1 00:00:00,640 --> 00:00:03,720 Speaker 1: CAFI AM six forty. You're listening to the John Cobelt 2 00:00:03,760 --> 00:00:05,840 Speaker 1: Podcast on the iHeartRadio apps. 3 00:00:06,559 --> 00:00:10,080 Speaker 2: Blue Penrose infa John Cobelt, I'm the John Coblt Show. 4 00:00:10,840 --> 00:00:11,560 Speaker 3: Good to be with you. 5 00:00:12,039 --> 00:00:15,920 Speaker 2: A week from today, Wednesday the seventh, at seven o'clock, 6 00:00:15,960 --> 00:00:20,760 Speaker 2: KFI will be airing a KFI News special La Fires 7 00:00:20,920 --> 00:00:24,120 Speaker 2: one year Later, hosted by Michael Monks. The special will 8 00:00:24,120 --> 00:00:28,360 Speaker 2: include reports from the KFI News team discussing those devastating fires. 9 00:00:28,400 --> 00:00:31,680 Speaker 2: It's amazing it was a year ago, the aftermath, lasting impacts, 10 00:00:31,680 --> 00:00:35,159 Speaker 2: and how southern California is doing on the road to recovery. 11 00:00:35,280 --> 00:00:38,680 Speaker 2: Joining us now is the aforementioned host, Michael Monks, who 12 00:00:38,680 --> 00:00:41,279 Speaker 2: will be running the show a week from tonight. Mike, 13 00:00:41,320 --> 00:00:42,440 Speaker 2: thanks for spending time with us. 14 00:00:42,440 --> 00:00:44,519 Speaker 3: Give us a preview of what listeners will hear. 15 00:00:44,840 --> 00:00:45,000 Speaker 4: Well. 16 00:00:45,040 --> 00:00:48,240 Speaker 5: I can tell you that there is still a lot 17 00:00:48,360 --> 00:00:51,680 Speaker 5: of sadness, a lot of depression, a lot of anger, 18 00:00:52,000 --> 00:00:55,200 Speaker 5: and still a lot of questions surrounding the wildfires that 19 00:00:55,240 --> 00:00:59,040 Speaker 5: happened here in La County just about twelve months ago. 20 00:00:59,200 --> 00:01:03,480 Speaker 5: Almost exactly. The January seventh marks one year since all 21 00:01:03,520 --> 00:01:07,440 Speaker 5: of those flames really took hold of the Palisades, Altadena, Malibu, 22 00:01:07,480 --> 00:01:11,920 Speaker 5: the Hollywood Hills, And there's still so much more to 23 00:01:12,040 --> 00:01:16,000 Speaker 5: know about how we're going to rebuild, about what caused 24 00:01:16,000 --> 00:01:18,760 Speaker 5: those fires, about who deserves to be punished for that. 25 00:01:19,360 --> 00:01:23,520 Speaker 5: But what we do know is that folks are struggling 26 00:01:23,560 --> 00:01:29,360 Speaker 5: with their mental health. Folks in Washington, DC are investigating. 27 00:01:29,880 --> 00:01:32,200 Speaker 5: We know that there are organizations here on the ground 28 00:01:32,200 --> 00:01:35,440 Speaker 5: that continue to help folks who are in need because 29 00:01:35,480 --> 00:01:37,840 Speaker 5: of those year old fires. And we know that some 30 00:01:37,880 --> 00:01:42,279 Speaker 5: of our signature industries, namely Hollywood, is also still pulling 31 00:01:42,319 --> 00:01:44,479 Speaker 5: themselves out of the ashes of those fires. So that's 32 00:01:44,480 --> 00:01:46,759 Speaker 5: what we're going to focus on over two hours on 33 00:01:46,840 --> 00:01:49,600 Speaker 5: Wednesday night in this special, all of our news team 34 00:01:49,640 --> 00:01:54,120 Speaker 5: members have done their work to put together stories about 35 00:01:54,240 --> 00:01:57,160 Speaker 5: what happened that day, what has happened since, and what 36 00:01:57,280 --> 00:02:01,200 Speaker 5: folks who were impacted by these fires hope happens in 37 00:02:01,240 --> 00:02:01,760 Speaker 5: the future. 38 00:02:02,680 --> 00:02:07,640 Speaker 2: What So, what's interesting, it's troublesome, it's tragic, but it's 39 00:02:07,680 --> 00:02:12,520 Speaker 2: still fascinating to me is most of Los Angeles was 40 00:02:12,639 --> 00:02:17,359 Speaker 2: unaffected by the fire directly, Yet everybody in Los Angeles 41 00:02:17,440 --> 00:02:18,080 Speaker 2: feels pain. 42 00:02:18,560 --> 00:02:21,400 Speaker 3: And it's not just sympathy pain. It's more than that. 43 00:02:21,480 --> 00:02:24,280 Speaker 2: I mean every like people that didn't lose their home 44 00:02:24,360 --> 00:02:27,720 Speaker 2: and knew nobody that lost their home still feel a 45 00:02:27,919 --> 00:02:32,280 Speaker 2: kick in the stomach because they're fellow Angelino's and they 46 00:02:32,480 --> 00:02:35,760 Speaker 2: know that either they believe that the system failed them, 47 00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:39,240 Speaker 2: government failed them, or the recovery is failing them, or 48 00:02:39,480 --> 00:02:43,120 Speaker 2: zoning and the ability to rebuild is failing them. But 49 00:02:43,200 --> 00:02:47,760 Speaker 2: they just feel like in so many aspects it has 50 00:02:47,800 --> 00:02:49,480 Speaker 2: been unsatisfactory. 51 00:02:49,639 --> 00:02:54,000 Speaker 5: I think it illustrated the vulnerability that everybody has here, 52 00:02:54,680 --> 00:02:57,920 Speaker 5: especially as it relates to those types of natural disasters. 53 00:02:58,240 --> 00:03:01,160 Speaker 5: A fire can consume any just at any part of 54 00:03:01,320 --> 00:03:05,320 Speaker 5: LA at any time, and that's scary to think about. 55 00:03:05,840 --> 00:03:10,360 Speaker 5: This was different than most big wildfires we cover here. 56 00:03:10,760 --> 00:03:16,000 Speaker 5: They're always devastating, they're always scary looking, and they're occasionally 57 00:03:16,280 --> 00:03:20,200 Speaker 5: devastating for folks who live near them. But usually there 58 00:03:20,200 --> 00:03:22,800 Speaker 5: aren't a lot of people, at least not at this scale, 59 00:03:22,840 --> 00:03:25,640 Speaker 5: who live near those flames, or they're able to be 60 00:03:25,720 --> 00:03:28,160 Speaker 5: evacuated really quickly, or the flames are able to be 61 00:03:28,160 --> 00:03:30,720 Speaker 5: put out before houses are taken. Of course, that's not 62 00:03:30,720 --> 00:03:33,400 Speaker 5: always the case, but we've never really seen it on 63 00:03:33,480 --> 00:03:38,600 Speaker 5: this scale, And to see two neighborhoods within La County 64 00:03:39,160 --> 00:03:43,240 Speaker 5: completely erased. That's something no matter which part of the 65 00:03:43,280 --> 00:03:46,040 Speaker 5: state you live in, maybe even in the country, after 66 00:03:46,120 --> 00:03:50,800 Speaker 5: you've seen these images, you're gonna forget. This is unprecedented. 67 00:03:51,160 --> 00:03:54,960 Speaker 5: The thing is, lou Is, those neighborhoods are gone. We 68 00:03:55,000 --> 00:03:57,440 Speaker 5: don't know what they're going to look like when they're rebuilt. 69 00:03:57,440 --> 00:04:00,160 Speaker 5: It will take years for it to be fully repopulated. 