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Speaker 1: My sister cheated on her boyfriend and he's about to propose.

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Speaker 1: My younger sister grew close to one of her boyfriend's

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Speaker 1: friends last summer. Her boyfriend was studying for the MCAT

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Speaker 1: in his free time and wasn't spending too much time

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Speaker 1: with her, so she began to hung out with the

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Speaker 1: male friend. Her boyfriend said he trusted her and he

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Speaker 1: wasn't worried or jealous.

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Speaker 2: He should have maid a mistake, He should have been cuge.

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Speaker 1: She asked her boyfriend for a break and then slept

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Speaker 1: with the male friend. She reported to me that the

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Speaker 1: affair was a quote unquote empty experience.

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Speaker 3: Okay, is that worse or is that better?

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Speaker 1: I guess I guess better for the relationship. But yeah,

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Speaker 1: I guess I guess it is better. She got back

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Speaker 1: with her boyfriend right after. Her boyfriend was confused when

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Speaker 1: the longtime male friend suddenly stopped speaking to him, and

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Speaker 1: my sister never said a word. She left her boyfriend

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Speaker 1: thinking he'd offend his friend or something. She asked me

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Speaker 1: to never tell. So fast forward to twenty twenty four.

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Speaker 1: Valentine's Day is approaching. Her boyfriend texted me asking for

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Speaker 1: my help setting up a heartfelt wedding proposal. I cannot

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Speaker 1: help with this in good conscious I feel I'd be

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Speaker 1: complicit in her sin. Their marriage would stand on a lie. Tonight,

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Speaker 1: I encourage her to tell him what happened last summer.

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Speaker 3: Right because boyfriend is about to propose, basically, and the

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Speaker 3: girlfriend still has this massive secret of hooking up with

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Speaker 3: her guy best friend.

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Speaker 2: But get ready for this.

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Speaker 1: She said they were on a break and it doesn't matter.

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Speaker 1: She kind of is in some like, yeah territory, she

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Speaker 1: is well.

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Speaker 2: She asked for the break in order to sleep with him.

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Speaker 3: She's like still operating within the confines of some level

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Speaker 3: of truth. But I feel like when you come back

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Speaker 3: into a relationship, you should maybe come clean about what

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Speaker 3: has happened.

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Speaker 1: She asked for the break with ulterior motives. The truth

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Speaker 1: will come out. How can I say no to helping

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Speaker 1: with the proposal. I can't be involved with this chat, Sam?

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Speaker 2: How can she say no to being involved? How could

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Speaker 2: she say no? The boyfriend asked her, Hey, how does

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Speaker 2: she get out of it?

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Speaker 3: Fuck? That's so hard because he probably wants to keep

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Speaker 3: it secret from her and have it be a surprise. Yes,

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Speaker 3: and so like by telling asking for her help by

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Speaker 3: telling her she's like fucking up his secret, but by

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Speaker 3: the guy not knowing he's fucking up his marriage.

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Speaker 2: I see two options. Yeah.

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Speaker 1: One option which doesn't ruin quoteunquote unquote doesn't ruin on

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Speaker 1: either side, is going to the guy and being like, hey,

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Speaker 1: I really think you should sit down. You don't have

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Speaker 1: to ruin the surprise per se, but you need to

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Speaker 1: sit down and have a hard talk with her about

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Speaker 1: your relationship and where you guys are at before you propose.

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Speaker 2: Oh so don't talk, don't reveal.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So to to the boyfriend that's trying to propose,

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Speaker 1: being like, hey, look, I really think you should sit

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Speaker 1: in conversation with her.

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Speaker 2: You don't necessarily have to spoil them.

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Speaker 3: And it could be just saying hey, I really see

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Speaker 3: a long term future with you exactly like, and I

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Speaker 3: want us to really be honest with each other, yes,

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Speaker 3: and like move to a place where we feel very

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Speaker 3: comfortable with them.

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Speaker 1: So that's that's that's one way where it doesn't disrupt anything.

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Speaker 1: Or maybe the better more direct way just to like

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Speaker 1: be extra cautious, go to your sister and be like

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Speaker 1: this man wants to marry you, you need to tell him. Well,

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Speaker 1: we have some relevant comments right before the update. This

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Speaker 1: comes from Rob Dyson. We all know a quote unquote

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Speaker 1: break is code word to f around and find out.

