564
00:34:12,239 --> 00:34:14,840
Speaker 3: And many of us if we real with ourselves that

565
00:34:15,040 --> 00:34:17,880
Speaker 3: superman Kate we try to wear every day is strangling

566
00:34:17,960 --> 00:34:18,839
Speaker 3: the life out of us.

567
00:34:19,760 --> 00:34:21,839
Speaker 1: I got a call this morning.

568
00:34:21,640 --> 00:34:26,560
Speaker 3: From a successful person that you know, his wife is

569
00:34:26,640 --> 00:34:31,400
Speaker 3: considering to leave and he cannot convey and release the

570
00:34:31,560 --> 00:34:34,839
Speaker 3: childhood trauma to her so that she can understand at

571
00:34:35,000 --> 00:34:39,640
Speaker 3: least why he cannot communicate. He's been conditioned by his

572
00:34:39,800 --> 00:34:43,640
Speaker 3: trauma and abuse to not love himself. So I'm telling

573
00:34:43,719 --> 00:34:46,400
Speaker 3: you the way to break free and start this journey

574
00:34:46,480 --> 00:34:50,800
Speaker 3: to healing is the first stop seeking for love everywhere

575
00:34:50,840 --> 00:34:56,880
Speaker 3: else and look in the mirror, resolve it there. And

576
00:34:57,000 --> 00:35:02,279
Speaker 3: as Brother Tyrese passionately conveyed, I'm just one person, God says,

577
00:35:02,360 --> 00:35:05,800
Speaker 3: I don't need an army. I need one boy, one stone,

578
00:35:06,000 --> 00:35:08,759
Speaker 3: one sling to take down the giant I got before you,

579
00:35:10,000 --> 00:35:12,560
Speaker 3: But I couldn't do it until I was real with

580
00:35:12,719 --> 00:35:17,319
Speaker 3: myself and got the healing. More resources than ever are

581
00:35:17,360 --> 00:35:21,760
Speaker 3: being poured into our communities. Why isn't it working? Seeds

582
00:35:21,800 --> 00:35:25,239
Speaker 3: are falling on unfertile ground. The ground needs to be

583
00:35:25,360 --> 00:35:28,400
Speaker 3: broken up the heartness of our heart, what our ancestors

584
00:35:28,560 --> 00:35:31,000
Speaker 3: had to deal with They had to stay and fight

585
00:35:31,120 --> 00:35:31,319
Speaker 3: or fly.

586
00:35:31,400 --> 00:35:35,320
Speaker 1: Like y'all, we don't. We're free to find healing.

587
00:35:35,480 --> 00:35:38,000
Speaker 3: My father probably would have lived the longer life if

588
00:35:38,000 --> 00:35:38,879
Speaker 3: he could have been here.

589
00:35:40,760 --> 00:35:41,600
Speaker 1: Love for yourself.

590
00:35:41,680 --> 00:35:45,200
Speaker 3: It sounds simple, but it's the greatest thing you could do,

591
00:35:45,360 --> 00:35:49,080
Speaker 3: because when I started loving myself, I genuinely started loving

592
00:35:49,200 --> 00:35:49,720
Speaker 3: my wife.

593
00:35:50,320 --> 00:35:53,279
Speaker 1: I started treating my daughter the way I longed to

594
00:35:53,719 --> 00:35:54,839
Speaker 1: be treated as a son.

595
00:35:55,239 --> 00:35:58,479
Speaker 3: I started communicating with my son instead of always having

596
00:35:58,520 --> 00:36:02,040
Speaker 3: to resort to yelling, calmly, just saying, son, why did

597
00:36:02,080 --> 00:36:02,440
Speaker 3: you do that?

598
00:36:02,560 --> 00:36:05,560
Speaker 1: What caused you to think that way? That's how my

599
00:36:05,719 --> 00:36:06,279
Speaker 1: son grew.

600
00:36:07,200 --> 00:36:10,880
Speaker 3: And then, lastly, because I'm healed, I can heal the

601
00:36:11,000 --> 00:36:17,360
Speaker 3: thousands of boys that I touch every day, and so

602
00:36:18,280 --> 00:36:19,279
Speaker 3: I just close with that.

603
00:36:20,000 --> 00:36:22,320
Speaker 1: Crying like a man is more than shedding tears.