70 00:04:00,760 --> 00:04:02,640 Speaker 5: But I can tell you in the Palisades on the 71 00:04:02,680 --> 00:04:05,440 Speaker 5: same day that we're doing this special, early that morning, 72 00:04:05,440 --> 00:04:09,240 Speaker 5: starting at ten thirty, survivors of the Palisades fire are 73 00:04:09,320 --> 00:04:12,160 Speaker 5: putting together a program to talk about where things are. 74 00:04:13,160 --> 00:04:16,080 Speaker 5: In the name of it, lou they let us burn. 75 00:04:17,839 --> 00:04:19,520 Speaker 5: So you know that there is still a lot of 76 00:04:19,880 --> 00:04:22,839 Speaker 5: raw feelings connected to that from a year ago, and 77 00:04:22,839 --> 00:04:23,920 Speaker 5: we're still learning so much. 78 00:04:24,000 --> 00:04:24,800 Speaker 6: I mean, it was just a. 79 00:04:24,760 --> 00:04:28,240 Speaker 5: Couple of months ago that we learned about that possible 80 00:04:28,279 --> 00:04:30,440 Speaker 5: connection to the earlier fire. I know that it had 81 00:04:30,480 --> 00:04:34,000 Speaker 5: been speculated, but to have federal officials, investigators saying there 82 00:04:34,080 --> 00:04:38,120 Speaker 5: was a fire on January first that started near where 83 00:04:38,160 --> 00:04:41,320 Speaker 5: the Palisades Fire burned. A week later, we think it 84 00:04:41,440 --> 00:04:43,520 Speaker 5: started from the same fire. All this stuff is so 85 00:04:44,480 --> 00:04:48,320 Speaker 5: there's so much to learn, and it's already been a year. 86 00:04:48,680 --> 00:04:49,880 Speaker 5: We're going to be digging out of this for a 87 00:04:49,880 --> 00:04:50,360 Speaker 5: long time. 88 00:04:51,080 --> 00:04:54,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, to talk about what the applications are I think 89 00:04:54,760 --> 00:04:58,320 Speaker 2: about that too. You know, the Chicago fire was over 90 00:04:58,400 --> 00:05:01,480 Speaker 2: a century ago, Missus O'Leary's ca but the results were 91 00:05:02,040 --> 00:05:04,719 Speaker 2: fire codes that change for the city of Chicago that 92 00:05:04,760 --> 00:05:08,240 Speaker 2: were revolutionary for other major cities in the United States 93 00:05:08,240 --> 00:05:11,120 Speaker 2: as we turned the century. I'm wondering if there you 94 00:05:11,240 --> 00:05:14,920 Speaker 2: mentioned that southern California is vulnerable to fire. You see 95 00:05:14,920 --> 00:05:18,560 Speaker 2: these like horrible scenes from above after tornadoes. 96 00:05:18,760 --> 00:05:19,839 Speaker 3: We don't have tornadoes here. 97 00:05:19,920 --> 00:05:23,120 Speaker 2: You see these horrible scenes after hurricanes along the Eastern seaboard. 98 00:05:23,279 --> 00:05:26,120 Speaker 2: We don't have hurricanes, but we are susceptible to fire, 99 00:05:26,200 --> 00:05:31,520 Speaker 2: certainly southern California. And will we change the way we 100 00:05:31,920 --> 00:05:35,920 Speaker 2: structure the infrastructure, or structure the houses or space the houses. 101 00:05:35,960 --> 00:05:39,600 Speaker 2: Will there be a post Missus O'Leary's cow Chicago in 102 00:05:39,600 --> 00:05:40,360 Speaker 2: Los Angeles. 103 00:05:40,360 --> 00:05:43,880 Speaker 3: It's strange because it doesn't you can. 104 00:05:44,080 --> 00:05:45,359 Speaker 5: I know this isn't going to be news to you, 105 00:05:45,400 --> 00:05:46,600 Speaker 5: but a lot of people don't have a lot of 106 00:05:46,600 --> 00:05:51,160 Speaker 5: trust in the government to begin with, and less Now 107 00:05:51,520 --> 00:05:56,600 Speaker 5: that's what I mean is this wasn't just usual grumps saying, ah, 108 00:05:56,640 --> 00:05:58,640 Speaker 5: the government, they won't do anything. I mean, these were 109 00:05:58,720 --> 00:06:00,960 Speaker 5: people who might not have ever felt that kind of 110 00:06:01,720 --> 00:06:05,400 Speaker 5: you know, empathy towards the government in their lives until 111 00:06:05,520 --> 00:06:10,240 Speaker 5: they saw how it failed them at every single level. 112 00:06:10,839 --> 00:06:15,120 Speaker 5: And what types of reforms are to come of this really. 113 00:06:14,920 --> 00:06:15,679 Speaker 3: Yet to be seen. 114 00:06:15,720 --> 00:06:19,120 Speaker 5: This is not a city government as a release of 115 00:06:19,120 --> 00:06:24,840 Speaker 5: the Palisades or a county government that moves quickly on 116 00:06:25,279 --> 00:06:28,080 Speaker 5: these types of reforms. It seemed that a lot of 117 00:06:28,120 --> 00:06:31,719 Speaker 5: the priorities that we saw and I'm talking days after 118 00:06:31,720 --> 00:06:34,800 Speaker 5: the fire loo, we saw proposals at city Hall in 119 00:06:34,839 --> 00:06:41,120 Speaker 5: Los Angeles to put eviction moratorium in place, and. 120 00:06:41,040 --> 00:06:43,760 Speaker 3: Like those are the that's always the go to playbook. 121 00:06:43,520 --> 00:06:45,839 Speaker 2: Right, and make sure nobody gets thrown out. They're not 122 00:06:45,839 --> 00:06:47,279 Speaker 2: paying the rent, but they can't get thrown. 123 00:06:47,080 --> 00:06:48,560 Speaker 3: Out, right, But like, what did that have to do 124 00:06:48,600 --> 00:06:50,800 Speaker 3: with anything? It didn't have anything to do with anything. 125 00:06:50,839 --> 00:06:53,239 Speaker 5: I mean, people were literally standing in the burning embers 126 00:06:53,400 --> 00:06:57,159 Speaker 5: ashes of their home, and that's where the priorities went. 127 00:06:57,200 --> 00:07:00,160 Speaker 5: But we have talked to Senator Adams shiff Before He's 128 00:07:00,160 --> 00:07:03,039 Speaker 5: got some legislation that he's calling biparties and there's a 129 00:07:03,040 --> 00:07:05,640 Speaker 5: Republican Center co sponsoring and that's supposed to make it 130 00:07:05,680 --> 00:07:10,280 Speaker 5: easier to rebuild with more fire resistant materials. But it's 131 00:07:10,320 --> 00:07:14,160 Speaker 5: not just city or you know, county regulations that the 132 00:07:14,240 --> 00:07:15,160 Speaker 5: might need to change. 133 00:07:15,920 --> 00:07:17,080 Speaker 3: The insurance crisis. 134 00:07:17,120 --> 00:07:19,480 Speaker 5: Here is a mess, and I think now that is 135 00:07:19,600 --> 00:07:22,200 Speaker 5: in people's conscience the way that it wasn't before. 136 00:07:23,280 --> 00:07:26,080 Speaker 3: There's so much to do, Lou, Right, Like, where do 137 00:07:26,160 --> 00:07:28,080 Speaker 3: you even begin? Where do you even begin? Right? 138 00:07:28,360 --> 00:07:32,040 Speaker 2: Why talk about the new structure of infrastructure, Lou, when 139 00:07:32,200 --> 00:07:35,240 Speaker 2: I still don't have a house and it's not even close, 140 00:07:35,440 --> 00:07:38,640 Speaker 2: and now other people can't get fire insurance. Yeah, No, 141 00:07:38,840 --> 00:07:42,680 Speaker 2: there's the story continues. It's been a year, but you're right, 142 00:07:42,760 --> 00:07:46,200 Speaker 2: we're still learning. There's still news to gather. And the 143 00:07:46,240 --> 00:07:50,200 Speaker 2: special air a week from tonight Wednesday on KFI, starting 144 00:07:50,200 --> 00:07:51,720 Speaker 2: at seven, Michael Monks will host. 145 00:07:51,800 --> 00:07:53,800 Speaker 3: Thank you so much for givings the preview. Appreciate it. 146 00:07:53,840 --> 00:07:56,120 Speaker 2: Happy New Year, Lou, Happy new year to you all Right, 147 00:07:56,120 --> 00:08:00,960 Speaker 2: when we come back, Kamala Harris had some New year advice. 