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Speaker 1: She did just that, and the grass was not greener

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Speaker 1: on one end. If she takes this information to the grave,

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Speaker 1: it might be happily ever after. Who knows how many

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Speaker 1: relationships are in this category with secrets taken to the grave. Again,

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Speaker 1: my standing is she did it during a break, although

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Speaker 1: the break was asked for in bad faith. A break

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Speaker 1: implies quickly try someone else out, or let me be

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Speaker 1: in my own thoughts to find myself. My moral compass

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Speaker 1: would say tell them, But I'm wise enough to know

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Speaker 1: not to mess with other people's happiness. As long as

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Speaker 1: she doesn't mess around during a non break slash in

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Speaker 1: the relationship, Opie responds, thank you for articulating this. My

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Speaker 1: moral compass says the same thing. This isn't her first

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Speaker 1: instance of shady behavior. She has kissed multiple people at

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Speaker 3: Oh, dude, she's kind a piece of shit. Yeah, she's

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Speaker 3: got a piece of shit, But dude, she the boyfriend

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Speaker 3: needs to know, but this is the one instance that

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Speaker 3: I'm entirely aware of with all the details.

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Speaker 1: So, in other words, saying, this is the one time

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Speaker 1: where Opie actually knows the full.

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Speaker 2: Story's a piece of shit.

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Speaker 1: It could go deeper, and the boyfriend needs to know

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Speaker 1: before boyfriend has to know. Yeah, come on, searching for

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Speaker 1: signal says say you can't in good conscience to the boyfriend.

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Speaker 1: So being like he's like, hey, will you help me propose?

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Speaker 1: And you'd be like, I can't in good conscious, So

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Speaker 1: OPI Opie responds to that great idea, and he'll ask why,

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Speaker 1: and I can.

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Speaker 2: Say, ask her, Oh, so that's kind for it, Yeah, exactly.

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Speaker 3: I think it's like tip off something that's rights exactly.

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Speaker 1: So you're not like spoiling it, but you're basically being

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Speaker 1: like you need to talk to her, which I think

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Speaker 1: is that's a pretty smart man.

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Speaker 3: I also love how that we were on a break

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Speaker 3: is like so relevant still, like everyone's coming into the

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Speaker 3: Ross and Rachel.

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Speaker 2: We were on a break from friends.

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Speaker 3: Oh did you not realize what where on a break

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Speaker 3: was from?

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Speaker 2: That's fucking crazy. I haven't seen that show fully, Are

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Speaker 2: you serious?

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Speaker 4: No?

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Speaker 2: I only watch it to fall asleep because of how

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Speaker 2: boring it is. Oh, bro, you just said that.

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Speaker 3: I feel like, give the opportunity for the uh sister

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Speaker 3: to say something, but if she doesn't, then tell a boyfriend.

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 2: I agree. Is there an update? There is an update?

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Speaker 2: Oh my goodness. I had a conversation with my sister.

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Speaker 1: I told her she needed to tell her boyfriend what

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Speaker 1: happened last summer. She called me a bitch but called

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Speaker 1: him on the phone. I think she feared I would

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Speaker 1: tell him myself. I heard part of the conversation and

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Speaker 1: her boyfriend was saying how it was very hurtful and

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Speaker 1: he was so upset that she did that, but he

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Speaker 1: still loves her, et cetera, et cetera. So, ladies and gentlemen,

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Speaker 1: the proposal happened. Anyways, she has been proposed to even.

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Speaker 3: After all, like, after everything and the cheating and the

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Speaker 2: He has proposed to her, the proposal has happened. Wow.

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Speaker 1: I did not help out, thankfully, I was not able

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Speaker 1: to leave work early, so OBI still kind of kept

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Speaker 1: their hands out of it. But still like, yeah, the

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Speaker 1: crazy thing is several men reached out to the boyfriend

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Speaker 1: on his Instagram after the happy couple with post proposal.

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Speaker 1: One man shared a surprise that my sister and the

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Speaker 1: BF were engaged because that guy had slept with my

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Speaker 1: sister two months prior to that. Keep in mind, keep

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Speaker 1: in mind, this is not the same guy that we

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Speaker 1: thought about before that. Several other men shared that my

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Speaker 1: sister had engaged in sexual activities with them at different

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Speaker 1: points in the recent past.

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Speaker 2: I did not realize that she got around so much.

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Speaker 2: It's crazy.

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Speaker 1: Her boyfriend again now fiance, brought these allegations to her,

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Speaker 1: and she told him that those people are just quote

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Speaker 1: unquote trying to disturb the peace.

