WEBVTT - Dr. Edith Eger

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<v Speaker 1>I'm gonna call your Minica and hunger okay or okay

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<v Speaker 1>Minica Minica any Minika Niga like, but you're not. You're

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<v Speaker 1>a biggie. I am a biggie. That is so exactly right.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not many at all. I'm a giant tea. Hello,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm Mini driver. Welcome to Many Questions, Season two. I've

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<v Speaker 1>always loved Pruce's question. It was originally a nineteenth century

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<v Speaker 1>parlor game where players would ask each other thirty five

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<v Speaker 1>questions aimed at revealing the other player's true nature. It's

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<v Speaker 1>just the scientific method, really. In asking different people the

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<v Speaker 1>same set of questions, you can make observations about which

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<v Speaker 1>truths appeared to be universal. I love this discipline, and

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<v Speaker 1>it made me wonder, what if these quests were just

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<v Speaker 1>the jumping off point, what greater depths would be revealed

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<v Speaker 1>if I ask these questions as conversation starters with thought

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<v Speaker 1>leaders and trailblazers across all these different disciplines. So I

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<v Speaker 1>adapted Pru's questionnaire and I wrote my own seven questions

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<v Speaker 1>that I personally think a pertinent to a person's story.

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<v Speaker 1>They are when and where were you happiest? What is

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<v Speaker 1>the quality you like least about yourself. What relationship, real

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<v Speaker 1>or fictionalized, defines love for you? What question would you

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<v Speaker 1>most like answered, What person, place, or experience has shaped

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<v Speaker 1>you the most? What would be your last meal? And

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<v Speaker 1>can you tell me something in your life that's grown

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<v Speaker 1>out of a personal disaster? And I've gathered a group

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<v Speaker 1>of really remarkable people, ones that I am honored and

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<v Speaker 1>humbled to have had the chance to engage with. You

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<v Speaker 1>may not hear their answers to all seven of these questions.

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<v Speaker 1>We've whittled it down to which questions felt closest to

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<v Speaker 1>their experience, or the most surprising, or created the most

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<v Speaker 1>fertile ground to connect. My guest today on many questions

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<v Speaker 1>is best selling author, psychologist, and extraordinary teacher Dr Edith Eager. Dr.

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<v Speaker 1>Eagle was born into a Jewish family in Hungary, and

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<v Speaker 1>she and her family were sent to Auschwitz during the

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<v Speaker 1>Nazi occupation, where her parents were killed and she and

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<v Speaker 1>her sister survived. She said that she had been found

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<v Speaker 1>by an American soldier on May four when he had

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<v Speaker 1>seen her hand moving slightly where she lay among a

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<v Speaker 1>number of dead bodies. Dr. Eager eventually moved to America

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<v Speaker 1>and received her PhD in clinical psychology from the University

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<v Speaker 1>of Texas at El Paso. She spent her entire life

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<v Speaker 1>helping patients with post traumatic stress disorder recover and teaching

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<v Speaker 1>all of us through her books how to free our

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<v Speaker 1>minds from the prison of destructive thoughts and behaviors. She

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<v Speaker 1>is genuinely one of the sweetest, most positive and powerful

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<v Speaker 1>people I've ever spoken to in my life, and she

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<v Speaker 1>left me with the lasting idea that what happens to

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<v Speaker 1>us in life is not the most important thing in

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<v Speaker 1>the end. Rather, the most important thing is what we

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<v Speaker 1>do with our lives. Where and when were you happiest

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<v Speaker 1>When my daughter was born September nine, four seven, because

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<v Speaker 1>my doctor didn't want me to have a child and

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<v Speaker 1>his scheduled an abortion, and I told him I want

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<v Speaker 1>to give life. And so I'm glad I didn't listen

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<v Speaker 1>to the doctor. Wow, And that's my daughter, Mary Anne,

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<v Speaker 1>doctor Mary and Anger married to Robert ang gerl Ian

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<v Speaker 1>jay Lee who got the Nobel Plaze and Economics and

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<v Speaker 1>two thousand three. So I think it's probably the most

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful time when I was able to not only survive

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<v Speaker 1>but also give birth to a child. Eat itth the

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<v Speaker 1>war ended in nineteen and you gave birth to ninety seven.