604
00:36:23,640 --> 00:36:27,600
Speaker 3: Just so you'll know, tears really stress hormones that get

605
00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:30,200
Speaker 3: excreted from your body when you cry. That's why you

606
00:36:30,320 --> 00:36:34,839
Speaker 3: typically feel better when you cry, all right, But it's

607
00:36:34,880 --> 00:36:37,640
Speaker 3: not just about that. It's about releasing the trauma and

608
00:36:37,760 --> 00:36:40,600
Speaker 3: emotional pain that's been stored in your heart for years.

609
00:36:41,400 --> 00:36:43,040
Speaker 1: Release it and be free.

610
00:36:43,960 --> 00:36:46,600
Speaker 3: Stop allowing your trauma to time travel so that you

611
00:36:46,640 --> 00:36:49,680
Speaker 3: can fully live in the present period.

612
00:36:50,239 --> 00:36:50,840
Speaker 2: Do you have anything?

613
00:36:55,160 --> 00:36:57,239
Speaker 1: Y'all gotta give some more love than my brother for

614
00:36:57,320 --> 00:36:58,000
Speaker 1: that one right there.

615
00:37:01,680 --> 00:37:07,239
Speaker 4: My god, it's like when this man starts talking. Man,

616
00:37:07,320 --> 00:37:10,959
Speaker 4: I start traveling somewhere in my head. I've I left

617
00:37:11,000 --> 00:37:16,279
Speaker 4: the room and then I came back. But I'm gonna

618
00:37:16,320 --> 00:37:36,480
Speaker 4: do this. Oh my god, set us up, charlat Man,

619
00:37:37,800 --> 00:37:39,840
Speaker 4: how you gonna have us to come up here and

620
00:37:39,960 --> 00:37:41,480
Speaker 4: do this and then put a clock on us?

621
00:37:41,600 --> 00:37:42,759
Speaker 1: Like that thing is aggressive?

622
00:37:45,000 --> 00:37:47,360
Speaker 4: Every time we're not looking at it, somebody is speeding

623
00:37:47,400 --> 00:37:47,839
Speaker 4: it up too.

624
00:37:48,000 --> 00:37:48,160
Speaker 1: Man.

625
00:37:49,440 --> 00:37:57,120
Speaker 4: Uh man, I'm taking this home. Well, I'm gonna I'm

626
00:37:57,200 --> 00:38:02,920
Speaker 4: gonna wrap it up by saying I know I'm supposed

627
00:38:02,920 --> 00:38:08,680
Speaker 4: to encourage y'all, say something motivational, inspirational, but I'm gonna

628
00:38:08,680 --> 00:38:11,960
Speaker 4: close this out by telling y'all what I'm here to

629
00:38:12,040 --> 00:38:19,040
Speaker 4: do because I don't do charity. I believe in giving back,

630
00:38:20,560 --> 00:38:24,239
Speaker 4: not just financially, with my time my energy. When y'all

631
00:38:24,280 --> 00:38:27,799
Speaker 4: see me writing them long captions on Instagram, I don't

632
00:38:27,840 --> 00:38:30,719
Speaker 4: have people at my house. I like to put my

633
00:38:30,840 --> 00:38:34,160
Speaker 4: thoughts on my feelings out there in the world, hoping

634
00:38:34,239 --> 00:38:36,759
Speaker 4: that somebody out there to see it, be able to

635
00:38:36,840 --> 00:38:41,480
Speaker 4: relate to it. But I'm gonna tell y'all what I'm

636
00:38:41,520 --> 00:38:47,080
Speaker 4: here to do. I'm here to change things. I'm here

637
00:38:47,200 --> 00:38:54,759
Speaker 4: to normalize the dialogue that black man cry. We are

638
00:38:54,840 --> 00:39:04,000
Speaker 4: vulnerable when when an abortion happens or a miscarriage happens,

639
00:39:05,400 --> 00:39:09,520
Speaker 4: you skip over us. I've never had a miscarriage or

640
00:39:09,800 --> 00:39:13,040
Speaker 4: an abortion, obviously in my house or my family or

641
00:39:13,120 --> 00:39:16,600
Speaker 4: my marriage. That's not something I've ever experienced. But I've

642
00:39:16,719 --> 00:39:21,879
Speaker 4: known plenty of men who have experienced it. I came

643
00:39:21,960 --> 00:39:28,120
Speaker 4: here with one today, a still born he did not

644
00:39:28,239 --> 00:39:33,560
Speaker 4: want to live anymore after experiencing it. He's the best