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Speaker 2: Shit the fuck up?

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Speaker 3: All right, dude, that is there's so many red flags

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Speaker 3: in this marriage, Like I'm.

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Speaker 2: Haters gonna hate, shut up, so dumb.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, this is insane. She urged him to block these people.

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Speaker 1: She deleted all of her own social media and blocked

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Speaker 1: any man that she'd been intimate with in any capacity.

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Speaker 1: I think these are her attempts at damage control. Her

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Speaker 1: fiance is infatuated with her. This is his first real relationship,

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Speaker 1: but I think even he knows the engagement is wrong,

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Speaker 1: this whole relationship is wrong. He he still hasn't told

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Speaker 1: his parents that they're engaged, yet they never really approved

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Speaker 1: of him dating my sister anyway. She is a free

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Speaker 1: spirit who loves tattoos and impulsive living. He comes from

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Speaker 1: an upper middle class family and has a very specific

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Speaker 1: trajectory in life. So yes, they're engaged, but it's all

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Speaker 1: a dumpster fire of foolishness. Historical Pie fifty to fifty

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Speaker 1: two says, since he's studying to be a doctor, get

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Speaker 1: him to tell her she must sign a prenup with

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Speaker 1: an iron clad infidelity clause.

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Speaker 3: Low key, kind of like a pretty great move if

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Speaker 3: you get an iron clad infidelity clause with someone that

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Speaker 3: you know will cheat, because like then you're gonna you're

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Speaker 3: gonna get half their shit.

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Speaker 2: It's like it's like putting a parlay on a bed

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Speaker 2: or something like that.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, exactly, dude, It's like they're kind of gonna you

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Speaker 1: It's a bit of a self fulfilling Prophecy low ki

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Speaker 1: Opie responded to that, I agree. I imagine that will

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Speaker 1: be discussed once his parents find out. That makes sense.

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Speaker 1: If I were in your shoes, says, that's funny. Just

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Speaker 1: tell his parents, Wow, do it anonymously and tell them

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Speaker 1: about all the time she cheated, they will deal with

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Speaker 1: him and pull his head out of his ass.

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Speaker 2: Op he said he.

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Speaker 1: Already told his younger brother and a friend. The parents

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Speaker 1: will find out very soon, I'm sure, and it'll be

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Speaker 1: extra worse because he didn't tell them. Do we think

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Speaker 2: I think so, yeah, I think so.

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Speaker 2: It's kind of it is reaching a desperate measures point, but.

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Speaker 3: There's also a point where it's like this guy is, yeah,

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Speaker 3: screwing up for his own life, and it's like, you know,

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Speaker 3: like I've I've talked to people where I'm like, oh, man,

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Speaker 3: like you're really like I feel like you're romantically you're

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Speaker 3: kind of making the bad decision. But the thing is

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Speaker 3: like even when I say, like my piece, I may

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Speaker 3: may see like what is on the outside, but a

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Speaker 3: relationship is like so deep and it's like an iceberg

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Speaker 3: and you only know what people are like telling you

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Speaker 3: that's true, which is like the tip you don't know

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Speaker 3: everything below, and so it's it's like almost impossible to say,

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Speaker 3: like to say this is what you should do because

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Speaker 3: you don't actually know what the relationship is and like

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Speaker 3: what they believe you know. So it's like I feel

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Speaker 3: like yes, they could say, hey, do this thing, you know,

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Speaker 3: like like like I'm gonna I'm gonna tell your parents

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Speaker 3: because you need to do this, But like is it

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Speaker 2: I don't know, you.

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Speaker 1: Like like you can say your piece, but then the

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Speaker 1: and ultimately, like it is not Oh, this is Opie's

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Speaker 1: sister's boyfriend. Yeah right, So like I don't think the

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Speaker 1: Ope's shoulders. Op and OPI has you know, she did

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Speaker 1: help the boyfriend find out about the infidelity exactly.

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Speaker 3: It's like he knows, he knows, he's a big he's

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Speaker 2: Like he don't need a cattle to his parents. I

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Speaker 1: You know, I'm gonna read this final relevant comment from

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Speaker 1: I didn't realize there is much much more to it,

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Speaker 2: So like I did my piece. They're adults, they can

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Speaker 3: Say, I think my dad is having an affair with

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Speaker 2: My mom to leave him. Am I the a hole?

