1 00:00:13,680 --> 00:00:17,720 Speaker 1: Welcome everybody to I Do Part two. We're just a 2 00:00:17,720 --> 00:00:20,240 Speaker 1: few of your hosts here on the podcast is Amy 3 00:00:20,320 --> 00:00:24,319 Speaker 1: Robock and TJ. Holmes, and today we have a very 4 00:00:24,520 --> 00:00:27,680 Speaker 1: special guest. You have known her for years, and we 5 00:00:27,720 --> 00:00:30,080 Speaker 1: actually had to double check the date because. 6 00:00:29,840 --> 00:00:30,680 Speaker 2: We can't believe. 7 00:00:31,640 --> 00:00:35,240 Speaker 1: She made her debut, her television debut on The Girls 8 00:00:35,320 --> 00:00:38,240 Speaker 1: next Door all the way back in two thousand and five. 9 00:00:38,840 --> 00:00:42,400 Speaker 1: So yeah, that was twenty years ago. And since then, 10 00:00:42,440 --> 00:00:45,720 Speaker 1: she's had her own reality shows. She's a realtor. Of course, 11 00:00:45,840 --> 00:00:49,080 Speaker 1: she is a mom, and like everyone that we've had 12 00:00:49,120 --> 00:00:53,160 Speaker 1: on this show and present parties included, she's gone through 13 00:00:53,200 --> 00:00:55,720 Speaker 1: a very public divorce and we're going to talk about 14 00:00:55,720 --> 00:00:59,280 Speaker 1: it all today and well, we just want Kendra Wilkinson 15 00:00:59,360 --> 00:01:02,000 Speaker 1: to know that she is in good company and in 16 00:01:02,160 --> 00:01:05,920 Speaker 1: a very safe, soft place here with us on this podcast, 17 00:01:05,959 --> 00:01:08,720 Speaker 1: because yes, we've all been through something similar. 18 00:01:08,800 --> 00:01:11,400 Speaker 2: Kendra, Thank you for being here, Thank you for having me. 19 00:01:11,480 --> 00:01:13,520 Speaker 3: It's so good to be here with you guys. And 20 00:01:13,600 --> 00:01:17,560 Speaker 3: if there's two people, I trust it to you guys. 21 00:01:17,840 --> 00:01:19,560 Speaker 3: You guys are as real as it can get. And 22 00:01:19,640 --> 00:01:22,320 Speaker 3: I'm all about real. I've always been real. That's why 23 00:01:22,760 --> 00:01:26,080 Speaker 3: I've lasted twenty years in reality TV because people see 24 00:01:26,120 --> 00:01:27,840 Speaker 3: it in the eyes. They know that I'm real, So 25 00:01:28,440 --> 00:01:30,800 Speaker 3: you know, real, real me, It's real. Here we go. 26 00:01:31,760 --> 00:01:31,959 Speaker 1: You know. 27 00:01:32,080 --> 00:01:34,560 Speaker 4: I always say that certain folks find each other. You 28 00:01:34,600 --> 00:01:37,880 Speaker 4: can tell immediately when you find your tribe. And yes, 29 00:01:37,959 --> 00:01:40,319 Speaker 4: it takes sometimes people going through something and sometimes of 30 00:01:40,319 --> 00:01:43,959 Speaker 4: public flogging unfortunately, but it is really cool to have 31 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:46,280 Speaker 4: you all these things you've gone through and we seem 32 00:01:46,360 --> 00:01:50,160 Speaker 4: like we've watched you grow up, become an adult, get married, 33 00:01:50,280 --> 00:01:52,720 Speaker 4: get all these things. Is there some part all these 34 00:01:52,720 --> 00:01:55,320 Speaker 4: things are so personal? Is there some of it that 35 00:01:55,360 --> 00:01:58,680 Speaker 4: you think maybe shouldn't be done in the public eye? 36 00:01:58,960 --> 00:02:01,720 Speaker 3: Yeah? Yeah, I mean, you know, there's two there's a 37 00:02:01,880 --> 00:02:06,120 Speaker 3: many different like ways to look at this. There's there's Playboy, 38 00:02:06,400 --> 00:02:10,400 Speaker 3: there's show business, there's a media attention. There's like so 39 00:02:10,480 --> 00:02:14,280 Speaker 3: many different ways of looking at what I've done, you know, 40 00:02:14,480 --> 00:02:17,080 Speaker 3: And a lot of people focus a lot on like, 41 00:02:17,120 --> 00:02:19,960 Speaker 3: oh you did Playboy, Playboy, Playboy, but no one really 42 00:02:19,960 --> 00:02:23,120 Speaker 3: focuses and on like what it took to actually shoot 43 00:02:23,160 --> 00:02:26,200 Speaker 3: a reality TV show and what it does? What it what? 44 00:02:27,000 --> 00:02:29,520 Speaker 3: How much it takes to shoot a reality TV show? 45 00:02:30,000 --> 00:02:32,400 Speaker 3: And it took every ounce of my soul. Like that's 46 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:34,200 Speaker 3: why they call it sell the soul and the devil. 47 00:02:34,280 --> 00:02:37,280 Speaker 3: Like I sell, I sold. I sold the god damn devil. 48 00:02:37,760 --> 00:02:40,720 Speaker 3: And and yeah, there's a price to pay with that. 49 00:02:40,840 --> 00:02:43,240 Speaker 3: There's a major price to pay with that. I have 50 00:02:43,320 --> 00:02:44,760 Speaker 3: a lot of regrets when it comes to that. I 51 00:02:44,800 --> 00:02:47,240 Speaker 3: don't have regrets with Playboy and all that, but I 52 00:02:47,280 --> 00:02:49,960 Speaker 3: have regrets on like, you know, where things went with 53 00:02:50,080 --> 00:02:55,120 Speaker 3: show business. So yeah, I mean, you know, there's we 54 00:02:55,160 --> 00:02:57,720 Speaker 3: made choice. We make choices, and we reap what we sew. 55 00:02:57,800 --> 00:03:00,840 Speaker 3: It is what it is. But you know, like and 56 00:03:00,880 --> 00:03:04,160 Speaker 3: I take full responsibility for my choices and my actions 57 00:03:04,160 --> 00:03:06,600 Speaker 3: and everything like that. But you know, like there was 58 00:03:06,639 --> 00:03:08,240 Speaker 3: a lot of pressure on me. There was a lot 59 00:03:08,240 --> 00:03:15,079 Speaker 3: of pressure, like shows called Kendra Kendra Sells, Hollywood, Kendra 60 00:03:15,800 --> 00:03:19,960 Speaker 3: Kendra on Top Kendra Kendra Kendra. Like you know, like 61 00:03:20,000 --> 00:03:24,640 Speaker 3: there's a major pressure on my shoulders to entertain and 62 00:03:24,720 --> 00:03:28,240 Speaker 3: to give the audience what they want and to get 63 00:03:28,280 --> 00:03:31,240 Speaker 3: you know, and to draw blood and to you know, 64 00:03:31,520 --> 00:03:35,640 Speaker 3: make people laugh, make people cry, make people you know, relate, 65 00:03:36,000 --> 00:03:39,160 Speaker 3: you know, And I sold a lot of my soul 66 00:03:39,280 --> 00:03:41,960 Speaker 3: that way, and you know, you can't get it back. 67 00:03:42,120 --> 00:03:45,400 Speaker 3: So like, you know, I always thought, like, oh, sharing 68 00:03:45,440 --> 00:03:48,480 Speaker 3: the realists and the rawest part of me would would 69 00:03:48,560 --> 00:03:51,480 Speaker 3: would would be the best way to go, you know, 70 00:03:51,560 --> 00:03:54,800 Speaker 3: with storytelling. And I did that, but you know, it 71 00:03:55,280 --> 00:03:58,400 Speaker 3: came with consequences. It came with a lot of media 72 00:03:58,440 --> 00:04:01,960 Speaker 3: attention and you know of a lot of people, you know, 73 00:04:02,280 --> 00:04:05,920 Speaker 3: not respect, like a lot of hate, a lot of criticizing. 74 00:04:06,520 --> 00:04:09,320 Speaker 3: So you know, and I can't I'm only one person. 75 00:04:09,360 --> 00:04:11,680 Speaker 3: I can't take on the world like that. So it 76 00:04:11,720 --> 00:04:14,920 Speaker 3: definitely hit me hard, what you know, It hit me 77 00:04:14,960 --> 00:04:17,800 Speaker 3: hard at one point and it and I crumbled and 78 00:04:17,839 --> 00:04:20,880 Speaker 3: I fell to my knees begging for mercy. And that's 79 00:04:21,080 --> 00:04:24,039 Speaker 3: you know, and that's that's kind of how things played out, 80 00:04:24,200 --> 00:04:26,240 Speaker 3: you know, over the course of twenty years. 81 00:04:26,520 --> 00:04:29,360 Speaker 2: And yeah, over the course of twenty years. Kendrick. 82 00:04:29,400 --> 00:04:32,600 Speaker 1: Yeah, as we said, you started on that show in 83 00:04:32,600 --> 00:04:36,279 Speaker 1: two thousand and five, if my calculations are correct, because 84 00:04:36,320 --> 00:04:38,280 Speaker 1: you are still thirty nine years old. You were a 85 00:04:38,360 --> 00:04:43,839 Speaker 1: teenager when you started in this not just the television business, 86 00:04:43,880 --> 00:04:48,040 Speaker 1: but this was a highly sexualized, some would say over sexualized. 87 00:04:48,440 --> 00:04:49,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, part of. 88 00:04:49,760 --> 00:04:52,440 Speaker 1: Television, not just the magazine. But now you're one of 89 00:04:52,480 --> 00:04:55,560 Speaker 1: Hugh Hefner's girlfriends one of three, I think initially at 90 00:04:55,600 --> 00:04:58,760 Speaker 1: the time. But you again, you were nineteen. So I 91 00:04:58,839 --> 00:05:01,400 Speaker 1: hear you saying, I take for responsibility for my actions, 92 00:05:01,440 --> 00:05:03,479 Speaker 1: I take responsibility for my decisions. 