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<v Speaker 1>People usually asked me did you love your husband? And

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<v Speaker 1>my entries. I was seventeen, I was very skinny. I

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<v Speaker 1>was very lonely, and most of all, I was very hungry.

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<v Speaker 1>So he bought me hungary and salami, and so I

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<v Speaker 1>met it him. That's exactly Edith, that is exactly it.

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<v Speaker 1>You were hungry, and he put your salami. I was

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<v Speaker 1>hungry for attention, for a fraction, for approval. And that's

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<v Speaker 1>how I called my patients today. Hungry. They come to

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<v Speaker 1>me hungry, hungry because they expected one thing and they

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<v Speaker 1>got another. They were told one thing and then they

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<v Speaker 1>were presented something. And now, Schwitz, I asked myself many times,

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<v Speaker 1>does anyone know that I'm here? It was so important

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<v Speaker 1>for me some how to know whether anybody ever heard

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<v Speaker 1>of we want to forget and use all kinds of

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<v Speaker 1>defense mechanism. We deny it. If we forget it, we

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<v Speaker 1>run away from it. And thank God, I'm here with

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<v Speaker 1>you at ninety four, a mother of three, a grandmother

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<v Speaker 1>of five, and a great grandma of seven. My goodness,

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<v Speaker 1>seven little boys, My goodness, that's my revenge to Hitler.

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<v Speaker 1>That's the best revenge to Hitler. Your beautiful children and

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<v Speaker 1>their children and their children. Yeah, do you remember the

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<v Speaker 1>liberation really, really clearly? Do you remember when you really

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<v Speaker 1>knew that it was over? That's a beautiful question, and doubt,

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<v Speaker 1>doubt such thing. I can remember. Doubt it's just really happening.

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<v Speaker 1>Is it really true? Yeah? I remember I've out someone

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<v Speaker 1>holding my hand, and then I looked up. I saw

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<v Speaker 1>beautiful eyes filled with tears. I was liberated. I wish

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<v Speaker 1>I could meet that man now. Who gave me Eminem's.

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<v Speaker 1>He gives you Eminem's. He gave me M and M's.

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<v Speaker 1>If you come to my house. Someone sent me M

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<v Speaker 1>and M's with my picture on it. I don't know

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<v Speaker 1>how they got to do that, but I can give

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<v Speaker 1>you Eminem's with picture. I would like that. I would

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<v Speaker 1>very much like to have some Eminem's with your face

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<v Speaker 1>on them, but I'm almost positive I would not be

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<v Speaker 1>able to eat them. I would just look at them. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>I don't think I could eat something with your face

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<v Speaker 1>on it, Edith. But why don't I shave you some

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<v Speaker 1>and you come here to my house? Yes, okay, you

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<v Speaker 1>did that. I'm gonna come I'll come over and we'll

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<v Speaker 1>look at them together. Make I'm hungarian compapria yum. I

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<v Speaker 1>would like that very much. I've never had that. You're liking,

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<v Speaker 1>you like round chicken paprica. I guaranty you. I actually

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<v Speaker 1>don't doubt it at all. Howard is your son. He's thirteen.

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<v Speaker 1>He's thirteen and he loves to cook. Oh you know,

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<v Speaker 1>I'll tell you a story about him, Edith, When he

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<v Speaker 1>was five years old, he came running in the room

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<v Speaker 1>and he grabbed my shoulders and he was crying, and

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<v Speaker 1>he was like mommy, and I was like, darling, what's happening,

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<v Speaker 1>What is happening? And he said, I can't believe it

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<v Speaker 1>is chicken a chicken And I said, well, yeah, yeah, yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>chicken is a chicken, and he went, I can't believe it.