645
00:39:33,640 --> 00:39:38,680
Speaker 4: father of two supermodel daughters. And he's my brother, my

646
00:39:38,840 --> 00:39:45,200
Speaker 4: capricorn brother. He's a Muslim man, strong alpha, everything that

647
00:39:45,360 --> 00:39:51,000
Speaker 4: we represent. But at what point did something happens so

648
00:39:51,239 --> 00:39:56,520
Speaker 4: bad where what you're feeling and carrying gets overlooked because

649
00:39:56,600 --> 00:40:00,000
Speaker 4: everyone normally gravitates towards the woman and what she needs.

650
00:40:00,000 --> 00:40:03,400
Speaker 4: Means as if we're not feeling that exact thing, we

651
00:40:03,560 --> 00:40:07,200
Speaker 4: may be out of jail. But have you asked the question,

652
00:40:08,520 --> 00:40:13,440
Speaker 4: what has happened to you mentally, emotionally, psychologically from your

653
00:40:13,560 --> 00:40:18,040
Speaker 4: experience in being incarcerated. You may be out, but are

654
00:40:18,080 --> 00:40:22,000
Speaker 4: you still carrying the things that affected you from living

655
00:40:22,120 --> 00:40:24,160
Speaker 4: in constant fear every single day.

656
00:40:25,120 --> 00:40:27,800
Speaker 1: You may not be in the foster care system anymore,

657
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Speaker 1: But what did you see?

658
00:40:29,880 --> 00:40:34,080
Speaker 4: What did you hear? What did you experience? Does your

659
00:40:34,160 --> 00:40:41,240
Speaker 4: molestation matter as a man? How many more Catholic priests

660
00:40:41,239 --> 00:40:46,320
Speaker 4: are they going to announce that molested boys? And just

661
00:40:46,560 --> 00:40:49,040
Speaker 4: maybe all of these Catholic priests would be in jail

662
00:40:49,120 --> 00:40:54,359
Speaker 4: if they were all women that these Catholic priests were molesting. See,

663
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Speaker 4: I am unafraid and unapologetic about being vulnerable, honest, vokes

664
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Speaker 4: and outspoken.

665
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Speaker 1: That's who I am.

666
00:41:02,440 --> 00:41:06,520
Speaker 4: That's what it's been because I realize quickly I may

667
00:41:06,600 --> 00:41:09,040
Speaker 4: not ever get to a level of elon musk money.

668
00:41:11,880 --> 00:41:15,080
Speaker 4: I live in something nice, I drive something nice, but

669
00:41:15,200 --> 00:41:18,879
Speaker 4: I've never desired. I love you because of your car.

670
00:41:20,120 --> 00:41:22,040
Speaker 4: I want you to love the person that's in the

671
00:41:22,160 --> 00:41:25,359
Speaker 4: car and then give a compliment to the car after

672
00:41:25,640 --> 00:41:30,239
Speaker 4: that's a good brother in there. It's all in the

673
00:41:30,320 --> 00:41:34,799
Speaker 4: way it lands for you. So I'm gonna tell y'all

674
00:41:35,520 --> 00:41:42,280
Speaker 4: I am a multi billionaire. Some of y'all ain't happy

675
00:41:42,320 --> 00:41:57,239
Speaker 4: for me. I am a multi billionaire. My life in

676
00:41:57,360 --> 00:42:02,160
Speaker 4: my career started with a thirty second commercial. I am

677
00:42:02,280 --> 00:42:07,440
Speaker 4: the walking, living, breathing manifestation of God's favor. Right here,

678
00:42:10,680 --> 00:42:13,640
Speaker 4: find somebody else who started their career with a thirty

679
00:42:13,719 --> 00:42:17,880
Speaker 4: second commercial that turned into thirty years. You may laugh,

680
00:42:18,160 --> 00:42:20,640
Speaker 4: you may make a mockery. I might be posting some

681
00:42:20,760 --> 00:42:25,440
Speaker 4: silly shit. I laugh at me too, But you cannot

682
00:42:25,560 --> 00:42:33,320
Speaker 4: question God's favor because if it's about talent, why hasn't

683
00:42:33,360 --> 00:42:37,120
Speaker 4: everybody else who did a thirty second commercial have that

684
00:42:37,280 --> 00:42:39,920
Speaker 4: to go and turn into ten billion in box office

685
00:42:40,760 --> 00:42:48,560
Speaker 4: sell All these records go by one name, just one,

686
00:42:50,520 --> 00:42:54,640
Speaker 4: just one. Insecure people will look at this as bragg

687
00:42:54,680 --> 00:42:58,680
Speaker 4: and inflexing. I'm not here to tell y'all my Wikipedia page.