93 00:05:04,200 --> 00:05:06,680 Speaker 2: But you were just a baby. I'm sorry, but you 94 00:05:06,680 --> 00:05:09,480 Speaker 2: were a baby. How did you get in that position 95 00:05:09,560 --> 00:05:10,320 Speaker 2: to begin with? 96 00:05:10,760 --> 00:05:15,520 Speaker 3: You know, like I, I was a horrible teenager, Like 97 00:05:15,680 --> 00:05:18,799 Speaker 3: I was horrible, Like I was a runaway. I sold 98 00:05:18,839 --> 00:05:22,080 Speaker 3: cocaine at the age of fifteen, Like I was more 99 00:05:22,279 --> 00:05:25,920 Speaker 3: like a runaway from home. I never really, you know, 100 00:05:27,720 --> 00:05:32,080 Speaker 3: had a stable life, and so I went looking for 101 00:05:32,360 --> 00:05:34,880 Speaker 3: the wrong things. I went looking for dark things, I 102 00:05:34,920 --> 00:05:38,840 Speaker 3: went looking for fun. And and now I'm not saying 103 00:05:38,920 --> 00:05:42,360 Speaker 3: that everything I did was dark and wrong. I'm saying that, like, 104 00:05:43,040 --> 00:05:45,039 Speaker 3: you know, it was easy to take that one way 105 00:05:45,080 --> 00:05:48,560 Speaker 3: ticket to LA into the Playboy mansion, where how vulnerable 106 00:05:48,600 --> 00:05:53,279 Speaker 3: I was, And you know, I also regret, you know, not, 107 00:05:53,600 --> 00:05:56,520 Speaker 3: you know, fighting at a young age to go to college. 108 00:05:56,600 --> 00:05:59,200 Speaker 3: You know, like I felt like I always had to 109 00:05:59,240 --> 00:06:03,200 Speaker 3: fight for my self and my life in certain ways. 110 00:06:03,720 --> 00:06:07,159 Speaker 3: So like it, you know, it just kind of I 111 00:06:07,200 --> 00:06:09,680 Speaker 3: took the easy route. I took an easy road out. 112 00:06:10,600 --> 00:06:12,359 Speaker 3: But you know, like who has the money to go 113 00:06:12,360 --> 00:06:14,279 Speaker 3: to college? Like I never had the money to go 114 00:06:14,320 --> 00:06:17,200 Speaker 3: to college. So like, you know, I mean it's easy 115 00:06:17,240 --> 00:06:20,520 Speaker 3: for people like me to wander and to you know, 116 00:06:20,560 --> 00:06:23,680 Speaker 3: wander into the gates of a playboy mansion. So that's 117 00:06:23,680 --> 00:06:26,159 Speaker 3: what I did. I wandered in there at eighteen years old. 118 00:06:26,800 --> 00:06:33,320 Speaker 3: And you know, now I'm saying that I can honestly 119 00:06:33,360 --> 00:06:36,000 Speaker 3: look back and say that I was safer at the 120 00:06:36,040 --> 00:06:39,320 Speaker 3: Playwood Mansion than I was at fifteen years old dealing drugs. 121 00:06:39,680 --> 00:06:40,120 Speaker 1: Wow. 122 00:06:40,240 --> 00:06:44,200 Speaker 3: So in that case, like I was safe. I was 123 00:06:44,240 --> 00:06:48,160 Speaker 3: in a safe environment. I was healthy, eating salads every day, 124 00:06:48,279 --> 00:06:51,960 Speaker 3: working out every day, no drugs every day. Like, so 125 00:06:52,000 --> 00:06:54,320 Speaker 3: I was in a safe environment at the Playwood Mansion. 126 00:06:54,680 --> 00:06:58,719 Speaker 3: But was I sexualized? Absolutely? Did that cause me problems 127 00:06:58,839 --> 00:07:02,839 Speaker 3: later in life? Absolutely? So you know, like you know, 128 00:07:02,960 --> 00:07:06,320 Speaker 3: choices become their consequences for every choice you make. 129 00:07:08,120 --> 00:07:11,120 Speaker 4: How did that have an impact that environment on a Again, 130 00:07:11,160 --> 00:07:13,680 Speaker 4: you're a teenager. You hadn't been necessarily exposed to healthy 131 00:07:13,720 --> 00:07:15,920 Speaker 4: relationships at that point in your life, but it puts 132 00:07:15,920 --> 00:07:17,800 Speaker 4: you on a certain path. Of course, we'll get into 133 00:07:17,880 --> 00:07:20,640 Speaker 4: your marriage and divorce in a second, But what did 134 00:07:20,680 --> 00:07:24,440 Speaker 4: that do to you in shape what you thought a 135 00:07:24,480 --> 00:07:28,320 Speaker 4: relationship was should be and the type of person even 136 00:07:28,800 --> 00:07:29,680 Speaker 4: you were interested in. 137 00:07:30,280 --> 00:07:33,920 Speaker 3: Yeah. Look, I struggle still to this day with my 138 00:07:34,120 --> 00:07:38,240 Speaker 3: relationships and my my views on sex, and I kind of, 139 00:07:38,320 --> 00:07:39,920 Speaker 3: you know, I had to go through a lot of therapy, 140 00:07:40,080 --> 00:07:42,440 Speaker 3: like and you know, they looked at me and they're like, 141 00:07:42,800 --> 00:07:44,560 Speaker 3: this is the first time I'm admitting this. But they're like, 142 00:07:44,600 --> 00:07:46,720 Speaker 3: you might have like a little bit of a sex problem, 143 00:07:46,800 --> 00:07:49,000 Speaker 3: Like you have a little bit of a problem when 144 00:07:49,040 --> 00:07:50,240 Speaker 3: it comes to thinking of sex. 145 00:07:50,360 --> 00:07:52,440 Speaker 1: What kind of a sex problem, Kendra? What did they 146 00:07:52,480 --> 00:07:54,040 Speaker 1: What were you referring to specifically? 147 00:07:55,000 --> 00:07:58,240 Speaker 3: You know, it's just unhealthy thoughts, like just like not 148 00:07:59,080 --> 00:08:02,680 Speaker 3: really settling for like, you know, a marriage and stuff 149 00:08:02,720 --> 00:08:04,960 Speaker 3: like that, which is not I wouldn't say unhealthy. I'm 150 00:08:04,960 --> 00:08:07,880 Speaker 3: saying that, you know, everyone has their choices and some 151 00:08:07,920 --> 00:08:09,680 Speaker 3: people want to be single, some people want to be 152 00:08:09,720 --> 00:08:12,480 Speaker 3: married some people and I'm just you know, and I 153 00:08:12,520 --> 00:08:15,720 Speaker 3: and I'm more of a fun, idea type of person, 154 00:08:16,000 --> 00:08:21,000 Speaker 3: you know. So, but you know, my marriage, you know, 155 00:08:21,080 --> 00:08:24,680 Speaker 3: my marriage was at was my happiest days of my 156 00:08:24,920 --> 00:08:28,680 Speaker 3: entire life. My marriage were I mean, I'm telling you 157 00:08:29,000 --> 00:08:31,960 Speaker 3: those days were the happiest days of my life. And 158 00:08:32,040 --> 00:08:36,080 Speaker 3: so when those days came to an end, I crumbled 159 00:08:36,200 --> 00:08:41,440 Speaker 3: so hard and it almost killed me. It almost killed me. Wow, 160 00:08:41,559 --> 00:08:44,400 Speaker 3: I can say that I managed to. You know, I 161 00:08:44,520 --> 00:08:48,520 Speaker 3: left the playwek mansion at age twenty three, got pregnant, 162 00:08:49,440 --> 00:08:52,840 Speaker 3: got married at the age of twenty three, then started 163 00:08:52,880 --> 00:08:55,240 Speaker 3: my life as a as a wife and a mother, 164 00:08:55,679 --> 00:08:58,120 Speaker 3: and it was the golden years of my life. And 165 00:08:58,679 --> 00:09:00,680 Speaker 3: you know, I went from the play with me all 166 00:09:01,120 --> 00:09:04,680 Speaker 3: like all of a sudden too like this this this 167 00:09:04,679 --> 00:09:07,880 Speaker 3: this like marriage life in a blink of an eye, 168 00:09:08,040 --> 00:09:11,280 Speaker 3: and and it was the right timing. You know. I 169 00:09:11,480 --> 00:09:15,199 Speaker 3: I found myself just you know, so bored at the 170 00:09:15,240 --> 00:09:18,120 Speaker 3: playroom mansion. I was just like, I'm ready to leave 171 00:09:18,160 --> 00:09:20,920 Speaker 3: this place. I'm ready to start a family. I'm ready 172 00:09:20,960 --> 00:09:24,520 Speaker 3: for the I'm ready for like Calabasas lifestyle. You know, 173 00:09:24,720 --> 00:09:27,160 Speaker 3: my kids go to a great school. You know, I'm 174 00:09:27,200 --> 00:09:30,000 Speaker 3: a soccer mom, I'm a softball mom, like I'm a 175 00:09:30,040 --> 00:09:33,400 Speaker 3: basketball mom, like you know, like I was like ready 176 00:09:33,400 --> 00:09:36,800 Speaker 3: for that, and so it all came. I manifested it 177 00:09:36,840 --> 00:09:38,960 Speaker 3: and it came to me and I met the perfect man, 178 00:09:39,040 --> 00:09:41,719 Speaker 3: the man of my dreams, and he's still even though 179 00:09:41,720 --> 00:09:45,000 Speaker 3: we're divorced. He's the father of my kids, and he's 180 00:09:45,040 --> 00:09:47,720 Speaker 3: the most amazing father to my kids. And I know 181 00:09:47,840 --> 00:09:51,360 Speaker 3: I chose right with him, you know, even to this day. 182 00:09:51,440 --> 00:09:54,040 Speaker 4: Help you got to help help us and help other 183 00:09:54,040 --> 00:09:57,000 Speaker 4: people who will hear that the man of my dreams. 