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<v Speaker 1>I thought it was a coincidence. And he was devastated

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<v Speaker 1>that he had been eating an animal and he didn't

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<v Speaker 1>know it was an animal. So he wrote a song

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<v Speaker 1>about how sad he was. And then he was a

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<v Speaker 1>vegetarian up until only about a year ago. And he's

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<v Speaker 1>always made a lot of his own food and always

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<v Speaker 1>been very interested in cooking. And now he's starting to

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<v Speaker 1>eat a lot of different food now, and it's amazing

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<v Speaker 1>to watch this child who's really he closed his world

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<v Speaker 1>down and now he's really opening it up. But he's

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<v Speaker 1>doing it really consciously with a lot of awareness, and

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<v Speaker 1>it's really amazing to watch. I think it would be

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<v Speaker 1>good for him to talk to Mary Anne because she

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<v Speaker 1>is an expert. Is she You go to her house

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<v Speaker 1>and you don't know what you're gonna get on your play.

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<v Speaker 1>You never know what she's going to serve you. And

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<v Speaker 1>so she would be the person because he could be

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<v Speaker 1>really a chef. Yes, men should stay in the kitchen.

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<v Speaker 1>What question would she most like answered? I have been

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<v Speaker 1>asked many times the question how would you like to

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<v Speaker 1>be remembered? I think that's very fitting for me right now.

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<v Speaker 1>How would you like to be remembered someone who did

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<v Speaker 1>everything in her power that your children, grandchildren and great

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<v Speaker 1>grandchildren were never experienced what I did. I work preventively

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<v Speaker 1>and I'm going to work as long as I live.

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<v Speaker 1>I do not believe in retirement. Yeah, my mom was

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<v Speaker 1>the same, because it's not really work, it's living. Then

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<v Speaker 1>we like what we do. We like because it's genuine. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>And I think if you're putting something into the world.

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<v Speaker 1>Like he said, you have a far greater experience than

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<v Speaker 1>most people in the world currently of what it really

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<v Speaker 1>means to sacrifice and what it really means to put

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<v Speaker 1>light back into the world. I think we celebrate many

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<v Speaker 1>times what we lost rather than celebrate what we still

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<v Speaker 1>have left. And I think it's important for us to

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<v Speaker 1>be very picky what we concentrate on. I know because

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<v Speaker 1>when my sister asked me, and now shows, how do

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<v Speaker 1>I look? And we were completely naked, and uh, I

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<v Speaker 1>knew that I became her mirror. And instead of telling

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<v Speaker 1>her that we should look I told her, Magda, you

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<v Speaker 1>have beautiful eyes. And I didn't see it when you

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<v Speaker 1>had hair all over the place. Oh, so you say

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<v Speaker 1>you find something good in everything? Why do you think

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<v Speaker 1>as people, as humans? Why do you think we jumped

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<v Speaker 1>to the negative so quickly? Why do you think we

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<v Speaker 1>don't naturally fit ourselves to the positive? You know? I

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<v Speaker 1>was in there in Milwaukee, invited to a dinner for

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<v Speaker 1>a family, and we said down and the children, you know,

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<v Speaker 1>sit down. This is my shy one, this is my

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<v Speaker 1>funny one. So on. So I sit down next to

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<v Speaker 1>the girl and I look at her and I said,

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<v Speaker 1>you have such beautiful pro fire, and the mother kicked

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<v Speaker 1>me under the table and said, don't tell her that

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<v Speaker 1>she will be conceded. I think it's very important, very

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<v Speaker 1>important to pay attention what you're paying attention to, because

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<v Speaker 1>we remember the messages our parents give us. We really do. See.

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<v Speaker 1>My mother told me, I'm glad you have brains because

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<v Speaker 1>you have no looks because my sister was the pretty one. Well,

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<v Speaker 1>I think you're beautiful. I think you're beautiful. I am

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<v Speaker 1>very important, and really to tell you that you can

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<v Speaker 1>rewrite your script. Oh, yes, that is true, always right,

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<v Speaker 1>every day. That's real. Right, I am beautiful. I'm one

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<v Speaker 1>of her kind. There'll never be another me, and that's true.