688
00:42:58,719 --> 00:43:02,439
Speaker 4: I'm telling y'all that I'm different front and I came

689
00:43:02,560 --> 00:43:06,640
Speaker 4: here to change things. I came here to normalize things

690
00:43:06,680 --> 00:43:10,759
Speaker 4: that ain't normal. I came here to change things, and

691
00:43:10,880 --> 00:43:15,080
Speaker 4: I'm not done. What did you come here to? Do

692
00:43:18,880 --> 00:43:21,840
Speaker 4: you do understand that this place is gonna stay the

693
00:43:21,960 --> 00:43:29,640
Speaker 4: same unless you change it. Did y'all hear that I

694
00:43:29,800 --> 00:43:36,800
Speaker 4: have a problem with finish your sentence? Do you have

695
00:43:36,920 --> 00:43:39,560
Speaker 4: a problem with it? Or are you willing to do

696
00:43:39,719 --> 00:43:44,640
Speaker 4: whatever it takes to change it. I came here to

697
00:43:44,880 --> 00:43:52,120
Speaker 4: change things. I will be opening a movie studio that

698
00:43:52,239 --> 00:43:57,480
Speaker 4: will have hotels, restaurants, retail, car dealerships, all the above.

699
00:43:58,360 --> 00:44:02,520
Speaker 1: I'm gonna do it, and one of you niggas gonna

700
00:44:02,560 --> 00:44:03,640
Speaker 1: give me the money to do it too.

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00:44:11,000 --> 00:44:13,320
Speaker 4: I have a problem with the things that I have

702
00:44:13,480 --> 00:44:16,160
Speaker 4: a problem with. These are the things that keep me

703
00:44:16,280 --> 00:44:18,200
Speaker 4: up at night. And I want to close this out

704
00:44:18,280 --> 00:44:21,640
Speaker 4: with this man. Please God, thank you for everything.

705
00:44:22,520 --> 00:44:22,719
Speaker 1: God.

706
00:44:23,200 --> 00:44:26,320
Speaker 4: I do not take these stages and these platforms for granted,

707
00:44:26,960 --> 00:44:30,320
Speaker 4: you could have anybody on this stage. Charlemagne knows everybody

708
00:44:30,400 --> 00:44:33,800
Speaker 4: could have had anybody here. So somebody, I hope and

709
00:44:33,880 --> 00:44:36,840
Speaker 4: I pray that we have been able to say something

710
00:44:37,120 --> 00:44:39,120
Speaker 4: that can change a life, just one.

711
00:44:39,560 --> 00:44:40,960
Speaker 1: It doesn't have to be the whole room.

712
00:44:41,280 --> 00:44:43,680
Speaker 4: Some of y'all are so used to going to church

713
00:44:43,760 --> 00:44:46,120
Speaker 4: and screaming Hallelujah, and you go right back to doing

714
00:44:46,200 --> 00:44:49,440
Speaker 4: the same shit. When I am in the presence of

715
00:44:49,640 --> 00:44:54,680
Speaker 4: somebody that drops something on me that falls directly into

716
00:44:54,800 --> 00:44:58,480
Speaker 4: my soul, everything about that moment for me changes.

717
00:44:58,560 --> 00:44:59,120
Speaker 2: I don't care.

718
00:44:59,600 --> 00:45:01,520
Speaker 1: Listen, there is nobody in this.

719
00:45:01,680 --> 00:45:06,520
Speaker 4: Room that can purchase me into feeling differently because my

720
00:45:06,719 --> 00:45:07,239
Speaker 4: soul is.

721
00:45:07,280 --> 00:45:07,919
Speaker 1: Not for sale.

722
00:45:10,560 --> 00:45:13,560
Speaker 4: As a matter of fact, most people with money irritate

723
00:45:13,600 --> 00:45:16,879
Speaker 4: the shit out of me. That's why I don't hang

724
00:45:16,960 --> 00:45:21,680
Speaker 4: around with celebrities. I connect to and relate to regular folks. Now,

725
00:45:21,760 --> 00:45:24,279
Speaker 4: with that being said, I'm gonna close it out with this, y'all.