184 00:09:57,240 --> 00:09:59,560 Speaker 4: I was the happiest I'd ever been. He is a 185 00:09:59,600 --> 00:10:04,800 Speaker 4: great father to these kids. Why is that relationship not 186 00:10:05,320 --> 00:10:10,120 Speaker 4: still solid or even worth fighting for? Listening to you now, 187 00:10:10,240 --> 00:10:12,480 Speaker 4: it sounds like it's still something there. 188 00:10:12,880 --> 00:10:16,040 Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah there. Look, you know, like I'm one person 189 00:10:16,080 --> 00:10:19,199 Speaker 3: that can kind of you know, we're human, We're human. 190 00:10:19,240 --> 00:10:22,880 Speaker 3: We all have mistakes, We've all made mistakes, and you know, 191 00:10:23,000 --> 00:10:26,720 Speaker 3: we just made I think that Hank and I being young, 192 00:10:26,800 --> 00:10:29,240 Speaker 3: like we just made too many of them. And I 193 00:10:29,280 --> 00:10:33,200 Speaker 3: think that it was it wasn't repairable at a certain point. 194 00:10:33,559 --> 00:10:37,200 Speaker 3: So like we just decided to like cheers, like over 195 00:10:37,520 --> 00:10:39,960 Speaker 3: over a drink and be like, hey, let's call it 196 00:10:40,000 --> 00:10:43,360 Speaker 3: a day. Let's raise these kids, right, you know, let's 197 00:10:43,400 --> 00:10:47,640 Speaker 3: not you know, let's not chase like this this fantasy, 198 00:10:48,040 --> 00:10:52,560 Speaker 3: this fantasy, you know, and who knows, maybe later, you know, 199 00:10:53,360 --> 00:10:57,199 Speaker 3: I want I want that again. But let me tell 200 00:10:57,200 --> 00:11:00,680 Speaker 3: you something. I have not found it yet. I have 201 00:11:00,800 --> 00:11:04,400 Speaker 3: not found that thing again. So it's it's going to 202 00:11:04,480 --> 00:11:08,840 Speaker 3: be a hard This dating life is brutal, it's gross, 203 00:11:08,960 --> 00:11:12,840 Speaker 3: it's it's it's hard in it. And I'm not finding 204 00:11:13,000 --> 00:11:15,760 Speaker 3: I'm not finding a marriage number two just yet. 205 00:11:15,920 --> 00:11:17,640 Speaker 2: Well, Kendra, I'm just curious. 206 00:11:18,000 --> 00:11:21,840 Speaker 1: And for people who don't know you and your husband, Hank, 207 00:11:22,200 --> 00:11:25,160 Speaker 1: you divorced in twenty nineteen, but you stood by him 208 00:11:25,280 --> 00:11:29,800 Speaker 1: after a pretty big cheating scandal and uh, we don't 209 00:11:29,840 --> 00:11:31,400 Speaker 1: have to get into all of the details, but it 210 00:11:31,440 --> 00:11:34,160 Speaker 1: was very public and I can only imagine how that 211 00:11:34,240 --> 00:11:36,440 Speaker 1: must have felt. It must have felt humiliating for both 212 00:11:36,480 --> 00:11:38,680 Speaker 1: of you, with all the details that came. And it 213 00:11:38,720 --> 00:11:42,480 Speaker 1: was a he said, she said whatever, But you forgave 214 00:11:42,559 --> 00:11:42,960 Speaker 1: him for that. 215 00:11:43,600 --> 00:11:47,360 Speaker 2: They did, you took him back. So it seemed like, 216 00:11:47,400 --> 00:11:48,960 Speaker 2: my god, you guys got through. 217 00:11:48,840 --> 00:11:49,880 Speaker 3: That, we did. 218 00:11:50,440 --> 00:11:52,520 Speaker 2: Why couldn't you get through what was next? 219 00:11:52,559 --> 00:11:56,120 Speaker 1: What happened next that made it so it was not okay, 220 00:11:56,200 --> 00:11:57,680 Speaker 1: so that it was intolerable. 221 00:11:57,960 --> 00:12:02,560 Speaker 3: I honestly, there's a you know, it takes two people 222 00:12:02,600 --> 00:12:05,560 Speaker 3: to be in a relationship, and when one person has 223 00:12:06,040 --> 00:12:10,280 Speaker 3: when one person changes their minds on love and marriage, 224 00:12:11,080 --> 00:12:13,200 Speaker 3: that's how easy it is for it to fall apart. 225 00:12:13,559 --> 00:12:22,520 Speaker 3: So I will always always want my family back together. 226 00:12:23,040 --> 00:12:26,200 Speaker 3: I will always want that, so till the day I die, 227 00:12:26,400 --> 00:12:28,480 Speaker 3: I don't know, like if I have another chance at 228 00:12:28,520 --> 00:12:31,520 Speaker 3: marriage with that man or not, Like I will always 229 00:12:31,559 --> 00:12:36,040 Speaker 3: want my kids to have these two parents together. But 230 00:12:36,200 --> 00:12:39,120 Speaker 3: unfortunately that's a fantasy, you know. So I have to 231 00:12:39,200 --> 00:12:41,840 Speaker 3: march in the reality of things, and I have to 232 00:12:43,000 --> 00:12:45,640 Speaker 3: be in this disgusting scum dating. 233 00:12:45,960 --> 00:12:51,280 Speaker 1: Oh, Kendra, Kendra, it sounds it sounds like you're still 234 00:12:51,400 --> 00:12:53,120 Speaker 1: in love with Hank. 235 00:12:53,280 --> 00:12:55,120 Speaker 3: I will always be in love with Hank. I will 236 00:12:55,160 --> 00:12:57,520 Speaker 3: always be in love. And you know, mistakes are mistakes, 237 00:12:57,520 --> 00:13:00,480 Speaker 3: like we all make mistakes. I've made my mistakes, like 238 00:13:01,080 --> 00:13:04,040 Speaker 3: you know. And and but love will never go away. 239 00:13:04,160 --> 00:13:06,360 Speaker 3: And and if it's real love, you're you're gonna put 240 00:13:06,360 --> 00:13:09,480 Speaker 3: your pride aside and want the best for the other person. 241 00:13:09,880 --> 00:13:11,680 Speaker 3: And I and I want the best for the other 242 00:13:11,760 --> 00:13:15,480 Speaker 3: person so badly. I'm you know, I'm willing to be 243 00:13:15,640 --> 00:13:18,280 Speaker 3: you know, friends with him. I'm willing to like there's 244 00:13:18,320 --> 00:13:21,559 Speaker 3: no need for bitterness and there's no need for toxicity. 245 00:13:22,080 --> 00:13:26,560 Speaker 3: So I've through these last six years, I have done 246 00:13:26,800 --> 00:13:29,840 Speaker 3: so much therapy. I've gone even to the hospital for 247 00:13:29,920 --> 00:13:35,520 Speaker 3: seven days to just reprogram my thinking, and I did 248 00:13:35,559 --> 00:13:38,640 Speaker 3: that and it really works. So I'm now living in 249 00:13:38,640 --> 00:13:41,280 Speaker 3: the state of peace of mind. You know, I'm on 250 00:13:41,400 --> 00:13:43,880 Speaker 3: good meds. You know, I'm just in a really good 251 00:13:43,880 --> 00:13:47,079 Speaker 3: place right now. And you know, taking up but taking 252 00:13:47,160 --> 00:13:50,040 Speaker 3: up this uh, taking up this new venture and real 253 00:13:50,120 --> 00:13:54,360 Speaker 3: estate has really has really you know, got me to 254 00:13:54,440 --> 00:13:58,840 Speaker 3: focus in on that and not like so much you know, 255 00:13:59,040 --> 00:14:02,839 Speaker 3: like the past and you know, regrets and stuff like that. 256 00:14:02,920 --> 00:14:07,200 Speaker 3: So I'm like so focused on building my real estate 257 00:14:07,240 --> 00:14:11,160 Speaker 3: career that nothing is like, nothing is entering my my 258 00:14:11,280 --> 00:14:14,680 Speaker 3: world right now other than friends and fun and good stuff. 259 00:14:24,880 --> 00:14:27,600 Speaker 4: Kindred at this point, would you consider it almost a 260 00:14:27,720 --> 00:14:30,720 Speaker 4: setback to all the work you've done. If Hank approached 261 00:14:30,720 --> 00:14:34,480 Speaker 4: you sincerely and said, I want to talk about us 262 00:14:34,520 --> 00:14:36,920 Speaker 4: being together again. It sounds like certainly you haven't closed 263 00:14:36,920 --> 00:14:40,440 Speaker 4: the door necessarily completely your mind. But would that be 264 00:14:40,480 --> 00:14:43,440 Speaker 4: a bad thing for you to have to go back 265 00:14:43,440 --> 00:14:44,880 Speaker 4: to and start thinking about again. 266 00:14:45,480 --> 00:14:49,040 Speaker 3: I think that we would both have to be healed properly, 267 00:14:49,320 --> 00:14:51,840 Speaker 3: And I don't know that other person's healing. I'm not 268 00:14:51,920 --> 00:14:55,200 Speaker 3: that person, So you know, I think it just has 269 00:14:55,280 --> 00:15:00,840 Speaker 3: to do with like timing and heal, like healing and 270 00:15:00,840 --> 00:15:04,200 Speaker 3: and the wanting to be in a relationship, and some 271 00:15:04,280 --> 00:15:06,920 Speaker 3: people don't want to be if it's not with my 272 00:15:07,080 --> 00:15:10,640 Speaker 3: ex husband Hank, Like, I wouldn't want to. I don't. 273 00:15:10,680 --> 00:15:14,560 Speaker 3: I don't find it fun to want to settle for someone. 