148 00:08:01,200 --> 00:08:03,640 Speaker 2: She was on a podcast, not talking well. She was 149 00:08:03,640 --> 00:08:08,080 Speaker 2: talking about politics and her political future, but a sidetracked 150 00:08:08,240 --> 00:08:11,560 Speaker 2: into dating advice of all things, and a lot of 151 00:08:11,560 --> 00:08:14,240 Speaker 2: people are talking about it, and I have to say, 152 00:08:14,720 --> 00:08:19,000 Speaker 2: listening to Kamala Harris's dating advice for single women, we 153 00:08:19,120 --> 00:08:22,720 Speaker 2: may have just found something that Harris and I agree on. 154 00:08:23,680 --> 00:08:26,480 Speaker 3: I'll share it with you next. Lou Penrose, if. 155 00:08:26,360 --> 00:08:29,160 Speaker 2: Of John coblt on The John Cobelt Show on kf 156 00:08:29,160 --> 00:08:32,120 Speaker 2: I AM six forty Live everywhere on the iHeartRadio app. 157 00:08:32,960 --> 00:08:37,320 Speaker 6: You're listening to John Cobelt on demand from KFI AM 158 00:08:37,320 --> 00:08:37,840 Speaker 6: six forty. 159 00:08:39,720 --> 00:08:42,920 Speaker 2: Louke Penrose info John Cobelt on The John Cobelt Show. 160 00:08:43,440 --> 00:08:46,240 Speaker 2: An absolute pleasure to be with you all this week. 161 00:08:46,400 --> 00:08:53,960 Speaker 2: Cobelt Back on Monday. Former presidential candidate, former California Senator, 162 00:08:54,200 --> 00:08:59,080 Speaker 2: and former California AG Kamala Harris on the campaign. It's 163 00:08:59,160 --> 00:09:03,960 Speaker 2: clear that she is certainly on a listening tour for 164 00:09:04,080 --> 00:09:07,160 Speaker 2: the Democratic nomination in twenty twenty eight. She's also selling 165 00:09:07,240 --> 00:09:12,320 Speaker 2: a book, and she's doing a lot of podcasts. Some 166 00:09:12,360 --> 00:09:16,480 Speaker 2: of these podcasts I've really never heard of, but I 167 00:09:16,520 --> 00:09:18,280 Speaker 2: don't know how they get ahold of her, but she's 168 00:09:18,679 --> 00:09:21,839 Speaker 2: on all these podcasts. And there is a side to 169 00:09:21,920 --> 00:09:26,079 Speaker 2: Kamala Harris that I like, I don't agree with her politically. 170 00:09:26,440 --> 00:09:31,400 Speaker 2: It was a tough battle for her and it was 171 00:09:31,480 --> 00:09:35,720 Speaker 2: cringeworthy in many respects. I did not think she was 172 00:09:35,800 --> 00:09:38,920 Speaker 2: qualified to be a president. I didn't think she was 173 00:09:39,640 --> 00:09:41,760 Speaker 2: a good vice president, and I didn't think much of 174 00:09:41,760 --> 00:09:45,600 Speaker 2: her as a US senator. She was a prosecutor, so 175 00:09:45,800 --> 00:09:50,000 Speaker 2: she could do the job as an age. But I 176 00:09:50,040 --> 00:09:56,199 Speaker 2: just don't think politically she has strength. Now the results 177 00:09:56,240 --> 00:09:59,439 Speaker 2: have been what they've been. She president. She was beaten 178 00:09:59,480 --> 00:10:04,200 Speaker 2: by someone who is polarizing, for sure, but he won 179 00:10:05,679 --> 00:10:11,079 Speaker 2: the electoral college, all seven battleground states and the popular vote, 180 00:10:11,120 --> 00:10:14,800 Speaker 2: so she got shellacked. But I'm out here to dance 181 00:10:14,840 --> 00:10:17,040 Speaker 2: on her political grave right now, because there is a 182 00:10:17,040 --> 00:10:20,960 Speaker 2: side to her that is very affable, Like she's not 183 00:10:21,040 --> 00:10:23,280 Speaker 2: somebody you want running the country, but you could see 184 00:10:23,280 --> 00:10:25,840 Speaker 2: yourself going to a ballgame with her. 185 00:10:26,040 --> 00:10:28,560 Speaker 3: And having a beer or whatever she's drinking. 186 00:10:29,040 --> 00:10:32,440 Speaker 2: She also was on a podcast and she was giving 187 00:10:32,559 --> 00:10:36,120 Speaker 2: dating advice. Oh, she was asked about being single and 188 00:10:36,320 --> 00:10:40,560 Speaker 2: asked about marriage and relationships, and that I think it 189 00:10:40,640 --> 00:10:45,520 Speaker 2: started with that she was married later in her life, 190 00:10:45,600 --> 00:10:49,240 Speaker 2: that she had established her career first and then got married, 191 00:10:49,600 --> 00:10:52,880 Speaker 2: which is less and less unique. It used to be 192 00:10:53,040 --> 00:10:57,120 Speaker 2: quite unique. Now it's far more common. And that's how 193 00:10:57,120 --> 00:10:59,160 Speaker 2: they got into this conversation. But then she got into 194 00:10:59,600 --> 00:11:02,080 Speaker 2: advice for single women, and I thought it was fascinating. 195 00:11:02,559 --> 00:11:05,760 Speaker 4: For anyone who is single who wants to be in 196 00:11:05,800 --> 00:11:10,400 Speaker 4: a relationship is to be kind to yourself and choose 197 00:11:11,200 --> 00:11:16,360 Speaker 4: to be with someone who is kind. That's really important, 198 00:11:16,800 --> 00:11:22,280 Speaker 4: you know it. Choose to be with someone who allows 199 00:11:22,320 --> 00:11:24,680 Speaker 4: you to laugh at yourself and them. 200 00:11:25,040 --> 00:11:28,160 Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's good advice. A little word salady. 201 00:11:28,320 --> 00:11:31,080 Speaker 2: But when I hear things like that, when I hear 202 00:11:31,400 --> 00:11:34,080 Speaker 2: her respond to questions that I have nothing to do 203 00:11:34,320 --> 00:11:38,199 Speaker 2: with politics or policy or anything she'll be fact check on, 204 00:11:39,000 --> 00:11:41,760 Speaker 2: and she still goes into the word salad mode, I 205 00:11:41,840 --> 00:11:46,720 Speaker 2: begin to realize she's not avoiding the question. Her brain 206 00:11:46,880 --> 00:11:50,600 Speaker 2: is wired in word salad, and it makes it it 207 00:11:50,600 --> 00:11:53,160 Speaker 2: makes it a little easier to understand. But for the 208 00:11:53,160 --> 00:11:55,120 Speaker 2: most part, she said, yeah. 209 00:11:55,120 --> 00:11:55,920 Speaker 3: You need to date. 210 00:11:56,240 --> 00:12:00,680 Speaker 2: So she mirrors my philosophy for single women and who 211 00:12:00,720 --> 00:12:03,240 Speaker 2: want to get married, and that is date a lot. 212 00:12:03,720 --> 00:12:06,160 Speaker 2: You should be dating a lot, and you should be 213 00:12:06,160 --> 00:12:07,600 Speaker 2: honest with yourself about what you. 214 00:12:07,640 --> 00:12:09,920 Speaker 4: Want, you know, I mean, And there are different phases 215 00:12:09,920 --> 00:12:11,960 Speaker 4: in your life, and depending on what phase you're in, 216 00:12:12,160 --> 00:12:14,240 Speaker 4: maybe you're going to choose that you want to have 217 00:12:14,400 --> 00:12:18,480 Speaker 4: that kind of Friday night relationship or you want that 218 00:12:19,120 --> 00:12:20,680 Speaker 4: Sunday morning relationship. 