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Speaker 3: Suspicions he has continued to see my brother's mom long

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Speaker 3: We only have family is very upfront about the rules,

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Speaker 3: And I am just visiting a little backstory of my sister.

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Speaker 3: It was pretty clear she was suffering from anxiety and depression.

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Speaker 2: Catherine is the adopted sister. Yes, I think so. That's hippy. Okay, okay, okay, yeah, hippymon.

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Speaker 3: Catherine is the adopted sister. I appreciate you, got it,

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Speaker 3: Thank you. Catherine demands Laura to be kicked out immediately.

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Speaker 3: My mom is shell shocked and torn. Laura has no

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Speaker 2: That is a great idea to do it. Hello, it's

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Speaker 3: Hello, Hello, thanks for submitting your story. Can you just

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Speaker 4: Well, what happened was my cousin came to say some

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Speaker 3: So she's basically like the living situation because she's unhappy

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Speaker 4: The story she pivotally sorry, I got high because I

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Speaker 1: Good, let's go, which I feel like isation she isn't right.

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Speaker 4: So I trust me to deal with my family, I

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Speaker 4: Apparently by not doing that, she told my mother this

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Speaker 4: Like they've been gone for over a year.

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Speaker 4: No? She My dad bought a trailer okay, okay, and

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Speaker 3: All right, So it sounds like she's like basically, uh,

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Speaker 4: Okay, yeah, Like my dad was in this trailer with

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Speaker 3: Dad was in your with your older sisters, like like

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Speaker 4: I don't know, but they used to go out on

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Speaker 3: Oh my god. So you're thinking they're like potentially hooking up.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, and my dad. My dad slept with his mother.

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Speaker 4: That's where my brother with her mother. That's where my

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Speaker 2: Oh my god. Oh my goodness. So, like what I mean,

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Speaker 2: you're not the asshole? Oh, definitely for sure.

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Speaker 4: Not.

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry that you have to deal with all that.

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Speaker 4: Mom about what I suspected, because who wants to find

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean, I feel I feel like like being

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Speaker 1: Perhaps you could say, like, hey, given this situation, quick

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Speaker 1: don't even necessarily have to immediately bring up the suspicion,

440
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Speaker 1: but maybe your mom is thinking the same thing in

441
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Speaker 1: the back of her head, and you can kind of like.

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Speaker 3: I think just giving all the information to your mom

443
00:21:04,440 --> 00:21:07,320
Speaker 3: is probably the best thing. You're definitely not the a hole.

444
00:21:07,760 --> 00:21:11,520
Speaker 3: This is an impossibly hard situation. I think you're doing

445
00:21:11,560 --> 00:21:15,600
Speaker 3: the right thing by telling your mom and also relax

446
00:21:15,760 --> 00:21:19,800
Speaker 3: and take a rip of whatever substance that you have

447
00:21:19,920 --> 00:21:20,960
Speaker 3: because you need a rest.

448
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Speaker 4: Yeah. No, I mean, and my dad was here the

449
00:21:23,440 --> 00:21:27,000
Speaker 4: other day, like at my house. I'm just so disgusted

450
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Speaker 4: by them.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, I mean, maybe it's like a I mean,

452
00:21:31,320 --> 00:21:33,480
Speaker 3: if you feel that way, it's I mean, it could

453
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Speaker 3: be like a no contact situation if it if it

454
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Speaker 3: if it really feels like like that trust has been violated.

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Speaker 2: But hippy Mama.

456
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Speaker 3: Thanks for calling in and giving your breakdown of the story,

457
00:21:47,000 --> 00:21:49,280
Speaker 3: and I'm sorry you're having to go through all of that,

458
00:21:49,359 --> 00:21:51,440
Speaker 3: but I feel like, you know, being open and honest

459
00:21:51,440 --> 00:21:54,760
Speaker 3: with your mom and distancing yourself from all this craziness

460
00:21:54,840 --> 00:21:55,919
Speaker 3: could be the right thing to do, and.

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Speaker 1: Us in the little Silly's got you, yes right, appreciate

462
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Speaker 1: you too.

463
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Speaker 3: Thank you, of course, Crazy Situation, Thanks for calling in.

464
00:22:04,000 --> 00:22:06,080
Speaker 3: I know, like there was a lot of moving parts

465
00:22:06,080 --> 00:22:07,639
Speaker 3: of that story, so I know it might be confusing

466
00:22:07,680 --> 00:22:10,959
Speaker 3: for some of you all, but hopefully we described it

467
00:22:11,119 --> 00:22:11,600
Speaker 3: good enough.