274 00:15:15,120 --> 00:15:17,160 Speaker 3: I don't find it. I'm kind of in a fun 275 00:15:17,280 --> 00:15:19,760 Speaker 3: zone right now. I'm about to sturt party in June, 276 00:15:20,560 --> 00:15:24,280 Speaker 3: so I have like fun ideas more than just like 277 00:15:25,240 --> 00:15:27,640 Speaker 3: settling for. Like there's like a couple guys in my 278 00:15:27,720 --> 00:15:30,880 Speaker 3: life and I'm like that one just send me flowers, 279 00:15:31,080 --> 00:15:33,400 Speaker 3: you know, And I'm just like, what is this for? 280 00:15:33,520 --> 00:15:36,560 Speaker 3: What is you know? Like I like, what what did 281 00:15:36,600 --> 00:15:39,600 Speaker 3: I do? Like, Like what what does he want? Like 282 00:15:39,840 --> 00:15:44,120 Speaker 3: I overthink everything, you know, And I'm just like I'm 283 00:15:44,120 --> 00:15:48,600 Speaker 3: not the type to probably settle down just yet with anybody. Now. 284 00:15:48,640 --> 00:15:50,480 Speaker 3: If my ex came to me and be like, let's 285 00:15:50,560 --> 00:15:52,040 Speaker 3: let's like have a family again, I'm. 286 00:15:52,000 --> 00:15:56,320 Speaker 1: Like, yeah. But other than that, it's going to have 287 00:15:56,360 --> 00:15:58,240 Speaker 1: to be Prince Darmans is He's gonna have to be 288 00:15:58,320 --> 00:16:00,880 Speaker 1: pretty wonderful too to catch you. 289 00:16:01,040 --> 00:16:03,400 Speaker 3: We had a great relationship we used to, you know, 290 00:16:03,480 --> 00:16:06,280 Speaker 3: I hold on to only happy memories. So we used 291 00:16:06,280 --> 00:16:08,800 Speaker 3: to go, like, you have a trailer, and we used to, 292 00:16:08,960 --> 00:16:12,600 Speaker 3: you know, take the trailer out all over the world, 293 00:16:12,680 --> 00:16:15,320 Speaker 3: all over the country, and and we used to like 294 00:16:16,200 --> 00:16:19,320 Speaker 3: go go to the lake, and like we had amazing summers. 295 00:16:19,320 --> 00:16:21,520 Speaker 3: We used to go back to his hometown for his 296 00:16:21,640 --> 00:16:25,800 Speaker 3: small hometown, and you know, for for for the holidays, 297 00:16:25,880 --> 00:16:28,280 Speaker 3: and we just I just hold on to happy memories. 298 00:16:28,360 --> 00:16:30,600 Speaker 3: And you know, I guess I have a problem with 299 00:16:30,680 --> 00:16:34,040 Speaker 3: trying to duplicate that so that someone doesn't come into 300 00:16:34,080 --> 00:16:36,800 Speaker 3: my life with like a you know, with with a 301 00:16:36,920 --> 00:16:39,240 Speaker 3: with a forward truck with a trailer on the back, 302 00:16:39,360 --> 00:16:42,600 Speaker 3: like let's go cam, Like I don't want it, you know, 303 00:16:43,360 --> 00:16:46,320 Speaker 3: it's like it's so weird. So if someone sends me flowers, 304 00:16:46,320 --> 00:16:49,000 Speaker 3: I'm like, I want to I want a trailer on 305 00:16:49,040 --> 00:16:51,040 Speaker 3: the back of a pickup truck, not a not a 306 00:16:51,320 --> 00:16:53,600 Speaker 3: not some flowers. Right now, it's. 307 00:16:53,480 --> 00:16:55,320 Speaker 2: Good to know what you want. That's very good to 308 00:16:55,360 --> 00:16:55,960 Speaker 2: know what you want. 309 00:16:56,240 --> 00:16:58,560 Speaker 4: Maybe we should introduce her. We're going to be talking 310 00:16:58,600 --> 00:17:01,680 Speaker 4: to the new guys from the show Former Wants a Wife. 311 00:17:01,720 --> 00:17:03,520 Speaker 5: We're gonna we're gonna be talking. 312 00:17:03,560 --> 00:17:05,800 Speaker 4: They have a lot of pickups and a lot of cowboys, 313 00:17:05,840 --> 00:17:07,480 Speaker 4: a lot of trailers among these guys. 314 00:17:07,480 --> 00:17:08,600 Speaker 5: So maybe well, there we. 315 00:17:08,600 --> 00:17:11,880 Speaker 3: Go, tell them about me. Please tell us, all. 316 00:17:11,920 --> 00:17:14,040 Speaker 2: Right, we will love us. That's a great idea to 317 00:17:14,200 --> 00:17:14,480 Speaker 2: j No. 318 00:17:14,600 --> 00:17:18,520 Speaker 1: But Kender, I've been seeing you putting out on social media. 319 00:17:18,840 --> 00:17:22,600 Speaker 1: You're working out, You're proud of what you look like 320 00:17:23,119 --> 00:17:25,879 Speaker 1: as you near forty, and you know what you do 321 00:17:25,960 --> 00:17:30,000 Speaker 1: look amazing. But you talked about in your Instagram post haters, 322 00:17:30,480 --> 00:17:35,280 Speaker 1: you're actually getting hate out there for being you and 323 00:17:35,320 --> 00:17:36,560 Speaker 1: being your amazing self. 324 00:17:38,160 --> 00:17:41,280 Speaker 3: It's just it's just so weird. You know. I feel 325 00:17:41,280 --> 00:17:45,640 Speaker 3: like I think I you know, I started Reality TV 326 00:17:45,760 --> 00:17:49,080 Speaker 3: and Playboy eighteen nineteen years old, and that's when the 327 00:17:49,119 --> 00:17:52,000 Speaker 3: peak of my fame was, you know, right around there. 328 00:17:52,200 --> 00:17:54,800 Speaker 3: So I think that people hold on to this this 329 00:17:54,920 --> 00:17:58,840 Speaker 3: image of me and I you know, I'm not saying everyone. 330 00:17:58,880 --> 00:18:02,600 Speaker 3: I'm saying certain people hold on to this image like oh, 331 00:18:02,640 --> 00:18:06,720 Speaker 3: you should always be this Playboy girl or whatever. But reality, 332 00:18:07,480 --> 00:18:10,680 Speaker 3: you know, the reality burst and bubble Popps a long 333 00:18:10,720 --> 00:18:13,320 Speaker 3: time ago. I'm a forty year old woman. You know, 334 00:18:13,400 --> 00:18:16,520 Speaker 3: I have love handles now, I have a bush like 335 00:18:16,720 --> 00:18:20,359 Speaker 3: you know, like it's it's it's it's not playboy anymore, Okay, 336 00:18:20,600 --> 00:18:23,600 Speaker 3: And it's it's not it's not cute, but it's you know, 337 00:18:23,600 --> 00:18:25,200 Speaker 3: it's going to be for the right man. 338 00:18:26,080 --> 00:18:28,440 Speaker 5: Is that going to help your dating prospects? And put 339 00:18:28,480 --> 00:18:31,200 Speaker 5: that out there? They come on, we're trying to help, 340 00:18:31,600 --> 00:18:32,000 Speaker 5: I know. 341 00:18:32,119 --> 00:18:35,399 Speaker 3: But that guy's gonna have to accept all of you know, 342 00:18:35,960 --> 00:18:38,720 Speaker 3: I love that though we're really getting older and that 343 00:18:39,080 --> 00:18:40,639 Speaker 3: and whoever is going to be with me is going 344 00:18:40,720 --> 00:18:43,479 Speaker 3: to love all of me for forever, like, not just 345 00:18:43,640 --> 00:18:46,800 Speaker 3: a part of me for a temporary so you know that. 346 00:18:47,000 --> 00:18:49,399 Speaker 3: So that person has to buckle up and ride that 347 00:18:49,520 --> 00:18:52,960 Speaker 3: rodeo all the way because it's it's not cute, it's 348 00:18:53,000 --> 00:18:56,720 Speaker 3: not playboy, it's it's nasty, as you know, can be 349 00:18:56,880 --> 00:19:00,960 Speaker 3: a lot of the times. I'm kind of a mess kender. 350 00:19:01,080 --> 00:19:02,120 Speaker 2: Is that empowering though? 351 00:19:02,160 --> 00:19:05,760 Speaker 1: Because I imagine being someone and we both you said it 352 00:19:05,800 --> 00:19:09,639 Speaker 1: to You were sexualized, you were coveted, you were drop 353 00:19:09,720 --> 00:19:12,560 Speaker 1: dead and you still are. But obviously at eighteen, it's 354 00:19:12,640 --> 00:19:16,520 Speaker 1: you can't ever be that again, this drop dead, gorgeous 355 00:19:16,720 --> 00:19:17,639 Speaker 1: playboy model. 356 00:19:19,040 --> 00:19:19,600 Speaker 2: A lot of. 357 00:19:19,560 --> 00:19:23,560 Speaker 1: Women in your position would create, and understandably so, all 358 00:19:23,600 --> 00:19:25,760 Speaker 1: their value in how they look. And then when you 359 00:19:25,800 --> 00:19:29,439 Speaker 1: start aging, it starts unraveling. How have you managed that? 360 00:19:29,480 --> 00:19:30,560 Speaker 1: Where that was the thing? 361 00:19:30,600 --> 00:19:33,080 Speaker 6: You know, people are like, Oh, she's so gorgeous, she's 362 00:19:33,119 --> 00:19:36,479 Speaker 6: a playboy model, she's perfect. How do you handle that 363 00:19:37,160 --> 00:19:41,560 Speaker 6: when now you are forty and dating again and there's 364 00:19:41,600 --> 00:19:44,280 Speaker 6: this image of you out there and maybe you even 365 00:19:44,320 --> 00:19:46,920 Speaker 6: hold it or at one point held it within yourself. 