219 00:12:23,200 --> 00:12:26,880 Speaker 2: There's that laugh. You better believe it. So I have rules. 220 00:12:27,000 --> 00:12:32,080 Speaker 2: I have nieces that are in their twenties, and I 221 00:12:32,160 --> 00:12:36,240 Speaker 2: know that they want to be married one day. Because 222 00:12:38,040 --> 00:12:40,040 Speaker 2: we were a small family. It's just my brother and I. 223 00:12:40,120 --> 00:12:43,439 Speaker 2: My parents are gone and we don't really have close cousins, 224 00:12:43,480 --> 00:12:45,800 Speaker 2: so it's just me and my brother. So their entire 225 00:12:45,800 --> 00:12:49,679 Speaker 2: structural observation of marriage and family is what I do 226 00:12:49,720 --> 00:12:53,240 Speaker 2: and what my brother does. And my brother married as 227 00:12:53,280 --> 00:12:56,199 Speaker 2: a young man early in his career. He didn't wait 228 00:12:56,280 --> 00:12:59,400 Speaker 2: until his career was established. He has five kids. I 229 00:12:59,480 --> 00:13:03,440 Speaker 2: married three boys, so he's older than me. So his 230 00:13:03,600 --> 00:13:06,920 Speaker 2: daughters are in their twenties now, and when I talk 231 00:13:07,000 --> 00:13:09,160 Speaker 2: to them, I know that they want to be married, 232 00:13:09,720 --> 00:13:12,240 Speaker 2: but they think it'll just happen one day, And we 233 00:13:12,280 --> 00:13:15,079 Speaker 2: get into these arguments all the time because I keep 234 00:13:15,120 --> 00:13:17,960 Speaker 2: telling them. And I think this goes for single women 235 00:13:18,120 --> 00:13:21,000 Speaker 2: in America today, certainly single women where I live in 236 00:13:21,040 --> 00:13:24,080 Speaker 2: San Diego, and that is they don't know how to date. 237 00:13:24,320 --> 00:13:28,760 Speaker 2: They don't even know what dating means, and it just 238 00:13:28,880 --> 00:13:32,520 Speaker 2: confuses them when I advise them, you need to go 239 00:13:32,720 --> 00:13:35,720 Speaker 2: out with many different people if you want to be 240 00:13:35,800 --> 00:13:39,079 Speaker 2: a married woman someday. This advice is only for single 241 00:13:39,120 --> 00:13:41,880 Speaker 2: women who wish to be married one day. If you 242 00:13:42,000 --> 00:13:44,360 Speaker 2: never want to be married, then continue doing what you're doing, 243 00:13:44,640 --> 00:13:47,200 Speaker 2: because you will certainly not be married. You will be 244 00:13:47,320 --> 00:13:52,120 Speaker 2: older statistically, broker and just as I'm married. But if 245 00:13:52,160 --> 00:13:54,200 Speaker 2: you want to be a married woman, you need to 246 00:13:54,200 --> 00:13:57,240 Speaker 2: be purposeful about it in your twenties, and you need 247 00:13:57,280 --> 00:14:05,560 Speaker 2: to be conducting job interviews all the time because there's 248 00:14:05,600 --> 00:14:08,320 Speaker 2: no other way to do it in TikTok TikTok. Statistically, 249 00:14:08,400 --> 00:14:11,480 Speaker 2: if a woman is thirty and not married, her odds 250 00:14:11,520 --> 00:14:18,040 Speaker 2: of getting married are one in five twenty percent, Like 251 00:14:18,160 --> 00:14:20,480 Speaker 2: eighty percent of the women who are thirty and not 252 00:14:20,600 --> 00:14:23,920 Speaker 2: married will never get a ring on that finger. And 253 00:14:24,000 --> 00:14:25,760 Speaker 2: if you wait till you're thirty five, it drops down 254 00:14:25,800 --> 00:14:28,600 Speaker 2: to fifteen. And if you have a child, forget it. 255 00:14:28,600 --> 00:14:29,000 Speaker 2: It's over. 256 00:14:29,360 --> 00:14:32,400 Speaker 3: It's like under twelve not happening. 257 00:14:33,280 --> 00:14:35,040 Speaker 2: So if you want to get married, you've got to 258 00:14:35,080 --> 00:14:37,720 Speaker 2: be purpose purposeful about it. And again this is advice 259 00:14:37,760 --> 00:14:40,080 Speaker 2: for single women who wish to be married. Whenever I 260 00:14:40,120 --> 00:14:42,000 Speaker 2: say things like this, people are always like, Loo, you're 261 00:14:42,000 --> 00:14:47,000 Speaker 2: being sexist. Yes, I am sexually discriminating. Absolutely I am. 262 00:14:47,240 --> 00:14:52,720 Speaker 2: This advice is only for single women. But it turns 263 00:14:52,760 --> 00:14:54,640 Speaker 2: out Kamala Harris has the same advice as me. 264 00:14:55,400 --> 00:14:58,440 Speaker 4: Be in those phases where you are having fun, but 265 00:14:58,520 --> 00:15:00,680 Speaker 4: be honest with yourself about what you're in. 266 00:15:01,080 --> 00:15:01,640 Speaker 2: That's right. 267 00:15:01,840 --> 00:15:03,200 Speaker 3: Be honest with yourself. 268 00:15:04,520 --> 00:15:06,800 Speaker 2: Right, if you're just hanging around, you're just gonna be 269 00:15:06,880 --> 00:15:10,880 Speaker 2: hanging around, not getting married, not getting proposed to. YEA, 270 00:15:11,000 --> 00:15:13,440 Speaker 2: have fun, but be honest with yourself. 271 00:15:13,080 --> 00:15:17,000 Speaker 4: But be honest with yourself about what you're in and 272 00:15:17,200 --> 00:15:19,880 Speaker 4: figure out whether what you're in is actually what you want. 273 00:15:20,360 --> 00:15:20,560 Speaker 1: Right. 274 00:15:20,680 --> 00:15:22,840 Speaker 4: But the first step is to be honest about what 275 00:15:22,880 --> 00:15:26,640 Speaker 4: you're in and not try and make it something that 276 00:15:26,720 --> 00:15:29,320 Speaker 4: it's not, because that usually doesn't work out. 277 00:15:29,400 --> 00:15:32,400 Speaker 2: So well, good for you, Kamala, I agree one hundred percent. 278 00:15:32,440 --> 00:15:34,400 Speaker 2: I wish you would talk to my twenty year old 279 00:15:34,440 --> 00:15:37,520 Speaker 2: nieces because they're not honest with themselves and they get 280 00:15:37,560 --> 00:15:41,200 Speaker 2: mad at me when I'm honest for them that they're 281 00:15:41,240 --> 00:15:43,520 Speaker 2: in things that are not going to amount to anything. 282 00:15:44,880 --> 00:15:45,240 Speaker 4: Uh. 283 00:15:45,280 --> 00:15:48,520 Speaker 2: And I like what she had to say. I don't 284 00:15:48,560 --> 00:15:52,360 Speaker 2: know if she's going to be the Democratic nominee or not. 285 00:15:52,960 --> 00:15:54,960 Speaker 2: I don't know if she has a political career ahead 286 00:15:55,080 --> 00:16:00,280 Speaker 2: or not. I think not. But you definitely definitely has 287 00:16:00,320 --> 00:16:04,480 Speaker 2: some chops to be you know, a dating advice line, lady, 288 00:16:04,560 --> 00:16:05,520 Speaker 2: and enjoy. 