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Speaker 1: My in laws called me a filthy gold digger, but

469
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Speaker 1: what I said next might make my husband divorce me.

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Speaker 1: My fiance, male thirty three, comes from a very well

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Speaker 1: off family. Well I, female twenty nine, come from a

472
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Speaker 1: working class family. My fiance's family are nice, but they

473
00:22:30,040 --> 00:22:33,600
Speaker 1: can't help but throw comments at me about how I

474
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Speaker 1: might be a gold digger. For example, if he buys

475
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Speaker 1: me something, they'll go, like, you are a filthy gold digging.

476
00:22:41,320 --> 00:22:45,159
Speaker 2: I'm just kidding. For example, if he buys me something,

477
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Speaker 2: they'll go, oh.

478
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Speaker 5: Jason brought you that.

479
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Speaker 2: You know what this looks like?

480
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Speaker 5: Right?

481
00:22:50,359 --> 00:22:50,560
Speaker 4: Yeah?

482
00:22:50,680 --> 00:22:55,440
Speaker 2: Like I go digging filthy butt liquor and or wait,

483
00:22:55,920 --> 00:22:59,639
Speaker 2: did Jason pray for this? Only gold diggers would make

484
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Speaker 2: the not pay for stuff all the time.

485
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Speaker 1: I'm just saying, it's so demeaning, and my fiance does

486
00:23:05,840 --> 00:23:08,359
Speaker 1: nothing to stop it, especially now that he's in a

487
00:23:08,400 --> 00:23:12,080
Speaker 1: bad place. Here's what happens, Sam, he lost his job.

488
00:23:12,440 --> 00:23:17,719
Speaker 3: Oh so, so the gold digger becomes the gold diggie exactly.

489
00:23:18,000 --> 00:23:21,359
Speaker 2: So we've been keeping it secret from the family, so

490
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Speaker 2: they haven't even told the family he's unemployed for some

491
00:23:24,400 --> 00:23:25,199
Speaker 2: dumb reason.

492
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Speaker 3: People get, you know, let go all the time. It

493
00:23:27,400 --> 00:23:30,160
Speaker 3: happens like eleven thousand people just got let go from Facebook.

494
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Speaker 2: Literally, don't be a shame. It's so stupid.

495
00:23:32,640 --> 00:23:35,880
Speaker 1: And since he's keeping it the secret, I'm the one

496
00:23:35,960 --> 00:23:40,960
Speaker 1: paying for everything now, huh fun the turntables turn. And

497
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Speaker 1: this has been going on for four months now. Last week,

498
00:23:44,960 --> 00:23:48,000
Speaker 1: his parents invited us over for dinner and insisted that

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Speaker 1: we go. So we went at the dinner table, his

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Speaker 1: mom grabbed my hand literally while I was eating.

501
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Speaker 2: That's hilarious.

502
00:23:54,160 --> 00:23:59,280
Speaker 3: You're like, no, take that mark Outney, think of your figure.

503
00:23:59,440 --> 00:24:01,680
Speaker 2: And then she looked at my bracelet and went.

504
00:24:01,640 --> 00:24:06,600
Speaker 5: Oh, that brace look looks really nice. Did Jason pay

505
00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:07,000
Speaker 5: for it?

506
00:24:07,280 --> 00:24:07,960
Speaker 2: Oh my god?

507
00:24:08,280 --> 00:24:11,600
Speaker 1: I nodded and reminded her that he bought it for

508
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Speaker 1: me as a birthday gift last year.

509
00:24:14,480 --> 00:24:19,960
Speaker 5: She was like, hmmm, I wonder how much it costs.

510
00:24:20,480 --> 00:24:24,080
Speaker 1: She then leaned back and said, you know, when my

511
00:24:24,240 --> 00:24:27,879
Speaker 1: brother was dating this other gold digger woman, she would

512
00:24:27,880 --> 00:24:32,360
Speaker 1: receive expensive stuff like this bracet here for her birthdays.

513
00:24:32,720 --> 00:24:35,800
Speaker 2: Why would she say that this asshole move.