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<v Speaker 1>Never ever will be another Mini Mini Mini, never ever

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<v Speaker 1>ever be another Edith. Yes, you know. I think people

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<v Speaker 1>can take a journey to discover their true self that

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<v Speaker 1>we give up to fit the dynamics. Why do you

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<v Speaker 1>think people give up? It's kind of like Shakespeare put

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<v Speaker 1>people on that stage and you will be the firstborn child,

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<v Speaker 1>so you are the responsible one. The middle child is

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<v Speaker 1>usually pacemaker. They want everybody to get along with everybody else,

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<v Speaker 1>like Kissinger and the babies. We call charming manipulator. I

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<v Speaker 1>was the charming manipulator. Oh. I would go to my

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<v Speaker 1>father and ask for money when he was playing with

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<v Speaker 1>his croonies billiards, because I knew he was going to

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<v Speaker 1>be very generous. I couldn't gotta be with my mother

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<v Speaker 1>with anything like that, but you could with your dad.

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<v Speaker 1>With my dad, I could do that. Yeah, I was

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<v Speaker 1>the same. You got to know the customers. You gotta

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<v Speaker 1>know that editory. That is exactly correct. Now, what quality

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<v Speaker 1>do you like least about yourself? If you had to

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<v Speaker 1>pick something, I could be less perfectionistic and just to

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<v Speaker 1>be average. I think it takes courage just to be average.

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<v Speaker 1>It's okay not to make a plushes all the time.

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<v Speaker 1>It's okay to make beds or even flunk. I always

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<v Speaker 1>had to be the number one and graduating with owners

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<v Speaker 1>and and I think it takes courage just to be

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<v Speaker 1>You don't have to be anything just me. Do you

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<v Speaker 1>think that you needed to strive for perfection and to

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<v Speaker 1>be the best because you've had such a lot of

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<v Speaker 1>time and life and people you love taken away from you.

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<v Speaker 1>I think it had agree I do to do with earning,

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<v Speaker 1>deserving and the survivor's geared has really taken over big

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<v Speaker 1>time because when I was graduating with honors, I did

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<v Speaker 1>not show up for my graduation because they died and

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<v Speaker 1>I did not even allow myself. That is a good word, permission.

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't give myself permission to show up for my graduation,

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<v Speaker 1>and that is really something I would not do today.

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<v Speaker 1>So I think it's important to live in a present

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<v Speaker 1>and celebrate every moment because life is just one day.

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<v Speaker 1>The morning sunshine doesn't come back. And that's why I

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<v Speaker 1>love to live in a present and think young, but

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<v Speaker 1>not young and foolish. I like to be liked, not chardish.

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<v Speaker 1>So then you know, I still like the big band

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<v Speaker 1>and my children call it supermarket music. They do. I

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<v Speaker 1>love big band music. You do too, Oh, I love that,

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<v Speaker 1>Glenn Miller, I love. I love big band music. My

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<v Speaker 1>mom used to love that. To come with them together.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm gonna come to your house. We're gonna look

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<v Speaker 1>at the Eminem's with your face on it. You're gonna

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<v Speaker 1>make some chicken Papa cash, and then we're going to

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<v Speaker 1>go out dancing. This is like the best date ever.

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<v Speaker 1>It's a date, so eat it. What person place or

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<v Speaker 1>experience most altered your life. When I was accepted at

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<v Speaker 1>the university, I never told them that I never finished

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<v Speaker 1>high school and I was accepted on probation, and they

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<v Speaker 1>put me in a class called English as a second language.

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<v Speaker 1>So you see, I'm manipulated the environment for me to

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<v Speaker 1>be able to be a college student and ended up

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<v Speaker 1>being a college professor. I was able to somehow get

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<v Speaker 1>the education to be able to be part of a

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<v Speaker 1>life where I could not only teach others, but teach

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<v Speaker 1>them what I lived. And anything I tell you, I

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<v Speaker 1>tell you what I lived and made it happen. That

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<v Speaker 1>they don't give in to nahility. You don't give in

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<v Speaker 1>to nothing. What hope and find hope in hopelessness every time.

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<v Speaker 1>Never give up no exactly. And I love that you

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<v Speaker 1>say that you teach preventively. To teach love is how

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<v Speaker 1>to prevent creating people who would take part in atrocities,

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<v Speaker 1>but who would love themselves so they would never even

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<v Speaker 1>it would never even cross their mind to do that.