289 00:16:05,320 --> 00:16:07,800 Speaker 4: Dating, by the way, because dating is fun. 290 00:16:08,120 --> 00:16:09,120 Speaker 7: It's fun to date. 291 00:16:09,440 --> 00:16:12,080 Speaker 4: It's supposed to be and it's supposed to be right, 292 00:16:12,360 --> 00:16:15,320 Speaker 4: you know, just do what at the end of the day, 293 00:16:15,640 --> 00:16:17,440 Speaker 4: when you go to sleep at night and when you 294 00:16:17,440 --> 00:16:20,040 Speaker 4: wake up in the morning, it makes you feel like 295 00:16:20,720 --> 00:16:21,200 Speaker 4: I'm good. 296 00:16:21,440 --> 00:16:24,080 Speaker 2: That's right. I like that advice. I agree with her. 297 00:16:25,200 --> 00:16:27,320 Speaker 2: I told you there's a side to her that's quite 298 00:16:28,280 --> 00:16:32,480 Speaker 2: quite pleasant, quite affable, quite thoughtful, and I think she's 299 00:16:32,480 --> 00:16:35,000 Speaker 2: given out good advice right there. Be honest with yourself 300 00:16:35,000 --> 00:16:37,920 Speaker 2: about what's going on right now and where this is going. 301 00:16:38,080 --> 00:16:42,200 Speaker 2: And if you're just going to concerts and going to 302 00:16:42,280 --> 00:16:45,880 Speaker 2: Champagne Mimosa breakfast on Sunday, then have fun doing that. 303 00:16:46,000 --> 00:16:47,960 Speaker 2: But that's all that's going to happen. It's not going 304 00:16:48,000 --> 00:16:54,200 Speaker 2: to evolve into like a real marriage. And if you 305 00:16:54,280 --> 00:16:58,040 Speaker 2: want to be married, enjoy dating. Date many many, many people. 306 00:16:58,560 --> 00:17:01,440 Speaker 2: I tell my niece this all the time. Here's the secret, 307 00:17:02,320 --> 00:17:06,560 Speaker 2: and it's far too far. Few women understand the single women. 308 00:17:07,560 --> 00:17:11,159 Speaker 2: When you meet somebody wherever, you meet somebody and you 309 00:17:11,240 --> 00:17:13,760 Speaker 2: hit it off and they want to see you again, 310 00:17:14,400 --> 00:17:18,639 Speaker 2: and they say, hey, this is great. What are you 311 00:17:18,640 --> 00:17:23,480 Speaker 2: doing Friday night? Here's your answer? Every single time. Write 312 00:17:23,560 --> 00:17:27,280 Speaker 2: this down and say it delivered exactly like this. Don't 313 00:17:27,320 --> 00:17:29,880 Speaker 2: try and improve upon it. It cannot be improved upon. 314 00:17:30,880 --> 00:17:32,640 Speaker 2: Here's your answer. What are you doing Friday night? 315 00:17:33,000 --> 00:17:33,320 Speaker 3: Oh? 316 00:17:33,760 --> 00:17:38,600 Speaker 2: I have a date Friday night. I am however available Saturday. 317 00:17:39,760 --> 00:17:43,560 Speaker 2: Say it exactly like that. Did you get it? Tell 318 00:17:43,760 --> 00:17:48,360 Speaker 2: him I have a date Friday night. Unfortunately, I am 319 00:17:48,600 --> 00:17:53,240 Speaker 2: nevertheless available Saturday. It will make you the most attractive 320 00:17:53,280 --> 00:17:58,040 Speaker 2: woman that this guy has ever seen. Because other suitors 321 00:17:58,080 --> 00:18:01,480 Speaker 2: are pursuing you. You would have a date on Friday, 322 00:18:01,760 --> 00:18:05,760 Speaker 2: a date with another suitor on Saturday, and another guy 323 00:18:06,000 --> 00:18:10,280 Speaker 2: on Sunday champagne brunch. And that should be and I 324 00:18:10,280 --> 00:18:12,719 Speaker 2: mean that's just one weekend. There should be three others 325 00:18:12,760 --> 00:18:15,280 Speaker 2: the next weekend. You don't have to sleep with them all, 326 00:18:16,040 --> 00:18:20,040 Speaker 2: but you should have them take you out, Pepe. When 327 00:18:20,080 --> 00:18:23,320 Speaker 2: people are vying for your attention, which is what a 328 00:18:23,400 --> 00:18:23,879 Speaker 2: date is. 329 00:18:24,240 --> 00:18:29,840 Speaker 3: Time with you. Then you become very, very attractive. 330 00:18:30,480 --> 00:18:33,120 Speaker 2: And if more single women knew that, they'd get more 331 00:18:33,119 --> 00:18:37,040 Speaker 2: proposals and more rings on fingers. Write that down. Lou 332 00:18:37,119 --> 00:18:39,960 Speaker 2: Penrose Info John Cobelt on The John Cobelt Show on 333 00:18:40,080 --> 00:18:43,760 Speaker 2: KFI AM six forty Live everywhere on the iHeartRadio ID. 334 00:18:45,000 --> 00:18:49,879 Speaker 6: You're listening to John cobelts on demand from KFI AM sixty. 335 00:18:51,000 --> 00:18:54,680 Speaker 2: Lou Penrose Info John Cobelt on The John coblt Show. 336 00:18:55,960 --> 00:18:58,480 Speaker 2: Happy New Year, It's New Year's Eve, Rain's coming down. 337 00:18:58,520 --> 00:19:01,800 Speaker 2: We're all ready to go. All our plans were set 338 00:19:01,960 --> 00:19:03,760 Speaker 2: and I hope you have a fantastic one. 339 00:19:04,119 --> 00:19:08,040 Speaker 6: Hey, you just made you just made a comment that 340 00:19:08,119 --> 00:19:09,280 Speaker 6: you live in San Diego. 341 00:19:09,359 --> 00:19:11,879 Speaker 7: I thought you and your wife. 342 00:19:11,920 --> 00:19:14,040 Speaker 5: I thought you guys lived up in LA on the 343 00:19:14,040 --> 00:19:14,719 Speaker 5: West Side. 344 00:19:14,840 --> 00:19:15,840 Speaker 7: Thank you have a great show. 345 00:19:16,080 --> 00:19:19,760 Speaker 2: I appreciate the call. No Cobelt lives on the West Side. 346 00:19:19,920 --> 00:19:23,640 Speaker 2: I live just north of Camp Pendleton. I said that 347 00:19:23,720 --> 00:19:26,560 Speaker 2: the girls in San Diego don't know how to date. 348 00:19:26,920 --> 00:19:29,680 Speaker 2: You told your niece to say she has a date 349 00:19:29,720 --> 00:19:35,760 Speaker 2: on Friday and can't make her mind A just dating everybody. Yeah, 350 00:19:35,880 --> 00:19:41,920 Speaker 2: you are incorrect, and I understand that that's the way 351 00:19:42,040 --> 00:19:46,680 Speaker 2: it has evolved, where if a young lady has lots 352 00:19:46,760 --> 00:19:50,480 Speaker 2: of suitors that she has looked badly on, but that's 353 00:19:50,560 --> 00:19:54,120 Speaker 2: it's the opposite. She's in demand and that's a good 354 00:19:54,160 --> 00:19:58,080 Speaker 2: thing for her. Remember this is dating advice for single 355 00:19:58,080 --> 00:20:00,920 Speaker 2: women who wish to be married. If you don't wish 356 00:20:01,000 --> 00:20:03,680 Speaker 2: to be married, don't take my advice. Just continue doing 357 00:20:03,680 --> 00:20:09,040 Speaker 2: what you're doing. But that's the problem that young women think. Wow, 358 00:20:09,119 --> 00:20:11,720 Speaker 2: if I'm if I have a busy dance card, people 359 00:20:11,720 --> 00:20:15,840 Speaker 2: are gonna think I'm promiscuous. That's that they're not mutually exclusive. 