366 00:19:47,240 --> 00:19:48,159 Speaker 2: How do you manage that? 367 00:19:48,480 --> 00:19:54,320 Speaker 3: Yeah, look, I just take I'm one personally, this is 368 00:19:54,400 --> 00:19:57,200 Speaker 3: my journey. I'm on. I'm not. This isn't to preach 369 00:19:57,280 --> 00:20:00,399 Speaker 3: to anyone or to like everyone can live under their 370 00:20:00,440 --> 00:20:03,919 Speaker 3: own standards or their own lives. But for me, personally, 371 00:20:04,520 --> 00:20:07,600 Speaker 3: I'm on this road of just like like, even though 372 00:20:07,640 --> 00:20:09,600 Speaker 3: my boots are fake and I got a tummy tuck 373 00:20:09,680 --> 00:20:12,399 Speaker 3: one and I have a little botox in my face, Like, 374 00:20:12,520 --> 00:20:15,560 Speaker 3: I want to live in a pretty authentic life. So 375 00:20:15,960 --> 00:20:19,040 Speaker 3: like you know, and and with age, you know, I'm 376 00:20:19,080 --> 00:20:21,480 Speaker 3: all about law of attraction and stuff like that. So 377 00:20:22,760 --> 00:20:25,200 Speaker 3: I don't I don't feel like you know how Pam 378 00:20:25,240 --> 00:20:29,400 Speaker 3: Anderson is going makeup free and everything like that. I'm 379 00:20:29,400 --> 00:20:32,359 Speaker 3: this very similar. I have a very similar outlook on 380 00:20:32,440 --> 00:20:36,360 Speaker 3: life at the moment. So I've been sexualized for so much, 381 00:20:36,440 --> 00:20:39,320 Speaker 3: just like she was, you know, and we went through 382 00:20:39,400 --> 00:20:44,720 Speaker 3: similar things, and I'm kind of over chasing this fake thing. 383 00:20:44,800 --> 00:20:50,720 Speaker 3: I'm over I'm over chasing this thing. So in the meantime, like, 384 00:20:51,080 --> 00:20:54,360 Speaker 3: will I get boat talks again? Absolutely? You know, will 385 00:20:54,400 --> 00:20:58,399 Speaker 3: I work out, will I diet? Absolutely? But you know, 386 00:20:58,920 --> 00:21:01,160 Speaker 3: I'm just going to ride through life the way it's 387 00:21:01,160 --> 00:21:04,160 Speaker 3: supposed to go. And you know, if if a guy 388 00:21:04,240 --> 00:21:06,920 Speaker 3: doesn't like me because oh I just went on this date, 389 00:21:07,280 --> 00:21:10,760 Speaker 3: my dumb ass, my dumb ass, I go to this 390 00:21:11,040 --> 00:21:13,560 Speaker 3: I go on this date to Hawaii. This guy's like, 391 00:21:13,640 --> 00:21:15,560 Speaker 3: you're gonna go to Hawaii? And I'm like, yeah, He's like, 392 00:21:15,840 --> 00:21:19,240 Speaker 3: I don't date anyone over thirty. I'm like, whose problems that? 393 00:21:19,440 --> 00:21:22,399 Speaker 3: You know? That's not mine? You know that's not mine. 394 00:21:22,720 --> 00:21:26,080 Speaker 3: So I'm I'm not gonna sit here and like transform 395 00:21:26,119 --> 00:21:30,399 Speaker 3: myself to fit other people's needs anymore. I used to 396 00:21:30,440 --> 00:21:33,119 Speaker 3: do that, and Playboy, I used to like, you know, 397 00:21:33,760 --> 00:21:36,920 Speaker 3: need to look a certain way or need to feel 398 00:21:36,920 --> 00:21:40,399 Speaker 3: a certain way. But look, as long as I'm working 399 00:21:40,440 --> 00:21:44,280 Speaker 3: out at least three days a week, if I'm cooking 400 00:21:44,520 --> 00:21:48,320 Speaker 3: and cooking for me and my kids, I'm on the 401 00:21:48,359 --> 00:21:52,639 Speaker 3: right track mentally. I'm you know, I'm I feel fine. 402 00:21:52,880 --> 00:21:57,320 Speaker 3: I feel completely at peace with myself now other people, 403 00:21:57,840 --> 00:21:59,640 Speaker 3: you know, and I and I where like I only 404 00:21:59,680 --> 00:22:02,080 Speaker 3: have like five different outfits in my closet and I 405 00:22:02,160 --> 00:22:05,400 Speaker 3: just mixed and match him. I'm on a budget, like 406 00:22:05,800 --> 00:22:09,560 Speaker 3: I'm on a budget, Like I'm a single mom and 407 00:22:09,720 --> 00:22:12,000 Speaker 3: I'm on a budget, Like I'm not going to sit 408 00:22:12,040 --> 00:22:16,800 Speaker 3: here and get facelifts and stuff like that, Like no way, 409 00:22:17,119 --> 00:22:20,479 Speaker 3: I'm I'm I'm a saying. I'm like, even though Hank's 410 00:22:20,480 --> 00:22:23,919 Speaker 3: in the picture, I'm I'm alone on my end with 411 00:22:24,040 --> 00:22:26,280 Speaker 3: my own finances and stuff. I'm not going to sit 412 00:22:26,320 --> 00:22:30,359 Speaker 3: here and chase all these you know, these ridiculously priced 413 00:22:30,440 --> 00:22:34,119 Speaker 3: things and drain my bank account to like look a 414 00:22:34,119 --> 00:22:35,640 Speaker 3: certain way, you. 415 00:22:35,560 --> 00:22:37,520 Speaker 4: Know, But could you have to tell me how to 416 00:22:37,560 --> 00:22:40,280 Speaker 4: go back Hawaii? Did you end up in Hawaii or not? 417 00:22:40,560 --> 00:22:42,200 Speaker 3: I ended up in Hawaii. 418 00:22:42,320 --> 00:22:43,560 Speaker 5: On a date with a guy. 419 00:22:43,800 --> 00:22:47,680 Speaker 3: Okay, I met this guy a week ago, and not 420 00:22:47,920 --> 00:22:50,119 Speaker 3: not ago, not now, but like a couple months. So 421 00:22:50,200 --> 00:22:52,000 Speaker 3: I had met a guy a week before he went 422 00:22:52,040 --> 00:22:54,760 Speaker 3: to Hawaii and he's like, let's go to Hawaii. What 423 00:22:54,800 --> 00:22:56,400 Speaker 3: do you want to Let's go? And I said, sure, 424 00:22:56,440 --> 00:23:00,119 Speaker 3: it's better than going to some local pub, right, So 425 00:23:00,320 --> 00:23:03,199 Speaker 3: I'm like, let's go. Let's go. So we hop on 426 00:23:03,200 --> 00:23:06,080 Speaker 3: a flight and we go to Hawaii and let's just 427 00:23:06,080 --> 00:23:08,200 Speaker 3: say it was the most awkward. It was the most 428 00:23:08,280 --> 00:23:11,440 Speaker 3: coward date of my life. It was so awkward. 429 00:23:12,080 --> 00:23:13,560 Speaker 5: How long was it it was? 430 00:23:13,760 --> 00:23:16,159 Speaker 3: It was four days? We cut it to three days? 431 00:23:16,760 --> 00:23:17,200 Speaker 5: Oh my god. 432 00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:20,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, So that's that's bold, though, to go on basically 433 00:23:20,119 --> 00:23:23,480 Speaker 1: a first date with someone to Hawaii public. 434 00:23:23,520 --> 00:23:26,040 Speaker 3: You know, it's not like we were ever alone alone. 435 00:23:26,040 --> 00:23:28,239 Speaker 3: We were in a hotel or we were in a 436 00:23:28,320 --> 00:23:31,639 Speaker 3: plane at the airport. Like we weren't like alone alone. 437 00:23:31,680 --> 00:23:32,640 Speaker 3: So I felt. 438 00:23:32,359 --> 00:23:34,840 Speaker 2: Safe, but you but it was awkward. 439 00:23:34,960 --> 00:23:37,600 Speaker 3: He was cool, but like we just did not bond 440 00:23:37,680 --> 00:23:40,200 Speaker 3: and we were stuck on this trip together for three 441 00:23:40,280 --> 00:23:43,200 Speaker 3: days and it was it was a night It was 442 00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:43,800 Speaker 3: a nightmare. 443 00:23:44,080 --> 00:23:44,600 Speaker 1: It was a night. 444 00:23:45,160 --> 00:23:48,200 Speaker 5: Well, how do you meet people? How do you date? 445 00:23:48,240 --> 00:23:49,920 Speaker 4: How does it usually come about? 446 00:23:50,400 --> 00:23:53,200 Speaker 3: You know, it just has to come naturally, Like I've 447 00:23:53,200 --> 00:23:55,520 Speaker 3: never been on a dating app. As a matter of fact, 448 00:23:55,640 --> 00:23:59,760 Speaker 3: I've been. I've been on the Raya Riya dating list 449 00:24:00,040 --> 00:24:04,879 Speaker 3: waiting app waiting list for about five years now for 450 00:24:04,960 --> 00:24:08,639 Speaker 3: about what they will not let me in Why No, 451 00:24:09,240 --> 00:24:11,720 Speaker 3: I don't know, so I have not done it yet. 452 00:24:12,040 --> 00:24:16,080 Speaker 3: I've never done a dating app, and it's just been it. 453 00:24:16,640 --> 00:24:19,240 Speaker 3: Usually men like will pop up, Like I go to 454 00:24:19,280 --> 00:24:21,800 Speaker 3: the bar sometimes when I'm not with my kids and 455 00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:23,480 Speaker 3: a guy will just come to the bar and I'll 456 00:24:23,480 --> 00:24:25,359 Speaker 3: be like, what are you doing tonight? I'm the one 457 00:24:25,359 --> 00:24:28,280 Speaker 3: who I'm I'm the man because if I have some 458 00:24:28,440 --> 00:24:31,600 Speaker 3: time away from my kids, I got to get done. 459 00:24:32,080 --> 00:24:37,800 Speaker 2: Like I love that. So you approach the men and 460 00:24:37,800 --> 00:24:39,080 Speaker 2: you say, what are you doing tonight? 461 00:24:39,400 --> 00:24:41,600 Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm usually the guy in the situation. 462 00:24:42,280 --> 00:24:46,879 Speaker 1: Yeah, that's amazing and it works. 463 00:24:46,400 --> 00:24:50,280 Speaker 3: It works, it works, And I do have two very young, 464 00:24:50,400 --> 00:24:55,199 Speaker 3: attractive like x NFL players that are like all up 465 00:24:55,240 --> 00:24:56,840 Speaker 3: on me right now, and it kind of you know, 466 00:24:56,880 --> 00:24:57,920 Speaker 3: that makes me feel young. 