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<v Speaker 1>You know. I have it in my book that I

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<v Speaker 1>took care of a young man who was part of

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<v Speaker 1>the David Korage movement in Texas, and the first thing

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<v Speaker 1>he told me that he's going to kill or the Jews.

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<v Speaker 1>Now I had a choice, the difference between reacting or responding.

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<v Speaker 1>If I would have reacted, I would have dragged him

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<v Speaker 1>into the corner. I would have looked at him and say,

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<v Speaker 1>how dare you talk to me like this? I saw

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<v Speaker 1>my mother going to a gas chamber. But I remember

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<v Speaker 1>I was having a relationship with God, my God. I

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<v Speaker 1>call it tinker Bell, the free Spirit. And I was

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<v Speaker 1>told to find the biggot in me, and I said, no, no, no,

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<v Speaker 1>that's impossible. I came to America, Penneler, I didn't speak

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<v Speaker 1>about the English. I went to the bathroom and one

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<v Speaker 1>of them sad colored yes. Prejudice means to pre judge.

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<v Speaker 1>And I joined the n c P. And I marched

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<v Speaker 1>with Martin Luther King in nineteen sixteen three, I believe

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<v Speaker 1>two or me and I was singing, we shall overcome

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<v Speaker 1>with the mamas and the papas way before your time.

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<v Speaker 1>You remember those days. I don't remember those days. I

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<v Speaker 1>remember the music, and I remember the mamas and the paper.

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<v Speaker 1>How do you feel You've lived through so many generations?

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<v Speaker 1>Do you ever feel angry that we don't seem to

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<v Speaker 1>learn that even today Vladimir Putin is invading Ukraine and

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<v Speaker 1>causing misery and heartache, Like, do you ever lose hope

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<v Speaker 1>for humanity? You know, a woman just told me that

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<v Speaker 1>the boyfriend left, and I told her I'm gonna give

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<v Speaker 1>you one word, and the one word is next. So

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<v Speaker 1>the question is my daughter calls it dysm. Are you

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<v Speaker 1>ewarving or are you rewarring? Oh my god, I stough

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<v Speaker 1>that I want that on a T shirt. I'm gonna

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<v Speaker 1>make that T shirt fear. Are you evolving or are

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<v Speaker 1>you revolving? Thank you, because that way you don't just

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<v Speaker 1>do the same thing. Oh well, I know where I

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<v Speaker 1>get expecting different results. Yes, that really is the definition

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<v Speaker 1>of insanity. Huh, insanity, that's what Albert. Yeah. Albert Dunstein,

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<v Speaker 1>I understand, was teaching at Princeton and he came out

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<v Speaker 1>and one of the students looked at him and said,

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<v Speaker 1>you're not wearing socks, And he said, I'm not in

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<v Speaker 1>two socks. And I'm thinking, sure, if you're aber, you

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<v Speaker 1>don't have to bet sock. You can't do anything you

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<v Speaker 1>want to because you're aber. I think you cannot wear

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<v Speaker 1>socks even if you're not. Albert Einstein. Yeah, because you

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<v Speaker 1>have to risk, You have to risk cold feet, chances

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<v Speaker 1>that that no one notices it as much as you. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I remember I moved to Sandy Ago from Texas and

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<v Speaker 1>I went to the symphony one night and I forgot

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<v Speaker 1>to take off my slippers. Nobody noticed that I was

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<v Speaker 1>the only one. I think people have fall less interested

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<v Speaker 1>in our story than than we are. Of course, of course,

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<v Speaker 1>can you tell me about something that has grown out

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<v Speaker 1>of a personal disaster. I appreciate every moment because I

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<v Speaker 1>remember when I saw my mother going to the gas chamber,

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<v Speaker 1>and when that picture comes up for me, it really

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<v Speaker 1>gives me right on time how to experience the present

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<v Speaker 1>that I can only touch you now. So I do

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<v Speaker 1>live in a present. I never forget the past. I

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<v Speaker 1>don't even know what the world overcome means, but I

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<v Speaker 1>came to terms that I call it my cherished wound.