360 00:20:16,320 --> 00:20:19,200 Speaker 2: You can do whatever you want, right, no one's gonna 361 00:20:19,240 --> 00:20:23,080 Speaker 2: judge you. But if you're looking for a husband, a 362 00:20:23,160 --> 00:20:25,880 Speaker 2: life partner, there is no other way to do it 363 00:20:26,400 --> 00:20:31,280 Speaker 2: but to audition men who are vying for your time. 364 00:20:31,840 --> 00:20:35,359 Speaker 2: That's what a date is. A date is a one 365 00:20:35,520 --> 00:20:41,280 Speaker 2: time event where somebody man or a woman who wants 366 00:20:41,320 --> 00:20:45,120 Speaker 2: to spend time with you, who wants your attention and 367 00:20:45,440 --> 00:20:51,080 Speaker 2: is paying for it properly in my opinion, right says Hey, 368 00:20:51,200 --> 00:20:54,680 Speaker 2: I liked you, I liked your smile, and I liked 369 00:20:54,680 --> 00:20:55,320 Speaker 2: our conversation. 370 00:20:55,480 --> 00:20:58,480 Speaker 3: I would like your individual attention for an evening. 371 00:20:59,280 --> 00:21:02,760 Speaker 2: That's what a date is. You can go out to dinner, 372 00:21:02,800 --> 00:21:04,359 Speaker 2: you can go to a movie, you can go out 373 00:21:04,400 --> 00:21:06,000 Speaker 2: for coffee, you can go walk in the park, you 374 00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:07,320 Speaker 2: can go for a bike ride, you can go to 375 00:21:07,320 --> 00:21:07,600 Speaker 2: the beach. 376 00:21:07,640 --> 00:21:10,639 Speaker 3: Whatever it is, it's a date. It is designed for 377 00:21:10,680 --> 00:21:14,000 Speaker 3: one reason and one reason only, for. 378 00:21:14,080 --> 00:21:17,399 Speaker 2: The person who's asking you to get your individual attention 379 00:21:17,520 --> 00:21:23,520 Speaker 2: and for you to make judgment on him. Is this 380 00:21:23,960 --> 00:21:26,360 Speaker 2: the kind of guy that I can see myself. 381 00:21:26,280 --> 00:21:27,240 Speaker 3: Growing a life with. 382 00:21:28,760 --> 00:21:31,880 Speaker 2: That's what you should be doing. And it's very important 383 00:21:31,960 --> 00:21:36,000 Speaker 2: that that person know that you are out with another 384 00:21:36,720 --> 00:21:39,600 Speaker 2: guy the night before and you are going out with 385 00:21:39,680 --> 00:21:45,960 Speaker 2: another guy Sunday afternoon. Very very important, very healthy for. 386 00:21:46,000 --> 00:21:48,120 Speaker 3: Him too as a guy. I'm here to tell you. 387 00:21:50,400 --> 00:21:53,200 Speaker 2: And if he liked you now he really likes you. 388 00:21:53,440 --> 00:21:55,960 Speaker 2: If he was interested in you, he's really interested in you. 389 00:21:56,160 --> 00:21:59,240 Speaker 2: He's not turned off by you because you have a 390 00:21:59,320 --> 00:22:00,240 Speaker 2: date with another guy. 391 00:22:01,600 --> 00:22:04,160 Speaker 3: He's challenged and that's what you want. 392 00:22:04,840 --> 00:22:10,680 Speaker 2: You want good guys working competing for your attention. 393 00:22:12,320 --> 00:22:14,760 Speaker 3: So that is the advice, and I'm sticking with it. 394 00:22:15,400 --> 00:22:20,159 Speaker 7: I'm listening to this stuff about dating with women, and 395 00:22:20,880 --> 00:22:25,400 Speaker 7: I would think that lou Penrose's idea about dating as 396 00:22:25,400 --> 00:22:26,200 Speaker 7: many men as. 397 00:22:26,080 --> 00:22:32,800 Speaker 2: A woman can would actually deter marriage because they won't 398 00:22:32,840 --> 00:22:35,240 Speaker 2: settle down and pick a guy. 399 00:22:36,359 --> 00:22:39,520 Speaker 7: They would just try to keep hopscotching. Not a good 400 00:22:39,560 --> 00:22:40,719 Speaker 7: idea and not good advice. 401 00:22:40,840 --> 00:22:42,439 Speaker 3: It is great advice. You're wrong. 402 00:22:42,720 --> 00:22:45,920 Speaker 2: They will settle down as soon as lightning strikes and 403 00:22:45,960 --> 00:22:48,080 Speaker 2: they meet the guy, the person. It doesn't have to 404 00:22:48,080 --> 00:22:51,479 Speaker 2: be a guy, but when they meet the person that 405 00:22:51,720 --> 00:22:55,400 Speaker 2: is the right one. It's instantaneous. And all of you 406 00:22:55,480 --> 00:22:58,600 Speaker 2: that have fallen in love know exactly what I'm talking about. 407 00:22:58,640 --> 00:23:03,480 Speaker 2: Being swept off your feet is a thing, And of. 408 00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:06,320 Speaker 3: Course it's good advice. That's not my only rule. 409 00:23:06,359 --> 00:23:09,159 Speaker 2: You want to hear another rule, This one I usually 410 00:23:09,240 --> 00:23:13,719 Speaker 2: lose on, but it is my rule and I stand 411 00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:17,400 Speaker 2: by it. After the age of twenty one, there are 412 00:23:17,440 --> 00:23:22,840 Speaker 2: no boyfriends. Once you turn twenty one, There's no such 413 00:23:22,920 --> 00:23:26,800 Speaker 2: thing as a boyfriend. A boyfriend is a lyric in 414 00:23:26,800 --> 00:23:31,160 Speaker 2: a nineteen fifties pop tune. After you're twenty one, you're 415 00:23:31,160 --> 00:23:35,639 Speaker 2: a grown woman. There are only three things in your life. 416 00:23:35,800 --> 00:23:41,000 Speaker 2: There is a friend or an acquaintance, a fiance, and 417 00:23:41,040 --> 00:23:43,440 Speaker 2: a husband. 418 00:23:44,359 --> 00:23:46,320 Speaker 3: For a single woman, there is no other thing. 419 00:23:47,320 --> 00:23:53,000 Speaker 2: There is a friend, a fiance, or a husband, nothing 420 00:23:53,040 --> 00:23:57,680 Speaker 2: else know one between, no ifs ands or bots. Write 421 00:23:57,720 --> 00:24:01,919 Speaker 2: that down. Louke Penrose on COBLT on KFI AM six 422 00:24:02,080 --> 00:24:04,200 Speaker 2: forty Live Everywhere on the iHeartRadio app. 423 00:24:05,520 --> 00:24:09,879 Speaker 6: You're listening to John Cobelt on demand from KFI AM 424 00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:10,440 Speaker 6: six forty. 425 00:24:11,400 --> 00:24:15,159 Speaker 2: Lou Penrose in for John Coblt on the John Coblt Show. 426 00:24:15,800 --> 00:24:21,080 Speaker 2: John will be back on Monday. It'll be January fifth already, 427 00:24:22,960 --> 00:24:24,680 Speaker 2: but we're not going to get ahead of ourselves. 428 00:24:24,720 --> 00:24:26,639 Speaker 3: Tonight is New Year's Eve. 429 00:24:26,960 --> 00:24:30,160 Speaker 2: Lou You are one hundred percent correct. I am a 430 00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:33,960 Speaker 2: fifty something year old woman. I wish I had had 431 00:24:34,000 --> 00:24:38,240 Speaker 2: your advice back in my thirties because I did not date. 432 00:24:38,359 --> 00:24:41,159 Speaker 2: I took the first jackass. 433 00:24:40,640 --> 00:24:45,320 Speaker 3: That came along and subsequently got divorced. I wish I 434 00:24:45,359 --> 00:24:46,280 Speaker 3: had played the field. 