467 00:24:59,040 --> 00:25:02,760 Speaker 4: Okay, you said very young. What's very young? NFL? 468 00:25:02,960 --> 00:25:05,760 Speaker 3: I'm thirty nine, so like you young for me is 469 00:25:05,840 --> 00:25:09,000 Speaker 3: like thirty five, So it's young. 470 00:25:09,200 --> 00:25:12,640 Speaker 5: That's young. And you like your NFL guys apparently. 471 00:25:13,720 --> 00:25:15,600 Speaker 3: Like the I wish I could. I wish I could 472 00:25:15,640 --> 00:25:17,840 Speaker 3: show them to the world and be like that will 473 00:25:17,840 --> 00:25:22,960 Speaker 3: make that's like instant botox for me. Like really, it's 474 00:25:23,000 --> 00:25:25,000 Speaker 3: just like the it's like the mood become like I 475 00:25:25,119 --> 00:25:28,159 Speaker 3: become instantly hot again if I showed a picture of 476 00:25:28,880 --> 00:25:31,280 Speaker 3: who I'm, who have, who I'm having sex with at 477 00:25:31,280 --> 00:25:31,680 Speaker 3: the moment. 478 00:25:33,840 --> 00:25:37,960 Speaker 1: Now, how much of your dating life, if any, do 479 00:25:38,040 --> 00:25:40,000 Speaker 1: you share with your kids? Because how old are they now? 480 00:25:40,040 --> 00:25:43,879 Speaker 1: Fifteen and fifteen and ten and ten? What do they 481 00:25:43,920 --> 00:25:46,240 Speaker 1: know about mommy's dating life? Oh? 482 00:25:46,320 --> 00:25:48,760 Speaker 3: Man, we're so open about it. We're just we're just 483 00:25:48,800 --> 00:25:52,160 Speaker 3: really open. We're we're an open household. And they think 484 00:25:52,200 --> 00:25:55,920 Speaker 3: I'm funny, they think I'm you know, it's a very 485 00:25:55,920 --> 00:25:59,359 Speaker 3: it's a very lighthearted household I have and we have 486 00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:03,760 Speaker 3: such a great relationship. So just yesterday we let we 487 00:26:03,760 --> 00:26:07,520 Speaker 3: were at We're at a restaurant and we're talking about 488 00:26:07,640 --> 00:26:10,520 Speaker 3: love and I'm like, so, Hank, you know. To my son, 489 00:26:10,560 --> 00:26:13,480 Speaker 3: I'm like, do you have a girlfriend? And Elijah, my 490 00:26:13,480 --> 00:26:16,200 Speaker 3: Grood daughter, I'm like, do you have a boyfriend? And 491 00:26:16,240 --> 00:26:19,720 Speaker 3: they're like no, She's like no, mama. And then but 492 00:26:19,840 --> 00:26:22,880 Speaker 3: my son's like yeah, I'm like, oh, let's see, let's 493 00:26:22,880 --> 00:26:26,320 Speaker 3: see a picture. Ever, she's so pretty. And then and 494 00:26:26,359 --> 00:26:28,760 Speaker 3: they're like looking at me, I'm like, well, your guys' 495 00:26:28,840 --> 00:26:34,200 Speaker 3: day life better than mine was like nothing I have nothing, 496 00:26:34,440 --> 00:26:37,280 Speaker 3: Like I might dabble into some sex every now and then, 497 00:26:37,320 --> 00:26:39,679 Speaker 3: but I I but to date and to and to 498 00:26:39,720 --> 00:26:43,280 Speaker 3: build be in a relationship. It's the longest bar fetched 499 00:26:43,280 --> 00:26:47,080 Speaker 3: thing I could possibly feel at the moment, like I 500 00:26:47,080 --> 00:26:50,199 Speaker 3: I hope it comes. I I think I have, Like 501 00:26:50,520 --> 00:26:53,479 Speaker 3: I'm in a bachelorette type of vibe right now. Like 502 00:26:53,560 --> 00:26:55,879 Speaker 3: I'm about to turn forty. I have a fortieth birthday 503 00:26:55,960 --> 00:26:59,800 Speaker 3: to celebrate in Vegas. So it's like a marriage. So 504 00:27:00,000 --> 00:27:02,960 Speaker 3: think of it like the marriage thing, Like I have 505 00:27:03,080 --> 00:27:04,960 Speaker 3: a couple of things I need to do before I 506 00:27:04,960 --> 00:27:05,760 Speaker 3: get married again. 507 00:27:07,000 --> 00:27:09,800 Speaker 4: Could you don't get married in Vegas on the fortieth Okay, 508 00:27:10,560 --> 00:27:12,040 Speaker 4: please don't get married in Vegas. 509 00:27:13,640 --> 00:27:16,760 Speaker 3: If I do, it'll be with like three guys, just 510 00:27:16,800 --> 00:27:19,359 Speaker 3: like half like I reverse it. I'd be like with 511 00:27:19,480 --> 00:27:20,359 Speaker 3: three different guys. 512 00:27:20,440 --> 00:27:32,160 Speaker 2: Oh yeah, it's so interesting. 513 00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:35,680 Speaker 1: Having had that experience with Hugh Hefner, then you obviously 514 00:27:36,359 --> 00:27:40,199 Speaker 1: had an amazing experience being married. But would you just 515 00:27:40,280 --> 00:27:45,600 Speaker 1: having had that experience now polygamy, polyamorous behaviors is so accepted, 516 00:27:45,600 --> 00:27:48,879 Speaker 1: I mean, would you consider an I would say, a 517 00:27:48,920 --> 00:27:51,640 Speaker 1: non traditional relationship because you've already had one at a time, 518 00:27:51,680 --> 00:27:54,320 Speaker 1: Maybe when it wasn't as accepted, but now it's so 519 00:27:54,440 --> 00:27:54,800 Speaker 1: much more. 520 00:27:54,960 --> 00:27:55,800 Speaker 2: Do you would that. 521 00:27:55,760 --> 00:27:58,800 Speaker 1: Even be in the realm of possibilities? 522 00:27:59,160 --> 00:28:03,840 Speaker 3: Yeah, definitely. I I know that sounds like freakish and taboo, 523 00:28:03,960 --> 00:28:07,920 Speaker 3: but I probably would. I'd probably explore that a little bit. 524 00:28:09,240 --> 00:28:12,680 Speaker 3: I probably want to. Who knows if it'll happen. Who 525 00:28:12,720 --> 00:28:14,520 Speaker 3: knows the reality, you know, who knows that that will 526 00:28:14,520 --> 00:28:18,159 Speaker 3: happen or not? But like, I'm open to that. I 527 00:28:18,160 --> 00:28:21,639 Speaker 3: think it would be kind of fun. You know, the 528 00:28:21,680 --> 00:28:23,240 Speaker 3: best of the best taught me how to do it. 529 00:28:24,760 --> 00:28:27,439 Speaker 3: You have to have taught me what it's like the 530 00:28:27,480 --> 00:28:30,800 Speaker 3: OG the o G. I I only had the best 531 00:28:30,840 --> 00:28:35,960 Speaker 3: the OG like influencer on you know. So yeah, I 532 00:28:35,960 --> 00:28:38,760 Speaker 3: mean maybe I do want to get married again, though 533 00:28:38,840 --> 00:28:41,000 Speaker 3: I do. I do, so I just have to clean 534 00:28:41,120 --> 00:28:43,240 Speaker 3: up a little bit and get ready for all, like 535 00:28:43,360 --> 00:28:44,400 Speaker 3: start manifesting that. 536 00:28:45,000 --> 00:28:47,800 Speaker 4: Okay, you're you're open to it and you're not seeking 537 00:28:47,840 --> 00:28:49,680 Speaker 4: it out now if I heard you're right, but you're 538 00:28:49,720 --> 00:28:52,240 Speaker 4: still you will remain open to it. I think it's fair. 539 00:28:52,440 --> 00:28:55,080 Speaker 3: Well, you know, you know what happened. So like the 540 00:28:55,160 --> 00:28:58,200 Speaker 3: other day, I'm with this guy and the guy who 541 00:28:58,240 --> 00:29:01,080 Speaker 3: sent me flowers and he he talks a lot about 542 00:29:01,120 --> 00:29:03,600 Speaker 3: being with other women, and I'm like, and it doesn't 543 00:29:03,640 --> 00:29:06,120 Speaker 3: bother me. I think it's with age or something. I 544 00:29:06,280 --> 00:29:08,479 Speaker 3: kind of like, I don't really care. I'm just kind 545 00:29:08,520 --> 00:29:11,560 Speaker 3: of like, Wow, I don't have that jealousy thing anymore. 546 00:29:11,640 --> 00:29:14,760 Speaker 3: I used to have a jealousy thing when I was younger, 547 00:29:14,800 --> 00:29:16,640 Speaker 3: when I was in my twenties. I was married in 548 00:29:16,640 --> 00:29:18,840 Speaker 3: my twenties, and I used to be all crazy like, 549 00:29:19,080 --> 00:29:20,880 Speaker 3: don't what girl you're looking at? Are you looking at 550 00:29:20,880 --> 00:29:22,440 Speaker 3: that girl? Why are you looking at that girl? Why you? 551 00:29:23,120 --> 00:29:26,640 Speaker 3: And now now and now I don't have I don't 552 00:29:26,720 --> 00:29:30,360 Speaker 3: feel jealous anymore. Like I it's like if a guy 553 00:29:30,440 --> 00:29:33,080 Speaker 3: wants another girl, like, so be it. That's not my family. 