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Speaker 1: Here it is the Strawberry letter Thank you. A few

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Speaker 1: subjects closer than close best friends. Dear Stephen Shirley, I

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Speaker 1: refers to him as her son in law. He lives

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Speaker 1: I have even been on his family vacation. I know

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Speaker 1: that our friendship is not normal, and we do everything

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Speaker 1: a couple does, up for have sex. He has never

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Speaker 1: shown any interest in dating me, but it's so obvious

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Speaker 1: he shares everything with me about their relationship. He even

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Speaker 1: there for him when things didn't work out with him

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Speaker 1: and the child's mom. He's perfect for me, and I

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Speaker 1: can't imagine my future with any other man but him,

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Speaker 1: Stephen Shirley, what do you think can a man be

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Speaker 1: I think he likes you too, like you said in

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Speaker 1: So he does that a lot with you, And that's

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Speaker 1: what makes me thinks he likes you. Not just you,

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Speaker 1: After all, you've certainly been there for him, I mean

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Speaker 1: come through it. People always say that you should be

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Speaker 1: here for it. You know. Now? This woman right here

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Speaker 1: than Close best Friends is the subject. Yeah, here, this

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Speaker 1: But I seriously doubt that that's the case, because he

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Speaker 1: walk past his ass naked What drastic, Gotta do something?

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Speaker 1: He's sitting there. Yeah, put some heels on and walk

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Speaker 1: And but ass naked naked is when you just take

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Speaker 1: ain't got to do that. I'm tearing up. I'm trying

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Speaker 1: this morning. And a couple of suggestions. The next time

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Speaker 1: a necklace on. What is that gonna do? That's all girl?

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Speaker 1: So he did you just ask me what that's gonna do? Fellas,

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Speaker 1: We gotta go email us. You're in them over this.

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Speaker 1: We don't have any time, Jake. We gotta go email

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Speaker 1: us our Instagram. That's your thoughts to my girls, Shirley. Okay,

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