435 00:24:46,640 --> 00:24:50,360 Speaker 2: I wish I had valued myself more to allow men 436 00:24:50,400 --> 00:24:54,320 Speaker 2: to audition for my company. You're so right. Yeah, I 437 00:24:54,320 --> 00:24:57,280 Speaker 2: appreciate the call. Of course, I'm right. I mean this 438 00:24:57,560 --> 00:25:01,360 Speaker 2: isn't just an opinion. I mean it's absolutely right. If 439 00:25:01,400 --> 00:25:05,640 Speaker 2: you are looking to be a married woman, you need 440 00:25:05,680 --> 00:25:08,840 Speaker 2: to prioritize that it's the most important thing that you 441 00:25:08,880 --> 00:25:09,760 Speaker 2: will do in your life. 442 00:25:11,560 --> 00:25:14,360 Speaker 3: And women are in a unique position. 443 00:25:14,880 --> 00:25:18,320 Speaker 2: Men don't have the same challenges that women have, which 444 00:25:18,359 --> 00:25:23,400 Speaker 2: is time. So you women need to need to do 445 00:25:23,440 --> 00:25:26,520 Speaker 2: this literally in their twenties. And that's why I set 446 00:25:26,520 --> 00:25:29,800 Speaker 2: the cutoff at twenty one on boyfriends. Louke Penro's rule. 447 00:25:29,960 --> 00:25:33,960 Speaker 2: After twenty one for women, there are no boyfriends. Those 448 00:25:34,080 --> 00:25:38,000 Speaker 2: days are over. There's no senior prom, there's no junior prom, 449 00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:39,680 Speaker 2: there's no homecoming. 450 00:25:39,200 --> 00:25:40,720 Speaker 3: And there is no boyfriend. 451 00:25:41,000 --> 00:25:43,000 Speaker 2: Cracks me up when I see these thirty four year 452 00:25:43,040 --> 00:25:45,600 Speaker 2: old women and they're living with their boyfriend. What does 453 00:25:45,640 --> 00:25:46,000 Speaker 2: that mean? 454 00:25:48,840 --> 00:25:51,080 Speaker 3: So that's one rule, no boyfriends. 455 00:25:51,240 --> 00:25:53,680 Speaker 2: There's only three things in a woman's life after twenty 456 00:25:53,680 --> 00:25:54,920 Speaker 2: one a friend. 457 00:25:55,160 --> 00:25:56,800 Speaker 3: A fiance, and a husband. 458 00:25:57,280 --> 00:26:00,040 Speaker 2: That's it. No f sansra butts. 459 00:26:01,280 --> 00:26:01,440 Speaker 4: Uh. 460 00:26:01,920 --> 00:26:05,680 Speaker 2: Yeah, Look this is not new. What do you think 461 00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:09,040 Speaker 2: people did post World War Two? In the fifties and sixties. 462 00:26:09,080 --> 00:26:11,320 Speaker 2: They went out on dates. Don't you watch Happy Days? 463 00:26:12,119 --> 00:26:15,320 Speaker 2: That's what they did. They weren't hoes because they had 464 00:26:15,400 --> 00:26:19,720 Speaker 2: dates with other boys. They were on dates. And that's 465 00:26:19,800 --> 00:26:23,400 Speaker 2: what the purpose of a date. As you just said, 466 00:26:23,560 --> 00:26:27,400 Speaker 2: the college just said, competing for attention. That's a very 467 00:26:27,440 --> 00:26:31,520 Speaker 2: smart and healthy thing, and it makes other suitors step up. 468 00:26:33,960 --> 00:26:36,560 Speaker 2: Women always talk about there's no good men, right because 469 00:26:36,680 --> 00:26:39,920 Speaker 2: you're not asking men to be good. You're going out 470 00:26:39,960 --> 00:26:43,720 Speaker 2: with just the guy. I see it all the. 471 00:26:43,720 --> 00:26:46,360 Speaker 3: Time where I live, and I go down to. 472 00:26:47,160 --> 00:26:50,720 Speaker 2: Like these pizza the place called Pizza Port in San 473 00:26:50,760 --> 00:26:53,160 Speaker 2: Diego and Imperial Beach is also one in San Clementy, 474 00:26:53,359 --> 00:26:54,400 Speaker 2: and it's hilarious. 475 00:26:54,760 --> 00:26:56,960 Speaker 3: And I noticed this many years ago. 476 00:26:57,560 --> 00:27:00,960 Speaker 2: They will there will be not tonight, but certainly on 477 00:27:01,040 --> 00:27:07,240 Speaker 2: Friday night, there will be these unbelievably beautiful twenty somethings, 478 00:27:07,480 --> 00:27:14,199 Speaker 2: sun kissed blondes, just gorgeous, I mean, like textbook Southern 479 00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:20,480 Speaker 2: California beauty. And they'll be with these slovenly sloppy, hoodie 480 00:27:20,560 --> 00:27:24,840 Speaker 2: wearing surfer dudes with no game, no money, no job, 481 00:27:25,000 --> 00:27:29,600 Speaker 2: and no career prospects, and they're doting on them. And 482 00:27:30,119 --> 00:27:32,760 Speaker 2: then they'll go home in the car that she owns. 483 00:27:33,920 --> 00:27:36,919 Speaker 2: And this all seems very normal. So that's not the 484 00:27:37,000 --> 00:27:39,520 Speaker 2: model for success for a single woman. What you need 485 00:27:39,560 --> 00:27:42,960 Speaker 2: to do is to make everybody know that you are 486 00:27:43,480 --> 00:27:46,119 Speaker 2: in the business of finding a life partner and you 487 00:27:46,280 --> 00:27:49,119 Speaker 2: are actively pursuing that person and you might be it, 488 00:27:49,200 --> 00:27:51,240 Speaker 2: but you probably won't be. That's why I need to 489 00:27:51,240 --> 00:27:53,800 Speaker 2: go out with somebody else on Saturday night and then 490 00:27:53,840 --> 00:27:56,520 Speaker 2: another person on Sunday, and I'm in demand. 491 00:27:56,840 --> 00:27:59,080 Speaker 3: That is the way. That is the only way. 492 00:27:59,200 --> 00:28:02,639 Speaker 2: No boyfriends, and don't move him in. I'll lose on 493 00:28:02,680 --> 00:28:06,080 Speaker 2: this one every time. Don't move him in. He can 494 00:28:06,119 --> 00:28:08,359 Speaker 2: come for a visit if he wants the Netflix and chill. 495 00:28:08,400 --> 00:28:11,640 Speaker 2: That's up to you. You make your decisions, but make 496 00:28:11,680 --> 00:28:15,520 Speaker 2: sure he leaves. Never, ever, ever, ever, ever, ever give 497 00:28:15,560 --> 00:28:19,680 Speaker 2: a boyfriend a key. Did you know the number one 498 00:28:19,880 --> 00:28:24,760 Speaker 2: area of closures on condos in southern California are single women. 499 00:28:25,520 --> 00:28:30,560 Speaker 2: Single women are closing on real estate, residential real estate, 500 00:28:30,800 --> 00:28:33,360 Speaker 2: more than any other group, more than married couples, more 501 00:28:33,400 --> 00:28:39,000 Speaker 2: than single men. Certainly so women own real estate, so 502 00:28:39,160 --> 00:28:41,560 Speaker 2: they need real estate advice. And that is. Never give 503 00:28:41,640 --> 00:28:46,400 Speaker 2: the boyfriend a key ever. Do not let him forward 504 00:28:46,440 --> 00:28:50,560 Speaker 2: mail to your house. Do not let him make any 505 00:28:50,680 --> 00:28:53,520 Speaker 2: structural improvements to your house. 506 00:28:55,040 --> 00:28:57,600 Speaker 3: When he says you pay the rent, I'll get the groceries. 