554 00:29:33,120 --> 00:29:36,320 Speaker 3: I'll just go my own way or something. But all 555 00:29:36,520 --> 00:29:40,080 Speaker 3: but I'm this one particular guy was talking a lot 556 00:29:40,120 --> 00:29:42,280 Speaker 3: about being with another He even showed me other women, 557 00:29:42,320 --> 00:29:44,680 Speaker 3: and I'm just like, oh, that's cool, like the guy 558 00:29:44,720 --> 00:29:46,800 Speaker 3: who sent me flowers, and I'm like, oh, I would 559 00:29:46,800 --> 00:29:48,600 Speaker 3: still be with him. You know, I would still be 560 00:29:48,680 --> 00:29:52,400 Speaker 3: with him. So I don't know if an open marriage is. 561 00:29:54,120 --> 00:29:56,520 Speaker 3: I don't know if I would do that, but you know, 562 00:29:56,640 --> 00:29:59,840 Speaker 3: it feels like I would do it just because, like, 563 00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:03,480 Speaker 3: I don't want to feel that toxicity ever again in 564 00:30:03,520 --> 00:30:06,880 Speaker 3: my life. I never want to feel jealous or toxic 565 00:30:07,120 --> 00:30:10,719 Speaker 3: or feel those weird jealousy feelings anyway. It's like the 566 00:30:10,800 --> 00:30:14,360 Speaker 3: worst that to me is probably the worst feeling ever. 567 00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:17,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, that's it. It's a feeling of insecurity. 568 00:30:17,600 --> 00:30:19,920 Speaker 1: But if you're confident enough in who you are and 569 00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:21,720 Speaker 1: you know what you want and you know what you 570 00:30:21,760 --> 00:30:22,760 Speaker 1: don't want, I'm curious. 571 00:30:22,840 --> 00:30:25,720 Speaker 2: You've shared so much of your life on reality TV. 572 00:30:25,800 --> 00:30:28,920 Speaker 1: Would you ever go on a reality dating show to 573 00:30:29,000 --> 00:30:29,560 Speaker 1: find love? 574 00:30:30,160 --> 00:30:36,640 Speaker 3: You know what? Guess what happened? So what, I created 575 00:30:37,000 --> 00:30:40,880 Speaker 3: my own dating show. I created it and it was 576 00:30:40,920 --> 00:30:45,040 Speaker 3: called Kendra's Funhouse, and it was gonna be me in 577 00:30:45,080 --> 00:30:49,479 Speaker 3: a house with a bunch of guys. I came up 578 00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:51,520 Speaker 3: with it one day when I was drunk, and I 579 00:30:51,560 --> 00:30:54,280 Speaker 3: was like, this is like the best idea ever. Ooh 580 00:30:54,320 --> 00:30:57,200 Speaker 3: toget with all these hot guys like them be castid 581 00:30:57,240 --> 00:30:59,200 Speaker 3: and like I get all, like I just saw myself 582 00:30:59,200 --> 00:31:01,480 Speaker 3: in a hot tub like rubbing their ads and stuff 583 00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:04,440 Speaker 3: like that, and then how fun of a show would 584 00:31:04,440 --> 00:31:06,640 Speaker 3: that be? So I created and I pitched it and 585 00:31:06,680 --> 00:31:09,160 Speaker 3: they and it actually it was about to get picked up, 586 00:31:09,240 --> 00:31:13,320 Speaker 3: and I freaked out. No, I don't want to do it. 587 00:31:13,320 --> 00:31:14,160 Speaker 3: I don't want to do it. 588 00:31:14,560 --> 00:31:18,160 Speaker 2: What how long ago was this? 589 00:31:18,160 --> 00:31:19,400 Speaker 3: This was like a year ago. 590 00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:23,680 Speaker 5: It was your dream. It was you're gonna get paid 591 00:31:23,720 --> 00:31:24,240 Speaker 5: for your dream. 592 00:31:24,640 --> 00:31:26,840 Speaker 3: So I freaked out because my son goes to a 593 00:31:26,960 --> 00:31:27,920 Speaker 3: Christian school. 594 00:31:31,200 --> 00:31:33,440 Speaker 2: Okay, okay, that makes sense. 595 00:31:33,560 --> 00:31:36,600 Speaker 1: But like you know, in three years, it'll be eighteen 596 00:31:36,760 --> 00:31:38,000 Speaker 1: and it won't matter anymore. 597 00:31:38,160 --> 00:31:42,240 Speaker 3: Okay, okay, maybe I should Maybe I should pitch that again. 598 00:31:42,560 --> 00:31:43,880 Speaker 3: Maybe I should pitch it again. 599 00:31:44,960 --> 00:31:47,800 Speaker 4: Do you watch any of the reality dating shows at 600 00:31:47,840 --> 00:31:49,560 Speaker 4: all and go, wow, I would be on that one 601 00:31:49,640 --> 00:31:51,560 Speaker 4: or I could be good on that one, anything like that. 602 00:31:51,680 --> 00:31:55,360 Speaker 3: No, that's why I I've always created my own shows 603 00:31:55,360 --> 00:31:57,680 Speaker 3: because I don't watch any TV, and I just all 604 00:31:57,720 --> 00:32:00,400 Speaker 3: I know is how to entertain myself with my solf 605 00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:03,719 Speaker 3: of about my life. Like I'm in my own category 606 00:32:03,800 --> 00:32:07,800 Speaker 3: of like life. So that's what I would That's I 607 00:32:07,800 --> 00:32:10,360 Speaker 3: would want to do my own show for sure, and 608 00:32:10,360 --> 00:32:13,600 Speaker 3: and you know, and and date. I wouldn't mind finding 609 00:32:13,720 --> 00:32:17,360 Speaker 3: love on camera. I think there's one part of me 610 00:32:17,760 --> 00:32:21,440 Speaker 3: that has never been seen before, and that's dating Kendra dating. 611 00:32:23,880 --> 00:32:27,680 Speaker 1: You've always been in a relationship, always been in a relationship. 612 00:32:28,160 --> 00:32:29,560 Speaker 2: That's so fascinating. 613 00:32:29,800 --> 00:32:30,960 Speaker 3: We have to make it happen. 614 00:32:31,880 --> 00:32:34,440 Speaker 1: Okay, let's it starts here. It began here, it was 615 00:32:34,480 --> 00:32:35,200 Speaker 1: announced here. 616 00:32:36,120 --> 00:32:36,720 Speaker 2: I'm Kendra. 617 00:32:36,840 --> 00:32:38,960 Speaker 1: We just talked actually when we were in La where 618 00:32:38,960 --> 00:32:41,760 Speaker 1: you were are right now. We talked with I don't 619 00:32:41,760 --> 00:32:43,680 Speaker 1: know if you know who Britney Cartwright is from vander 620 00:32:43,720 --> 00:32:44,320 Speaker 1: Pump Rules. 621 00:32:44,360 --> 00:32:45,360 Speaker 2: She's got the Valley. 622 00:32:45,400 --> 00:32:48,000 Speaker 1: Now she's in the midst of a very public divorce 623 00:32:48,080 --> 00:32:50,560 Speaker 1: and she was going through it still and you could 624 00:32:50,560 --> 00:32:53,000 Speaker 1: tell the emotion was raw and real. I mean, she 625 00:32:53,000 --> 00:32:55,800 Speaker 1: she's still going through the divorce. Would you have any 626 00:32:55,840 --> 00:33:00,560 Speaker 1: advice for her? Having gone through a public scandal, is divorced, 627 00:33:00,560 --> 00:33:02,480 Speaker 1: where everyone's writing everything. 628 00:33:02,080 --> 00:33:04,600 Speaker 2: You say, every you know, what would you what advice 629 00:33:04,640 --> 00:33:05,560 Speaker 2: would you give Brittany? 630 00:33:05,840 --> 00:33:09,080 Speaker 3: Oh, take a break from the media, like you know, 631 00:33:09,160 --> 00:33:13,680 Speaker 3: it's take a major step back and and really focus 632 00:33:13,840 --> 00:33:17,080 Speaker 3: in on yourself right now, because you know it could 633 00:33:17,120 --> 00:33:21,360 Speaker 3: get super ugly, It can get messy. The more you 634 00:33:21,400 --> 00:33:23,640 Speaker 3: give to the media and the and the limelight, the 635 00:33:24,080 --> 00:33:26,000 Speaker 3: more you're going to get back. And sometimes it's not 636 00:33:26,760 --> 00:33:30,200 Speaker 3: good with what comes back to you. And so it's just, 637 00:33:30,800 --> 00:33:33,520 Speaker 3: you know, handle as much as you can in private, 638 00:33:34,080 --> 00:33:36,520 Speaker 3: you know, as much as possible. I know, she has 639 00:33:36,560 --> 00:33:39,480 Speaker 3: a job to entertain, she has a job, she gets 640 00:33:39,520 --> 00:33:43,920 Speaker 3: paid to put her life out there. But do the 641 00:33:43,960 --> 00:33:47,400 Speaker 3: best you can with handling you know, the situation in private. 642 00:33:48,280 --> 00:33:51,400 Speaker 3: You know, I think their kids or kid is getting older, 643 00:33:52,000 --> 00:33:56,120 Speaker 3: you know, to clean, you know, just and be as 644 00:33:56,200 --> 00:33:59,840 Speaker 3: giving as possible, even though it hurts, and even though 645 00:34:00,160 --> 00:34:03,080 Speaker 3: like that person hurt you like, do as much as 646 00:34:03,080 --> 00:34:08,279 Speaker 3: you can to like you know, you know, just know 647 00:34:08,360 --> 00:34:09,920 Speaker 3: that you're going to be stuck with this person for 648 00:34:09,960 --> 00:34:11,799 Speaker 3: the rest of your life. And do the best you 649 00:34:11,880 --> 00:34:17,400 Speaker 3: can with you know, diffusing, diffusing the situation, diffusing any 650 00:34:17,440 --> 00:34:18,759 Speaker 3: negative toxicity. 651 00:34:19,719 --> 00:34:22,239 Speaker 4: That's a This is really Candri. This is one of 652 00:34:22,280 --> 00:34:24,400 Speaker 4: the reason that I have certainly I think I speak 653 00:34:24,400 --> 00:34:27,520 Speaker 4: for robes here love doing I do Part two this podcast. 