514
00:24:35,960 --> 00:24:42,159
Speaker 1: This is literally like your son's fyance. Yeah, bro, you

515
00:24:42,320 --> 00:24:45,879
Speaker 1: have a little support man, literally, or at least if

516
00:24:45,960 --> 00:24:47,879
Speaker 1: you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all,

517
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Speaker 1: a bare minimum.

518
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Speaker 2: I was stunned.

519
00:24:52,080 --> 00:24:55,320
Speaker 1: I cut her off and asked her if she meant

520
00:24:55,359 --> 00:24:57,320
Speaker 1: to say that I was a gold digger.

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00:24:57,520 --> 00:24:59,520
Speaker 2: She threw her hands up and said.

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Speaker 5: I'm mean, well, if the shoe fits.

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00:25:03,400 --> 00:25:08,280
Speaker 2: No, that is so. With the shoe fits, dude.

524
00:25:08,280 --> 00:25:11,119
Speaker 3: That's like exactly what I imagine, like a rich older

525
00:25:11,200 --> 00:25:15,439
Speaker 3: woman saying yeah to demean everyone she's giving.

526
00:25:15,560 --> 00:25:22,240
Speaker 1: She's giving evil stepmother while laughing awkwardly. Silence took over.

527
00:25:22,560 --> 00:25:24,960
Speaker 1: I looked at my fiance and he shook his head

528
00:25:24,960 --> 00:25:29,880
Speaker 1: at me, like what, so I snapped. I told her

529
00:25:30,160 --> 00:25:32,480
Speaker 1: it was bold of her to imply that I was

530
00:25:32,480 --> 00:25:35,960
Speaker 1: a gold digger when I was literally providing for her

531
00:25:36,240 --> 00:25:43,080
Speaker 1: unemployed son for four months. Now, Yo, that secret ain't

532
00:25:43,119 --> 00:25:44,240
Speaker 1: a secret anymore.

533
00:25:46,240 --> 00:25:49,199
Speaker 2: Son, guy under the bus. But he should have, like

534
00:25:49,320 --> 00:25:51,160
Speaker 2: they should stood up for her. He should have stood

535
00:25:51,200 --> 00:25:53,440
Speaker 2: up for her, and they should have told it. It's

536
00:25:53,520 --> 00:25:57,159
Speaker 2: like the dumbest thing. They don't necessarily like broadcast this

537
00:25:57,240 --> 00:26:00,879
Speaker 2: to the but like they shouldn't hide it actively hiding.

538
00:26:01,119 --> 00:26:05,200
Speaker 3: They should just like the boyfriend should or the the

539
00:26:05,200 --> 00:26:07,800
Speaker 3: the guy should just like say like, hey, don't don't

540
00:26:07,840 --> 00:26:08,919
Speaker 3: talk to my wife like that.

541
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Speaker 1: My fiance simple, that easy, right, imagine he believes it.

542
00:26:14,280 --> 00:26:18,560
Speaker 2: Yeah, while he's being women women just want me for

543
00:26:18,720 --> 00:26:19,520
Speaker 2: my for my stuff.

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Speaker 3: I don't understand for my unemployment benefits, but four hundred

545
00:26:23,960 --> 00:26:24,919
Speaker 3: dollars a month from.

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Speaker 2: The ed D. Come on, bro. They all look shocked.

547
00:26:29,040 --> 00:26:31,960
Speaker 1: She glanced at me in shock, and his dad asked

548
00:26:32,000 --> 00:26:35,320
Speaker 1: if it was true, and my fiance just frozed but

549
00:26:35,520 --> 00:26:37,400
Speaker 1: looked really angry.

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00:26:37,560 --> 00:26:40,679
Speaker 2: It's like, bruh, you could have said something all the

551
00:26:40,680 --> 00:26:44,879
Speaker 2: times before, literally and like also, oh he should be angry,

552
00:26:45,040 --> 00:26:46,280
Speaker 2: not you are you kidding?

553
00:26:46,320 --> 00:26:47,040
Speaker 5: Who cares?

554
00:26:47,640 --> 00:26:47,920
Speaker 2: God?

555
00:26:48,200 --> 00:26:51,600
Speaker 1: An argument ensued and dinner was cut shorts and we

556
00:26:51,720 --> 00:26:55,480
Speaker 1: had to leave and they started berating him. This family, him,

557
00:26:55,600 --> 00:26:58,280
Speaker 1: this family is what like what like just for being unemployed?

558
00:26:59,400 --> 00:27:02,360
Speaker 1: How damn how dare you not to be employed?