726
00:45:24,320 --> 00:45:27,800
Speaker 4: I want to tell y'all something about the fire in

727
00:45:27,960 --> 00:45:32,240
Speaker 4: my belly. I want to be specific about the fire

728
00:45:32,800 --> 00:45:37,960
Speaker 4: in my belly. They always say hell is hot, and

729
00:45:38,080 --> 00:45:41,440
Speaker 4: they turn the fire and the desire into a negative.

730
00:45:42,080 --> 00:45:46,160
Speaker 4: I wake up every single day and literally what keeps

731
00:45:46,239 --> 00:45:49,640
Speaker 4: me up at night or the dreams and the visions

732
00:45:50,360 --> 00:45:54,120
Speaker 4: I tell people I dream with my eyes open. I

733
00:45:54,200 --> 00:45:58,200
Speaker 4: want to become the things I see. When somebody says

734
00:45:58,320 --> 00:46:00,840
Speaker 4: something or expose me to something, then I'm like, man.

735
00:46:00,719 --> 00:46:01,120
Speaker 1: What is that?

736
00:46:01,760 --> 00:46:04,480
Speaker 4: I never dreamt that I was able to see it,

737
00:46:04,760 --> 00:46:07,279
Speaker 4: hear it, or be exposed to it after I woke up,

738
00:46:07,840 --> 00:46:10,000
Speaker 4: or I shook a hand and somebody made me aware

739
00:46:10,040 --> 00:46:13,759
Speaker 4: of something that was going on. The Fire and desire

740
00:46:13,960 --> 00:46:16,960
Speaker 4: in your stomach is a sign and an indication that

741
00:46:17,040 --> 00:46:20,360
Speaker 4: that's something that you're supposed to do. The things that

742
00:46:20,520 --> 00:46:23,279
Speaker 4: keep you up at night. It could be the way

743
00:46:23,360 --> 00:46:26,240
Speaker 4: the things is happening in the community, with the prisons

744
00:46:26,280 --> 00:46:29,040
Speaker 4: and the jail and the excessive force and the murder

745
00:46:29,640 --> 00:46:33,200
Speaker 4: and all of the things that stress you out. Those

746
00:46:33,320 --> 00:46:36,600
Speaker 4: are the things that God continue to show you so

747
00:46:36,760 --> 00:46:40,759
Speaker 4: that you can take the initiative to change things. A

748
00:46:40,960 --> 00:46:46,759
Speaker 4: movement doesn't happen without movement. What do you have a

749
00:46:46,880 --> 00:46:52,680
Speaker 4: problem with? What do you want? And if you decide

750
00:46:52,760 --> 00:46:56,120
Speaker 4: to not do it, you're gonna sit back and you're

751
00:46:56,160 --> 00:46:58,800
Speaker 4: gonna watch me do it. Because I'm not waiting on

752
00:46:58,880 --> 00:47:02,840
Speaker 4: none of y'all because I understand the assignment and that

753
00:47:03,080 --> 00:47:06,120
Speaker 4: nothing changes unless you change it.

754
00:47:06,760 --> 00:47:09,320
Speaker 1: So I'm gonna ask y'all to do me a favor.

755
00:47:09,800 --> 00:47:13,240
Speaker 4: Don't just go to another conference. Don't be screaming and yelling,

756
00:47:13,400 --> 00:47:15,800
Speaker 4: and we're not about to pass out no basket.

757
00:47:15,480 --> 00:47:16,200
Speaker 1: For no offering.

758
00:47:17,640 --> 00:47:19,839
Speaker 4: Only thing you need to know is that you could

759
00:47:19,840 --> 00:47:23,640
Speaker 4: have been anywhere in any city, state, in country, and

760
00:47:23,800 --> 00:47:27,680
Speaker 4: you came here because someone that you're in a relationship with.

761
00:47:27,800 --> 00:47:32,160
Speaker 4: Every time you mentioned that clothing idea hair makeup, the

762
00:47:32,280 --> 00:47:36,160
Speaker 4: hair salon, any real estate tech, any time you mention

763
00:47:36,320 --> 00:47:40,759
Speaker 4: anything to this person, This negative ass dream killer is

764
00:47:40,880 --> 00:47:43,719
Speaker 4: shooting down your ideas and you laying up in bed

765
00:47:43,840 --> 00:47:46,600
Speaker 4: with the venom right there, pull the covers back.