654 00:34:28,040 --> 00:34:30,600 Speaker 4: It has surprised us. I think at every turn to 655 00:34:30,680 --> 00:34:33,840 Speaker 4: talk to people, when you there's something everybody thinks about 656 00:34:33,840 --> 00:34:36,279 Speaker 4: you when they hear your name. I just heard you 657 00:34:36,320 --> 00:34:39,800 Speaker 4: give an answer that you probably cannot imagine an eighteen 658 00:34:39,880 --> 00:34:43,400 Speaker 4: nineteen year old Kindra living in that house giving in 659 00:34:43,480 --> 00:34:46,960 Speaker 4: terms of advice of get out of the public eye 660 00:34:47,160 --> 00:34:51,840 Speaker 4: and handle your personal business. That was such good advice 661 00:34:52,320 --> 00:34:55,520 Speaker 4: in my opinion. But were you the girl in that position, 662 00:34:56,600 --> 00:34:59,600 Speaker 4: You're giving her the advice that you would have never taken. 663 00:34:59,719 --> 00:35:01,120 Speaker 5: Yeah, yeah, back in the day. 664 00:35:01,040 --> 00:35:05,000 Speaker 3: Yes thousand percent, Yes, thousand percent. So there. Like I 665 00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:07,920 Speaker 3: said earlier, I come with a lot of regrets when 666 00:35:07,920 --> 00:35:12,600 Speaker 3: it comes to show business and media. So I did 667 00:35:12,760 --> 00:35:16,680 Speaker 3: handle a lot of my things too publicly and it 668 00:35:17,120 --> 00:35:19,960 Speaker 3: you know, and I didn't really see it then because 669 00:35:20,040 --> 00:35:22,799 Speaker 3: I was living in the moment, you know, But later on, 670 00:35:23,760 --> 00:35:26,560 Speaker 3: later on, years down the line, I look back and 671 00:35:26,560 --> 00:35:28,359 Speaker 3: I was like, why did I say, Why did I 672 00:35:28,440 --> 00:35:31,080 Speaker 3: do that? Why? Why did I feel the need to 673 00:35:31,800 --> 00:35:35,360 Speaker 3: tell the world way too much? You know, And it 674 00:35:35,600 --> 00:35:39,880 Speaker 3: just it just gets really messy, really fast. And you know, 675 00:35:39,920 --> 00:35:42,320 Speaker 3: you might you might not feel it at the moment, 676 00:35:42,840 --> 00:35:46,000 Speaker 3: but later on you will be thinking about it. So 677 00:35:47,080 --> 00:35:50,080 Speaker 3: I wish I could turn back time and take back 678 00:35:50,120 --> 00:35:53,560 Speaker 3: a few things, you know, Like I went on you know, 679 00:35:54,480 --> 00:35:58,279 Speaker 3: after you know, after Hank and I went through our problems, 680 00:35:58,480 --> 00:36:01,319 Speaker 3: I went on all these live TV shows and I 681 00:36:01,400 --> 00:36:05,560 Speaker 3: just gave all these interviews without healing. I never you know, 682 00:36:05,600 --> 00:36:11,239 Speaker 3: I never went through therapy. Instead I used, you know, 683 00:36:11,360 --> 00:36:18,319 Speaker 3: the media and entertainment to be my therapy, and that 684 00:36:18,520 --> 00:36:20,400 Speaker 3: was the wrong way to do it. You know, I 685 00:36:20,480 --> 00:36:23,680 Speaker 3: let the devil in, I let the darkness in instead 686 00:36:23,680 --> 00:36:26,440 Speaker 3: of getting the proper support and the proper help and 687 00:36:26,480 --> 00:36:31,839 Speaker 3: the proper therapy to truly move forward. You know, I 688 00:36:31,960 --> 00:36:35,680 Speaker 3: just got refueled every time I did an interview, every 689 00:36:35,719 --> 00:36:38,960 Speaker 3: time I did something, it would trigger me and I 690 00:36:39,000 --> 00:36:41,239 Speaker 3: would fall back into a depression. I would fall back 691 00:36:41,239 --> 00:36:43,560 Speaker 3: into a depression. I would fall back into a depression. 692 00:36:44,040 --> 00:36:47,839 Speaker 3: So you know, like as much as you possibly can't, 693 00:36:47,880 --> 00:36:50,600 Speaker 3: you just got to diffuse it as soon as possible, 694 00:36:50,840 --> 00:36:53,200 Speaker 3: so you don't just keep living in the same cycle 695 00:36:53,280 --> 00:36:55,919 Speaker 3: of of toxicity. 696 00:36:56,719 --> 00:36:59,480 Speaker 1: Well, Kendra, I have to say to hear where you 697 00:36:59,520 --> 00:37:02,960 Speaker 1: are now and what you said today was nothing but 698 00:37:03,239 --> 00:37:09,400 Speaker 1: kindness and love extended towards Hank even you know, towards yourself. 699 00:37:09,880 --> 00:37:15,160 Speaker 1: I see, and I think everyone listening can hear. Those 700 00:37:15,239 --> 00:37:18,240 Speaker 1: regrets have now created the person who you are today. 701 00:37:18,320 --> 00:37:20,560 Speaker 1: So I know, and I hope you feel proud of that, 702 00:37:20,640 --> 00:37:25,520 Speaker 1: because it's remarkable to see you use that pain and 703 00:37:25,600 --> 00:37:27,640 Speaker 1: those mistakes. But isn't that what mistakes are for? So 704 00:37:27,680 --> 00:37:30,000 Speaker 1: we can become better people. So I just I applaud 705 00:37:30,040 --> 00:37:32,880 Speaker 1: you for sharing as much as you have today, but 706 00:37:32,920 --> 00:37:36,759 Speaker 1: sharing it with love and with kindness. That was beautiful 707 00:37:36,800 --> 00:37:39,720 Speaker 1: to hear you talk about your ex husband that way. 708 00:37:40,280 --> 00:37:42,640 Speaker 1: And it's a lesson for all of us to learn, 709 00:37:43,000 --> 00:37:45,880 Speaker 1: because you know, everyone on the show has exes, right, 710 00:37:46,120 --> 00:37:49,200 Speaker 1: and a lot of the folks listening do too. We're 711 00:37:49,280 --> 00:37:52,440 Speaker 1: racking them up, but yes, it's it's an important thing 712 00:37:52,480 --> 00:37:55,680 Speaker 1: to remember, especially when children are involved. So I just 713 00:37:55,719 --> 00:37:59,400 Speaker 1: want to thank you for your openness and just how 714 00:37:59,840 --> 00:38:02,200 Speaker 1: youautiful your words have been to mean so much. 715 00:38:02,239 --> 00:38:04,279 Speaker 3: Thanks you, Thank you so much for having me. Yeah, 716 00:38:04,320 --> 00:38:07,640 Speaker 3: I just think that, you know, it's it's the truth 717 00:38:07,719 --> 00:38:10,640 Speaker 3: that we're all human beings and we all are suffering 718 00:38:10,680 --> 00:38:13,280 Speaker 3: our own on our own path in some way, shape 719 00:38:13,360 --> 00:38:16,360 Speaker 3: or form, and we all deserve you know, I'm not 720 00:38:16,440 --> 00:38:21,319 Speaker 3: saying we all deserve forgiveness to some degree. We get 721 00:38:21,360 --> 00:38:25,640 Speaker 3: deserve second, third, sometimes third chances, and I think that's 722 00:38:25,800 --> 00:38:27,360 Speaker 3: that's how life should go, you know. 723 00:38:29,080 --> 00:38:34,560 Speaker 4: Yeah, all right, and this is she said. 724 00:38:34,640 --> 00:38:35,759 Speaker 5: I can't say anybody than she said. 725 00:38:35,800 --> 00:38:38,000 Speaker 4: It's just been an absolute treat and it's a pleasure 726 00:38:38,080 --> 00:38:39,560 Speaker 4: to meet you, and we're going to keep our eye out. 727 00:38:40,440 --> 00:38:40,840 Speaker 5: Reminder. 728 00:38:41,239 --> 00:38:44,399 Speaker 3: Yeah, and someone sticks out, please let me, Please let 729 00:38:44,440 --> 00:38:47,520 Speaker 3: them know that I'm single. I'm ready to mingle. 730 00:38:48,440 --> 00:38:50,920 Speaker 4: But if he doesn't have a pick up, a trailer 731 00:38:51,040 --> 00:38:54,160 Speaker 4: or an NFL contract, he need not apply. 732 00:38:54,360 --> 00:38:58,600 Speaker 3: All take a Lamborghini and a dinner at Noboo Malibu. 733 00:38:59,160 --> 00:39:03,799 Speaker 5: You know that great spot, good good taste. All right, kind, 734 00:39:04,080 --> 00:39:07,160 Speaker 5: Thank you so much, Ladys, Thank. 735 00:39:07,000 --> 00:39:08,640 Speaker 3: You, Kendra, Thanks Guy. 736 00:39:09,840 --> 00:39:12,239 Speaker 2: To our listeners out there, we are here to help you. 737 00:39:12,400 --> 00:39:15,000 Speaker 1: Have you been having a hard time navigating your own 738 00:39:15,040 --> 00:39:17,080 Speaker 1: divorce or are you ready to get back to dating 739 00:39:17,120 --> 00:39:19,160 Speaker 1: but you don't know where to start. Well, you can 740 00:39:19,200 --> 00:39:21,400 Speaker 1: call us, you can email us, you can follow us 741 00:39:21,480 --> 00:39:24,719 Speaker 1: on all the social media sites. All the information will 742 00:39:24,760 --> 00:39:26,399 Speaker 1: be in the show notes, so make sure to rate 743 00:39:26,440 --> 00:39:30,480 Speaker 1: and review the podcast. I Do Part two an iHeartRadio 744 00:39:30,520 --> 00:39:33,520 Speaker 1: podcast where falling in love is the main objective.