507 00:28:57,720 --> 00:29:03,440 Speaker 2: No, if he wants to hand you cash, do not 508 00:29:03,520 --> 00:29:07,960 Speaker 2: let him pay a utility bill. You may not understand 509 00:29:08,040 --> 00:29:10,880 Speaker 2: why these rules are I know my realtors out there understand, 510 00:29:12,520 --> 00:29:14,680 Speaker 2: but do not let him write a check for your 511 00:29:14,760 --> 00:29:17,640 Speaker 2: utility bill, not one time. Do not give him a key, 512 00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:19,720 Speaker 2: but I'll lose. You're gonna let him move in. I 513 00:29:19,760 --> 00:29:23,280 Speaker 2: know you are, because you're hoping and dreaming and dreaming 514 00:29:23,280 --> 00:29:25,280 Speaker 2: and hoping. But while he's there, do not let him 515 00:29:25,320 --> 00:29:28,240 Speaker 2: forward mail, let him get a po box, and do 516 00:29:28,360 --> 00:29:29,800 Speaker 2: not let him make any he wants to change a 517 00:29:29,880 --> 00:29:33,000 Speaker 2: light bulb, that's fine, but do not make him let 518 00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:36,360 Speaker 2: him make any real improvements to your condo. 519 00:29:36,880 --> 00:29:37,880 Speaker 3: That's just good advice. 520 00:29:38,000 --> 00:29:42,120 Speaker 2: Remember I'm a terrible girlfriend, but I'm an excellent big brother. 521 00:29:43,560 --> 00:29:45,800 Speaker 2: So write that all down. 522 00:29:45,880 --> 00:29:46,280 Speaker 3: By the way. 523 00:29:46,280 --> 00:29:48,400 Speaker 2: Speaking of money, Americans are going into the new year 524 00:29:48,400 --> 00:29:50,040 Speaker 2: with a new attitude about money. 525 00:29:50,560 --> 00:29:53,360 Speaker 5: Forty four percent say they feel like they're falling behind 526 00:29:53,400 --> 00:29:54,800 Speaker 5: on their personal finances. 527 00:29:55,120 --> 00:29:56,200 Speaker 6: I would just say saving more. 528 00:29:56,800 --> 00:29:58,959 Speaker 3: I feel like that's a good job good It's just 529 00:29:59,000 --> 00:29:59,720 Speaker 3: like getting a. 530 00:29:59,720 --> 00:30:02,160 Speaker 4: Set of not to save each week, no spending money 531 00:30:02,200 --> 00:30:04,920 Speaker 4: on like the frivolous things like not buying coffee every day. 532 00:30:05,080 --> 00:30:09,840 Speaker 4: You are thinking about investing more money into for the 533 00:30:09,880 --> 00:30:10,240 Speaker 4: new year. 534 00:30:10,720 --> 00:30:12,600 Speaker 2: Not buying coffee every day is going to be easier 535 00:30:12,600 --> 00:30:14,880 Speaker 2: because they're closing. Like all the Starbucks. I just saw 536 00:30:14,920 --> 00:30:18,479 Speaker 2: that somebody Starbucks they're closing. None of those things are 537 00:30:18,480 --> 00:30:20,480 Speaker 2: going to get you ahead of the eight ball when 538 00:30:20,480 --> 00:30:24,040 Speaker 2: it comes to finances. Let's be honest. If you really 539 00:30:24,240 --> 00:30:29,440 Speaker 2: want to have more money, pay off your car. I mean, 540 00:30:29,600 --> 00:30:31,600 Speaker 2: I don't want to sound like Dave Ramsey here, but 541 00:30:32,240 --> 00:30:36,760 Speaker 2: it is the most ridiculous thing you do with money. 542 00:30:37,720 --> 00:30:41,120 Speaker 2: I saw that the average car payment now in southern 543 00:30:41,120 --> 00:30:44,160 Speaker 2: California is north of six hundred dollars a month. Six 544 00:30:44,320 --> 00:30:49,320 Speaker 2: hundred dollars a month for a depreciating asset. Don't do it. 545 00:30:49,480 --> 00:30:53,640 Speaker 2: I know everybody does it, but don't be like everybody. 546 00:30:53,840 --> 00:30:57,160 Speaker 2: Because everybody's going into the new year with resolving to 547 00:30:57,200 --> 00:31:00,560 Speaker 2: not buy coffee. They're gonna get wealthy by not buying cafe. No, 548 00:31:00,640 --> 00:31:03,880 Speaker 2: but you will get wealthy by not making a car payment. 549 00:31:04,000 --> 00:31:05,560 Speaker 2: So if you're in the middle of a car payment, 550 00:31:06,160 --> 00:31:09,400 Speaker 2: make your car payment, but save up money. And then 551 00:31:09,440 --> 00:31:11,680 Speaker 2: when you want to get a new car, go out 552 00:31:11,720 --> 00:31:14,280 Speaker 2: and get a car and buy a car that is 553 00:31:14,320 --> 00:31:17,120 Speaker 2: way cheaper than the car you want, and buy it 554 00:31:17,280 --> 00:31:18,400 Speaker 2: used and buy. 555 00:31:18,320 --> 00:31:19,200 Speaker 3: It in cash. 556 00:31:19,440 --> 00:31:22,880 Speaker 2: Save up now for it. People used to have Christmas 557 00:31:23,000 --> 00:31:26,200 Speaker 2: club savings you can put aside money every week. I mean, 558 00:31:26,240 --> 00:31:29,000 Speaker 2: if you have six hundred dollars in disposable income for 559 00:31:29,080 --> 00:31:34,840 Speaker 2: a car payment, you have some cash around. And then 560 00:31:35,400 --> 00:31:38,200 Speaker 2: once you have a car, even if it's a clunk 561 00:31:38,280 --> 00:31:40,680 Speaker 2: or a used car, or your mom's old car or 562 00:31:40,680 --> 00:31:43,880 Speaker 2: whatever car you have, start making a car payment to 563 00:31:44,120 --> 00:31:49,080 Speaker 2: yourself every month. Get a separate savings account that it 564 00:31:49,080 --> 00:31:51,240 Speaker 2: doesn't matter if it bears interest at all, just a 565 00:31:51,360 --> 00:31:53,480 Speaker 2: place to put six hundred dollars a month. You had 566 00:31:53,480 --> 00:31:56,120 Speaker 2: it because you were making car payments before you had 567 00:31:56,160 --> 00:31:58,760 Speaker 2: the car. And make yourself a car payment. Make that 568 00:31:58,800 --> 00:32:02,640 Speaker 2: car payment to yourself four years, like three years, four years, 569 00:32:02,920 --> 00:32:05,160 Speaker 2: and then when you want a brand new car, go 570 00:32:05,280 --> 00:32:09,080 Speaker 2: out and write a check for that car in cash, 571 00:32:09,120 --> 00:32:11,000 Speaker 2: and now you have no car payment, brand new car, 572 00:32:11,160 --> 00:32:14,920 Speaker 2: and then do it all over again. But the car 573 00:32:15,080 --> 00:32:21,520 Speaker 2: payment is keeping you poor, So write that down and 574 00:32:21,600 --> 00:32:24,160 Speaker 2: happy New Year from all of us at KFI. Luke 575 00:32:24,200 --> 00:32:27,840 Speaker 2: Penrose on KFI AM six forty live everywhere on the 576 00:32:27,880 --> 00:32:28,840 Speaker 2: iHeartRadio app. 577 00:32:28,840 --> 00:32:31,760 Speaker 1: Hey, you've been listening to the John Covelt Show podcast. 578 00:32:31,840 --> 00:32:34,320 Speaker 1: You can always hear the show live on KFI AM 579 00:32:34,360 --> 00:32:37,360 Speaker 1: six forty from one to four pm every Monday through Friday, 580 00:32:37,360 --> 00:32:40,640 Speaker 1: and of course anytime on demand on the iHeartRadio app.