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<v Speaker 1>I think in a way, in a big way, we're

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<v Speaker 1>all wounded, and that woundedness gives us birth to the me,

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<v Speaker 1>my genuine self that I give up many times to

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<v Speaker 1>please the family dynamics. Take a journey and see what

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<v Speaker 1>you discover on the way. Where you are now A

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<v Speaker 1>many girls and how much do you have left? Because

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<v Speaker 1>chances are you may have fifty more years and that's

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<v Speaker 1>quite a bit of time for you to maybe go

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<v Speaker 1>back to school, maybe learn how to do belly dancing.

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<v Speaker 1>You're something red. Maybe I've got a belly dancing school,

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<v Speaker 1>or go to Hungarian jars. You know it is that

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<v Speaker 1>a plastical dancing? Is that first dancing? Yes? Yes, I

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<v Speaker 1>was dancing with car Lodgers in Hungary in nine Yes. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>eating the Hungary eating goulash is very good, very good.

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<v Speaker 1>If your sound likes cooking, I'm happy that you are supporting.

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<v Speaker 1>It doesn't have to be his future. It can be

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<v Speaker 1>one of his goals to be a good chef. Yeah, exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>I think food is love. I mean it really making

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<v Speaker 1>food is that there's a lot of love in it.

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<v Speaker 1>When he makes food for me, I know that he

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<v Speaker 1>has put all his love into it. Maybe you can

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<v Speaker 1>buy it, Asta. I love that you're reworking my whole life.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm going to go back to school, I'm gonna learn

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<v Speaker 1>to be a belly dancer, and I'm going to open

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<v Speaker 1>a restaurant. There you girl, I'm loving my alternative life.

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<v Speaker 1>I love the idea of expanding and doing lots of

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<v Speaker 1>other things. You're a magical person. You really are. Like

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<v Speaker 1>it feels like everything has grown out of something which

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<v Speaker 1>one would imagine might end a person's life, even if

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<v Speaker 1>they carried on living, that their spirit would be so

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<v Speaker 1>traumatized and damaged. But to talk to you and to

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<v Speaker 1>see you, and to hear the way that you feel

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<v Speaker 1>about the world, it's such a beautiful reminder that we

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<v Speaker 1>can always choose to grow, we can always rewrite the script.

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<v Speaker 1>Like you said, life is beautiful. It's not what there is.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what we do with it every moment. We don't

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<v Speaker 1>seem to appreciate it what we have many times until

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<v Speaker 1>we lose it. And that's why I eat up every

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<v Speaker 1>marshal of food on my plateate on your play. If

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<v Speaker 1>you don't need, they'll take it home. I never reached

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<v Speaker 1>fiece of bread ever. Well, it has been the most wonderful,

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<v Speaker 1>wonderful time talking to you. Thank you so much, really,

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<v Speaker 1>with all my heart, thank you. It's so beautiful to

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<v Speaker 1>share what you have to say with everybody, everybody is

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<v Speaker 1>an absolute blessing. Thank you. Memories, yes, yes, Edith, we're

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<v Speaker 1>making beautiful memories. I'm very grateful for sharing memories with you.

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<v Speaker 1>Edith has put out a new edition of her acclaimed book,

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<v Speaker 1>The Gift. The Gift covers Edith's insight into dealing with

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<v Speaker 1>life's most complex challenges, and the new edition includes two

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<v Speaker 1>additional chapters that examine Edith's introspections during COVID. She really

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<v Speaker 1>is always growing, always evolving, and always teaching. You can

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<v Speaker 1>find her book and more about Edith on her website,

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<v Speaker 1>Dr Edith Eager dot com. That's d r Edith Eager

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<v Speaker 1>dot com. Many Questions will be taking a short mid

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<v Speaker 1>season break while I'm on set for a new movie,

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<v Speaker 1>While we're away. If you're looking for more stories, please

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<v Speaker 1>do check out my newly published memoir, Well Memoirish Managing Expectations.

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