559
00:27:03,200 --> 00:27:06,000
Speaker 3: Or maybe it's like how dare you be a gold

560
00:27:06,000 --> 00:27:07,160
Speaker 3: digger to this fine woman?

561
00:27:07,240 --> 00:27:10,680
Speaker 2: Like maybe they're just super anti gold digger. Whoever they perceived.

562
00:27:10,320 --> 00:27:12,600
Speaker 3: As a gold digger, he's just gonna get like their

563
00:27:12,640 --> 00:27:13,360
Speaker 3: ass blasted.

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00:27:13,400 --> 00:27:16,560
Speaker 1: It's like back back in the eighteen hundreds, the mcflellands

565
00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:19,600
Speaker 1: had a big had so much wealth, but then the

566
00:27:19,640 --> 00:27:22,080
Speaker 1: gold digger came in and ruined legacy.

567
00:27:22,400 --> 00:27:26,640
Speaker 3: The four Nations lived in home and the gold diggers attacked.

568
00:27:26,640 --> 00:27:30,920
Speaker 1: Exactly then my fiance had a rage fit in the car,

569
00:27:31,200 --> 00:27:33,399
Speaker 1: just yelling and lashing out at me.

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00:27:34,080 --> 00:27:36,160
Speaker 2: Yo, Wow, this.

571
00:27:36,080 --> 00:27:41,320
Speaker 3: Guy needs to like just chill or one hundred percent

572
00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:44,040
Speaker 3: just believe literally like it should be the other way around.

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00:27:44,040 --> 00:27:44,520
Speaker 2: If anything.

574
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Speaker 1: In my defense, I said that he sat by and

575
00:27:47,800 --> 00:27:53,560
Speaker 1: let his mom continually imply that gold digger dude, dude, like,

576
00:27:53,560 --> 00:27:56,119
Speaker 1: like he had so many chances to stick up for her,

577
00:27:56,240 --> 00:27:58,879
Speaker 1: but she said that they had never outright called me

578
00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:01,840
Speaker 1: a gold digger before, so at this moment I snapped.

579
00:28:02,080 --> 00:28:05,040
Speaker 2: He said, I had no right to take advantage of.

580
00:28:04,960 --> 00:28:09,200
Speaker 5: His unfortunate circumstance.

581
00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:12,440
Speaker 1: Get a job, literally to get back at my mom

582
00:28:12,520 --> 00:28:15,159
Speaker 1: and expose him to the family. His parents went on

583
00:28:15,240 --> 00:28:18,160
Speaker 1: about how disappointed they were and now as a result,

584
00:28:18,480 --> 00:28:22,160
Speaker 1: he got disinvited from Thanksgiving.

585
00:28:22,240 --> 00:28:26,160
Speaker 2: Wait because he doesn't have a job. What is this family? Thought?

586
00:28:26,200 --> 00:28:28,400
Speaker 2: This is the most screwed up family of all time.

587
00:28:28,720 --> 00:28:31,200
Speaker 1: He blew up at me because of it this morning

588
00:28:31,440 --> 00:28:34,960
Speaker 1: and kept saying I screwed him over so badly.

589
00:28:34,880 --> 00:28:38,160
Speaker 2: When he was just an innocent bystander.

590
00:28:38,440 --> 00:28:41,840
Speaker 3: You're not an innocent bystander if you're watching injustice happen

591
00:28:42,360 --> 00:28:43,440
Speaker 3: and choose to do nothing.

592
00:28:43,680 --> 00:28:47,520
Speaker 1: And again, like we've literally said it in this recording session,

593
00:28:47,560 --> 00:28:48,760
Speaker 1: We've said it a million times.

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00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:52,480
Speaker 2: I know, how how do you not see the red flags?

595
00:28:52,640 --> 00:28:57,440
Speaker 2: I hope that there's an update where oh he leaves. Yeah, please,

596
00:28:57,560 --> 00:28:59,360
Speaker 2: because it's a bad situation. That's what we need.

597
00:28:59,400 --> 00:29:01,959
Speaker 1: Also, if you've ever been in this situation, let us

598
00:29:01,960 --> 00:29:03,560
Speaker 1: know how you handled it. If you thought this one

599
00:29:03,640 --> 00:29:06,000
Speaker 1: was crazy, check out this one where OPI betrays their

600
00:29:06,040 --> 00:29:07,920
Speaker 1: own family to help the gold digger.

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Speaker 2: Check out here a link in the description