766
00:47:46,680 --> 00:47:47,240
Speaker 1: That's a snake.

767
00:47:50,600 --> 00:47:53,400
Speaker 4: There is nobody I'm ever gonna date that's gonna stop

768
00:47:53,480 --> 00:47:55,799
Speaker 4: me from the things that keep me up at night.

769
00:47:56,080 --> 00:47:58,920
Speaker 4: So you look at your grab your stomach sometime when

770
00:47:58,960 --> 00:48:00,800
Speaker 4: you're in the mirror, and ask.

771
00:48:00,719 --> 00:48:02,520
Speaker 1: God, what is in my stomach?

772
00:48:03,120 --> 00:48:06,239
Speaker 4: That's that's that's burning, that's keeping me up at night,

773
00:48:06,640 --> 00:48:10,839
Speaker 4: that I truly desire, that's what we want. And if

774
00:48:10,920 --> 00:48:15,840
Speaker 4: you don't get it done, watch me I will because

775
00:48:15,840 --> 00:48:17,600
Speaker 4: I don't feel bad for nobody.

776
00:48:18,640 --> 00:48:21,879
Speaker 1: Either you're gonna get it done or it won't be done.

777
00:48:22,560 --> 00:48:24,840
Speaker 1: But don't get mad at niggas is out here getting

778
00:48:24,880 --> 00:48:36,200
Speaker 1: it done. God bless you. Thank you. Can we make

779
00:48:36,239 --> 00:48:45,839
Speaker 1: sure hilarious as all right?

780
00:48:46,040 --> 00:48:47,840
Speaker 2: Yeah, he's gonna get a picture of all of us.

781
00:48:48,200 --> 00:48:49,920
Speaker 5: I want to thank y'all for coming out to day.

782
00:48:51,160 --> 00:48:53,919
Speaker 5: I want to thank y'all for coming out today. We'll

783
00:48:53,960 --> 00:48:55,680
Speaker 5: be here next year. I'm glad we could create a

784
00:48:55,680 --> 00:48:57,960
Speaker 5: safe space for Tyrese to get all that off his chest.

785
00:48:59,040 --> 00:49:01,880
Speaker 5: Thank you for coming to Really do appreciate y'all, and

786
00:49:02,160 --> 00:49:04,560
Speaker 5: you know this is a day of mental health, education

787
00:49:04,719 --> 00:49:07,040
Speaker 5: and healing and everything that everybody's been saying on your

788
00:49:07,080 --> 00:49:09,320
Speaker 5: stage is true. With Tyree said, it's very true. We

789
00:49:09,400 --> 00:49:11,120
Speaker 5: hope that you came out here today and you feel

790
00:49:11,160 --> 00:49:13,880
Speaker 5: encouraged to either continue on your healing journey or to

791
00:49:13,920 --> 00:49:16,040
Speaker 5: get started on your healing journey. And I really want

792
00:49:16,080 --> 00:49:17,800
Speaker 5: to stay. From the bottom of my heart, thank you

793
00:49:17,920 --> 00:49:20,080
Speaker 5: all for coming out today, and we'll see you all

794
00:49:20,080 --> 00:49:29,520
Speaker 5: again next year at the fifth annul Mental Health ex Book. Hey, hello,

795
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Speaker 5: yo yo, I just want to thank iHeartRadio one time,

796
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Speaker 5: and I gotta thank this queen right here, Dr Alfie

797
00:49:35,680 --> 00:49:38,960
Speaker 5: breelaying Noble. None of this happens without her, I mean

798
00:49:39,040 --> 00:49:41,520
Speaker 5: absolutely nothing, So thank you, doctor Alfie.

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Speaker 1: Thank you. Hello, Hello, Hey, hey, Charltmagne.

800
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Speaker 4: I didn't know you was just short, bro, because you're

801
00:49:53,360 --> 00:49:56,319
Speaker 4: always behind the table sitting down on the breakfast club.

802
00:49:56,360 --> 00:50:01,000
Speaker 4: This is crazy. I'm actually taller than him. Did y'all

803
00:50:01,040 --> 00:50:04,600
Speaker 4: have fun today? God bless y'all. Y'all know what to

804
00:50:04,680 --> 00:50:06,759
Speaker 4: do right, y'all know what to do right?

805
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Speaker 1: All right,